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Healing Challenge 2022How to Know When to Let GoRelationships and love don't always last forever. Dr. Bakari and Dr. Singleton tell you how to know when to let go and how to let go.2023-02-2429 minHealing Challenge 2022Relationships Will Not Save YouLove is not a good hiding place for pain. Dr. Bakari and Dr. Singleton explain why a relationship will not save you.2023-02-2422 minHealing Challenge 20225 Relationship Expectations that Keep You Single or UnhappyDr. Singleton and Dr. Bakare set the record straight on relationships.2023-02-2432 minHealing Challenge 2022The Three Cs of Love: Children, Career, CompanionshipThe Three Cs of Love: Children, Career, and Companionship are addressed by Dr. Singleton and Dr. Bakari, the Empowerment Expert.2023-02-2433 minHealing Challenge 2022HC December: Physical Intimacy and Emotional EnergySexual pleasure can significantly increase relationship satisfaction and wellness. Yet, a 2015 online survey of more than 1000 women using the “Healthy Women / Lippe Taylor Women’s Health Behavior Index” confirmed ongoing concerns about the female sexual experience.According to survey results, 60% of women want more sex, although only 27% of women orgasm with every intercourse engagement—the rate increases to 34% with oral sex. Overall, women’s orgasm rate is 69%, compared to 95% for men. Sadly, the lack of sexual satisfaction is a cultural norm embedded within a system that emphasizes a particular power structure that only entitles men to orgasm.The...2022-12-0100 minHealing Challenge 2022Reparenting the Inner ChildSo many adults have suffered from childhood trauma. Being a child did not feel safe, and they had to grow up quickly. As adults, they remain distant from their inner child. Still, the inner child is always looking out through the peephole of your heart, the window of your survivor's eyes, and the crack in your pain. Just because you can’t see in doesn’t mean they can’t see out. The inner child sees what you are committed to, feels what you use as a distraction, and hears every thought. Time is always ticking.The field of...2022-11-0539 minHealing Challenge 2022October: The Write to HealBeing an artist gives a writer much more freedom and creativity than reporting. Writing about feelings requires the brain to return to memories. Creating poetry about a feeling can take the writer anywhere. The same is true if the writer starts with the memory. Writing about a memory requires the brain to associate a feeling with the memory. A poem about a memory can take the writer anywhere. They can move into the future or farther back in time before the triggering event. A poem can move the writer entirely away from the event. One poem can offer all...2022-10-0300 minHealing Challenge 2022September: How to Get Off the Relationship Roller CoasterGood feelings are easy to create in new relationships. Being the center of attention, getting exposed to new activities, and sharing details of your life with someone who listens will draw any two people together. You believe you are paying attention to the other person, but you are only paying attention to how that person is making you feel. You rely on the person for an inner sense of significance. From that point on, your behaviors in the relationship become unconsciously manipulative. You may create conflict with the person, so their decision to remain with you feeds your need...2022-08-3039 minHealing Challenge 2022August: Which Meditation is Right for YouMany people have wondered if meditation would improve their lives. Among other things, meditation can be described as a healthy habit, fad, religious practice, or escape from reality. But could meditation be right for you? The biggest challenge is getting started and finding a lifelong meditation practice is a process of trial and error.2022-06-2326 minHealing Challenge 2022July: How to Heal Childhood Trauma without Forgiving the One Who Caused ItForgiveness is an evolutionary phenomenon necessary for building and sustaining a community. Minimizing conflict preserves cooperation so that groups can achieve goals. Noticeably, people practice forgiveness more readily among loved ones and withhold forgiveness from people they have no desire to be in relationships with. Family members and people who share a loving relationship are drawn to share physical and emotional space. Forgiveness allows them to do so in the face of harm. Forgiveness has evolutionary priorities. Misbehaved children, neglectful parents, careless spouses, and demanding grandparents are frequent beneficiaries of forgiveness. Because forgiveness is extended, children can be raised i...2022-06-0100 minHealing Challenge 2022June: How to Get UnstuckWhat’s more important than safety? Our mind is conditioned to believe, “Nothing is more important than safety.” If you have experienced trauma, safety feels especially paramount. But when safety is the goal, we miss out on wholistic wellness. Every human being has needs. We need nutrition to stay alive and we are also social creatures with emotional needs. From the moment we are born and throughout our lifespan, our emotional needs change. Our needs don’t change randomly; they change developmentally. Just like there is a cycle of physical growth, there is a cycle of emotional development.2022-05-2826 minHealing Challenge 2022May: When Pain is the FamiliarIn the absence of trauma, familiarity helps us develop healthy patterns for negotiating the world. However, familiarity keeps survivors stuck in dysfunctional cycles. It causes us to choose the demons we know over the goddesses we find strange. Ultimately, we maintain tradition because of familiarity, not practicality. The more times any event or experience happens, our brain will likely code it as “normal.” The brain codes “normal” according to the reality of the environment, not according to right and wrong. Generally, when a victim cannot stop abuse, the brain will habituate to the abuse to survive, making it “normal.” Adult who experienced...2022-05-0348 minHealing Challenge 2022April - Nobody is Normal: So Just Be YourselfHuman beings are social creatures that invest in social “norms.” These become informal rules of human behavior, used to connect us. When behavior is consistent, predictable, and controllable, we feel stable and resilient. Social norms support social evolution. But, social norms are not a moral compass, and individuals come with inherent variances.2022-04-0337 minHealing Challenge 2022March: Building Relationships When You Don't Trust PeopleAs we develop trust with ourselves, we learn to create boundaries and value the boundaries of others. We allow for disappointment in relationships and use healthy communication to resolve conflict. When all goes well during childhood development, we use relationships to express joy, not create it. On the other hand, we enter the school of hard knocks when, as adults, we unconsciously rely on relationships to fill in the gaps of our childhood emotional needs. Rather than experiencing people authentically, we try to predict who can fulfill particular roles for us, and relationships end before they begin. This episode teaches...2022-03-0234 minHealing Challenge 2022February: How to ApologizeAn apology is a valuable tool. Some people never apologize and this episode tells you why. But you may be the person who never stops apologizing even when you haven't done wrong. Find out how to stop that behavior. The episode is all about apologies, why, how, and when to offer them as an expression of your humanity.2022-01-3032 minHealing Challenge 2022January: Self-CareSelf-care is self-centered and necessary.2022-01-0418 minHealing Challenge 2022Good Parenting and YouLooking at how we parent and how we were parented influences society, not just our family wounds. Childhood misinformation about ourselves, our world, and our relationships can last us a lifetime and have a deep impact on who we become. So, we should at least take a look at how we were parented. This episode tells us what to look for.2021-12-1633 minHealing Challenge 2022Healing Generational WoundsGenerational wounds are the interference of ancestral experiences in our lives. When harm is unacknowledged unaddressed or unhealed, response to it keeps showing up in the next generation, even if the harm is no longer present. The response will show up until an offspring heals it, even if it takes 1000 years. Any maltreatment can leave generational wounds. Any group of people who have been systematically oppressed leave generational wounds in the family tree. Any individual who has experienced trauma can pass down generational wounds. We can pass down emotional wounds just as we can pass down disease. 2021-11-161h 40Healing Challenge 2022The Hardest Challenge YetDr. Rosenna Bakari and Co-host, Dr. Stephanie Singleton discuss what the Healing Challenge 2022 is about. It is based on the best-seller, "The Healing Journey: Relationships and Wellness Guide" by Dr. Bakari. The hosts also discuss how the challenge came about and how participants will benefit.2021-10-0927 min
Hello, Hot Flash: Conversations about menopause, women’s health and mindset for midlife women.#005 - Dr. Rosenna teaches us how to get over the guilt of taking care of ourselves first.In This Episode
Dr. Rosenna teaches us the importance of self-care and the relationship self-care has to our mental health. Trying to get a hold of her and get an out of office? It’s true, she’s out, taking care of Rosenna. Why? Because she can’t give the 110% that she gives without making sure her tank is full. Once you learn this secret you’ll begin to walk in your own power.
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Dr. Rosenna Bakari has spent years helping individuals transform the way they think about themselves. S...2020-10-1528 min