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Securely Attached325. Q&A: What should I do if my partner and I disagree on how to handle our child’s ADHD? Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about... What you can do if you’re wondering: “Is my kid’s ADHD diagnosis real or do I have an active 10-year-old kid?” How to evaluate the accuracy of a diagnosis and what steps to take if you’re unsure or want a second opinion. Practical tools you can use to support your child—diagnosis or not. Strategies for becoming more aligned with your partner on how to handle parenting challenges and support yo...2025-07-1725 minSecurely Attached322. Navigating divorce or separation through a family systems approach: Preventative steps to reduce the risk of insecure attachment with Una Archer Una Archer joins me for a thoughtful conversation about how to help children feel safe, secure, and resilient in the face of their parents' separation or divorce. Together we explore: Why there’s no one-size-fits-all approach to separation, even among siblings, and why tuning into each child’s unique needs matters. What the Circle of Security framework is and how it can be used to support children’s attachment during major family transitions. The three core emotional needs that children rely on to feel secure, and how...2025-07-0855 minSecurely Attached319. Q&A: Where’s the line between supporting my child and feeding their anxiety?Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Emily Upshur and I talk about... What “scaffolding” and “accommodations” actually mean, where they differ, and where they overlap. Why the exact same parenting move can either build your child’s confidence or unintentionally undermine your intentions, and the simple trick to figure out which one you're doing! How your child’s discomfort plays a role in how you respond to them, and the important information that can reveal to us as parents. A real-life example of the difference...2025-06-2622 minSecurely Attached317. Q&A: My 5-year-old prefers my husband, does that mean she is more securely attached to him?Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Emily Upshur and I talk about... What is the difference between attachment bonds and parental preferences? If your child shows you their most dysregulated behaviors, doesn’t listen to you, or is their messiest self with you, what these behaviors may reveal. (Spoiler: It’s a good sign!) If your child does have an insecure attachment to you, practical strategies and interventions you can use to start repairing your relationship. The difference between independent play and child led p...2025-06-1927 minSecurely Attached315. Q&A: My toddler is otherwise potty trained, but still won't poop on the potty - what can I do?Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about... Why potty training blends both physiological and psychological factors and how parents can wrap their head around both to best support your child. How parents can understand the biological-psychological feedback loop and how this can affect your child’s body and mind. How to get on the same page when there are multiple caregivers and providers who spend time with your child. Exactly what to be tracking to help you get to the root...2025-06-1226 minSecurely Attached312. What every parent needs to know about ADHD: Brain science, behavior, and real-life strategies with Dr. Eliza BarachIn this episode, I’m joined by cognitive psychologist and ADHD expert Eliza Barach to explore the brain-based differences that drive many of the challenges (and strengths!) that come with ADHD. Together we cover: The neuroscience of an ADHD brain and why having this basic knowledge can be so impactful for your parenting! How understanding the roles of dopamine and norepinephrine are important aspects of understanding your child (or yourself!) with ADHD. Why people with ADHD are more vulnerable to all forms of addictions. And while our cult...2025-06-031h 07Securely Attached303. Q&A: My 8-year-old is suddenly refusing to go to school, how should I handle this?Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about... Not all school refusal looks the same. Learn how to recognize the different types and when it’s time to seek extra support. Understanding the science of anxiety and how these feelings can actually create physical symptoms like tummy aches or headaches. Strategies for getting to the root cause of what may be causing your child’s school refusal so you can address the actual source of the problem. Wha...2025-05-0127 minSecurely Attached295. Q&A: How can I get my child with ADHD go from one activity to the next without a fight?Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode Dr. Emily Upshur and I talk about... - The science of why transitions are so hard for the ADHD brain - it’s not just that you or your child are "difficult," it’s actually the way a neurodiverse brain works. - What type of executive functioning skills need more scaffolding for a person with ADHD (and the good news, that being intentional about strengthening them can be a real game changer!) - Some of these underde...2025-04-0331 minSecurely Attached293. Q&A: How can I find a safe therapist after experiencing complex trauma?Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about... - When you notice unhealthy patterns in how you tend to show up in relationships or in past therapy, how you can communicate that to your new therapist to help treatment be more successful. - If you're feeling overwhelmed by the idea of starting with a new therapist, we share a conversation starter that may make you feel more confident. - Strategies for vetting potential therapists - b...2025-03-2727 minSecurely Attached292. Can a secure attachment bond protect children against Imposter Syndrome? A conversation with Dr. Lisa Orbé-AustinWhat if small shifts in the way you parent could help prevent Imposter Syndrome in your child before it even starts? Dr. Lisa Orbé-Austin is joining me this week to help parents learn how to raise a child who trusts in their own abilities, values, and worth. In this episode we explore: - What imposter syndrome actually is (and what it isn’t!) from a scientific and psychological perspective. - Why it’s common to see self-sabotaging behaviors in people who are experiencing Imposter Syndrome - and what...2025-03-2554 minSecurely Attached291. Q&A: How can I help my child who’s scared every small injury is an emergency?Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg and I talk about... - What to do when your reassurances to your child doesn’t help soothe their anxiety. - A sample script of the type of thing you can say (and wait to try to avoid saying) to help your child believe that they can cope with the feeling of anxiety. - When our good intentions go bad - some of the most common “mistakes” parents make when navigating their child’s anxiety.2025-03-2025 minSecurely Attached284. The do’s and don’ts of supporting a grieving child: What every parent needs to know with Dr. Dan WolfsonGrief isn’t something we get over—it’s something we integrate. Joining me to discuss this and the best way to support children through profound loss is Dr. Dan Wolfson, a clinical psychologist specializing in grief. In this episode we explore: - The skills needed for fostering resilience and helping children and adults learn to grieve in a healthy manner. - The importance of “oscillation” through grief and how Dr. Dan works with his patients to help them learn to process their feelings without these emotions completely ov...2025-02-2554 minSecurely Attached281. Q&A: My high-schooler is struggling with perfectionism and academic pressures, how can I help him feel less stressed?Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Emily Upshur and I talk about... - Even if we aren’t adding more pressure onto our kids, the world often pushes external achievements on them - how can parents push back against this? - Why trying to problem-solve with your child may seem like it’s supporting them, but could actually be perpetuating their anxiety. - The one pillar you can use as a parent to guide all your interactions with your child that can hel...2025-02-1328 minSecurely Attached268. A deep dive on parental burnout: What it is, why it happens, and how to overcome itA deep dive on combating parental burnout to start off 2025 with more balance. In this episode I dive deep into… - Understanding what parental burnout actually is and how it is different from regular “stress” in parenthood? - The pros and cons of the rise of the “Parenting Industrial Complex.” - The output/input formula that will inevitably lead to depletion, and why parents of sensitive children are more susceptible to an imbalance in this equation. - An exercise you can use to...2024-12-3156 minSecurely Attached262. Unifying mothers in a post-election America: Advocating for Women’s Rights through bipartisan reform with Erin ErenbergMotherhood comes with immense challenges, but when mothers come together, they can spark transformative change. In this inspiring episode, Erin Erenberg, founder of Totum Women and co-founder of the Chamber of Mothers, shares her journey becoming a powerful advocate for maternal rights. In this episode, we explore: - Erin's personal and professional journey that inspired her to empower and support mothers. - The Chamber of Mothers mission: Uniting mothers as advocates to create a better America. - How this bipartisan group is working to i...2024-12-1056 minSecurely Attached254. Back by popular demand: Attachment theory and fostering secure attachment relationshipsLet's revisit the foundation of raising securely attached kids! I'm bringing back one of my first ever episodes to help parents understand the basics of how a secure attachment bond impacts children's resilience, confidence, and overall well-being. Tune in to hear: - What secure attachment is and how it plays a key role in nurturing a child's confidence, curiosity, and ability to handle life’s ups and downs. - The powerful influence of feeling safe and seen on a child's ability to be honest, adaptable, and resilient. 2024-11-1226 minSecurely Attached249. Q&A: Do you think virtual therapy would be helpful for my postpartum challenges?Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode Dr. Emily Upshur and I talk about... - What are the advantages of telehealth appointments and the ability to do virtual sessions from anywhere. - Do the full range of emotions and subtle nuances get lost when you’re talking through a screen? (Spoiler: Our brains fill in so much it often feels like we’re in the same room.) - What to consider to determine if virtual therapy may not be the best option for you.2024-10-2420 minSecurely Attached243. Q&A: How can I help my child overcome a phobia?Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Emily Upshur and I talk about... - What is a phobia, and how can it show up (like, for this 7-year-old who developed a fear of vomiting after having a stomach bug) in kids? - How to recognize when your child’s phobia or anxiety might require additional support versus when soothing and comfort may be enough to help them through their discomfort. - When to treat child anxiety or phobias with CBT and wh...2024-10-0328 minSecurely Attached242. Have phones displaced our ability to play and have fun? How to be intentional with your tech use with Catherine PriceAfter the birth of her daughter, Catherine Price noticed a disconnect—her baby was looking up at her, while she was looking down at her phone. This sparked her interest in understanding why our phones are so hard to put down, what that’s doing to our memory, creativity, and overall lived experience, and how we can break free from the grip of technology to live more intentional lives. In this episode we explore: - Catherine’s definition of fun: The overlapping of playfulness, connection, and flow. Plus, how understanding each can help...2024-10-011h 00Securely Attached240. Processing birth trauma: How to make sense of, heal, and move forward after a difficult birthing experience with Dr. SterlingDr. Sterling, ObGyn and founder of Sterling Parents, dives deep into the complex relationship between stress, trauma, pregnancy, and birth. In this episode we explore: - The impact of stress and anxiety on fetal development and pregnancy outcomes. - What birth trauma is, how frequently it occurs, and common symptoms people may feel (and may not even realize is trauma). - Dr. Sterling shares her own deeply personal and inspiring experience struggling with and working to heal from the trauma she experienced after the...2024-09-241h 06Securely Attached239. Q&A: How can I support my child's self-confidence when she calls herself dumb?Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg and I talk about... - The urge may be to talk your child out of thinking they're "dumb," but it can be helpful to stay with this feeling and lean into being curious about her experience. - How to zoom out and determine if your child is speaking out of frustration and is just emoting or if they actually have internalized that they think they aren't smart. - How to talk with...2024-09-1926 minSecurely Attached235. Q&A: How can I prepare for an IEP or 504 meeting after my child receives an ADHD diagnosis?Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Emily Upshur and I talk about... - Who can assess, evaluate, and diagnose neuropsychological diagnosises like ADHD, dyslexia, autism, etc., and how to go about getting one for your child if you don’t have a formal diagnosis yet. - The benefits of a comprehensive evaluation, when your child might not need such an in-depth approach, and how to determine which is right for your unique child. - Navigating the school support system and what they...2024-09-0532 minSecurely Attached223. Q&A: How do I know if my child is too young for therapy?Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Emily Upshur and I talk about... 1:40 - A mental health professional can help you determine whether you should start with parenting support or individual therapy for your young child. 3:05 - Understanding the therapeutic support options available for young kids. 6:05 - Having a parent present during the beginning of sessions can help facilitate and strengthen a therapeutic alliance between the child and the therapist more quickly. 10:32 - What you can expec...2024-07-2522 minSecurely Attached221. Q&A: Are love languages legit?Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about... 3:00 - Love languages help us contextualize how we can attune in our relationships and that reminds us that what we need may be different from what another person needs to feel connected. 6:22 - Love languages is a simpler way to break down the principles of reflective functioning. 9:50 - Understanding the 5 love languages: Words of affirmation, quality time, gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. 2024-07-1832 minSecurely Attached219. Q&A: How can I foster a strong sibling bond between my social butterfly and more introverted daughter?Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about... 3:47 - "When something is challenging for you, watching a close counterpart (like a sister) breeze through it is very difficult." 4:39 - These reactions can be externalizing (like being mean to her sibling) or internalizing (like feeling bad about herself). 5:12 - To what extent is it the older siblings job to manage her younger sister's struggles? 6:32 - Conversations you can have indiv...2024-07-1128 minSecurely Attached189. Q&A: How to tell your child you have cancerBeyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about... 5:34 - Where do you even begin? How to start this difficult conversation with your child. 6:15 - The 3 pillars to keep in mind that will help you to guide your child through this conversation and process their emotions. 10:18 - The importance of honesty and knowing what information to share with your child in a developmentally appropriate manner. 15:33 - It is helpful to re...2024-03-2824 minSecurely Attached177. Q&A: How do I know when my child's anxiety requires a mental health intervention?Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about... 1:52 - When is it appropriate to seek help from a mental health professional to help your child manage their anxiety and fears? 4:40 - How to identify the difference between our child's natural desire for information versus a desire for us to soothe their anxiety. 8:45 - Addressing concepts like death with your child is difficult because it is a scary thing for adults to confront too...2024-02-1521 minSecurely Attached162. Transforming Relationships: How Integrative Attachment Family Therapy can deepen bonds with Dafna LenderHow can parents use the principles of Integrative Attachment Family Therapy (IAFT) to strengthen their connection with their child? That is what I'll be exploring with the co-author of the new book, Integrative Attachment Family Therapy: A Clinical Guide to Heal and Strengthen the Parent-Child Relationship through Play, Co-regulation, and Meaning-Making, Dafna Lender, LCSW. This episode offers a unique perspective on parenting, emphasizing the importance of play, co-regulation, and meaningful interactions in cultivating a resilient and thriving parent-child relationship. I want to hear from you! Send...2023-12-2650 minSecurely Attached160. Why one size-fits-all parenting doesn't work and how to parent for the way YOUR child is wired with Dr. Danielle Dick🧬 How do genetics impact our child's temperament, personality, and development? Here to talk about the impact of DNA, environmental factors, and the interplay between a child's actions and a parent's response is Dr. Danielle Dick. Dr. Dick is the author of The Child Code and an internationally recognized and award-winning expert on genetic and environmental influences on human behavior. This episode offers a roadmap for parents, empowering them to embrace their child's innate strengths, manage pitfalls, and foster a nurturing environment tailored to their unique temperament. Tune in for...2023-12-1958 minSecurely Attached158. Breaking the perfectionist mold: How embracing the messy middle is healthier for you and your kids with Monica PackerIn a society that places a premium on perfection, reshaping our personal and parenting goals to prioritize growth over perfectionism becomes a formidable task. Here to help empower you to navigate the messy middle ground of parenthood, embrace the long game, and find beauty in the small wins is the founder of About Progress, Monica Packer. Monica is a mom of 5, podcaster, coach, and "recovering perfectionist" herself. Monica's wisdom challenges the conventional all-or-nothing mindset, providing a breath of fresh air with her perspective on the beauty of imperfection and the cultivation of...2023-12-1253 minSecurely Attached156. Resilience in the face of transition: Supporting your kids through a big move with military spouse and psychologist Dr. Hannah SamahaOne of the biggest transitions a child can experience is a move away from family, friends, their school, and the life they knew... For military families in particular, this is a challenge many are faced with over and over, so establishing strategies for supporting yourself and your children can be particularly vital. Joining me today is military spouse and clinical psychologist Dr. Hannah Samaha. Together, we'll share practical moving hacks for kids, creative ways to keep them connected with friends they leave behind, and highlight the importance of community for the he...2023-12-0551 minSecurely Attached154. Balancing love, limits, and empathy: How to use connection to make parenting easier with Jennifer Kolari 🧠 Ready to Level Up Your Parenting Game? Tuning into our bond with our child and their attachment to us can be one of our most powerful tools in parenting. Jennifer Kolari is the founder of Connected Parenting, a method based on the neurobiology of love, teaching parents how to use compassion and empathy as powerful medicine to transform challenging behaviors and build children’s emotional resilience and emotional shock absorbers. Tune in to discover the power of empathy, the importance of setting loving limits, and the art of attun...2023-11-2859 minSecurely Attached152. Combating milestone anxiety: What to know about child development from pediatrician Dr. Jessica HochmanFind out how your child’s pediatrician can become an invaluable resource for YOU in your parenting journey. 🩺 👶🏼 👩⚕️ Here to discuss the nuances of what is normal when it comes to childhood milestones, reassuring parents that the journey isn't one-size-fits-all, is board certified pediatrician Dr. Jessica Hochman. Whether it's a late walker or a picky eater, we'll provide practical guidance on when and how to trust your gut as we explore the intersection of parental anxiety and child well-being. If you've ever found yourself on the edge of a Google search rabb...2023-11-2157 minSecurely Attached150. Bridging ancient wisdom and modern science with yoga therapist Nicole KatzHow the time-tested traditions of yoga and modern scientific advancements are revealing a similar path for enlightenment and well-being! 🧘♀️🔬 Today we're exploring the intersections of parenting values, child development, and secure relationships, allowing parents to identify that sweet spot in their own life where all these things overlap. Joining me this week is seasoned yoga therapist, mom of two, and the mastermind behind some extraordinary moms groups, Nicole Katz. Nicole shares practical tips and playful techniques to cultivate self-awareness, both on and off the yoga mat. We'll explore the ide...2023-11-141h 03Securely Attached148. Unlocking the power of polyvagal theory: Using the nervous system to wire our children for resilience, with Seth Porges 🧠 Let's simplify some complicated neuroscience into accessible and easy-to-understand bites! Did you know that understanding the intricate ways our nervous system responds to our environment can actually help us raise children who are resilient, healthy, and mindful? Joining me today is Seth Porges. Seth co-wrote the amazing new book, Our Polyvagal World: How Safety and Trauma Change Us, along with his father, the creator of polyvagal theory, Dr. Stephen Porges. In it, this father-son duo breaks down complex science into useful, practical, and easy-to-understand (and apply) insights about just how interconnected we ar...2023-11-071h 04Securely Attached146. The hidden dangers of an achievement centric approach with Jennifer Breheny WallaceUncover the shocking impact toxic achievement culture is having on our kids' well-being - and what we can do to change that for the better! 😵💫 With her extensive research and thought-provoking insights, author of the NY Times best selling book Never Enough, Jennifer Breheny Wallace brings to the forefront the challenges our children face in this high-pressure world. In today's episode, we'll delve into the subtle and not-so-subtle ways in which the toxic achievement culture infiltrates our children's lives, and, most importantly, we'll explore actionable strategies to mitigate its impact. 2023-10-311h 00Securely Attached142. Becoming the parents your kids deserve with Gary John BishopUncover the secrets to raising intentional and reflective kids! 🌱👨👩👧👦 How does our perception of life shape our sense of self? And how can we teach our children to examine the meaning they make of their feelings and experiences to help them learn to be intentional in their actions? Prepare to expand your horizons, reconsider your perspective, and embark on a transformational journey with this week's guest and the author of GROW UP: Becoming the Parents Your Kids Deserve, Gary John Bishop. Join us as we uncover the secrets to nurturing sec...2023-10-1744 minSecurely Attached140. How understanding our child's sensory sensitivities can help us strength their emotional intelligence with Alyssa Blask CampbellHelping our children learn to understand, process, and make sense of their emotions can be pivotal for fostering their mental well-being all the way into adulthood. Join me for an enlightening conversation that promises to empower you as a parent or caregiver is the author of the new book TINY HUMANS, BIG EMOTIONS, Alyssa Blask Campbell. Discover practical strategies to support your child's emotional regulation, build resilience, and foster empathy, and explore the ways sensory sensitivities can be harnessed as a path to nurturing emotionally intelligent children. 2023-10-1055 minSecurely Attached138. The most crucial 20 minutes: How bedtime stories can deepen relationships and help kids let go of their day with Andrew NewmanUsing the end of the night to help a child unwind, make sense of the day, and prepare for what’s to come tomorrow can be a valuable tool for shifting their brain and body into a state of rest. Joining me to talk about how parents can use the last 20 minutes of the day to promote social and emotional learning is the author of the children’s book series, Conscious Stories, Andrew Newman. Helping our child to feel safe and connected to us just before it’s time for them to drift...2023-10-0359 minSecurely Attached136. When none of the gentle parenting scripts and tips work for your kid with Dr. Cindy Hovington>> Click here to watch for my FREE masterclass, From Battles to Bonding: Overcoming Power Struggles! And gain insights and tools that can lead to a more peaceful and enjoyable parenting experience, free of daily power struggles! 2023-09-2658 minSecurely Attached132. How to move out of power struggles and into cooperation with Jen LumanlanDo you feel like you are constantly ping-ponging between two extremes—throwing around your authority and overpowering your child or feeling like they're running the show? Jen Lumanlan, the creator of Your Parenting Mojo and the author of the new book, Parenting Beyond Power: How to Use Connection and Collaboration to Transform Your Family—and the World, is helping parents learn how to embark on a journey towards harmonious family life and a better world! Say goodbye to time-outs, countdowns, and punishments that perpetuate power imbalances. Instead, embrace empathetic listening, understanding your c...2023-09-121h 03Securely Attached130. How to support our kids' autonomy and independence, minus the power struggles, with Dr. Emily EdlynnWe all want our children to succeed. But, the way they get there can feel counterintuitive to many parents and mainstream parenting approaches. We need to let our kids stumble, let them make mistakes, and allow them to struggle a bit. Here to help parents understand how to support their child's autonomy in a way that promotes family harmony is psychologist and author of Autonomy-Supportive Parenting: Reduce Parental Burnout and Raise Competent, Confident Children, Dr. Emily Edlynn. From allowing for boredom, teaching our children to find balance, tuning into their intrinsic mo...2023-09-0546 minSecurely Attached128. How mold, Lyme, pesticides, and other toxins may be impacting your child's physical and mental health with integrative pediatrician Dr. Pejman KatiraeiAddressing the root cause of our children's physical and mental health challenges, rather than just treating the symptoms, can allow the human body to function as it should and positively impact energy, mood, and overall feelings of wellness. Joining me to discuss the benefits of taking a holistic and integrative approach to pediatric medicine is Dr. Pejman Katiraei, a board-certified pediatrician and the co-founder of WholisticMinds. We'll explore how physiological and environmental factors like mold, Lyme, and other toxins can impact children's bodies leading to behavioral issues, and what this understanding me...2023-08-291h 08Securely Attached126. Fostering secure attachments in peer relationships: Helping our children form strong friendship bonds with Dr. Eileen Kennedy-MooreAs children grow, their friendships become increasingly more important to them and are an integral part of their developing sense of self, of relationships, and how they fit into this world. Helping them learn to understand, process, and manage the multitude of emotions that come with early peer relationships can have a major impact on their development and mental health. Here to talk about the way children make, maintain, and nurture friendships is Dr. Eileen Kennedy-Moore. Eileen is a psychologist, friendship expert, and co-author of Growing Feelings: A Kids' Guide to Dealing with Emotions about F...2023-08-2259 minSecurely Attached124. Finding support in pregnancy, birth, postpartum, and parenthood with Doula and activist Chanel Porchia-AlbertThe care we provide for mothers, helping them to feel seen and supported, not only changes the way they internalize their self worth, but the trajectory of the perceived value they internalize and pass along to their children. Joining me in this episode is Chanel Porchia-Albert, the founder and Chief Executive Director of Ancient Song Doula Services and activist in the fight for birth equality for all, regardless of race, location, or socio economic status. Together we'll help all expecting or soon-to-be expecting new parents know more about their options, learn wh...2023-08-1540 minSecurely Attached121. Q&A: Is there something I can do to strengthen my child's relationship with my ex?>> Do you need support coparenting your child with your ex? Reach out to Upshur Bren Psychology Group to schedule a free consultation call to learn more about the individualized treatment options. 2023-08-0318 minSecurely Attached120. Breaking the silence: A comprehensive breakdown of selective mutism with Dr. Carmen Tumialan LynasHow do you know whether your child has selective mutism or is just shy in certain situations? Joining me today to discuss selective mutism—an anxiety disorder that is characterized by the inability or refusal to speak in certain situations, despite being capable of speech in other settings—is Dr. Carmen Tumialan Lynas. Dr. Tumialan Lynas is a clinical psychologist and anxiety specialist and the founder of Advanced Therapeutic Solutions. Recognizing the symptoms of selective mutism (SM) is crucial in order to provide appropriate support. If you think your child may have S...2023-08-0158 minSecurely Attached118. How nurturing shapes our child's brain and sets them up for lifelong mental health with Dr. Greer KirshenbaumHow does the way we treat our children affect the makeup of their brains? And how can we use this knowledge to raise children in a style that optimizes their physical, emotional, and mental health? That is precisely what Dr. Greer Kirshenbaum shares in her new book, The Nurture Revolution. From exploring the neuroscience of nurturing to understanding how early caregiving experiences influence our relationships as adults, Dr. Kirshenbaum offers profound insights that can shape how we think about respectful parenting with children of any age. I...2023-07-2558 minSecurely Attached116. Transform mealtimes: Expert tips for raising healthy eaters with Amelia SherryWhen it comes to healthy eating habits, it's essential to focus on balance and trust rather than strict rules or restrictions - which for many of us, is the exact opposite of the way we were raised. Amelia Sherry, registered dietitian/nutritionist and the author of Diet-Proof Your Daughter, is joining me today to talk about ways parents can make this mindset shift in order to support and nurture their child’s healthy relationship to food. Throughout today's episode, we'll explore the role parents play in shaping a child's body image and...2023-07-1854 minSecurely Attached114. NICU survival guide: Establishing a secure attachment even when your child is in the hospital with the founders of NICU Nook Having a baby in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit (NICU) comes with a wide range of emotions and experiences that can be challenging for new parents to navigate. And many feel like they’re facing this challenge alone. The founders of NICU Nook, Dr. Stephanie Simon and Amanda Neilan, are working to change that! This episode is filled with encouragement and support with expert advice and practical strategies to help you and your baby thrive. You'll learn strategies for navigating the NICU and cultivating a secure attachment bond that will...2023-07-1152 minSecurely Attached112. Hustle culture is changing the way we parent: Why slowing down is the key to finding balance with Joe SanokThe constant pressure to do it all (and do it all perfectly, I might add) is just one of the reasons parents are finding themselves so burnt out. We are so go, go, go that we often forget to stop and assess what is working, what isn't working, and how we can be intentional about using the time we do have to raise our children with the values that we find most important. Here to help parents learn to manage and prioritize their time is the author of Thursday is the New Friday, Joe Sanok.2023-07-0449 minSecurely Attached110. Is my child insecurely attached? Unraveling common misconceptions about attachment styles with Dr. Tanya CotlerSecure and insecure attachment styles aren't good or bad, they simply are. It can be tempting to label these things, but with that can come shame, guilt, and anxiety. Here to help dispel some myths about attachment science and offer parents strategies for building their own ability to help their child feel understood and safe is Dr. Tanya Cotler. Together we'll help listeners learn to zoom out to identify patterns and offer suggestions for deepening the parent-child bond, while factoring in family history, the human brain and body, and the importance of...2023-06-271h 02Securely Attached108. How to talk so your teen will listen (plus lay the groundwork for this when they’re little) with Elizabeth BennettBig kids can mean big problems. As tweens and teens start to find their independence and exert their autonomy, parents may feel a little lost as they face new challenges. One of the best ways to break through is to learn how to communicate with your growing child in a way that helps you both to feel seen, understood, respected, and appreciated. Joining me to offer parents tools to do just that is the author of the book Courageous Conversations: A guide for parents to understand and connect with their teen, Elizabeth Bennett. ...2023-06-2058 minSecurely Attached107. A parenting playbook for new dads: What it means to be a father with Kendall SmithNew parenthood is full of challenges, twists, and turns. But particularly for men who were raised by single mothers, becoming a father can sometimes feel like they are forced to forge a new path without having a roadmap for how it's done. Joining me today to talk about his own experience of becoming a dad and the lessons he learned is the author of Rookie Father, Kendall Smith. So whether you’re a dad who is feeling like you are still a “rookie” at this whole parenting thing, or a mom who coul...2023-06-1356 minSecurely Attached81. My child keeps biting, what do I do? How to address biting in toddlers and young children with Dr. Emily UpshurIt's developmentally normal, even typical, for toddlers and young children to bite. But that doesn't mean we just sit back and let it happen. Here to talk about the many reasons children bite and how parents can effectively respond to this behavior is the co-founder of Upshur Bren Psychology Group, Dr. Emily Upshur. In this episode we’ll talk about exactly what to do when your child bites, plan b and c for when that strategy isn’t working, and advice for what to do before and after the bite occurs to work...2022-12-1335 minSecurely Attached74. You can't sit with us: How to handle peer rejection in early adolescence with Dr. Emily UpshurWere you uninvited to a birthday party, laughed at by a group of mean girls, or maybe even bullied? If you had some tough times in elementary, middle, or high school, it’s easy to inadvertently be projecting your own experiences onto your child as they develop their own social group. Last week’s Securely Attached episode was all about peer rejection in toddlerhood—how to make space for a dialogue, develop a growth mindset, and help your child build their compassion, empathy, and social awareness. While the fundamentals are the same, pe...2022-10-2541 minSecurely Attached73. I don't want to play with you: How to handle peer rejection in toddlerhood Q&A with Dr. Emily UpshurWhen we hear our children say things like, “I don’t want to play with her” or “that’s my toy” it’s easy for us to feel flooded and want to shut down the situations with comments like, “that’s not very nice” or “you need to share.” But peer rejection is a normal and healthy part of development. While it may take some work for us to calm our own fight or flight response so we can be open to this, it can be helpful to try to lean in and open up a dialogue with our child...2022-10-1830 minSecurely Attached72. Supportive Parenting for Anxious Childhood Emotions (SPACE): How a new treatment for childhood anxiety and OCD is revolutionizing care with Dr. Eli Lebowitz Human evolution is incredible. We come out of the womb knowing that our greatest chance of survival is to attach to a primary caretaker who will keep us safe. And that innate wisdom is what motivates children to seek closeness and connection to their secure base. When children suffer from an anxiety disorder the threat detector in their brain is on overdrive and more and more they rely on their parents to protect and soothe them. And while parents have the best intentions, this interpersonal dance can actually serve to increase the severity a...2022-10-1151 minSecurely Attached68. Transitioning from one child to two: How to support everyone as your family grows with supermom Lindsay Ellingson When we become parents for the second or third time, one of the most common experiences (that people often don't talk about) is the grief parents feel for their big kiddo and the changes that are about to rock their world. That is just one of the many emotions, challenges and joys that come with expanding our families. Here to talk about what it was like for her to transition from one child to two, is model, mom and co-founder of Wander Beauty, Lindsay Ellingson. From growing her family, na...2022-09-1356 minSecurely Attached67. Parents are burnt out: A breakdown of what went wrong and how we can prioritize our own mental health with Shelley Kemmerer During the pandemic, "burnout" became a trendy buzzword getting thrown around social media, blogs, and moms groups. But what is the actual medical definition of burnout and how can learning about what it is help us to move out of the never ending state of exhaustion many parents are faced with today? Joining me to clear the confusion and offer strategies for finding balance is Board Certified Physician Assistant and the founder of Run Tell Mom, Shelley Kemmerer. The cure to burnout is not about quick fixes or a day...2022-09-0648 minSecurely Attached66. Busting parenting gender stereotypes: A dad's perspective on respectful parenting with Eli Weinstein The stereotypes surrounding fatherhood often revolve around a disengaged father figure described as “baby-sitting” their own child, lacking deep emotions, and blindly following their wife’s advice. But that is far from the reality for most modern-day fathers. Here to give us that often elusive real dad perspective is father of two and therapist, Eli Weinstein. Eli will give us a peek into the mind of a dad, discuss the importance of men finding their own community of support, and share the strategies he and his wife have implemented to help...2022-08-3050 minSecurely Attached65. Helping preschool parents prepare for drop-off, separation anxiety, and the development of social skills with Meredith GaryIn preschool, learning is far less about the ABC’s and 1,2,3’s and far more about developing an awareness of yourself and the world around you. Knowing how to best support your child and help them feel more comfortable transitioning to a school environment can be instrumental in setting them up for success. Joining me this week to help parents learn how to guide their children through this transition is the co-director of the Downtown Little School, Meredith Gary. From strategies for dealing with separation anxiety, to helpful tips to get your c...2022-08-2357 minSecurely Attached64. Moving beyond parenting scripts: Fostering deep, authentic and connected conversations with your kids with Rebecca Rolland Science has shown that the best way to help our kids become independent, confident, kind, empathetic, and happy is by talking with them. But while we may know that what we say to our children matters, we may not know exactly how to get started or what to do to encourage honest, open and thoughtful communication. Here to help parents learn the secrets of effective communication is speech pathologist, Rebecca Rolland. This episode will help you to understand just how powerful language can be and teach you to actionable te...2022-08-1642 minSecurely Attached63. Potty training, bed wetting and constipation: A conversation about pediatric pelvic health with Quiara Smith Whether potty training isn’t going as planned, or you’re just nervous about gearing up to undertake your child’s’ transition out of diapers, that added pressure, frustration and anxiety can create a vicious cycle, making potty learning more difficult— for you and your child. Here to offer a podcast style “potty class” for parents so they can identify potential problem areas (physically and emotionally), and avoid potty training pitfalls, is the owner of Aloha Integrative Therapy, Occupational Therapist Quiara Smith. Quiara shares incredible insights about when it’s time (or more im...2022-08-0951 minSecurely Attached62. Motherhood as advocacy: A conversation about paid family leave, abortion access and gun reform with Raena Boston Moms are overwhelmed, exhausted and burnt out. There is a major lacking in systems to support new, working and stay-at-home moms… so basically, that's every mother. It is important for us to fight for change, but the weight of that constant battle and stream of seemingly never-ending bad news can feel too heavy to carry at times. Joining me to discuss the advocacy work The Chamber of Mothers is doing, ways you can get involved, and how to find joy in an often turbulent world is the founder of Work...2022-08-0249 minSecurely Attached61. Giving our children enough space to grow and learn: Raising self-confident and resilient children with Nellie HardenBeing intentional about the way we parent our young children now can help lay critical groundwork that will allow them to flourish in adulthood. Lessons like independence, self-confidence, and resilience can all be fostered through helping to build emotional intelligence in our kids. Joining me to discuss how you can help prepare your own children to tackle life in the real world is mother of 4 and Family Life & Leadership Coach, Nellie Harden. We’ll talk about why and how you can use your parent-child relationship as an incredibly effective motivator for kids...2022-07-2646 minSecurely Attached60. The battle over screen time: Helping our children form a healthy relationship to technology with Emily CherkinParenting in an age of ever changing technology—battling over screen time use, deciding when to allow your child to have a smart phone, and understanding how much screen time is too much—can be confusing for parents of children of all ages. Joining me today to help parents learn to cut through the confusion and successfully navigate parenting in the digital age is The Screentime Consultant, Emily Cherkin. If you want to understand why screens are so addictive, how to help our children establish healthy relationships with technology, and techniques for tr...2022-07-191h 01Securely Attached59. Sex after baby part II: When we want to want it but we're just touched out A few weeks ago I recorded an amazing episode on sex and intimacy after baby with The WTF Trimester creator, Chelsea Skaggs. And it seemed to hit a nerve, because I received tons of feedback from that episode! For some of you, learning how to communicate your needs to your partner in a way they would be able to hear you was just what you needed. But I also got some DMs from moms who are facing a different problem when it comes to sex in early parenthood… Whether after the birth of a c...2022-07-1237 minSecurely Attached58. How to ease your child's anxiety for doctors visits: A conversation with pediatrician Dr. Rachel Geronemus There is no shortage of doctor visits and wellness checks during your child’s first few years. And that can cause some apprehension and anxiety for both parents and children. I am so excited to welcome my family’s own pediatrician, Dr. Rachel Geronemus, onto the podcast to fill us all in on what pediatricians want parents to know! This conversation is chalk full of helpful tips, like what you can expect at your child’s next doctor's appointment, developmentally appropriate expectations to set, and strategies you can implement weeks and days ahead of thei...2022-07-0542 minSecurely Attached57. Sex after baby: How to reconnect and increase intimacy with your partner with Chelsea Skaggs For many couples, the birth of a child can bring with it a shift in their intimate relationship. Having a child triggers such a sudden and massive transition to our identity, our body and sometimes even our sex drive, so it makes perfect sense that new parents can often find themselves on different pages when it comes to intimacy and sex. And that is just one of the reasons I am so excited to talk about ways couples can rebuild connection and intimacy in their relationship with life coach and the creator of t...2022-06-2844 minSecurely Attached56. Setting your child’s brain up for success this summer: How to keep executive functioning skills strong without the structure of the school yearExecutive functioning skills are the systems, structures and routines we establish in our daily life that make us successful. Do you always put the mail on the end table when you walk in the door? That’s a perfect example of this. These skills are housed within the prefrontal cortex and that part of the brain isn’t fully developed until we are in our 20s! So all children, whether they are neurotypical or struggle with an executive functioning skills deficit like ADHD, can benefit from exercising this “muscle.” This week I am talki...2022-06-2147 minSecurely Attached55. Parenting through an American gun crisis: Helping parents feel educated, informed and empowered Raising children today in a world saturated with guns, active shooter drills at school and mass shootings on the news can leave parents feeling overwhelmed and unsure. I wanted to talk directly to you about the psychology and developmental aspect of aggression and the impact of both toy and real guns on our children and society at large. This isn’t about me telling you what is right or wrong, good or bad, what you should or shouldn’t do with your own child, but simply about arming you with some fundamental information so yo...2022-06-1432 minSecurely Attached54. When your child identifies as non-binary: A story of acceptance and love from Alexis Barad-Cutler As our children grow into the people they will be, so too do we grow into the parents we become. Alexis Barad-Cutler, the founder of Not Safe For Mom Group, found herself in that very situation when her youngest child, Gavi, expressed the need to be the “real Gavi” at 3-years-old. In this episode Alexis shares her raw and powerful story of leaning in and learning how to support her gender nonconforming child in a way that makes them feel seen, accepted and loved. Whether you are finding yourself questioning how best to suppo...2022-06-0750 minSecurely Attached53. Positive parenting isn’t permissive parenting: How to integrate effective discipline that prioritizes emotional and mental health with Sarah R. Moore If you're listening to this podcast, you're probably already at least somewhat versed in the styles of positive, gentle, respectful or responsive parenting. But whatever you call it, there are many societal misconceptions about what these styles are. Here to help me bust some myths and dig into the research and brain science behind why we're shifting past behaviorism is Sarah R. Moore. From intergenerational transmission of parenting styles, redefining our goals, and the importance of strengthening mental and emotional health in our children, you won't want to miss this deep dive into WHY these new parenting styles are...2022-05-3148 minSecurely Attached52. Setting boundaries with your parents and in-laws: Navigating family dynamics Q&A with Dr. Emily Upshur Establishing and holding boundaries can be challenging, especially when those limits need to be set within family units. Dr. Emily Upshur, my partner from our group practice Upshur Bren Psychology Group in Westchester, NY is back to help one mom who writes in looking for help establishing boundaries with her in-laws. We’ll talk about strategies for engaging grandparents while also maintaining appropriate boundaries, the difference between internal and external boundaries and how you can integrate both into your life, and concrete steps for addressing excessive gift giving, unaligned parenting values, opposing political vie...2022-05-2443 minSecurely Attached51. Simplifying the jargon associated with therapy: How to be an educated consumer of psychological interventions with Dr. Katie C. Lewis Finding a therapist who you trust and who can offer you proper support can be a complicated process for many people. One of the reasons for this is the confusing and sometimes even misleading terms used in the field of mental health. Joining me today is research psychologist and medical staff member at the Austen Riggs Center, Dr. Katie C. Lewis. We’ll discuss the differences and similarities between cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and psychodynamic therapy, how to determine which treatment modality is right for your unique family, and arm you with the knowledge you nee...2022-05-1744 minSecurely Attached50. You're pregnant, now what? Navigating pregnancy and postpartum mental health with Dr. Tracy Shevell May is Mental Health Awareness Month and I want to highlight the importance of finding trusted resources women can turn to for maternal mental health support through pre-pregnancy, pregnancy and postpartum. Joining me today is Dr. Tracy Shevell. We’ll discuss her almost 20 years of experience in a hospital setting that led her to believe the system is broken and the how she’s working to change this by creating Blue Moon Perinatal. We’ll also review her 3-step process to help expecting parent...2022-05-1044 minSecurely Attached48. The difference between a tantrum and a meltdown: Q&A with Dr. Emily Upshur Did you know there is a difference between a tantrum and a meltdown? Do you know what that difference is? Dr. Emily Upshur, from Upshur Bren Psychology Group, is back to answer those questions and help arm parents with the tools they need to best support their child through each. We’ll discuss what is happening in your child’s brain and body when they’re dysregulated, why these aren’t manipulative behaviors, and address the misconception that parents need to ignore bad behavior as a means of not reinforcing it. 2022-04-2647 minSecurely Attached47. What we hold in our bodies: Unlocking emotions through dance and movement therapy with Dr. Lori Baudino There is a powerful connection between the mind and the body. Joining me this week is clinical psychologist and dance and movement therapist, Dr Lori Baudino. We’ll discuss how physicality can be a tool for connection, ways you can shift your perception of your child’s physical movement to make it feel less personal when they are aggressive, how movement offers a unique opportunity for expression that may not be able to be communicated in words, and what a typical dance and movement therapy session looks like. Want...2022-04-1953 minSecurely Attached46. The benefits of mindfulness: How to use this practice for ourselves and our children with Diana Winston Mindfulness can be an effective tool, allowing us to create new neural pathways in our brain that we can access in the heat of the moment, helping us stay regulated during life’s stressful, overwhelming and frustrating times. In this episode, I am joined by the Director of Mindfulness Education at UCLA's Mindful Awareness Research Center, Diana Winston. We’ll cover ways that you can incorporate mindfulness into your daily life, dispel some common myths about meditation and mindfulness practices, discuss the impact this can have on anxiety, ADHD and trauma, and close with a shor...2022-04-1252 minSecurely Attached45. The importance of proper repair after rupture: Strengthening our parent-child relationships with Dana Rosenbloom It is important we give ourselves permission to not always get it right in parenting. But after we do have a messy moment, it’s also important we know how to reconnect to create a sense of trust and intimacy in our parent-child relationship. I’ve invited Dana Rosenbloom, founder of Dana’s Kids, back on the show to continue our conversation about regulation and coregulation and to address what happens after there is a rupture. We’ll discuss exactly what rupture and repair is, how this cycle is an important piece of maintaini...2022-04-0554 minSecurely Attached44. Fostering independent play and a love of learning with Lizzie Assa If you are feeling stressed and burnt out with the constant pressure to always be stimulating, educating and entertaining your child, you’re not going to want to miss this episode! Joining me this week is Lizzie Assa. Lizzie is a parenting strategist and play expert, mom of three, and the founder of The Workspace for Children. We’ll discuss the strategies she put in place with her own children based off her experience as a classroom teacher that helped her find balance, the benefits of open ended and independent play, how to make...2022-03-291h 01Securely Attached43. School refusal and anxiety: What parents can do to support their children with Dr. Erica Miller When our children refuse to attend school or show other anxiety related behaviors, it can be difficult for parents to find that balance between properly supporting their needs without over accommodating for their fear. In this episode I am joined by Dr. Erica Miller, a licensed psychologist and director of Successful School Transitions. We’ll talk about the effect the pandemic and disruptions to their routine has had on children, what school refusal is and why it can be so triggering for parents, and how we can use techniques like coregulation to stretch our...2022-03-2256 minSecurely Attached42. Busting divorce myths and breaking down the true effect it has on children: A conversation with Michelle Dempsey-Multack The dissolution of a family unit when parents separate or divorce is a difficult thing for everyone involved, parents and children alike. But, that doesn’t have to mean it will be contentious and detrimental. In this episode I am joined by certified divorce specialist and the author of Moms Moving On, Michelle Dempsey-Multack. We’ll be busting some common misconceptions about divorce, discussing the importance of support - for your child and yourself, the destructive nature of shame and guilt and the ways single parents can make their...2022-03-1544 minSecurely Attached41. Using your child’s brain, body and nervous system to guide your parenting: A conversation with child psychologist Dr. Mona Delahooke In our culture, we often look at the surface behaviors our children exhibit and think it is our job as parents to control those. Instead, if we can look at behaviors as clues to how our child is making sense of the world, we're able to get to the root of what is causing the behavior in the first place. Joining me this week is child psychologist and the author of the new book, Brain-Body Parenting, Dr. Mona Delahooke. We'll talk about the ways you can begin to look past your child's behaviors, creating a...2022-03-0856 minSecurely Attached40. Nurturing our child's relationship with food: A conversation with registered dietitian Katie Thomson How and what we feed our child can be a polarizing topic for many parents. But we can likely all agree that we want our children to have a healthy, balanced and open relationship to food. Joining me on the podcast is the CEO of Square Baby and registered dietician & nutritionist, Katie Thomson. We’ll talk about ways parents can tune out societal pressures and instead tune into our own children’s cues, way for establishing balanced and realistic expectations of our kids (and ourselves), and how we can nurture a healthy relationship between our child...2022-03-0146 minSecurely Attached39. Understanding parenting styles and the benefits of an authoritative approach: Q&A with Dr. Emily Upshur Joining me today is my partner from our joint practice Upshur Bren Psychology Group, Dr. Emily Upshur. We’re diving into Diana Baumrind’s 4 parenting styles - Permissive, Authoritative, Authoritarian and Neglectful - in order to help guide one mom who wonders how she can break the cycle and raise her child differently from the authoritarian way she herself was raised. We’ll get into the characteristics of each of these styles, the middle ground where most people truly exist, the reasons why an authoritative style is considered the gold standard in child development and str...2022-02-2246 minSecurely Attached38. The parallels between couples and family therapy: And the takeaways we can use from both with Dr. Marina Rosenthal The ripple effects of how we were raised can often be felt in adulthood as we form and show up in relationships. Joining me this week is clinical psychologist and couples therapist Dr. Marina Rosenthal. We’ll discuss the intersection between the work I do in family therapy and the work she does with partners. And we’ll offer strategies for successful communication and connection skills in your romantic relationships as well as proactive steps you can take with your children to foster secure attachment. She and I get into the impacts of making kids feel safe and seen in c...2022-02-1541 min
Securely AttachedLimited Time Bonus Episode: Parenting Confidence 101Check out this limited time bonus episode before it disappears February 11th! This past week I presented my live masterclass, Parenting Confidence 101, and I wanted you guys to get a chance to hear it too! In this episode I'll guide you through learning to attend to what will actually move the needle in building your parenting confidence and what really doesn’t. And I’ll teach you some basic psychological principles, so you can respond to your child with attunement and trust. And if you’re interested in The Authentic Parent: Finding...2022-02-091h 03Securely Attached37. Finding your confidence in your child's first year: Two moms share their experience Hearing stories about how other parents have handled similar situations can make us feel less alone and helps give us context of how other “real” parents apply the principles I talk about within their own families. So with that in mind, I wanted to invite two of my former The Authentic Parent students to come on and talk about their experiences becoming moms for the first and second time, and how they’ve handled the transitions, challenges, triumphs and joys and built their own community of support. And if you’re interested in The Authentic Parent: F...2022-02-0835 minSecurely Attached36. Maternal mental health throughout pregnancy and parenthood with birth doula Carson Meyer Whether it’s in pregnancy, birthing or parenthood, being informed and properly supported can make parents feel safe, present and less anxious. Joining me this week is birth doula, childbirth educator and founder of C and the Moon, Carson Meyer. We discuss the role of a doula and the importance of having an advocate and grounding influence in the delivery room and the interesting parallels between how feeling empowered and supported in our birth experience can lead to confidence and calm in our transition into motherhood. Plus we share practical mental heal...2022-02-0157 minSecurely Attached35. Rethinking the birth plan: How to create a plan with your OB/GYN that supports resilience and reduces anxiety during and after pregnancy with Dr. Shieva GhofranyPregnant women are being bombarded with a never-ending stream of opinions and advice. How can we find that middle ground, where we feel prepared and knowledgeable without surrounding ourselves with so much noise and worst-case scenarios that we become overwhelmed and fearful? Joining me this week is board-certified OB/GYN Shieva Ghofrany. Dr. Shieva and I discuss ways to reduce anxiety during pregnancy, how to be resilient during labor (and in life) and the importance of establishing a trusting and collaborative relationship with your OB/GYN and the support systems you surround yourself with. 2022-01-2559 minSecurely Attached34. The pressures of motherhood in our society: And how we can come together to feel less alone with Alexis Barad-Cutler Sacrificing all we have and who we are in our pursuit of being a perfect parent has become a badge of honor in our society. But this isn’t a healthy or sustainable model. Joining me today is journalist, community-builder and Not Safe For Mom Group founder, Alexis Barad-Cutler. The pandemic exposed how many of the systems in our society are broken, especially for parents. If you’re feeling fed up, angry, and burnt out there is a way to channel that energy into something positive by asking yourself, how can I play a role in ch...2022-01-1852 minSecurely Attached33. How parents can use music as an emotion regulator with music therapist Vered Have you ever noticed the way we speak to babies? Our baby-talk voices tend to be a lot more melodic than our natural speech patterns. And there’s a good reason for that! Music is more emotional. Joining me today is a music therapist, psychotherapist and the founder of Baby In Tune, Vered. She and I discuss the power of our voice, how music can play an essential role in regulating our child’s nervous system, the importance of lullabies, and strategies for how music can defuse tense parenting moments. Wa...2022-01-1149 minSecurely Attached32. Going back to work after baby: Maintaining a healthy and secure attachment bond Q&A with Dr. Emily Upshur Secure attachment is not that fragile! After all, it’s biologically hardwired in our children to connect with us to ensure their greatest likelihood of survival—we have to actively work against our children’s and our own biology to mess it up. In this episode, Dr. Emily Upshur is back to help answer a listener’s concern about maintaining a secure attachment bond with her baby once she goes back to work. We’ll discuss the basics of attachment theory, dispel the myth that you need to be a martyr to be a working parent, off...2022-01-0442 minSecurely Attached31. It's not about me: How to not take your child's behavior so personally with Kim John Payne As parents, we may want to shield our children from any pain or sadness they may face, but if we’re honest with ourselves, we know this is impossible. So rather than fighting the inevitable, our children are better served if we work to help them understand how to weather the storm, to equip them with tools so they’re capable of processing and working through the full range of emotions life has in store for them. Joining me today is Kim John Payne, author of several books, including the number 1 Best Seller Simplicity Parenting. This...2021-12-2855 minSecurely Attached30. Preparing your mind and body for pregnancy, birth and postpartum with The Bloom Method's Brooke Cates It's important for women to feel powerful, capable and confident during their pregnancy, birth and postpartum journey. After all, our bodies have an innate knowledge of how to do this, we just need to tap into that wisdom. Today I am joined by the creator of the online platform The Bloom Method, Brooke Cates. Brooke and I are busting myths and dispelling societal stigmas surrounding what it means to become a mother. We’ll talk about ways you can stay connected to who you are during this massive transition, how to let go of some con...2021-12-2147 minSecurely Attached#04 - You hear "I hate you!" but what is your child really trying to communicate: Q&A with Dr. Emily Upshur Dr. Sarah and Dr. Emily respond to a mom who is asking for help figuring out what to do when her child says “I hate you!” or uses hurtful language. I want to hear from you! Send me a topic you want me to cover or a question you want answered on the show! ✨ DM me on Instagram at @securelyattachedpodcast or @drsarahbren ✨Send an email to info@drsarahbren.com ✨ And check out drsarahbren.com for more parenting resources2021-06-2232 minSecurely Attached01. Hi, I'm Dr. Sarah Bren In this episode I’ll tell you a bit more about myself and my journey to create this podcast. I’ll talk about how and why I pivoted my clinical work from adults with trauma histories to parenting. And I’ll share my passion for helping parents understand the building blocks of child development and how to harness the power of the parent-child relationship so they can calmly and confidently respond to any problem that arises, feel more in sync with their child, and truly enjoy parenting! I want to hear from you! S...2021-06-1515 minSecurely AttachedTrailer Parenthood is a messy, chaotic, wild ride - and guess what, that’s okay! I’m Dr. Sarah Bren, a clinical psychologist and mom of two. I’ve built a career dedicated to helping families find deep connections, build healthy relationships, repair attachment wounds, kick the guilt, and raise kids who are healthy, secure, resilient, and kind. In this podcast, I’ve taken all of my clinical experience, current research on brain science and child psychology, and the insights I’ve gained on my own parenting journey, and distilled everything...2021-06-0501 min