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Been There Got Out PodcastLearning to Trust Again After a Toxic RelationshipJoin us as we explore the challenging yet crucial journey of learning to trust again after toxic relationships, with insights from Dr. Elizabeth Polinsky, founder of Communicate and Connect Counseling. In our conversation, Dr. Polinsky shares her expertise on the prevalence of betrayal, from infidelity and intimate partner violence to emotional abuse. Discover the nuances between situational couple violence and intimate terrorism, and learn about the pursue-withdraw dynamic, a common pattern in relationships. We also discuss how emotionally focused couple therapy can serve as a powerful tool for healing and improving relationships after betrayal.As we navigate...2025-07-1535 min
The Communicate & Connect Podcast for Military RelationshipsHow to sleep better with anxiety with Savannah HipesIf anxiety is keeping you up at night, you’re not alone. And you don’t have to settle for sleepless, anxious nights. In this episode, we’re talking about exactly how to sleep better with anxiety, especially when stress, trauma, or PTSD are in the picture. Dr. Elizabeth is joined by Savannah Hipes, LCSW, DBSM, a sleep and anxiety specialist who works with high-achieving, sleep-deprived professionals to help them finally get the rest they’ve been missing. Together, they explore why anxiety impacts sleep, how it affects relationships, and what you can do, starting tonight to get real...2025-07-0729 min
Nourished Inside Out with Aneta WaclawHow to Reconnect When You’re Drifting Apart — With Couples Therapist Dr. Liz PolinskySend us a textStruggling to feel truly connected in your relationship? In this powerful episode, we’re joined by Dr. Elizabeth "Liz" Polinsky, a Certified Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist, to explore how couples can rebuild emotional intimacy, improve communication, and reignite connection—even after years of feeling distant.With her unique expertise in couples counseling, sex therapy, and military marriage support, Dr. Liz shares actionable insights to overcome personality clashes, navigate emotional triggers, and heal disconnection in relationships. Whether you're a couple dealing with everyday stress or navigating the uniq...2025-06-1639 minThe Communicate & Connect Podcast for Military RelationshipsUnderstanding and Overcoming the Freeze Response in Relationships with Lauren Dry In this episode of the Communicate and Connect Podcast, Liz talks with relationship coach Lauren Dry about the freeze response and how it shows up in communication, connection, and conflict. The freeze response is one of the most misunderstood nervous system reactions, especially in relationships. It can look like emotional shutdown, disconnection, or indifference but it’s actually a survival mechanism. Lauren explains why the freeze response happens, how it affects both partners, and what you can do to move from disconnection to reconnection. In this episode, you’ll lear...2025-06-0243 minThe Communicate & Connect Podcast for Military RelationshipsHow to deal with different parenting styles with Adam Angel Welcome to this episode of The Communicate & Connect Podcast, where we tackle the ever-relevant topic of how to deal with different parenting styles. In today's conversation, host Dr. Elizabeth Polinsky is joined by Adam Angel, a specialist in supporting new dads and an advocate for thoughtful, collaborative parenting approaches. This episode is particularly significant for military families, who often face unique challenges and transitions. Adam begins by sharing his personal journey into fatherhood during the pandemic, which led to his development of a supportive group for new dads. Throughout the discussion, Adam and Dr. Polinsky explore the...2025-05-0542 minThe Communicate & Connect Podcast for Military RelationshipsHow to improve intimacy in a relationship with Chloe Mascord In this episode of The Communicate & Connect Podcast, host Dr. Elizabeth Polinsky welcomes intimacy expert Chloe Mascord to the show, where they dive deep into the intricacies of nurturing intimacy within relationships, with a special focus on the unique dynamics faced by military couples. Chloe, renowned for her expertise in the field, discusses the common challenges and misconceptions surrounding intimacy, emphasizing the crucial distinction between intimacy and sex and the need for emotional closeness for a fulfilling intimate life. Throughout the episode, Chloe offers a wealth of practical tips and strategies to help couples reignite the spark...2025-04-0736 minThe Communicate & Connect Podcast for Military RelationshipsHow to make your relationship STRONG with Kristal DesantisWelcome to Episode 060 of The Communicate & Connect Podcast! I'm your host, Dr. Elizabeth Polinsky, and today we have an enlightening conversation with the incredible Kristal Desantis, a licensed marriage and family therapist based in Austin, Texas. In this episode, we delve into the often-overlooked dynamics of men in relationships and the societal expectations that shape their roles and behaviors. Kristal shares her insights on the shifting roles of men, particularly the challenge of being valued for performance over personhood. We'll unpack the powerful metaphor of "lipstick on a pig" to illustrate the ways we sometimes mask relationship i...2025-03-0339 minThe Communicate & Connect Podcast for Military RelationshipsMilitary Spouse Relocation - Navigating leaving friends and home behind with Leigh Conant Welcome to Episode 59 of the Communicate & Connect Podcast! I'm your host, Dr. Elizabeth Polinsky, and today we have a deeply insightful conversation lined up with our special guest, Leigh Conant, a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in the military community. In this episode, we dive into the emotional and logistical complexities of military spouse relocation. Leigh shares her personal experience moving from a well-established community in New Orleans to Camp Lejeune in North Carolina, detailing the mix of excitement and profound grief that comes with leaving friends and cherished homes...2025-02-0345 minThe Communicate & Connect Podcast for Military RelationshipsCoping with PCS Stress with Michelle FarmerWelcome to The Communicate & Connect Podcast with your host, Dr. Elizabeth Polinsky. In today's episode, titled "Coping with PCS Stress with Michelle Farmer," we dive deep into the unique challenges faced by military families during Permanent Change of Station (PCS) moves. Joining us is Michelle Farmer, a true expert in navigating military life, having experienced it from multiple perspectives—as an army brat, a service member, a military spouse, and a member of the reserves. Michelle and Dr. Polinsky explore a range of topics, from the complexities of communication within families and fostering open, vulnerable dialogues, to pr...2025-01-0643 min
Please Me! Podcast with EveOvercoming Sexual Desire Discrepancies: How Planning Can Ignite Passion| Sex CoachSend Eve a text, question, or suggestion! Join Patreon :Add free early releases of Please Me!Bonus episodesEve's webinarsEpisode Summary:In this episode of Please Me!, Eve welcomes special guest Dr. Elizabeth Polinsky, a marriage counselor, sex therapist, and expert in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT). Together, they tackle one of the most common yet challenging issues couples face: sexual desire discrepancies. Learn how planning intimacy, breaking societal myths about sex, and embracing vulnerability can reignite passion in your relationship.Dr. Liz shares actionable strategies t...2024-12-0445 minThe Communicate & Connect Podcast for Military RelationshipsNavigating living overseas and OCONUS military life with Brianna MendozaWelcome to The Communicate & Connect Podcast! I'm your host, Dr. Elizabeth Polinsky. In today's episode, we're diving into the unique challenges and enriching experiences that come with living overseas and navigating OCONUS military life. Our special guest, Brianna Mendoza, brings her wealth of experience as a military spouse and graduate student in marriage and family therapy, specifically focusing on military therapy. Brianna will share her journey of moving to Japan post-COVID, highlighting her adventures in nature hikes, traditional onsen visits, and connecting with locals through a dog café. We'll discuss the critical importance of communication and coping m...2024-12-0242 minThe Communicate & Connect Podcast for Military RelationshipsHow to make a Military Marriage Work with Darrell and Veronica WilliamsWelcome to The Communicate & Connect Podcast with your host, Dr. Elizabeth Polinsky. In today's episode, we're delving into the unique challenges and triumphs of military marriages with our special guests, Darrell and Veronica Williams. With an impressive 26-year marriage behind them, Darrell and Veronica share their journey from high school sweethearts to long-distance partners, offering invaluable insights into navigating military life together. Dr. Polinsky wraps up this heartfelt conversation by expressing gratitude for the wisdom and mentorship shared by the Williamses, and reminding listeners that there are helpful resources available in the show notes, including a link...2024-11-0459 minThe Communicate & Connect Podcast for Military RelationshipsAttachment Theory and Domestic Violence with Jef SlootmaeckersWelcome to Episode 55 of The Communicate & Connect Podcast! I'm your host, Dr. Elizabeth Polinsky, and in today's episode, we're diving deep into the complex world of attachment theory and its intertwining with domestic violence, especially within the military context. Joining us is Jef Slootmaeckers, an Emotionally Focused Trainer with ICEEFT and therapist with a profound understanding of the relational dynamics related to domestic violence. In this episode, we explore the intricate balance between emotional regulation and survival strategies, focusing on the pivotal questions of attachment: "Are you there for me?" "Am I good enough?" and "Do I...2024-10-071h 02The Communicate & Connect Podcast for Military RelationshipsHow to Deal with Separation Anxiety in Relationships with Megan McCulloughWelcome back to The Communicate & Connect Podcast, where we explore the intricate dynamics of relationships and mental well-being, especially within military families. I'm your host, Dr. Elizabeth Polinsky, and today we delve into Episode 54: "How to Deal with Separation Anxiety in Relationships." Joining us is Megan McCullough, a licensed clinical social worker and military spouse with 19 years of experience navigating the unique challenges of military life. In this episode, we'll uncover the often unspoken struggles faced by military spouses, who are expected to "suck it up" and push forward amidst frequent and abrupt separations. Megan shares her...2024-09-0235 minThe Communicate & Connect Podcast for Military RelationshipsHow to Regulate a Dysregulated Nervous System with Michelle Cantrell Welcome to Episode 53 of The Communicate & Connect Podcast! I'm your host, Dr. Elizabeth Polinsky, and today we are diving into the fascinating world of nervous system regulation with our esteemed guest, Michelle Cantrell. Michelle is a licensed professional clinical counselor and founder of the Center for Growth and Connection, specializing in emotionally focused therapy and EMDR. In this episode, Michelle shares powerful insights on how to recognize and manage a dysregulated nervous system, highlighting the impact it has on our relationships and emotional well-being. We'll explore techniques like EMDR’s resourcing, physical activities fo...2024-08-0551 min
Raised to Empower with Ashley ComegysEpisode 77: Helping Military Couples Thrive Amid Unique Struggles with Dr. Liz PolinksyWelcome to this week's episode of the Raised to Empower Podcast. I'm joined today by my guest Dr. Elizabeth “Liz” Polinsky, a military spouse, Certified Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist and Supervisor, and the owner of Communicate & Connect Counseling in Virginia Beach, which specializes in providing marriage and family therapy service to military and veteran families. Listen in as we discuss the unique challenges faced by military couples and how her practice serves this population. Learn more about Dr. Polinsky’s work at www.communicateandconnect.com and on the following channelsInstagram: @communicateandconnectFa...2024-07-1550 minThe Communicate & Connect Podcast for Military RelationshipsHealing from Betrayal Trauma with Kelly BourqueWelcome to a very special episode of The Communicate & Connect Podcast titled "Attachment Theory and Healing from Betrayal Trauma with Kelly Bourque." Before we dive in, remember to take our ARE quiz based on the brief accessibility, responsiveness, and engagement scale to assess the attachment dynamics in your own relationships. Together with our host, Dr. Elizabeth Polinsky, marriage and family therapist Kelly Bourque dives deep into how individuals and couples can emerge stronger after experiencing profound relationship challenges. Drawing parallels between emotional healing and the strengthening of fractured bones, Kelly illuminates the journey of healing, emphasizing self-compassion a...2024-07-0150 minThe Communicate & Connect Podcast for Military RelationshipsAttachment theory and marriage with Dr. Greg Cheney Welcome to a very special episode of The Communicate & Connect Podcast titled "Attachment Theory and Marriage with Dr. Greg Cheney." Before we dive in, remember to take our ARE quiz based on the brief accessibility, responsiveness, and engagement scale to assess the attachment dynamics in your own relationships. In this episode, Dr. Elizabeth Polinsky and Dr. Greg Cheney to dive into the fascinating world of Attachment Theory and its impact on marriage, especially within the context of military life. Dr. Cheney brings his unique perspective as a chaplain and Licensed Marriage and Family Th...2024-06-0339 minThe Communicate & Connect Podcast for Military RelationshipsAttachment parenting with Con SheehanWelcome to a very special episode of The Communicate & Connect Podcast titled "Attachment Parenting with Con Sheehan." Before we dive in, remember to take our ARE quiz based on the brief accessibility, responsiveness, and engagement scale to assess the attachment dynamics in your own relationships. Today, we are joined by the esteemed clinical social worker Con Sheehan, who specializes in emotionally focused therapy for families and couples. In this episode, we delve into the world of attachment parenting, exploring how parents' availability and empathetic engagement play critical roles in fostering children's security and resilience. 2024-05-0648 minThe Communicate & Connect Podcast for Military RelationshipsAttachment theory and divorce with Dr. Clare RosomanWelcome back to The Communicate & Connect Podcast with your host, Dr. Elizabeth Polinsky. Today, we continue our special series on attachment in relationships and are joined by Dr. Clare Rosoman, a Clinical Psychologist in Brisbane, Australia. She is an international trainer in Emotionally Focused Therapy and is the author of "An Emotionally Focused Guide to Relationship Loss: Life after Love," and its companion workbook, Dr. Rosoman brings compassion, expertise, and grounded advice on navigating the turbulent seas of heartbreak. Before we dive in, remember to take our ARE quiz based on the brief accessibility, responsiveness, and engagement scale to asse...2024-04-0138 minThe Communicate & Connect Podcast for Military RelationshipsAttachment theory and spirituality with Dr. Bill SenyardWelcome back to The Communicate & Connect Podcast with your host, Elizabeth Polinsky. Today, we continue our special series on attachment in relationships with a highly anticipated guest, Dr. Bill Senyard, who brings 25 years of pastoral counseling experience and a deep understanding of attachment theory principles. Before we dive in, remember to take our ARE quiz based on the brief accessibility, responsiveness, and engagement scale to assess the attachment dynamics in your own relationships. In this episode, we'll explore the profound questions of "can I count on you" and "am I worthy of love," as we discuss how ou...2024-03-0444 minThe Communicate & Connect Podcast for Military RelationshipsAttachment theory in relationships with Dr. James Hawkins Welcome to The Communicate & Connect Podcast, where we delve into the intricacies of attachment theory in relationships with renowned expert Dr. James Hawkins. Hosted by Dr. Elizabeth Polinsky, this episode promises to be a treasure trove of wisdom for anyone looking to deepen their understanding of emotional bonds in romantic partnerships, particularly within military families. Dr. Hawkins, a distinguished EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) trainer and counselor, shares his extensive expertise on how attachment theory shapes the dynamics of couples. Whether you're navigating the unique challenges faced by military couples or simply aiming to...2024-02-0542 min
Marriage Underdogs Radio ShowEP37. Military Couples: Key Takeaways from Dr. Elizabeth Polinsky, LMFT🎙️ Welcome to Marriage Underdogs Radio Show! In this episode, host Chris A Matthews introduces his guest, Dr. Elizabeth Polinsky, a therapist specializing in couples' therapy and trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). Dr. Polinsky shares her personal journey, including struggles in relationships, and her discovery of EFT during her master's program. They discuss the "wounded healer" concept and how Dr. Polinsky's practical experience as a military spouse provides unique insight into working with military couples.
The episode delves into the limitations and quality concerns of free military counseling resources and the significance of expert training in marriage couns...2024-01-2336 minThe Communicate & Connect Podcast for Military RelationshipsAttachment Theory 101 Welcome to The Communicate & Connect Podcast for Military Relationships. I'm your host, Elizabeth Polinsky, and today we're talking about Attachment Theory, which plays a crucial role in understanding the dynamics of intimate relationships—particularly within military couples. This series is aimed at offering valuable insights into the intricacies of human attachment and how it can impact the resilience and satisfaction of couples navigating the complexities of military life. In this episode, titled "Attachment Theory 101," we'll explore the fundamental concepts of Attachment Theory, originating from the pioneering work of John Bowlby. This theory investigates th...2024-01-0122 minThe Communicate & Connect Podcast for Military RelationshipsDifferent Types of Abuse in a Relationship Welcome back to The Communicate & Connect Podcast, where we explore the many facets of building healthy, strong, and meaningful relationships. I'm your host, Elizabeth Polinsky, and in today's episode, we're diving into a critically important and often misunderstood topic: different types of abuse in relationships. Originally, this episode wasn't on our December 2023 schedule. However, a timely rescheduling provided a much-needed opportunity to shine a light on an issue that affects numerous couples, especially those connected to the military community. This conversation was inspired by a poignant discussion I recently came across in a...2023-12-0432 minThe Communicate & Connect Podcast for Military Relationships44: Navigating Military Life as a Couple with Matthew and Shanon MorrisWelcome to The Communicate & Connect Podcast, a dedicated space for exploring the nuances and challenges of military relationships. In this episode, we're thrilled to delve into the remarkable journey of navigating military life with our special guests, Matthew and Shannon Morris. As a couple whose love story is intertwined with service to their country, they bring an authentic and insightful perspective that's both inspiring and enlightening. Shannon, a proud Navy veteran, and Matthew, a dedicated former Marine, share their firsthand experiences of what it's like to manage the intricacies of military life, both as individuals and as...2023-11-0647 min
Lessons Learned Podcast: The Dumbest Thing I've Ever Done with MoneyFailed Understanding of Savings with a YNAB Account with Elizabeth "Liz" PolinskyABOUT OUR GUESTElizabeth Polinsky is a Certified EFT Marriage Counselor and Supervisor Candidate practicing in Virginia Beach, Virginia. Liz’s goal is to help couples who want to grow and change their relationship into one where both people feel understood, accepted, and cared for, but they just need the support to get there. As a military spouse herself, she has a passion for working with military and veteran couples. Liz also hosts the “The Communicate and Connect Podcast for Military Relationships.” CONTACT OUR GUESTWebsite: www.Elizabe...2023-10-1932 min
Things You Learn in TherapyEp70: Navigating Sex and Intimacy in Relationships: A Candid Conversation with Therapist Liz PolinskySend us a textAre you and your partner struggling to communicate about sex and intimacy? Join us as I talk with Elizabeth "Liz" Polinsky, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Licensed Clinical Social Worker who specializes in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy. Liz offers her expertise on navigating conversations about sexual desire, boundaries, and past experiences, while also shedding light on the impact of sexual trauma and societal messages on our relationships.Dive into the complexities of sexual distress within relationships and learn how to determine when it's time to seek help. We discuss...2023-10-1344 minThe Communicate & Connect Podcast for Military RelationshipsChronic Pain in Relationships with Drs. Dustin & Kerry BrockbergWelcome to The Communicate & Connect Podcast, where today we’re diving into an essential and often overlooked topic: chronic pain in relationships, with a special focus on military and veteran families. Chronic pain is not just about the physical discomfort—it encompasses social and emotional dimensions that can significantly impact personal relationships. In this episode, our host, Elizabeth Polinsky, is joined by experts Dr. Kerry Brockberg and Dr. Dustin Brockberg to break down the complexities of living with chronic pain. Dr. Kerry Brockberg, a licensed psychologist who practices in Minneapolis, specializes in working with individuals grappling with chro...2023-10-0242 minThe Communicate & Connect Podcast for Military RelationshipsAdvocating for Yourself with Braquelle MurphyWelcome to The Communicate & Connect Podcast, where we delve into the essential facets of communication and relationship-building, especially for those in military life. In today's episode, we're thrilled to feature Braquelle Murphy, a licensed graduate professional counselor from Maryland who specializes in trauma therapy and working with military couples. This conversation is packed with valuable insights on the art of self-advocacy, particularly tailored for military spouses who often face unique challenges. In our engaging discussion, Braquelle opens up about her personal journey of self-advocacy, from overcoming career hurdles overseas to forging meaningful relationships in new and unfamiliar...2023-09-0435 minThe Communicate & Connect Podcast for Military RelationshipsRecovering from Divorce with Karen McMahonWelcome to The Communicate & Connect Podcast, the go-to resource for those seeking insightful discussions around relationships and personal growth. Today, we're delving into a topic that often feels like the end of the world but can actually be the dawn of a new beginning—recovering from divorce. This episode titled "Recovering from Divorce with Karen McMahon" is a must-listen for anyone experiencing or contemplating this life-altering transition. Joining us is the incredible Karen McMahon, a divorce and relationship coach with years of experience guiding individuals through the highs and lows of divorce. Karen’s personal journey through a hi...2023-08-0137 min
Couples Synergy: Real Couples, Real Stories...Real RelationshipsLove in Uniform - Supporting Military Relationships - feat. Elizabeth PolinskyHELPING THOSE WHO SERVE: #podcast on #love #marriage & #relationships by #relationshipexperts #DrRayandJean w/ #relationshipadvice for #couples, we talk with #therapist, #ElizabethPolinsky about her work with #militarycouples Please subscribe to our podcast and leave us a comment and review. If you have questions, topic suggestions or would like to be considered as guests, email us at contact@couplessynergy.com. For more information about Couples Synergy, look us up online at Couplessynergy.com2023-07-3135 min
Build Your Happier MarriageHMS059 | How Not To Relate To Your Spouse with Elizabeth PolinskySend us a textTrauma. PTSD. Divorce. These are just a few of the issues mentioned that can disrupt a marriage.Bumps and disagreements are indeed a normal part of any relationship, including marriages. No marriage is perfect, and it is unrealistic to expect complete harmony and agreement at all times. However, what sets apart healthier and happier marriages is how couples handle these challenges.In a healthy and happy marriage, both partners recognize that disagreements are inevitable and approach them with respect, understanding, and open communication. They understand t...2023-07-1850 minThe Communicate & Connect Podcast for Military RelationshipsA veterans journey toward self forgiveness with Bob TaylorWelcome to the Communicate & Connect Podcast, where we explore the profound journeys of healing and self-discovery. In episode 40, titled "A Veterans Journey Toward Self-Forgiveness with Bob Taylor," we are privileged to host Bob Taylor, a distinguished former Major in the United States Air Force. Bob’s narrative is not just a personal recount but a beacon of hope and guidance for many veterans and their families navigating the challenging transition from military to civilian life. Join host Elizabeth Polinsky, a seasoned marriage and mental health counselor, as she delves into Bob's experiences flying combat missions during Operation De...2023-07-0348 min
Couples Therapy In Seven WordsMilitary Families, Trauma, and Relationships: An Interview with Elizabeth PolinskyYou can see the video of this episode at https://youtu.be/8gn9CFL1b1M.
Military families have to deal with a host of challenges, often simultaneously: frequent relocations, deployments, PTSD, culture clashes, and more. Our guest, Elizabeth Polinsky, grew up in a military family and married into one as well. She uses her expertise to help military families navigate those challenges.
You can find out more about Elizabeth Polinsky’s work at https://www.communicateandconnectpodcast.com/.
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Love Is Us: Exploring Relationships and How We ConnectPTSD and Relationships, with Elizabeth PolinskyPTSD has a tremendous impact on all areas of a person's life, including on their relationships. PTSD is an internal reaction to trauma that helps a person cope with an overwhelming event. It can also keep that person stuck in a place of pain and fear, which makes it difficult to relate to others. The good news is that there are ways to heal. Today I talk with Elizabeth Polinsky, who works with couples who are dealing with the effects of trauma (amongst other issues). She talks with us about PTSD, how it impacts us i...2023-06-2051 minThe Communicate & Connect Podcast for Military RelationshipsHealing from trauma while in a relationship with Karen RobinsonWelcome to The Communicate & Connect Podcast, where we delve into the essentials of managing and healing from trauma while in a relationship. In episode 39, "Healing from Trauma While in a Relationship," host Elizabeth Polinsky sit down with special guest Karen Robinson, a seasoned trauma recovery expert. Karen brings a wealth of knowledge from her extensive career as a military therapist and social worker with the Department of Defense. Whether you're part of a military couple or a civilian, this episode is filled with valuable insights into how trauma can profoundly impact relationships and how couples can take active steps...2023-06-0144 minThe Communicate & Connect Podcast for Military RelationshipsCommunicating needs in a relationship with Juliette KaramanWelcome to the Communicate & Connect Podcast, where we dive deep into the intricacies of building stronger, more fulfilling relationships. In episode 38, we are excited to host Juliette Karaman, a distinguished mind-body coach and mentor who specializes in enhancing intimate connections and emotional well-being. Juliette Karaman joins us from the UK to share her expertise in transforming communication patterns within relationships. With her extensive background in psychology, hypnotherapy, and trauma-informed coaching, Juliette has helped countless couples and individuals develop a deeper understanding of their emotional triggers and improve their relational dynamics. In this episode, we explore...2023-05-0142 min
The Codependummy PodcastAttachment Styles and Codependency with Elizabeth Polinsky, LMC-What are attachment styles? -How do attachment styles relate to codependency? -How can we navigate the positive and negative impacts of attachment styles on our relationship? Welcome to Episode 123! This week, I had the pleasure of speaking with Elizabeth Polinsky, LMC, all about attachment styles. Liz educates us on the four types of attachment style: avoidant, disorganized, anxious, and secure. She describes the similarities between anxious attachment style and codependency (since we often are anxious in our relationships, right?). We then explore how attachment styles impact our intimate romantic relationships. Liz shares about...2023-04-2459 minThe Communicate & Connect Podcast for Military RelationshipsTreat your relationship like a business with Dr. Robin BuckleyWelcome to Episode 37 of the Communicate & Connect Podcast, your go-to resource for strengthening military relationships. Hosted by Elizabeth Polinsky, a dedicated military marriage counselor, this episode features a fascinating conversation with Dr. Robin Buckley, an esteemed couples coach with a revolutionary approach to relationship building. Titled "Treating Your Relationship Like a Business," this episode dives deep into the innovative realm of couples coaching versus traditional marriage counseling. In this insightful episode, Dr. Buckley explains the growing trend of treating personal relationships with the same strategic planning and proactive measures that make businesses successful. Unlike traditional therapy, which...2023-04-0339 minThe Communicate & Connect Podcast for Military RelationshipsMilitary Spouse Employment with Dr. Elaina DaLombaWelcome to Episode 36 of the Communicate & Connect Podcast, your go-to resource for improving military relationships with expert advice and insight. I'm your host, Elizabeth Polinsky, a military marriage counselor dedicated to helping couples thrive amidst the unique challenges that come with military life. In this episode, we are excited to have Dr. Elaina DaLomba join us as our guest speaker. Dr. DaLomba brings her extensive experience and research expertise to the table as we delve into the pressing subject of military spouse employment. In this discussion, we explore the various hurdles military spouses face in their professional...2023-03-0137 minThings You Learn in TherapyS3 E4 : Learning what healthy dependence in relationships looks like with Liz PolinskySend us a textDependence is a dirty word in our society. Independence is the “goal”. But what if it’s not? What if that very way of thinking is the thing that keeps us from having healthy attachments and connection in our relationships? My guest, Liz Polinsky, comes on today to help us see that HEALTHY dependence should be our goal in relationships. And better yet, she shares tips on HOW we can take small steps toward achieving that! What a gift we have in Liz’s invaluable expertise in couples work.Elizabeth Polinsky...2023-02-0332 minThe Communicate & Connect Podcast for Military RelationshipsThe Importance of Identity in Marriage with LaQuita MonleyIn this episode of the Communicate and Connect Podcast, we delve deep into the crucial role of identity in marriage, especially within military families with LaQuita Monley. LaQuita, renowned as a retired army wife and a distinguished certified speaker, coach, and trainer with the John Maxwell team, offers a treasure trove of wisdom on how developing a strong sense of self can significantly impact marital dynamics and enhance resilience. Throughout this episode, LaQuita shares her journey as a military spouse and how it shaped her understanding of identity. We explore the intricacies of how knowing your core...2023-02-0146 min
Practical for Your PracticeMaking Room for Emotions: Emotionally Focused Therapy for Military CouplesEmotionally-Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) is an evidence-based psychotherapy for couples that helps couples get better understanding and accepting their emotions, to be vulnerable in communicating those emotions to each other, and to get better at validating and supporting their partners. A challenge that therapists often face when working with military clients who are in committed relationships is deciding when to address relationship issues in individual therapy and when to refer your client to couples therapy. In this episode, certified EFT therapist Liz Polinksy share some actionable intel related to her work with military couples.Elizabeth Polinsky, LCSW...2023-01-0938 minThe Communicate & Connect Podcast for Military RelationshipsDealing with Overwhelming Emotions with Jackie SchuldWelcome to Episode 034 of The Communicate & Connect Podcast, where we delve into the essential skills of effective communication and relationship-building, particularly in the challenging yet rewarding context of military relationships. I’m your host, Dr. Elizabeth Polinsky, a dedicated military marriage counselor, and today we are thrilled to have Jackie Schuld, an accomplished art therapist, mental health counselor, and military brat with a deep understanding of military life, joining us for a captivating discussion on dealing with overwhelming emotions. In this episode, we tackle how to manage complex emotions in relationships and distinguish between stating facts and ma...2023-01-0230 minThe Communicate & Connect Podcast for Military RelationshipsSharing Personal Experiences with Lisa LigouriWelcome to Episode 33 of The Communicate & Connect Podcast! I’m your host, Dr. Elizabeth Polinsky, a dedicated military marriage counselor and therapist, thrilled to guide you through today’s enlightening discussion. Joining us is the remarkable Lisa Ligouri, founder of a nonprofit offering transformative resources through her podcast at advicecolumn.com. Lisa offers a unique perspective on relationship building, enriched by a free downloadable worksheet designed to help listeners navigate the delicate balance between giving advice and sharing personal experiences. In this episode, “Sharing Personal Experiences with Lisa Ligouri,” we delve into the powerful practice of experience sharing—...2022-12-0132 minThe Communicate & Connect Podcast for Military Relationships032: Benefits of Premarital Counseling with Rev. Erica CallicuttWelcome to The Communicate & Connect Podcast, where we delve into building stronger relationships and enhancing communication—crucial aspects for couples everywhere, especially those in military families. I'm your host, Dr. Elizabeth Polinsky, and today, we're exploring an integral topic for any couple contemplating marriage: the benefits of premarital counseling, with our guest, Rev. Erica Callicutt. In this episode, "032: Benefits of Premarital Counseling with Rev. Erica Callicutt," we uncover the profound impact that quality premarital counseling can have on your relationship. Rev. Callicutt, a licensed and ordained minister, brings a wealth of experience in pastoral care, wedding officiating, an...2022-11-0143 minThe Communicate & Connect Podcast for Military RelationshipsDeveloping Healthy Relationship HabitsWelcome to the Communicate and Connect Podcast for Military Relationships, hosted by the expert marriage counselor, Dr. Elizabeth Polinsky. In today's episode titled "Developing Healthy Relationship Habits," we're exploring the essential elements that contribute to strong, resilient partnerships—ideal for anyone preparing for marriage or looking to enhance their current relationship dynamics. As we continue our comprehensive series on getting ready for marriage, we'll delve into how crucial it is to transform relationship skills into ingrained habits that can withstand the test of time. Dr. Elizabeth Polinsky, drawing on her vast experience as a marriage counselor, shares in...2022-10-0618 minThe Communicate & Connect Podcast for Military RelationshipsRelationship Communication SkillsWelcome to the Communicate & Connect Podcast with your host, Dr. Elizabeth Polinsky. In Episode 30: Relationship Communication Skills, we're continuing our deep dive into preparing for a successful marriage as part of our ongoing series inspired by a wedding photographer's request for crucial relationship tips. Whether you're about to embark on the journey of marriage or are newly married, this episode is packed with valuable insights tailored just for you. Have you ever zoned out during a conversation with your partner, only to realize you missed what they said? You're not alone, and today we’re addressing this co...2022-09-0620 min
Mom EssentialsIt's Not Really About the LaundryHave you ever faught with your spouse about the laudndry, the dishes, or (insert a household chore of your choice)? We've all been there, but most of the time it isn't actually about that specific thing... it goes deeper. Elizabeth Polinsky, a Certified Emotionally Focused Marriage Counselor, shares the real reasons we have fights, what can be tracked back to our childhood, and ways to better communicate with our partners. You can grab up more tips on her podcast The Communicate & Connect Podcast for Military Relationships. To get in touch with L...2022-08-2642 minThe Communicate & Connect Podcast for Military RelationshipsHow to Fight Fair in RelationshipsWelcome back to another insightful episode of "The Communicate & Connect Podcast," a dedicated space for improving relationship dynamics, especially for military and veteran families. In episode 29, host Dr. Elizabeth Polinsky, an experienced military marriage counselor, sheds light on the essential skills needed to fight fair in relationships. Are you tired of disagreements that escalate or leave you feeling disconnected? This episode is tailored to equip you with strategies to transform conflict into an opportunity for deeper connection. Dr. Polinsky begins by identifying the pitfalls of unfair fighting, such as making harmful generalizations, engaging in name-calling, and losing...2022-08-0522 minThe Communicate & Connect Podcast for Military RelationshipsEmotional Triggers in RelationshipsWelcome to episode 28 of The Communicate & Connect Podcast with your host, Dr. Elizabeth Polinsky, a seasoned military marriage counselor. In this episode, we're unpacking the crucial topic of "Emotional Triggers in Relationships." Emotional triggers are inevitable and understanding them is vital for fostering a healthy, connected, and resilient relationship. Whether you're in a new relationship or have been with your partner for years, learning to recognize and manage emotional raw spots can be transformative. Join us as Dr. Polinsky dives deep into this essential subject, using her own experiences to illustrate how past emotional wounds c...2022-06-1315 minThe Communicate & Connect Podcast for Military RelationshipsCommunication Styles in RelationshipsWelcome back to The Communicate and Connect Podcast, dedicated to enhancing your relationships through effective communication. I’m your host, Dr. Elizabeth Polinsky, a military marriage counselor, and today we’re diving deep into episode 27, centered on communication styles in relationships. Whether you’re newlyweds or decades into your marriage, understanding how you and your partner communicate during stress can be a game-changer. In this episode, we’ll explore why some couples never discuss crucial topics like finances or intimacy until it becomes a problem and how understanding your communication style can prevent these issues. I’ll share a pe...2022-05-0826 minThe Communicate & Connect Podcast for Military RelationshipsDecision Making in RelationshipsWelcome to The Communicate & Connect Podcast, hosted by the knowledgeable military marriage counselor Elizabeth Polinsky. In episode 26, titled "Decision Making in Relationships," Elizabeth unpacks the intricate dynamics of decision-making processes that can impact the harmony of romantic partnerships, especially for military families facing unique challenges. In this episode, Elizabeth shares a compelling personal narrative about a recent decision regarding a substantial business investment. She discusses how she navigated the financial decision-making process within her marriage, highlighting the importance of communication and mutual consent. This story serves as an excellent example of the broader topic—determining who holds de...2022-02-2519 min
Things You Learn in TherapyS1E2: The power of the monthly meeting (and so much more!)Send us a textToday's episode, we explore tangible ways to make relationships stronger - specifically a twist on the commonly considered "monthly meeting." I found myself thinking... "YES! I need to do this!" I hope you will find my guest, Liz Polinsky, to be SO helpful in your own understanding of #thingsyoulearninthearpy. We explore topics related to military families, which is her area of expertise, but also many other relationship and communication-focused strategies that are often a part of the #thingsyoulearnintherapy. Thanks for tuning in!Elizabeth Polinsky is a marriage counselor at The Relationship C...2022-01-2733 minThe Communicate & Connect Podcast for Military RelationshipsCouple FinancesHello, and welcome to the Communicate & Connect Podcast, your go-to resource for building stronger relationships through effective communication. I'm your host, Elizabeth Polinsky, a dedicated military marriage counselor located in Norfolk, Virginia. Today, we're launching into a topic that often serves as both a challenge and an opportunity for many: couple finances. In this episode, we’re uncovering why conversations about money are crucial for maintaining a healthy and long-lasting relationship. Studies, like the one conducted by Ramsey Solutions, have showcased that financial disputes are the second leading cause of divorce, right after infidelity. This makes understanding an...2022-01-2418 min
The Heart Matters with Ibn Leon MorrisA Talk With Relationship Counselor For Military Families Elizabeth PolinskyElizabeth Polinsky is a Marriage Counselor for military families and the host of The Communicate & Connect Podcast For Military Relationships. She dropped by The Heart Matters to discuss her career, relationships, and why she counsels military relationships Visit her website: elizabethpolinskycounseling.com Follow her on Instagram: @LizPolinsky Follow Louis on Instagram: @louis_morris_coaching Check out his new relationship book The Patterns Of The Power Couple by visiting louismorriscoaching.com in the Resources Section. Get bonus content on Patreon Become a member so we can continue to bring you c...2022-01-0449 minThe Communicate & Connect Podcast for Military RelationshipsDetermining Your Relationship ValuesWelcome to The Communicate & Connect Podcast, the show dedicated to helping you build strong, lasting relationships with your loved ones, hosted by Elizabeth Polinsky, a skilled military marriage counselor. In today’s episode, titled “Determining Your Relationship Values,” we’re exploring a fundamental aspect of healthy partnerships. Whether you’re just embarking on your marital journey or have been nurturing your bond for years, understanding and aligning on relationship values is crucial. Elizabeth shares a candid story from a recent Thanksgiving that serves as a poignant lesson on the impact of unspoken values within a marriage. Discover how personal values lik...2021-12-3018 min
Loving Beyond The I DOHelping Our Military Families Save Their MarriagesJoin Jason and Tina Marie with their guest, Elizabeth Polinsky, as they talk about how military couples can save their marriages. Elizabeth is a counselor specializing in working with military and veteran couples. She shares how she guides these couples to figure things out in their married life. Stay tuned!Here’s a breakdown of what to expect in this episode: What relationship science is all aboutPressures in the military that add extra weight to marriageThe need to talk about marriage before getting marriedHow military families deal with a deployed loved one Tips for settling differences and...2021-11-171h 05
Linda's Corner: Inspiration for a Better LifeLinda's Corner - Relationship challenges and personal growth with Elizabeth PolinskyElizabeth Polinsky is a military marriage counselor in Norfolk, Virginia, and the host of The Communicate & Connect Podcast for Military Relationships. She is also currently working on a Ph.D. in Marriage & Family Therapy with a specialization in couple therapy. What makes marriage so challenging? We all have deep seated fears like: Am I accepted? Am I good enough? Am I going to be abandoned? Am I a failure? In marriage, we often trigger each other's worst fears without even realizing it because we deeply care what the other person thinks about us. In this episode we discuss h...2021-11-0830 min