Emily Nagoski And Amelia Nagoski

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Feminist Survival ProjectThe Magic Trick of TranscendenceTranscendence! (Or as we call it, “The magic trick.”) It’s for everybody. Unless you’re not ready. Emily and Amelia discuss.Come Together (by Emily) Chapter 12: The Magic TrickAudiobook on AudibleSigned paperbacks at Book MoonThe Neurobiology of “We” by Daniel J. SiegelEntrainment“The Mere Co-Presence: Synchronization of Autonomic Signals and Emotional Responses Across Co-Present Individuals Not Engaged in Direct Interaction” by Yulia Golland, Yossi Arzouan, and Nava Levit- Binnun vi...2025-06-111h 05

Feminist Survival ProjectThe Car Accident ExperienceEmily had a car accident. Emily is safe and not hurt, but her car has seen better days. She was able to use what she learned writing Burnout, as well as other books and therapy to help with recovery.Let's talk about neuroplastic pain and the stress response cycle.(Do you subscribe to Emily's newsletter? ⁠You can sign up here for free⁠.)Links:FSP2025: We’re Stronger Than the FireApple Podcasts • Spotify • YoutubeIn an Unspoken Voice by Peter A. Levine, Ph...2025-05-2848 min

Feminist Survival ProjectFood Again. This Time, It’s Personal?Emily and Amelia talk food: Episode 3. This time it’s about food restrictions and why you might choose not to eat certain foods. No Sith were Revenged in the making of this podcast. tl;drMake the best choices you can with the resources you have.You’re absolutely allowed to try restrictions on your food, to find out what works for you. You're also absolutely allowed not to restrict your food.Recognize that since we’re all making the best choices we can with the resources we have available, as your...2025-05-221h 11

Feminist Survival ProjectNo-Buy Low-Buy Update⁠⁠⁠Amelia is doing Youtube Lives again starting this Friday @4pm eastern!⁠⁠⁠(From now until the end of the Murderbot show.)It’s hard not to shop when the things you rely on are discontinued or out of stock. Hashtag Supply Chain. Let’s see how Amelia’s been managing.None of these are affiliate links:⁠IKEA ARTBUSKE cactus watering can⁠⁠Derma E Tea Tree Vitamin E Antiseptic Cream⁠(Discontinued, it looks like.)⁠Thunderpants⁠...2025-05-151h 02

Feminist Survival ProjectIntroduction to Food (and Body Acceptance)You need to pinky swear you listened to the previous episode before you listen to this one. We’re trusting you.Links:Season 2, Episode 2: We’re Stronger Than the FireLebanon Bologna (Sausagepedia)Episode 41: The Bikini-Industrial ComplexGood Calories, Bad Calories by Gary TaubesEvery Time Brennan Has Talked About Loving Heavy Food [Compilation] (from Gastronauts on dropout.tv, this is on Youtube)Salt Suga...2025-05-0655 min

Feminist Survival ProjectIntroduction to Body Image and Beauty StandardsWe're going to talk about food and nutrition next week. But first, we need to talk about beauty.Spoiler warning: You're beautiful.Links: Amelia is doing Youtube Lives again starting this Friday @4pm eastern!(From now until the end of Murderbot.)Bob the Drag Queen⭐️ Drink Water and Mind Your Business by Dr. Donna Oriowo ⭐️(Emily loves this book and blurbed it!)Get it from:SourcebooksAma...2025-04-301h 16

Feminist Survival ProjectUnderstanding Disability EtiquetteAmelia leads this week, reflecting on what it’s like to be disabled in public. They’ve got some really helpful rules for everyone who wants to help. tl;dr When it comes to helping, ask first. And listen to what they need.There’s a bit of Disney, too.2025-04-2258 min

Feminist Survival ProjectThe Art and Science of Disney AdultingYour Something Larger can be anything. Even Captain Phasma. And especially Chewbacca.Time for a little escapism this week. Not a Disney fan? It’s OK. It all maps out to ventral spaces, Polyvagal Theory and accessibility, too.Content warning for a tragic but not graphic story of an accident at the resort from about 53 - 56 min.Links:Latchkey kidFSP Season 2, Episode 4: Polyvagal 101Insights from Disney’s 30-Foot Trash Can Rule 2025-04-031h 26

Feminist Survival ProjectIntroduction to Food and Body Awarenesstl;dr The one rule you really need to follow when you eat food is: Listen to your body.There you go. Hope you’ll still listen to the episode.PS: Amelia is still going live on Youtube on Fridays @4pm eastern:⁠https://www.youtube.com/@feministsurvivalproject⁠Links:FutureCanoe (Youtube)BlackForager (Youtube)Internet Shaquille (Youtube)What Cooking is Like for So...2025-03-2047 min

Feminist Survival ProjectGoals 101: Why Amelia Failed No Buy Low BuyLet’s talk about what makes a good goal. Amelia kind of biffed on No Buy Low Buy, but in the service of owning enough clothing to leave the house without looking like a hobo. Maybe it’s OK to not be a minimalist in all things? Definitely stick around to the VERY end.PS: Amelia is still going live on Youtube on Fridays @4pm eastern:https://www.youtube.com/@feministsurvivalprojectDana K White - A Slob Comes Clean...2025-03-1246 min

Feminist Survival ProjectThe Problem With HopeIf hope is your reason to do nothing, that’s delusion. But what is hope? Do you need it? The second half of the episode gets a little dark, but hopefully it’ll be helpful to hear. Help is available right away. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 988 or 1-800-273-8255, 1-800-273-TALK - websiteTrans Lifeline: 1-877-565-8860 - websiteLinks:FSP 2025: We're Stronger Than the FireIs...2025-03-061h 28

Feminist Survival ProjectDecluttering Momentum and the Doom BoxDo you have a box of stuff you've carried between moves and never dealt with? Yeah, I totally don't have 100 of those. This week, Amelia declutters a Dreaded Doom Box. And then Emily and Amelia go a little deeper on decluttering.Today! Amelia is going live on Youtube on Fridays starting, February 21 @ 4pm eastern. Follow here: https://www.youtube.com/@feministsurvivalproject****Links:Dana K White - A Slob Comes Clean 2025-02-281h 11

Feminist Survival ProjectNo Buy Low BuyEmily and Amelia are both doing some variation on low-buy/no-buy this year. There are many good reasons to do so, and many good ways to make it work for you. All that and bonus toaster oven and kitchen counter commiseration! Amelia is going live on Youtube starting next Friday, February 21 @ 4pm eastern. Follow here.Links:Project for AwesomeWax Oil Wick 2025-02-141h 00

Feminist Survival ProjectElon Musk Does Not Have Asperger's and Neither Do WeAmelia takes the lead this week with a history of Autism and how it’s intertwined with Fascism. It gets dark, but not explicit. Links: Asperger's Children: The Origins of Autism in Nazi Vienna FSP 2020 Episode 03: Human Giver Syndrome This American Life: 81 words Hannah Gadsby: Douglas Emily’s NYT profile 2025-02-0551 min

Feminist Survival ProjectIntroduction to Decluttering and Cozy SpacesYou probably have too much stuff. Most of us have too much stuff. And that’s not even taking into account the emotions we feel about having too much stuff. Luckily, Emily has done the research. Let’s make your space more ventral. Links: Saturn Ion (Wikipedia) FSP 2025 Season 2, Episode 4: Polyvagal 101 Freshwave (the stuff in the buckets) Dana K. White Cas Aarssen (Youtube) Kay Patt...2025-01-301h 18

Feminist Survival ProjectMask OffEveryone masks to make it easier to live in the world. Emily and Amelia discuss theirs, and have some insights about times when things were particularly difficult. Content warning, there are some dark thoughts and mentions of suicidal ideation in the form of a Zombie Leprechaun around the 50 minute mark. No one was harmed. Please take care. Editor’s note: There is some extremely cathartic laughter at the end. Amelia’s video from the beginning of this episode 2025-01-091h 22

Feminist Survival ProjectEnough thoYou are enough. Because all you can be is 100% of who you are. But you’re also filled with tiny organisms that fart. Links: Burnout (our book) Starling murmuration 2020 (youtube video) High Conflict by Amanda Ripley My Grandmother’s Hands by Resmaa Menakem Coca-Cola's 'Hilltop' Ad ("I'd Like to Teach the World to Sing") (youtube) Brandon Sanderson's "The Stormlight Archive" series (Amelia's excerpt is from book 5.) The Bubble of Love (FSP2020 episode 11)2024-12-2347 min

Feminist Survival ProjectPolyvagal 101Dorsal. Sympathetic. Ventral. It’s all about your nervous system’s sense of safety. Links: Vagus Nerve Exteroception Interoception Our Polyvagal World: How Safety and Trauma Change Us by Stephen W. Porges and Seth Porges Deb Dana's website - includes definitions of Polyvagal Theory terms Glimmers Borders Books and Music (RIP) FSP2020 episode 58: How to Listen to Your Body, Part One (of four) website : podcast feed FSP2020 episode 49: How...2024-12-131h 07

Feminist Survival ProjectGender: It BeginsTurns out you can be identical twins and experience gender really differently from one another. Emily and Amelia discuss. Content warning: There’s some talk about fascism and Mussolini’s sex life. Links: Come Together - The Gender Mirage (chapter 10) Kakistocracy Sari van Anders Anne Fausto-Sterling ALOK Will and Harper (Netflix show)2024-12-061h 07

Feminist Survival ProjectWe're Stronger Than the FireLet it burn. Links: Paradise Square (musical) Joaquina Kalukango – "Let It Burn" (75th Tony Awards Performance) on Youtube (This is the performance we talk about in the episode.) New York City draft riots The "This is Fine" dog by KC Green, who is a real person who actually created the cartoon. KC sells official "This is Fine" dog stuff on Topatoco Coleman Barks Rumi translations 2024-11-2753 min

Feminist Survival ProjectFSP: Zombie Apocalypse EditionEmily and Amelia are back. Maybe this will help you like it helps them. Links: Finding steady ground Nothing Much Happens podcast: Softly Softly Sleep Sound with Richard Armitage (Audible) Words to Win By podcast The New Jim Crow (book) A Force More Powerful Bringing Down a Dictator In 2017, “Joy Policing” Can Go Fuck Itself by Emily BURNOUT: Do You Feel Half Alive? We Can Do Hard Things - Apple Podcasts 2024-11-2050 min

Feminist Survival ProjectAn Alternative to Hope (From Emily)An Alternative to Hope: Or, The Secret Medicine for When the Thing With Feathers Stop Singing I was inspired to make this video obviously because of John Green’s June 25th video, where he talks about taking a break from making videos because: depression, and he concludes with his familiar assurance that despair is a lie, hopelessness is a lie, that life is meaningful, and your life matters. He says he’s going to spend the month of July reminding himself that Emily Dickinson was right, “that hope is the thing with feathers that perches in the soul a...2024-11-1315 min

Piloting72. Book Club: “Burnout” by Emily Nagoski and Amelia NagoskiThe New York Times bestseller, “Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle,” is for women (or anyone) who has felt overwhelmed and exhausted by everything they have to do, yet still worried they weren’t doing enough. The book explains why women experience burnout differently than men—and provides a roadmap to minimizing stress, managing emotions, and living more joyfully.For this book club episode, we dive into our own experiences with burnout and research from the book, including:- the definition of burnout - dealing with stress vs. dealing with stressors...2024-09-1158 min

Reverse, Reset, RestoreFoundation Friday: Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily Nagoski and Amelia NagoskiSend us a textImagine a life where stress no longer dictates your every move and burnout is a distant memory. That’s what we aim to uncover in today's episode, drawing wisdom from the influential book "Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle" by Emily and Amelia Nagoski. I’ll be sharing my own journey through the emotional, physical, and mental labyrinth of burnout, shedding light on how recognizing and managing it can transform your well-being. Together, we’ll dissect the very essence of burnout, its components, and its staggering impact on our lives, all while...2024-05-3142 min

Book Summaries 2024Burnout The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle Emily Nagoski and Amelia NagoskiWomen have it rough. Our patriarchal society has a million expectations for how they should act, look, feel, and speak in any situation. And failure to meet these expectations equates to feeling like they aren’t "enough"—humble enough, generous enough, pretty enough, strong enough, and so on. The result? Physical, mental, and emotional burnout.In Burnout, Amelia and Emily Nagoski explain how women can handle these stressors to avoid burnout and thrive. This guide will expose the patriarchal standards that cause female stress, explore how the body responds to this stress, and explain how you can hand...2024-04-3000 min

Psychologists Off the ClockHow to Create Lasting Sexual Connections with Emily NagoskiIt's time to have a no-BS discussion about something that all of us have struggled with at some point in our long-term relationships: maintaining a sexual connection. If this speaks to you and you feel like you’re stuck with poor advice on how to navigate the situation, meet our guest, Emily Nagoski, a sex educator and author of Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections. With scientific evidence, wit, and compassion, Emily joins Jill on POTC to debunk the myths we've been fed about sex, show us what real great sex can look like, of...2024-01-311h 12

Feminist Survival ProjectThe Come As You Are podcastThe Come As You Are podcast was a 8-episode miniseries. It's over now, but maybe you haven't heard it yet? Subscribe here: Apple Podcasts Spotify Amazon And everywhere else you get podcasts!2022-11-1624 min

Making Good: Small Business Podcast118: Burnout by Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski (Making Good Book Club #6)Join me and my book club co-host, Charelle Griffith, for the 6th edition of Making Good Book Club! Today we’re diving into a conversation about the book ‘Burnout’ by Amelia Nagoski, D.M.A. and Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. We discuss the key takeaways from the book, including the importance of completing the stress cycle, what wellness really is, human giver syndrome, how the patriarchy affects burnout, body image, and much more.____________________MAKING GOOD SHOWNOTES:https://makinggoodpodcast.com/118JOIN THE FB COMMUNITY:https://www.facebook.com/groups...2022-05-1748 min

TED HealthThe cure for burnout (hint: it isn't self-care) | Emily Nagoski and Amelia NagoskiYou may be experiencing burnout and not even know it, say authors (and sisters) Emily and Amelia Nagoski. In an introspective and deeply relatable conversation, they detail three telltale signs that stress is getting the best of you -- and share actionable ways to feel safe in your own body when you're burning out. This conversation, hosted by TED curator Cloe Shasha Brooks, is part of TED's "How to Deal with Difficult Feelings" series. Join our host, Dr. Shoshana Ungerleider, at the end of the episode for a deeper dive into how burnout affects health care workers – and some ti...2022-05-1024 min

TED HealthThe cure for burnout (hint: it isn't self-care) | Emily Nagoski and Amelia NagoskiWith the end of the year fast approaching, you may be experiencing burnout and not even know it. That’s why we’re bringing back this introspective and deeply relatable conversation, where authors (and sisters) Emily and Amelia Nagoski detail three telltale signs that stress is getting the best of you -- and share actionable ways to feel safe in your own body when you're burning out. (This conversation, hosted by TED curator Cloe Shasha Brooks, is part of TED's "How to Deal with Difficult Feelings" series.)Want to help shape TED’s shows going forward? Fill out ou...2021-12-2817 min

Feminist Survival Project63: How to Listen to Your Body (Addendum)Is Emily Amelia's Loki Variant or is Amelia *Emily's* Loki Variant?? Sometimes your body lies to you, so it’s very on theme that it turns out we lied about this series ending last week. Mild spoilers for Loki, if you are planning to watch it. ********** LINKS: Loki Neuroplastic pain Polyvagal Theory The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma Amelia’s Youtube channel Come As You Are (signed by E...2021-07-2646 min

TED HealthThe cure for burnout (hint: it isn't self-care) | Emily Nagoski and Amelia NagoskiYou may be experiencing burnout and not even know it, say authors (and sisters) Emily and Amelia Nagoski. In an introspective and deeply relatable conversation, they detail three telltale signs that stress is getting the best of you -- and share actionable ways to feel safe in your own body when you're burning out. (This conversation, hosted by TED curator Cloe Shasha Brooks, is part of TED's "How to Deal with Difficult Feelings" series.)Want to help shape TED’s shows going forward? Fill out our survey!Become a TED Member today at https://te...2021-07-1317 min

Feminist Survival Project62: How to Listen to Your Body: Part FiveThe epic conclusion! It’s about using your imagination to listen to your body. Emily and Amelia bring it all home. ********** LINKS: Episode 58: How to Listen to Your Body, Part One (guest starring Allegra) Emily and Amelia on Brené Brown’s “Unlocking Us” Rumi’s “A Story is Like Water” Come As You Are (signed by Emily) What I Talk About When I Talk About Running Self-Therapy No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems...2021-07-1253 min

Feminist Survival Project61: How to Listen to Your Body: Part FourEmily and Amelia start by talking about your body’s sense of proprioception, but wind up taking a journey into imagination. ************ LINKS: Proprioception YOKE: MY YOGA OF SELF ACCEPTANCE (book) Underbelly Yoga Singing Redefined by Walter C. Foster FSP episode 36: Embrace Tiger Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle: Penguin Random House Amazon Feel free to drop us a line! See you soon. feministsurvivalproject2020@gmail.com 2021-06-2850 min

Feminist Survival Project60: How to Listen to Your Body, Part ThreeYou’re aware of how the external world affects your internal experience. What’s next? Nonjudgment is a big part of it. Emily and Amelia discuss interoception. ************ LINKS: Interoception Underbelly Yoga Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle: Penguin Random House Amazon Feel free to drop us a line! See you soon. feministsurvivalproject2020@gmail.com 2021-06-2143 min

Feminist Survival Project59: How to Listen to Your Body, Part TwoIt took Amelia years to realize feelings were real and to listen to her own body. This week, she and Emily explain the way to get started to Amelia’s 17-year-old self.) ********** LINKS: “Until you spread your wings, you'll have no idea how far you can walk.” Observational Distance Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle: Penguin Random House Amazon Feel free to drop us a line! See you soon. feministsurvivalproject2020@gmail.com 2021-06-1456 min

Feminist Survival Project58: How to Listen to Your Body, Part OnePart one in a series where Amelia discusses how she’s learned to listen to her body. Spoiler warning: She used to be terrible at it. Allegra Martin joins the show this week. (Emily is back next week.) ********** LINKS: Episode 29: Allegra Alexithymia Alexithymia questionnaire Jonathan Haidt: The Elephant and the Rider Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle: Penguin Random House Amazon Feel free to drop us a line! See you soon. feministsurvivalproject2020@gmail.com 2021-06-0738 min

TED: Ideas worth spreadingThe cure for burnout (hint: it isn't self-care) | Emily Nagoski and Amelia NagoskiYou may be experiencing burnout and not even know it, say authors (and sisters) Emily and Amelia Nagoski. In an introspective and deeply relatable conversation, they detail three telltale signs that stress is getting the best of you -- and share actionable ways to feel safe in your own body when you're burning out. (This conversation, hosted by TED curator Cloe Shasha Brooks, is part of TED's "How to Deal with Difficult Feelings" series.)2021-05-2119 min

Feminist Survival ProjectBonus: Audio Preface to the new edition (3 of 3)Why did Emily write a new edition of Come As You Are? We're glad you asked! After five years of talking to readers, Emily has updated Come As You Are with new science, new language, and new perspectives. In this three part series, she explains some of what's in the new edition. ******** Order a signed copy from our local bookseller, Book Moon Books. Or preorder on Amazon. Join the Emily’s Adnexa email list here. If you have a question that she can answer in th...2021-02-2226 min

Feminist Survival ProjectBonus: Audio Preface to the new edition (2 of 3)Why did Emily write a new edition of Come As You Are? We're glad you asked! After five years of talking to readers, Emily has updated Come As You Are with new science, new language, and new perspectives. In this three part series, she explains some of what's in the new edition. ******** Order a signed copy from our local bookseller, Book Moon Books. Or preorder on Amazon. Join the Emily’s Adnexa email list here. If you have a question that she can answer in th...2021-02-1922 min

Feminist Survival ProjectBonus: Audio Preface to the new edition (1 of 3)Why did Emily write a new edition of Come As You Are? We're glad you asked! After five years of talking to readers, Emily has updated Come As You Are with new science, new language, and new perspectives. In this three part series, she explains some of what's in the new edition. ******** Order a signed copy from our local bookseller, Book Moon Books. Or preorder on Amazon. Join the Emily’s Adnexa email list here. If you have a question that she ca...2021-02-1725 min

Feminist Survival Project57: 2020 [BETA]Let’s make some New Year’s Resolutions. Or not! Do whatever you need to get through this mess. Amelia is still dealing with long Covid and Emily gets really excited about Bridgerton. ********* LINKS: Episode 46: What Even Is Hope Episode 41: The Bikini-Industrial Complex Episode 29: Allegra Your New Year’s Resolution in 2021 Should Be To Stay Alive | A Serious Message From a Comedy Writer Shantira Jackson on Instagram Kate Bornstein get out of hell card Episode 51: Calling In Amelia’s Covid Burnou...2021-01-1851 min

Feminist Survival Project56: Amelia’s Something Larger is a TurkeyIt’s a special holiday episode where we ask you not to attend holiday gatherings. It’s about turkey, but it’s not really about turkey. Bonus: Amelia’s secret stuffing recipe. ***** SPONSOR: This episode is brought to you by If the Boot Fits, A Smart & Sexy Cinderella Story by Rebekah Weatherspoon LINKS: Fomite NY Times: For Home Cooks, Burnout Is a Reality This Holiday Season Episode 05: What's Your Something Larger? Hygge Vestibular Migraine Episod...2020-11-1741 min

Feminist Survival Project52: TrustHow do you know when to trust other people? How do you know when to share your cupcakes to make the world better for everyone? Emily and Amelia discuss and end with a song. ******* Books by Dr. Sue Johnson Entitled: How Male Privilege Hurts Women Gas Light by Patrick Hamilton Episode 08: The Monitor Come as You Are chapter 4 covers attachment theory Brandon Sanderson’s “Reckoners” series 2020-10-1249 min

Feminist Survival Project51: Calling In Amelia’s CovidUpdate on Amelia’s long Covid situation and Emily’s new dad, Mandy Patinkin. ******* “I’m a Black Feminist. I Think Call-Out Culture Is Toxic.” by Loretta Ross lorettaross.com Schadenfreude Mandy Patinkin’s twitter Mandy Patinkin’s love song 2020-10-0539 min

Feminist Survival Project50: Number FiftyFifty episodes! Let’s review the toolkit we’ve built during this year of podcasts. Emily and Amelia discuss. ************* Brené Brown: The power of vulnerability (TED talk) Episode 31: Social Support Episode 01: Separate the Stress From the Stressor Episode 08: The Monitor Episode 28: Foop Episode 32: The Owl and the Cheese Episode 41: The Bikini-Industrial Complex Episode 11: The Bubble of Love Episode 05: What's Your Something Larger? Episode 34: The Madwoman Episode 35: Too Much Connection ...2020-09-2835 min

Feminist Survival Project49: How to DreamsAre your dreams purely biochemical processes or are they Jungian-scented mind candles your subconscious teaches you lessons with? Emily and Amelia discuss. ************* Jonathan Haidt: "The Elephant and the Rider" The Happiness Hypothesis Encyclopedia Of Occult Sciences (archive.org) Episode 34: The Madwoman Episode 21: Your Body Will Tell You Multiple trace theory 2020-09-2146 min

Feminist Survival Project48: You’re Allowed to Like the ThingDo the views of authors and actors affect your ability to enjoy things? Can you consume problematic media in good conscience? Amelia and Emily discuss. J. K. Rowling is not invited. ************* WTAF, RWA: Courtney Milan Banned, Suspended From RWA I Asked My Friend WHY She Had a Plantation Wedding Episode 29: Allegra Zaris-Angel performs 'Naughty' at West End Live 2016 Splash Mountain to Be Rethemed to The Princess and the Frog Auliʻi Cravalho Hattie McDaniel The W...2020-09-1457 min

Feminist Survival Project47: Pause For PleasureCan focusing on pleasure help your brain counteract depression? Is it worth taking a moment to enjoy every donut even if it doesn’t? Emily and Amelia discuss. ********* SPONSOR: This episode is brought to you by “The Siren and the Deep Blue Sea,” the latest book in the Embraced by Magic Series by Kerrelyn Sparks. https://www.kensingtonbooks.com/9781496730060/the-siren-and-the-deep-blue-sea/ ********* Entenmann’s donuts: https://www.entenmanns.com/en/products/8-crumb-donuts?category=8 ...2020-09-0739 min

Feminist Survival Project46: What Even Is HopeWhat is the nature of hope? Amelia’s off this week, so Emily discusses with her mysterious Marital Euphemism. ****** How We Hope: A Moral Psychology by Adrienne Martin: https://www.amazon.com/How-We-Hope-Moral-Psychology/dp/0691171394 Irascible Appetites: https://aquinasonline.com/sense-appetites-passions/ Episode 08: The Monitor: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-08-the-monitor Oregon Trail Generation: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Xennials Marital Euphemism: https://tw...2020-08-3144 min

Feminist Survival Project45: Emily’s EpiphanyEmily’s worried about the future of democracy, but the good news is It turns out the nature of the problem doesn’t necessarily dictate the nature of the solution. (This one’s a little dark.) ******* Sonya Renee Taylor: https://www.instagram.com/tv/CD4C_56AbP7/?igshid=jrczl9b8x7ay https://www.instagram.com/tv/CECUAjsADLF/?igshid=1ecl04ohd5a1h Surviving Autocracy by Masha Gessen: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/50695164-surviving-autocracy How to Be an Antiracist by Ibram X. Kendi: http...2020-08-2443 min

Feminist Survival Project44: How to Shadow WorkWhy do certain things really make you angry? Could it be that they remind you of things you dislike in yourself? Emily and Amelia discuss. Spoilers for Rise of Skywalker, The Mandalorian, Hamilton, Moana and The Accursed Year 2020. *** SPONSOR: This episode is brought to you by “The Rebellious Rancher,” the latest book in the The Millers of Morgan Valley Series by Kate Pearce https://www.kensingtonbooks.com/9781420148251/the-rebellious-rancher/ Jungian archetypes: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jungian_archetypes Audre Lorde: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki...2020-08-1742 min

Feminist Survival Project43: How to BystanderSo you’ve noticed something Not Okay is happening. What do you do next? Emily and Amelia discuss. ******** Green Dot Bystander Intervention: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Green_Dot_Bystander_Intervention Rage Fridge (From Thanksgiving episode): https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-07-thanksgiving Episode 41: The Bikini-Industrial Complex: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-41-bikini-industrial-complex Episode 18: The New Hotness: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-18-new-hotness Erika Moen: https://www.ohjoysextoy.com 2020-08-1048 min

Feminist Survival Project42: Stages of ChangeAmelia’s COVID Chronicles, Chapter One Million. Emily helps her turn towards her fatigue with m********ing kindness and m********ing compassion. ******** Transtheoretical model: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transtheoretical_model That Calvin Coolidge quote which neither of us endorse: https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/2749-nothing-in-this-world-can-take-the-place-of-persistence Episode 31: Social Support: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-31-social-support Self-Therapy: https://selftherapyjourney.com Emily’s romance novels: https://www.amazon.com/How-Fall-Belhaven-Emily-Foster/dp/1496704185/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=2020-08-0351 min

Feminist Survival Project41: The Bikini-Industrial ComplexThe Bikini-Industrial Complex We have been lied to all our lives about the relationship between health and weight. It’s both liberating and infuriating. Emily and Amelia discuss. ******** Emily’s blog post on BMI and weight stigma: https://www.thedirtynormal.com/post/2016/08/07/bmi-mortality-weight-stigma-science-sigh/ Health at Every Size: https://haescommunity.com Episode 11: The Bubble of Love: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-11-bubble-of-love Episode 40: Food: It's Complicated: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-40-food-its-complicated Episode 36: Embr...2020-07-271h 08

Feminist Survival Project40: Food: It's ComplicatedDo you live to eat or eat to live? If you answered, "it's complicated," you are correct. Emily and Amelia discuss. ******** SPONSOR: This episode is brought to you by “The Mermaid, the Witch, and the Sea,” Maggie Tokuda-Hall’s sweeping fantasy debut from Candlewick press: https://www.candlewick.com/cat.asp?mode=book&isbn=1536204315&browse=Title Episode 18: The New Hotness https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-18-new-hotness 2020-07-2045 min

Feminist Survival Project39: Covid Follow UpSpoiler alert: COVID is serious. Amelia is past the worst and quarantined like a boss, but it really took a toll. Contains some coughing and mild coffee snobbery. ******** Amelia’s covid prep list: https://medium.com/@amelianp/covid-prep-list-7bbc6a8ee3d2 Hario V60 pour over coffee: https://www.baristainstitute.com/brewguides-2/hario-v60 Episode 08: The Monitor: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-08-the-monitor 2020-07-1334 min

Feminist Survival Project38: Amelia has the COVIDAs careful as she was, Amelia caught the virus. (She's OK.) Let's learn from her experience and get a Corona Plan together in case you need to quarantine. Bonus: Emily and Amelia discuss toilet paper. SPONSOR: This episode is brought to you by Crushing It, a new romantic comedy by Lorelei Parker from Kensington Books. https://www.kensingtonbooks.com/pages/landing-page/crushingit/ Amelia’s covid prep list: https://medium.com/@amelianp/covid-prep-list-7bbc6a8ee3d2 2020-07-0657 min

Feminist Survival Project37: Ode to Ode to JoyOde to Ode to Joy Classical music should be for everyone because we all deserve access to joy. You may have more in common with these dead composers than you thought. Emily and Amelia discuss. ******** Was Beethoven Black? Probably Not, but These Unsung Composers Were: https://www.smithsonianmag.com/smart-news/was-beethoven-black-and-why-might-be-wrong-question-ask-180975159/ Joy playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/0RmAELBeFBBItZnfTV4yX7?si=EsR-Yi_GRbyjw4IUk6lhvw Schubert: Symphony No.9 "The Great" / Bernstein Bayerischen Rundfunks: https://youtu.be/hCuC8--m-98?t=2453 Mahler: Symphony...2020-06-2941 min

Feminist Survival Project36: Embrace TigerThis week, Amelia discusses tai chi and nonjudgment in the hope that it can help Emily. (and you) Spoiler warning: The moral of the story is Universe Juice. ******** Embrace Tiger, Return to Mountain: The Essence of Tai Ji https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/252447.Embrace_Tiger_Return_to_Mountain Everything Is Everything (Lauryn Hill song) https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Everything_Is_Everything_(Lauryn_Hill_song) Kung Fu Panda https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kung_Fu_Panda_(franchise) Chickpea To Cook, By Rumi:2020-06-2240 min

Feminist Survival Project35: Too Much ConnectionConnection is a drive, like hunger and sleep. But what do you do when you’ve had too much connection? Emily and Amelia discuss. ******** Born in Quarantine (Facebook ad) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8OW4AFbzjGk Social Distance podcast: https://www.theatlantic.com/podcasts/socialdistance/ Episode 31: Social Support: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-31-social-support The Noonday Demon: http://andrewsolomon.com/books/the-noonday-demon/ Raising Your Spirited Child, Third Edition: https://www.amazon.com/Raising-Your-Spirited-Child-Third/dp/0062403060 2020-06-1539 min

Feminist Survival Project34: The MadwomanEmily and Amelia discuss the concept of The Madwoman, and how you can turn toward yours with kindness and compassion. Spoiler warning for those who don't yet know the stories of Jane Eyre or Moana. ******** SPONSOR: This episode is brought to you by Never Conspire With a Sinful Baron, the latest book in Renee Ann Miller’s Infamous Lords Series. https://www.kensingtonbooks.com/9781420150032/never-conspire-with-a-sinful-baron/ Jane Eyre https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jane_Eyre Bertha Mason (The Madwoman in the Attic) https://en.wi...2020-06-081h 05

Feminist Survival Project33: Because: UnbreakableDid you watch the interactive Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt? How does making good choices for Kimmy apply to real life? Emily and Amelia discuss. (Tons of spoilers for Kimmy Vs. The Reverend) ******** Kimmy Vs. The Reverend: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt10324166/ EMDR Therapy: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eye_movement_desensitization_and_reprocessing Emily’s romance novels: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/27208942-how-not-to-fall https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/25985351-how-not-to-let-go Episode 03: Human Giver Syndrome: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/ep...2020-06-0126 min

Feminist Survival Project32: The Owl and the CheeseWhat do owls and cheese have to do with surviving the hellscape of 2020? How can we work to run toward the things that make it worth surviving. Emily and Amelia discuss. ****** Episode 5: What's Your Something Larger? https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-05-something-larger Pacific Overtures "Someone in a Tree" - Ann Harada, Austin Ku, Kelvin Moon Loh & Thom Sesma: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-PNX9PPCEls&feature=emb_title Love Illuminated (part 1): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F8I4zFUxU9g&list=PLY864...2020-05-2538 min

Feminist Survival Project31: Social SupportIt turns out feelings are real and (spoiler warning) emotional support is really important! Emily and Amelia discuss. There's science to support it. Emily and Amelia discuss. This episode is brought to you by Kensington’s newest title from Lindsay McKenna, Wind River Undercover. https://www.kensingtonbooks.com/book.aspx/39281 ****** Gourmet Makes: https://www.bonappetit.com/video/series/gourmet-makes Shrinkchicks (Season 1, Episode 20) https://open.spotify.com/episode/61wmkKTydqaWbZ4pgorSKX Polyvagal Theory by St...2020-05-1839 min

Feminist Survival Project30: Voting While Feminist“Democracy is the worst form of government, except for all the others” is attributed to Winston Churchill, who wasn't too great himself. And this year it might feel like the Democratic presidential candidate is the worst one on the ballot except for the other one. What’s a feminist to do?Emily, Amelia, and Amelia's colleague Mark discuss. (Content warning: this episode includes discussion of sexual violence ) ****** what to do when someone tells you they were sexually assaulted: https://medium.com/@enagoski/what-to-do-when-someone-tells-you-they-were-sexually-assaulted-794d41e58c05 2020-05-111h 17

Feminist Survival Project29: AllegraAmelia’s friend and fellow musician Allegra joins us this week and shares her perspective on social distancing and burnout. ****** Wozzeck Trailer (The Royal Opera): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YzU31UrXceo Predictably Irrational: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Predictably_Irrational The Ballad of the Brown King: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Ballad_of_the_Brown_King The Concert Choir of Georgetown University - Millennium Stage: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aPDZ2iwSMXA Vegetarian JapChae recipe:...2020-05-041h 00

Feminist Survival Project28: FoopYou know that crazy feeling of oscillating between frustrated rage and helpless despair? That’s Foop. Emily and Amelia discuss. ********** The Monitor: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-08-the-monitor 2020-04-2741 min

Feminist Survival Project27: How to UnfamiliarityWe're all in uncharted territory these days. Amelia has a music metaphor to help cope with these times of social distancing. Emily helps break it down. Special appearance by Beethoven. (not the dog)2020-04-201h 01

Feminist Survival Project26: Masks and How to Wear ThemWe're all wearing masks now. But why are we wearing them and how can we do so most effectively. Emily and Amelia get into it, cowboy outlaw-style.2020-04-1332 min

Feminist Survival Project25: Even More Social DistancingEmily (from her bed) and Amelia (from her kitchen) discuss the importance of social distancing, as well as why it's so hard. And Amelia tops it off with a classic 90s Bette Midler jam. ****** Episode 20: How to Numbing https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-20-numbing SOCIAL DISTANCE - A Randy Rainbow Song Parody https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WimbyL_25Nw Colin Firth Swimming https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hasKmDr1yrA 2020-04-0647 min

Feminist Survival Project24: The Sex EpisodeEmily and Amelia’s first ever guest! They talk with the amazing Peggy Kleinplatz, one of the authors of the new book, Magnificent Sex. ****** Magnificent Sex Lessons from Extraordinary Lovers, 1st Edition By Peggy J. Kleinplatz and A. Dana Ménard https://www.routledge.com/Magnificent-Sex-Lessons-from-Extraordinary-Lovers-1st-Edition/Kleinplatz-Menard/p/book/9780367181376 2020-03-3052 min

Body Kindness[Repost] How to recover from BURNOUT with Emily Nagoski and Amelia NagoskiThese times are truly unprecedented. For the past month I have been allowing myself to be human, showing up for my family, my clients (many hospital workers, displaced students, and parents turned home schoolers, many with disordered eating and anxiety exacerbated by the social distancing required). I have been asking Body Kindness book readers and podcast listeners about ways (if anything) I can uniquely contribute to our collective well-being during this pandemic. Mostly, everyone needed permission for things to change, and time to adjust. We are still in this phase of the journey. It’s ok to be here. (We nee...2020-03-2432 min

Feminist Survival Project23: Social Distance DuetEmily and Amelia discuss social distancing while social distancing. Plus: Bonus word games and ukulele music. ****** Mickey Mouse - Ku'u Lei Melody | Song https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h8FasCHHsPk 2020-03-2356 min

Feminist Survival Project22: Time AffluenceTime is the only completely limited resource. What matters more to you, time or stuff? Are you willing to compromise to fit the expectations of others? Emily and Amelia discuss.2020-03-1644 min

Feminist Survival Project21: Your Body Will Tell YouHow do you listen to your body? It’s easy for some people and a completely alien concept for others. Emily and Amelia discuss. ****** The Communication of Emotion by Ross Buck https://www.amazon.com/Communication-Emotion-Ross-Buck/dp/0898621100 Interoception https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Interoception Proprioception https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Proprioception Singing Redefined by Walter C. Foster https://www.classicalvocalrep.com/products/Singing-Redefined-by-Walter-C-Foster-369633.html Peggy Kleinplatz https://www.aasect.org/member-spotlight-peggy-kleinplatz 2020-03-0949 min

Feminist Survival ProjectMini-Episode: How to CoronavirusWorried about the Coronavirus? Luckily, Emily has a background in public health and can explain it. This is an episode for people who aren’t at high risk, to talk about why and how they can help make the world safer for people who are at risk. Spoiler warning: Wash your hands. PS: Edited to add when Emily listened to this mini-episode, she realized they didn’t make it crystal clear that it’s not just age but also health issues that make people vulnerable. People of any age can have respiratory issues, diabet...2020-03-0314 min

Feminist Survival Project20: How to NumbingNumbing. Emotional ibuprofen. Maladaptive coping strategies. They’re short-term solutions, but sometimes reducing the pain is the only way you can rest enough to heal. FSP2020 joins the Frolic network: https://frolic.media Gourmet Makes with Claire Saffitz: https://www.bonappetit.com/video/series/gourmet-makes Explain Pain Super Charged: https://www.amazon.com/Explain-Charged-Butler-Lorimer-Moseley/dp/0648022706 2020-03-0235 min

Feminist Survival Project19: How to EntertainmentWhat's the difference between art and entertainment? How can you engage with both in a healthy way? PS: Emily really, really loves Schitt's Creek. ****** How Horror Helps With Processing Grief and Trauma: Laura Kinsale 2020-02-2436 min

Feminist Survival Project18: The New HotnessThe Bikini-Industrial Complex. What is it and how can you escape it? Also- The secret identity of The New Hotness (Spoiler warning: It's you.)******Health at Every Size 2020-02-1743 min

Feminist Survival Project17: How to GratitudeGratitude is important. But just because we’ve come a long way, it doesn’t mean we’re close to where we need to be. Emily and Amelia discuss. FSP2020 episode 5: What's your something larger? Nichole’s Gratitude on Medium. Amelia is a huge Brandon Sanderson fan.2020-02-1037 min

Feminist Survival Project16: How to Be a White Lady Who TriesWe're white ladies. We know we're not going to say anything that people of color don't already know. We're going to make mistakes. But we're going to try our best. Show notes: Me and White Supremacy workbook by Layla Saad The Nap Bishop Leesa Renee Hall Tressie McMillan Cottom's THICK Brittany Cooper’s Eloquent Rage A History of White People 2020-02-0334 min

Feminist Survival Project15: How to PrimariesIt's the inevitable politics episode. Amelia is an idealist. Emily's a pragmatist. But guess what? They both want to do the right thing.2020-01-2732 min

Feminist Survival Project14: How to ArtAmelia takes the lead on this one. How does creative self-expression help you complete the stress response cycle? (Hint: It has to do with recognizing that emotions are real.)2020-01-2044 min

Feminist Survival Project13: Is it Burnout... Or is it trauma?Burnout and trauma are not the same thing. Emily and Amelia discuss the difference and some ways to help. (Apologies for the audio quality on this one. We had some microphone difficulties.)2020-01-1335 min

Feminist Survival Project12: How to SleepingHow much sleep do you need? What's the "right" way to sleep? Emily and Amelia talk about sleep debt, sleep personalities, and a just a touch of Jane Eyre.2020-01-0641 min

Feminist Survival Project11: The Bubble of LoveWhat makes a relationship safe and renewing? Emily and Amelia explain using Cupcake Economics.2019-12-3033 min

Feminist Survival Project10: Rest IS the RevolutionRest is important. You're probably not getting enough. Let's talk about it with Emily, Amelia, and a special secret guest cameo appearance from Rachel Maddow. We're huge fans of The Nap Ministry, who you should follow on Instagram.2019-12-1629 min

Feminist Survival Project09: How to RageRage. It's a maligned and misunderstood emotion. What's your relationship with your rage? What's your rage's relationship with... poop?2019-12-0945 min

Feminist Survival Project08: The MonitorFrustration. Everybody feels it. Emily and Amelia discuss the science of how frustration works, and strategies for managing it. Worksheets from their book Burnout are here: https://www.burnoutbook.net/downloads 2019-12-0238 min

Feminist Survival Project07: Your Racist Uncle, Your Apathetic Aunt, and Your Misogynist Cousin: How ToIt's almost Thanksgiving here in these United States. Emily and Amelia discuss their strategies for dealing with people you disagree with during the holidays. In the words of Luke Skywalker, "This is not going to go the way you think."2019-11-2533 min

Feminist Survival Project06: How to NewsImpeachment has begun. What's your relationship with the news right now? Emily and Amelia discuss their strategies. Spoiler alert: It's OK to dial it back and take care of yourself.2019-11-1822 min

Feminist Survival Project05: What's Your Something Larger?There's a lot of research that says meaning and purpose is good for your mental health. But how do we define that? Emily, Amelia, and Moana are here to figure that out.2019-11-1130 min

Feminist Survival Project04: The AbyssToday... we’re gonna look squarely into the abyss. We’ve all got one. Let’s talk about it.2019-11-0330 min

Feminist Survival Project03: Human Giver SyndromeIn this episode, the question is: What’s the biggest cultural barrier between feminists and their ability to complete the stress response cycles?2019-11-0330 min

Feminist Survival Project02: Complete the Stress Response CycleSo if solving actual stressors isn’t enough to deal with the stress in your body, what does deal with it? How do we complete the stress response cycle? This episode is a catalog of a dozen concrete, specific, evidence-based strategies for doing just that.2019-11-0340 min