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Who Spectates the Spectators?WSTS Episode 8: Eric Perry-CUC Gears Up for 2026 Egypt TripIn this episode, City Life Editor Katelyn Whitlock returns to the guest hosting chair as she talks to Eric about his new article, "CUC Gears Up for 2026 Egypt Trip." His article focuses on the upcoming Egypt trip, including why the school chose Egypt, the planning that went into the trip, and what students will see and do on the Egypt trip. You can find Eric's article attached below!CUC Gears Up for 2026 Egypt Trip – The Spectator
2025-12-2307 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismThe Hidden Roles We Play: Transactional Analysis and Breaking Free from the Drama TriangleIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry examines the deep emotional patterns that shape our reactions during moments of stress, conflict, and relational rupture. This episode explores the Victim Triangle and the foundations of Transactional Analysis, revealing how old childhood survival roles continue to shape our adult relationships in ways we often do not recognize.Dr. Perry explains how the three roles of the Drama Triangle—Victim, Rescuer, and Persecutor—emerge not from weakness or malice, but from early attempts to feel safe, valued, and emotionally connected. He explores how these roles become auto...
2025-12-0732 minRecovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismSelf-Loathing in the Narcissistic Self: When the Mask CracksIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the hidden emotional engine beneath narcissistic defenses: self-loathing. This episode examines how deep internal shame, formed early in life and carried silently into adulthood, shapes emotional reactions, relational patterns, and the need to maintain a polished exterior at all times.Dr. Perry explains how this inner narrative—the quiet belief of not being enough—leads many individuals with narcissistic traits to perform strength rather than inhabit authenticity. He explores how self-loathing fuels perfectionism, emotional guardedness, and an intense fear of being truly known, while simultaneously crea...
2025-12-0218 min
Who Spectates the Spectators?WSTS Episode 4: Eric Perry-Paul Walter Hauser Looks Back on Time at CUCIn this episode, the roles are once again flipped as Katelyn Whitlock returns to the hosting chair to interview Eric Perry. His article, Emmy-Winner Paul Walter Hauser Looks Back on His Time at CUC, centers around an interview with Paul Walter Hauser, and how the famous actor views his time at CUC. You can find Eric's article attached below!Emmy-Winner Paul Walter Hauser Looks Back on His Time at CUC – The Spectator
2025-11-2109 minRecovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismRebounding After Relationship Rupture: The Dangers of Premature RepairIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the delicate, often misunderstood moment that follows an interpersonal disconnect. This episode examines how micro-ruptures—those subtle moments when a tone shifts, a comment lands poorly, or a sense of distance quietly appears—can profoundly impact emotional safety long before anything is acknowledged out loud.Dr. Perry unpacks why these moments are uniquely challenging for individuals with narcissistic tendencies. He explains how discomfort, shame, and the loss of emotional control can activate defensive strategies that feel instinctive in the moment but ultimately undermine trust and conn...
2025-11-1914 min
Who Spectates the Spectators?WSTS Episode 3: Eric Perry-What Pulls Comics Writers and Artists to Chicago?In this episode of Who Spectates the Spectators, the script is flipped as City Life editor Katelyn Whitlock steps into the hosting chair to interview Eric Perry. His article, What Pulls Comics Writers and Artists to Chicago?, delves into a look at how Chicago has recently become a hub for people in the comic book/graphic novel industry. You can find Eric's article attached below!What Pulls Comics Writers and Artists to Chicago? – The Spectator
2025-11-1408 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismFrustration Leaks: The Subtle Erosion of Emotional Safety in Narcissistic RelationshipsIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the subtle but powerful impact of frustration leaks in narcissistic relationships. This episode explores how unspoken emotional distress—expressed through sighs, muttering, or tension-filled body language—can quietly alter the emotional safety of a relationship without a single word being said.Dr. Perry unpacks the psychological mechanics of frustration leaks, highlighting how this behavior often reflects a deeper struggle with emotional regulation and vulnerability. He explains why individuals with narcissistic tendencies may externalize distress in indirect ways—and how those around them are left to absorb...
2025-07-0412 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismEmotional Invalidation: The Hidden Harm in Narcissistic RelationshipsIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the quiet yet deeply damaging experience of emotional invalidation in narcissistic relationships. This episode examines how subtle forms of dismissal, deflection, and emotional withdrawal can slowly erode a partner’s sense of self—leaving them feeling confused, unseen, and emotionally alone.Dr. Perry unpacks the psychological mechanics of emotional invalidation, highlighting how it often masquerades as logic, reason, or even care. He explains why individuals with narcissistic tendencies struggle to tolerate emotional vulnerability—and how their attempts to manage discomfort often result in silencing the people...
2025-06-0316 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismNarcissistic Mirroring Uncovered: The Performance of ConnectionIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the complex and often misunderstood phenomenon of mirroring in narcissistic relationships. This episode dives into how mirroring can create the illusion of deep connection—while quietly eroding authenticity, trust, and emotional intimacy.Dr. Perry unpacks the psychological roots of mirroring, tracing it from early childhood development to its manipulative adaptation in adulthood. He explains how individuals with narcissistic tendencies often use mirroring—consciously or unconsciously—as a way to build connection, avoid rejection, and emotionally survive within relationships.Listeners will learn about: The or...
2025-05-1614 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismEmotional Contagion: Carrying What Isn't YoursIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the powerful and often unnoticed phenomenon of emotional contagion—the unconscious transfer of emotions from one person to another. This episode examines how intense emotional energy can quietly move between people, disrupting connection, creating emotional overwhelm, and shaping the dynamic of a relationship—often without anyone realizing it.Dr. Perry breaks down the neuroscience and psychology behind emotional contagion, including the role of mirror neurons and the tendency to absorb others' emotional states. He explains how individuals with narcissistic traits may struggle with...
2025-05-1313 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismReactive Communication: When Words WoundIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the hidden impact of reactive communication in relationships. Often driven by intense emotions like anger, fear, or shame, reactive communication can quietly erode trust and connection, leaving a trail of unresolved tension and emotional distance. Dr. Perry guides listeners through the roots of this pattern, helping them understand how impulsive reactions can become ingrained coping strategies—especially for individuals with narcissistic tendencies.Listeners will learn what reactive communication looks like, how it develops, and the deeper emotional and relational damage it can cause over time. Th...
2025-04-2317 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismThe Subtle Yet Insidious Impact of Trauma BondingIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the complex world of trauma bonds within relationships. Often mistaken for deep connections, trauma bonds can form some of the most challenging emotional patterns to identify and break. Dr. Perry guides listeners through the psychology of trauma bonding, introduced by Dr. Patrick Carnes, which illuminates the dynamic interplay of fear, excitement, and emotional manipulation in maintaining these bonds.
Listeners will learn about the stages of trauma bonding, from idealization and love bombing to conflict and reconciliation, and how these cycles forge deep, yet unhealthy, emotional...
2025-01-2118 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismThe Silent Damage of MinimizationIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the subtle yet profound impact of minimization on our relationships and self-perception. This episode explores the psychological roots of minimization, how it functions as emotional invalidation, and its detrimental effects on personal connections and emotional safety.
Dr. Perry explains the dynamics of how minimization can manifest in relationships—downplaying, dismissing, or undermining another person’s feelings, experiences, or perspectives. The discussion includes how such behavior can erode trust and connection, often showing up as dismissive remarks like "You're overreacting," which may seem helpful but actually inval...
2024-12-1712 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismThe Dysfunctional Dance of Co-DependencyIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the complex dynamics between codependent and narcissistic individuals in relationships. These connections are often marked by a "dysfunctional dance" of giving and taking, where one partner's need to feel needed meets the other's demand for admiration and control. This episode explains how this mutual dependency creates a cycle that is challenging for both individuals, as the codependent partner becomes trapped in self-neglect and the narcissistic partner maintains a steady source of validation and attention.
Dr. Perry explains the core traits that make these relationships difficult...
2024-11-0415 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismThe Communication Trap: Dangers of Double Bind CommunicationIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the complexities of double bind communication, a psychological concept that describes receiving conflicting messages where no correct response is possible. This type of communication can be particularly confusing and distressing in relationships. Dr. Perry explains how double bind communication operates, the impact it has on both the sender and the recipient, and why it is often used by individuals with narcissistic traits.
Dr. Perry breaks down the elements of double bind communication, including primary, secondary, and tertiary negative injunctions, providing clear examples and insight into...
2024-08-1314 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismOwn Your Stuff Coaching GroupIn this episode, Dr. Eric Perry shares exciting news with his listeners. Due to the increasing demand for his individual coaching sessions, Dr. Perry introduces the "Own Your Stuff Coaching Group," an online coaching group designed for individuals ready to address unhelpful behaviors and cultivate personal growth.
Hosted on Zoom, this dynamic group provides a supportive environment where participants can take ownership of their actions, hold themselves accountable, and learn new tools for positive change. Whether aiming to improve relationships, enhance self-awareness, or be part of a nurturing community, this group offers valuable resources...
2024-07-1002 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismThe Partner’s Path: 7 Stages for Navigating Change with a Healing Narcissistic PartnerIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the complex journey experienced by partners of narcissistic individuals when their loved ones begin their self-improvement process.
Dr. Perry offers valuable insights and encouragement to individuals with narcissistic tendencies, urging them to be mindful of their partners' feelings and experiences as they themselves navigate their own process of self-improvement. He highlights the importance of understanding and supporting their partners' emotional journey, recognizing that both individuals face unique challenges that can impact their relationship dynamics.
Key points covered include:
Exploring the impact on...
2024-06-1914 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismWhat Really Drives Narcissistic Procrastination?In this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the underlying causes of procrastination in individuals with narcissistic tendencies. Rather than a simple lack of motivation, procrastination often stems from a deep-seated fear of failure that threatens their self-esteem and identity.
Dr. Perry provides insight and encouragement to help listeners break negative behavior patterns and live happier, healthier lives.
Key points covered include:
How procrastination is driven by fear, particularly the fear of failure, which can stem from past experiences, societal pressures, and personal expectations.
The role of the amygdala in...
2024-05-1410 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismBreaking the Cycle of Emotional ManipulationIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry discusses the subtle yet impactful ways emotional manipulation manifests in relationships. This behavior, often used by individuals with narcissistic tendencies, is explored in-depth to help listeners recognize and change these patterns.
Dr. Perry explains how emotional manipulation can be a method of gaining control due to underlying fears and insecurities. He provides insights into why individuals might resort to this behavior, how it impacts their partners, and the importance of fostering healthier interactions.
Listeners will learn about:
The definition and forms of emotional...
2024-05-0609 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismYou Might Not Be Hearing What You're HearingIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores how communication and perception interact, particularly for individuals with narcissistic tendencies. He explores how misinterpretations of intent or emotion can lead to defensive or confrontational responses, impacting relationships.
Dr. Perry explains how cognitive distortions, such as negative filtering, projection, and mind reading, can cause misunderstandings and unnecessary conflict. He provides insights on recognizing these patterns and offers practical strategies for cultivating healthier communication and stronger connections.
Listeners will learn about:
How cognitive distortions affect perception and communication
The impact of misinterpretations on...
2024-04-0411 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismUnlocking Emotional Intimacy: The Role of AttunementIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the concept of emotional attunement and its importance in building deeper, more meaningful relationships. He explores how individuals with narcissistic tendencies can develop this skill to enhance empathy, understanding, and connection with others.
Dr. Perry explains how emotional attunement involves tuning into the emotional states of others, recognizing subtle cues, and responding appropriately. He discusses the challenges narcissistic individuals may face in achieving attunement and offers practical strategies for developing this vital skill.
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The definition and significance of...
2024-03-2110 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismHow Your Reasoning Style Might Be Hurting Your RelationshipIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the impact of inductive and deductive reasoning on communication within relationships. Understanding these reasoning styles is especially important for individuals with narcissistic tendencies to avoid unnecessary conflicts and improve their interpersonal dynamics.
Dr. Perry explains the origins and applications of inductive and deductive reasoning, highlighting how these methods influence decision-making and problem-solving in daily life. He discusses how differing reasoning styles can lead to misunderstandings and offers practical suggestions on navigating these differences to cultivate healthier communication and stronger relationships.
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2024-02-2912 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismUnmasking Reactive AbuseIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the concept of reactive abuse and its impact on relationships. Understanding this behavior is crucial for individuals with narcissistic tendencies. Recognizing how their actions may be harming their relationships can help them learn healthier ways to communicate.
Dr. Perry explains that reactive abuse occurs when someone who is being mistreated or provoked eventually reacts in an aggressive or defensive manner. The initial aggressor may then portray themselves as the victim, making it challenging for others to recognize the original provocation. This episode sheds light on...
2024-01-1708 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismBreaking Free from UnforgivenessIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry discusses the concept of unforgiveness and its detrimental impact on relationships and personal well-being. Understanding and addressing unforgiveness is especially important for individuals with narcissistic tendencies, as it can hinder emotional and personal growth.
Dr. Perry explores the reasons why narcissistic individuals may struggle with forgiveness, such as a heightened sense of entitlement, the need for admiration, and a lack of empathy. He explains how these traits can lead to holding onto resentment and anger, ultimately affecting one's well-being and relationships.
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2023-12-2009 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismEmbracing Vulnerability MeditationIn this episode of Meditations for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry guides you through a meditation focused on embracing vulnerability. Designed for individuals with narcissistic tendencies, this meditation helps you understand and accept vulnerability as a strength rather than a weakness.
Dr. Perry leads you through visualizations and affirmations to encourage authenticity and openness. By connecting with your true self and acknowledging past moments of vulnerability, you can cultivate deeper connections and personal growth.
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Guided breathing exercises
Visualizations of vulnerability
Affirmations to reinforce the strength and courage in being vulnerable
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2023-11-2110 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismBreaking the Catastrophe ChainIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the concept of catastrophizing and its impact on individuals with narcissistic tendencies. Understanding this cognitive distortion is essential for breaking negative patterns and improving personal and relationship well-being.
Dr. Perry explores the origins of catastrophizing, introduced by Aaron T. Beck, and explains how it leads to exaggerated negative thinking and worst-case scenario predictions. He discusses the reasons behind this behavior, such as seeking attention, control, and validation, and how it can negatively affect relationships.
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The definition and effects...
2023-11-0308 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismEnjoy Your Journey MeditationIn this episode of Meditation for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry guides you through a meditation designed to cultivate relaxation, mindfulness, and self-reflection. This episode is especially beneficial for individuals with narcissistic tendencies, helping you become more aware of yourself and your behaviors.
Dr. Perry emphasizes the importance of the journey over the destination, encouraging listeners to pause and appreciate the world around them. Through guided breathing exercises and affirmations, this meditation helps you release unnecessary burdens and find balance in your life.
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Guided relaxation and deep breathing exercises
Reflections...
2023-09-2708 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismThe Problem of Social LoafingIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry addresses the concept of social loafing and its manifestation in individuals with narcissistic tendencies. Understanding this behavior is essential for recognizing how it affects relationships and learning to create a more balanced and supportive partnership.
Dr. Perry explains social loafing as the tendency to exert less effort when working in a group than when working alone. He explores how this behavior can manifest in relationships, particularly for those with narcissistic traits, and discusses the lack of empathy and social awareness that can contribute to this dynamic.
2023-09-0607 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismHealthy Reset - AffirmationsIn this episode of Affirmations for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry guides listeners through a series of positive affirmations designed to cultivate happiness, health, and fulfillment. This episode creates a sacred space for individuals with narcissistic tendencies to reinforce life-changing affirmations and embark on a journey of personal growth.
Dr. Perry leads you through affirmations aimed at increasing self-awareness, compassion, and peace. By incorporating these affirmations into your daily routine, you can enhance your emotional well-being and build a more fulfilling life.
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Affirmations to promote mindfulness, kindness, and patience
Positive...
2023-08-2220 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismSpeaking with Intention: The Power of TonalityIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry discusses the crucial role of tonality in communication and how it can significantly impact relationships, especially for individuals with narcissistic tendencies. Understanding and mastering tonality can help you break negative patterns and create healthier interactions.
Dr. Perry explains how the tone of your voice can convey messages that may not align with your words, potentially leading to misunderstandings and conflicts. He shares insights on the different types of tonalities, both negative and positive, and how they can influence your conversations and relationships.
Listeners will...
2023-08-0609 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismTransforming Communication: The R.A.V.E.N. MethodIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry introduces the R.A.V.E.N. Method, a communication model he created to help individuals with narcissistic tendencies improve their interactions and build healthier relationships. By learning to recognize, acknowledge, validate, encourage, and nurture, you can transform your communication style and create a more positive dynamic with your partner.
Dr. Perry explains the importance of each step in the R.A.V.E.N. Method and provides practical examples to illustrate how these principles can be applied in everyday conversations. This episode offers valuable insights...
2023-07-2511 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismAbundant Mind MeditationIn this episode of Meditation for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry guides listeners through a powerful meditation designed to cultivate an abundant mind. By harnessing the power of the mind, individuals can transform negative thoughts into positive ones and create a space of tranquility and acceptance within themselves.
Dr. Perry explains how an untrained mind can be a breeding ground for negative thoughts that destroy happiness, leading to feelings of worthlessness and fear. He emphasizes the importance of clearing these thoughts and focusing on the positive aspects of life to create a place of refuge and safety.
2023-05-0408 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismFacilitating Communication Between CouplesIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores effective communication strategies for couples where one partner exhibits narcissistic tendencies. He provides valuable insights and practical suggestions to help couples navigate the complexities of their relationship, emphasizing the importance of recognizing and addressing negative behaviors to cultivate a healthier and more fulfilling partnership.
Dr. Perry highlights the unique challenges that narcissistic tendencies can bring to relationships and offers strategies to improve communication and understanding between partners. He emphasizes the significance of setting and respecting boundaries, being accountable for one's actions, and maintaining realistic expectations.
2023-04-0911 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismBreaking Barriers: Overcoming Self-SabotageIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the concept of self-sabotage and its impact on achieving life goals and maintaining healthy relationships. He provides valuable insights into how self-sabotaging behaviors manifest, particularly in individuals with narcissistic tendencies, and offers strategies to overcome these destructive patterns.
Dr. Perry highlights the importance of recognizing self-sabotaging behaviors such as procrastination, perfectionism, workaholism, and substance abuse. He discusses how these behaviors stem from underlying fears and negative core beliefs, and how they can prevent individuals from living their best lives.
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2023-02-0112 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismOvercoming Contempt in Your LifeIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry discusses the destructive impact of contempt in relationships, especially for individuals exhibiting narcissistic tendencies. Drawing on Dr. John Gottman's research, Dr. Perry explains how contempt can predict the end of relationships and offers strategies for overcoming this damaging behavior.
Dr. Perry highlights the significance of recognizing contemptuous behaviors, understanding their roots, and replacing them with healthier communication patterns. He provides examples of contempt, discusses its impact on both partners, and emphasizes the importance of nurturing fondness and admiration in relationships.
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2023-01-0712 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismStop Comparing Yourself MeditationIn this episode of Meditation for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry guides listeners through a calming meditation to help individuals with narcissistic tendencies stop comparing themselves to others. This episode focuses on relaxation, mindfulness, and self-reflection to foster greater self-awareness and acceptance.
Dr. Perry emphasizes the unique and special qualities of each person, encouraging listeners to embrace their true selves and discard unhealthy beliefs. By practicing gratitude and self-acceptance, individuals can find contentment and happiness in their own lives without the need for comparison.
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The importance of recognizing and embracing...
2022-12-2509 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismStop Comparing YourselfIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry addresses the pervasive issue of comparison, particularly among individuals with narcissistic tendencies. He explains how constant comparison can lead to feelings of inadequacy, anger, and anxiety, ultimately hindering personal growth and damaging relationships. Dr. Perry provides insights into the detrimental effects of comparing oneself to others and offers strategies for embracing one’s authentic self.
Dr. Perry provides insights into how social media fuels the tendency to compare and contrasts this with the value of self-acceptance and mindfulness. He encourages listeners to shift their focus from ex...
2022-12-2008 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismThe Harmful Trait of DefensivenessIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the harmful trait of defensiveness, particularly among individuals with narcissistic tendencies. He examines the nature of defensiveness, its roots, and its impact on relationships. Dr. Perry offers strategies for recognizing and overcoming defensive behaviors to cultivate healthier communication and relationships.
Dr. Perry highlights the roots of defensiveness, linking it to deep-seated insecurities and a fear of vulnerability. He provides practical strategies to help listeners recognize and manage their defensive responses, promoting healthier interactions and stronger connections.
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Understanding what...
2022-11-1708 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismRespond Don't ReactIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry discusses the importance of responding rather than reacting in triggering situations. He explores how individuals with narcissistic tendencies can become more mindful of their reactions, shifting from automatic, instinctual behaviors to thoughtful, deliberate responses.
Dr. Perry emphasizes that reactive behavior is often driven by the subconscious mind and can lead to negative outcomes in personal and professional relationships. He encourages listeners to take ownership of their reactions and start practicing mindfulness in moments of frustration, anger, or stress. By doing so, they can begin to break...
2022-10-0108 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismThe Harmful Effects of Partner ExhaustionIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry discusses the concept of partner exhaustion, particularly from the perspective of individuals with narcissistic tendencies. He explores how these tendencies can impact partners, often leading to feelings of depletion and emotional fatigue.
Dr. Perry emphasizes the importance of recognizing these behaviors and their effects on relationships. He provides insights into how individuals with narcissistic traits can become more mindful of their partners' needs, cultivating a healthier and more balanced dynamic.
Key points covered include:
The concept of partner exhaustion and its impact on...
2022-09-0107 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismAccepting Weakness in Yourself and OthersIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the complex relationship individuals with narcissistic tendencies have with the concepts of strength and weakness. He discusses how societal and cultural definitions of strength can impact self-perception and relationships, often leading to unrealistic standards and negative behaviors.
Dr. Perry emphasizes the importance of redefining strength and weakness in a more balanced and accepting manner. He provides insights into how internal critical voices can shape behaviors and offers strategies for becoming more mindful and supportive in relationships.
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The societal...
2022-08-0107 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismLetting Go of Regret MeditationIn this episode of Meditation for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry guides listeners through a meditation focused on letting go of regret. He addresses the emotional burden of regrets and missed opportunities, encouraging individuals with narcissistic tendencies to embrace mindfulness and self-awareness as a path to healing and growth.
Dr. Perry highlights the importance of living in the present moment, appreciating loved ones, and accepting the constant flow of life. This episode aims to help listeners find peace and acceptance in their current experiences and release the weight of past regrets.
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2022-06-0110 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismMoving Forward: Leaving Your Past BehindIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry discusses the importance of letting go of the past to move forward in life. He addresses the emotional burdens carried by individuals with narcissistic tendencies and provides insights on how to break free from the negative cycles rooted in past actions and experiences.
Dr. Perry emphasizes the need for self-forgiveness and the importance of focusing on the present to build a better future. He encourages listeners to acknowledge their past without letting it define them, offering practical suggestions on how to stop reliving negative experiences and...
2022-05-1005 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismHow to Have Healthier ArgumentsIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry provides valuable insights on how to engage in healthier arguments, particularly for individuals exhibiting narcissistic tendencies. Recognizing that arguments are a natural part of relationships, Dr. Perry emphasizes the importance of constructive communication and conflict resolution.
Dr. Perry explains how arguments should be seen as heart-to-heart conversations rather than confrontations. He outlines practical strategies for managing disputes without causing harm, fostering a more respectful and understanding environment within relationships.
Key points covered include:
The importance of viewing arguments as opportunities for growth, not...
2022-04-1308 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismWhy You Seek Happiness Through ControlIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the intricate relationship between control and happiness for individuals with narcissistic tendencies. Drawing from a quote by Ralph Marston, Dr. Perry explores the concept that happiness is a choice and not only a result of external achievements.
Dr. Perry explains how individuals with narcissistic tendencies often tie their happiness to problem-solving and control, impacting both their own well-being and the well-being of their loved ones. He highlights the importance of recognizing this behavior and learning to separate happiness from productivity.
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2022-03-0305 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismNormalizing Your Setbacks MeditationIn this episode of Meditation for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry guides listeners through a meditation aimed at normalizing setbacks in life. This episode is designed for individuals with narcissistic tendencies, helping them to develop mindfulness, self-awareness, and acceptance of life’s inevitable challenges.
Dr. Perry emphasizes the importance of viewing setbacks not as failures, but as opportunities for personal growth and resilience. Through mindful breathing and affirmations, listeners are encouraged to embrace their setbacks and learn from them, cultivating a more balanced and peaceful approach to life.
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Recognizing and ac...
2022-02-0307 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismRegaining Balance When Life Knocks You DownIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry discusses the challenges and strategies for regaining balance when life delivers unexpected setbacks. Aimed at individuals with narcissistic tendencies, this episode emphasizes the importance of resilience, self-awareness, and emotional processing to navigate life's unpredictable moments.
Dr. Perry explores how individuals with narcissistic tendencies often struggle with sudden changes due to their need for control. He provides valuable insights into understanding and managing these reactions, promoting healthier responses to life's inevitable ups and downs.
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The impact of sudden life changes...
2022-01-0507 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismInverted Realities: Navigating the Terrain of Reaction FormationIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the concept of reaction formation, a defense mechanism where an individual subconsciously expresses the opposite of their true feelings to protect their ego and self-esteem. This insightful episode aims to help listeners recognize and understand this behavior, which can significantly impact their relationships and personal growth.
Dr. Perry explains the intricacies of reaction formation, how it manifests, and the importance of identifying and addressing these behaviors. He discusses the subconscious suppression of negative emotions and the exaggerated expression of opposite emotions as a way to...
2021-08-1607 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismAccepting Your Real Self MeditationIn this episode of Meditation for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry guides listeners through a meditation focused on self-acceptance and mindfulness. This episode aims to help individuals with narcissistic tendencies relax, reflect, and grow by encouraging a deeper understanding of their true selves.
Dr. Perry encourages listeners to embrace both their strengths and weaknesses, acknowledging the experiences that have shaped them. Through mindful breathing and guided reflection, this meditation offers a pathway to greater self-awareness and acceptance.
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A guided meditation designed to help you relax and center yourself.
Techniques for acknowledging...
2021-07-2007 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismNavigating Realities: Navigating Your Real vs Ideal SelfIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the concept of the real self versus the ideal self, as introduced by humanistic psychologist Carl Rogers. Dr. Perry explores the discrepancies between who we truly are and the idealized version of ourselves that we strive to be. This gap can lead to feelings of dissatisfaction and failure, especially for individuals with narcissistic tendencies.
Dr. Perry offers insights into how the pursuit of perfection and the creation of an unattainable ideal self can result in negative behaviors toward oneself and others. By understanding the origins...
2021-07-2009 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismImposter Syndrome: Navigating Self-DoubtIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the concept of imposter syndrome and its profound impact on individuals with narcissistic tendencies. He discusses how feelings of self-doubt and the fear of being exposed as a fraud can significantly affect one's personal and professional life.
Dr. Perry explores the origins of imposter syndrome, its manifestations, and the ways it can lead to maladaptive behaviors and emotional distress. By understanding these patterns, listeners can begin to address their self-doubt and work towards a more balanced and fulfilling life.
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2021-07-1408 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismBefriending Yourself: A Journey to Self-CompanionshipIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the critical importance of becoming a good friend to yourself. He emphasizes the immense value of self-compassion, kindness, and acceptance, urging listeners to nurture a healthier relationship with themselves.
Dr. Perry discusses how many individuals with narcissistic tendencies often neglect their own well-being by engaging in harsh self-criticism. He provides insights on recognizing and deactivating negative self-talk and offers practical steps to develop a more supportive internal dialogue.
Listeners will learn about:
The importance of self-compassion and kindness in personal growth
Recognizing...
2021-07-0606 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismUnseen Patterns of Maladaptive BehaviorsIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the concept of maladaptive behaviors and their impact on individuals with narcissistic tendencies. He explains how these behaviors prevent adaptation, adjustment, and participation in new or difficult circumstances, ultimately leading to increased stress, anxiety, and potential emotional, social, and health problems.
Dr. Perry provides insights into recognizing these patterns and understanding their origins, helping listeners identify maladaptive behaviors in their own lives and take steps to develop healthier coping mechanisms.
Listeners will learn about:
The definition and examples of maladaptive behaviors
How...
2021-07-0110 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismFeel Your Truth: Embracing Authentic EmotionsIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the significance of embracing and understanding the full spectrum of human emotions. He discusses how emotions, whether perceived as good or bad, play crucial roles in our lives by enriching our experiences and serving as vital signals for our well-being.
Dr. Perry emphasizes the importance of allowing ourselves to experience and express our emotions without judgment, to prevent suppressed feelings from manifesting in unhealthy ways. He provides practical suggestions on how to navigate and embrace our authentic emotions.
Listeners will learn about:
...
2021-06-2206 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismLetting Go of Control MeditationIn this episode of Meditation for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry guides listeners through a calming meditation focused on releasing the need for control. This meditation aims to help individuals who exhibit narcissistic tendencies find relaxation, mindfulness, self-reflection, and growth.
Dr. Perry emphasizes the importance of letting go of the urge to control every aspect of life, encouraging a focus on the present moment and the acceptance of life's unpredictable nature.
Listeners will be guided through:
Techniques for deep breathing and relaxation
Understanding the futility of trying to control everything
Recognizing the value of...
2021-06-2009 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | Narcissism30. It's Ok To Feel Your FeelingsEpisode 30: It's Ok To Feel Your Feelings
Hello and welcome to my podcast! My name is Dr. Eric Perry. The intention of this podcast is to provide insight and encouragement to those of you who exhibit narcissistic tendencies so you can "own your stuff" and live more empathic, compassionate, and fulfilling lives. My other areas of expertise are performance, career development, relationship issues, stress management, health, and overall happiness. To submit a topic request, learn more about my methodology, or schedule a free consultation, please visit my website https://DrEricPerry.com.
Disclaimer: The materials and...
2021-06-2006 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismShedding Light on Patterns of ControlIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry discusses the complex issue of control, a common challenge for individuals exhibiting narcissistic tendencies. This episode aims to provide insights and encouragement to help listeners recognize and address controlling behaviors in their relationships.
Dr. Perry highlights the reasons behind the need for control and its impact on both the individual and their loved ones. He explores how an external locus of control and undeveloped object constancy can contribute to these behaviors, making relationships stressful and overwhelming for both parties involved.
Listeners will learn about:
2021-06-1909 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | Narcissism4 Behaviors You Must AvoidIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores four critical behaviors that can undermine and potentially destroy relationships. These behaviors, identified by renowned therapist Dr. John Gottman, are often prevalent in individuals with narcissistic tendencies and can severely impact relationship stability and satisfaction.
Dr. Perry emphasizes the importance of recognizing and addressing these behaviors to create healthier and more fulfilling relationships. By understanding these detrimental actions, listeners can take proactive steps to improve their interactions with loved ones.
Listeners will learn about:
Criticism: Distinguishing between constructive complaints and harmful personal...
2021-06-1806 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismCan a Defense Mechanism Actually Be Healthy?In this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the concept of sublimation, a healthy defense mechanism that can help transform negative impulses into positive actions. Dr. Perry emphasizes the importance of becoming aware of our responses to life’s challenges and learning to redirect them in productive and socially acceptable ways.
Dr. Perry explains that sublimation allows individuals to take control of their emotional energy and channel it into something constructive. By recognizing harmful or impulsive tendencies, listeners can begin to shift those energies toward actions that benefit themselves and others. This process no...
2021-05-2406 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismOvercoming Transactional Dynamics in Relationships & Availability BiasIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry addresses the complex issues of availability bias and the transactional nature that can sometimes manifest in relationships. Dr. Perry explores how these patterns can negatively impact both individuals and their relationships, especially for those who exhibit narcissistic tendencies.
Dr. Perry emphasizes that when relationships are viewed through a transactional lens, individuals often feel entitled to certain outcomes or responses in exchange for their efforts. This mindset can cultivate resentment and lead to emotional imbalance, causing damage to both parties involved. By shifting this perspective and recognizing...
2021-05-2007 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismFrom Blame to GrowthIn this episode of Recovery FOR the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the topic of blame, a common defense mechanism among individuals exhibiting narcissistic tendencies. Blame can serve as a form of self-protection, preserving one’s projected identity by shifting responsibility onto others. This behavior often results in a cycle of emotional dysregulation, where blame is used to deflect shame and maintain control.
Blame can have a significant impact on relationships and personal growth, leading to feelings of anger, frustration, and even contempt. Dr. Perry highlights the importance of recognizing this behavior and understanding its roots in ch...
2021-05-0407 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismPracticing Empathy and Nurturing Your RelationshipsIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the complex relationship between narcissistic tendencies and empathy. While some debate whether narcissistic individuals can genuinely experience empathy, Dr. Perry focuses on how empathic behavior can be learned and practiced to positively impact personal relationships and overall well-being.
Empathy involves putting oneself in another's place and feeling what they are feeling. However, individuals with narcissistic tendencies often struggle with this due to a subconscious belief that emotions should be controlled and experienced on their terms. This episode aims to provide listeners with practical steps to...
2021-04-2409 minRecovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismA thought to keep you going: SustainabilityA thought to keep you going: Sustainability
Hello and welcome to my podcast! My name is Dr. Eric Perry. The intention of this podcast is to provide insight and encouragement to individuals who exhibit narcissistic tendencies so they can "own their stuff" and live more empathic, compassionate, and fulfilling lives. My other areas of expertise include relationships, stress, performance, career development, health, and happiness. To submit a topic request, learn more about my methodology, or schedule a free initial consultation, please visit my website (http://DrEricPerry.com).
Disclaimer: The materials and content contained in this...
2021-04-2002 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismThe Narcissist's Money MindsetIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the intricate relationship between narcissistic tendencies and money. Money, while offering a sense of security and freedom, can also be a tool for manipulation and control, particularly for those with narcissistic traits. Understanding these dynamics can shed light on how financial behaviors impact relationships and self-perception.
Dr. Perry discusses how narcissistic individuals might use money to gain power and control, often treating it as a relationship currency. This mindset can lead to complex emotional relationships with money, where spending is tied to external validation and...
2021-04-1909 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismDisagree Better in Your RelationshipsIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry discusses the challenges and strategies for managing disagreements in relationships, particularly for individuals with narcissistic tendencies. Disagreements can be highly volatile for those who fear rejection and abandonment, making it essential to develop healthier ways of handling conflicts.
Dr. Perry explores the importance of being mindful and taking a breath before reacting, emphasizing that disagreements do not mean the end of a relationship. By practicing empathy and understanding, individuals can navigate conflicts without resorting to negative behaviors.
Key Points Covered:
The role of...
2021-04-1105 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismOvercoming Passive-Aggressive TendenciesIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the intricacies of passive-aggressive behavior, a common yet often misunderstood trait among individuals with narcissistic tendencies. Passive-aggressive behavior involves indirect expressions of anger and other negative emotions, often disguised as seemingly harmless or even complimentary actions. This behavior can be deeply rooted in early life experiences where direct expression of emotions was discouraged or punished.
Dr. Perry explains how passive-aggressive behavior manifests in various forms, such as backhanded compliments, procrastination, and sarcasm. He emphasizes the importance of recognizing these behaviors in oneself and understanding their...
2021-04-0707 minRecovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismA thought to start your week: Slow and SteadyA thought to start your week: Slow and Steady
Hello and welcome to my podcast! My name is Dr. Eric Perry. The intention of this podcast is to provide insight and encouragement to individuals who exhibit narcissistic tendencies so they can "own their stuff" and live more empathic, compassionate, and fulfilling lives. My other areas of expertise include relationships, stress, performance, career development, health, and happiness. To submit a topic request, learn more about my methodology, or schedule a free initial consultation, please visit my website (http://DrEricPerry.com).
Disclaimer: The materials and content contained...
2021-04-0501 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismHow to Redefine Your Life MeditationIn this episode of Meditation for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry guides listeners through a transformative journey of self-reflection and growth. By helping individuals confront and redefine their self-perception, Dr. Perry offers a path to break free from the constraints of past labels and criticisms. This meditation focuses on embracing personal growth and nurturing a positive self-image.
Dr. Perry encourages listeners to shed the heavy burden of past judgments and to allow themselves the freedom to evolve. By cultivating a mindset of compassion and patience, individuals can develop more meaningful relationships and create lasting, cherished memories. This...
2021-04-0112 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismUnderstanding Narcissistic Ego StatesIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry introduces a model he developed to help individuals with narcissistic tendencies better understand and manage their emotional states. Dr. Perry's model provides a useful framework for recognizing the common ego states many narcissistic individuals experience. These states—Scarcity and Lack, Reconciliation, and Shame or Anger—form a triangle that individuals often fluctuate between, with the "I" at the center representing the self-focused nature of each state.
Dr. Perry explains how individuals with narcissistic tendencies often struggle with feelings of inadequacy and use productivity or performance to try...
2021-03-3109 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismChanneling Your Inner WholenessIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the concept of empathy and how it relates to those with narcissistic tendencies. He addresses the common debate over whether individuals with narcissistic traits can genuinely experience empathy, emphasizing that while it may vary from person to person, empathic behaviors can be learned and practiced.
Dr. Perry highlights how cultivating empathy, even if it feels uncomfortable at first, can have a significant impact on personal relationships and emotional well-being. By learning to step outside their emotional comfort zones, listeners can begin to develop a deeper...
2021-03-3109 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismBeyond Your Setbacks: Overcoming Adversity & FailureIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry discusses how individuals with narcissistic tendencies can navigate adversity and approach failure in a healthier, more constructive manner. He highlights how adversity, defined as a state of continued difficulty or misfortune, can trigger shame and negative emotions for narcissistic individuals, often leading to maladaptive behaviors such as displacement and avoidance. By acknowledging these tendencies, listeners can begin to break free from harmful cycles and build resilience during challenging times.
Dr. Perry emphasizes the importance of normalizing failure and reframing it as a learning opportunity rather than...
2021-03-2710 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismBreaking the Curse of DissatisfactionIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the pervasive feeling of dissatisfaction, a common experience that affects us all. Dr. Perry addresses how dissatisfaction can arise from various aspects of life, including relationships, work, and personal aspirations. He emphasizes the importance of understanding the root causes of dissatisfaction and learning to manage it in a healthy manner.
Dissatisfaction often stems from comparing ourselves to others and having unrealistic expectations. Dr. Perry highlights the significance of having healthy and realistic expectations to curb feelings of discontent. He also discusses how individuals with narcissistic...
2021-03-2609 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismWhat is Your Locus of Control?In this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the concept of locus of control, a framework developed by Dr. Julian B. Rotter. This concept explores how individuals perceive control over the events in their lives, which can be categorized as either internal or external. Dr. Perry explains how understanding your locus of control can significantly impact your overall quality of life and relationships.
Those with an internal locus of control believe they have influence over the outcomes of events through their own efforts and abilities. Conversely, individuals with an external locus of control...
2021-03-2010 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismThe Strength in Asking for HelpIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the difficulty and importance of asking for help, especially for those with narcissistic tendencies. Often, past experiences teach us to rely solely on ourselves, leading to fear and discomfort when seeking support.
Dr. Perry discusses how fear of rejection and vulnerability can prevent us from asking for help. He emphasizes that vulnerability is a strength and an opportunity to connect with others. By reframing our understanding of vulnerability and learning to trust ourselves in choosing who to ask for help, we can break the cycle...
2021-03-1806 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismYou Are Enough MeditationIn this episode of Meditation for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry guides listeners through a calming meditation focused on self-acceptance and self-worth. This meditation aims to help individuals with narcissistic tendencies find a space for relaxation, mindfulness, self-reflection, and growth.
Dr. Perry encourages listeners to become more aware of their behaviors and to embrace the idea that they are enough just as they are. He emphasizes that self-acceptance is a vital step toward inner peace and emotional balance.
Key Points Covered:
Creating a space for relaxation, mindfulness, and self-reflection
Embracing self-worth and self-acceptance
Letting...
2021-03-1507 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismUnmasking the Ego Guardian: Understanding Attention-Seeking and Narcissistic SupplyIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry shares his concept of the "Ego Guardian" and its impact on narcissistic behavior. He explores how attention-seeking behaviors, driven by the need for narcissistic supply, can influence relationships and personal well-being.
Dr. Perry discusses the three main ego states—Ego Protection, Ego Presentation, and Ego Energizing—that individuals with narcissistic tendencies may adopt to safeguard their inner selves.
Key Points Covered:
The role of the Ego Guardian in narcissistic behavior
Understanding the three ego states: Ego Protection, Ego Presentation, and Ego Energizing
The conc...
2021-03-0109 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismUnderstanding Your Attachment Style: A Key to Healthier RelationshipsIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the concept of attachment theory and its impact on relationships. He encourages listeners to reflect on their own attachment styles and how these may influence their interactions with others. Understanding attachment styles can be a key step in cultivating healthier relationships.
Attachment theory, developed by John Bowlby and expanded by Mary Ainsworth, explains how early bonds with caregivers shape our approach to relationships throughout life. The theory identifies four main attachment styles in children: secure, insecure-avoidant, insecure-resistant, and disorganized. In adulthood, these translate into secure...
2021-02-2108 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismSilencing the Inner Critic: Breaking the Cycle of Self-CriticismIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry discusses the pervasive issue of unhealthy self-criticism among individuals with narcissistic tendencies. This episode highlights the importance of recognizing and addressing self-critical behavior to cultivate personal growth and healthier relationships.
Unhealthy self-criticism can lead to avoidance, procrastination, and displacement. Dr. Perry emphasizes that while constructive criticism is essential for personal development, unhealthy self-criticism can be crippling and self-sabotaging.
Key Points Covered:
The difference between healthy and unhealthy self-criticism.
How self-criticism manifests in individuals with narcissistic tendencies.
The impact of striving for perfection on...
2021-02-1906 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismInferiority Complex and Rule ProjectionIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the concept of inferiority complex and its connection to narcissistic behavior. Introduced by Alfred Adler, the inferiority complex plays a key role in shaping personality and behavior. Dr. Perry explores how these feelings of inadequacy can manifest in narcissistic tendencies and influence interpersonal dynamics.
An inferiority complex may lead narcissistic individuals to develop self-imposed rules for those around them, known as narcissistic rule projection. These rules are unrealistic and uncommunicated, causing frustration and emotional dysregulation when others fail to adhere to them. Dr. Perry emphasizes...
2021-02-1708 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismObject Constancy and SplittingIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the concepts of object constancy and splitting, and their relevance to narcissistic behavior. Object constancy, similar to object permanence, involves maintaining a positive emotional bond with a person even when they are not physically present. Narcissistic individuals often struggle with this, leading to difficulties in sustaining positive feelings towards others when they are not in sight.
Splitting, or all-or-nothing thinking, is another key concept discussed. This defense mechanism prevents the integration of both positive and negative qualities of oneself or others into a cohesive whole...
2021-02-1606 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismTransforming Anger: A Meditation for Self-Awareness and HealingIn this episode of Meditation FOR the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry introduces listeners to a soothing and reflective meditation designed to help those with narcissistic tendencies better understand and manage their anger. This episode provides a gentle yet profound journey into self-awareness, aiming to cultivate healthier emotional responses and greater inner peace.
Anger is a natural and valid emotion, but if not managed properly, it can become destructive and all-consuming. Dr. Perry guides listeners through the process of acknowledging and addressing the underlying emotions that often mask themselves as anger, such as fear and sadness.
...
2021-02-1509 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismResentment: The Silent Poison in Your RelationshipIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the destructive nature of resentment within relationships, especially for those exhibiting narcissistic tendencies. Resentment, defined as bitter indignation from perceived unfair treatment, can fester and poison relationships, often stemming from misunderstood or imagined slights. This emotional reaction can create significant damage, leading to displaced anger and hostile behaviors toward loved ones.
While it is normal to feel resentment when wronged, those with narcissistic tendencies may misinterpret situations and hold onto these negative feelings longer. This hyper-awareness and focus on potential hurts can lead to a...
2021-02-1008 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismHealthy Relationship with a Narcissist?In today's episode, Dr. Eric Perry addresses the challenging question: can you have a healthy relationship with someone who is narcissistic? While many people have relationships with narcissistic individuals, maintaining a healthy and balanced relationship requires significant effort. Dr. Perry emphasizes the importance of awareness, dedication, and hard work in creating a functional relationship with a narcissistic person.
All relationships require work to stay healthy. A healthy relationship needs a balanced give-and-take dynamic. When one person takes too much without giving back, the relationship becomes unbalanced, leaving one person to carry most of the emotional load.
2020-11-0406 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismHarmful Effects of Envy & JealousyIn this episode of Recovery FOR the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the harmful effects of envy and jealousy, particularly in relation to narcissistic tendencies. The distinction between envy and jealousy is crucial, as envy occurs when a person desires what another possesses, while jealousy is the fear of losing something to someone else. Both emotions can lead to negative outcomes when they stem from insecurity and irrational thoughts.
Envy arises when one perceives a lack of superior qualities, achievements, or possessions in comparison to others. Jealousy, on the other hand, is the fear that someone will...
2020-10-1808 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismStart with Gratitude MeditationIn this episode of Meditation FOR the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry guides listeners through the practice of mindfulness, focusing on the transformative power of gratitude. This episode invites individuals with narcissistic tendencies to create a space for relaxation, self-reflection, and growth, emphasizing the importance of mindfulness in reducing these tendencies.
Gratitude is more than just a word; it is a powerful emotion that can significantly enhance mental, emotional, and physical well-being. By picturing moments of gratitude, listeners are encouraged to immerse themselves in these positive feelings, fostering a sense of appreciation and joy.
The significance of...
2020-08-2107 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismEntitlement to Appreciation: The Gratitude TransformationIn this episode of Recovery FOR the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the transformative power of gratitude and how it can positively impact those who exhibit narcissistic tendencies. He addresses the common perception that gratitude is a cliché and emphasizes its real, beneficial effects on our lives. Dr. Perry explains how a sense of entitlement often hinders narcissistic individuals from fully appreciating the gifts life offers.
Understanding gratitude involves both a thankful state and a willingness to reciprocate kindness. However, narcissistic tendencies can make it difficult to express and feel gratitude, leading to a lack of appreciation f...
2020-08-2007 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismUnderstanding Psychological ProjectionIn this episode of Recovery FOR the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the concept of psychological projection and its significance for individuals with narcissistic tendencies. Psychological projection, introduced by Sigmund Freud, involves attributing one's own unacceptable thoughts, desires, and feelings to others, thereby protecting oneself from acknowledging these unwanted traits.
Dr. Perry explains how our subconscious mind shapes our worldview and influences our interactions. By projecting internal negative scripts onto others, we avoid confronting aspects of ourselves that we dislike. This defense mechanism can profoundly impact our relationships and perceptions of the people around us.
...
2020-07-2006 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismFlying Monkeys and Smear CampaignsIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the concept of "flying monkeys" and its relevance to narcissistic behavior. The term, borrowed from the movie The Wizard of Oz, describes how narcissistic individuals may use others to carry out their bidding, often against someone they are targeting. Dr. Perry acknowledges that this topic may be challenging to hear for those exhibiting narcissistic tendencies, but he emphasizes the importance of awareness and self-improvement.
Flying monkeys can range from engaging in smear campaigns to subtly turning family members against one another. Dr. Perry explains that...
2020-07-0504 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismQuick Tips for Slowing DownIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry encourages listeners to slow down and appreciate the little things in life. Narcissistic tendencies often come with high self-expectations, which can interfere with spending quality time with family, maintaining a healthy lifestyle, and taking necessary breaks. Dr. Perry emphasizes the importance of mindfulness and self-care in living a balanced life.
Acknowledging the courage it takes to work on oneself, Dr. Perry commends listeners for their efforts. He recognizes that for many, the journey towards self-improvement begins with a wake-up call from a loved one. Regardless of...
2020-06-3003 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismThe Damaging Effect of Keeping ScoreIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry discusses the phenomenon of keeping score in relationships and how it can be amplified by narcissistic tendencies. While scorekeeping is common in many relationships, it can become particularly unhealthy when combined with narcissistic behaviors. Narcissistic individuals may project their internal criticisms onto others, making it essential to understand and address this behavior for healthier relationships.
Dr. Perry emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and the need to challenge narcissistic tendencies before they negatively impact relationships. He encourages listeners to work on themselves continuously, much like maintaining physical...
2020-06-2308 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismWhy I Advocate for Narcissistic IndividualsIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry shares the inspiration behind starting this podcast and his thoughts on narcissism. Initially working with victims of narcissistic abuse, Dr. Perry encountered individuals who wanted to work on their narcissistic tendencies. This led him to challenge the mainstream view that narcissistic individuals cannot change, recognizing that narcissism exists on a spectrum.
Dr. Perry emphasizes that success for narcissistic individuals involves making behavioral changes rather than focusing solely on increasing empathy or compassion. By providing tools for behavioral changes, individuals can realize that their previous negative patterns...
2020-06-1904 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismUnderstanding AnxietyIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores how individuals with narcissistic tendencies can manage anxiety more effectively. Understanding the nature of anxiety and its manifestations in both the body and mind is crucial for developing strategies to cope with it.
Anxiety often presents itself as a physiological sensation or an intrusive thought. Recognizing these feelings and thoughts as non-harmful can help in managing anxiety. It's important to lean into these sensations with mindful breathing and self-awareness, acknowledging them without letting them escalate into panic.
Key Points Covered:
Recognizing anxiety...
2020-06-1706 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismProjective Identification and the Rosenthal EffectIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry discusses the concept of projective identification and how individuals with narcissistic tendencies unknowingly apply this tactic to those around them.
Projective identification was first introduced by Melanie Klein, an Austrian-British author and psychoanalyst, in the early 20th century. This defense mechanism involves projecting qualities that are unacceptable to the self onto another person, who then internalizes these projected qualities and believes them to be true. Essentially, it creates a self-fulfilling prophecy for someone else.
Key Points Covered:
Developed by Melanie Klein as a...
2020-06-1504 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismUnderstanding Narcissistic RageIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the complex and often misunderstood phenomenon of narcissistic rage. Dr. Perry explains the causes, manifestations, and impacts of narcissistic rage, emphasizing the importance of awareness and intentional change.
Narcissistic rage is defined as an unexpected and uncontrollable expression of anger triggered by a narcissistic injury. These injuries often occur as a result of threats to the self-worth or self-esteem of a narcissistic individual. The behavior can range from sudden outbursts to passive-aggressive acts such as neglect or sarcasm, and is typically unreasonable and disproportionate to...
2020-06-0805 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismHow to Handle No ContactIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry addresses the challenging situation of what to do when someone decides to go no contact with you. This podcast is specifically designed for individuals who struggle with narcissistic tendencies, offering guidance and support for self-improvement and healthier relationships. Dr. Perry emphasizes the importance of respecting boundaries and using this period as an opportunity for self-reflection and growth.
Respecting the boundary set by someone who has chosen to go no contact is crucial. Creating chaos, pushing ultimatums, or involving others to break the no contact rule is...
2020-06-0204 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismStop Micromanaging OthersIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry addresses the challenges of letting go of control over other people's time, judgments, criticisms, and disappointments. This episode is particularly valuable for individuals who experience narcissistic tendencies and those who have loved ones with these traits.
Dr. Perry emphasizes the importance of recognizing and addressing the need to control as a step toward healthier relationships. He encourages listeners to reflect on whether they have been told they are controlling and to consider the impact this has on their relationships.
Key Points Covered:
Understanding...
2020-05-0704 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismDo Something Nice for SomeoneIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry focuses on the importance of doing nice things for loved ones, especially for those who struggle with narcissistic tendencies. Dr. Perry encourages listeners to be more mindful and intentional in their relationships by making thoughtful gestures, even if empathy doesn’t come naturally.
Individuals with narcissistic tendencies often forget to do nice things for others due to a lack of empathy. Empathy is about understanding and sharing the feelings of another person, while sympathy involves putting oneself in another's shoes with their circumstances. Dr. Perry highlights th...
2020-05-0504 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismHow We Become NarcissisticIn this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry explores the origins of narcissistic tendencies and behaviors, explaining how they develop as defense mechanisms during childhood. Dr. Perry emphasizes that understanding these origins is crucial for healing and personal growth.
Narcissism often stems from early childhood experiences where children do not feel safe or their self-worth is contingent upon their behavior. This leads to the development of defense mechanisms to protect themselves and control their environment. These behaviors, which include shaping perceptions and seeking admiration, become ingrained as part of their identity.
Key...
2020-05-0304 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismYes, you CAN change!In this episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, Dr. Eric Perry addresses the common belief that individuals with narcissistic tendencies cannot change. He emphasizes that while it is challenging, change is possible for those who are willing to look at themselves and make the effort. Dr. Perry's message is one of hope and encouragement for anyone who recognizes their narcissistic traits and is committed to making positive changes.
Dr. Perry explains that people with narcissistic tendencies may not experience emotions like empathy or sadness in the same way others do. However, this doesn't mean there is something...
2020-05-0305 min
Recovery FOR the Narcissist | NarcissismOwn Your StuffThe first episode of Recovery for the Narcissist, hosted by Dr. Eric Perry, introduces a podcast dedicated to individuals with narcissistic tendencies who are seeking positive change. Dr. Perry aims to create a supportive space for self-reflection and growth.
In this first episode, Dr. Perry outlines the vision and purpose of the podcast. While many resources exist for victims of narcissistic abuse, this podcast is uniquely tailored for those who identify with having narcissistic traits and wish to explore their potential for change.
Key points covered include:
The silent nature of narcissistic abuse and...
2020-05-0205 min