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Rebuilding Trust With Your Body#181: What No One Tells You About the Grief of Leaving Dieting BehindLet’s talk about the hardest part of quitting dieting, the part no one prepares you for: Grief. You’re not just giving up food rules…you're letting go of a lifetime of chasing thinness, control, and the hope that “someday” your body would finally be enough. In this episode, I’m naming the grief that often comes with intuitive eating, and helping you understand why it shows up, what it really means, and how to move through it gently. When you let go of dieting, you’re not just givin...2025-04-2229 minRebuilding Trust With Your Body#119: Grieving the Things You've Lost to Diet Culture With Erin KinzelDid you know that the frustration you feel about your eating and your weight is probably related to GRIEF? You might be scratching your head, but after you listen to this episode you’re going to be nodding your head in total agreement. There’s a lot to grieve when it comes to letting go of dieting - the time you lost to futile efforts that didn’t result in lasting weight loss, the money you spent on diets and shakes that didn’t make you permanently skinny, the social situations you skippe...2024-03-0558 min
Personal Growth SucksS2 Ep10: Curing Procrastination - Loving the Procrastinators in Your LifeHi friends, welcome to the final episode of Season 2, which is all about “curing” procrastination. On this episode, I talk about some ways to love the procrastinators in your life and some tools for dealing with the frustrations that come when their procrastination affects you.
Personal growth takes a lot of courage and it is really helpful to have a dedicated guide who can walk with you on your journey. Working with a life coach is one of the best investments I’ve made in myself, and if you’re ready to explore the idea of working with a c...2023-01-191h 00Personal Growth SucksS2 Ep9: Curing Procrastination - Dealing with Guilt and RegretHi friends, welcome to Episode 9 of Season 2, which is all about “curing” procrastination. On this episode, I talk about guilt and regret, including the ways they can cause problems related to procrastination and practical steps you can take to move beyond them.
Personal growth takes a lot of courage and it is really helpful to have a dedicated guide who can walk with you on your journey. Working with a life coach is one of the best investments I’ve made in myself, and if you’re ready to explore the idea of working with a coach, I’d love...2022-12-2248 minPersonal Growth SucksS2 Ep8: Curing Procrastination - Making Peace with Your Actual SelfHi friends, welcome to Episode 8 of Season 2, which is all about “curing” procrastination. On this episode, I explore the idea of making peace with your actual self, instead of trying to be your ideal self. I talk about accepting the parts of you that are unlikely to change (personality, the way your brain works, etc.) as well as accepting the fact that things that can change (learning new skills, maturing, increasing awareness, etc.), will take time. A mantra that helps me get in touch with acceptance for my actual self is, “I can’t be more today than I am today...2022-12-0851 minPersonal Growth SucksS2 Ep7: Curing Procrastination - You Can’t Do it AllHello! Welcome to Episode 7 of Season 2, which is all about “curing” procrastination. Today I’m talking about how we all have limitations and a finite ability to get things done. Accepting this reality has been part of my journey to create a healthier “ecosystem” where procrastination isn’t as much of an issue for me. Judging myself as a procrastinator doesn't always have to do with actual procrastination - sometimes it’s about having unrealistic expectations.
And, surprisingly, as I prepared to record this episode, I realized that sometimes I’d rather label myself as a procrastinator than to do the g...2022-11-2443 minPersonal Growth SucksS2 Ep6: Curing Procrastination - Managing Other People's EmotionsHello! Welcome to Episode 6 of Season 2, which is all about “curing” procrastination. On this episode, I talk about trying to manage the emotions of other people and how that can cause me to procrastinate on tasks. I also talk about boundaries and revisit the concept of bringing definition to relationships and circumstances. All of these things aren’t typically talked about in connection to procrastination, but as I have worked to create healthier habits in these areas I’ve noticed a big difference in my mindset about my “to do” list.
A reminder, I announced on the last episode...2022-11-1058 minPersonal Growth SucksS2 Ep5: Curing Procrastination - Decision MakingHi friends, welcome to Episode 5 of Season 2, which is all about “curing” procrastination. On this episode, I talk about decision making and the ways it can cause problems related to procrastination. Some of the things I cover are:
Bringing definition to my circumstances
Why grief has been important in learning how to make decisions
The ways decision making feels vulnerable
How perfectionism and accountability can make me freeze
Why it’s important to know what I’m saying “yes” to
I also announced that I’ll be launching a course/book study in January 2023. If you want to be the firs...2022-10-2756 minPersonal Growth SucksS2 Ep4: Curing Procrastination - Can Procrastination Be Good?Hi friends, welcome to Episode 4 of Season 2, which is all about “curing” procrastination. On this episode, I dive into some ways that procrastination can actually serve a purpose. I also talk about my realization that I was incorrectly labeling delayed tasks as procrastination - when I am delaying them for a reason, on purpose, it isn’t procrastination. Being able to let go of that judgy label allows me to let go of unnecessary “mental sludge” and have more energy for completing the task when it’s time to do it.
Personal growth takes a lot of courage and...2022-10-1350 minPersonal Growth SucksS2 Ep3: Curing Procrastination - Anxiety AvoidanceHi friends, welcome to Episode 3 of Season 2, which is all about “curing” procrastination. On this episode, I explore why so much of the root issue with procrastination has to do with our emotions. Especially the difficult emotions of anger, sadness and fear. We’ll look at why these emotions aren’t negative - they actually serve a purpose for us! I’ll share what role they play and how we can become curious about them instead of treating them as a problem that needs to be fixed.
Personal growth takes a lot of courage and it is really hel...2022-09-2953 minPersonal Growth SucksS2 Ep2: Curing Procrastination - Internal vs. External MotivationHi friends, welcome to Episode 2 of Season 2, which is all about “curing” procrastination. On this episode, I continue my thoughts on why the goal should be about creating a healthy ecosystem instead of trying to focus on eliminating procrastination from your life. And I talk about internal motivation vs. external motivation - why the distinction was an important discovery for me, how it has made me aware of unnecessary rules I’m living by, and why it’s important to understand as we navigate relationships with others.
Personal growth takes a lot of courage and it is really h...2022-09-151h 00Personal Growth SucksS2Ep1 - Curing Procrastination: Why It’s Not About Being More ProductiveWelcome to the second season of Personal Growth Sucks!
This season will be all about procrastination. I’ll be diving into the root issues and talking about the things that made a difference for me in my own journey with procrastination. On this episode, I talk about an important mindset shift that can help you reframe the times in your life where you label yourself as a procrastinator, but maybe it’s not actually about procrastination.
Don’t forget that I’m now offering one-on-one coaching! Working with a coach is the best investment I’ve made in...2022-09-0136 minPersonal Growth SucksS1 Ep8 - Season One Wrap UpHello! Welcome to episode eight - the final episode - in season one of the Personal Growth Sucks podcast. We’ve spent the past seven episodes talking about how to get the right fuel for life from our relationships. I’m passionate about this because I was 40 years old before I knew some of these concepts. I spent my life feeling like relationships took something from me and were things I was obligated to do, instead of them being life-giving and understanding how they are meant to help me.
I hope the past seven discussions have given you...2022-08-1859 minPersonal Growth SucksS1 Ep7: Developing Relationships that Give You the Best Fuel for LifeHi everyone! Welcome to episode seven in season one of the Personal Growth Sucks podcast, all about how we are designed to get our fuel for life from relationships. No matter where you are today - whether you are feeling on top of the world or if you are struggling, I hope today’s episode will encourage you in your journey.
On this episode, I’m excited to welcome Madeline Spring as my guest. She is co-director of my Townsend Leadership Group and the personal coach for my husband, Mike. She joins me for a conversation about how...2022-08-0448 minPersonal Growth SucksS1 Ep6: How to Get Started with Practicing Relational Nutrients in Real LifeHi friends! Welcome to episode six in season one of the podcast, which is all about relational nutrients. For an explanation of what relational nutrients are and why they are important, you’ll want to check out episode one where my friend Jen and I gave an overview of the topic.
On this episode, my own personal coach, Lisa Gomez Osborn, joins me for a conversation about how to get started with practicing relational nutrients in real life. Lisa is a leadership consultant and executive coach who provides one-on-one coaching and works with businesses and organizations who ar...2022-07-2138 min
Personal Growth SucksS1 Ep5 - Introducing Relational Nutrients in Existing RelationshipsHi friends! Welcome to episode five in season one of the podcast, which is all about relational nutrients. For an explanation of what relational nutrients are and why they are important, you’ll want to check out episode one where my friend Jen and I gave an overview of the topic.
In this episode, my husband Mike and I talk about what it was like when I introduced the concept of relational nutrients in our relationship. At times it’s been really messy to incorporate this into our marriage, but it’s been worth it! Mike shares his ex...2022-07-0752 min
Personal Growth SucksS1 Ep4 - Eight-step framework for getting your relational needs metHi friends! Welcome to episode four in season one of the podcast, which is all about relational nutrients. For an explanation of what relational nutrients are and why they are important, you’ll want to check out episode one where my friend Jen and I gave an overview of the topic.
In this episode, I go solo because my week hasn’t gone as planned. (Gotta love these real-life opportunities for personal growth!) I was hoping to have an episode with my husband, Mike, but instead I pivot and respond to listener feedback. I also go through an e...2022-06-2344 minPersonal Growth SucksS1 Ep3 - Giving and Receiving Relational NutrientsHi friends! Welcome to episode three in season one of the podcast, which is all about relational nutrients. For an explanation of what relational nutrients are and why they are important, you’ll want to check out episode one where my friend Jen and I gave an overview of the topic.
In this episode, my friend Mark and I talk about what it sounds like to give and receive relational nutrients. This includes some personal, real life examples of how we have asked for our needs to be met, how we’ve had to practice taking in the...2022-06-091h 01Personal Growth SucksS1 Ep2.2 - Real Time Growth - My Instagram ProblemI'm experimenting with creating shorter "Real Time Growth" episodes, where I take 15-20 minutes to share personal growth moments that I'm walking through right now.
Today is all about why I am stuck on my Instagram account, how I've allowed my "pocket jury" to have too much power, and how I'm moving forward with the help of some relational nutrients.
Speaking of Instagram... you can follow me there, @PersonalGrowthSucks.
Also, in this episode I mention the book "Soundtracks" by Jon Acuff, I highly recommend it if you have your own pocket jury that y...2022-06-0719 minPersonal Growth SucksS1 Ep 2 - The Feeling WheelHi friends! Welcome to episode two in season one of the podcast, and this season is all about relational nutrients. For an explanation of what relational nutrients are and why they are important, you’ll want to check out episode one where my friend Jen and I gave an overview of the topic.
On this current episode, I’m excited for my friend Bill to join me to talk about:
Why I’m not responsible for anticipating the needs of other people
How to get the right kind of relational nutrients so we have fuel to solve...2022-05-261h 00Personal Growth SucksS1 Ep 2.1 - Extra episode about things being hard and heavy in the world right nowI decided to record a quick extra episode tonight about how I'm moving through this really difficult and sad time. It's okay to pause, feel the grief, and reach out for relational nutrients to help us navigate a heavy time. 2022-05-2610 min
Personal Growth SucksS1 Ep 1 - Introduction to Relational NutrientsWelcome to the first episode of season 1, which is all about relational nutrients. My friend Jen joins me to introduce the concept of relational nutrients - what are they, how do they fit into the overall growth model, what makes them difficult, and what makes them amazing.
Here are links to some resources* that I mention in the podcast, or maybe I didn't mention them but they could be helpful to you if you want to go deeper and learn more:
Townsend Leadership Program
Blog post from Dr. Townsend that goes in depth ab...2022-05-1258 min
Personal Growth SucksIntroduction to Personal Growth SucksHi, my name is Erin Kinzel, and I can't stop pursuing personal growth. It has increased my capacity in nearly every area of life - career, relationships, health, overall life satisfaction, etc. But the process sucks. As my very wise therapist, Mandy, says, personal growth is uncomfortable, scary, and awkward.
On this introductory episode of Personal Growth Sucks, you'll learn more about me, why I'm starting this podcast, why my brain and emotions are telling me it's the worst idea ever to start a podcast, and what you can expect from future episodes. My friend Becca joins me...2022-05-1259 min