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Soul and Substance with Fikayo KayChanges - maddening, saddening, whelming & exciting.It's been a very interesting 5-6 months in my life. My experiences have been maddening, saddening, whelming and exciting all at the same time. đŚI've made some major changes in life, and I finally have enough brain space to articulate and share that with you. Listen to what I've been up to, life lessons I'm learning, and some new S&S community endeavours. đ¸S&S Substackâ â S&S Instagramâ
2025-12-0737 minSoul and Substance with Fikayo KayLiving & Eating with Your Body in Mind with Emily LawrenceFikayo discusses what it truly means to eat with your body in mind with Emily Lawrence a "wholesome hedonist making recipes & documenting home baking, making & gardening."These two creatives both have lived experience with diet culture, passion and love for cooking and baking, and living with chronic pain - all things which intersect in more ways than youâd initially imagine.How do we really fuel our bodies and achieve a balance that works for us, is sustainable and accessible especially as woman?Listen to learn and join the conversation!đ¸...
2025-05-2450 minSoul and Substance with Fikayo Kayn u r t u r e .If I could come up with a personal theme for myself this mental health awareness month, it would be the word "nurture". Nurturing needs, goals, eating habits, emotions, belief systems, and discipline when needed. What's your theme? đŚ...We have a Substack! Immerse yourself â hereâ â Instagramâ My CBC Piece "â Bloomâ " mentioned in the episode.
2025-05-0713 minSoul and Substance with Fikayo KayMusings: on age, unpopular opinions, duck nails and benefits beyond sexual intimacy in relationships.This is a chit-chatty episode where I answer some questions you sent to me and discuss my unpopular opinions, thoughts on age, why I hate duck nails, and the need for women to see themselves as providing benefits beyond sex in relationships. I end this episode with encouraging you to find ways you can self-preserve and reframe seeing that practice as "necessarily selfish."Enjoy! đ¸We have a Substack! Immerse yourself â hereâ â Instagramâ My CBC Piece "â Bloomâ " mentioned in the episode
2025-04-2834 minSoul and Substance with Fikayo KayBlack Women Can Break; reflections on misogynoir (the photovoice project)Black women can indeed break and fragility/delicateness should not have to be a luxury to us. From dating to health outcomes, learn how colonialism plays a crucial role in the pedestalling of white women and the sometimes damaging rhetoric of the "strong Black woman".Amidst all of this, we reclaim softness as Black women.Thank you to the PhotoVoice Project for this opportunity to ponder.Soul and Substance InstgramSubstack
2025-03-1518 minSoul and Substance with Fikayo KayHaving Your Own Back- Trust and Confidence in Your Spiritual, Career and Personal Life with Coach Yanick SĂŠĂŻdeIn this episode, Coach Yanick SĂŠĂŻde and Fikayo chat about how to build confidence and trust in different areas of one's life amidst stressors, lack of representation, and other life obstacles.Coach SĂŠĂŻde shares some practical advice on how to show up for yourself and how that translates in your career journey, development of your values, and overall understanding of life. â¨Yanick  SĂŠĂŻde, Founder and CEO of Chrysalis Women Empowerment, is a life and career coach , an international keynote speaker, a mentor, a best-selling author and host of The Mid-Life Purpose S...
2025-03-0458 min
Soul and Substance with Fikayo Kayto my lovers: remain as you are.its Valentine's day. Who are you today amidst a culture that's afraid of/to love?Join me as I read a short passage from bell hook's book, all about love and expand on it from the perspective of a woman though sometimes hesitant, ultimately unafraid to love.â¤ď¸đŚCheck us out at our â â websiteâ â or on our â â Instagramâ Substack
2025-02-1420 minSoul and Substance with Fikayo KayLeave Fear Alone.There is so much talk about manifesting the person you want to be and the life you want, but how do you actually do that? Listen to learn how to operate from a place of faith and hope as opposed to fear and insecurity and what this seemingly small mindset shift can do for you. đ¸Soul and Substance InstagramNEW! Substack - ThingsURead
2025-01-2832 minSoul and Substance with Fikayo Kay1/1/25. Fancy You There.Happy New Year!đĽOr Fancy You There.Listen to find out the story behind that phrase and why even if some things didn't go your way in 2024, you should operate from a place of hope and faith, not fear and insecurity in 2025. đ¤đŚđCheck us out at our â websiteâ or on our â InstagramNote- The closest definition to what I was looking for would be an "oronym".
2025-01-0115 minSoul and Substance with Fikayo Kaystream of consciousness - blue days.It's officially winter season and some of us are sad. Or experiencing SAD symptoms. Fikayo delves into practical ways to improve your mood, navigating unintended self-isolation and mentions health supplements that have been coming to the rescue.
Disclaimer - Please see your doctor/do your research before taking any of the suggested supplements. đ
HAPPY HOLIDAYS! â¤ď¸đ¸đ
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2024-12-2031 minSoul and Substance with Fikayo Kay07 - De-identifying with Social Media Expectations and âGenresâ of Femininity with Alyssa PhilipWhat does it really mean to show up as oneself on social media? Is it possible to live outside of these parasocial expectations? In this episode, fellow creative and my good friend Alyssa and I explore what it means to foster a friendship outside of social media as well as the different "genres" of femininity we have been exposed to growing up as girls and now women.
A much relatable and heartwarming conversation!
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2024-11-1559 minSoul and Substance with Fikayo Kay06 - Control Your Narrative. Or Don't?Controlling our life's narrative shouldnât be this hard...except when it is. An exploratory episode where I talk about the feelings that come with getting older and I end with a question.
What narratives are currently present in your life that keep you overly focused on what has happened TO you and the things you havenât done, while hindering you from appreciating the things that have happened FOR you and the things you have done?
Also, we have new socials! Find us here -
Instagram - @soul.film.s an...
2024-10-2623 minSoul and Substance with Fikayo Kaystream of consciousness - romance isn't just for lovers.New stream-of-consciousness episodes where I talk as my soul inspires me to. Today, we are guided by the topic of friendships, how we ought to feel in fulfilling friendships, and what romance in platonic relationships can look like.
Inspirations - my thoughts and experiences. A book by Rhaina Cohen titled The Other Significant Others which was discussed in Trevor Noah's Podcast.
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2024-09-0126 minSoul and Substance with Fikayo Kay04 - Maybe it's Time to Quit? Learning to Let Go and Allowing the Unknown.Quitting a job sounds like a ridiculous thing to do in this economy?! But when your health and sense of fulfillment are in question, you might need to take the risk. Listen to hear the lessons I learned: quitting a 9-5, figuring out how to make a living, and learning to rest.
Subsance Filled Task - Take stock of commitments in your life - your job, places you go, your hobbies, what you spend your time thinking about. What really fills you up and what does fulfillment mean to you? What do you need to let go...
2024-08-1639 minSoul and Substance with Fikayo Kay03 - Money Talks: Financial Anxiety, Emotional Spending and Budgeting in your 20's with Sasha Paul, CPA.Get your notepads because this episode is packed with useful tips!
Sasha Paul, CPA graced us by sharing her lived and career experience on the idea and reality of money, spending, and budgeting. She and the host Fikayo, have been forming a friendship and professional relationship for around a year now, and having her on the show was a full-circle moment
Some people spend emotionally as a means of control, some do from a place of trauma, and sometimes, emotional spending is not always a negative thing to do.
Substance-Filled Question - How...
2024-07-261h 02Soul and Substance with Fikayo Kay02 - Shy Girl? Mysterious Girl? Or Self-Sabotage?This episode is dear to me because not only do I have experience with the "shy/mysterious girl" idea setting me back, but so many other women do too.
What/who is a mysterious girl? Is it necessarily bad to maintain some level of mystery? I explore what this means, how it can be a destructive tool, a tool of the patriarchy, and why we need to stop placing so much value on social media ideas.
Today's substance-filled question -
"Are you maintaining mystery? Or are you stifling your creative?"
2024-07-1128 minSoul and Substance with Fikayo Kay01 - A New Era. An Intentional Era.The Soul & Substance Podcast!
We needed a change from "OkayThoughts" so a rebrand was the way to go đ I am so excited and honored to share this new era of intention and creativity with you all.
This episode explores the difficulty but importance of my podcast rebrand and what to expect from Soul & Substance going forward. Listen and share! â¤ď¸
This week's Substance-Filled Quote:
"Donât let perfection ruin your creativity, and donât let the pressure to produce ruin your process. You are an artist- you must bask in what it means to cr...
2024-06-2720 minSoul and Substance with Fikayo KayThe Thin Line Between Reflecting and Overthinking/Unproductive DwellingReflection can be a tool for learning and growth, but we often find ourselves thinking too far and dwelling unproductively on situations.
What are some signs that you've stopped reflecting and started overthinking? Negative self-talk is one of them. Listen to find out more about how to bring yourself back to productive reflection.
Hopefully, you can take insight from this episode and use it when you listen to the next OkayThoughts Reflection Session!
2024-02-1615 minSoul and Substance with Fikayo KayA Joy Per Day - Microjoys and Glimmers as Tools for a Sound Mind.Tried identifying a joy per day?
Microjoys and glimmers have the power to improve your mood, nurture your mind, and keep you in your gratitude bag.
Listen to learn about why you should, and how you can incorporate more microjoys into your day. Really, into your life.
Source.
2024-01-2019 minSoul and Substance with Fikayo KayThe Erotic as Power - A Conversation Between Values, Intuition and Our Daily Lives.In her essay, Uses of the Erotic - The Erotic As Power, Audre Lorde describes the erotic as "a resource within each of us that lies in a deeply female and spiritual plane, firmly rooted in the power of our unexpressed or unrecognized feeling."
This episode explores that concept and I explain the erotic as a conversation between our intuition, values, and our daily lives. Do these reflect one another? Is there a disconnect? If so, how do we reconnect and get to a place where we are living our fullest, most capable lives?
As...
2024-01-0116 minSoul and Substance with Fikayo KayReflection Session - What Feeling Do You Want To Feel More Of?What sets your soul on fire? What do you wanna feel more of? Life does not give us enough time to ponder these questions without prompt. So hereâs your prompt with some guides on how to find answers to these questions and feed your soul with some actions.
2023-11-2016 minSoul and Substance with Fikayo KayCurating Fitness for YOU - Navigating Chronic Illness, Social Media and Body Image.Hereâs a question for you to ponder this week - do the things that you do for fitness align with your values for yourself?
2023-10-3143 minSoul and Substance with Fikayo KaySharing Thoughts - with Creative and Confident âAshaâ.Coming of age(s). That is the central topic of this episode where Asha and I recount how we met and became roommates, and how our relationship has blossomed as we have experienced each other grow and change positively over the past year. Grab a pen and a notepad because this episode is full of wisdom!
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Blackout PodcastFikayo Kayode - Writer/Podcaster/Spoken Word ArtistFikayo Kayode (she/her) is a 21-year-old creative artist from Nigeria. After spending a couple of years in the Philippines, she moved to Canada in 2018 for her undergraduate degree and graduated with a BA in Political Science from Acadia University.She enjoys reading anything from realistic fiction novels to academic pieces on topics like race, womanhood, and current or past politics and started reading at a very young age. Fikayo developed an affinity towards writing at 14 and would start with short stories and poems. She started to put her craft out there in 2020 when she launched her...
2023-09-1850 minSoul and Substance with Fikayo KayReflection Session - Whatâs stopping you? What are you waiting for?In todayâs reflection session, the driving question is âwhatâs stopping you?â Your goals and desires deserve more than to sit in your mind and you deserve to see them come into fruition. So what are you waiting for? Listen and learn about dealing with potential âbarriersâ that may be hindering your fullness.
2023-08-2118 minSoul and Substance with Fikayo KayThis Adulting Thing⌠hard truths and useful tipsWhy did we ever say we wanted to grow up? Being an adult can mean so many things at different points in your life, and navigating that in your 20s is a simultaneously daunting and rewarding experience. Reflect with me as I give some tips and hard truths about adulting. Check out another podcast I make reference to in this episode - ToMySisters Podcast.
2023-07-1839 minSoul and Substance with Fikayo KaySharing Thoughts - with Videographer and Artist, âTayoâ.This episode is beautiful balance of banter and insightful conversation.
First guest on the show, videographer and artist Omotayo Bankole and your host, Fikayo chat about life experiences while home and abroad, creative outlets and inspirations, and living in the city of Halifax. Follow Tayo AKA Mr. BankOnIt @bkntvisuals on Instagram to check out his amazing talents and stay updated on his creative endeavours.
2023-06-1535 minSoul and Substance with Fikayo KayNatureâs Rhythm.Ebbs and flows of nature resemble those in our lives as well. How do we go through natureâs rhythm more confidently? How can gratitude inspire hope?
2023-05-0116 minSoul and Substance with Fikayo KayMust Life Lessons Come Through Pain?Todayâs episode explores the titleâs question and proposes some food for thought for when weâre stuck on the âwhysâ of certain life experiences.
2023-04-1831 min
Soul and Substance with Fikayo KayEpisode 8 - Allow it; New Beginnings and Changes in Life .Its summer. Some of us are done with school, some are back home, new jobs, relationship changes, routines, or lack thereof. What are you giving yourself permission to do this season? Let's be introspective!
2022-06-0317 min
Soul and Substance with Fikayo KayEpisode 7- Learning to Take a BreakAlmost a year ago, I took a while off needing a break, and here I am a year after coming out of another break. What happens when you need multiple breaks? I also talk about some lessons I've learned over this time.
2022-02-2342 min
Soul and Substance with Fikayo KayEpisode 6- Where the F*** Have I Been ??This episode is a very much "stream of consciousness" type one. Raw and unedited. I am talking about the things I've learned/been through in the past few months. It's long and unfiltered so...enjoy!
2021-03-0342 minSoul and Substance with Fikayo KayEpisode 5 - Reassurance Vs. Validation. Should you seek either?After a long hiatus, I am back with another "versus" topic!! Why does society tell us to refrain from seeking validation when sometimes we need reassurance? There is a thin line between these two and on this episode, I unpack that.
2020-11-2616 min
Soul and Substance with Fikayo KayEpisode 5 - Reassurance Vs. Validation. Should you seek either?After a long hiatus, I am back with another "versus" topic!! Why does society tell us to refrain from seeking validation when sometimes we need reassurance? There is a thin line between these two and on this episode, I unpack that.Â
2020-11-2616 minSoul and Substance with Fikayo KayEpisode 4- Not Giving a F*** vs. Caring/Money Matters- saving when it is convenient.In this weirdly put together episode of OkayThoughts, I make a distinction between caring about the characters in your life but not letting them dictate what your life should be. I also discuss money matters- should saving be a comfortable experience? Why should I even save?
2020-09-0800 min
Soul and Substance with Fikayo KayEpisode 4- Not Giving a F*** vs. Caring/Money Matters- saving when it is convenient.In this weirdly put together episode of OkayThoughts, I make a distinction between caring about the characters in your life but not letting them dictate what your life should be. I also discuss money matters- should saving be a comfortable experience? Why should I even save?
2020-09-0829 minSoul and Substance with Fikayo KayEpisode 3 - Relationship Culture/ Changing Personality vs. Habits/ Bettering Someone.On this episode of OkayThoughts, I discuss the romantic relationship culture these days, the difference between personality and habits when it comes to changing for someone and I unpack what it means to be hurt after someone that you bettered, did you wrong.
2020-08-2200 min
Soul and Substance with Fikayo KayEpisode 3 - Relationship Culture/ Changing Personality vs. Habits/ Bettering Someone.On this episode of OkayThoughts, I discuss the romantic relationship culture these days, the difference between personality and habits when it comes to changing for someone and I unpack what it means to be hurt after someone that you bettered, did you wrong.Â
2020-08-2232 minSoul and Substance with Fikayo KayEpisode 2- Self-Love/Body Image, Selective Big-Girl Empowerment, "Preference".On this episode of OkayThoughts, I talk about what it means to truly
go through the process of self-love. Alongside this, I expose some truths about
societyâs double standards when it comes to the empowerment of different bodies
and what the term âpreference should mean when it comes to relationships.
2020-07-2100 min
Soul and Substance with Fikayo KayEpisode 2- Self-Love/Body Image, Selective Big-Girl Empowerment, "Preference".On this episode of OkayThoughts, I talk about what it means to truly
go through the process of self-love. Alongside this, I expose some truths about
societyâs double standards when it comes to the empowerment of different bodies
and what the term âpreference should mean when it comes to relationships.Â
2020-07-2139 minSoul and Substance with Fikayo KayEpisode 1 - Introduction. Piece on Expression.A little get-to-know and an expansion on a piece I wrote called "Expression".
2020-07-0900 min
Soul and Substance with Fikayo KayEpisode 1 - Introduction. Piece on Expression.A little get-to-know and an expansion on a piece I wrote called "Expression".
2020-07-0811 min