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Finlos LivesFinlos Lives - Sharing ChismeIn this episode, I explore the radical tension between the "Stone", the rigid, official record used by institutions to exert control, and the "Echo," the subterranean flow of chisme that serves as a vital counter-archive for the marginalized. Moving from the forensic, de-mythologizing political photography of the Trump cabinet to the tactical social media survival databases used by communities to evade ICE raids, revealing how gossip functions as a decentralized form of accountability in low-reliability environments. By reclaiming the root of gossip as "god-sibb" or intimate witness, I argue that sharing chisme is a fundamental act of abolitionist praxis...
2025-12-2417 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Lives - Grooves of ConnectionIn this episode of Finlos Lives, I look at what happens when someone important isn’t there—how absence alters routine, attention, and the body’s internal rhythm. Using the image of a vinyl record, I explore how relationships leave physical and emotional grooves that keep guiding us even after contact stops. Through psychology, daily practice, and reflection, I examine how missing someone shapes memory, behavior, and connection, showing that what feels like loss is often the system recalibrating for balance.
2025-10-2637 min
Finlos LivesGrowing in Real-Time - RwtH 017 - 07.14.2025Recorded 07.14.2025In this episode of Rowing with the Homies, I dive into the nuanced and often challenging journey of "growing up" – a process far deeper than just accumulating years. I explore what it means to be a balanced adult: someone who embraces life's complexities, engages in difficult but crucial conversations, genuinely considers others' needs, receives feedback with grace, and maintains radical honesty, all while holding onto an excitement for continuous exploration. My ongoing, rich conversations with my partner, Eva, serve as a living laboratory for understanding this "uncomfortable grace" in real time. I then extend this idea to...
2025-07-1538 min
Finlos LivesTinkering in the Ebb and Flow - RwtH 016 - 07.10.2025Recorded 07.10.2025In this episode of Rowing with the Homies, I dive into the world of tinkering, exploring it as a form of healthy play—especially through the lens of making music with synthesizers and samplers. This leads to a discussion on why embracing our "inner tinkerer" is crucial for mental well-being and healing in adulthood, offering a powerful tool for stress relief, creativity, and self-expression. Finally, in the "Today Depression Feels Like" segment, I share a personal perspective on understanding depression not as a rigid tug-of-war, but as an ebb and flow, and how tools like play, ex...
2025-07-1126 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Lives - From Concept to CompositionIn this episode of Finlos Lives, I'm diving deep into the creative process, from that initial spark of an idea to the sometimes messy, often surprising reality of bringing it to life. As I navigate the challenges of creating original music with my new synthesizers and sampler, I'm exploring why ideas rarely translate perfectly, the inevitable mistakes and time distortions that pop up, and how imposter syndrome can whisper doubts. I'll share strategies like breaking down overwhelming tasks, embracing imperfection, learning through doing, and finding inspiration in the world around you. Ultimately, this episode is about shifting focus from...
2025-07-0653 min
Finlos LivesThe Vastness Within and Without - RwtH 015 - 07.01.2025Recorded on 07.01.2025In this episode of Rowing with the Homies, I explore the immense scale of the United States, from its diverse natural landscapes and weather patterns to its varied cultures and the inherent challenges of governing such a vast nation. This extensive cross-country journey sparks a deeper reflection on our own internal landscapes, prompting a discussion about embracing the multiplicity within ourselves rather than striving for a singular, unchanging self. Finally, I share a personal reflection on how depression today feels like "the longest hour of the night, just before sunrise," a quiet and enduring struggle...
2025-07-0327 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Lives - Along the Crooked RiverIn this episode I talk about life while being away from home for work: long work days, long walks, and long periods of time alone. I describe what a day working in Cleveland, OH looks like for me, I also describe my experience so far using the five senses.
2025-06-1223 min
Finlos LivesNavigating Turbulent Skies - RwtH 014 - 06.04.2025Recorded on 06.04.2025 In this episode of Rowing with the Homies, I delve into the multifaceted anxieties surrounding upcoming travel, starting with the current stresses of air travel, from evolving security measures like REAL ID to the impact of air traffic control staffing shortages. This leads me to explore the broader discomforts and potential positives of extended time away from home, including disruptions to routine, the awkwardness of new social situations, and the profound opportunities for growth and new experiences. Finally, I share a personal reflection on how depression today feels like the act of letting go of...
2025-06-0529 min
Finlos LivesThe Wonder Imperative - RwtH 013 - 06.02.2025Recorded on 06.02.2025In this episode of Rowing with the Homies, I explore the profound human need for magic and wonder in an increasingly scientific world, drawing inspiration from the recent spectacular displays of the Aurora Borealis. I delve into the scientific explanations for the aurora's southern reach, alongside its rich interpretations across cultures, from dancing ancestors to omens of fear. This leads to a discussion on how natural beauty acts as vital spiritual fuel, allowing us to connect with something larger than ourselves and find moments of awe. Finally, I share a personal reflection on how depression...
2025-06-0329 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Lives - There is No Going BackIn this episode Finlos Lives I'm diving into why some of life's changes, especially those tied to decisions we've made, are truly permanent. We often find ourselves dwelling on regrets, replaying "what ifs" and "if onlys," wishing for a "redo" button on past choices. This longing for a different outcome, whether it's a career path not taken or words we wish we could unsay, can leave us stuck in the past. I'll explore why we struggle to accept the consequences of our actions and why the idea of a "time machine" is so appealing when we're trying to avoid...
2025-05-2731 min
Finlos LivesAge, Leadership, and the Taboo of Growing Old - RwtH 012 - 05.19.2025Recorded on 05.19.2025In this episode of Rowing with the Homies, I tackle the complex interplay of leadership, age, and personal well-being. I open by examining the recent news concerning President Biden's health, and the broader discussion it ignites about the age and fitness of global leaders like Donald Trump. This leads me to explore how different cultures, from the epic of Beowulf to African and Indigenous cultures perceive and define leadership across various life stages. I then pivot to delving into the uncomfortable truth of how Western society, particularly American culture, views aging – often as a taboo to...
2025-05-2037 min
Finlos LivesFrom Galactic Rebellion to Personal Reflections - RwtH 011 - 05.15.2025Recorded on 05.15.2025In this episode of Rowing with the Homies, we navigate various currents – from galactic rebellion to personal solace. I begin by diving deep into the profound resonance of Andor Season 2, exploring why this grounded Star Wars series stands out for its exceptional writing, powerful performances, and its stark, relevant portrayal of authoritarianism and the messy birth of resistance, offering a powerful lens for examining our own world. This discussion leads me to ponder the comfort we find in the familiar, analyzing the psychological science behind re-watching favorite media, discussing cognitive fluency, nostalgia, and emotional regulation, wh...
2025-05-1732 min
Finlos LivesPower, Accountability, Autonomy - RwtH 010 - 05.12.2015Recorded on 5.12.2025.In this episode of Rowing with the Homies, I grapple with the multifaceted nature of power, accountability, and personal control. I begin by examining the reach of presidential power, specifically through the lens of executive orders, analyzing their definition, historical usage trends, and the potential implications for the balance of power when combined with discussions around presidential immunity. Shifting focus, I explore the dynamics of delegation in our representative democracy and personal lives, highlighting the paradox of how accountability for failure is often pushed downwards while credit for success is pulled upwards, and considering why...
2025-05-1527 min
Finlos LivesNavigating Friction, Building Trust - RwtH 009 - 05.09.2025Recorded on 5.9.2025.In this episode, I explore the pervasive theme of internal friction and its profound impact on trust, drawing connections across different scales. I begin by observing the significant internal conflict within the U.S. government that has been unfolding specifically since President Trump's most recent inauguration in January 2025, discussing examples of clashes between branches, agencies, and levels of government and the fundamental questions they raise about stability and trust. Shifting gears, I examine the nature of conflict in our personal relationships, contrasting healthy disagreements that can build connection with destructive patterns that erode trust. Finally...
2025-05-1135 min
Finlos LivesBeyond the Image: Power and Persona - RwtH 008 - 05.06.2025Recorded 05.06.2025.On this episode of Rowing with the Homies, I can't shake the image of an AI-generated Pope Trump – it got me thinking about power, influence, and how we see ourselves. Join me as I explore the cultural impact of such grandiose imagery before diving into the dynamics of personality cults, looking at their appeal and potential pitfalls, even drawing lessons from Dune. Then, I'll connect these external forces to the internal experience of depression, examining how a diminished sense of self can make us vulnerable and underscoring why self-awareness and seeking help are so vital.
2025-05-1035 min
Finlos LivesExploring Consciousness - RwtH 007 - 05.02.2025Recorded on 5.2.2025.In this episode I engage in exploration of consciousness, that subjective inner awareness that defines our experience. I dive into the leading scientific theories, Integrated Information Theory and Global Neuronal Workspace Theory, and discuss how new research and phenomena like lucid dreaming are complicating our understanding. I also consider how sleep profoundly impacts our conscious state. Shifting gears, I examine the potential for diverse conscious experiences in neurodivergent individuals and the significant alterations trauma can inflict on our internal world. Finally, I ponder the implications of our understanding of human consciousness as we witness the...
2025-05-0537 min
Finlos LivesMoving Through Resistance: The Impossible Start - RwtH 006 - 04.28.2025Recorded on 4.28.2025.In this episode I dive into the often-challenging journey of starting and maintaining an exercise routine while navigating the complexities of mental well-being. I begin by unpacking the common hurdles that prevent many of us from embracing regular physical activity. From the ever-present crunch of time and the weight of psychosocial barriers like motivation and self-doubt, to the real-world limitations of socioeconomic factors and environmental access, we'll explore why good intentions often fall by the wayside. I'll also share a personal reflection on how creating this podcast has become a surprising yet powerful tool for...
2025-05-0128 min
Finlos LivesOpting Out: Parental Rights and School Inclusion - RwtH 005 - 04.22.2025Recorded on April 22, 2025.In this episode, I grapple with the Supreme Court case Mahmoud v. Taylor out of Maryland. This case, concerning parents wanting to opt their elementary schoolers out of lessons involving storybooks on gender identity and sexual orientation, has been been on my mind.I explored the central tension between what some parents see as potential indoctrination and the school board's goal of creating an inclusive curriculum. I also considered how this situation highlights the delicate balance between local educational control and the idea of a more unified national standard. For me, it...
2025-04-2426 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Lives - The Podcast Void and Finding ConnectionIn this episode I discuss how podcast (and other types of media) consumption is often used as a way to replace or mimic meaningful connection and relationships. The intent is not to diminish the value of podcasts (that wouldn't be very productive), but rather to consider how people, especially men/people AMAB can challenge their own consumptive patterns or extractive patters and build meaningful relationships.
2025-04-2246 min
Finlos LivesRowing with the Homies - 004 - 04.20.2025This series is focused on combining a healthy exercise routine with conversation about current events, big ideas, and mental health. In this episode I discuss recent research into misaligned circadian rhythms and sleep schedules and how productivity dominates so much of our time. These intersecting ideas have the consequence of making already problematic issues of low energy, negative feelings, and ultimately depression even worse, while exacerbating other conditions like PTSD and dietary issues. The episode wraps by exploring how these realities can combine to make me feel like a sleepwalker in my own life. Recorded 04.20.2025
2025-04-2127 min
Finlos LivesRowing with the Homies - 003 - 04.10.2025The struggle with the rowing machine continues, so this episode will feature a walk rather than a rowing session. But, to be honest, the day was so nice I didn't even mind. In this episode I fust look upward to the moon before looking inward and considering our relationship orbits. It's a change of pace from the politics of the prior episodes, but I think it's fun to change things up. You should be able to hear the evening birds in the background as I walk, which is an added bonus (at least for me).
2025-04-1236 min
Finlos LivesRowing with the Homies - 002 - 04.06.2025This series is focused on combining a healthy exercise routine with thoughts and discussion about current events, big ideas, and mental health. In this episode I connect the recent nationwide "Hands Off" protests with the human need for connection. I wrap up with a discussion of what I call the "shields up" effect, essentially a barrier to connection that is exacerbated by my dysthymia. I also contend with some equipment issues, but persevere nonetheless. Recorded 04.06.2025
2025-04-0733 min
Finlos LivesRowing with the Homies - 001 - 04.02.2025A new series focused on combining a healthy exercise routine with thoughts and discussion about current events, big ideas, and mental health. In this first episode I connect the recent marathon speech by Senator Cory Booker to the challenge of observing measurable change as a result of our direct actions. I wrap up with a discussion of the impact of dysthymia.Recorded 04.02.2025
2025-04-0429 min
Finlos LivesWe're Still HereIt's been nearly six months since the last episode and many things have changed since then. But there's still more work to do, and we're still here to do it.
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2025-02-2809 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Lives: My SelfIn this episode I examine the sources of my identity and consider how much control I or anyone has over their ability to make changes or take ownership of who they are.
Music by Luke Holizna
https://holizna.com/
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2024-09-0133 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Lives: The Value of RoutineIn this episode I consider how routines can help to organize time but also contribute to a sense of repetition and boredom. I also consider boredom as a symptom of depression in modern life.
Music by Luke Holizna
https://holizna.com/
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2024-07-0917 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Lives - Conscientious Information ConsumptionIn this episode I shift the conversation about media consumption to consider the ways we seek and internalize journalistic information in order to build "factual" stories about the world around us. So much attention gets paid to the word bias, but how often do we consider our own biases or the reality that there is no communication free of bias because our experiences shape the language we use to relate events to one another. Also, I'm pretty sure that I said "I can remember a time..." at some point in this episode, so I guess I have begun my t...
2024-05-2928 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Lives - Ethical Media Consumption Follow-upIn this episode I discuss how we can use our relationships to media and creatives as practice for how to interact in healthy ways with relationships with the people in our daily lives. I address harm doing, apologies, healing, the role of community, and how all these things are part of the accountability process.
Music by Luke Holizna
https://holizna.com/
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2024-04-2527 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Lives - Ethical Media ConsumptionIn this episode I discuss what it means to engage with the media we consume as well as the artists and creators who make that media. What happens when we love the art, but loath the artist? Media, whether its books, music, films, paintings, comics, or any art form becomes interwoven into our lives and identities, until the things we love feel like living parts of our lives. This creates the need for complex conversations about how we balance our desire to have our beloved media in our loves with our need to keep a safe distance from toxic...
2024-04-0539 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Loves: the Five Love Languages - Part 3I’m happy to welcome back Eva as co-host to which she brings her knowledge and experience for this series about the five love languages. Whether on social media or in pop-culture, it seems as if these 5 methods of giving and receiving love have become a near ubiquitous shorthand for discussing personal tastes in people and determining potential compatibility in relationships. This conversation has been broken into segments. The first segment allowed Eva to present a brief history and context for the five love languages as well as some new and emerging alternatives to that framework. In the second se...
2024-03-0251 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Loves: the Five Love Languages - Part 2I’m happy to welcome back Eva as co-host to which she brings her knowledge and experience for this series about the five love languages. Whether on social media or in pop-culture, it seems as if these 5 methods of giving and receiving love have become a near ubiquitous shorthand for discussing personal tastes in people and determining potential compatibility in relationships. This conversation has been broken into segments. The first segment allowed Eva to present a brief history and context for the five love languages as well as some new and emerging alternatives to that framework. In this segment, Ev...
2024-02-191h 09
Finlos LivesFinlos Loves: the Five Love Languages - Part 1I am happy to welcome back Eva who brings her knowledge and experience as co-host for this series about the five love languages. Whether on social media or in pop-culture, it seems as if these 5 methods of giving and receiving love have become a near-ubiquitous shorthand for discussing personal tastes in people and determining potential compatibility in relationships. This is a long and detailed conversation which will be broken into segments, the first of which gives an overview of the origins of the 5 love languages, as well as some new and emerging models exploring how we express love to...
2024-02-1054 min
Finlos LivesFinlos (re)Lives: HackersIn this episode I discuss a recent re-viewing of a formative film from my youth: Hackers, and consider its relevance to our modern world. Spoilers: there's actually quite a bit.
Music by Luke Holizna: https://holizna.com/
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2024-01-1620 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Lives - New Year, New CycleWelcome to 2024! In this episode I reflect on where I am now by recalling where I was a year ago. I also consider why 2023 was such a challenging year and ponder the future of the podcast.
Music by Luke Holizna: https://holizna.com/
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2024-01-0530 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Lives - 12/18/2023This is a general "quick thoughts" episode discussing recent comments by Hunter Biden, the third trailer for Dune: Part 2, and media and friends.
Music by Luke Holizna - https://holizna.com/
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2023-12-2022 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Lives: Decision ParalysisIn this episode I reaffirm my dedication to the podcast as I discuss the experience of decision paralysis.
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2023-12-0815 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Asks (about music) - with DevonThis is a new series of interviews about people's relationships with music. In this episode we revisit Devon to talk about his time in the hardcore music scene, his recent love for love and new soul, and the universe's vibrations.
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2023-11-1837 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Asks: Ignacio FiallosThis is a special episode of the podcast featuring my father, Ignacio Sr. Eva, Vivienne, and sat down with him recently for this interview, the first of what will hopefully be several covering his whole life. In this episode we talk about his early life in Honduras, moving the Miami in the 1950s, his relationships with his parents, and much more. Support us on Patreon and PayPal!
2023-11-0347 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Lives - My 41st Year in ReviewIn this episode I look back at my 41st year after having recently celebrated my birthday. I discuss areas of growth, areas where growth is needed, and give some thanks to the people who make sure to show me I'm loved.
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2023-10-0744 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Lives - Hurrican Idalia EditionIn this episode I talk about the incoming story and consider how I have been affected by prior storms.
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2023-08-3021 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Love s- Toxic Masculinity - Part 3Eva co-hosts again, this time for a conversation about toxic masculinity. In doing so we try to unpack what that term actually means in a time when gender roles, identities, and expectations are being challenged- or broadened, depending on your perspective. This is a conversation that we hope you’ll hear with an open mind as it requires anyone engaging in these discussions to explore their own personal histories and identities. Toxicity is not a quality that belongs to any specific sex or gender, but instead represents a mindset that motivates behaviors that consciously or unconsciously maintains the status-quo of...
2023-08-1942 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Loves - Toxic Masculinity - Part 2Eva co-hosts again, this time for a conversation about toxic masculinity. In doing so we try to unpack what that term actually means in a time when gender roles, identities, and expectations are being challenged- or broadened, depending on your perspective. This is a conversation that we hope you’ll hear with an open mind as it requires anyone engaging in these discussions to explore their own personal histories and identities. Toxicity is not a quality that belongs to any specific sex or gender, but instead represents a mindset that motivates behaviors that consciously or unconsciously maintains the status-quo of...
2023-08-1657 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Loves - Toxic Masculinity - Part 1Eva co-hosts again, this time for a conversation about toxic masculinity. In doing so we try to unpack what that term actually means in a time when gender roles, identities, and expectations are being challenged- or broadened, depending on your perspective. This is a conversation that we hope you’ll hear with an open mind as it requires anyone engaging in these discussions to explore their own personal histories and identities. Toxicity is not a quality that belongs to any specific sex or gender, but instead represents a mindset that motivates behaviors that consciously or unconsciously maintains the status-quo of...
2023-08-0954 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Lives - Feeling FatIn this episode I explore feeling fat and all the feelings that accompany that loaded idea. Fatness and fat-phobia are intrinsic to American life, and as such I am both the recipient of harm and also guilty of perpetuating intersectionally opressive beauty standards.
Music: "Death" and "Whatever Happens Between" by HoliznaCC0
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2023-07-0634 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Lives - The Art of the F*ck Up Follow-up & Thoughts on Star Trek PicardIn this episode I spend a little time following up on the the Finlos Loves episodes about the art of the f*ck up, discussing how a produced episode about a relationship does not always accurately convey the reality of what a relationship looks like. Also, I give a spoiler-filled review of the series Star Trek Picard.
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2023-06-0928 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Loves - The Art of the F*ck Up - part 2This is the second half of our conversation.
Eva joins me once again, this time for a conversation about making mistakes. Except, in this context it’s less about the mistake itself and more about harm, how we react when we do harm, and how to begin to heal after harm. Everyone makes mistakes and so everyone causes harm at some point. But when denial, shame, fear, insecurity, and anxiety all get into the mix, the fuck up is what is made. The fuck up is both the act and the person, an ouroboros of codependency and gu...
2023-05-0840 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Loves - The Art of the F*ck Up - Part 1Eva joins me once again, this time for a conversation about making mistakes. Except, in this context it’s less about the mistake itself and more about harm, how we react when we do harm, and how to begin to heal after harm. Everyone makes mistakes and so everyone causes harm at some point. But when denial, shame, fear, insecurity, and anxiety all get into the mix, the fuck up is what is made. The fuck up is both the act and the person, an ouroboros of codependency and guilt. In this episode Eva helps to navigate some of th...
2023-05-0553 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Lives - Life and Death and Love and Birth pt 3In this episode I spend time remembering some of the details of that shape my memory of my mother. Title credit to Rebecca Sugar, creator of Steven Universe.
Episode notes
Music by Luke Holizna, https://holizna.com/
Equipment used
Interface: Rode Rodecaster Pro II: https://amzn.to/3mDAZyT
Mic: Earthworks Ethos: https://amzn.to/3GE59ZW
Mic stand: Samson MK-10: https://amzn.to/3m1EWwE
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2023-04-1424 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Lives - Life and Death and Love and Birth pt 2In this episode I spend time remembering some of the details of that shape my memory of my mother. Title credit to Rebecca Sugar, creator of Steven Universe.
Episode notes
Music by Luke Holizna, https://holizna.com/
Equipment used
Interface: Zoom Podtrak P4: https://amzn.to/3Z1nN55
Mic: Oktava MK-101
Mic stand: Samson MK-10: https://amzn.to/3m1EWwE
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2023-03-1236 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Lives - Life and Death and Love and BirthIn this episode I consider 20 years of life without my mother. Title credit to Rebecca Sugar, creator of Steven Universe.
Episode notes
Music by Luke Holizna, https://holizna.com/
Equipment used
Interface: Zoom Podtrak P4: https://amzn.to/3Z1nN55
Mic: Aston Stealth: https://amzn.to/3IRfPWD
Mic stand: Samson MK-10: https://amzn.to/3m1EWwE
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2023-03-0414 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Lives - Healthy AttachmentsIn this episode I work through missing Eva while she's on a trip, and give a quick review of Netflix's Boo, Bitch.
Episode notes
Music by Luke Holizna, https://holizna.com/
Equipment used
Interface: TC Helicon Go Solo: https://amzn.to/3IOzpTq
Mic: Aston Origin (I used the black set): https://amzn.to/41nsuYC, https://amzn.to/3Ew8atZ
Mic stand: Samson MK-10: https://amzn.to/3m1EWwE
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2023-02-2213 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Lives - Welcome to Florida!In this episode I react to recent Florida policies regarding race and gender, and discuss how an old acquaintance was an early teacher of economic disruption. A special thanks to Eva whose conversation informed much of what I discuss.
Episode notes
Music by Luke Holizna, https://holizna.com/
Equipment used
Interface: Lewitt Connect 6: https://amzn.to/3YkOPEb
Mic: Sontronics Corona
Pop filter: sE Electronics - Pro Metal Pop Filter https://amzn.to/3XRWlGL
Mic stand: Elgato Wave Mic Arm (low profile): https://amzn.to/3JYxiNB
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2023-02-0922 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Asks - Hanoch SchmalbachFinlos Asks is a show about how people live and grow amidst impermanence. Interviews feature people who have encountered cultural shifts and life changes and explore how they have endured and flourished in life's constant changes.
My guest for this episode is Hanoch Schmalbach, a friend that I have known since the 9th grade. For as long as I have known him Hanoch has resisted definition or categorization for most aspects of his life. Whether this is by choice or just inherent to his Aquarius nature, I (or he) may never know. What I do know is...
2023-02-0518 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Lives - New Year EnergyIn this episode I discuss how we sometimes set ourselves up for failure with New Year Resolutions. Also, I reply to comments from the "Holiday Magic" episode as well as my review of the Last Ronin. Finally, I give a review of HBO's His Dark Materials.
Episode notes
Relevant Links:
https://www.theatlantic.com/video/index/578959/shaman-santa/
8c1413b6e9759667c4ff73033c1e739dMusic
"Way, Way Out There" by Holizna Radio
Equipment used
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Mic: Austrian Au...
2023-01-1833 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Reads - The Last RoninIn this episode I review the Last Ronin, a graphic novel about the last surviving member of the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles. I also explore my relationship with the Ninja Turtles franchise and its history.
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2023-01-0812 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Lives - Holiday MagicIn this episode I reflect on our parental philosophy and specifically how that informed our approach to holidays, family traditions, and how we help our children to make magic.
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Music
Lo-Fi Hip Hop Mood by Alex Prodictions
And the Wild Water Lapping on the Crag by REW__
Barombi-ma_Mbu by REW__
Equipment used
Interface: TC Helicon Go Solo https://amzn.to/3VIHpIB
Mic: CAD E100S (unavailable) - similar model: https://amzn.to/3XaKZwp
Pop filter: sE Electronics - Pro Metal Pop Filter http...
2023-01-0524 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Asks - Aarum Youn-HeilFinlos Asks is a show about how people live and grow amidst impermanence. Interviews feature people who have encountered cultural shifts and life changes and explore how they have endured and flourished in life's constant changes.
My guest for this episode is Aarum You-Heil, a friend and former student. Aarum belonged to my first Creative Writing class at Lincoln High School in Tallahassee, and is now a Ph.D student at the University of GA. In this episode we discuss how she came to post-graduate studies, the importance of food to maintaining culture, and how the death...
2022-12-1657 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Teaches - Interview with a Florida TeacherThis episode features an interview with a Florida high school teacher who I won't name in order to protect her job. We discuss challenges to her role as educator, mentor, and sponsor of her schools Genders & Sexualities Alliance with the uncertain aftermath of Governor DeSantis' Parental Rights in Education or "Don't Say Gay" bill. I also consider some of the context for the recent anti-progressive policies in Florida and many other states.
Episode Notes:
Recorded in studio with phone-in guest.
Equipment used:
Audio interface: Lewitt Connect 6 https://amzn.to/3UIndG9
Intr...
2022-12-0720 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Lives - One Year InIn this episode I reflect on the first year of the Finlos Lives podcast including what I've learned, the origin of the name, and why I'm even doing this. I also discuss my thoughts on season one of the Disney+ series Star Wars: Andor.
Episode notes
Solo podcast recorded in the studio.
Equipment used
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Mic: Sennheiser Blackfire 541
Pop filter: https://amzn.to/3XRWlGL
Boom: https://amzn.to/3XTyciS
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2022-12-0426 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Asks - Virgil SuárezFinlos Asks is a show about how people live and grow amidst impermanence. Interviews feature people who have encountered cultural shifts and life changes and explore how they have endured and flourished in life's constant changes.
My guest for this episode is Virgil Suárez, a friend, colleague, and Mentor. Virgil was one of my first and definitely most influential writing instructors in the Creative Writing program at Florida State University. In this episode we discuss his family's move from Cuba to the US after Castro's rise to power, using writing to understand our own truths, and t...
2022-11-281h 00
Finlos LivesFinlos Lives - 11/05/2022 - Big D Energy or the Time I Turned 40In this episode I discuss turning 40 and my lifelong anxiety around mortality and aging. In addition, I review the film Prey for the Devil.
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2022-11-0632 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Teaches: Nicholas TroyerThis episode features an interview with Floridian Nicholas Troyer, who recently survived hurricane Ian. He and his family sheltered at home during the storm. In the past they chose to evacuate to the school where they both teach, which also serves as a disaster community storm shelter. Our conversation highlights the often overlooked importance of schools and teachers during times of upheaval.
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2022-10-2325 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Lives - 10/11/2022 - The Quiet QuitIn this episode I discuss the recent phenomenon referred to as the "Quiet Quit" -- described as remote workers doing just enough to get by, or eventually so little they are fired. In addition, I review the Netflix series Locke and Key.
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2022-10-1125 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Asks - Tomi GomoryFinlos Asks is a show about how people live and grow amidst impermanence. Interviews feature people who have encountered cultural shifts and life changes and explore how they have endured and flourished in life's constant changes.
My guest for this episode is Dr. Tomi Gomory, a friend, colleague, and Mentor. Our lives intertwined when he taught my partner Eva in graduate school while I was teaching his daughter in high school. In this episode we discuss his family's move to the US after the Holocaust, the risks of obedience, and finding a through line through his life.
2022-09-291h 02
Finlos LivesFinlos Lives - 9.21.2022 - JugglingThis week I discuss the struggles of how we balance all the things we juggle in our daily lives.
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2022-09-2218 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Lives - 8.10.2022 - The End of SummerThis week I discuss transitioning away from summer and from teaching as well as Amazon Prime's the Wheel of Time.
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2022-08-1013 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Lives - 7.17.2022 - Liminal SummerThis week I discuss liminal spaces, the James Webb Telescope, and Netflix's Archive 81.
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2022-07-1812 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Asks - Alice MotesFinlos Asks is a show about how people live and grow amidst impermanence. Interviews feature people who have encountered cultural shifts and life changes and explore how they have endured and flourished in life's constant changes.
My guest for this episode is Alice Motes, a long-time friend. We discuss growing up in multicultural Miami, the impact of multi-origin parents, and international perspectives on life in America.
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2022-06-3047 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Lives - 6.25.2022This week I discuss long-term relationships, threats to civil democracy, and Star Wars Obi-Wan Kenobi.
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2022-06-2711 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Asks - Bobe McBrideFinlos Asks is a show about how people live and grow amidst impermanence. Interviews feature people who have encountered cultural shifts and life changes and explore how they have endured and flourished in life's constant changes.
My guest for this episode is Bobe McBride, a friend and fellow educator. We discuss growing up in rural southern Georgia, the impact of his parents on who he became as an adult, and how education and teacher training could make changes for the better, especially in a post-covid period.
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2022-06-1751 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Lives - 06.10.2022A brief show to mark the arbitrary count of 20 episodes, as well as a quick review of the first four episodes of Obi-Wan Kenobi.
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2022-06-1206 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Teaches: Banned BooksFinlos Teaches is a show that explores practical classroom experiences, policy matters, the the teaching experience from educators in the field.
In this episode I discuss concerns and potential consequences relating to challenges of books in public schools and libraries. This topic was recently brought to the fore for Adam Tritt, a teacher and elected official in Brevard County, Florida, when his Gofundme project raising money to purchase challenged books was discovered by a local activist group and posted online. On one side, supporters of Moms for Liberty accused Tritt of being a groomer and encouraging inappropriate c...
2022-06-0431 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Asks: Harry NerenbergFinlos Asks is a show about how people live and grow amidst impermanence. Interviews feature people who have encountered cultural shifts and life changes and explore how they have endured and flourished in life's constant changes.
My guest for this episode has impacted many lives throughout his career. Harry Nerenberg has been involved in education since he graduated from college. Whether teaching in an inner-city school in Philadelphia or an alternative school in Miami, or as a guidance counselor to a generation of graduates, harry has never questioned his chosen work. And unlike many who leave education...
2022-05-3051 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Loves - Communication Part 3Finlos Loves is a show about relationships and how they work, or don't work. We offer our honest stories with guidance from professional and personal experience as therapist, teacher, and two decades of being in relationship. This episode focuses on patterns of communication and how those patterns can become barriers. The conversation is broken into several segments, the third of which finishes the the discussion about the Disney film Encanto, the complications when language can serve as a colonizing force, and offering some tools to help strengthen communication.
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2022-05-211h 03
Finlos LivesFinlos Asks - Tom FlaniganFinlos Asks is a show about how people live and grow amidst impermanence. Interviews feature people who have encountered cultural shifts and life changes and explore how they have endured and flourished in life's constant changes.
In this episode I interview Tom Flanigan from Tallahassee's WFSU Public Radio station. We discuss his varying experiences in broadcast radio, the relationship between newscaster and audience, and that time he almost became a rock star.
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2022-05-131h 03
Finlos LivesFinlos Teaches featuring Jen DeRemerFinlos Teaches is a show that explores practical classroom experiences, policy matters, the the teaching experience from educators in the field.
Recent data indicates that teachers are exiting the profession at an alarming rate. Common reasons are burnout, lack of pay, lack of respect, and an expectation that what can be asked of teachers is limitless. In this episode I have a conversation with Jen DeRemer. She is a fifteen-year classroom teacher veteran, and recently made the difficult decision to leave the classroom. Her experience is like so many others as teachers reach their limits.
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2022-05-0645 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Asks: Justin DavidFinlos Asks is a show about how people live and grow amidst impermanence. Interviews feature people who have encountered cultural shifts and life changes and explore how they have endured and flourished in life's constant changes.
In this episode I interview Justin David about his career as an actor, his pursuit of the arts against the wishes of his parents, and his ability to "bullshit just about anything."
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2022-05-0124 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Loves - Communication - Part 2Finlos Loves is a show about relationships and how they work, or don't work. We offer our honest stories with guidance from professional and personal experience as therapist, teacher, and two decades of being in relationship. This episode focuses on patterns of communication and how those patterns can become barriers. The conversation is broken into several segments, the second of which addresses barriers to communication, causing harm, and the connections between communication in relationships and the Disney film Encanto.
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2022-04-271h 03
Finlos LivesFinlos Loves - Communication - Part 1Finlos Loves is a show about relationships and how they work, or don't work. We offer our honest stories with guidance from professional and personal experience as therapist, teacher, and two decades of being in relationship. This episode focuses on patterns of communication and how those patterns can become barriers. The conversation is broken into several segments, the first of which addresses families of origin, the tendency for some partners to lose the thread of the story of their relationship, and the experience of talking, but not always being heard.
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2022-04-131h 03
Finlos LivesFinlos Asks: AvniFinlos Asks is a show about how people live and grow amidst impermanence. Interviews feature people who have encountered cultural shifts and life changes and explore how they have endured and flourished in life's constant changes.
In this episode I interview Dr. Avni Vyas about motherhood and a shifting identity, blending aspects of her parents into herself, and how her poetry is the "static between the fur of words."
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2022-03-2947 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Asks: DevonFinlos Asks is a show about how people live and grow amidst impermanence. Interviews feature people who have encountered cultural shifts and life changes and explore how they have endured and flourished in life's constant changes.
In this episode I interview Devon about moving across the country with his family as part of a cult; becoming a part of the hardcore scene in Tallahassee, Fl; being out of sync with his body; and the loss of a parent.
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2022-03-1453 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Teaches: TestingIn this episode I explore the pros and cons of the use of standardized tests, and featuring the opinions of actual students.
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2022-03-0715 min
Shminlos lolsFinlos Reads: The Gunslinger and Snow, Glass, ApplesIn this episode Naeem joins me to discuss his reactions to Stephen King's the Gunslinger. We talk about the plot, the strengths of the writing, and how our reactions to texts change to match our life experiences. After that I review the graphic novel Snow, Glass, Apples, an adaptation of Neil Gaiman's short story by artist Colleen Doran.
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2022-02-2726 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Reads: The Gunslinger and Snow, Glass, ApplesIn this episode Naeem joins me to discuss his reactions to Stephen King's the Gunslinger. We talk about the plot, the strengths of the writing, and how our reactions to texts change to match our life experiences. After that I review the graphic novel Snow, Glass, Apples, an adaptation of Neil Gaiman's short story by artist Colleen Doran.
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2022-02-2726 min
Shminlos lolsFinlos Asks: ReggieFinlos Asks is a show about how people live and grow amidst impermanence. Interviews feature people who have encountered cultural shifts and life changes and explore how they have endured and flourished in life's constant changes.
In this episode I interview Reggie about moving to Miami, FL from London, UK; career changes; and growing older.
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2022-02-231h 05
Finlos LivesFinlos Asks: ReggieFinlos Asks is a show about how people live and grow amidst impermanence. Interviews feature people who have encountered cultural shifts and life changes and explore how they have endured and flourished in life's constant changes.
In this episode I interview Reggie about moving to Miami, FL from London, UK; career changes; and growing older.
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2022-02-231h 05
Shminlos lolsFinlos Loves - DecenteringFinlos Loves is a show about relationships and how they work, or don't work. We offer our honest stories with guidance from professional and personal experience as therapist, teacher, and two decades of being in relationship.
This episode focuses on the concept of decentering and what the potential risks of self-centered behaviors and perspectives can be. The conversation covers many related ideas from child rearing, to enmeshment, to pop culture.
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2022-02-141h 10
Finlos LivesFinlos Loves - DecenteringFinlos Loves is a show about relationships and how they work, or don't work. We offer our honest stories with guidance from professional and personal experience as therapist, teacher, and two decades of being in relationship. This episode focuses on the concept of decentering and what the potential risks of self-centered behaviors and perspectives can be. The conversation covers many related ideas from child rearing, to enmeshment, to pop culture. If you have comments or questions, please leave them on social media.
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2022-02-141h 10
Shminlos lolsFinlos Teaches Flannery O'ConnorHighlights from the week of teaching -- this episode focuses on the short story Everything That Rises Must Converge by Flannery O'Connor and the interactions I had with students as they unraveled the text's layers, from racism to politics to Pixar.
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2022-02-0514 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Teaches Flannery O'ConnorHighlights from the week of teaching -- this episode focuses on the short story Everything That Rises Must Converge by Flannery O'Connor and the interactions I had with students as they unraveled the text's layers, from racism to politics to Pixar.
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2022-02-0514 min
Shminlos lolsFinlos Reads the GunslingerIn this episode I give an overview of Stephen King's approach to writing this novel, some of his sources of inspirations, and why it is a worthy read even if you have no intention of starting yet another connected world series of books.
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2022-01-2915 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Reads the GunslingerIn this episode I give an overview of Stephen King's approach to writing this novel, some of his sources of inspirations, and why it is a worthy read even if you have no intention of starting yet another connected world series of books.
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2022-01-2915 min
Shminlos lolsFinlos Reads the Matrix - Part 1A discussion about the cultural and technological context around the release of the Matrix (1999).
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2022-01-1020 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Reads the Matrix - Part 1A discussion about the cultural and technological context around the release of the Matrix (1999).
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2022-01-1020 min
Shminlos lolsFinlos Reads: Dune - Part 3This episode wraps up the conversation about Dune with considerations of criticisms and limitations of the work, as well as my final thoughts for what the book has to offer.
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2021-12-2213 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Reads: Dune - Part 3This episode wraps up the conversation about Dune with considerations of criticisms and limitations of the work, as well as my final thoughts for what the book has to offer.
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2021-12-2213 min
Shminlos lolsFinlos Reads: Dune, part 2This is the second episode of my Dune series and focuses on Paul Atreides and the development of his character.
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2021-12-0815 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Reads: Dune, part 2This is the second episode of my Dune series and focuses on Paul Atreides and the development of his character.
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2021-12-0815 min
Shminlos lolsFinlos Reads: Dune, part 1In this episode I discuss worldbuilding elements in Frank Herbert's Dune. These are details that are often omitted from film adaptations, and only obscurely referenced in the original novels.
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2021-11-2816 min
Finlos LivesFinlos Reads: Dune, part 1In this episode I discuss worldbuilding elements in Frank Herbert's Dune. These are details that are often omitted from film adaptations, and only obscurely referenced in the original novels.
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2021-11-2816 min