Gil & Brenda Stuart - Podcast Details

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GilandBrenda S2 Episode 28 ALL Options and ChoicesThe motivation for this topic comes from Gil and Brenda’s clients. Many of them feel stuck in life, like they feel like they have no options or choices. The Stuarts break down the differences between options and choices, which leads to actions. And that can change your life! Listen for the action steps at the end and then apply them. Contact Gil and Brenda and let them know how the choices you have made have positively impacted your life! hello@gilandbrenda.com ...

2024-12-1122 min

GilandBrenda S2 Episode 27 PARENTING Floor TimeHave you ever wondered what your child is thinking? How can I "get in their head" (especially teenagers!)?Join Gil and Brenda as they introduce a concept that helped them through those years...called Floor Time.Having a safe place to talk for you AND your kids is so important now-a-days. The parents set the tone for Floor Time (which Gil and Brenda will give you pointers) so that the experience is fruitful. This is not a time for judgment or disagreements. It's all about being curious.

2024-11-0900 min

GilandBrenda S2 Episode 24 STEPFAMILY Interview with In The Blend, AustraliaWonderful interview with Laura Jenkins, founder of In The Blend. She is encouraging stepfamilies who live in Australia...and beyond!We never know where the conversation will go! We always know we'll have fun!Check out more podcasts from Laura at https://omny.fm/shows/in-the-blendHere are her show notes:Gil and Brenda, a husband and wife duo, share their journey into counseling and coaching for blended families, discussing their personal experiences and the challenges they've faced. They emphasize the importance of the couple...

2024-06-2132 min

GilandBrenda S2 Episode 25 STEPDADS Interview with Mike from Blended Family BreakthroughThis is an interview Gil had with Mike Anderson from Blended Family Breakthrough.We hope you feel a little more equipped and encouraged after listening to this great conversation. Here are the notes from Mike's podcast:Hey Stepdads — ever wonder if you're "winning or losing" in your role at home?Most stepdads I meet genuinely want to build trust with their stepkids and influence them toward success in life. But sometimes it feels like there's a bit too much chaos in the hom...

2024-06-061h 00

GilandBrenda S2 Episode 24 Intrerview with Ron Deal at Family Life: Stepchildren and Marriage: How to Build TrustBlended family life doesn't often start with every relationship in harmony. But it's not unusual to develop it along the way. Ron Deal speaks with Gil and Brenda Stuart about how disappointment and confusion eventually morphed into redemption and joy. Celebrating their 20th wedding anniversary with a vow renewal was an amazing experience. Another way to celebrate their family!#tipstoolstingles #gilandbrenda#conflictresolution #marriagehelp #marriage #investinyourmarriage #remarriagehelp#friendshipinmarriage #marriagecounselor #marriagecoach #husbandandwifeteam#RestoredandRemarried #remarried #remarriage #stepfamily #stepmom #stepdad #stepmother #stepfather #stepparent #stepparenting #stepchild #blendedfamily...

2023-07-0446 min

GilandBrenda S2 EPisode 23 STEPMOM Interview with Mike & Kim AndersonBrenda, and two other Stepmoms were interviewed by Mike and Kim Anderson from MikeandKimCoaching.com. This interview brings 3 perspectives of being a stepmom, but yet there is one common thread. Being a woman in a stepfamily can be a hard road. Whether you join with kids or not, having realistic expectations are part of having a successful formula to help you thrive in your stepfamily. With Tiffany, Stacy and Brenda, you will hear some raw experiences from their own lives and what worked…and what didn’t. We hope you are encouraged. Brenda is now taking new coaching clients. She spec...

2023-03-251h 05

GilandBrenda S2 Episode 22 Unsung Heroes: Interview with Ron Deal of Family Life BlendedTips, Tools, and Tingles for Your Relationship!Encouragement for Dads in a Stepfamily! Gil was interviewed by Ron Deal, from Family Life Blended. This was a great conversation about how important the Dad is in the stepfamily…and how it can be challenging. Gil doesn’t pull any punches and is pretty raw and honest with Ron. This 8-part video series, filmed on location brings the realities of what it means to be a Stepdad. Topics include: “You’re Not My Dad,” “Between a Rock and a Hard Place” (that would be between your wife and your k...

2022-06-2752 min

GilandBrenda Episode 21 MARRIAGE Financial IntimacyThere are 2 things that we share intimately with our spouse: Sex and Money.With financial intimacy, it’s not about the money. Gil and Brenda dive into the deep end on this issue.It’s about experiences, and what it means to you. It’s important that you talk about this with your spouse so you both have a realistic view of how money is “felt” in your family. Even if you’ve been married a while, it’s always good to check in with each other, especially as you enter a new season.

2022-02-1529 min

GilandBrenda S2 Episode 20 MARRIAGE Self Talk; What is Your Inner Voice Saying?Can you keep up with your inner voice? How often is it positive? How often is it negative? Is it toward yourself or whoever you are talking with? Gil and Brenda have a lively conversation… (maybe their inner voices are the ones that are speaking!) about this age-old challenge.How often are we so caught up in listening to our inner voice, we totally miss the person right in front of us? We are all guilty of that at some level. And that will affect our relationships. Between neuro pathways in your brain, our ability to get suc...

2022-02-0326 min

GilandBrenda S2 Episode 20 MARRIAGE Self Talk; What is Your Inner Voice Saying?Can you keep up with your inner voice? How often is it positive? How often is it negative? Is it toward yourself or whoever you are talking with? Gil and Brenda have a lively conversation… (maybe their inner voices are the ones that are speaking!) about this age-old challenge.How often are we so caught up in listening to our inner voice, we totally miss the person right in front of us? We are all guilty of this at some level. And that will affect our relationships. Between neuro pat...

2022-01-2926 min

GilandBrenda S2 Episode 19 STEPDADS Unsung HeroesBrenda interviews Gil about why this video series was created and how! Stepmoms will gain a HUGE insight about their guys.We think there is a lot that Dads who ARE NOT in a stepfamily can learn too!Unsung Heroes (UH) is intended to encourage and inspire men who are dads in stepfamilies. Disrespected by step kids? On the receiving end of frustrations from your wife over loyalty to your own kids? Not sure how to manage emotional outbursts in your stepfamily? The UH video series is for you! We sugg...

2021-10-2621 min

GilandBrenda S2 Ep 18 # 1 Marriage KillerWe know, you’ve probably read/listened to this topic before. But Gil and Brenda get pretty raw and keep it real when discussing this one. This marriage killer is pretty common and with these action steps provided, you can steer clear of this.When in conflict, do not use these words: “Me/ You/ I. We use this verbiage without even realizing how much it will help defenses go up. Studies show too, that your mind is closed to exploring new ideas and solutions.Use We/ Us/ Our. How can...

2021-09-218h 00

GilandBrenda Episode 17 MARRIAGE/RELATIONSHIP Touch Points How to increase connection and intimacy in your daily routine What are the top 2 killers in marriage? Drift and Apathy. How you watch TV may directly impact this! Gil and Brenda share 12 ways (you can come up with more) how couples can have “touch point’s” in their relationship. It’s in the things that we do every day. We miss the opportunity to connect…which launches us right toward the killers in marriage. Believe it or not, even sharing a laugh can be a touch point…a connection. It’s in the sinews (the little touch points) that muscles (your marriage) gets stronger. We don’t need...

2021-06-2226 min

GilandBrenda Episode 17 MARRIAGE/RELATIONSHIP Touch Points How to increase connection and intimacy in your daily routine Drift and Apathy can wreak havoc in a relationship.How you watch TV may directly impact this! Gil and Brenda share 12 ways (you can come up with more) how couples can have “touchpoints” in their relationship. It’s in the things that we do every day. We miss the opportunity to connect…which launches us right toward the killers in marriage. Believe it or not, even sharing a laugh can be a touchpoint…a connection. It’s in the sinews (the little touchpoints) that muscles (your marriage) get stronger. We don’t need to make th...

2021-06-224h 26

GilandBrenda S2 Episode 16 STEPFAMILY (all kids) Rocks in the Bucket Gil and Brenda share a concept they have been sharing in their presentations for years. “Rocks in the Bucket” helps give your kids a voice. When done correctly, you empower your children to tell you the truth of how they are feeling. The system is built on you honoring them as they try to honor you with something hard to say. It’s a win/win. We all carry around an invisible bucket; it represents our well being. Family members, friends, coworkers can all put rocks in our buckets….and we can put rocks in their buckets...

2021-06-0926 min

GilandBrenda S2 Episode 15 STEPDADS Stepdad to Stepdad Pt 2 This is part 2 of an interview with Gil Stuart. There isn’t a lot of information for stepdads out there. The content of this interview has been on Gil’s heart for over 18 years. As Brenda interviews Gil, listen in as 6 top questions are asked…3 in part 1 and the remaining 3 in part 2. 1. What is a relational safety zone? 2. It’s ok to love your mom. 3. A rock and a hard spot; You between your wife and your kids. Although this conversation is directed to stepdads, their wives will ben...

2021-02-0229 min

GilandBrenda S2 Episode 14 STEPDADS Stepdad to Stepdad Part 1 There isn’t a lot of information for stepdads out there. The content of this interview has been on Gil’s heart for over 18 years. As Brenda interviews Gil, listen in as 6 top questions are asked…3 are in this Part 1. 1. How to contend with the infamous “you’re not my dad!” 2. What is reverse betrayal? 3. Stepdads who demand too much too soon. Although this conversation is directed to stepdads, their wives will benefit from this too. Gil shares feelings and thoughts that many men wish they could tell their wives...

2021-01-1931 min

GilandBrenda S2 Episode 13 MARRIAGE The Husk of the Heart: What Are You Looking For? A heart with a hard husk views the world with a negative sentiment. Gil and Brenda talk about breaking down the husk and how it affects our relationships: marriage, friends, coworkers, etc. Positive or Negative: What lens do we look at our spouse through? If it’s been negative, how do we change it? How does that soften our own heart when we do that? Be aware. Be intentional. What do you think? We’d like to hear from you! hello@gilandbrenda.com Action Steps: 1. Look for ways...

2021-01-0830 min

GilandBrenda Episode 12 MARRIAGE Hide and Seek Series #4 VulnerabilityThis is the fourth podcast in a series of 4. Topics in the series: Identity, Connection, Trust and Vulnerability. Each build on each other yet they stand alone too! May your relationship be challenged, and love and growth happen as you are encouraged! “Being vulnerable in a relationship means allowing your partner to know you fully: your thoughts, feelings, challenges, weaknesses. It can be scary to show those sides to our partners out of fear of being judged." ... "This is how true intimacy is achieved. We are known, accepted, supported and loved.” This is an important topic...

2020-12-2229 min

GilandBrenda Episode 11 MARRIAGE Hide and Seek Series #3 Got Trust? This is the third podcast in a series of 4. Topics in the series: Identity, Connection, Trust and Vulnerability. Each build on each other yet they stand alone too! May your relationship be challenged, and love and growth happen as you are encouraged! Because of your family of origin, past relationships, or just life, your level of trust can be deflated. Violation of trust can lead to pain and confusion. Gil and Brenda talk about the importance of trust in a relationship. If damaged, how do you repair it? What are the two outcomes of trustworthiness? C...

2020-12-0830 min

GilandBrenda S2 Episode 9 MARRIAGE Hide and Seek Series #2 ConnectionThis is the second podcast in a series of 4. Topics in the series: Identity, Connection, Trust and Vulnerability. Each build on each other yet they stand alone too! May your relationship be challenged, and love and growth happen as you are encouraged! Connection vs Disconnection. This happens all the time in our relationships. Sometimes we don’t even notice. We all want connection but how do we get it? Gil and Brenda share the depths of what dis-connection looks like and what a couple does when they are experiencing connection. Being approachable, available and accessible is the fo...

2020-11-2328 min

GilandBrenda S2 Episode 9 MARRIAGE Hide and Seek #1 IdentityThis is the first podcast in a series of 4. Topics in the series: Identity, Connection, Trust and Vulnerability. Each build on each other yet they stand alone too! May your relationship be challenged, and love and growth happen as you are encouraged! Two questions everyone asks in a marriage/relationship: Do I belong? Am I loved? Wow, deep questions. Gil and Brenda tackle these with specific ways to find the answers for yourself! It starts with you! How can you expect your spouse to meet your needs in these areas if you’re not sure of them your...

2020-11-1033 min

GilandBrenda S2 Episode 9 MARRIAGE Hide and Seek #1 Identity This is the first podcast in a series of 4. Topics in the series: Identity, Connection, Trust and Vulnerability. Each build on each other yet they stand alone too! May your relationship be challenged, and love and growth happen as you are encouraged! Two questions everyone asks in a marriage/relationship: Do I belong? Am I loved? Wow, deep questions. Gil and Brenda tackle these with specific ways to find the answers for yourself! It starts with you! How can you expect your spouse to meet your needs in these areas if you’re not sure of...

2020-11-1033 min

GilandBrenda Gil & Brenda are interviewed by Ron Deal from Family Life BlendedAre you looking for support for the unique dynamics and challenges that stepfamily life brings? Have you wondered where you can go to get help? Then this episode is for you! Ron Deal talks with Gil and Brenda on how to find a church that will support you as a stepcouple, how to know if you need counseling and where to go, and what to do if not everyone is willing to go. It might be as simple as attending a small group at your church with other couples on a similar journey. But you must commit to go...

2020-07-2801 min

GilandBrenda Gil & Brenda are interviewed by Ron Deal from Family Life BlendedAre you looking for support for the unique dynamics and challenges that stepfamily life brings? Have you wondered where you can go to get help? Then this episode is for you! Ron Deal talks with Gil and Brenda on how to find a church that will support you as a stepcouple, how to know if you need counseling and where to go, and what to do if not everyone is willing to go. It might be as simple as attending a small group at your church with other couples on a similar journey. But you must commit...

2020-07-2800 min

GilandBrenda S2 Episode 7 STEPFAMILY Interview Craig & Gina Morgan, Blended Together S2 Episode 7 STEPFAMILY Interview Craig & Gina Morgan, Blended Together Another powerful conversation about how to strengthen and protect your marriage and stepfamily. Gil and Brenda interview Craig & Gina Morgan with Blended Together. Married 24 years, they are out of the Dallas, TX area, and share an excerpt from their latest resource, Building Blocks for Making the Family Whole Again. Referencing the wall that Nehemiah built, brings rich nuggets of how we are rebuilding our family. Prayer, time, and having others to help is so important because the opposition will come! Part of the conversation is about h...

2020-07-0100 min

GilandBrenda S2 Episode 6 MARRIAGE Are You Married and Lonely?Most people think that when they get married, they won’t be lonely again. Feeling lonely and isolated in a marriage is becoming more common than you may realize. Gil and Brenda have talked with several people that are feeling this way. Do you know someone who is lonely in their marriage? Is it you? Loneliness affects not only our mental health but our physical health too. It depresses our immune system and increases inflammatory responses. We are at risk for depression and anxiety and distorted perceptions of life. The realities of being lonely in a...

2020-06-0235 min

GilandBrenda S2 Episode 5 MARRIAGE First Responders & Law Enforcement What can those couples who are in Law Enforcement and First Responders do to protect their marriage and family? What can we (those of us who are not in those fields) do to support them? Gil and Brenda interview a couple, who have been living this journey for over 20 years, 10 of those years on a SWAT team. Gabe and Stacey are very candid about the hardships and realities and the toll it can take on a marriage. They share practical advice to help strengthen a marriage and family who is affected by these professions. A f...

2020-05-1832 min

GilandBrenda S2 Episode 4 MARRIAGE The Hesitation to Invest Why do some couples hesitate to invest in their marriage? Without sugar coating anything, Gil and Brenda explore several possibilities…and their remedies. Sometimes the busyness of life intrudes on the investments that need to be made in our marriage. And sometimes it’s just easier to hide behind the busyness instead of talking about what’s really going on. Remember, life’s too short to just have a good marr...

2020-05-0500 min

GilandBrenda S2 Episode 4 MARRIAGE The Hesitation to Invest Why do some couples hesitate to invest in their marriage? Without sugar coating anything, Gil and Brenda explore several possibilities…and their remedies. Sometimes the busyness of life intrudes on the investments that need to be made in our marriage. And sometimes it’s just easier to hide behind the busyness instead of talking about what’s really going on. Remember, life’s too short to just have a good marriage…you want a great one. Have a conversation about the differences between a good and a great marriage. You might be surprised how much you are bot...

2020-05-0531 min

GilandBrenda S2 Episode 3 MARRIAGE Conflict: Damage ControlEven in the best relationships, conflict is going to happen. Is conflict good or bad? Conflict is good, as long as you do it right! Yet, how do you control the damage that can come with conflict? Gil and Brenda go over a few points from the Gottman Repair Checklist. Here are some real “how” to’s” to reduce the damage that can happen when conflict comes about. You can even pass this info on to your kids! Action Steps: 1. How can we limit damage control? Have this conversation BEFORE any conflict h...

2020-04-2235 min

GilandBrenda S2 Episode 2 MARRIAGE Got Pain? Flip it to Peace So many times, there is an underlying pain that we carry that affects our relationships. It can be from family of origin, past relationships…or even the present. Gil and Brenda talk about a new way to look at pain. Not so much as an enemy but as a teacher. By using the acronym PAIN, you’ll gain a new “Perspective”, hopefully not be “Apathetic,” learn how to “Validate” and “Negotiate” through the pain. You will see how to flip the pain into peace in your relationship. Remember, your partner/spouse IS NOT the enemy! Action Steps:

2020-04-0900 min

GilandBrenda S2 Episode 1 STEPFAMILY/PARENTING/Marriage Interview with Ron Deal and Dr. Gary Chapman While speaking on the Love Like You Mean It Cruise, Gil and Brenda were able to catch an interview with Family Life Blended Director, Ron Deal and author of the Five Love Languages, Dr, Gary Chapman. They just wrote a new book, Building Love Together in Blended Families that is a game changer for stepfamilies. ALL marriages/relationships will benefit from listening in. It takes two people to want to connect and learn to love each other. But in a stepfamily, what if a stepchild doesn’t want that? How do you adjust the lo...

2020-03-2532 min

GilandBrenda Episode 50 How is the Customer Service in Your Relationship? A recent trip to a cell phone store prompted a discussion about Customer Service (CS). Our experience wasn’t that great, but it got us thinking about the CS in our relationships….is it good or bad? What is the responsibility of the store and the customer? In our relationships, do we as customers pay on time? Do we ask for what we want? Do we let the company know if there is competition? As a company, how is our follow-through? Do we offer loyal, consistent service? Do we offer points? (ahh yes, it’s ALL abo...

2019-08-0627 min

GilandBrenda S1 Episode 49 STEPFAMILY Joel Hawbaker Interview Ready to gather some gold nuggets to help your parenting in a stepfamily? Gil and Brenda interview Joel Hawbaker, a High School teacher, someone who lived in a stepfamily and is now in one. Joel offers some fresh perspective that can bring lively conversations to your marriage. After listening to this podcast, here are a few questions to discuss: 1. Are you acting like the adult you want your kids t...

2019-04-1600 min

GilandBrenda S1 Episode 49 STEPFAMILY Joel Hawbaker Interview Ready to gather some gold nuggets to help your parenting in a stepfamily? Gil and Brenda interview Joel Hawbaker, a High School teacher, someone who lived in a stepfamily and is now in one. Joel offers some fresh perspective that can bring lively conversations to your marriage. After listening to this podcast, here are a few questions to discuss: 1. Are you acting like the adult you want your kids to become? 2. Are you in a harmonious relationship with your child’s other bio-parent? Are you working together? How can this improve? ...

2019-04-1600 min

GilandBrenda S1 Episode 48 MARRIAGE REMARRIAGE Feeling Protected?Do you feel protected in your relationship? Gil and Brenda define what that looks like to them and how it impacts their relationship. Although, what they share may affect your relationship too. Protection isn’t just about your physical well being. It involves the physical, emotional and spiritual dimension of your relationship. Action step: <p align="le...

2019-02-2000 min

GilandBrenda S1 Episode 48 MARRIAGE REMARRIAGE Feeling Protected?Do you feel protected in your relationship? Gil and Brenda define what that looks like to them and how it impacts their relationship. Although, what they share may affect your relationship too. Protection isn’t just about your physical well being. It involves the physical, emotional and spiritual dimension of your relationship. Action step: Have the conversation. What does feeling protected look like: Emotionally Physically Spiritually in our relationship? #tipstoolsandtingles #gilandbrenda #RestoredandRemarried #marriagepodcast #investinyourmarriage #marriagecoach #mar...

2019-02-2027 min

GilandBrenda S1 Episode 47 MARRIAGE Stop the Drift3 Ways to Stop Relational Drift You may be living parallel lives, on the same page and everything is going well. Yet we all have seasons where we drift from that. Careers, health, focus on our kids and a myriad of other things can pull us away from each other without us even realizing it. Gil and Brenda share 3 common ways drift can happen in a relationship. Luckily, they also offer ways to get back to the dock too! They’ll be adding action steps at the end of the podcast. Here they are fo...

2019-02-0527 min

GilandBrenda S1 Episode 46 MARRIAGE Connect-Build-GrowGil and Brenda are interviewed by Paul VanSickle with WAY-FM 104.5 (Vancouver, WA market). The upcoming Northwest Marriage Conference is coming next month. How do your past relationships affect the present? What happens in each stage of marriage? Honeymoon, ankle biters, teenagers, and empty nesting all have a special flair about them. Gather some wisdom and laughter as you listen in on this great conversation! Register today for the NWMC on 2/9/19 in Vancouver, WA</p...

2019-01-0800 min

GilandBrenda S1 Episode 46 MARRIAGE Connect-Build-GrowGil and Brenda are interviewed by Paul VanSickle with WAY-FM 104.5 (Vancouver, WA market). The upcoming Northwest Marriage Conference is coming next month. How do your past relationships affect the present? What happens in each stage of marriage? Honeymoon, ankle biters, teenagers, and empty nesting all have a special flair about them. Gather some wisdom and laughter as you listen in on this great conversation! Register today for the NWMC on 2/9/19 in Vancouver, WA https://wayfm.regfox.com/nwmarriageconference #tipstoolsandtingles #gilandbrenda #RestoredandRemarried #marriagepodcast #investinyourmarriage #marriagecoach #marriagecounselor #hus...

2019-01-0843 min

GilandBrenda S1 Ep 45 STEPFAMILY Holidazed – Avoid the Spin!The Holiday season can be…crazy, right? Although, living in a stepfamily can be that way all the time! Gil and Brenda bring some perspective to the “Holidaze” with some old reminders (Holiday survival 101) and some new thoughts. Realistic expectations vs lower your expectations…which one? Don’t ask the kids too much about their other bio parent. This conversation is worthy of a podcast on its own! Let this be a reminder of you to slow down the spin this holiday season. Although, this applies to most holidays. Be encouraged! #tipstoolsand...

2018-12-1825 min

GilandBrenda S1 Episode 44 MARRIAGE Friendship Builds ConnectionIs there a friendship in your marriage? Friendship can get lost in the marriage. Will it always be fun? No. It is ok for friends to disagree/fight. It’s healthy in a marriage…as long as it is done correctly. It’s important that both “hearts” are heard. Gil and Brenda share 3 ways to build your friendship in your marriage. This vital part of your relationship needs to be intentionally nurtured, especially when THOSE PEOPLE (your children) try to derail it. A healthy marriage is the best gift you can give your children, no matter their age.

2018-12-0400 min

GilandBrenda S1 Ep 43 STEPFAMILY 5 Tips to Prepare for ThanksgivingThe holidays are just about to begin. Do you know how to prepare for them? Is this new territory or is it time to up your game? And we’re not talking about the turkey…or the dinner! Being in a stepfamily is hard enough, but you add in the stresses of the holidays and hard is at a new level! Gil and Brenda will share 5 tips to help stay sane during this emotionally charged season. As always, they will bring perspective and laughter into their podcast. #tipstoolsandtingles #gilandbrenda #RestoredandRemarried #marriagepodcast #investinyourmarriage #marriagecoach #marr...

2018-11-1324 min

GilandBrenda S1 Ep 42 STEPFAMILY Success Interview with Jed JurchenkoReady for some refreshing encouragement for your remarriage and stepfamily? How is Velcro like your marriage? Gil and Brenda interview Jed, author of 12 books (with Jenny too!), a therapist, psychology professor, and a stepdad. So many nuggets of wisdom are shared here! 131 Conversations for Stepfamily Success is so helpful and his newest book, Happy Skills for Happy Kids is a must. It’ll help kids (and adults) learn how to manage stress and anger! Find out more about Jed and Jenny Jurchenko: www.coffeeshopconversations.com Jen and Jed’s Coffee Shop Conve...

2018-07-1721 min

GilandBrenda S1 Ep 42 STEPFAMILY Success Interview with Jed JurchenkoReady for some refreshing encouragement for your remarriage and stepfamily? How is Velcro like your marriage? Gil and Brenda interview Jed, author of 12 books (with Jenny too!), a therapist, psychology professor, and a stepdad. So many nuggets of wisdom are shared here! 131 Conversations for Stepfamily Success is so helpful and his newest book, Happy Skills for Happy Kids is a must. It’ll help kids (and adults) learn how to manage stress and anger! <p class="MsoNoSpacing" ali...

2018-07-1700 min

GilandBrenda S1 Episode 41 STEPFAMILY Devotions Ron Deal InterviewWant to be more in sync with each other? Ron Deal with Family Life Blended, shares vulnerably and offers a wealth of ideas and encouragement in his interview with Gil and Brenda. His latest book, Daily Encouragement for the Smart Stepfamily is a home run! You can shift your direction (thoughts) by just 1 degree and it can keep you on course and be in sync again. This very SIMPLE devo can be read in under a minute!! Co-parenting, marriage, parenting, jealousy and more are topics are covered in this book. You can even share some of these...

2018-07-1024 min

GilandBrenda S1 Episode 40 ALL Happy 4th of July!Gil and Brenda are having some fun sharing stories of their fourth of July celebrations through the years. Thrown in are some interesting facts about our country’s birthday too. The Stuarts would love to hear some of your “war” stories of fireworks gone wrong, happy celebrations and that awful potatoe salad your aunt brought! Happy Happy to you…and the United States of America! #tipstoolsandtingles #gilandbrenda #RestoredandRemarried #marriagepodcast #investinyourmarriage #marriagecoach #marriagecounselor #husbandwifeteam #remarried #remarriage #stepfamily #stepmom #stepdad #stepmother #stepfather #stepparent #stepparenting #stepchild #blendedfamily #marriagehelp #conflictresolution #parenting #remarriagehelp #stepfamilyhelp #blendedfamilyhelp #remarriageadvice #marriagepodcast #stepfamilypodcast #blendedfamilypodcast #remarria...

2018-07-0314 min

GilandBrenda S1 Episode 39 MARRIAGE 5 Myths About Marriage A Gottman RepostThe Gottman Institute has been around for over 40 years. Their research on marriage and relationships comes from their “Love Labs” and is pretty solid and world-renowned. Gil and Brenda share from a recent article from the Washington Post, June 2018, 5 Myths about Marriage that comes from the Gottman Institute. There were some common myths that we all believe, but there were a few surprises too! This is just another way for you, our listener to continue to learn about marriage. What conversations can you have about these myths? Which ones have you fallen prey to? Here’s the link t...

2018-06-2626 min

GilandBrenda S1 Episode 37 ALL ACE’s Part 1 (Adverse Childhood Experiences) Interview with Curtis MillerEpisode 37 ALL ACE’s Part 1 (Adverse Childhood Experiences) Interview with Curtis Miller Have you (or someone you know) experienced a Big “T” trauma or a Little “t” trauma? Whether you are a child, teen or an adult, there can be many factors that can lead you to a life of low self-worth, low self-esteem, and a constant self-protection. This impacts all of our relationships. Gil and Brenda interview Curtis Miller, Executive Director/Founder of Connect Battle Ground. This non-profit focus’ on supporting kids in the BG community and helps bring generations together for...

2018-06-1228 min

GilandBrenda S1 Episode 36 STEPFAMILY WidowhoodA blended family that is formed through the pain of widowhood is very difficult, to say the least. Join Gil and Brenda as they interview Jess and Ryan Ronne. Both lost their previous spouses to brain cancer. Grief, loss, compassion, “sainting the person,” is discussed in this pretty raw interview. How do you engage the other family members who are grieving themselves and yet protect your new family? Jess and Ryan share vulnerably what worked for them…and what hasn’t. Make sure you check them out on the following social media outlets! www.jessplusthemess.com Facebook/jessplusthemess Instagra...

2018-06-0527 min

GilandBrenda S1 Episode 35 MARRIAGE Sex Leads to DancingIn a marriage, the sexual experience is the highest form of communication. In their playful, real style, Gil and Brenda talk about the subject of the sexual relationship in your marriage. And, as usual, they don’t just talk about it from the 30,000 ft level, but they go deeper. Where does the heart come into play? In what ways can you be more intentional in this part of your relationship? How do you repair? Listen in for some new ideas! Gil and Brenda would love to hear your thoughts too! Please go to their Facebook or Instagram pa...

2018-05-2900 min

GilandBrenda S1 Episode 34 DIVORCE Leavee or Leavor?You’ve never heard an interview like this one. Gil and Brenda hadn’t. You probably hear a lot about the person who was left in the marriage by their spouse. People rally around them to give them support through their “train wreck.” What about the people who left the marriage? Is there forgiveness for them? No matter what side of the fence you are on, listen in for some raw conversation about being the leavor in a marriage. #tipstoolsandtingles #gilandbrenda #RestoredandRemarried #marriagepodcast #investinyourmarriage #marriagecoach #marriagecounselor #husbandwifeteam #remarried #remarriage #stepfamily #stepmom...

2018-05-2230 min

GilandBrenda S1 Episode 33 ADULT STEPCHILDRENMost people who get remarried and have adult stepchildren feel that they won’t have any problems. That is a myth, big time. Gil and Brenda discuss the nuances of having adult stepchildren. Yes, there are situations where everything is fine...no doubt. But adult stepchildren are experiencing the same feelings that our little ones who are in the home are experiencing. They are just better at verbalizing them! How can you come alongside your adult stepchildren today? #tipstoolsandtingles #gilandbrenda #RestoredandRemarried #marriagepodcast #investinyourmarriage #marriagecoach #marriagecounselor #husbandwifeteam #remarried #remarriage #stepfamily #stepmom #stepdad #stepmother #step...

2018-05-1526 min

GilandBrenda S1 Episode 32 STEPMOMs/STEPDADs 3 Mother’s Day Pointers from a Husband.Gil and Brenda are here to encourage Stepmoms on Mother’s Day by helping their husbands know what to do! This special day is loaded with emotions and expectations. It can be a party and celebration for some, and yet for others, there is radio silence from their stepchildren. Gil shares 3 pointers to help husbands love their wives through this holiday… with sensitivity, honesty and some laughter. As they say, “always forward!” #tipstoolsandtingles #gilandbrenda #RestoredandRemarried #marriagepodcast #investinyourmarriage #marriagecoach #marriagecounselor #husbandwifeteam #remarried #remarriage #stepfamily #stepmom #stepdad #stepmother #stepfather #stepparent #stepparenting #stepchild #blendedfa...

2018-05-0824 min

GilandBrenda S1 Episode 31 MARRIAGE: Why Date Your SpouseLeisure Time = Marital Happiness. This shouldn’t be rocket science…but sometimes it feels like it! Gil and Brenda have some fun as they share the benefits of married couples dating, and 12 date rules (an addition to Brenda’s already established dating rules!) You are free to add your own! How do you smell? That could be a very important point to talk about. No time for conflict. Not a therapy session. Comforting? Exciting? CONNECTION! Gil and Brenda created a new acronym which they shared for the first time with each other…oh boy! What does PLA...

2018-05-0124 min

GilandBrenda S1 Episode 30 STEPMOMS Interview with Laura Petherbridge, The Smart StepmomGil and Brenda interview Laura Petherbridge who is an author, international speaker on many topics, and a stepmom cheerleader. In this episode, the conversation covers stepmoms and stepdads who did not bring any biological children into the marriage (although ALL stepmoms/dads will benefit). There are some different moving parts with this type of stepfamily. These new stepmoms can be ambushed by the new activity of the family, lack of influence she thought she would have and seeing her husband parent differently than she would. It can be a very lonely place. What myths do...

2018-04-2429 min

GilandBrenda S1 Episode 29 ALL/MARRIAGE Conflict: Thinking Distortions Part 2Gil and Brenda present Part 2 of this podcast on communication and conflict. Pass it along to your friends, family, and co-workers. They share great insights into the distorted thinking that hinders our communication with others. And they are BIG on communicating well so that connection happens. False beliefs about ourselves can get in our way of loving and speaking to others in a healthy productive fashion. Gil and Brenda encourage you to have an honest...

2018-04-1700 min

GilandBrenda S1 Episode 29 ALL/MARRIAGE Conflict: Thinking Distortions Part 2Gil and Brenda present Part 2 of this podcast on communication and conflict. Pass it along to your friends, family, and co-workers. They share great insights into the distorted thinking that hinders our communication with others. And they are BIG on communicating well so that connection happens. False beliefs about ourselves can get in our way of loving and speaking to others in a healthy productive fashion. Gil and Brenda encourage you to have an honest conversation with a trusted friend and/or spouse to share these distortions. A reciprocal conversation of, “do you see this in me? Do...

2018-04-1721 min

GilandBrenda S1 Episode 28 ALL/MARRIAGE Conflict: Thinking Distortions Part 1ANYONE can relate to this podcast today! The most important conversation is the one you have with yourself. Assumptions and negative self-talk (among other conversations with yourself) will directly impact your conversations with others. Gil and Brenda will share 4 of the 8 common distortions in our thinking. Which ones do you resonate with? Get rid of your stinkin' thinkin' today! Just being...

2018-04-1000 min

GilandBrenda S1 Episode 28 ALL/MARRIAGE Conflict: Thinking Distortions Part 1ANYONE can relate to this podcast today! The most important conversation is the one you have with yourself. Assumptions and negative self-talk (among other conversations with yourself) will directly impact your conversations with others. Gil and Brenda will share 4 of the 8 common distortions in our thinking. Which ones do you resonate with? Get rid of your stinkin' thinkin' today! Just being aware of these distortions in ourselves and others can bring your communication with others to the connection you really want. Part 2 is next week! #tipstoolsandtingles #gilandbrenda #R...

2018-04-1021 min

GilandBrenda S1 Ep 27 FATHERS Interview with Rick Johnson from Better Dads(please excuse the “rough sound” on this interview) Through all cultures, what is the common thread of Fatherhood? Rick Johnson, from Better Dad’s shares, that deep down, men want to be good Fathers. Gil and Brenda interview this best selling author of 12 books (in 14 different languages,) international speaker on men, women, marriages. Dads and stepdads alike share the incredible responsibility of shaping the identity of their kids, can be a kinsmen redeemer and protector. Wonderful, encouraging information here! Enjoy! You can find Rick Johnson at www.betterdads.net #tipstoolsandtingles #gi...

2018-04-0325 min

GilandBrenda S1 Episode 26 CoParenting: The X FactorThe more we work with remarried couples the #1 challenge is the ex. Whether it is your ex or your spouse's ex, they can impact our families, both positively but mostly negatively. Gil and Brenda talk about how to disengage those hot buttons that the ex knows how to set off in us. By Cutting and Cauterizing the emotions, your current marriage and family will be in a healthier place. You can not control the ex or what goes on in the other home. But you can get to a healthier place yourself. Start today! #tipstoolsandtingles

2018-03-2724 min

GilandBrenda S1 Episode 26 CoParenting: The X FactorThe more we work with remarried couples the #1 challenge is the ex. Whether it is your ex or your spouse's ex, they can impact our families, both positively but mostly negatively. Gil and Brenda talk about how to disengage those hot buttons that the ex knows how to set off in us. By Cutting and Cauterizing the emotions, your current marriage and family will be in a healthier place. You can not control the ex or what goes on in the other home. But you can get to a...

2018-03-2700 min

GilandBrenda S1 Episode 25 STRESS 5 Steps to De-Stress!We can all relate to having stress in our life, right? Some seasons carry more than others. Gil and Brenda share 3 ways stress (cortisol) is released into your body and how you can help get rid of it! The first thing is knowing what stresses you have! Identifying it/them is the first step. Listen in as Gil and Brenda share 4 more ways to de-stress! You’ll feel better physically, emotionally and spiritually. And your friends and family will thank you too! #tipstoolsandtingles #gilandbrenda #RestoredandRemarried #marriagepodcast #investinyourmarriage #marriagecoach #marriagecounselor #husbandwifeteam #remarried #remarriage #stepfamily #stepmom #stepdad #st...

2018-03-2000 min

GilandBrenda S1 Ep 23 MILITARY StepfamiliesEveryone will get something out of this interview!! Stepfamily life is hard enough. Then add in the military component and that is a stress multiplier for sure. Gil and Brenda interview Todd and Tammy Gangle who have 6 kids in their stepfamily. Todd was an Air Force Chaplain He shares about the 3 D’s in a military stepfamily. We only had time to scratch the service here. We’re hoping to do more interviews to share information specifically for military stepfamilies, Have something to share/ Please contact us:hello@gilandbrenda.com Todd and Tammy are wo...

2018-03-0623 min

GilandBrenda S1 Ep 22 MARRIAGE 10 Steps for Resolving ConflictConflict. Boy, this is a biggie when it comes to relationships. Don’t you wish you could have a plan in place, so when conflict comes (because it always will), you know what to do? Gil and Brenda will share 10 steps to help resolve any conflict you have. Tone and body language play into this too. Couples get that “ah ha” moment when they work these steps! Be one of those couples #tipstoolsandtingles #gilandbrenda #RestoredandRemarried #marriagepodcast #investinyourmarriage #marriagecoach #marriagecounselor #husbandwifeteam #remarried #remarriage #stepfamily #stepmom #stepdad #stepmother #stepfather #stepparent #stepparenting #stepchild #blendedfamily #marriagehelp #conflic...

2018-02-2700 min

GilandBrenda S1 Episode 21 MARRIAGE is like Wrestling Interview with Dan RussellAt times, marriage can be a struggle. Like wrestling, embracing the struggle and working through it can make us stronger. Our dear friend, Dan Russell has first-hand experience in the wrestling world. (see his accolades below) Gil and Brenda have a lively conversation with Dan about the similarities between marriage and wrestling. The kiss of death, a united vision, our opponent and our coach are all part of the wrestling experience. Funny how it’s the marriage experience too! Dan Russell: 4 Time NCAA Wrestling Champion 2004 Olympic Wrestling Coach USA Wr...

2018-02-2028 min

GilandBrenda S1 Episode 20 MARRIAGE: STOP CONFLICTDo you ever wish you could communicate with your spouse, exactly what your heart wants? How can you be heard without WW3 starting? This episode is all about doing that! Listen in as Gil and Brenda share with you how to speak in loving and clear ways with your spouse. You will have peace, clarity and less miscommunication (ie: conflict) to your marriage. #gilandbrenda #tipstoolsandtingles #RestoredandRemarried #marriagepodcast #investinyourmarriage #marriagecoach #marriagecounselor #husbandwifeteam #remarried #remarriage #stepfamily #stepmom #stepdad #stepmother #stepfather #stepparent #stepparenting #stepchild #blendedfamily #marriagehelp #conflictresolution #parenting #remarriagehelp #stepfamilyhelp #blendedfamilyhelp #remarriageadvice #stepfamilypodcast #blendedfamilypodcast #remarriagepodcast #stepfamily

2018-02-1300 min

GilandBrenda S1 Episode 19 STEPFAMILY CoParenting and CustodyGil and Brenda interview Willie and Rachel Scott with Better Than Blended. How do you handle a messy custody battle? How do support your spouse? How can it affect your marriage? What’s the biggest challenge for the kids? Do you really need to be able to bite your tongue?The Scotts share valuable tools to help you (or someone you know) through this “icky” part of the stepfamily adventure. If you would like to learn m...

2018-02-0600 min

GilandBrenda S1 Episode 19 STEPFAMILY CoParenting and CustodyGil and Brenda interview Willie and Rachel Scott with Better Than Blended. How do you handle a messy custody battle? How do support your spouse? How can it affect your marriage? What’s the biggest challenge for the kids? Do you really need to be able to bite your tongue?The Scotts share valuable tools to help you (or someone you know) through this “icky” part of the stepfamily adventure. If you would like to learn more about Willie and Rachel and Better Than Blended, please contact them at www.Betterthanblended.com facebook.com/betterthanblended instagram.com/betterth...

2018-02-0628 min

GilandBrenda S1 Episode 18 How to Stepparent a Grieving StepchildDo you think your kids are grieving? You may be surprised to hear the answer. Because we(the adults) are happy to have found love again, doesn't mean that our kids feel the same way! The stepfamily journey can be very difficult. Part of that journey that no one likes to talk about is the subject of grief…especially with our kids. Gil and Brenda interviewed Diane Fromme, author of Stepparenting the Grieving Child. Diane brings practical tools and insights that can help this part of your journey! You can find her at http://www.dianefromme.com/ ...

2018-01-3018 min

GilandBrenda S1 Episode 18 How to Stepparent a Grieving StepchildDo you think your kids are grieving? You may be surprised to hear the answer. Because we(the adults) are happy to have found love again, doesn't mean that our kids feel the same way! The stepfamily journey can be very difficult. Part of that journey that no one likes to talk about is the subject of grief…especially with our kids. Gil and Brenda interviewed Diane Fromme, author of Stepparenting the Grieving Child. Diane brings practical tools and insights that can help this part of...

2018-01-3000 min

GilandBrenda S1 Ep 17 STEP PARENTING Criticize or Compliment?Boy, is this a Stepfamily hot button! Gil and Brenda ask each other, “How do you feel when I criticize your kids?” The mama/papa bear can easily come out in these conversations! Defenses come up, words are said that are not meant, and the wall that you have built to come behind and protect you and your marriage is now between you. On the flip side, “How do you feel when I compliment your kids?” Ahhh, connection happens, empathy is shared, and as a parent, you feel like you are doing a good job. Does thi...

2018-01-2327 min

GilandBrenda MARRIAGE 5 Reasons to Avoid a CounselorGil and Brenda had attended a weekend retreat for Counselors. The subject, EFT, Emotional Focused Therapy and Inter-Subjectivity. They had the opportunity to interview two Counselors, Fay DeMeyer and Jeremiah Winston. It was a lively discussion on the counseling profession! Sometimes we need a little check-up for a check-in. How are we doing as individuals? This will directly impact how we interact with our spouse, family, and others. If we haven't dealt with our “stuff” it will tend to spill onto others. One key nugget: what developmental phases were missed or not nurtured as we were children? How do...

2018-01-1625 min

GilandBrenda S1 Episode 15 MARRIAGE 8 Communication Skills to Increase IntimacyWho would not want to increase intimacy in their marriage? We’re not talking about physical intimacy here. Although, what Gil and Brenda are sharing today will directly affect what goes on in the bedroom. As they have said before, it’s not only about communicating, it’s about connecting. You probably have heard some of these 8 skills before. Yet it’s so easy to forget about them when “life” happens. If you would like a copy of the list, just contact the Stuarts at hello@gilandbrenda.com #gilandbrenda #tipstoolsandtingles #RestoredandRemarried #marriagepodcast #investinyourmarriage #marriagecoach #marriagecounselor #husbandwifeteam #remarried #re...

2018-01-0923 min

GilandBrenda 2018 Upcoming Events!What are Gil and Brenda up to in this New Year? This is a quick check in from them. They would love to be able to meet you at one of their events. Please connect with them via email, Facebook, Twitter or Instagram. What’s your story? How can they encourage you, your marriage and your family? Thanks so much for following and listening in! #RestoredandRemarried #remarried #remarriage #stepfamily #stepmom #stepdad #stepmother #stepfather #stepparent #stepparenting #stepchild #blendedfamily #marriagehelp #conflictresolution #parenting #remarriagehelp #stepfamilyhelp #blendedfamilyhelp #tipstoolsandtingles #remarriageadvice

2018-01-0211 min

GilandBrenda S1 Ep 13 Post Holiday Joy or Damage Control?Soo, how did it go? Did you survive or thrive?Gil and Brenda take a minute to reflect on this Holiday season. What are the "5 Top Questions You Can Ask Yourself " as you reflect on this season. What worked? What didn’t? This is a great conversation to have with your spouse, your kids, and your stepkids. Please contact us if you would like a copy of the 5 Questions to Ask Yourself at hello@gilandbrenda.com #RestoredandRemarried #remarried #remarriage #stepfamily #stepmom #stepdad #stepmother #stepfather #stepparent #stepparenting #stepchild #blendedfamily #marriagehelp #conflictresolution #parenting #remarriagehelp #stepfamilyhelp #blendedfamilyhelp #tipstoolsandtingles #remarriageadvice ...

2017-12-2621 min

GilandBrenda S1 Ep 12 STEPFAMILIES Triple F NightThis episode will encourage you on your stepfamily adventure! Wouldn’t it be great if all your kids were excited as you are about your family? Well, sometimes kids in a stepfamily need a little help, Triple F Night: Forced Family Fun! Hear from Gil and Brenda how they created this term and how it played out in their family! It was a little rough at first, but the kids finally bought into it! Please let Gil and Brenda know your Triple F Night stories at hello@gilandbrenda.com #RestoredandRemarried #remarried #rema...

2017-12-1922 min

GilandBrenda S1 Ep 11 Stop Nagging!This episode will encourage ALL marriages! Hmmm, is this podcast for the men or the woman out there? Gil came home from a few counseling sessions and said: “After the day I’ve had, we gotta do a podcast!” Uh oh, what are you in for? Talking about cantaloupes verses honeydew, does nagging really help and what is the emotion behind it. All relationships will benefit from this one! Hang on! #gilandbrenda #tipstoolsandtingles #RestoredandRemarried #marriagepodcast #investinyourmarriage #marriagecoach #marriagecounselor #husbandwifeteam #remarried #remarriage #stepfamily #stepmom #stepdad #stepmother #stepfather #stepparent #stepparenting #stepchild #blendedfamily #marriagehelp #conflictresolution #parentin...

2017-12-1224 min

GilandBrenda S1 Ep 10 CoParenting Interview with Tammy and Jay DaughtryThis episode will encourage your stepfamily! Join Gil and Brenda as they interview guests Tammy and Jay Daughtry, founders of CoParenting International. What is your relationship like with your child’s other bio parent? Could it be better? This relationship can be very difficult to navigate. Bottom line though, what is in the best interest of your child. Do you have a 3 am friend? Listen in and see what nuggets of wisdom you can apply to...

2017-12-0500 min

GilandBrenda S1 Ep 10 CoParenting Interview with Tammy and Jay DaughtryThis episode will encourage your stepfamily! Join Gil and Brenda as they interview guests Tammy and Jay Daughtry, founders of CoParenting International. What is your relationship like with your child’s other bio parent? Could it be better? This relationship can be very difficult to navigate. Bottom line though, what is in the best interest of your child. Do you have a 3 am friend? Listen in and see what nuggets of wisdom you can apply to your family today! Thank you, Tammy and Jay, for being on the front lines to help families! #Res...

2017-12-0520 min

GilandBrenda S1 Episode 9 The Holidays Part 2This episode will encourage you in your stepfamily adventure! Thanksgiving, Christmas, Mother’s Day, Valentine’s Day, Father’s Day. Whew, there can be a lot going on during the holidays. What’s really going on under the surface? What are YOUR expectations? How are they impacting those around you? Where do the grandparents and ex-inlaws fit into your holiday plans? Or do they? As far as the holidays that involve gift giving, what does that look like for your family? Are your kids/stepkids able to take their gifts to the “other home?”. Listen in as Gil and Brend...

2017-11-2820 min

GilandBrenda S1 Episode #8 The Holidays Part 1This episode will encourage you in your stepfamily adventure! Thanksgiving time! Frozen turkey football, yams or mashed potatoes, whole berry cranberry sauce or jellied? Wow, this holiday can be really loaded…as any holiday can be! What is YOUR attitude during this holiday season? You may be experiencing the unfairness of your divorce/loss of spouse/loss of a dream. How is YOUR attitude affecting the kids…all of them? Have you talked about which holiday traditions to keep and/or which ones you may need to let go of? How have you been intentional in cr...

2017-11-2122 min

GilandBrenda S1 Ep 7 Dating...For ALL marriages!This podcast is for ALL Marriage! You've heard it before...dating and connecting is so important for your relationship! Life is crazy sometimes, we get it. Even more reason to make sure you are in a good place with your partner. What is the science behind dating? Why is it so important? What impact does it have on our relationships? Gil and Brenda will share statistics, tips tools, and tingles. Hang on, this is going to be a good one! Now, go on a date! #gilandbrenda #tipstoolsandtingles #Restor...

2017-11-1429 min

GilandBrenda S1 Ep 7 Dating...For ALL marriages!This podcast is for ALL Marriage! You've heard it before...dating and connecting is so important for your relationship! Life is crazy sometimes, we get it. Even more reason to make sure you are in a good place with your partner. What is the science behind dating? Why is it so important? What impact does it have on our relationships? Gil and...

2017-11-1400 min

GilandBrenda The WallThis episode will encourage ALL marriages! Have you ever experienced having a wall between your partner? Miscommunication, assumptions, conflicts and unmet expectations cause division, which is like a wall. Gil and Brenda will help you reframe the wall, so it will not divide but bring unity into your relationship. Strengthen your marriage and add depth and connection to your marriage today! ...

2017-11-0700 min

GilandBrenda The WallThis episode will encourage ALL marriages! Have you ever experienced having a wall between your partner? Miscommunication, assumptions, conflicts and unmet expectations cause division, which is like a wall. Gil and Brenda will help you reframe the wall, so it will not divide but bring unity into your relationship. Strengthen your marriage and add depth and connection to your marriage today! And yes, there’s homework, GREAT homework! #safemarriage #protectmymarriage #protectourmarriage #marriagecommunication #remarriagecommunication #relationshipcommunication #gilandbrenda #tipstoolsandtingles #RestoredandRemarried #marriagepodcast #investinyourmarriage #marriagecoach #marriagecounselor #husbandwifeteam #remarried #remarriage #stepfamily #stepmom #stepdad #stepmother #stepfather #stepparent #stepparenting #st...

2017-11-0724 min

GilandBrenda Those PeopleStepkids: No matter their age, they can bring lots of joy…or challenges. Which “camp” are you in? Gil and Brenda will tackle some common situations that stepfamilies experience. “You’re not my Dad/Mom.” “I can do whatever I want at my Mom’s house.” “Your rules are bad here, you are so mean.” Sound familiar? In today’s episode, you will learn that you are not alone. Your kiddos may be still in the home or living on their own now. Age can work for you or against you when it comes to the dynamics with a stepch...

2017-11-0726 min

GilandBrenda Catch Phrases Part 2All marriages will benefit from this episode! Catch Phrases Part 2 Here we go with 4 more terms to share: Foxholes, Phantoms, Short Accounts and Unconscious Undertoes. Gil and Brenda share how using these terms have healed past hurts, helped in the area of forgiveness and has built trust in their relationship. Bring clarity and understanding to your relationship by using these terms. Gil and Brenda encourage you to make up your own! Using this communication shortcut has saved them hours of misunderstanding and assumptions. Check out their website for upcoming speaking engagements, Blog, Media...

2017-11-0225 min

GilandBrenda 1+1=3All marriages will benefit from this episode! 1 + 1 = 3 Intersubjectivity. Say what? Listen to how this applies to your marriage. Gil and Brenda will talk about Apple Martinis, Fred, Iris and the Beachfront. Your marriage has its own personality. How’s “it” doing? Learn how to check in with each other and improve the health of your marriage. When we both are intentional in our marriage amazing things will happen. And, we get our needs met. Crazy how that happens. The best gift we can give our kids and society is a marriage that ROCKS!!! Check...

2017-11-0218 min

GilandBrenda Catch Phrases Part 2All marriages will benefit from this episode! Catch Phrases Part 2 Here we go with 4 more terms to share: Foxholes, Phantoms, Short Accounts and Unconscious Undertoes. Gil and Brenda share how using these terms have healed past hurts, helped in the area of forgiveness and has built trust in their relationship. Bring clarity and understanding to your relationship by using these terms. Gil and Brenda encourage you to make up your own! Using this communication shortcut has saved...

2017-11-0200 min

GilandBrenda IntroductionJoin Gil and Brenda Stuart as they share their “dirt under the fingernails” experience in a stepfamily. Counselor and Coach, authors and speakers, they share practical tools so you can have a remarriage that ROCKS! No matter the age of your kids (if you have any) the best gift you can give them is a strong marriage. With Gil and Brenda, you get both the male and female perspective in marriage. As you listen to them, sparks will fly, laughter and tears will happen, but you’ll walk away with insight for your remarriage and stepfamily that you wi...

2017-10-1624 min

GilandBrenda Catch Phrases Part 1All marriages will benefit from this episode! Gil and Brenda share terms and phrases that have helped them reduce conflict in their marriage. Sneaker Waves, Bare Wires, Open Doors and Old Tapes/New Tapes are terms you can start using in your relationship right now! Learn how you can apply these to not only help with communication but to bring connected-ness between you two! Do you know what the Latin term for courage is? Listen in. Check out their website for upcoming speaking engagements, Blog, Media interviews and Small Group materials including a book, workbook...

2017-10-1625 min

GilandBrenda Catch Phrases Part 1All marriages will benefit from this episode! Gil and Brenda share terms and phrases that have helped them reduce conflict in their marriage. Sneaker Waves, Bare Wires, Open Doors and Old Tapes/New Tapes are terms you can start using in your relationship right now! Learn how you can apply these to not only help with communication but to bring connected-ness between you two! Do you know what the Latin term for courage is? Listen...

2017-10-1600 min

GilandBrenda Myths and ExpectationsCouples in a stepfamily will really benefit from this episode. We can really get caught up in having the wrong myths and expectations in our remarriage. Thank goodness Siri can help us out here! Gil and Brenda will look at 7 common myths that remarriages and stepfamilies face. Wow, 72 differences between a first marriage and a second too! Time to take off the rose-colored glasses and get a reality check! Living in a blended family is not for the faint-at-heart. You will build character and understanding that you never knew you had…if you do it right!

2017-10-1627 min