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Coping With GhostingWhen Best Friends Become Strangers: Understanding Female Friendship EstrangementWhen women end a friendship, the heartbreak can be devastating, yet we rarely talk about how hard it is to grieve somebody who is still alive. Susan Shapiro Barash joins Gretta to explore the complex world of female friendship estrangement based on her groundbreaking research interviewing 150 diverse women. Her new book, "Estranged: How Strained Female Friendships Are Mended or Ended," challenges the lifelong "best friends forever" narrative that has left countless women feeling down when their closest friendships crumble. From the faithless friend who betrays your trust to the green-eyed friend consumed by jealousy, Barash identifies different types of t...
2025-08-1033 minCoping With GhostingEpisodes I Love: A Soothing Message For Anyone Who Has Been GhostedIf you've been abandoned in a relationship, this episode is for you. Whether a friend disappeared, a business partner left you on read, or the love of your life ghosted - this episode will explain why it's not personal. It's not your fault, and you didn't deserve this. This show was initially published in 2022. *NOTE: Being "ghosted" is different from leaving an abusive situation without a goodbye - that is "self-protection." It's also different from disappearing after a boundary has been violated; that is "self-respect."Connect with Gretta:Private Coaching with G...
2025-07-2713 minCoping With GhostingEpisodes I Love: Seven Ways to Heal After Being GhostedThis episode originally aired on April 4, 2021.Want healthy ways to cope and heal after being ghosted? Listen as Gretta explains seven healthy ways to get over the ghost so that you can quickly move on with your life. These tips are practical, and ones that you can implement into your life today.Want more ways to heal after being ghosted? Download your Free Coping With Ghosting Guide that pairs with this episode. Connect With GrettaFree & Private Facebook Support Group | Instagram | YouTube | coachgretta.com | Email gretta@copingwithghosting.c...
2025-07-1309 minCoping With GhostingKate Berski on Feeling Behind in Life & Breaking Free from Society’s TimelineHas your life veered dramatically off course from what you planned? Whether through ghosting, betrayal, or an unexpected life challenge, many of us find ourselves struggling with the gap between expectation and reality. This powerful conversation between Host Gretta and Kate Berski, mental health advocate, and author of "30 Phobia: Why Your 20s Suck and How to Get Unstuck," offers liberating perspectives for anyone feeling lost, behind, or simply different from the "normal" timeline. Learn about:The “expectation gap” that can make us feel behind in lifeWhy social media comparisons fuel miseryWhy loneliness spikes during life transitionsMindset shifts for when...
2025-06-2934 minCoping With GhostingThe Women’s Guide to Loneliness, Being Single & Learning to Trust Again“Loneliness doesn’t come from being single; it comes from believing the lies that you’re not enough on your own.” - Fanny Tristan In this episode, host Gretta speaks with women’s empowerment coach and licensed trauma therapist Fanny Tristan, LCSW-R, for a powerful conversation about healing from loneliness, trust issues, and the pressure to be in a relationship. This conversation offers guidance and hope for women and everyone else alike. Together, Fanny and Gretta explore:How to push back against societal pressure to be coupledPractical strategies for self-soothing and moving forward when feeling lonelyWays t...
2025-06-1530 minCoping With GhostingGhosting and Mental Health for Cis and Trans Queer Guys: A Conversation with Rahim ThawerIn this episode of Coping with Ghosting, host Gretta Perlmutter is joined by Rahim Thawer, MSW, RSW, a racialized, queer social worker and author of The Mental Health Guide for Cis and Trans Queer Guys: Skills to Cope and Thrive as Your Authentic Self. Together, they explore the emotional toll of ghosting specifically on gay, bi, trans, or queer guys, and how internalized shame, dating app culture, and communication gaps uniquely affect this community. Rahim offers insights from his new book, shedding light on how queer guys can navigate rejection, heal from ghosting, and reframe their experience. This candid...
2025-06-0140 minCoping With GhostingGhosting and Trauma Bonds: What’s Really Going On and How to HealHave you or somebody you care about ever been in a toxic relationship? If so, it's possible that it was a trauma bond. Knowledge is power, and understanding and recognizing the signs of this type of relationship can be life-changing. In this show, host Gretta interviews Jordanne Sculler, LMHC, about trauma bonds and ghosting. Jordanne is a licensed therapist and mental health expert in New York City, and is dedicated to helping individuals and couples unlock their potential for growth, self-awareness, and authentic connection. Tune in to Discover:• The Trauma Bond Stages: love bom...
2025-05-1820 minCoping With GhostingHealing from Narcissism: Strategies to Overcome Ghosting and Toxic RelationshipsIf you’ve been gaslit, manipulated, betrayed, ghosted, or are feeling emotionally distressed in a relationship, this episode is for you. Therapist Shannon Petrovich, LCSW, LISAC, BCD—who brings over 30 years of clinical experience—joins host Gretta to explore narcissistic and other toxic relationship dynamics. Together, they offer tools to help you set boundaries, release emotional pain, reclaim your strength, and start your healing journey.In this episode, you’ll learn how to:Tell the difference between overt and covert narcissistsSpot trauma bonds and manipulation tacticsUnderstand why someone would ghost you without blocking youOutsmart a narcissist without...
2025-05-0434 minCoping With GhostingFrom Confusion to Confidence: A Conversation with Giovanna SilvestreWhat if confusion is a virtue? In this episode, Host Gretta interviews Giovanna Silvestre—creator of Confused Girl in the City and author of the new book Confused Girl: Find Your Peace in the Chaos. Together, they explore how the uncertainty that follows ghosting and betrayal can become a springboard for positive transformation. Giovanna offers a refreshing, hopeful perspective for anyone who’s been ghosted and left questioning their worth.Tune in to discover: ✨ How to reclaim your voice after being ghosted ✨ Practical strategies to rebuild self-love after betrayal ✨ How to cultiva...
2025-04-2046 minCoping With GhostingGhosting, Attachment Styles & The Path to Secure Love With Julie MenannoShould you get back together with the person who ghosted you? How can you build a secure relationship after being ghosted? Whether you're dating or single, Julie Menanno, MA, LMFT, LCPC, has answers. Julie is a therapist, author, and creator of The Secure Relationship, a community dedicated to helping people build secure, loving relationships. In this show, she offers powerful insights on building secure relationships after experiencing the pain of ghosting. Discover:• The four attachment styles: anxious, avoidant, disorganized, and secure• Essential inner work for preparing for healthy relationships after being ghosted• Managing triggers after b...
2025-04-0650 minCoping With GhostingHow to Break Up With Someone: A Step-by-Step GuideEnding a relationship is never easy, but doing it with dignity and respect can make all the difference for you and the person you're breaking things off with. In this anti-ghosting episode, Gretta interviews relationship experts Dr. April Brown and Kanya "Coach Kay" Ford, who share their profound wisdom on how to break up nicely and not resort to ghosting. Discover:How to know if you should break up with someonePractical strategies to prepare for a breakupHow to structure a breakup conversation with respect and clarityWhat to do about no contactHow to heal after a breakup ...
2025-03-2331 minCoping With GhostingGhosting, Love & Dating: How to Create Deeper Connections with Topaz AdizesIn this engaging episode, Gretta speaks with Topaz Adizes—Emmy award-winning writer, director, experience design architect, and creator of The Skin Deep—as he shares his transformative journey through challenging relationships and his path to finding true love. Topaz opens up about his experience with ghosting and the valuable lessons he's learned along the way. He shares strategies for attracting real love and the profound impact of asking the right questions to deepen connections. Tune in for an insightful and heartfelt conversation emphasizing vulnerability, introspection, and the power of shared experiences.Topaz is an Emmy award-winning writer, dire...
2025-03-0939 minCoping With GhostingNavigating Depression After Being Ghosted: What You Need to Know with Jeremy GodwinHas being ghosted left you feeling disconnected or not quite yourself? If you're wondering whether you're experiencing depression or just going through a tough time, this episode will help you understand your emotions and find a path forward. Jeremy Godwin, host of the popular "Let's Talk Mental Health Podcast," writer and coach/counsellor from Australia, joins Gretta to explore the nuances of grief associated with being ghosted, ways to recognize signs of depression, and practical steps to seek help and foster healing. Listen to discover:• Jeremy's personal experiences with being ghosted and mental health• How to reco...
2025-02-2330 minCoping With GhostingHow Attachment Styles Impact Love, Dating, and GhostingAttachment styles profoundly impact how we experience love and relationships, particularly regarding ghosting. Understanding these dynamics helps heal emotional wounds and pave the way for healthier future connections. Bev Mitelman, M.A. - Certified Attachment Practitioner & Founder of Securely Loved, shares profound insights about dating, ghosting, and attachment in this show. Tune in and learn about:• Attachment theory and its origins in childhood • Secure vs. insecure attachment styles and how they show up in dating, and which style ghosts the most• How to weed out potential ghosts in dating • Why you long for the per...
2025-02-091h 02Coping With GhostingDo Ghosters Care? Breaking Down an Academic Study on GhostingWhat happens when someone vanishes from your life without a word? In this episode, host Gretta dives into the social phenomenon of ghosting with insights from researchers Yejin Park and Nadav Klein. Together, they unpack the latest research on ghosting, specifically YeJin and Nadav's study, Ghosting: Social Rejection Without Explanation, But Not Without Care. Surprisingly, some ghosts believe that disappearing without a trace is the kinder choice. While this doesn't justify ghosting, it offers a deeper look into the psychology behind it. Join us as we explore the emotional dynamics of human behavior in relationships and challenge the way...
2025-01-2647 minCoping With GhostingRe-release: Who Ghosts and Why? Understanding Personality Disorders and GhostingNarcissists. Sociopaths. Psychopaths. In this episode, Denise M. Dudley, Ph.D., explains specific personality disorders as they relate to ghosting behavior. Gretta and Denise also touch on other possible reasons why people ghost, and how personal issues can lead to ghosting. This episode answers the question, "How could someone ghost?"Aaaand, as a reminder, when you're ghosted, it's not your job to analyze your ghost. It's your job to take care of yourself. Knowledge is power, and this episode can help you identify unhealthy relationship dynamics.Connect With Gretta:Coaching Sessions
2025-01-1247 minCoping With GhostingHow To Get Over the Person Who Ghosted YouHow do you move on after being ghosted by a friend, family member, coworker, lover, or somebody you just had a date with? How do you know if you're truly over the ghost? This show has all the answers and so much more. Coach Gretta is joined by Dr. Lilli Niester, a naturopathic doctor and relationship expert with over 10 years of experience studying emotional health and the science of relationships. After earning a B.S. in Neuroscience and Psychology and graduating as valedictorian with a Doctorate in Naturopathic Medicine, she helps people heal from breakups and overcome unhealthy relationship p...
2024-12-2941 minCoping With Ghosting5 Signs They're Serious About Commitment in Dating and Relationships with Jonathon AslayWhat are the signs of a healthy romantic relationship? What should you look for when seeking a lasting commitment? On today's episode of CWG, Coach Gretta is joined by Jonathon Aslay, America's leading mid-life dating coach, to explore how to build a deep, trusting, and compatible relationship. Jonathon has helped people worldwide embrace self-love and create fulfilling relationships through his popular YouTube channel and Mid-Life Love Mastery mentorship program.In a world dominated by dating apps and technology, how do we form meaningful connections amidst the noise? In this engaging conversation, Jonathon offers valuable insights on ghosting...
2024-12-1648 minCoping With GhostingGhosting, Gender Dynamics, and Emotional Recovery From GhostingExplore the complex world of dating and love ghosting and its ties to gender and relationships with host and coach Gretta Perlmutter and guest Aaron Karmin, author and psychotherapist. Delve into how societal norms and communication pitfalls contribute to ghosting, and understand the unique challenges different genders and identities face.Topics covered include:Why do women ghost men? Why do men ghost women? A deeper look at how gender dynamics can influence ghosting.Ghosting within the LGBTQ+ community.How past experiences of invisibility can amplify the emotional impact of being ghosted.Emotional recovery from ghosting: tools...
2024-12-0139 minCoping With GhostingGen Z & Millennial Ghosting Behavior: A Look at Ghosting, Loneliness, Dating, and Online RelationshipsIn this episode, host Gretta is joined by Dr. Tirrell DeGannes, Psy.D., to explore ghosting, online relationships, loneliness, dating, and beyond. Dr. DeGannes shares highlights from Thriving Center of Psychology's "Report: Top 6 Reasons Gen Z and Millennials Ghost" and unpacks many psychological factors driving this behavior in today's digital age.Dr. DeGannes provides valuable insights on:- Why Gen Z and Millenials ghost - "Offended" ghosts and a deeper look into the definition of ghosting- Romantic, friendship, business, and online relationship ghosting - Reciprocal ghosting, where both parties silently withdraw
2024-11-1745 minCoping With GhostingWhy Do I Keep Getting Ghosted? Understanding The Anxious-Avoidant TrapHave you ever wondered, "Why do I keep getting ghosted?" If so, you're not alone, and it’s not your fault. Join Coach Gretta and Conscious Dating & Relationship Coach and Attachment Expert Taryn Newton-Gill as they dive deep into attachment styles, relational dynamics, and the complexities of ghosting. In this insightful episode, you'll discover:Why people with certain attachment styles are likely to ghostHow anxious attachment contributes to push-pull dynamics with avoidant partnersThree strategies to build more secure relationshipsWhether you’re grappling with anxiety in relationships or trying to understand the behaviors of avoidant partn...
2024-11-0353 minCoping With GhostingReclaiming Intimacy: Overcoming the Sex Ghost, with Dr. Katie StirlingJoin Coach Gretta and Katie Stirling, Clinical Psychologist, Sexologist, and Gottman Certified Couples Therapist, for a compelling discussion on ghosting in intimate relationships. In this show, Dr. Stirling provides gentle guidance on:Being ghosted before becoming physically intimate with a partnerEncountering a one-night stand ghostExperiencing ghosting when there's more emotional closeness and bonding after sexBeing ghosted after an STD revelationPost-ghost sex: how to let go and enjoy yourself What to do if the sex ghost returnsWe also discuss how to trust again, the complexities of identifying red flags, and the importance of open communication in new r...
2024-10-2051 minCoping With GhostingProtecting Your Heart in the Digital Dating World, with Haifa BarbariDiscover how to protect your emotional well-being in the maze of modern dating with insights from Haifa Barbari, futurist and founder of the Be What Matters app. Learn how dating apps can hijack your brain's reward system, making ghosting feel like a gut punch, and explore essential strategies for using these platforms mindfully. In this episode, Haifa and host Gretta discuss how to stop obsessively checking up on ghosts and stop idealizing them. Haifa provides powerful techniques to reclaim your self-worth, find emotional balance, and cultivate healthier daily habits.Connect with Haifa:Be What...
2024-10-0645 minCoping With GhostingRadical Acceptance: The Top Strategy for Post-Ghost PeaceRadical acceptance is one of the best mindset strategies for healing after being ghosted. On this episode of "Coping with Ghosting," we welcome back the brilliant Dr. Terri Bacow, an expert in cognitive behavioral therapy. Dr. Bacow breaks down the concept of radical acceptance, emphasizing that it's not about approving hurtful actions but about adopting a self-compassionate strategy to ease your suffering. Host Gretta and Dr. Bacow's discussion reveals how resisting reality can be draining and why radically accepting the unchangeable can liberate you from emotional turmoil. Connect with Dr. Terri Bacow:Dr. Bacow's...
2024-09-2221 minCoping With GhostingOvercoming Self-Harm, with Jocelyn Fitzgerald, LMFTIf you're self-harming after being ghosted, you're not alone, and there are resources to help you through this journey. Jocelyn Fitzgerald, art therapist and EMDR consultant, joins Gretta to provide gentle guidance on acknowledging self-harming behaviors and finding healthier solutions. Jocelyn's career has spanned across various settings, from tackling self-harm in teens to helping refugees overcome trauma using EMDR therapy. She is also a published author and co-edited a groundbreaking textbook on creative arts therapies. Additionally, she runs a successful private practice and offers innovative tools through her Etsy shop to aid individuals in exploring their emotions and cultivating...
2024-09-0830 minCoping With GhostingHealing Through Journaling, with Dr. Kellie KirkseyHave you ever felt the sting of being ghosted and wondered how to heal from the emotional fallout? Whether you were ghosted by a friend, family member, date, lover, or colleague - this show provides answers. Join Gretta as she interviews the incredibly insightful Dr. Kellie Kirksey, who is a licensed clinical counselor, certified rehabilitation counselor, author, yoga instructor, reiki practitioner, dancing mindfulness facilitator, clinical hypnotherapist, EMDR therapist, expressive arts therapist, and certified mind-body medicine professional. Dr. Kirksey shares:- The benefits of journaling- Creative ways to journal, including voice notes- Journal prompts...
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