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Coping with GhostingHow to Heal the Body and Nervous System After BetrayalDiscover how to use somatic exercises and hypnotherapy to regulate your nervous system and reclaim safety in your body after experiencing betrayal trauma.Ghosting and betrayal don't just affect your thoughts; they trigger a physical stress response. This week, Host Gretta connects with Dr. Danielle Griffin to examine how emotional trauma impacts the body, causing elevated cortisol, jaw tension, tight shoulders, and headaches.After burnout and grief prompted a career pivot into somatic therapy, Dr. Danielle now helps people address the physical strain that traditional talk therapy often leaves behind. This conversation clarifies what hypnotherapy a...
2026-05-3129 min
Cupid's Coach with Julie FermanEp. 243 - Gretta PerlmutterWhy They Disappeared: Coping with Ghosting & Betrayal with Gretta PerlmutterHave you ever been left on "read" forever? In modern dating, few things are as frustrating or painful as a sudden, unexplained ending. In this episode of the Cupid’s Coach Podcast, host Julie Ferman welcomes Gretta Perlmutter, a Certified Post Betrayal Transformation® Coach and host of the Coping With Ghosting podcast. Gretta shares her professional expertise and personal journey through "ghosting on repeat" to help you understand why people disappear and how to reclaim your peace of mind.Julie and Gretta break down the...
2026-05-0545 minCoping with GhostingHow to Heal From Cheating and BetrayalWhen someone you trust breaks that bond, the world can feel like it’s turned upside down. In this episode, breakup coach Janice Formicella and Host Gretta discuss the messy reality of betrayal and how to move forward. We dive into why people cheat, how to handle the "I’m not enough" narrative, and why taking a break from dating might be the best thing you ever do for your confidence.What we cover in this episode:Why cheaters do it, from poor communication to fear of conflict.Attachment styles and cheating.How to stop...
2026-04-2638 minCoping with GhostingWhen Chaos Feels Like Home: Healing From High-Conflict Family Cycles with Dr. Tracy HutchinsonDo you ever feel like you’re waiting for the "other shoe to drop," even when things are going well? If you grew up in a high-conflict environment, your nervous system may have been wired to view chaos as "home."In this episode, host Gretta welcomes trauma therapist and author Dr. Tracy Hutchinson to explore the deep-seated impact of being raised in unpredictable, high-stress family systems. The habits we formed to survive these environments often follow us into adulthood, showing up as anxiety, self-blame, and a pattern of choosing unstable relationships. In this episode, we cover the fo...
2026-03-2947 minCoping with GhostingFrom Anxious to Secure Attachment Style with Trevor HansonDoes it ever feel like you’re dating the same person with a different name? If you notice that you’re often gravitating toward emotionally unavailable people, this episode is for you.Joining Gretta to discuss attachment is Trevor Hanson, coach and founder of The Art of Healing. Trevor teaches relationship and attachment skills through the Secure Self Club. In this show, Trevor deconstructs common relationship dynamics and shares how to finally break the cycle of insecure attachment. This episode covers:How to move from an insecure attachment style to a more secure one.How a...
2026-02-2249 minCoping with GhostingBetrayal and Burnout: Managing Life When It’s "Too Much," with Dr. Ken HueyIf your nervous system has been on high alert lately, you aren’t alone. Maybe you’re dealing with a painful betrayal or the silence of being ghosted, and facing a job issue, a personal loss, or health stress.In this episode, Dr. Ken Huey from The Voice of Hope Podcast shares how to navigate compounded stress and find your way back from overwhelm when everything feels like "too much."In this episode, we discuss:The Breath as an Anchor: Using your breath as the primary entry point to the pres...
2026-01-2535 min
From Betrayal To Breakthrough454: From Ghosted to Empowered: How to Heal When Someone DisappearsJoin host Dr. Debi as she sits down with Gretta Perlmutter, a certified PBT® coach who specializes in helping people heal from ghosting. Gretta shares her personal journey from being ghosted multiple times to becoming an expert in understanding this painful form of betrayal and helping others move forward with confidence. Key Topics Covered Gretta's Personal Story Being ghosted multiple times in business, friendships, and dating The shocking experience of being ghosted after a multi-day trip invitation The mental health toll and unhealthy coping mechanisms T...
2025-12-2930 minCoping with GhostingHow to Spot a Narcissist in Relationships, with Dr. Harold Shinitzky, Psy.D.Narcissistic behavior often hides in plain sight, especially in relationships. Recognizing the signs of narcissism before entering a relationship or while you are already in one can be the first step toward protecting your peace of mind.In this episode, Dr. Harold Shinitzky, Psy.D., breaks down the different types of narcissism, how narcissistic traits show up in relationships, and what real support and healing can look like.You’ll learn about: • Gaslighting, love bombing, mirroring, and future faking • Put-downs, smear campaigns, and projection • Control, surveillance, and emotional manipulation • What actua...
2025-12-2859 minCoping with GhostingLimerence Explained: Signs, Causes, and How to Move Forward with Kati Morton, LMFTHave you ever longed for someone who didn't feel the same way? If you have a deep infatuation or an obsessive pull toward a person, you may be experiencing limerence. In this episode, host Gretta is joined by Kati Morton, LMFT, author, public speaker, and creator of a popular mental health YouTube channel, to unpack the emotional complexities of limerence.Discover:The difference between limerence and healthy loveLimerence and how it relates to anxious attachment, BPD, and OCDWhy manifestation won’t change a limerent objectSupportive ways to move through limerenceAnd more!If limerence is something yo...
2025-11-3026 minCoping with GhostingWill They Ghost Me? How to Spot the Signs in Dating with Kelsey Wonderlin, Licensed Therapist & Dating CoachWant to stop ghosting before it happens? While you can never entirely prevent ghosting, there are signs it may occur in the future. Join host Gretta and licensed therapist & dating coach Kelsey Wonderlin as they share practical tools for spotting emotional availability in dating.Discover how to:Use questions to screen for emotional maturityPace dates to slow attachmentDate with confidenceSpot vulnerability versus polished talkWhether you're single and dating or already in a relationship, this conversation provides ways to protect your energy and prioritize partners who show up. Connect With Gretta
2025-10-2625 minCoping with GhostingWhat to Do When the Person Who Ghosted You Returns in Love or DatingIn this episode, host Gretta, Certified Post Betrayal Transformation® Coach, reveals exactly what to do when the person who ghosted you reappears and wants to come back to your life. You’ll learn how to protect your heart, set clear boundaries, and decide with confidence whether a reunion is truly right for you. You’ll discover:The types of relationships that aren't safe to go back toHow to be a ghostbuster and shut down the hauntingHow to identify if the person who hurt you has grown and evolved to the point where they are unlikely to vanish againHow to kn...
2025-09-2826 minCoping with GhostingEpisodes I Love: Why Ghosting is an Ambiguous Loss with Gabriela Vazquez, AMFT, APCCIn this episode of Coping With Ghosting, Gabriela Vazquez, AMFT, APCC, and Gretta discuss why ghosting is an ambiguous loss that causes frozen grief. If you have been rejected, led on, or abandoned in a relationship - you are not alone. In this episode, we cover why it's healthy and essential to grieve the loss of your ghost. Connect With Gretta❤️🩹Free & Private Facebook Support Group | Instagram | YouTube | copingwithghosting.comHost Gretta Perlmutter, MA, a Certified Post Betrayal Transformation® Coach, delivers evidence-based strategies for turning personal betrayal into a powerful catalyst for growth a...
2025-08-3121 minCoping with GhostingWhen Best Friends Become Strangers: Understanding Female Friendship EstrangementWhen women end a friendship, the heartbreak can be devastating, yet we rarely talk about how hard it is to grieve somebody who is still alive. Susan Shapiro Barash joins Gretta to explore the complex world of female friendship estrangement based on her groundbreaking research interviewing 150 diverse women. Her new book, "Estranged: How Strained Female Friendships Are Mended or Ended," challenges the lifelong "best friends forever" narrative that has left countless women feeling down when their closest friendships crumble. From the faithless friend who betrays your trust to the green-eyed friend consumed by jealousy, Barash identifies different types of t...
2025-08-1034 minCoping with GhostingEpisodes I Love: A Soothing Message For Anyone Who Has Been GhostedIf you've been abandoned in a relationship, this episode is for you. Whether a friend disappeared, a business partner left you on read, or the love of your life ghosted - this episode will explain why it's not personal. It's not your fault, and you didn't deserve this. This show was initially published in 2022. *NOTE: Being "ghosted" is different from leaving an abusive situation without a goodbye - that is "self-protection." It's also different from disappearing after a boundary has been violated; that is "self-respect."Connect with Gretta:Private Coaching with G...
2025-07-2714 minCoping with GhostingEpisodes I Love: Seven Ways to Heal After Being GhostedThis episode originally aired on April 4, 2021.Want healthy ways to cope and heal after being ghosted? Listen as Gretta explains seven healthy ways to get over the ghost so that you can quickly move on with your life. These tips are practical, and ones that you can implement into your life today.Want more ways to heal after being ghosted? Download your Free Coping With Ghosting Guide that pairs with this episode. Connect With GrettaFree & Private Facebook Support Group | Instagram | YouTube | coachgretta.com | Email gretta@copingwithghosting.c...
2025-07-1310 minCoping with GhostingKate Berski on Feeling Behind in Life & Breaking Free from Society’s TimelineHas your life veered dramatically off course from what you planned? Whether through ghosting, betrayal, or an unexpected life challenge, many of us find ourselves struggling with the gap between expectation and reality. This powerful conversation between Host Gretta and Kate Berski, mental health advocate, and author of "30 Phobia: Why Your 20s Suck and How to Get Unstuck," offers liberating perspectives for anyone feeling lost, behind, or simply different from the "normal" timeline. Learn about:The “expectation gap” that can make us feel behind in lifeWhy social media comparisons fuel miseryWhy loneliness spikes during life transitionsMindset shifts for when...
2025-06-2935 minCoping with GhostingThe Women’s Guide to Loneliness, Being Single & Learning to Trust Again“Loneliness doesn’t come from being single; it comes from believing the lies that you’re not enough on your own.” - Fanny Tristan In this episode, host Gretta speaks with women’s empowerment coach and licensed trauma therapist Fanny Tristan, LCSW-R, for a powerful conversation about healing from loneliness, trust issues, and the pressure to be in a relationship. This conversation offers guidance and hope for women and everyone else alike. Together, Fanny and Gretta explore:How to push back against societal pressure to be coupledPractical strategies for self-soothing and moving forward when feeling lonelyWays t...
2025-06-1531 minCoping with GhostingGhosting and Mental Health for Cis and Trans Queer Guys: A Conversation with Rahim ThawerIn this episode of Coping with Ghosting, host Gretta Perlmutter is joined by Rahim Thawer, MSW, RSW, a racialized, queer social worker and author of The Mental Health Guide for Cis and Trans Queer Guys: Skills to Cope and Thrive as Your Authentic Self. Together, they explore the emotional toll of ghosting specifically on gay, bi, trans, or queer guys, and how internalized shame, dating app culture, and communication gaps uniquely affect this community. Rahim offers insights from his new book, shedding light on how queer guys can navigate rejection, heal from ghosting, and reframe their experience. This candid...
2025-06-0141 minCoping with GhostingGhosting and Trauma Bonds: What’s Really Going On and How to HealHave you or somebody you care about ever been in a toxic relationship? If so, it's possible that it was a trauma bond. Knowledge is power, and understanding and recognizing the signs of this type of relationship can be life-changing. In this show, host Gretta interviews Jordanne Sculler, LMHC, about trauma bonds and ghosting. Jordanne is a licensed therapist and mental health expert in New York City, and is dedicated to helping individuals and couples unlock their potential for growth, self-awareness, and authentic connection. Tune in to Discover:• The Trauma Bond Stages: love bom...
2025-05-1820 minCoping with GhostingHealing from Narcissism: Strategies to Overcome Ghosting and Toxic RelationshipsIf you’ve been gaslit, manipulated, betrayed, ghosted, or are feeling emotionally distressed in a relationship, this episode is for you. Therapist Shannon Petrovich, LCSW, LISAC, BCD—who brings over 30 years of clinical experience—joins host Gretta to explore narcissistic and other toxic relationship dynamics. Together, they offer tools to help you set boundaries, release emotional pain, reclaim your strength, and start your healing journey.In this episode, you’ll learn how to:Tell the difference between overt and covert narcissistsSpot trauma bonds and manipulation tacticsUnderstand why someone would ghost you without blocking youOutsmart a narcissist without...
2025-05-0436 minCoping with GhostingFrom Confusion to Confidence: A Conversation with Giovanna SilvestreWhat if confusion is a virtue? In this episode, Host Gretta interviews Giovanna Silvestre—creator of Confused Girl in the City and author of the new book Confused Girl: Find Your Peace in the Chaos. Together, they explore how the uncertainty that follows ghosting and betrayal can become a springboard for positive transformation. Giovanna offers a refreshing, hopeful perspective for anyone who’s been ghosted and left questioning their worth.Tune in to discover: ✨ How to reclaim your voice after being ghosted ✨ Practical strategies to rebuild self-love after betrayal ✨ How to cultiva...
2025-04-2047 minCoping with GhostingGhosting, Attachment Styles & The Path to Secure Love With Julie MenannoShould you get back together with the person who ghosted you? How can you build a secure relationship after being ghosted? Whether you're dating or single, Julie Menanno, MA, LMFT, LCPC, has answers. Julie is a therapist, author, and creator of The Secure Relationship, a community dedicated to helping people build secure, loving relationships. In this show, she offers powerful insights on building secure relationships after experiencing the pain of ghosting. Discover:• The four attachment styles: anxious, avoidant, disorganized, and secure• Essential inner work for preparing for healthy relationships after being ghosted• Managing triggers after b...
2025-04-0651 minCoping with GhostingHow to Break Up With Someone: A Step-by-Step GuideEnding a relationship is never easy, but doing it with dignity and respect can make all the difference for you and the person you're breaking things off with. In this anti-ghosting episode, Gretta interviews relationship experts Dr. April Brown and Kanya "Coach Kay" Ford, who share their profound wisdom on how to break up nicely and not resort to ghosting. Discover:How to know if you should break up with someonePractical strategies to prepare for a breakupHow to structure a breakup conversation with respect and clarityWhat to do about no contactHow to heal after a breakup ...
2025-03-2332 minCoping with GhostingGhosting, Love & Dating: How to Create Deeper Connections with Topaz AdizesIn this engaging episode, Gretta speaks with Topaz Adizes—Emmy award-winning writer, director, experience design architect, and creator of The Skin Deep—as he shares his transformative journey through challenging relationships and his path to finding true love. Topaz opens up about his experience with ghosting and the valuable lessons he's learned along the way. He shares strategies for attracting real love and the profound impact of asking the right questions to deepen connections. Tune in for an insightful and heartfelt conversation emphasizing vulnerability, introspection, and the power of shared experiences.Topaz is an Emmy award-winning writer, dire...
2025-03-0941 minCoping with GhostingNavigating Depression After Being Ghosted: What You Need to Know with Jeremy GodwinHas being ghosted left you feeling disconnected or not quite yourself? If you're wondering whether you're experiencing depression or just going through a tough time, this episode will help you understand your emotions and find a path forward. Jeremy Godwin, host of the popular "Let's Talk Mental Health Podcast," writer and coach/counsellor from Australia, joins Gretta to explore the nuances of grief associated with being ghosted, ways to recognize signs of depression, and practical steps to seek help and foster healing. Listen to discover:• Jeremy's personal experiences with being ghosted and mental health• How to reco...
2025-02-2331 minCoping with GhostingHow Attachment Styles Impact Love, Dating, and GhostingAttachment styles profoundly impact how we experience love and relationships, particularly regarding ghosting. Understanding these dynamics helps heal emotional wounds and pave the way for healthier future connections. Bev Mitelman, M.A. - Certified Attachment Practitioner & Founder of Securely Loved, shares profound insights about dating, ghosting, and attachment in this show. Tune in and learn about:• Attachment theory and its origins in childhood • Secure vs. insecure attachment styles and how they show up in dating, and which style ghosts the most• How to weed out potential ghosts in dating • Why you long for the per...
2025-02-091h 02Coping with GhostingDo Ghosters Care? Breaking Down an Academic Study on GhostingWhat happens when someone vanishes from your life without a word? In this episode, host Gretta dives into the social phenomenon of ghosting with insights from researchers Yejin Park and Nadav Klein. Together, they unpack the latest research on ghosting, specifically YeJin and Nadav's study, Ghosting: Social Rejection Without Explanation, But Not Without Care. Surprisingly, some ghosts believe that disappearing without a trace is the kinder choice. While this doesn't justify ghosting, it offers a deeper look into the psychology behind it. Join us as we explore the emotional dynamics of human behavior in relationships and challenge the way...
2025-01-2649 min