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Not Your Average CounsellorShould You Prioritise Your Relationship or Your Career?š Can you truly have it allādeep love and career successāor does something always have to give? In this episode, weāre diving into the balancing act between personal connection and professional ambition.
Inside This Episode:
āļø Why does it feel like a choice? Societal pressures and traditional roles often pit love against success.
š§ What matters most to you? Self-reflection on whether you're career-driven, relationship-focusedāor striving for both.
š¼ Can you have both? Real-life stories of people navigating this tug-of-war, and what helped them find (or lose) balance.
ā¤ļø How supportive i...
2025-08-2524 minNot Your Average CounsellorCan You Truly Love Someone Without Ever Having Met Them in Person?š Is love real without physical presence, or is it just an emotional illusion? In this episode, we explore how digital-age relationships are redefining what connection and intimacy mean today.
Inside This Episode:
š¬ What is love in the digital era? Emotional connection vs. physical presenceāhas technology changed the rules?
š The power of emotional bonds. Can strong love grow through screens and messages alone?
š§ Fantasy vs. reality. Are you falling in love with who they areāor the idea of them?
š¬ The science of connection. What happens in our brains when we bond...
2025-08-1126 minNot Your Average CounsellorSoulmates? Not So Fast! How Disney and Other Stories Mess with Our Idea of 'The One'š Is āThe Oneā a romantic fantasy or a harmful myth? This episode unpacks how movies, books, and culture have shaped our expectations of loveāand whether believing in soulmates is helping or hurting modern relationships.
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Inside This Episode:
š Where did the soulmate idea come from? Exploring the historical, philosophical, and spiritual origins of āThe One.ā
š¬ The Disney effect. How fairy tales and Hollywood have set us up for unrealistic relationship expectations.
ā Is 'The One' a myth? Love as a choice vs. love as fateāwhat really makes a relationship last?
ā ļø The prob...
2025-07-2823 minNot Your Average CounsellorIs It Fair for One Partner to Have Significantly More Power in a Relationship?š Does power imbalance strengthen or weaken a relationship? In this episode, we explore where power dynamics come from, how they impact both partners, and whether true equality is possible in relationships.
Inside This Episode:
āļø What is power in a relationship? Emotional, financial, social, and decision-making powerāwhere does it come from?
š° The financial power struggle. Should the higher-earning partner have more say in financial decisions?
š The risks of unequal power. How control, manipulation, or resentment can develop when one partner holds too much influence.
ā¤ļø Emotional power & manipulation. When does influence turn into...
2025-07-1425 minNot Your Average CounsellorHas Society Turned Co-Dependency into a Love Story?š Are we mistaking emotional over-reliance for true love? This episode unpacks how society romanticises co-dependency and where we should draw the line between deep connection and unhealthy attachment.
Inside This Episode:
ā¤ļø What is co-dependency? The difference between healthy interdependence and losing yourself in a relationship.
š¬ The mediaās role. How movies, TV, and books glorify obsessive love as the ultimate romance.
š The āride or dieā mentality. Is staying no matter what really loveāor just fear of letting go?
š© Signs of co-dependency disguised as love. Feeling responsible for a partnerās emotions? Losi...
2025-06-3023 minNot Your Average CounsellorShould Couples Have Access to Each Otherās Phones and Social Media Accounts?Should Couples Have Access to Each Otherās Phones and Social Media Accounts?
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š Does full access build trust, or is it crossing a boundary? In this episode, weāre diving into the ongoing debate over privacy, transparency, and control in relationships.
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Inside This Episode:
š Trust vs. transparency. Is sharing passwords a sign of honesty or insecurity?
š§ Healthy boundaries matter. Personal space doesnāt mean secrecyāit means respect.
ā¤ļø Why do some couples share everything? From openness to past betrayals, what drives this choice?
š When privacy gets mistaken...
2025-06-1626 minNot Your Average CounsellorShould You Change Who You Are for Your Partner?š Is love about compromise, or should you be accepted exactly as you are? This episode dives into the fine line between healthy growth and losing yourself in a relationship.
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Inside This Episode:
ā¤ļø The nature of change. Relationships naturally shape us, but when does growth turn into self-sacrifice?
š The pressure to change. Societal, cultural, and personal expectations can make you feel like youāre not āenoughā as you are.
āļø Compromise vs. self-sacrifice. Adjusting habits is one thingāabandoning your core identity is another.
š¤ Are you changing for YOU or for them? Self-reflecti...
2025-05-2722 minNot Your Average CounsellorWhatās Your Role in Coercive Control?š Could you be unknowingly enabling, experiencing, or even exercising coercive control? This episode unpacks the complexities of manipulation, power, and controlāhelping you recognize, address, and break free from harmful dynamics.
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Inside This Episode:
ā ļø What is coercive control? How it differs from other forms of abuse and where it shows up in relationships, work, and family.
š Recognizing the signs. Isolation, gaslighting, financial controlācoercive behaviors can be subtle but damaging.
š¤ Are you being controlled? Self-reflection questions to help identify coercive control in your life.
š¬ Are you enabling it? How societal norm...
2025-05-1225 minNot Your Average CounsellorIs It Possible to Be Friends with an Ex?š Can you truly move on while keeping your ex in your life? This episode dives into the emotional, practical, and relational challenges of post-breakup friendshipsāwhen they work, when they donāt, and how to navigate them.
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Inside This Episode:
ā¤ļø Why do some people stay friends with an ex? Shared history, mutual respect, or just avoiding awkwardness?
š When itās a bad idea. Mixed signals, lingering feelings, and the struggle to truly move on.
š£ļø How to set boundaries. Friendship only works when both parties are on the same pageāno blurred lines.
2025-04-2819 minNot Your Average CounsellorShould You Tell Your Partner If You Cheat on Them?š Is honesty always the best policy, or can some secrets do more harm than good? Today, weāre tackling one of the most controversial relationship dilemmasāshould you confess to infidelity, or take it to the grave?
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Inside This Episode:
ā¤ļø What counts as cheating? Emotional affairs, physical infidelity, blurred linesāeveryone defines it differently.
š¤ Why do people cheat? Unmet needs, emotional disconnect, impulseāletās unpack the reasons behind betrayal.
āļø The ethics of honesty. Is confession about accountability, or just easing guilt?
š„ The impact of telling the truth. Can a relationship su...
2025-04-1433 minNot Your Average CounsellorWhat Are Your Thoughts on Open Relationships? Can They Work?š Are open relationships the key to deeper connection, or a fast track to heartbreak? Love isnāt one-size-fits-all, and today, weāre exploring the world of non-monogamyāits challenges, its benefits, and what it really takes to make it work.
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Inside This Episode:
ā¤ļø What exactly is an open relationship? Itās not just one definitionāevery couple creates their own rules.
š Why do people choose it? Freedom, variety, deeper intimacyāwhatās the real motivation?
š£ļø Communication is EVERYTHING. Without trust and clear boundaries, things fall apartāfast.
š¬ Letās talk jealousy. It happens. Bu...
2025-04-0134 minNot Your Average CounsellorIs It Okay to Stay in a Relationship If Youāre No Longer in Love?Is It Okay to Stay in a Relationship If Youāre No Longer in Love?
š What if love isnāt gone, just buried under routine? Or what if staying means sacrificing your happiness? This is one of the toughest questions in relationships, and thereās no simple answer.
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What Weāre Covering in This Episode:
ā¤ļø How do you know if youāre truly out of loveāor just stuck in a rut?
š„ The difference between passion fading and emotional disconnectionĀ
š¤ Why do people stay: fear, obligation, or hope for change?
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2025-03-1726 minNot Your Average CounsellorWelcome to the New Era of Not Your Average Counsellor!Welcome to Not Your Average Counsellor 2025!
Iām back with bold, thought-provoking conversations on relationships, mental health, and personal growth.
This season, weāre shaking things up with big questions like: š Should you stay in a relationship if youāre no longer in love? š Should you tell your partner if you cheat? š Have we turned co-dependency into a love story?
No sugar-coating. Just raw, honest discussions embracing lifeās messy realities.
Your Voice Matters ā This podcast is a two-way conversation. DM me, email me, share your thoughts. Letās talk!
The Me, Myself, and...
2025-02-2830 minNot Your Average CounsellorNavigating Toxic Relationships: Is It Me or Is It Them? (PART 2)Have you ever wondered if you're in a toxic relationship but just canāt quite put your finger on what feels off? Maybe youāre questioning if itās you or them.
Toxic relationships arenāt limited to romantic partners. These unhealthy dynamics can show up with friends, family, and even colleagues. You might not even realise how much theyāre affecting your mental and emotional well-being until you know what to look for.
In this episode, we continue the conversation from Part 1, where I shared Janeās story to show you firsthand how toxic relationship...
2024-12-0434 minNot Your Average CounsellorNavigating Toxic Relationships: Is It Me or Is It Them? (PART 1)Janeās story is one I canāt keep to myselfāitās too important.
Jane walked into my office with a smile that hid the pain she had carried for years. On the surface, she seemed to have it allāyoung, intelligent, beautiful, and financially independent. But beneath that, she was grappling with a toxic relationship that drained her energy, poisoned her self-worth, and left her questioning her reality.
And Jane isnāt alone. Iāve seen more and more women, just like her, endure these same struggles. But let me be clearāthis story isnāt just...
2024-12-0222 minNot Your Average CounsellorParenting Your ParentsAre you in the position where you're not just a son or daughter anymore, but also a caregiver to your parents? This is something Iām going through myself right now, and I know how overwhelming it can feel.
In this episode I explore what this generational role reversal really means and why it happens. I also share my own experience navigating this journey, which, to be honest, Iām still figuring out.
Listen to discover:
Understanding why our roles change with our parents as they age.
How to manage the emotional rollercoaster that come...
2024-09-3029 minNot Your Average CounsellorNavigating Conflict: Surviving Relationship 'Spats' and 'Tiffs' with Your Sanity IntactLetās face itāevery relationship has its share of arguments. Whether it's over something small like leaving the toothpaste cap off or bigger issues like money, disagreements are totally normal. But hereās the thing: conflict doesnāt have to be a bad thing. When handled right, it can actually bring you closer!
In this episode I talk about why these arguments happen and, more importantly, how to get through them without losing your cool.
Hereās a bit of what we cover:
Why conflicts happen: Understanding the root cause is key.
What emotions d...
2024-09-0939 minNot Your Average CounsellorParenting Partners: Navigating Parenthood TogetherThis one is for couples who have embarked or are about to embark on the exhilarating roller-coaster ride of parenthood ā the ups, the downs, and everything in between.
Join me and Chelsea Morgan, (Counsellor, Teacher, Rapid Transformational Therapist, and Mum) as we share practical tips, tools, and insights to help you navigate the unpredictable waters of parenthood with resilience and unity.
We discuss:
How you and your partner can remain a team in the transition to and throughout parenthood
The value of surrender
The effects of sleep deprivation and juggling caregiving responsibilities, and how to...
2024-08-051h 02Not Your Average CounsellorIntimacy: More Than Just a Wink-Wink, Nudge-NudgeWhen you hear the word intimacy, what comes to mind? If your thoughts go straight to the bedroom, you're not alone. But intimacy is so much more than what happens between the sheets. In my latest podcast episode I sit down with Sexologist Erika Shaw for an open and honest conversation about the true essence of intimacy.
Weāll chat about:
The real deal on intimacy: Itās not just about the physical stuff.
Creating intimacy: What you really need to build a strong connection.
Red flags: How to know if true intimacy is missing in your...
2024-07-221h 07Not Your Average CounsellorEvolution of Priorities: How and Why They Change in RelationshipsYou know that feeling when everything in your relationship feels just right? But then, suddenly, things start to shift, and you're left wondering why?
Well, it often comes down to evolving priorities.
In this podcast episode, I explore why our priorities shift and how this impacts our relationships, because relationships aren't static, they grow and change just like we do. Understanding these changes can help you navigate your relationship more smoothly and keep it thriving.
Iāll also:
discuss the different stages of a relationship and how our priorities shift through each ph...
2024-06-1831 minNot Your Average CounsellorCouples' Guide to Financial Harmony with Special Guest Breanna MayEver feel like money talk in your relationship sets off a ticking time bomb? This podcast episode is all about defusing that tension and finding financial harmony with your partner.
In this episode, I'm thrilled to have Breanna May with me. She's an educator, business mentor, mindset magician, CEO, speaker, and the mastermind behind the Money Mindset Program.
Together, we dive into our personal money stories and share how we handle financial matters in our own relationships. Plus, we discuss the everyday support we offer to others dealing with similar challenges.
Here's a...
2024-06-0342 minNot Your Average CounsellorWedding Bells to Reality: Navigating Newlywed ChallengesYou know, we often talk about the magic of weddings ā the love, the excitement, the promise of forever. But what about after the confetti settles and reality kicks in? That's exactly what we're exploring in this episode.
It's all about delving into the journey from "I do" to the daily grind and the realities of day-to-day married life. In this episode, I tackle common issues like unmet expectations, communication breakdowns, the impact of stress on your relationship, as well as managing household chores and navigating major life transitions.
And just like in all my podcasts, th...
2024-05-2040 minNot Your Average CounsellorMastering Miscommunication: From Texting Fails to Expecting Your Partner to be a Mind ReaderGet ready to laugh, nod along, and maybe even facepalm as we tackle one of the biggest relationship roadblocks: miscommunication.
Yep, we've all been there, expecting our partner to magically read our minds or completely misinterpreting what they're trying to say. It's like a comedy of errors, but in real life!
From those confusing text exchanges to the dreaded silent treatment, I've got stories that'll have you saying, "Yep, been there!"
But hey, I'm not just here to point out how we get it wrong. Nope, I've got your back with some tried-and-true...
2024-05-0645 minNot Your Average CounsellorTrust: The Unspoken Language of RelationshipsYou know that feeling when everything just clicks in a relationship? That's trust at work. It's the secret sauce that keeps relationships steady and strong. But here's the kickerāit's often misunderstood.
In this episode, I'll dive deep into the essence of trust, revealing its critical role not only in romantic connections, but also in friendships, family dynamics, and work relationships. I'll show you how to cultivate trust, setting the stage for stronger, more meaningful connections in every area of your life.
But that's not all. I'll also pull back the curtain on trust and ex...
2024-04-2228 minNot Your Average CounsellorChore Wars: What's Behind the Drama of Dishes, Laundry, and Toilet Seats?Ever walked into your bedroom after a long day, only to be greeted by your partner's stinky jocks lounging on the floor, just inches away from the laundry basket?
Yep, been there, felt that frustration.
In this episode, Iām diving into the messy world of household chores, where laundry, leaving the toilet seat up, and dirty dishes become the epicentre of relationship drama.
As a therapist, I've had my fair share of ringside seats to the chore wars, and let me tell you, it's quite the spectacle. But here's the thing ā it does...
2024-04-0824 minNot Your Average CounsellorChange is Strange: Embracing Life's Plot TwistsWhen change comes knocking, do you find yourself hesitating to answer?
Hey, you're not alone!
That's why this episode is all about change ā that inevitable part of life that has a knack for leaving us feeling stuck.
Listen as I take a deep dive into the psychology of change, unravelling why it can feel like such a head-scratcher. I'll chat about why we resist change, even when it could lead to some serious personal growth and resilience. And let's not forget why we often hold onto the familiar for dear life when the un...
2024-03-1123 minNot Your Average CounsellorSay Yes to Yourself: Jo's Path to Self-AdvocacyMy latest episode features Jo, whose journey to self-advocacy is nothing short of inspiring. Despite being in her 60s and having limited experience with therapy, Jo discovered her voice and courage through participating in my ā#memyselfandi Mastery Program.ā
In this episode, you'll hear Jo's personal story of growth and empowerment, where she:
Proves that it's never too late to embark on a journey of self-discovery and transformation.
Bravely shares her struggles with self-advocacy, people-pleasing tendencies, and the challenges of prioritising self-care.
Learns invaluable strategies for saying no, prioritising what she needs, and re-evaluating her beliefs and valu...
2024-02-2634 minNot Your Average CounsellorMastering Control: Finding a Balance Between 'Boss Mode' and 'Chaos Mode'Ever feel like life's a constant battle between trying to be in control and dealing with unexpected craziness?
Yes! I feel you and thatās why in this episode Iām going to unpack the whole idea of mastering control and finding some calm in the chaos.
Iāll also dive deep into something I like to call the 'Control Conundrum, why absolute control is just an illusion and how to handle the stuff that's really in your hands.
And as always, I keep it simple by giving you the tools, practical tips, and in...
2024-02-1819 minNot Your Average CounsellorFeeling Unappreciated: The Art of NOT Being the Unsung HeroIn this episode, we dive into something special: a conversation with one of myĀ #memyselfandi Mastery ProgramĀ participants as she shares her journey from feeling unsupported and unappreciated to becoming empowered and deeply connected with everything she needs.
Theresaās story is one many women can relate toā¦
Juggling the demands of being a young Mum while trying to balance work, marriage and family life.
And the uncomfortable feelings that come up when your priorities become out of sync.
Tune in for honest conversation and a treasure trove of insights and lesson...
2024-02-1235 minNot Your Average CounsellorHow to Break Free from Negative Thought PatternsNegative thought patterns, we all have them, right? It's like a never-ending loop of "worst-case scenarios" running through your head.
At the core of negative thoughts is fear and in this weekās episode Iāll give you the tools to take back control.
Join me as we uncover why we tend to let negative thoughts run amok and how to challenge them. We'll also explore common thinking traps and learn how to outsmart them.
So, whether you tend to exaggerate problems or see things in black and white, this episode is for you...
2024-02-0523 minNot Your Average CounsellorOverwhelm Overdrive: A Guide to CopingThis episode is your ticket to mastering overwhelm. I'm sharing practical tools and tips to help you navigate life when it's in overdrive because, let's face it, overwhelm is just part of the gig.
Whether it's work, family, or just the everyday chaos, I've got your back.
Tune in for:
Personal insights: Understand how overwhelm may hit you.
Signs to spot: Learn to identify your unique "Hold Up" signals.
Practical coping tips: Get real, actionable strategies to cut through the overwhelm.
If you've ever felt the weight of overwhelm, this episode is for...
2024-01-2219 minNot Your Average CounsellorUnravelling Assumptions to Make Relationships BetterIn this episode I tackle the fascinating and equally frustrating world of assumptions and how they can either make or break the bonds we have those with those around us.
Tune in for:
Real-life, relatable examples of how assumptions can sneak into your relationships, causing misunderstandings.
Practical tips for managing assumptions in your relationships.
Insight into the power of empathy in transforming connections with those closest to you.
Solutions for improving how you communicate.
While this episode focuses on romantic relationships, the insights and tips are universal ā applicable to friendships, family ties, and beyond.
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2024-01-0815 minNot Your Average CounsellorPreventing Burnout: How to Keep Your Inner Fire Burning Without Sizzling OutIn this episode I spill the tea on preventing burnout and keeping that inner fire ablaze.
We'll cover:
Exploring the essence of your inner fire.
Spotting subtle signs of burnout and how it can sneak up on you.
Easy practices to integrate into your life for burnout prevention.
Finding that perfect balance between stoking the flames and taking a breather.
And here's the extra scoop ā I'll be sharing some of my personal experiences with burnout, giving you an inside look at what I did to keep my flames burning bright.
I hope you en...
2023-12-2526 min
Not Your Average CounsellorMaking Sense of Lifeās Experiences: From āWTFā to āAha!āLife can be a wild ride, full of unexpected twists that leave us shouting, "WTF!" Yet just like a rollercoaster ride there can be ' breathtaking āAha!' moments too.
In my latest podcast, we're tackling the art of making sense of it all ā from the confusing 'WTF' to the eye-opening 'Aha!'
Join me as we explore:
Why the strong urge to make sense of life's curveballs?
The secrets to turning head-scratching 'WTF' moments into lightbulb 'Aha!' revelations.
The questions you should be asking yourself to shift your perspective and move through the...
2023-12-1118 minNot Your Average CounsellorRage, Rants, and Recovery: Finding Your Inner ZenIn this episode, I dive into the world of anger and rage ā those powerful emotions that can really shake things up in our relationships, wellbeing, and how we see ourselves.
I clear up a common misunderstanding about anger ā it's not always a bad thing; it's more about not handling it well. Plus, I'll spill some of my own stories about what sets me off, highlighting how understanding your triggers can be a game-changer for personal growth.
I also explain how my #memyselfandi Mastery Program helps participants explore where their anger comes from, uncover patterns and trig...
2023-11-2715 minNot Your Average CounsellorWhen Everyoneās a Life Coach: Navigating Well-Meaning MeddlersAfter a two-year hiatus Iām back with the goods!
In this episode I talk about those people who get too involved in your life. You know the ones that offer advice even when you didn't ask for it.
We will cover why these people might be attracted to you, different types of meddling and the importance of setting boundaries to keep these meddlers at bay.
Iāll share some stories, too, like the time my meddling in a family argument backfired big time.
To kick off the release of my firs...
2023-11-1414 minNot Your Average CounsellorSUCCESS STORY: PoppyPoppy relied on family and friends, self-help books and Dr Google to help her navigate the ups and downs of life.
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Well-intentioned advice and generic information could only get her so far.
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She was confused and unhappy.
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Deep down Poppy knew she needed something more.
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Poppy knew she needed support from an expert and reached out to me.
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I worked closely with Poppy to support her in identifying her blind spots and values. Through this process Poppy found clarity, internal validation and self-awareness.
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Best of all Poppy has stopped playing the game of EMOTIONAL DODGE BALL.
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WATCH to see how I helpe...
2021-06-2128 minNot Your Average CounsellorSUCCESS STORY: KaylieComplete avoidance was Kaylieās M.O.
Everything was swept under the rug.
Unhealthy coping mechanisms drove her to breaking point.
Then she worked with me.
Now after some deep work this beautiful, intelligent, articulate young lady has turned her life around.
Her relationships are blossoming, and sheās found a deep trust within herself that sheās never experienced before.
Enjoy!
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2021-06-2029 minNot Your Average CounsellorREPLAY of ZOOM CALL: #memyselfandi Mastery ProgramHere is the replay of today's Zoom call. Any questions please comment in the HQCS Community or DM me here: m.me/veevinci
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2021-06-1949 minNot Your Average CounsellorBust Your Blind Spot Bootcamp FAST TRACKED Catch UpAre you sick of just surviving, rather than thriving?
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2021-06-182h 35Not Your Average CounsellorBust Your Blind Spot Bootcamp: Day 5Welcome to Day 5, Iām going to show you how to start with a bang!
A big part of starting is knowing what you need to do to make it happen. It also includes understanding what things we can control and the things we cannot.
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2021-06-1838 minNot Your Average CounsellorBust Your Blind Spot Bootcamp: Day 4Welcome to Day 4, let's unlock your super power!
In this session Iāll show you how to refocus your attention and take responsibility for your blind spot so you can move forward to clarity, understanding, gratitude and compassion.
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2021-06-1742 minNot Your Average CounsellorBust Your Blind Spot Bootcamp: Day 3Welcome to Day 3, itās time to re-adjust!
In this session Iāll show you how to reframe and put context around a situation using three world lenses.
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2021-06-1632 minNot Your Average CounsellorBust Your Blind Spot Bootcamp: Day 2Welcome to Day 2, itās time to identify your blind spot!
If you drive on autopilot, on the road or in your relationships, failure to check your blind spots will lead to disaster. Putting a little care and effort into adjusting for your blind spots will get you where you want to go safely and efficiently, and Iāll show you how.
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2021-06-1535 minNot Your Average CounsellorBust Your Blind Spot Bootcamp: Day 1Welcome to Day 1 of the Bust Your Blind Spot Bootcamp! In this session i'll fill you in on what you can expect throughout the duration of this program and introduce you to my 4 pillars of therapy and how they apply to you.
Register for myĀ FREEĀ BUST YOUR BLIND SPOT BOOTCAMPĀ today! MyĀ five day online program to get you to reset, refocus and start making positive, effective changes in your life.
Register to gain access to every resource including the accompanying workbook. This workbook will become an essential tool in helping you consolidate your lear...
2021-06-1431 minNot Your Average CounsellorEpisode 53: Stop clinging to self-limiting beliefsBeliefs are powerful and necessary. They govern our societies, our day-to-day lives but also our inner lives, our thoughts, hopes, plans, and relationships.
You believe that the plane will leave the runway or that the sun will come up tomorrow. There are even things you can believe despite logic (like winning the lotto).
But no matter who you are, how well you are educated or what you have been through no one is immune to irrational or self-limiting beliefs.
Listen to this episode to find out how self-limiting beliefs are formed and learn...
2021-06-1320 minNot Your Average CounsellorEpisode 52: Patterning in relationshipsItās easy for human beings to get stuck in patterns. Our brains love routine and habit. The problem is that many of us can get stuck with unhealthy habits and wiring without even knowing it.
Patterns drive our subconscious decisions, meaning we are not fully aware of the driver ā we just end up at the destination. Nothing highlights this more than relationships.
In this episode Iāll discuss patterning with a focus on relationships and how these patterns end up dictating the kind of people we have relationships with, how we interact with them and ho...
2021-06-0330 minNot Your Average CounsellorEpisode 51: Persistence (Routines and Habits)The final part in my Routines and Habits series.
āA river cuts through rock,Ā not because of its power,Ā but because of its persistence.ā ā James N. WatkinsĀ
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2021-05-2914 minNot Your Average CounsellorEpisode 50: Feeling Good (Routines and Habits)What motivates you to ?
A) I like doing it
B) To earn a reward or avoid punishment
Now ask yourself what motivates you to ?
Did you pick A or B?
Which is better? You might think itās obvious, but itās not so black and white. Listen now for some more tips to help you create strong, successful habits over and over again.
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2021-05-2419 minNot Your Average CounsellorEpisode 49: Part 2 of Getting Back on Track (Routines and Habits)This episode continues on from the last, find out how to make new routines and habits stick. I'll also answer the all important āhow long will it take?ā question.
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2021-05-1618 minNot Your Average CounsellorEpisode 48: Getting Back on Track (Forming Habits)Get off the couch and onto the treadmill?
Ease off on the UberEats and prepare gourmet dishes yourself?
Stop hitting the snooze button and get up 30 minutes earlier?
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2021-05-1024 minNot Your Average CounsellorEpisode 47: The FEAR of Embarrassment is STOPPING YOU!How often do you āsay noā because you are afraid of being judged, ridiculed, rejected, or criticised? It might come in the form of not wearing shorts when itās 42 degrease outside because you donāt look like Kendell Jenner, avoiding going out because youāve had a breakout, not asking that guy or girl out because possible rejection scares the living sh!t out of you or not wearing bunny ears out of fear of looking like d!ckhead.
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2021-04-2924 minNot Your Average CounsellorMASTERCLASS: Navigating the StormLearn how to gain Control and Calm during uncertain times.
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2021-04-2633 minNot Your Average CounsellorEpisode 46: Enabling or EmpoweringDo you ever crack the sh!ts because nothing ever changes? Are you frustrated because youāre stuck in the same situation and find yourself making the same ājustificationsā for the lack of action on your part?
Well, I can bet my bottom dollar that YOU ARE ENABLING your own behaviour. Yes! You read that right IT'S ON YOU! Find out the HOW you do it, WHY you do it and WHAT to do about it in this episode.
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2021-04-2421 minNot Your Average CounsellorEpisode 45: Breaking PromisesIām going to start getting up early, Iām going to drink two litres of water a day, darling I promise Iāll be back from the pub by 11pmā¦
When we break a promise, we essentially break trust whether that be with ourselves or others.
Why do we do this? Why do we continue to do this in some areas of our lives? And what can we do to stop it? Find out in this episode.
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2021-04-1923 minNot Your Average CounsellorEpisode 44: There is no such thing as FailureSo there is this thing you really want to doā¦ maybe apply for a new job, write that book, run a half marathon, learn the guitar, ask that person out.
BUT YOU DONāT!
You procrastinate, make excuses, say its lack of motivation and thenā¦I bet you berate yourself, especially when you start flicking through Instagram and see others out there having a crack and a seemingly good time while doing so.
And although you may have all the justifications (for your inaction) under the sunā¦. when you really stop and think about itā¦.are you just AFRAID of FAILING?
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2021-04-1023 minNot Your Average CounsellorEpisode 43: Psychology of AchievementThe secret to achievement......INTERNAL success. Find out the what? and how? in this episode.
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2021-03-1823 minNot Your Average CounsellorEpisode 42: MomentumMomentum can fuel powerful change. In this episode Iāll share why this so, as well as some simple ways to generate momentum in your life on the daily.
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2021-03-1127 minNot Your Average CounsellorEpisode 41: Chunking Up or Chunking DownSo youāve got all these goals, yet when you throw in the many thoughts, desires and ideas going through your head on the daily how can you take action without getting overwhelmed?
In this episode Iāll introduce you to a method which will help you make sense of the inner dialogue so you can achieve whatās really important.
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2021-03-0531 minNot Your Average CounsellorEpisode 40: Mindset, Where To Start?Mindsets are habits of the mind, they shape the lives we lead, the actions we take and the future possibilities of the world we live in. When things arenāt working for us we are often told we need to shift our mindset, but where do we start? Find out here.
PS. In this episode I refer to two previous LIVEs/Podcasts they are:
Growth or Fixed Mindset - Which are you? (Episode 30)
FOMO (Episode 20)
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2021-02-2536 minNot Your Average CounsellorEpisode 39: Whatās Keeping You Stuck?In this episode Iāll give you the circuit breaker to help you put your big boy/girl pants on and take control of your life.
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2021-02-1924 minNot Your Average CounsellorEpisode 38: Poor Little Old MeEver been convinced that life is beyond your control and something or someone is deliberately out to hurt you or let you down?
Maybe you don't feel this way but someone you care about does.
In this episode find out how to STOP this thinking and why it is important for you to do this NOW.
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2021-02-1232 minNot Your Average CounsellorEpisode 37: You are OverwhelmedWhat should I cook for dinner? Shit the kids need to be picked up 15 minutes, I need to send that email quickly, I must not forget to pick up a gift for my daughterās best friend, f&ccccck there is no fuel in the car!Ā
RELATE? If so, you my friend are OVERWHELMED!
In this episode I crack the code on overwhelm and provide you with some practical tips to lighten your mental load so you can manage what life throws at you.
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2021-02-0528 minNot Your Average CounsellorEpisode 36: Choice PointSo you feel stuckā¦ Something needs to change but you donāt know what? Or you just canāt decide how to approach it? Well in truth, itās not that complicated you either take a step/action towards the outcome you want or away from it. In this episode Iāll share with you the Choice Point model and how you can apply it to create the life you want.
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2021-01-2830 minNot Your Average CounsellorEpisode 35: Invest in YourselfWhen you invest in yourself the universe rewards you! But what the hell does āInvesting in yourself mean?ā Why is it important? And how can you do it without it becoming another tedious task on your already overwhelming to do list?
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2021-01-2127 minNot Your Average CounsellorEpisode 34: So What? Now What?I DONāT BELIEVE in New Yearās Resolutions but what I do believe inā¦ is making decisions and changes that will improve our lives. The key with making these decisions is making them stick. In this episode Iāll guide you through this process and provide you with an activity that will you help you.
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2021-01-1022 minNot Your Average CounsellorEpisode 33: New year's resolutions are BULLSHIT!Yep no sugar coating it, listen to find out why and what you need to know to start 2021 right. You won't regret it!
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2020-12-2422 minNot Your Average CounsellorEpisode 32: The Xmas Grinch (Expectations and Resentment)In this episode you will gain some insight on how Xmas Grief can be seen by others and what you can do to avoid the āFamily Xmas Shit Showā.
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2020-12-2034 minNot Your Average CounsellorEpisode 31: Xmas when itās not all that it's cracked up to be (Grief)Feelings of loss and grief can be especially hard during the festive season. The pressure to put on a brave face all while your mind is on overdrive imagining how it will all playout without your loved one present. Itās a tough time, but you will get through it and Iāll give you some strategies to support you.
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2020-12-1127 minNot Your Average CounsellorEpisode 30: Growth or Fixed Mindset - Which one are you?Relate to any of these statements?
āI just want the simple lifeā
"My life was so much easier when...."
"If only..."
You might be stuck in a fixed mindset. Join me tomorrow for some tips to help you develop a growth mindset and find freedom.
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2020-12-0532 minNot Your Average CounsellorEpisode 29: Surrender vs Giving UpSome situations call for surrender and others to give up. In this episode i'll help you navigate both and give you some tips to help you assess when things arenāt working and when to stop.
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2020-11-2931 minNot Your Average CounsellorEpisode 28: Motivation BlocksAttention PROCRASTINATORS!
In this episode we will look at what gets in the way of motivation
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2020-11-2228 minNot Your Average CounsellorEpisode 27: Finding Motivation and Maintaining ItWithout action you stay exactly where you are, so what action do you need to take to find motivation and maintain it?
Join me as we look at the triggers that will get you where you want to be and what might be stopping you. I'll also give you a few tips to get you on the right track.
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2020-11-1537 minNot Your Average CounsellorEpisode 26: MotivationāI donāt have any motivationā is one of the most frequent statements I hear.
According to Freud each one of us is āmotivatedā by either pain or pleasure. This episode will help you discover what motivates you and how you can use it to propel your life forward.
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2020-11-0533 minNot Your Average CounsellorEpisode 25: Change, what needs to happen?In this episode I will cover everything you need to know about MAKING CHANGE HAPPEN and making it stick.
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2020-11-0532 minNot Your Average CounsellorEpisode 24: Healthy StressHealthy Stress can drive us to do more, be more, want more. Ā It can actually be a part of success and failure. In this episode we will cover what healthy stress looks like and how to make it work for you.
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2020-11-0532 minNot Your Average CounsellorEpisode 23: Stress vs Anxiety DemystifiedIn this episode I'll discuss the different types of stress, the difference between stress and anxiety, the warning signs and what you can do to keep it in check.
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2020-11-0527 minNot Your Average CounsellorEpisode 22: Stress 101Stress can have some pretty adverse effects on our bodies. In this episode I'll cover what you need to lookout for and some tips to manage stress.
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2020-11-0434 minNot Your Average CounsellorEpisode 21: Stress: The mind body connectionWhat negative emotions can do to the body when we:
1. donāt recognise whatās happening; and
2. donāt do anything to change it.
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2020-11-0329 minNot Your Average CounsellorEpisode 20: FOMOWe all joke about it, but in all seriousness it can cause some serious sh!t. In this podcast i'll help you identify some areas where FOMO can rear its ugly head (other than the obvious) as well as some ways to reduce it.
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2020-11-0331 minNot Your Average CounsellorEpisode 19: BoundariesBoundaries are healthy, normal, and necessary. Learn why we should set healthy boundaries and some tips on how to do it.
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2020-11-0334 minNot Your Average CounsellorEpisode 18: Learn to say NO!Avoiding saying "NO" may come at a higher price than you might realise. Learn some tried and tested ways to say "NO".
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2020-10-2922 minNot Your Average CounsellorEpisode 17: Beliefs and ValuesHow our beliefs are formed and how they link with our values.
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2020-10-2119 minNot Your Average CounsellorEpisode 16: Self-DoubtLearn how to identify when you are falling into the self-doubt vortex and how to manage it.
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2020-10-1817 minNot Your Average CounsellorEpisode 15: The EgoDiscover the truth behind the Ego and how to promote change.
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2020-10-1827 minNot Your Average CounsellorEpisode 14: Shadow SelfIn this episode we will go to the ādark sideā and flick the switch to set your true potential aglow.
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2020-10-0425 minNot Your Average CounsellorEpisode 13: Blind SpotWhat's driving you that you can't see? This episode might prompt you to take another look in your mirror to see what drives your behaviour.
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2020-10-0425 minNot Your Average CounsellorEpisode 12: Support NetworksSupport Networks, can you identify yours? Do you use them? What stops you? And what do you do when your existing support network cannot meet your needs? This podcast may demystify these questions for you.
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2020-09-2931 minNot Your Average CounsellorEpisode 11: Privilege and JudgementHow do privilege and judgement contribute to guilt? Find out in this weekās podcast.
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2020-09-1825 minNot Your Average CounsellorEpisode 10: Mum GuiltFive reasons why you need to kick mum guilt to the kerb as well as some tips on how to make it happen.
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2020-09-1835 minNot Your Average CounsellorEpisode 9: Guilt versus ShameDid you know guilt and shame are not the same? And guilt can actually be positive?
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2020-09-1724 minNot Your Average CounsellorEpisode 8: The Good the Bad and the GuiltyGuilt! What it is? The different types, what contributes to it and what we can do to combat any unnecessary guilt.
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2020-09-1743 minNot Your Average CounsellorEpisode 7: Do you FEEL BAD about FEELING BAD? (Meta-Emotions)Do you FEEL BAD about FEELING BAD? Or worse FEEL BAD about FEELING GOOD?
In this podcast you will gain some perspective on why you sometimes feel like this and what you can do to overcome it.
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2020-09-1742 minNot Your Average CounsellorBONUS: Loving Kindness MeditationMeditation expert Nicole DāAlessandro will walk you through a beautiful meditation that will help you feel relaxed and grounded.
Note: Please do not listen to this meditation while driving or operating machinery.
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2020-09-1707 minNot Your Average CounsellorEpisode 6: MeditationWeāve all heard of meditation and we know the benefits are profound. Most of us have attempted it, some of us nail it the first time but most of us give up. In this podcast meditation expert Nicole DāAlessandro will talk us through the best known ways to meditate because like most things there is no āone size fits allā.
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2020-09-1731 minNot Your Average CounsellorEpisode 5: MindfulnessImproved memory and low anxiety levels are attributed to being mindful. But what really is mindfulness and how do we achieve it? Find out in this podcast.
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2020-09-1233 minNot Your Average CounsellorEpisode 4: Self-Care Epic FailsSelf-Care seems simple but why do we find it so hard? In this podcast we will look at the elements that contribute to both the failure and success of effective self-care.
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2020-09-1035 minNot Your Average CounsellorEpisode 3: Self-CareThe term "self-care" is thrown around a lot but what does it really mean? After listening to this podcast you will walk away knowing what eight factors play a role in filling up your cup. I'll also share some practical tips to get you refuelling your mind, body and soul in no time.
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2020-09-1029 minNot Your Average CounsellorEpisode 2: Distress ToleranceDo you use distraction as an escape and a way to cope with uncomfortable emotions? This is called distress tolerance.
In this podcast we will look at distress tolerance, the psychology, the costs and benefits and what you can do to reduce the intensity of negative emotions.
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2020-09-0928 minNot Your Average CounsellorEpisode 1: DistractionIn my first ever podcast I will cover why we get distracted, the psychology behind it and the costs and benefits.
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