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Q4Q: Queer Personals PodcastA "Unique and Wonderful Evening" in BaltimoreWelcome back to Q4Q! In this episode, local Maryland historian and librarian, Ben Egerman, steps behind the mic to flip through the pages of Charm City’s historic gay papers. Listen as we weave through a glimpse of Baltimore’s LGBTQ+ history—where you can dance the night away at The Hippo, enjoy a “unique and wonderful evening” in Fells Point, and play cards with a guilt-ridden pinochle player. You won’t be disappointed!Find Ben on Instagram @mdhistory.gay, and learn a little bit about Maryland’s queer history in cheeky little zines. And if you want to me...2025-06-0356 min
Rotten TreasureThe Twilight Saga: Breaking Dawn - Part 2 with Haley SteinhilberThis week, Haley Steinhilber returns for The Twilight Saga: Breaking Dawn - Part 2. It’s like the other movies, but with a CGI baby. What’s the coolest way to have a head ripped off? Where is Kai not allowed to sit anymore? Why can’t we just let boys be birds?
“And boy does she like to edge.” - Haley Steinhilber
Check out Haley’s podcast Listen on your preferred podcast app and follow them on Instagram @queerpersonalspodcast. Also check out their coloring book, Queer Seeking Queer: A Colorful History (co-authored by Alexis Macaluso and Dan Low...2025-04-181h 11Q4Q: Queer Personals PodcastValentine's Day, Q4Q's WayHey folks! I'm coming out of the woodwork to wish you a Happy Valentine's Day to all who celebrate. Not only is this a special episode drop, but it's a redo of a previous Valentine's extravaganza with a new twist.Listen and rate us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your tunes!Find a copy of the adult coloring book, Queer Seeking Queer: A Colorful History at Women & Children First bookshop in Chicago, or order from them online! You can also find it on bookshop.org and Amazon (leave a review...2025-02-1438 min
This Queer Book Saved My LifeAnnie On My Mind with Haley SteinhilberI don't know who I was fooling by bringing this book to school with me and being like, "I am not gay."Today we meet Haley Steinhilber and we’re talking about the queer book that saved their life: Annie On My Mind by Nancy Garden.Haley Steinhilber is a public historian and host of Q4Q: The Queer Personals Podcast.In Annie On My Mind, when Liza Winthrop meets Annie Kenyon at the Metropolitan Museum of Art, she knows there is something special between them. But Liza never knew falling in love co...2024-11-2631 minQ4Q: Queer Personals PodcastA Colorful History with Dan & AlexisSurprise! We’re back with a new collaborative project– Queer Seeking Queer: A Colorful History. Haley joined forces with Dan of @longlostpersonals and Alexis @Alexis_aquarian to create this cheeky, kinky, one-of-a-kind coloring book featuring personal ads from LGBTQ+ newspapers from the 1920s to 1990s. In this episode, Dan, Alexis, and Haley talk about the long journey to create the book, where you can find it, and swipe left or right on some of the ads within! You can find your copy of Queer Seeking Queer: A Colorful History at Women & Children First bookshop in Chicago, or order from...2024-06-131h 02Rotten TreasureDeadpool 2 with Haley SteinhilberThis week, Haley Steinhilber joins us for Deadpool 2. It’s like the first Deadpool movie, but with jokes. What’s got Jim so popular with bisexuals? When’s the worst time to give Jesus a foot massage? You know what you like?
“That’s why I’m gay.” - Haley Steinhilber
Check out Haley’s podcast Listen on your preferred podcast app and follow them on Instagram @queerpersonalspodcast and on Twitter @Queerpersonals. Also check out their coloring book, Queer Seeking Queer: A Colorful History (co-authored by Alexis Macaluso and Dan Low). Go to womenandchildrenfirst.com to learn more and...2024-06-1056 minQ4Q: Queer Personals PodcastItty Bitty AdsWelcome to a truly itty bitty episode with guest host, Gabriel—founder, creator, and archivist for @Itty_Bitty_Queer_History. In this episode, Haley takes a page out of Gabriel’s teeny tiny books to pursue some short & sweet personal ads. These authors are very concise yet have a diverse set of needs—from bowling buddies to sugar daddies, water sports to paranormal experiences. You should probably leave them a voicemail to learn more. Listen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your tunes!Interested in being on the show...2024-02-1532 minQ4Q: Queer Personals PodcastHeavenly Bodies Looking for Venus: Sapphic Ads with Jack Jen GiesekingAre you ready to source the galaxies of love? Dip your tongue into this new episode, where Haley & Dr. Jack Jen Gieseking (author of the incredible book A Queer New York) match with some sapphic ads. Whether you’re looking for a good old-fashioned co-dependent, a skateboard bean, a Genteel Daddy pretty boy butch, or a chic Joni Mitchell lookalike—come explore the full spectrum of the sapphic longing. Listen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your tunes!Interested in being on the show? Contact us at Q4QPodcast@gmail...2024-02-0150 minQ4Q: Queer Personals PodcastAndrogynous Ads with AshoAttention all you macaroni boys and genderful twinks! Asho joins Haley for a series of ads written by self-acclaimed androgynous lovers. Do you dream of tossing a salad with a cute “she-boy” or maintaining eye contact all the way “through”? Catch these ads before another 30 years passes! Follow Asho on Instagram at @Asho_Buckingham to view & purchase their incredible art!Listen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your tunes!Interested in being on the show? Contact us at Q4QPodcast@gmail.com or find us on Twitter @Queerper...2024-01-0452 minQ4Q: Queer Personals PodcastBitesized Bit: Lesbian Phone SexYou think you're sexually frustrated? Try talking to a gal on the lesbian party lines in the '90s! In this truly tiny bite-sized episode, Haley reads from Liz Tracey's article in Outweek: "Hung Up on the Lesbo Line." Listen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your tunes!Interested in being on the show? Contact us at Q4QPodcast@gmail.com or find us on Twitter @Queerpersonals and Instagram @Queerpersonalspodcast. Cover art by Bekah Rich. Music by Kaz Zabala. Sources: Liz Tr...2023-12-0105 minQ4Q: Queer Personals PodcastCult... or Commune?Buckle up queers and prepare for a new episode of Q4Q! In this episode, Haley is joined by Esther Bley of @QueerAnimation to share some stories of cults, queer communes, and personal ads from people searching for a little bit more than a partnership. Will you decide to worship at the shrine of Pussy, or become a husband of Christ in Boston’s gayest monastery? The possibilities are endless. Follow Esther’s work on Instagram @QueerAnimation. Explore the Queer Animation website.Buy a Queer Animation button! Listen to us on Spotify...2023-11-1654 min
Adoption: The Making of Me. An Oral History of Adoptee StoriesHaley: Podcaster, Community-Builder, ConnectorHaley Radke is an adoptee advocate and the creator and host of the popular podcast, Adoptees On, where adopted people share their adoption experiences. Adoptees On has more than 250 episodes featuring adoptees and adoptee therapists and has been downloaded over 1.2 million times in 140+ countries worldwide. www.adopteeson.com To go directly to Haley's interview, you can go to the timestamp: 9:42Also in this episode, Sarah and Louise discuss The Baby Thief by Barbara Bisantz Raymond.Thank you to our sponsor S12F.Joe Soll & ot...2023-10-3157 minQ4Q: Queer Personals PodcastThe Body Politic with Dr. Alex KetchumHaley sits down with Dr. Alex Ketchum, a professor at McGill University’s Institute for Gender, Sexuality, and Feminist Studies, and author of books such as Engage in Public Scholarship: A Guidebook on Feminist and Accessible Communication & Ingredients for Revolution: A History of American Feminist Restaurants, Cafes, and Coffeehouses. In this episode, we’re playing matchmaker for several Canadian hotties who posted personals in a 1984 issue of Toronto’s The Body Politic. Will the shy young woman find a gal to satisfy her fantasies? Can we crack the code to some super spy language? Is it possible to be hedoni...2023-09-071h 05Q4Q: Queer Personals PodcastSeeking Nice Jewish GirlsIn this episode, Haley & Lauren Hoffman of the Capital Jewish Museum wander through New York, San Francisco, and Minnesota following these Jewish sapphic lonely hearts. Check your baggage at the door and prepare to meet a Would-Be Cowboy, a“Highly Flawed and Special” artist, and a gal looking for a “New Age thinker with a specific physical discipline….”? Follow Lauren on Instagram @spicylilscorpio and @wanderthrumuseums. Listen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your tunes!Interested in being on the show? Contact us at Q4QPodcast@gmail.com or find us o...2023-07-131h 07Q4Q: Queer Personals PodcastBitesized Bit: Sentenced to VoicejailYou ignore your voicemail, but have you heard of voicejail? Imagine the world before the internet, before blogs and discord servers and reddit forums or Google reviews. Where did people release their pent up anxieties, how did they share their niche interests, or act out their weird bits? In this bite-sized episode, Haley looks at the fascinating microcosm that sprang up in the 1980s and ‘90s in Silicon Valley, and those that called themselves the voicejailers. Clips of the radio show, “Midnight Voicejail,” are sprinkled throughout the episode to highlight how a few voicejailers manipulated and recreated the messages left o...2023-06-1521 minQ4Q: Queer Personals PodcastBad, Bold, and Wiser Ads from FloridaThrow on some sunscreen and grab your mosquito spray, we’re going to Florida! Haley & Kayleigh read ads from Orlando, Cape Canaveral, and Pasco County. Help us choose between a gay nudist tour guide, Xena the Warrior princess, and the vegetarian aesthete. It’s probably one of the most ‘90s centered episodes yet! Listen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your tunes!Interested in being on the show? Contact us at Q4QPodcast@gmail.com or find us on Twitter @Queerpersonals and Instagram @Queerpersonalspodcast. Cover art by Bekah Ri...2023-05-251h 02Q4Q: Queer Personals PodcastBitesized Bit: Mousie Mousie Wildflower"All my love, Porcupine" was a poetic sign-off for one smitten woodland creature to her mousie lover. Throughout the 1970s and '80s, the personal ads to the Gay Community News in Boston began with an entry addressed to "Mousie Mousie Wildflower." And for once, Haley has found a (vaguely) satisfying conclusion to this classified ad mystery. Tune in to this bite-sized episode to get your daily dose of sweet gay love! Listen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your tunes!Interested in being on the show? Contact us a...2023-04-2019 minQ4Q: Queer Personals PodcastPhoning It In with Brad Shreve*Ring ring* Hello? Did you know that you could call a phone number to leave a voicemail personal ad? “Talking” personal ads became popular around the 1980s and ‘90s as a quick way to hook up or meet someone cute! This week, mystery fiction author and host of Queer We Are podcast, Brad Shreve, joins Haley to recount his own encounters via the voicemail ads. Check out Brad Shreve’s work at his website, Queer We Are or follow him on Instagram and/or Twitter @thebradshreveListen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever...2023-03-2357 minQ4Q: Queer Personals PodcastInterview with the Queen of Lesbian Erotica: Robbi Sommers BryantIn this episode, Haley sits down with Robbi Sommers Bryant–author, editor, watercolor artist, and the Queen of Lesbian Erotica. A well-earned title, as Sommers Bryant published nine erotica books–one of which, Personal Ads, follows several stories after lesbians place newspaper ads looking for something sexy. Find out the inspiration behind the stories and other fun tidbits! Check out Robbi’s other works on her website (https://robbibryant.com) or follow her on Instagram @robbisommersbryant. Listen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your tunes!Interested in being on...2023-02-2337 minQ4Q: Queer Personals PodcastNew Year, New QueerSleigh bells ring, are you listening…to this new episode? Santa is single and looking for someone to jingle his bells. This week, Haley ropes their friends EJ, Tabitha, and Bekah into a Christmas-New Year’s Eve special, where folks set up their New Year's Eve dates, snuggle bunnies, and winter survival coaches. Happy 2023! Listen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your tunes!Interested in being on the show? Contact us at Q4QPodcast@gmail.com or find us on Twitter @Queerpersonals and Instagram @Queerpersonalspodcast. Cover art by Bek...2023-01-0544 minQ4Q: Queer Personals PodcastCottagecore: Personal Ads GaloreAre you sick of mind-numbing, capitalist, consumer dating life? You’re not alone! Queers have been plotting their escape from society for decades–and they’re posting personal ads looking for just the right person to share it with. So,throw on your prairie dress, get back to the land, and throw open those cottage windows (stained glass, of course) –because Haley of Q4Q meets Abbey of Sweet Baby Gay for a quaint, cottagecore themed episode! Do you want to hear more from Abbey? Follow their podcast on Instagram @sweetbabygaypod and listen to more of their...2022-11-191h 02Q4Q: Queer Personals PodcastContacts: The Correspondence Club for the Mentally MaroonedWelcome back to Q4Q! This week, queer historian Tyler Albertario & Haley wade through the history of the correspondence club, Contact. The penpal club served as a clandestine way for homosexual correspondents to connect during the 1920s & ‘30s. Learn about notable members like Henry Gerber, Manuel boyFrank, and Frank McCourt–who’s letters form the foundation of the present knowledge of the club’s history. Do you want to hear more from Tyler? Follow him on Twitter @TylerAlbertario.Listen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your tunes!Intereste...2022-11-031h 06Q4Q: Queer Personals PodcastPenpals, LDRs, and the Early InternetJump on into the Wayback Machine, we’re talking to Steve about Asynchronous Communication. Not to be confused with simultaneous communication, or face to face conversation. So what is it like to date asynchronously? Many of us know! How frustrating is it to send a chat to someone in an app and they leave you on read? But sometimes, just sometimes, you hit up someone who has the same communication style as you and everything falls into place. Do you want to hear more from Steve? Follow them on Twitter @SKleinedler And listen to their 2019 podcast Fiat Le...2022-09-221h 01Q4Q: Queer Personals PodcastButches & FemmesLace up your boots or slip on your platform heels, because it’s Q4Q’s 25th episode! To mark the occasion, Haley invited their good friend and femme fatale, Caillean, to gasp their way through personal ads written by butch and femme lesbians. Whether you’re into lace or leather, chapstick or lip gloss, pants or skirts–some other nonsensical binary, you’ll enjoy these ads. Listen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your tunes!Interested in being on the show? Contact us at Q4QPodcast@gmail.com or find us...2022-09-021h 19Q4Q: Queer Personals PodcastKinks with KaiThis episode, Haley teamed up with Kai of @Rotten_Treasure for one of the kinkiest episodes of the entire show. Sometimes it’s difficult to find a partner into the same things, in the same general geographic area--before Grindr, Craigslist, or KinkD, there were personal ads in the local LGBTQ magazine. Listen as we match with voyeurs, foot worshippers, Gumdrop Danglers, and more! (Personal ads begin around 1 hour and 2 minutes.) We mentioned: Amanda Hess, “The Foot Fetish Brain Map,” Washington City Paper, 13 April 2010. Justin Lehmiller, “Rats With Jacket Fetishes? What Animal...2022-08-041h 53Q4Q: Queer Personals PodcastNo Strings Attached: Casual SexWe're talking about casual sex, baby! Haley and their housemate Ari hand-selected several personal ads looking for something sexy, passionate, and hedonistic--hold the emotion. The queers who wrote these ads are looking for a good time, not a long time. Listen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your tunes!Interested in being on the show? Contact us at Q4QPodcast@gmail.com or find us on Twitter @Queerpersonals and Instagram @Queerpersonalspodcast.Music strummed by Omar Nassar. Cover art by Bekah Rich. Sources2022-07-211h 12Q4Q: Queer Personals PodcastCollecting [Queer] Personal AdsThis week, Haley geeks out with fellow personal ad aficionado and collector, Dan of @LongLostPersonals. His Instagram account contains hundreds of unique, sexy, and sometimes bizarre personal ads across the decades. Learn about the coded language men used to meet other men in the 1940s, and experience the dirtiest ad Dan has ever seen (so far). Listen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your tunes! Don’t forget to follow Dan @LonglostpersonalsInterested in being on the show? Contact us at Q4QPodcast@gmail.com or find us on Twi...2022-06-301h 20Q4Q: Queer Personals PodcastTales of Missed ConnectionsHave you ever stared at a hottie from across the room, just to let the moment slip away without grabbing their number? Did you compliment someone’s floral button-up, just to trip over your words and forget to ask for their name? Don’t worry, you‘re not alone! Queers have been awkwardly interacting with each other for decades! Join Haley and their guest Ken as they dig up some missed connections that will have you saying “oh boy!” Listen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your tunes!Interested in being on...2022-06-0946 minQ4Q: Queer Personals PodcastWaxing poetic: Wild Nights, Suburus, and… Neitzche?Oh boy, it’s poem night at Q4Q. Join the party for some of the most mournful, raunchy, and yearning iambic pentameter pieces this show has ever seen. Haley and their special guest, Ash, set out to ask some important questions–When did “snowflake” become a thing? Did Emily Dickinson date women? Will men EVER stop quoting Neitzche? Listen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your tunes!Interested in being on the show? Contact us at Q4QPodcast@gmail.com or find us on Twitter @Queerpersonals and Instagram @Queerpers...2022-05-191h 24Q4Q: Queer Personals PodcastHappy Birthday Q4Q!Happy birthday to Q4Q! One year ago, the podcast launched with our premier episode “Seeking a Buff Danny Devito in Indianapolis.” And what a year it’s been! Check out the newest mini-sode, where Haley reflects on some of the best moments of the year and shared some “odds & ends” personal ads that didn’t make the first few episodes.Listen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your tunes!Interested in being on the show? Contact us at Q4QPodcast@gmail.comor find us on Twitter @Queerpersonals and Instagram @Q...2022-04-2115 minQ4Q: Queer Personals PodcastLet's Do Sex & DrugsIn this episode, Haley and Rachel (Gaychel) pop open some personal ads looking for a little more. Whether it be physical or chemical–they want pleasure and they want it soon! There will be poppers–certainly pleasure, preservative-laden snacks, and high-impact naked sports. Settle in with your munchies of choice, because these head hunters are meeting gyrating Euro-trash in pursuit of sex ‘n drugs. Listen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your tunes!Interested in being on the show? Contact us at Q4QPodcast@gmail.comor find us on Twitter...2022-04-071h 05Q4Q: Queer Personals PodcastWelcome to Q4Q: Queer Personal Ads PodcastLet's get personal! Since the dawn of time, humans have been desperate for connection. Then we realized we could solicit strangers through the Sunday paper. You’ve heard of Craigslist personals, just imagine the pining and thirst from lonely queers searching for love. Listen as we read and rate personal ads from the ‘70s through today! If you love gay yearning, you’ll love Q4Q! Send us a textSupport the show2022-02-2800 minQ4Q: Queer Personals PodcastBe My Valentine, Doughnut ButtThis Valentine’s Day, join Haley and their partner @Rachel of @ToadstoolBotanicals on a trip to Denver, where they look at entries submitted to Out Front’s ad contest in February 1991, and a special treat from The Lesbian Show's "Dial-a-Dyke," a 90s radio broadcast. Listen to sexy poems, find couples that beat the odds, and visit Denver’s Gay Bars of yore. You might just find your own Doughnut Butt or He-Man. Listen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your tunes!Interested in being on the show? Contact us at Q4QP...2022-02-1426 minQ4Q: Queer Personals PodcastCruising Craiglist with Alexis MacalusoWelcome to another episode of Q4Q, where Haley meets with Alexis Macaluso, author and artist of the new book Deeply Personal: A Journey into Earth’s most curious classified ads—to cruise through some Craigslist ads and newspapers from the ‘60s, ‘80s, and ‘90s. Will you sign up for the “Gay” cruise, find an old Army buddy from ‘Nam, or maybe hook up with the Dirty Old Man from Maine? The sky's the limit at Q4Q!Music written and strummed by Omar Nassar. Graphics by Bekah Rich. You can find Alexis’s book Deeply Personal: A...2022-01-2045 minQ4Q: Queer Personals PodcastFrom the Transsexual Voice to Boys Will Be BoysHappy New Year! And welcome to another episode of Q4Q. Haley connected with Dan Griffiths from the Gender F*ck podcast to engage with some ads written by and for trans people. In the pages of the magazines, we meet a love kitten, a student of the bizarre, and so many others hoping for a connection. Listen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your tunes!Interested in being on the show? Contact us at Q4QPodcast@gmail.com or find us on Twitter @Queerpersonals and Instagram @Queerpersonalspodcast.2022-01-0658 min