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Rooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal#20 Trauma Bonds Explained: Why Letting Go Is So Hard (And What Actually Helps)Trauma bonds are one of the most misunderstood concepts in healing and relationship conversations — and often one of the most painful to confront.In this episode, I’m joined by my friend and colleague Staci Somes, and together we slow this conversation way down. Rather than framing trauma bonds as weakness, addiction, or a failure to “just leave,” we explore what trauma bonds really are: a nervous system survival response to attachment under threat.We talk about how trauma bonds form, why they can feel so powerful and confusing, and why insight alone is rarely enough t...
2026-02-1636 minRooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal#19: How to Know What You Need After Betrayal (When You Don’t Trust Yourself Anymore)After betrayal, many women find themselves asking, Why don’t I know what I need anymore? This episode explores why that loss of clarity isn’t a personal failure — it’s a nervous system response to relational trauma.When trust is broken, your body shifts into survival mode. Instead of tuning in to yourself, your system starts scanning for danger, trying to stay safe. Over time, this can make your own feelings, needs, and desires feel distant, confusing, or even inaccessible. In this episode, Hali explains what’s really happening inside your body and brain, and why it makes s...
2026-02-0914 minRooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal#18 When Betrayal Lives in the Body: How Breathwork Supports HealingIn this special shared episode, Hali Roderick joins Amie Woolsey on the Empowered Divorce Podcast for a powerful conversation about betrayal trauma, the nervous system, and the role of somatic breathwork in healing what talking alone often can’t reach.Betrayal doesn’t just live in the story — it lives in the body. When shock, fear, rage, and heartbreak don’t get a chance to move through, they become stored survival energy that continues to drive anxiety, hypervigilance, and emotional overwhelm. In this episode, Hali explains how SomatIQ-style activating breathwork creates a safe pathway for the body to relea...
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The Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse178. Breathwork After Betrayal: How Somatic Healing Helps Release Trauma Stored in the Body W/ Hali RoderickBreathwork can feel intimidating after betrayal trauma, yet it can also be one of the most powerful ways to release what the body has been holding.In this episode of The Empowered Divorce Podcast, Amie is joined by her friend and colleague Halle for a grounded, trauma informed conversation about somatic breathwork. Together they explore why breathwork can feel intense after trauma, how betrayal lives in the body, and why healing often requires more than talking things through.They discuss nervous system activation, emotional release, and the importance of safety and co regulation when doing...
2026-01-2938 minRooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal#17 Staying When You’re the Only One Doing the Work — with Tammy Gustafson, MA, LPCWhat does it really mean to stay grounded in yourself when you’re the one doing the emotional work in the relationship?In this episode, I’m joined by Tammy Gustafson, MA, LPC - trauma-informed licensed professional counselor, coach, speaker, founder of Betrayal Healing and LiveFree Counseling, host of the annual Betrayal Healing Conference, and author of Broken to Brave: Your Courageous Act of Healing from Intimate Betrayal.Together, we explore one of the most painful and confusing realities many betrayed partners face: being committed to healing while your partner is slow, avoidant, or inconsistent in t...
2026-01-2643 minRooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal#16 How Betrayal Breaks Self-Trust - and How to Begin Rebuilding ItOne of the most painful and disorienting effects of betrayal isn’t just losing trust in your partner - it’s losing trust in yourself.After deception, gaslighting, and emotional manipulation, many women begin to question their instincts, their memories, and their inner knowing. You may find yourself wondering, How did I not see this? Can I trust myself again? What if I’m wrong?In this episode, Hali Roderick, Certified Partner Coach and founder of Rooted & Rising Healing, explores how betrayal disrupts self-trust - not because you were weak, but because your reality was made u...
2026-01-1926 minRooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal#15 The Difference Between a Boundary and a ThreatIf you’ve ever set a boundary after betrayal and immediately questioned yourself — Was that too harsh? Was that a threat? Am I being controlling? — this episode is for you.After betrayal, boundaries often feel confusing, heavy, or even shame-inducing. Many women fear that setting limits means issuing ultimatums, threatening the relationship, or trying to control their partner’s recovery. But boundaries aren’t about control — they’re about self-respect, safety, and agency.In this episode, we clearly break down the difference between a boundary and a threat, why this confusion is so common after betrayal traum...
2026-01-1216 minRooted and Rising Healing After BetrayalBONUS Episode: Rise, Renew Restore: A Transformative Women’s Retreat in Costa RicaIn this special bonus episode, Hali Roderick is joined by her friends and trusted colleagues Amie Woolsey and Alana Gordon for a shared conversation about the heart, vision, and deeper purpose behind the Rise, Renew, Restore Women's Retreat in Costa Rica coming in July 2026.Together, we explore why this retreat is about so much more than getting away — it’s about creating true nervous-system relief, embodied healing, and a felt sense of safety that many women have been longing for after betrayal, burnout, and chronic emotional stress.We also unpack the meaning behind the name Rise...
2026-01-1019 minRooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal#14: Three Questions to Ask Yourself When You Get TriggeredIf you’ve experienced betrayal, being triggered doesn’t mean you’re broken - it means your nervous system is trying to protect you. In this episode of the Rooted & Rising Healing Podcast, we’re talking about what actually happens when you get triggered after betrayal and how to respond in a way that builds self-trust instead of shame.Rather than asking, “What’s wrong with me?”, you’ll learn three grounding questions that help you pause, regulate, and reconnect with your body, your discernment, and your power.These questions are designed to help you:Understand you...
2026-01-0516 minRooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal#13 Reclaiming Your Discernment After BetrayalAfter betrayal, one of the most painful and destabilizing experiences isn’t just the trauma itself — it’s the constant self-doubt.Am I crazy? Am I overreacting? Is this just a trigger… or is something actually wrong?If you’ve been told “you’re just triggered” so often that you’ve started questioning your own reality, this episode is for you.In today’s conversation, we’re unpacking one of the most damaging patterns in betrayal recovery: losing trust in your own perceptions. You’ll learn how to reclaim your discernment, rebuild self-trust, and stop letting anyone...
2025-12-2921 minRooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal#12: You Are Not a Victim: Reclaiming Your NarrativeIn Episode 12 of Rooted & Rising After Betrayal, we continue the identity-to-empowerment arc by exploring what it means to reclaim your narrative after trauma. Building on the last three episodes—your values, your Bill of Rights, and your Identity Statement—this conversation teaches you how to move from “who I am” to “how I choose to live from that identity.” Drawing from Dr. Jake Porter’s Free to Choose model, we unpack how betrayal trauma hijacks the brain, interrupts choice, and pulls you into a story you never agreed to. You’ll learn the difference between being victimized (which is real an...
2025-12-2215 minRooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal#11: Who Am I After Betrayal? Creating the Identity That Guides Your HealingIn this episode of Rooted & Rising After Betrayal, we complete a powerful three-part arc by bringing together your values, your personal Bill of Rights, and your emerging sense of identity. You’ll learn why an Identity Statement is essential for healing after betrayal—because it shifts you from reacting to life to intentionally leading your life. Values clarify what matters most, your Bill of Rights affirms what you inherently deserve, and your Identity Statement weaves these pieces into a lived declaration of who you are and what you protect. This episode helps you understand that boundaries aren’t abou...
2025-12-1514 minRooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal#10: Your Personal Bill of Rights (What You Are No Longer Willing to Abandon)In this powerful episode, Hali guides you through one of the most important steps in healing after betrayal: reclaiming your Personal Bill of Rights. Betrayal trauma can leave you doubting your worth, silencing your needs, and abandoning yourself in the hope of keeping connection. Today, we rewrite that story.Together, we explore why creating a Personal Bill of Rights is essential—not as a demand on your partner, but as a declaration of what is inherently yours as a woman with divine worth: safety, dignity, voice, honesty, and agency. You’ll learn what a Bill of R...
2025-12-0817 minRooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal#9: "Who Am I Now?" Rediscovering Values + Purpose After BetrayalIn this episode, we move from survival to self-redefinition. After betrayal, it's common to question everything—your identity, values, and purpose. These "identity quakes" aren’t endings; they’re invitations to release inherited roles and beliefs and begin to rebuild. We explore how values serve as your soul’s GPS, anchoring your decisions, boundaries, and healing. Many values were shaped by early environments or culture—not chosen. Now, you’re invited to ask: Which values feel like mine? Which ones reflect who I’m becoming? Which are rooted in safety, authenticity, and divine alignment?You'll also be...
2025-12-0118 minRooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal#8 Honoring What Helped You Survive — and Choosing What Helps You HealIn this powerful episode, Hali invites you to explore the relational survival patterns that once helped you feel safe and how they might now be keeping you from fully healing and rising. These patterns didn’t start with betrayal. Most began long before - in childhood, in family systems where love felt conditional, emotions weren’t safe to express, or connection came with responsibility. Betrayal reactivates these old protective parts. With compassion and clarity, Hali helps you see these patterns not as personal failings, but as brilliant survival strategies that can now be gently released. You’...
2025-11-2429 minRooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal#7 Is It a Trigger or a Warning? Deciphering Safety After BetrayalAfter betrayal, your body becomes exquisitely alert — scanning for signs of danger, tension, or inconsistency. But sometimes, that activation you feel isn’t just a trigger from the past… it’s a warning from your nervous system that something in the present isn’t safe.In this episode, Hali explores the powerful question every survivor of betrayal trauma faces: “Is this my trauma being reactivated — or is my body alerting me to a real-time threat?”You’ll learn how to interpret your body’s cues, rebuild trust in your intuition, and discern between echoes of old pain and present...
2025-11-1717 minRooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal#6 Triggered Much? How to Work With Emotional LandminesIf you’ve ever been blindsided by a wave of emotion — your heart racing, stomach tightening, or thoughts spiraling — you’re not alone. Triggers after betrayal can feel like setbacks or proof that you’re “not healing fast enough,” but they’re actually sacred invitations to listen, tend, and heal what’s still tender inside.In this episode of Rooted and Rising After Betrayal, Hali unpacks what it really means to be triggered — both the external reminders (like a smell, song, or look) and the internal cues (thoughts, sensations, or fears) that can suddenly flood your nervous system. You’ll learn...
2025-11-1023 minRooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal#5 How to Stop Self-Betraying and Start Choosing YouAfter betrayal, kindness toward ourselves can feel impossible. We question everything — including our own worth and intuition. In this episode, Hali Roderick, Certified Partner Coach (APSATS) and trauma-informed guide, explores what it means to rebuild safety within through self-compassion. You’ll learn how to move from self-criticism to self-kindness, from isolation to connection, and from self-betrayal to fierce self-loyalty.Together, we’ll explore Kristin Neff’s three elements of self-compassion — Self-Kindness, Common Humanity, and Mindfulness — and how they apply to healing betrayal trauma. Hali also introduces the concept of Fierce Self-Compassion, the form of love that protects, sets boundar...
2025-11-0319 minRooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal#1 What Betrayal Trauma Really Is (And Why You’re Not Crazy)Episode Show Notes: Welcome to the very first episode of Rooted and Rising After Betrayal — a healing space for women walking through the aftermath of intimate betrayal. In this opening episode, Hali Roderick shares her heart for this podcast, defines what betrayal trauma really is, and normalizes the emotional, physical, and spiritual effects it can have.If you’ve ever felt alone, confused, ashamed, or like you’re "too sensitive" for struggling to move on — this is your reminder: you are not broken. You are having a completely human response to an earth-shaking experience.Let this be...
2025-10-2912 minRooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal#2 The Language of the Body: Decoding Trauma Signals with CompassionIn this episode of Rooted and Rising, we move deeper into the body. If you've ever felt out of control, shut down, anxious, or unlike yourself after betrayal — this is for you. Hali unpacks how betrayal trauma impacts the nervous system, why your body reacts the way it does, and how to begin relating to your body as a messenger, not an enemy. You’ll walk away with language, compassion, and simple somatic tools to start calming your system and reclaiming your sense of safety — one breath at a time. In this Episode, you’ll learn:What’s actually ha...
2025-10-2916 minRooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal#3 Finding Your Anchor: Reclaiming Your Truth After BetrayalWhen betrayal happens, confusion and self-doubt become part of the trauma. Gaslighting, minimization, and manipulation can leave you questioning your own memory, perception, and reality. In this episode of Rooted and Rising After Betrayal, Hali explores how your brain works in the aftermath of betrayal — including why your hippocampus loops through the past trying to sort out what’s real — and offers practical tools to help you identify your truth, recognize subtle manipulation tactics, and protect your story. You’ll learn why it’s normal to feel stuck, why your nervous system is actually working to keep you safe, and how yo...
2025-10-2917 minRooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal#4 When Safety Starts with You: The Role of BoundariesWhen betrayal trauma has shaken your sense of safety and trust, boundaries are where you begin to rebuild both. In this episode of Rooted and Rising After Betrayal, Hali explores why boundaries are not punishment or control - but sacred self-protection. You’ll learn how most boundaries begin with a violated value or personal right, and how reclaiming your Personal Bill of Rights can bring clarity and power back to your healing journey. In this episode you’ll learn:Why boundaries are rooted in your values, not just your limitsHow to create your own Personal Bill of RightsHow to i...
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The Anxiety Recovery PodcastRebuilding Trust After Betrayal: How to Trust Yourself Again with Hali RoderickIn this episode, I’m joined by Hali Roderick as we dive into the emotional journey of rebuilding trust after betrayal. Betrayal can completely shatter your sense of reality, leaving you questioning everything you thought you knew about yourself and your relationships. We explore how validating the pain of betrayal is crucial to healing, and how rebuilding trust starts with reconnecting to yourself.
Hali shares practical steps for rebuilding self-trust, including how to tune into your body and intuition when you feel disconnected. We also discuss the delicate process of transitioning from trusting yourself to determining if yo...
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Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#68 Establishing Boundaries and Personal Rights After BetrayalIn this episode, we dive into an important and often overlooked aspect of healing after betrayal: understanding and asserting your personal rights. Just as the Bill of Rights protects individuals in various ways, having a personal Bill of Rights can help guide you through emotional and practical challenges of deciding whether to stay in a relationship after betrayal. We’ll discuss how to identify and communicate your needs, set healthy boundaries, and foster a path to recovery and growth.
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2024-08-2927 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#67 Part 2 of Unmasking Abuse: Understanding Overt and Covert Dynamics in RelationshipsJoin us this week we continue to dive into the complexities of abusive relationships by exploring the often misunderstood concepts of overt and covert abuse. While overt abuse is more recognizable, covert abuse can be insidious and harder to detect, leaving victims feeling confused and isolated. We break down the different forms these abuses can take, how they manifest in relationships, and the long-term impacts they can have on a person’s emotional and mental well-being.
Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to pro...
2024-08-2226 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#66 Part 1 of Unmasking Abuse: Understanding Overt and Covert Dynamics in RelationshipsOn the heels of our episode with Amie Woolsey, this week we dive into the complexities of abusive relationships by exploring the often misunderstood concepts of overt and covert abuse. While overt abuse is more recognizable, covert abuse can be insidious and harder to detect, leaving victims feeling confused and isolated. We break down the different forms these abuses can take, how they manifest in relationships, and the long-term impacts they can have on a person’s emotional and mental well-being.
Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As cer...
2024-08-1528 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#65 Understanding and Overcoming Toxic and Abusive Behaviors with Amie WoolseyIn this powerful episode, we sit down with relationship expert Amie Woolsey to delve into the intricacies of toxic and abusive behaviors within relationships. Amie shares her deep insights and practical advice on recognizing these harmful patterns, understanding their roots, and taking steps to move out of these behaviors and protect yourself from abuse.
If you would like to learn more about Amie or work with her, you can find her on Instagram, Facebook, and Tik Tok. You can learn more about her here:
https://amiewoolsey.com/
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2024-08-0852 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal*Bonus Episode* Revive and Thrive Betrayal Trauma IntensiveTune in to today’s Bonus Episode where Hali is joined by Alana Gordon who is the co-owner and Lead Therapist at Choose Recovery Services. Hear details about our upcoming Betrayal Trauma Intensive to be held in Spanish Fork, Utah on August 21-24, 2024. At this intensive you will be introduced to and given the opportunity to experience different somatic modalities to help you heal your body after experiencing betrayal trauma. We would love to have you join us and you can do that HERE. If you have questions, reach out to Vanessa at Choose Recovery Services at (702) 277-9145 or yo...
2024-08-0216 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#64 Markers of TrustIn this episode we dive into the markers of rebuilding trust after experiencing betrayal in your relationship. We explore the 5 A’s: Acknowledgement, Amends, Acquiring Knowledge, Accountability, and Acceptance. Whether you’ve been betrayed or are seeking to rebuild trust, this episode offers valuable guidance and hope for the path to healing and renewed trust. `
Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the j...
2024-08-0123 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#63 Navigating Foreboding Joy Together in Relational HealingIn this episode, we delve into the concept of foreboding joy and how it affects couples on the journey of relational healing after betrayal. We explore why it’s often difficult to fully embrace happiness and joy after experiencing profound hurt, and we provide practical tips on how couples can work together to overcome these challenges and rebuild a foundation of trust and joy in their relationship.
Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to sta...
2024-07-2534 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#62 Embracing the Process: Waiting with Purpose in Relational RecoveryIn today’s episode we discuss the challenges that come from having a strong desire for healthy connection when you are different paths of individual healing. We discuss strategies for surrendering what you cannot control and focusing on what is within your power. We highlight the empowerment that both spouses can experience as you embrace the responsibility of navigating your own healing.
Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We off...
2024-07-1831 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#61 Leading Relational Repair After Infidelity and BetrayalJoin Stephanie to learn on what it means to lead. Leading relational repair refers to the proactive and intentional efforts taken by the person who caused harm in a relationship to restore trust, improve communication, and rebuild the emotional bond. It involves taking full accountability for the actions that led to the breach of trust, demonstrating genuine remorse, and actively engaging in behaviors that facilitate healing and reconciliation.
Leading Relational Repair after Infidelity and Betrayal Resource
Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we ai...
2024-07-1126 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#60 Exploring Personal Healing Post-Betrayal and InfidelityIn this episode, we focus on the stages of healing from partner betrayal and infidelity, sharing insights from Paula Hall's work, breaking down the healing process into easily understandable acrostics. We highlight the first phase of safety and stabilization, followed by grief and mourning, and finally post-traumatic growth and reconnecting with oneself. We also explore the importance of understanding the impact of one's actions on their partner as a foundation for developing empathy in the relationship. Here are the models introduced in today's episode:
SURF Model: (betrayed partner healing)
S: Survive the trauma and initial...
2024-07-0427 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#59 Navigating Autonomy in HealingIn this episode we discuss how infidelity and betrayal can erode a person’s sens of autonomy and can bring feelings of powerlessness and loss of control. Reclaiming autonomy is an important part of the healing process. We discuss some helpful ideas on how couples and individuals can navigate this process while maintaining the goal of relational repair if that is the desire.
Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We...
2024-06-2728 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#58 From Private Pain to Public Reality with Dani PetersonIn today’s episode, we are joined by Dani Peterson, who is a Holistic Practitioner and Coach, as she steps into vulnerability and shares her deeply personal and professional journey with healing from betrayal when it becomes public knowledge and is amplified in the media. Join us as we explore the challenges, triumphs, and invaluable insights gained from navigating through the aftermath of betrayal in the spotlight.
Dani M. Peterson ACC, CPC, C-IAMYT
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2024-06-2049 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#57 The Reality of Timelines in Relational RepairIn today’s episode we discuss the non-linear process of healing after betrayal in relationships. We highlight the importance of understanding healing timelines and managing expectations during this vulnerable period. There are many diverse factors that can influence the pace and trajectory of healing and we highlight the significance of self-compassion and patience in this journey.
Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on t...
2024-06-1333 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#56 Challenging Belief Narratives that Hinder HealingIn this episode, we're joined by Joshua Hamby. Together, we explore how identifying and reframing limiting belief narratives can catalyze profound healing, personal and relational growth in recovery.
Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise.
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2024-06-0635 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#55 Sexual Reintegration After Infidelity and Betrayal with Bonny BurnsWe are so grateful to welcome our guest, Bonny Burns to the show today to talk about the important topic of sexual reintegration. We talk about sexual wouding and its impact on individuals. We delve into the shame that often comes up for both spouses and its affects on self-esteem and intimacy. We highligh the importance of acknowledging and addressing shame as a crucial step towards healing and reintegration. We give some examples of how to handle triggers and create safety for couples who are ready to attempt sexual reintegration. We hope you enjoy this episode! If you want t...
2024-05-3044 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#54 Season 1 in Review and a Bonus Replay!Thank you for joining us as we reflect on our first year of walking along side you in your healing journey! Today we share our gratitude for you, our listeners. We also reshare one of our most popular episodes from this year. We hope you enjoy this final episode and look forward to diving into Season 2 next week!
Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, a...
2024-05-2333 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#53 Navigating Betrayal with Internal Agency with Natalie BiglerIn this episode, Natalie Bigler shares her journey of navigating betrayal with internal agency. She discusses the role of setting boundaries, overcoming challenges, and fostering authentic connections in the aftermath of betrayal. Tune in for empowering insights and advice for betrayed partners seeking to reclaim power and autonomy.
Guest Natalie Bigler
BCC trainee, APSATS trainee, Therapeutic Art Life Coach Natalie Bigler serves as a Betrayal Trauma specialist at Choose Recovery Services and is the CEO of Truth Rising Coaching alongside her husband and coach, Matthew Bigler. Currently undergoing training as a Board Certified Coach and A...
2024-05-1639 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#52 Renewed Commitment: Doing Whatever It Takes to Mend BetrayalIn today’s episode we delve into a crucial aspect of relational repair after betrayal: prioritizing the needs of the betrayed partner. Join us as we explore the importance of acknowledging and addressing the needs of the betrayed spouse as a foundational step towards healing and rebuilding trust in the relationship.
Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Jo...
2024-05-0931 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#51 Timing is Everything: Knowing When to Start Couples Coaching or CounselingJoin Hali in today’s episode where she discusses how to know if and when it’s the right time to step into couple’s work with a coach or therapist. She will offer guidance on when to recognize if you are ready for couple’s work and how to find a coach or therapist who can provide the sensitive support you need in the complex journey of healing after betrayal.
Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who...
2024-05-0223 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#50 Empowering the Betrayed: 4 Strategies for Cultivating Compassion When Pain is Met with IndifferenceIn this episode of the Choosing to Stay podcast we explore four strategies for fostering compassion when faced with a partner's lack of empathy, discover practical techniques to maintain emotional well-being and navigate challenging dynamics within the relationship, and learn how setting boundaries, practicing self-care, and effective communication can empower individuals to thrive despite emotional challenges.
Free Resource: 20 Minute Pause for Self-Regulation
Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their...
2024-04-2428 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#49 Beneath the Surface: What’s Really Going on For a Wounded AggressorIn this episode, we delve into the complex dynamics of betrayal trauma from a unique perspective: that of the wounded aggressor. Beneath the surface of aggression lies a multitude of emotions and experiences. We will explore the deeper struggles that drive a betrayed partner to lash out or to hurt others. We give some practical tools that both partners can use to break free from harmful behaviors and cycles. We explore how deep inner work by both partners can facilitate healing while at the same time taking responsibility for their own actions.
Michelle Mays Articles: Offending from t...
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Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#49 Beneath the Surface: What’s Really Going on For a Wounded AggressorIn this episode of the Choosing to Stay podcast, we delve into the complex dynamics of betrayal trauma from a unique perspective: that of the wounded aggressor. Beneath the surface of aggression lies a multitude of emotions and experiences. We will explore the deeper struggles that drive a betrayed partner to lash out or to hurt others. We give some practical tools that both partners can use to break free from harmful behaviors and cycles. We explore how deep inner work by both partners can facilitate healing while at the same time taking responsibility for their own actions.
2024-04-1800 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#48 The Value of Group SupportIn this episode we discuss the unique benefits of group support for individuals navigating infidelity and betrayal, such as validation, empathy, and understanding from others who have experienced similar situations. Group support can provide a safe place for individuals to express their feelings, share their stories, and receive guidance without fear of judgement. We share the many different group options available at Choose Recovery Services, including the ones facilitated by Hali and Stephanie. You can find links to those below:
Empowerment After Betrayal: Men’s Betrayal Recovery Group
Choose Renewal: for women recovering from unwanted se...
2024-04-1128 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#47 Assertiveness in Healing: A Continued Conversation on Navigating Needs Post-BetrayalIn today's episode, we'll delve into the importance of being assertive with our needs following betrayal, both in terms of meeting our individual needs and ensuring our relational needs are addressed. We explore strategies for identifying and communicating our own needs effectively and we also discuss common obstacles individuals and couples encounter when trying to assert their needs in relational repair after betrayal.
Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship...
2024-04-0430 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#46 Leaning In After BetrayalIn this episode, we are talking about navigating the part of the healing journey when you start to feel safe enough to lean back in after betrayal. If both spouses are doing the work and there is a level of safety being created we might find it challenging to lean back in and allow connection to happen. We talk about attachment ambivalence and I share a few resources and groups available for those in this phase of healing. You can learn more about the groups I mention here:
Leaning In Betrayal Trauma Group
Help Her H...
2024-03-2827 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#45 Exploring Needs in the Aftermath of BetrayalIn this episode, we delve into the complex landscape of needs in the aftermath of betrayal, exploring both individual and relational dimensions. We examine the importance of acknowledging and validating these needs as essential steps towards healing and rebuilding. Additionally, we explore how betrayal impacts relational dynamics, highlighting the significance of communication, empathy, and boundary setting in addressing shared needs within the relationship. Join us as we navigate the intricacies of navigating needs in the afternoon of betrayal and offer insights and strategies for moving forward on the path to healing and restoration.
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2024-03-2141 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#44 Couples in Recovery- Matthew and Joanna RaabsmithThis episode highlights the journey of Joanna and Matthew Raabsmith, professionals in the field of relationships and intimacy. Joanna, with her background as an LMFT, CPTT, and CCPS, and Matthew, as a PCC, CPC, both bring a wealth of expertise to their work.
They co-authored the book "Building True Intimacy: Creating a Connection that Stands the Test of Time," offering insights and strategies for cultivating deep, lasting connections in relationships.
Listeners interested in delving deeper into their work can explore their book, available for purchase at https://intimacypyramid.com/. Additionally, those looking to engage directly...
2024-03-1437 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#43 Markers of Recovery in RelationshipsBetrayal in relationships can leave deep scars, but it's possible to rebuild and heal. We'll discuss the signs and milestones that indicate progress on the path to healing, offering hope and guidance to those navigating this challenging terrain. Remember, healing takes time, but with commitment and mutual support, it's possible to emerge from the shadows of betrayal into a brighter, more hopeful future.
Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship...
2024-03-0733 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#42 Integrating Safety and Security in Relational RepairIn today’s conversation, we discuss the importance of creating a safe space for communication and healing. We emphasize the necessity of open, honest, and empathetic conversations. We highlight the importance of personal and relational boundaries. We discuss some strategies for the spouse who has caused the sexual betrayal to create safety and rebuild trust. We also discuss the importance for the betrayed partner to be able to create their own safety if the relational safety is not present.
Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we...
2024-02-2933 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#41 Bystander Basics: Tools for Supporting Couples You Love Who Are Navigating BetrayalToday we are thrilled to welcome Ashly Leavitt back to the podcast to discuss how people in a couple’s circle of support can gain some understanding on how to best show up for their loved ones facing betrayal. Our hope is that this is an episode you might be able to share with your loved ones who are in your inner circle and are wanting to be part of your healthy support team. We explore the many challenges that couples endure and pivotal role bystanders can play in empowering the couple to make the decisions that are best fo...
2024-02-2243 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#40 Healing Together: The Path of Mutual AttunementIn this episode we delve into what it means to be attuned to your individual emotions and needs as well as those of your partner. Individual growth is a catalyst for relational repair. We encourage self-reflection as a means to better understand one's needs, desires, and contributions to the relationship's well-being. We give practical tools that you can use to develop individual and mutual attunement as a part of relational repair after betrayal.
Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and gu...
2024-02-1630 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#39 Facing Relational Challenges in Later RecoveryIn this episode we delve into some common challenges that couples who are in later recovery might face. We discuss setting a new foundation for your relationship so you are prepared not to fall into old patterns. Attunement and other intentional practices are imperative when facing these challenges. We discuss tools such as HALT to aide in intentional relational and self care when making important decisions. Lastly, we highlight the importance of intentionality in our relationships.
Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to...
2024-02-0821 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#38 Tips for Supporting Children in the Wake of BetrayalOn today’s episode, we are joined by Morgan Ellsworth, a coach with Choose Recovery Services who works with children of betrayed families. She shares tips for navigating difficult conversations with our children and ways to support them through their own healing journey from betrayal. Check out Morgan’s bio and schedule a complimentary session here:
https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/team/#MorganEllsworth
You can get in touch with her via email for any questions: morgan.ellsworth98@gmail.com
Sign up for the Resilient Teens group here: https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/resilient-teens/
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2024-02-0137 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#37 Navigating the Unknown: What I Wish I Knew in Early Stages of HealingToday embark on the candid exploration of the uncharted territories that follow the discovery of betrayal in a relationship. We reflect on the immediate aftermath and emotional impact of discovering betrayal and acknowledge the confusion that often accompanies the early stages of healing. We address some common misconceptions and unrealistic expectations that can hinder healing as well as offer perspectives on steps that can be taken to facilitate the healing process.
Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for t...
2024-01-2530 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#36 Couples in Recovery; Conversations on Healing with Seth and MeganWe often get asked by our clients in the early stages of healing after discovering betrayal if it’s even possible to recover. Today we welcome Seth and Megan to the show and offer a heartfelt thank you to them for sharing their deeply personal and inspiring story with us. You will hear some of what it has taken both of them to heal and strengthen their relationship. They have taken their experiences and use them to support and encourage other couples in this healing journey. Seth has even taken his recovery to the level where he now supports other...
2024-01-1844 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#35 Laying Down the Burden and Finding Joy in the Small MomentsIn today’s episode we dive into the profound journey of putting down the heavy burden that often accompanies the pain of betrayal. We will explore the transformative power of finding joy in the small moments amidst the wreckage of trust. We offer simple exercises and mindfulness practices that listeners can incorporate into their lives to foster a greater sense of joy and release.
Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their rel...
2024-01-1115 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#34 The Right Fit: Selecting Professionals for your Healing JourneyJoin us on today’s episode where we focus on finding qualified professionals and support teams for individuals and couples navigating infidelity and betrayal. We highlight the different roles of therapy, coaching, support groups, and more. We also provide information on how to find the right professional for where you are in your healing journey.
Click HERE to search the APSATS directory for professionals trained in partner sensitivity. You can search for a licensed CSAT in your area HERE.
Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As cert...
2024-01-0436 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#33 Finding Solid Ground: Defining Your Values in the Aftermath of BetrayalJoin us in this episode as we embark on a journey of healing and self-discovery. We’ll explore the essential process of defining and refining our core values after experiencing the profound impact of infidelity and betrayal in relationships. Get some practical steps on how to understand your core values so that they can be a guiding compass for your personal and relational growth.
Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their rel...
2023-12-2831 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#32 The Devastating Impact of Betraying Our Core Values in RelationshipsIn this episode, we discuss the consequences surrounding infidelity and betrayal in relationships. We explore the connection between these heartbreaking experiences and the violation of core values. We desire to help you understand the significance of core values in establishing a strong foundation for individual and relational healing.
Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly f...
2023-12-2226 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#31 Transparency & Honesty: A Key to Post-Infidelity ResilienceJoin us as we explore the transformative power of transparent conversations and self-honesty in the journey of post-infidelity resilience. In this episode, we delve into the intricacies of open communication, emphasizing the critical role that honesty with oneself plays in rebuilding trust.
Building True Intimacy (book) https://intimacypyramid.com/
Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing...
2023-12-1424 min
Choose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma HealingWhen Doing More Means Doing Less“I have to do it all! I have to BE it all!” If you often find yourself thinking these things, then this episode is for you! Amie and Alana share practical tips for finding balance amidst the seasonal chaos. If you feel overwhelmed and pressured to make the holidays (or any days!) picture-perfect, this episode will give you permission to do less of what doesn’t matter so you can do more of what does.
Listen to learn:
How to determine what traditions really matter this year
The perils of overscheduling
How to...
2023-12-1214 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#30 The Role of Healthy Interdependence in Healing from BetrayalIn today’s episode, we delve into the complex terrain of building healthy interdependence after betrayal. We explore the concept of individual growth within the context of a shared life and provide tips on maintaining independence while building a strong and supportive partnership.
Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise.
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2023-12-0734 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#29 Codependent BehaviorsJoin us as we explore the intricate web of codependent behaviors, unravel the threads of trauma, and discover the empowering art of letting go. Together, we'll navigate the terrain of outdated coping strategies, empowering you to shed what no longer serves you and embrace a path of resilience and authenticity."
Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join...
2023-11-3031 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#28 The Power of the Pen: Journaling Strategies For HealingJoin us in this episode as we explore the profound and transformative journey of using journaling as a therapeutic tool for healing after betrayal. Dive deep into the incredible benefits of putting pen to paper and discover how the simple act of journaling can become a powerful catalyst for emotional restoration. Learn practical tips, personal stories, and evidence backed strategies that illuminate the path to self-discovery and empowerment.
Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide t...
2023-11-2329 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#27 Coping with a Spouse's Resistance to RecoveryIn today’s episode we talk about the fears and barriers that come up when your spouse is unwilling to seek professional support or do any healing work after betrayal. We discuss ways to continue to move forward in your own healing and to make decisions about what is best for you going forward.
Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the...
2023-11-1630 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#26 Ten Phrases Keeping You From Developing EmpathyIn today's episode, we'll explore common phrases and expressions used by couples navigating the path of reconciliation and choosing to stay together after partner betrayal and infidelity. More importantly, we'll delve into how to respond with empathy. Remember, your journey is unique, and empathy can be a powerful tool in rebuilding trust and connection.
As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise.
Your hosts a...
2023-11-0928 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#25 Defining the Terminology of Partner Betrayal and Early Couples RecoveryWelcome to another episode of "Choosing to Stay," the podcast that explores the complexities of relationships, especially in the aftermath of partner betrayal.
Today, we're delving into the terminology that often surfaces during the challenging journey of early recovery for couples. Thank you for joining us on this summary exploration of the terminology surrounding partner betrayal and early couples recovery. Remember, understanding this language is a crucial step toward healing and rebuilding. We'll be back with more insights and stories in our next episode. Until then, take care and choose to stay committed to your journey of...
2023-11-0237 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#24 Navigating Grief as a Couple, Part 2Betrayal and infidelity bring inevitable loss to relationships, triggering a challenging journey of grief. In this episode, we explore the nuanced dimensions of grief resulting from betrayal, its impact on relationships, and strategies for couples not only to endure but thrive. Grief can either drive couples apart or deepen their connection. By choosing to stay and support each other through these trials, couples can emerge stronger and more resilient.
Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who...
2023-10-2638 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#23 Navigating Grief as a Couple, Part 1Loss is an inevitable part of infidelity and betrayal, and when it strikes, couples often find themselves on a challenging journey of grief processing. In today's episode, we'll discuss the various dimensions of grief, how it affects relationships, and explore strategies for couples to not only survive but thrive through these difficult times.
Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey...
2023-10-1934 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#22 Nurturing Your Soul Through the Aftermath of BetrayalWe live in a fast-paced world where juggling work, family, and personal commitments can feel like an endless tightrope act. The concept of self-care, while essential for our mental and physical health, and especially essential for healing from trauma or addiction, often gets pushed to the bottom of our to-do lists. But what if we told you that even the busiest of schedules can be infused with self-care?
In this episode, we dive deep into the art of getting creative with your time and finding those precious moments for self-care, even when it seems impossible. We'll discuss p...
2023-10-1228 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#21 Empathy in Action: Impact and Restitution LettersToday we talk about one of the final steps in the disclosure process - the Impact Letter and the Letter of Restitution. These two aspects of formal disclosure can be very healing for both partners and allows them to experience a deep level of vulnerability, intimacy, and empathy. We also highlight the benefits of getting professional support during this process.
Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable i...
2023-10-0519 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#20 The Power of Polygraph Examinations in Healing After Betrayal with Wes BurnsJoin us as we welcome Wes Burns MPA, LPI, CFLEPE, a polygraph expert, to explore the practical uses of polygraphs in the aftermath of betrayal. Learn how a polygraph may be beneficial in helping individuals find the path to renewal after betrayal and for those Choosing to stay after infidelity and betrayal. To contact Wes or learn more about his distinguished service and experience in the professional forensic field, check out his website here.
Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support...
2023-09-2835 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal*Bonus Episode* Different Types of Disclosures with Luke GordonJoin us for this short BONUS episode with Luke Gordon where we define the different types of disclosures. We want to give you more information to make an informed decision about whether a disclosure is the right thing for you and what type might be best for you. We also explain the process we use at Choose Recovery Services. Luke is the co-owner of Choose Recovery Services and is Certified Life and Recovery Coach who has experience supporting clients through the Disclosure process. Read more about Luke or schedule an appointment with him HERE. If you would like to le...
2023-09-2210 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#19 Supporting Couples in the Disclosure Process with Luke GordonToday we welcome Luke Gordon back to the show to discuss the process of formal disclosures from a professional’s standpoint. Luke is the co-owner of Choose Recovery Services and is Certified Life and Recovery Coach who has experience supporting clients through the Disclosure process. Read more about Luke or schedule an appointment with him HERE. If you would like to learn more about the disclosure process we use at Choose Recovery Services, you can do so HERE.
Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim...
2023-09-2143 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#18 Formal Disclosure for Couples: Interview with Joshua and Stephanie HambyToday, we have a special treat for our listeners as we welcome Joshua and Stephanie Hamby, a couple who will share their personal experience with formal disclosure and how it has impacted their relationship.
In this episode, we'll explore the benefits, process, and the profound impact of formal disclosure on creating authentic intimacy, vulnerability, and connection.
Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey...
2023-09-1442 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal*Bonus Episode* Healing Hearts CourseWelcome to the bonus episode if we have an exciting topic to discuss – "Healing Hearts" – a comprehensive program designed to support early recovery and healing couples dealing with partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues or addiction.
As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise.
To learn more and register Healing Hearts Course - Stephanie Hamby leads This Couples Course that is a comprehensive prog...
2023-09-0811 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#17 The Power of Empathy with Carol Juergensen SheetsIn today’s episode Carol Juergensen Sheets discusses the power of empathy in rebuilding trust and healing relationships after betrayal. She shares examples of how to show empathy and discusses her approach to couples healing through the Early Recovery Couple’s Empathy Model (ERCEM) of which is the creator.
Carol Juergensen Sheets LCSW, CCPS-S, CSAT-S, PCC is the author of several books including Help Her Heal, Help Them Heal, and Unleashing Your Power. She is the host of the podcast, Sex Help With Carol the Coach. You can find her classes and resources at https://sexhelpwithcarolthecoach.com/.
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2023-09-0734 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#16 Boundaries 101 for Couples with Ashly LeavittThank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise.
In this episode of the Choosing To Stay podcast, our guest Ashly Leavitt, an Associate Clinical Mental Health Counselor (ACMHC) and Certified Clinical Partner Specialist-Candidate (CCPS-C), discusses the importance along with practical steps to setting boundaries individually and as a couple. Tune in...
2023-08-3153 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#15 Should I Stay? Making Empowered Choices With Kim BrownShould I Stay? Making Empowered Choices with Kim Brown
In today’s episode, Hali talks with fellow coach, Kim Brown about facing the difficult choice of whether to stay or leave after betrayal. We talk about some of the common fears that many face as they navigate the challenges of healing both individually and relationally. We also talk about the challenges that come in choosing to leave when there is manipulation and abuse.
To learn more about Kim Brown, check out her bio and learn how to schedule an appointment with her HERE.
Thank yo...
2023-08-2440 minChoose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma HealingSay Hello To Your Vagus Nerve; Specific Ways to Relax Your Central Nervous SystemLast week we learned about the important role our nervous system plays in regulating our bodies. This week Amie and Alana are here to continue that conversation and to give you practical, tangible things you can do right now to help engage and relax your central nervous system.
Tune in to learn:
What bodily discomfort may be telling you.
What to remember if the work you’re doing seems NOT to be working.
Specific strategies you can implement on your own to regulate your nervous system.
Ways a professional can help you activate the vagus nerve.
Som...
2023-08-2225 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#14 What is Acting in?It has been observed that acting behaviors can be a significant obstacle in establishing sincere connections with others. We understand that healing from such behaviors can be challenging, so we invite you to participate in our discussion. Through this platform, we offer valuable insights and support to help you on your path toward healing. Whether you prefer group sessions, courses, or 1:1 coaching, we offer you the guidance and assistance you need to heal partners who have experienced betrayal, those with sexual integrity issues, and for relational repair.
Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples...
2023-08-1729 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#13 The Cycle of Sexual Integrity IssuesThank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise.
In today's episode, we dive into the behaviors that contribute to the cycle of sexual integrity issues. We also give some examples of behaviors in each phase as well as some practical tools to help you start stepping out of that cycle.
2023-08-1027 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#12 Stages of recovery for the one with sexual integrity issues with special guest, Luke GordonJoin Hali and Stephanie with our special guest, Certified Addiction Recovery Coach, Luke Gordon. He provides a wealth of detailed information on the various phases, notable accomplishments, and potential obstacles that one may encounter during this journey of recovery from sexual integrity issues. We hope that the knowledge shared today will prove helpful and illuminating to each of you.
Learn more about Luke Gordon.
Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal:
Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate
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2023-08-0344 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal# 11 Yours, Mine, and Our Recovery Part 3: Healing For the relationshipWelcome to the third part of our series, "Yours, Mine, and Our Recovery and Healing." Today, we will be discussing the crucial steps involved in repairing a relationship after infidelity and betrayal. We will explore the significance of acknowledging and empathizing with your partner's pain, the effort required to build a new relationship, and ways to support growth. Join us today to gain valuable insights on achieving relational growth and healing.
Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support...
2023-07-2728 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal# 10 Yours, Mine, and Our Recovery Part 2: Healing For the one with sexual integrity issuesWelcome to the second part of our series, yours, mine, and our recovery and healing. Today, we will discuss the significance of individual work for those struggling with sexual integrity issues. We will delve into embracing vulnerability and accountability, understanding and expressing one's emotions, and identifying the underlying causes of acting out behaviors. Join us today to gain insights on achieving personal growth and healing.
Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal:
Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate
Read Hali’s Bio
Book with Ha...
2023-07-2031 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal# 9 Yours, Mine, and Our Recovery Part 1: Healing For the Betrayed PartnerThank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise.
Today is Part 1 of a 3-part series where we are going to look at the importance of individual and relational work. For the sake of ease in the conversation we are going to refer to the betrayed partner as "her," but these tools...
2023-07-1325 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#8 Trauma TriageThank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise.
The early stages right after discovery or disclosure of betrayal can be confusing and emotional. Your brain and body might go into a state of shock and you don’t know where to begin. In today’s episode, we are talking about some of t...
2023-07-0625 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#7 Viewing Partner Betrayal from the Lens of TraumaThank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise.
Tune in to episode #7 of the Choosing to Stay podcast, where Stephanie engages in a thought-provoking dialogue with a distinguished guest, Danielle Lew. Danielle expounds on her experience of electing to remain in a relationship while leveraging her proficiency in the field. She...
2023-06-2941 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#6 How do I Understand and Receive my Partner's Emotions?Healing from betrayal can be accelerated if the partner who has had sexual integrity issues can learn to receive their spouse's emotions without sinking into shame or defensive mode. In today’s episode, we talk about how to seek to understand your spouse's strong emotions and receive those in a healthy way. We will give you some great insights and share some tools you can practice implementing so that you can receive your spouse's emotions.
Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we ai...
2023-06-2226 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#5 What do I do with Strong Emotions?Episode 5 What do I do with my strong emotions?
In today’s episode we will talk about why it’s so important to be able to identify and process our emotions. We give some practical tools that can be used right away to help you learn this skill. There is power in honoring our emotions and taking responsibility for how we handle those emotions. We discuss choosing to respond to different situations rather than having automatic reactions and how to create the space in your interactions to do have the power to choose.
Voices at the roundtable: https://docs.googl...
2023-06-1525 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#4 What is Betrayal Trauma?Episode 4 - Understanding Betrayal Trauma
It can be hard to understand why your betrayed spouse is behaving or reacting in certain ways after there have been sexual integrity issues. Today we talk about what happens in the brain and body after betrayal and give you some insight into understanding your partner.
Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the j...
2023-06-0826 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#3 How do we even begin to heal?A warm welcome to the third episode of the Choosing to Stay podcast; today, we will delve into the significance of emotional and physical safety. We admire and acknowledge the courage and strength necessary to embark on the path toward recovery, restoration, and building healthy relationships. When there has been betrayal, it's essential to establish foundational relational safety. Recovery, with a focus on sobriety, should be deliberate. The ultimate goal is to foster meaningful connections.
It is crucial to prioritize individual recovery and healing as a part of the overall relational healing process.
Sexual integrity...
2023-06-0122 minChoosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#2 How couples can move forward after Infidelity and BetrayalThank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise.
Welcome to episode two of the Choosing to Stay podcast. Today, we discuss the stages of the Early Recovery Couple's Empathy healing model and how couples can move forward in their recovery journey. The ERCEM model encourages couples in early recovery to work...
2023-06-0128 min
Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal#1 Choosing to Stay after Infidelity and Betrayal podcastThank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise.
In this episode, Hali and Stephanie discuss the following:
It may not always be the best decision to remain in a relationship after experiencing sexual integrity issues, infidelity, or betrayal. However, it can be a fulfilling yet difficult journey for those who...
2023-06-0110 minChoose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma HealingBrain Healing After Trauma with Guests Hali Roderick and Jeff RoderickHave you ever thought about betrayal trauma’s impact on your brain health? After watching her dad lose his life to Dementia last year, Hali Roderick began to gain an interest in the connection between the physical brain and emotional healing.
As Hali looked into ways to prevent her physical brain from cognitive decline, she recognized a lot of the signs of brain injury are similar to the symptoms of betrayal trauma.
Tune in to this episode with our guests, Hali and Jeff Roderick to learn:
Symptoms of betrayal trauma that match those of...
2023-05-1649 minChoose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma HealingAffair Recovery with Betrayal Trauma coach Hali RoderickIn todays Episode we welcome one of our amazing coaches Hali Roderick who is addressing the aspect of recovery when there has been an affair in the marriage, but no pornography. Many women are navigating this aspect of betrayal and often find it hard to feel supported and not sure how to heal from this kind of betrayal. Join us today and Hali shares key point to help you navigate your journey to find hope and healing.
Want to work with Hali? Check out chooserecoveryservices.com
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2022-11-0140 min
Choose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma HealingTaming Your Triggers with guests Hali Roderick and Luke GordonToday we are talking with a one of our awesome certified betrayal trauma coaches, Hali Roderick and Co-Owner of CHOOSE and certified life coach Luke Gordon. Triggers are a huge part of healing and also just a huge part of being human. Learning how to tame those triggers is a skill worth developing. Hali shares her thoughts and tools on how to do just that!
When the spouse who has been betrayed has these triggers, it's often frustrating and confusing to the other partner and can often cause further damage. So learning more a bout why they...
2021-10-0544 min