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Highly Sensitive, Happily MarriedPsychological Boundaries For More Closeness188 Developing healthy boundaries is an absolutely essential part of having a great intimate relationship, especially as highly sensitive people.They are a way to take care of yourself, each other, and the relationship. I teach 3 types of boundaries, and today we are diving into the 2 psychological, or energetic types of boundaries: Protection boundaries, and containment boundaries. (Please listen to episode 51 for Relationship Boundary Basics.)When you use these kinds of boundaries skillfully, you will be able to create more closeness in your relationship, and leave beyond patterns and behaviors that create extra division, conflict, and ani...2025-05-2245 min
Highly Sensitive, Happily MarriedHow To Argue Better; 9 Ground Rules For Smoother Conflict180 Most, if not all, couples argue. Even when their relationship is very healthy. So if you and your spouse find yourself mired in the occasional --or even more regular -- conflict, it doesn't mean it’s detrimental to your marriage, and it doesn't have to be painful…In fact, conflict can actually be an important part of growing a more deeply intimate, connected and supportive marriage. How do you make sure conflict goes the most smoothly it can, does the least damage– and the most good in your marriage? As an HSP I know you want to...2025-02-0628 min
Highly Sensitive, Happily MarriedUpdate and Announcements (How to Make the Most of the Podcast)179 Things are changing around here going forward. What will it mean for you? How can the podcast (now a vast library!) be even MORE helpful going forward?Listen to this short episode to hear what to expect and how the changes will affect you – and how you can make the most of the podcast and my support to make your marriage great going forward.I will give you a few very specific and practical suggestions for how you can make the most of my help via the podcast and beyond (hint: give me your topic sug...2025-01-2315 min
Highly Sensitive, Happily MarriedIs It Time To Leave Your Marriage? How To Know178 If you're unhappy enough in your marriage to be questioning if you should stay or go, you probably feel uncertain, confused, afraid. You're too scared and unsure if it's the right thing to do to actually leave, but you also know you don't want to go on living like this with your spouse. What if your spouse CAN improve? What if you CAN connect in the deeper ways you want? What if you CAN’T? What if he can't? It can be paralyzing. And spirit killing!It’s time for some clarity about what's best for y...2025-01-0940 min
Highly Sensitive, Happily MarriedHow Highly Sensitive People Can Feel More Fulfilled in Their Relationship177 There are three major things I learned from my first marriage ending in divorce that have allowed me to create an amazing fulfilling marriage with my second husband. And they have to do with understanding my sensitivity so much better. As I've worked with hundreds of other highly sensitive women, I've noticed the struggles I had in my first marriage echo so many of the struggles these other HSP women have in theirs. So it makes sense what worked for me will also help you have a much more fulfilling marriage!AND the unh...2025-01-0225 min
Highly Sensitive, Happily MarriedUn-Walk-Over-Able: How To Not Be A Doormat (Revisited)174 This is a slightly revised episode, updated and re-released because of its importance! Here’s to not tolerating mistreatment, and how to begin the process of influencing your partner to treat you best! As modern women, we’ve been encouraged to not let ourselves be “doormats” in our relationship with our significant other. And we want to be strong, to not tolerate criticism or unkind treatment, and to stand up for the respect we deserve. All of which is so important to have a healthy loving marriage, especially as a sensitive person.But some...2024-12-0523 min
Highly Sensitive, Happily MarriedEditing Yourself In Your Relationship171 If you've ever felt AT ALL uncomfortable to express yourself in any way in your relationship, this episode is for you. Because, even if you want a loving affectionate marriage, a weird thing may happen that I’ve seen again and again with women I've worked with (and I’ve done it myself, too!) :You may edit your loving impulses, stop yourself from expressing in certain ways the love you have for your partner, out of fear of how it will be received. OR you may have a deep truth to shar...2024-11-0731 min
Highly Sensitive, Happily Married7 Tips For When Self-Reflection Feels Painful170 If you have any chance of having a great –or even just a decent– marriage, there will inevitably be times in your relationship that you need to take a look at your self and how you are approaching your relationship. To self-reflect and take ownership of the ways you are contributing to a less-than-great relationship.Even if you know how essential this is for making positive changes and having lasting love, it can still, unfortunately, feel painful–if you approach it the way so many people do. Luckily, I have found a way to take the pai...2024-10-3131 min
Highly Sensitive, Happily MarriedBeing Who You Want To Be In Your Relationship (Revisited)169 This is the first in a re-boot of some of the most essential episodes of the podcast that I will be releasing occasionally. Whether you’re newer to the podcast, or if you’ve listened to every episode, this one is a must listen (or re-listen). Because often, as humans, we go about trying to improve our marriage backwards: we're more focused on changing our partner than changing ourselves.But focusing on your spouse isn’t where you pack the most punch for actual change!There is a more effective, easier, and more rewardi...2024-10-2431 min
Highly Sensitive, Happily MarriedHow To Get Your Spouse To Help More Around The HouseMany women I talk to feel as though their husband doesn't contribute enough domestically, like with the household chores like dishes, laundry, etc, or with the kids. If that is going on at all for you, you probably feel resentful about it, and a sense of burden at having to do the lion's share of the domestic load. Who wouldn’t?!This episode will change that, and help you get your partner to contribute more domestically. You see, there is a common pattern that many couples fall into where one partner is taking on a...2024-09-2643 min
Highly Sensitive, Happily MarriedResting For Better Love As A Sensitive Person165 If you are tired, as so many women–and especially highly sensitive women—are these days, then it IS affecting your relationship – for the worse. When we are tired, depleted, or burnt out, we HSPs tend to feel especially burdened, irritable and even resentful. And unfortunately it is just so easy to get tired, depleted or burnt out in our modern lives with all the societal and real-life pressures. And you likely feel you have to just keep go-go-going. Especially if you are a mom or have a full time job (or both!).If any...2024-09-1220 min
Highly Sensitive, Happily MarriedHow I Used My Own Advice To Move Out Of A Hard Time In My Marriage164 All marriages have ups and downs. It's in large part how you handle the downs that determines the overall quality of your relationship, and whether it grows more deeply loving and stays that way, or it disintegrates.In this episode I candidly share how I recently applied my own coaching teachings to my own marriage during one of those harder times (when I was feeling like my husband wasn't supporting or caring for me well), and how I coached myself into feeling not just supported again, but even cherished.As vulnerable as this is to s...2024-09-0527 min