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Unapologetically SpicyThe Things I Didn't SayIn “The Things I Didn’t Say,” Harley unpacks the quiet months — the ones filled with background sadness, heavy masking, and the exhaustion that sits behind her smile. She opens up about staying silent when the world, work, school, and the people around her made it easier to swallow her truth than speak it.This episode explores grief, burnout, the ache of feeling out of place, and the loneliness that lingers even in crowded rooms. Harley shares how music became her language when words failed, how joining a chorus helped her reclaim her voice, and how she’s learning...
2025-11-2222 min
Unapologetically SpicyFrom Messy to Magic: She Survived, Thrived, Said ‘No’ (And Yes, Sometimes)Healing is messy. Sex is complicated. And sometimes… having a job doesn’t fix everything. In this episode of Unapologetically Spicy, Harley gets real about her journey through unemployment, trauma, and reclaiming her relationship with her body and intimacy. From the painful, unexpected lessons of healing, to unpacking hypersexuality as survival, to redefining what intimacy really means—this episode is raw, reflective, and unapologetically honest.Whether you’re navigating your own healing journey, questioning society’s messages about sex, or just need to hear that it’s okay to take things one step at a time—Harley’s got you.
2025-08-2319 minUnapologetically SpicyRoommates , Burnout, and the Broken Dishwasher That Broke MeIn this episode of Unapologetically Spicy, Harley peels back the layers of frustration, burnout, and unspoken labor that come with living in shared spaces — especially as a neurodivergent Black woman. From crusty dishes and crunchy floors to broken promises and broken (metaphorical) dishwashers, Harley explores how chores in adulthood can trigger deep-rooted childhood wounds and reignite old survival patterns.She breaks down the emotional toll of being “the responsible one,” the people-pleasing habits that are hard as hell to unlearn, and the heartbreak of realizing that grace without accountability will bleed you dry.If you’ve ever...
2025-06-1419 minUnapologetically SpicyMotherhood in the In-Between: A Love Letter to the AlmostsThis Mother’s Day, we’re not sugarcoating it.In this deeply personal and emotionally raw episode, Harley opens up about the complexities of motherhood, loss, estrangement, and the invisible grief that lingers in the in-between. From the pain of almost-motherhood and childless step-parenting, to the ache of being the daughter of an emotionally absent mother, Motherhood in the In-Between: A Love Letter to the Almosts is an unflinching reflection on what it means to nurture without recognition, to grieve without language, and to heal without a blueprint.This is a love letter to the “almost...
2025-05-1120 min
Unapologetically SpicyWhen Love Feels Like Betrayal: Narcissistic Mothers, Exes, and the Journey Back to MyselfIn this raw and soul-stirring episode, Harley kicks off 2025 with a vulnerable reflection on healing from the deep wounds caused by narcissistic parents and partners. From the betrayal of a mother who chose appearances over protection, to the emotional unraveling after leaving an abusive relationship, Harley unpacks the tangled roots of trauma, identity, and love. This episode is a healing circle for anyone navigating the grief of what should have been, the anger of what was, and the courage it takes to reclaim your voice. Trigger warning: This episode includes discussions of emotional abuse and pregnancy loss.
2025-04-1941 min
Unapologetically Spicy[Bonus] 2024 WrappedSpotify said that my creator personality is the Non-Conformist. But my 2024 wrapped said I had to learn some hard lessons for 2025.
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2025-01-0117 min
Unapologetically SpicyLove, A Former Perfect ChildOne of the roles in a narcissistic family is the "Perfect Child." We start to unpack what that looks like in this episode.
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2024-12-3112 min
Unapologetically SpicyMom Loves Me Conditionally - Navigating Life as an Only Child of a Complex ParentThis deeply personal episode is about being the only child of a complex parent, and it's the beginning of what's most likely going to be an ongoing series about narcissism.
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2024-11-2617 min
Unapologetically SpicyLoving Yourself When They Say Go F*ck YourselfFinally, the self-care episode! But also, we can't ignore Kamala Harris and Sonya Massey in the news.
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Protecting My Peace: Embracing Inner Beauty and Ancestral Power (Audiobook) - https://amzn.to/4dw7hAX (Please note that this is an Amazon Affiliate link, so I get a commission if you decide to purchase from this link!)
https://www.ourbodiesourselves.org/health-info/35-self-care-tips-for-black-women/https://marsellwc.com/how-black-women-can-practice-self-care-for-mental-wellness/
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2024-08-0322 min
Unapologetically SpicyThe Grief of AbuseWe need to talk more about the grief that comes from ending a toxic relationship.
TRIGGER WARNING:
This episode contains mentions of emotional and verbal abuse and suicide, which can be distressing to some listeners. It might get heavy at some points, so if it becomes too much or overwhelming, please take a breather and come back later. If you or someone you know is having a mental health crisis or thoughts of suicide, dial or text 988 to get connected to a trained crisis counselor 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Crisis counselors listen empathetically and without judgment. Your crisis...
2024-07-1234 min
Unapologetically SpicyDon't Call It a ComebackI promise I've been here the whole time. Life just wanted to throw hands.
TRIGGER WARNING:
This episode contains mentions of emotional and verbal abuse and suicide, which can be distressing to some listeners. It might get heavy at some points, so if it becomes too much or overwhelming, please take a breather and come back later. If you or someone you know is having a mental health crisis or thoughts of suicide, dial or text 988 to get connected to a trained crisis counselor 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Crisis counselors listen empathetically and without judgment. Your crisis counselor...
2024-06-2935 min
Unapologetically SpicyThe StigmaAn overview into being Black, a woman, and neurospicy. Buckle up! It might sound crazy hearing about it, but imagine living it.
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2024-03-1835 minUnapologetically SpicyTrailer: Welcome to Unapologetically SpicyWelcome to the Unapologetically Spicy podcast! This is that Blackity neurospicy podcast you didn't know you needed, hosted by me, Harley. I plan on trying to release new episodes at least twice a month talking about a variety of topics from the perspective of a neurospicy Black woman, like work or relationships or even self-care. Think of this as your safe space to laugh, rant, learn, and cry about a world that wasn't made for us. Make sure you hit that follow button to keep up with the podcast. Can't wait to start this journey with you all!
2024-03-1402 min