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Embracing Intensity277: Navigating Healthy Relationships w/ Heather Boorman-MorrisThis episode of the Embracing Intensity podcast, features a detailed conversation with Heather Borman Morris about understanding narcissistic relationships and how they uniquely affect gifted and neurodivergent individuals. Heather, a clinical social worker, shares her personal experience with narcissistic abuse, providing insights on identifying covert narcissism versus mere intense interest, particularly in neurodivergent or twice-exceptional individuals. The discussion delves into strategies for recognizing and managing toxic relationships, differentiating between narcissism and authentic behaviors, and emphasizes the need for understanding personal boundaries and fostering healthy relationships post-abuse. The episode also introduces Heather's work, including her book 'A Thousand Paper Cuts...
2024-10-0844 min
Starting StrongerFREEDOM!!Happy United States Independence Day! In honor of our country celebrating its freedom, Heather and Antwan celebrate the Freedom and feeling of life WITHOUT a narc in your home. Listen in as the differences between living with a narc partner and being free of narc abuse are detailed, explored, and celebrated! Encouragement Corner: "Don't speak negative aabout yourself; your body doesn't know the difference. Words are powerful. Change the way you speak about yourself and it'll change your life. What you were not changing you were also choosing." -Bruce Lee Freedom by Jon...
2024-07-0458 min
Shameless Leadership888: Heather Boorman-Morris: An Intimate Look at Covert Narcissistic AbuseHeather Boorman-Morris, LCSW lives a life of truth-telling, compassion, and curiosity. She dedicates her professional work to advocate for individual and systemic wellness, and does so through her writing, speaking, and outpatient therapy practice specializing in trauma and neurodiversity. After awakening to the truth that she had been living in an abusive relationship for two decades, Heather expanded her advocacy work to challenge society’s inaccurate conceptions of who gets abused and what abusers look like.Her latest book, A Thousand Paper Cuts, brings readers inside the mind, heart, and experiences of a victim of covert narcissistic ab...
2024-07-0355 minStarting StrongerUnderstanding Trauma and EMDRJoin Heather & Antwan as therapist Heather shares the theory and impact of trauma on the brain and body. Then dive in as they discuss EMDR (one effective therapy to recover from trauma), from both the practitioner and the patient perspectives! (Heather would also like to apologize for sounding so forceful and angry in the intro! Not sure what was going on there - I felt fine. LOL!) Mentioned in this episode: The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk EMDRIA Encouragement Corner: "You g...
2024-05-311h 00Starting StrongerGreyStoningWhat is the greatest weapon to deflate a narc? A Grey Stone. While it isn't easy, it's simple and an in credibly effective tool when trying to disentangle from the narcissist in your life. Listen in as Antwan and Heather discuss Greystoning: what it is, how to do it, why it works! Encouragement Corner: "Don't allow your emotions to overpower your intelligence." - unknown "Juliana Calm Down" by the Chicks. Want to learn more? Read Heather's story and tips in her latest book, "A Thousand Paper Cuts: A Therapist, H...
2024-05-1558 minStarting StrongerThe Narc Playbook - DiscardIt's the final chapter of the Narc Playbook! This week we talk discard: what is it? when does it happen? what does it look like? Mentioned in the episode: "Manipulated" by H.G. Tudor Encouragement Corner: "I always thought there was something romantic about fighting for someone. About winning them back. Eventual happiness. But as I sit here with stones in my chest where hope used to lie, I have come to the realization that there is nothing lovely about having to continuously convince someone to love you." -S.L...
2024-04-211h 04Starting StrongerARE there two sides to every story?"There are two sides to every story" "It takes two to tango" "Nothing is ever black and white" These common colloquialisms are . . . well . . . common. But do they apply to abuse? ARE there actually two sides? Is a situation ever black and white? We're going to emphatically say NO. What effect does it have on victims when they are told there are two sides to every story? How can we tell who is the victim and who is the narcissist? Listen in as Heather and Antwan share their thoughts about believing victims, sparked by a real...
2024-04-0551 minStarting StrongerThe Narc Playbook - DevaluingReady for another chapter of the Narc Playbook? This week we reflect on many of the strategies they use to Devalue their victims. From gaslighting to physical threats, body language to lies, we're sharing their playbook so others can be better armed to defend themselves against these gross and abusive tactics. Encouragement Corner: "The sheep will spend its entire life fearing the wolf, only to be eaten by the shepherd." (African Proverb) Song of the Week: "To Be a Man (Mega Remix)" by Dax References: Confusion t...
2024-03-291h 10
The Fringy Bit reBootMeltdowns: Sibling SentimentsIt's not March Madness - it's March Meltdowns! Loving a differently wired person means walking through a variety of metldowns with them. This month The Fringy Bit reBoot is tackling the topic to bring more understanding, validation, strategies, and knowledge that you are NOT alone! Let's not forget the incredible impact growing up with meltdowns can have on siblings! Listen in as a younger sibling shares his feelings, thoughts, frustrations, and experiences of growing up in the shadows of intense autism meltdowns.
2024-03-2537 minThe Fringy Bit reBootMeltdowns: Sibling SentimentsIt's not March Madness - it's March Meltdowns! Loving a differently wired person means walking through a variety of metldowns with them. This month The Fringy Bit reBoot is tackling the topic to bring more understanding, validation, strategies, and knowledge that you are NOT alone! Let's not forget the incredible impact growing up with meltdowns can have on siblings! Listen in as a younger sibling shares his feelings, thoughts, frustrations, and experiences of growing up in the shadows of intense autism meltdowns.
2024-03-2537 minThe Fringy Bit reBootMeltdowns: In Her Own WordsIt's not March Madness - it's March Meltdowns! Loving a differently wired person means walking through a variety of metldowns with them. This month The Fringy Bit reBoot is tackling the topic to bring more understanding, validation, strategies, and knowledge that you are NOT alone! It's not easy to dissect and discuss what life inside the storm of a meltdown looks like, but that's just what Kaelyn does during this episode of the Fringy Bit reBoot. Hear from the source of a twice exceptional teen about how meltdowns feel to her, how she understands them, and what...
2024-03-251h 01The Fringy Bit reBootMeltdowns: In Her Own WordsIt's not March Madness - it's March Meltdowns! Loving a differently wired person means walking through a variety of metldowns with them. This month The Fringy Bit reBoot is tackling the topic to bring more understanding, validation, strategies, and knowledge that you are NOT alone! It's not easy to dissect and discuss what life inside the storm of a meltdown looks like, but that's just what Kaelyn does during this episode of the Fringy Bit reBoot. Hear from the source of a twice exceptional teen about how meltdowns feel to her, how she understands them, and what...
2024-03-251h 01The Fringy Bit reBootMeltdowns: Stepping into the SpectrumIt's not March Madness - it's March Meltdowns! Loving a differently wired person means walking through a variety of metldowns with them. This month The Fringy Bit reBoot is tackling the topic to bring more understanding, validation, strategies, and knowledge that you are NOT alone! Meltdowns can be difficult enough to navigate when you're the parent from birth, but what about parent figures who join a family years into the process of understanding how your kiddo is wired and what they need? Antwan and Heather share stories and strategies to navigate step-parenting during meltdowns.
2024-03-2547 minThe Fringy Bit reBootMeltdowns: Stepping into the SpectrumIt's not March Madness - it's March Meltdowns! Loving a differently wired person means walking through a variety of metldowns with them. This month The Fringy Bit reBoot is tackling the topic to bring more understanding, validation, strategies, and knowledge that you are NOT alone! Meltdowns can be difficult enough to navigate when you're the parent from birth, but what about parent figures who join a family years into the process of understanding how your kiddo is wired and what they need? Antwan and Heather share stories and strategies to navigate step-parenting during meltdowns.
2024-03-2547 minThe Fringy Bit reBootMeltdowns: Heather's 2 BitsIt's not March Madness - it's March Meltdowns! Loving a differently wired person means walking through a variety of metldowns with them. This month The Fringy Bit reBoot is tackling the topic to bring more understanding, validation, strategies, and knowledge that you are NOT alone! In this episode, Heather shares her experiences parenting through meltdowns and provides wisdome about the actual reasons for meltdowns and how to respond helpfully, while also looking out for yourself.
2024-03-2551 minThe Fringy Bit reBootMeltdowns: Heather's 2 BitsIt's not March Madness - it's March Meltdowns! Loving a differently wired person means walking through a variety of metldowns with them. This month The Fringy Bit reBoot is tackling the topic to bring more understanding, validation, strategies, and knowledge that you are NOT alone! In this episode, Heather shares her experiences parenting through meltdowns and provides wisdome about the actual reasons for meltdowns and how to respond helpfully, while also looking out for yourself.
2024-03-2551 minStarting StrongerThe Narc Playbook - LovebombingHeather's flying solo on this episode to talk more in depth about lovebombing. What are the strategies narc's use to reel you in and keep you on the hook? How can you tell the difference between typical early relationship romance and the narc lovebomb? Listen in as Heather deep dives into the shallow and often effective Lovebombing chapter of the Narc Playbook. Encouragement Corner: "Once you've been bamboozled by a narcissist, you'll be forced to view everyone as a narcissist until proven innocent." -unknown Song of the Week - Gaslight by Snow Tha...
2024-03-1540 minStarting StrongerFaux Co-Parenting"Co"-Parenting with a narc just doesn't happen. Instead we faux co-parent. In this episode Heather & Antwan consider several of the factors that contribute to the challenges of faux co-parenting and provide some suggestions on ways to cope. Encouragement Corner: "Only those who truly care about you can hear your when you're quiet." -Unknown For the Playlist: "The Cave" by Mumford & Sons Heather's favorite verse: Make your siren's call and sing all you want I will not hear what you have to say Cause I need...
2024-03-0839 minThe Fringy Bit reBootAffection: Sibling SentimentsHow do you show affection to someone who hates to be touched? Or keep loving when their meltdowns send them on the attack? This month the Fringy Bit reBoot focuses on affection when loving someone who's wired a bit differently. In episode 4, younger brother, Chimp, joins Heather to share his perspective of neurodivergence, what it's like as a younger sibling to an autistic sister, and how does he share affection with his siblings.
2024-02-2931 minThe Fringy Bit reBootAffection: Sibling SentimentsHow do you show affection to someone who hates to be touched? Or keep loving when their meltdowns send them on the attack? This month the Fringy Bit reBoot focuses on affection when loving someone who's wired a bit differently. In episode 4, younger brother, Chimp, joins Heather to share his perspective of neurodivergence, what it's like as a younger sibling to an autistic sister, and how does he share affection with his siblings.
2024-02-2931 minThe Fringy Bit reBootAffection: Stepping into the SpectrumHow do you show affection to someone who hates to be touched? Or keep loving when their meltdowns send them on the attack? This month the Fringy Bit reBoot focuses on affection when loving someone who's wired a bit differently. In episode 3, Antwan Morris joins Heather to talk about building affection with neurodiverse kids as he's moved into the role of stepdad.
2024-02-2956 minThe Fringy Bit reBootAffection: Stepping into the SpectrumHow do you show affection to someone who hates to be touched? Or keep loving when their meltdowns send them on the attack? This month the Fringy Bit reBoot focuses on affection when loving someone who's wired a bit differently. In episode 3, Antwan Morris joins Heather to talk about building affection with neurodiverse kids as he's moved into the role of stepdad.
2024-02-2956 minThe Fringy Bit reBootAffection: in her own wordsHow do you show affection to someone who hates to be touched? Or keep loving when their meltdowns send them on the attack? This month the Fringy Bit reBoot focuses on affection when loving someone who's wired a bit differently. In episode two we hear from Kaelyn, a 15-year-old autistic girl who shares strategies to build trust and relationship with neurodiverse kids, how to decipher neurodivergent behaviors that show affection, and what neurodivergence means to her.
2024-02-2945 minThe Fringy Bit reBootAffection: in her own wordsHow do you show affection to someone who hates to be touched? Or keep loving when their meltdowns send them on the attack? This month the Fringy Bit reBoot focuses on affection when loving someone who's wired a bit differently. In episode two we hear from Kaelyn, a 15-year-old autistic girl who shares strategies to build trust and relationship with neurodiverse kids, how to decipher neurodivergent behaviors that show affection, and what neurodivergence means to her.
2024-02-2945 minThe Fringy Bit reBootAffection: Heather's 2 BitsHow do you show affection to someone who hates to be touched? Or keep loving when their meltdowns send them on the attack? This month the Fringy Bit reBoot focuses on affection when loving someone who's wired a bit differently. In episode one, Heather gives her two bits about parenting and loving when the warm fuzzies are non-existent.
2024-02-2918 minThe Fringy Bit reBootAffection: Heather's 2 BitsHow do you show affection to someone who hates to be touched? Or keep loving when their meltdowns send them on the attack? This month the Fringy Bit reBoot focuses on affection when loving someone who's wired a bit differently. In episode one, Heather gives her two bits about parenting and loving when the warm fuzzies are non-existent.
2024-02-2918 minStarting Strongerhow do you know you're being abused?It seems like a simple question with an easy answer, but in reality identifying abuse, especially covert abuse, can be extraordinarily difficult. Many people live with abuse for decades without knowing it. In this episode, Antwan & Heather begin to discuss those inner nudgings and red flags that help someone know they deserve better. To read more about how Heather recognized her own decades long abuse, check out her book, A Thousand Paper Cuts. Encouragement Corner: "Thieves don't break into an empty house." source unknown Song - Must Be Nice...
2024-02-211h 05Starting StrongerTelling Your StoryIt can be hard to know when to open up about your past. Who do you tell? When do you share with a new romantic interest? How much detail do you share? Antwan & Heather will talk through all the feelings, logistics, and questions of Telling Your Story. To read more about Heather's story, check out her book, A Thousand Paper Cuts. Encouragement Corner: "Pain is both a history teacher and a fortune teller" from Deadpool Song- Stronger Than I Am by Eminem
2024-02-151h 02Starting StrongerAntwan's StoryIt's Antwan's turn! Yes, men can be in abusive relationships with narcissists, too. Antwan shares his story of abuse and recovery in today's episode.
2024-02-1554 minStarting StrongerHeather's StoryIt's a launch! Welcome to our new podcast, Starting Stronger! First up, Heather Boorman-Morris will share her story of living with a narcissist and how she got out. To read her full story, with raw vulnerability, check out her book "A Thousand Paper Cuts"!
2024-02-1548 minThe Fringy Bit reBootAnnouncing the reBoot!The Fringy Bit is BACK!! With a bit of rebooting! Listen in as Heather gives updates from the void of the last few years and lays out the plan for the Fringy Bit reBoot going forward.
2024-02-1414 minThe Fringy Bit reBootAnnouncing the reBoot!The Fringy Bit is BACK!! With a bit of rebooting! Listen in as Heather gives updates from the void of the last few years and lays out the plan for the Fringy Bit reBoot going forward.
2024-02-1414 minThe Fringy Bit reBootmom2mom with NikkiListen in on another great conversation with another great mom! Nikki talks to Heather about life as a fringy mom, the ways she’s grown due to autism, the great parts and the difficult parts of this fringy life, and so much more.
2020-03-201h 23The Fringy Bit reBootmom2mom with NikkiListen in on another great conversation with another great mom! Nikki talks to Heather about life as a fringy mom, the ways she’s grown due to autism, the great parts and the difficult parts of this fringy life, and so much more.
2020-03-201h 23The Fringy Bit reBootmom2mom with LindaWith our second mom2mom chat Heather spends the hour with Linda, talking all things fringy mom. Listen in as we talk about parents experience when school isn’t quite fitting right, the decision to homeschool, and how to feed your own wellness as a gifted adult with fringy kids.
2019-06-081h 00The Fringy Bit reBootmom2mom with LindaWith our second mom2mom chat Heather spends the hour with Linda, talking all things fringy mom. Listen in as we talk about parents experience when school isn’t quite fitting right, the decision to homeschool, and how to feed your own wellness as a gifted adult with fringy kids.
2019-06-081h 00The Fringy Bit reBootaudio blog "dear friend of an exhausted, overwhelmed, drained mama of a differently wired child"Heather and Jon are taking a brief hiatus to regroup and produce more great Fringy content for you! We’ll be back with full episodes on May 3rd, but in the meantime, enjoy this audio version of one of the Fringy Bit blogs!
2019-04-1905 minThe Fringy Bit reBootaudio blog "dear friend of an exhausted, overwhelmed, drained mama of a differently wired child"Heather and Jon are taking a brief hiatus to regroup and produce more great Fringy content for you! We’ll be back with full episodes on May 3rd, but in the meantime, enjoy this audio version of one of the Fringy Bit blogs!
2019-04-1905 min