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Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather ShannonAre Porn and Masturbation Hurting Your Sex Life? With Aaron Frazin (ep. 137)Do you sometimes wonder if porn and/or masturbation are having a negative impact on your actual sex life?In this episode, Heather Shannon interviews Aaron Frazen, a sex and relationship coach, who shares his transformative journey from a successful tech entrepreneur to a passionate advocate for sexual health and intimacy. They delve into the complexities of masturbation and porn, discussing common misconceptions and the emotional signals behind sexual challenges. Aaron emphasizes the importance of understanding one's desires and urges, offering practical tools for listeners to cultivate a healthier relationship with their sexuality.Aaron Frazin's...2025-07-2851 minAsk A Sex Therapist with Heather ShannonGet Out Of Your Head During Sex - Jessi Marino on EmbodimentIn this conversation, Heather Shannon and Jessi Marino explore the concept of embodiment, discussing its significance in personal healing, relationships, and sexuality. Jessi shares her personal journey from dissociation to finding home in her body, emphasizing the importance of presence and the capacity to feel a wide range of emotions. They delve into societal teachings that view the body as a machine, the role of rituals and magic in daily life, and how cultivating a deeper connection with oneself can enhance intimacy and resilience. The discussion highlights the interplay between joy, pain, and the natural world, encouraging listeners to...2025-06-3046 minAsk A Sex Therapist with Heather ShannonEP:131 How to orgasm better and have pain free sex—with Johanna Gaffney.Apply for a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call to learn about Heather’s Pathway to Passion coaching method. https://heathershannon.co/new-clients/ Pelvic Floor Health with Dr. Johanna Gaffney | Common Issues & SolutionsIn this episode, we welcome Dr. Johanna Gaffney, a specialist in pelvic floor therapy from Hope Docs. Dr. Gaffney shares insights on common pelvic floor issues across genders, the impact of mental health, and the role of virtual therapy. Learn about common problems like sexual and urinary dysfunction, the Kegel myth, and the importance of feeling safe for effective healing.Want a qu...2025-05-1941 minAsk A Sex Therapist with Heather ShannonEP:130 How Tantric Practices Can Revolutionize Your Life with Hani ChengApply for a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call to learn about Heather’s Pathway to Passion coaching method. https://heathershannon.co/new-clients/ In this episode, I chat with Hani Cheng, a bestselling author and intimacy transformation facilitator, about why pleasure is essential and how it acts as medicine for our body and mind. We discuss the importance of integrating playfulness into our busy lives, the significance of self-approval, and the healing potential of pleasure. Hani shares practical exercises for spreading pleasure and offers insights into balancing sex and life. Join us for this enlightening conversation!Want a...2025-05-1244 minAsk A Sex Therapist with Heather ShannonEP 129: Turn Pressure Into Passion: How to Navigate Mismatched Sex DrivesApply for a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call to learn about Heather’s Pathway to Passion coaching method. https://heathershannon.co/new-clients/ In this solo episode, I address the issue of mismatched libidos in relationships, focusing on the dynamics between higher and lower desire partners. After a series of guest episodes, I'm back to discuss the common emotional patterns involved, such as pressure and guilt. I provide strategies for both partners to improve communication, manage expectations, and cultivate authentic desire. I also encourage listeners to share their feedback and questions via email. Practical tips and additional resources, like pr...2025-05-0529 minAsk A Sex Therapist with Heather ShannonEP. 128: Big Clit Energy with Eve Hall (Unlock Your Sexual Confidence)Apply for a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call to learn about Heather’s Pathway to Passion coaching method. https://heathershannon.co/new-clients/ In this episode of Ask a Sex Therapist, I sit down with Eve Hall — a licensed physical therapist, certified health coach, and host of the Please Me podcast. We dive into the concept of "Big Clit Energy" and explore how embracing your sexual confidence can lead to deeper pleasure and intimacy. Eve shares her powerful personal journey of healing from sexual trauma, the importance of open communication about desires, and practical strategies for closing the orgasm gap...2025-04-2842 minAsk A Sex Therapist with Heather ShannonEp 127: How to Stop Letting Stress Ruin Your Sex Life With Dr. Nicole CainApply for a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call to learn about Heather’s Pathway to Passion coaching method. https://heathershannon.co/new-clients/ Transforming Stress and Enhancing Intimacy: Insights from Dr. Nicole CainIn this episode, Heather engages with Dr. Nicole Cain, (ND, MA,) to discuss the impacts of stress on sex lives and the path to holistic wellness. Dr. Cain shares her journey, practical strategies to alleviate stress, and tips on improving intimacy using integrative approaches. Topics covered include the role of Ayurveda, managing the nervous system, and reprogramming the mind-body connection. 00:00 Int...2025-04-2154 minAsk A Sex Therapist with Heather ShannonEP. 126 Why You’re Distracted During Sex—And How Mindfulness Can Help.Apply for a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call to learn about Heather’s Pathway to Passion coaching method. https://heathershannon.co/new-clients/ Mindfulness, Presence & Pleasure: A Conversation with Naomi RawitzIn this episode, Heather is joined by fellow AASECT-Certified Sex Therapist and Sexuality Educator Naomi Rawitz, LCSW, CST, CSE, for a warm, honest, and deeply insightful conversation around the role of mindfulness in sex.Naomi opens up about her journey into sex therapy, how her upbringing shaped her perspective, and why our culture makes it so difficult to stay present in our bodies. Together, th...2025-04-1445 minAsk A Sex Therapist with Heather ShannonEp. 125: Sexual Myths Busted: Empowering Women's Desires ft Dr. Jenn KennedyApply for a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call to learn about Heather’s Pathway to Passion coaching method. https://heathershannon.co/new-clients/In this episode, we welcome Dr. Jen Kennedy, a clinical sexologist and licensed marriage and family therapist, to discuss low sexual desire in women. Dr. Jen explains how societal norms and lack of adequate sex education contribute to myths about women's sexual desire. She describes her journey from public relations and photography to sex therapy and the nuances of working with couples on their intimate lives. Dr. Jen also touches on techniques such as...2025-04-0740 minAsk A Sex Therapist with Heather ShannonEp.124: Listener's Q&AManaging Libido Differences, Attachment Issues, and Non-Monogamy | Ask a Sex TherapistIn this episode, we address listener questions on managing different libidos, the impact of attachment styles on sexual development, and challenges in non-monogamy. We also discuss reconnecting with sexual energy after leaving a sexless marriage. Tune in for insights and practical advice on enhancing your relationships and sex life.00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview00:52 Managing Different Libidos in Relationships07:38 Exploring Attachment Styles and Sexual Development11:07 Navigating Non-Monogamy and Relationship Anarchy20:01 Reconnecting with Sexuality After...2025-03-3130 minAsk A Sex Therapist with Heather ShannonEp. 123: Sexual Performance Anxiety & the Myths Holding You BackApply for a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call to learn about Heather’s Pathway to Passion coaching method. https://heathershannon.co/new-clients/ Premature Ejaculation & Sex Addiction Myths: The Truth About Male Sexual Health with Sex Therapist Seth Taylor, LMFTMost men have been misled about sexual performance, from unrealistic expectations around lasting longer to harmful myths about "sex addiction." In this episode, Heather Shannon sits down with Seth Taylor, a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in men’s sexual health, to set the record straight.They discuss the real causes of premature ejaculation (PE...2025-03-2453 minAsk A Sex Therapist with Heather ShannonEp. 122 How to get your woman to want more sexWant to be a better lover? Here are my top 5 ways to help your woman feel more desire for sex. In this episode of 'Ask a Sex Therapist,' we explore the top 5 methods to help your woman feel more desire for sex. From simple reminders and genuine compliments to creating emotional safety and helping her relax, these expert tips are based on years of counseling experience. Watch to learn how to foster a closer, more intimate relationship!00:00 Introduction to Increasing Sexual Desire00:10 Top 5 Ways to Increase Her Desire: Overview2025-03-1722 minAsk A Sex Therapist with Heather ShannonEp. 121: Is Porn Ruining my Relationship? An Adult Star’s Perspective ft Pepper KatApply for a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call to learn about Heather’s Pathway to Passion coaching method. https://heathershannon.co/new-clients/ Breaking Boundaries with Pepper Cat: Exploring Male Loneliness, Porn Myths, and Sex Work RealitiesIn this episode, we sit down with Pepper Cat, the host of Spicy Spectrum Podcast and founder of Design Your Dream Girl, to discuss her journey to the adult entertainment industry. We delve into the complexities of male loneliness, myths about porn, the human side of pornography, and how couples can navigate porn consumption in their relationships. Tune in for a re...2025-03-1032 minAsk A Sex Therapist with Heather ShannonEp. 120 The Key to Unlocking Passion in Longterm RelationshipsInterested in working with Heather? Apply for a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call to learn about Heather’s Pathway to Passion coaching method. https://heathershannon.co/new-clients/ Unlocking Passion: The Link Between Emotional Intimacy and Fulfilling SexIn this episode, we delve into the critical role emotional intimacy plays in a fulfilling sex life. Drawing from personal experiences and client work, we discuss the importance of resolving emotional barriers to enhance sexual connection. Learn how feeling truly seen, understood, and safe with your partner can ignite your sexual energy. Discover actionable steps to bu...2025-03-0325 minAsk A Sex Therapist with Heather ShannonEp. 119 Secrets from the Porn Industry From Brazzers to Porn Hub: The Journey of Vic LaGinaApply for a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call to learn about Heather’s Pathway to Passion coaching method. https://heathershannon.co/new-clients/ From Porn Industry to Author: The Journey of Vic LaGinaIn this episode, we sit down with Vic LaGina, a former producer and director in the adult entertainment industry who has transitioned to becoming an author. Vic recounts his 20-year career, the challenges he faced, and the path that led him to write his novel, 'Filthy: The Rise and Pending Death of Vic LaGina.' We delve into his experiences, from the...2025-02-2459 minAsk A Sex Therapist with Heather ShannonEp. 118 Are You Navigating Different Libidos in Relationships? Top Tips for ConnectionApply for a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call to learn about Heather’s Pathway to Passion coaching method. https://heathershannon.co/new-clients/ Navigating Low Libido in Relationships: Empathy and UnderstandingIn this episode of the 'Ask a Sex Therapist' podcast, Heather Shannon discusses why your partner's lack of interest in sex might not be about you. She delves into reasons such as stress, hormonal imbalances, and emotional challenges. Heather emphasizes the importance of empathy, avoiding pressure, and building inner security. She provides actionable advice for both high and low libido partners, helping them fost...2025-02-1731 minAsk A Sex Therapist with Heather ShannonEp. 117 How Your Attachment Style Impacts Sex and Orgasm with Bev MitelmanApply for a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call to learn about Heather’s Pathway to Passion coaching method. https://heathershannon.co/new-clients/ Exploring Attachment Styles and Their Impact on Relationships and Sex with Bev MitelmanIn this episode of the Ask a Sex Therapist podcast, host Heather Shannon welcomes special guest Bev Mitelman, a certified attachment practitioner and founder of Securely Loved, to discuss the intriguing topic of sex and attachment styles. They delve into how different attachment styles—secure, anxious, avoidant, and fearful-avoidant—affect individuals' relationships and sexual experiences. Bev shares insights from her...2025-02-101h 02Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather ShannonEp. 116 Listener Q&A: Rekindling Passion, Orgasm Challenges, and All About LubeAsk an anonymous question for my next Listener Q&A here: https://heathershannon.co/ask-a-sex-question/ Listener Q&A: Rekindling Passion, Orgasm Challenges, and LubricantsWelcome to another listener Q&A episode! Dive into intriguing topics such as reviving passion when therapy hasn't helped, overcoming difficulties with orgasms during penetration vs. foreplay, exploring various types of lubricants, and tips for a wife wanting to initiate sex with her husband. Don't miss out on this comprehensive discussion on sexual intimacy.00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview00:52 Therapy and Rekindling P...2025-02-0335 minAsk A Sex Therapist with Heather ShannonHow To Have Better Body Image In The Bedroom (for the Ladies!)Apply for a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call to learn about Heather’s Pathway to Passion coaching method. https://heathershannon.co/new-clients/ Navigating Body Image & Self-Love: Personal Stories and Practical TipsIn this episode, we dive deep into the topic of body image, exploring the struggles that many individuals, particularly women, face. Heather shares personal, often humorous stories about body image issues starting from childhood experiences to adulthood. The episode highlights the importance of self-love and provides actionable tips to improve body confidence, such as consuming balanced media, engaging in positive self-talk, and practicing mindfulness. Heather als...2025-01-2032 minAsk A Sex Therapist with Heather ShannonEp. 113 Empowering Healing: Trauma, Therapy, and Sexual Assault with Laurel Roberts MeeseApply for a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call to learn about Heather’s Pathway to Passion coaching method. https://heathershannon.co/new-clients/ Empowering Healing: Trauma, Therapy, and Sexual Assault with Laurel Roberts MeeseIn this episode of 'Ask a Sex Therapist,' the host welcomes Laurel Roberts Meese, a licensed therapist with extensive experience in trauma and sexual assault. Laurel discusses the fundamental understandings of sexual assault, emphasizing that it is about power rather than sex. They explore the normal reactions to traumatic experiences, the importance of setting and reinforcing boundaries, and the role of tools suc...2025-01-1345 minAsk A Sex Therapist with Heather ShannonEp. 112 Listener Q&A: Secrets of Squirting, Becoming a Sex Therapist, My Method for Couples in Conflict and More!Apply for a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call to learn about Heather’s Pathway to Passion coaching method. https://heathershannon.co/new-clients/ Listener Q&A: Secrets of Squirting, Becoming a Sex Therapist, My Method for Couples in Conflict and More!Join Heather Shannon for a fun and informative listener Q&A episode! Heather dives into a lively debate on whether squirting is pee, shares the comprehensive process of becoming a certified sex therapist, addresses low sex drive during perimenopause, and offers tips to reignite the spark in your relationship. Plus, special shoutouts to int...2025-01-0621 minAsk A Sex Therapist with Heather ShannonEp. 111 How Self Love Improves Your Closest Relationships with Jonathon AslayApply for a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call to learn about Heather’s Pathway to Passion coaching method. https://heathershannon.co/new-clients/ Jonathan Aslay on Self Love: Transforming Grief into a MissionIn this episode, Jonathan Aslay, a leading midlife dating coach, discusses his journey from personal tragedy to becoming an advocate for self-love. After losing his son in 2018, Jonathan embarked on a spiritual and introspective path, leading him to discover the emotional health issues plaguing many singles. He now focuses on helping individuals cultivate self-worth, self-regard, and self-love. Jonathan also delves into the...2024-12-3048 minAsk A Sex Therapist with Heather ShannonEp. 110 How To Be More Dominant [When You Don't Know Where To Start]Apply for a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call to learn about Heather’s Pathway to Passion coaching method.This episode focuses on how to embrace being a more dominant partner in sexual scenarios. It covers different dominance styles, such as goddess worship and leadership dynamics, and emphasizes the importance of creating a safe, consensual 'container' for dominant-submissive play. Key points include negotiating roles and time frames, experimenting with clothing and implements, and the necessity of safe words for both physical and emotional comfort. The episode aims to inspire viewers to explore power exchange dynamics responsibly while ensuring mutual sa...2024-12-2314 minAsk A Sex Therapist with Heather ShannonEp. 109 Vaginal Gymnastics 101: Increase Your Libido and Pleasure with Bel Di LorenzoBook an Intimacy Breakthrough Call with Heather: https://heathershannon.co/video-page/ Increase Your Libido & Sexual Pleasure with Vaginal Gymnastics:In this episode, we dive into a unique and fascinating topic with Bel Di Lorenzo, a female sexual health advocate and author of 'The Gohddess Method.' Bel shares insights into her approach to vaginal gymnastics, a training method for mastering pelvic floor muscle exercises that amplify female pleasure and orgasms. We explore the benefits of these exercises, how they can transform your sex life, and discuss their impact on sexual health and confidence. Join us t...2024-12-1651 minAsk A Sex Therapist with Heather ShannonEp. 108 Listener Q & A: Does Size Matter? Porn Preferences, Erections, Chronic Illness & CommunicationBook an Intimacy Breakthrough Call with Heather: https://heathershannon.co/video-page/ Or Book a Consult Call with Intern Grace: https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/grace2 Does Size Matter? Porn Preferences, All About Erections, Sex with a Chronic Illness, and Communication Tips: In this listener Q&A episode of the 'Ask a Sex Therapist' podcast, Heather Shannon addresses various sexual concerns and questions from listeners. Topics discussed include the significance of penis size, preferences in pornography, managing guilt associated with certain sexual interests, understanding the dynamics of erections, and navigating intimacy with chronic illness. Heather pr...2024-12-0935 minAsk A Sex Therapist with Heather ShannonEp. 107 Revive Her Drive: Rekindling Desire, Libido, and Orgasm with Susan BrattonBook an Intimacy Breakthrough Call with Heather: https://heathershannon.co/video-page/ How to Revive Loss of Libido, Desire, & Orgasm:Join intimacy expert Susan Bratton and host Heather Shannon as they delve into how to rekindle a sexless marriage. Susan shares her personal journey of overcoming sexual struggles like orgasmless sex and infidelity with her husband and introduces her proven program 'Revive Her Drive' which she offers FREE to listeners of this episode. Learn about the four elements of revival, keys to seduction, and how to create lasting intimacy and pleasure in your relationship. Whether your s...2024-12-0258 minAsk A Sex Therapist with Heather ShannonEp. 106 Couples' Guide to Making a Sexy Bucket List You'll Actually CompleteBook an Intimacy Breakthrough Call with Heather: https://heathershannon.co/video-page/ Summary for Sexy Bucket List Episode:In this episode, we dive into the exciting and insightful process of creating a sexual bucket list. Join us as we explore the importance of establishing safety and consent, setting intentions, and letting go of perfectionism. With practical advice, resource recommendations and unique tips on sparking creativity and trust, this episode aims to help you and your partner, or even solo, set and achieve meaningful sexual goals. Whether adding spice to a long-term relationship or discovering new fantasies, t...2024-11-2522 minAsk A Sex Therapist with Heather ShannonEp. 105: Trans Visibility in Business and Beyond: From Shark Tank to Navigating Sex and Identity with Braxton FlemingBook an Intimacy Breakthrough Call with Heather: https://heathershannon.co/video-page/ Summary: Braxton T. Fleming, Shark Tank, and IdentityJoin us in this inspiring episode as we interview Braxton T. Fleming, the trailblazing CEO of Stealth Bros & Co. Braxton, the first black trans man to secure a spot on Shark Tank, shares his entrepreneurial journey, the challenges of launching his revolutionary medical storage brand, and his personal story of transitioning. Learn how his passion for helping underrepresented medical communities shaped his business and the critical steps he took to achieve success. From his experience on S...2024-11-1857 minAsk A Sex Therapist with Heather ShannonEp. 104 Answers to Middle Aged Couples’ Most Popular Sex QuestionsBook an Intimacy Breakthrough Call with Heather: https://heathershannon.co/video-page/ In this episode, host Heather Shannon answers sex questions written by Chat GPT! She discusses how to maintain intimacy as couples age, addresses mismatched libidos, and explores whether a decrease in desire is normal during middle age. Heather emphasizes the importance of both personal growth and professional help in improving sexual relationships, and highlights the benefits of seeing a sex therapist. Links, Contact Information & Resources:Episode 8: https://youtu.be/rfahLFCxdqM?si=lZUZVJcAs2QcKqofEpisode 81: https://youtu.be/VWxdvPGeHBs?si=-FkhF0PS...2024-11-1120 minAsk A Sex Therapist with Heather ShannonEp. 102 The Pathway to Passion: Turn-Ons and Fantasies (Part 3)Book an Intimacy Breakthrough Call with Heather: https://heathershannon.co/video-page/ Join Heather in this insightful episode of the Ask a Sex Therapist podcast, as she delves into Part 3 of the Pathway to Passion with mental arousal and its role in enhancing intimacy. Learn about the importance of maintaining a sex journal, sharing fantasies, and using non-verbal signals to communicate your desires. Heather provides valuable advice on both mental and physical foreplay techniques, helping to improve communication and passion in your relationship. Don't miss reflections on her 100th episode and exciting future plans!2024-10-2822 minAsk A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon101 Pathway To Passion: Sexual Foundations (Part 2)Looking to increase passion? Grab Heather's Finding Your Fire libido course for $10 off--for podcast listeners only! --> https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/offers/RLM4tXqi/checkout?coupon_code=PODCASTEpisode SummaryIn this episode, Heather covers the 2nd of 3 phases of her signature Pathway to Passion method. Learn why consent, understanding desire and body image are foundational to great sex and a few concrete ways you can start putting them to good use!Join the 100th Episode Scavenger HuntStart with episode 98 on our YouTube channel. Locate the GIPHY that appears onscreen...2024-10-2123 minAsk A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon100 What the Podcast Has Meant to MeBook an Intimacy Breakthrough Call with Heather: https://heathershannon.co/video-page/ Join Heather Shannon in the 100th episode of the Ask a Sex Therapist podcast as she reflects on the journey of podcasting, commitment, and consistency over the past two years. Heather shares the highs and lows, her experiences with guests, the importance of listener impact, and the challenges faced along the way. Celebrate with a special scavenger hunt featuring hidden Giphys in her YouTube episodes and learn about exciting prizes! Heather also delves into the significance of maintaining genuine human connections amidst today's tech-driven world. Don't m...2024-10-1430 minAsk A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon099 Heather's Confessions as a Sex TherapistAnnouncements:Book an Intimacy Breakthrough Call with Heather: https://heathershannon.co/video-page/ In this heartfelt and candid episode, Heather shares her personal journey and challenges surrounding emotional availability and romantic relationships. Inspired by love coach Sean Golanos and his own confessions, she discusses her experiences and realizations through various phases of her life—from her 20s to her current early 40s. Heather delves into her past relationships, the impact of her parents' marriage on her views on commitment, and her exploratory phase in dating. She emphasizes the importance of aligning with one's true self and set...2024-10-0732 minAsk A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon097 How to find the Pathway to Passion: Emotional Mastery (Part 1)Venn Diagram Link: https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/pathway This episode is the first of the Pathway to Passion series. Part one explores the importance of approaching our emotions with gentle curiosity and kindness. It encourages us to compassionately investigate these emotions and understand their physical manifestation in our bodies, thus fostering a more compassionate and inquisitive self-awareness as well as how this relates to our relationship with our partner[s].Links, Contact Information & Resources:Request your FREE intimacy breakthrough call with Heather: https://heathershannon.co/video-page/ Get access to my FREE I...2024-09-2327 minAsk A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon096 Healthy Relationships and Soulmate Love with Emmy HernandezGet access to my FREE Intimacy Audit mini course: https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/intimacyauditHello, my loves! Join us for an incredible guest episode featuring Emmy Hernandez, CEO of Soulmate Love University, as she shares her journey from Silicon Valley executive to expert love coach. Discover how Emmy transformed her dating life through intensive training and find out how she helps high-achieving women attract soulmate love. From understanding the signs of toxic relationships to rewiring belief systems for healthy love, this episode is packed with valuable insights. Tune in to learn the importance of self-reliance, the power...2024-09-1644 minAsk A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon094: How to Have a Threesome with Dr Kate BalestrieriOne of Heather’s Youtube playlists with similar content:https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLNk9UKFYOfS4dHEiq5weEC9MnfQcJe7SP In this episode of the Ask a Sex Therapist podcast, host Heather Shannon and returning guest Dr. Kate Balistrieri delve into the number one most common sexual fantasy—threesomes. The discussion covers essential considerations such as identifying personal and collective fantasies, setting boundaries and communication strategies, and how to find a sex-positive community. They also explore practical advice for single individuals and couples contemplating a threesome, emphasizing the importance of clear communication, consent, and safet...2024-09-0242 minAsk A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon093: Listener Q & A- Questioning Attraction, Truly Experiencing A Woman & Hiding Your Inner WhoreAsk an Anonymous Sex Question to be featured on the next Listener Q & A episode: https://heathershannon.co/ask-a-sex-question/ Welcome to another episode of the Ask a Sex Therapist podcast! In today's listener Q&A, Heather Shannon dives deep into questions about sexual energy, maintaining desire in long-term relationships, understanding demisexuality and fraysexuality, and coping with feelings of loneliness while dating. Heather also shares insights about the importance of novelty in keeping sexual attraction alive and addresses the nuanced dynamics of intimacy. Don't forget to submit your questions anonymously via Heather's website for future episodes!L...2024-08-2624 minAsk A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon092 Men's Sexuality with Eric FitzmedrudAnnouncements:Take our survey to get more personalized content from me (less than 1 min) - https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/personalize-emails Libido Course Now Available in the App for $10 off the usual price! $39 instead of $49https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ask-a-sex-therapist/id6476728826 Grace is coming on the team as my apprentice Intimacy Coach! Request a free consultation with Grace here: https://calendly.com/grace_teacherbyrd/15min Hello everyone! In this episode of 'Ask a Sex Therapist,' host Heather Shannon is joined by Dr. Eric Fitzmedrude, a specialist in rel...2024-08-1948 minAsk A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon091 How to SquirtAnnouncements:Take our survey to get more personalized content from me (less than 1 min) - https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/personalize-emails Libido Course Now Available in the App for $10 off the usual price! $39 instead of $49https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ask-a-sex-therapist/id6476728826 Grace is coming on the team as my apprentice Intimacy Coach! Request a free consultation with Grace here: https://calendly.com/grace_teacherbyrd/15min Hello everyone! In this episode of the Ask a Sex Therapist podcast, Heather explores the topic of squ...2024-08-1229 minAsk A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon089 Listener Q & A: Sleeping Naked, What Girls Like & Sexting Age GapsFeeling stuck with sex? Request a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call with Heather! --> Intimacy Breakthrough Session Booking LinkHello everyone! In today's episode, we're diving into some brave and thought-provoking listener questions on sex and relationships. Can ADHD impact my once passionate sex life?Why won't my wife sleep naked next to me?My wife avoids a part of BDSM I'm interested in exploring. How can I compassionately talk to her about it?How can I assert my boundaries while sexting as a young person? Links, Contact Information & Resources:Book a 15-minute...2024-07-2929 minAsk A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon087 Heather's Clients Spill The Tea: Getting Unstuck With SexFeeling stuck with sex? Request a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call with Heather! --> Intimacy Breakthrough Session Booking LinkJoin us for a special episode with Heather's clients! Lauren and Megan "graduated" from Heather's Intimacy Infusion coaching program and they spill the tea on what it was like going from feeling stuck and frustrated to feeling excited, empowered and connected. This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp2024-07-1537 minAsk A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon085 LIstener Q & A: Sex Toys, Double Standards & Spicy MindfulnessAnnouncementsNew “ENM Support Squad” Group Coaching! Register here 👉 https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/store Looking for a podcast intern and also accepting applications for counseling interns! Email Hello@HeatherShannon.coCheck out the new Ask A Sex Therapist app and get free access to The Intimacy Audit mini course while you’re at it! https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ask-a-sex-therapist/id6476728826SummaryHeather tackles listener questions in this episode:How to initiate a conversation with a spouse about concerns regarding their use of porn. How much of a pregnancy risk is there when a condom...2024-07-0126 minAsk A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon083 - Listener Q & A: Vaginismus, Guilty Pleasures and Sexual Fantasies🫂Are you non-monogamous or exploring non-monogamy? If so, join Heather's ENM Support Squad Wednesdays at 4pm Eastern starting on July 24th. You can register here --> https://www.eventbrite.com/e/922588806957?aff=oddtdtcreator🧑🎓We are looking for a podcast intern (must be 18+)! Email hello@heathershannon.co if you're interested.📱Download Heather's new iOS app here: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/heather-shannon-therapist/id6476728826ABOUT THE EPISODEHey, lovely listeners! Today we’re tackling some deeply interesting listener questions about vaginismus, guilty pleasures, and sexual fantasies. Trust me, you don't want to miss this one--m...2024-06-1728 min
Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon078: Exploring Sexual Fantasies with Artemisia De Vine🔥 Ever wondered what’s behind your deepest sexual fantasies? This week on Ask A Sex Therapist, Artemisia De Vine joins Heather to chat about erotic fantasies. Artemisia, with her extensive background as a professional dominatrix and sex worker, helps us understand when it feels safe to explore fantasies by getting past our own internal protectors. It’s about finding that balance between the taboo and what feels acceptable to us. Tune in and learn how you can make your fantasies a reality!👂 What you'll learn:- The psychological underpinnings of common sexual fantasies- How expl...2024-05-1349 min
Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon077: How to Orgasm More--or for the First Time!🎉 Learn about Expanded Orgasm with this free guide! 👉 Expand Her Orgasm Tonight (2.0)Ready to unlock the secrets to more and better orgasms? 🎉 This week on "Ask a Sex Therapist," we're tackling one of your favorite topics—orgasms! Whether you're chasing your very first climax or looking to make those peaks a more common part of your bedroom repertoire, this episode has something for you. Join Heather Shannon as she explores everything from breaking mental barriers to practical tips for heightened pleasure, all with her signature blend of humor and expertise. Don't miss out on these game-changing insights!What y...2024-05-0626 min
Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon076: EFT Tapping for a Better Dating Life with Allison Jayne🌟 Feeling stuck in your love life or overwhelmed by stress? Tune in to this game-changing episode of "Ask A Sex Therapist," where we sit down with emotional healing coach Allison Jayne to uncover transformative techniques for personal growth and better relationships! Allison shares her expertise on EFT tapping, a simple yet potent method to rewire your brain for more positive outcomes. Whether you're battling feelings of unworthiness in dating or just trying to navigate the waves of modern love, this is the episode that might just turn your world around! 🌈👫🎧 In this episode, you'll discover:- How EFT ta...2024-04-2956 min
Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon074: Perimenopause, Menopause & Balancing Your Hormones with Dr. Kelly Casperson🎙️ Hot flashes, mood swings, and... sexy times? Menopause isn't just your mother's concern, folks – it's a rollercoaster that can start as early as *38* and it affects everything from your emotions to your intimacy. 😳💥 Fear not, because this episode of *Ask A Sex Therapist* is here to light up the path through the mist of menopause. We've got the radiant Dr. Kelly Casperson from "You Are Not Broken" dropping truth bombs on everything hormone-related. Plus, we spill the tea on the good, the bad, and the not-so-slick truths behind the lubes and creams that promise to keep things smooth sailing south of the...2024-04-1541 min
Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon073: Overcoming Sexual Insecurities, Poor Body Image & Self-ConsciousnessHey there, lovely listeners! 🌸 In this episode, we're getting real and addressing the tricky topic of self-consciousness during sex. Whether you're worried about your body, technique, or just feeling like a complete beginner, we've got you covered. Join me as we unpack what self-consciousness really looks like in the bedroom and uncover actionable steps to boost your confidence and fully enjoy your intimate moments. Let's kick those insecurities to the curb and embrace owning our authentic selves! 💪In this episode, you'll learn:- How to recognize signs of self-consciousness during sex- The impact...2024-04-0822 minAsk A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon072: Surrogate Partner Therapy & Regulating Your Nervous System with Katherine YeagelGot feedback or an idea for the show? Email us at AskASexTherapistPodcast@gmail.com!In the latest episode of Ask A Sex Therapist, Heather engages in a powerful conversation with guest and professional Surrogate Partner, Katherine Yeagel. Together they explore the nuanced and often misunderstood practice of Surrogate Partner Therapy. Katherine, a surrogate partner, somatic sex educator, and queer sex and relationship coach, shares her insightful perspective on the therapeutic journey, emphasizing the stepping stones of starting from a place of safety and gradually moving toward deeper connection. They highlight the importance o...2024-04-0148 min
Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon071: Removing the Top 5 Sex BlockersDon’t forget to “Follow” the show 👉https://podfollow.com/askasextherapist. We have awesome episodes coming up on sexual fantasies, surrogate partner therapy and what it’s like being a porn star and you won’t want to miss them!In this week's solo episode, Heather breaks down the top 5 reasons your sex life might be feeling stagnant. Once you know what these are, you can get past them and get back to the steamy stuff! 🔥 No more sexless marriage. No more sex feeling like a chore. And no more lesbian bed death. Let’s turn the heat back up in yo...2024-03-2521 min
Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon070 Debunking Dating Myths and Rewriting Relationship Rules with Damona HoffmanHave feedback on the show or want to ask a sex question for our next listener Q & A? Email Heather at AskASexTherapistPodcast@gmail.com.⚡️ Sparks flying and magic in the air? Or just the sound of yet another dating myth fizzling out? 🐸💔 Join Heather and this week's guest expert, Damona Hoffman, as they smash the old fairy tale narratives and help you construct a love story that's truly your own. Our amazing guest, Damona Hoffman, is the official love expert for The Drew Barrymore Show and the #1 Best-Selling author of "F The Fairy Tale." She and Heather get pretty...2024-03-1857 min
Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon069: How To Seduce Your Partner—Initiating Sex Like A ProDon’t forget to follow the show. We have some amazing guests you won’t want to miss including Damona Hoffman from The Drew Barrymore show, Kelly Casperson from the You Are Not Broken podcast and surrogate partner Katherine Yeagel. Reminder to you that the show notes are choc-ful of helpful links. You can submit your anonymous sex questions via our anonymous Ask A Sex Therapist link. I would love to hear from more of you about what you’re struggling with when it comes to sex or what you really want that you haven’t been able to...2024-03-1122 min
Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon068: Getting WILD with Sex Writer and Sex Worker GG SauvageSubmit your anonymous sex questions here! For our next Listener Q & A episode → https://heathershannon.co/ask-a-sex-question/🚀 Ready to liberate your inner WILD and explore the transformative power of sexuality? This episode of 'Ask A Sex Therapist' features the fierce and fabulous GG Sauvage, who shares her journey from trauma to triumph and how sex work has shaped her life and identity. It's a candid conversation filled with raw insights and helpful advice whether you're navigating your own self-discovery or simply curious about the nuances of relationships and sex work. Get ready to be inspired and empowered! 🌟🎙️💜...2024-03-0447 min
Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon067: Get Vulnerable & Get Laid!🎙️ Get ready to embrace your vulnerability and emotional bravery in this week's episode of Ask A Sex Therapist! In this candid discussion, we explore the importance of being emotionally brave for intimacy, whether it's emotional closeness, authenticity, or passionate, connected sex. Host Heather encourages listeners to break free from self-censorship and explore the impact of holding back thoughts and feelings. Offering insights from her work with clients, she uncovers how self-censorship impacts sexual intimacy and shares actionable advice for overcoming shyness, social anxiety, and fear of rejection to foster deeper connections. ❤️🔥In this epis...2024-02-2624 min
Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon066: Living That “Cougar” Life with Rachel BurchEver wondered how self-judgment and outdated stereotypes can throw a wrench in our love lives? Tune in to this fascinating episode with Rachel Burch, one of Heather’s besties, as we get real about cougaring, age differences, and what it takes to forge genuine connections at any stage of life. No “age is just a number” cliches—we promise—just raw, hilarious insights from two women who aren't afraid to challenge norms. 🎙️💘🐾Also check out Rachel’s award-winning podcast Love Before 100 where she chronicles her dating life as a 40-something divorced Mom. It’s like reality tv you can listen to on your...2024-02-1949 min
Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon065: Listener Q & A: Kick Start Your Sex Life, Not Taking Erectile Dysfunction Personally & Dealing With Vanilla Partners When You're KinkyIn this episode, our host–Certified Sex Therapist Heather Shannon–tackles listener responses to the question “What Do You Wish Was Better About Your Sex Life?” We had both a college student and a 70-something say their sex-life was non-existent. See what Heather has to say could be going on in that case. Then we have a partner who is having a hard time not taking her boyfriend’s ED personally. Learn what really goes on with ED. We continue the ED thread with someone who hasn’t been able to have penetrative sex with her partner for 11 years due to diabe...2024-02-1230 minAsk A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon064: The Kinky, Shame-Free, Neurodivergent Episode with Alice LovegoodJoin us for a fearless convo with kink-positive and shame-free content creator Alice Lovegood! She’s here to chat about the saucy side of cartoons (i.e. Princess Jasmine from Aladdin!), spill the tea on being neurodiverse and navigating love, and why those “oops!” moments in the sheets can actually be kinda hot. 💅🛌 Slide into a judgment free zone with Alice and host Heather Shannon where body confidence and exploring desires take the spotlight.Here's the scoop on what's in this episode:- Embracing the skin you're in, whether it's after a weight change or just owning...2024-02-0543 min
Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon063: How to Communicate About Sex Openly and with Sensitivity*Don’t forget to hit “Follow” if you love the show! That helps us get seen by more people and appeal to amazing guests!Have you ever felt STUCK when it came to talking to your partner about sex? 🤔 Well, you’re not alone–Heather’s felt that way too! In this episode, she shares her own mishaps with sexual communication and how to make sure you look forward to discussing your sex life with your partner. Listen in if you want to be able to speak freely about your mental turn-ons, preferred techniques and sexual desires! 🎧💞 Here's a sneak p...2024-01-2932 minAsk A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon062: Wild Nights with Dustin Rybka from Sex PartyGet ready to unwrap the forbidden in this episode of 'Ask A Sex Therapist'! 🎁🚫 Join host Heather and the unapologetically candid guest Dustin Rybka as they tackle the titillating topic of censorship and its bedfellows: sex negativity and social media blocking. From algorithms policing pleasure to the clubbing stories, Dustin spills the tea (and maybe some other things) about the wild ride that's led him here. 😏 Tune in for tales that'll make you laugh, cringe, and maybe learn a thing or two about sex positivity in this must-listen episode.In this episode, you'll unpack:- The conse...2024-01-221h 00
Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon061: Keeping It Spicy with Sexting SkillsTune in to the latest episode of "Ask a Sex Therapist Podcast" where we're getting down and dirty with a fun and spicy topic—sexting! Host Heather brings the raw truth and tackles the underrated world of sexting, exploring its potential to spice up long-distance relationships, try out new fantasies, and even dip your toes into non-monogamous experiences. With the rise of apps like Pure, the possibilities of virtual exploration are endless, but what does it all mean for our sexual wellbeing? 📱💋In this episode, you'll learn:🌈 How sexting can be a gateway to exploring non-monogam...2024-01-1522 min
Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon059: Listener Q & A: Navigating Consent, Boundaries, and Intrusive Sexual ThoughtsRequest an "Ignite Your Intimacy" breakthrough session with Heather https://heathershannon.co/video-page/. You’ll get her top 3 recommendations to enhance your sex life and learn if her Intimacy Infusion program could help you feel closer and more connected.-🎙️ Ready to find out how to spice things up in your love life? In this listener Q and A episode, Heather Shannon tackles a variety of intriguing questions from her audience. From exploring non-conventional sexual fantasies to navigating boundaries in relationships, Heather provides valuable insights and advice for enhancing intimacy and understanding your own desires. Discove...2024-01-0128 minAsk A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon058: Tantra and Exploring Masculine Feminine Polarities with Magda KayReady to light the spark in your intimate life? Listen to our special guest Magda Kay as she uncovers the mysteries of Tantra and tackles the hot topic of mismatched libidos in relationships. Feeling like your bedroom dynamics could use a tune-up? Whether you're solo or partnered up, this episode has a lot of insights on sexual energy flow and practical takeaways for keeping that fire alive. 🛏️💕 In this episode, you'll gain insight into:- The transformative power of Tantra and how it's more than just what happens in the bedroom.- Strategies for coupl...2023-12-2546 min
Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon057: Introduction to Kink🔥 Ready to unlock the hidden chambers of intimacy with your partner? Episode 057 of Ask A Sex Therapist turns up the heat as Heather spills the sultry secrets of dom/sub dynamics and how they can electrify your connection. Forget the taboo; it's time to talk about the tantalizing world of kink with clarity and confidence. Whether you're curious about cuffs or simply seeking to spice up your playtime, Heather serves up some steamy insights that'll help you and your partner step into new realms of pleasure - safely and consensually. 🌶️Tune in as we untangle the ropes of bonda...2023-12-1830 min
Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon056: Female Arousal with Susan Bratton🔥 Get ready to turn up the heat with an exclusive chat with intimacy expert, Susan Bratton! Susan spills the beans, sharing everything from her personal pleasure routines to the revolutionary techniques that could shift the landscape of your love life. 🌶️ Tune in to discover how to take your pleasure potential to infinity and beyond. What you'll learn:- The link between health issues like inflammation and libido problems—and how to tackle them.- Techniques for natural enlargement and addressing sensation loss due to aging.- New-age pleasure protocols and the growing tre...2023-12-1154 min
Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon055: Dealing With Rejection, Disappointment and Receiving a NoReady to handle rejection, disappointment, and "no"s like a pro? In this week's episode, join Heather as she shares her personal experience with rejection and how she's using it to empower herself and others. From navigating romantic encounters to dealing with boundaries, she reveals practical tips to transform emotional setbacks into opportunities for growth and self-mastery. In this episode, you'll learn:- How to identify and befriend triggered emotions when facing rejection or disappointment- Practical steps to access self-energy for resilience and healing- Understanding the power of boundaries an...2023-12-0417 min
Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon054: Curious Girl Diaries with Layla LondonEver wondered what it's like to flip the switch and explore your deepest desires? 💋 In Episode of "Ask A Sex Therapist", we get up close and personal with Layla London, the woman behind the curiousgirldiaries.com. After years of putting her sexuality on the backburner to focus on other areas of life, Layla decided to fan the flames of her sexual sparks and embark on a sensual exploration. And boy, what a ride it's been! 🎢 From trying out a sex bucket list to uncovering the true meaning of connection, she shares it all. In this episode, you'll learn:2023-11-2745 min
Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon053: Listener Q & A: Sensuality, Husband's Fantasies, and Foot FetishesRequest an "Ignite Your Intimacy" breakthrough session with Heather https://heathershannon.co/video-page/. You’ll get her top 3 recommendations to enhance your sex life and learn if her Intimacy Infusion program could help you feel closer and more connected.-In this episode, Heather Shannon tackles a variety of questions submitted by listeners. From ways to bring back sensation post-menopause to navigating guilt and shame in a relationship, Heather offers her expert advice and insights. Plus, find out the difference between kinks and fetishes and why feet have become a popular topic of interest! ...2023-11-2020 min
Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon052: Better Boundaries with "Nookie"Request an "Ignite Your Intimacy" breakthrough session with Heather https://heathershannon.co/video-page/. You’ll get her top 3 recommendations to enhance your sex life and learn if her Intimacy Infusion program could help you feel closer and more connected.-Ever wondered how setting up boundaries can enrich your relationships and add an extra layer of trust? 💭 This week on Ask a Sex Therapist, we chat to Nookie, a boundary pioneer who is adding fun and lightness to this heavy topic 💫. She's got an infectious way of making the complicated approachable. Here are some hig...2023-11-1346 min
Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon051: Choose Your Own Adventure with Amy and April from Shameless SexRequest an "Ignite Your Intimacy" breakthrough session with Heather https://heathershannon.co/video-page/. You’ll get her top 3 recommendations to enhance your sex life and learn if her Intimacy Infusion program could help you feel closer and more connected.-Ready to spice up your sex life? In this episode, we've got the secrets to seriously expanding your pleasure! Join our guests, Amy Baldwin and April Lampert, co-hosts of the Shameless Sex podcast, as we discuss spicing things up, which toys to use and how to “choose your own adventure” with their new Shamelss Sex book...2023-11-0641 min
Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon046: Body Count, Slut-Shaming & Good Girl SyndromeApply for a no-pressure "Ignite Your Intimacy" breakthrough call with Heather to get her top 3 recommendations to enhance your sex life - https://heathershannon.co/video-page/ You'll also learn about her "Intimacy Infusion" transformational coaching program.~In this episode of Ask A Sex Therapist, host Heather Shannon explores the topics of body count, slut shaming, and good girl syndrome. Join Heather as she delves into the societal implications of the number of sexual partners, the judgments and stereotypes surrounding women's sexual activity, and the importance of being present in your current partnership. Get ready to c...2023-10-0220 min
Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon042 Anal SexWelcome back to the Ask a Sex Therapist podcast, where we dive into the taboo topics and provide you with the raw truth about pleasure and intimacy. I'm your host, Heather Shannon, and today we have a captivating and enlightening episode lined up for you. Get ready, because today we're talking about anal sex.In this episode, we'll address common misconceptions and fears surrounding anal play, as well as how to ease into it if you're feeling a bit apprehensive. We'll explore ways to make anal sex not only enjoyable for you, but also for your partner...2023-09-0418 min
Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon041 Futurist Joel Comm on AI, Metaverse, and the Future of Sex TechAPPLY FOR A FREE 45-minute Intimacy Insight Session with Heather to learn the top 3 things you need to work on to get the sex life you want → https://calendly.com/hshann1/insight IN THIS EPISODE OF ASK A SEX THERAPIST . . . We dive into the fascinating intersection of AI, the metaverse, and the future of sex tech. Heather shares her intrigue with artificial intelligence and how it has the potential to distort our perception of self and reality.Joel Comm joins Heather to add a futurist and technology perspective to what relationships and sex may l...2023-08-2848 minAsk A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon040 Listener Q & A: Panty Fetish, Spicing it Up, Bi Or Gay & Penis SizeWelcome to another exciting episode of Ask a Sex Therapist, the podcast that's here to change the way you look at sex. I'm your host, Heather Shannon, and I am thrilled to dive into another Q&A session with all of you amazing listeners. Today, we have some intriguing questions to explore, covering topics like fetishes, self-discovery, and embracing our desires. But before we get started, I want to take a moment to express my gratitude for the wonderful reviews and support we've been receiving. Your kind words and feedback mean the world to me. In fact, I'll be...2023-08-2124 min
Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon039 Male Bisexuality and Being a Boyslut with Zachary Zane💥Are you ready for an eye-opening conversation about male bisexuality and owning your relationship with sex? Join us on this episode where our host Heather and special guest Zachary Zane dive deep into the world of male bisexuality, exploring topics such as emotional intimacy, sexual exploration, and finding community. Get ready to challenge stereotypes and embrace your authentic self! 🌟In this episode, Zach opens up about his journey, challenges, and wins. Here are some highlights you can expect:1️⃣ Breaking Stereotypes: Uncover the truth about bisexuality and challenge the misconceptions surrounding it. It's time to dismantle the stigma and...2023-08-1444 minAsk A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon038 Authenticity, People Pleasing & True Intimacy!We all want connection, but sometimes our defense mechanisms—or “parts”—get in the way. Some of the most common culprits are the People Pleaser Part and the Obligated Part. We may think there’s no other way than to do things we don’t actually want to do and to put others’ needs first at our own expense, but there absolutely is. In fact, tamping down our authentic self guarantees we won’t experience true intimacy in our relationships. After all, how can you feel fully known or understood if you’re not really showing up? So, while our “parts” have t...2023-08-0725 min
Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon037 Modern Gender Roles with Dating Coach & "Love U" Host Evan Marc KatzBEDUCATED: Free 24-Hour Trial & 40% Off Annual Subscription - https://beducate.me/pd2331-askEvan Marc Katz became the world’s first dating coach in 2003, specializing in helping smart, successful women create lasting love. He is the author of four books, his Love U Podcast has over 2 million downloads and he has been featured in hundreds of media outlets, including Today, the New York Times, and the Wall St. Journal.Evan’s coaching philosophy is based on the belief that successful relationships require a combination of emotional intelligence, self-awareness and practical skills.In this episo...2023-07-3142 min
Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon036 Sexually Awakened: Self Energy & Becoming More Conscious - Part 2BEDUCATED: Free 24-Hour Trial & 40% Off Annual Subscription - https://beducate.me/pd2330-ask In these episodes (part 1 & part 2), Heather explores consciousness through the lens of the Hawkins Scale of Consciousness by David Hawkins as well as through the Internal Family Systems (IFS) concept of Self Energy. Find out what the scale of consciousness means and get a sense for what level you’re at and how to start becoming more conscious. Learn how moving up the scale of consciousness can help not only your sex life, but the world too!In This Episode, You’...2023-07-2722 min
Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon035 Sexually Awakened: Self Energy & Becoming More Conscious - Part 1BEDUCATED: Free 24-Hour Trial & 40% Off Annual Subscription - https://beducate.me/pd2330-ask In these episodes (part 1 & part 2), Heather explores consciousness through the lens of the Hawkins Scale of Consciousness by David Hawkins as well as through the Internal Family Systems (IFS) concept of Self Energy. Find out what the scale of consciousness means and get a sense for what level you’re at and how to start becoming more conscious. Learn how moving up the scale of consciousness can help not only your sex life, but the world too!In This Episode, You’...2023-07-2419 min
Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon034 Getting “Beducated” with Mariah Freya: Naked Models, Orgasm Class & Sex-Positive ParentingMariah Freya is the co-founder of Beducated, an online platform for sex education, where she offers a vast library of resources for inclusive, comprehensive, medically accurate and pleasure-based sex education for adults.This episode explores the importance of sex education and creating a low-stakes environment for exploring and experimenting with sex. Mariah started a business to provide people with sex education. Her platform, Beducated, has over 100 courses with 40 different sex experts. Mariah and Heather discuss the need for more realistic depictions of vulvas and sex education, as well as the need for a spectrum of sex education...2023-07-1752 min
Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon033 Listener Sex Questions: Unwanted Sexual Attention, Mid-Life Virginity and Sexual AvoidanceHeather answers questions from both listeners and colleagues on how to handle sexual situations. She also comments on the recent debacle with Keke Palmer and her boyfriend: Keke’s outfit at the Usher conference, her boyfriend’s comments and why they were out of line. The situation depicts not only patriarchal overtones, but also the madonna whore complex. Learn what the madonna whore complex is and why it’s important not to categorize or objectify women in this way. Heather will also cover questions on crossing professional boundaries, what to do when you’re a nearly 40...2023-07-1024 min
Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon032 Nice Guys Don't Finish Last with Matt ArtisanAfter hearing from a few men “Nice guys finish last–maybe I should start being a dick and women will like me!” Heather decided it was time to set the record straight. Join Heather and her guest Matt Artisan for this discussion on reframing the way we think about approaching other people, flirting and being confident. Matt is an award-winning dating coach who has appeared on Netflix, ABC News Nightline, Fox and more and who has been coaching men for over a decade in over 40 countries. In this episode, Matt gets into his own journey with being sociall...2023-07-0341 min
Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon031 Scheduling Sex? What To Do When You Can’t Find Time To Get It OnThis episode was prompted by a recent audience question, but it’s an age-old debate in the sex therapy realm. Is it lame to schedule sex? If you don’t schedule it, do you wind up just being in a permanent sex rut? Of course spontaneous sex can feel extra hot and intense . . . and no one wants sex to feel like another appointment on their calendar. We want novelty and adventure in our sex lives to keep things spicy. But sometimes you and your partner want sex at different times of day or your schedules make y...2023-06-2619 min
Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon030 Air Sex Championships and Improv for Flirting with Comedian Chris TrewHeather’s guest this episode is Chris Trew. Chris is a comedian and improv coach living in New Orleans. He's been featured at over 75 comedy festivals in North America and seen on MTV, America's Got Talent, and GQ Magazine. He runs Comedy House New Orleans, Hell Yes Fest, and teaches improv comedy all over the world. Plus President Barack Obama follows him on Twitter, which Heather thinks is pretty cool!In this episode, Heather and Chris talk about Air Sex–yes, you read that right! Chris was responsible for bringing the Air Sex Championships to the United Stat...2023-06-1941 min
Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon029 Am I Queer? Are You Queer?In celebration of Pride month, let's explore the concepts of queerness and questioning. In this episode, Heather questions the usefulness of labels and expertly navigates the topic of "Am I Queer?" Through personal anecdotes, Heather explores how sexuality can be fluid and how cultural biases can impact one's sexual identity. Whether identifying as queer, lesbian, bicurious or genderfluid, listeners are encouraged to question their own sexual identity, and to explore their motivations for sex too. This episode is about questioning everything we've ever been taught about sexual identity, increasing consciousness around sex and breaking free from the...2023-06-1220 min
Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon028 BDSM, Play Parties & Queer Sexuality with Kesiena BoomJoin host Heather Shannon and guest Kesiena Boom in an engaging and enlightening conversation as they explore the captivating world of queerness, kink, and fearless communication. Unravel the meaning of "femme" within the queer community as they provide insights for queer women on confidently approaching and asking out their crushes. Discover the allure of play parties, gain wisdom on direct communication, learn the art of hitting on someone without being creepy, and explore the depths of desire. Get ready for an adventure of self-discovery and empowerment!In this episode, Heather and Kesiena delve into the dynamic realms...2023-06-0543 min
Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon027 Listener Sex Questions: Differing Kink Levels, Vaginal Prolapse, Nipple Orgasms and Rimming!In this episode, Heather answers listener questions on kink differences, rimming, nipple play and sex with vaginal prolapse. She also addresses how our thoughts (not our partner and not our circumstances) create our turn-on and how our conditioning might make us feel like certain sexual activities are “good” or “bad,” when that is not actually the case. Plus, find out what “soft swapping” means and if you want to do it!IN THIS EPISODE, YOU’LL LEARN:1. How to navigate your kink differences by managing your own mind.2. What a vaginal prolapse is, how WILDLY com...2023-05-2931 min
Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon026 Religion, Sexual Shame & Tantric Teachings with Tilly StormRegister for Heather’s free “Get Your Sexy Spark Back” Workshop taking place on Tuesday, May 30th @ 7pm: https://askasextherapist.clickfunnels.com/optin1683846259317"Don't let fear, guilt, or shame keep you from connecting with your original sexual essence and experiencing more pleasure." ~Tilly StormTILLY’S BIO:This week's guest, Tilly Storm, is a certified sex and intimacy coach, using deep transformational tools to help high achieving men and women experience epic sex and pleasure. She is the host of the Multiorgasmic Millionaire podcast and has been recognized as one of the top 20 sex coac...2023-05-2244 min
Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon025 Sex & The Single Life: Dating, Vulnerability & FreedomHow much do you really need to have your shit together to date? Should you work on yourself first or just go out there and date exactly as you are? Listen in for Heather’s advice on how to handle insecurities while putting yourself out there in the dating world. Heather discusses the importance of authenticity, consent, communication and boundaries when it comes to new sexual relationships. Discover how being vulnerable can actually be a transformative (and fun!) growth experience. Heather shares her own experiences in the dating world when she tells people she’s a sex therapist and offe...2023-05-1522 min
Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon024 The Horny Housewife–on Going For It In Life, Dating Your Spouse and Keeping it Sexy in A Long-Term RelationshipJoin Heather and hilarious guest Jordyn Hakes for a truly unfiltered chat about about owning your sexuality and how mental health is the sexiest thing of all.Jordyn is the host of the wildly successful podcast “The Horny Housewife,” which focuses on dating your spouse and locker room talk for couples. In today’s episode, Jordyn shares her journey of becoming a podcaster and how the sudden loss of her mother spurred her to seize the day and go after what she really wanted to do with her life (get paid to talk!). She also opens u...2023-05-0839 min
Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon023 Heather Coaches “Vanessa” And You Get To Listen To Their Session!In this week's episode of Ask a Sex Therapist, Heather Shannon coaches a woman named Vanessa to help her evolve her emotions and sex life. Vanessa is learning to break free from her sex negativity and integrate the sexual and the emotional. But as she tries to do so, an inner voice of self-protection is preventing her from fully letting go. What is this mysterious inner voice trying to tell her, and how can she learn to listen? Find out in this week's Ask a Sex Therapist, and brace yourself for a shocking realization!In this episode...2023-05-0141 min
Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon022 The Orgasm Gap with Dr. Laurie MintzIn this exciting episode of Ask A Sex Therapist, your host Heather Shannon interviews Dr. Laurie Mintz, author of Becoming Cliterate and an award-winning college professor with over 20 years of experience working with sexual issues. Join them as they share their passion for closing the orgasm gap, encouraging pleasure for vulva owners, and challenging the myths perpetuated by society about female pleasure. Learn about the importance of understanding female anatomy, proper hygiene, and seeking advice from a pelvic floor physical therapist. Discover the significance of mindfulness, positive thinking, and open communication with partners for a fulfilling sexual experience. Don't...2023-04-2442 min
Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon021 All About ErectionsErectile dysfunction is one of the most common issues I’ve dealt with as a sex therapist. Turns out there’s a lot of pressure on people with a penis! There’s the idea that they need to last super long and manage their erection. There’s the idea that they should always want sex and should really never say no to sex. And there’s the idea that they’re just sex machines who don’t have feelings or require emotional intimacy for sex to fulfill them. These ideas are mostly wrong and I just want to set things straigh...2023-04-1721 min
Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon020 Shattering Stigma: Life with Herpes - Featuring Alexandra HarbushkaJoin Heather as she speaks with Alexandra Harbushka, the founder of "Life with Herpes," a supportive community aimed at shattering the stigma surrounding herpes. Alexandra shares her personal story with herpes, how she got over the stigma and how she got SO FREE of shame and stigma that she turned it into a public-facing career helping others! In this episode, you will learn:Why even married/monogamous people need to know about Herpes. Testing for Herpes isn't automatic when you get an STI panel--how to get checked!Why Herpes is more of a nuisance and really is...2023-04-1035 min
Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon019 Listener Sex Questions: Anal Sex, Women Approaching Women, Guilt with Masturbation, Roleplay & Squirting!In this episode, you really get to Ask A Sex Therapist! Listeners asked Heather their most pressing sex questions including:How can I have anal sex without it hurting and actually enjoy it?I’m interested in sex with other women, but need some help with approaching women. Any advice?I’m experiencing guilt with masturbation–my partner has said she doesn’t like it when I masturbate. How do I get past that?I want to make my girlfriend squirt. Some women I’ve been with before have, but it’s the minority of them–what can I do to increa...2023-04-0324 min
Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon018 Dating, Makeovers & Self-Confidence from the Outside-In with Kimmy SeltzerThis week's guest is Kimmy Seltzer. She is a confidence therapist, authentic dating strategist and image expert. With vast knowledge and experience as a therapist, certified style coach, dating coach and matchmaker, Kimmy has helped people find lasting love and connection, attract success, and build valuable relationships using her unique competence makeover process. Listen to the full episode to learn more about the importance of combining emotional work into the body and what is the biggest thing that stops people from putting themselves out there.In this episode, you'll learn: The three pillars of flirtingThe importance...2023-03-2746 min
Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon017 Healthy Sexual BoundariesHealthy boundaries are all the rage . . . and with good reason. Having them helps us feel empowered, reduces resentment and encourages self-respect. But what about when it comes to sex? How can you practice saying no and communicating your needs without pushing the other person away?Do healthy sexual boundaries mean you’re never going to have casual sex (answer - no!)? How can sexual boundaries help you feel safer with your partner? Embodiment practices can help. By being in your body and not just your head (the brain head, not the other one), you’ll learn...2023-03-2021 min
Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon016 Healing Through Seduction with Perle NoireJoin Heather and her first ever guest, THE Black Burlesque Queen - Perle Noire, for a high vibe discussion on purpose, healing, sexiness, therapy, embodiment and intuition. Perle’s path to her current success and alignment is NOT a boring one and you’ll definitely want to listen in to learn from her Wild Wisdom and Passionate Purpose. The ladies discuss how to relate to your emotions in a healthy way, falling in love with yourself and not holding yourself back anymore.We’ll cover: Becoming Perle Noire (and not a crackhead) thanks to Intuition & The MoonTri...2023-03-1349 min
Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon002 The Real Reason You're Not Talking About Sex!Why is it that even when it could potentially be a deal-breaker for your partner, you avoid talking about sex?This week, I reveal why you find talking about sex so hard, how it affects yours and your partner's sex life, and how you can bring those barriers down. I also share tips on discussing sex with your partner, dealing with the natural awkwardness of discussing it, and caring for yours and their vulnerability. What You'll Learn:Why talking about what we are into in bed makes us feel so vulnerableWhy talking about your p...2023-01-0614 min
Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon001 What Turns You On?Let's start with the basics - what turns YOU on? Not what society, culture or religion says should turn you on, but what makes you feel vibrant and alive?In this episode, I approach this question from four different layers. I invite you to think about and debunk the social scripts around sex, redefine foreplay, and broaden the definition of sex beyond intercourse or penetrative sex. What You'll Learn:Why it is essential to be aware of what turns you onHow social scripts around sex interfere with your pleasureThe benefits of becoming more sexually sel...2023-01-0621 min
Ask A Sex Therapist with Heather Shannon000 Welcome to the Ask a Sex Therapist Podcast!Welcome to the Ask a Sex Therapist Podcast! This podcast will help you change how you look at sex. I'm Heather Shannon, a Certified Sex Therapist, Holistic Health Coach, and a Shambala meditation guide. I hold a Master's Degree in Counseling, but most of my knowledge and expertise comes from my lived experience, personal exploration, and constant seeking of knowledge. On this show, you can expect raw truth about pleasure and intimacy, how to enjoy your body and how to let go of any trauma, shame or stigma you might have about your sexuality, sexual ex...2023-01-0608 min