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c & A PodcastClose Your Eyes, JesusToday's guest, Ms. Heauxly (pronounced holy), from the Heauxly Coitus Podcast does not hold back on what it is to be living out her "hoe" phase and we aren't mad. We get the honor of hearing her story of growing up evangelical, staying a virgin until 32, leaving religion, and living out her "hoe" phase. She talks about negative impacts of purity culture, navigating a multi-partner sex life, creating boundaries with partners, talking in tongues while doing the deed, and micro "eggplants". That's just a portion of what this episode encompasses. We are pretty confident that even if you don't...2023-05-081h 53
Haystacks & HellS1:E11 - Meet ex-SDA Writer Melissa Duge Spiers - Pt. 2Full Transcripts, resources and more: hell.bio/notes —Part 2 of Santiago's conversation with Melissa Duge Spiers, an award-winning memoirist, screenwriter, and essayist based in Silicon Valley, California. They cover Melissa's journey with therapy after leaving the church, her current projects, and more.Buy Santiago a coffee • Support on PatreonMelissa's Links:Official WebsiteTikTok @theglorywholeInstagram @the.glory.wholeLinks to other topics mentioned:Andrew Kerbs / Deconstruct EverythingBook: You Are Your OwnCenter for Trauma Resolution and RecoveryThe Reclamation CollectiveSecular Therapy ProjectJourney FreeOther podcast episodes featuring Melissa:This Podcast Needs a Tit...2023-03-2559 minHaystacks & HellS1:E10 - Meet ex-SDA Writer Melissa Duge Spiers - Pt. 1Full Transcripts, resources and more: hell.bio/notes —Santiago interviews Melissa Duge Spiers, AKA Deconstruction Auntie. Melissa is an award-winning memoirist, screenwriter, and essayist based in Silicon Valley, California. She grew up as a 4th generation Adventist, got baptized at 12, and left the church after high school. This is Part 1 of a 2 part conversation.Buy Santiago a coffee • Support on PatreonMelissa's Links:Official WebsiteTikTok @theglorywholeInstagram @the.glory.wholeLinks to other topics mentioned:Ex-Adventist Survey#ChurchTooOther podcast episodes featuring Melissa:This Podcast Needs a Title - The O...2023-03-181h 01
Social disGracesDitching Purty Culture for the Heaux LifeIn this episode we are joined by a special guest who bravely shares her story about how she went from a 31 year old virgin to embracing and reclaiming her sexuality. This episode was SO much fun and is packed with great insights, hilarious comments and real conversation about purity culture and sexuality. She is well educated, well traveled, bold, outspoken and a survivor of purity culture embracing a healthy heaux phase.
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Mother HeauxlyIt's the First Mother Heauxly Podcast AnniversaryHi everyone! And Happy Anniversary to me! I am so proud of myself for doing what I'm meant to do in this world. It takes courage every time I sit in front of this mic, so I commend and thank myself! I also understand that this is a great honor and privilege to have a platform to share wisdom with others and I do not take that lightly, so I promise to always do my best! Once again, thank you so much for listening 2022-06-1902 min
WRYH PodcastHeauxly Life feat. JonathanIts revival at WRYH this week! Eeeshkatie!!! Our boo Jonathan (@mrjem21) came through with a selection lol
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Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/wryhpodcast/support2022-06-101h 34Mother HeauxlyWe Play We're Not Really StrangersHi y'all! And welcome back to another episode of Mother Heauxly!For today's episode, I am visited once again by one of my soulmates, Thee Hannah Miller(She/her/hers), and we are playing We're Not Really Strangers. This is a lovely connection card game that I will link below, so be sure to check them out! I also enjoy their affirming and truthful posts and texts. And I hope our vulnerability here helps you to connect with yourself and others more, strangers included! Also, I forgot to mention that about a year ago, I w...2022-05-251h 09
Heauxly CoitusS1E21. Sister Shannon’s Heaux Story: ExCatholic, Reclaiming “Woman,” and Sexual Liberationister Shannon is an ExCatholic coach, helping people raised in Catholicism or impacted by its teachings reclaim the inherent GOODNESS of their bodies and step into their sexual power. IG:@sister.shannon.This is my regular day - because as I practice healthy sex and pleasure, I’ve built such reverence for my pleasure in EVERY moment that I now understand what looks luxurious, over-the-top, “too demanding” to some (I sit in a cafe like this almost every day), is actually my DESIRE. It’s just what I want. It’s just what makes me feel radiant, connected, part of something...2022-03-3057 minMother HeauxlyIt's Time We Take Up Space. (Revised)Hi everyone! It's Joey! I wanted to share with you a letter I wrote in 2020, which was published by The Ways In Which created by Julian Akil Rose because I still feel it's power till this day. I hope it encourages you. Also I made a mistake and said Sabia(Sa-bia), but it's actually Sabia(Say-bia), please excuse me.Here are the knowledgeable people I mentioned (twitters) @Rivertosea48, @queersocialism,@Hess2Love, and @noname/nonamebooks And one can call me "dirty slut" in the the right context, and definitely not if you're intentionally trying to push p...2022-03-2507 minHeauxly CoitusS1E20 B’s Heaux Story: Evangelicalism and Purity Culture, Body Acceptance, Nude Self-PortraitsB is a 40 year old midwesterner finding his way out of the shame and fear of evangelicalism and purity culture in part by taking and sharing revealing, freeing selfies and self-portraits that are helping him move toward a new love for and confidence in his body. You can follow him on instagram at @happyinmyownskin.“A heaux is someone who embraces, expresses and explores their desires.” ~B______Ms. Heauxly Coitus@heauxlycoitus💦For Heaux T-shirts and mugs and bags: http://jenaya-global.myshopify.com💦Come share your heaux story on the pod! Be the next guest. Inbox me, Ms. Heauxly Coitus @heauxlycoitus💦For pictures, past...2022-03-2253 minHeauxly CoitusS1E19 Treasure’s Heaux Story: Church Youth Group Shame, Newish Military Spouse, and Queer and FreeMy name is Treasure (she/her), I’m sunshine radiating as a Black Queer woman. I’m studying English Literature Online as I maneuver and create a new path of authenticity, free from religion, on the island of O’ahu Hawaii as a newish military spouse. .It’s important for me to say that because I’m finally able to live the life I’ve always wanted, with freedom and privacy to dream and create. You’ll find my thoughts and writings @bodhi.curry & @freespace.diary. .A Heaux is an individual who recognizes and lives in the awareness that sexuality is simply bein...2022-03-161h 11Mother HeauxlyCatch Up and Would you Rather...?Hi everyone! I hope you are well! I'm so glad to be back! For the first podcast of the second season I thought I'd start with something silly to lift all of our spirits by playing the game Would you rather so let me know what you would do by subscribing to one of the tiers on my patreon. Sidenote: I meant to say “if that is the case” about the aliens putting out a signal not "if not" lol oopsDonations:Cashapp: $BR9121Paypal: muffin9090V...2022-03-0930 minHeauxly CoitusS1E18 Ahmad’s Heaux Story: Queer Canadian-Palestinian, Sugar Baby, Finding CommunityI’m @realahmadray on all social media platforms and Ahmad Ray on YouTube! https://solo.to/realahmadray“A heaux is knowing what you want, when you want it, how you want it, and enjoy it happening.”LGBTQAI+ Resources https://docs.google.com/document/d/1JrYFefymLHtJncJi-Zo_H5QmHh_41o4cbLSjs38Us8g/edit.Ms. Heauxly Coitus@heauxlycoitus💦For Heaux T-shirts and mugs and bags: http://jenaya-global.myshopify.com💦Come share your heaux story on the pod! Be the next guest. Inbox me, Ms. Heauxly Coitus @heauxlycoitus💦For pictures, past episodes, and stories: https://heauxlycoitus.home.blog.~To be a heaux is to engage in co...2022-02-271h 19Heauxly CoitusS1E17 Liz’s Heaux Story: Erotica Author, Spiritual Practices Connected to Sex, Sexuality AbroadMy books are an exploration of Love and Sex and how they come together. I wrote them in response to a lot of the prevailing toxic tropes in Romance and mainstream stories that I believe have shaped how we approach relationships and the unhealthy expectations we create around them. What I learned over the course of writing these books is that when we can embrace our sexuality and come into that personal power it affords us, our relationships can be more than we ever thought possible. A heaux is someone whose sexual power is so firmly embedded in their being t...2022-02-2156 minHeauxly CoitusS1E16 Helen’s Heaux Story: From Non-Denominational Church Shame, to Trauma Ho, to Polyamorous HeauxThis is a digital rendering of a nude of mine done by @lord_kpuri. I used it to come out as queer on my personal page. It, my like my interview with you, is a type of disrobing. I’m revealing myself, as I am or as I see myself, to the world. Take me or leave me. It’s really that simple. (Click on website below to see this picture.).“A heaux is any particular individual who, while understanding and accepting all the consequences, engages in a sexual lifestyle that deviates from the the ‘patriarchal, cis-hetero, white supremacist seeped evangeli...2022-02-061h 30Heauxly CoitusS1E15 Aryam’s Heaux Story: Wearing Hijab, Asexuality, Healing After AssaultAryam Marafi is a 21 year old Kuwaiti medical student and activist. She is an abuse survivor who advocates for survivors of abuse and raises awareness of safeguarding issues in Kuwait. She is currently seeking asylum in the UK. Instagram: @aryammarafi.This is a drawing (see below for website link) I made that I feel represents my view of my body. It expresses my frustration that my body and what I do with my body is always up for debate and my choices are never respected. The hands creeping in from the corners represent my experiences with sexual abuse and people...2022-01-291h 20Heauxly CoitusS1E14 Emily’s Heaux Story: Religious Trauma-Informed Spirituality, Fatphobia, Burned Wedding DressExternally, I have presented as straight, cis-gender, and accommodating. I have seemed to follow purity culture even though I didn't completely. But those close to me know better and that's something I will always appreciate, both about me and about them. I think the whole bigger on the inside thing is also a good description of the love I have cultivated individually for my body in a fatphobic culture.“A heaux is someone who says no to oppressive control of their sexuality, body image, and sexual relationships.”Emily Hedrick is a religious trauma-informed spirituality coach. She is passionate about creating new...2022-01-2259 minHeauxly CoitusS1E13 Sarah’s Heaux Story: Dating after a 32-year Marriage, Fundamentalism, Finding PleasureI grew up as a Baptist missionary kid in South America and attended a notorious right wing Bible college. After seven children and 32 years, I pulled the rip cord in pursuit of my own happiness and integrity.When I left my marriage in May of 2021, I became homeless virtually overnight. The judge signed my divorce papers unexpectedly with no hearing the same day I presented them while I had been counting on a 6-week or so waiting period. My Uber-holy Christian ex gave me the boot because “we’re no longer married..so to protect my testimony, you must leave.” I walk...2022-01-181h 14Mother HeauxlySex Unlocked*Content Warning for sexual violence in this episode*Heyyy! My first episode is finally out!! Ah!!! I forgot to mention my pronouns! She/they! and I am a nonbinary babe!On the topic of porn, I want to add that porn is not inherently unhealthy for children because a lot of us were curious, but of course waiting until they're older and mature is probably best. It’s what they are being influenced to like is the issue. Also how often do they watch and how do we talk to them about it? Sha...2022-01-1132 minHeauxly CoitusS1E12 Fran: Nude Photography, Eroticism, and Sexual Freedom in Making ArtHi! My name is Fran, a family man in his 40s from the South of Spain who frequently travels. In this podcast I spit it all out for when it comes to erotic photoshoots which I love to do as I’m a hobby photographer. I love helping women realize their dream of being nude in front of a camera, and making them comfortable with it, otherwise it’s no fun!A heaux is nothing else than a woman craving for love. Erupting her lava into another soul in the form of sex, the heaux is there to be taken or t...2022-01-041h 23Heauxly CoitusS1E11: Dr. Kyle’s Heaux Story: Philosopher, Complementarianism, Evangelical Purity CultureI’m a philosopher, author, and podcaster in Milwaukee, Wisconsin, USA. I mostly work on disagreement, public discussion, trust, expertise, politics, and religion. My podcast is called “A Pastor and a Philosopher Walk into a Bar” and can be found wherever you get podcasts. You can find me on Twitter @robertkwhitaker and at my website: robertkwhitaker.com.Evangelicalism sends contradictory messages, especially to youth, about sex. “God made it, so it’s good and you should want it, but also it’s bad to want it too much or too soon or with almost any actual person, so definitely don’t actually do...2022-01-011h 44Heauxly CoitusS1E10: Cat Delmar’s Heaux Story: From Narcissistic Abuse to “Trauma Ho” to Sea Witch GoddessI’m Cat Delmar and I write about my experiences as a first-generation Jamaican-American, from leaving Christianity/Seventh-day Adventism and healing my intimacy disorder to my journey into earth-based spirituality and discovering and embracing an edifying type of sexuality. I struggled with sex and love addiction for years due to purity culture and narcissistic abuse. Then I had a spiritual awakening and came out of my “trauma ho phase.” Now I’m a free-spirited, twerking mermaid heaux for myself and my fiancé, trying to be a good veterinarian while I juggle writing a book about my journey out of addiction as well a...2021-11-101h 36Heauxly CoitusS1E9: Nkem’s Heaux Story: Saying Yes to Pleasure, Thriving Beyond Being Hypersexualized, and WritingNkem is a human-goddess hybrid who is devoted to using her highly sensitive nature as a super power to access pleasure in this lifetime, whether sensing pleasure directly or in transmuting pain into pleasure through writing, dancing, and connecting with other souls across this big-but-small world. You can follow her @naturallyfree123 and read her written work at www.bynkem.co/words.A heaux is a person actively involved in the pleasure they receive; a person who prioritizes pleasure; a person who takes pleasure in prioritizing pleasure.Ms. Heauxly Coitus@heauxlycoitus💦For Heaux T-shirts and mugs and bags: http://jenaya-global.myshopify.com...2021-10-2548 minHeauxly CoitusS1E8. Rachel’s Heaux Story: Cult Survivor, Author, Religiously “None of the Above”Rachel is the author of "Confessions of an American None: A Credo of Sorts" and the founder of @AmericanNone. She has overcome religious trauma both in her childhood and adulthood. Now she advocates for a world in which #LoveisGreaterthanLabels. @rachel_l_roberts rachelroberts@americannone.com—From Rachel: A heaux is owning the dichotomy that we can be sexually primal, raw, and rabid AND be vulnerable, sensitive, and delicate. Healthy sexuality represents the best of the spectrum of the totality of being human. Personally, I prefer a monogamous, loving relationship where I feel both safe and free to explore my wild side...2021-10-171h 18Heauxly CoitusS1E7 Jennifer’s Heaux Story: Polyamorous, Christian, Mom.Jennifer C. Martin is a writer living in Richmond, VA with her two partners and their two children. She is a polyamorous dirtbag Christian and a proud leftist. In her spare time, she enjoys baking, yoga, gaming, and consuming all kinds of media. You can find her on Twitter or Instagram at @notreallyjcm.“My body was once a prison. It was something I hated, something that was too much and not enough at once. And now, it’s home.”~A heaux is a person who is totally comfortable with themselves, whether or not society is comfortable with them.~Ms. Heauxly Coitus...2021-10-041h 09Heauxly CoitusS1E6: Mackenzie’s Heaux Story. Dance, Deconstruction, and Purity CultureMy name is Mackenzie and I am a deconstructing Christian living in the High Rockies of Colorado. After a lifetime of conservative indoctrination influenced by denominations such as the Church of Christ and Assembly of God, I started an Instagram called "Why I Left the Church" as a personal journal project. I have since amassed more than 800 followers. This online community has brought me great relief in knowing that I'm not alone and a lot to think about in my own spiritual journey.This month, I celebrate the ninth anniversary of the first time I went to a social dance...2021-09-2459 min
Heauxly CoitusS1/E5. Melissa’s Heaux Story: Ex Seventh Day Adventist, Author, The Glory WholeMelissa is writing a book! The Glory Whole – a memoir of misogyny, sex, family, secrets and purity culture within the claustrophobic depths of the Seventh-Day Adventist church.
Raised in a severe, cult-like branch of the extreme fundamentalist SDA church, Melissa fled the church at 18 and plunged headlong into the “real world,’ notching an Ivy League degree, a modeling and movie career, jobs working for famous politicians and billionaires, and seeking every excess possible with the sex & celebrity crowd across the US and Europe.
Thoroughly congratulating herself on escaping her upbringing, she sailed smugly into adulthood where, in the middle of two ma...2021-08-241h 46Mother HeauxlyTripping with My BestieHey! It's Brittani(She/They) and I'm back with another wholesome episode with one of my oldest and bestest friend's, Hannah(She/Her/hers)! Today we will be sharing our journey with psychedelics and discussing how it opened our eyes and hearts to all of our joys and lessons. Donations:Cashapp: $BR9121Paypal: muffin9090Venmo: @JtheempressWhere to Find Me:Sacred Sensuality: Onlyfans.com/fairyblk and (free subscription) onlyfans.com/fairyblk22Sacred Podcast Community: Patreon.com/motherheauxlyFor Revolutionary Learners B...2021-07-3159 min
Mother HeauxlySpiritual IndependenceHi! It's Brittani!(She/they) and welcome back to another exciting and heartfelt episode ! Today I wanted to share the journey of my spiritual awakening from a Baptist to a Hoodoo devotee and conjurer with Baptist tendencies lol Because one year ago on July 4th, I claimed my spiritual independence. This journey was far from easy, but definitely worth it, and an integral part of who I am today. So my hope for this episode is that if you are in my position, that you remember that there is still hope and joy for the fu...2021-07-1029 minMother HeauxlyMother Heauxly's Podcast TrailerLet's have a fun and thoughtful time!~Joey RoseyDonations:Cashapp: $BR9121Paypal: muffin9090Venmo: @JtheempressWhere to Find Me:Sacred Sensuality: Onlyfans.com/fairyblk and (free subscription) onlyfans.com/fairyblk22Sacred Podcast Community: Patreon.com/motherheauxlyFor Revolutionary Learners Book Club: Patreon.com/motherheauxlyYoutube: Mother HeauxlySocials:Instagram: motherheauxly_ Backup: mother_heauxlyTiktok: @MotherheauxlyTwitter: @joeyrosey192021-05-2200 minHeauxly CoitusS1/E4: “Well That Ended Quickly”Ms. HC retells an early encounter in her heaux phase and reflects on some lessons she’s since learned about power, agency, coitus, and expectations men have about women. 💦💦Ready to share your story? Follow, share, and slide into my DMs @heauxlycoitus or drop me a line at heauxlycoitus@gmail.com. Let’s chat and collaborate! 💦💦 Read up on my heaux phase at heauxlycoitus.home.blog where I share my shenanigans after being a super virgin for 31 years.💦💦 Have an orgasm filled week, babe!2021-03-0314 minHeauxly CoitusCoitus Convo: Cindy, Purity Culture, Freedom, and Her Fancy VibratorCindy spent her college years and early adulthood in an exceptionally strict evangelical Christian group that took ownership of folks’ agency. Purity culture is hard to be in and hard to get out of, but Cindy found strength to choose herself, take ownership of her own vagina and her body, and free herself to pursue wholeness. In her coitus convo, we talk about her journey and what she’s learned over the years.
💦💦Ready to share your story? Follow, share, and slide into my DMs @heauxlycoitus or drop me a line at heauxlycoitus@gmail.com. Let’s chat and collaborate! 💦💦 Read up on my heau...2021-02-2652 minHeauxly CoitusA Guest’s Sexual Autobiography: The Virginal Condom Plug, BDSM Munches, and Her HoneycombOur guest today, Nella, shares her sex story and her work in normalizing sexual pleasure and information for everyone. She has found her home and curiosity satiated in the BDSM community and encourages everyone to think outside the box and truly find their voice and orgasm. From being the go-to person in her high school for sexual education and condoms even though she herself was a virgin, to when she was a nude model in college and saw her body as art, to when she experienced alternative lifestyles and BDSM, she has had a incredible journey that is far from...2021-02-261h 05Heauxly CoitusMy Next Door NeighborMs. Heauxly Coitus reminisces on one of her first coital encounters. She now knows why folks say don’t have sexy with your neighbor. Also, 4.5 strokes only? Surely you jest! Truly a pity this one was. Stay tuned. Send this episode to your people. Share your story on the pod. Website: heauxlycoitus.home.blog Follow on Insta: @heauxlycoitus2021-02-0913 minHeauxly CoitusIntroducing Ms. Heauxly CoitusHey y’all. It’s me, Ms. Heauxly, and I invite you to join me as I retell stories of my heaux phase. Get to know me, why I’m doing this podcast, and how you too can be a part of the pod. Follow on Instagram @heauxlycoitus and the blog heauxlycoitus.home.blog. Do you have a sex story or shenanigan you need to get off your chest? Come tell it here! Episodes come out weekly. Have a coitus and/or orgasm-filled week, beloved 😘😘2021-01-3010 minHeauxly CoitusHeauxly Coitus (Trailer)2021-01-2900 min
Food 4 ThotWuts Luv Got 2 Do With It?Love is in the air! Today we're continuing our conversation on love — how vast it is, how intimate, how fun, and how painful! This week we queer our love and explore the complications and the ways our queer feelings make us both different and unique, and yet, human just like anybody else!We butter your muffins with another rendition of our Thot Newlywed game, Joe O the Science Hoe drops some Heauxly knowledge, and for dessert its axels and toe-loops and laybacks, oh my!SHOW NOTES: food4thotpodcast.com/newsletterLive tweet th...2020-02-021h 07