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Mastering Midlife with Heidi66. Are You Subtly Trying to Prove You’re Good Enough? 15 People-Pleasing Behaviors Keeping You Stuck in Guilt & Self DoubtAre you the one always trying? Always giving? Does your inner voice whisper, "No matter what - it's never enough!" So you try harder and give more. You may think you're just being helpful, easygoing, or kind—but underneath it all, you might be working overtime to prove you're good enough. In this episode, I’ll walk you through 15 people-pleasing behaviors that are secretly fueled by fear, guilt, and the deep need to be seen as “good.”Learn why these habits lead to burnout, resentment, and disconnectionSpot the subtle ways you’ve been abandoning yourself to avoid rejec...2025-06-3015 minMastering Midlife with Heidi65. People Pleasing Is a Trap and ‘Sorry’ Is the Bait; What to Say Instead of ApologizingWhat if saying “sorry” isn’t kindness — but self-doubt in disguise? And what if the key to less doubt and more respect is simply choosing a new way to speak? In this episode, I'm showing you why "sorry" isn't creating the connection you think it is—and why it's actually making things worse.Here's what you'll learn:Why apologizing when you've done nothing wrong destroys your confidenceHow saying "sorry" is a trap to avoid feeling guiltyWhy over-apologizing pushes people away instead of bringing them closer and,Exact phrases to use instead of "sorry"If you peop...2025-06-1620 minMastering Midlife with Heidi64. Why You Feel Invisible When You’re Always the Helper, Fixer, or Peacekeeper; This Disconnects You From Your ValueDo you show up one way with others, but feel completely different inside, maybe even the polar opposite of what others see in you? In this episode, I’m revealing what causes us to be this way and how this disconnection leaves us feeling small and invisible.Listen to hear:how the pain of always being what others needed (the helper, the dependable one, the peacekeeper, the “good” girl) disconnects us from ourselves,why it feels safer to be what others want, andhow learning to put other people first causes us to seek external validation in midlif...2025-06-0216 min
Coffee with M and JFeaturing Mastering Midlife with Heidi GustafsonOn today’s adventure of Coffee with M and J, we sit down with the incredible Heidi Gustafson — certified hypnotist, mindset coach, YouTuber, and host of the Mastering Midlife with Heidi podcast.From divorce and getting fired, to letting go of people-pleasing and perfectionism, Heidi’s story is a powerful reminder that sometimes the “trucks” that hit us are the exact catalysts we need to build a different kind of life.Heidi gets real about the foundation of who we become: the childhood conditioning, the pressure to “be nice,” the fear of disappointing others — and how those early...2025-06-0253 minMastering Midlife with Heidi63. Love Isn’t Earned & Neither Is Your Worth or Value: How People Pleasers Mistake Approval for LoveDo you say yes when you REALLY wanna say no — just to avoid disappointing someone? Or say no, but then immediately feel guilty?Yeah… the guilt? It’s not about that moment — it’s about a deeper belief you probably don't realize you’re carrying.In this episode, we’re unpacking why so many women end up chasing approval without realizing it… and how that need to be liked or seen as “good” keeps us stuck in people-pleasing patterns that feel like love, but aren’t.We’ll cover:Why disappointing others feels so unsafe — and wha...2025-05-1914 minMastering Midlife with Heidi62. Why People Pleasers Overshare; Regain Your Inner Peace & Power in 4 StepsDo you ever walk away from a conversation thinking, “Why did I say all that?” You’re not alone — and there’s nothing wrong with you. Oversharing is a sneaky people-pleasing habit that feels like connection… but usually leaves us feeling exposed, regretful, or misunderstood. I'm breaking down why we do it — and how to quit this habit to take back your peace and power.In this episode you’ll learn:5 hidden reasons people pleasers overshare (and none of them mean you’re broken)How your urge to explain everything is actually about sel...2025-05-0515 minMastering Midlife with Heidi61. The Price of Being Nice: 5 Hidden Dangers of People PleasingHave you spent your life being "nice" and putting others first, even at the cost of your own happiness and peace of mind? If the answer is yes, it's time to rethink your approach. Tune in to discover how embracing kindness over niceness can rejuvenate your life. In this episode, you’ll learn:The hidden dangers of being too nice and how it can lead to unhealthy relationships and personal dissatisfactionThe difference between being nice and being kind, and how this distinction can transform your interactionsHow prioritizing inner peace by speaking your truth can lead to more genuine an...2025-04-2118 min
Full ExpressionEp #27 - Heidi Gustafson - Book of EarthHeidi Gustafson is an artist and writer, but is perhaps best known as an ochre whisperer. Based in the Pacific Northwest, she curates the Early Futures Ochre Archive, a growing collection of over 600 samples of ochre from around the world. Her debut book, Book of Earth: A Guide to Ochre, Pigment, and Raw Color, explores our ancient relationship with color, creativity, and the land. Heidi is dialed in on the lesser known world of minerals upon which our world revolves. It's a discipline that bridges science, anthropology, spirituality, history, poetry, and captivating photography. 2025-04-101h 06Mastering Midlife with Heidi60. Tired of Feeling Responsible for Everyone Else’s Happiness? 15 Habits to StopIf you're someone who bends over backwards to keep the peace, this episode is for you! Tune in to learn how you can stop carrying the emotional weight of everyone else and start breathing more freely in your own life. In this episode, you’ll learn:How fear of disappointment can lead us to compromise our own needs and well-beingThe 15 specific behaviors to stop that can help break the cycle of people pleasingSteps to take in order to reclaim your voice and become the author of your own life, rather than a supporting actor in someone else's...2025-04-0722 minMastering Midlife with Heidi59. 7 Hard Truths About Self Worth and Acceptance I Wish I'd Learned SoonerAre you trapped in the cycle of people-pleasing and losing sight of who you truly are? It took me over four decades to break free, and this episode is here to guide you on the journey of self-worth and acceptance. Join me as I reveal seven transformative lessons that helped me let go of the exhausting need to be everything to everyone. In this episode, you’ll learn:Why letting go of what others think can liberate you and allow you to live more authenticallyHow suppressing emotions can lead to toxicity and why expressing feelings is essential for we...2025-03-2413 minMastering Midlife with Heidi58. Why Speaking Up For Yourself Feels Hard; Gain Confidence With 10 Vital StepsHave you ever left a conversation wishing you'd spoken up? Or found yourself over-explaining and then feeling guilty afterward? If the fear of expressing yourself has left you silent or overwhelmed, you're not alone, I've been there too. In this episode, you’ll learn:How to differentiate between wanting to be right and wanting to be heard in your interactions.Why speaking up is a learnable skill and how you can start building this muscle gradually.Powerful go-to phrases you can use immediately to express yourself confidently without guilt or the need to explain.Download a...2025-03-1020 minMastering Midlife with Heidi57. How to Gain Confidence, Self Respect, and Acceptance: 10 Steps to Break Free of People PleasingWhat really happens when you stop people pleasing? Speaking up and setting boundaries are powerful steps, and they can also bring unexpected challenges. In this episode, you'll learn:The ten key steps to break free from people pleasing and how each can empower you in living more authentically.The initial discomfort and pushback you might face as you begin to speak up and prioritize your own needs.Why letting go of one-sided relationships can be both painful and liberating, ultimately making room for those who truly value and respect you.If you'd like to know...2025-02-2423 minMastering Midlife with Heidi56. What Would I Tell My Younger Self? Is This People Pleasing? How Do I Handle Resentment? Your Questions AnsweredBreaking free from people pleasing can feel overwhelming, especially when you're not sure what to expect or how to handle the discomfort that comes with this huge change. Today, I'm answering some questions that have come through comments on my new YouTube channel (Mastering Midlife with Heidi). In this episode, you'll learn:How to identify and break free from people-pleasing patterns that may be holding you backThe impact of resentment and how to navigate it when others do not change their behaviorEmpowering advice for living a happy, healthy life based on your own wants and needsIf...2025-02-1015 minMastering Midlife with Heidi55. 25 Simple Things I Did to FINALLY Accept, Love & Trust Myself in MidlifeIt's a very special 2-year anniversary episode of the podcast! Today, I'm giving you 25 simple life changes I made to reinvent my life over the last 7 years after my toxic marriage ended and I got fired from my job. In this episode, you'll learn:The power of rewiring your subconscious mind and why doing so can transform your love, acceptance, and trust in yourself.How self-respect and acceptance influence your interactions with others and your overall well-beingPractical steps for self-improvement, including lists to make and daily affirmations that can help shape your future.Giveaway Information2025-01-2727 minMastering Midlife with Heidi54. What 62 Years Taught Me About Self Trust, Self Acceptance, and Self Worth: 10 LessonsThroughout my life, I've experienced hard lessons that pushed me to figure out self trust and taught me to finally accept myself. Changing your life starts with changing how you see yourself, and in this episode I'm sharing 10 lessons to help you do that. You'll learn:How keeping small promises to yourself builds self trust and diminishes people pleasing habitsWhy taking action, even imperfect action, boosts self esteem and breaks the cycle of perfectionismThe importance of self talk in shaping your reality and how to transform negative self talk into empowerment and self acceptanceSign up...2025-01-1322 minMastering Midlife with Heidi53. The LIE That’s Destroying Your Confidence, Self-Esteem, & Hurting All Your RelationshipsHow often do you catch yourself changing your words or actions to avoid someone else's negative reaction? If you're familiar with this habit, it might be rooted in a pattern of people-pleasing that erodes your confidence and relationships over time. In this episode, you'll learn:The deeply ingrained belief that often fuels people-pleasing behaviorsThe impact of guilt on your self-esteem and how it keeps you stuckPractical steps to break free from this pattern, set boundaries, and reclaim your authentic selfIf you'd like to know more about what coaching with me looks like, please email me...2024-12-3015 minMastering Midlife with Heidi52. Stop These 7 People-Pleasing Behaviors for a Confident, Joy-Filled 2025Do you ever find yourself saying yes when your gut is screaming no? If you struggle with people-pleasing, this habit can rob you of your time, energy, and self-worth. In this episode, you'll learn:The seven sneaky people-pleasing behaviors that are holding you backWhy striving for perfection and over-apologizing are toxic to your confidencePractical steps to stop tolerating the intolerable and reclaim your peace and joyIf you'd like to know more about what coaching with me looks like, please email me at Heidi@masteringmidlifewithheidi.com or schedule a Clarity Call: https://calendly.com/heidi-gustafson.2024-12-1619 minMastering Midlife with Heidi51. 8 Secrets to Increase Your Confidence & Self Esteem & Escape the People Pleasing CycleIt took me over five decades to realize that being "nice" was actually damaging my self esteem and confidence. Today, I'm revealing 8 eye-opening behaviors that were keeping me trapped in this cycle, plus sharing how you can break free from this people pleasing cycle.In this episode, you’ll learn:The hidden ways people pleasing depletes your confidence and self-esteemPractical examples of behaviors that keep you stuck in the cycleSimple yet powerful actions you can take to start setting boundaries and rebuild your self-worthIf you'd like to know more about what coaching with me...2024-12-0220 min
FaktahommissaJakso 3, kausi 3. Lasten tietokirjat apuna kasvamisessaMiten lasten tietokirjat voivat auttaa vaikeiden asioiden käsittelyssä? Millaisia herkkiä teemoja lasten tietokirjat voivat nostaa esille? Kuinka vanhemmat tai kasvatusalan ammattilaiset voivat hyödyntää lasten tietokirjoja? Miten lasten tietokirjailijaksi tullaan? Vieraina ovat psykologi ja lasten tietokirjailija Julia Pöyhönen ja Otavan lastenkirjallisuuden kustannuspäällikkö Marjo Lemponen.Jaksossa mainittuja kirjoja:Julia Pöyhönen ja Heidi Livingston: Fanni- ja Miu-tunnetaitosarjat (Kumma-Kustannus).Prinsessa Madeleine, Karini Gustafson-Teixeira ja Marie Oskarsson: Stella ja salaisuus (Otava 2020). Alkuteos: Stella och hemligheten. Suomennos: Katriina KauppilaGunilla Bergström: Mikko Mallikas -kirjat (Tammi), ruots. Alfons ÅbergLaur...2024-11-2635 minMastering Midlife with Heidi50. People Pleasing Trap: How Do I Say ‘No’ & Avoid Disappointing Someone?Have you ever felt obligated to say yes just to avoid disappointing someone? This common people pleasing dilemma can often leave us feeling overwhelmed and resentful. In this episode, you’ll learn:Why a reluctant yes is more harmful than an honest no for both you and the other personThe hidden costs and ripple effects of always saying yes when you want to say noFive simple strategies to break free from this cycle and start honoring your needs without guilt or fear of disappointing othersIf you'd like to know more about what coaching with me lo...2024-11-1821 minMastering Midlife with Heidi49. How People Pleasing Destroys Self Worth! Take Back Control with One Game-Changing QuestionDo you ever catch yourself asking, "what if they don't like me?" If you're a people pleaser, this question can end up running, and even ruining your life. In this episode, you’ll learn:What causes us to people-please and seek validation from othersThe physical and mental toll people pleasing can take on us A simple question you can ask yourself to shift your mindset, build authentic relationships, and escape this exhausting cycleIf you'd like to know more about what coaching with me looks like, please email me at Heidi@masteringmidlifewithheidi.com or schedule a Clar...2024-11-0416 min
Negotiation with Alice56: How can I convince people to stop apologizing?Send us a textBoard certified hypnotist and mindset coach, Heidi Gustafson, chats with Alice about why constantly apologizing is detrimental to our mindset in life. Heidi Gustafson is a Board-Certified Hypnotist, Mindset Coach, and host of the "Mastering Midlife with Heidi" podcast. Her mission is to help midlife women overcome people pleasing, perfectionism, and burnout and say YES to putting themselves first and living their best life now! Through her programs and private coaching, she teaches women how to harness the power of their subconscious mind to have positive self talk, healthy...2024-10-2323 minMastering Midlife with Heidi48. More Life Lessons from an Ex People-Pleasing Procrastinating PerfectionistIf you've ever hesitated to ask for help, felt trapped by your commitments, or lost touch with your true self, this is your wake-up call. In this episode, you’ll learn:The three lessons that shattered my people-pleasing, perfectionist mindsetWhy asking for help is a sign of strength, not weaknessThe liberating truth about changing your mind - even in major life decisionsIf you'd like to know more about what coaching with me looks like, please email me at Heidi@masteringmidlifewithheidi.com or schedule a Clarity Call: https://calendly.com/heidi-gustafson.Get on my ema...2024-10-2121 minMastering Midlife with Heidi47. 10 Lessons I Learned About Boundaries & Self Worth In A Hot Yoga ClassAfter 15 years of practicing hot yoga, I’ve learned quite a few lessons that go way beyond the mat. But don’t worry, YOU don't have to know a thing about yoga or bend yourself into a pretzel to learn these lessons too. In this episode you’ll learn:The 10 surprising life lessons I picked up in hot yogaThe everyday struggles we face when we don't set boundaries or value ourselves enoughHow to start applying these lessons to your life, set healthy boundaries, and protect your self worthDownload the free guide to apply these 10 Lessons: https...2024-10-0723 minMastering Midlife with Heidi46. Boundaries: Are You Being Rude & Selfish? A Listener QuestionSetting boundaries is one thing, but enforcing them can sometimes leave you feeling guilty and rude. In this episode, you’ll learn:Why we might feel like we’re being rude when setting or enforcing boundariesHow to enforce boundaries without feeling “rude”Three simple strategies you can use to know your limits, communicate your needs, and build healthy relationshipsGet on the waitlist for Your 30-Day Roadmap to FINALLY Set & Maintain Healthy, Strong Boundaries: https://www.masteringmidlifewithheidi.com/boundarieschallengeIf you'd like to know more about what coaching with me looks like, please email me...2024-09-2328 minMastering Midlife with Heidi45. The Avoidance Trap That Causes Us to Not Set BoundariesHave you been avoiding certain situations or conversations in order to maintain your sense of control? In this episode, you’ll learn:Four reasons we put limits on ourselves Real life examples of things we avoid in order to not feel discomfort or not disappoint othersHow this pattern of avoidance results in a diminished version of ourselves and what we can do to address it"Avoidance Guide" - This guide helps you determine what’s really at the source of the situation or feeling you’re avoiding. It’s the full list of 25 ways we avoid setting b...2024-09-0918 minMastering Midlife with Heidi44. Boundary Mistakes People Make & How They Add Stress To Your LifeAre you always trying to be everything to everyone and repeatedly make exceptions for the boundaries you’ve set? In this episode, you’ll learn:What leaky boundaries are and seven ways to gauge if you have holes in your boundary bucketFour ways that leaky boundaries negatively impact you and add unnecessary stress to your lifeA simple exercise to help you start taking back control and ease some of that stressIf you'd like to know more about what coaching with me looks like, please email me at Heidi@masteringmidlifewithheidi.com or schedule a Clarity Call: https...2024-08-2619 min
The Mater PodcastEarth Materials with Heidi Gustafson & Belinda Blignaut On ochre, wild clay and foraging! This week I am joined by the magnetic pairing that is Heidi Gustafson and Belinda Blignaut. When I first came across the sculptures of the artist Belinda Blignaut I was blown away by them. Made from unprocessed clay and other found materials from her immediate surroundings, tapping into ideas around transformation. Though it took me a long time to actually reach out to Belinda and tell her what a fan I was, images of her works have been pasted on my studio wall and saved on Instagram for several years.When...2024-08-2358 minMastering Midlife with Heidi43. Saying 'Sorry' Is Damaging Your Self Worth! How to Stop Over ApologizingDo you find yourself apologizing too much, even for things you don’t need to be sorry for? In this episode, you’ll learn:The five reasons we feel the need to apologize so muchHow over-apologizing impacts our relationships and our self worthTwo things you can do today to start breaking this devastating habitIf you'd like to know more about what coaching with me looks like, please email me at Heidi@masteringmidlifewithheidi.com or schedule a Clarity Call: https://calendly.com/heidi-gustafson.eBook: 58 Life Lessons of an Ex People-Pleasing Procrastinating PerfectionistDownlo...2024-08-1218 min
My Golden LifeLogical Levels of Change with Heidi GustafsonIn this episode, I interview Certified Hypnotherapist and Life Coach for women in midlife Heidi Gustafson. We talk about her story, a little bit about hypnosis and the logical levels of change. There's quite a bit here on values and belief here also. Here are the links where you can find Heidi:
Thirty Days Boundaries Challenge
Twenty Ways to Say No without Guilt
5-4-3-2-1 Transformational/Relaxation 5 minute Audio Mastering Midlife with Heidi Podcast
You can find me at https://www.lisaknellercoaching.com
Sensational Second Half of Lif...2024-08-1036 minMastering Midlife with Heidi42. How Feeling Guilty & Selfish Destroys Your Self WorthConstant feelings of guilt and selfishness can be devastating to your self-esteem, making you feel uncomfortable talking about yourself, worried about being seen as self-centered, and afraid to say no or express your true feelings. In this episode, you’ll learn:The three reasons why so many of us feel guilty and selfish so oftenThe way these feelings can negatively impact our lives Three quick techniques you can use to rewire your brain anytime you’re feeling guilty or selfish Are you ready to create a life you don't need a vacation from? StressMas in July begins...2024-07-2924 minMastering Midlife with Heidi41. How I FINALLY Learned to Set Boundaries From a Toxic RelationshipDo you struggle with saying no, justifying negative behavior, changing yourself to fit others' expectations, or feeling resentful when your kindness isn't reciprocated? Setting and upholding healthy boundaries is a common struggle for many women I talk to. In this episode you’ll learn:The aha moment that made me realize that my unhealthy or nonexistent boundaries had attracted and gotten me into an abusive relationshipWhy setting boundaries is crucial for protecting your emotional well-being and building strong relationshipsFive easy ways to test how healthy your boundaries are Are you ready to create a life you don...2024-07-1525 minMastering Midlife with Heidi40. Stop Second-Guessing Yourself: Mastering Self-Trust as a People PleaserI’m doing something a little different this week and answering a powerful question from a listener about learning how to trust our own decision-making. In this episode, you’ll learn:How we become trained to doubt ourselves from a young ageWhat it really means to be selfish and how it affects our people-pleasing behaviorsA powerful exercise you can use to shift any situation that's causing you to doubt your judgmentIf you'd like to know more about what coaching with me looks like, please email me at Heidi@masteringmidlifewithheidi.com or schedule a Clarity Call: https...2024-07-0123 minMastering Midlife with Heidi39. The People Pleasing Trap: I’m Not Happy Unless YOU Are Happy!Does your people pleasing behavior have you feeling like you don’t even know who you are anymore? In this episode, you’ll learn:Why you can’t depend on others for your happiness and what problems arise when you doThree steps you can take to break free from the trap of people-pleasing and start listening to your own voiceA powerful exercise you can do today to reclaim your happiness, silence your self doubt, and discover yourself againIf you'd like to know more about what coaching with me looks like, please email me at Heidi@masteri...2024-06-1726 minMastering Midlife with Heidi38. Breaking Free from Perfectionism: 10 Simple StepsPerfectionism is a thief of happiness, joy, feeling successful, calm, content, fulfilled, or any feeling we'd like to have. It's an exhausting behavior that often causes chronic stress and burnout. But, you don't have to stay stuck in the cycle! In this episode, you’ll learn:What causes us to get into perfectionism and how it manifests in our livesReasons why we get stuck in this cycle10 simple steps to take to break free of these chains that hold you back and keep you playing smallIf you'd like to know more about what coaching with me...2024-06-0323 minMastering Midlife with Heidi37. Are You A People Pleaser Who Breaks Promises to Yourself?Do you find it easier to keep the promises you make to others but struggle with the ones you make to yourself? In this episode, you’ll learn:How breaking promises to ourselves can affect our mental healthThe subconscious habits and beliefs that lead us to prioritize others over ourselvesPractical strategies and exercises to help you uncover deep-rooted fears and motivations, enabling you to create lasting change and honor the commitments you make to yourselfIf you'd like to know more about what coaching with me looks like, please email me at Heidi@masteringmidlifewithheidi.com or sche...2024-05-2026 minMastering Midlife with Heidi36. Part 2: 7 Harmful Myths About People PleasingWelcome to part two of our series diving into the harmful myths that keep us trapped in the cycle of people pleasing and self-sacrifice. Tune in as we continue debunking these myths and learning how to break free from their grip. In this episode, you’ll learn:4 more myths that perpetuate people pleasing behaviors The importance of recognizing and challenging these mythsActionable steps you can take to dispelling these unhelpful myths If you'd like to know more about what coaching with me looks like, please email me at Heidi@masteringmidlifewithheidi.com.Download my FREE guide...2024-05-0627 minMastering Midlife with Heidi35. Part 1: 7 Harmful People Pleasing MythsThe pervasive nature of people pleasing can leave us feeling stuck in roles of perfectionism and guilt, suppressing our true selves and hindering authentic connections. Let's break free from this debilitating pattern so you can live the rest of your life in the freedom of interdependent relationships instead of the constricting codependent relationships that people pleasing inevitably creates. In this episode, you’ll learn:The ideas we’re conditioned to believe, that keep us trapped in a devastating cycle of people pleasing and guiltHarmful myths that can keep us stuck in people pleasing.Steps you can take to begi...2024-04-2223 minMastering Midlife with Heidi34. Procrastination: The Secret To What Causes Us To Put Things OffIs procrastination holding you back from living the life you want? Tune in for a fresh perspective on this sometimes debilitating behavior and what you can do to address it. In this episode, you’ll learn:Common misconceptions about procrastination and what it really isThe role emotions and feelings play in procrastinationHow you can address the underlying causes of procrastination and transform your lifeJoin the Me First Community, where you'll learn to prioritize your needs and desires, gain confidence and a strong sense of who you are, say no without guilt and create a life tha...2024-04-0824 minMastering Midlife with Heidi33. Worried About What Other People Think? How To Stop This Harmful PatternDo you find yourself trapped in a cycle of worrying about what others think? It's a common struggle that affects our confidence, self-worth, and ultimately, our decisions. But why do we care so much, and more importantly, how can we break free from this cycle? In this episode, you'll learn:The biological roots of our concern for others' opinionsPractical exercises to shift your perspective on judgment and build internal trustThe inspiring story of a client who discovered the true source of her fear of judgment and used it to reclaim her powerJoin the Me First...2024-03-2519 minMastering Midlife with Heidi32. Terrified To Speak Up? What It's Costing You & What To Do About ItDoes the fear of judgment or rejection have you hesitating to speak your mind? Speaking our truths can be challenging, but withholding our authentic selves can lead to frustration, resentment, and hinder our personal growth. In this episode, I’ll share with you why many of us find it so difficult to speak our truths, the repercussions of staying silent, and the steps you can take toward reclaiming your voice, even when it feels daunting.Join the Me First Community, where you'll learn to prioritize your needs and desires, gain confidence and a strong sense of who yo...2024-03-1121 minMastering Midlife with Heidi31. How My People Pleasing Attracted A Toxic Relationship & 5 Steps I Took To HealRealizing that I was in a toxic relationship with a man I had married just months before opened my eyes to the devastating effects that people pleasing tendencies can have. In this episode, I’m opening up about what I discovered I was doing to attract toxic relationships in my life, the 5 steps I took to heal, and what changes I made to actually begin repelling toxic people and reclaiming my self-worth.Join the Me First Community, where you'll learn to prioritize your needs and desires, gain confidence and a strong sense of who you are, say no...2024-02-2621 minMastering Midlife with Heidi30. The Worst Question People Pleasers Ask Themselves & What To Ask InsteadDo you find yourself constantly asking "why" questions? Why did I do that? Why can't I get control of my eating? Why am I so disorganized? Then you’re definitely going to want to hear the four reasons why the “why” questions can be detrimental to your personal growth, especially for people pleasers. I’ll also share with you what you can do to shift this narrative and create positive change in your life.Giveaway Details:Enter to win a chance at a $25 Amazon gift card. I’ll draw twice, so you’ll have two chances...2024-02-1221 minMastering Midlife with Heidi29. 7 Life-Changing Lessons of An Ex People-Pleasing Procrastinating PerfectionistIn this special anniversary episode, I'm celebrating the one-year milestone of this podcast, my 61st birthday, and the podcast's top 10% global ranking. Join the festivities as I share with you the life-changing lessons I’ve learned on my journey to becoming a recovered people-pleasing procrastinating perfectionist. Plus, don’t miss your chance to win an Amazon gift card!Read the rest of the life-changing lessons in the eBook: https://www.masteringmidlifewithheidi.com/shop/p/llebook Join the Me First Community, where you'll learn to prioritize your needs and desires, gain confidence and a strong sense of wh...2024-01-2922 minMastering Midlife with Heidi28. Is Your People Pleasing Actually About Control?People pleasers do what they can to keep others happy, but many times we don't realize that this is a way we maintain control. In today's episode, I'll be sharing what compels us to want to control so much in our lives, and how a single question helped me let go of my 17-year marriage. Stay tuned to the very end because I'm also going to give you 5 things you can do to lessen the grip on your need to control.Join the Me First Community, where you'll learn to prioritize your needs and desires, gain confidence a...2024-01-1518 minMastering Midlife with Heidi27. The ULTIMATE Secret to Keeping Your New Year’s Resolutions!A shocking 92% of New Year's resolutions fail every year. But, you can avoid falling into this statistic! In this episode, I’m giving you the 3 science-based reasons why it’s so difficult to make lasting changes with resolutions, and sharing the ultimate secret to create change that lasts. Tune in if you want to keep your resolutions!Join the Me First Community, where you'll learn to prioritize your needs and desires, gain confidence and a strong sense of who you are, say no without guilt and create a life that feels good in your heart, without concern abou...2024-01-0125 minMastering Midlife with Heidi26. As A People Pleaser, How Being Fired From My Job Was The Best Gift Ever!Three years ago I went through a devastating moment that turned out to be one of the greatest gifts I could ever receive. In this episode, I’ll share how this pivotal chapter of my life led me to question my deep-seated need for external validation and reassess my self worth. I'll also share three practical steps you can use to break free from the trap of people-pleasing and discover your true self worth.Join the Me First Community, where you'll learn to prioritize your needs and desires, gain confidence and a strong sense of who you ar...2023-12-1815 minMastering Midlife with Heidi25. How To Keep Your OWN Peace As A Peacekeeper During The HolidaysDo you spend so much energy keeping the peace between others and then find yourself longing for some peace of your own? Peacekeeping is an exhausting pattern that can lead to putting yourself last. In this episode, I'll share two key reasons why you're stuck in this pattern, plus a powerful strategy to break free so that you can finally have some peace too! Are you ready for an unforgettable holiday challenge? The 12 Days of StressMas is back and begins December 4, 2023. This free challenge is the easiest, non-challenging challenge you'll ever do! Just watch a 5 minute video...2023-12-0418 minMastering Midlife with Heidi24. Are You The Peacekeeper? 4 Ways To Stay Sane During The HolidaysThe holiday season brings hustle & bustle, additional spending, and additional pressure for things to be perfect and for everyone to be happy. In this episode, I'll be sharing why this can cause increased stress for those who are people pleasers and often playing the role of peacekeeper. Plus, I'll give you a 4-part method that you can use to break the unhealthy cycle of living in a stressed state.Are you ready for an unforgettable holiday challenge? The 12 Days of StressMas is back and begins December 4, 2023. This free challenge is the easiest, non-challenging challenge you'll ever do...2023-11-2022 minMastering Midlife with Heidi23. Curious To Know If You're Codependent? Ask Yourself These 10 QuestionsCodependency has had such a deep impact on my life and I’m ready to explore it more deeply with you. In this episode, we’ll discuss the origins of codependent behaviors, the distinctions between codependency and people-pleasing, and the 10 questions you can ask yourself to assess if codependency might be playing a role in your life. Tune in to learn how to identify and address these behaviors so you can break free from the grip of codependency and become your true self.Join the Me First Community, where you'll learn to prioritize your needs and desires, gain...2023-11-0618 minMastering Midlife with Heidi22. The Hidden Price of Being Nice; 3 Differences Between Being Kind & NiceThere are two words that I’ve been mixing up my whole life and you might be too. In this episode, I’ll share with you the profound differences between being nice and being kind, why only one of them helps you to actually be your authentic self, and the 3 questions you can ask yourself to determine which one is directing the choices you make.Join the Me First Community, where you'll learn to prioritize your needs and desires, gain confidence and a strong sense of who you are, say no without guilt and create a life that...2023-10-2322 minMastering Midlife with Heidi21. 3 Lies People Pleasers Tell Themselves & How They Keep Us StuckEver feel like you're stuck in a cycle of people-pleasing and self-doubt? In this episode, I’ll reveal three common lies that people pleasers tell themselves, and how these beliefs can keep us trapped in frustration and resentment. Join me as I share my personal experiences and valuable insights on breaking free from these limiting beliefs, so you can live a more authentic and fulfilling life.Join the Me First Community, where you'll learn to prioritize your needs and desires, gain confidence and a strong sense of who you are, say no without guilt and create a li...2023-10-0918 minMastering Midlife with Heidi20. 4 Secrets to Stay Healthy Without Medication From My 92 Year Old MomMy 92 year old mom is as sharp as a tack and as healthy as a horse. In today's episode, I'm sharing her 4 secrets to living a long and fulfilling life. The best news? They're all really simple things that you can implement in your own life!In this episode, I'm also celebrating 1000 podcast downloads - something that was just a dream only 9 months ago! I learned how to start my podcast from Julia, The Podcast Teacher™. If podcasting is a dream of yours, check out her signature program, Podcast Startup Academy, and tell her I sent you. En...2023-09-2513 minMastering Midlife with Heidi19. 3 Things You Must Do to Help You Get Through Difficult SituationsIn this episode, I share a deeply personal and unexpected experience from my Labor Day weekend that forced me to reexamine how I react to life's curveballs. I discuss the importance of responding rather than reacting, being your own advocate, and adopting the mindset of "I'm willing to see this differently." Join me in exploring these valuable lessons in handling difficult situations with grace and resilience.Join the Me First Community, where you'll learn to prioritize your needs and desires, gain confidence and a strong sense of who you are, say no without guilt and create a...2023-09-1122 minMastering Midlife with Heidi18. One Thing My SCUBA Experience Taught Me About Self TrustWhat's the best way to give yourself freedom and feel amazing about your life without relying on what others think? If you experience the need for approval from external sources, you don't want to miss the answer in today's episode. I'm sharing the experience I had on my first SCUBA dive in the Caribbean and the surprising connection to external validation.Join the Me First Community, where you'll learn to prioritize your needs and desires, gain confidence and a strong sense of who you are, say no without guilt and create a life that feels good in...2023-08-2820 minMastering Midlife with Heidi17. Are You Stuck in People Pleasing? FOG (Fear, Obligation, Guilt) Is The ReasonAre you afraid of disappointing others or of being judged? Do you often do things out of a sense of loyalty or duty to avoid being seen as bad or unforgiving? Do you feel selfish for putting yourself first or for saying no? If you said yes to any of these, tune in because being in this people pleasing FOG is what we're talking about in today's episode.Join the Me First Community, where you'll learn to prioritize your needs and desires, gain confidence and a strong sense of who you are, say no without guilt and...2023-08-1417 minMastering Midlife with Heidi16. Think You Might Be A People Pleaser? 7 Signs & What To Do About ItMany people view people-pleasing as a good thing, a positive trait. It can be, when driven by genuine love and generosity. But if your people-pleasing is coming from a fear of not being liked, conflict, being rejected, etc., there's a catch. Tune in to hear about 7 signs that might show you that you're being nice for the wrong reasons, and how to start overcoming "the disease to please."Ready to break free from defeating patterns and toxic self-doubt to master your success and happiness? Join our live 90-minute monthly workshops and uncover your blind spots, learn practical...2023-07-3118 minMastering Midlife with Heidi15. Are You Addicted to Stress? 3 Steps to Break The Stress HabitStress is no fun and has many negative side effects. Yet, many of us spend a lot of time in this state and some almost wear it as a badge of honor. Do you want to stop living in survival mode? In this episode, I'm breaking down how and why our bodies and brains get addicted to stress, and what you can do to kick stress to the curb. Are you ready to create a life you don't need a vacation from? StressMas in July begins July 20th and is an easy way to prioritize your well-being...2023-07-1719 min
The Warrior Artist'Stop everything and pursue what you want to pursue. Now is the time' - Annie Hogg's creative journey [19]Annie Hogg is a visual artist based in Co. Tipperary, Ireland. After graduating with a Diploma in Fine Art from the Crawford College of Art and Design, Cork in 2001 and a BA in sculpture from Aki College of Art in The Netherlands in 2002, Annie worked and lived in environmental protest camps and learned organic horticulture.
When Annie Hogg was in art college, her interest in the environment was dismissed as not being 'real art', causing her to abandon her art practice. Twenty years later, her work gravitates around the themes of solastalgia, ecopsychology and transformation. She uses pl...2023-07-071h 02Mastering Midlife with Heidi14. Dislike The Reflection You See in the Mirror? Change It To One You Love!Do you look in the mirror and see someone that you deeply love as much as a dear friend? I've despised the person looking back at me, for reasons deeper than physical appearance. In today's episode, I'm sharing how negative perceptions develop and why we end up holding onto them, even when we know they're not benefiting us. Tune in to look at your reflection in a brand new way. Are you ready to create a life you don't need a vacation from? StressMas in July begins July 20th and is an easy way to prioritize your...2023-07-0321 minMastering Midlife with Heidi13. 3 Ways to Inner Peace: Find More Happiness in MidlifeWhat is happiness and why does it feel so elusive at times? In this episode, I'm shining a light on the connection between happiness and inner peace, and 3 things to look at so that you can live a peaceful, happy life on a daily basis. Ready to break free from defeating patterns and toxic self-doubt to master your success and happiness? Join our live 90-minute monthly workshops and uncover your blind spots, learn practical tools, and create the life you want! Don't let fear and doubt hold you back any longer - visit www.masteringmidlifewithheidi.com/workshops...2023-06-1921 minMastering Midlife with Heidi12. Are Your Burnout and Lack of Boundaries Related? 5 Ways to KnowAre you feeling perpetually overwhelmed, drained, and teetering on the edge? Could these feelings be more closely tied to your personal boundaries than you realize? Through exploring my own experiences with burnout and boundary-setting, I'll uncover five key signs that these two might be interconnected.Ready to break free from defeating patterns and toxic self-doubt to master your success and happiness? Join our live 90-minute monthly workshops and uncover your blind spots, learn practical tools, and create the life you want! Don't let fear and doubt hold you back any longer - visit www.masteringmidlifewithheidi.com/workshops...2023-06-0521 minMastering Midlife with Heidi11. Say 'Sorry' A Lot? How Over Apologizing Impacts ConfidenceDo you say 'sorry' a lot? Most often, the situation doesn't actually warrant an apology. Over apologizing sends the message that you've done something wrong or didn't try hard enough. Tune in for ways to reframe 'sorry' so that you can improve your confidence, self-esteem, and communication skills. Ready to break free from defeating patterns and toxic self-doubt to master your success and happiness? Join our live 90-minute monthly workshops and uncover your blind spots, learn practical tools, and create the life you want! Don't let fear and doubt hold you back any longer - visit www...2023-05-2219 minMastering Midlife with Heidi10. How to Stop The Cycle of When-Then ThinkingHave you ever thought "when X happens, then I'll do Y"? If so, this thinking could be stealing your happiness from the present moment. Tune in to find out the circumstances in which "when-then" thinking is helpful, and those in which it is not. Plus, discover why this is a common thinking pattern and what you can do to stop it.Ready to break free from defeating patterns and toxic self-doubt to master your success and happiness? Join our live 90-minute monthly workshops and uncover your blind spots, learn practical tools, and create the life you want...2023-05-0818 min
KPFA - Terra VerdeThe Art and Science of Earth PigmentsOchres, iron oxides, and earth pigments are humankind’s oldest art material. For ochre researcher and artist Heidi Gustafson, they are also an invitation to challenge how we interact with the inanimate world, and to deepen our respect, reciprocity, creativity, and connection with the lands we live on.
In this week’s episode of Terra Verde, Heidi joins host Fiona McLeod to share about her rare working collection of more than six hundred ochers from around the world, and to discuss her new book, Book of Earth: A Guide to Ochre, Pigment, and Raw Color. Art meets scie...2023-05-0529 minMastering Midlife with Heidi9. Are You A People-Pleasing Procrastinating Perfectionist?Are you a people-pleasing, procrastinating perfectionist? If so, you're not alone! Tune in to learn about the "trifecta of Ps," how these behaviors feed off each other, and what you can do to break the patterns to live a more fulfilling life.Ready to break free from defeating patterns and toxic self-doubt to master your success and happiness? Join our live 90-minute monthly workshops and uncover your blind spots, learn practical tools, and create the life you want! Don't let fear and doubt hold you back any longer - visit www.masteringmidlifewithheidi.com/workshops now to check...2023-04-2421 minMastering Midlife with Heidi8. How You Add Stress To Your Life Part 2Does your stress seem kind of like an appendage? It may feel like it's a part of you, something you can't put down. If so, you're not alone...I've been there! In the second half of this two-part series, I'll uncover even more things you're probably doing and how they unknowingly contribute to the stress that feels attached to you.Stop letting stress control your life! Register for the Mastering Stress Workshop on April 20, 2023. A replay is available for anyone registered.Do you want 1 on 1 support to define your goals, face your barriers, and receive...2023-04-1023 minMastering Midlife with Heidi7. 9 Ways You Add Stress To Your Life Part 1Do you frequently feel like you're living in survival mode just getting through the day In the first episode of this two-part series, I'll uncover some things you're probably doing and how they may unknowingly contribute to the stress you experience in your life. These are the exact reasons why you are not getting what you want, whether in your relationships, finances, work, or health.Stop letting stress control your life! Register for the Mastering Stress Workshop on April 20, 2023. A replay is available for anyone registered. Do you want 1 on 1 support to define your goals...2023-03-2722 minMastering Midlife with Heidi6. What's Stealing Your Inner Peace? Here's a Radical Way To Find OutDo you crave inner peace but find yourself struggling to attain it? In this episode, I'll explore the elusive concept of inner peace, uncover the reasons why we often fail to achieve it, and present a radical challenge that will help you finally discover what's holding you back.Do you want 1 on 1 support to define your goals, face your barriers, and receive tailored steps for lasting change? Contact me at Heidi@masteringmidlifewithheidi.com to schedule a complimentary connection call.Download my FREE guide: 20 Ways To Say "No" Without Guilt.This episode was produced b...2023-03-1318 minMastering Midlife with Heidi5. THE Most Important Relationship You'll Ever HaveFor many of us, putting others first is as automatic as putting on a seatbelt. This leads to abandoning our own needs and can prevent us from developing an essential, positive, relationship with ourselves. Today, I’m discussing why this happens, the associated costs, and some ways that you can create a relationship with yourself, no matter how old you are!Learn about the THRIVERS 10 week group program. Enrollment for the session beginning in February 2023 is open now! Stop surviving and start thriving. Get the framework to rid yourself of the thoughts of being stuck, disc...2023-02-2722 minMastering Midlife with Heidi4. True Self Care Is Not Selfish & Maybe Not What You ThinkWe're talking about self care today, but not just any self care! I call it “radical self care,” and it's vitally important to your inner peace and living your very best life. Tune in to hear about four key areas to focus on and four questions to ask yourself to evaluate how you are doing in the area of self care.Learn about the THRIVERS 10 week group program. Enrollment for the session beginning in February 2023 is open now! Stop surviving and start thriving. Get the framework to rid yourself of the thoughts of being stuck, discon...2023-02-1324 min
Unleash Your Healing PotentialHealing from People Pleasing with Heidi GustafsonIn this episode, Lyn speaks with Heidi Gustafson about her journey to heal her life long issue with people pleasing. Heidi shares how she realized she was a people pleaser at the end of her third marriage and the journey that helped her to uncover honoring her true self. Lyn and Heidi also speak about how common people pleasing is, especially for women and that this behavior is actually a desire to control situations. Heidi shares some wisdom about how to know if you are a people pleaser and what to do to begin to address it...2023-02-1037 minMastering Midlife with Heidi3. People Pleasing - It’s Not Your Behaviors You Need To ChangeI spent 50 years addicted to people pleasing and self-sabotage. I finally overcame it, but not by changing my behaviors (surprise!). Tune in to hear the story of my “aha” moment and what finally worked to break this pattern. For more information about coaching options, please email me at Heidi@masteringmidlifewithheidi.com. Learn about the THRIVERS 10 week group program. Enrollment for the session beginning in February 2023 is open now! Stop surviving and start thriving. Get the framework to rid yourself of the thoughts of being stuck, disconnected, & overwhelmed, and instead create abundance in your life.2023-01-3016 minMastering Midlife with Heidi2. Are You A People Pleaser Or Just Being Nice?What is the difference between simply being nice and actually being a people pleaser? I dive into this question in today’s episode, including 5 questions that you can ask yourself to determine if you are people pleasing. Plus, learn about the costs and benefits of people-pleasing.Learn about the THRIVERS 10 week group program. Enrollment for the session beginning in February 2023 is open now! Stop surviving and start thriving. Get the framework to rid yourself of the thoughts of being stuck, disconnected, & overwhelmed, and instead create abundance in your life.Download my FREE guide: 20 Ways...2023-01-3025 minMastering Midlife with Heidi1. Welcome to the Mastering Midlife With Heidi PodcastWelcome to the very first episode of Mastering Midlife with Heidi, the podcast! Listen in to hear some of my story and to learn about how this podcast can help guide you to create a life that you love.Learn about the THRIVERS 10 week group program. Enrollment for the session beginning in February 2023 is open now! Stop surviving and start thriving. Get the framework to rid yourself of the thoughts of being stuck, disconnected, & overwhelmed, and instead create abundance in your life.This episode was produced by The Podcast Teacher. Send us...2023-01-3010 minMastering Midlife with HeidiMastering Midlife with HeidiSend us a text2023-01-1802 min
Knitted HeartE10 | Heidi Gustafson | "May the Rocks Be Our Masters."Ben speaks with Pigment Forager, Heidi Gustafson, of Early Futures. Hold on to your butts. This conversation knocked Ben off his. Heidi’s wholehearted devotion to contemplating our past and activating our future through the fully sensory experience of “playing with rocks”, as she says it, has so much to wisdom to teach us, some of it exhilarating, and most of it humbling. The pigment in our rocks and soil whispers living counsel from the hills, from the very ground we walk, excavate, drill, build, and exploit. In this conversation you can hear and feel Heidi’s bleeding heart for us to...2020-07-141h 18
Shifts and Pucks PodcastHockey Podcast-March 2.Flames 3-1-1.Canucks 1-3.Big Deal or No Big Deal?CanucksDemko and Domingue.-Who will be scratched?-DefenceGreen vs PatersonFlames-Backlund Line.-Maturity of Gaudreau-Gustafson ForbortWho's better? Virtanen or Mangiapane.We also discuss Travis Green not talking to Canucks reporter Jeff Paterson.Emergency Goalies.Where were you on Feb 28, 2010?Subscribe to the Hockey Podcast on ;Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-hockey-podcast/id1498263482?ign-mpt=uo%3D4Google:: https...2020-03-031h 30
Weave91: Ochre Earth Pigments with Heidi Gustafson of Early FuturesThis week on the podcast I'm speaking with Heidi of Early Futures. Heidi is an archivist and practitioner of earth pigments that she extracts from landscapes, mostly in the Western United States. Her pigments can be used for an array of making mediums, such as an art practice or medicinal properties. I am especially excited to have her on the podcast because she offers a unique perspective in the realm of nature making and spirituality. I’m incredibly excited to learn about the historical significance and science behind her work.
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