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Life in RelationshipEmotion Regulation & the Natural WorldQuestion: How does nature help with regulation and balance? Dave’s forest therapy training - https://anft.earth/ Emotion Regulation tip #1 - let things be complicated Science and mystery Concrete concepts around ourselves and our bodies as well as spiritual or less concrete concepts around ourselves Emotion Regulation tip #2 - we regulate when we provide a space For each other (co-regulation) For ourselves (self-regulation) We are a part of nature and regulate within nature. We are co...2025-02-1835 min
Life in RelationshipControl & Letting Go: Give it to the TreesQuestion: How do I let go of things I can’t control? A Dave and Heidi story: the cynical season or “life on the edge” and our first forest therapy attempt Learning to let go of the outcome Letting Go Tip #1 - Find a practice of noticing what we don’t control or can’t control Example: stand in the woods or the yard and note the basic elements of nature around you that you can’t control Letting Go Tip #2 - Read Job chapters 38...2025-02-0429 min
Life in RelationshipSeason 7 Trailer - Relationships, Mental Health, & the Natural WorldWelcome to Season 7 of our little podcast! Dave and I are looking forward to a season of talking about three of our very favorite things comingled...well, four really - life in relationships, mental health, the natural world, and spirituality. Some topics and questions you'll find in the conversation this season include: How does nature help with emotion regulation? How do I let go of things I can’t control? What skills can nature teach us about life transition and change? How do I start healing from Spiri...2025-01-2101 min
Life in RelationshipBreaking Up & Moving OnTopic: Topic: How do you break up well?How do I know it’s healthy to start dating again after a divorce or breakup? The weightiness of breakups Reminding us of our need as humans for intimacy There are ways to do break ups “better”, but no way to do it “easy” Keep it classy, kind, and clear Break ups are in a moment, but the work of a break up is long term face to face universally preferred in the research What do you need and what needs healing? Find your support people Consider the...2022-05-2337 min
Life in RelationshipYoung Adulting in a FamilyTopic: How does a family adjust to someone becoming an adult? Developmental realities, independence and angst The reality of Young Adulthood – How do I access independence? A Story: getting your first cold and/or changing your major in college Tip 1 – Celebrate small things of young adulthood baby steps reminds us we are capable telling each other you are capable = part of family life Tip 2 – be mindful of the stages of parenting parenting changes over time and with developmental levels of kids article from Berk...2022-01-2434 min
Life in RelationshipHousehold ChoresQuestion: How do we split up “the chores” of a household? For marriage, roommates, families, etc. Dave & Heidi housekeeping love story Gottman research, wives find spouse doing housework erotic Link: https://www.gottman.com/blog/4-typical-solvable-problems-relationships/ do what works, not what is expected Identifying expectations from other places – culture, family of origin, assumptions equality doesn’t mean 50/50, it’s seeing each other as equals there is no perfection in chore life: dailyness of life together in a household and the value of working on the daily things together even when they aren’t fun name yo...2022-01-1034 min
Life in RelationshipChildhood FriendshipsQuestion: How do we come to terms with the closure of a childhood friendship? What are ways to find contentment and peace when that friend no longer reaches out to us? Submitted by listener, Emily our childhood BFFs Research moment: 1 in 10 friendships survive into adulthood Children practice being a friend and there’s a learning curve. Children are learning how to be humans and learning relationship is part of that. Cultural misunderstandings – childhood friendships are backbones of our relational lives Research shows that having childhood friends...2022-01-0327 min
Life in RelationshipAlways Growing: The Spiritual Practice of ContemplationThe epistles are what I like to think of as “big-word books.” They teach us about abstract concepts like propitiation, redemption, atonement, and righteousness. This can be intimidating, but also enlightening. Today’s spiritual practice gives us grace for when we encounter big words in Scripture or big ideas. Our goal today is to also build our ability to sit in not knowing “the answer” and discovering new ideas about God or new understanding in our relationship with God by simply engaging with His Word. A Reading from Jude from the ESV translat...2021-06-2223 min
Life in RelationshipMinistry Talks: Wellness for the Church Work StudentMinistry Talks 12 – Wellness for the Church Work Student Physical wellness Intellectual wellness Spiritual Wellness Emotional Wellness Relational Wellness Vocational Wellness Wisdom from students Wisdom from professors Wisdom from other church workers Special thanks to: Julianna Shults, YA Corps - https://www.lcms.org/young-adult-corps Dave Rueter, author and ministry leader Deaconess Kristin Wassilak, Concordia University Chicago...2018-12-2740 min
Life in RelationshipMinistry Talks - Ministry Talks: Finances and BudgetingMinistry Talks 9 - Ministry Talks: Finances and Budgeting Psalm 24:1 Matthew 25:14-30 Matthew 25:24 How do we see God? How do we see God in relation to money? we know him to be an abundant God, but that can be hard to live in careful of separating flesh and spirit How are we giving? - Looks different for everyone - Where has God brought us from in giving (money, time, grace) and what is He d...2018-08-0132 min