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The Retirement SpyEpisode #6: Searching for Love in the Golden YearsKeywords retirement, online dating, love, matchmaking, dating coaches, dating platforms, safety, relationships, dating advice, finding love Summary In this episode of The Retirement Spy, Duncan and Hoyt Prisock discuss the challenges and opportunities of finding love in retirement, particularly through online dating. Hoyt shares his personal journey of re-entering the dating scene after divorce, the importance of understanding online dating platforms, and the role of dating coaches and matchmakers. They also touch on the dynamics of online dating, including ghosting and safety concerns, while emphasizing the...
2025-10-0333 min
Behind the SwipeEpisode 32 - Embracing Life and Love with Sandra Mason from The Golden BachelorIn this exciting episode of Behind the Swipe, we sit down with Sandra Mason, the vibrant and inspiring contestant from the recent season of The Golden Bachelor. Sandra shares her incredible journey, from her adventurous move to Atlanta, her bold decision to join the reality show, and her candid reflections on dating and relationships later in life.Join us as Sandra reveals her “why not?” attitude, offering valuable insights into stepping outside your comfort zone and embracing new experiences. We delve into her dating adventures, her thoughts on finding love after 60, and the importance of staying active and...
2024-07-1650 min
Behind the SwipeEpisode 31 - Dating After DivorceIn this enlightening episode of *Behind the Swipe*, host Hoyt Prisock sits down with writer Betsy Morris to explore her deeply personal and inspiring journey back into the dating world after divorce. Betsy shares insights from her blog series, *Adventures in Online Dating*, touching on themes of overcoming anxiety, navigating expectations, creating an authentic profile, learning to filter potential matches, and experiencing personal growth through the process.Betsy opens up about her initial fears and the courage it took to take the plunge into online dating, much like standing on the edge of a diving board...
2024-06-0459 min
Behind the SwipeEpisode 30 - Sorting Out Spiritual DifferencesIn this thought-provoking episode of Behind the Swipe, we sit down with Dr. Amy Robbins, a clinical psychologist and spiritual intuitive, to discuss how the awareness of death can shape our understanding of life and influence our relationships. Dr. Robbins shares her insights on spiritual compatibility, particularly the complexities and nuances for those over 50 navigating the online dating world. This episode delves deep into how embracing our spiritual essence can lead to more authentic and fulfilling relationships. We explore the challenges spiritually aware individuals face when seeking partners and how differences in spiritual paths can impact relationship dynamics. Whether...
2024-05-1444 min
Behind the SwipeEpisode 29 - Julie's Journey - PregamingWelcome to the premiere of "Julie's Journey: A Behind the Swipe Dating Makeover." In this enlightening first episode, host Hoyt Prisock and returning guest Cindy Hopper, a seasoned therapist from Atlanta, explore the critical first steps of re-entering the dating scene. Together, they delve into the emotional and practical aspects of crafting an authentic online dating profile for Julie, a vibrant single mom in her mid-fifties ready to take on the world of online dating with a fresh perspective. They discuss the importance of self-awareness, the impact of past relationships, and how to set realistic expectations without compromising genuine...
2024-05-0755 min
Behind the SwipeJulie's Journey - Series PreviewIn this bonus episode of "Behind the Swipe," host Hoyt Prisock introduces an exciting new series titled "Julie's Journey," which promises to transform theoretical knowledge of online dating into practical, real-life application. The series will closely follow Julie, a vibrant and active single mom in her mid-fifties, as she reenters the dating world with a fresh commitment to authenticity and high standards. After previous disheartening experiences with online dating, Julie is ready to dive back in with a renewed sense of self, equipped with expert guidance from life and dating coaches. The series aims to explore not just the...
2024-04-3004 min
Behind the SwipeEpisode 28 - NarcissismThis week on Behind the Swipe, host Hoyt Prisock welcomes therapist Hilary Woodman, an expert in narcissistic personality disorder, for a deep dive into the complexities of narcissism in relationships. Hilary unpacks the clinical aspects of narcissism, distinguishing it from simple egocentrism, and sheds light on how these traits manifest in harmful ways within intimate relationships.Throughout the episode, Hilary discusses the defining characteristics of narcissism, such as a marked lack of empathy and a tendency to exploit personal interactions. With a blend of professional insights and relatable examples, she explains how to spot the difference between...
2024-04-1658 min
Behind the SwipeEpisode 27 - Talk It Out, Don't Tough it OutIn this engaging episode of Behind the Swipe, titled "Talk It Out, Don't Tough It Out," host Hoyt Prisock sits down with therapist Armann Fenger to explore the critical early stages of relationships. The conversation focuses on the inevitable "glitch" — those initial moments of conflict or misunderstanding that test the budding connection between partners. Armann, with his blend of professional expertise and relatable insights, challenges the traditional "tough it out" mentality, advocating instead for the transformative power of open communication.The episode delves into how fears and misunderstandings can manifest differently in men and women, shaped by so...
2024-04-0956 min
Behind the SwipeEpisode 26 - Best of Season 1In this special episode of "Behind the Swipe," host Hoyt Prisock takes us on a journey back through the pivotal moments of season one, weaving together the rich tapestry of online dating experiences for those venturing into love's digital frontier in their later years. Highlights include a deep dive into the nature of rebound relationships from episode two, where the conversation transcends the superficial to touch on the profound need for validation and connection after the end of long-term relationships.We also revisit insights on the complexities of engaging with newly single partners from a female perspective, e...
2024-04-0253 min
Behind the SwipeEpisode 25 - The Alchemy of "Us"In this profoundly personal episode of Behind the Swipe, we delve into the world of early-stage dating relationships with the esteemed Wendy Palmer Patterson. With over 40 years dedicated to enhancing the fabric of romantic partnerships through Imago Therapy, Wendy's wisdom is a beacon for those navigating the often turbulent waters of love, especially in the digital age.As your host, I've had the privilege of Wendy's guidance in my own life, an experience that's not only transformative but deeply cherished. Her approach, focusing on the 'us' in relationships as a separate, nurturable entity, has opened my eyes...
2024-03-261h 01
Behind the SwipeEpisode 24 - My Neurochemical RomanceIn this week's episode of Behind the Swipe we delve into the intricate dance between love and the potent neurochemicals that guide our hearts and decisions in the realm of online dating, especially for those navigating the scene in their 40s, 50s, and beyond.Join host Hoyt Prisock and guest expert Dawn Maslar-Biggie, author of "Men Chase, Women Choose" and renowned as the Love Biologist, as they explore the fascinating world where biology meets emotion. This episode sheds light on how hormones such as dopamine, oxytocin, and vasopressin play pivotal roles from the initial...
2024-03-1953 min
Behind the SwipeEpisode 23 - Bouncing Back After HeartbreakIn this episode of Behind the Swipe, host Hoyt Prisock welcomes back Dr. Karin Luise to explore the process of healing from past emotional wounds stemming from relationships. Dr. Karin, an accomplished author and life coach, shares profound insights from both her professional expertise and personal experiences, offering listeners valuable guidance on navigating the journey of healing and self-discovery.The conversation initially focuses on the significance of acknowledging one's emotional pain and the necessity of taking responsibility for one's healing journey. Dr. Karin emphasizes the empowerment that arises from moving beyond a victim mentality and facing one's...
2024-03-121h 00
Behind the SwipeEpisode 22 - AI Meets Online DatingIn this episode of "Behind the Swipe," we delve into the transformative impact of AI on online dating, guided by the wisdom of Bill Gates who heralds AI as a pivotal breakthrough. We'll explore the nuances of generative AI, its role in enhancing dating profiles, and the ethical boundaries it tests. From the cinematic foresight of "Her" to practical applications like profile enhancement and communication aids, this episode unpacks the complex dance between technology and human connection. Join us as we ponder the future of AI in romance, balancing the marvels of tech with the timeless quest for genuine...
2024-03-0533 min
Behind the SwipeEpisode 21 - Untangling Your Attachment StyleEver wondered why sparks fly with some while with others it's a fizzling dud? With therapist Michelle Morris's expertise, we embark on a captivating exploration of attachment styles in relationships, discovering the profound ways our earliest bonds influence our pursuit of love and connection. Together, we tackle the transition from childhood patterns to adult relationships, offering a roadmap to navigate the intricate maze of human bonds.As we journey deeper, Michelle and I uncover the transformative power of Imago relationship therapy—how it illuminates the emotional blueprints that cause power struggles and the significance of healing childhood wo...
2024-02-2757 min
Behind the SwipeEpisode 20 - Between the SheetsPicture rediscovering intimacy after 40—does it spark anxiety or excitement within you? Together with the insightful Christine Baumgartner, we navigate the realms of sex and body confidence, tearing down the barriers of self-doubt and highlighting the universal quest for connection that transcends physical appearance. This candid conversation is an invitation to embrace vulnerability, understand the nuances of attraction, and appreciate the deeper layers of sexual energy that often go unnoticed after long-term relationships have ended.Embarking on the path to fulfilling intimacy demands more than a physical connection; it requires a dance of communication and self-awareness. We un...
2024-02-201h 08
Behind the SwipeEpisode 19 - Be Your Own Damn ValentineIn this special Valentine's episode "Be Your Own Damn Valentine," Hoyt and guest co-host Sadie Marie from "Divorced and Happy" delve into the essence of self-love and empowerment. They explore the rich history of Valentine's Day, tracing its origins from ancient traditions to its current status as a day of romance, and challenge listeners to redefine the holiday as a celebration of self. Sadie shares her inspiring journey of rediscovery and joy after divorce, highlighting the importance of finding happiness within. This episode is a call to embrace independence and cherish one's own company, illustrating that true contentment and...
2024-02-1354 min
Pursue Your Spark: Strength & Forward Motion in Midlife206. Finding Love After 40 In The Digital Age/ft. Hoyt Prisock Our guest, Hoyt Prisock, the innovative creator behind a successful online speed dating platform, launched with Match.com nearly two decades ago. Hoyt, who found himself navigating the online dating world after a long marriage, has since become a seasoned voice in this arena, offering unique insights through his podcast, 'Behind the Swipe.' Hoyt shared his perspective on how the dynamics of online dating differ substantially for individuals in midlife compared to younger generations. He provided thoughtful commentary on the unique mindset challenges encountered by men and women re-entering the dating scene later in life, emphasizing...
2024-02-0838 min
Behind the SwipeEpisode 18 - Embracing Your "Discomfort" ZoneResistance to change is a natural human condition. But if you are online dating in your forties, fifties or beyond, a change is exactly what you are looking for. In this episode, with therapist Cindy Hopper, we uncover how adopting a beginner's mind and inviting discomfort into our lives can lead to profound growth. We're not just talking romance here; it's about smashing through the barriers that life tends to throw at us, with a good dose of humor and wisdom to keep things in perspective.Embark on a journey that transcends the mere swiping left or ri...
2024-02-0646 min
Behind the SwipeEpisode 17 - CatfishingHave you ever stumbled upon a profile that seemed too good to be true? Well, buckle up, as Bradley Richardson from Advanced Adulting and I, Hoyt Prisock, expose the dark underbelly of online dating scams that's snaring singles over 50. This episode is a treasure trove of insights, weaving through personal tales and expert advice to shield you from the sophisticated traps of catfishers and romance scammers. We're tearing down the façade of false identities and revealing the emotional manipulation these con artists wield to exploit for financial gain. Prepare to be empowered with the knowledge and tools to n...
2024-01-301h 01
Behind the SwipeEpisode 16 - How to Reverse Engineer Online DatingChristine Baumgartner, founder of The Perfect Catch, joins me this week to explore how online daters can dramatically improve their chances of finding that ideal romantic partner by focusing first on themselves, then on the match they are hoping to find. I call it reverse engineering online dating. Christine brings her profound expertise and practical wisdom to the conversation, helping us shatter common myths about online dating and showing us how to turn our search for love into a journey of self-discovery.This episode takes a compassionate look at the daunting world of dating for widowed men...
2023-11-071h 01
Camp CodgerThe Golden Bachelor and Senior DatingHow a Prime Time TV show called The Golden Bachelor has brought Senior Dating into the Spotlight.
If you haven't heard about The Golden Bachelor show on ABC-TV, you don't watch television. Or surf the Internet, or read newspapers. It seems everybody over the age of 60 is talking about The Golden Bachelor.
Seemingly overnight, America is aware that there are older people (senior citizens!) who are in their 60s and 70s who are single and looking for love. There are old folks who are actively looking for companionship and relationships.
In this episode...
2023-11-0329 minCamp CodgerThe Golden Bachelor and Senior DatingHow a Prime Time TV show called The Golden Bachelor has brought Senior Dating into the Spotlight.
If you haven't heard about The Golden Bachelor show on ABC-TV, you don't watch television. Or surf the Internet, or read newspapers. It seems everybody over the age of 60 is talking about The Golden Bachelor.
Seemingly overnight, America is aware that there are older people (senior citizens!) who are in their 60s and 70s who are single and looking for love. There are old folks who are actively looking for companionship and relationships.
In this episode...
2023-11-0329 minCamp CodgerThe Golden Bachelor and Senior DatingHow a Prime Time TV show called The Golden Bachelor has brought Senior Dating into the Spotlight.
If you haven't heard about The Golden Bachelor show on ABC-TV, you don't watch television. Or surf the Internet, or read newspapers. It seems everybody over the age of 60 is talking about The Golden Bachelor.
Seemingly overnight, America is aware that there are older people (senior citizens!) who are in their 60s and 70s who are single and looking for love. There are old folks who are actively looking for companionship and relationships.
In this episode...
2023-11-0329 min
Camp CodgerThe Golden Bachelor and Senior DatingHow a Prime Time TV show called The Golden Bachelor has brought Senior Dating into the Spotlight.
If you haven't heard about The Golden Bachelor show on ABC-TV, you don't watch television. Or surf the Internet, or read newspapers. It seems everybody over the age of 60 is talking about The Golden Bachelor.
Seemingly overnight, America is aware that there are older people (senior citizens!) who are in their 60s and 70s who are single and looking for love. There are old folks who are actively looking for companionship and relationships.
In this episode...
2023-11-0329 min
Behind the SwipeEpisode 15 - Finding Your SwaggerHow do you date when you are either painfully shy or just introverted? This episode focuses on the evolution of the self-help sub-genre that helps some men learn to better communicate in prospective romantic relationships.My guest today is Dale Valor. He is the author of The Inner Game, a professional dating coach and wing man, AND a former rapper. Dale's style isn't for everyone - but that's exactly his point. He wants to help these challenged men regain confidence to find success in the modern dating world.
2023-11-0145 min
Behind the SwipeEpisode 14 - You say Potato... Dating with DifferencesHave you ever questioned the concept of 'the perfect partner'? In many ways, we are all searching for that ideal person to share our lives with. Yet, we seldom pause to consider how our preconceived notions about perfection could be hindering our dating journey. Get ready to redefine your perception of dating as we firmly dispel the myth of the 'perfect partner', with the help of Karen Haddigan, author of 'Secrets of Dating After 50'. We move beyond the usual dating advice to confront the real issues: age and financial differences in relationships, the influence of online d...
2023-10-2353 min
Behind the SwipeEpisode 13 - A Rose for the Golden BachelorJoin us on a riveting journey alongside Sheri Jacobs, author of the Friendship Diet, as we unpack the nuances of ABC's groundbreaking show, The Golden Bachelor. This episode promises to be an eye-opener as we challenge societal norms and expectations, particularly for the older generation seeking love and companionship. We delve into how the show presents a beacon of hope for many, offering an alternative perspective on aging and the pursuit of love.From highlighting the power of love in one's golden years to exploring intimate communication and cultural barriers, we navigate the maze that is older...
2023-10-1749 min
Behind the SwipeEpisode 12 - Do I Need a Dating Coach?Online Dating is pretty much a DIY thing, right? Buckle up, because you're about to embark on an entertaining and enlightening journey with Jennifer Hurvitz, a dating coach and relationship expert who makes finding love online feel like a skill you can master rather than a game of luck. Jennifer, a best-selling author and the award-winning host of Doing Relationships Right, takes us through her own post-divorce chronicles and how it became the catalyst for her successful career as an author, dating coach and podcaster.This episode is a deep dive into the world of dating coaches...
2023-09-2253 min
Behind the SwipeEpisode 11 - What Men Get Wrong in Their Dating ProfilesI hear from so many women that men just don't know how to build a great profile online. In fact, worse than that... I hear, "What were they thinking????" In this episode, three online daters tell us what men are doing wrong in crafting their online dating profiles and what they can do to increase their chances of online success. Meghan, Shay and Kathryn (along with a cameo appearance by Sharon) don't hold back as they critique the state of the art in fish pictures and "phoned in" profile efforts.
2023-09-1554 min
Behind the SwipeEpisode 10 - Enneagram: What's Your Number?Do you have a "Type?" This week we explore how understanding your Enneagram personality type (and that of your prospective romantic partners) can impact your dating life. My guest co-host this week is Enneagram teacher and coach Emily Wingfield. I wanted to know if there was a "cheat code" for figuring out who you should and should not swipe right on with your dating app.At the end of the day, it's really about understanding yourself.
2023-09-0850 min