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The Human Intimacy PodcastThe Somatic Experience: How the Body Stores Trauma and the Path to Physiological Healing (Episode #95)The Somatic Experience:
How the Body Stores Trauma and the Path to Physiological Healing
In this powerful episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis, LCSW, explore the essential connection between trauma, physiology, and healing through a somatic lens. Drawing on the work of Peter Levine, Bessel van der Kolk, Deb Dana, and polyvagal theory, they highlight how trauma is not only a psychological experience but a physical one stored in the muscles, nervous system, and internal energy of the body.
Dr. Skinner and MaryAnn discuss why individuals—especially betrayed partners—often disconnect from...
2025-12-0333 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastThe Transformative Power of Gratitude: How Noticing the “Why” Deepens Connection (Episode #94)The Transformative Power of Gratitude: How Noticing the “Why” Deepens Connection
In this Thanksgiving-week episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis explore the healing power of gratitude—both in everyday life and in relationships. What begins as a simple conversation about what they’re grateful for quickly deepens into an exploration of why certain people, moments, and memories hold meaning. Drawing on the work of Dr. Martin Seligman, Dr. Skinner emphasizes that identifying the “why” behind our gratitude—not just naming the object of it—creates a more emotionally rich and neurologically uplifting experience.
MaryAnn hi...
2025-11-2624 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastSeeing Our Blind Spots: Why We Make the Choices We Do (Episode #93)Seeing Your Blind Spots:
Why We Make the Choices We Do
In this powerful and reflective episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis explore why people make choices that go against their values—especially in the aftermath of trauma, betrayal, and emotional flooding. Drawing from clinical experience, Internal Family Systems (IFS) language, trauma reenactment, arousal templates, and the science of human behavior, they unpack the subconscious forces that drive unwanted patterns.
The discussion highlights how “firefighter” parts act impulsively to stop emotional pain, why unresolved trauma often leads to rep...
2025-11-1931 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastThe Cost of Judgment: Seeing Ourselves and Others With Compassion (Episode #92)The Cost of Judgment:
Seeing Ourselves and Others Through Compassion
Summary:
In this episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis explore the nature of judgment—how we judge ourselves, others, and the world around us. They unpack how the brain’s natural tendency to predict and protect can lead us to make judgments based on incomplete stories or past experiences. Through real-life examples, including therapy sessions and group work, they illustrate how judgment can distort perception, breed resentment, and disconnect us from others.
Dr. Skinner and MaryAnn emph...
2025-11-1238 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastResilient Couples: How to Stay Strong Through Life’s Hardest Challenges (Episode #91)
Resilient Couples:
How to Stay Strong Through
Life’s Hardest Challenges
Summary:
In this inspiring episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis, LCSW, explore what it means to build resiliency as individuals and as couples—especially in the face of life’s most difficult challenges. Drawing from personal experiences, research, and decades of clinical work, they discuss the essential components of resilience: adaptability, emotional regulation, flexibility, and hope.
The conversation delves into why emotional self-awareness is the foundation of resilient relationships, how couples can “fight well,” and what it means to cr...
2025-11-0535 min
Reclaim: Healing from Pornography and Rebuilding Your Life with Dr. Kevin SkinnerWhat Intimacy Looks Like Without Pornography (Season 1: Episode #12)In this powerful final episode of season one the Reclaim: Healing from Pornography and Rebuilding Your Life* series, Dr. Kevin Skinner explores what true intimacy looks like once pornography is removed from your life. He challenges the counterfeit connection that pornography offers and invites listeners to rediscover authentic intimacy—one that is grounded in emotional safety, presence, and vulnerability.
Dr. Skinner explains that real intimacy is not about performance or fantasy, but about allowing yourself to be seen—fears, desires, hopes, and all. Drawing on Dr. Stephen Porges’ Polyvagal Theory, he describes how safety and emotional connection are prerequisites for genuin...
2025-11-0414 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastWhen You Want Change & Your Partner Isn’t Ready (Episode #89)When You Want Change
&
Your Partner Isn’t Ready
Summary
What happens when one partner is ready to change—but the other isn’t? In this episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis explore how couples navigate this difficult space. Drawing from the Stages of Change model, they explain how relationships often resist change to maintain balance (homeostasis), and why transformation inevitably brings discomfort.
Through live role-play, Kevin and MaryAnn demonstrate both ineffective and healthy ways to approach hard conversations—showing how to express needs, respond to defen...
2025-10-2242 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastDefining Your North Star: Understanding Core Values in Relationships (Episode #87)Defining Your North Star: Understanding Core Values in Relationships (Episode 87)
Summary
In Episode 87 of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis explore the foundational role of core values in shaping identity, intimacy, and relational harmony. The conversation begins with reflection on gratitude and personal grounding, then transitions into how understanding one’s guiding principles—or “North Star”—influences emotional awareness, sexual decision-making, and conflict resolution.
They discuss how early family, cultural, and religious influences shape our beliefs about what’s “good” or “bad,” often leaving individuals unaware of their authentic values. MaryAnn introduces examining our internalized “sh...
2025-10-0840 minReclaim: Healing from Pornography and Rebuilding Your Life with Dr. Kevin SkinnerReclaiming Your Core Values and Identity (Season 1: Episode #11)Reclaiming Core Values and Identity
Summary:
In this episode of the Reclaim Podcast: Healing from Pornography and Rebuilding Your Life, Dr. Kevin Skinner explores the essential process of rediscovering who you truly are beneath the layers of shame, secrecy, and behavior patterns. He introduces three key pillars of inner transformation—core values, identity, and differentiation—as the foundation for lasting recovery.
Dr. Skinner explains that core values act as a personal compass, guiding your decisions and defining the kind of person you want to become. By reconnecting with values such as honesty, humility, and kind...
2025-10-0717 minReclaim: Healing from Pornography and Rebuilding Your Life with Dr. Kevin SkinnerReclaiming Relationships: Moving Beyond Shame and Rebuilding Trust (Season 1: Episode #10) Reclaiming Relationships:
Moving Beyond Shame and Rebuilding Trust
In this episode of the Reclaim Podcast: Healing from Pornography and Rebuilding Your Life, Dr. Kevin Skinner explores one of the most critical parts of recovery — repairing relationships damaged by pornography use.
Drawing on 31 years of clinical experience, Dr. Skinner unpacks how secrecy, betrayal, and shame fracture intimacy and safety in relationships. He explains how shame often drives hiding, defensiveness, and withdrawal, while also preventing authentic connection. Moving beyond shame means taking accountability, choosing honesty, and creating space for compassion toward self and partner.
Listeners are guided through the cor...
2025-09-3013 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastBreaking Free from Shame: How It Shapes and Strains Our Relationships (Episode #85)Breaking Free from Shame: How It Shapes and Strains Our Relationships
Summary
In this episode, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis, LCSW, dive deep into the destructive cycle of shame and its profound impact on relationships. Shame, often rooted in early childhood experiences, can silently disconnect partners—pulling one inward while leaving the other feeling abandoned and unseen.
Together, Kevin and MaryAnn explore:
How shame manifests in the body and nervous system as an automatic protective response.
The cycle of shame between betrayed partners and those who have acted out, and why both ca...
2025-09-2437 minReclaim: Healing from Pornography and Rebuilding Your Life with Dr. Kevin SkinnerWhen the Trigger Hits: How to Respond Instead of React (Season 1: Episode #9)When the Trigger Hits:
How to Respond Instead of React
Episode Summary
In this episode of Reclaim: Healing from Pornography and Rebuilding Your Life, Dr. Kevin Skinner explores one of the most common challenges in recovery—triggers. Whether external (images, places, sounds, people) or internal (stress, boredom, loneliness, anger), triggers are inevitable. But as Dr. Skinner explains, the trigger itself isn’t the problem—it’s how we respond that matters.
You’ll learn practical strategies for handling triggers, including:
Building awareness and naming the trigger when it arises.
Using grounding techniques like deep breat...
2025-09-2208 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastMaking Sense of and Responding to Tragic and Traumatic Events (Episode #84)Making Sense of and Responding to Tragic and Traumatic Events
Special 9/11 & Charlie Kirk Shooting Edition
In this special edition of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis, LCSW, reflect on the recent shooting at a university event where Charlie Kirk was injured, alongside the anniversary of 9/11. Together, they explore the rippling effects of tragedy and violence—how fear, anger, sadness, and numbness can show up differently for each person.
Kevin shares his personal experience as a parent whose daughter was present on campus during the shooting, describing the fear, violation, and an...
2025-09-1735 minReclaim: Healing from Pornography and Rebuilding Your Life with Dr. Kevin SkinnerGuarding Your Mind: Digital Boundaries for Real Freedom (Season 1: Episode #8)Guarding Your Mind:
Digital Boundaries for Real Freedom
✨ Summary
In this episode of the Reclaim Podcast: Healing from Pornography and Rebuilding Your Life, Dr. Kevin Skinner addresses one of the most pressing challenges of our time: navigating a digital world overflowing with sexualized content. From social media feeds to billboards, temptations are everywhere, and without clear boundaries recovery can feel impossible.
Through story and practical teaching, Dr. Skinner outlines how to protect your mind, body, and time in the digital age. He introduces simple, actionable strategies—like curating your media intake, creating device-free spac...
2025-09-1512 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastDistraction, Devices, and the Disconnection Dilemma (Episode #83)Distraction, Devices, and the Disconnection Dilemma
Episode #83
📘 Episode Summary
In this episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis explore how today’s digital world is pulling our attention away from what matters most. From doom-scrolling and constant notifications to the rise of AI chatbots, they unpack how technology is reshaping our focus, relationships, and even the ways children develop social and emotional skills.
Drawing on insights from Johann Hari (Stolen Focus), Cal Newport (Digital Minimalism), and Claire Morrell (The Tech Exit), the conversation highlights how endless distraction contributes to anxiety, depre...
2025-09-1036 minReclaim: Healing from Pornography and Rebuilding Your Life with Dr. Kevin SkinnerThe Power of Honesty: Accountability and Disclosure in Recovery (Season 1: Episode #7)The Power of Honesty:
Accountability and Disclosure in Recovery
In this episode of the Reclaim Podcast: Healing from Pornography and Rebuilding Your Life, Dr. Kevin Skinner explores how honesty, accountability, and disclosure accelerate the recovery process. Pornography thrives in secrecy and isolation, but when the truth is brought into the light, shame loses its grip and healing becomes possible.
Dr. Skinner shares a powerful story of a man living a double life, highlighting the freedom that comes when honesty replaces deception. He explains why accountability is essential—whether through a sponsor, group, mentor, or...
2025-09-0810 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastFacing the Storm: Emotional Ownership as a Path to Healing (Podcast #82)Facing the Storm:
Emotional Ownership as a Path to Healing
In this episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis, LCSW, dive into the powerful concept of emotional ownership. They discuss why betrayal often sparks a safety-seeking response—over-monitoring, controlling, or trying to manage a partner’s behavior—and why that’s a natural trauma reaction but unsustainable long term.
Drawing on the buffalo and cow metaphor, they invite listeners to “face the storm” of emotions rather than avoid them. The conversation explores how shifting from blame (“You made me…”) to owner...
2025-09-0339 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastSexual Fantasies: Healthy Intimacy or Hidden Escape? (Episode #81)Sexual Fantasies:
Healthy Intimacy or Hidden Escape?
In this episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis take a deep dive into the complex and often misunderstood world of sexual fantasy. Together, they explore important questions: When are fantasies healthy? When do they become problematic?
Dr. Skinner explains that fantasy is a normal part of human sexuality and even essential for arousal, but emphasizes the importance of safety, trust, and presence in a relationship. MaryAnn highlights how childhood experiences, shame, and unmet needs can shape fantasies, sometimes leading them...
2025-08-2734 minReclaim: Healing from Pornography and Rebuilding Your Life with Dr. Kevin SkinnerInterrupting the Cycle: How to Rewire Your Brain for Lasting Change (Season 1 — Episode 5)In this powerful episode, Dr. Kevin Skinner explores how habitual pornography use becomes neurologically reinforced and what it takes to interrupt that cycle. By breaking down the habit loop—cue, behavior, and reward—Dr. Skinner explains why willpower alone isn’t enough and how neuroplasticity makes real change possible. Through strategies like the 10-minute rule, the five-why exercise, and habit tracking, listeners learn how to delay the automatic response and rewire their brains with intentional, values-based behaviors. This episode also features the inspiring story of Lisa Allen from The Power of Habit, illustrating how one keystone habit can change everyt...
2025-08-2518 minReclaim: Healing from Pornography and Rebuilding Your Life with Dr. Kevin SkinnerMapping Your Sexual Stress: Using the Six-Factor Inventory to Jump-Start Recovery (Season 1-Episode #3)🎙️ Episode #3
Mapping Your Sexual Stress: Using the Six-Factor Inventory to Jump-Start Recovery
📑 Episode Summary
In this deep-dive episode of Reclaim: Healing from Pornography and Rebuilding Your Life, Dr Kevin Skinner walks you through the Sexual Stress Inventory, a six-category framework that pinpoints where—and why—unwanted sexual behaviors keep showing up. You’ll learn how to:
Consistently Abstain – why true sobriety requires time, patience, and Recovery Capital.
Regain Behavioral Control – spotting the moments when “I could lose everything” still isn’t enough to stop you.
Recognize Consequences – confronting the hidden ways your actions hurt love...
2025-08-1116 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastRebuilding Us: Turning Conflict into Connection (Episode #78)Rebuilding Us: Turning Conflict into Connection
Podcast Summary:
In this episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis dive deep into the essential relationship cycle of rupture, repair, responsibility, and rebuilding. Drawing from their personal experiences and clinical work, they explore how every relationship inevitably encounters conflict—not because something is wrong, but because two different people are sharing life together.
Dr. Skinner and MaryAnn emphasize that conflict is often not about the surface issue (like toothpaste or hair gel), but rather unmet expectations, unspoken needs, and internal narratives we...
2025-08-0639 minReclaim: Healing from Pornography and Rebuilding Your Life with Dr. Kevin SkinnerWhat Successful People Do To Reclaim Their Lives with Dr. Kevin Skinner (Season 1- Episode #2)🎙️ Reclaim: Healing from Pornography and Reclaim Your Life
Episode 2: What Successful People Do To Reclaim Their Lives
🔍 Episode Summary
In this episode of Reclaim: Healing from Pornography and Rebuilding Your Life, Dr. Kevin Skinner introduces the Recovery Capital Model—a research-based framework built on what successful people do to heal from addiction. Drawing from global studies on substance misuse recovery, Dr. Skinner outlines 10 key areas that determine long-term success: social support, physical and mental health, purpose, coping skills, financial and housing stability, education/employment, community engagement, and cultural/spiritual connection.
Listeners are invited to reflect on their curr...
2025-08-0417 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastFinding the Why: The Courage to Understand Betrayal (Episode #77)Finding the Why:
The Courage to Understand Betrayal
When betrayal strikes, one of the first—and most painful—questions we ask is: Why?
Why did they do this?
Why am I reacting this way?
Why does it still hurt?
In this weeks episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis explore the emotional terrain beneath the question “Why?”—from both sides of betrayal. Whether you're the partner who was betrayed or the one who acted out, this conversation invites you to pause, look inward, and begin to underst...
2025-07-3040 min
Reclaim: Healing from Pornography and Rebuilding Your Life with Dr. Kevin SkinnerWhat Does It Mean to Reclaim Your Life From Pornography (Season 1- Episode #1)🎙️ Episode #1
“What Does It Mean to Reclaim Your Life?”
📝 Episode Summary
In this foundational episode of Reclaim: Healing from Pornography and Rebuilding Your Life, Dr. Kevin Skinner opens the door to a journey of emotional, relational, and spiritual healing. Drawing from 30 years of clinical experience and the insights that inspired his book Treating Pornography Addiction, Dr. Skinner explains why reclaiming your life is more than just quitting pornography—it's about restoring self-worth, confidence, connection, and joy.
Listeners will be invited to reflect deeply on how pornography has influenced their life and relationships, take a free personal asses...
2025-07-2820 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastThe Healing Power of Honesty: Trauma, Truth, and Relationship Repair (Episode #76)The Healing Power of Honesty:
Trauma, Truth, and Relationship Repair
Episode Summary:
In this episode of The Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis take a deep dive into the role of honesty in trauma recovery and relational healing. The conversation begins with MaryAnn recounting a personal traumatic experience of being held at gunpoint and how it changed her sense of safety and interaction with the world. Together, they explore how honesty with ourselves and others helps reprocess trauma, fosters emotional congruence, and sets the foundation for mental and relational well-being.
2025-07-2347 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastFacing Fear: What’s Holding You Back from Healing and Connection? (Episode #75)Facing Fear:
What’s Holding You Back from Healing and Connection?
Episode Summary:
In this episode of The Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn discuss a powerful and universal emotion—fear—and how it shapes our decisions, relationships, and personal growth. From the fear of being seen, rejected, or betrayed, to the fear of facing consequences or being alone, fear often acts as both a protector and a prison.
Dr. Skinner opens with a personal story from his teenage years rogueing potatoes—a vivid metaphor for rooting out danger before it spreads...
2025-07-1648 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastThe Mask and the Mirror: Seeing Yourself Clearly After Betrayal (Episode #74)The Mask and the Mirror:
Seeing Yourself Clearly After Betrayal
In this raw and revealing conversation, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaels explore what happens when betrayal, addiction, secrecy, or early trauma fracture your sense of identity. Whether you’re a betrayed partner or someone who has acted out, this episode is an invitation to step out from behind the mask and face the mirror—to look honestly and compassionately at who you are, how you’ve been shaped, and who you’re becoming.
Together, Dr. Skinner and MaryAnn unpack how false identities are buil...
2025-07-0937 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastTurning Pain into Purpose: A Journey of Post-Traumatic Growth (Episode #73)In this powerful and emotionally rich episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis shift the focus from trauma to transformation. While past episodes have explored the symptoms of post-traumatic stress following betrayal, this conversation is all about post-traumatic growth—the process of finding meaning, strength, and purpose through adversity.
MaryAnn shares her personal journey from betrayal and pain to advocacy and healing, culminating in a major Supreme Court ruling protecting children online—an experience that represents a full-circle moment in her growth process. The discussion weaves in key psychological theories, including Viktor Fran...
2025-07-0242 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastThe Disclosure Process: When Honesty Opens the Door to Healing (Episode #72)The Disclosure Process:
When Honesty Opens the Door to Healing
Episode Summary:
In this deeply compassionate and informative episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaels explore one of the most difficult but essential stages in healing from betrayal trauma—the disclosure process. Beginning with the devastation of discovery (D-Day), they walk listeners through the emotional aftermath, the common patterns of staggered and trickle disclosure, and the powerful, structured process of a formal therapeutic disclosure. They explain how this process—consisting of a disclosure statement, an impact lette...
2025-06-2543 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastWhen Your Partner Won’t Engage: Breaking the Cycle of Disconnection (Part 2) (Episode #71)When Your Partner Won’t Engage:
Breaking the Cycle of Disconnection (Part 2)
📝 Episode Summary:
In Part 2 of this powerful series on emotional regulation and effective communication, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaels dive deeper into what happens between partners when conflict escalates—and how to interrupt destructive patterns before more harm is done.
They explore the importance of calling a timeout when either partner is flooded, how to pre-agree on safe ways to pause conversations, and how to return with emotional regulation and self-awareness. The episode highlights key tools like reflective listening, part-based languag...
2025-06-1842 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastWhen Your Partner Won’t Engage (Part 1): Breaking the Cycle of Disconnection (Episode #70)When Your Partner Won’t Engage (Part 1):
Breaking the Cycle of Disconnection
In Part 1 of this two-part series on The Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis dive into one of the most common yet painful relationship challenges: emotional disengagement. Whether it's a partner who won’t talk, shuts down, or avoids hard conversations, this episode unpacks the underlying reasons—like past criticism, emotional wounding, and lack of safety—and offers a compassionate and practical path forward.
Drawing from Dr. Sue Johnson’s work on attachment patterns, John Gottman’s research on...
2025-06-1146 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastWords That Shape Us: Rethinking the Language We Use in Relationships (Episode #69)
Words That Shape Us:
Rethinking the Language We Use in Relationships
In this thought-provoking episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis explore the powerful impact of the words we use in our relationships. From misunderstood terms like gaslighting, addiction, and defensiveness to therapeutic concepts like parts work, triggers, and intimacy, they unpack what these words really mean and why clarity matters.
Drawing from decades of clinical experience, Dr. Skinner explains how language—used consciously or not—can either create emotional safety or reinforce shame and confusion. MaryAnn adds vivid examples of ho...
2025-06-0446 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastGrieving What Was—and What Wasn't: Finding Meaning in Loss (Episode 68)
🎙️ The Human Intimacy Podcast:
Grieving What Was—and What Wasn't: Finding Meaning in Loss
📝 Episode Summary:
In this deeply moving episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis explore the often-unspoken grief that arises not only from death but from lost experiences, missed relationships, betrayal, and the life we thought we would have. Together, they discuss how grief shows up in unexpected ways—through sadness, anxiety, depression, and even numbness—and why it's essential to give it language, space, and presence.
From betrayal trauma to the ache of unmet childhood needs...
2025-05-2838 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastSelf-Leadership: The Roadmap to Healing, Hope, and Deeper Intimacy (Episode #67)Self-Leadership:
The Roadmap to Healing, Hope, and Deeper Intimacy
In this episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis reflect on Marianne’s powerful experience presenting at the ITAP (International Institute of Trauma and Addiction Professionals) Conference, where she introduced a healing-intensive approach combining Frazier’s Dissociative Table and Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART). Together, they explore the theme of self-leadership—what it means to take ownership of your healing journey and to navigate pain, trauma, and emotional disconnection with intention and insight.
They dive into the importance of understanding our in...
2025-05-2133 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastThe Lens of Betrayal: Relearning How to See the Ones We Love (Podcast #66)The Lens of Betrayal:
Relearning How to See the Ones We Love
In this thought-provoking episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis explore how betrayal changes the way we see the people closest to us. When trust is broken, our brain naturally shifts into self-protection, filtering our perception through trauma, pain, and fear. Dr. Skinner shares personal stories and clinical insights to illuminate how resentment, grief, and disconnection can cloud our ability to see others clearly. Together, they discuss how healing requires slowing down, grounding the nervous system, and re-engaging...
2025-05-1443 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastConsent, Communication, and the Core of Intimacy (Episode #65)Consent, Communication, and the Core of Intimacy
In this powerful and essential episode of The Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis dive into the nuanced and often misunderstood topic of sexual consent within committed relationships. Drawing from years of clinical experience and recent conversations with clients, they explore what true consent looks like—voluntary, informed, and mutually respectful—and contrast it with coercion, obligation, and self-betrayal.
They examine how past trauma, cultural expectations, sexual addiction, and desire discrepancies can distort intimacy, leaving one or both partners feeling used, unsafe, or unheard. With...
2025-05-0740 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastHealing Body Image and Self-Perception After Betrayal (Episode #64)Healing Body Image and Self-Perception After Betrayal
In this episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis explore how early life experiences, cultural messaging, and exposure to media and pornography shape self-perception and body image—especially after betrayal. They discuss why betrayed partners often feel "not enough," and they share research shows that pornography harms both users’ and partners’ body image.
The episode offers practical strategies for healing, including gratitude for the body’s functionality, redefining beauty beyond appearance, and reconnecting with the joyful, authentic self. This conversation invites listeners...
2025-04-3045 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastThe Bravery of Letting Go: A Deep Dive into Self-Forgiveness and Healing (Episode #63)The Bravery of Letting Go:
A Deep Dive into Self-Forgiveness and Healing
In this vulnerable and thought-provoking episode, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis explore one of the most challenging aspects of the healing journey: self-forgiveness. Whether you've acted in ways you're not proud of or internalized blame after betrayal, the burden of shame can keep you tethered to past pain. Together, they unpack why so many individuals—both betrayed partners and those who have acted out—struggle to forgive themselves, even long after change begins.
The conversation addresses the role of shame...
2025-04-2337 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastThe Shame We Carry: Giving Voice to the Unspoken (Episode 62)The Shame We Carry:
Giving Voice to the Unspoken
In this special episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and co-host MaryAnn Michaelis delve into the profound impact of shame, secrecy, and silent suffering in relationships—especially in the context of sexual betrayal. They explore the internal negotiations we make with ourselves to hide the parts we fear will lead to rejection, and the cultural contradictions that often deepen our shame.
Drawing from decades of clinical experience, research, and personal insights, they emphasize that healing begins when we give voice to...
2025-04-1641 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastForgiveness: The Misunderstood Path to Healing and Human Intimacy (Episode #61)Forgiveness:
The Misunderstood Path to Healing and Human Intimacy
In this heartfelt and powerful episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaels dive into the complex, often misunderstood topic of forgiveness—especially within relationships affected by betrayal and emotional wounds. Using real-life role-play, personal insight, and professional wisdom, they explore what forgiveness is—and isn’t.
Together, they examine the common misconceptions surrounding forgiveness, such as equating it with blind trust or minimizing deep pain. They clarify the distinctions between love, trust, and forgiveness, and how rebuilding trust must be...
2025-04-0949 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastFrom Self-Deception to Self-Trust: Honoring Emotions After Betrayal (Episode #60)From Self-Deception to Self-Trust:
Honoring Emotions After Betrayal
In this deeply moving episode, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaels are joined by special guest Jennifer Johnson, a clinical mental health counselor and expert in betrayal trauma and sex addiction recovery. Together, they explore the nuanced concept of self-deception—not as a character flaw, but as a survival response often rooted in upbringing, family systems, and emotional safety.
They discuss how many betrayed partners struggle to trust their instincts and emotions, often minimizing their experiences or denying them altogether due to social conditioning, gaslighting, or...
2025-04-0244 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastLearning to Regulate Difficult Emotions: A Key to Thriving Relationships (Episode #59)🎙️Learning to Regulate Difficult Emotions:
A Key to Thriving Relationships
In this powerful post-conference episode of The Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis explore one of the most essential skills for emotional and relational well-being: affect regulation. Building on their recent discussion about resentment, this episode dives deeper into what happens when emotions become intense and overwhelming—and how we can respond skillfully, both individually and in our relationships.
Dr. Skinner and MaryAnn reflect on the lasting impact of the Human Intimacy Conference and shift into a grounded, thoughtful discussi...
2025-03-2646 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastOvercoming Resentment: A Barrier to Connection and Healing (Episode #58)Overcoming Resentment:
A Barrier to Connection and Healing
In this episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, hosts Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis dive into the profound impact of resentment in relationships, particularly in the context of betrayal, trust, and healing. They explore how resentment stems from unmet expectations, unresolved hurts, and past wounds, and how it influences behavior and intimacy. Dr. Skinner and MaryAnn discuss the importance of self-reflection, emotional regulation, and honest communication in addressing resentment constructively. They also emphasize the role of attachment wounds in triggering resentment and how awareness of these w...
2025-03-1949 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastParenting Through Betrayal: Helping Children When You’re in Chaos (Episode #57)Parenting Through Betrayal:
Helping Children When You’re in Chaos
In this episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis discuss one of the most challenging aspects of betrayal—parenting while navigating your own trauma. When betrayal shakes a relationship, children often experience the ripple effects, sometimes without fully understanding what’s happening. The conversation explores the deep shame that both betrayed and betraying parents often feel, the impact of unspoken emotional tension on children, and the long-term effects of parental betrayal on a child’s development.
Dr. Skinner shares per...
2025-03-1244 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastFinding the Right Support: How to Get Help After Betrayal and Addiction (Episode #56)Finding the Right Support:
How to Get Help After Betrayal and Addiction
In this episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis discuss the crucial topic of seeking help after experiencing sexual betrayal, addiction, or trauma. They explore the different types of support available—family, friends, support groups, sponsors, therapy, and coaching—highlighting the importance of finding the right kind of help for each individual’s healing journey.
Dr. Skinner shares research on the effectiveness of various support systems, emphasizing that meaningful support significantly improves recovery outcomes. MaryAnn adds insig...
2025-03-0545 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastNavigating Attachment, Fear, and Connection in a Divided World with Michelle Mays (Episode #55)Navigating Attachment, Fear, and Connection
in a Divided World
In this episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner is joined by Michelle Mays, author of The Betrayal Bind, to discuss the impact of betrayal trauma on attachment and how attachment plays a broader role in our relationships and society. Michelle shares insights from her experience as a licensed professional counselor and creator of the Attachment-Focused Partner Betrayal Model.
The conversation delves into how fear affects our attachment systems, particularly in personal relationships and at a societal level. They explore how poli...
2025-02-2646 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastGaslighting, Lies, and Healing: The Path to Rebuilding Trust After Betrayal (Episode #54)Gaslighting, Lies, and Healing:
The Path to Rebuilding Trust After Betrayal
In this powerful episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner is joined by Dr. Sheri Denham Keffer, a nationally recognized expert on betrayal trauma and author of “Intimate Deception: Healing the Wounds of Sexual Betrayal.” Together, they dive deep into the topic of gaslighting—what it is, how it impacts betrayed partners, and why it is often more devastating than the betrayal itself. They discuss the psychological and emotional toll of deception, blame-shifting, and minimization, and how these behaviors contribute to trauma.
D...
2025-02-1941 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastThe Power of Attachment in Healing Relationships with Geoff Steurer (Episode #53)The Power of Attachment in Healing Relationships
with Geoff Steurer
In this episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner welcomes his longtime friend and colleague, Geoff Steurer, a licensed marriage and family therapist and expert in relational healing. Together, they dive into the crucial role of attachment in relationships, especially in the aftermath of betrayal and addiction.
The conversation explores how attachment bonds shape our experiences of intimacy, trust, and security. Geoff and Kevin discuss common attachment styles—secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized—and how they influence relationship dynamics. They a...
2025-02-1239 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastBreaking Free: How to Get Unstuck from Trauma and Reclaim Your Life (Episode #52)Breaking Free:
How to Get Unstuck from Trauma and Reclaim Your Life
In this milestone 52nd episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis discuss one of the most challenging aspects of healing—getting stuck in trauma. Many individuals feel trapped in past experiences, unable to move forward despite years of therapy or self-help efforts. Trauma is not logical; it bypasses rational thought and gets stored in the body, often resurfacing in fight, flight, or freeze responses.
This episode delves into the neuroscience behind trauma, explaining implicit vs. expl...
2025-02-0543 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastReclaiming Self-Worth: A Journey Back to Who You Truly Are (Episode #51)Reclaiming Self-Worth:
A Journey Back to Who You Truly Are
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In this episode of The Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis delve into the important topic of self-worth. Distinguishing it from self-esteem, they explore the enduring, inherent value each person holds regardless of external achievements, failures, or relationships. The conversation unpacks how life experiences and traumas, including sexual betrayal, shape our perceptions of self-worth and the conclusions we draw about ourselves. Through personal stories, professional insights, and actionable steps, Dr. Skinner and MaryAnn guide listeners on a journey to...
2025-01-2943 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastNavigating Triggers in Public Spaces: Building Trust and Connection After Betrayal (Episode #50)Navigating Triggers in Public Spaces:
Building Trust and Connection After Betrayal
In this the 50th episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis delve into the challenges couples face when navigating public spaces after betrayal. They explore how hypervigilance, triggers, and the history of betrayal influence interactions in environments like malls or restaurants. The discussion highlights practical strategies to help individuals and couples create "prepared plans" for these crucial moments, allowing them to build trust and connection instead of succumbing to defensiveness or disconnection.
Key topics include: ...
2025-01-2236 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastSelf-Work and Overcoming Resistance: Embracing the Change Process (Episode #49)Self-Work and Overcoming Resistance:
Embracing the Change Process
In this episode of The Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis discuss the concept of self-work, emphasizing its importance in personal growth and relationship improvement. They explore the challenges of resistance to change, offering practical strategies for self-reflection and breaking down the change process into manageable steps. The conversation underscores that self-work is an ongoing journey requiring courage, introspection, and accountability.
Key Points
1. Definition of Self-Work
- Self-work involves identifying areas for personal improvement and taking intentional steps to addre...
2025-01-1539 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastThe Impact of Pornography on Society, Relationships, and Healing (Episode #48)In this powerful and deeply important episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis discuss the far-reaching influence of pornography on individuals, relationships, and society. The episode reveals shocking statistics about the average age of first exposure—11 years old—and explores the lasting psychological, emotional, and relational consequences for both children and adults. The conversation dives into critical issues, including the normalization of violence in mainstream pornography, the grooming of children, and the internalized shame that fuels secrecy and addiction.
The hosts also address societal challenges such as the inadequacy of filtering systems, the n...
2025-01-0849 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastNew Year, New Habits: The Science of Change and Lasting Transformation (Episode #47)New Year, New Habits:
The Science of Change and Lasting Transformation
In this inspiring New Year’s Day episode, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis dive into the challenges and opportunities of creating lasting change. They explore why most New Year’s resolutions fail and share practical strategies for success, including understanding intrinsic motivation, habit stacking, and the power of accountability.
Drawing from personal experiences and psychological research, the hosts highlight the importance of preparation, intentionality, and community in achieving meaningful transformation. As they reflect on their own journeys and invite listeners to jo...
2025-01-0138 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastBecoming a Peacemaker: Finding Peace Within and Sharing It With the World (Podcast #46)Becoming a Peacemaker:
Finding Peace Within and Sharing It With the World
In this special Christmas episode of ”The Human Intimacy Podcast”, Dr. Kevin Skinner and his colleague, MaryAnn Michaelis, explore what it means to be a true peacemaker. While the holidays are often a time of joy, they can also bring stress, conflict, and hurt. Dr. Skinner and MaryAnn challenge common misconceptions about peacemaking—showing that it’s not about "rolling over" or avoiding conflict, but rather creating internal alignment, setting boundaries, and confronting unhealthy behaviors with love and integrity.
Listeners will gain...
2024-12-2537 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastYou Can Be Right or You Can Be Married: Rebuilding Communication, Trust, and Love with Brett Williams (Episode #45)You Can Be Right or You Can Be Married:
Rebuilding Communication, Trust, and Love with Brett Williams
In this episode of The Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner welcomes his long-time friend and fellow therapist, Brett Williams, author of You Can Be Right or You Can Be Married. With over 35 years of experience as a marriage and family therapist, Brett dives into the complexities of couple communication and conflict resolution.
He introduces the “Four C’s” of communication—Chit Chat, Communicating, Correcting, and Combating—and explains how couples can move away from destructive patterns o...
2024-12-1849 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastThe Affirming and Healing Balm of Acknowledgement (Episode #44)The Affirming and Healing Balm of Acknowledgement
In this episode of “The Human Intimacy Podcast”, Dr. Kevin Skinner welcomes Kosta Petrogeorge, a long-time colleague and friend, to explore the powerful concept of acknowledgement in relationships. The conversation dives into how deeply seeing and acknowledging loved ones—through intentional words, actions, and moments—can heal emotional wounds, strengthen intimacy, and foster deeper connections.
Kosta shares poignant examples, including a scene from the film Dances with Wolves, where heartfelt acknowledgment powerfully affirms relationships. They discuss how couples navigating betrayal can intentionally reclaim spaces and relationships tarnished by infidelity...
2024-12-1152 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastExploring the Silent Struggle: Betrayed Men and Their Healing Journey with Dr. Jesse Piles (Episode #43)Exploring the Silent Struggle: Betrayed Men and Their Healing Journey with Dr. Jesse Piles
In this compelling episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner sits down with Dr. Jesse Piles, a PhD in humanities and a dedicated researcher, to discuss the often-overlooked experiences of betrayed men. Drawing from years of research and hundreds of conversations with betrayed husbands, Dr. Piles sheds light on the unique emotional and psychological impacts of infidelity on men.
Topics include differences in how men and women process betrayal, societal perceptions of male infidelity recovery, and the significant ro...
2024-12-0448 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastUnderstanding Anxiety: Tools for Managing Stress and Building Connection (Episode #42)Understanding Anxiety:
Tools for Managing Stress and Building Connection
In this episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis dive into one of the most prevalent mental health challenges of our time—anxiety. As the holidays approach, many feel the weight of heightened emotions, family interactions, and personal stress. Dr. Skinner and MaryAnn discuss the biology of anxiety, its relational impacts, and practical tools to manage it effectively. From understanding the role of the vagus nerve to employing techniques like breathing exercises, bilateral stimulation, and mental rehearsal, this episode equips listeners wi...
2024-11-2741 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastMaking Love and Other Non-Sexual Activities: Creating Connection in Every Relationship (Episode #41)Making Love and Other Non-Sexual Activities:
Creating Connection in Every Relationship
In episode 41 of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis redefine the concept of "making love," shifting it from a purely sexual context to an intentional act of creating connection and care in all relationships. Through personal stories, client experiences, and research insights, they explore how love is a choice and an action, emphasizing the importance of authenticity, psychological safety, and intentionality.
The discussion delves into the challenges of showing love after betrayal or during conflict and highlights practical to...
2024-11-2039 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastPreparing for the Holidays: Connection, Self-Care, and Healthy Boundaries (Podcast #40)Preparing for the Holidays:
Connection, Self-Care, and Healthy Boundaries
In episode 40 of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis explore how to prepare mentally and emotionally for the holiday season. They discuss the importance of connecting with loved ones, setting healthy boundaries, and taking steps to manage common holiday stressors. The hosts offer practical strategies for navigating challenging family dynamics, such as visualizing interactions and setting personal boundaries. They also emphasize the importance of nutrition and routine in maintaining mental and physical health during the holidays, sharing insights on how unhealthy eating...
2024-11-1337 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastBridging the Divide: How Seeing Each Other Can Heal Relationships (Episode #39)Bridging the Divide:
How Seeing Each Other Can Heal Relationships
n this episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis dive into the timely topic of conflict, both on the political stage and in personal relationships. As election season stirs emotions and divides deepen, they explore how viewing others with empathy, even in times of disagreement, can open doors to meaningful connection. Reflecting on the human tendency to see others as "they" rather than recognizing them as individuals with unique stories and struggles, Dr. Skinner shares insights on the importance of...
2024-11-0644 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastUnlearning: Breaking Patterns That Prevent Us from Connection and Intimacy (Episode #38)Unlearning: Breaking Patterns
That Prevent Us from Connection and Intimacy
Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis discuss breaking subconscious patterns that prevent true connection. MaryAnn’s story about reconnecting with her neighbors serves as a reminder of the power of intentional actions to foster intimacy and reduce isolation. Through examples and references, they offer tools to identify, unlearn, and reshape habits that hinder connection, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness, purpose, and supportive accountability.
Outline and Resources:
1. Understanding Patterns and the Need for Change
- Resource: Breaking the Habit of Bein...
2024-10-3040 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastBreaking the Silence: Addressing Abuse as a Barrier to Human Intimacy (Episode #37)Breaking the Silence: Addressing Abuse as a Barrier to Human Intimacy
In this powerful episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis tackle one of the most difficult topics in relationships—abuse in its various forms. They explore how abuse, whether emotional, verbal, physical, psychological, or financial, acts as a significant barrier to human intimacy. The conversation delves into why people may minimize or avoid labeling abusive behaviors and emphasizes the importance of recognizing these patterns for relationship healing. Both hosts offer practical insights, real-life examples, and resources for individuals who may be ex...
2024-10-2342 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastWhen We Freeze: Understanding and Healing from Traumatic Shutdowns (Episode #36)When We Freeze: Understanding and Healing from Traumatic Shutdowns
In this episode, MaryAnn Michaelis and Dr. Kevin Skinner discuss the profound impact of freezing as a response to trauma. They explore how life events, particularly those involving emotional or physical trauma, can leave individuals stuck, carrying the weight of unresolved experiences for decades. This discussion highlights how freezing, more than fight or flight, can be especially traumatizing, as it leaves the individual feeling helpless or numb. Dr. Skinner and MaryAnn delve into the psychological and somatic aspects of freezing, emphasizing the importance of creating a safe environment...
2024-10-1633 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastBreaking Through Barriers: How to Create Lasting Change in Life and Relationships (Podcast #35)Breaking Through Barriers:
How to Create Lasting Change in Life and
In this solo episode of The Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner shares insights into the change process, drawn from his experiences as a therapist. He addresses common questions such as, "Why can't I change?" and "Why is this so hard?" and explores why we often feel stuck in life and relationships. Dr. Skinner outlines the four core elements we can change—thoughts, emotions, behaviors, and beliefs—offering practical strategies for creating lasting change. He shares a personal story about overcoming health challenges, emphasizing the...
2024-10-0930 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastNavigating the Early Stages of Sexual Betrayal Trauma: Understanding, Healing, and Support (Podcast #34)Navigating the Early Stages of Sexual Betrayal Trauma: Understanding, Healing, and Support
In this episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and his colleague MaryAnn Michaelis delve into the emotional and psychological impacts that arise immediately after discovering a partner's sexual betrayal. The conversation centers on the shock and disorientation many betrayed partners experience, and the varied ways they respond—either by isolating themselves or sharing their pain publicly.
Dr. Skinner and MaryAnn emphasize the importance of recognizing and addressing betrayal trauma, providing validation for those suffering from overwhelming emotions such as co...
2024-10-0246 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastThe Art of Confession: Letting Go of Secrets and Healing Relationships (Episode #33)In this episode of The Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and his colleague MaryAnn Michaelis explore the concept of confession as a means of healing relationships and releasing personal burdens. They discuss how fear, shame, and secrecy can create emotional and physiological stress, often leading to isolation. By sharing deeply held secrets and engaging in radical honesty, individuals can experience relief, connection, and personal growth.
The conversation emphasizes the importance of being vulnerable and honest in relationships while acknowledging the complexities and need for thoughtful preparation, particularly in situations of betrayal. They highlight the benefits of...
2024-09-2541 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastThe Power of Being Seen: Cultivating Connection and Attunement in Relationships (Episode #32)The Power of Being Seen:
Cultivating Connection and Attunement in Relationships
In this episode, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis explore the importance of being "seen" and "felt" in relationships. They discuss how modern life often hinders deep connection and emphasize the need for self-awareness and attunement to others' emotions. Using stories and insights from experts like Dan Siegel, they highlight how to genuinely connect through eye contact, active listening, and emotional presence. The episode concludes with an assignment for listeners to practice tuning into others, fostering deeper relationships in the process.
Key...
2024-09-1839 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastThe Secrets of Successful Couples: Bid Attempts, Communication, and Emotional Connection (Episode #31)The Secrets of Successful Couples: Bid Attempts, Communication, and Emotional Connection
In this episode of the “Human Intimacy Podcast”, Dr. Kevin Skinner explores the secrets of successful couples, sharing key insights from relationship researchers like Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Sue Johnson. Dr. Skinner delves into the importance of recognizing and responding to "bid attempts"—those small gestures couples make to seek connection—and highlights how couples can either turn toward, away from, or against their partner's bids, affecting the relationship's overall health.
He continues by explaining that successful couples practice effective communication, managing conflict respectf...
2024-09-1129 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastFacing the Fear of Intimacy: Understanding and Overcoming the Barriers to Connection (Episode #30)Facing the Fear of Intimacy:
Understanding and Overcoming the Barriers to Connection
In this heartfelt episode of The Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and co-host Amy Andrus dive into the common emotions surrounding the fear of intimacy. They explore how past experiences, childhood memories, and critical self-talk can create blind spots that hinder our ability to connect deeply with others.
Throughout the discussion, they provide insights into identifying and addressing these fears, emphasizing the importance of self-compassion and vulnerability. Whether you're navigating trust issues in a current relationship or seeking to understand...
2024-09-0432 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastThe Power of Social Connection: Healing and Thriving Through Support (Episode 29)
The Power of Social Connection: Healing and Thriving Through Support
In this episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis discuss the vital importance of social connections for our physical and mental well-being. They explore the transformative impact of community, support groups, and trusted relationships, emphasizing that humans are inherently wired for connection. Through research and personal stories, they highlight how social support can help individuals recover from trauma, betrayal, and isolation. The hosts encourage listeners to seek out meaningful connections, whether through groups, past relationships, or safe individuals, as a critical step t...
2024-08-2833 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastBreaking the Cycle - How to Resolve Relationship Problems and Build Connection (Episode 28)Breaking the Cycle:
How to Resolve Relationship Problems and Build Connection
In this episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and Amy Andrus explore how couples can break free from destructive relationship patterns that keep them stuck. They introduce the concept of the Zeigarnik effect—the tendency of the mind to cling to unresolved issues—and how it often plays out in relationships, causing repeated conflicts.
The hosts discuss practical strategies for identifying and disrupting these negative cycles, such as deep listening, self-reflection, and small, consistent changes in behavior. They emphasize the...
2024-08-2129 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastEmpathy in Action: A Path to Deeper Relationship Bonds (Episode #27)Empathy in Action: A Path to Deeper Relationship Bonds
with Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis
In this podcast episode, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis explore the concept of empathy, defining it as the ability to connect with others' emotions and hold space for their experiences. They discuss the challenges of practicing empathy in relationships, particularly during conflicts when emotions run high.
The episode introduces Carol Juergens Sheets’ AVR model—acknowledge, validate, reassure—as a tool to enhance empathy in relationships. The conversation emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, the difficulty of validating others...
2024-08-1436 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastWhat Happened to Us? Unpacking Relationship Challenges and Finding Solutions (Episode #26)What Happened to Us? Unpacking Relationship Challenges and Finding Solutions
1. Introduction and Purpose: The podcast, hosted by Kevin Skinner, focuses on individuals struggling in their relationships, exploring why relationships fail and what can be done to prevent this.
2. Dr. Skinner shares a personal story about his niece's beautiful wedding, contrasting the joy and connection of a new relationship with the fear and challenges many face in relationships today.
3. Statistics on Marriage and Divorce: In 2022, over 2 million couples married, while approximately 750,000 to 800,000 couples divorced in the United States, highlighting a significant societal issue.
2024-08-0726 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastResilient Relationships: Overcoming Adversity Together (Episode #25)Resilient Relationships: Overcoming Adversity Together
On the 25th Episode of the Human Intimacy podcast Dr. Kevin Skinner discusses how individuals and couples can effectively deal with adversity in relationship. Below you will find the key points discussed in the podcast.
1. Introduction to Resiliency in Relationships: Dr. Skinner introduces the topic of how couples handle difficult adversity in their relationships, drawing from his 30 years of experience as a therapist.
2. Dr. Al Siebert's Insights: Skinner shares insights from Dr. Al Siebert, who studied resilient people for 35 years. Siebert's research on individuals who overcame extreme adversity...
2024-07-3131 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastDeception, Conflict, and Authenticity: Navigating Relationships with Dr. Jason Whiting (Episode #24)Deception, Conflict, and Authenticity: Navigating Relationships with Dr. Jason Whiting
Introduction and Background:
Dr. Kevin Skinner introduces Dr. Jason Whiting, a licensed marriage and family therapist, and professor at Brigham Young University.
Dr. Whiting has authored a book titled, “Love Me True: Overcoming the Surprising Ways We Deceive in Relationships”.
Main Themes:
Deception in Relationships:
Dr. Whiting discusses the prevalence of deception in relationships, from minor exaggerations to significant betrayals like affairs.
He explains that understanding and addressing these deceptions can lead to more authentic and responsible interactions.
Research and Findings:
Dr. Whit...
2024-07-2429 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastThe Burden of Sexual Betrayal (Episode #23)The Burden of Betrayal
When it comes to relationship challenges, infidelity and sexual betrayal are some of the most challenging issues to resolve. In this week's podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner discusses the Burden of Sexual Betrayal. He explores it from both partners' perspectives and highlights the painful process of rebuilding a relationship after betrayal.
Resources Discussed
Attachment Focused Family Therapy by Daniel Hughes
Rebuild Your Relationship after Sexual Betrayal by Dr. Kevin Skinner
2024-07-1730 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastExploring Sexuality: Navigating the Line Between Healthy and Unhealthy Behaviors (Episode #22)Exploring Sexuality:
Navigating the Line Between Healthy and Unhealthy Behaviors
We are all sexual beings and have natural desires that guide our behaviors. However, as we develop, our sexuality can cross lines that we regret. In this week’s podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis discuss sexual connection and intimacy, and healthy versus unhealthy sexual behaviors. Join us for this information-filled episode.
2024-07-1044 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastHow to Support Your Loved One Through Mental Health Challenges: A Guide for Family Members (Episode #21)Using the C.A.R.E.S Model to Help Your Loved Ones Dealing with
Mental Health Challenges (Episode #21)
We live during a time when mental health challenges have significantly increased over the past few decades. Some research suggests that we are ten times more likely to have depression than we were fifty years ago.
Suppose you have a loved one struggling with anxiety, depression, or other mental health issues. In that case, we invite you to listen to Dr. Robinson and Skinner as they discuss this important topic. They will be covering t...
2024-07-0334 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastHeart to Heart: Q&A on Strengthening Intimacy and Your Relationship Skills (Episode #20)Heart to Heart: Q&A on Strengthening Communication and Intimacy in Your Relationship Skills
Join me, Dr. Kevin Skinner for a one on one conversation as I answer some of the common questions I receive as a Marriage and Family Therapist. Questions discussed in today’s podcast include:
What can I do if I can’t get the people close to me to open up.
What can I do to stop my unwanted sexual behaviors?
How can I overcome a fear of intimacy and being close to others?
I have been holding back from telling others abou...
2024-06-2627 minThe Human Intimacy Podcast5 Simple Evidence-Based Daily Rituals to (Help You) Stay Afloat and Successfully Navigate Stress and Chaos (Episode #19)PIERS: 5 Simple, Evidence-Based Daily Rituals to (help you) Stay Afloat and Successfully Navigate Stress and Chaos.
Life can be hard, and at times it can feel hopeless, helpless, and even out of control.
We invite you to embark on a journey with us as we deep dive into the world of simple, grounding, evidence-based daily rituals for optimal living. These practices will help you improve your relationship with yourself and others. They will also enhance your physical, emotional, and mental health as you discover and develop these anchors to keep you afloat and thriving amidst l...
2024-06-1947 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastThe Anatomy of a Sincere Apology (Episode #18)The Anatomy of a Sincere Apology
While we all may want to hear someone close to us apologize for what they did to hurt or offend us, in this episode Amy and Dr. Skinner discuss how to improve your approach when you say “I’m sorry.” In fact, this episode you will learn why “I”m sorry” often is not enough.
Learn to strengthen your relationships, as you learn to apologize.
References Discussed:
How Can I Forgive You (Janice Abram Spring)
Rebuild Your Relationship after Sexual Betrayal (Dr. Kevin Skinner)
2024-06-1230 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastCultivating Connection: The Mindful Approach to Better Relationships (Episode #17)Cultivating Connection:
The Mindful Approach to Better Relationships
Welcome to the Human Intimacy Podcast, this special episode is dedicated to enriching your personal connections through the power of mindfulness. Join us as we explore the principles of mindfulness with our esteemed guest, Dallin Bruun, who studied Mindfulness at UMass Medical Center under the guidance of Jon Kabat-Zinn. In this episode, we delve into practical strategies for applying mindfulness in your day to day life. Dallin provides two enlightening mindfulness exercises backed by research that demonstrates how mindfulness can improve mental health and strengthen relationships. Whether...
2024-06-0540 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastLearn to Heal Trauma: Your Body Knows the Answers (Episode #16) —Special Guest Lauren HatchettLearn to Heal Trauma: Your Body Knows the Answers
Do you feel tense and uptight? Do you frequently get headaches or muscle pain? If so, your body may be feeling the lasting effects from difficult or traumatic experiences. In this episode Amy Andrus and Dr. Skinner interview Lauren Hatchett a trauma informed yoga specialist.
In this episode you will learn specific cues you can take to listen to your body as you learn to heal from old or current wounds.
2024-05-2929 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastSafety: The One Thing You Have to Have to Create Human Intimacy (Episode #15)Safety: The Foundation of All Intimate Interactions
Have you ever questioned whether connecting with someone is a good idea? Or do you find that, for some reason, unbeknownst to you, you are holding back from others? In this week's podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and Amy Andrus discuss the most critical component of connection: Safety.
If you find that you are struggling to connect with others, this podcast will provide insight into possible reasons for why. You will also hear ideas on creating safety with yourself, even if the people around you don't feel safe to...
2024-05-2232 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastDiscover How Developmental Trauma Hinders Adult Attachment and What You Can Do to Overcome It (Episode 14) -Special guest Jon TaylorDiscover How Developmental Trauma Hinders Adult Attachment
It's a universal experience to grapple with identity formation in childhood, especially when parents exert significant control over our lives. This podcast, featuring guest Jon Taylor, offers a wealth of expert knowledge on developmental trauma. Gain valuable insights into how early life experiences can shape relationship dynamics as we mature.
As we strive to create healthy, intimate adult relationships, we need to make sure that we address barriers such as developmental trauma. In this week's podcast, we explore how to address developmental trauma by creating boundaries in relationships wi...
2024-05-1548 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastPlay Your Way to More Intimate Relationships (Episode #13)Play Your Way to a More Intimate Relationship (Episode #13)
Have we forgotten how to play? As we get older, we tend to forget to have genuine fun. In this episode. Dr. Kevin Skinner and Amy Andrus encourage you to pull out games and learn to play again.
When we tease, flirt, and engage in friendly banter in our relationships, we create memories that can last a lifetime. If you are looking for a few ideas on strengthening intimacy in your relationship through play, join us for this fun episode.
Playful Tips You Can T...
2024-05-0831 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastHealing Attachment Wounds Triggered by Sexual Behaviors: Insights from Dr. Sue Johnson (Episode #12)Healing Attachment Trauma Caused by Sexual Behaviors:
Insights from Dr. Skinner’s Discuss with Dr. Sue Johnson
In 2016, I had the privilege of interviewing renowned relationship expert Dr. Sue Johnson. In this special interview, Dr. Johnson discussed how pornography and other sexual behaviors alter our attachment bonds.
The content of this interview is timeless, as the principles discussed will never cease to enlighten our understanding of healthy human relationships. This interview is especially poignant today, as we remember the profound impact Dr. Sue Johnson had on therapy. Her passing on April 23rd, 2024, marked the...
2024-05-011h 01The Human Intimacy PodcastCreate Boundaries Based on Your Values: How You can Improve Self and Strengthen Your Relationships (Episode #11)If you are struggling with boundaries in your life, this podcast will empower you to create healthy boundaries that strengthen your relationships. Simply said, boundaries matter. While every healthy relationship has boundaries, in relationships where we struggle, we usually find boundary violations. In this podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis discuss the challenges of creating healthy boundaries and they share how to use your personal value system as a guide to create boundaries that meet your needs and enhance your relationships. Learn to improve your personal life and your relationships by applying the critical concepts discussed in this...
2024-04-2449 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastThe Art of Self-Disclosure: Allowing Ourselves to be Seen (Episode #10)If you are looking to improve your relationship skills, this episode features Dr. Kevin Skinner and Amy Andrus discussing how to create better relationships through appropriate self-disclosure.
In this episode, “The Art of Self-Disclosure,” you will learn the research-based benefits of learning to open up and allow others to see into you. Self-disclosure in close relationships can create a foundation of trust, empathy, and emotional connection that sustains and enriches the bond between you and the people you care about. Learn how to put these skills into action in your relationships.
A special thanks to McKay Hatch...
2024-04-1738 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastHow Unresolved Shame Prevents Intimacy in Relationships (Episode #9)Unresolved shame simply ruins our chance of creating deep connections in our relationships. Have you ever felt parental shame? Do you have voices running around in your head that make you feel like you are not enough?
In this episode, Dr. Kevin Skinner and Amy Andrus discuss how shame prevents us from creating intimacy in our relationships. They conclude with a discussion on how we all can address the shame we feel inside. If you want to achieve deep and lasting relationships, make sure that shame is not holding you back.
2024-04-1033 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastOvercome Five Barriers to Intimacy and Connection — with Co-host Amy Andrus (Episode #8)Overcome 5 Barriers to Intimacy and Connection
Have you ever asked yourself what keeps you from creating the type of relationship you long for? If so, in this episode, Dr. Kevin Skinner and Amy Andrus discuss five of the most common barriers we have to overcome to achieve the type of intimacy we desire.
Due to these barriers, we live far below our relationship potential. The five barriers include:
Unresolved issues from our past
Fear of intimacy
Shame
Pleasure seeking
Lack of relationship skills.
During the show, Dr. Skinner asked you to consider this q...
2024-04-0334 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastThe State of Human Intimacy in a Culture Filled with Fear (Episode #7)The State of Human Intimacy in a Culture Filled with Fear
We live in a society filled with trust issues. This is especially true when so many relationships fail due to betrayal, addiction, and anger. The end result is that far too many people are in relationships but feel lonelier than ever. In this podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner discusses how our society can overcome our fears of intimacy and offers three things we can do to improve our relationship skills.
Suggested Resources:
Test Your Relationship — An online course for couples wanting to learn how to...
2024-03-2723 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastDating After Divorce with New Co-Host Amy Andrus (Episode #6)Dating After Divorce: Are You Ready to Date?
Did you know that 52% of women and 64% of men remarry after a divorce? So, if you are divorced, are you ready to date? Maybe a better question is, how can you tell if you are prepared to move forward in a new relationship? In this episode, Dr. Kevin Skinner and his new co-host, Amy Andrus, discuss the importance of preparing yourself to date after divorce. They also discuss their new online course, Dating After Divorce.
Recommend Resources:
Dating After Divorce - Online course designed to help...
2024-03-2032 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastOn the Brink of Divorce - Special Guest Dr. Dave Robinson (Episode #5)The Relationship Dilemma —Is Your Relationship on the Brink?
Far too many couples on the brink of divorce struggle in their decision. Should I leave? Should I stay? Can we work it out? Can we be happy again? In Episode #5 of The Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr.'s Kevin Skinner and Dave Robinson discuss ideas to help you make an informed decision. Together, these relationship experts have nearly 60 years of clinical experience. Join them as they discuss ideas and strategies you can use to make this crucial decision.
Resources Discussed:
The Relationship Dilemma — Online Course desig...
2024-03-1340 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastCommunication Tools to Improve Intimacy and Create Connection —Special Guest MaryAnn Michaelis (Episode #4)Communication Tools to Improve Intimacy and Create Connection
Intimacy requires healthy communication. When couples get bogged down in unhealthy relationship patterns, they often feel unheard, struggle to communicate unmet needs, and don’t quite know what to say or how to resolve their differences. In desperation, many individuals and couples turn to counselors for help. In this podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis share and discuss several effective communication strategies that will help listeners to improve intimacy and create more meaningful connections in their relationships.
Resources Discussed in this Show:
7 Skills for Enhancing Com...
2024-03-0644 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastInfidelity, Immaturity, & Relationship Healing - Special Guest Dr. Jill Manning (Episode #3)Dr. Kevin Skinner and special guest Dr. Jill Manning discuss the healing process from infidelity and other forms of sexual betrayal. In this episode these two seasoned professionals dive into the topic of emotional immaturity and how it prevents relationship healing. Finally, Dr. Jill Manning shares her research findings on the influence of pornography on couple relationships. She presented these findings before congress.
2024-02-2849 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastDisclosures and Couples Healing Post-Discovery — Special Guest Dr. Stefanie Carnes (Episode #2)In episode #2 of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Skinner interviews Dr. Stefanie Carnes the President of the International Institute of Trauma and Addiction Professionals. In this session, these two professionals with almost 60 years of experience discuss the following:
Whether couples should discuss the details of an affair or other sexual betrayal.
How to discuss unwanted sexual behaviors with children (what to say and what not to say)
Insights into Patrick Carnes from Stefanie’s perspective
If recovery is possible for couples dealing with sexual betrayal
Resources mentioned:
https://sexhelp.com (Find a Counselor)
The Essentials to He...
2024-02-2139 minThe Human Intimacy PodcastLiving Life Through Adversity — Guest McKay Hatch (Episode #1)Welcome to episode #1 of The Human Intimacy Podcast with Dr. Kevin Skinner. If you want to hear a story of resiliency and strength through adversity, meet McKay Hatch. His story will bring tears to your eyes and show you the power of connection through adversity. McKay also shares his musical talents in this episode.
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