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1 in 3Court, Protective Orders & Keeping Kids Safe with Attorney, Meg Groff I Ep. 115Family court is often where survivors turn for protection—but it can also be where abuse continues in new ways.In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid sits down with Attorney Meg Groff to break down what survivors are really up against when navigating the legal system. From filing a protection from abuse order to facing high-stakes custody decisions, Meg shares how the system can both protect—and fail—those most at risk.We cover: What happens when you file a protective order and why temporary orders are critical The high-risk separation period and how abusers u...
2026-04-151h 011 in 3Legal Abuse in Family Court: Dr. Danielle Duperret on Coercive Control After Domestic Violence I Ep. 114When someone leaves an abusive relationship, many believe the danger is over — but for countless survivors, the fight simply moves into family court.In Episode 114 of the 1 in 3 Podcast, Ingrid sits down with survivor and health practitioner Dr. Danielle Duperret to explore legal abuse, coercive control, and post-separation abuse inside custody litigation.Together, they unpack how abuse can continue through the legal system, including: Custody battles shaped by false narratives Protective parents labeled unstable CPS records overlooked or minimized Supervised visitation that never materializes Why “just co-parent” advice fails in abusive dynamics Dr. Danielle shares...
2026-04-081h 011 in 3Life After Abuse: Domestic Violence Survivors, Trauma, and Healing with Deonna Kay I Ep. 113Many domestic violence stories end with escape and a clean “happily ever after.” Real survivor experiences are often far more complex.In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid speaks with author Deanna Kay about her debut novel The Measure of Enough and the real-world survivor experiences that shaped its story. The conversation explores why emotional scars can remain long after safety is rebuilt — and why honest representation of abuse in fiction matters for awareness, education, and empathy.Discussion includes: Hidden forms of domestic violence and coercive control Emotional, verbal, physical, and sexual abuse beyond common stereotyp...
2026-04-0137 min1 in 3Male Victims of Domestic Violence: Coercive Control, Faith, and a Survivor’s Story with Tom Snow I Ep. 112Abuse rarely shows up as one clear event. More often, it’s a pattern of power and control that changes shape over time and can hide behind family roles, church culture, or a perfect public image. I’m Ingrid, and in this conversation Tom shares how that pattern followed him from childhood into adulthood, and what it took to finally name it, survive it, and start rebuilding a life that feels safe.Tom takes us back to being a teenager desperate to please a distant father, experimenting with asbestos, and then carrying unbearable guilt after his mother dies...
2026-03-1854 min1 in 3What Happens When an Abuser Posts Bail? Domestic Violence Bail Explained with David Stuckman I Ep. 111Reporting an abuser is already difficult. For many survivors, the next terrifying question is: What happens if the abuser posts bail?In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid speaks with David Stuckman, President of the Professional Bail Agents of the United States, who brings more than 35 years of experience in the bail industry—from bounty hunting to leading a national network of bail professionals.Together we break down how the bail system actually works in domestic violence cases and what protections may be available for survivors.You’ll learn:• What happens after someon...
2026-03-111h 011 in 3Rebuilding Self-Trust After Abuse: Nervous System Healing & Intuition with Tara Wiskow I Ep. 110What if your body has been guiding you all along?In this episode of the 1 in 3 Podcast, Ingrid sits down with Tara, a domestic violence survivor and intuitive healer, to explore how rebuilding self-trust after abuse begins in the body. We talk about nervous system regulation, energetic boundaries, and how to tell the difference between intuition and trauma-driven fear.Tara shares her personal journey of carrying guilt and shame while helping others heal—and how the loss of her sister became a turning point in reclaiming her voice. Together, we unpack how early conditioning teaches ma...
2026-03-0458 min1 in 3Reproductive Coercion & Post-Separation Abuse: From Control to Courage with Lynn Stroud I Ep. 108Reproductive coercion isn’t a misunderstanding — it’s abuse. In this episode of 1 in 3, Lynn joins Ingrid to break down how pregnancy pressure, sabotaged birth control, stealthing, and financial control strip away autonomy long before survivors recognize what’s happening.We move beyond headlines to define reproductive coercion in real life:Stealthing and condom removal without consentBirth control sabotageWithholding money for abortion or prenatal careGuilt disguised as romancePregnancy used as a control tacticBut coercion rarely ends there. Lynn explains how abuse escalates into financial abuse, post-separation abuse, and custody retaliation. We discuss how family court sy...
2026-02-1858 min1 in 3From Chaos to Compassion with Malisa Hepner: Healing Complex Trauma I Ep. 107 A life can begin in chaos and still choose compassion. In this powerful episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid sits down with Malisa to explore healing complex trauma shaped by childhood neglect, addiction, and domestic violence. Together, they unpack trauma not as a single event, but as years without safety—and why healing often begins with who showed up when it hurt.Malisa shares how perfectionism, achievement, and “being the golden child” became survival strategies for many Gen X and elder millennials, and how unspoken expectations can create lifelong patterns of shame and betrayal. Using the Finding Peace me...
2026-02-111h 051 in 3When Masculinity Turns Dangerous: Consent, Power, and Violence Through Immersive Art with Christopher Quigley I Ep. 106What if confronting masculinity required stepping inside it?In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid sits down with artist Christopher Quigley, whose immersive traveling installation asks men and boys to physically experience how power, consent, and violence are learned—and how quickly harm can unfold.Across eight sound-sealed bathroom stalls, participants are immersed in scenarios shaped by locker room culture, coercive language, and exhaustion that blurs consent. From a stall where misogyny is passed through jokes and laughter, to the “71 No's” consent experience that challenges the idea of a pressured yes, to the chilling “21-Second” stall that revea...
2026-02-041h 171 in 3Why Male Voices Matter In Ending Abuse with Anthony Pasquini I Ep. 105What role do men play in ending domestic violence—and why does their silence matter?In this episode of 1 in 3 Podcast, attorney and former prosecutor Anthony Pasquini joins Ingrid for a candid conversation about male accountability, allyship, and the power of everyday intervention. Anthony shares the moment that shifted his work from the courtroom to community advocacy, after noticing how quickly men disengaged from conversations about abuse.Together, the discussion explores how abuse escalates from subtle control to coercion and violence when harmful behaviors go unchallenged. Anthony offers practical, realistic ways men can interrupt that cy...
2026-01-2850 min1 in 3The Badge Doesn’t Make You Immune: Coercive Control & Trafficking with Mia Shagena I Ep. 104One in three women will experience domestic violence. But what happens when the survivor wears a badge?In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid speaks with Mia, a law enforcement officer who entered policing at 21 and was groomed, isolated, and assaulted by a senior officer who framed abuse as “consent” and control as “lifestyle.” Her story exposes how coercive control works behind closed doors and inside institutions meant to protect.We break down the dangerous overlap between domestic violence, sexual assault, and human trafficking, and why survivors are so often failed when systems treat these crimes as separ...
2026-01-211h 101 in 3How Documenting Abuse Saves Lives with Norma Peterson I Ep. 103When headlines fade, survivors are often left with the aftermath. In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid speaks with Norma Peterson, Executive Director of Document the Abuse, about what really happens behind high-profile domestic violence cases—and how abuse often escalates when someone tries to leave.Using lessons learned from the disappearance of Stacy Peterson, Norma explains how control, isolation, and intimidation evolve quietly, long before the public ever notices. We explore the legal concept of forfeiture by wrongdoing, which allows a victim’s documented words to be used when they can no longer speak for themselves.No...
2026-01-141h 291 in 3From Fairytale to Coercive Control: Grooming & Domestic Violence with Becca I Ep. 102In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid sits down with Becca to unpack how reconnecting with someone from her past quickly escalated into coercive control, domestic violence, and physical abuse—and ultimately led to the devastating discovery of grooming and sexual assault against her child.Becca walks us through the timeline in clear, unflinching detail: intense love-bombing and a rushed marriage, early red flags during pregnancy, isolation and alcohol-fueled conflict during COVID, and the shift from gaslighting to physical violence. Everything changes when her child discloses the abuse—forcing Becca to make urgent decisions to protect her children and...
2026-01-071h 111 in 3Coercive Control, The Invisible Abuse with Dr. Lisa I Ep. 101What if the most dangerous abuse leaves no bruises?In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid is joined by Dr. Lisa to unpack coercive control—a form of abuse that often hides behind charm, faith language, and “helpful” or respected personas. We explore how relationships that begin with love bombing, future faking, and devotion slowly shift into gaslighting, DARVO, isolation, and financial dependence, causing even the most capable people to doubt their own reality.This conversation breaks down why focusing on labels like narcissist or sociopath can distract from what truly matters: patterns of behavior over time...
2025-12-311h 101 in 3Surviving A Covert Narcissist with Mia Hanks I Ep. 100The most dangerous abusers aren’t always loud. Sometimes they appear kind, generous, and adored—until the door closes. In this episode, Ingrid sits down with Mia Hanks, author and survivor of covert narcissistic abuse, to unpack life with a narcissist: from the dizzying highs of love bombing to the slow drain of gaslighting, blame-shifting, and identity erasure.Mia shares practical tools for recognizing abuse, why couples therapy can backfire, and how to safely plan a low-contact exit. She also explores the messy, hopeful work of rebuilding: reclaiming your voice, making independent choices, and finding freedom after abus...
2025-12-2455 min1 in 3Justice Is Finding Peace: Childhood Sexual Abuse, Healing & Truth with Kath Essing I Ep. 99What if justice isn’t a courtroom verdict, but the peace that comes from telling the truth?On this episode of the 1 in 3 Podcast, Ingrid sits down with Kath Essing, author of The Courage to Speak Your Truth: Shifting the Narrative on Childhood Sexual Abuse, for a powerful conversation about healing when the legal system cannot deliver a conviction.Kath shares how suppressed memories of childhood sexual abuse resurfaced in adulthood, why survivors often shift their language from “abuse” to “rape,” and how reclaiming accurate words can be a critical step in trauma recovery. She walks us t...
2025-12-1751 min1 in 3Shear Haven’s Domestic Violence Training with Susanne Shepherd Post I Ep. 98What if the person most likely to spot early signs of domestic violence isn’t a police officer, clinician, or counselor—but your hairstylist? In this episode of the 1in3 Podcast, Ingrid sits down with salon owner and advocate Susanne Shepherd Post to reveal how Shear Haven is transforming everyday salon appointments into potentially life-saving interactions through a free, 20-minute domestic violence training.Susanne shares how a short news clip about an Illinois law sparked a statewide movement in Tennessee. Starting with in-person trainings through the YWCA, she discovered a powerful truth: stylists often hear the earliest indi...
2025-12-1058 min1 in 3How An A.I. Companion Helps Survivors Navigate Abuse, Document Evidence, And Prepare For Court with Anne Wintemute I Ep. 96What if the smartest “person” in the room during your most stressful moments isn’t a person at all—yet it remembers your story, protects your privacy, and helps you plan your next safe move? In this episode of the 1in3 Podcast, Ingrid sits down with Anne, creator of Aimee, a survivor-first A.I. tool designed specifically for domestic abuse and coercive control. Together, they explore how focused technology can turn chaos into clarity without compromising confidentiality or safety.This raw, practical conversation breaks down why general chatbots aren’t safe or effective for domestic violence situations and how a...
2025-11-2658 min1 in 3EMDR Explained: A Trauma Therapist’s Guide to Safe, Effective Healing with Laurel Roberts-Meese I Ep. 95Your brain can remember the past without reliving it—that’s the power of EMDR therapy. In this episode of the 1 in 3 Podcast, Ingrid sits down with licensed therapist Laurel to break down what EMDR is, how it works, and why it’s become one of the most effective trauma therapies for survivors of domestic violence, PTSD, and complex trauma.We explore how traumatic memories get “red-flagged” in the brain, why hypervigilance sticks around, and how EMDR helps your nervous system finally believe you’re safe. If EMDR has ever sounded confusing, intense, or too simple, this conversation...
2025-11-1945 min1 in 3Trauma-Informed Reporting Tech: REES on Safety, Choice & Data-Driven Prevention with Mary Lobson I Ep. 94What if reporting sexual violence, domestic abuse, harassment, or discrimination felt safe, clear, confidential, and survivor-centered?In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid sits down with Mary Lobson, founder of REES (Respect, Educate, Empower Survivors), to explore how trauma-informed technology is reshaping reporting systems across college campuses, sports organizations, live music events, workplaces, and community spaces.Mary shares her journey from frontline domestic violence advocacy to building a privacy-first, trauma-informed reporting platform trusted across North America. We break down what survivor-centered design really means in practice, including:✅ Encrypted records even the platform can’t acce...
2025-11-121h 071 in 3From Silence to Strength: Grooming, Justice, and Prevention with Morgan Scafe I Ep. 93Some stories don’t just deserve to be heard—they demand change. In this powerful episode of 1 in 3 Podcast, Morgan Scafe joins host Ingrid Dutton to share her harrowing story of child sexual abuse that began at age eight and continued until fifteen. She reveals how a courtroom turned her truth into a test—forcing her to relive trauma while sitting just feet from her abuser.Together, we examine how statutes of limitations erased most of her abuse from trial and why Morgan wrote Carpenter Road: The Inadmissible Years—a prequel that exposes the grooming process and violent...
2025-11-051h 081 in 3Protecting Kids After Domestic Violence: Dr. Royster on Post-Separation Abuse I Ep. 91In this episode of 1 in 3, child psychologist Dr. Royster joins Ingrid to unpack how to protect children’s mental health in high-conflict co-parenting and post-separation abuse situations. A calm home, a steady voice, and the right words at the right time can change a child’s life—even when a co-parent thrives on chaos.Dr. Royster breaks down the three main co-parenting models—collaborative, nesting, and parallel parenting—and explains when each approach fits. If your ex uses control, blame, or litigation as leverage, you’ll learn why parallel parenting may be the safest path and how to apply it...
2025-10-2247 min1 in 3Lizzbeth Aleman-Popoca, Named and Remembered I Ep. 90A woman is “found dead.” The headline ends there, but the story doesn’t—and neither does our responsibility. Ingrid sits with Vanessa and Yaneth to honor Lizzbeth by name, define femicide without euphemism, and follow the thread from a family’s search to a community’s demand for change. What emerges is both deeply personal and relentlessly systemic: a town that looked away, a police response that lagged, and a courtroom outcome negotiated on the killer’s terms.Vanessa, founder of Vivan Las Autonomas, explains how a small group of young immigrant women stepped into the vacuum—pressur...
2025-10-1546 min1 in 3Teresa’s Light, Devyn’s Voice with Devyn O'Neill I Ep. 89In this episode of 1 in 3, Devyn joins Ingrid to share her powerful domestic violence survivor story—one that began with a late-night knock, a 911 call, and the moment her stepfather returned and pulled a trigger. The small town that knew Teresa, a beloved nurse with a bright laugh and steady hands, now mourned the loss of someone who made others feel safe at their most vulnerable.Devyn opens up about how her world changed at 14 and what healing has looked like since: panic, nightmares, self-harm, medication, and the long, imperfect process of trauma recovery through therapy. Together, we...
2025-10-081h 051 in 3When Systems Align with Captain Eric Threlkeld I Ep. 88In this episode of 1 in 3, host Ingrid sits down with Captain Eric Threlkeld—law enforcement leader, former UN police trainer, and domestic violence specialist—to unpack what truly saves lives: better first responses, stronger multidisciplinary teams, and real training on non-fatal strangulation that too often goes unnoticed in the ER and on the street.The conversation connects hard data with practical tools, showing how domestic violence response intersects with mass-shooting prevention, officer safety, and survivor protection. Eric explains why traditional police academy training falls short for complex DV cases—and how those first few minutes at a scene...
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