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Messy Can't Stop HerFacing the 2 Sides of Every DecisionSend JKO a Text MessageEvery decision has a price and a prize, and they rarely happen in perfect conditions. Most times, we decide under pressure, with limited information, and moving pieces. JKO explains the trade-offs women making hard choices in the trenches face and breaks down why constant “re-deciding” can steal your peace. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode Hindsight is not wisdomSome correct decisions still hurtDecision trade-offs don’t make you a hero or a failureA simple 6-step decision process God can still bring good out of what you didn’t fully und...
2026-01-2927 min
Messy Can't Stop HerWhy Some Smart Women Stay in AbuseSend JKO a Text MessageWhy do smart women stay in abusive relationships? JKO breaks down the reasons that keep smart women in abusive dynamics. She also shares safety steps that women staying can take. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode 8 reasons women stay The prison you do not see The place of trauma bonding Why leaving can be impossible even with a social safety net 3 safety steps to take while staying Key scriptures: Malachi 2:16, Romans 8:35, Psalm 82:4 Refere...
2026-01-2233 min
Messy Can't Stop HerStaying With an Emotionally Absent ManSend JKO a Text MessageThere is a steep price you pay when you live with an emotionally absent man. Not just you, but your children, your family, and your community. JKO discusses the cost and the steps you can take when leaving is not possible. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode Signs of emotional absence The emotional, physical, spiritual, and economic price you pay 7 concrete actions to help you and your children now 3 tiny practices that can make a whole lot of diffe...
2026-01-1528 min
Messy Can't Stop Her5 Things You can do When Silence is WeaponizedSend JKO a Text MessageMany women in toxic relationships endure a pattern of weaponized silence that harms them. JKO discusses the difference between healthy cooling-off and punitive silence, what it does to your body, soul, and spirit, and five things you can do to get the better of weaponized silence. The January 1 episode had a glitch that made many listeners not see it, so am releasing both episodes back-to-back. Please listen to S10E01, A Pinpoint of Light, with this one. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode Cooling-off vs...
2026-01-0823 min
Messy Can't Stop HerA Pinpoint of Light is EnoughSend JKO a Text MessageA New Year reset for women living through hidden abuse or heavy seasons. JKO shares three lessons to carry into 2026. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode A pinpoint of light can make a difference in a tunnel of darkness. You don’t need the whole map, just take the first step. Your value is real even in chaos. It’s okay to have ebbs and flows. When you’re overwhelmed, show yourself compassion. Safety Note: Please use...
2026-01-0119 min
Messy Can't Stop HerWhen Love Has Cost You MuchSend JKO a Text MessageIn this Christmas Day episode of Messy Can’t Stop Her, JKO explores the meaning of love for women who have loved deeply and paid a personal cost. Drawing from lived experience, science and scripture, this episode unpacks God’s unconditional love, the impact of disappointment on the heart, and how love can be restored.Nuggets of wisdom in this episodeChristmas as the ultimate declaration of love.The connection between self-blame, burnout, and difficulty practicing self-loveReframing love for 2026A Ch...
2025-12-2517 min
Messy Can't Stop HerVision + Faith: Learning to Dream AgainSend JKO a Text MessageDreaming can feel risky after repeated disappointments. In this episode, JKO explores why women in survival mode struggle with vision, and how faith and a single written goal can help you move forward. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode Why women in the trenches stop dreaming The power of writing down your vision when life is unstable What faith looks like when certainty is unavailable How vision + faith move you forward Key Scriptures: Habakkuk 2:2, Proverbs 29:18, Hebrews 11:1, Jeremi...
2025-12-1824 min
Messy Can't Stop HerRefusing Harmful Labels: 6 Steps to Take Back Your IdentitySend JKO a Text Message Labels shape our identity, especially during vulnerable seasons. In this episode, JKO explores how labels form, why they stick, their psychological and social impact, and how women can refuse the harmful names that life gave them. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode What labels really are and why they’re powerfulThe psychological process of labels becoming identityThe social consequences of being labelledBiblical insight on naming and identityPractical steps to refuse harmful labelsReferences Identity-Level Imprints: The Hidden Code Driving Stress, Health, and T...
2025-12-1127 min
Messy Can't Stop Her7 Steps to Rebuild Your Self-respect in Life’s TrenchesSend JKO a Text MessageMany women in the trenches live with chronic disrespect starting in childhood, showing up in friendships, and continuing into intimate relationships. Some even experience it from people who they shared their struggles with. Over time, that disrespect slowly reshapes how a woman sees herself.In this episode, JKO explores how disrespect erodes identity and shares seven steps that can help rebuild self-respect.Nuggets of wisdom in this episodeWhat disrespect looks like in everyday relationships.How long-term disrespect affects identity and self-worth.
2025-12-0429 min
Messy Can't Stop HerWhy Gratitude Works in Life’s Hardest SeasonsSend JKO a Text Message What if gratitude could literally change your brain? As Canadian Thanksgiving comes up, JKO explores the power of gratitude as a life-changing practice rooted in both neuroscience and scripture. If you’ve ever struggled to be thankful in the middle of pain, this episode will show you how gratitude can make a difference in life’s painful seasons. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode Words change our brains Gratitude is an instruction from God Gratitude reframes pain and strengthens...
2025-10-0920 min
Messy Can't Stop HerThe Danger of Judging from a Single StorySend JKO a Text Message In this follow-up to “The High Cost of Being Judgmental” JKO unpacks the danger of forming conclusions about someone based on a single story. When we reduce people to one chapter of one story they shared from their lives, we sabotage connection, trust, and compassion. If you’re a woman walking through the pain of judgment, this episode is for you. Support the show If Messy Can’t Stop Her blesses or inspires you, please consider supporting it at supportmessycantstopher.buzzsprout.com. Thank you for being part of this journ...
2025-06-0526 min
Messy Can't Stop HerThe High Cost of being JudgmentalSend JKO a Text MessageJKO gets honest about how hidden judgments are also shaping how we see ourselves, sabotaging our relationships, and sending energy that makes others feel unsafe around us, without us ever saying a word. If you're ready to stop letting judgment run your relationships and your spirit, this one is for you.Nuggets of wisdom in this episodeJudgment is often a mirror of our fears, insecurities, or unhealed partsEven when we’re polite, the energy of judgment can be felt Judging oth...
2025-05-2927 min
Messy Can't Stop HerWhen Friends Walk Away: The Hidden Toll on Our Mental HealthSend JKO a Text MessageJKO explores the deep impact of losing friends especially when they walk away without explanation. What is true friendship? Why does it hurt so much when people we once trusted choose to disappear? What is the mental toll of these losses? How do we heal? If you're a woman who's lost a friend and has been left confused, heartbroken, and wondering What happened? , this episode is for you.Nuggets of wisdom in this episodeTrue friendship is beneficial to mental health.Friendships that end wi...
2025-05-2229 min
Messy Can't Stop HerYelling Cost Me My Voice, Self-Reflection Gave Me PeaceSend JKO a Text MessageIn this Mental Health Awareness Month episode, JKO shares how yelling cost her her singing voice but self-reflection helped her find peace, gentleness, and healing. She opens up about mental health stigma in faith spaces, the difference between reacting and responding, and her personal transformation through motherhood. If you're a woman navigating life’s messiness and craving some peace, this episode is for you. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode Self-reflection is not self-blame. Your past does not define your worth. There...
2025-05-1517 min
Messy Can't Stop HerHow the West and Africa Treat Nature’s Gifts: A Lesson on Self-Worth from My Birthday HikeSend JKO a Text Message On her 54th birthday hike, JKO reflects on how the West and Africa value their natural resources—and what that contrast revealed about self-worth, comparison, and recognizing the hidden gifts within. If you often doubt your value, this episode is for you. Nuggets of wisdom from this episode You are not less valuable because your gifts are hidden or different. Like Africa’s untapped and unprotected resources, are you overlooking your gifts? True self-worth begins when you stop looking outward and start discoveri...
2025-05-0117 min
Messy Can't Stop HerAdvance Voting and Snap JudgementsSend JKO a Text MessageAdvance voting in Canada’s federal election, this Easter weekend, reminded JKO about snap judgment: Fundamental Attribution Error. In this episode of Messy Can’t Stop Her, she explores how this thinking pattern impacts our wellbeing and what women in the trenches can do to protect themself. If you’ve ever been misunderstood or misjudged someone else, this episode is for you. Nuggets of wisdom in this episodeDon’t confuse a moment with someone’s whole story.The stories w...
2025-04-2422 min
Messy Can't Stop HerI Can’t Swim… But I Showed Up AnywaySend JKO a Text Message JKO set out to hike her way to healing but pain, a surprising diagnosis, and an unexpected invitation into the water changed everything. In this episode of Messy Can't Stop Her, discover how a closed door led to a new path, fresh joy, and the courage to begin again. If you're a woman who's ever felt discouraged when life didn’t go as planned, this episode is for you. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode Setbacks can reveal better paths Healing can come fr...
2025-04-1711 min
Messy Can't Stop HerEven in Tough Times, Do You Know That You Are Right Where You Need to Be?Send JKO a Text MessageIn this episode of Messy Can’t Stop Her, JKO reminds us that even in the middle of pain, regret, and unfair circumstances, we may be exactly where we need to be. Through the story of Joseph, we uncover how our current struggles could be positioning us for purpose. If you are feeling overwhelmed with your life’s trajectory, this episode is for you.Nuggets of wisdom in this episode Your current struggles are a crucial part of your destiny You can stay faithful and do...
2025-04-1020 min
Messy Can't Stop HerYour Hidden Weapon Against Double Standards and Mama ShameSend JKO a Text MessageHave you ever felt like the world holds you to a different standard — especially as a mother, a woman, or someone trying to do their best in the midst of chaos? In this episode of Messy Can’t Stop Her, JKO gets real about the crushing weight of double standards and the shame they create.If you’ve ever walked away from a situation thinking, “Maybe I’m just not enough,” this episode is for you.Nuggets of wisdom in this episodeDouble standards are everywhe...
2025-04-0327 min
Messy Can't Stop HerJKO on As I Live and Grieve: A candid conversation on being a mother in painSend JKO a Text MessageIn this special episode of Messy Can't Stop Her, JKO shares a heartfelt conversation with Kathy Gleason, host of As I Live and Grieve. Together, they explore the waves of grief, the pain of losing a child and a beloved sister, and the power of healing—especially for mothers. Check out the full episode on As I Live and Grieve. Support the show If Messy Can’t Stop Her blesses or inspires you, please consider supporting it at supportmessycantstopher.buzzsprout.com. Thank you for being part of th...
2025-03-2703 min
Messy Can't Stop HerWhere to Find Strength in Your WeaknessSend JKO a Text MessageJKO encourages you to embrace your vision despite your weaknesses. Your struggles don’t disqualify you—they are the very place where God’s power shines the brightest. If you've ever felt unworthy, inadequate, or stuck, this episode is for you. If this message resonates with you, share it with someone who needs to hear it. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode Your weaknesses do not disqualify you. Do not let your weakness truncate your vision There is help available. you do not...
2025-03-0609 min
Messy Can't Stop HerPodcast Truancy and Faithfulness in PainSend JKO a Text Message JKO opens up about the emotional turmoil that made her miss last week’s episode. She reflects on grief, motherhood, and faithfulness in hard times. If you're going through a difficult season, this episode is for you. You are seen. You are not alone. God is with you. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode Faithfulness Matters. Even in pain, showing up has value. God honors consistency. You Are Seen. No matter how hard life gets, God sees you (El Roi) and cares. Pri...
2025-02-2716 min
Messy Can't Stop Her2 Sins that can Cost You Your Success in 2025Send JKO a Text MessageHost, Judith Kambia Obatusa (JKO) explores how comparison and copying impacts us negatively, and can derail our 2025 goals. If you want to overcome feelings of inadequacy, cultivate contentment, and align with your purpose, this episode is for you. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode· How comparison and copying can stop you from reaching your goals in 2025.· Why contentment and self-awareness are essential tools in your 2025 success toolkit.· What the bible says about copying and comparing, and about you.· Practical tools to recognize and embr...
2025-01-2321 min
Messy Can't Stop HerGod’s Promise for Your 2025: He is turning your weed patch into a Garden of EdenSend JKO a Text Message Reflecting on God’s promises of restoration, host Judith Kambia Obatusa, JKO, shares an uplifting message for 2025. She encourages listeners to speak life into challenges, embrace hope, and prepare for a year of thriving. If you desire practical and spiritual insights to guide you into the new year, this episode is for you. Support the show If Messy Can’t Stop Her blesses or inspires you, please consider supporting it at supportmessycantstopher.buzzsprout.com. Thank you for being part of this journey. If you would love to shar...
2024-12-2622 min
Messy Can't Stop HerFrom Regret to Restoration: How to find hope in missed opportunities and get back wasted yearsSend JKO a Text MessageAre you feeling the weight of missed opportunities? Inspired by a friend's compliment, JKO explores how our losses can become new beginnings. Through the story of a poor childless widow’s journey to restoration, learn that it is never too late to reclaim your purpose. If you have ever regretted paths not taken, this episode is for you.Nuggets of wisdom in this episodeMissed opportunities do not define or dictate your future.Honesty about your pain is the first step toward restoration....
2024-11-2819 min
Messy Can't Stop HerPrayers for courage to avoid failures of kindnessSend JKO a Text MessageReflecting on a quote from Brene Brown’s Atlas of the Heart by George Saunders about “failures of kindness”, Judith Kambia Obatusa (JKO) highlights how fear often holds us back from being kind. She explores the courage it takes to show compassion, both to others and ourselves.Through Scripture and prayer, JKO encourages listeners to seek boldness, trust in God’s strength, and act with kindness even in difficult situations. This episode also includes a special prayer from Psalms 118:8-9 that you can repeat by yourself to help you connect directly...
2024-09-2716 min
Messy Can't Stop HerPrayers when you are outnumbered and powerful forces are against you: Learning from 3 Kings of JudahSend JKO a Text MessageExploring the prayers of 3 Kings of Judah - Hezekiah, Asa, and Jehoshaphat - who battled overwhelming enemies, Judith Kambia Obatusa, JKO, focuses on how to pray when faced with challenges from people, situations, or systems that are much more powerful than us.If you’ve ever been helpless before a formidable hater, this episode will teach you how to ask God for help to overcome and emerge victorious.Nuggets of Wisdom in this episodeEven the most righteous and faithful can face adversity....
2024-09-1220 min
Messy Can't Stop HerPrayers for hope when words fail, and light when darkness surroundsSend JKO a Text MessageAfter a period of silence due to a technological hiccup and a very recent loss, Judith Kambia Obatusa, JKO, continues the series on praying God's word over us. JKO reflects on finding solace in God during times of overwhelming grief and uncertainty, much like the story of Job.Through prayer and scripture, she encourages listeners who may be facing their own trials and reminds them that, in God's hands, even the darkest moments work together for our good. If you are in a place where only divine intervention c...
2024-08-2912 min
Messy Can't Stop Her1 Year After: Praying God’s Word when Blindsided by Unimaginable Loss and GriefSend JKO a Text MessageAs part of the ongoing series on praying scripture over our lives, Judith Kambia Obatusa – JKO reveals how she clung to Habakkuk 3:17-18 as a lifeline following the devastating loss of her daughter on August 1, 2023. She shares the profound impact of Jonathan Traylor's song "You Get the Glory from This," as a source of comfort and hope as she navigated her pain. In this testimony of faith, grief, and resilience, JKO emphasizes the importance of healing from trauma, not just for ourselves but for the well-being of our children and fut...
2024-08-0124 min
Messy Can't Stop HerPraying God's Word with Becca Rae Eagle: Prayers for Peace and StengthSend JKO a Text MessageJudith Kambia Obatusa – JKO welcomes Becca Rae Eagle, fellow podcast host shares her journey with the Sacred Penning Podcast, emphasizing the importance of quiet time with God for mental and physical health. She highlights her personal experiences of receiving strength and direction through this practice. Becca also talks about her upcoming retreat, "Back to School, Back to You," aimed at helping mothers find peace and strength during stressful times. The episode concludes with a heartfelt prayer from Becca, and an invitation to join the Confident Godly Woman Summit. See the show notes fo...
2024-07-2522 min
Messy Can't Stop HerPraying God's Word over YOU: Genesis 16v13 and Psalms 139v13-14, He Knows Your NameSend JKO a Text MessageInspired by the story of Hagar from Genesis 16, host Judith Kambia Obatusa, JKO explores themes of divine recognition and acceptance, reminding us that God sees and knows each of us intimately. Through Psalms 139 verse 13-14 and the song "He Knows My Name" by the Maranatha Singers, JKO offers you comfort and encouragement no matter your circumstances. Don't miss this inspiring message and the special invitation to sign up for the free upcoming Confident Godly Woman Summit. Tune in to receive hope, healing, and strength through prayer and scripture a...
2024-07-1813 min
Messy Can't Stop HerPraying God's Word with Brenda Rice: Prayers for Hope, Favour and PeaceSend JKO a Text MessageJudith Kambia Obatusa - JKO welcomes Brenda Rice to share her inspiring journey with prayer. Brenda opens up about overcoming thyroid cancer and supporting her son through addiction, highlighting the transformative power of prayer in her life. She shares meaningful prayers and uplifting scriptures for women facing life's challenges. If you need hope, favour, and peace in the trenches of life, this episode offers inspiration and strength through the healing power of prayer. Support the show If Messy Can’t Stop...
2024-07-1119 min
Messy Can't Stop HerPraying God's Word Over You: Overcoming the Pain of RejectionSend JKO a Text MessageThis episode tackles a common wound – the painful experience of rejection. With a definition from Collins Dictionary and a personal story, Host Judith Kambia Obatusa, JKO, explores how rejection shows up in life: pre-birth experiences, relationships, and even church. She reminds us that true worth comes from God's love and shares powerful scriptures including Jeremiah 31:3 and Romans 8:31-39 to showcase God's unwavering love, even when we feel rejected.Feeling rejected? You're not alone! JKO invites you to join her in prayer as we ask God to heal rejection's st...
2024-07-0418 min
Messy Can't Stop Her100th Episode Special: A shower of Prayers from the Scriptures with Renice EdmisonSend JKO a Text MessageWelcome to the 100th episode of Messy Can't Stop Her! Continuing the series on the power of prayers, Judith Kambia Obatusa - JKO welcomes Renice Edmison, a devoted women's group leader who has spent years supporting and uplifting women through faith and prayer. Renice shares her personal journey from a season of profound heartache to finding healing and strength through prayer and community. She encourages listeners to embrace the healing power of faith, whether they are believers or simply seeking comfort and guidance.If you are navigating struggles, tune in...
2024-06-2726 min
Messy Can't Stop HerEmbracing God's Plan in Exile: Praying with Jeremiah 29:4-7Send JKO a Text MessageIn this episode of "Messy Can't Stop Her," host JKO explores the concept of being in exile, a place of instability and trouble. Drawing a parallel between the Israelites exiled in Babylon and those facing challenges in their own lives, she encourages listeners to find hope in God's promises, using verses 4-7 of Jeremiah 29. These verses instruct the Israelites to build lives, plant gardens, and seek the peace and prosperity of the city they are exiled in. JKO reminds women that even in challenging circumstances, God sees our struggles and equips us...
2024-06-2013 min
Messy Can't Stop HerPraying God’s Word over YOU with Mrs. Adebola Jaiye-Ojo: Finding Strength Through Prayer (in doubt or unbelief)Send JKO a Text MessageContinuing the series on praying God's Word over you, JKO and Mrs. Adebola Jaiye-Ojo discuss the power of prayer and finding your inner strength, even in the toughest times. As the founder of the Refuge Children's Home, the Bees Fellowship and The Deborah’s prayer group, Mrs. Jaiye-Ojo is a beacon of spiritual strength and compassion. In this episode, she shares profound insights on how prayer can be a tool for healing and empowerment, why joy is a choice you can make no matter your circumstances, she showers listeners with powerful prayers to...
2024-06-1325 min
Messy Can't Stop HerPraying God's Word over YOU: Isaiah 43v1-5aSend JKO a Text MessageIn this episode of "Messy Can't Stop Her," JKO, embarks on a journey of prayer and reflection inspired by Isaiah 43:1-5a. This episode is the first in a series on praying God’s Word over YOU. It is dedicated to those women in the trenches of life who need a reminder of God's unwavering love and support.Join us as we dive into the scriptures, pray together, and find solace in the divine words that promise hope and healing. Send your prayer requests through messages to JKO’s Facebook, Inst...
2024-06-0619 min
Messy Can't Stop HerHow to Get Your Joy Back from the Effect of the Comparison Trap on Your Mental HealthSend JKO a Text MessageAs we close Mental Health Awareness Month, Judith Kambia Obatusa (JKO) explores the science behind comparison and its impact on women's mental health, and uncovers practical tips that women can use to break free from the comparison trap.References in this episodeJay T. Coza on Twitter Journal of Behavioural Addictions: Social comparisons: A potential mechanism linking problematic social media use with depressionSupport the show If Messy Can’t Stop Her blesses or inspires you, please consider sup...
2024-05-3015 minMessy Can't Stop HerFaith over Regrets: Healing from Mistakes and Mental TurmoilSend JKO a Text MessageIn this episode of "Messy Can't Stop Her," host Judith Kambia Obatusa – JKO explores the role of faith in overcoming mistakes and their impact on mental health. Featuring biblical wisdom, scientific evidence, and testimonies from inspiring women like Deb, Brene Brown, and Michelle Obama. Discover how faith can be a source of hope and healing for mental trauma.References in this episodePew Research Study: Religion’s Relationship to Happiness, Civic Engagement and Health Around the WorldResearchGate: The Impact of Religion/Spirituality on Ment...
2024-05-2321 minMessy Can't Stop HerMental Health Awareness Month: Boost your mental health with self-awarenessSend JKO a Text MessageIn this Mental Health Awareness Month episode JKO explores the transformative impact of self-awareness on mental health. Tune in for practical strategies to manage stress, enhance emotional regulation, build self-compassion, and live a more fulfilling life. Support the show If Messy Can’t Stop Her blesses or inspires you, please consider supporting it at supportmessycantstopher.buzzsprout.com. Thank you for being part of this journey. If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. ...
2024-05-1619 minMessy Can't Stop HerEnjoying the Moments - Aunt Flo’s Monthly Visits and AllSend JKO a Text MessageTurning 53 brings a new chapter for JKO! This week's episode explores the bittersweet transition into menopause, reflecting on periods and celebrating the freedom and confidence that comes with age. JKO shares tips on savoring life's moments, big and small, even when they come with hormonal shifts. This episode is an empowering reminder to embrace the "messy magic" of life.References in this episodeHealing the Heart RetreatSupport the show If Messy Can’t Stop Her blesses or inspires you, plea...
2024-05-0212 minMessy Can't Stop HerLiving in Alignment with Your Values: The Secret Weapon for Better Health?Send JKO a Text MessageJKO explores the surprising link between your values and your well-being. She explains how living a life true to yourself can be the secret weapon for better health, less stress, and more happiness. At the end of this episode, you will also learn how to identify your values and make adjustments to create a life that nourishes your body and soul.References in this episodeHealing the Heart RetreatSupport the show If Messy Can’t Stop Her blesses or in...
2024-04-2516 minMessy Can't Stop HerThe Gift of Pause: How Separation can Empower Women to Learn, Forgive, Heal, and Activate FaithSend JKO a Text MessageFeeling stuck? Don't hit fast forward! This episode delves into the transformative power of separation for women. Backed by science and real-life stories, Host Judith Kambia Obatusa - JKO explores how taking a break, whether from a relationship, job, or even yourself, can unlock incredible growth. Learn how separation fosters self-discovery, forgiveness, and inner strength. Plus, discover practical tips and an exclusive opportunity to attend the Healing the Heart Retreat taking place in May in Tobago. References in this episodeHealing the Heart RetreatMaria Erving
2024-03-2814 minMessy Can't Stop HerThriving through chaos: Lessons from Esther, Ruth and RahabSend JKO a Text MessageGet inspiration for navigating and triumphing over overwhelming challenges from Esther, Ruth, and Rahab. This episode offers timeless lessons on how we can thrive through adversity. Plus an opportunity to activate your own shield of faith and thrive through chaos in the Healing the Heart retreat taking place on the beautiful Island of Tobago. References in this episodeDoes Perfection Precede Purpose? JKO shares some lessons from the BibleCONVERSATIONS WITH GOD: When Your Kinsman Does not HelpThriving through chaos: Journey to clarity w...
2024-03-1421 min
Messy Can't Stop HerThriving through chaos: Journey to clarity with faithSend JKO a Text MessageJoin guest host Debra Wright as she interviews the host of Messy Can't Stop Her, Judith Kambia Obatusa - JKO. Discover the intersection of faith, healing, and finding clarity. JKO shares her personal journey, emphasizing the importance of investing in yourself and finding peace amid life's chaos. Get a sneak peek into the upcoming retreat in Tobago, where women who are committed to thriving through chaos will gather for a profound experience of connection, empowerment, and transformation. This inspiring conversation will remind you that you are worth the investment in your well-being.
2024-03-0728 min
Messy Can't Stop HerThriving through chaos: The role of faith in unlocking forgiveness and healingSend JKO a Text MessageJudith Kambia Obatusa - JKO and Forgiveness Facilitator Debra Wright discuss how faith, forgiveness, and self-discovery transformed Debra's life and led to her vision of the Healing the Heart retreat taking place this May in Tobago. Learn why signing up for the retreat could be your transformative step towards breaking free from the past, healing from trauma, and embracing your authentic self.For more information about the 2024 Healing the Heart retreat taking place on the beautiful Island of Tobago, click on this link.Support the show
2024-02-2932 minMessy Can't Stop HerIs that faith Talk cheap?Send JKO a Text Message Judith Kambia Obatusa (JKO) opens up about a recent test of her faith. Exploring the depths of personal pain and loss, JKO shares the raw and authentic journey of how activating the shield of faith isn't a one-time event but a continual process in navigating life's storms. References in this episodeJonathan Traylor - You Get The GlorySupport the show If Messy Can’t Stop Her blesses or inspires you, please consider supporting it at supportmessycantstopher.buzzsprout.com. Thank you for being par...
2024-02-1520 minMessy Can't Stop HerActivating the shield of faith to thrive through chaosSend JKO a Text MessageJoin Judith Kambia Obatusa (JKO) as she discusses the power of faith as an unwavering anchor in life's chaos. In this inspiring conversation, JKO shares effective practices that you can use to activate your shield of faith and thrive through chaos. You can download this list of Bible based affirmations to help you in thriving through chaos. Support the show If Messy Can’t Stop Her blesses or inspires you, please consider supporting it at supportmessycantstopher.buzzsprout.com. Thank you for being part of this journey. ...
2024-02-0817 minMessy Can't Stop HerHow to make your words work for you and not against youSend JKO a Text MessageJudith Kambia Obatusa, JKO shares practical tips that you can use to make your words a potent tool for thriving through life's chaos. From crafting positive affirmations to embracing gratitude language, learn how intentional language can be your guide to a resilient and empowered life. To help you on your journey to thriving, feel free to download this list of affirmations and the language reflection worksheet.Support the show If Messy Can’t Stop Her blesses or inspires you, please consider supporting it at supportmessycantstopher.buzzsprout.com...
2024-02-0117 minMessy Can't Stop HerWatch your words to and about yourself!Send JKO a Text MessageContinuing with the theme of thriving through chaos, Host Judith Kambia Obatusa, JKO, delves into how our words affect the lives we have. Explore the science-backed influence of words, from what you say to yourself (your self-talk) to what you say about yourself and your situation to others. Your words shape your reality, and your positive words can be your superpower for a happy life. Join me next week for practical tips on how to use your words to create the life you desire.M...
2024-01-2518 minMessy Can't Stop HerHow to change your thoughts and make them work for youSend JKO a Text MessageJudith Kambia Obatusa, JKO shares practical tips for transforming your thoughts and thriving in chaos. Join her as she explores the power of positive thinking, affirmations, mindfulness and gratitude. Listen, learn, and be your sister’s keeper by sharing these insights with a woman who needs a mindset boost. To download a free list of affirmations to kickstart your journey, click here. References in this episodeSelf Care Series: Mental Health Advocate, Mayra Gonzalez shares how empathy, counselling and self care nurture emo...
2024-01-1820 minMessy Can't Stop HerWatch Those ThoughtsSend JKO a Text MessageA thought-provoking exploration into the concept that: "Your thoughts determine how you experience life; improve your thoughts, improve your life." Following the theme of thriving through chaos, JKO emphasizes how our thoughts shape our experiences. Drawing from personal stories and insights shared by guests, she highlights the transformative power of positive thinking. JKO encourages listeners to be mindful of what they consume—media, conversations, and thoughts—and concludes with a call to take charge of their thinking. Tune in to discover how changing your thoughts can empower you to fac...
2024-01-1119 minMessy Can't Stop HerThriving in challengesSend JKO a Text MessageIn this episode of Messy Can't Stop Her, host Judith Kambia Obatusa - JKO, offers practical insights on navigating challenges. She encourages listeners, especially women in difficult situations, to take small steps toward positive change and personal growth in 2024. Join JKO as she discusses finding strength, embracing adversity, and stepping forward with purpose, making it clear that thriving is achievable even in the most difficult times.Support the show If Messy Can’t Stop Her blesses or inspires you, please consider supporting it at supportmessycantstopher.buzzsprout.com. Thank yo...
2024-01-0410 minMessy Can't Stop HerFrom Loss to Legacy: A Mother's Call to Empowerment and Mental HealthSend JKO a Text MessageJoin Judith Kambia Obatusa, JKO, in this episode of Messy Can't Stop Her, titled "From Loss to Legacy: A Mother's Call to Empowerment and Mental Health." Following the recent loss of her firstborn to a heartbreaking overdose, she shares a powerful exploration of intergenerational impact, urging women to prioritize mental health and break free from the shadows of past pain. This episode is a heartfelt call to empowerment, resilience, and self-care, offering a transformative perspective on turning personal loss into a legacy of strength.Support the show If...
2023-11-2206 min
Messy Can't Stop HerWhen Trouble Comes Calling: What does it mean? What do you do?Send JKO a Text MessageDoes trouble make you tired? Do you see it as misfortune? What if there was another way to see it? Let us learn from the story of the hawk told by JKO in this episode.Support the show If Messy Can’t Stop Her blesses or inspires you, please consider supporting it at supportmessycantstopher.buzzsprout.com. Thank you for being part of this journey. If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Tha...
2022-11-0212 min
Messy Can't Stop HerBloom inside Pain: JKO shares one thing that makes life’s trenches easierSend JKO a Text MessageAre you feeling worn down and not valuable? Do you think your life is too imperfect to be useful? Do you know that it is possible to have an imperfect life and still be the perfect help another person needs? This episode shares a practice that makes this possible.References in this episodeLes Brown Life is HardSupport the show If Messy Can’t Stop Her blesses or inspires you, please consider supporting it at supportmessycantstopher.buzzsprout.com. Thank you for being part of...
2022-10-2620 min
Messy Can't Stop HerThe Danger of a Single Story: unCreating the Life that You do not WantSend JKO a Text MessageAll it takes is a single story to make or break your life. What is the single story you’re telling yourself? JKO shares the three things you can do to change that single story and create the life that you desire.References in this episodeThe Danger of a Single Story TED TalkMathew 12:34bNumbers 14:28Michael HyattSupport the show If Messy Can’t Stop Her blesses or inspires you, please consider supporting it at s...
2022-10-1924 min
Messy Can't Stop HerFrom Fact to Faction: Yvonne Randle tells us how she coloured her way out of depression and became a Faction writerSend JKO a Text MessageLife may be hard, yet we can use the hard facts of our challenges to bring others through their own challenges.Yvonne tells us how she coloured her way out of depression and turned her painful love and marriage experiences into inspiration for herself and empowerment for others. Yvonne Randle has authored many fiction (faction) and non-fiction books that inspire people to have healthy relationships with themselves and others. She also hosts a podcast and personal development workshops through her company, You Are Dynamic, LLC.You c...
2022-10-1233 min
Messy Can't Stop HerChurch Girl Meets God: Yvonne Randle shares how she stopped running and listenedSend JKO a Text MessageRaised in Church, actively serving in Church, yet living in pain filled disappointment, loneliness and heartache. Yvonne Randle tells us what happened when life got too painful to handle. When we get sick and tired of being sick and tired, we have to do the work inside before it shows up outside. Yvonne takes us to Church in this episode.Yvonne Randle has authored many fiction and non-fiction books that inspire people to have healthy relationships with themselves and others. She also hosts a podcast and personal development w...
2022-10-0630 min
Messy Can't Stop HerYou're Not Done Yet: As long as there's breath in your nostrilsSend JKO a Text MessageAm too old to... am too fat to... my life is too x to... am too poor to...How many of these or similar excuses have you used to convince yourself and others that you're no longer worthy of dreaming or being, or even participating in your own life?The truth is you're not done yet, as long as you still have breath.References in this episodeFinding Her perfect Career at 70J. K. RowlingStephen HawkingOases of hope
2022-09-2920 min
Messy Can't Stop HerThe Price of Unforgiveness: Too steep to pay and so not worth itSend JKO a Text MessageHave you ever wondered how unforgiveness affects your mental, physical and spiritual health? This episode shares some thoughts, research and expert opinion about it.Would you like to share your thoughts about this topic on the podcast?Please send me a voice note dm on IG or Facebook, with your answers to the following three questions and I’ll feature you in a future episode of the podcast:1. What does forgiveness mean to you?2. What are the benefits of forgiving?3. Are there offenses th...
2022-09-2121 min
Messy Can't Stop HerTriggers: Forgiveness is a Journey and I faced my past todaySend JKO a Text MessageI got triggered today when I went to sign my youngest up for Air Cadets.It brought me face to face with my forgiveness journey. Have I really forgiven? Is the pain gone? This conversation is about that.Please DM me on Instagram or Facebook @judithobatusa to let me know your thoughts on forgiveness and how you handle those difficult situations.If you'll love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Podcast Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter...
2022-09-1415 min
Messy Can't Stop HerWhy Forgiveness Matters: Definitions and DecisionsSend JKO a Text MessageWhat does it really mean to forgive? How can we forgive? Why should we forgive?This episode answers these questions and discusses the importance to our health and future.References in this episodePastor Ayo DanielsJeremiah 17:9Jack KornfieldFred LuskinElisabeth KleinIsaiah 1:18Luke 23:24Please DM me on Instagram or Facebook @judithobatusa to let me know your thoughts on forgiveness and how you handle those difficult situations.If you'll love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer...
2022-09-0827 min
Messy Can't Stop HerPower of Forgiveness: Donna Fairhurst returns to share how radical forgiveness brought her calm from chaosSend JKO a Text MessageDonna Fairhurst returns from season one to share the power of forgiveness to heal us and take us from chaos to calmness. If you’re in that place of pain and hurt and you’re struggling with forgiveness, Donna teaches us how to become radical forgivers. You can Book a complimentary session of Donna’s signature coaching program, “Zero 2 Clarity” on www.donnafairhurst.com.Support the show If Messy Can’t Stop Her blesses or inspires you, please consider supporting it at supportmessyc...
2022-08-3151 min
Messy Can't Stop HerDoes Perfection Precede Purpose? JKO shares some lessons from the BibleSend JKO a Text MessageWhat do we do when our life is not perfect, when relics of our failures and mistakes surround us in our minds or everywhere we look? Do we wait to have it all together before we show up to help? Do we have to become perfect before we pursue our dreams? I know the struggles that some of us face daily with limiting thoughts. I know the desire to hide away until our lives are perfect before doing the things we yearn to do. I know this because I struggle t...
2022-08-2431 min
Messy Can't Stop HerThe Happy Boss Lady: Annette Reid tells us how she turned abuse around to become a successful entrepreneurSend JKO a Text MessageAnnette’s story continues and we see the stereotype of the abuser play out but we also see the resilience of a woman in action. Annette’s story us reminds us that domestic violence can happen to the strongest of us and that learning how to recognize the signs early can make the difference. In part two of her story, Annette shares how coming through the devastation of domestic violence led her to become the owner of Annette’s Driving School.Nuggets of wisdom in this episodeGive...
2022-08-1733 min
Messy Can't Stop HerFrom Lover to Loather: Annette Reid tells us how she learnt about abuse from her experienceSend JKO a Text MessageCocooned in the love of her father Annette Reid had never known or seen a woman being abused by a man. As an immigrant to the United States, she had seen her fair share of trouble but nothing prepared her for the pain she experienced in the hands of the one who had pursued her relentlessly and pledged to love her for eternity. In part one of her story, Annette tells us his progression from lover to loather and from calling her my precious to my property.Nuggets of...
2022-08-1035 min
Messy Can't Stop HerPain is a Great Teacher: Kit Livingston on healing from the twin trauma of divorce and breast cancerSend JKO a Text MessageWhat do you do when you’re hit with two heartrending experiences at the same time? Do you break down or breakthrough? Kit experienced the twin traumas of divorce and the big C diagnosis and made it through. She shares how literally grounding herself on the land healed her heart and her body.Nuggets of Wisdom in this Episode What's considered praiseworthy and acceptable is often not reflective of what we're here for and what our gifts areWhat's considered praiseworthy and acceptable is often not reflective of what...
2022-08-0451 min
Messy Can't Stop HerTake Care of You: Your Self Care can Preserve Your GenerationsSend JKO a Text MessageSelf Care used to sound like just mere words to me. In fact, at a point, those words began to traumatize me. Hearing them made me feel judged and inadequate. I did not think I had the resources – time, money, strength – to afford it. I was afraid to try. Today, with the help of many, including guests on Messy Can’t Stop Her, I now know that it is more about the intention and the steps, no matter how small. I’ve learnt that even taking a moment to breathe deeply ca...
2022-07-2721 min
Messy Can't Stop HerSelf Care First: Sonia shares her encounters with trouble, racism & practical tips for self careSend JKO a Text MessageSonia continues part three of her story by showing us that sometimes your best laid plans can still get you in trouble. She also delves a little into her personal experience of the added layer for the struggling Black child. She then shares practical self care tips that one can practice with little or no money and even when experiencing the impact of domestic violence. Sonia’s promotion of self care for mothers aligns with Dr. Laura Markham, Clinical Psychologist and Founder of Aha! Parenting’s words - your most valua...
2022-07-2135 min
Messy Can't Stop HerFrom Full Time to Odd Jobs: Sonia Navigates the mental health and substance abuse system to get help for her sonSend JKO a Text MessageFrom a full time job to odd jobs, Sonia had to choose because helping her struggling son without the help of their father became her full time endeavour.Faced with the formidable duo of mental health and substance use challenges, Sonia shares how her sacrifice paid off.As Meryl Streep said, motherhood reduces everything to essentials. References in this episodeMother to the Rescue: Sonia tells us how she saved her son from the addiction triggered by emotional abuse Part one of S...
2022-07-1434 min
Messy Can't Stop HerMother to the Rescue: Sonia tells us how she saved her son from the addiction triggered by emotional abuseSend JKO a Text MessageSeparation is not the end-all and be-all when it comes to domestic violence because in many cases, the impact of the abuse comes along on your journey to freedom. When children are involved, the impact can unfold very slowly with mega chaos erupting just when you think the storm is over. In this three-part story, Sonia shares her experience as a mother navigating the mental health and substance use system to help her teenage son recover from the impact of their father’s emotional abuse. Sonia’s journey captur...
2022-07-0734 min
Messy Can't Stop HerHave Hope, Healing is Possible: JKO Answers 3 Questions About Attachment DisorderSend JKO a Text MessageCan a parent decide to harm their child and their future deliberately? Many of Us will say “No” but what if by what you are doing or allowing others do to you, you are harming your child?JKO answers three questions about attachment disorders that give us additional information about their impact on our children and hope that treatment can help them live a happy and healthy life. References in this episodeAbducted as a Teen: Jessica’s Journey from TraumaLosing Your Ch...
2022-06-3018 min
Messy Can't Stop HerGaslighting to G.R.I.T: Dr Anne E. Burnley continues her story of finding purpose from the pain of domestic violenceSend JKO a Text MessageWhether a medical doctor, army veteran or a stay-at-home mom, domestic violence has no status limitation. Whether emotionally abused, heartbroken, traumatized or gaslighted, your life can still be a beautiful story. DrAhne, continues her story of finding purpose from the pain of a marriage tainted with alcoholism and narcissism.If you’re living in pain and asking “why me?”, be inspired by DrAhne’s story. Your pain will not be a waste. There is hope for your brighter future. References in this episodeChristi...
2022-06-2438 min
Messy Can't Stop HerThe Power of Love: Dr. Anne E. Burnley on leaving an abusive marriage to embark on a journey to healingSend JKO a Text MessageWe hear the question “Why didn’t she leave?” so many times when discussing domestic violence. Dr. Anne Burnley (DrAhne), physician and US Army combat veteran left. She tells us how she was able to overcome the fears and doubts and take that step. In this first part of her story, DrAhne shares how love empowered her to leave a marriage that had literally taken her voice and become hell on earth. She embarked on the healing journey that gave her back her voice and turned her “why me?” into her purpose...
2022-06-1639 min
Messy Can't Stop HerTrauma Tales: Lingering Effects of Domestic ViolenceSend JKO a Text MessageI am tired but I had to show up. I am tired from the lingering effects of domestic violence. I am tired from the pain. Am reaching out to ask for your prayers.I also share about an amazing opportunity to learn all about podcasting and the opportunity to make your dreams come true.References in this episodeThe John Collective’s Podcast Creator CourseJohn Chao’s Perspective Maintenance Podcast available on Apple, Spotify and other podcast platformsSandi Mcke...
2022-06-0913 min
Messy Can't Stop HerA Bit About Unworthiness: My Mental Health JourneySend JKO a Text MessageTrigger Warning: SI, mention of su*c*deHave you ever felt unworthy about stepping up to share? Have you ever been made to feel unworthy by others? You are not alone. It may be the harsh reality of the life that we live but it can also be a battle that we win if we push through those thoughts. Indeed, it is a mental health battle. JKO takes a step back in this episode to share her struggles with unworthiness and her mental health journey with...
2022-06-0228 min
Messy Can't Stop HerA Come Back Story: From Colossal Debt to Good CreditSend JKO a Text Message99% of domestic violence cases involve financial abuse and this invisiblized part of domestic violence can last years, decades or even a lifetime.Tracey (Pseudonym), a domestic violence survivor shares her experience of acute intended poverty and litigation battery and how she came out of the deep hole of debt which she had been manipulated into. Despite her academic and professional experience, Tracey still got blindsided by the subtlety of financial abuse. Tracey’s come back from a negative credit and colossal debt is a tale of hope for any...
2022-05-2645 min
Messy Can't Stop HerLosing Your Child's Heart: A Steep Price of Domestic ViolenceSend JKO a Text MessageIf you knew something would harm your child, will you do it? What if it was your spousal relationship? Last week Jessica Faught talked about the steep price she had to pay to rebuild her relationship with her daughter; their relationship had been strained by attachment disorder. Today, Osa Samuel Olagunju, licensed counsellor and psychotherapist unveils how domestic violence induces attachment disorders and how if unaddressed, it creates constant parent-child conflict, behavioral disorders and a plethora of other challenges.If you or anyone you know is in an unhealthy relationship...
2022-05-1925 min
Messy Can't Stop HerAbducted as a Teen: Jessica’s Journey from TraumaSend JKO a Text MessageAbducted as a teen from Canada to the United States by a father figure and kept in domestic violence captivity for 15 years, Jessica Faught escaped but the impact of that trauma on herself and her children followed her back to Windsor, Ontario. Jessica shares her journey back to healing and her sacrificial collaboration with the child welfare system to give her daughter a new lease on life. Her story highlights the harrowing effect of domestic violence on our children and why every mother should have zero tolerance for domestic violence. ...
2022-05-1248 min
Messy Can't Stop HerMurdered at 17: Nicole’s Domestic Violence StorySend JKO a Text MessageDeath is final. Nicole’s story explains why more focus is placed on physical abuse than other types of abuse. The courts ruled that her death was not premeditated, and they are now set to release her murderer on parole.Andrea Henning tells us how the events that tragically ended her sister Nicole’s life, that September 26th day, still traumatizes every member of her family and she asks for your support to stop her sister’s murderer from going free with his crime. Letters promoting Justice for Nicole by pro...
2022-05-0531 min
Messy Can't Stop HerMost Common, Least Believed: Emotional Abuse, Signs, Impact and How to HelpSend JKO a Text Message95% of men who physically abuse their intimate partners, first abuse them emotionally. Though emotional abuse is the most common abuse, it is the least believed by the police and others and it is the least addressed. JKO discusses the signs, it’s physical and mental health impact on victims and how a victim can support herself in the situation.You could save a life. Please share this story with at least one person in your corner of the world. We can each prevent and create awareness about the domestic violence pa...
2022-04-2849 minMessy Can't Stop HerBonus 1 - Don't Get Bound by ResentmentSend JKO a Text MessageThis bonus episode discusses one of the most common outcomes of domestic violence - BITTERNESS and its stronger mate, RESENTMENT - and gives a few some insight on how it impacts a person psychologically. It also suggests some ways we can avoid the harm it causes by advanced forgiveness and choosing your response.If you would like to share your thoughts on this episode, or any tips you have used to overcome resentment in your life, please feel free to send me a DM on Instagram or Facebook @judithobatusa.
2022-04-2516 min
Messy Can't Stop HerPrevention is Better than Cure: A series of important conversations about domestic violenceSend JKO a Text MessageJKO activates the phrase – Prevention is better than cure – in a series discussing domestic violence, the signs and its impact. This introductory episode highlights the importance of preventing those at risk from getting trapped in the cycle of abuse.By sharing the series with at least one person per episode in our tiny little corner of the world, we can each prevent and create awareness about the domestic violence pandemic.Thank you so much for listening! References in this episodeBraci...
2022-04-2122 min
Messy Can't Stop HerBracing the Broken: Me, You, the Church and Domestic ViolenceSend JKO a Text MessageOn April 8, a Nigerian gospel singer died from the effects of domestic violence and it begs the same old, same old question “Why didn’t she leave?” With stories, videos and Bible verses, JKO discusses the impact of domestic violence and reminds us as individuals, work supervisors and most especially the Church, that we play a role in getting her to leave before she’s killed emotionally, financially or worst of all, physically. If you’ve ever wondered what to do to help someone you know experiencing abuse, please listen and share t...
2022-04-1427 min
Messy Can't Stop HerBringing the Joy: Jessica Janzen shares how losing her son led her to legacy living at its finestSend JKO a Text MessageThe loss of a child can turn a marriage and family on its head and scatter their well arranged lives. For Jessica Janzen and her beau, Hot Ronnie, the choice to bring the joy out of the pain of losing their six month old son, Lewiston, has turned grief on its head. Jessica shares how her choice to be resilient and vulnerable has opened the door to a life of abundance where the Love for Lewiston Foundation is changing the landscape of Spinal Muscular Atrophy in the province of Alberta (Canada) and...
2022-04-071h 07
Messy Can't Stop HerHealing from Domestic Violence: Debbie Di Verde on the role of creativity, community and the Church in her healing journeySend JKO a Text MessageI wonder how many of us lose our person and feel we have nothing to offer the world just because we fell in love... Debbie Di Verde tells us how creativity, community and the Church helped her recover from the toxic effects of a relationship that led to the loss of her children and almost the loss of her life’s value.Debbie has starred in various stage productions including a role in Steel Magnolias as Truvy. She also has various film credits and published works under her belt. In he...
2022-03-311h 11
Messy Can't Stop HerBe Vulnerable Anyway: A lesson on vulnerability from a Facebook postSend JKO a Text MessageSocial Media is one of those spaces where vulnerability can be a challenge. Some of us are quick to share our vacation pictures and start a discussion about them on Facebook but find it very hard to share our struggles or even our new business. We do our best to carefully curate our persona so that we fit in. And because we are not a celebrity sharing their diagnosis or loss, we think no one will care about our own.This episode helps us see that every time we truly...
2022-03-2416 min
Messy Can't Stop HerLiving a Radically Audacious Life: Tiphany Kane on journeying from subserviency to saying Heck Yes! to life on her own termsSend JKO a Text Message“You always have to make it all about you.” She had heard it once too many and this time, instead of allowing it to break her down, she leveraged that trigger and squared her shoulders to start the #selflove merchandise line. In this episode of Messy Can’t Stop Her, Tiphany Kane, the Heck Yes! coach is no stranger to challenging life circumstances but her ability to turn every hurdle into an opportunity for growth makes her a study in resilience. On this episode, Tiphany shares her journey from a life of subser...
2022-03-171h 05
Messy Can't Stop HerBeauty in our Imperfections: Recognizing past mistakes and failures as experiences that enrich our lives and increase our valueSend JKO a Text MessageIn this Women's History Month, I identify a stumbling block that stops many of us from stepping up to share our goodness with the world. Using lessons from the Japanese art form of Kintsugi, I encourage my sisters to recognize the beauty that lies within our imperfections. This episode reminds us that whether positive or negative, we have to agree with our critics and cheerleaders for their words to make impact. It is also a reminder for us to choose the role we will play in the lives of our f...
2022-03-1011 min
Messy Can't Stop HerEmotional and Spiritual Healing: Shwanda Onwuachi on coming through the darkness of sexual molestation into the light of love for self and othersSend JKO a Text MessageSexually molested at the age of five, Shwanda Ifeoma Onwuachi battled the effects of that trauma till adulthood by hating men and doing everything to make sure she never had to rely on them. Then, she had an encounter that changed her life.In this episode, Shwanda shares how despite the failings of men and women in her life, she learnt to love in words and deeds by self-love, talk therapy and minding the business that minds her.Shwanda’s story will make you cry, make you laugh an...
2022-03-0357 min
Messy Can't Stop HerFinding Her Perfect Career at 70: Pat Backley on becoming an author because of the pandemic and now living a life beyond her dreamsSend JKO a Text MessagePat Backley is a living example of the saying “Age is a matter of the mind. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter”. At 70, Pat began her dream career and is now enjoying a fabulous life. Pandemic boredom unlocked her creativity and she wrote her first novel within three weeks in the 2020 lockdown. This unleashed the deluge of stories hidden in her life experiences. Four books later, including her memoirs, Pat says she’s going to write till she dies and not soon because, she’s got many stories to tell.
2022-02-2451 min
Messy Can't Stop HerBeing Black in Canada: Experiencing anti-Black racism and allyship as a parent and immigrantSend JKO a Text MessageIt’s Black History Month and on this episode, I will be sharing a bit of my experience as a Black person living in Canada. I talk about some of the challenges I’ve had and also the role of allies in stemming the tide of anti-Black racism that seems to be entrenched in our systems and interactions. I’ve faced walls of silence and awkward questions, but I’ve also encountered wonderful support from White allies and indigenous Blacks. Yes, there’s been sadness but there’s also been the joy of experienc...
2022-02-1722 min
Messy Can't Stop HerAchieving Work-Wellness Balance: Neema Black on pivoting from a work challenge to a purpose driven career pathSend JKO a Text MessageThe behaviour of a senior colleague at work was meant to mess her up, ended up propelling her onto a career path doing what she loves. On this episode of Messy Can’t Stop Her, Neema Black, founder of the 90 Days to Wellness Healthy Eating Plan and host of the Harmonious Living podcast tells us how the challenges of life pivoted her into purpose. Neema helps her clients integrate holistic wellness practices into their lifestyle so that they can live healthy and balanced lives.Neema’s story is an example of h...
2022-02-1044 min
Messy Can't Stop HerGrowing From Radical Forgiveness: Donna Fairhurst on transitioning to an enviable life through forgivenessSend JKO a Text MessageFrom near blindness, polio, cancer, three near-death experiences, bankruptcy, multiple career and home transitions, and two failed marriages, Donna Fairhurst, intuitive life and soul transition coach, earned her PhD from the University of Life. On this episode of Messy Can’t Stop Her, Donna tells us how radical forgiveness helped her transition from chaos to calmness and led her to marry the “best thing that ever happened to her” at 54! Through her coaching program, Donna now empowers other women to experience their own transformational transitions too.Donna’s story teaches u...
2022-02-0350 min
Messy Can't Stop HerFinding (her)Self Through Obesity: Aleisha Black on taking the pounds off through self loveSend JKO a Text MessageAfter losing 85lbs and documenting her journey on YouTube, life happened and she gained it all back and more. In this episode of Messy Can’t Stop Her, Aleisha Black, host of the podcast and Facebook community Finding Myself Through Obesity tells us how getting off the weight loss pendulum helped her learn to love herself and take pounds off when she wasn’t looking. In Aleisha’s story of growth and healing, we learn that as long as we don’t stop learning, messy cannot stop us.List...
2022-01-2553 min
Messy Can't Stop HerBecoming Finally Effing Happy: Shannon Klenk on journeying from the suicide hotline to becoming a happiness coachSend JKO a Text MessageToday’s guest on Messy Can’t Stop Her, Shannon Klenk shares her journey from a traumatic childhood, failed relationships and living with a chronic illness to a self-care strategist? On this episode, Shannon tells us what she did to rise from holding the suicide hotline in her back pocket to holding space for others as a happiness coach.Shannon is the host of Finally Effing Happy, a podcast and community where women with chronic conditions are supported with resources, motivation and practical tools to help them get into...
2022-01-2056 min
Messy Can't Stop HerThe Story Behind the Podcast: A Masters in the MessySend JKO a Text MessageWelcome to Messy Can't Stop Her with your host, Judith Kambia Obatusa - JKO.My life has been a journey of many valleys but I've always been able to climb out of every one of them by holding onto the rope of other people's triumphs over challenges. In Episode 1 of the Messy Can’t Stop Her Podcast, I share my reason for starting this podcast. I start with the story of a Master's degree and what I learnt from the challenges I faced during and after. The idea...
2022-01-1316 min