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Want to Want It with Jamelyn Stephan#129 - Going After What You Want with Jarad StephanOn this episode I have my most special guest ever - my husband, Jarad Stephan. He is really good at going after what he wants. Our conversation explores topics like setting goals, the challenges of navigating life's unexpected paths, and the importance of aligning one's desires with God's will. Jarad also shares insights on manifesting dreams, the role of sacrifice, and the process of trusting God's plan. We also discuss societal expectations and the different messages men and women receive about their desires.https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://www.instagram...
2024-07-3048 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn Stephan#98 - Overthinking with Lexie HillLexie Hill is an expert in helping people deal with overthinking. Lexie shares her personal journey to coaching, the effects of overthinking on individuals, and gives multiple strategies to cope with overthinking such as setting aside worry time, journaling, maintaining self-compassion, focusing on controllable elements, and practicing the 5 4 3 2 1 grounding technique. Lexie also covers the importance of self-care and the role of coaching in helping individuals to navigate challenges related to overthinking.Lexie Hill's Website:https://lexiehillcoaching.com/Lexie Hill Coaching on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lexiehillcoaching/https://jamelynstephan.com
2023-12-2642 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn Stephan#97 - Generosity"Attention is the rarest and purest form of generosity.” I heard this on a podcast and it hit me with such force. I knew I wasn't great at that kind of generosity, but I wanted to be. This started me on a whole exploration about generosity and how overcoming scarcity mindset and developing an abundance mentality is key to increasing generosity.https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com
2023-12-1911 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn Stephan#96 - AnticipationWith Christmas just around the corner, anticipation is high. On this episode I discusses the importance and power of anticipation in various aspects of life, including personal growth, milestones, and even sexual desire. I explore both positive anticipation and anticipatory anxiety, and suggest ways to deliberately increase anticipation in one's life to boost joy and motivation, and decrease stress.https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com
2023-12-1218 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn Stephan#95 - ADHD and Intimacy with Kamden HainsworthAn ADHD diagnosis as an adult is life changing - and possibly a little relieving. Now things make way more sense and you can start to learn tools that can help you in so many areas of your life. Including your intimate relationship. Today I talk with Kamden Hainsworth, an ADHD Life Coach who helps people live fully and confidently with ADHD. We talk about some of the challenges of ADHD, especially on intimacy. She also shares some practical tips to help you increase the intimacy in your marriage, despite your ADHD.Kamden's Website:...
2023-12-0542 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn Stephan#94 - Stop Saying Sorry with Jason ByamMy oldest brother Jason is the philosopher of our family. He's thought a lot about why we all need to stop saying sorry and what we need to start saying instead. Here's the link for Jason's exterior lighting, Glowstone Lighting:https://glowstonelighting.com/ https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com
2023-11-2825 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn Stephan#93 - Bucket ListMany people have a bucket list, a list of experiences they want to have before they die. For some, the idea of a bucket list seems daunting or unappealing. On this episode I try to give a new perspective on bucket lists as well as introduce you to the idea of a 100 List that I think many of you will find more appealing.https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com
2023-11-2114 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn Stephan#92 - Gratitude for the PastWe all have feelings about our past. Happiness, regret, hurt, fondness, and even gratitude. At least for the good parts. But what about the hard parts? Do we have gratitude for those parts of our past? On this episode I discuss not only how to be grateful for ALL your past, but why it will benefit you to feel it.https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com
2023-11-1420 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn Stephan#91 - Gratitude Ahead of TimeHave you ever considered being grateful for something that hasn't happened yet or for something you haven't received yet? This is a really powerful practice. It's a faith practice. Listen in to find out exactly how to do this and why you might want to give it a try. https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com
2023-11-0718 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn Stephan#90 - Decision Debt and FatigueWhen we avoid making any decision at all, our brain keeps nagging at us to make a decision. That takes energy from us but we have nothing to show for it. We are then in energy debt, or decision debt.When we have to make a lot of decisions we can become tired of making decisions. This is called decision fatigue. Decision fatigue can make us resist making more decisions which puts us back into decisions debt. Trust me, this all makes sense. Listen to find out what I mean.https://jamelynstephan.comhttps...
2023-10-3125 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanOne Man's TrashWe recently de-junked and sold some paintball guns and totally delighted the man who bought them from us. So, this episode is all about the goodness we can put into the world when we give away things we don't need anymore. Listen in if you want some great de-junking inspiration. https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com
2023-10-2411 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanYour PathWe often say the words "my path" or "their path" as we describe our journey though life. Today I want to give you a little different way to think about these paths we are all on in hopes it can bring you some peace and some determination to keep going. https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com
2023-10-1727 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanSeek First to UnderstandIn the book The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, Stephen R. Covey teaches Habit #5: Seek first to understand, then to be understood. On this episode of Want to Want It I focus my attention on the first half of that habit. Seek first to understand.I've been listening to a lot of couples coaching as part of my continuing education and one of the key pieces of marital advice that comes up over and over again is to seek first to understand.Seeking first to understand is not the same...
2023-10-1036 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanScheduling Your TRUE Priorities with Ceri PayneCeri Payne, certified executive life and business coach, teaches us her tips and tricks for scheduling and time management. It starts by figuring out our true priorities and using that information to create a schedule that motivates and inspires us.Ceri's Free Gift - 24 Simple Ways to Save 24 Hours Each Monthhttps://twilight-fire-789.myflodesk.com/d3e5b018-4c11-4151-9e8e-26fd7461a97fFind Ceri on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/ceripaynecoaching/Or on her website:https://organizedlife.coach/https://jamelynstephan.com...
2023-10-0334 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanLesson's From "The Gap and The Gain"I want to share some of the wisdom from that book."The Gap and The Gain" by Dan Sullivan and Benjamin Hardy. Listen in if you want to change the way you look at progress and achieving goals. https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com
2023-09-2620 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanSometimes Your Brain Lies to YouHave you ever sat at a stop light and the car next to you starts to inch forward but you don't see it that way? You actually feel like you are rolling backwards. It's because sometimes our brain lies to us. Not to be malicious but to keep us safe. The problem is that we believe the lies and they tend to not serve us very well. Listen as I talk about ways your brain may be lying to you and what to do about it. https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/h...
2023-09-1915 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanServing Burnt ToastI recently went to a restaurant where they served me a burnt grilled cheese sandwich. I'm not sure why they thought I would want to pay for and eat burnt toast, but it ended up in front of me on the table. Needless to say, I sent it back and they made me a new one. But it made me think, how often do we try to serve the people around burnt toast? How often are we dishing out our worst behaviour and hoping everyone around us will swallow it? https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.c...
2023-09-1213 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanParenting Teens with Ben PughBen Pugh loves working with parents of teens! As a teen he struggled with confidence, anxiety and overwhelm, and making good decisions. When he was 13 he accidentally lit a bus on fire with rubber cement. This and other experiences have driven him to help parents of teens become the parents they've always wanted to be. On this episode of the podcast he shares some of his best strategies to help you achieve that goal as well.Ben Pugh Coaching Websitehttps://benpughcoaching.comBen's Podcast: Impact - Parenting With Perspectivehttps://benpughcoaching.com...
2023-09-0533 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanValidationFrom the time we are babies we are always seeking for outside validation. The hope though, is that as we grow up and mature, we will seek less outside validation and more self-validation. But nobody teaches us exactly how to do that and so we often find ourselves still wanting validation from others as we ageBut people around us aren't great at validating us all the time and so we can start to put pressure on them to give us the validation we want. And that's where things start to go badly. Listen in to find out more.
2023-08-2918 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanLoss with Tricia ZodyLoss and the ensuing grief are inevitable parts of our mortal experience. It can be the loss of a loved one or the loss of a dream, they all bring us grief. I invited Certified Life Coach Tricia Zody to talk about this sensitive topic. In 2017 Tricia's husband of 30 years tragically died, leaving her in despair. But God reached in and told her she could have another beautiful life. Now she runs Another Beautiful Life Coaching and uses her story to help others. Listen to learn about loss, grieving, healing, and still living a beautiful life along the way.
2023-08-2241 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanSelf-ConfrontationSelf-confrontation is when you look within yourself and examine your own attitudes and behaviours to see where you have shortcomings so that you can make needed changes. It’s about taking an honest look at yourself and finding your own flaws so you can correct them. This isn't easy work to do.But it's powerful work that will change your relationship with yourself and your relationship with others.Listen to find out how to do it.https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/
2023-08-1523 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanPreparing Your Anxious Teen for Back to School with Daelene ByamListen in on this conversation with Daelene Byam, a certified life coach who works with teenagers and young adults who struggle with anxiety. On this episode we will discuss:- how to know if your child is experiencing normal, human anxiety or if it something that they need help with.- how to normalize anxiety.- 4 things parents can do to help their kids with anxiety.Daelene's Website:https://www.daelenebyam.com/Daelene's Facebook Page:https://www.facebook.com/daelenetheanxietycoachDaelene's Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/anxietycoachdaelene/
2023-08-0830 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanCompliance and DefianceWhen we are always complying to the requests and demands of others we can suddenly find ourselves leaving compliance and swinging way over to defiance. Listen to find out the difference between compliance that brings goodness versus compliance that is detrimental to us. Also, find out why detrimental compliance will always push us to defiance. Lastly, learn how to stop the compliance/defiance cycle in your life.https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com
2023-08-0116 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanDisruptions to Your Relationship's EcosystemJust like our world is made up of ecosystems, so are our relationships. Whether at home, at school, or at work, humans are really good at creating patterns of living together that are comfortable. But just like nature's ecosystems, there are things that disrupt our relationship's ecosystems. A new baby, a divorce, a new teacher, a new boss, a rebellious teenager. Listen today to learn how, even though it can be uncomfortable, having your ecosystem disrupted can be so beneficial.https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_c...
2023-07-2517 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanHow to Believe Something NewI believe what you think really matters because what you think in your mind creates the life you end up with. I believe this so deeply and that's why I help people learn how to believe new things. I want to help them create their lives more intentionally. On this episode I teach you how to learn to believe something new. (And I promise it's not about using mantras.)https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com
2023-07-1819 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanLove You Loving MeSome of us claim to love our spouse but often what we really love is them loving us; we love them doing the things we want them to do for us so we can think good things about ourselves. If you're not sure exactly what I mean by this or if you aren't sure if you do this, this episode is for you.https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com
2023-07-1118 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanRegret - Teacher or TormentorWe all have felt regret before - that feeling of sadness or disappointment over something that has happened or that we've done. It's not a positive emotion but it can be used to teach us lessons - often the lesson of how we will do it differently next time. But what happens when instead of taking the lesson and moving on, we hold onto the regret? Then it becomes a tormentor as we are filled with shame and judgment about ourselves.On this episode of the podcast I talk about:- why we hold onto regret.
2023-07-0429 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanWho's in the Driver's Seat?It is easy to let our negative emotions drive the car of our lives. But they often take us places we really don't want to be. And they are really terrible drivers. So, how can we let the negative emotions be in the car without being in the driver's seat? Listen in to find out.https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com
2023-06-2715 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanSelling Them Well or Selling Them Short?Every time a person's name crosses your lips you are selling them to the people around you. On this episode I discuss why this is, why it's important to understand, and how to sell people well instead of selling them short.https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com
2023-06-2015 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanParenting - A Few Things I've LearnedI don't claim to be a parenting expert but having 7 children (who currently range from 11 to 24 years of age) has taught me a thing or two. On this episode I share 8 things I've learned that have helped me as I parent my children - and as I allow my husband to parent them as well.https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com
2023-06-1327 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanFeeling KindWe have all been taught how to act with kindness, even towards those we would say are "hard to be kind to". But what if no one is actually hard to be kind to? I learned a life-changing lesson about the importance of feeling kind, not just being kind, that I want to share with you.https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com
2023-06-0613 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanMeaningful SufferingOn the previous episode I talked about unnecessary suffering and how we choose it. On this episode I want to clarify that not all the suffering we choose is unnecessary. Some of the suffering we choose is actually meaningful because it gets us closer to what we really want in our life. When we want something, when really desire it, we have to willing to suffer sometimes to get it and when we understand that our suffering has meaning, it can make all the difference.https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https...
2023-05-3011 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanUnnecessary SufferingLife has inevitable pain - sometimes physical, sometimes emotional. What isn't inevitable is the unnecessary suffering we add onto our normal human pain. Here is how we do this:- we resist what is.- we believe that there is better than here.- we think we are supposed to suffer.- we focus on worst case scenario.- we think that things are going to be hard.On this episode I dive into each of the ways we add unnecessary suffering into our lives and give you some tools to help...
2023-05-2325 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanRespect MeSome of us think respect is something we can just expect, or even demand from others. In other words, we feel really entitled to be respected. But guess what? We can't make anyone respect us. And often, when we try to make someone respect us, we end up disrespecting them. This episode talks about feeling entitled to being respected, what respect really is, and how to foster more respect for yourself and others. https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_s...
2023-05-1624 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanConfusionConfusion is an emotion that many of us indulge in so we don't have to take action. We don't do it on purpose but our subconscious does it because it feels safe. You see, when you are confused you don't have to do anything uncomfortable and you don't have to make a decision you might regret. The problem is, when you stay confused you also never get to create the opportunities and the life that you really want.https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/
2023-05-0919 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanWhen to Zoom In and When to Zoom OutJust like a camera can zoom in and zoom out, so can the focus of our lives. Sometimes the circumstances of our lives require us to zoom in so we can take care of something that requires immediate, intense attention.At other times we have more freedom to zoom out. Freedom to look at the big picture of our lives and create a vision for our future. On this episode I discuss when to zoom in and why we sometimes avoid it. I also talk about when to zoom out and why sometimes we don't zoom ou...
2023-05-0215 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanMind Your BusinessThere are three types of business.God's business.Their business.And your business.Too often we want to spend our time focused on God's business and other people's business. But, if you want a life that feels free and more in your control you need to spend your time worrying about your own business, not God's and not their's.Email:jamelyn@jamelynstephan.comFacebook:https://www.facebook.com/jamelynstephancoachingInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/https://jamelynstephan.comhttps...
2023-04-2517 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanOpposition in YouNewton's Third Law states that for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. In other words, there is opposition in all things. Even within ourselves. For example, perhaps you choose not to exercise today. Your brain starts to tell you how lazy you are and how inconsistent you are. The next day you exercise. This time your brain tells you that exercise hurts too much and is too hard. No matter what you do, your brain is going to offer you opposition to it.Listen for more examples of ways this opposition may show up...
2023-04-1817 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanComplainingDid you know the average person complains 15 to 30 times a day? Did you also know that complaining actually makes you feel terrible? Of course you did. So why do you keep doing it? Listen to find out why we are addicted to complaining and how to stop.Complaint Free World:https://customerservice243c9b.clickfunnels.com/order-490679491623345347975https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com
2023-04-1120 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanRethinking GratitudeI know you've heard a lot about gratitude but on this episode I am sharing with you Kevin Clayson's FLIP formula for gratitude. Once you learn this it is going to blow your mind and change your ability to feel gratitude forever. Kevin Clayson's Website:https://kevinclayson.com/homeFlip The Gratitude Switch:https://flipthegratitudeswitch.com/bookPresident Nelson "The Healing Power of Gratitude"https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i51gcWCs-Hohttps://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/
2023-04-0423 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanGood Emotions That Feel BadSome emotions are negative and they feel bad in our bodies, like anxiety. Some emotions feel good but are negative because they lead us to do things that bring bad into our lives, like pride.Some emotions are positive and they feel good in our bodies, like glee.Some emotions feel bad but are positive because they lead us to do things that bring goodness into our lives, like courage, patience, and discomfort. Listen in to find out what I mean.https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://www.i...
2023-03-2818 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanBufferingHuman’s want to feel good all the time. We like dopamine. So, when we are faced with a negative emotion our instinct is to get away from it and one way we do this is by buffering.Buffering is when we use something outside of us to decrease the negative emotion we are feeling inside. But this isn't really a good idea because when we buffer we use a false pleasure to distract us from our negative emotion. But that negative emotion doesn't really go away. We just become less aware of it for a ti...
2023-03-2120 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanTrauma, Your Nervous System, and Intimacy with Denita BremerDenita is a trauma coach for Latter-day Saints and she's on the podcast talking about how trauma affects intimacy. Specifically she talks about:- what trauma is.- how your body reacts to trauma.- your nervous system's window of tolerance.- and how this affects your ability to be intimate.Website:https://denitabremer.com/(this is where to find her free Trauma Assessment)Podcast:Trauma Coaching for Latter-day Saints.https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/
2023-03-1441 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanDiscomfort Now or LaterDo you ever feel like you just can't get yourself to do the thing you know you want to do? You just can't get yourself to start taking care of an item on your to-do list, a new skill or habit you want to create, or a goal you want to achieve. On this episode I will teach you why you feel so stuck and it all has to do with your desire to avoid discomfort. But what if the reality is you're going to feel discomfort now or discomfort later?https://jamelynstephan.comhttps...
2023-03-0716 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanWho Do I Want to Be?Do you ever feel like it's hard to show up as your "best self"? I know that certain situations and certain people seem to bring out the worst in me. That's why I started to ask myself this simple question: "Who do I want to be?"Listen as I talk about the power this question can have in your life and in the life of others. https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com
2023-02-2819 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanWhat if It's Pain either Way?Many of us find ourselves in situations that feel really uncomfortable and painful for a variety of reasons. We can find ourselves feeling stuck in this pain because we can't see a way out. But the reason we often can't see a solution is because we are looking for a way out that isn’t painful. We want a solution to our problem that is easy and comfortable and good for everyone and feels amazing. But this is not always possible. Sometimes the solution to our problem is also painful and that can be the best thing to understand bec...
2023-02-2116 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanThe River of MiseryI know the River of Misery sounds terrible and unappealing but it's actually so good. Too often we sit in the Pond of Discontent, unable to change our lives to what we want it to be because we are too afraid to step into the River of Misery. But, to get what we want, we have to leave the pond and cross the river. Because on the other side of that river is what we really want in our lives. Let me teach you how to get brave enough to get out of the pond and into the river.
2023-02-1416 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanObstacles to Reaching Your GoalThe beginning of February is when most people quit on their New Year's Resolutions. But there are many reasons we don't end up achieving the goals we set. One of the biggest reasons is because we don't anticipate the obstacles that will get in our way and therefore we don't have strategies in place to overcome them. On this episode I teach you a tool that will help increase your chances of getting your goal. First, you have to identify the possible obstacles to your goal and then you have to create a strategy to...
2023-02-0721 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanFinding your purpose.Many people tell me they need to find their purpose or want to find a new purpose or tell me how they've lost their purpose. But what if your purpose can't be lost or found? What if it just needs to be chosen and created?On this episode I offer you a new way to look at purpose and help you with some practical ideas of how to create it on your own.https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com
2023-01-3122 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanNot Feeling Like MyselfIt's January and I just don't feel like myself. I feel really blah. Maybe you can relate. If so, listen in to find out the tools I am using to gently take myself through this down time and to take care of myself along the way.https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com
2023-01-2415 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanRe-entry AnxietySometimes after we have stepped away from our "real life" (gone on a vacation or had a school holiday) we can feel a lot of anxiety about re-entering reality.On this episode I discuss why this happens and offer help on how to both deal with the anxiety and over-come it.https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com
2023-01-1718 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanHow You Are Turning Yourself OffDid you know you have the power to either turn yourself on or turn yourself off? So much of it comes down to what you are thinking about yourself, your spouse, and sex in general.https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com
2023-01-1010 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanIt's Just Clutter with ReDonna ByamReDonna Byam is a certified life coach who helps people take care of their physical and mental clutter realistically and authentically. And she's super good at it. Listen to learn:- Why you have clutter and what you make it mean about you.- What obstacles make it difficult to dejunk and how to overcome them.- What to do about other people's clutter (like hubby and the kids).She also offers some great practical tips and tricks to help you start decluttering your life, including her 6 questions:1. Where does clutter accumulate in...
2023-01-0339 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanLessons From EssentialismDo you have a whole list of books you really want to read but just can't get too? I get it. That's why I recorded this episode of Want to Want It. I read the book Essentialism, by Greg McKeown, and decided to take my favourite parts and share them with you.Here is what you will find out as you listen today:- how to focus on less but better.- the origin of the word 'priorities'.- the core mindset of an Essentialist.- why trade-offs are actually...
2022-12-2719 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanHow To ReceiveWe have all been told that it is better to give than it is to receive. But what if we're wrong about that?Today I explore:1. Why it is hard for some of us to receive.2. Why you should start to be more open to receiving.3. And some ways to help you actually receive the goodness others are trying to give you.https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com
2022-12-2018 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanSaying NoAre you someone who struggles saying no to the requests of others? Do feel resentful of all that people require of you? Listen here to learn:1. Why you don't say no when you want to.2. Why you should start to say no, at least sometimes.3. When you should say yes.4. And how to actually say no when you want to.https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com
2022-12-1318 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanSelf-Confidence and Desire with Laura DryI invited my coach, Laura Dry, to teach us about self-confidence and how it impacts our desire. Laura found herself feeling miserable even though she was living the life she always wanted. She couldn't figure out what the problem was until she found some of the tools she shares in this episode.She also explains the three parts necessary for true self-confidence. And at the end we talk about how self-confidence is key to seeking your desires and increasing your desire in the bedroom.Website: https://lauradrycoaching.comFreebie - 7 Days To M...
2022-12-0627 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanHelp To Navigate The Holiday SeasonThe holiday season can be the best of times or it can be the worst of times. Especially when you have a lot of expectations you put on yourself, on others, or on the season in general. Not to mention the expectations other people put on you as well. On this episode I'm arming you with a tool box that will help you enjoy this "most wonderful time of the year."You're welcome.https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/jamelyn@jamelynstpehan...
2022-11-2920 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanThoughts You Can Try On.Did you know you can try on new thoughts like you try on new clothes? On this episode I'm offering you 25 new thoughts to try on. You don't have to try them all but pick one or two to walk around with for a few days. See if you like how they feel. See if you like the results they give you in your life.https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com
2022-11-2235 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanHow to Increase Your Sexual DesireDo you want to increase your sexual desire but you're not sure how to do it? Or does it feel like everything you try seems to fail? That's because most of the time we are trying to do something that will increase our desire instead of think something to increase our desire. On this episode of Want To Want It I explore the thoughts you may be having that are keeping your sexual desire at bay.Your thoughts about sex in general.Your thoughts about your spouse.Your thoughts about yourself.
2022-11-1530 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanThe Difference Between Love & DesireOn this episode I talk about the difference between love and desire. Too often we think they are the same thing but they aren't. Love is stable and certain. It feels peaceful and safe. Desire on the other hand is more expansive and novel. It is yearning and passion. Love wants to belong. Desire wants autonomy.Esther Perel says, “From the moment we are born, we straddle two sets of contradicting needs: the need for security and the need for freedom.”And we experience this in our marriages as well. We want to belo...
2022-11-0817 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanGetting On The Same PageDo you find yourself wishing you and your spouse could be on the same page more often? On this episode I talk about:1. What we really mean when we tell our spouse "we need to get on the same page."2. Why we want to be on the same page (and it's not always for the good of our marriage).3. How being on the same page can be overrated AND how it can be really valuable. 4. How to get on the same page without a big fight. https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.co...
2022-11-0118 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanMoney Beliefs with Breian ElliottOur beliefs about money will determine how we feel about it and how much of it we have.On this episode I invited my sister, Breian Elliott, to talk to us about money. Breian is a certified life coach who helps women with their business finances.Listen in to learn about:- Common limiting beliefs many people have about money.- Money scarcity.- Money and marriage.- Judgments about money.- Money and desire.- And how to neutralize money if it feels very emotional for you.
2022-10-2554 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanJudgement vs JudgementalHave you ever stopped to consider the difference between using judgment and being judgemental? I think it's a pretty important distinction. I think too often we are so worried about being seen as judgmental that we stop using judgment. Judgment is focused on you and asks questions such as, "What is good for me? What do I want to do when I look at all the options before me? What opinion do I want to have?" Whereas, being judgemental is focused on others and asking questions such as, "Why would they do that?" And making statements like, "They are d...
2022-10-1827 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanSelf-ConfrontationThe Psychology Dictionary defines self-confrontation as "examining our own behaviours and attitudes to make a change we may need to make." So, to successfully self-confront means that you are willing to examine your attitudes, behaviours, and shortcomings and are willing to change. In this episode I examine why we don't really want to self-confront, what we do instead of self-confronting, why self-confrontation is a game changer for your relationships (especially your marriage), and how to start self-confronting. https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.co...
2022-10-1119 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanThe FutureYour future is 5 minutes from now, or 5 years from now, or 50 years from now and it's yours for the making. As a kid I'm sure you loved to dream about the future. Going to your first day of school. Getting your driver's licence. Having a career. Getting married. Having a baby. But often future dreams stop there. Almost like you thought the best of your life was all going to happen before you were 40. But you have so many years ahead of you and you have the power to make them as amazing as you want. On t...
2022-10-0425 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanThe PresentSometimes it may feel like your past is always haunting you and your future is always worrying you. Or maybe you feel like the best days have already been or you won't be happy until some future event takes place.But the world is beginning to encourage more and more of us to live in the present and learn how to be more present in the present.On this podcast I'll give you some practical tips on how to bring yourself back into the present moment and how to live IN the present without living only F...
2022-09-2718 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanThe PastOur past is what happened to us 10 seconds ago or 10 years ago. And it can have such a strong hold on us. But our past is really just what we think about it and is completely optional. If you feel like you are still at the effect of your past listen to find out how to gain power over your history and create a different future.https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/j...
2022-09-2029 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanRelationships Are All In Your HeadThe way we feel about other people has nothing to do with them and everything to do with what we think about them. Listen to find out why this is the best news and the power for good this will have for your relationships with others and your relationship with yourself.Visit my website:https://jamelynstephan.comBook a free 25 minute session with me:https://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com
2022-09-1318 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanFocus On You, Not HimIt can be so easy to want to make the other person in your relationship change so you can be happy but it's impossible to make someone else change. So, if you want to make changes in any relationship, especially in your marriage, focus on yourself.On this episode I will explain why you should work to change yourself first and how to do it if you want to make lasting improvements to your most precious (and sometimes most difficult) relationships.https://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com
2022-09-0623 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanPlanning for DesireDo you schedule your life? Do you make time for all the pressing matters, all the kids lessons, all the meetings? Do you ever plan time for your desires? Listen in today as I share my process for planning my weeks and how to make time for your desires.Visit my website:https://jamelynstephan.comFree 25 minute session here:https://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com
2022-08-3016 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanAppreciate YouFor those of you who may find it hard to really love yourself or to be able to see your strengths, this episode is for you. You are the child of the most loving, creative Being in the universe and He created you. On this episode I am going to give you an assignment that will increase your appreciation of you without feeling arrogant or prideful. Instead you get to be so grateful for how you were created.Visit my website:https://jamelynstephan.comMeet with me for a free 25 minute session:https...
2022-08-2311 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanBoundariesMost of our relationships don't require boundaries. But every once in a while we may find ourselves in relationship with someone we feel the need to create a boundary with because they are coming into our emotional or physical space without our permission. On this episode I will teach you how to clearly know when a boundary is required, why you should set one, and the best way to do it. My method differs from others but I think you'll discover it's more loving and easier to enforce.Visit my website:https://jamelynstephan.com
2022-08-1620 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanSelf-CriticismOur brains think being critical of ourselves is very useful but often it just leaves us feeling badly about ourselves. Listen in to find out how to turn down the volume of your critical mind and how speak in a way that will encourage change without beating yourself up.Visit my website here:https://jamelynstephan.comSnag one of my free 25 minute sessions here:https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com
2022-08-0920 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanBeing WrongHave you ever experienced the joy of being wrong? Does that sound crazy to you? On this episode I discuss the idea of intellectual humility and why you want to learn to be ok with being wrong.Visit my website here:https://jamelynstephan.comBook a free 25 minute session here:https://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com
2022-08-0224 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanWhat Motivates You?Our three basic human motivations are to seek ease, seek pleasure, and avoid pain. Thanks to these motivational forces our world is full of amazing tools and inventions. But if we want to progress we can't stay stuck in these lower motivations. Listen now to find out why we these are our three basic motivations and how to overcome them to create the life you really want.Click below to visit my website:https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/
2022-07-2619 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanAll or Nothing ThinkingAll or nothing thinking is a thought pattern that makes us more prone to negative thoughts or negative conclusions. It's very polarizing. Everything is either good or bad, right or wrong, success or failure, perfect or terrible.When we give into this type of thinking we are essentially saying that there's really only two options for everything or everyone. Success or failure, good or bad, right or wrong. But in reality most of us spend our time in between those two extremes. On this episode I'll help you recognize what all or nothing thinking looks like, why i...
2022-07-1925 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanThe Positivity Model with Dr. PaulDr. Paul Jenkins is a professional psychologist and a personal development coach who's been practicing for over 20 years. He is a positivity expert and the author of the book, Pathological Positivity. He also is a talented public speaker and he hosts the podcast Live On Purpose Radio. He also has a YouTube channel called Live On Purpose TV, where you can find hundreds of videos for navigating parenting and life. On this episode Dr. Paul shares his Positivity Model with us and teaches us how to become more aware of how we are viewing the world...
2022-07-1249 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanDesire and OpportunityA key to our desires being realized is opportunity. Meaning, the more ideal the time is or the set of circumstances are, the more likely we are to follow through on going after what we desire. On this episode of the podcast I talk about how to increase opportunity, when it's better to decrease opportunity, and what really increases our desire.https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com
2022-07-0513 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanBelief in YouA belief is a thought you think over and over. So, you don't just wake up one day believing in yourself. You actually have to choose to believe in you. On this episode I'm going to teach you how to practice new thoughts about yourself over and over until you believe them.https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com
2022-06-2828 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanIndecisionMany of us really struggle making decisions. We can feel unsure of what the right decision is and get worried about making the wrong decision. Our fear and lack of confidence in our decisions keeps us totally stuck in indecision. Becoming a good decision maker is a skill and on this episode I give you a few ideas of how to become a better decision maker. https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com
2022-06-2136 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanVictim MentalityAll of us have times when we feel like we are a victim, but are we at risk of developing a victim mentality? A victim mentality is a learned way of being, a trait that we develop, whether consciously or unconsciously. Those caught in victim mentality feel like everything is happening to them and that they have no ability to change that. Listen here to learn more about how to deal with someone who may have a victim mentality, what makes someone hold onto their victim stories, and how to get yourself out of it if you are in t...
2022-06-1424 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanPerfectionism and DesirePerfectionism is really a desire killer. On this episode I talk about what a perfectionist is, why so many of us become perfectionists, how perfectionists behave, ways to get out of the perfectionist trap, and why perfection keeps you from desiring. https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com
2022-06-0728 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanTherapy and CoachingWhen people find out I'm a life coach, I often get asked, "what's the difference between therapy and coaching?" On todays episode I want to shed a little bit of light on this and explain why therapy is a better choice for some people and why coaching is better for others.https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com
2022-05-3118 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanMirroring EmotionsDo you ever find yourself getting mad because your husband is mad? Or anxious and worried because your child is anxious and worried? This is called Mirroring Emotions and on today's episode I'm going to teach you how to be less at the effect of other people's emotions and more in control of your own.https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com
2022-05-2417 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanSneaky Little ThoughtsSome thoughts obviously create a negative feeling in our body but other thoughts are sneaky; they sound so lovely, so pretty, so nice, but in reality they feel terrible. Today I'm going to reveal some sneaky little thoughts you may have and tell you what to do with them.https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com
2022-05-1722 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanThe Truth About Self-CareSelf-care is a big buzz word and gets a lot of attention in our world as we strive to increase our emotional health. On today's episode I want to share with you what I actually think self-care is (it might surprise you) and give you some ideas of how to take better care of yourself.https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com
2022-05-1024 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanBut What DO You Want?It is really easy to know what we DON'T want. But when we focus on what we don't want, it doesn't actually guarantee us getting what we DO want. In this episode I share with you the power of deciding what you do want and putting your energy into creating what you want to have instead of what you want to avoid.https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com
2022-05-0310 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanWhat's Good Marriage Advice?We've all been given marriage advice over the years but what makes something "good" advice or "bad" advice? I asked people to share some of the marriage advice they were given over the years and I share it here.https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com
2022-04-2617 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanEmotional Adulthood and MarriageToday you will learn the difference between being an emotional child and an emotional adult. Listen up to discover how your personal emotional maturity powerfully impacts your marriage and other relationships for the better.https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com
2022-04-1921 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanThe ManualMost of us, whether we know it or not, have written manuals for the other people in our lives. It’s an instruction guide we have for someone describing how that person should behave in whatever role they play in our life. These manuals can be so straining on any relationship because we tie all of our emotional life to whether or not the other person follows it. These manuals also kill desire because they limit our feeling of freedom.https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/htt...
2022-04-1226 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanWhy You Want To Feel ALL The FeelingsDo you find yourself pushing down or trying to get away from your emotions? I can relate. Today I'm going to share with you how allowing yourself to feel your feelings will change your life forever - and for good.https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com
2022-04-0528 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanWhat Really Causes Your FeelingsWe often think the circumstances or people around us are the reason we feel the way we do. But what if that's not true? Come along with me while I teach you what actually creates your feelings and how to deliberately choose the ones you want.https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com
2022-03-2924 minWant to Want It with Jamelyn StephanCelebration and DesireIf you've never considered that you are worth celebrating or tried to celebrate yourself, listen to learn how celebration can help you cultivate more natural desire and motivation.https://jamelynstephan.comhttps://jamelynstephan.com/meet-with-me/https://www.instagram.com/jamelyn_stephan_coaching/jamelyn@jamelynstpehan.com
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