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The Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 139: Hiding Control in Virtuous LanguageWhat do phrases like “pro-life,” “law and order,” and “family values” have in common?They sound virtuous—but they’re often just control, dressed up as morality.In this episode, Ben and Jamesa—coming to you from our life here in Portugal—unpack how language that sounds good on the surface can actually be a tool for domination, silence, and harm. We explore how these phrases shape everything from public policy to workplace culture, and how control often hides behind ideas that seem unassailable.We also share what it means to move beyond that—to lead and liv...2025-05-2842 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 135: Disruption and A Real Pain In today’s episode, Ben and Jamesa reflect on the recent blackout in Portugal and what it revealed about control, flexibility, and unexpected stillness. They also dive into insights sparked by the film A Real Pain, exploring themes of grief, family dynamics, mental health, and the lifelong practice of learning to get along. It’s a conversation about disruption, connection, and what we carry with us—whether the lights are on or not. Support the show2025-04-3042 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 134: Neurospicy Social Justice In this episode of Ben and Jamesa, we dive into the intersection of neurodivergence and social justice, exploring what it means to live as a neurospicy family in a world built for neurotypical norms. We unpack RFK Jr.’s recent comments about autism and why pathologizing neurodivergence is both harmful and outdated. From emotional sensitivity to sensory needs, we share how our neurospicyness shapes the way we move through parenting, relationships, and justice work. We also explore how neurodivergent folks often have a heightened sensitivity to injustice—and how that can become a superpower in dismantling systems rooted in contr...2025-04-2344 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 133: Travelling Outside Your Comfort ZoneIn this episode, we explore what it really means to step outside your comfort zone—whether that’s moving across the world, engaging with unfamiliar identities, or sitting with uncomfortable truths about privilege and power.We kick things off with Jamesa’s personal journey into expat life and her new focus on coaching individuals and families through the emotional and identity-shifting realities of living abroad. From there, we dive into the deeper discomfort many people—especially those with dominant identities—avoid: confronting the ways they’ve been shielded from discomfort through systems of power.We unpack how i...2025-04-1643 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 131: Caring for Yourself, Caring for your CommunityIn this episode of the Ben and Jamesa Podcast, we explore what it truly takes to care for yourself deeply—beyond bubble baths and quick fixes—so that you can show up fully for your family, your community, and the world. We discuss life changes, including navigating the emotional and physical shifts that come with aging and menopause, and how embracing self-care as a transformative practice can enhance resilience and connection.We also take a look at some inspiring headlines from around the globe, reminding us that even amidst the chaos, there are always stories of hope, prog...2025-03-2651 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp.121: 2024 In MemoriumIn this reflective and heartfelt episode, Ben and Jamesa look back on the year 2024, sharing meaningful moments, personal growth, and lessons learned. Through thoughtful questions and candid conversation, they revisit the highs, lows, and everything in between that defined their year together. Tune in for an inspiring journey through the past year, filled with insights and a touch of nostalgia.Support the show2024-12-3145 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 119: 5 Ways to Decenter Whiteness this Holiday Season This holiday season, let’s trade the stress of keeping up with traditions for the joy of slowing down and connecting more deeply. In this episode, Ben and Jamesa get real about 5 Ways to Decenter Whiteness During the Holidays—from ditching toxic positivity and embracing real emotions to shifting focus from consumerism to authentic connection. We’ll explore how slowing down, being intentional, and creating space for inclusion can transform your celebrations into something truly meaningful. Join us for an honest, thoughtful, and heartwarming conversation about making the holidays a time of healing and togetherness! Support the show2024-12-1145 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 117: 5 Things this White Man Will Be Doing Post Election In this episode, Ben shares five actionable steps he’s taking as a white man post-election to challenge systemic racism, foster accountability, and support collective healing. Jamesa offers insight and critiques to push the conversation deeper. Let’s move beyond awareness into action. Support the show2024-11-2744 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 116: 5 Things This Black Woman is Doing in the Next Four YearsIn this episode, "5 Things This Black Woman is Doing in the Next Four Years," Jamesa shares her personal plan for thriving amid ongoing challenges, offering inspiration and practical advice for other Black women. From prioritizing radical self-care and creating boundaries to cultivating joy, amplifying Black voices, and nurturing community healing, Jamesa highlights actions that empower and sustain. This episode is a heartfelt guide for Black women to navigate the coming years with strength, intention, and resilience, rooted in love and collective support. Support the show2024-11-2050 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 115: 6 Things White People Need to Stop Doing After the ElectionIn 6 Things White People Need to Stop Doing After the Election, Ben and Jamesa share candid insights on navigating the post-election landscape. The episode outlines key actions white people should avoid, like performative campaigns and forcing engagement with Black people, and emphasizes the importance of listening, recognizing privilege, and making genuine change. Join Ben and Jamesa for a heartfelt discussion on authentic allyship and resilience.Support the show2024-11-0831 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 114: This Election is a $hit Show(and how to remain sane)In this 7 season opener, Ben and Jamesa dive deep into the emotional and relational turbulence of election season, highlighting how to stay grounded when everything around you feels chaotic. They unpack the essential distinctions between self-care and self-indulgence, offering insights on practices that support resilience rather than escapism. For those navigating challenging dynamics with family members who hold different political beliefs, Ben and Jamesa provide strategies to manage these relationships with compassion and clear boundaries, helping listeners maintain both inner peace and authenticity during high-stress times. Support the show2024-10-2947 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp.112: Neurospicyness and Race In this episode, 'Neurospicyness and Race,' Ben shares his experiences as an autistic white man, while Jamesa opens up about her journey with an ADHD diagnosis as a Black woman. Together, they explore how their neurodivergence intersects with their experiences of race, discussing the challenges, strengths, and unique perspectives that come from navigating the world through these lenses. Support the show2024-10-1553 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 110: Countdown to the ElectionIn this week’s episode of the Ben and Jamesa Podcast, we dive into how states like Florida and Texas are using voter roll purges to disenfranchise Black voters and marginalized communities. We’ll break down why this matters and explore the latest current events. Plus, Ben might just give us a sneak peek into his and Jamesa’s upcoming anniversary plans! Tune in for an insightful and timely conversation. Support the show2024-10-0151 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 108: Unapologetically Angry In this episode of the Ben and Jamesa Podcast, we tackle the headlines that continue to demand Black women remain calm and composed. From social media backlash to public figures, we explore how the "angry Black woman" stereotype persists and why reclaiming our right to express anger is key to challenging these narratives and dismantling oppressive norms. Support the show2024-09-1747 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 107: More White on White ViolenceIn this episode, Ben and Jamesa dive into the tragic reality of the latest school shooting, examining it through the lens of race, media coverage, and societal narratives. Titled "More White on White Violence," this discussion challenges the silence and framing around violence in predominantly white communities, while exploring why these acts are rarely analyzed as a part of larger systemic issues. Together, they break down how race influences our understanding of tragedy, asking hard questions about accountability, culture, and the role media plays in shaping public perception.Join us for a thought-provoking conversation that reframes the...2024-09-1045 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 106: Don't Put That In Your Mouth In this episode of the Ben and Jamesa Podcast, titled "Don't Put That in Your Mouth," we dive into the surprising history of how cigarette companies moved into the processed food industry. We explore the tactics Big Tobacco used to make unhealthy foods as addictive as their cigarettes, and the long-term health problems this has caused, especially in vulnerable communities. Join us as we uncover the dark side of corporate greed and its impact on public health. Support the show2024-08-2744 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 105: That JD Vance Fella is StrangeWhy do people like JD Vance continually attack women but yet claim to be the family values party? Why does the "pro-life" party allow humans to be cooked inside their prison cells? Join Ben and Jamesa (plus their friend Deb) to learn more about the cognitive dissonance of white supremacy and patriarchy.Support the show2024-08-2048 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 104: The OlympicsWhat the hell was going on with the Break dancer from Australia, and how does this symbolize how white people operate in this world? Well join our conversation to find out as Ben and Jamesa take a look at the Olympics and other events from the past week to help you decolonize your thinking.Support the show2024-08-1347 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 103: Too Many White Supremacist Hires!With the announcement of Kamala Harris's bid for the president's office came the predictable white supremacist dog whistles attempting to minimize her successes and qualifications. One of the loudest dog whistles was to call her a DEI hire. This is common among white people when they see Black women breaking the glass ceilings placed over them and on today's episode, Ben and Jamesa discuss the irony of this judgment considering all the white supremacist hires throughout America's history.Support the show2024-08-0642 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 102: How We Diminish Black Women LeadersHave you noticed the tropes used to diminish the election campaign of Vice President Harris and other Black women in leadership roles? On today's episode, Ben and Jamesa discuss the trends in these tropes, why they are problematic, and what you can do about them. Join the conversation!Support the show2024-07-2423 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 101: Violence as a Political ToolHave you ever looked at how violence is used to engage or disengage people from the political process? On today's episode, Ben and Jamesa review the different ways white people have used violence to disenfranchise political minorities and compare that to recent headlines. They also discuss how this is their last episode on American soil, and what you can expect next.Support the show2024-07-1638 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 100: Are We in 1930's Germany?When democracies move towards dictatorships there are specific patterns that they follow. On today's episode, Ben and Jamesa look at current events to decipher if we are currently on that path as a country.Support the show2024-07-0946 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 99: Ben and Jamesa are Leaving the CountryWhere would you move to if you could move anywhere in the world, or would you stay put? In today's episode, Ben and Jamesa discuss their upcoming move to Portugal, what they are excited about, and what they will miss, all while discussing recent headlines that, in part, drove their decision to take a break from America.Support the show2024-07-0243 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 98: Why Are White People So Confident?After a recent outing to a pride festival and encountering a group of white evangelical protestors, Jamesa and Ben wondered how white people are so confident that they are right and everyone else is wrong. They review some recent news stories and are joined by a special guest to help unpack this topic.Support the show2024-06-2551 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp.97: Are White People Compassionate?Have you ever heard of compassion dissonance? or compassion hierarchy? On today's episode we explore how these concepts allow white people and others to be selectively compassionate. Join Ben and Jamesa as they explore todays news headlines through the lens of compassionate curiosity.Support the show2024-06-1843 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp.96: How Racist Are You?Are you curious how racist you are, or if non-white people can be racist? Join Ben and Jamesa as they review these questions and more using examples from the latest headlines to explain.Support the show2024-06-1146 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp.94: Sh!t We Have a a Problem With ft ECKOESBen and Jamesa are joined by international recording artist Eckoes, who shares her take on the problems with how people talk about race as well as sharing some of her music and a previously unheard track! Join the colorful conversation and grow in your ability to lead with compassionate curiosity.Support the show2024-05-2951 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 93: Thank You Jasmine CrockettBen and Jamesa discuss several recent news stories through an anti-racist lens while Jamesa refuses to apologize for calling Ben "Hannibal Lecter" while wearing his new CPAP mask.Support the show2024-05-2149 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 92: Whitewashing, Segregation, and Mother's DayJamesa attended a high school marked by the painful legacy of segregation. During a recent visit to her mother for Mother's Day in the town she went to High School, she and Ben engaged in a poignant conversation. They delved into the unsettling reality that many within the white community remain resistant to understanding the profound impact of historical injustices on the Black community.Support the show2024-05-1443 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 91: White Women Tears in the Workplace with Margot and DebBen and Jamesa are joined by New York Times best-selling author Margot Starbuck and Licensed Independent Social Worker Deb Riley to discuss white women's tears in the workplace. In a recent episode, Jamesa mentioned a study that showed that Black women would rather work with white men than white women, so Ben, Jamesa, Margot, and Deb explore why.Support the show2024-05-0756 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 90: White People Are Losing Their Damn MindsBen and Jamesa discuss this week's headlines through a colorFULL conversation deep in compassionate curiosity and humor. A big theme this week was white people losing their damn minds, so sit back, relax, and let Jamesa and Ben walk you through their take on the week's headlines.Support the show2024-04-3040 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 89: What is Compassionate Curiosity?We often talk on the podcast about compassionate curiosity, and today, we start to break down this term, what it means, and how to let it lead your life. Join Ben, Jamesa, and Amine as they scour the headlines and help you develop your compassionate curiosity.Support the show2024-04-2347 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 85: Tanzania and Women's History Month ft. BhokeSeason 6 is upon us! This season Ben, Jamesa, and Amine will host guests to discuss their experiences with race in their respective fields as well as their opinions on recent headlines in the news as they come up. In this episode, Bhoke joins the show to talk about racism in Canada vs Tanzania.You can follow us for more content on TikTok @TheCuriousBen or on Instagram @BenTheCurious and @SimplyJamesa.Support the show2024-03-2047 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 84: Breaking News!The podcast continues with it's series on Women's History Month! They discuss Nia DaCosta, Caitlin Clark, Katie Britt, and more! Ben and Jamesa also discuss their surprising upcoming plans. You can follow us for more content on TikTok @TheCuriousBen or on Instagram @BenTheCurious and @SimplyJamesa.Support the show2024-03-1345 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 82: White People and Black History Month Pt. 5It's the last in our Black History Month series. Jamesa, Ben, and Amine close out the month discussing recent events and news headlines that highlight the racism and white people s%^$t in America.You can follow us for more content on TikTok @TheCuriousBen or on Instagram @BenTheCurious and @SimplyJamesa.Support the show2024-02-2844 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 81: White People and Black History Month Pt. 4As Black History Month continues Jamesa, Ben, and Amine discuss recent events and news headlines that highlight the racism and white people s%^$t in America, from Trump's new sneaker scam to international news.You can follow us for more content on TikTok @TheCuriousBen or on Instagram @BenTheCurious and @SimplyJamesa.Support the show2024-02-2145 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 79: White People and Black History Month Pt. 2As we continue to celebrate Black History Month Jamesa, Ben, and Amine talk about current events and how to mitigate the white people s$!t featured within them. You can follow us for more content on TikTok @TheCuriousBen or on Instagram @BenTheCurious. Support the show2024-02-0953 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 77: Protecting the CrownWhat would you do if your child was dismissed from school because they didn't like their haircut? In this episode Jamesa, Ben, and Amine discuss the Crown Act in recent headlines and other double standards that exist in racism in America. You can follow us for more content on TikTok @TheCuriousBen or on Instagram @BenTheCurious. Support the show2024-01-3143 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 76: Election Year BluesIt's almost election time in America, who are you voting for to bring change in 2024? Ben, Jamesa, and Amine discuss their thoughts on recent news regarding the current electoral process, the upcoming election, and more!You can follow us for more content on TikTok @TheCuriousBen or on Instagram @BenTheCurious.Support the show2024-01-2454 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 74: Decolonizing Don'ts Part 1Ben, Jamesa, and Amine discuss things white people do that should be abandoned in 2024 to foster more inclusive and safe environments for the people around them. You can follow us on TikTok @TheCuriousBen or on Instagram @BenTheCurious.2024-01-1047 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 72: Year in ReviewIn this year-end wrap up Ben, Jamesa, and Amine discuss many of the highlights (and lowlights) of 2023, from the battle of Montgomery, to the Israel-Palestine situation, Keke Palmer and Usher, and much more!You can follow us on TikTok @TheCuriousBen, on Instagram @BenTheCuriousSupport the show2023-12-2751 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 71: Happy Holidays?What holidays will your culture celebrate this season? Join Jamesa, Amine, and Ben as they discuss their own holiday traditions, and the harmful habit of non-inclusivity during the holiday season. You can follow us on TikTok @TheCuriousBen, on Instagram @BenTheCuriousSupport the show2023-12-2043 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 70: What is America #1 in?Are we really #1? In this episode, Ben, Jamesa, and Amine discuss American Exceptionalism, the thinking errors that come with it, and the importance of recognizing areas of improvement. You will also be able to watch each episode on our YouTube channel @CuriousBenConsulting.You can follow us on TikTok @TheCuriousBen, on Instagram @BenTheCurious and YouTube @CuriousBenConsultingSupport the show2023-12-1349 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 69: Why Black Women are the Best CEOsWho makes the best CEO? Jamesa, Ben, and Amine discuss an article published recently that concluded black women make the best CEOs, despite the headwinds they face on the way there. You will also be able to watch each episode on our YouTube channel @CuriousBenConsulting.You can follow us on TikTok @TheCuriousBen, on Instagram @BenTheCurious and YouTube @CuriousBenConsultingSupport the show2023-12-0756 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 68: Congo and ConsumerismIn this episode, Jamesa, Ben, and Amine talk about the Congo, the lack of news coverage around the situation, and what we can do to support those who need it. You will also be able to watch each episode on our YouTube channel @CuriousBenConsulting.You can follow us on TikTok @TheCuriousBen, on Instagram @BenTheCurious and YouTube @CuriousBenConsultingSupport the show2023-11-2250 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 67: Vicarious TraumaHow much is the trauma around you impacting your day-to-day life? In this episode, Jamesa and Ben discuss how the trauma that we hear and learn about can impact our own emotional well being. You will also be able to watch Jamesa, Ben, and Amine in each episode moving forward on our YouTube channel @CuriousBenConsulting.Each episode this season will be aired live on our TikTok @TheCuriousBen Thursdays at Noon Eastern Time. Questions and comments are welcome as we record the episode! You can also follow us on Instagram @BenTheCurious and YouTube @CuriousBenConsultingS...2023-11-1548 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 66: Taking SidesCats or dogs, Israel or Palestine, Congo and Sudan. The crew discusses how people often pick and choose teams to support, even in news cycles, and how this affects our abilities to see situations clearly.You will also be able to watch Jamesa, Ben, and Amine in each episode moving forward on our YouTube channel @CuriousBenConsulting.Each episode this season will be aired live on our TikTok @TheCuriousBen Thursdays at Noon Eastern Time. Questions and comments are welcome as we record the episode! You can also follow us on Instagram @BenTheCurious and YouTube @CuriousBenConsulting2023-11-0852 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 65: Don't Take Yourself So Seriously!In this episode, Jamesa, Ben, and Amine tackle a number of headlines from the week using the three trees of change, and the healing habit of not taking yourself so seriously.You will also be able to watch Jamesa, Ben, and Amine in each episode moving forward on our YouTube channel @CuriousBenConsulting.Each episode this season will be aired live on our TikTok @TheCuriousBen Thursdays at Noon Eastern Time. Questions and comments are welcome as we record the episode! You can also follow us on Instagram @BenTheCurious and YouTube @CuriousBenConsultingSupport the show2023-11-0240 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 64: Israel and PalestineThe international news that everyone is talking about. This episode of The Ben & Jamesa (plus Amine) podcast focuses on the Israel and Palestine conflict, and how to incorporate the three trees of change when navigating the emotions we experience as we learn more. You will also be able to watch Jamesa, Ben, and Amine in each episode moving forward on our YouTube channel @CuriousBenConsulting.Each episode this season will be aired live on our TikTok @TheCuriousBen Thursdays at Noon Eastern Time. Questions and comments are welcome as we record the episode! You can also follow u...2023-10-2550 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 63: Are We Curious Enough?Are we curious enough about the headlines we see on a day to day basis? How would being more curious rather than knowing impact our lives? In this episode of The Ben & Jamesa (plus Amine) podcast, the crew talks about news stories like Israel and Palestine, giraffe poop jewelery, Jada Pinkett and Will Smith, and more!You will also be able to watch Jamesa, Ben, and Amine in each episode moving forward on our YouTube channel @CuriousBenConsulting.Each episode this season will be aired live on our TikTok @TheCuriousBen Thursdays at Noon Eastern Time. Questions...2023-10-1848 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 62: Cognitive Dissonance in the NewsThe Harmful Habits Podcast is now The Ben & Jamesa (plus Amine) Podcast! We will be continuing our theme of discussing the Three Trees of Change in current events. In today's episode they discuss a teacher with an OnlyFans page, Wally the Alligator, and much more!You will also be able to watch Jamesa, Ben, and Amine in each episode moving forward on our YouTube channel @CuriousBenConsulting.Each episode this season will be aired live on our TikTok @TheCuriousBen Thursdays at Noon Eastern Time. Questions and comments are welcome as we record the episode! You can...2023-10-1245 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 61: How Logical Are We?Too often, the beliefs we follow are based more on our emotions than logic. In this episode, Jamesa, Amine, and Ben talk about psilocybin as a psychological treatment, more Deb theories, empathy in animals, and other stories in the news.You will also be able to watch Jamesa, Ben, and Amine in each episode moving forward on our YouTube channel @HealingHarmfulHabits.Each episode this season will be aired live on our TikTok @ThreeTreesofChange Thursdays at Noon Eastern Time. Questions and comments are welcome as we record the episode! You can also follow us on Instagram...2023-10-0450 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 60: Dissonance is in the AirWhat is cognitive dissonance and what does it look like around us? In this episode Jamesa, Ben, and Amine talk about cognitive dissonance in current news stories, what it looks like, and how to challenge it.You will also be able to watch Jamesa, Ben, and Amine in each episode moving forward on our YouTube channel @HealingHarmfulHabits.Each episode this season will be aired live on our TikTok @ThreeTreesofChange Fridays at Noon Eastern Time. Questions and comments are welcome as we record the episode! You can also follow us on Instagram @ThreeTreesCenter and YouTube @HarmfulHabitsPodcast2023-09-2751 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 59: Emotion Over LogicNew season alert! Ben, Jamesa, and Amine kick off this season by talking about recent headlines like pig kidney transplants, Coach Deion Sanders, the search for the Loch Ness monster, and how so many of our opinions derive from our emotions and not our logic. Tune in to review how you form your opinions.You will also be able to watch Jamesa, Ben, and Amine in each episode moving forward on our YouTube channel @HealingHarmfulHabits.Each episode this season will be aired live on our TikTok @ThreeTreesofChange Fridays at Noon Eastern Time. Questions and comments...2023-09-2043 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 58: Race in the WorkplaceWe are back with our season 4 finale! In this episode, Jamesa, Amine, and Ben talk about the prevalence of systemic racism in workplaces. You will also be able to watch Jamesa, Ben, and Amine in each episode moving forward on our YouTube channel @HealingHarmfulHabits.Each episode this season will be aired live on our TikTok @ThreeTreesofChange Fridays at Noon Eastern Time. Questions and comments are welcome as we record the episode! You can also follow us on Instagram @ThreeTreesCenter and YouTube @HarmfulHabitsPodcastSupport the show2023-09-1347 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 57: Race in Current EventsJamesa, Ben, and Amine kick this episode off by discussing the recent Battle of Birmingham before delving into other current events featuring issues of racism.You will also be able to watch Jamesa, Ben, and Amine in each episode moving forward on our YouTube channel @HealingHarmfulHabits.Each episode this season will be aired live on our TikTok @ThreeTreesofChange Fridays at Noon Eastern Time. Questions and comments are welcome as we record the episode! You can also follow us on Instagram @Healing_in_the_Wild and YouTube @HarmfulHabitsPodcastSupport the show2023-08-2350 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 56: Violence and RacismHow is violence related to racism? In this episode Jamesa, Ben, and Amine discuss the direct correlation between the beliefs that drive violence/harmful habits and racism.You will also be able to watch Jamesa, Ben, and Amine in each episode moving forward on our YouTube channel @HealingHarmfulHabits.Each episode this season will be aired live on our TikTok @HarmfulHabitsPodcast Fridays at Noon Eastern Time. Questions and comments are welcome as we record the episode! You can also follow us on Instagram and YouTube @HarmfulHabitsPodcast and Twitter @BenAndJamesaSupport the show2023-08-0253 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 55: MicroaggressionsHow harmful can microaggressions be? Join the conversation as Ben, Jamesa, and Amine describe the impacts microaggressions have on those from different racial backgrounds, and what can be done to navigate through them. You will also be able to watch Jamesa, Ben, and Amine in each episode moving forward on our YouTube channel @HealingHarmfulHabits.Each episode this season will be aired live on our TikTok @HarmfulHabitsPodcast Fridays at Noon Eastern Time. Questions and comments are welcome as we record the episode! You can also follow us on Instagram and YouTube @HarmfulHabitsPodcast and Twitter @BenAndJamesa2023-07-2658 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 54: Talking with Children about RaceDo you talk to your kids about race? Jamesa, Amine, and Ben discuss strategies on developmentally appropriate race conversations with children of all ages.You will also be able to watch Jamesa, Ben, and Amine in each episode moving forward on our YouTube channel @HealingHarmfulHabits.Each episode this season will be aired live on our TikTok @HarmfulHabitsPodcast Fridays at Noon Eastern Time. Questions and comments are welcome as we record the episode! You can also follow us on Instagram and YouTube @HarmfulHabitsPodcast and Twitter @BenAndJamesaSupport the show2023-07-1959 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 53: How racist are you?In this episode, Ben, Jamesa, and Amine talk about racism on a spectrum rather than a binary, and how this helps create better opportunities for change. You will also be able to watch Jamesa, Ben, and Amine in each episode moving forward on our YouTube channel @HealingHarmfulHabits.Each episode this season will be aired live on our TikTok @HarmfulHabitsPodcast Fridays at Noon Eastern Time. Questions and comments are welcome as we record the episode! You can also follow us on Instagram and YouTube @HarmfulHabitsPodcast and Twitter @BenAndJamesaSupport the show2023-07-1250 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp.52: Being an AllyWhat does it mean to be an ally? Tune in as the Harmful Habits Podcast crew discusses ways to better be an ally to people from marginalized and minority communities!You will also be able to watch Jamesa, Ben, and Amine in each episode moving forward on our YouTube channel @HealingHarmfulHabits.Each episode this season will be aired live on our TikTok @HealingHarmfulHabits Fridays at Noon Eastern Time. Questions and comments are welcome as we record the episode! You can also follow us on Instagram and YouTube @HealingHarmfulHabits and Twitter @BenAndJamesaSupport the...2023-07-0553 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 51: Race in AmericaWe are kicking off Season 4 of the Harmful Habits Podcast with a focus on Race in America and how it relates to the CBI topics we talked about in previous episodes. You will also be able to watch Jamesa, Ben, and Amine in each episode moving forward on our YouTube channel @HealingHarmfulHabits.Each episode this season will be aired live on our TikTok @HealingHarmfulHabits Fridays at Noon Eastern Time. Questions and comments are welcome as we record the episode! You can also follow us on Instagram and YouTube @HealingHarmfulHabits and Twitter @BenAndJamesa2023-06-2141 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 49: The Triune Brain in FamiliesWhat part of your triune brain are you responding to daily stimuli with? What part do our kids usually respond using? In this episode, Jamesa, Ben, and Amine discuss the triune brain theory, what it means, and how it relates to decision making in our day-to-day lives.Each episode this season will be aired live on our TikTok @HealingHarmfulHabits Fridays at Noon Eastern Time. Questions and comments are welcome as we record the episode! You can also follow us on Instagram and YouTube @HealingHarmfulHabits and Twitter @BenAndJamesaSupport the show2023-05-2452 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 47: Listening in FamiliesWhat emotions arise when you feel that you are not being listened to or heard? Jamesa, Ben, and Amine discuss the healing habit of deep listening in families, and the painful emotions that can result from a lack thereof. Each episode this season will be aired live on our TikTok @HealingHarmfulHabits Fridays at Noon Eastern Time. Questions and comments are welcome as we record the episode! You can also follow us on Instagram and YouTube @HealingHarmfulHabits and Twitter @BenAndJamesaSupport the show2023-05-0347 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 46: Accountability and Estrangement in FamiliesTaking accountability for mistakes we make is an important skill in developing healthy relationships, especially in families. In this episode, Ben and Jamesa explain what it is to hold yourself accountable, and what issues arise when we do not do so. Each episode this season will be aired live on our TikTok @HealingHarmfulHabits Fridays at Noon Eastern Time. Questions and comments are welcome as we record the episode! You can also follow us on Instagram and YouTube @HealingHarmfulHabits and Twitter @BenAndJamesaSupport the show2023-04-2652 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 45: Binary vs. Spectrum Thinking in FamiliesWhat is an area of life that you feel is not better understood by placing it on a spectrum? Jamesa, Amine, and Ben talk about replacing the harmful habit of binary thinking in parenting and families with the healthier habits of spectrum thinking and curiosity.Each episode this season will be aired live on our TikTok @HealingHarmfulHabits Fridays at Noon Eastern Time. Questions and comments are welcome as we record the episode! You can also follow us on Instagram and YouTube @HealingHarmfulHabits and Twitter @BenAndJamesaSupport the show2023-04-1954 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 44: Communication Styles in FamiliesHow well do you and your family communicate? What communication styles do you tend to use and what are their effects? In this episode Jamesa, Ben, and Amine go over the different communication styles, what they look like, and their potential impacts.Each episode this season will be aired live on our TikTok @HealingHarmfulHabits Fridays at Noon Eastern Time. Questions and comments are welcome as we record the episode! You can also follow us on Instagram and YouTube @HealingHarmfulHabits and Twitter @BenAndJamesaSupport the show2023-04-051h 03The Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 42: Emotional Regulation in FamiliesAre you emotionally regulated as you navigate your day to day situations? In this episode, Jamesa, Ben, and Amine talk about the importance of regulating our own emotions prior to making decisions and how this can benefit our families. Each episode this season will be aired live on our TikTok @HealingHarmfulHabits Fridays at Noon Eastern Time. Questions and comments are welcome as we record the episode! You can also follow us on Instagram and YouTube @HealingHarmfulHabits and Twitter @BenAndJamesaSupport the show2023-03-221h 04The Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 41: Sexual Health and Intimacy in FamiliesIf you search the word "healthy" in your phone's emoji and gif gallery, what comes up? In this episode, Ben, Jamesa, and Amine discuss how to talk about sexual health and intimacy within our families, the benefits of doing so, and the harm of not doing so. Each episode this season will be aired live on our TikTok @HealingHarmfulHabits every Friday at Noon Eastern Time. Questions and comments are welcome as we record the episode! We are also live on TikTok Mondays and Wednesdays at Noon EST, so please feel free to join the conversation!2023-03-0153 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 40: Building Resilient Families (Part Two)It's part two of our two-parter! Jamesa, Ben, and Amine continue their discussion on building resilient families and developing skillful mindfulness practices. Each episode this season will be aired live on our TikTok @ThreeTreesChange every Friday at Noon Eastern Time. Questions and comments are welcome as we record the episode! We are also live on TikTok most weekdays at Noon EST, so please feel free to join the conversation!Support the show2023-02-2256 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 39: Building Resilient Families (Part One)In the first part of this two part episode, Jamesa, Ben, and Amine introduce the topic of building resilience in our families, the benefits of doing so, and using mindfulness practices to help with this. Each episode this season will be aired live on our TikTok @ThreeTreesChange every Friday at Noon Eastern Time. Questions and comments are welcome as we record the episode! We are also live on TikTok most weekdays at Noon EST, so please feel free to join the conversation!Support the show2023-02-1556 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 38: Family RolesAll too often, we place the people in our lives in defined, specific boxes. In this episode, Jamesa, Ben, and Amine talk about the harmful habit of creating rigid identities for ourselves and our family members, and what we can do instead. Each episode this season will be aired live on our TikTok @ThreeTreesChange every Friday at Noon Eastern Time. Questions and comments are welcome as we record the episode! We are also live on TikTok every weekday at Noon and 9PM EST, so please feel free to join the conversation!Support the show2023-02-0859 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 37: Boundaries within FamiliesIn this episode, Jamesa, Ben, and Amine discuss the importance of having boundaries within our families and why we need to assertively reset boundaries when they are crossed. Each episode this season will be aired live on our TikTok @ThreeTreesChange every Friday at Noon Eastern Time. Questions and comments are welcome as we record the episode!Support the show2023-02-0156 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 36: F3 R2 in the FamilyOur third season continues as Ben and Jamesa explain how our F3 can be triggered in families and how it can lead to harmful habits, as well as the importance of going back to the R2 prior to dealing with situations. Each episode this season will be aired live on our TikTok @ThreeTreesChange every Friday at Noon Eastern Time. Questions and comments are welcome as we record the episode!Support the show2023-01-2552 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 35: Family & The Drama CycleSeason 3 of The Harmful Habits podcast is upon us! Each episode this season will also be aired live on our TikTok @ThreeTreesChange Fridays at noon, so feel free to join us and ask questions or make comments as we record. Join Jamesa and Ben in this episode as they discuss how the drama cycle is often experienced within families and ways it can be avoided.Support the show2023-01-1850 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 34: Jamesa Spotlight!Get to know Three Trees Center for Change's very own Executive Director, Jamesa! In our season 2 finale, Jamesa tells us a little about herself, her current role, and what our listeners can expect in Season 3. Feel free to reach out to us with any questions or comments on our socials at ThreeTreesChange or on our website at threetreescenterforchange.comSupport the show2022-12-1435 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 30: Stages of a RelationshipJamesa, Ben, and Jamesa are joined by two new guests, Kevin and Chrissy, to discuss stages of a relationship. The crew talks about their experiences with the stages, as well as things to do and things to avoid in each. Tune in and join the conversation on instagram @threetreeschange or on our website at threetreescenterforchange.com2022-11-091h 11The Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 29: 3 Black Women and JenniferThey're back! Jamesa and Jennifer are joined by returning guests Joan and Amber to discuss being a women in our society. They discuss similarities and differences in their experiences being a black or white woman in America. Tune in and join the conversation on instagram @threetreeschange or on our website at threetreescenterforchange.comSupport the show2022-11-021h 03The Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 26: Giving Up ComplainingIt's another episode of our year of giving up! Jennifer, Jamesa, Ben, and Amine discuss their experiences going a month without complaining and the difficulties they experienced doing so. They also agreed on what they will be giving up this month. Feel free to join us in our next month of giving up and let us know how it goes!Support the show2022-10-1348 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 25: 3 Black Women and Amine (pt. 2)Part 2 of the podcast takeover! Jamesa, Joan, Amber, and Amine pick up where they left off on part 1. Tune in for some laughs and to hear more of their experiences as minorities in our community.2022-10-0648 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 24: 3 Black Women and Amine (pt. 1)It's a podcast takeover! In this special two-part episode, Jamesa and Amine are joined by Amber and Joan to discuss their experiences as minorities in America. Tune in and join us for this one-of-a-kind episode, and feel free to share your experiences with us on instagram @threetreeschange or on our website threetreescenterforchange.com2022-10-0540 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 21: Giving Up MeatIn this episode we continue our year of giving up! Jamesa, Ben, Jennifer and Amine discuss their month of giving up meat, the struggles that they faced in doing so, and whether or not this is a change they wish to continue implementing in their lives. They also discuss what they will give up next month, and you are all invited to join them and tell us how it goes!Support the show2022-09-1449 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 20: GriefOn this special episode Ben, Jamesa, and Amine are joined by Lisa, whose 8 year old son died in an accident in 2021. Lisa shares the emotions she experiences on a daily basis, as well as the things that other people do that have and have not helped her throughout this time, despite their best intentions. Join us for this episode to learn how to care for loved ones as they experience grief, or for yourself on your own journey of grief.Support the show2022-09-0756 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 19: Thinking Outside the Gender BoxHave you ever wondered where we learn about the rules of our gender? In today's episode Jennifer, Amine, Jamesa, and Ben discuss gender boxes and the rules that society implicitly and explicitly places on gender behaviors and roles, and some of the prolems these rules cause. Join us to explore this topic and self assess the impact the gender box rules have on your life.Support the show2022-08-3151 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 18: Rock, Paper, ScissorsRemember playing Rock, Paper, Scissors? Well, in today's show the Harmful Habits team is going to show you why these three objects are perfect representations of the different stages behaviors go through as they change. So join Amine, Jamesa, Ben, and Jennifer as they discuss and examine the stages of change.Support the show2022-08-1849 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 17: Giving Up PhonesIt's our first episode of season 2! Amine, Ben, Jamesa, and a brand new host discuss their month of giving up using their phones for entertainment. In doing so, they introduce the model that is used at Three Trees to help organizations and individuals create shifts, the Cognitive Behavioral Inquiry (CBI) model. Join them as they investigate what they learned, what they changed, and what they struggled with so that you can learn from and laugh along their journey!Support the show2022-08-1045 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 16: Giving Up AlcoholThis episode is the first of a monthly segment where Amine, Ben, and Jamesa decide together on a behavior to give up for the month and then report back on how it went, what they learned, and if they are going to keep the change. This past month they gave up alcohol. Tune in to see how it went and who was able to abstain and who was not.... Spoiler Alert: Ben and Jamesa have different versions of each other's success! For more information and resources for Healing Harmful Habits, visit www.threetreescenterforchange.comSupport the s...2022-07-0642 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 13: ACEs (Adverse Childhood Experience Study)Dr. Martha Edwards joins Amine, Jamesa, and Ben to discuss how her work as a pediatrician has been impacted by the groundbreaking Adverse Childhood Experience Study. Join us as she explains how the emotional experiences we have as a child impact our future mental and physical health, and what we can do to reverse these negative effects. This is a fascinating episode that will inform you on what Dr. Edwards considers to be the most important study to come out of medicine in the last 30 years.For more information and resources for Healing Harmful Habits, visit www.threetreescenterforchange...2022-06-1551 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 12: Are You a Psychopath?In today's show, we learn if Jamesa or Amine are Psychopaths or Sociopaths, or if there is even a difference. This is a great episode to see what we can learn about being fully human from those who are not.For more information and resources for Healing Harmful Habits, visit www.threetreescenterforchange.comSupport the show2022-06-0740 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 11 LGRTR: Liberals and ConservativesIn this episode, Amine was absent due to the grief he is still processing regarding his favorite soccer team. Ben and Jamesa temporarily replace him with John, a self-identified conservative, to discuss how people can more effectively discuss differences in politics. This is our first episode in the series of "Let's Get Ready to Rumble" (LGRTR) episodes where we have people who care about each other talk about subjects we are sometimes hesitant to discuss in mixed company. The goal of the LGRTR series is to highlight the importance of people having difficult conversations and provide some of the...2022-06-0152 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 10: Foxes and ChickensIn this episode, Ben, Jamesa, and Amine discuss the concept of Foxes and Chickens, and how we often allow our harmful habits to harm the very things we say are our top priorities.For more information and resources for Healing Harmful Habits, visit www.threetreescenterforchange.comSupport the show2022-05-2348 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 8: Serving a Life SentenceBen, Jamesa, and Amine sat down with their special guest, Lester Young from Path2Redemption, to discuss his experience serving a life sentence, the harmful habits that lead to it, and what he is currently working on to better the community we live in. For more information and resources for Healing Harmful Habits, visit www.threetreescenterforchange.comSupport the show2022-05-0848 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 7: Joan from Safe PassageOur very first Harmful Habits special guest! In this episode Amine, Jamesa, and Ben talk with Joan Harris from Safe Passage about her work with victims of violence and what we can all do to improve community safety and care for those who have been harmed.For more information and resources for Healing Harmful Habits, visit www.threetreescenterforchange.comSupport the show2022-05-0442 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 6: Nazi FlagsJamesa, Ben, and Amine discuss a recent experience with someone in their community flying a Nazi flag in front of their home. They discuss their response to it, the different types of responses they observed from others, and their best attempts to move forward when such experiences happen. For more information and resources for Healing Harmful Habits, visit www.threetreescenterforchange.comSupport the show2022-04-2446 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 5: ShameIn this episode Ben, Jamesa, and Amine discuss the feeling of shame, the need to understand it, and personal experiences they have had in their own lives.For more information and resources for Healing Harmful Habits, visit www.threetreescenterforchange.comSupport the show2022-04-1050 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 4: Avoiding DiscomfortIn this episode, Ben, Jamesa, and Amine discuss how avoiding discomfort, instead of embracing it, can lead to a number of different harmful habits. For more information and resources for Healing Harmful Habits, visit www.threetreescenterforchange.comSupport the show2022-03-3151 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 3: F3 R2In this episode, Ben, Jamesa, and Amine discuss how the Fight, Flight, Freeze response can lead to harmful habits when not managed in a healthy way. For more information and resources for Healing Harmful Habits, visit www.threetreescenterforchange.comSupport the show2022-03-2355 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 2: Binary ThinkingIn this episode, Ben, Jamesa, and Amine discuss the harmful habit of Binary Thinking and the damage it can do to those around us.For more information and resources for Healing Harmful Habits, visit www.threetreescenterforchange.comSupport the show2022-03-1546 minThe Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityHarmful Habits - Episode 2: Binary ThinkingIn this episode, Ben and Jamesa discuss the harmful habit of Binary Thinking and the damage it can do to those around us. 2022-03-1546 min
The Ben & Jamesa Podcast: Conversations About CommunityEp. 1: The Drama CycleIn this episode, Ben, Jamesa, and Amine discuss the Karpman Drama Triangle, also know as the Drama Cycle or the Hero-Victim-Villain/Offender Cycle.For more information and resources for Healing Harmful Habits, visit www.threetreescenterforchange.comSupport the show2022-03-1248 min