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Owned and Operated - A Plumbing, Electrical, and HVAC Business Growth Podcast#175 - Find The BEST Leads: Modernize VP of Marketing Jamie Smith Breaks Down the Secret to SuccessJamie Smith, VP of Marketing at Modernize, joins us to break down the secret to finding the best leads for your home service business.We tackle the big question: Are lead aggregators worth it? Jamie explains why Modernize isn’t just another lead aggregator but a smarter way to generate high-quality leads using data-driven strategies.If you want to stop wasting money on bad leads and start closing more jobs, this episode is for you.Special Thanks to ModernizeWe’ve been using Modernize them for our water quality lead...
2025-03-0656 min
The Proper Full-On Gay Podcast - A Heartstopper PodcastHeartstopper S3E3 - Talk with Jamie, therapist Bella and HS Superfan LukeThis week, we’re bringing you a special crossover episode with the Heartstopper Pod Your Not Allowed to Say the S Word host Luke, a passionate Heartstopper fan and primary school teacher! Joining forces with Host Jamie and Therapist Bella, we break down Heartstopper Season 3, Episode 3, "Talk."In this deep-dive discussion, we explore Nick and Charlie's evolving relationship, the show's powerful mental health themes, and key character moments that have fans buzzing. Bella provides expert insight into the portrayal of eating disorders and emotional well-being, while Luke shares his perspective as an educator, plus all th...
2025-02-261h 53The Proper Full-On Gay Podcast - A Heartstopper PodcastHeartstopper S3E2 - Home: A Conversation on Love, Loss, and Finding SupportIn this powerful episode, we delve into Heartstopper Season 3, Episode 2, "Home," which shines a poignant light on two deeply personal and emotional storylines: Darcy’s journey through parental rejection & homelessness and Charlie’s ongoing battle with his eating disorder.
Joining Jamie for this heartfelt discussion are special guests Ben Dalitz from AKT (Albert Kennedy Trust), a queer charity dedicated to supporting LGBTQ+ young people facing homelessness, and Tim from Tandem Counselling, who brings valuable insights into the complexities of eating disorders and mental health within the queer community.
Together, we unpack the raw emotions, the laye...
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Phil Wilson Chats With CelebsPhil Wilson Interviews Jamie Lonsdale - Revolving Doors - KrisirieThe renowned voice of the airwaves, Phil Wilson, famous for his morning show "Phil Wilson In The Morning" on Radio Shields, Saturday 7-10am and the syndicated sensation "Phil Wilson's Vinyl Revival," engages again in a captivating conversation with Jamie Lonsdale.Revolving Doors is the fantastic new single from singer songwriter Jamie Lonsdale and a slight departure from his usual material that is sure to delight and enthral his fans…The song is a duet with Barbadian singer Krisirie, and the blend of her R&B Caribbean influenced voice with Jamie’s English class...
2024-11-171h 03The Proper Full-On Gay Podcast - A Heartstopper PodcastHeartstopper S3 Regrets with Jamie, Bella & Em - Bonus EpisodeIn this bonus minisode of The Proper Full-On Gay Podcast Jamie gets real with Bella & Em to talk about all of the things we didn't like in Heartstopper's third season! Don't worry - we still LOVE Heartstopper, but lets be honest, there were a few things that just didn't land in S3.
Whether you're a longtime listener or just tuning in for the first time, this episode is packed with laughter, tears, and love. Don't miss it!
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2024-10-1623 min
Paranormal LensWilson Castle🎙️ Paranormal Lens Podcast - Season 2, Episode 13 🎙️
This week, the Paranormal Lens Podcast brings you a captivating exploration into one of Vermont’s most haunted historical landmarks—Wilson Castle in Rutland, VT. Host Chad Thomas dives deep into the history of this majestic 19th-century estate, uncovering its fascinating past and eerie secrets.
Joining Chad is Co-host Jamie Widener, and together, they’ll discuss the chilling tales that surround Wilson Castle, which has become a hotspot for paranormal activity. From reports of ghostly apparitions to unexplained phenomena, Wilson Castle has long intrigued investigators and history enthusiasts alike.
The duo wi...
2024-10-0955 minThe Proper Full-On Gay Podcast - A Heartstopper PodcastHeartstopper Season 3 Highlights with Therapists Bella & Em - Bonus EpisodeIn this special episode of The Proper Full-On Gay Podcast Jamie celebrates the best moments from Heartstopper's third season with a little help from two Hearstopper Superfans and AMAZING therapists Em & Bella.
Get your tissues ready and join us for a complete tear fest as as listen back to our favorite scenes with Charlie, Nick and the rest of the Heartstopper friends. We discuss the Heart Stopping highs filled queer joy and and process and reflect on the more challenging parts of the story.
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Inspiration from the CouchEP 112: What Keep You Up At NightToday’s episode is all about one of our favorite activities—sleep! Join Jamie, Avery, and Lucy as they talk about all things sleep - how much, when, and what gets in the way or good sleep. We share our own preferences, struggles, and a little bit of scientific information. We also provide some practical tips to improve sleep and “stop the struggle” if you’re having trouble sleeping.
2024-08-1532 minInspiration from the CouchEP 110: DreadWhat in your life do you dread? How do you experience dread? What’s the point of dread? How do we make our dread go away? We dive into all these questions in today’s podcast. Jamie, Avery, and Lucy share their own experiences with dread, and we explore the different ways dread can show up (e.g., Avery’s dread is more anxiety based, and Lucy and Jamie’s dread is more like “I don’t wanna do this!”). We explored the overlap among dread, anxiety, and depression. We talk about how dread comes up for clients in our clinical pr...
2024-07-1825 minThe Proper Full-On Gay Podcast - A Heartstopper PodcastUnderstanding Ben Hope with Licensed Therapists Em & BellaJoin Jamie with licensed therapists Em and Bella to dive deep into the complex character of Ben Hope.
Often seen as Heartstopper's biggest villain, Ben’s actions and his behavior are totally inexcusable but they stem from a place of deep-seated insecurities and internal struggles.
Join us as we explore the psychological factors that contribute to Ben’s behavior, including his parental relationships, internalized homophobia and the pressure to conform to societal expectations.
We’ll discuss how these issues manifest in his interactions with Charlie and others, and the impact they have on his me...
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NGBiLabS1.E15: Launchit SolutionsJuly 11th 2024 – Joining us this week is Jamie Harsevoort, CEO of Launchit Solutions based in Hamilton, Ontario. Formerly known as LaunchIt Ventures, Launchit Solutions is a venture studio dedicated to commercializing healthcare innovations by bringing together a team of experienced professionals to support and empower innovators and entrepreneurs.Launchit Solutions: launchitventures.comGet Your Tickets to The NGBI Summit: nextgreatbigideas.comLab Occupier: laboccupier.com
2024-07-1122 minInspiration from the CouchEP 109: Parenting with Self-CompassionJamie, Lucy, and Avery have found self-compassion to be incredibly helpful in their own lives and in the lives of their clients. In this episode, we talk specifically about how we use self-compassion as parents. We’ve found self-compassion to be especially useful in parenting situations where we are feeling judgment for ourselves or our kids, during transitions, when we are in conflict or feeling irritable, when we need a break, when we’re making a difficult parenting decision or setting a limit, when we’re feeling regretful about the past or worried about the future, and really whenever we’re...
2024-07-0431 min
The Land Development Podcast with Ryan GlickInsights into Land Development from a Professional Engineer with Jamie Wilson - TLP030Share your feedback or provide industry news topics.In this episode of the Land Development Podcast, Jamie Wilson, a land development engineer at AIM Engineering and Surveying, joins the show. Jamie's career path took a turn from legal studies to engineering, and she shares how this transition shaped her professional life.Jamie dives into the importance of mentorship in the engineering field. While finding good mentors can be challenging, she emphasizes their crucial role in professional growth. Jamie highlights her experiences with mentors, including an attorney who steered her towards engineering and her current engineering...
2024-06-2526 minInspiration from the CouchEP 108: Mother-Daughter Relationships with Hilary Truong, MA, LPCAvery, Jamie, and Lucy are so excited to interview mother-daughter relationship expert, Hilary Truong, MA, LPC! Hilary is a leading voice on keeping mothers and daughters in relationship through the teenage years and beyond. Join us as we discuss what people get wrong about the mother-daughter relationship, what moms and daughters most need from each other, the unique pressures we face as moms, and helpful strategies to repair the mother-daughter relationship. Where to find Hilary:www.hilarymae.comwww.instagram.com/hilarymaecohttps://hilarymaeco.samcart.com/products/mother-daughter-conversation-game
2024-06-2030 minThe Proper Full-On Gay Podcast - A Heartstopper PodcastBonus - The Heartstopper Parents with Jamie, Ali & BellaJoin us on a captivating journey as we explore the unsung heroes of the Heartstopper universe – the parents. In this episode, we take a closer look at the pivotal role that Charlie and Nick’s families play in shaping their stories of love, growth, and acceptance. We also talk about Tao's mum Jan Zu and the amazing safe space she creates for Elle.
Discover the impact of family dynamics on the journey of self-discovery and acceptance with special guests Ali Kerr from LGBT Youth Scotland and experienced family therapist Bela.
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2024-04-171h 46Inspiration from the CouchEP 99: EnvyToday, Jamie, Lucy, and Avery discuss the often misunderstood emotion, envy. In short, envy can occur when someone has something or is doing something that you want for yourself! It often involves some sort of social comparison, usually with people who are similar to us in some way. We talk about the difference between envy and jealousy and why envy often feels “worse.” We share our own experiences with envy, a universal emotion, and what happens when we ignore it.. We also explore the upsides of envy and why it’s important to label envy when it crops up.R...
2024-02-1528 minThe Proper Full-On Gay Podcast - A Heartstopper PodcastProper Full-on Heartstopper Life Advice - a Bonus Episode with Jamie & Tim (fixed)Step into the Heartstopper universe and Join Jamie and special guest Tim Wildbore from Tandem Counseling as they pick out their Favourite Heartstopper Life advice for the Proper Full on Bonus Episode! (Now fixed, sorry for the crappy editing on the first release!!).
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Proper Full-On Gay Podcast is an LGBTQIA+ podcast which draws inspiration from Alice Oseman’s graphic novels & Netflix series Heartstopper. Each week guest hosts from the UK & Irelands leading LGBTQIA+ Youth Organisations join the show to relive favourite Heartstopper moments and bring the experiences of...
2023-12-2858 minThe Proper Full-On Gay Podcast - A Heartstopper PodcastHeartstopper 208 - Perfect with Molly & SydneyStep into the Heartstopper universe with Jamie and special guests Sydney from leading selfharm charity Harmless and Molly from queer youth charity The Proud Trust.
This week we’re talking about Heartstopper Season 2, Episode 8 – Perfect. We chat our way through the episode, listening in to favourite moments as we go.
I get serious with Sydney and talk about what self harm is, how to support someone who opens up about self harming and what future treatment might be like for Charlie.
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2023-11-291h 31The Proper Full-On Gay Podcast - A Heartstopper PodcastHeartstopper 207 - Sorry with Paula from LGBT Youth ScotlandStep into the Heartstopper universe with Jamie and Digital Youthwork Manager Paula from LGBT Youth Scotland. This week we’re talking about Heartstopper Season 2, Episode 7 – Sorry. We pick our favourite moments from the show and listen in to some of the heartstopping conversations - perfect to fill your life with Queer Joy!!
About Proper Full-On Gay Crisis
Proper Full-On Gay Podcast is an LGBTQIA+ podcast which draws inspiration from Alice Oseman’s graphic novels & Netflix series Heartstopper. Each week guest hosts from the UK & Irelands leading LGBTQIA+ Youth Organisations join the show to rel...
2023-11-151h 10The Proper Full-On Gay Podcast - A Heartstopper PodcastHeartstopper 206 - Truth or Dare with Jamie & EmStep into the Heartstopper universe with Jamie and therapist and heartstopper superfan Em Marinelli to discuss Season 2, Episode 6 – Truth or Dare. We deep talk about all of our favourite moments from the show and listen in to some of the heartstopping conversations - perfect to fill your life with Queer Joy!!
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Proper Full-On Gay Podcast is an LGBTQIA+ podcast which draws inspiration from Alice Oseman’s graphic novels & Netflix seri...
2023-11-011h 31The Proper Full-On Gay Podcast - A Heartstopper PodcastHeartstopper 205 - Heat with Tim and LeoStep into the Heartstopper universe with Jamie and special guests Tim and Leo to discuss Season 2, Episode 5 – Heat. Tim is joining us from Tandem Counselling and Leo from The Rainbow Project, an LGBTQ+ health and wellbeing organisation in Belfast! This is perfect to fill your life with Queer Joy!!
We relive the Iconic moments of Episode 5 – "Heat" scene by scene, listen to our favourite characters and talk all about relationship abuse, disordered eating, and self-harm. Plus, all the lovely gooey bits too!!
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2023-10-181h 28The Proper Full-On Gay Podcast - A Heartstopper PodcastHeartstopper 204 - Challenge with Kate and Stephen from Belong ToJoin Jamie this week for a refreshing dive into the Heartstopper universe to discuss Season 2, Episode 4 - Challenge with special guests Kate and Stephen from an amazing queer youth organisation called Belong To!
We relive all of the iconic moments from the show, listen to our favourite characters and talk important issues that the show highlights and the incredible work that Belong To does to support LGBTQ+ young people across the Island of Ireland!
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2023-10-041h 25The Proper Full-On Gay Podcast - A Heartstopper PodcastHeartstopper 203 - Promise with Bryony Mole from LGBT Youth ScotlandJoin Jamie this week for a refreshing dive into the Heartstopper universe to discuss Season 2, Episode 3 - Promise with special guest Bryony from an amazing organisation called LGBT Youth Scotland! We relive a plethora of iconic moments from the show, listen to our favourite characters and talk all about relationship abuse, toxic family members, the amazing Heartstopper parents and the incredible work that LGBT Youth Scotland does to support queer young people across scotland.
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2023-09-201h 19The Proper Full-On Gay Podcast - A Heartstopper PodcastHeartstopper 202 - Family with LGBT Youth Scotland, The Proper Full On Gay Podcast by Shut Up WorldJoin Jamie this week for a refreshing dive into the Heartstopper universe to discuss Season 2, Episode 2 - Family with special guest Paula from LGBT Youth Scotland! We relive a plethora of iconic moments from the show, listen to our favourite characters and talk all about relationship abuse, toxic family members, the amazing Heartstopper parents and the incredible work that LGBT Youth Scotland does to support queer young people across scotland.
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2023-09-0658 minThe Proper Full-On Gay Podcast - A Heartstopper PodcastHeartstopper 201 - Out, with Molly and Liam from The Proud Trust - Proper Full-on Gay Podcast, A Heartstopper AftershowThis week Jamie takes a dive into Heartstopper Season 2, Episode 1 - OUT with special guests Molly and Laim from the Proud Trust! We relive twelve iconic moments from the show and talk all about coming out, allyship and supporting for queer young people in schools and colleges!
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2023-08-231h 17Inspiration from the CouchEP 85: Boosting your Creative Energy in MidlifeJoin Avery, Jamie, & Lucy as they discuss their experiences with creativity in midlife. We share our self-perceptions about our creative abilities (or lack thereof), what gets in the way of creativity, and why creativity is an important part of life. We also talk about the “dark side” of creativity, the relationship between creativity and mental illness, and several strategies to bolster our creative energy in midlife.
2023-08-1728 minThe Proper Full-On Gay Podcast - A Heartstopper PodcastBonus - Our Top 10 Heartstopping moments from Season 2! The Proper Full On Gay Podcast, the Heartstopper Pod is back!!Get emotional with Jamie and special guest Em Marinelli as we take our first dip into Heartstopper season 2 and select our top ten highlights!! In this weeks episode we talk about the highs and lows that Charlie, Nick and the other characters face as we each pick our top moments from your favourite story arcs. The Proper Full On Gay Podcast is back with this special bonus episode!
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2023-08-091h 20The Proper Full-On Gay Podcast - A Heartstopper PodcastHeartstopper Easter Eggs to Look Out For in Season 2 with Molly from the Proud TrustJoining Jamie this week for the Proper Full On Heartstopper Recap is Molly from The Proud Trust. Together we pick out our favourite Eastereggs to look out for in season 2!
2023-07-2659 minThe Proper Full-On Gay Podcast - A Heartstopper PodcastHeartstopper Moments Under Trees with Em Marinelli - The Proper Full On Heartstopper RecapThis week Jamie and special guest Em Marinelli pick out their favourite moments under trees!! Together we talk about tree symbology in Heartstopper and pick out moments of growth, wisdom and strength (not forgetting total queer joy of course). Mr. Ajari, Tao and Elle, Nick and Imogen and of course Nick and Charlie all feature in this incredibly special episode!
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2023-07-1259 minInspiration from the CouchEP 82: Summer VampiresIt’s summer time!!! In today’s episode, Jamie, Lucy, and Avery talk about summer vampires – the experiences and expectations that can suck the joy right out of summer. We talk about the trap of overplanning, under planning, and not being intentional about our time. We share our own experiences with decision fatigue, difficulty remaining present, and having rigid expectations. We then cover tips and tricks to help you have a more enjoyable summer and fend off these summer vampires such as having conversations with the family about expectations before the summer kicks off, allowing everyone to explore their intere...
2023-07-0629 minThe Proper Full-On Gay Podcast - A Heartstopper PodcastComing Out Moments with LGBT Youth Scotland - The Proper Full On Heartstopper RecapThe Proper Full on Heartstopper Recap continues this week with Our favourite Coming Out Moments!! Join Jamie for this exciting episode and meet Mhairi and Daniel from queer youth organisation LGBT Youth Scotland. Together we talk about all of the times characters come out throughout Heartstopper Season 1 and relive some of the most Iconic moments from the show.
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2023-06-281h 14The Proper Full-On Gay Podcast - A Heartstopper PodcastYellow is for Queerness - the Proper Full-On Heartstopper Update EP1Welcome back for our Proper Full on Heartstopper Recap! Joining Jamie for this exciting episode is Lee Cullen from queer youth organisation Cara Friend. Together we host part 1 of our recap - Yellow is For Queerness. In this episode we explore the symbolism of the Yellow and Blue colour play throughout Heartstopper Season 1 and relive some of the most Iconic moments from the show.
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2023-06-141h 03Inspiration from the CouchEP 77: Top Truths about Midlife with Sara SmeatonJoin Jamie, Lucy, and Avery as they talk with certified coach (CPCC), Sara Smeaton, about all things midlife! Sara is a badass midlifer who offers one-on-one and group coaching as well as workshops helping women discover their power, purpose, and possibility. We discuss what Sara refers to as our midlife Power YearsTM, in which we have the experience AND the possibility to create the life we want. We also explore six truths about midlife and share our experiences of being in this life stage. This is a great conversation, not to be missed!Links:
2023-05-1152 minInspiration from the CouchEP 70: It's ALL the rage!Join the bitchfest in this episode, as Jamie, Lucy & Avery discuss the experiences of irritability, anger, and rage which are common emotions in midlife. We talk about all of the contributing factors during this period of life which can contribute to this hot emotional climate such as hormones, physical shifts, life transitions and stressors, and imbalances in relationships. We discuss messages that women have received regarding the feeling and expression of anger such as women are supposed to be “nice” and anger is “scary and to be feared.” We talk about the variability of irritability and share some of the rece...
2023-02-1632 minInspiration from the CouchEP 68: Midlife -- Where's the Map?In today’s episode, Lucy, Jamie, and Avery discuss the midlife experience. We explore whether it's an actual crisis or whether it’s more about navigating a lot of transitions. We discuss what differentiates this period of life from other times in life marked by well-defined rituals and a map of sorts. We share our experiences with bodily changes, empty nesting, job and marital changes, care-giving of aging parents, etc. We also talk about the positive sides of being in midlife such as feeling more settled, doing less striving, and having more space for “want to’s” vs. “have to’s.” We t...
2023-01-1926 minInspiration from the CouchEP 67: Stories We Tell OurselvesIn this episode, we talk about the stories we tell ourselves. In intimate relationships, it can be incredibly helpful to notice the stories that we tell ourselves and share them with our loved ones. Often, we’ll find that our stories are inaccurate and talking about them can improve communication and trust with our partners. We don’t just tell ourselves stories about other people - we also tell ourselves stories about ourselves! Sometimes these stories can be helpful (ie: I can’t drink caffeine after noon or I’ll be up all night) and sometimes they can limit our expe...
2023-01-0527 minThe Proper Full-On Gay Podcast - A Heartstopper PodcastHeartstopper's Tao Zu with Maira from Cara Friend NIJoining Jamie this week for a Proper Full-On Gay Crisis is Maria from the Cara-Friend. We pick our favourite Tao moments from season 1 and talk about the conflict he feels from protecting Charlie and also looking out for himself.
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Proper Full-On Gay Podcast is an LGBTQIA+ podcast which draws inspiration from Alice Oseman’s graphic novels & Netflix series Heartstopper. Each week...
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The Proper Full-On Gay Podcast - A Heartstopper PodcastHeartstopper's Nick & Charlie with Molly from the Proud TrustJoining Jamie this week for a Proper Full-On Gay Crisis is Moly from the Proud Trust. We pick our favourite Nick & Charlie moments from season 1, talk about what makes Heartstopper different to other queer media, and discuss how bisexuality is typically portrayed in queer media.
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2022-12-271h 10The Proper Full-On Gay Podcast - A Heartstopper PodcastHeartstopper's Elle Argent with Amelia from Cara-Friend NIJoining Jamie this week for a Proper Full-On Gay Crisis is Amelia from Cara-Friend NI. We pick our favourite Elle moments from season 1, talk about what makes Heartstopper different to other queer media, and discuss the importance of on-screen trans representation.
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2022-12-131h 00The Proper Full-On Gay Podcast - A Heartstopper PodcastHeartstopper Teachers, with Bryony and Michelle from LGBT Youth ScotlandJoining Jamie this week for a Proper Full-On Gay Crisis are Bryony and Michelle from LGBT Youth Scotland. We talk about our favourite Teacher moments including Mr Ajayi, Coach Singh and Ms. Greenwood and take inspiration from what happens in the show to talk about the work that LGBT Youth Scotland does to support teachers and improve the lives of queer youth across Scotland. We talk about Section 28 which banned the promotion of homosexuality in UK schools during the 80's, 90's and 00's and also about the new "Don't Say Gay" legislation taking hold in some US States.
2022-12-061h 21The Proper Full-On Gay Podcast - A Heartstopper PodcastHeartstopper's Charlie Spring, with Mal from The Rainbow Project and ConnorJoining Jamie this week for a Proper Full-On Gay Crisis are Mal from The Rainbow Project and student councilor Connor. It's our first episode without a Heartstopper Episode so we talked about our favourite protagonist, Charlie Spring, touching on the key moments of his story arc that impact his mental health starting with being outed in school, his relationship with Ben and the events of episode 7 & 8. We also chat about the high points in Charlie's story like the postivie affirmation he receives from Nick and their beach date!
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2022-11-281h 03The Proper Full-On Gay Podcast - A Heartstopper PodcastHeartstopper 108: Boyfriend, with Molly and Liam from The Proud TrustJoining Jamie this week for a Proper Full-On Gay Crisis are Molly and Liam from The Proud Trust. We chat our way through Heartstopper Chatper 8 - Boyrfriend and take inspiration from heartstopping moments to talk about the lives of today's queer youth! Liam tells us about his Youth Groups and Molly shares how validating it was to hear Nick come out as Bisexual. Make fear of missing out a thing of the past - listen now!
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2022-11-221h 32The Proper Full-On Gay Podcast - A Heartstopper PodcastHeartstopper 107: Bully, with Ollie & Ais from Shout Out IrelandJoining Jamie this week for a Proper Full-On Gay Crisis are Ollie and Ais from Shout Out Ireland. We chat our way through Heartstopper Chatper 7 - Bully and take inspiration from Harry and Ben to talk about homophobic and transphobic bullying all its forms! Ollie shares her coming out story and we talk about the amazing work that Shout Out Ireland does to combat homophobic and transphobic bullying across the Island of Ireland. Make fear of missing out a thing of the past - listen now!
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2022-11-151h 27Inspiration from the CouchEP 63: Expectations (especially Holiday Expectations!)In today’s episode, Jamie, Lucy, and Avery talk about how expectations come up for us in our lives. We notice that expectations can have a negative effect on our daily experiences and can impact special occasions like the holidays. We talk about how expectations can sneak up on us and threaten to “ruin” our experiences. We discuss how expectations feel in our body and some strategies we have found helping in managing our expectations. We talk about the pressure to have the “best holiday ever” and how difficult it can be when the holiday experience doesn’t live up to our ex...
2022-11-1026 min
The Proper Full-On Gay Podcast - A Heartstopper PodcastHeartstopper 106: Girls, with Doro & Paula from LGBT Youth ScotlandJoining Jamie this week for a Proper Full-On Gay Crisis are Doro and Paula from LGBT Youth Scotland. We chat our way through Heartstopper Chatper 6 - Girls and take inspiration from Nick and Tara to talk about coming out in all its forms! Doro shares her personal story of coming out while deeply involved with the church and Jamie talks about what it was like for him when a teenage crush turned into a toxic relationship. Make fear of missing out a thing of the past - listen now!
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The Proper Full-On Gay Podcast - A Heartstopper PodcastHeartstopper 105: Friend, with Ryan & Riley from Cara-FriendJoining Jamie this week for a Proper Full-On Gay Crisis are Ryan and Riley from Cara-Friend NI. We chat our way through Heartstopper Chatper 5 - Friend and have really interesting conversations about being a "secret"; how Nick has a responsibility to help Imogen become an empowered Girl Boss and the heartbreak we've all felt on wrong side of a teenage crush. We also highlight why Mariocart follows Nick and Charlie into many romantic moments, and explore the many heartbursting moments for Charlie, Tao, Nick and Elle. Make fear of missing out a thing of the past - listen now!
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2022-11-011h 18Inspiration from the CouchEP 62: Comfort ZonesIn today’s episode, Lucy, Jamie, and Avery discuss comfort zones. Comfort zones get some pretty negative press, but great things can happen when we have a comfortable place to land where we can rest and feel secure, confident, and safe. Comfort zones can be, well, comfortable, but they can also become constraining. There are drawbacks to doing things as they have always been done before. Even though it can feel scary at first, pushing ourselves beyond the comfort zone can really be exciting and fun. Because life doesn’t always let us remain in our comfort zones, it is a...
2022-10-2722 min
The Proper Full-On Gay Podcast - A Heartstopper PodcastHeartstopper 104: Secret, with the Proud Trust & Cara-FriendJoining Jamie this week for a Proper Full-On Gay Crisis is Molly from The Proud Trust and Maria from Cara-Friend NI. We chat our way through Heartstopper Chatper 4 - Secret and have really interesting conversations about the characteristics of queer allys and the conflict that Nick feels when Harry makes homophobic remarks. We talk about how a bully's verbal assaults are sometimes worse than physical assaults and about how bisexual and pansexual people sometimes don't feel queer enough for the community. Make fear of missing out a thing of the past - listen now!
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The Proper Full-On Gay Podcast - A Heartstopper PodcastHeartstopper 103: Kiss, with Dierde and Joe from The Rainbow ProjectJoining Jamie this week for a Proper Full-On Gay Crisis are Joe Walsh and Dierdre McPoland from the Rainbow Project. We chat our way through Heartstopper Chapter 3 - Kiss and talk about Deirdres experiences as a parent of her queer son. Joe tells us about the work of the Rainbow Project and their Family Ties programme which supports the family members of queer youth across Northern ireland.
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2022-10-181h 04Inspiration from the CouchEP 61: Likes, follows, & shares --- oh my!In this episode, Jamie, Avery, and Lucy talk about the pros, cons, and boundaries around social media and technology. We briefly discuss our own love/hate relationships with social media and tech. We then explore the pros and cons of this dimension of our lives and how it affects our mental health. We offer suggestions and clues regarding when stricter boundaries around social media and tech might be needed. Lastly, we offer tips and tricks to help us keep our social media and technology usage in check. Do Try This At Home:Set time l...
2022-10-1331 min
The Proper Full-On Gay Podcast - A Heartstopper PodcastHeartstopper 102: Crush, with Ruahdan & Lisa from Shout Out IrelandJoining Jamie this week for a Proper Full-On Gay Crisis are Ruadhan and Lisa from an amazing queer youth organisation called Shout Out!! Together we chat our way through Heartstopper Chapter 2, relive Nick & Charlies crush and the moment that Tara and Darcy come out to Elle!! We Celebrate International Coming Out Day and talk about all kinds of really important topics like the experiences of queer youth in schools, the joy in finding your community and the work that Shout Out does to crush homophobia across the Island of Ireland!
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The Proper Full-On Gay Podcast - A Heartstopper PodcastHeartstopper 101: Meet, with Ali and Zac from LGBT Youth ScotlandWelcome to our the first ever Proper Full-On Gay Podcast! This week Jamie is joined by guests hosts Ali Kerr and Zac Ryan from LGBT Youth Scotland. We chat about Heartstopper Chapter One touching on Charlie’s relationship with Ben, his growing friendship with Nick and the important role played by Mr Ajayi. Zac tells his humbling and inspiring story about coming out as a trans young person to his music teacher at school and we take inspiration from the show and discuss significant themes like domestic abuse in queer relationships; the legacy of section 28 and the importance of que...
2022-10-041h 16Inspiration from the CouchEP 59: Vulnerability HangoversLucy, Jamie, and Avery dive into “vulnerability hangovers,” which is what we experience after putting ourselves out in the world in some way (i.e., after we are vulnerable!). We define the common symptoms, including exhaustion, shame, regret, turtle mode (desire to avoid, withdraw), distraction, overthinking, overanalyzing, tenderness, headache, and insecurity. We explore how this comes up in our clinical work, as well as in our own personal lives. Discussed factors that influence whether or not we have a vulnerability hangover, as well as individual differences in this experience. Lastly, we talk about how to tend to ourselves during thes...
2022-09-1526 minInspiration from the CouchEP 58: Let's BeginIn this episode, Jamie, Avery, and Lucy talk about the concept of Beginner’s Mind. We briefly discuss the characteristics of having a beginner’s mind, as well as things that get in the way such as ego, being the expert, comparison-making, and habits. We share some of our most humbling experiences as beginners. We then talk about how a beginner's mind can be helpful in our daily lives and how “not having it all figured out” can create connection and closeness. We also share the importance of asking for help and having a sense of humor about being a beginn...
2022-09-0128 minInspiration from the CouchEP 57: The Easy ButtonToday, Jamie, Lucy, and Avery discuss the benefits of taking the easy way out. We talk about how we inadvertently make things more difficult for ourselves by over-analyzing, over-controlling, people-pleasing, over-planning, and simply forgetting that doing less is an option. We also review strategies that have helped us to notice when we are falling into these habits and make different choices instead. Do try this at home:Create/choose a physical reminder to invite more ease into your daily life. Whether it’s an actual easy button, a post-it note on your...
2022-08-1831 minInspiration from the CouchEP 56: Summer Vacation StressIn this episode, Jamie, Avery, and Lucy talk about the good, the bad, and the ugly of vacationing. We briefly discuss the differences in vacation policy between the U.S. and other countries, share some of our own vacation plans, and talk about all the stressors associated with planning, traveling, and being on vacation. We then talk about post-vacation depression and share tips on how to minimize stress so that you can enjoy your vacation to the fullest, Do Try This At Home:If possible, plan a transition period before and after your vacation so t...
2022-08-0430 minInspiration from the CouchEP 55: DialecticsIn today’s episode, Jamie, Avery, and Lucy talk about the concept of “Dialectics,” which is holding two opposite viewpoints that are simultaneously true. This entails leaning heavily into both-and thinking, rather than getting trapped in either-or thinking. We talk through several “dialectical dilemmas,” including: Acceptance (validation) vs change (problem solving)Emotion Mind vs Reasonable Mind (which equals Wise Mind)Rigidity vs flexibilityLie the Fuck Down vs Get the Fuck UpBeing self-less vs prioritizing ourselvesSpeaking truth vs being kindWe also explore some of the factors that make dialectics hard, as well as the benefits of approaching life from a...
2022-07-2129 minInspiration from the CouchEP 54: Roe v WadeIn this episode, Jamie, Lucy, and Avery discuss the Supreme Court’s recent decision to overturn Roe vs. Wade. We focus on strategies to manage the emotional distress that this decision has caused for many of us specifically in regard to politically charged conversations, general empathy and concern for others and the future, and the personal relevance of the decision. We touch on strategies to foster compassion as we each navigate our own response to the decision and our interactions with others. Do try this at home:Know that you are not alone. This is a dis...
2022-07-0727 minInspiration from the CouchEP 51: You are not Your JobIn this episode, Jamie, Avery, and Lucy talk about work. We briefly discuss the impact of The Great Resignation on the world of work, share some of our early work histories and what moved us into the world of psychology, and what a “work identity” is. We then talk about the drawbacks of shaping one’s entire identity around career and offer self-reflection questions to help determine whether one is “enmeshed” with career, We also share tips on how to disentangle your self-worth from what you do for work. Do Try This At Home:Fund your t...
2022-05-2629 minInspiration from the CouchEp 50: DistractedIn today’s episode Lucy shares about her biggest current struggle: feeling distracted. She asks Avery and Jamie for guidance on how she can intervene to find more peace and presence. We explore how distraction shows up, both for Lucy specifically and for many of us more generally. We talk about potential culprits for distraction, as well as dive into some specific strategies to help settle our brains and nervous systems so we can be more present in the moment. Do Try This at Home: Read Deep Work by Cal Newport, and start setting aside time for...
2022-05-1232 minInspiration from the CouchEP 48: Making FriendsIn this episode, Jamie, Avery, and Lucy talk about friendships! We discuss changing trends in our friendship networks over time, why friendships are important for our physical and mental health, and what to do if we are spread too thin. We also share tips on how to develop new friendships and deepen current ones.Do Try This at Home:Do a “friendship inventory” to discover whether you have the bandwidth to take on new friends and to examine whether your current network is healthy and fulfilling. In making new friends, start small. Pay attention to wh...
2022-04-1430 minInspiration from the CouchEP 47: What's SoJamie, Avery, and Lucy are mixing things up for today’s episode! We start with a beautiful reading called What’s So by Werner Erhard. We then offer some journal prompts, and you can pause the podcast to reflect in the moment, or you can hold on to these prompts for later. Finally we discuss our experiences with the nuggets of wisdom from the reading. Feel free to get your journal and a pen ready, so you can take some notes along the way. Journal prompts:What strikes you about the What’s So reading? What interfe...
2022-03-3127 minInspiration from the CouchEP 46: Swimsuit SeasonAvery, Jamie and Lucy get pretty vulnerable in this episode. We each talk about our own experiences with diet culture, self-acceptance, and self-compassion. We review some of our favorite sources of inspiration and information on this topic and talk about a few helpful questions to consider: How much space do thoughts about diet and body size take up in your life? If you were able to clear some of that space, what else would you be thinking about? What do you value? What are your top priorities? At your funeral, what will people remember about you? What do you...
2022-03-1727 minInspiration from the CouchEP 45: Less is MoreIn this episode, Jamie, Avery, and Lucy begin our 15-part series on Less is More. Just kidding! We discuss consumption and accumulating vs. decluttering and making do with what we have, the pandemic effects on doing less vs. returning to old, hurried habits/behaviors, overcommitting vs. being intentional about commitments, “luxury fever” and how that affects adults and children, and how to utilize savoring to increase pleasant experiences vs. multi-tasking and wishing for more.Do Try This at Home:Clear space for savoring. Pick one thing to declutter and focus on the essential.Write out your sched...
2022-03-0332 minInspiration from the CouchEP 44: Taking Sexy BackAvery, Lucy, and Jamie return for a book club episode to close out our series on relationships. We delve into a book called Taking Sexy Back by Alexandra Solomon. We start with an overview of the book, then discuss our comfort with this topic and messages we’ve received about sex throughout our lives. We share our favorite takeaways from the book, including a framework for sexual self-awareness (i.e., making friends with Your Sexy), how we approach sex (i.e., love versus fear; reasons for engaging), sexual desire (i.e., dual control model; responsive vs spontaneous desire), how bo...
2022-02-1732 minInspiration from the CouchEP 42: Dropping ArmorIn today’s episode, Avery, Jamie, and Lucy explore the armors of expectations, complaints, and demands that show up in relationships. We discuss what makes these armor and how they impact our relationships. We talk about the importance of both identifying what we want and need, as well as being willing to express this to our partners. We then delineate and explore two practices that we can use instead: making requests and creating agreements. Do try this at home: Try using the language of requests and agreements vs. expectations, complaints, and demands. Ask for feedback from your...
2022-02-0332 minInspiration from the CouchEP 41: Healthy Relationships, Part 2Today, Lucy, Jamie, and Avery talk about three key and interconnected ingredients for healthy, romantic relationships -- closeness, connection/emotional intimacy, and friendship. We discuss what it means to be close and connected with your partners, the costs of intimacy, and we give pointers on how to strengthen intimacy and friendship in your romantic relationship.Do try this at home:To foster friendship and connection with your partner, touch base with your partner a few times a day by phone, email, or text. It’s best for these interactions to be supportive, friendly, and engaging rather th...
2022-01-2732 minInspiration from the CouchEP 40: Healthy Relationships, Part 1In this episode, Jamie, Avery, and Lucy begin our podcast series on relationships. We start by reviewing changes in romantic relationships and how they have evolved across the decades, major reasons individuals divorce, and expectations that are placed on romantic partners. We then explore the love “chapters” in long-term relationships --- early idealization, fall from grace/disillusionment, and committed/authentic love. Lastly, we get personal and share our own love stories and how we’ve navigated these “chapters” of love. Do try this at home:Be mindful and examine the ideas and preconceptions you have about the kind of...
2022-01-2032 minInspiration from the CouchEP 38: ComfortLight a candle, grab a blanket, and get in your pj’s! In this episode, Jamie, Avery, and Lucy discuss the importance of comfort. We talk about Hygge---the Danish word used to acknowledge a special feeling or moment which involves coziness and comfort. We share what we personally find comforting. We discuss possible downsides to comfort as well as ineffective comfort strategies. We also touch on the topic of “comfort food” and getting outside of one’s “comfort zone.” Do try this at home:Do an inventory on what you find comforting. Give yourself and others permission to...
2022-01-0632 minInspiration from the CouchEP 36: WonderToday’s episode begins with Jamie, Lucy, and Avery exploring wonder: instances of wonder, how we experience it in the body, the benefits of wonder, and some of the cultural, personal, and developmental factors that impact our experiences of wonder. We identify 6 facets of wonder: openness, curiosity, bewilderment, hope, connection, and admiration, and we explore how creating “packs” in our lives can help facilitate wonder. Do try this at home: Incorporate time in your week to slow down and be present. Do less to allow space to connect with wonder. Intentionally tap into your 7-year-old self.
2021-12-2329 minInspiration from the CouchEP 35: Hustle and BustleIn this episode, Jamie, Avery, and Lucy think back to the holiday season last year and discuss one of the things that we missed most: the “hustle and bustle.” We talk about being intentional in keeping the fun parts of the hustle and bustle this year and dropping the not-so-fun aspects of the holiday rush to preserve our mental health. Do try this at home: Enjoy the hustle and bustle. Let the parts you don’t enjoy go. Incorporate flexibility in your activities.Practice self-compassion during the holidays (and the rest of the year too)The “Not T...
2021-12-1626 minInspiration from the CouchEP 34: JoyToday Avery, Jamie, and Lucy talk about all things related to Joy. We explore what, exactly, joy is, how we experience joy, barriers to joy, and opportunities for increasing joy in our lives. To help us better understand this topic, we surveyed people with the following 5 questions: How do you define joy?What are some characteristics of joy? Describe your experiences of joy?What brings you joy in your life?Tell me your most joy filled memory. What interferes with joy?Do try this at home: Intentionally notice joy. Be mindful and aware of things in you...
2021-12-0931 minInspiration from the CouchEP 33: Mental Health and the HolidaysFor many people the holiday season is not always the most wonderful time of year. According to a recent survey, the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) reports that approximately 24% of people with a diagnosed mental illness find that the holidays make their condition “a lot” worse and 40% “somewhat” worse. Join Avery, Jamie, and Lucy in their discussion regarding how and why the holiday season can affect one’s mental health. We discuss how stress can arise from a variety of sources including loneliness, hectic schedules, overstimulation, high expectations, comparison-making, personal grief, economic concerns, separation from and/or conflict with famil...
2021-12-0228 minInspiration from the CouchEP 32: TraditionsIn this episode, Jamie, Avery, and Lucy discuss the importance of family traditions. We discuss the characteristics of family traditions (i.e., significance, repetition, and coordination). We talk about the importance of traditions in providing predictability, connection, identity, and as a way to communicate values. We also share how the various types of family rituals/traditions (i.e., connection, love, and community) can be incorporated into our lives and we give examples of our own family traditions. Lastly, we talk about paying attention to the three phases of traditions (i.e., transition, enactment, exit) in order to strengthen family...
2021-11-2529 minInspiration from the CouchEP 31: Intentional Holiday SeasonIt’s time for the holidays! Join Lucy, Avery, and Jamie as we kick off our holiday series with an episode on how to create an intentional holiday season. We explore common problems and complaints about the holidays, identifying factors that detract from a more peaceful and meaningful experience. We discuss how to be more intentional this holiday season, as well as the practice of being curious about what lights us up, what depletes up, and what we want to change to better align with our intentions. We then explore how to increase peace and ease while decreasing exhaustion an...
2021-11-1829 minInspiration from the CouchEP 29: Embrace Naked RealityIn today’s episode we discuss the concept, Embrace Naked Reality, from the book, Being of Power by Baron Baptiste. Embracing naked reality refers to challenging the meaning making that we continuously do. Experiences that we have on a daily basis don’t really have an emotional charge to them --- it’s the meaning or the stories that we give to events or interactions that create that emotional charge. Jamie, Lucy, and Avery share their own examples of emotionally charged interpretations/stories vs. the “naked reality” of each situation. We explore what it feels like to practice taking off the fi...
2021-11-0426 minInspiration from the CouchEP 27: Be a YesToday’s episode marks the beginning of a four-part series. In this installment, we do a deep dive into one of the topics that we found to be most helpful and relevant in the book Being of Power by Baron Baptiste. Avery, Lucy, and Jamie explore “Being a Yes” or “being confident in your ability to turn difficulty into possibility.” We talk about what can get in the way of “being a yes” and focus on a step-by-step strategy to "Be a Yes."Note: No prior reading/knowledge of this book is required to enjoy and benefit from this epis...
2021-10-2129 minInspiration from the CouchEP 26: Perfectionism, Take 2In this episode, Jamie, Avery, and Lucy continue their discussion on perfectionism, which often stems from the belief that we are not enough or not worthy. We discuss conditional statements for worth that implicate perfectionism and explore all the sneaky ways that perfectionism can appear in our lives including school, work, parenting, intimate relationships, our environment, and physical appearance. We then offer several strategies to combat perfectionism. Do try this at home:Make a cost/benefit analysis of perfectionistic behaviors and prioritize. Let ourselves experiment.Be aware of your self-talk and your tendencies. Do you use wo...
2021-10-1431 minInspiration from the CouchEP 24: Treatment SeekingIn this episode, Lucy, Jamie, and Avery talk about the mental health field and the process of seeking professional support. We discuss signs of when we might need outside assistance, and we differentiate professional support from friendship. We share about the mental health landscape: types of providers, levels of care, and types of interventions found on an outpatient basis. We demystify the process of choosing and getting settled in with a therapist, and we also examine investment in and barriers to treatment. Lastly, we debunk common myths about seeking professional support. Do try this at ho...
2021-09-3031 minInspiration from the CouchEP 23: PerfectionismIn today’s episode, Avery, Lucy, and Jamie discuss perfectionism---the need to appear or be perfect. We discuss the various ways that perfectionism manifests as a trait and in behaviors, share some of our own tendencies towards perfectionism, provide examples of perfectionism across the lifespan and in various activities, and discuss the downfalls and mental health consequences of perfectionism. Do try this at home:Be intentional about doing an activity “half-assed.” Practice engaging in activities for joy and connection.Try new things and have a “beginner’s mindset” stance.
2021-09-2330 minInspiration from the CouchEP 22: Don't be an AssholeMost of us are in easy agreement that we should refrain from being assholes to others, yet we often speak to ourselves in harsh, critical, and self-aggressive ways. In today’s episode, Jamie, Avery, and Lucy explore the ways that people (including us!) are assholes to themselves, both overtly and subconsciously. We talk about how we often speak to ourselves so differently than we would speak to a friend or even a stranger. We identify various Inner Voices: The Critic, The Excuse Maker, The Victim, The Worrier, The Caretaker, and The Enforcer. We describe each of these and examine ho...
2021-09-1628 minInspiration from the CouchEP 21: Cognitive LoadIn today’s episode, Avery, Lucy, and Jamie talk about Cognitive Load. Cognitive load refers to the cognitive energy associated with planning and managing tasks. We talk about our own experiences with cognitive load and offer some validation that the cognitive load of various roles can become quite heavy and overwhelming at times. Next, we discuss how we assess for cognitive load and attempt to distribute it in an equitable way. We end this episode with a discussion of strategies to cope with burnout and ways we can access support from others. Do try this at home:How...
2021-09-0928 minInspiration from the CouchEP 20: The Art of GatheringIn today’s episode, Avery, Lucy, and Jamie talk about The Art of Gathering by Priya Parker. We discuss different topics that are brought up in the book such as the importance of clearly identifying the purpose of why we gather and being intentional about who we include in certain gatherings, where we host them, and how we show up as hosts. As we review the book, we talk about some of our own gatherings and different ways that this book might inspire our future gatherings. Note: No prior reading/knowledge of this book is required to enjo...
2021-09-0230 minInspiration from the CouchEP 19: NostalgiaIn today’s episode, Avery, Lucy, and Jamie discuss nostalgia---the sentimentality for the past, typically for a particular period or place with positive associations. We explore the purpose, pros, and cons of nostalgia, share some of our own nostalgic memories, discuss how nostalgia gets triggered through music, fragrance, and mood states, talk about “retro” things, and discuss how nostalgia can be used as a positive coping tool for self and others.Do try this at home:Try out intentionally using nostalgia to shift your mood.Be mindful of the joy and sadness associated with nostalgia.If you fi...
2021-08-2627 minInspiration from the CouchEP 18: ChangeIn episode 18, Lucy, Avery, and Jamie focus on change, specifically on how to cope with life transitions and changing circumstances in our lives (including both “positive” and “negative” change). We identify some common sources of change, share about our own experiences with and responses to change, and discuss resistance to change. We also explore our favorite strategies for coping with change.Do try this at home:Have compassion for yourself and nurture yourself with good self-care. (Care for yourself as you would care for someone else.)Be mindful of your self-talk. “I am, I can, I will, I do...
2021-08-1929 minInspiration from the CouchEP 17: GratitudeIn this episode, Jamie, Avery, and Lucy talk about gratitude! We discuss what gratitude entails, why it matters, and benefits of gratitude (physically, emotionally, and socially). We also talk about what gets in the way of gratitude, share personal examples of who and what we’re grateful for, talk about disingenuous gratitude, explore the influences of media and consumerism on gratitude, and discuss ways to incorporate more gratitude practices into our lives. Lastly, we encourage our listeners to engage in the #fuckingthankful challenge with us! Do try this at home: Ask yourself, “What is there...
2021-08-1229 minInspiration from the CouchEP 16: Speaking TruthIn today’s episode, Avery, Lucy, and Jamie talk about speaking the truth. We start our conversation by talking about what happens to us physically and emotionally when we don’t tell the truth. Even small seemingly insignificant lies can impact how we feel about ourselves and how we show up in our relationships with others, but the desire to please or keep the peace can interfere with telling the truth. We talk about how we determine when truth needs to be spoken in our own lives and how truth can be spoken in a direct and compassionate way. ...
2021-08-0529 min
Massive Passive Cash Flow PodcastEpisode 103: The Power of Note Investing, with Jamie BatemanFounder Jamie Bateman has been an active real estate investor since 2010. Jamie is an experienced real estate investor and business owner who has been actively buying and selling mortgage notes since early 2018. During this time, he has acquired over 40 notes with principal balances in excess of $1.7M across 12 states. Jamie manages several small businesses and a multi-state rental portfolio worth over $2M. He has hands-on experience overseeing construction projects and managing properties. Jamie also has work experience in both the title and mortgage industries, having worked for years as a real-estate settlement officer, notary, and mortgage funding manager. Jamie...
2021-08-0434 minInspiration from the CouchEP 14: AgingIn this episode, Jamie, Avery, and Lucy talk about getting older! We reflect on what it’s been like for us personally as we go through our middle age stage of life---physically, emotionally, and socially. We discuss society’s view of aging including some of the negative stereotypes associated with aging and how many of us have internalized negative messages about aging. We also explore resistance to aging versus embracing aging, and share our own fears and excitement about getting older. Do try this at home:Be mindful of what we want for ourselves as we...
2021-07-2227 minInspiration from the CouchEP 13: CompassionCompassion (and more specifically self-compassion) is THE Secret Sauce in thriving and in living with peace and ease. Join Lucy, Jamie, and Avery as we talk about why compassion is so important, our experiences with compassion, barriers to compassion, and how we can practice integrating self-compassion into our lives. In this episode we discuss:What is compassion? And what is the opposite of compassion? (Spoiler alert: the opposite of compassion is self-judgment/self-aggression!)Principles of compassionOur experiences with compassionBarriers to self-compassionPractices that facilitate compassion Do try this at home:Try a “...
2021-07-1529 minInspiration from the CouchEP 10: UntamedOur second book club episode is on Untamed by Glennon Doyle. In this episode, Lucy, Jamie, and Avery explore Glennon’s 4 Keys to Freedom: 1) Feel it All, 2) Be Still and Know, 3) Dare to Imagine, and 4) Build and Burn. We also highlight our favorite nuggets of wisdom about parenting that Glennon shares in Untamed. Note: No prior reading/knowledge of this book is required to enjoy and benefit from this episode. In this episode we discuss:Key 1: Feel it All {Pain vs suffering; how we avoid our feelings; how to befriend our feelings}Key 2: Be Stil...
2021-06-2427 minInspiration from the CouchEP 9: Asking for SupportIn today’s episode, Avery, Jamie, and Lucy talk about accessing support. We sometimes get the message that we should be able to do everything on our own, but we all need help sometimes. We talk about how it feels to ask for help, the barriers to asking for help, and the benefits of giving and receiving support. In this episode we discuss:What happens when we don’t ask for help and how asking for help can impact our relationshipsHow it feels to ask for help and what gets in the way of asking for help...
2021-06-1725 minInspiration from the CouchEP 8: Saying NoIn today’s episode, Jamie, Lucy, and Avery discuss the importance and difficulties of saying no. We explore how to make more room in our lives for things that truly matter by saying one of the bravest words---no. We share anecdotes of our own struggles and successes in this area, review a “personal bill of rights” which provides rationale for saying no, and role play assertive and not so assertive ways of saying no.In this episode we discuss: How we have the right to say no to harmful, hurtful, or toxic things and relationships, as well as...
2021-06-1026 minInspiration from the CouchEP 7: Do it Afraid“Do it Afraid” is one of our favorite mantras, and in today’s episode, Jamie, Avery, and Lucy explore what this phrase means and how to put it into practice in our lives. We talk about ways that we play it safe and ways that we take risks, as well as the pros and cons of each. We share about how to support ourselves while doing things that align with our goals/values but that terrify us nonetheless. In this episode we discuss:Fear we heed vs fear we challengeHow we Play it SafeWhy we might want to...
2021-06-0325 minInspiration from the CouchEP 6: ValidationIn today’s episode, Lucy, Jamie, and Avery talk about all things related to validation. We think of validation as a fundamental communication and healing skill, which, in essence, says “I see you.” There is great power in being seen, heard, and understood just as we are. We explore what validation is and what it is not. (HINT: validation is not approval, agreement, reassurance, judgment, or problem solving.) We share common ways that we invalidate ourselves and others, and we also talk about how to validate. We illustrate all of this with some concrete examples. In this episode...
2021-05-2728 minInspiration from the CouchEP 5: The Trance of ScarcityIn our first book club episode, Jamie, Avery, and Lucy discuss The Trance of Scarcity by Victoria Castle. We talk about Victoria’s brilliant metaphor of being “in the Circle” (where you live with flow, abundance, vitality, and ease) versus being “out of the Circle” (where life is defined by a sense of not enough-ness, constriction, urgency, separateness, and depletion). We explore two ways for getting back in the Circle: trading up our Stories and tuning into our Somas (a fancy phrase for physical bodies). Throughout the episode, we share about our personal experiences to help bring these concepts to life in...
2021-05-2028 minInspiration from the CouchEP 4: Wise MindAvery, Lucy, and Jamie chat about Wise Mind (aka, “Intuition” or “Knowing”) in the fourth episode. We discuss how to tap into one’s inner wisdom through incorporating emotions, thoughts, and the body, rather than over-relying on external sources to make effective decisions. We share stories of our own struggles connecting with Wise Mind and what we have learned to overcome these barriers.In this episode we discuss:Definitions of Wise Mind, Emotion Mind, and Reasonable Mind, as well as providing personal examples of eachGuiding principles of connecting with Wise MindBarriers to tapping into Wise MindHow Wise Mind...
2021-05-1322 minInspiration from the CouchEP 3: PlayWarning: this episode is coming in hot with a few unexpected F-bombs. Be prepared! Or at least pop in your earbuds if you have small kids loitering or skip to the 52 second mark to avoid altogether! In today’s episode we talk about the importance of play. As adults, it can be hard to connect with “nonproductive” activity such as play. Jamie, Lucy, and Avery share their own experiences with play, discuss benefits of play, and encourage listeners to experiment with play to connect more fully with themselves and the world, both personally and professionally. We don’t stop pl...
2021-05-0628 minInspiration from the CouchEP 2: The Pandemic ExperienceJoin Jamie, Lucy, and Avery for an episode on The Pandemic Experience, recorded in April of 2021. As we look back over the last year, we reflect on our personal journeys and what we have noticed from a professional standpoint in our work as psychologists. We talk about the strategies that have helped us cope with challenges this year and the lessons we hope to hold onto going forward. In this episode we discuss: The pandemic experience over the past yearWhat we have noticed personally and professionallyNaming what's soDifferent aspects of the pandemic experience that have caused st...
2021-05-0325 minInspiration from the CouchEP 1: Welcome to Inspiration from the CouchThis first episode introduces you to Drs. Avery Hoenig, Jamie Wilson, and Lucy Smith, the creators and co-hosts of the Inspiration from the Couch podcast. As both psychologists and moms, they have created this podcast to share the pearls of wisdom that they have found transformative in their personal lives and in their professional endeavors. In Episode 1, Avery, Jamie, and Lucy tell you about themselves and about the process of creating Inspiration from the Couch. They also give a sneak peek of what lies ahead for listeners in future episodes.In this episode we discuss: Who w...
2021-04-2818 min