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Untangling RelationshipsEp. 39 Caregiving Vs. Caretaking Pt. 2: A Deep Dive Into CaretakingIn this episode of 'Untangling Relationships,' hosted by Janae and Penney, the discussion centers around caretaking, part two of a three-part series on caretaking versus caregiving. Key topics include recognizing caretaking behaviors in oneself and others, understanding the motivations and consequences of caretaking, and the impact of blurred boundaries on relationships. The hosts also delve into the importance of holding boundaries, the repercussions of covering up for caretakers, and strategies for changing caretaking dynamics. The episode provides reflections, tips, and the importance of looking at internal validation, all aimed at fostering healthier relationships.2025-02-1848 minUntangling RelationshipsEp. 38 Caregiving vs. Caretaking Pt. 1In this episode, Penney and Janae give an introduction to Caretaking and Caregiving in relationships. They explore how these dynamics can lead to conflict and how to recognize what role you might be playing in these relationship dynamics. Brene Brown -Sympathy vs. empathy youtube video https://youtu.be/KZBTYViDPlQ?si=P_Id2pggZOxpRxmL2024-12-1227 minUntangling RelationshipsEp. 37 Relationship Check-Ins That Work: From Autopilot to Intentional ConnectionJoin Janae and Penney in this episode of 'Untangling Relationships' as they explore the importance of regular relationship check-ins. They discuss how over time, relationships can grow distant as daily demands and other responsibilities take precedence. This episode provides a detailed approach to conducting monthly relationship check-ins, focusing on maintaining intimacy and trust. Key topics include the effects of autopilot mode on relationships, the importance of appreciation and support, and strategies for overcoming conflict. Practical questions and tips for enhancing connection are shared to help couples navigate their relationship journeys.
Relationship Check-in Questions:
1- What...2024-08-1337 minUntangling RelationshipsEp. 36 Attachment Styles & Relationship DynamicsWe are back from our summer break to talk about Attachment Styles. This episode breaks down the different attachment styles you may have and how they may be impacting your relationships. There is lots of self-reflection and introspection to dive into in this episode.
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Hold Me Tight by Dr. Sue Johnson 2024-07-2432 minUntangling RelationshipsEp. 35 Beyond Perfection: Embracing Authenticity and VulnerabilityThis episode explores personal vulnerabilities, the societal pressures of perfectionism, and the path towards more authentic self-perception and relationships.
Links
Imposter syndrome episode
Brene Brown Empathy vs. Sympathy video
Habits for Wellbeing website
Boundaries and Core Values episode2024-05-2154 minUntangling RelationshipsEp. 34 From Ducks to Depth: Unmasking Perfectionism in Our RelationshipsWe asked the AI overlords to summarize this episode, and here's what they said "In the bustling, diverse world of relationships, many couples find themselves striving for a semblance of perfection, embodying the calm and composed duck gliding on the water's surface while concealing the frantic paddling underneath. This phenomenon, known as "Floating Duck Syndrome," encapsulates the hidden struggles that lie beneath seemingly perfect relationships. This edition of "Untangling Relationships" delves into the intricacies of this syndrome from a couple’s perspective, guided by the insightful conversations between Janae and Penney.
Originating from Stanford University, the term "Fl...2024-05-0353 minUntangling RelationshipsEp. 33 The Stages of Healing- Exploring the Paths of Stories, Emotions, and TransformationEmbrace Your Own Healing Journey "Untangling Relationships" offers profound insights into the healing process, not just for trauma but for anyone navigating the complexities of emotional growth and relationship dynamics. Janae and Penney’s candid discussion sheds light on the importance of acknowledging the stages of healing, embracing the nonlinear nature of this journey, and continually working towards self-understanding and compassion. As you navigate your own spiral staircase of healing, remember, each step, whether it feels like progress or a setback, is an integral part of your journey towards healing. The conversations between Janae and Penney remind us of th...2024-04-1954 minUntangling RelationshipsEp. 33 The Stages of Healing- Exploring the Paths of Stories, Emotions, and TransformationEmbrace Your Own Healing Journey"Untangling Relationships" offers profound insights into the healing process, not just for trauma but for anyone navigating the complexities of emotional growth and relationship dynamics. Janae and Penney’s candid discussion sheds light on the importance of acknowledging the stages of healing, embracing the nonlinear nature of this journey, and continually working towards self-understanding and compassion.As you navigate your own spiral staircase of healing, remember, each step, whether it feels like progress or a setback, is an integral part of your journey towards healing. The conversations between Janae and Penney remind us...2024-04-1900 minUntangling RelationshipsEP. 32 Mini- Overcoming Criticism & Defensiveness in ConversationsIn this mini-episode, we discuss one of the first key components to successful communication- the antidotes to criticism and defensiveness. We explore the importance of positive need statements over criticism and the steps to take accountability and empathy to address defensiveness. We work through examples and encourage you to start applying these skills to various relationships for better communication.
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https://www.hilltopwellness.net/couples-online-course-landing-page2024-04-1016 minUntangling RelationshipsEp. 31 Reflecting on What Couple's Skills We LoveWe have been working with couples for the past 3 years- Here are our favorite tools we use and what we have learned so far.
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This episode talks about the development of relationship tools for our upcoming online course. We share insights on employing tools like positive need statements, defensiveness antidotes, and self-soothing in relationships. We also give tips for successful implementation and share our personal experiences with challenges and weekly trust-building exercises.2024-04-0627 minUntangling RelationshipsEp. 30 Mini- The Emotional Bank Account- Building TrustIn this episode, we discuss the concept of an emotional bank account, originally coined by John and Julie Gottman. We explore how deposits, such as building trust and spending quality time, can strengthen relationships, while withdrawals, like ignoring, criticizing, and yelling, can erode trust. We emphasize the importance of trust and communication in all relationships, from romantic partnerships to family dynamics and work environments.2024-03-2830 minUntangling RelationshipsEp. 29 Trustworthiness vs. Trust: Crafting Unbreakable Bonds in LoveIn the realm of relationships, trust and trustworthiness lay the foundation upon which intimacy and connection are built. Episode 29 of "Untangling Relationships," hosted by Janae and Penney, delves into these critical elements, providing listeners with a deep understanding of their meanings and implications within romantic and other relationships.Exploring Trust and TrustworthinessTrust, as discussed by our hosts, is the belief in your partner's commitment and their unwavering support. It's about feeling secure that your partner is "all in," dedicated to the relationship without doubts or hesitations. Trustworthiness, on the other hand, extends beyond trust, embodying the...2024-03-2137 minUntangling RelationshipsEp 28. Navigating Love and Conflict: An Analysis of Intimate ConversationsAnalyzing the intricacies of relationships portrayed in reality TV offers a unique perspective on human interactions. Despite the heightened drama and external pressures, the raw emotions and relational dynamics depicted serve as a mirror to our own experiences. As viewers, we are invited to reflect on our own communication styles, conflict resolution strategies, and the importance of empathy in navigating challenging situations.
Clip from Married at First Sight Season 17 Episode 6 2024-03-1225 minUntangling RelationshipsEp. 27 Can Love Last? Predictors of Divorce Explored Through 'Married at First Sight'Unraveling the Knot: Uncovering the 6 Predictors of Divorce Through Reality TVIt's often said that truth is stranger than fiction, but when it comes to understanding the complexities of relationships and the subtle nuances that predict divorce, reality TV might just provide some of the best real-life examples.
In this episode, we'll break down some key insights and concepts as illustrated by the reality show "Married at First Sight." We discuss the predictors of divorce, focusing on a couple's communication and body language issues. This episode highlights the importance of positive need statements, self-soothing, attunement, and...2024-02-2732 minUntangling RelationshipsEp. 26 Untangling Body Image: A Conversation with McKenzie Whitesides Willmore -Creator of the Idaho Falls Body Kind CommunityIn Episode 26 of "Untangling Relationships," our hosts, Janae and Penney, bring to the table an insightful and open-ended conversation about body positivity and acceptance. They are joined by McKenzie, the creator of a local body acceptance community, Body Kind.
This discussion underscores the significance of self-compassion, mindfulness, and inclusive spaces to promote body acceptance. It also sheds light on the societal shift required to redefine beauty and body norms. Above all, it emphasizes that losing weight or changing your body isn’t a prerequisite for happiness.
Links Mentioned
Body Kind Id...2024-02-081h 19Untangling RelationshipsEp 25. Mastering Stress: Harness the Power of Movement for Your Mental HealthIn episode 25 of 'Untangling Relationships', hosts Janae and Penney explore the relationship between movement, stress, and mental health. They exchange personal experiences with physical activities like yoga and CrossFit, highlighting the impacts on their physical and mental well-being. The conversation interrogates societal and personal expectations around physical wellness, the mental obstacles people often face, and the power of community in this context. The hosts round off the episode by sharing practical tips for embarking on health journeys, emphasizing the importance of flexibility, compassion, and small, consistent steps toward improvement.
Introduction
The role...2024-01-1600 minUntangling RelationshipsEp. 24 Reflections and Resolutions for 2024: How to create goals you will actually accomplishEp. 24 New Year Resolutions and Reflections
In this episode of 'Untangling Relationships', your hosts Janae and Penney reflect upon the past year and share their new year resolutions and career aspirations for 2024. They discuss their goals, emphasizing the importance of setting realistic, incremental goals, creating a supportive environment, planning for potential failures, and persisting through obstacles. They open up about their personal revelations and aspirations while dropping several valuable tidbits about maintaining successful relationships. They also delve into revising and resetting goals throughout the year, maintaining resilience during vulnerable times, and the significance of...2024-01-0538 minUntangling RelationshipsEp. 23 The Power of Repair: Recovering After a FightGet ready for a deep dive into the world of relationship repairs in our latest podcast episode. No relationship is perfect, and conflict is inevitable - but it's the recovery that counts! Learn how to navigate the aftermath of a fight, join hosts Janae and Penney on this enlightening journey2023-12-1946 minUntangling RelationshipsEp. 22 Sharing the Mental Load: Rewriting the Rules of Relationship ResponsibilityWelcome to episode 22 where hosts, Janae and Penney, discuss the concept of mental load, the cognitive effort required to manage situations and complete tasks, with specific emphasis on the mental load associated with the holidays. Key points include how mental loads are assigned and the impact on individuals and their relationships. We suggest ways to share and manage the mental load to reduce stress, fatigue, and burnout.
Here are some links for continuing your learning
Article with mental load definition
Mapping Your Nervous System Episode
Nervous system blog post
...2023-12-061h 24Untangling Relationships🦃 Ep. 21 How to Flip the Script and Make the Holiday Work for YouToday's episode starts with different holiday perspectives based on Google search trends tied to Thanksgiving in different states, from the types of food served to different ways people spend the holiday.
We also discuss tips on handling the holiday better, including letting go of expectations, sharing chores, and avoiding the pressure of perfection, among others.
This conversation touches on issues like food shaming, body neutrality, and breaking stereotypes about expected gender roles on this occasion.
We wish all our listeners a happy Thanksgiving and encourage you to celebrate in ways that feel most...2023-11-2129 minUntangling RelationshipsEp. 20 How Do You Create a Culture of Appreciation?In this episode, Janae and Penney discuss the concept of creating a culture of appreciation. They emphasize its importance in personal and business relationships and discuss ways to cultivate it. They suggest mindfulness in recognizing others' good qualities, using positive language about one's body, and setting aside time to reflect on appreciations. The hosts also recommend formulating a personal mantra about what appreciation means for one's self and how to express it and creating practices toward celebrating both intentions and milestones. The pair also discuss the importance of clear communication in asking and understanding how others wish to be...2023-11-0729 minUntangling RelationshipsEp. 19 Blended Families: Our personal experiencesThis episode is all about blended or crockpot families, growing up in them, and/or parenting through them. Penney and Janae chat about their personal experiences and perspectives on blended families. They discuss tips and advice on the dos and don'ts in bringing two families together and creating space for everyone involved.
Interested in working with us? Go here 2023-10-2653 minUntangling RelationshipsEp. 18 How has Parenting Changed your Relationship? A group conversation with local parentsWelcome to our last episode in this parenting mini-series. Today we are joined by all three of our parenting couples to talk to them about how their relationships have changed over the course of having their first child/ first pregnancy. Each of the parents gives insight on how to keep intimacy alive, ways to handle differences in parenting styles, and what they wish more people knew about raising a child in today's world.
Feel free to catch up on our other episodes in this series Ep. 16 & 17 were great conversations with just the moms and then just the...2023-10-111h 03Untangling RelationshipsEp. 17 Dads Talk About Their Journeys Becoming FathersJoin us for a special guest episode with three dads who talk about their experiences of fatherhood so far. We dive into questions like "What is your favorite part of being a dad" to "How you are coping with all the changes fatherhood brings".
Stay tuned for next week where we have both the moms and dads on together!
CW: Miscarriage
2023-09-281h 05Untangling RelationshipsEp. 16 Moms Get Real- A candid conversation with local momsJoin us for a special conversation with a group of moms who are getting candid about their journeys. We dive into their biggest societal pet peeves, their top tips for other moms and parents, and some of their favorite memories from motherhood. These moms have wonderful perspectives to share and insights to learn from. We are so lucky to have them on the pod. I hope you enjoy this episode.
CW: Infertility
Look out for next week's episode with the Dads!
Needing some guidance on your unique parenting journey? Join us for our...2023-09-141h 20Untangling RelationshipsEp 15. Discoveries From Our Time in the MountainsThis episode is a debrief from our women's retreat between Penney, Janae, and our guest Tina. We talk about the big takeaways we gained from the retreat and give tips on how to keep the momentum going after you have gone through a phase of transformation and change.
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Bringing Baby Home Program Event
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Facebook2023-08-2232 minUntangling RelationshipsEp. 14 Friendships in AdulthoodThis episode opens up conversations about making friends as an adult. We discuss the internal and external barriers to friendship. What are the personal responsibilities around friendships vs. societal responsibilities? We end by giving some actionable steps to creating deeper friendships and how to have connected conversations about your expectations and needs in these relationships.
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More Information about the Bringing Baby Home Program Here 2023-08-1552 minUntangling RelationshipsEp. 13 The Game Changer For Your Mental Health... Mapping Your Nervous SystemUnlocking the power behind understanding your different nervous system states is one of the biggest game changers for mental health, relationship wellness, and healing. Penney and I talk about our personal journeys with understanding our nervous system reactions and then dig deep into explaining the different nervous system states. The episode ends with tips on how to notice where you are at within regulation or reaction and how you can come back to states of calm.
If you want to explore these ideas in person you can join us for any of our in-person...2023-08-0855 minUntangling RelationshipsEp. 12 How to let go of fear and controlThis episode explores ideas about using control and perfectionism to combat the fear of vulnerability. How do we let go of fear and step into our authentic selves in our lives and relationships? If you want to dig into this topic even more join us at our Women's Camping Retreat on Aug. 18-20th, 2023 www.hilltopwellness.net2023-07-2536 minUntangling RelationshipsEp. 11 Finding CompromiseThis episode is all about compromise. Join us as we discuss what can get in the way of compromise, what are the differences between gridlock and solvable issues, and how to step out of defensiveness when talking through compromises.
Bonus mini ep. on "the scripts for compromise"- over on patreon www.patreon.com/untanglingrelationships
Interested in working with us? www.hilltopwellness.net is where you can find an upcoming event. 2023-07-1149 minUntangling RelationshipsEp. 10 Do you have a Third Place? And why you should be thinking about them.Penney and I talk about third places in this episode. What are they, how do they impact us, and what to do to get back to them... are all answered and more in our 10th (!!) episode.
We hope you enjoy it and share this episode with a friend who you want to join you in third-place adventures.
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Read more about relationship myths here Penney has 6 blog posts available on different relationship myths so far for you to enjoy.
Couples Retreat 2023 Creating Safety and Emotional Connection July 21-23, 2023...2023-06-2853 minUntangling RelationshipsEp. 9 Breaking Down Imposter SyndromeIn this episode, we break down imposter syndrome, talk about what it is, who gets it, and top 5 tips for dealing with it. Join Penney and me as we explore the times where we have combated imposter syndrome in our lives and what tools we are using to stop perfectionism, shame, and fear from running the show. Here's to brave explorers and compassionate connections in our lives that stop imposter syndrome in its path.
For more resources check out...
Our blog www.hilltopwellness.net/blog
Our in-person retreats and day...2023-06-1348 minUntangling RelationshipsEp. 8 Redefining Success and Building a Women Owned BusinessPlease welcome guests Tina and Tori to the pod with this week's episode where we get the whole Hilltop Wellness team together for a candid conversation about the past two years of starting a new and women-owned business. We discuss the strengths and weaknesses we have found throughout this journey as well as what our "whys" were in starting the company.
Stick around to the end of the episode to hear everyone's favorite memories are from the last two years and share lots of laughter with us as we tell some fun stories.
2023-06-011h 24Untangling RelationshipsEp. 7 Becoming Business Owners and Relationships in the WorkplacePenney and Janae talk about what it was like becoming business owners through trials, barriers, and industry stigmas. They discuss the different relationships that support them in their work and the importance of those relationships. Join us on Patreon to listen to this week's companion episode on advocating for your mental health at work and recognizing burnout.
www.patreon.com/untanglingrelationships
www.hilltopwellness.net - A Retreat getaway for all 2023-05-1855 minUntangling RelationshipsBonus Mini Episode 6: How to have a conversation about boundariesThis is a bonus mini-episode! If you would like access to all of the companion mini-episodes for each main episode you can become a patron. You can sign up and get more information at www.patreon.com/UntanglingRelationships
The actionable steps you can take to have conversations about boundaries. Use these phrases and steps to guide you through the hard conversations of boundary setting.
1. Find a time to have the conversation where you can have a clear, calm, and confident voice.
2. Use a gentle start-up
3. Be direct, specific...2023-05-1113 minUntangling RelationshipsEp. 6 Breaking down the core elements to Boundaries (ep. 5 is still coming just lost in the tech. graveyard)This episode breaks down a lot of myths about boundaries and gives some clarity on the key parts of what boundaries are, how to set them, and how to know when and where you might need more or fewer boundaries. Penney and I are really proud of this conversation and hope you can gain some new perspectives about boundaries!
Hilltop Wellness
www.hilltopwellness.net
2023-05-0458 minUntangling RelationshipsEP. 4 How does shame show up in your relationships?This episode covers how shame might be popping up in the relationships you have in your life. Listeners will learn how to recognize the signs of shame and criticism in how they are communicating with their significant others, their kids, or themselves.
Continue learning about the antidotes to criticism and defensiveness in this week's mini-episode at www.patreon.com/untanglingrelationships
National Suicide Prevention Hotline: Call 988 or text 988
For more information about the Four Horsemen and Dr.s John & Julie Gottman, you can go here https://www.hilltopwellness.net/blog/why-the-gottman-method
2023-04-1845 minUntangling RelationshipsEp. 3 Reflecting on our marriages and relationship changes over the yearsWe are talking about our own relationships with our significant others. We talk about a few Gottman Skill techniques we use in our relationships like rituals of connection and turning towards. We break down 5 relationship myths and give some perspective on moving away from those societal expectations of what your relationship is supposed to look like.
For more resources, you can check out our Patreon companion episode for a 30-minute breakdown on implementing and using the emotional bank account in your relationship. www.patreon.com/untanglingrelationships
Links we talked about in this...2023-03-281h 00
Untangling RelationshipsEp. 2 Unpacking mother daughter relationships from the early years into adulthood.This episode opens up the conversation around mother-daughter relationships and dives into shame, parenthood, growing pains between parents and children and so much more. We hope you enjoy this episode!
Support the podcast and become a patron: patreon.com/UntanglingRelationships
Join us for a live event: www.hilltopwellness.net2023-03-151h 09Untangling RelationshipsEp. 1 Untangling The Relationship with OurselvesThis episode invites you to explore your relationship with yourself and your goals for 2023.
Links: Support the podcast & become a patron. Listen to this episode's companion minisode on how to find your core values. patreon.com/UntanglingRelationships 2023-03-0740 min
Calvert Library's Book Bites for KidsFrom the Desk of Zoe Washington by Janae MarksEnjoy our presentation of From the Desk of Zoe Washington written by Janae Marks and published by Katherine Tegen Books. Zoe Washington isn’t sure what to write. What does a girl say to the father she’s never met, hadn’t heard from until his letter arrived on her twelfth birthday, and who’s been in prison for a terrible crime? A crime he says he never committed. Could Marcus really be innocent? Zoe is determined to uncover the truth. Even if it means hiding his letters and her investigation from the rest of her family.From the...2020-10-0714 min
The Family LabHow She Plans MealsIt’s 6 p.m. and you’re staring, zombie-like into the fridge. You have no idea what’s for dinner. In fact, it’s hard to remember what you’ve ever cooked for dinner. What on earth do people eat? In this episode, we’ll hear from three moms with different approaches to meal planning. Kara Farnsworth uses an old-fashioned, analog system, using note cards to plan her meals. Janae Ku uses a digital system. And Hillary Hess takes a more casual approach than either of the other two. For more meal-planning ideas and to create your o...2020-03-0226 min
SingTalkKara Britz and Denise Janae CariteAn in depth interview with Kara Britz and Denise Janae Carite.2019-08-0157 min
Dawnbreakers by The LifeBeats ProjectTLBP #100 Answering your questions and celebrating the journey | with Briana Johnson and Dan Davis of Stiry Today is our 100th episode!!! Woot-woot!! A ginormous thank you to all of you, the change-makers and good-seekers, for your support over the past 2 years to help us reach this milestone. Today you are in the driver’s seat of the episode. Dan Davis of Stiry asks me as many of your questions as we can squeeze into one show. I answer about the beginnings of the podcast, how I lost my weight, my playlists to keep going and to dance, what makes a friendship, what my nickname is, some episode and guest highligh...2018-07-031h 05
Ali on the Run Show"Hungry Runner Girl" Janae BaronThis week, I am thrilled to welcome to the Ali on the Run Show my dear friend — and everyone’s favorite running blogger — Janae Baron! Before we get to that, please join me in congratulating Janae and her family on the arrival of their newest member, Skye, born December 9! Janae, of course, is the beloved personality behind the popular Hungry Runner Girl blog. Janae is a super speedy runner who lives in Utah with her husband, Andrew, their kids (Brooke, Knox, and now Skye!), and their dog, Beretta. Janae was nearly 37 weeks pregnant when we recorded this episode and, as always...2017-12-141h 12