Janna Denton-Howes: Marriage Coach | Sex Educator | Low Libido Expert

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Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Breaking Free from Decades of Pain and Pushing Through Intimacy - with Amy | Ep. 140Romance novels promised Amy that her man would always know exactly what to do. The church assured her that sex would be wonderful once she was married. But when her first wedding night was filled with pain instead of pleasure, she was shocked.And the pain never went away. Over the course of her 30-year marriage, it evolved from undiagnosed endometriosis to rheumatoid arthritis to menopause. She felt exhausted, dismissed, and unhappy, but continued to push herself to be intimate with her husband—every other day for 30 years—believing it was simply her duty as h...2025-04-0150 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.How to Overcome Fear to Have Honest Conversations With Kids About Sex - with Janna and her teammates | Ep. 139One of the most common questions we get is: "How do I talk to my kids about sex?" In today’s episode, Janna sits down with her teammates, Melissa C. and Melissa W., to discuss how they approach these conversations with their kids, whose ages range from 6 to 21.They share stories from their own childhoods, reflecting on how they navigated these topics largely on their own, and the education they wish they had received. The conversation touches on the fears they had to overcome to talk openly with their own...2025-03-251h 14

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.One Year Update After Taking Doing It Together - with Chris | Ep. 138It’s been a year since Chris and his wife of 21 years took the Doing It Together course, and he’s here to give an honest update on how things are going.For two decades, Chris and his wife struggled with intimacy, trying everything they could think of to improve their connection. From counseling and self-help books to even participating in a university sex study, they explored every option. Despite their efforts, nothing seemed to work. Chris found himself spiraling with thoughts like, “Is she cheating?” “Does she not find me attractive?” and “Does she still love...2025-03-1832 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Why Low Libido Is a Couple’s Issue, Not Just Hers to Solve - with Luke | Ep. 137Luke and his wife have been married for 25 years and have struggled with sex through most of that time. Things changed after kids and his wife experienced post-partum depression. Her libido plumeted and didn’t come back. Luke took the stance that this was her problem to solve and waited for years for her to 'fix' herself.It wasn’t until they found Janna and the Doing It Together program that Luke learned how big of a role he played in the lack of intimacy in their relationship. He shares what he’s learned about...2025-03-1154 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Escaping the Constraints of Traditional Gender Roles in Marriage - with Jaime & Josh Fisher | Ep. 136Janna discovered Jaime and Josh through their shared Instagram profile, @marriageishappening, and was so moved by their marriage story that she invited them to join her on the podcast.Married at 21 with four kids soon after, they initially adhered to traditional gender roles—Jaime stayed at home while Josh worked outside the house. Jaime, an extrovert, describes early parenthood as a time filled with "shock and horror." She found herself isolated in a basement suite with no help, limited adult interaction, and minimal support from her husband. She felt sad, lonely, and disconnected from bo...2025-03-041h 08

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Breaking Free from the Traps of Tough-Guy Culture - with Keith (Part 1) | Ep. 134In this two-part episode, Keith shares the first part of his story. Growing up as a child of color, Keith learned early on what was and wasn’t acceptable to express around his family and friends, especially the men and boys. While the women in his life supported his artistic side and sensitivity, Keith feared being labeled as weak or ridiculed by the men. His culture taught him that toughness and strength were the key qualities of being a "real" man.As a result, Keith struggled with his emotions in his marriage. He longed fo...2025-02-181h 11

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Adventures in Online Dating, Faith, Betrayal & Low Desire - with Brandi | Ep. 133In this enlightening episode, 40-year-old Brandi shares her inspiring journey of self-discovery and rekindled desire. Growing up in southern Utah within the Mormon faith, Brandi's sex education was rooted in the belief of abstinence until marriage. After her first marriage ended due to years of betrayal, she ventured into the eye-opening world of online dating before meeting her current husband. In the beginning, their sex life was amazing, but after she became pregnant, her desire faded completely, and things became challenging. She and her husband found themselves stuck in endless arguments, and Brandi felt l...2025-02-1149 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Feeling Broken and Alone While Searching for Answers About Low Libido - with Kate | Ep. 132Kate and her husband started out having what she describes as a great sex life. It felt exciting, easy and fun and her pleasure was easily accessible. As the years passed and life got more stressful and overwhelming, her desire plummeted. She couldn’t understand what happened. She started keeping a calendar to track how often they had sex and if too much time went by she would shame herself into doing it. Even though sex felt fine in the moment, she had no desire and felt broken and very alone.Desperate for help, sh...2025-02-0458 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Couples Share How Their Relationship Thrived by Doing It Together | Ep. 131On the final day of the last round of Doing It Together, Janna and her team gathered all the husbands and wives for a farewell Zoom call. During this heartwarming session, she asked, "What’s been your most unexpected takeaway from this program?"The couples’ honest responses were deeply moving. After just eight weeks on their journey, they had already made remarkable progress in rekindling their intimacy. Although the journey wasn’t without its challenges, witnessing their progress in real-time continually reinforced the mission of Doing It Together—to empower couples with the skills to creat...2025-01-281h 04

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.The Doing It Together Team Answers Your Questions - with Janna, Melissa & Justin | Ep. 130In this special episode, Janna talks with her coaching teammates, Justin and Melissa, about the upcoming round of Doing It Together, what couples can expect from the program, and common questions they are asked about low libido and sexual connection from both men and women.Justin and Melissa answer:What are men and women worried about when considering joining Doing It Together?What would you say to someone considering joining but is on the fence?What do you hear men and women share about their experience of Doing It Together? How have their...2025-01-2148 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Understanding Anxiety and Emotional Suppression in Men - with Kris | Ep. 129From a young age, Kris learned to suppress his emotions and handle his feelings alone. His friends, family, and culture reinforced this mindset, showing him quick fixes for managing his growing anxiety, such as drinking alcohol, using drugs, or turning to adult entertainment. Over time, he became an expert at burying his emotions, but this came at a cost—dark moods, silence, and withdrawal from his family and marriage.After decades of living this way, Kris hit a breaking point and, with hesitation, opened up to his wife about his struggles. What he didn’t kn...2025-01-1449 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Overcoming Years of Silent Tension & Unspoken Emotions - with Chloe | Ep. 128Chloe and her husband, married for 12 years, struggled with their intimate relationship from the very beginning. However, they found it difficult to have honest conversations with each other. Both raised in Britain with the belief in keeping a “stiff upper lip,” discussing emotions or sensitive topics didn’t come naturally to them. Her husband’s moods often turned dark and tense, and Chloe learned to tread carefully, trying to manage his unspoken feelings. Instead of confronting the issues, they both silently stewed in frustration for years.Five years ago, Chloe came across Janna’s program bu...2025-01-071h 04

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Tim's Journey from Confusion to Clarity in His 30-Year Marriage | Ep. 127Tim and his wife have been married for 30 years. Their initial connection was deep and fulfilling, but once they got married, something changed. His wife began to touch him less and less, and Tim felt rejected and confused. This led to frequent arguments. After their three kids moved out, Tim hoped things would improve, but they didn’t. He fell into an emotional spiral, convincing himself that the only explanation was that his wife no longer loved him.Thankfully, Tim’s wife discovered Janna’s podcast. After listening to just half an episode, Tim immedi...2025-01-011h 01

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage."I’m Too Young To Not Want Sex" - with Bri | Ep. 12633-year-old Bri was convinced something was wrong with her. She hadn't been intimate with her husband in over two years, and their once passionate relationship had dwindled to a series of weekly arguments and frustrations on both sides. She was convinced she had low libido because she was too young to have lost interest in sex—what else could it be?After following Janna for several years, Bri and her husband decided to enroll in Doing It Together to finally understand what had gone wrong with their sexual relationship. Through the program, they learned ho...2024-12-2444 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.The Pressure to Perform: Analyzing Sex Scenes in Rom-Coms with Danielle from Sex Ed with DBJanna is joined by Danielle, the creator, host, and executive producer of the Sex Ed with DB podcast. Danielle's current series, Rom-Com V🤮m, is a rewatch podcast focused on 90s and early 2000s rom-coms. In it, she unpacks the toxic lessons these films teach about sex and attempts to rewrite the script.In this episode, Janna and Danielle dive into several iconic sex scenes from movies and TV, analyzing the messages they convey—both positive and negative. They explore how these scenes create unrealistic expectations, particularly the pressure women often face to perform like fic...2024-11-2656 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Breaking the Cycle: Zoe's 30-Year Journey to Reclaim Intimacy | Ep. 121In this week’s episode, Janna sits down with Zoe, who shares her deeply personal journey through 30 years of struggles with intimacy in her marriage. For years, what was meant to be a natural part of life became a chore—a cycle of guilt, resentment, and exhaustion that left her feeling broken. Even after the kids moved out, Zoe thought the situation would improve, but it didn’t. When her husband expressed his dissatisfaction, Zoe blamed herself, unsure how to break free from the pattern that had trapped her for decades.But everything changed when Z...2024-11-1251 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.The #1 Skill All Women Need To Increase Their Desire | Ep. 120In this empowering solo episode of Doing It Together, host Janna Denton-Howes delves into the transformative power of self-advocacy for women. Janna, a seasoned relationship coach and sex educator, shares her insights on overcoming cultural barriers to embrace true pleasure and connection. Discover the essential stages of self-advocacy, the roadblocks you might face, and the importance of understanding your unique needs. Janna also introduces her new program, Wanting It More Foundations, designed to empower women to enjoy a fulfilling sex life. Join the conversation and learn how to advocate for yourself and foster deeper in...2024-11-0719 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.The Reason Why So Many Women Don’t Enjoy Sex | Ep. 119Too often, societal pressures push women into roles where productivity and selflessness overshadow the importance of personal joy and connection. Instead of being encouraged to embrace their desires and fully experience their bodies, many women find themselves burdened by guilt, expectation, and a sense of duty to provide for others. This episode uncovers how these ingrained beliefs create barriers to genuine enjoyment in the bedroom, and lead women to feel a low desire for sex.Janna shares practical steps for rediscovering joy in life, helping women reconnect with their bodies and desires. By breaking...2024-10-3026 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Am I Addicted? Signs of Sex & Porn Addiction and How To Heal - with Dr. Jake Porter | Ep. 117Janna is joined by licensed professional counselor Dr. Jake Porter to explore the complex dynamics of shame and secrecy surrounding pornography and sex addiction in relationships. They discuss the role of denial and defense mechanisms while emphasizing the value of the therapeutic disclosure process. Listeners will receive advice on where to seek help and how to navigate the healing journey.Dr. Porter shares insights on the importance of being honest with your partner and the potential damage caused by withholding information. He explains why addressing the root causes of addiction—rather than simply stopping th...2024-10-1559 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Understanding the Overfunctioning Woman in Love with an Underfunctioning Partner - with Dr. Ashley Southard | Ep. 116Janna has an eye-opening conversation with Dr. Ashley Southard, a licensed marriage and family therapist of 22 years, about her work helping overfunctioning women in love with underfunctioning partners. They discuss what this dynamic looks like for both women and men, why women tend to take on the emotional labour for both partners, and what women can do to self-restore inside or outside of the relationship. Find all of Dr. Ashley's resources here: http://drashleysouthard.com/resourcesThe next round of Doing It Together is open f...2024-10-0859 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Real Couples Share How Doing It Together Changed Their Lives | Ep. 115We are re-airing this episode in which Janna gathers with real couples who have completed the Doing It Together program and asks, “In what beneficial ways has the program impacted your life or marriage that you didn't expect?”. You'll hear from both men and women on what they learned and how they are applying this new knowledge to strengthen themselves, their marriages, and their intimate relationship with one another. This recording is from the last round before the name change, so that is why you’ll hear some people refer to the program with the ol...2024-10-0156 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Answering the Top FAQs About Doing It Together | Ep. 114Janna answers the most common questions she's asked by both men and women about her Doing It Together program. If you're considering joining the next round, this is a great short episode to listen to.To hear the wrap-up call with husbands and wives from last round, listen to Ep. 62.The next round of Doing It Together is open for registration! Get $300 off for this round only! Register now!Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A.2024-09-2423 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Meet the Doing It Together Team! - with Janna, Melissa & Justin | Ep. 113With the next round of Doing It Together approaching, we’re excited to introduce Janna’s team and share their personal stories and insights. Melissa and Justin, both alumni of the program, discuss their experiences of taking the program, what participants can expect from the 8-week course, and their dedication to changing the narrative around low libido in women and the realities of sex in marriage.Melissa and Justin share how Janna’s approach to sex and intimacy has profoundly impacted their lives and marriages. They offer a glimpse into what participants can expect from t...2024-09-1745 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Turning Sexual Pain into a Thriving and Joyful Experience - with Sandra | Ep. 112Sandra shares her incredible journey of transforming painful sexual experiences into a space of safety and pleasure. She recalls how, in the early days of her marriage, she and her husband were deeply connected and satisfied with their intimate life. However, after the traumatic birth of her fifth child, Sandra suffered a severe pelvic injury that left her in constant pain and made traditional intercourse nearly impossible. This created a fear of sex and a sense of rejection for her husband.But everything changed with Janna’s program. Sandra and her husband discovered a wh...2024-09-1049 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.How Men Can Rethink Their Roles To Support Gender Equality - with author Michael Kaufman | Ep. 111Janna chats with Michael Kaufman, the author of The Time Has Come: Why Men Must Join the Gender Equality Revolution. Michael, a renowned advisor, activist, and keynote speaker, shares his insights on how traditional male roles in the bedroom and beyond often don’t benefit women. They dive into why it's crucial for men to confront their own privilege and engage in open dialogues about gender equality.Michael also discusses the rapid shifts in societal roles for both men and women. By listening to women's voices and addressing their own defensiveness, men can better co...2024-09-0354 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Navigating Sex and Sobriety After Overcoming Alcohol Dependency - with Ericka | Ep. 110Janna speaks with Ericka about the use of alcohol and how it can become a crutch in intimate situations. Ericka started drinking in high school, initially finding that alcohol eased her anxiety and helped her feel more relaxed before sexual encounters. However, this pattern led to risky situations and a troubling reliance on alcohol to numb out her fears and concerns about sexual performance. The result was a disconnection from her true feelings and intuition.Now four years sober, Ericka has created a valuable resource kit for women navigating intimacy and sobriety, available at...2024-08-2742 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.REAIR: Sex, God & the Conservative Church author Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers | Ep. 109We are rebroadcasting one of Janna's favorite episodes: her fascinating conversation with Dr. Tina Schermer Seller, a licensed therapist who specializes in sex and gender issues. Dr. Schermer Seller is the author of one of Janna's favorite and most recommended books, Sex, God, & the Conservative Church – Erasing Shame from Sexual Intimacy.In this episode, Dr. Schermer Seller discusses her research on the Christian conservative church and the rise of abstinence-only education and purity culture in the early 1980s. Her findings reveal that this shift has had significant negative effects on both women and men, im...2024-08-2056 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.How to Break Free from Autopilot Sex - with Stacey | Ep. 105Stacey, a 42-year-old physical therapist, described her sex life as feeling like she was on autopilot. Her experiences were neither particularly good nor bad but rather monotonous and formulaic. She sensed there was something more to discover. To her shock and surprise, she had no idea how much she had to learn until she met Janna.Stacey shares what it was like to truly understand the intricate workings of her own body for the first time in her forties. She also reveals how developing a curiosity about herself has opened the door to more...2024-07-2340 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Answering Your Most Commonly Asked Questions - with Justin & Sandra | Ep. 104In this special episode, Janna reunites with Justin and Sandra, a couple who have each appeared on the podcast separately before (Justin in Episode 82 and Sandra in Episode 74). Together, they tackle some of the most frequently asked questions from Janna’s community, such as:How do you cultivate emotional safety and connection in your relationship?How do you bring up and phrase issues that have hurt you?How do you navigate defensiveness?Is it realistic for men to be satisfied with a sex life that differs from cultural norms?What does a husband learn from watching porn, and ho...2024-07-1656 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Why Having Kids Complicates Your Sex Life and What to Do About It - with Amanda | Ep. 103Amanda, 35, has always enjoyed sex. She explored with confidence from an early age and used the term "great sex" to describe her intimate life with her husband. But everything changed when they had kids. As a mother of four, Amanda found that sex transformed from fun and fulfilling into a vicious cycle of guilt, pressure, rejection, and shame.With Janna's help, Amanda and her husband rediscovered a mutually enjoyable experience. Listen as Amanda shares the lessons she learned, transforming their intimate relationship into a true place of pleasure.2024-07-091h 02

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Why Don't I Enjoy Sex with My Soul Mate? - with Celeste | Ep. 102Celeste truly felt like she found her soul mate when she married her husband. She loved him deeply and could be her authentic self in their marriage...except during sex. She couldn’t understand how she could love someone so much yet dislike the sexual experience so intensely. She could never find the right words to express her feelings and would often cry after sex because she felt confused, frustrated, and broken.Raised in a culture that discouraged asking for help, it took her years to finally talk to her husband about seeking guidance ab...2024-07-0249 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Breaking Free from the "Good Girl" to "Good Wife" Expectation - with Crystal | Ep. 99Crystal is a self-defined good girl. Since childhood, she was expected to, and praised for, doing as she was told and not rocking the boat. While this behavior was effective in her formative years, her passive nature had consequences on multiple levels in her 25-year marriage, including in the bedroom.Crystal shares her struggle with speaking up for herself or asking for help, and how her lack of assertiveness resulted in years of emotional and physical suffering. She sought help for her low sexual desire through multiple doctors and therapists, but nothing worked until...2024-06-111h 03

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Understanding the Pitfalls of Transactional Intimacy - with Tyler | Ep. 98Tyler and his wife struggled with intimacy throughout their 11 years of marriage. After meeting at 16 and waiting until marriage four years later, they both expected that the sexual experience would bring joy and fun to their lives, but it did not. His wife was plagued by pain, and after having two children, the exhaustion and stress of their lives dimmed all expressions of genuine connection and intimacy.Tyler thought that doing more around the house would help, but this only turned the experience into a transaction, which felt inauthentic and forced. After many failed...2024-06-0435 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.I Lost My Libido On My Honeymoon - with Emma | Ep. 97Emma vividly remembers losing her libido during her honeymoon. She and her husband had waited until marriage to have intercourse for the first time, and both were eagerly anticipating it. Initially, the experience was wonderful, but soon her desire vanished and never returned.For years, she tried everything she could think of to "fix" herself. She believed she was fundamentally broken or that something was wrong with her clitoris. She visited doctors and sex therapists, read countless books, and followed all the advice she could find online. Desperate to save her marriage, she decided...2024-05-2857 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Where Did My Libido Go? Overcoming Medical Hurdles & Misguided Advice - with Samantha | Ep. 96At 56, Samantha felt like her libido was lost without a map. She had faced medical issues, including adenomyosis and a full hysterectomy, but she knew her diminished desire went deeper than just these physical challenges. Intimacy with her husband had once been enjoyable, but her desire had gradually faded away without explanation. The advice from doctors was bewildering and often repulsive, leaving her feeling more frustrated.Then, she stumbled upon Janna and her program on social media. It was a revelation. Samantha realized she wasn't alone; many women shared her experience. Janna's program provided...2024-05-2148 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.The Dual Lives of Men: Investigating the Compartmentalization of Porn Use - with Andreas | Ep. 95How and why do men separate the effects of their pornography use from their marriage? Andreas and Janna extensively discuss the rapid development of his addictive use of adult entertainment throughout his life, the reasons why he used it, his hundreds of failed attempts to quit, and what finally worked to become sober and save his marriage.Andreas also shares what he’s learned about emotional dysregulation, the importance of boundaries and personal connections in sobriety, the role of his faith, and truth-telling. If you would like to reach out...2024-05-1432 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Sex Therapist's Son Reveals Untold Truths On Female Desire - With Colin | Ep. 94Colin grew up with two therapist parents, one of whom was a sex therapist. He learned a lot about emotions, sex, safety, consent, and talking openly from them. These things were really important to him and shaped his core values as he became a man. His wife also thought he was very caring, gentle, and understanding. But despite this, their sex life got worse over the 20 years they were married, and neither of them knew why.Colin talks with Janna about the big things he painfully realized that were missing from his sexual education...2024-05-0757 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Why Physical Attraction Doesn't Solve Women's Low Desire - with Kelly | Ep. 93Kelly loved her husband of 20 years, but she noticed a change in her feelings toward intimacy over time, and she couldn't understand why. After some of their friends surprised them with divorce news, her husband worried about their own relationship, even though Kelly felt secure. He thought the solution was for him to become more attractive, so he started working out, buying new clothes, and even got a tattoo. However, Kelly felt his efforts had the opposite effect, making her feel “like a fly trapped in a spider's web.” The more he tried to be ap...2024-04-3050 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Finding the Right Words After 71 Years - with Nancy | Ep. 92Nancy unfolds her 71-year journey, delving into three significant relationships and the tumultuous experiences within each. Enduring emotional abandonment, financial instability, and a constant sense of being invisible and invalidated, she shares the poignant struggle of feeling like a solitary voice crying out, yet unheard.However, amidst this turmoil, her narrative takes a turn when she encounters Janna. With her, Nancy discovers the language to articulate her life's journey and, notably, finds solace in connecting with other women who echo similar stories, offering her the support she longed for.2024-04-2543 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Why Do Women Endure Painful Sex? - with Natalie | Ep. 91Why are women conditioned to endure pain? Natalie reveals the multitude of reasons she persisted through painful sexual experiences with her husband for 27 years of their marriage. It wasn’t until she discovered Wanting It More that she realized the detrimental extent of what she was subjecting her body and mind to in order to fulfill societal expectations of being a good wife and meeting her husband's needs.Due to inadequate sexual education and a lack of support, she remained unaware that experiencing pain wasn’t normal until recently. Janna and Natalie delve into the...2024-04-1640 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Why Is It So Difficult For Men To Believe Women? - with David | Ep. 90David’s wife spent years expressing her dissatisfaction with their sex life, repeatedly sharing her feelings, but David remained skeptical. Despite her efforts, he couldn't accept her perspective. Influenced by adult entertainment and misinformation, he believed he was doing everything right, yet she didn't respond as expected, leading him to conclude there was something wrong with her. Throughout their 22 years together, he doubted her words.Then he stumbled upon Janna’s podcast. Hearing women articulate the same sentiments as his wife and men voicing feelings of shame and unworthiness resonated deeply with him. Finally, he a...2024-04-0943 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Overcoming Betrayal Trauma, Addiction, & Lack of Safety in the Bedroom - with Michele | Ep. 89Michele bravely opens up about her tumultuous journey through relationships as a woman in her late 50s. She recounts the harrowing experiences of enduring compulsive lying, cheating, porn and sex addiction, abuse, and a pervasive lack of consent. Amidst the darkness, she discovered a beacon of hope in Janna, whose guidance led Michele on a transformative path towards healing and empowerment.Michele sheds light on her arduous quest for safety and fulfillment in her current relationship. With Janna's support, she embarks on a profound journey of self-discovery, reclaiming agency over her own desires and...2024-04-0242 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.The Effects of Church Stigma & Hysterectomy on Low Desire - with Raina | Ep. 88We delve into Raina's journey of rediscovering her desire for sex within her marriage. Despite a healthy upbringing with decent sexual education, positive body image, and safe and secure sexual experiences, Raina found herself losing interest in intimacy with her husband after getting married. After starting a personal journey which she affectionately calls ‘Raina’s Religious Rebellion’ she began exploring how some of the concepts taught by her church around sex in marriage were harmful. This knowledge allowed her to get mad but didn’t offer real solutions. She started therapy to confront her sexual m...2024-03-2651 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Reimagining the Meaning of Safety: A Law Enforcement Officer's Journey - with Kyle | Ep. 86Kyle’s career in law enforcement defined him as a safe person, dedicating his life to keeping his community and those who live in it safe from harm. Imagine his surprise when he learned the root cause behind his dwindling sex life was because his wife felt unsafe around him. It took him several weeks of coaching with Janna to really understand the meaning of the word unsafe in the context of Wanting It More - his wife felt unsafe to share her true feelings without negative consequences like guilt, shame, or blame. It wasn’t about her physical safe...2024-03-1245 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Finding Balance in Faith, Sex, and Inner Guidance - with Laura | Ep. 85We delve into Laura's journey as a 40-year-old mother of three, navigating the intersection of her strong Christian faith and her sexuality. Growing up with little education about sex, Laura found herself prioritizing her partner's desires in the bedroom while neglecting her own. Struggling to balance her intuition with the teachings of her faith community, she grappled with conflicting messages about love, forgiveness, and sexual morality. However, a turning point came when Janna encouraged her to trust her intuition in the bedroom, mirroring how she had relied on it in her spiritual practice. Through...2024-03-0541 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Crossing Cultures: Redefining Sexual Desire in a Dual Heritage - with Thilla | Ep. 83Thilla shares her journey as a first-generation Canadian, shaped by her Sri Lankan heritage and North American upbringing. Raised in a family where discussions about sex were taboo and dating was reserved for an arranged marriage, she faced immense pressure and conflicting messages from both cultures. These challenges left her grappling with feelings of shame and guilt surrounding anything sexual. The pressure intensified after marriage, with cultural expectations focused on starting a family. Struggling with fertility issues, Thilla's desire for sex waned, prompting her to find Janna and the Wanting It More program. Through...2024-02-2050 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.How to Heal from Pornography Addiction - with Justin | Ep. 82Join Janna in this conversation filled with healing and hope as we delve into a topic often brushed aside: pornography addiction. She sits down with Justin, who bravely shares his 25-year struggle with excessive porn use and the profound impact it had on his relationships and self-esteem. Despite being told it's 'normal,' Justin's story sheds light on the dark realities of porn addiction and its detrimental effects on intimacy. He shares his journey from secrecy and shame to vulnerability and healing alongside his wife. Justin shares: Why...2024-02-131h 00

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Understanding Sexual Consent, Safety & Desire at 70 - with James | Ep. 80James had no reason to believe the ways he showed his wife affection, both sexual and non, was at all off-base. Afterall, he’d faithfully followed the rulebook he’d been taught in locker rooms and adult magazines throughout his 70 years and had success. He loved to look at and touch his wife to express his love and desire and happily assumed that his wife loved every ounce of his affection in return. He assumed any lack of sexual desire on her part was an issue for her to solve. Once he met Janna, he q...2024-01-3041 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Is Wanting It More the Right Program to Help My Low Libido? | Ep. 79Join Janna and her special guest, Melissa, the WIM Community Coordinator, in this heart-to-heart conversation about the transformative Wanting It More program. Discover who this incredible program is tailor-made for, as they share their personal journeys of dealing with low libido in marriage. Explore the diverse issues the program can address, and be inspired by stories of past participants who have found success. Janna and Melissa delve into the program's unique features and important dates. Plus, they address common questions that often arise. By the end of this episode, you'll have all the insights...2024-01-231h 21

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.The Value of Men Discussing Real-Life Sexual Struggles Together - with William | Ep. 78William had it in his head that he wasn’t the problem when it came to his wife’s low sexual desire. Afterall, he was doing everything he had been taught to do to satisfy his wife…the only problem was his teachers were other men, our toxic culture, and pornography. William talks to Janna in detail about his experiences growing up as a person of colour, and the lessons he absorbed from media and culture on how to treat women and act like a man. It wasn’t until he...2024-01-1655 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.The Intricate Intersection of Race, Gender, Sex & Desire - with Renee | Ep. 77Renee opens up to Janna about her six-year marriage to her white husband, exploring the intricacies of their age and ethnicity differences that created a soupy mix of misunderstandings around sexual desire, and her feelings of low libido. Renee, a biracial woman, brings a compassionate and curious lens to her experiences and exploration of black culture, shedding light on the pervasive hypersexualized messages that saturate the music and language, contributing to a perfect storm of toxic masculinity. As a strong, confident, and well-educated entrepreneur and feminist, she reflects on...2024-01-0955 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.How to Stop People Pleasing & Speak Up For Yourself in the Bedroom - with Rowen | Ep. 76From the early stages of her life, Rowen discovered immense fulfillment in the roles of people-pleasing and caretaking for those around her. However, she later realized that the price she paid for these roles was steep—it left her clueless about her own wants and needs. As this pattern extended into her intimate relationship with her husband, her inability to assert herself resulted in exclusive attention to his needs, leaving her feeling alone and broken in her lack of desire for intimacy. Despite enduring long-term pelvic pain, her pleas for help were dismissed by pr...2024-01-0249 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Why Do Gifts of Lingerie Lower My Desire For Sex? - with Kate | Ep. 75Kate and Janna unravel the complex dynamics of Kate’s 19-year marriage marked by a common tradition – the recurrent gift of lingerie. Although intended as a sweet gesture, these presents took a toll on Kate, leaving her feeling embarrassed and awkward, along with dwindling her libido and decreasing her desire for sex. As the duo discusses the cultural implications of gifting lingerie, Kate's story becomes a powerful testament to self-empowerment, shedding light on how societal norms can hinder authentic connection. In this episode, Kate and Janna navigate the delicate bala...2023-12-2644 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.From Confusion to Connection: Empowering Men to Transform Bedroom Dynamics - with Lee | Ep. 73When Lee initially encountered Janna's messages about sex on her podcast, he felt victimized. It seemed to him as though blame for bad sex in marriage was being cast solely on men, leading him to internalize it as his personal responsibility. However, with time, he gradually grasped the profound message she aimed to convey – that the distorted notions about sex ingrained in our society are a product of our culture. Both he and his wife of 19 years were unwittingly influenced by these societal narratives. The revelation came when they enrolled in Janna's course, where th...2023-12-1241 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Is It Too Late To Fix My Sex Life at 50?- with Elle | Ep. 72Elle believed she was grappling with low libido as she reached the age of 50, having been married for 25 years with three children in college. Intimacy in her relationship had become a burdensome task, postponed for weeks at a time until guilt finally compelled her to engage. She considered this ebb in desire as a typical aspect of this stage in life. It wasn't until Janna helped Elle compassionately delve into her personal history that the true roots of her low sex drive emerged. Unearthing childhood sexual abuse, the lingering effects of birth trauma, the...2023-12-0546 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Janna Answers: What If I Don't Feel Anything During Sex? | Ep. 71Janna dives into a question she receives often from women looking into her Wanting It More program: "Will this work for me if I don't feel anything during sex?" A powerful misconception exists in our culture that something is wrong with a woman if she doesn't experience intense sensations during intercourse. Many of these women are labeled with “low libido” or “low sex drive.” Janna challenges the notion that sex is primarily focused on penetration, emphasizing the importance of understanding the clitoris with its extensive network of nerves and unique sensitivity. Sh...2023-11-2815 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Does Withholding Sex Emasculate Men? - with Janna’s husband John | Ep. 70Can the actions of women lead to emasculation in men? What intriguing power lies within the concept of emasculation? In today's podcast discussion, Janna and her husband John delve into the idea that women might possess the capacity to emasculate—a process defined as stripping a man of his male role or identity. Together, they explore the narratives surrounding various behaviors often considered emasculating, questioning the generalizations and stereotypes associated with actions like withholding sex, exerting excessive control, attempting to forcefully alter a partner, adopting a maternal role, disparaging men's activities, and withholding appreciation....2023-11-2137 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.What Is Intentional Rest And How Do We Get More Of It? - with Dr. Laura Froyen | Ep. 69Everyone talks about getting more rest, but what does it truly mean to rest? Is it just about lying still and doing nothing? Join Janna and her good friend, Dr. Laura Froyen, as they dive into the world of rest in this delightful conversation. They explore various types of rest – physical, emotional, mental, social, spiritual, sensory, and creative – unraveling the true essence of what rest aims to achieve. They recall rest experiences that can be not only rejuvenating and enlivening but also surprisingly active, creating a pathway to reconnect with yourself. 2023-11-1452 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Sex, God & the Conservative Church author Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers | Ep. 67Janna talks to the author of one of her most recommended books, "Sex, God, & the Conservative Church – Erasing Shame from Sexual Intimacy." In this captivating conversation with Dr. Tina Schermer Seller, a licensed therapist specializing in sex and gender issues, they discuss her research of the Christian Conservative church and the rise of abstinence-only education and purity culture in the early 1980s. This shift has had serious negative effects on both women and men, impacting their ability to have meaningful and healthy sexual relationships. Whether you come from a re...2023-10-3157 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.The Physical And Emotional Toll Of Infertility On Sexual Desire - With Bridget | Ep. 66The dream of having a family can quickly darken in the face of fertility issues. Sex suddenly becomes a highly monitored business, filled with immense pressure and crushing timelines. 33 year-old Bridget endured three tumultuous years of IVF treatments, invasive medical procedures, severe sickness, and the trauma of pregnancy losses, all while living through the stress and isolation of Covid. The experience left her feeling utterly broken, both physically and mentally, and traumatized with severe PTSD. Through it all, Bridget eventually delivered two healthy babies, but her views toward sex w...2023-10-2457 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Real Couples Share Their Wanting It More Progress Toward a More Fulfilling Sex Life | Ep. 62On the final day of our latest Wanting It More round, I gathered all the wonderful husbands and wives together for a warm farewell Zoom call. During this heartwarming session, I posed the question, "What's been your most significant takeaway from this journey?" Their honest responses moved me to tears. At just eight weeks into their Wanting It More adventure, these couples have already made remarkable strides in rekindling their intimacy. While this path isn't without its challenges, witnessing their progress in real time continually reinforces why I'm dedicated to this mission—to empower wom...2023-09-2643 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Q&A About The Best Program To Help Women With Low Libido Enjoy Sex More | Ep. 61I'm answering the most frequent questions I get about my online program, Wanting It More, which is now open for registration for the Oct./Nov. round. I think it’s THE best online program out there for helping women with low libido want and enjoy sex more, while also supporting their husbands so they can create a nourishing, fun, connecting sex life as a team with nobody being blamed other than culture. In this episode I'll answer: - What resources are included? What’s the weekly schedule? What...2023-09-1935 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.How This Husband Turned Self-Loathing And Guilt Around Sex Into A Nirvana-Like Experience - With Stuart | Ep. 60Everything Stuart learned about sex was from what he saw in media. Therefore, he understood sex to be a passionate, dramatic, climatic, sweaty event that occurs frequently and is mind blowing every time. Not surprisingly, this is not the type of sex life that Stuart had in his 12 year marriage. In this extremely honest conversation with Janna, Stuart describes the slow decline of sex in his marriage, the round and round conversations with his wife that went nowhere, and how they both felt guilty, broken, and at fault for a problem they had no...2023-09-121h 08

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.How To Take Responsibility for Your Own Sexual Pleasure - with Helen | Ep. 59Helen’s biggest realization during Wanting It More was owning the fact that she wasn’t taking responsibility for her own pleasure. Her lack of enjoyment in the sexual experience wasn’t all about her husband and what he was or wasn’t doing for her. She was allowing things to happen in the bedroom that she didn’t enjoy that created feelings of boredom, frustration, annoyance, even pain, but she didn’t know what to do when something didn’t feel good anymore (or never felt good in the first plac...2023-09-051h 01

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.The Secret To Reducing Anxiety About Sex- With Jenn | Ep. 58Jenn grew up in a conservative Christian household and received her sex education from church events and camps (based on purity culture with the message that sex before marriage is a HUGE sin) and her high school sex ed class (which left her terrified of pregnancy and STDs). Not surprisingly, this education left her with a lot of shame around sex and her sexual interest in general. Married for seven years, the shame spiral continued with her husband and she felt confused and broken…until Wanting It More. 2023-08-2950 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.His Side of the Story - with Nick | Ep. 351. Janna interviews Nick, the husband of a current Wanting It More (WIM) participant, about his experience going through the program. 2. Nick explains the challenges and rewards of vulnerability in male friendships. 3. His ah-ha moment realizing the lack of physical connection was not the real problem in his marriage. 4. How his attempts at “gentle pressure” and reverse psychology backfired and what actually worked to rebuild their connection in and out of the bedroom. 5. His misinterpretation of his wife’s lack of des...2023-04-0437 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Wanting It More After 18 Months of Avoidance - with Sarah | Ep. 341. Janna interviews Sarah, a current Wanting It More (WIM) participant, about her personal and relational shift after seven weeks in the eight-week program. 2. Sarah describes her tearful breaking point the week before signing up for WIM, thoughts of divorce, and how she’s used the tools learned in WIM to save her marriage. 3. Honest talk about her declining desire over 15 years and why it’s so hard for women to verbalize what happened. 4. How honestly acknowledging and expressing her anger, fear, and resentments was the...2023-03-2858 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.A Love Note To Those Struggling In The Bedroom | Ep. 331. Janna shares a love note filled with compassion and validation to her listeners feeling the weight of this difficult work. 2. Her thoughts on how our culture has completely lost the true meaning of intimacy. 3. Why it’s still hard for her in her own relationship after all these years. 4. The importance of knowing you're not alone, you're not broken, and it's definitely not your fault. RESOURCES MENTIONED: Janna's Program: Wanting It More...2023-03-2111 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.What Highly Sensitive (HSP) Women Need In The Sexual Experience | Ep. 321. The amazing gifts that Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) have and how they can be translated into the sexual experience. 2. Why broadening out the definition of sex is so critical for HSPs. 3. Practical examples from Janna's own life of how she explores her creativity, intuition, and HSP-ness in the bedroom. 4. What to do when you get overwhelmed, triggered or need a break. 5. The most important thing your husband can do that will make all the difference. 2023-03-1435 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Cultivating a Safe Space for Women - with Melissa Cody | Ep. 311. The two phrases Janna and Melissa model and use in the community to decrease shame and increase safety. 2. Why shock, grief and sometimes anger are understandable emotions in the beginning stages of the process. 3. The surprising results of getting the husbands together for a support call. 4. What they are learning about making space for a diversity of lived experiences. 5. How the basic concepts taught in WIM are sometimes misunderstood as radical. RESOURCES MENTIONED: 2023-03-071h 05

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.How Men Should Handle Rejection in the Bedroom - with Steve Horsmon & Dan Dore | Ep. 301. Steve and Dan offer advice for men who are feeling devastated, rejected, and crushed when their wives set boundaries around touch. 2. The importance for men to understand their needs and learn how to get them met in a healthy way. 3. The distinction between confidence and dominance and how they can be confused. 4. How trying to be a "good guy" may actually be harming men's relationships and what to do instead. RESOURCES MENTIONED: Janna's Program...2023-02-2850 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Three Steps To Initiating More Physical Touch With Your Husband (When You Don't Like To Be Touched) | Ep. 291. The three "steps" towards initiating more touch with your husband. 2. The two main causes of "touch pressure" and what to do about them. 3. Why unlearning cultural messages about acceptable touch is critical before getting curious about what you like. 4. How Janna and her husband create space for her to initiate touch. RESOURCES MENTIONED: Janna's Program: Wanting It MoreThe next round of Doing It Together is open for registration! Get $300...2023-02-2117 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Top 3 Suggestions For Preparing For a Hard Conversation About Sex With Your Husband | Ep. 281. Janna's top three suggestions for preparing for a hard conversation. 2. The mantra that saves her when she's not advocating for herself enough or becoming too aggressive. 3. How "being done" has been her prime motivating force for having hard conversations (and why she doesn't think that's a great thing). 4. Why asking for what you really want from a conversation is always worth it in the end. 5. The ongoing hard conversation that Janna and her husband have been having the last...2023-02-1441 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Understanding Pain During Sexual Intercourse - with Pelvic Floor Expert Mandy Röscher | Ep. 271. The myths about pain and how they impact our experience of it. 2. The importance of physical and emotional safety while healing from pelvic pain. 3. Why the phrase, "it's all in your head" is actually true- but not how you think it is! 4. The normal variety in female parts (as described by someone who has seen hundreds!) 5. The different types of pelvic pain and the experience of each. RESOURCES MENTIONED: ...2023-02-0753 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Learning to Find True Pleasure at 41 - with Taneill | Ep. 261. How Taneill expected her body to work and what happened instead. 2. The unexpected surprise she got when she listened to other women talk about pleasure. 3. The relatable ways Janna and Taneill both tried to get the big O as young adults. 4. The moment everything shifted for her and how she's continued to learn about her body. 5. Her recommendations for other women hoping to feel more enjoyment in the bedroom. Resources Mentioned: 2023-01-3150 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Having Compassion For Our Husband’s Experience - with Janna's husband, John | Ep. 251. Janna talks to her husband John about his first exposure to adult magazines at a young age. 2. He discusses his first relationships and the regrets he has from them. 3. How high-speed internet changed the trajectory of this life and impacted our relationship. 4. The challenges of being a man with a lack of mentorship and support. 5. How we handled John's pornography addiction disclosure. RESOURCES MENTIONED: Janna's Program...2023-01-241h 08

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.How to Know What Advice to Trust and Follow For Help With Low Sexual Desire | Ep. 241. Three unfortunate experiences Janna had with professionals and what she learned from each one of them. 2. Janna's #1 recommendation for when you are seeking support - whether from books, people or the internet. 3. What she does now as a coach and educator to keep her participants safe. 4. Her window cleaning story and what that taught her about pushing herself! 5. The critical areas that were missing in her search for answers and how she addresses them in her Wanting It More...2023-01-1742 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Why Feeling Empowered in the Bedroom Can Take Time - with B | Ep. 231. How B used to see her "role" in the bedroom and how it's changed over time. 2. The most challenging aspect of creating and enforcing boundaries for her. 3. The surprising way B's body has responded after 5 years of regular physical connection with her husband. 4. Why nighttime is sometimes the worst time to have sex. 5. How her husband struggled with this "new way" of connecting in the beginning and how they are now. 6. How they handle...2023-01-1042 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Redefining Sexual Connection While in the Trenches of Parenthood - with K & M | Ep. 221. How purity culture has affected this couple's marriage in very different ways. 2. How M handled K's "don't touch me!" vibe in her first pregnancy. 3. Where their communication broke down in the bedroom and how they've changed it. 4. M's initial resistance to my advice in the Wanting It More program and how he feels now, 3 years later. 5. The unique way K transitions into the sexual experience that may surprise you! 6. How K is handling the...2023-01-0358 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Questions We Avoid Asking in the Bedroom - with Janna's husband, John | Ep. 211. The biggest reason why pressure reduces connection in the bedroom 2. The one question that caused Janna intense anxiety that was supposed to increase connection 3. The main cause of insecurity in John after 22 years of marriage with Janna 4. The one thing that John said to me that instantly increased my attraction to him 5. John’s “aha moment” that changed his perspective of cultural messaging’s impact on women in the bedroom 6. How changing expectations in the bedro...2022-12-2726 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Feeling Guilt & Shame About Sex When It Isn’t Our Fault | Ep. 201. Is it guilt or shame? What's the difference? 2. How cultural messaging influences our feelings of guilt. 3. What to blame instead of each other. 4. Janna's opinion on what’s “owed” to your partner. 5. The single most important quality for a successful marriage. 6. When guilt is actually warranted in the bedroom. RESOURCES MENTIONED: Janna's Program: Wanting It More 2022-12-2023 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Why Saying “No Thanks” to Sex Isn’t Easy | Ep. 191. Why safety is the key to women wanting it in the bedroom 2. The reasons why communicating our preferences is the first step to feeling safe 3. 4 things women are supposed to like in the bedroom, but Janna doesn't 4. Common reactions that husbands have when women say no in the bedroom 5. The hardest and best thing Janna did in her own marriage to establish her own safety RESOURCES MENTIONED: Janna's Program...2022-12-1332 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Why It's Ok to Never Be "In the Mood" for Sex Again | Ep. 181. 2 types of ways to want it in the bedroom, and the differences between them 2. Why waiting for those “tingly feelings” can be a waste of energy 3. What science is teaching us about “getting in the mood” 4. How Janna has regular experiences while rarely being in the mood. 5. The 5 motivations for sex that don't involve a physical reason RESOURCES MENTIONED: To view the Venn Diagram mentioned in this episode, please view the...2022-12-0627 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.3 Steps To Help Discover Your Sexual Preferences | Ep. 171. 3 barriers to learning about our bodies (it's not as simple as it sounds) 2. A few critical pieces of information that Janna learned early on which made a big difference 3. Janna's favourite book recommendation to learn the science of female bodies 4. 3 steps you can take to learn about your preferences in the bedroom RESOURCES MENTIONED: To view the Venn Diagram mentioned in this episode, please view the episode on my website here: Venn Diagram 2022-11-2919 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.How Toxic Cultural Messaging Contributes to Low Libido in Women | Ep. 161. The one bedroom word Janna hate that everyone else loves 2. 7 toxic cultural messages that create issues in the bedroom 3. The only 2 goals I encourage for together time 4. How anger can be a force for good in the bedroom RESOURCES MENTIONED: To view the Venn Diagram mentioned in this episode, please view the episode on my website here: Venn Diagram My Program: Wanting It More 2022-11-2226 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.The Reasons Why Marriage Can Lack Emotional & Physical Safety For Women | Ep. 151. What Janna means by emotional and physical safety in a relationship 2. Why safety is such an important element of women wanting it in the bedroom 3. The differences between a lack of safety and abuse 4. The reasons why a marriage can be lacking emotional safety for women 5. How building emotional and physical safety can change everything in the bedroom RESOURCES MENTIONED: To view the Venn Diagram mentioned in this episode...2022-11-1520 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.The Three Requirements For Women With Low Libido to Want It More | Ep. 141. Janna's story and experience with not wanting it with her husband 2. Why women aren’t broken if they don’t want it with their husbands 3. The common reasons why women don’t want it in the bedroom 4. How Janna's approach is different from traditional advice that women often get from medical professionals RESOURCES MENTIONED: To view the Venn Diagram mentioned in this episode, please view the website here: The Three Requirements Venn Diagram ...2022-11-0818 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.The Podcast is Changing, Here's Why | Ep. 131. Janna outlines why the podcast is changing and what that will look like 2. How Janna’s business model is shifting to honour her need for simplicity 3. What to expect from upcoming episodes 4. Listen now to hear about why Janna is making these shifts RESOURCES MENTIONED: Janna's Program: Wanting It MoreThe next round of Doing It Together is open for registration! Get $300 off for this round only! Register now!...2022-11-0112 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.How to Overcome the Shame and Awkwardness of Talking About Sex - with Lisa and Laura Froyen, PHD | Ep. 121. Reasons why talking about what happens in the bedroom can be uncomfortable 2. How we can overcome the shame and awkwardness of talking about it 3. Ways in which the cultural mainstream impacts women’s capacity for enjoyment 4. How we can demystify what happens when we have sex 5. Why our early experiences learning about sex can impact our capacity for talking about it openly as adults GUEST BIOS: Lisa lives in th...2022-10-1853 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Transforming The Sexual Experience Into “Me Time” For More Enjoyment - with Michelle | Ep. 111. Why scheduling time for yourself is a way to enrich your relationships 2. The difference between intentional “me time” and self-sabotaging behaviours 3. The ways that your sexual experiences can be “me time” 4. The differing needs that men and women can have in their sexual relationship 5. How women’s roles in the family are often underappreciated 6. Reasons why taking time for yourself is revolutionary for your children *Please note that this conversati...2022-10-1149 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Redefining Sex as Self Care - with Sonja | Ep. 101. How to maintain a marriage while coping with serious health problems 2. Why communication is so important during times of extreme stress 3. How to transform stressful situations into opportunities for bonding 4. Why fear can manifest as anger when we’re under stress 5. Finding ways to create intimacy with physical disabilities 6. Redefining the possibilities of what sex can be *Please note that this conversation includes real experiences that are sometimes traumatic in...2022-10-0448 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.How To Deal With Vacation Sex Anxiety - with Lisa | Ep. 091. How our society puts pressure on us to have sex on vacation 2. Reasons why you might have anxiety surrounding vacation sex 3. Why having sex on vacation might not work for you 4. What to consider when planning a vacation with your husband 5. What you might need in order to want sex on vacation 6. How to let go of the limiting beliefs we have about vacation sex *Please...2022-09-2748 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Repairing Marriage After Porn Addiction - with Sherri | Ep. 081. How to figure out if porn may be impacting your sex life 2. What porn addiction can look like in a marriage 3. How Sherri learned about her husband’s secret sexual habits 4. Making sense of confusing behavior in your relationship 5. What to do if you suspect your husband has an addiction to porn 6. The complex feelings that can arise when healing from this type of addiction *Please note that this co...2022-09-2043 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Isn't Sex Supposed to Feel Good? - with Lisa | Ep. 071. How to define really great sex! 2. We shed light on 2 key myths about sex. 3. Is penetration essential for orgasmic experiences? 4. What affects female pleasure even more than pressure? 5. Lisa’s revelation about masturbation and how her husband reacted. 6. Is pleasure a privilege or a right? *Please note that this conversation includes real experiences that are sometimes traumatic in nature. This may be triggering for some listeners. ...2022-09-1348 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Why Women Have Sex Even When Not In The Mood - with Denice | Ep. 061. How Denice ditched duty sex for something better 2. Slut or Prude: Are these the only options? 3. Penguin suits, lingerie & banana sling undies: the hilarity of Denice’s wedding night 4. Why women have sex even when they’re not in the mood 5. The hidden goals of sex and the problems they create *Please note that this conversation includes real experiences that are sometimes traumatic in nature. This may be triggering for some listeners. 2022-09-0650 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.How is Sex So One-Sided? - with Jenn | Ep. 051. The truth about how “good sex” is defined and how it affects women. 2. How to make sex a freeing and fulfilling experience instead of avoiding it. 3. Why trying to make your marriage “fair” can be an almost impossible challenge. 4. How one-sided sex can affect a relationship in the long run and what to do about it. 5. Jenn’s surprising discovery about how her personal values weren’t showing up in the bedroom. 6. Honest details about Janna...2022-08-301h 05

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.How to Share the Truth About Your Sex Life With Your Husband - with Melissa | Ep. 041. Why Melissa’s husband now says their sex life is better than ever!2. The #1 thing that will always lower desire and how to avoid it!3. The long term effects of tolerating touch that isn’t "100% yes".4. How to talk to your husband when something isn’t sitting right with you.5. The eye-opening shift that allowed Melissa to stand her ground (even while being convinced otherwise).*Please note that this conversation includes real experiences that are so...2022-08-231h 03

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Finding Sexual Desire After Kids - with Melissa Lynn | Ep. 031. The importance of looking at the real motivations behind sex. 2. Shifting your mindset from sex being a chore. 3. How to enjoy an orgasm for yourself without feeling guilty. 4. The struggle of being intimate in the early days of motherhood. 5. How to create a sex life that is more authentic, equitable, and nourishing. *Please note that this conversation includes real experiences that are sometimes traumatic in nature. This may be triggering for some listeners. 2022-07-281h 01

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Reframing Our Thoughts About Sex - with Laura Froyen, PHD | Ep. 021. Why media is so damaging when it comes to our understanding of sex. 2. How cultural expectations define our expectations for sex and what the intentions can be instead. 3. The major problem with mainstream advice for low libido. 4. The magic ingredient essential to a wonderful sex life that so many professionals ignore. 5. The most important mindset shift to go from having duty sex to having sex for pleasure and enjoyment. *Please note that this conversation...2022-07-2045 min

Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.Welcome to the Wanting It More Podcast! | Ep. 011. Why feeling alone, broken and guilty started my journey as a Desire Expert 2. How my struggles in the bedroom led me to designing a program for women about intimacy 3. Who my guests are and why they are willing to share the juicy details of their sex lives 4. Who I serve and what my core values are 5. How these real, honest and vulnerable conversations can improve your sex life BIO: ...2022-07-2008 min