Shows
Emotional BytesAttachment Theory and Modern FamilyToday we look at attachment theory through the rich dynamics of that classic show - “Modern Family”.2024-12-0716 min
Emotional BytesUnderstanding Emotion: Attribution TheoryWe often attribute someone else’s bad behaviour to their personality but our own bad behaviour to circumstances. Where we attribute cause influences where we place blame and has a huge effect on the meaning we attribute and feelings about that situation. Today we consider attribution and its effect on our emotions.2024-11-1313 min
Emotional BytesInvisible Structures Pt IIToday we look at part 2 of invisible structures. How to know, understand and navigate these invisible structures that operate within us and around us and between us.2024-11-1111 min
Emotional BytesRelationships: Social vs Personal RespectShould respect be something that is practiced by all or something that is given to all? There are many social nuances to respect related to how we behave and how we treat each other. Should respect be given freely or should it be earned? How do our actions influence the respect we recieve?2024-11-1114 min
Emotional BytesRelationships: Respect Pt III: Power Dynamics, Punishment and Creating a Family Culture of RespectThe final part of our trilogy of respect we look at power dynamics, punishment and how to approach conflict with the aim of understanding and communication instead of control and manipulation. Family is something that can be a constant where we learn lessons about relationships that we can apply to the wider world.2024-11-0813 min
Emotional BytesRelationships: Respect Pt II - DisrespectToday we take a look at disrespect, conflict and communication respect from a personal and practical point of view as our host examines respect in the context of his relationship with his own daughter.2024-11-0811 min
Emotional BytesRelationships: Respect Part IToday we look at the concept of respect in a family situation including the evolving nature of respect and what a “respect toolkit” might look like to enable others to feel respected. We also look at interdependence theory and how that relates to respect.2024-11-0810 min
Emotional BytesAuthentic LoveToday we contest Limerence with Authentic Love. What is it? What does it look like? How do we cultivate it? How do we recognise and attract authentic love?2024-11-0412 min
Emotional BytesSetting Goals and Overcoming ProcrastinationToday we look at how to set goals, we revisit intrinsic motivation and examine different procrastination styles and how to deal with them. 2024-10-3111 min
Emotional BytesPersonal Values vs Core BeliefsToday we dive into personal values. What are they? How do they change? How do they influence our behaviour? What happens when our values clash with our beliefs? With other people? With society? Oh yeah, and the key to living a fulfilling and satisfying life.2024-10-3114 min
Emotional BytesEmotional Appraisal RoundupToday we do a roundup of some of the appraisal concepts explored so far, we look at some of the emotions from a slightly different angle and throw in surprise and passion as well. What exactly are some of the best strategies for dealing with the experience of feelings and being human?2024-10-2612 min
Emotional BytesFear and Anxiety Pt 2So good we created part 2. A further look at Fear and anxiety along with some ways of changing your relationship with anxiety.2024-10-2611 min
Emotional BytesFear and Anxiety Part 1Today we look at part one of our exploration of Fear and anxiety. What are they? How are they different? What does it do in the brain? Attachment roots of chronic fear and anxiety in relationships. Can we look at fear in a new way?2024-10-2611 min
Emotional BytesThe Appraisals of Positive EmotionsEnough of the gloom. We look at the appraisals associated with positive emotions.. Spoiler: pleasantness, certainty and relevance.2024-10-2609 min
Emotional BytesShame, Guilt and PrideToday we look at those self-conscious social emotions - shame, guilt and pride. What influences it? How can we understand it?2024-10-2612 min
Emotional BytesRegret and DisappointmentToday we look at disappointment and regret and in particular, what is the relationship of guilt and regret to our values and what appraisals shape these feelings.2024-10-2612 min
Emotional BytesAnger and SadnessWe explore “Modes of Action Readiness”,how these emotions manifest in the body, and the effect that this has on the manifestation of two different types of anger reactions and two different types of sadness.2024-10-2609 min
Emotional BytesAnger, Contempt and HateExploring the negative interpersonal emotions - Anger, Contempt and Hatred. What unconscious processes give rise to these emotional concepts? How are they similar? How are they different?2024-10-2612 min
Emotional BytesUnderstanding Emotion: The Component Process ModelHow scientists model the different mental processes and language concepts that contribute to our mind’s understanding of what is happening in our body and environment to apply meaning out of that information with concepts that we call appraisals.2024-10-2612 min
Emotional BytesA comedic review of RegretToday we do something a little different and take a comedic view of regret, but seriously, we explore the factors that lead to regret and what to do about it.2024-10-2512 min
Emotional BytesUnderstanding Emotion: Appraisal TheoryWe look at the different conscious and unconscious levels that emotions are processed, how we build our understanding of what is happening in our body and the world around us to produce emotional experiences and the functions they serve.2024-10-2408 min
Emotional BytesInvisible Structures Pt 1We investigate Invisible Structures: those mental, emotional and social structures, largely invisible, mostly unconscious that influence our interactions with other people, ourselves and our environment. How can they be revealed? How can they be changed?2024-10-2110 min
Emotional BytesFoundations of Growth and Change: The Theory of Positive DisintegrationExploring Kazimierz Dąbrowski's theory of personality development. Dąbrowski's theory of positive disintegration challenges traditional psychological views by recontextualizing negative emotional experiences as opportunities for growth and development, highlighting the importance of internal conflict in self-discovery, and emphasizing the role of personal agency in shaping one's personality.2024-10-1614 min
Emotional BytesThe link between your Family and your Emotions: Bowen Family Systems TheoryToday we look at the work of Murray Bowen and his theory of the family as an emotional system that are characterized by the amount of differentiation vs enmeshment between the family members, which reflects the level of emotional turbulence in the family.2024-10-1211 min
Emotional BytesLimerenceThe euphoria, the intrusive thoughts, the idealisation, the longings , the questions, Is it love? Or Limerence.2024-10-1213 min
Emotional BytesPop Culture: The Key to Raymond Reddington’s Exquisite use of LanguageWe run on from our look at the Meta model with a look at one of it’s master practitioners: Raymond Reddington from the iconic show: The Blacklist2024-10-1210 min
Emotional BytesPop Culture: Pre-Mentalizing Communication with Scooby DooHaving learned about Mentalizing, it is important to learn about non-mentalizing modes. Since non-mentalizing modes of communication can leave us feeling mystified, we’re going to look at Scooby and the gang to help us unravel this mystery.2024-10-1012 min
Emotional BytesFoundations of the Mind: MentalizingToday we deep dive into the link between communication, behavior and identity by the foundational theory of mind known as of Mentalization.2024-10-1014 min
Emotional BytesFoundations of Communication: The Meta ModelToday we learn about “The Meta Model” - a central tenet of Neural Linguistic Programming (NLP) in order to understand deletions, generalisations and distortions, facets of language that stand in the way of clear and efficient communication. Get ready to level up your language in this life changing linguistic lesson. You’ll never see conversations the same way again.2024-10-0811 min
Emotional BytesUnderstanding Emotion: The Theory of Constructed EmotionDrawn from the work of Lisa Feldman Barrett and her team, this theory explores the possibility that emotions are not switches that can flipped on or off, neither can they be located exclusively in brain centres or read from our faces but that emotion is a by product of the brain running an energy budget for the body using a combination of prediction, interoception and meaning making and it is built on the fly depending on our situation and surroundings and culture. Interesting stuff!2024-10-0711 min
Emotional BytesEmotional Granularity Part II - Increasing Emotional VocabularyIn part two of our look into Emotional Granularity we run through a list of emotions on “the emotion wheel” and the associated needs underlying these emotions in order to give you consideration to all the different nuances needed to develop your emotional vocabulary and understanding.2024-10-0617 min
Emotional BytesFoundations of Behavior: SchemasA bit more of a practical episode and an overview of some of the concepts we have been discussing and we tie them all together under the headings of schemas. How do schemas play out in the context of emotions and relationships..2024-10-0511 min
Emotional BytesAnxiety, Attachment and CopingOur early relationships with our caregivers tend to influence us more than we think. How do fears of rejection, abandonment or separation play out in our daily lives? How does it influence the way we think, the way we perceive ourselves and others, choosing a career? There’s that pesky inner critic rearing it’s head again and we will learn about the different sorts of coping strategies.2024-10-0419 min
Emotional BytesEmotional Granularity Pt. IEmotional Granularity is the ability to identify and respond to emotions in all their nuances instead of reacting to the overall wave of the emotional current as washes over a situation. That ability to pause, identify and dig down into that emotional information is essential for good communication and well being. We have a look at where the idea of emotional granularity came from and how it’s linked to our emotional bytes.2024-10-0312 min
Emotional BytesFoundations of Empathy: Mirror NeuronsYou’ve seen the videos: “Are we living in a simulation”. Well, the answer is yes, but it’s not the matrix. Mirror Neurons are the ultimate simulation, repurposing bodily and neural pathways that enable us to understand the emotional and social world around us. They may even be the foundation of language, the source of empathy and the key to energy efficiency in the brain. Strap in, you’re in for a ride on this one!2024-10-0213 min
Emotional BytesFeelings in Close Relationships: Attachment TheoryLearn about attachment - that “operating system” that runs in the background of our mind and how this plays out in our close relationships. Think intimate partners, parents and children, even close friendships. Awareness of these patterns is the crucial beginning to rewriting those old neural pathways by generating new experiences.2024-10-0117 min
Emotional BytesThe Mystery of Motivation - Self Determination TheoryFind out how the satisfaction of three psychological needs helps us feel more alive by firing up intrinsic motivation and how lack of choice and satisfying our ego will suck away our motivation faster than a vampire bat on Halloween. We also cover communication styles and link to the quest for meaning covered in the last episode.2024-10-0114 min
Emotional BytesIntroduction to Emotional BytesToday is an introduction to the concept of Emotional Bytes - What are they and how do they influence our world.2024-10-0111 min