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The Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and Loss
The Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and LossEpisode 53 - Grief as a Rite of PassageGrief is not a problem to fix, a disease to cure, or a sentence to serve. It is a passage to walk through.In this episode of The NEXT Podcast, Jay Cookingham reflects on grief as a rite of passage—one that is entered, not chosen, and one that changes us whether we’re ready or not. Drawing from his own six-year journey after the loss of his bride, Christine, Jay shares how grief dismantles what was familiar and invites us into a deeper, more honest walk with God.This conversation explores grief not as some...
2026-01-3118 minThe Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and Loss
The Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and LossEpisode 52: Goals for the WidowerIn this episode of The NEXT Podcast, Jay Cookingham gently reframes the idea of “goals” through the lens of grief, loss, and faith. These are not resolutions meant to fix pain or rush healing. They are sacred goals for widowers—and for anyone walking with grief—who are learning how to live faithfully with loss.Jay walks through seven intentional goals, including honesty, stewardship, endurance, remembrance without drowning, worship through lament, community, and trusting God’s definition of good. Each goal offers space for breath, truth, and surrender rather than pressure or performance.Rooted in Scripture...
2026-01-1613 minThe Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and Loss
The Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and LossEpisode 51: Telling the Whole StoryA new year always invites reflection—but when grief is part of your story, reflection becomes sacred work.In this episode, Jay Cookingham talks honestly about what it means to carry both sorrow and hope into a new season. Six years into life as a widower, Jay reflects on the tension between “praise reports” and the parts of grief that are harder to share—the wounds, the exhaustion, the stories behind the tears.This episode is about telling the whole story. Not just the victories, but the battles. Not just the fruit, but the pain that pro...
2026-01-0813 minThe Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and Loss
The Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and LossEpisode 50: New Year, Same GriefEpisode 50 marks an important milestone on The NEXT Podcast, and Jay reflects with gratitude on the journey so far—fifty honest conversations shaped by loss, faith, and the steady presence of God.As the calendar turns to a new year, this episode gently acknowledges a truth many grieving hearts know well: while the date may change, grief often remains. The New Year doesn’t automatically feel fresh or hopeful when loss still walks beside us.Drawing from C.S. Lewis, Scripture, and his own experience of entering another year without Christine, Jay explores grief not as a...
2025-12-3012 minThe Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and Loss
The Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and LossThe NEXT Podcast Episode 49: Not So Wonderful“It’s the most wonderful time of the year” … or is it?For many walking through grief, Christmas doesn’t feel wonderful at all. In this deeply honest episode, Jay reflects on another Christmas without his bride and the complicated, messy reality of holding grief and celebration at the same time.Drawing from Scripture, personal experience, and the truth of the gospel, Jay explores the difference between seasonal cheer and lasting joy. He reminds us that joy is not the absence of sorrow, but the presence of hope — rooted in belonging to Jesus, the Light of the world...
2025-12-1809 minThe Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and Loss
The Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and LossThe Next Podcast Episode 48: “Holly Jolly… really?”Christmas comes wrapped in lights, music, and cheer, but for those walking through grief, the season can feel completely out of sync with the heart. In this episode, Jay speaks honestly about the tension between cultural “holly jolly” expectations and the real weight of loss, especially when facing Christmas without the one who helped make it meaningful.Drawing from a personal Christmas Eve journal entry, Jay reflects on how traditions shift, memories surface, and grief deepens during the holidays. Yet he also shares the deeper truth that anchors his heart: Christmas isn’t built on mood, but on Emm...
2025-12-0910 minThe Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and Loss
The Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and LossThe NEXT Podcast – Episode 47: Stewarding Singleness During the HolidaysIn this vulnerable and hope-filled episode, Jay shares what it means to steward singleness during the holiday season, a season that carries both beauty and deep complexity for those grieving.Jay speaks honestly about his own journey as a widower, acknowledging that singleness isn’t something he prefers or celebrates, but a season God has asked him to steward with purpose. With warmth and clarity, he explores how the holidays amplify grief, memories, expectations, and loneliness, yet can still become sacred opportunities to trust God in new ways.Jay outlines how he is learning to st...
2025-12-0210 minThe Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and Loss
The Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and LossThe NEXT Podcast – Episode 46: Thankfulness in BrokennessIn this heartfelt Thanksgiving episode, Jay shares why gratitude becomes even more meaningful — and more challenging — in seasons of grief. Drawing from Psalm 9:1 and Psalm 28:7, he reflects on the last Thanksgiving his wife spent at home, the pieces of his heart still scattered by loss, and how choosing thankfulness has become a courageous act of trust.Jay reminds us that gratitude doesn’t erase sorrow; it reframes it. It’s quieter, more tender, and often found in the small, honest moments: the warmth of a coffee cup, the quiet of morning, the unexpected strength to face another day....
2025-11-2608 minThe Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and Loss
The Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and LossThe NEXT Podcast – Episode 45: Here We Go AgainIn this episode, Jay dives into a phrase almost every grieving heart knows too well: “Here we go again.”That moment when a fresh wave of grief hits, when old wounds reopen, or when the weight of loss resurfaces just when you thought you were finally steady.Jay explores why grief often repeats itself, why the waves keep coming, and how exhausting it can feel to relive the same emotional ground. He shares candidly about his own struggle with these moments—and the subtle anxiety, self-doubt, and restlessness they bring.But this e...
2025-11-2014 minThe Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and Loss
The Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and LossThe NEXT Podcast – Episode 44: After the Anchor is GoneWhat happens when the foundation you’ve built your life on suddenly shifts? In this heartfelt episode, Jay Cookingham opens up about life after loss—about feeling “out of sync,” rebuilding identity, and finding new rhythms when the old anchors are gone.Jay shares his personal journey through grief, the struggle of comparison, and the healing power of creativity and faith. It’s an honest conversation about re-learning how to live, love, and trust in God’s goodness even in deep sorrow.If you’re navigating a season of loss or transition, this episode will remind you tha...
2025-11-1116 minThe Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and Loss
The Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and LossThe NEXT Podcast Episode 43: Learning to Love Life AgainThis episode explores what it really means to rediscover joy while still honoring loss. Jay shares about a recent men’s conference that reminded him of how universal grief is and how powerful it can be to talk about it honestly. As he reflects on nearly six years since Christine’s passing, Jay wrestles with tension, the sacred space where sorrow and joy coexist. Through scripture, stories, and honest confession, he invites listeners to see that grief and joy aren’t opposites, they’re companions. This episode is about learning to live again, to trust that joy...
2025-10-2316 minThe Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and Loss
The Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and LossThe NEXT Podcast – Episode 42: Looking Back, Moving ForwardAfter 41 episodes of walking through the valleys of grief and glimpses of grace, Jay takes a pause to look back.In this reflective episode, he unpacks the five recurring themes that have shaped his journey so far: love, God’s relentless goodness, lament, the companionship of joy and sorrow, and trust.Grief doesn’t stand still, it changes us. It refines, reshapes, and reminds us that even in loss, God continues to give. Through tears and truth, Jay shares what it means to keep moving forward, not away from grief, but deeper into grace.If...
2025-10-0709 minThe Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and Loss
The Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and LossThe NEXT Podcast Episode 41: What’s Next?In Episode 41 of The NEXT Podcast, Jay Cookingham explores the question every grieving heart eventually faces: What’s next? Nearly six years after the loss of his bride, Jay reflects on how grief reshapes our story, challenges our faith, and invites us to keep moving forward with courage and trust. “What’s next” isn’t about getting over loss—it’s about integrating it into our lives, rediscovering purpose, and embracing the sacred act of releasing. With honesty, scripture, and practical insight, Jay shares how trust becomes the destination of grief and how God faithfully leads us into the next...
2025-09-2417 minThe Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and Loss
The Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and LossThe NEXT Podcast Episode 40: What Grief Gives BackIn Episode 40 of The NEXT Podcast, Jay Cookinghamreflects on a surprising truth—grief doesn’t just take, it can also give back. While loss strips us down and reshapes our lives in ways we never asked for,grief can also become a strange kind of teacher, offering gifts of perspective, compassion, and a deeper awareness of God’s presence. Through the layers of pain, Jay shares how grief has confirmed God’s promises, reminded him of His goodness, and even restored a sense of self. This episode is about learning to see grief not only as a thief bu...
2025-09-1617 minThe Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and Loss
The Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and LossThe NEXT Podcast Episode 39 The Holy Work of Not Giving UpIn this episode of The NEXT Podcast, Jay wraps up the Four R’s of grief with the last rhythm: Rigorous – The Holy Work of Not Giving Up.Grief is relentless and often harsh but being rigorous doesn’t mean being harsh with yourself—it means being honest, consistent, and faithful in the hardest seasons. Jay shares how “holy persistence” has carried him through loss, what rigorous faith looks like in practice, and why worship is hope in action. This is the hard and holy work of staying connected to God, to life, and to love—even wh...
2025-09-0323 minThe Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and Loss
The Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and LossThe NEXT Podcast Episode 38 – Repeatable, Part 2In this episode of The NEXT Podcast, Jay shares openly about navigating a difficult day of grief while leaning into the spiritual practice of repetition. He unpacks the power of “Truth Bombs”—statements of faith and identity that help reshape his perspective during loss. Jay shares his top three truths:• I am God’s son• I am not being punished• I can learn to love life againThese affirmations are more than words; they are lifelines that anchor him in God’s goodness and remind him that grief does not define him. With transp...
2025-08-2124 minSermons on the Side
Sermons on the Side30 | Roundtable Discussion #3 ft. Jay CookinghamWe’re celebrating a big one - Episode 30 of Sermons on the Side! It’s our 3rd roundtable discussion and our 2nd remote interview, this time with a longtime friend and pastor from New York, Jay Cookingham. Jay has been a friend of Richard’s for decades, and his life and ministry have been marked by a deep passion for seeing men embrace God as their true Father and step fully into their sonship in Him. In this conversation, Jay shares about his years of involvement in men’s ministry...
2025-08-1457 minThe Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and Loss
The Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and LossThe NEXT Podcast – Episode 37: Repeatable RhythmsGrief can feel like an endless, exhausting dance you never signed up for. In this episode, Jay shares how “repeatable rhythms” have been his lifeline—small, intentional choices that keep hope alive, faith anchored, and joy within reach. From raw prayer and honest journaling to speaking truth, worship, and finding beauty, these rhythms don’t just fill the day—they shape the soul. Discover how one faithful step at a time can keep you moving forward, even when the weight of loss tries to pull you under.
2025-08-1122 minThe Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and Loss
The Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and LossThe NEXT Podcast – Episode 36: RESILIENTIn this second part of our Four R’s series, Jay Cookingham explores the often-misunderstood nature of resilience. This episode dives deep into what it really means to be resilient—not as a badge of toughness, but as a testimony to God’s sustaining presence in the middle of grief, loss, and transformation.Resilience isn’t about bouncing back or pretending everything is okay. It’s about showing up when it’s hard, standing when you’d rather disappear, and letting God meet you in the cracks. Jay shares personal stories, spiritual insights, and biblical truths that have helped hi...
2025-07-3115 minThe Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and Loss
The Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and LossThe NEXT Episode 35 – RELENTLESSGrief doesn’t take days off—and neither can we when it comes to healing. In this raw and honest episode, Jay Cookingham begins a four-part series on the “Four R’s” that have helped him walk through grief with courage and faith: Relentless, Resilient, Repeatable, and Rigorous.Today, he starts with the one that’s anchored him from day one: Relentless.With vulnerable reflections, Scripture, and practical steps, Jay shares what it means to keep showing up when the pain won’t let up—and how relentless faith invites us to meet a relentlessly faithful God.
2025-07-2217 minThe Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and Loss
The Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and LossThe Next Podcast Episode 34: It’s ComplicatedIn this deeply personal episode of the NEXT Podcast, Jay reflects on the complex emotions that surround his five-and-a-half-year mark of grief. With raw honesty and spiritual depth, he explores what it means to live in the tension between sorrow and joy, faith and frustration, longing and resilience.Jay shares how he's learning to move forward—not by erasing the pain, but by integrating it into his journey. Through what he calls the “Four Rs of Grief Work”—Relentless, Resilient, Repeatable, and Rigorous—Jay offers a framework that gives grief meaning and space to shape us without defining u...
2025-07-0322 minThe Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and Loss
The Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and LossThe NEXT Episode 33: Five and a Half Years Later: I Still Hurt, I Still BelieveIn Episode 33 of the NEXT Podcast, Jay reflects on the 5.5-year mark since the passing of his beloved wife, Christine. What does grief feel like when the calendar keeps moving, but the ache remains? What happens when the expected emotions don’t arrive on cue—or when numbness sets in instead?Through raw honesty, scriptural reflection, and deeply personal insight, Jay shares how grief continues to reshape his life—and how God is still doing something good in the middle of the sorrow. Because as Jay says:“The heart doesn’t get better by avoiding pain… it g...
2025-06-1820 minThe Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and Loss
The Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and LossThe NEXT Podcast Episode 32: Calendar GriefCalendar Grief: When the Numbers Don’t Add UpIn Episode 32 of the NEXT Podcast, host Jay Cookingham opens up about “calendar grief”—those dates on the calendar that carry deep emotional weight. Whether it’s an anniversary, a birthday, or a day of loss, these numbers don’t just track time… they hold stories, and sometimes, sorrow.As Jay reflects on what would have been his 43rd wedding anniversary, he explores how grief messes with our math—and how God meets us in the moments that no longer add up. Through a powerful personal story, practical...
2025-06-1017 minThe Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and Loss
The Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and LossThe NEXT Podcast Episode 31 – Who Am I Now?In this honest and deeply reflective episode, Jay explores how grief doesn’t just take—it reshapes. After the loss of his wife Christine, Jay found himself facing a deep question: “Who am I now?”Grief may feel like it’s stealing everything familiar—purpose, peace, even identity—but it can also become a teacher. Jay unpacks how sorrow can actually refine us, drawing us back to the truth of who we are in Christ.This episode digs into the pain and purpose of lament, the redemptive power of God’s compassion, and the unshakable foundation of so...
2025-05-2914 minThe Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and Loss
The Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and LossThe Next Podcast Episode 30 – The Loneliness of Grief: Being Seen, Known, and AcceptedIn this honest and deeply personal episode, Jay shares about one of the least-discussed aspects of grief: sexual bereavement and Widower’s Fire—the overwhelming longing for intimacy after the death of a spouse.This episode opens the door to a conversation many avoid—especially in the church—and offers encouragement, grace, and practical steps for Christian men navigating this form of loss. Jay speaks vulnerably about the loneliness that comes with losing not just a partner, but the physical, emotional, and spiritual connection that intimacy brought to marriage.Whether you’re a widower, a friend, a...
2025-05-2325 minThe Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and Loss
The Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and LossThe NEXT Podcast Episode 29: Things Not to SayGiving Space to Grieve HonestlyIn this heartfelt episode, Jay shares a vulnerable and honest conversation around the well-meaning but often painful things people say to those who are grieving. Drawing from personal experience, he offers real-life examples, simple responses, and a call to compassion.More than a list of what not to say, this episode is an invitation—to walk gently with the grieving, to give them space to feel, and to resist the urge to “fix” what can’t be fixed. Jay also speaks candidly about what it means to move forward in grief wh...
2025-05-1425 minThe Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and Loss
The Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and LossThe Next Podcast Episode 28: Shepherding EmotionIn this deeply personal episode, Jay explores the often-overlooked emotional terrain of grief—especially for men. Through raw honesty and spiritual reflection, he unpacks how emotions aren’t enemies to conquer, but messengers to learn from. Jay shares how he uses his pain as fuel for healing, creativity, and worship, offering practical ways to process sorrow without shame. From quiet tears to riverbank outbursts, this episode is a powerful reminder that regulating emotions is not weakness—it’s worship.Whether you’re grieving or supporting someone who is, this conversation offers hope, direction, and space to feel.
2025-05-0621 minThe Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and Loss
The Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and LossThe NEXT Podcast Episode 27 - Choosing LifeIn this special post-Easter edition of the NEXT Podcast, Jay shares raw, honest reflections recorded the day after Resurrection Sunday. After taking time away to intentionally reflect on Holy Week, Jay opens up about where he is in his grief journey—five years, four months, and six days after Christine’s passing.This “Current Mood” episode explores themes of resilience over recovery, how love—not just faith—has carried him through the darkest seasons, and why choosing life each day is an act of worship.Jay also shares a deeply personal story about Christine’s childhood drea...
2025-04-2215 minThe Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and Loss
The Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and LossNEXT Podcast Episode 25: The Myths of Grief – Part 1Grief doesn’t follow the rulebook. In this episode of the NEXT podcast, host Jay Cookingham unpacks one of the biggest myths about grief—the idea that it moves in predictable stages. Society tells us we should process loss in a neat, orderly way, but real grief is messy, unpredictable, and deeply personal. Jay shares his own journey, challenging the common misconceptions that hold us back from healing and offering a perspective rooted in faith and hope. If you’ve ever felt like you’re “grieving wrong,” this episode is for you.
2025-03-2821 minThe Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and Loss
The Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and LossThe NEXT Podcast Episode 17: Navigate – Finding the Next Step ForwardGrief often leaves us feeling stuck or adrift, unsure of how to move forward. In this episode of the NEXT podcast, Jay Cookingham explores what it means to navigate grief intentionally. It’s not about knowing the entire plan—it’s about trusting God to guide the next step. Join Jay as he shares practical steps to navigate your journey, from setting daily targets to creating a “grief compass” that keeps you focused. Discover how even small, faithful steps can lead to healing and hope.
2025-01-2812 minThe Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and Loss
The Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and LossThe NEXT Podcast Episode 16: The Gifts of GriefGrief doesn’t just take—it gives. In this episode of the NEXT podcast, Jay Cookingham shares how the pain of loss can shape and refine us, offering gifts we never expected. From discovering the strength to face loneliness to embracing sorrow as a companion to joy, this episode explores the transformative power of grief when seen through the truth of who God is and who we are in Christ. Join Jay as he reflects on the lessons his journey with grief has taught him and the ways God’s promises sustain him through every step of the jo...
2025-01-2120 minThe Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and Loss
The Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and LossNEXT Episode 15: The Fallout of GriefLoneliness, grief, and faith often collide in ways that feel overwhelming. In this episode of the NEXT podcast, Jay Cookingham reflects on five years of navigating grief after the loss of his bride, Christine. He shares how lament meets loneliness with worship, why pacing yourself through sorrow is essential, and how God’s unstoppable love anchors him through it all. This raw and passionate conversation offers practical steps for anyone struggling with the fallout of grief and longing for hope.
2025-01-1525 minThe Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and Loss
The Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and LossNEXT Podcast Episode 14- Leading Through GriefIn this episode of The Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and Loss podcast, Jay Cookingham dives into the complexities of navigating grief as a leader. Sharing raw, personal experiences and timeless biblical truths, he explores the tension between vulnerability and strength, the transformative power of pain, and how faith sustains us in seasons of loss. Whether you’re leading a church, a ministry, or simply your family, this episode offers encouragement, practical wisdom, and hope for those walking through the valley of grief. Join Jay as he unpacks what it means to lead with authenticity and co...
2025-01-0825 minWhat Is A Biblical Man?
What Is A Biblical Man?How Faith and Forgiveness Unlock True Masculine Power with Jay CookinghamIn this episode of Men of Influence, host Tim Holloway sits down with Jay Cookingham, founder of Strategic Fathering Ministries, to discuss the transformative power of faith, mindset, and servant leadership. With decades of experience as a pastor, father, and mentor, Jay shares his journey of healing, forgiveness, and discovering God as the ultimate Father. From navigating the grief of losing his wife of 37 years to overcoming the challenges of an abusive childhood, Jay provides invaluable insights into building a faith-centered life and leading with purpose. This heartfelt conversation explores what it means to be a man...
2025-01-0733 minThe Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and Loss
The Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and LossNEXT Podcast Episode 13 – New Year, Same GriefIn this episode of the NEXT podcast, host Jay Cookingham explores the complexities of starting a new year while navigating grief and loss. The world often tells us that the new year is a time to "move on," but what if your grief hasn’t caught up with the calendar? Jay offers honest reflections on the challenges of guilt, acceptance, and the messy expectations placed on those who are grieving. Drawing on personal experience and biblical encouragement, he shares how grief doesn't have to be a tyrant but can be a teacher, guiding us toward transformation and gr...
2025-01-0114 minThe Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and Loss
The Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and LossEpisode 11: Resilient or Resentful? (Part 2)Continuing the conversation on resilience and grief, Jay reflects on the unique challenges widowers face, particularly during the holidays. Through personal stories and biblical truths, this episode focuses on how worship and intimacy with God can turn loneliness into resilience. Jay opens up about learning to embrace God’s presence in his darkest moments, allowing faith to transform his pain into purpose. If you’re struggling with loss or know someone who is, this episode is an encouragement to trust God’s definition of good and to discover His unfailing faithfulness, even in seasons of deep sorrow.
2024-12-1814 minThe Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and Loss
The Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and LossEpisode 10: Resilient or Resentful? (Part 1)In this episode of the NEXT podcast, we dive into one of life’s pivotal crossroads: will grief make us resilient or resentful? Jay shares his journey of wrestling with the pain of losing his wife, Christine, and how God transformed his heart through intimate conversations, worship, and a deep hunger for His Word. Explore how desperate resilience is cultivated—not by escaping pain, but by inviting God into the hardest moments. You’ll learn how surrendering to God’s promises can reshape your perspective and give you the strength to face the “why me” questions with a faith-filled “why not me.”
2024-12-1113 minThe Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and Loss
The Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and LossHonoring Memories and Finding Hope in the Holidays Part 4In Episode 9 of the NEXT Podcast, host Jay Cookingham presents the fourth installment in the series Honoring Memories and Finding Hope in the Holidays. Jay shares heartfelt reflections on the challenges of navigating grief during the festive season, offering practical ideas for creating memory-centered traditions and finding renewed joy. Drawing from personal experience, he explores the delicate balance between mourning and celebration, providing encouragement and hope for listeners as they honor their loved ones and embrace healing during the holidays.
2024-12-0315 minThe Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and Loss
The Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and LossHonoring Memories and Finding Hope in the Holidays: Part 3For the eighth episode and part three of the Honoring Memories and Finding Hope in the Holidays podcast, My oldest daughter, Sarah Cookingham returns continuing a heartfelt conversation as we explore her perspective on navigating grief during the holiday season. I hope you’ll tune in and share this meaningful moment with us!
2024-11-2739 minThe Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and Loss
The Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and LossHonoring Memories and Finding Hope in the Holidays: Part 2For the seventh episode and part two of the Honoring Memories and Finding Hope in the Holidays podcast, I have a very special guest! My oldest daughter, Sarah Cookingham, joins me for a heartfelt conversation as we explore her perspective on navigating grief during the holiday season. I felt it was important to hear the female heart and her insights on her personal journey with the loss of her mom. There’s so much depth to what we’ve shared that I realized we needed more time to honor it fully. That’s why this conversation will contin...
2024-11-2146 minThe Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and Loss
The Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and LossHonoring Memories and Finding Hope in the Holidays: Part 1In this heartfelt episode of the NEXT podcast, Jay Cookingham shares his journey of navigating grief during the holiday season, reflecting on the memories of his beloved wife, Christine. As the five-year anniversary of her passing approaches, Jay offers personal insights and practical steps for those facing the holidays with heavy hearts. From honoring traditions to finding moments of worship and gratitude, he explores ways to balance joy and sorrow, encouraging listeners to find comfort in God’s presence and purpose even in seasons of loss. Tune in for hope-filled encouragement and practical steps to help you th...
2024-11-1314 minThe Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and Loss
The Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and LossFrom Suppression to ExpressionIn Episode 5 of The NEXT Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and Loss, Jay Cookingham dives into practical ways to navigate the often messy, unpredictable path of grief. Using insights from his own experiences, he shares tips on embracing and processing emotions without rushing or suppressing them. Jay explores how recognizing, naming, and expressing feelings can transform pain into “productive” growth, tethering us to reality and opening the door to healing. Tune in to discover how to honor your grief journey with honesty and faith.
2024-11-0616 minThe Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and Loss
The Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and LossNavigational HopeIn this episode, Jay explores how societal expectations of toughness often keep men from expressing their emotions, complicating the process of navigating and moving forward after loss. Tune in as Jay shares insights and personal reflections on breaking through barriers to find healing and hope.
2024-10-3012 minThe Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and Loss
The Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and LossThe Weight of Paper: A Widower’s Journey After LossIn this heartfelt episode of the NEXT podcast, host Jay Cookingham shares about the deeply emotional and often overwhelming process of dealing with the paperwork after the death of his wife, Christine. Titled "The Weight of Paper: A Widower’s Journey After Loss," Jay shares his personal experience navigating the endless forms, signatures, and legalities that come with losing a spouse. He reflects on the emotional toll it takes, offering insights into how grief complicates this already difficult process. Join Jay as he discusses the challenges of moving forward and the steps he took to cope, both practically and em...
2024-10-2311 minThe Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and Loss
The Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and LossNavigating the Rogue Waves of GriefIn this episode, Jay delves deeper into the tumultuous journey of grief. Drawing parallels between the unpredictability of the ocean and the overwhelming waves of sorrow, he shares personal experiences and lessons learned from losing his wife. Jay discusses the profound impact of grief on identity, relationships, and daily life, offering insights and encouragement for those navigating similar challenges. He emphasizes the importance of honoring feelings, finding coping mechanisms, and embracing the healing power of grief.
2024-10-1612 minThe Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and Loss
The Next Podcast: Moving Forward with Grief and LossThe NEXT Chapter, moving forward.In this inaugural episode, Jay dives deep into the heart of the NEXT Podcast. Discover why he felt compelled to start this journey and what sets this show apart. It's not about fixing grief, but exploring the path forward. Join Jay as he sets the stage for honest conversations about loss, healing, and finding meaning in the aftermath.
2024-10-0915 minAct Like Men
Act Like MenEpisode #57 | Forgiveness: How Do We Get Out of the Cage of Unforgiveness | Special Guest Jay Cookingham#57 – Forgiveness How do I get out of the Cage of UnforgivenessGuest:  Jay Cookingham Act Like Men – Men’s Leadership PodcastSponsored by Men’s Ministry CatalystPodcast Show Notes Jay Cookingham in his book entitled Uncaged – Living a Life of Freedom says “Forgiveness has enabled me to live the life God has intended for me, which is so much more than being “saved”. It is a calling to beco...
2024-05-0227 minThe Frontline Podcast For Christian Men
The Frontline Podcast For Christian MenFrom Abused As A Boy To Becoming A God Hearted Man w/ Jay CookinghamMy guest Jay Cookingham, shares his story of suffering emotional, verbal, physical and sexual abuse as a boy from his father. This happened for 10 years between the ages of 7 - 17.  Jay gave his life to Jesus at the age of 7, and this is the same time when the abuse became worse. When he was 17, he was about to commit suicide alone in a forest, when he heard the voice of God say "Don't".   At the age of 19, the Lord supernaturally helped Jay show kindness and forgiveness to his Dad.  Jay is now a pastor, author, conference speaker and father of s...
2022-02-121h 26The Redeemed Man
The Redeemed ManFreedom Restored - Guest: Jay Cookingham of Strategic Fathering MinistriesJay Cookingham joins The Redeemed Man podcast. Jay Cookingham, founder of Strategic Fathering Ministries, which encourages men to embrace God’s call to aid and mentor other people in need. It’s those kinds of people, “strategically placed” in his life, whom Cookingham says helped him find God and strengthen his faith after years of horrific abuse from his father. “God gave me other men in my life to help me deal with the issues of manhood,” he explains. “So I think it’s very strategic of Father God to have a plan for each one of us as a son or a daugh...
2021-12-2429 minThe Inspired Legacy Podcast
The Inspired Legacy Podcast044: Lessons in Strategic Fatherhood with Jay CookinghamJoining me today is the founder of Strategic Fathering Ministries, Pastor Jay Cookingham. He has helped equip men everywhere to embrace the call of our Heavenly Father and step into their purpose as Godly men. Jay’s message is one that every man should hear, especially if you are going through difficult times. Get the complete show notes for this episode by visiting: theinspiredlegacy.com/podcast/044 NEXT STEPS: Join our Private Facebook Group at facebook.com/groups/theinspiredlegacy Get your free copy of our Dad Guide—Nine Ways to Be A Bett...
2020-10-2737 minBridge Builders Community Church
Bridge Builders Community ChurchHungry for God Week 2 - PDFBridge Builders Community Church is a band of followers on mission to glorify God, transform lives and impact the world by sharing and living out the gospel of Jesus Christ. We are a community who gathers on Sundays and through out the week to celebrate, pray, learn, and enjoy the conversation and friendship. Our desire is to know God through Jesus Christ and to learn to love and serve Him and each other well.
2020-08-1300 minBridge Builders Community Church
Bridge Builders Community ChurchHungry for God Week 2 - AudioBridge Builders Community Church is a band of followers on mission to glorify God, transform lives and impact the world by sharing and living out the gospel of Jesus Christ. We are a community who gathers on Sundays and through out the week to celebrate, pray, learn, and enjoy the conversation and friendship. Our desire is to know God through Jesus Christ and to learn to love and serve Him and each other well.
2020-08-1333 minBridge Builders Community Church
Bridge Builders Community ChurchHungry for God Week 1 - AudioThere will never be a relationship in your life that's more important than the one you have with God in Christ. Mike Haas shares some of the things that mess with that relationship and our hunger for more.
2020-08-1335 minBridge Builders Community Church
Bridge Builders Community ChurchHungry For God Week 4 - AudioHunger is a driving force. It will focus you, motivate you, and move you. Spiritual hunger is no different… it drives us (maybe crazy at times) pushes us into uncomfortable places that challenge us to abandon ourselves
2020-08-0846 minBridge Builders Community Church
Bridge Builders Community ChurchHungry For God Week 4 - PDFHunger is a driving force. It will focus you, motivate you, and move you. Spiritual hunger is no different… it drives us (maybe crazy at times) pushes us into uncomfortable places that challenge us to abandon ourselves
2020-08-0800 minBridge Builders Community Church
Bridge Builders Community ChurchHungry for God Week 3 - AudioI believe God is asking us… Are you still hungry? Are you still filled with passion for me, for my presence, for my ways… are you still hungry to be my daughter, my son?
2020-08-0132 minBridge Builders Community Church
Bridge Builders Community ChurchHungry for God Week 3 - PDFI believe God is asking us… Are you still hungry? Are you still filled with passion for me, for my presence, for my ways… are you still hungry to be my daughter, my son?
2020-08-0100 minBridge Builders Community Church
Bridge Builders Community ChurchHoly Mystery - AudioExploring the the awesome and Awe-ful Holy mystery of God.
2020-03-0131 minBridge Builders Community Church
Bridge Builders Community ChurchGive Up: Week 3 - AudioI believe the greatest thing we are called to be good stewards of, more than anything else, is the Gospel. We, His sons and daughters have been entrusted with loving the Gospel, living the Gospel and giving the Good News out as generously as possible.
2020-02-2325 minBridge Builders Community Church
Bridge Builders Community ChurchGive Up: Week 3 - PDFI believe the greatest thing we are called to be good stewards of, more than anything else, is the Gospel. We, His sons and daughters have been entrusted with loving the Gospel, living the Gospel and giving the Good News out as generously as possible.
2020-02-2300 minBridge Builders Community Church
Bridge Builders Community ChurchGiveUp: Grace, Giving, Gratitude - AudioHow does grace, giving and gratitude impact our lives and the lives of others? Listen as Mike Haas shares about how a life of sacrifice is a generous one.
2020-02-1617 minBridge Builders Community Church
Bridge Builders Community ChurchGive Up: Introduction - PDFWhat does Giving Up (this passionate surrender) to God really look like? Is it writing more checks? Donating more to charity? Is it doing more stuff/ministry for Jesus? Can I use my gifts, my resources God has blessed me with outside of church things? We’ll explore and try to answer those questions by diving into some stewardship principles that are really Kingdom of God principles.
2020-02-0900 minBridge Builders Community Church
Bridge Builders Community ChurchGive Up: Introduction - AudioWhat does Giving Up (this passionate surrender) to God really look like? Is it writing more checks? Donating more to charity? Is it doing more stuff/ministry for Jesus? Can I use my gifts, my resources God has blessed me with outside of church things? We’ll explore and try to answer those questions by diving into some stewardship principles that are really Kingdom of God principles.
2020-02-0935 minBridge Builders Community Church
Bridge Builders Community ChurchCrossroads - AudioCrossroads invite choices (change, perspective, leaving one place for another)
2020-02-0337 minBridge Builders Community Church
Bridge Builders Community ChurchCrossroads - PDFCrossroads invite choices (change, perspective, leaving one place for another)
2020-02-0300 minBridge Builders Community Church
Bridge Builders Community ChurchI Can't - Week Two - AudioWe can take the words I CAN’T and change them to I Cancel All Negative Thoughts! Canceling negative thoughts may not give me immediate (or any) comfort but it can give me perspective and help me see through the fog of grief.
2020-01-0526 minBridge Builders Community Church
Bridge Builders Community ChurchI Can't - Week Two - PDFWe can take the words I CAN’T and change them to I Cancel All Negative Thoughts! Canceling negative thoughts may not give me immediate (or any) comfort but it can give me perspective and help me see through the fog of grief.
2020-01-0500 minBridge Builders Community Church
Bridge Builders Community ChurchI CAN’T:Redeeming our Weaknesses with God's Strength - AudioThe words "I Can't" are powerful destructive words… they hold immense influence over our actions, our speech, our thoughts, our dreams and even our faith. This phrase destroys hope, responsibility, motivation and the most holy desires we carry. These words reveal our weaknesses, in ways we wished they didn’t. Can we redeem these words and the influence they have on us? Can our weakness… be redeemed?
2019-12-2928 minBridge Builders Community Church
Bridge Builders Community ChurchI CAN’T:Redeeming our Weaknesses with God's Strength - PDFThe words "I Can't" are powerful destructive words… they hold immense influence over our actions, our speech, our thoughts, our dreams and even our faith. This phrase destroys hope, responsibility, motivation and the most holy desires we carry. These words reveal our weaknesses, in ways we wished they didn’t. Can we redeem these words and the influence they have on us? Can our weakness… be redeemed?
2019-12-2900 minBridge Builders Community Church
Bridge Builders Community ChurchMother's Day Reflections - AudioTwo Mother's Day reflections from Christine Cookingham
2019-12-2643 minBridge Builders Community Church
Bridge Builders Community ChurchFull of It - Introduction - AudioHas anyone ever said… you were full of it? I’m sure most all of us have heard this once or twice before and normally… this wasn’t a compliment was it? But as sons and daughters of God I think we’re called to live a life… full of IT… and that IT stands for Intentional Thankfulness.
2019-11-0433 minBridge Builders Community Church
Bridge Builders Community ChurchFull of It - Introduction - PDFHas anyone ever said… you were full of it? I’m sure most all of us have heard this once or twice before and normally… this wasn’t a compliment was it? But as sons and daughters of God I think we’re called to live a life… full of IT… and that IT stands for Intentional Thankfulness.
2019-11-0400 minBridge Builders Community Church
Bridge Builders Community ChurchLimitless God Part 4 - AudioThe book of Ephesians is all about who we are in Jesus Christ; challenging the limited views we have about God and who we are in His Kingdom. Throughout the book are wonderful promises reminding us about the limitless resources we have available as sons and daughters of God.
2019-10-2828 minBridge Builders Community Church
Bridge Builders Community ChurchLimitless God Part 4 - PDFThe book of Ephesians is all about who we are in Jesus Christ; challenging the limited views we have about God and who we are in His Kingdom. Throughout the book are wonderful promises reminding us about the limitless resources we have available as sons and daughters of God.
2019-10-2800 minBridge Builders Community Church
Bridge Builders Community ChurchLimitless God Part 3 - PDFGod, by his own unlimited power, has given us everything that is necessary for living a truly good life right now!
2019-10-2100 minBridge Builders Community Church
Bridge Builders Community ChurchLimitless God Part 3 - AudioGod, by his own unlimited power, has given us everything that is necessary for living a truly good life right now!
2019-10-2126 minBridge Builders Community Church
Bridge Builders Community ChurchHoly Oneness - AudioJesus's heart cry is for His Church to be one. Guest speaker Wes Clemmer shows how fusion, flow and force are powerful words for His Church to embrace.
2019-10-1435 minBridge Builders Community Church
Bridge Builders Community ChurchPsalm 91: A Prophetic Proclamation - AudioPastor Tim shares Psalm 91 and encourages us to proclaim it's truth.
2019-10-0610 minBridge Builders Community Church
Bridge Builders Community ChurchLimitless God Part 2 - AudioWhen my prayers are answered differently than I expect… What am I supposed to expect/trust God to do?
2019-09-3044 minBridge Builders Community Church
Bridge Builders Community ChurchLimitless God Part 2 - PDFWhen my prayers are answered differently than I expect… What am I supposed to expect/trust God to do?
2019-09-3000 minBridge Builders Community Church
Bridge Builders Community ChurchLimitless God - AudioImagine having a view of God where we believe, trust and have faith that this Scripture is true… where we know that our God is limitless, powerful and totally in control. Can you envision how free you would feel?
2019-09-2226 minBridge Builders Community Church
Bridge Builders Community ChurchLimitless God - PDFImagine having a view of God where we believe, trust and have faith that this Scripture is true… where we know that our God is limitless, powerful and totally in control. Can you envision how free you would feel?
2019-09-2200 minBridge Builders Community Church
Bridge Builders Community ChurchPassing the Baton - AudioAre you leaving a legacy of faith? Is there a connection between the Saints that came before us and the ones to come?
2019-09-1831 minBridge Builders Community Church
Bridge Builders Community ChurchScars-Anxiety - PDFAnxiety is a human emotion and an opportunity… we all experience fears and worries that present us with choices of faith.
2019-09-0200 minBridge Builders Community Church
Bridge Builders Community ChurchScars-Anxiety - AudioAnxiety is a human emotion and an opportunity… we all experience fears and worries that present us with choices of faith.
2019-09-0242 minBridge Builders Community Church
Bridge Builders Community ChurchThe Kingdom of God - AudioPastor Curtis Whitted of the Potter House teaches about the Kingdom of God
2019-08-2644 minBridge Builders Community Church
Bridge Builders Community ChurchScars-Rejection - AudioHow Jesus helps heal from rejection
2019-08-1928 minBridge Builders Community Church
Bridge Builders Community ChurchScars: Condemnation - AudioCondemnation is a powerful word… a depressing word, a hope killing word. It doesn’t help that the world is a condemning place in which to live in, full of condemning voices and messages. The truth is that our own past… our sin, our mistakes, past trauma, can be a condemning place as well. This is not how God wants us to live our lives.
2019-08-1131 minBridge Builders Community Church
Bridge Builders Community ChurchScars: Condemnation - PDFCondemnation is a powerful word… a depressing word, a hope killing word. It doesn’t help that the world is a condemning place in which to live in, full of condemning voices and messages. The truth is that our own past… our sin, our mistakes, past trauma, can be a condemning place as well. This is not how God wants us to live our lives.
2019-08-1100 minBridge Builders Community Church
Bridge Builders Community ChurchScars: Shame - AudioGuilt and Shame exist but God doesn’t want us to live in it nor does God ever use it as a tool. Rather, it is a tool of the enemy.
2019-08-0426 minBridge Builders Community Church
Bridge Builders Community ChurchScars: Shame - PDFGuilt and Shame exist but God doesn’t want us to live in it nor does God ever use it as a tool. Rather, it is a tool of the enemy.
2019-08-0400 minBridge Builders Community Church
Bridge Builders Community ChurchSin the Wound Maker Part 2 - AudioWhen we talk about doubt in Biblical terms we are talking about a doubt caused by fear or great disappointment/sorrow… wounds. We all doubt God at times, we all struggle with faith… means we’re human, not sinful.
2019-07-3051 minBridge Builders Community Church
Bridge Builders Community ChurchSin the Wound Maker Part 2 - PDFWhen we talk about doubt in Biblical terms we are talking about a doubt caused by fear or great disappointment/sorrow… wounds. We all doubt God at times, we all struggle with faith… means we’re human, not sinful.
2019-07-3000 minBridge Builders Community Church
Bridge Builders Community ChurchScars: Sin the Wound Maker Part 1 - AudioThere is no comfortable way to talk about sin and I think that’s a good thing. But we do NEED to talk about sin… in a way that brings life, growth and freedom. Especially when we discuss our wounds and the possible connection to sin.
2019-07-2121 minBridge Builders Community Church
Bridge Builders Community ChurchScars: Sin the Wound Maker Part 1 - PDFThere is no comfortable way to talk about sin and I think that’s a good thing. But we do NEED to talk about sin… in a way that brings life, growth and freedom. Especially when we discuss our wounds and the possible connection to sin.
2019-07-2100 minBridge Builders Community Church
Bridge Builders Community ChurchScars: Redemption Stories - Introduction - AudioWe need redemption stories. Reminders, testimonies of what God has done and what He promises to do in and through us… with us.
2019-07-1425 minBridge Builders Community Church
Bridge Builders Community ChurchScars: Redemption Stories - Introduction - PDFWe need redemption stories. Reminders, testimonies of what God has done and what He promises to do in and through us… with us.
2019-07-1400 minCoffee With Conrad
Coffee With ConradJay Cookingham - ForgivenessThis is an interview I did with Jay Cookingham about the Kingdom Key of FORGIVENESS. In this interview we discuss the biblical view of Forgiveness and how we can apply it in real life. In this interview:Unforgiveness is like a prison;Unforgiveness and torment Matt 18:Forgiveness is a Rescue; Jay's testimony of Abuse and Forgiveness; God shows up; What is true forgiveness?;Jay Cookingham from http://strategicfathering.com/You can get an ebook with a transcript of this conversation and all the interviews I did on the Kingdom...
2016-11-1619 minCoffee With Conrad
Coffee With ConradJay Cookingham Testimony for JesusAn interview with Jay Cookingham from Strategic Fathering Ministries. Jesus at seven years oldAbusive childhoodAlcohol and drugs Suicide Hearing God's VoiceForgivenessStrategic Fathering MinistriesSonship Man Up Moment radio program Fatherless home statisticsMentoring courageous http://amzn.to/1SuSfy7AccountabilityContact info http://strategicfathering.com/Jay PraysGenerational curse brokenWatch the video interview athttp://www.conradrocks.net/
2016-04-2932 minBridge Builders Community Church
Bridge Builders Community ChurchPass The Baton: Transfer Zone - AudioPastor Tim passes the baton to Jay Cookingham as he becomes lead pastor.
2014-08-3129 min