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Hacking Your ADHDThe Optimization Trap with Jaye LinThis week I’m talking with Jaye Lin — ADHD podcaster and community builder — who brings a uniquely grounded perspective on what it actually takes to work with our brains instead of constantly trying to outsmart them. I got to know Jaye at the 2024 ADHD Conference in Anaheim, where we met at a party hosted by the Attention Different crew (that’s an upcoming podcast with them as well). It was great because I had already been introduced to Jaye through her excellent podcast on Understood.org Tips From an ADHD Coach on the MissUnderstood: ADHD in Women channel. And it turns...2025-04-211h 03
MissUnderstood: The ADHD in Women ChannelSorry, I Missed This: The ADHD shame spiral from making mistakes in relationshipsA lot of shame can come up when a person with ADHD is confronted about a mistake they’ve made. They might start to spiral into bad feelings, and negative self-talk, when really the person bringing up the mistake most likely wants to repair their relationship, and even strengthen their bond.Host Cate Osborn chats to ADHD coach Jaye Lin about why this happens, and what we can do to “reverse the train” to stop the spiral. Jaye is the host of another show on the MissUnderstood podcast channel, Tips from an ADHD Coach. Related resourc...2025-02-2727 min
Sorry, I Missed This: The Everything Guide to ADHD and Relationships with Cate OsbornThe ADHD shame spiral from making mistakes in relationshipsJoin health and science journalist Danielle Elliot as she investigates the rise of women recently diagnosed with ADHD. Listen to Climbing the Walls now.A lot of shame can come up when a person with ADHD is confronted about a mistake they’ve made. They might start to spiral into bad feelings, and negative self-talk, when really the person bringing up the mistake most likely wants to repair their relationship, and even strengthen their bond.Host Cate Osborn chats to ADHD coach Jaye Lin about why this happens, and what we can do to “reverse the...2025-02-2527 min
MissUnderstood: The ADHD in Women ChannelTips from an ADHD Coach: Psychological safetyWe can feel more anxiety in some situations than others. Some people and settings may make us more on edge, and others more relaxed. Psychological safety is the freedom to be imperfect or to make mistakes without major consequences. With ADHD, psychological danger can be even more intense due to challenges with impulse control, executive dysfunction, and emotional dysregulation. ADHD coach Jaye Lin talks about what can make us feel more psychologically safe, and what can make us feel more anxious and dysregulated.Related resourcesManaging your emotions with ADHD: One lawyer’s storyADHD and...2024-11-1216 min
MissUnderstood: The ADHD in Women ChannelTips from an ADHD Coach: When ambition doesn’t match outputHave you ever made big plans for the day but ended up doing nothing on that list? The trouble with executive function that comes with ADHD can make planning, and actually starting on those plans difficult.ADHD coach Jaye Lin reacts to a quote on this very scenario. Listen to Jaye’s tips for managing our motivation and making progress. Related resources“You can’t have ADHD” (Farah Jamil’s story)How I beat my social media habit (and how you can too) How the Five-Second Rule changed my ADHD lifeTimestamps(00:40) Fa...2024-10-2914 min
Different Spectrums Podcast ™️Spirited: A Discussion on Toxic Caregivers and Professionals [Ft. Jaye Lin]In today’s podcast, we’re joined by ADHD coach and advocate, Jaye Lin, who brings a fresh perspective as we dive into the Apple TV movie Spirited starring Will Ferrell and Ryan Reynolds. 🎬
The focus shifts to caregivers in the mental health and medical fields, and the struggles they face in managing their own well-being while helping others. We discuss the concept of being "unredeemable"—how many of us avoid our own issues, because it's easier to fix others than to work on ourselves. 🛠️
Jaye and Dr. Naz don’t hold bac...2024-10-241h 58
MissUnderstood: The ADHD in Women ChannelTips from an ADHD Coach: The downsides of “making it work”People may assume that an ADHDer doesn’t struggle with something because it looks easy from the outside. Though they may be feeling challenged, they’re masking, or “making it work,” to get something done. ADHD coach Jaye Lin reacts to a quote about how “making it work” can lead to anxiety and depression. It can also make it easy to dismiss your own needs for support and accommodations. Listen for some tips that can help.Related resourcesADHD and the “model minority” mask (Emily’s story)Masking my ADHD at work was exhausting, so I stoppedTime...2024-10-1516 min
Sorry, I Missed This: The Everything Guide to ADHD and Relationships with Cate OsbornIs it love or is it dopamine? (from “Tips from an ADHD Coach” podcast)Have you ever impulsively thrown yourself into a relationship? Do you change your interests based on who you’re dating? Today, we're sharing an episode of the "Tips from an ADHD Coach" podcast on rushing into relationships that might not actually be what you want. ADHD coach Jaye Lin reacts to a quote on changing yourself in relationships. Listen for Jaye’s own connection to this, and some reality checks you can give yourself. Explore more episodes of "Tips from an ADHD Coach" and check out other podcasts on MissUnderstood: The ADHD in Women Channel.To ge...2024-10-0118 min
MissUnderstood: The ADHD in Women ChannelTips from an ADHD Coach: When the chaos stopsPeople with ADHD sometimes put off doing things because it feels like too much with “everything else” going on. But, when “everything else” stops and we have free time to do whatever we want, it can also make us unproductive. ADHD coach Jaye Lin talks about what happens when the chaos stops, but we still can’t get things done. Listen for some tips on how to get just the right amount of stress to actually be productive. Related resourcesWhen “ditzy” is finally diagnosed as ADHD (Jen’s story)Trouble getting work done is real. Executive...2024-10-0115 min
MissUnderstood: The ADHD in Women ChannelTips from an ADHD Coach: Impossible expectations for perfect outcomesDo you find yourself planning to go above and beyond often? What do you do when a voice you’ve made has gone the wrong way? Perfectionism can come up a lot with ADHD, especially in women. ADHD coach Jaye Lin reacts to a quote on pressuring ourselves to be perfect. Listen for why this anxiety might come up, and how to get real with yourself.Related resourcesAnxiety, imposter syndrome, and ADHD (Mallory’s story)ADHD and perfectionismADHD and anxietyTimestamps(00:47) Mallory’s quote(02:03) Jaye’s reaction(02:40...2024-09-1717 min
MissUnderstood: The ADHD in Women ChannelTips from an ADHD Coach: Identity after an ADHD diagnosisAfter getting an adult ADHD diagnosis, a lot of emotions can come up. And questions about who you are as a person, and what to do next — like, have I been masking my whole life? Will people close to me still like me if I change?ADHD coach Jaye Lin reacts to a quote on questioning who we are after finding out we have ADHD. Listen for some of Jaye’s own story about navigating her identity, and some reassurance that we are all of our layers. Related resources“I thought I was just quirky...2024-09-0315 min
MissUnderstood: The ADHD in Women ChannelTips from an ADHD Coach: Coping skills with consequencesDo you sometimes feel like you don’t have control over your life? Are there things you turn to in order to feel better that end up hurting you in the long run? Some coping skills, like impulsive spending, can make us feel like we have control over our lives in the moment. But, they end up harming us in the future and starting a cycle of powerlessness.ADHD coach Jaye Lin reacts to a quote on impulsive spending. Listen for Jaye’s take on borrowing control from the future, and some tips that can help.Re...2024-08-2018 min
MissUnderstood: The ADHD in Women ChannelTips from an ADHD Coach: Is it love or is it dopamine?Have you ever impulsively thrown yourself into a relationship? Do you change your interests based on who you’re dating? ADHD brains tend to have a lower baseline of dopamine. So, bursts of it can feel extra good. This can happen when we meet someone we like, and want them to like us back. ADHD coach Jaye Lin reacts to a quote on changing yourself in relationships from Ange’s ADHD Aha! podcast episode. Listen for Jaye’s own connection to this, and some reality checks you can give yourself.Related resourcesADHD, loving intense...2024-08-0617 min
MissUnderstood: The ADHD in Women ChannelTips from an ADHD Coach: Analysis paralysisMaking decisions is a complex process that uses a lot of executive function skills. This can be especially difficult for people with ADHD and can lead to “analysis paralysis,” or getting stuck on making a choice.ADHD coach Jaye Lin reacts to a quote on analysis paralysis from Emily’s ADHD Aha! podcast episode. Listen for some tips and tools that can help you unfreeze and act. Related resourcesNot lazy, but exhausted from analysis paralysis (Emily’s story)ADHD and “analysis paralysis”The Eisenhower Matrix
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MissUnderstood: The ADHD in Women ChannelTips from an ADHD Coach: InterruptingIt can be hard not to interrupt someone else speaking when you think of something you want to say — especially if you have ADHD. Maybe you’re worried you’ll forget your great point. Maybe you don’t want the conversation to move to a different topic. Maybe you’re just really excited to share. ADHD coach Jaye Lin reacts to a quote from Sam’s ADHD Aha! episode about interrupting during a conversation. Tune in to learn why this might happen, and some dos and don’ts for when you feel like you might blurt something out. Rel...2024-07-0914 min
MissUnderstood: The ADHD in Women ChannelTips from an ADHD Coach: GhostingADHD can make communication feel overwhelming sometimes. This can lead to ghosting a conversation or event altogether. Ghosting is when we disappear without an explanation — while messaging, in person, and more. ADHD coach Jaye Lin reacts to a quote on ghosting from Allison’s ADHD Aha! podcast episode. Tune in to learn why ghosting might happen, and some tips that can help.Related resourcesADHD, social awkwardness, and ghosting (Allison’s story)Sorry, ADHD made me leave your texts on readADHD and feelings of remorse
Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empo...2024-06-2516 min
MissUnderstood: The ADHD in Women ChannelWelcome to MissUnderstoodFor decades, women with ADHD have been overlooked and undiagnosed. That’s finally beginning to change. But there’s still so far to go. This is where MissUnderstood comes in. We’re a channel made by women with ADHD for women with ADHD. And we’re talking about the things we want to hear. Women with ADHD need (good!) information, smart takes on ADHD topics, and so much more.Hang out with @catieosaurus and guests as they discuss ADHD, relationships, and sex on Sorry, I Missed This. Get answers to the ADHD questions you didn’t know you...2024-06-1001 min
ADHD Aha!An ADHD coach on burnout (Jaye Lin’s story)ADHD coach Jaye Lin is no stranger to ADHD burnout. As an Asian American former gifted kid with undiagnosed ADHD, her parents thought she was just being lazy and not applying herself. This pressure and shame followed until her 30s, when her anxiety peaked while she was working at a high-pressure job. Jaye’s therapist thought she was drug-seeking when she wanted to be screened for ADHD. Now, Jaye builds communities and helps others prioritize what’s important when tunnel vision takes over our lives. To get a transcript of this show and check out more e...2024-04-1635 min
Now Presenting: ADHDBroken Feedback LoopsIs this something you resonate with? Questioning your self concept, achievements, and victories because of the negative feedback you’ve received in your life? If you do resonate with this, you’re not alone.Now Presenting, ADHD, and Broken Feedback LoopsIf you have questions or would like to give suggestions for future episodes, send us an email at info@npadhd.com. To listen to all episodes, view show notes and transcripts, or learn more about host Jaye Lin, visit our website at www.npadhd.com. Follow us on Instagram @npadhdpodcast and @adhdjaye.2024-02-2219 minNow Presenting: ADHDRecovering from BurnoutIs this something you resonate with? Feeling frustrated that your body and brain aren’t able to do what you want to? Feeling the looming of failure because those lofty plans that were made can’t possibly be followed through on? Losing your zest for life with each passing day? If you do resonate with this, you’re not alone.Now Presenting, ADHD, and Recovering from Burnout.If you have questions or would like to give suggestions for future episodes, send us an email at info@npadhd.com. To listen to all episodes, view show notes...2023-12-2821 min
This Week In Fandom HistoryOctober 26, 2017: The Hamilton Cannibal Mermaid HIVliving WankWhat an amazing bowl of word salad! Yes, those words are all in the right order, and this week, V and Emily explain how, why, and who the culprits were in this fandom wank of epic proportions. It's got everything. Cannibal mermaids. Chinese-Pakistani sex trafficking survivors. Politician RPF writers. Lin... Manuel... Miranda. This is truly one of the fannish implosions of all time. Were you involved in Hamilton fandom? Did you read either of the fics in this tale?2023-11-0758 minNow Presenting: ADHDWhen anticipation feels better than the real thingIs this something you resonate with? Getting a huge rush of excitement in the lead up to something you’re anticipating, only to find yourself at a lower excitement level when you’re actually experiencing it? If you do resonate with this, you’re not alone.Now Presenting, ADHD, and when anticipation feels better than the real thing.If you have questions or would like to give suggestions for future episodes, send us an email at info@npadhd.com. To listen to all episodes, view show notes and transcripts, or learn more about host Jaye Lin, v...2023-08-3114 min
My Lady ADHDDisclosing your ADHD with Jaye LinHave you struggled to find a way to disclose your ADHD at work, to your family, to friends? Join me as I chat with ADHD Coach, Jaye Lin, about the up-sides of disclosure and how to prepare yourself for that (sometimes tricky) conversation. Guest:Jaye Lin is an ADHD Coach, Educator, Speaker, and Podcaster based in the Seattle area. Before starting her own ADHD coaching practice, she was the first and only ADHD-trained peer coach at Google, where she also co-founded and co-led the ADHD-Women@Google ERG.Jaye is also the co-founder of T...2023-08-0952 minNow Presenting: ADHDDifficulties with Self PromotionIs this something you resonate with? Not being able to articulate your worth to your organizations, families, friends, and the world? Feeling uncomfortable speaking favorably about yourself, even though you know others do it, and are rewarded for it? Not allowing yourself to receive credit for all of the work you are proud of doing, because it somehow doesn’t feel right? If you do resonate with this, you’re not alone.Now Presenting, ADHD, and Difficulties with Self PromotionIf you have questions or would like to give suggestions for future episodes, send us an e...2023-08-0919 minNow Presenting: ADHDIdentifying & Advocating for our NeedsIs this something you resonate with? Not wanting to take or even ask for accommodations, because it doesn’t quite feel like a need? Living your life in fractions, because you’re convinced that asking for more is unreasonable? If you do resonate with this, you’re not alone.Now Presenting, ADHD, and identifying and advocating for our needs.If you have questions or would like to give suggestions for future episodes, send us an email at info@npadhd.com. To listen to all episodes, view show notes and transcripts, or learn more about host Jaye L...2023-07-2822 min
Refocused, A Podcast All About ADHDUnderstanding ADHD & Anxiety – In Our LivesWe’re trying something a little different this week. We’ve just finished back-to-back episodes with Dr. Marcy Caldwell talking about ADHD & Anxiety, and we thought that it would be good to revisit some of the things in those episodes that resonated with us as neurodivergents. Joining us is Jaye Lin, an ADHD coach, educator, speaker, and podcaster based in the Seattle area. Like many of us, she too has dealt with anxiety. In fact, before her ADHD diagnosis, she was diagnosed with Generalized Anxiety Disorder and Panic Disorder. Also joining the show is Phil Rodemann, the show’s Coordi...2023-07-2437 minRefocused, A Podcast All About ADHDUnderstanding ADHD & Anxiety – In Our LivesWe’re trying something a little different this week. We’ve just finished back-to-back episodes with Dr. Marcy Caldwell talking about ADHD & Anxiety, and we thought that it would be good to revisit some of the things in those episodes that resonated with us as neurodivergents. Joining us is Jaye Lin, an ADHD coach, educator, speaker, and podcaster based in the Seattle area. Like many of us, she too has dealt with anxiety. In fact, before her ADHD diagnosis, she was diagnosed with Generalized Anxiety Disorder and Panic Disorder. Also joining the show is Phil Rodemann, the show’s Coordi...2023-07-2437 minNow Presenting: ADHDWhen we do something embarrassingIs this something you resonate with? Using hypervigilance and anxiety to prevent the feelings of embarrassment and shame? Having such strong responses to feeling embarrassed that you go out of your way to prevent it from happening? If you do resonate with this, you’re not alone.Now Presenting, ADHD, and when we do something embarrassing.If you have questions or would like to give suggestions for future episodes, send us an email at info@npadhd.com. To listen to all episodes, view show notes and transcripts, or learn more about host Ja...2023-06-2714 minNow Presenting: ADHDMeasuring SuccessIs this something you resonate with? Seeing any bump in the road, setback, lack of overwhelming support or praise, or mistake as a signal of failure? Having those fears of failure be so strong that you tend to quit, and now you’ve started to doubt your abilities to follow through at all? If you do resonate with this, you’re not alone.Now Presenting, ADHD, and Measuring SuccessIf you have questions or would like to give suggestions for future episodes, send us an email at info@npadhd.com. To listen to all episodes, view...2023-06-1316 minNow Presenting: ADHDConscientious Self CareIs this something you resonate with? Doing self care, and not having it make an impact? Feeling burned out on a regular basis, but not being able to find anything to remedy the situation? If you do resonate with this, you’re not alone.Now Presenting, ADHD, and Conscientious Self CareIf you have questions or would like to give suggestions for future episodes, send us an email at info@npadhd.com. To listen to all episodes, view show notes and transcripts, or learn more about host Jaye Lin, visit our website at...2023-05-3116 minNow Presenting: ADHDJustice SensitivityIs this something you resonate with? Feeling so strongly about the injustices of the world, both toward you and toward others, that it feels overwhelming, and you feel a drive to do something? That it’s wild that people don’t care more about this subject, and that we aren’t collectively doing enough? That you feel so strongly about this injustice or atrocity that it can sometimes lead to heated arguments with others, and fractured relationships? If you do resonate with this, you’re not alone.Now Presenting: ADHD, and Justice SensitivityIf you have que...2023-05-1822 minNow Presenting: ADHDPutting Things OffIs this something you resonate with? Putting certain things off day after day? If so, you’re not alone.Now Presenting, ADHD, and putting things off.If you have questions or would like to give suggestions for future episodes, send us an email at info@npadhd.com. To listen to all episodes, view show notes and transcripts, or learn more about host Jaye Lin, visit our website at www.npadhd.com. Follow us on Instagram @npadhdpodcast and @adhdjaye.2023-04-2518 minNow Presenting: ADHDOveridentificationIs this something you resonate with? Identifying with qualities about yourself that may keep you boxed into them? Telling yourself that this is just who you are, and there’s nothing you can do about it? If you do, you’re not alone.Now Presenting, ADHD, and overidentification.If you have questions or would like to give suggestions for future episodes, send us an email at info@npadhd.com. To listen to all episodes, view show notes and transcripts, or learn more about host Jaye Lin, visit our website at www.npadhd.com. Foll...2023-03-2816 minNow Presenting: ADHDEmotional ReactivityIs this something you resonate with? Having an overwhelming emotional response when given negative feedback, and reacting with defensiveness, lashing out, or being visibly distraught? If you do, you’re not alone.Now Presenting, ADHD, and Emotional ReactivityIf you have questions or would like to give suggestions for future episodes, send us an email at info@npadhd.com. To listen to all episodes, view show notes and transcripts, or learn more about host Jaye Lin, visit our website at www.npadhd.com. Follow us on Instagram @npadhdpodcast and @adhdjaye.2023-03-0216 minNow Presenting: ADHDWhen it all falls downJaye shares her experience with falling down, when her inner critic became the loudest voice in her head. This is a non-scripted episode, and may contain elements that can stir up similar feelings within you. Please take care of yourself when listening.If you have questions or would like to give suggestions for future episodes, send us an email at info@npadhd.com. To listen to all episodes, view show notes and transcripts, or learn more about host Jaye Lin, visit our website at www.npadhd.com. Follow us on Instagram @npadhdpodcast and @adhdjaye.2023-02-1519 min