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Pacific Time: The "What if...?" of West Coast Independence39 What If Women’s Sports Have Found Their West Coast Headquarters? With Jen BarnesSeattle’s Rough & Tumble is a sports bar centered on women's sports and women sports fans that also happens to be a really fun place for any sports fan to watch a game. Founder Jen Barnes joins Pacific Time to talk about representation, cultural power, and why the West Coast might be the birthplace of a new era in sports fandom.SummaryWomen’s sports are exploding in talent, investment, and fan enthusiasm—but legacy sports culture and sports media haven’t kept up. When Jen Barnes couldn’t even find a bar willing to turn on a big m...
2025-12-1548 min
the weekly seattleweek of dec 8: restaurants & women's sports with Jen Barnes - Rough & TumbleRough & Tumble JUST opened a new location in Columbia City so we brought back the Founder & Owner to fill us in on the behind-the-scenes of what it's like opening a second location of her iconic sports bar in Seattle. Jen Barnes shares what challenges she had to overcome to be able to stream women's sports in her restaurants and the legal battle she got into with HBO. We talk about how the minimum wage increase has impacted her business, why many restaurants are combining themes/entertainment with their brick and mortar, and how Seattle is preparing for FIFA! You'll...
2025-12-0741 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️Is It ADHD, Anxiety, or Depression?Ever fantasized about quitting everything and disappearing for a month?
That urge to escape might be more than burnout.
In this episode, we’ll unpack the hidden overlap between ADHD, anxiety, and depression—especially in high-achieving women who have spent their lives masking, people-pleasing, and pushing through.
I’ll share my own story of “smiling depression” as a successful actuary, when everything looked fine on the outside but felt overwhelming inside.
You’ll hear about the subtle ways depression and anxiety can show up when ADHD goes unrecognized—like emotional numbness, chronic tiredn...
2025-09-1736 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️Why High-Achieving Women Think They Can’t Be ADHDWhy High-Achieving Women Think They Can’t Be ADHD
So many ADHD women don’t even consider the possibility that they have ADHD—especially if they’ve been successful on the outside.
If you’ve ever thought: “But I did well in school… I’m productive at work… I can hyper-focus when I need to… there’s no way I could be ADHD,” you’re not alone.
In this episode, I’m breaking down the 10 hidden reasons high-achieving women doubt, dismiss, or completely miss their ADHD diagnosis. From the masking trifecta to external structures that hid the stru...
2025-09-1025 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️Urgent vs. Important with ADHD: Why Distractions Feel Impossible to ResistUrgent vs. Important with ADHD: Why Distractions Feel Impossible to Resist
Have you ever sat down to do one simple thing — like send an email — and forty minutes later you’ve chased a dozen distractions, fixed something that wasn’t urgent, and now you feel scattered and frustrated?
That’s the ADHD distraction cycle. In this episode, I’m unpacking why ADHD brains treat everything like it’s urgent, how dopamine and working memory drive us toward rabbit holes, and the emotional side of people-pleasing and perfectionism that make it worse.
You’ll learn simple, AD...
2025-09-0314 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️Stop ADHD OverthinkingEver get stuck in a loop, replaying conversations, overanalyzing decisions, or spiraling in self-doubt?
You’re not alone—and it’s not just anxiety.
In this episode, Jen breaks down the neuroscience behind ADHD overthinking, how it's different from anxiety, and why traditional advice like “just stop thinking about it” never works for ADHD brains.
You'll learn:
5 brain-based reasons ADHD overthinking happens
How to spot the difference between ADHD and anxiety spirals
What to do in the moment to ground and move forward
Simple daily habits to reduce overthinking long-term
Plus, Je...
2025-07-3039 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️Stop "Controlling" Your Emotions with ADHD: How to ACTUALLY Work with Big FeelingsStop "Controlling" Your Emotions with ADHD: How to ACTUALLY Work with Big Feelings
Do you ever feel like your emotions are just too much—or maybe like you’ve suppressed them so long that you barely feel them at all?
If you're an ADHD woman who’s been told you’re “too sensitive,” or if you’ve spent years trying to manage or control your emotions so others won’t be uncomfortable, this episode is a must-listen.
In this raw and compassionate episode, we’ll unpacks how emotional suppression harms ADHD women—and...
2025-07-1622 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️ADHD Women and Burnout: Why You're Exhausted and How Feminine Energy Can Help with Eleonore de PossonHealing ADHD Burnout by Reclaiming Your Feminine Power (with Eleonore de Posson)
If you’ve ever found yourself teetering on the edge of burnout—over-functioning, disconnected from your body, and stuck in “fix it” mode—this episode is your permission slip to pause.
This week, I’m re-airing one of the most powerful conversations I’ve had on the podcast, with spiritual teacher and author Eleonore de Posson. And I’m doing it for a reason: I’ve been living in burnout recovery myself. After months of falling into hustle patterns and misaligned doing, I chose to stop. To...
2025-07-021h 14
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️How to Remember to DO the Skill in the Moment When You Need it MostHow to Remember to DO the Skill in the Moment When You Need it Most
Ever learned a great ADHD strategy… only to completely forget to use it when you actually needed it? You're not alone—and you're definitely not doing it wrong.
In this episode of The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way, Jen Barnes shares two ADHD-friendly approaches to help you actually remember to use your regulation skills and strategies in real time. You'll learn how to work with your brain (not against it) by creating future anchors and calling in your inner Follow-Through Fairy 🧚♀️—yes, really.
2025-06-2511 min
Sustainable in the Suburbs5: How to Navigate Climate Emotions and Build Community Around You with Jen KnochHow do we hold the grief, rage, and love that come with caring deeply about the climate crisis and still keep going? In this conversation, I’m joined by my friend Jen Knoch, a Toronto-based sustainability advocate and the creator of the Climate Emotions Retreat, to explore what it looks like to feel these emotions fully, stay rooted in care, and take meaningful action alongside others.Whether you’re feeling overwhelmed, inspired, or somewhere in between, this episode is a reminder that you don’t have to hold it all alone — and that small acts of tending and care...
2025-06-171h 05
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️ADHD and Cognitive Distortions🎙 Episode 103: ADHD and Cognitive Distortions – What They Are and What to Do Instead
Do you ever spiral over something small—like a dead bug on the floor—and suddenly you’re convinced your whole life is unraveling?
That’s not just anxiety. That’s a cognitive distortion—and ADHD brains are especially prone to them.
In this episode, Jen Barnes, ADHD Success Coach and host of The Self-Loved ADHD Woman’s Way, shares the 7 most common cognitive distortions that ADHD women struggle with, why they happen, and what you can do to catch them before...
2025-06-1127 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️ADHD Self-Doubt: How to Stop Chasing External Answers and Do What Works🎧 ADHD Self-Doubt – How to Stop Chasing External Answers and Do What Works
If you're an ADHD woman who's ever thought, "Maybe I just need one more course, one more expert, one more answer to finally figure it all out," you're not alone—and this episode is for you.
In this raw, eye-opening conversation, Jen shares her personal journey through self-doubt, perfectionism, and a $55,000 wake-up call that exposed just how much she had been outsourcing her power. From over-functioning to over-spending in search of external solutions, she breaks down how even high-achieving ADHD women can fall in...
2025-06-0429 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️ADHD Foods to AVOID: How to Stop Exacerbating Your ADHD with What You EatIn this episode of the ADHD Success Coach Podcast, Jen breaks down:
Why ADHD women are more sensitive to blood sugar crashes and sugar spikes
How sugar gives a dopamine hit—but causes a crash that worsens ADHD symptoms
What the stress response has to do with your lunch (yep, really!)
The impact of perimenopause on ADHD and food sensitivities
What kinds of carbs support your brain—and which ones dysregulate you
How to build ADHD-friendly meals and snacks using protein, fiber, fat, and hydration
Red flag...
2025-05-2836 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️Can't Focus On Anything: Reset Your Productive Day with ADHDEver feel like your brain is both frozen AND scattered at the same time? Like you feel that vibrating, urgency type energy in your body but you just can’t even?
This happened to me TODAY - the day I had an entirely different podcast episode I wanted to record. It was like a sign from the universe to share what you can do when this happens.
In this episode we’ll explore what this feels like, what is happening, and how to come out of it without shame (or at least less shame if you st...
2025-05-0724 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️How to Cultivate Lasting Motivation for Your ADHD JourneysIf motivation feels like it comes in hot and then vanishes without warning, you’re not broken—and you’re definitely not alone.
In this episode, I’m getting real about what it takes to cultivate sustainable motivation when you have ADHD. I’m sharing why the usual advice ("just be more disciplined") doesn’t work for our brains, and what to do instead.
I’ll walk you through the science of motivation and dopamine, and five ADHD-friendly strategies that actually help you start things—and keep going. Plus, I’ll talk about the importance of making progress...
2025-04-3013 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️Rage is Necessary: Why Anger Management Won't Help You Calm DownDo you find yourself feeling guilty or even ashamed of your anger? Or maybe you have people telling you not to get so upset? (Or even a spouse who tells you that you have an “anger problem” when the reality is you are the one carry all of the mental load and most of the physical load of your household?)
You are not alone. Unfortunately, this is not uncommon for women.
The problem is, our rage, our anger is both valid and necessary. It sends us the message that something isn’t okay and encourages us to take...
2025-04-2329 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️How to Do What You KNOW You Need for Your ADHDYa know how there are things you could do that you KNOW would help your ADHD, but how you just can’t seem to do them?
If this is you, you’re not alone. This is one of the most common things I hear from ADHD women.
AND, in our last episode we explored an amazing tool from motivational interviewing to help.
BUT what if you tried it and it didn’t work? Or you can’t even get yourself to do it?
That’s what this episode is for! We’ll dive deeper...
2025-04-1631 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️How to Get Yourself To Do Your ADHD CareOne of the biggest struggles I see in ADHD women is getting themselves to do the things they know would help their ADHD - things I call “ADHD care”. Given the busy-ness most women, especially ADHD women, experience, plus the way our brains are wired, this makes sense. It truly can be hard to get ourselves to do stuff. AND, it’s possible.
In this episode we’ll explore the challenges of getting yourself to do your ADHD care consistently, what ADHD care really is and how it shifts, and how to get yourself to do it. I’ll...
2025-04-0931 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️Two CRUCIAL Practices to Stop an RSD Spiral with ADHDToday, we're diving into one of the most intense emotional struggles for ADHDers: Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria, or RSD. If you've ever felt like a single comment or perceived criticism sent you into a tailspin—overthinking, self-blame, that heavy emotional crash—you are so not alone. I've been there. Recently.
But here's the good news: there's a way out of the spiral.
In this episode, I’m sharing two crucial practices that helped me stop an RSD spiral in its tracks—real talk, no fluff.
One is about embracing radical acceptance (even when it feels im...
2025-04-0217 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️How to Overcome ADHD Task Paralysis: Two Shifts No One is Talking AboutHow to Overcome ADHD Task Paralysis: Two Shifts No One is Talking About
You know that moment when you need to start something—maybe it’s an email, a project, or just loading the dishwasher—but instead, you’re frozen? Like your brain is spinning in circles, screaming just do it, while your body refuses to cooperate?
That’s ADHD task paralysis, and if you’ve ever been trapped in that stuck feeling, you know how frustrating—no, maddening—it can be.
Everyone talks about breaking tasks down into smaller steps or setting timers. But what...
2025-03-2622 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️ADHD and Justice Sensitivity: How to Cope with Trump 2.0Podcast Introduction: "ADHD and Justice Sensitivity: How to Cope with Trump 2.0"
Do you ever feel like your sense of justice is cranked up to full volume—so loud it’s impossible to ignore? Like you’re walking around with an internal siren that blares at every unfairness, every hypocrisy, every outright attack on basic human rights?
If you’re an ADHD woman, chances are you’re nodding along right now. Justice sensitivity isn’t just something we care about—it’s wired into us. And in times like these, when the news feels like a never-ending str...
2025-03-2035 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️Procrastination or Perfectionism? The Hidden Struggle No One Talks AboutProcrastination or Perfectionism? The Hidden Struggle No One Talks About
Have you ever stared at your to-do list, knowing exactly what you need to do—but somehow, you just can’t start? Or maybe you start, but then obsess over every little detail until you feel completely stuck? What if I told you that procrastination and perfectionism aren’t opposites—but two sides of the same ADHD struggle?
In today’s episode, we’re unpacking the perfectionism-procrastination loop—why so many ADHD entrepreneurs get trapped in it and, most importantly, how to break free.
Because...
2025-03-1225 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️How Traditional Therapy Harms ADHDers and What to Do InsteadTraditional therapy can be super harmful to ADHDers (even with well-meaning therapists). In this episode, we’ll unpack how that happens and what to do instead.
You’ll walk away with clarity around what you truly need to navigate this neurotypical world effectively with your ADHD brain, without losing yourself in the process.
Be sure to listen!
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2025-03-0521 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️When Tasks Feel PAINFUL with ADHD and How to Get Yourself to Do It AnywayEver notice how it feels almost painful to get yourself to do certain tasks? Or loke there is a complete block to even starting even when you want to?
This is super common with ADHD and is what we will explore together in this episode.
When we feel blocked around a task and don’t find a way to do it, we often end up with unfavorable consequences like penalties and fees, people being mad at or disappointed in us, losing things, or even having more disorganized space all of which exacerbates our ADHD and can...
2025-02-2625 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️How to Communicate Authentically with ADHD and Avoid TroubleTo mask or unmask? This is often a serious question that many ADHD Women face - even if only subconsciously.
It’s tricky because when we mask and communicate in neurotypical ways, we more easily avoid getting into “trouble” or rejected with a massive RSD hangover.
But then, we may come across as inauthentic and feel like no one gets us, making us feel alone and even rejected.
I won’t pretend ot have all of the answers here and yet will share ideas on how to navigate what feel like complex social interact...
2025-02-1930 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️3 Essential Practices to Stop Scary Times from Exacerbating Your ADHDIn work, I have been noticing a lot of people struggling with the major changes going on in our country and challenges in the world. In this episode, we will acknowledge, validate, and work to understand how this is particularly hard for we ADHD women given our tendency to be highly sensitive, more easily overwhelmed by our emotions and external experiences, and our propensity towards social justice.
Further, we will explore three essential practices to do right now to effectively navigate the challenges surfacing based on world events.
Without this piece, as ADHDers, we may e...
2025-02-1248 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️How to Find Clarity and Rewire Your Subconscious to Manifest Your DreamsIn this episode we have another special guest - Oneisha Lee, a manifestation and spirituality coach who helps people rewire their subconscious mind for success.
Together we dig into finding clarity, how to rewire your subconscious mind, and manifestation, all in service of creating the life of your dreams.
She shares two secret tricks for aligning with who you really are and manifesting what you deeply desire.
AND, we explore how this fits in with our lives as ADHD women entrepreneurs.
You’ll walk away with specific strategies to try to he...
2025-02-0539 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️How to Overcome the Biggest Obstacle to Motivation and Focus with ADHDGetting focused and motivated with ADHD in our neurotypical society can be challenging and there is one thing that can make it feel almost impossible.
This “one thing” is a dysregulated nervous system.
In this episode we explore what that means, why it’s a huge problem for focusing and getting yourself to start and complete tasks with ADHD, and what to do about it.
You’ll walk away with how to overcome this additional obstacle and hear about a way to get help on following through with this work.
If you want...
2025-01-2225 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️How to Use the Wisdom of Your Body to Grow Your Business with ADHDThere’s a resource we all have that not many entrepreneurs tap into, often because they don’t know it’s an option or don’t know how to do it. This resource is the body- really a gateway to inner wisdom.
When you are able to tap into this resource you will navigate your business from a more grounded, wise, and intuitive place - you’ll be in alignment. When this happens, you will be able to draw your ideal clients to you with greater ease, prioritize with greater clarity, and be able to serve in more effecti...
2025-01-1519 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️How to Stop Pushing and Hustling and Still Crush It with ADHDIn this episode we explore the cycle of pushing and hustling (followed by crashing) and how it hurts your business and your life. Because the thing is, continuing to push and hustle is not only bad for business, it’s bad for your health.
By the end of our time together you will be able to spot this ineffective pattern more quickly and be able to shift out of it and align with your highest energy so you are more productive and efficient as well as more authentic and genuine so that you can really help your cli...
2025-01-0824 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️Navigating the Business of a Creative with ADHD with Janel KoloskiJoin me for a conversation with Janel Koloski, actor, model, producer, coach of creatives, and more.
In this episode we explore navigating the world of a creative with ADHD from how to deal with rejection (RSD anyone?) to getting jobs, to making time for self-care, and more. Janel is down-to-earth, fun, and filled with wise one-liners sure to help any ADHD woman in business be it as a creative or otherwise.
If you’re a creative wondering how to “make-it” follow Janel on Instagram and DM to learn how to work with her...
2025-01-0150 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️How to Manifest the People You Want in Your Business and Your LifeJoin me for a conversation with Michelle Chung on manifesting the people you seek in your life and your business. Michelle is the international bestselling Author of “How to Stop Dating & Be In An Effortless, Committed Relationship” and podcast “Love, Life & Energy”, a Women’s Soulmate Manifestation Coach, certified Life coach and trained in Kinesiology and Mind Body Medicine, Entrepreneur and Property Investor with a background in industrial design, fashion and manufacturing.
In this episode we talk about how to manifest the right clients for your business, and what actually gets in the way of attracting them into your l...
2024-12-2516 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️How Putting Everyone Else First is Wrecking Your BusinessAs young girls, we women were trained to put others before ourselves. Couple that with some of the ways we ADHDers leavened to mask and you end up with difficulty prioritizing yourself.
In this episode, we’ll unpack how this happened and what makes it such a problem for your business. And I’ll share how you can start working on this today so you can keep this pattern from wrecking your business.
Be sure to listen!
If you’re ready to overcome the invisible ADHD obstacles holding you back, then you’re invited to...
2024-12-1822 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️How ADHD Women Lost Our Curiosity and How to Take It BackHi,
I’ve noticed a common pattern in ADHD women - especially those of us over 40 given how we grew up - that negatively impacts our businesses… it’s limited or a complete lack of curiosity.
I know this pattern well both personally and professionally, and have had to work to take back my curiosity to help my business.
In this episode, we’ll break down how we lost our curiosity, the problems it creates for our businesses, and my strategy for how to take it back.
If you to, have lost your...
2024-12-1128 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️The ADHD Masking Trifecta: How to Function When It Stops WorkingIn this episode, we dig into the ADHD Masking Trifecta - Overfunctioning, People Pleasing, and Perfectionism - that many of us high-functioning ADHD women adopted (often subconsciously as kids) to be able to function with ADHD. We’ll explore signs that it is no longer working and what to do instead.
This is essential - especially for ADHD Women Entrepreneurs - both because we need to show up authentically in our business to attract our ideal clients and because masking in this way eventually creates problems with functioning instead of increasing our ability to function (not to ment...
2024-12-0442 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️How to Cope with Grief and LossExperiencing grief and loss in our culture is often tough because no one really talks about it so few really know how to cope with it or even how to talk to the grieving. ADHD adds a layer of challenge to this.
In this episode, we explore the unique ways ADHD impacts the grief process as well as how to cope with grief and loss.
Without this work, grief and loss builds up over the years and can come out in unexpected ways - both emotionally and physically.
You’ll walk away from thi...
2024-11-2739 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️How do we highly sensitive women navigate our big feelings after the electionHi everyone,
The day following the election in the States, I connected with a lot of people - clients, friends, acquaintances and more - all of whom were women and some of whom are in the queer community. I noticed that a lot of us were (maybe still are) rightfully feeling some big and heavy stuff.
To meet the moment, in this episode we talk about how we highly sensitive women navigate our big feelings after the election.
You may be wondering why someone whose focus is ADHD Women Entrepreneurs talking about this. I g...
2024-11-2036 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️Why Procrastination Works but Makes Your ADHD WorseHey everyone,
In this episode we explore why and how procrastination works to get yourself to do stuff with ADHD and how it actually makes your ADHD worse.
It turns out, there are at least six other ways to work with your brain wiring to get yourself to do stuff that don’t have the same negative effects as procrastination can.
Plus, there are three essential pieces of ADHD motivation to consider that are often overlooked.
By the end of this episode, you’ll know the four essential things you need to h...
2024-11-1328 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️How the Most Overlooked Challenge for ADHD Women Keeps You SmallIn this episode we explore a commonly ignored and overlooked challenge many ADHD women face, that keeps you and your business small AND, what to do about it.
When ADHD Women Entrepreneurs aren’t aware of and actively addressing this challenges, it keeps you from doing the work you need to do - inside and out - to build and grow a prosperous, meaningful business.
By the end of this episode, you’ll have clarity around the problem, how to spot it when it arises, and what to do about it.
In...
2024-11-0634 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️Mindsets about Your ADHD - Are They Supporting or Damaging Your Business?Hey everyone,
Welcome to the Self-Loved Women Podcast. In today's episode of the Self-Loved Woman Podcast, I'm diving deep into the world of ADHD. We'll be exploring the complexities of this type of neurodivergence, including the ongoing debate about whether it should be classified as a disability or simply a neurodivergent trait.
Personal Reflections
I'll be sharing my own experiences with ADHD, as well as insights from various individuals who have been navigating this condition. We'll discuss the personal and societal implications of both labels, and how they can impact our sense of s...
2024-10-3028 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️How to Not Let the Chaos of the World Wreck Your BusinessHey everyone,
Welcome to the Self Loved Woman Podcast! Today, I'm diving deep into a topic that's been weighing heavy on my mind lately: how to navigate the chaos of our world while staying compassionate and focused on our businesses, especially when you have ADHD.
The ADHD Brain and Sensitivity: As someone with ADHD, I've noticed that I'm particularly sensitive to global events. The constant stream of bad news can trigger feelings of overwhelm and anxiety.
Compassion and Business: Finding the balance between compassion and business focus can be tricky. It's important to stay i...
2024-10-2330 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️Why Pushing and Hustling is Destructive for ADHD Women EntrepreneursHi everyone!
Welcome back to the Self-Loved Woman Podcast. Today, I'm diving into a topic that's close to my heart and probably yours too: the impact of hustle culture on ADHD women entrepreneurs.
The Challenges of Hustle Culture
We've all felt the pressure to constantly be "on," to always be striving for more. But for ADHD women, this relentless pursuit of success can be especially challenging. We're already juggling so much, and the added stress of hustle culture can take a toll on our mental and physical health.
The Detriments of C...
2024-10-1633 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️Your Business Needs You to Get out of the Suck of ADHD and Embrace the SolutionJoin me on the Self Loved Woman Podcast to explore how to embrace neurodivergence and thrive with ADHD.
I'll share some of my personal journey, highlight the importance of validating experiences, and discuss overcoming the challenges of ADHD.
Learn how to unlock your potential by leaning into discomfort and setting up your life to work with your ADHD. This episode provides practical steps to move from feeling stuck to embracing possibility, focusing on personal growth and acceptance.
00:00 Introduction to Embracing Neurodivergence
00:34 Understanding the Pain of ADHD
01:48 The Importance of Validating Feelings
03:31 Trauma and ADHD: The Connection
06:12 Possibilities Beyond ADHD
07:21 Jen's Personal...
2024-10-0931 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️Why ADHD High Achievers Struggle in Business and What to Do About ItWelcome to the Self-Loved Woman Podcast! In today's episode, I'm diving deep into the unique struggles faced by ADHD women entrepreneurs. As someone who's navigated this path firsthand, I'll share personal stories and insights on over-functioning, high achievement, and how these coping mechanisms can both help and hinder our entrepreneurial journeys.
Over functioning and High Achievement: A Double-Edged Sword
For many of us, over-functioning and high achievement have been our go-to strategies for dealing with ADHD. They've helped us excel in school and other settings, but as entrepreneurs, they can lead to burnout and dysregulation...
2024-10-0221 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️Why You'll Have a Hard Time in Business If You Never Consider Your PastHey there,
Welcome to the Self-Loved Woman Podcast. I'm Jen Barnes, and today we're diving deep into something that often gets overlooked in the world of entrepreneurship: the impact of unresolved past trauma and wounds.
Highlighting three types of entrepreneurs, I identify how past events can hinder one's ability to start or grow a business.
We then delve into how trauma affects the brain and body, emphasizing the need to recognize and address these hidden obstacles. We’ll explore insights on working through trauma using parts work and somatic methods.
2024-09-2526 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️How to Improve Your Focus with ADHD: It's probably WHAT you Think, but Not HowWelcome to the Self Loved Woman Podcast!
Today, I'm diving deep into a topic that's near and dear to my heart: mindfulness for ADHD. As someone who's navigated the ups and downs of this type of neurodivergene, I've found that mindfulness has been a game-changer in helping me focus, reduce stress, and connect with myself on a deeper level.
Understanding ADHD and Focus:
Let's talk about ADHD. We all know the struggle – the racing thoughts, the difficulty staying on task, and the constant feeling of being overwhelmed. But did you know that mindfulness ca...
2024-09-1838 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️How To Spot When Inner ADHD Obstacles Are Holding you backIn this episode of the Self Loved Woman Podcast, Jen Barnes discusses how to identify and overcome internal obstacles, especially fear, that hold ADHD women back in their personal and professional lives. She highlights the challenges arising from fear, perfectionism, decision paralysis, and imposter syndrome, and announces a free three-part live virtual training starting August 1, 2024, aimed at equipping women with ADHD-specific strategies to build prosperous and meaningful businesses. Jen also introduces Internal Family Systems (IFS) as a therapeutic technique to address these issues.
Want to do some of this deeper work with me for free?
2024-09-1019 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️The 4 Non ADHD Thieves Stealing Your Productivity From Your BusinessIn this episode, I discuss four non-ADHD thieves of productivity that significantly impact both personal and business life: the inability to say no, fear of chaos, poor health habits, and unsupportive environments. Drawing insights from Gary Keller and Jay Papasan’s book, "The One Thing," I break down how these factors uniquely affect individuals with ADHD, sharing personal anecdotes and practical advice. I emphasize the importance of setting boundaries, maintaining good health practices, and creating a supportive environment to enhance productivity and grow one's business.
If you’re not already, be sure to follow The Self...
2024-09-0531 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️How I 10x My Confidence As An Entrepreneur And How You Can TooIn this episode of the Self Loved Woman Podcast, I share my personal journey of overcoming mental health challenges and embracing my neurodivergence. I'll offer practical tips on how to increase self-confidence, practice mindfulness tailored for ADHD, and establish a productive morning routine. Together, we'll explore the significance of self-talk, the power of gratitude, and the importance of eliminating energy-draining habits. With relatable anecdotes and actionable advice, this episode provides a roadmap for anyone looking to boost their confidence and lead a more fulfilling life.
If you’re not already, be sure to follow The Sel...
2024-08-2831 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️You Are Not A Failure And An 'Underachieving' Isn't Real And How To Heal From ItIn this episode of the Self Loved Woman Podcast, I explore the lesser-discussed experience of living with ADHD without masking symptoms through overachievement or high functionality. I delve into how complex trauma can affect our ability to manage ADHD and acknowledge the unique challenges and paths we each take. I emphasize the importance of self-compassion, challenge the 'underachiever' narrative, and validate the effort we've all put in, given our resources and circumstances. I also discuss the roles of grief, shame, and the need for active mourning, offering support and strategies to help us overcome these feelings, especially for entrepreneurial...
2024-08-2124 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️ADHD And Doing Everything Right: What To Do When It's Still A StruggleIn this episode of the Self Loved Woman Podcast, Jen explores the personal growth challenges that emerge during business launches, especially when things don't go as planned. She candidly shares her own struggles with recurring tech issues and how they often mask deeper, underlying fears and obstacles that need to be addressed. Jen highlights the importance of introspection, self-awareness, and understanding the internal and external factors that hold us back, even when we think we're doing everything right. Tune in for valuable insights on navigating ADHD complexities, overcoming inner fears, and moving forward with resilience and confidence.
2024-08-2126 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️ADHD Will Always Have Struggles: 3 Steps For Reducing The Pain Of ADHDIn this episode, I address the challenging reality that ADHD cannot be fixed and will always be a part of life. I discuss the struggles faced by individuals with ADHD in a society that often lacks accommodations for their neurodiverse needs. I emphasize the importance of normalizing these challenges and highlight the dual nature of ADHD, where strengths such as creativity and spontaneity coexist with struggles like time management and task initiation.
I provide insights on setting up one's life and business in a way that works with ADHD, using specific tools and strategies. I al...
2024-07-3128 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️The confusion of ADHD And Trauma and why it matters for your businessIn this episode, I explore the complex relationship between ADHD and trauma, highlighting the high co-occurrence rates and the ways in which symptoms can overlap, complicating diagnosis. Drawing from my personal and professional experiences, I discuss how trauma and ADHD symptoms often mirror each other, leading to misdiagnosis or underdiagnosis. I explain the emotional and psychological impacts of growing up with ADHD, especially the negative, critical comments that ADHD individuals, particularly women, often receive. I also touch on the upcoming live training session, which will focus more deeply on healing trauma and understanding ADHD.
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2024-07-2429 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️How The Hidden Obstacles Of ADHD Slash ProductivityIn this episode of the Self Loved Woman Podcast, I delve into the topic of productivity, particularly for ADHD women entrepreneurs. I emphasize the importance of separating self-worth from productivity and define true productivity as completing the most essential tasks for business growth. I underscore the unique challenges faced by ADHD individuals in a neurotypical society and offer strategies to overcome common barriers. These include regulating the nervous system, addressing big feelings like fear and doubt, and healing from past trauma. I also introduce my upcoming programs designed to help ADHD women harness their productivity effectively.
2024-07-1021 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️How To OverCome What Kills The Curiosity You Need For Your Business To ThriveThis episode discusses the challenges of dealing with vulnerability, judgment, and criticism, particularly for individuals with ADHD who face these issues more frequently than their non-ADHD counterparts. It emphasizes the difficulty of accepting mistakes due to a history of criticism and explores the deeper work required to manage the fear of uncertainty, noting that predictability is an illusion and not a true source of safety.
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2024-07-0327 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️On fire with ADHD Burnout? How to Spot it, Beat it and Prevent itIn this episode of the Self Loved Woman Podcast, I address the topic of burnout, particularly focusing on ADHD women entrepreneurs. I delve into the signs of burnout, how it manifests in the body, and how systemic issues play a role. I provide actionable strategies to combat burnout, including daily stress-relief methods and the importance of community care. I also distinguish between stress and overwhelm, offering practical approaches for managing both. This episode underscores the significance of setting boundaries, accepting what is out of our control, and finding positive reappraisal in challenging situations.
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2024-06-1941 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️How To Stop Hustling and Crush Your Productivity Even With ADHDIn this episode of the Self Loved Woman Podcast, I explore how ADHD impacts productivity and provide strategies to manage it effectively. I emphasize that productivity does not equate to personal value and introduce ways to function optimally without constant hustle. Key topics include the importance of regulating the nervous system, getting adequate sleep, healthy nutrition, and incorporating daily stress release activities. I also stress the significance of self-acceptance, aligning with one's spirituality, and finding pleasure in tasks to maintain interest. Tune in to learn how to embrace your neurodivergence and be productive in a sustainable way.
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2024-06-1240 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️The 2 Most Crucial Pieces of Getting Stuff Done with ADHDHey, it's Jen from the Self Loved Woman Podcast. In this episode of "The 2 Most Crucial Pieces of Getting Stuff Done with ADHD", we explore the challenges of focusing and getting things done when you're in your fight or flight response. Learn how to recognize the signs of this response, such as feeling anxious, restless, or antsy, and discover the importance of taking breaks and self-regulation to improve focus and productivity. By understanding how your body and mind respond to stress, you can develop strategies to overcome distractions and achieve your goals.
If you’re like mo...
2024-06-0524 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️Discipline isn't real and what you need to do instead.Hey, it's Jen from the Self Loved Woman Podcast. I used to think I was disciplined, but I've realized it's about training habits, especially with ADHD. Each habit I've built, like my morning routine, came over time, not all at once. In today’s episode we look at how willpower is needed to start a habit, but it's also limited so we must focus on one habit at a time, making it interesting and removing barriers. Keep existing habits to avoid starting over. It takes about 66 days to build a habit. If you're struggling, start with one small step. Ch...
2024-05-2924 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️Why So Many Entrepreneurs Are Talking About The Power Of SurrenderHey, it's Jen. I'm so glad you're here today. I want to talk about a pattern I see in myself and others, especially in response to something I hear a lot in entrepreneurial circles: the idea of surrender and how hard that can be for us ADHDers even though it's essential.
Today, we'll dive into the concept of parts from an Internal Family Systems (IFS) perspective, where we recognize that we all have parts with different roles. I'll share how masking through high achievement is a common pattern among ADHDers, and how forcing and pushing to succeed...
2024-05-2226 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️The Biggest Catalyst for Change Stolen From Us and How to Get It BackIn this episode, Jen Barnes dives into the often-overlooked topic of anger in women, highlighting how society has conditioned women to suppress their anger, leading to a range of negative consequences. Challenging listeners to recognize and validate their anger, viewing it as a natural emotion that signals the need for change. Drawing on examples from the workplace, healthcare, and societal norms, she emphasizes the importance of acknowledging and expressing anger assertively, offering practical tips for listeners to harness their anger as a catalyst for personal and societal transformation.
In today’s episode, Jen mentioned three boo...
2024-05-0830 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️Why Putting Yourself Last is Harming Your Business and What to Do About ItThis episode discusses important issues faced by women, including self-worth, setting boundaries, and prioritizing personal and professional growth. It explores how societal conditioning, patriarchy, and traditional roles can lead to undervaluing oneself and putting others first.
I help you navigate challenges such as work-life balance, mental load, and partnership dynamics. There's some amazing tips on managing ADHD and a special INVITATION to a free event to work on overcoming obstacles and creating a prosperous, meaningful life and business. Check out the podcast for more details and register below.
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2024-04-2528 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️How Chronic Stress Exacerbates ADHD and What to Do About ItHey there, it's Jen! Thanks for tuning in today. I'm really stoked to dive into how chronic stress worsens ADHD symptoms and what actionable steps we can take to tackle it head-on. If you've ever felt that overwhelming sense of burnout or found yourself unable to muster the motivation to tackle your to-do list, then this conversation is tailor-made for you. Let's jump right in!
Chronic stress is a biggie, especially for us entrepreneurs juggling a million things at once. It's like our nervous system can't differentiate between a life-threatening situation and just another overwhelming p...
2024-04-1727 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️The BIGGEST Reason ADHD Women Struggle as EntrepreneursHey there, listeners! In this episode, I delve into a topic close to my heart: the often overlooked intersection of ADHD and trauma, particularly in women. Drawing from personal experiences and insights from my coaching practice, I explore how growing up with ADHD in a society that may not fully understand or accommodate it can lead to experiences of shame, criticism, and constant correction. These experiences can leave deep wounds that impact our sense of self, emotional regulation, and ability to navigate the world.
I discuss how trauma manifests in ADHD individuals, from rejection sensitivity t...
2024-04-1049 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️Unstick Your Brain: Conquer ADHD Task ParalysisHey there, welcome to another episode of the podcast! Today, I'm delving into a topic that's been on my mind lately, something I've observed both in my clients and in my own experiences. I call it "when your brain blocks." You know that feeling when your brain just seems to shut down, especially when faced with tasks like technology setups or complex challenges? It's like hitting a mental roadblock. But fear not, because in this episode, I'll explore what's really going on behind these brain blocks and share strategies to overcome them.
So, what's happening w...
2024-04-0322 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️Why We're Hiding From Ourselves and How to Step Into Your Power InsteadHey there, it's Jen, and I'm thrilled to have you tuning in today for what I believe is going to be a crucial conversation. Lately, I've been witnessing a pervasive sense of overwhelm, disconnection, and numbing out in not only myself but also in my clients, fellow entrepreneurs, and society at large, particularly amidst the tumultuous events of recent years. If you've found yourself caught in this cycle, constantly bombarded by distressing news, engaging in unhealthy coping mechanisms, or simply feeling like you're going through the motions without real purpose, then this episode is tailor-made for you.
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2024-03-2729 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️The Sneaky Ways Fear Shows Up and How to Move Past ItHey everyone, I'm thrilled to have you join me for today's episode where we're diving into a topic that's been on my mind: fear in entrepreneurship. As someone who's navigated the ups and downs of building a business, I've noticed how fear can hold us back in unexpected ways, from hesitating to post on social media to overcomplicating tasks unnecessarily. In this episode, I'll share insights from my own journey and observations, exploring the intricate ways fear manifests and affects our growth as entrepreneurs.
Throughout our conversation, I'll challenge you to distinguish between discomfort and g...
2024-03-2026 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️Think Your ADHD Brain is Broken? Here's What to DoWelcome to the Self-Love Women Way podcast, I'm your host, Jen. In today's episode, we delved into the intricate ways our minds perceive ADHD and how societal expectations can weigh heavy on our self-perception. It's fascinating how we navigate through the subtle messages that tell us our brains are somehow broken and need fixing. Drawing from personal experiences, I shared moments where I found myself grappling with the need for rest while battling internal voices urging me to keep pushing forward, associating rest with inadequacy. This internal conflict, I realized, isn't unique to me but resonates deeply with many...
2024-03-1332 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️Heal Your Inner Wounds and Embrace the Divine Feminine with Eleonore de PossonWelcome to a special episode where we dive deep into the wisdom of the divine feminine and explore the path to healing and empowerment. In this enlightening conversation, I had the honor of engaging with Eleonor, a Spiritual Teacher, Priestess, International Author, and Energy Healer, who illuminates the path of femininity and sovereignty. Together, we embarked on a journey through the depths of sacred union, reclaiming our power, and honoring the divine within.
As we explored the rich tapestry of feminine spirituality, we uncovered hidden truths and ancient wisdom that have been obscured by patriarchal s...
2024-03-061h 10
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️How Safety and Hormones Impact ADHD with Dr. JusticeIn this insightful conversation with Dr. Justice, we delved deep into the intricate connections between women's health, ADHD, hormones, and trauma. Dr. Justice shed light on the often overlooked intersectionality of these factors, emphasizing the impact of undiagnosed ADHD, criticism, and trauma on individuals, particularly women. From the challenges of masking ADHD symptoms to the trauma-induced hormonal imbalances, the discussion highlighted the complex journey many women navigate in understanding and managing their health.
Throughout the conversation, Dr. Justice advocated for a holistic approach to treatment, rooted in understanding each individual's unique hormonal profile and neurotransmitter balance. By...
2024-02-281h 01
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️ADHD Organization: Out of Sight, Out of Mind Piles Don't Work and What DoesToday on the show, Jen dives into the common habits of ADHD women, particularly entrepreneurs, focusing on the clutter of 'out of sight, out of mind' piles. Jen, the host, reflects on her own experiences, sharing anecdotes and insights into how these piles of tasks and books, while initially seeming like an organizational strategy, often lead to overwhelm and distractibility. She emphasizes the importance of understanding one's nervous system response to clutter, recognizing signs of stress, and the need to actively calm the nervous system amidst the chaos of entrepreneurship and daily life.
Jen unpacks t...
2024-02-2133 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️Navigating Shame Sh*t Storms: How to Shift Out of Shame and Into AlignmentHey, it's Jen! Today, let's delve into a topic that's been surfacing a lot lately: shame. In both my ASCEND program for ADHD women entrepreneurs and therapy sessions, shame has emerged as a significant theme demanding deeper exploration. While there's no quick fix for such a complex emotion, it's crucial to acknowledge it and shine a light on it.
Shame, as Brené Brown describes, thrives in secrecy, convincing us we're fundamentally flawed. Unlike guilt, which stems from actions, shame cuts to the core of our identity. It's heavy, leading to anxiety, depression, and disconnection from ou...
2024-02-1420 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️Scattered Tears: How to Work with Grief and Other Big FeelingsHi, it's Jen. Today, I'm exploring a topic often skirted in society: grief. Reflecting on my mom's passing almost five years ago brings this issue to light. Her recent 75th birthday would have been a reminder of her love, especially during my struggles with ADHD.
Lately, I've noticed many around me grappling with significant losses, making grief feel heavier. Emotions like disbelief, sadness, and bargaining are part of the messy grieving process. Active mourning, described by grief expert Alan Wolfelt, involves feeling and working through these emotions. As I navigate my own grief journey, I'm l...
2024-02-0741 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️How to Stop Fear and Doubt From Plaguing You and Your BusinessHey everyone, it's Jen and I'm thrilled to have you tuning in today. In this episode, I want to dive deep into a topic that's been on my mind a lot lately: fear and doubt. I've noticed how these emotions often hold us back, especially as ADHD women entrepreneurs navigating the world of business and personal growth. We're constantly stepping out of our comfort zones, facing new challenges, and pushing the boundaries of what we thought possible. But alongside our ambition comes a chorus of internal doubts and fears, whispering, "You can't do it," or "Who do you think...
2024-01-3118 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️How to Get Yourself to Do Sh*t When You Don't Feel Like It with Dani DonovanThis is a truly special and kick ass episode. Jen hosts Dani Donovan, author of the AMAZING handbook “The Anti-Planner: How to Get Yourself to Do Sh*t When You Don’t Feel Like it”.
Together, Jen and Dani unpack this gem that breaks down the common feelings when struggling to get something done and then funnels you into only a few, fun strategies to try (so as not to overwhelm).
This was a true honor to have Dani on the show, as The Anti-Planner is one of Jen’s go-to books for getting stuff done and som...
2024-01-241h 08
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️From Poop to Perimenopause: A Holistic Approach for Feeling Amazing With ADHD with Charis SederbergToday, we chat with Charis Sederberg to uncover the profound interplay between our gut and brain—the captivating realm known as the gut-brain axis. Think of it as a bustling highway where information flows bidirectionally, shaping our digestion and mental well-being. Beyond the microbiome, this connection involves a dynamic interplay influencing our entire system.
Consider this: neurotransmitters crucial for brain communication, like serotonin, originate in the gut. Dysfunction here, such as dysbiosis, can trigger mental and emotional disturbances. Research reveals that alterations in gut flora affect brain function, impacting mood, cognition, and behavior. This understanding reshapes our ap...
2024-01-171h 05
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️50 Life Changing Things I’ve Learned in 50 yearsAs I celebrate reaching the half-century mark, I find myself embracing the profound wisdom that life's diverse experiences have bestowed upon me. These invaluable lessons range from the necessity of embracing mistakes as stepping stones for growth to realizing the insignificance of others' opinions in comparison to living in alignment with one's values. Understanding the depths of human pain, adapting to the unpredictable nature of life, and the transformative potential of inner work have profoundly shaped my perspective.
This journey has taught me the significance of compassion, the necessity of self-care, and the nuanced truths that...
2024-01-101h 03The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️Tired of Playing Small in your business and in life? Do thisWelcome to the Self-Loved Woman Podcast, where we're breaking through the barriers that hold us back in both life and business. I'm your host, Jen Barnes, and today's episode is diving into a topic crucial for ADHD women striving for success but finding themselves stuck. We'll uncover the patterns that keep us playing small and struggling to invest in our businesses and ourselves.
For years, I've seen a common thread among women—especially those with ADHD—struggling to prioritize themselves. This isn't just a matter of lacking knowledge or tools; it's about the internal barriers that prevent us f...
2023-12-2819 minThe Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️3 Things You Might be Doing that Unintentionally Hold Your Business BackJoin me on this podcast journey where we navigate the complexities of living with ADHD, exploring the deep impact of excessive criticism and correction on our lives. As someone who's experienced this firsthand, I dive into the fear of putting ourselves out there, stemming from the relentless scrutiny we've faced. We'll unpack the aftermath of unaddressed emotional wounds, stemming from early encounters with criticism and shame, which can resurface in moments of critique, leading to emotional turbulence and shutdown.
Together we explore the intricacies of these experiences, shedding light on the challenges of navigating a world where...
2023-12-2116 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️3 Hidden Reasons You Might Be Stuck in Your BusinessHey, it's Jen, and today's podcast dives deep into the hurdles holding back ADHD women in entrepreneurship. I'll uncover three major obstacles rooted in overwhelming feelings, especially fear, which often halts action. This fear, intertwined with our limiting beliefs, forms another barrier, making us feel like we don't have enough time or that our ADHD limits us.
Moreover, our dysregulated nervous systems hinder focus and productivity. These challenges, deeply tied to our personal experiences and past criticism, impact both our professional and personal lives. Join me for a transformative three-day live event starting December 28th, where we'll...
2023-12-1523 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️Stop Killing Your Content and Actually Reach Your AudienceJen Barnes here, bringing you another episode of the Self Loved Woman Podcast. Today's focus isn't just about ADHD; it's diving into the entrepreneurial aspects of being an ADHD woman entrepreneur. We often struggle with creating content, wondering what to share, and how to generate quality ideas.
Before diving into the main point, let's talk about what top-notch content requires. For me, it's all about curiosity, observing my audience, understanding their challenges, and offering solutions based on my experiences. It's about self-awareness and creativity—yes, even if you don't consider yourself an artist, creativity is integral to wh...
2023-12-0622 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️Get out of the Content Desert - Create Unique, Rich, and Meaningful ContentWelcome to the Self Loved Woman Podcast, I'm Jen Barnes, your guide to embracing your neurodivergence and thriving as an ADHD woman entrepreneur. Today, let's explore a critical aspect of entrepreneurship through an ADHD lens – creating content to drive traffic to your business.
Content is our gateway to connect with and assist our audience. It's how we showcase our expertise, offer value, and guide people towards solutions. But finding original, meaningful content that resonates isn't always easy.
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2023-12-0224 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️Kickin’ Ass through the Holiday Hustle: How to Actually Have FunIn this episode, I'm diving deep into holiday stress, especially for us ADHD women entrepreneurs. You know, this time of year gets crazy, and it's crucial to figure out how to make it enjoyable for ourselves. I'm not just here to give you the usual advice; I'm talking about tapping into our specific ADHD skill sets to rock this holiday season. From overcoming those sneaky limiting beliefs about what the holidays "should" be to aligning our priorities with our values, I'm all about making it work uniquely for us. Let's embrace authenticity because, hey, you are the magnet that...
2023-11-2327 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️Why You Can’t Stop Procrastinating and What to Do about ItIn this episode of "The Self Love Woman Way," we dive into the common struggle of procrastination and explore a unique perspective on addressing it. Rather than relying solely on strategies and tips, we unpack five deeper issues that often contribute to procrastination. These include alignment with core values and your deepest "why," setting the stage for success through self-care, mindful environment, and optimal timing, and considering whether tasks can be delegated. We also delve into the impact of big feelings, such as fear of failure, success, criticism, judgment, and rejection, and how they can hinder your progress. This...
2023-11-1531 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️Break Free from the ADHD Cycle of Hyperfunctioning and CrashingWelcome to another special episode of The Self-Loved Woman Way! I'm thrilled to have you here today as we dive into a topic that hits close to home for many—hyperfunctioning ADHD women. Now, I know I often call my episodes special, but today's discussion is truly unique. We're shining a spotlight on a group of extraordinary individuals who work tirelessly, pushing their limits, and yet, find themselves exhausted.
Join me as we explore the world of hyperfunctioning ADHD women—the high performers who, despite dealing with ADHD, manage to get a staggering amount done. If you're nodd...
2023-11-1037 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️Two Patterns Most ADHD Women Have That Get in the Way of Getting Stuff DoneIn this episode, I dive into two common patterns that I often see in ADHD women: perfectionism and people-pleasing. These patterns can be significant barriers to achieving my goals, especially in my business endeavors. I've personally experienced these tendencies at different times in my life, and I want to share my insights with you.
Perfectionism, as I've noticed, is a defense mechanism that many ADHD individuals, including myself, tend to adopt in order to avoid criticism and judgment. It can hinder my ability to start and finish projects, and I've realized the importance of shifting towards a...
2023-11-0229 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️What We’ve Gotten Wrong About our ADHD and How to Change It
Hey there, it's Jen, and I'm thrilled to have you tuning in today. I want to dive headfirst into a topic that has captured my attention and the attention of so many ADHD women entrepreneurs out there. It's the elephant in the room, the challenge we face day in and day out – the struggle to consistently get things done. You know, without it feeling like we're expending every ounce of our precious energy just to convince ourselves to take action.
Now, this topic, it's not just a passing fancy. It's the one that keeps popping up in...
2023-10-2627 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️How we ADHD Women Keep Ourselves Stuck and SmallIn this episode, I'll be addressing an often overlooked issue affecting women with ADHD. Many of us unknowingly subject ourselves to daily self-inflicted emotional distress while trying to fit into a world designed for neurotypical individuals. We'll explore the root causes and discuss how early trauma, especially emotional and verbal abuse, can be just as impactful as more obvious forms of abuse.
Our nervous system doesn't distinguish between external threats and self-criticism, putting us in a constant fight-or-flight response. Instead of forcing ourselves into a neurotypical mold, we should aim to be authentic and enjoy life to...
2023-10-1124 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️Plan Your Day to Match Your Energy and Maximize Efficiency with Sally CreweIn this episode I sit down with productivity guru Sally Crewe to unravel the secrets of optimizing your daily routine by syncing it with your natural energy levels. Discover how aligning your tasks with your energy peaks can revolutionize your productivity and enhance your overall well-being. Sally shares invaluable tips and strategies to help you supercharge your day and make the most of your time, ensuring that each moment counts. Whether you're a morning person or a night owl, this podcast will empower you to harness your energy and maximize your efficiency like never before. Tune in for a...
2023-10-0455 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️The Biggest Thing Holding You Back in Your Business with ADHD
Many people with ADHD feel trapped, finding it incredibly challenging to motivate themselves to pursue their business goals or even manage daily life tasks. I understand that the way our ADHD brains function doesn't always align perfectly with society's expectations. However, I firmly believe that we can shape our lives to accommodate our unique wiring while still savoring the opportunities life has to offer and being productive when needed.
If you've been grappling with the struggle to get things done because of your ADHD, this episode is tailor-made for you. So, let's dig deeper. One common mindset...
2023-09-2730 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️Ditch the ADHD Impulsivity And Money Mindset Destroying Your Revenue with Dr. Ashlee GreerToday, we have a very special guest who will guide us through the intriguing realm of money mindset and wealth creation. Joining us is the remarkable Dr. Ashley Greer, a former psychologist turned entrepreneur, dedicated to helping individuals transform their relationship with money.
Dr. Greer explores the concept of limiting beliefs, explaining why she prefers this term over "money blocks." Together, we'll uncover common limiting beliefs that often hinder people from achieving financial success, peppered with personal anecdotes.
Thank you to Dr. Ashlee Greer, found of Empowering Wealth for joining us today! You ca...
2023-09-211h 00
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️Feeling Drained? How to overcome ADHD BurnoutToday, let's dive into something super important: taking a breather. This is especially crucial for us ADHD gals who are tackling both the world of entrepreneurship and a full-time gig.
The Struggle of Perfectionism and Fear of Falling Short
It's so tempting to keep pushing until we're running on empty, often driven by that need for everything to be just perfect or the fear of not measuring up. But here's the thing, pushing too hard usually leads to a crash and burn situation, and that's not what we want.
Tuning Into Our Own...
2023-09-1334 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️Creating a Beautiful ADHD Life After Job Loss, with Liz FiornoThe Self-Loved Woman Podcast is a podcast for women with ADHD who want to ditch the old ways of doing things, embrace their neurodivergence, learn tips and tricks to function optimally, and love themselves neurodivergence and all.
In this episode, Jen Barnes interviews Liz Fiorino, a writer, creator, and mom who was recently diagnosed with ADHD. Liz shares her story of how she went from feeling lost and confused to finding her community, creativity, and connections. Liz emphasizes the importance of finding a community of people who understand you and make you feel supported. She also talks...
2023-09-0539 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️The Big Secret for Getting Stuff Done with ADHDIn this episode, I share my biggest secret for getting stuff done with ADHD.
It may be unpopular, but mindfulness is the key to getting there, noticing what your thoughts are and what's coming up for you. Let's explore how to build self-awareness together in this episode.
You're invited to my complimentary 5-episode secret podcast series, Neurofabulous Entrepreneurs: Unleashing Your Inner Power for Success.
Join this exclusive group to tap into the same strategies utilized by today's successful ADHD women entrepreneurs, empowering you to propel your business, expand your reach, and mak...
2023-08-1814 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️Be a Neurofabulous ADHD Entrepreneur: Five Essential Steps To Truly ThriveWelcome to the Self Loved Woman Podcast with host Jen Barnes! In this episode we explore the five steps for helping yourself navigate this neurotypical world as an ADHD woman entrepreneur
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If you're a lady ADHD entrepreneur, and you're tired of the struggle, you're tired of just getting by, you're tired of having these ideas that you struggle to put into fruition. And you're ready to finally step into the role your business and your life needs, I've got something for you.
September 1, 2023 I will be launching my ADHD Women Entrepreneurs K...
2023-08-0332 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️Regulating Emotions with ADHD: Navigating Trauma and Enhancing Well-beingJoin Jen as she delves into the crucial topic of emotion dysregulation in the context of ADHD. Discover the profound impact that trauma, societal pressures, and emotional challenges have on individuals with ADHD, and explore practical strategies to regulate and manage emotions effectively.
In this enlightening episode, Jen explores the neuroscience behind emotion regulation, shedding light on the autonomic nervous system's role in responding to perceived threats. From the fight or flight response to the shutdown response, Jen provides insights into these states and offers guidance on how to navigate them.
Learn how to identify...
2023-07-1621 min
The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way®️Embracing Our Power: Overcoming ADHD Limitations and Challenging BeliefsIn this empowering episode, Jen takes a refreshing approach by going off-script and addressing a common struggle faced by individuals with ADHD.
Join her as she dives deep into the damaging belief that ADHD makes us incapable and explores the real reasons behind our challenges. Jen challenges the notion of "can't" and encourages listeners to understand that it's not about inability, but rather a conscious choice to allocate our limited energy effectively. Drawing from personal experiences and societal expectations, she unveils the impact of negative narratives and offers strategies to rewrite them. Discover the power of self-awareness...
2023-07-1611 min
The Business Case For Women's SportsEp. #42 The Story Behind Rough & Tumble Pub: Seattle's 1st Women's Sports Bar, ft. Jen BarnesIn Ep. #42, Caroline sits down with Jen Barnes, the Founder & Owner of Rough & Tumble Pub - Seattle's pub for women's sports. In this episode, hear Jen tell the full story behind creating the second sports bar in the world made specifically for women's sports.When Jen couldn’t find a bar or any place outside her living room to watch the 2021 OL Reign’s semi-final playoff game, she was inspired to create a space for women's sports fans. Rough & Tumble opened in the Seattle neighborhood of Ballard in December of 2022. With 18 screens and space for more than 160 peopl...
2023-05-0224 min