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The Podcast LaneThe 10 in 10 Podcast Featuring Jen Shirkani | The Power of EQ vs Ego in Modern LeadershipJen Shirkani brings powerful insight into the role emotional intelligence plays in effective leadership and long-term success.As a nationally recognized expert on emotional intelligence, author of Ego vs. EQ and Choose Resilience, and host of the Ego vs. EQ podcast, Jen shares lessons drawn from more than 25 years of leadership development experience. Her work spans Fortune 50 companies, government agencies, universities, and organizations seeking to elevate performance through self-awareness and human-centered leadership.The conversation explores how unchecked ego can limit growth, create blind spots, and impact culture—while emotional intelligence helps leaders build trust, resilience, an...
2026-02-0211 min
Ego vs. EQ & YouS2E26: Reality Testing vs OptimismOptimists dream big. Realists keep us grounded. In this episode, Jen, Angela, and Steve unpack how these two perspectives work together to create smarter, more balanced decisions and why you need a little of both.Join us on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TuaD5V7R0Ic.To share show ideas or get anonymous help with a challenging situation, please email:podcasts@jenshirkani.com #EmotionalIntelligence #OptimismAndRealism #BalancedThinking #DecisionMaking #LeadershipDevelopment #SelfAwareness #MindsetMatters #EQ #PersonalGrowth #PodcastEpisode #LeadershipPodcast #StrategicThinking #ProfessionalDevelopment #WorkplaceMindset #LeadingWithEQ #PositiveMindset #GrowthMindset #KeepItReal #ThinkSmart #MindfulLeadership
2025-12-2214 minEgo vs. EQ & YouS2E25: Assertiveness vs EmpathyEmpathy is a great thing until it starts working againstyou. In this lively episode, Jen, Steve, and Angela dive into what happens whenempathy goes too far and why a dose of assertiveness can make yourconversations more honest, balanced, and effectiveJoin us onYouTube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TuaD5V7R0Ic.To share showideas or get anonymous help with a challenging situation, please email:podcasts@jenshirkani.com#EmotionalIntelligence#EmpathyAndAssertiveness#AuthenticCommunication#SelfAwareness#LeadershipDevelopment
2025-12-1215 min
Ego vs. EQ & YouS2E24: Impulse Control vs Stress ToleranceSend us a textEver catch yourself reacting instead of responding whenyou’re stressed? You’re not alone. In this episode, Jen, Angela, and Steve diveinto how stress affects your impulse control and share tips to break the cyclebefore it breaks you.Join us on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TuaD5V7R0Ic.To share show ideas orget anonymous help with a challenging situation, please email:podcasts@jenshirkani.com#EmotionalIntelligence#StressManagement#ImpulseControl#Self...
2025-12-0413 min
Ego vs. EQ & YouS2E23: Emotional Self-Awareness vs Emotional ExpressionSend us a textKnowing how you feel is one thing…sharing it is another.Join Jen, Steve, and Angela as they unpack why expressing what you feel is justas important, and how finding that balance can strengthen trust and connectionwith others.Links: 5 Ways to Build Trust Using Emotional Expressionhttps://www.linkedin.com/pulse/five-ways-build-trust-using-emotional-expression-jen-shirkani/?trackingId=kpkp1BNXTrSj%2BwNfu0fRtQ%3D%3DJoin us on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TuaD5V7R0Ic. To share show ideas or get...
2025-11-2014 min
Ego vs. EQ & YouS2E22: Self-Regard vs EgoSend us a textThink ego is always the enemy? Think again. In this episode,Jen, Angela, and Steve dig into how ego can fuel growth when kept in check andshare practical ways to balance it with self-awareness for better results (andfewer regrets).Join us on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TuaD5V7R0Ic.To share show ideas or get anonymous help with a challenging situation, please email: podcasts@jenshirkani.com#EmotionalIntelligence#SelfAwareness#LeadershipDevelopment#PersonalGrowth#healthyego#MindsetMatters
2025-11-0614 min
Ego vs. EQ & YouS2E21: Introvert vs ExtrovertSend us a textEver wondered what truly sets introverts and extrovertsapart? In this kickoff to our new “vs” series, Jen, Steve, and Angela dive intothe real differences between these two personality types and the benefits ofknowing them. Discover why understanding this key trait can help you thrive atwork and in life.Join us on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TuaD5V7R0Ic.To share show ideas or get anonymous help with a challenging situation, please email: podcasts@jenshirkani.com#Emot...
2025-10-3013 min
Ego vs. EQ & YouS2E20: The Buzz: Emotional Intelligence and AISend us a text Everyone is talking about artificial intelligence (AI) and how it related to emotional intelligence (EQ). In this lively discussion with Jen Shirkani, Steve Friedlein and Angela Bearor learn ways that leaders can utilize AI most effectively, along with some warnings on how not to use it. To share show ideas or get anonymous help with a challenging situation, please email:podcasts@jenshirkani.comShow Links:Forbes: 3 Ways AI is Redefining Leadership and Management by Brent Gleesonhttps://www.livescience.com/technology/artificial-intelligence/there-are-32-different-ways-ai-can-go-rogue-scientists-say-from-hallucinating-answers-to-a-complete-misalignment-with-humanityht...
2025-10-0928 min
Ego vs. EQ & YouS2E19: Feedback After FailureSend us a textNobody wants to fail, especially a top performer who is focused and commited. So how to we approach feedback after failure? In this episode Jen Shirkani and Steve Friedlein share ways to approach a feedback conversation and turn criticism into a positive experience.
2025-10-0315 min
Ego vs. EQ & YouS2E18: Betrayed By The Comfort ZoneSend us a textWe all face difficulty and setbacks, learn more about the comfort zone and how it impedes our ability to grow. Jen Shirkani shares more of her personal story of resilience and ways to cope using a skill model: MOST. Listen to learn details on how to use Motivation, Optimism and Stress Tolerance for success. Book Reference:Choose Resilience by Jen ShirkaniJoin us on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TuaD5V7R0Ic. To share show ideas or get anonymous help with a ch...
2025-09-2513 min
Ego vs. EQ & YouS2E17: The Victim VirusSend us a textDo you work with people who play the victim? This episode describes how this attitude damages us and the workplace and explains the science behind why negative emotion is contagious. Learn how agency can counter-act victimhood. Book References:The Oz Principle by Connors, Smith and HickmanSocial Intelligence by Daniel GolemanJoin us on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TuaD5V7R0Ic.To share show ideas or get anonymous help with a challenging situation, please email: podcasts@jenshirkani.com...
2025-09-1813 min
Ego vs. EQ & YouS1E16: The BuzzSend us a textIn this lively episode, Jen Shirkani is joined by Steve Friedlein and Angela Bearor as they discuss current events and news stories with applications of emotional intelligence. This week they discuss ways to express emotion, a study on how many remote workers have secret second jobs, and the fall of servant leadership. To share comments or show ideas please email podcasts@jenshirkani.com. Show links:https://positivepsychology.com/express-emotions/https://www.inc.com/bruce-crumley/how-to-respond-to-quiet-cracking-a-new-workplace-threat/91204644https://www.resumebuilder.com/7-in-10-remote-workers-have-multiple-jobs/
2025-08-0125 min
Ego vs. EQ & YouS1E15: EQ and the Human DimensionsSend us a textIn this episode, Jen Shirkani is joined by Steve Friedlein as they discuss the differences between EQ, personality, communication styles and change styles. Sample reports referred to in this episode can be found at: https://penumbra.com/assessments/We would love to hear from you! Share suggestions or comments at podcasts@jenshirkani.com.
2025-07-2418 min
Ego vs. EQ & YouS1E14: Making AssumptionsSend us a textIn this episode, Jen Shirkani shares the risks of making assumptions, including an explanation of the fundamental attribution error and some personal examples.
2025-07-1809 min
Ego vs. EQ & YouS1E13: Using Your EQ with Someone Who Has NoneSend us a textIn this episode, Jen Shirkani shares a listener question regarding someone who reads others well but lacks emotional self-awareness. Several suggestions are discussed to help others raise their EQ, along with strategies for working with someone who lacks EQ. If you want (anonymous) assistance with a people problem, email Jen at podcasts@jenshirkani.com.
2025-07-1010 min
Ego vs. EQ & YouS1E12: The BuzzSend us a textJen Shirkani is joined by Steve Friedlein and Angela Bearor in this episode to discuss a news story about an employee who set boundaries and got a raise, an overheard conversation related to co-worker conflict, and the trend to cut training dollars when employees need it the most.
2025-07-0325 min
Ego vs. EQ & YouS1E11: Coaching 101Send us a textIn this episode, Jen Shirkani is joined by Steve Friedlein to discuss executive coaching. Collectively, they have decades of experience and share insights on how to know who is coachable, what to look for in a coach, and ways to get the most from a coaching engagement. If you would like some free coaching support or help with a people problem, you can send a confidential email to podcasts@jenshirkani.com, we would be happy to help!
2025-06-2620 min
Ego vs. EQ & YouS1E10: How to Beat 8 Ego TrapsSend us a text This episode summarizes the definition of emotional intelligence, the role of ego and the 8 traps that are common among leaders. This is a synopsis of the book with the same title, "Ego vs EQ". Get coaching support or share a people problem by sending us a confidential email to podcasts@jenshirkani.com.
2025-06-1914 min
Ego vs. EQ & YouS1E9: Relapsing Back to Your Old WaysSend us a textIn this episode, Jen Shirkani describes Ego Trap 8 and the allure of the comfort zone to pull us from high EQ to high ego behaviors. Learn how to know if you have fallen into this trap and ways to avoid it.#EQ #emotionalintelligence #leadership #self-awareness #self-improvement #comfortzone #behavior
2025-06-1208 min
Ego vs. EQ & YouS1E8: Losing TouchSend us a textIn this episode, Jen Shirkani is joined by Steve Friedlein and Angela Bearor as they discuss the perils of losing touch with others. Statistics mentioned in this episode can be found at: https://www.apollotechnical.com/employee-retention-statistics/#EQ #emotionalintelligence #ego #connected #relationships #selfawareness #selfimprovement #socialawareness #workplace
2025-06-0524 min
Ego vs. EQ & YouS1E7: You Are Being WatchedSend us a textIn this episode, Jen Shirkani is joined by Steve Friedlein to discuss the importance of social self awareness and how perceptions are created by our actions. If you would like some free coaching support or help with a people problem, you can send a confidential email to podcasts@jenshirkani.com, we would be happy to help!#ego #EQ #emotionalintelligence #selfawareness #perception #remotework #socialawareness
2025-05-2920 min
Ego vs. EQ & YouS1E6: Being Blind to Your Downstream ImpactSend us a textIn this episode Jen Shirkani shares the impact of our behavior and what happens when we don't appreciate the ripple effect of actions. #EQ #emotionalintelligence #ego #leadership #management #selfimprovement #selfawareness #impulsiveness #selfcontrol #impulse control
2025-05-2211 min
Ego vs. EQ & YouS1E5: Letting Go of ControlSend us a textIn this episode, Jen Shirkani discusses the importance of delegation and the risks of not letting go of control. Books referenced in this episode: The Speed of Trust by Stephen M.R. CoveyWhat Got You Here Won't Get You There by Marshall Goldsmith#EQ #Ego #emotionalintelligence #leadership #control #micromanagement #selfimprovement #selfawareness #delegation
2025-05-1512 min
Ego vs. EQ & YouS1E4: Surrounding Yourself with More of YouSend us a textIn this episode, Jen Shirkani is joined by Steve Friedlein and Angela Bearor to discuss the common habit of being with others just like us. #EQ #Ego #emotionalintelligence #selfimprovement #groupthink #personality #communication #diversity
2025-05-0822 min
Ego vs. EQ & YouS1E3: Over Reliance on Technical SkillsSend us a textIn this episode, Jen Shirkani is joined by Steve Friedlein and they discuss the temptation to use technical skills at the expense of other skills. #EQ #emotionalintelligence #peopleskills #leadership #ego #selfimprovement #IQ #problemsolving #expertise
2025-05-0121 min
Ego vs. EQ & YouS1E2: The Risks of Ignoring FeedbackSend us a textA discussion on the value of emotional intelligence and the importance of getting feedback and the reasons people don't get it. #EQ #emotionalintelligence #self-awareness #feedback #self-improvement #humility #leadership
2025-04-2418 min
Ego vs. EQ & YouS1E1: Welcome to EGO vs EQ & You!Send us a textIn this first episode, Jen Shirkani shares the purpose of this show and the history and science behind emotional intelligence.If you would like some free coaching support or help with a people problem, you can send a confidential email to podcasts@jenshirkani.com, we would be happy to help!
2025-04-1812 min
The Workplace: a Podcast by CalChamberEpisode 211: Practical Emotional Intelligence Applications for HR Professionals and Leaders
In this episode of The Workplace podcast, CalChamber Associate General Counsel Matthew Roberts and emotional intelligence expert and keynote speaker Jen Shirkani share valuable insights on how emotional intelligence (EQ) can transform workplace dynamics, and share practical applications for leaders and HR professionals.
2024-12-1318 minThe Workplace: a Podcast by CalChamberEpisode 210: Boosting Workplace Performance Through Emotional IntelligenceIn this episode of The Workplace podcast, CalChamber Associate General Counsel Matthew Roberts and emotional intelligence expert and keynote speaker Jen Shirkani discuss how successful managers and leaders leverage the power of emotional intelligence to engage and motivate their employees and associates.
2024-12-0919 min
Notes on Resilience41: Jen Shirkani on Emotional Intelligence and Nurturing ResilienceSend us a textHow do you build resilience in the face of adversity? What role does emotional intelligence play in managing stress, uncertainty, and anxiety? Tune in as I join forces with emotional intelligence guru, speaker, and author Jen Shirkani to learn about the combination of emotional intelligence and resilience, its vital role in stress management, and the unique perspectives she gained from her conversations with survivors.Ever wondered how to measure emotional intelligence? Jen guides us through the significance of identifying behavioral patterns, the delicate equilibrium of assertiveness and empathy, and how self-awareness...
2023-10-1138 min
2020-11-1415 min
ROTG PresentsMe, mySELF, & EI part 2 - Why is Emotional Intelligence Important, High Performance & the Ego! - EP161Hi again & welcome to the series on Emotional Intelligence.In this episode, I cover the following key areas (with some rough timings).0 mins to 3min Why is EI Important3 mins to 20 mins – Applied EI & Examples20 mins to 23:40 – EQ and High Performance23:40mm – 31:51 – EQ, Ego and Leadership31 min to 45mins – How to develop EQ samples and Wrap upLinks to pieces references:Books mentioned:From the Book Ego v EQ - How Top Leaders Beat 8 Ego Traps with Emotional Intelligence – Jen ShirkaniIf you’re inter...
2020-05-0147 min
ROTG PresentsMe, mySELF, & EI part 1 - What is Emotional Intelligence? - EP160Welcome to Me, mySELF, & EI - a podcast series helping you better understand, control & develop your emotions, and the emotions of others! In this series introduction episode, I cover the following with rough timings:0m to 11m –Why release a podcast on Emotional Intelligence11m – 14m – The Story of Phinus Gage14m to 16:30m – What is EI & EQ?16:30m to 21:20m – Science of EI21:20m to 26:31m – EI Frameworks26:30m to 29:25m – IQ v EQLinks to pieces references:5W Public Relations, Emotional intelligenceBooks mentioned:Emoti...
2020-05-0134 min
Mood MammasThe "WHY" of Getting What You WantForbes Magazine: The statistics on how many people actually follow through and accomplish their New Year’s resolutions are rather grim. Studies have shown that less than 25% of people actually stay committed to their resolutions after just 30 days, and only 9.2% accomplish them. So, what should you do instead of making New Year's resolutions?
Change just one of your habits that creates the most change.
Find your "why" - the real underlying, motivating reason for wanting something
Pre-commit when your self-control is high - make your goal public, find an accountability buddy
Set goals, not resolutions
SMART Goals = sp...
2020-01-0554 min
The LEADx Leadership Show with Kevin KruseEGO vs. EQ | Jen ShirkaniJen Shirkani is a nationally recognized expert on emotional intelligence and a featured speaker at national and state conferences, universities, government agencies & at business organizations around the world. She is the author of Ego vs. EQ: How Top Leaders Beat 8 Ego Traps With Emotional Intelligence.
2019-09-1657 min
Amplify Your Mindset with Ricky KalmonJen Shirkani – Expert on Emotional IntelligenceJen Shirkani is a nationally recognized expert on emotional intelligence and a featured speaker at national and state conferences, universities, government agencies, and at business organizations around the world. She is the author of Ego vs EQ and Choose Resilience. She has spent over 25-years working with organizations from the Fortune 500 to family-owned entities as a business consultant and executive coach. Jen has been a frequent guest on national radio programs, and has been featured in Bloomberg/Businessweek, Leadership Excellence magazine, Investors Daily, Business Insider, Publishers Weekly, Fast Company, Readers Digest and Upstart Business Journal.
2019-02-0732 min
Mastering Business AnalysisMBA149: The Power of EQAuthor and speaker Jen Shirkani helps us to understand the importance of Emotional Intelligence and shares with us techniques to boost your EQ.
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2018-02-1328 minMastering Business AnalysisMBA149: The Power of EQ
In this episode, author and speaker Jen Shirkani helps us to understand the importance of Emotional Intelligence and shares techniques to boost your EQ.
After listening to this episode, you'll understand:
What emotional intelligence (EQ) is and how it differs from IQ
Why emotional intelligence is so important
What happens when you have low EQ
How to grow your emotional intelligence
Show Notes
Unlike IQ, Emotional Intelligence (your Intelligence Quotient or EQ) is something you can learn and develop. Studies show that emotional intelligence is a much better predictor of succe...
2018-02-1328 min
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2014-02-0103 min
Grab Best-Selling Digital Audiobooks with Easy AccessEGO vs. EQ - Jen ShirkaniPlease visit https://thebookvoice.com/podcasts/2/audible/99695 to listen full audiobooks. Publisher's Summary: Title: EGO vs. EQ Author: Jen Shirkani Narrator: Jen Shirkani Format: mp3 Length: 5 hrs and 34 mins Release date: 01-31-14 Ratings: 4.5 out of 5 stars, 54 ratings Genres: Organizational Behavior
2014-01-3105 min
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2014-01-315h 34
KUCI: Real People of Orange CountyJen Shirkani, Author of EGO vs. EQJen Shirkani, author of EGO vs. EQ and founder of the Penumbra Group, shares strategies for using emotional intelligence as a primary prevention tool to avoid career derailment.
2013-10-1100 min