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Story Time with the Intimacy AllySoft Cock Appreciation and more with Erica LeroyeWhat's Soft Cock Appreciation Week you say? Who's Erica Leroye you ask? Well, just another beautiful sexual wellness soul out here trying to heal the world who I get to introduce you to thanks to Michelle Renee!
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Erica Leroye, M.Ed (she/her/they) is the Founder and "Chief Erotic Officer" of Creative Body Release (CBR), a philosophy and methodology that is built upon 30+ years of body/mind training and educational expertise. Erica is an advocate, guide, practitioner, lover, mother, and friend as well as a...2024-11-091h 35Story Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 54-Escaping Religion and Finding Sex Positivity with xoFlyDuoPlease allow me to introduce Sherri and Reuben Johnson, AKA, FlyDuo. I got to meet them at the Sexology Summit in 2022 and I was smitten! They not only run these amazing businesses supporting sex professionals, but they also have an incredible story of strength in escaping the religious cult they grew up in. This matters now more than ever as Christian Nationalists attempt to destroy our democracy. Plus you know I'm a sucker for a love story that leads to sex positivity.
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Phoenix Wisdom: inspiring stories of transformation and triumph over suicidal ideation#66 - Hope and Healing with Jeni Simas-LayteIn this episode, host Janet Sandberg welcomes Jeni Simas-Layte, who has navigated depression, divorce, and the challenges of raising a special needs child. Jeni opens up about her struggles during 2021, a year marked by weighty depression and feelings of hopelessness.
Jenny recounts the overwhelming challenges she faced, including the isolation of pandemic lockdowns, the stress of single parenting, and the burden of past traumas. Despite these hardships, she found strength in the support of friends and the courage to seek help through therapy and inpatient care. Her candid discussion highlights the importance of recognizing suicidal ideation and...2024-10-1546 minStory Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 53-The Journey of a Goddess with Nikita (Goddess Nix) Fernandes, MA, MHC-LPHello My Lovelies!!! If you don't follow me on Facebook, then you may not have heard that we are switching to every other Friday for releasing podcast episodes for the forseeable future. I had to take a page outta my own book and take care of me while I go back to school. Never fear, we've got a wonderful episode for ya and the sex pros and intimacy doers of the world will come atcha still...just a little less frequently. Don't forget to follow the podcast on Spotify to never miss an episode!...2024-10-0544 min
Between the Sheets: Exploring Sexual Health & WellnessEp 12: Perspecitves from a Sex Coach (Feat. Jeni Simas-Layte)Send us a textToday’s episode is so much fun. I had a great chat with Jeni Simas-Layte. She has a vast background in sexual health and we get into all the various aspects! Jeni Simas-Layte, The Intimacy Ally, is a certified Relationship, Intimacy & Sex Coach and Consultant and she not only provides 1:1 coaching for women (sorry fellas, must be accompanied by a partner at this time) and group coaching in person in Baltimore, MD and also virtually. She is the host of the podcast, Story Time with the Intimacy Ally: where we say “Fuck No...2024-10-0235 minStory Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 52-No Shame in This Game with Jolene HernandezWho's ready for some Herpes Real Talk? Well, you came to the right episode! Meet Jolene Hernandez, producer of the documentary No Shame in This Game. Jolene is not only approaching HSV and STI education head on, she is also co-presenting the Safe Sex Expo on September 29th in NYC with Courtney Brame of Something Positive for Positive Poeple. Please check out the links below to learn more about Jolene and the upcoming projects and how to support the documentary. Enjoy my lovelies!!
Follow Jolene on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/noshameinthisgamefilm/
2024-09-2145 minStory Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 51-Getting Real with Dakota RamppenDakota Ramppen is a Sex Educator, an Educator, and (my fave of her titles) a Tough Love Relationship Coach. That's not all she is though! Her story of how she came to this work is rich with life lessons, empowerment, taking charge, and of course lessons about sex. Dakota has also used the Stars talk model created by Dr. Evelin Dacker to teach kids how to start talking about consent, relationships, and what they will want or not in the future. She is an educator at heart and one spicy, sexy lady! She's running...2024-09-1444 min
I Wonder, Getting Curious with Dr. CristieHealing After Trauma: How Jeni Simas-Layte Reclaimed Intimacy and Self-EsteemIn this episode, I sit down with Jeni Simas-Layte, also known as The Intimacy Ally, a certified Relationship, Intimacy & Sex Coach. Jeni shares her incredible journey from surviving sexual assault and a challenging marriage to becoming a sex coach and special needs mom. We dive into how she rediscovered herself after losing her identity in her marriage, her struggles with societal norms, and the healing process that led her to empower other women.Jeni opens up about her experiences parenting a non-verbal autistic son, unlearning harmful beliefs around body image, and how she now helps others reclaim...2024-09-1057 minStory Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 50-Dirty Lola (Part 2!) on Body Positivity, Non-Monogamy, Navigating Divorce, STIs, and More!Were you left wanting more after last week's episode??? Well, you have come to the right place! Get ready for the completion of the conversation with the amazing sex edutainer and dildo slinger, Dirty Lola! I'm so excited to share the rest of this with you. Lola explained her thoughts on trans issues, STIs, how she navigated her divorce, talked about her experiences at different sex conventions and conferences, and even gave us a very personal glimpse into what relationships can look like.
Want to keep the amazing information flowing? Don't forget to follow...2024-09-072h 31Story Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 49-How Dirty Lola Was Born (Part 1 of 2)That's right! It is Story Time's 1st birthday and we are celebrating with our FIRST 2 part episode with Dirty Lola!!!
Dirty Lola can been seen on HBO, Netflix, YouTube! She is still dildo sligning and rocking Sex Ed in NYC. She travels to different conferences as well. You can see her in Bawdy Storytelling. And very soon, she will be brigning back her show Sex Ed a Go Go!!! Find more information on the ways you can learn from her or work with her or be, in her words, sex "edutained" by her below!
https...2024-08-311h 00Story Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 48-Marla Renee Stewart-Sex Down South Co-Creator-on Building a Successful Sex-Based BusinessHave you been thinking of starting a sex-based business and want to know how one of the greats got started??? Well, please allow me to introduce you to Marla Renee Stewart and let her show you how it's done!
Marla Renee Stewart, MA (she/her) is a sexologist, author, and sexual strategist who runs her own sexuality education company, Velvet Lips, and is also a Co-Founder of the Sex Down South Conference. She has studied human sexuality for more than 22 years and has given over 1000 workshops all over the world. She also has been featured on a...2024-08-2450 minStory Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 47-Anna Przy-The Keep It Up Cutie Lady!- on Purpose, Passions, Boundaries, Self-Love and MORE!Anna Przy, The Keep It Up Cutie Lady, author of Keep It Up Cutie, Internet Superstar, Motivational Speaker, and hella-cool real fucking person graced the pod with her presence and I'm still riding the high. Anna took a look at life and decided that, though things might be scary, that doesn't mean she should not do them. She is making her own path in this world and wants more of us to feel the effects of breaking the mold. She's a personal hero of mine and I want EVERYONE to know how AMAZING she is and what she's up...2024-08-171h 02Story Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 46-Nutrition and Sexual Wellness with Kristen Bishel Browne, MA, CNS, LDNHello my lovelies, meet my dear friend from college and beyond, Kristen Bishel Browne, MS, CNS, LDN. She is the owner of Browne Bag Nutrition and she lends her insight here on seed cycling, hydration, eating habits and more that can benefit women in different ages and stages of life and sexual wellness.Kristen’s info:Kristen received her MS in Nutrition & Integrative Health from Maryland Univ. of Integrative Health in Aug 2019 and passed the BCNS licensing exam in Nov 2019. After finishing her 1000 supervised hours in April 2021, she become a...2024-08-101h 00Story Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 45-Challenging Toxic Norms of Masculinity with Brandon Hunter-Haydon, Clinical Social Worker and Surrogate PartnerBrandon and I met through the Sexual Health Alliance (SHA) where I did my training as a Sex Coach and he did his as an educator. He was already a clinical social worker then. When we recorded this episode, I was looking for an expert for women who feared dating online because of the men they might meet and Brandon delivered! So, I hope you will tune in and listen because some of my most profound realizations of the year were made in this conversation. Shout out to Mat Leffler-Shulman for rescuing this episode when my naivete as a...2024-08-0351 minStory Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 44-Luna Matatas on Pleasure Education, Representation & InclusionFangirling like a mofo here!!! Please meet Luna Matatas! She talks life experience, being a public health professional, a pleasure educator, and an entrepreneur with such kindness, vivaciousness, and character. You don't wanna miss a minute of Luna.
Luna Matatas is a Sex and Pleasure Educator with over 20 years of experience teaching sex and empowerment workshops. She celebrates body confidence, self-adoration and building shame-free pleasure in and out of the bedroom. She teaches 30+ sexy skills topics; including threesomes, BDSM and sexual confidence. She created Peg the Patriarchy® and Meditate Medicate Masturbate® brands as part of...2024-07-2743 minStory Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 43-Pro Domme and Sex Coaching with Julia JewelsJulia Jewels is just as comfy in a dungeon as she is on a podcast. Seriously though, I had the honor of getting to meet this fresh face on the BDSM scene through SHA Business School (visit www.sexualhealthalliance.com to learn more) and I have been digging her vibe and work ever since. She has such a gentle but firm way of looking at sex and introducing people to kink!
Want to work with Julia or learn more about her work?
IG: https://www.instagram.com/eros_for_everybody?igsh=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr
X: ht...2024-07-2048 minStory Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 42-Surrendering to Pleasure with Goddess ErosSo many of us cannot let go and allow for pleasure to happen. Goddess Eros is trained in BDSM and Shibari-an ancient art of rope bondage. She discusses how she got into this work and her passion for teaching others to surrender to pleasure.
Be sure to follow Goddess Eros on Instagram @peopleoferos
Check out her website, www.peopleoferos.com for most current offerings.
Enjoy, my lovelies!
And remember, "Say Fuck No to the Status Quo!" this week.2024-07-1331 minStory Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 41- Becoming Pleasure Wise with Julia Satterlee, Clinical SexologistMeet Julia Satterlee! She has been teaching others about sex since she was a mere teenager and after working in public health, she found her stride in clinical sexology! She has the kind of persona that makes you ready and willing to open up and accept that pleasure is absolutely a right and that we can totally unlearn the bullshit we were taught by society and give a big ole YES to pleasure!
To sign up to Julia's email list: tinyurl.com/pleasurewise
Link to her course. DOORS CLOSE J...2024-07-0651 minStory Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 40-Coming out at 40, Polyamory, and more with The Relationship Rebel, Erin MacKenzieErin MacKenzie, The Relationship Rebel, discusses her passion to help people live their most authentic lives, and opens up about her own journey exploring polyamory as a mom in Canada. She talks about how coming out at 40 and being a massage therapist also played into her journey to become a certified s//x coach through the S//xual Health Alliance (SHA) program...just like yours truly!
To connect with Erin, you can find her and DM her on Instagram @therelationshiprebel
Looking to become a Sxual Wellness Professional? Go to www.sexualhealthalliance.com and find your path!2024-06-2847 minStory Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 39-Men's Emotional Wellness Exploration with Courtney Brame of SPFPP.org *BONUS EPISODE*Courtney Brame, of Something Positive for Positive People just won't stop creating some really cool shit, so I had to interview him before this event goes live on June 30th! After having the Herpes Stigma Virtual Conference, he has now created a Men's Emotional Wellness Symposium and that is happening 11am to 5pm EST Sunday, June 30th.
Tickets are available at www.spfpp.org/events and you can follow Courtney's evolving project @getselfed
The speakers are:
Jeremy Herte, the host of "Let's Talk Bruh" podcast
Teddy Williams, comedian and men's mental...2024-06-251h 18Story Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 38- Queer, K!nky & Empowered with Mistress CasContinuing to queerly say Fuck No to the Status Quo this month, we are joined by Mistress Cas AKA Casandra Rines for today's episode.
Mistress Cas is an intersectional scientist-practitioner, educator, love/pleasure guide and mental health clinician who lives with her partners and dogs in San Antonio, Texas. She started her career as a public health scientist and is now a mental health professional and certified sex therapist dedicated to helping people understand themselves and others. She is also a fat, disabled, mixed-race, crazy, Queer Leathermaster who has been active in kink and...2024-06-2257 minStory Time with the Intimacy AllyKinksplain NOT Kink Shame Vol. 3This one is a super duper quickie! I apologize for not getting it out on the 15th, but hey, I was away on my honeymoon, and shocked and amazed I got the regular episode out the night before. Huzzah!
We continue exploring our kinks, fetishes, and accessories with:
G is for Gagging
H is for Harnesses
I is for Intimacy!!! Cuz I'm the motherfucking Intimacy Ally baby!
If you have any requests for these, send your girl an email at...2024-06-1909 minStory Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 37-A Gay Love Story and More with Christi StaffordHello My Lovelies! Happy Pride Month! Today, my guest, Christi Stafford, creator of Automation on a Mission, and I talk about online dating, the differences of straight vs gay online dating, living in a bus, working 24/7 with your partner, being an entrepreneur, and we still were not done by the end of it! Christi Stafford is wildly engaging and I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did.
If you are a woman-identifying entrepreneur, I highly recommend checking out her work, and signing up for a consult call at https://automationonamission.com/2024-06-1548 minStory Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 36-Battling Trans Myths with Ley David Elliette Cray, PhDHappy Pride, my lovelies! It has come to my attention that I have not had enough of my LGBTQIA+ family on here. Changing that this month and it will continue in the months to come. For once, I actually do not have to put the 18+ warning on an episode! This is actually a shout out for trans youth and trans rights. I have had the pleasure of attending talks by Ley David Elliette Cray, PhD (she/they) through my training with the Sexual Health Alliance (SHA). Ley takes the time to lovingly answer questions that have baffled me working...2024-06-0849 minStory Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 35-Open and Honest S/x Positivity with Kendra HollidayMeet Kendra Holliday, a sex consultant, surrogate partner, and a sex worker. She has a fresh outlook on how healing men can butterfly effect out to increase the dating, romantic relationship, and sex lives of men and the women who are looking for them. She is a founding member of Sex Positive St. Louis, a wealth of knowledge on how humans interact intimately, and a person who you can just see connected to the world around her. Tuck in, my lovelies. This is an episode you don't want to miss.
Have questions or want...2024-06-0148 minStory Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 34-Masturbation Month Appreciation with Amy WeissfeldHappy Masturbation Month my lovelies! You are in for a treat! Meet Amy Weissfeld, founder of Joyful Self Love! Oh I do hope you enjoy this one my lovelies! If you are digging the podcast, please follow and tell a friend!
Be sure to check out her website,
http://www.joyfulselflove.com/
This is a great time to give yourself or someone you love the gift of a Workshop & Retreat with Somatic Sex Educator & Orgasm Coach, Amy Weissfeld. In person outside Portland, OR at the Dayenu Wind Mountain Retreat Center! ...2024-05-2543 minStory Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 33-Courtney Brame of SPPFP.org Challenges Herpes Stigma **Super BONUS Episode**Hello my lovelies! Meet Courtney Brame! He is the creator of Something Positive for Positive People. I think it is an incredibly noble and creative solution to the herpes stigma many people are dealing with out here in the world. He has a virtual conference happening on Thursday, May 23, 2024 and so I had to get on it to get this episode out! I hope you will appreciate his candor, his wealth of information, and his inspiring message as much as I do. Here are some helpful links to reach Courtney, explore his non-profit, or to learn more about Herpes...2024-05-221h 01Story Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 32-Pleasure Power with Shannon Burton AKA Sex Coach ShannonPleasure Empowerment Sex Coach Shannon joins me to talk about loving yourself, giving yourself the freedom to explore, and allowing for the infinite options to attain pleasure.
Shannon Burton is a sex coach out of New Orleans. She is certified by the Sexological institute. She enjoys going on journeys of self-pleasure with those she works with and geeks out on learning about people's fantasies and desires. Her insight is phenomenal and her ideas are exciting and original. Sooooo pressed for this episode my lovelies!
If you would like to...2024-05-1844 min
Hearts Entwined PodcastLet's Talk About Sex - Lyn Smith & Jeni Simas-LayteWarning: This Episode Contains Sexual Subject Matter & Adult Content - Please Be Advised Lyn engages in a candid discussion with The Intimacy Ally - Jeni Simas-Layte, who shares her journey into sex coaching after a divorce, highlighting the importance of breaking the stigma around sex and promoting body positivity. Lyn and Jeni delve into topics such as the impact of societal 'norms' on relationships, the need for comprehensive sex education, and the importance of consent and communication in healthy relationships. KEY TAKEAWAYS Jeni's journey into sex coaching started after her divorce, leading h...2024-05-1632 minStory Time with the Intimacy AllyKinksplain NOT Kink Shame Vol. 2Get ready to giggle as I say Suessical Joyney...instead of Journey. Woops. Today we explore letters D, E, and F.
D is for Damsel in Distress Kink
E is for Exhibitionist Kink
F is for Flogging Fetish
As promised, here are a couple links I referenced and look up Flogging Molly ffs!
https://www.verywellmind.com/exhibitionism-8406423
https://xtramagazine.com/love-sex/flogging-101-49845
Message me at theintimacyally@gmail.com...2024-05-1517 minStory Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 31-Gettin' Fabulous and FearLESS with Christina IoannidesMy guest, Christina Ioannides is a 6-time World Karate Fighting Champion, a breast cancer survivor, and the creator of the empowerment brand, Fabulous & FearLESS! She is living proof of the power of resilience, spirituality, and preparation. She also speaks on the balance between achieving your dream goals while maintaining a corporate world job. This is one episode you will want to look up on YouTube so you can see the things she demonstrates for self-defense. My lovelies, she wants you all to feel safe, strong, confident, and TAKE UP ROOM!!! Links to work with Christina below. Enjoy my lovelies!2024-05-1153 minStory Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 30-Sexual Healing (and other things) with Yvette LeFloreWant to learn about the chakras and how they can affect your sex life and love life? Look no further. Yvette LeFlore of Healing with Yvette takes us through the chakras, crystals, her own online dating story, and how healing comes most from the work from within. She's one of my favorite people and I've been lucky enough to have healing sessions and learn rituals from her! She is a reiki master and teacher, a healer, and a hoot and a half! Such a fun episode.
As usual, feel free to reach out with...2024-04-2741 minStory Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 29-Ethical Non-Monogamy with Tamara Pincus, Clinical Social WorkerIt is time to explore some relationship style options and get to hear the ins and outs (oh you know that pun was fully intended) of being ethically non-monogamous. I'm so grateful to have had Tamara Pincus, Clinical Social Worker, to help walks us through some of the finer points of this subject. She not only works with kinky folks who may be exploring different relationship styles, she is also a practicing non-monoger herself. Hope you are as delighted with her wisdom, candor, and wonderful humor as I was. Links to her center and the books she mentioned below!2024-04-2039 minStory Time with the Intimacy AllyKinksplain NOT Kink Shame Vol. 1Welcome to the first episode of Kinksplain NOT Kink Shame, my bonus episodes. Like Dr. Seuss...but about kinks. Ah really it's like it just because A is for Aquaphilia, B is for Breeding, and C is for Cuckolding. These are the 3 kinks we explore in this first episode.
As usual, if you have any questions, or if you think of a kink you would like me to cover, feel free to shoot me a message at theintimacyally@gmail.com or fill out a contact form at www.theintimacyally.com
2024-04-1522 minStory Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 28-Manifesting My MateApologies Abound. First for being MIA. Second for the shitty sound. Not really sure what went wrong here, but it is better after 3 and a half minutes. Some great nuggets here about how magic and weilding it has played a part in my growth and good fortune in finding a partner over the last couple years. I go into detail about my marriage ending, my moon ritual and how I manifested Zach. Results will absolutely vary, but I wanted to share what helped guide me to manifest my man.
Also, there's an announcement about...2024-04-1331 minStory Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 27-Boundaries BitchesSoooo, why do dudes hate boundaries? Well, we're gonna talk a lil about that but we're also gonna discuss why we're not so great at upholding them. Then I'm gonna give ya a few tips on how to strengthen them. Sound good? Cool.
Until Next Time, My Lovelies, Remember:
Say Fuck No to the Status Quo!
As mentioned, here are some sites to look into if you're looking to get some more training in this area:
https://www.schoolofconsent.org/
...2024-03-1620 minStory Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 26-Women and Stress MythsIn this episode, Jeni Simas discusses stress management for women. She shares her personal experience with stress and the challenges of balancing multiple responsibilities. Jeni explores common myths about stress and provides her own perspective on the topic. She also highlights the symptoms of stress in women and offers various stress management strategies. Jeni reveals her secret to not letting stress get the best of her and emphasizes the importance of orgasms for stress relief. She addresses the pleasure gap and the benefits of orgasms for women's health. Jeni challenges the guilt associated with stress and encourages women to...2024-03-0925 minStory Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 25-"Ugly" Girls Dating MythIt's Episode 25 My Lovelies!!! So much happening in here.
Today we dive into this myth that somehow "ugly" girls deserve scraps and crumbs and should just take what they can get when it comes to romantic relationships. I used to buy in HARD on this line of patriarchal bullshit.
I start off the episode with news about me winning a Pitch-off with the Sexual Health Alliance (SHA) which included a panel of my Sexual Professionals World heroes, Dr. David Ley, Dr. Chris Donaghue, and Jetsetting Jasmine! Y'all I about...2024-03-0228 minStory Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 24-You Don't Need to Be a "Fixer"Summary
In this episode, Jeni Simas discusses the topic of fixing others in relationships. She shares her personal experiences and how it relates to the TV show Parks and Recreation. Jeni explores the cultural influence on the idea of fixing others, highlighting the gendered expectations placed on women. She also discusses the impact of family dynamics and the relationship with parents on this behavior. Low self-esteem and fear of intimacy are identified as factors that contribute to the desire to fix others. Jeni emphasizes the importance of finding a good partner who complements you...2024-02-2422 minStory Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 23-Valentine's Day is a ShamMeh. I hates it. I'm going to sound like the absolute bitterest buddy in this episode, but hear me out. I just think it does more harm than good and the "story" behind it is actually quite gross. Capitalism has taken over Valentine's day for over a century. Let's spend our hard earned moola on something better and not be victims to the pressures this Hallmark holiday creates. Who's with me?
Dig what you're hearing? Gimme a like n follow and find me @theintimacyally on Instagram.
Are you re-entering...2024-02-1628 minStory Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 22-Sex Doesn't Have to Go AwayY'all, I hope you've missed me as much as I've missed sharing info with you! Life just crept up on me. I started an online grad school program and the final for my first class overlapped with some major mental health issues for a loved one and well, everything but the bare minimum came to a screeching halt.
Anywho, today I'm jabbering on about ways that sex can deteriorate in relationships and some ways to combat its demise.
If you like what ya hear, follow me on IG @theintimacyally. You can DM me there for...2024-02-0927 minStory Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 21-The 5 Love Languages are Bullsh*tHeeeyyyyy! The podcast is old enough to drink! LOL...so for episode 21, I present to you...how the 5 love languages are bullshit. I want you to wipe all of this Christian misogynistic rhetoric out of your head honey lamb! Credit where credit is due I have some links below to stories that inspired this episode and also, I made a whoopsie about Scary Mommy...don't hate me cuz I still love Scary Mommy! Enjoy my lovelies!
Oh, and if you wanna get on the waitlist for "Making Online Dating Magical" you can do that on the page...2024-01-1625 minStory Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 20-The Myth of SoulmatesSummary
In this episode, Jeni Simas debunks the myth of soulmates and explores the harmful impact of this belief. She emphasizes the importance of finding soul connections beyond romantic relationships and challenges the scarcity mindset associated with soulmates. By letting go of the idea of soulmates, individuals can experience freedom and open themselves up to a wider pool of potential partners. Jeni also discusses the key factors that contribute to lasting and fulfilling relationships. Additionally, she announces the launch of the Making Online Dating Magical Mastermind.
Takeaways
2024-01-0816 minStory Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 19-The Bullsh*t I Learned from Married with Children (the show)Calling BS on how we all came up thinking that Al and Peg's interactions were okay and that if someone treated you like scum, you could and should stay. I think personally, they had a more lasting effect on me than ANY positive role model. I still see it in so many relationships and interactions. So, here goes. Let's blow this one out of the water. Married with Children done f*cked a lot of our heads.2024-01-0219 minStory Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 18-Great Sexpectations of Online DatingDo guys want a date or the info for a sex worker? Is there really a number of dates you are supposed to go on before you are "allowed" to have sex? Are you doomed to be coined a slut if you hit it on the first date or a prude if you haven't by the 10th? Auntie Jeni is here to tell you it is all bull and that as long is there is communication, consent, and risk awareness you should be good to go. Also, money and time spent should not force anyone to give in to...2023-12-2621 minStory Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 17-The Myth-No One Wants to Date Women over 40 with KidsLike what you're hearing? Don't forget to Follow the podcast and follow me on Instagram @theintimacyally
Want to get on the waitlist for "Making Online Dating Magical"? Go to www.theintimacyally.com
Episode Summary
In this episode, Jeni Simas challenges the myth that no one wants to date women in their 40s with kids. She shares her personal experience of finding love online and emphasizes that age and parental status do not define a person's worth or desirability. Jeni encourages women to embrace their...2023-12-1920 minStory Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 16-History of Sacred Virginity with Adelina Adler"Oh no, you must not give away your flower, I mean your virginity. You will just be an apple with a bunch of bites taken out of it. You'll be a chewed up piece of gum."
If this is some of the bullshit you grew up hearing concerning virginity, strap in for a ride through time finding out just WHY virginity seems to matter so much.
Join me and Adelina Adler (she/they) as we embark on a journey through time deciphering the meaning behind and the myths surrounding...2023-12-0552 minStory Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 15-Tantra Lessons with Kira LeighHave you ever wondered what tantra is or how it could help you? In this episode, Tantrica Kira Leigh gives us insider tips on what tantric massage and this modality can do for you and your partner. Whether you are young or old, working with a penis or a vulva, or committed in a long-term relationship or learning about yourself, tantra can be an excellent tool to broaden your embodiment and pleasure.
Visit https://www.krystatantric.com/ for more information!
If you like what you're hearing, don't forget to...2023-11-2737 minStory Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 14-A Delusionship Letter from Prison with Guest Annie NonymousWhat is a delusionship? How do you know you're in one...or more to the point...how do you know when someone is in one with you. My guest, Annie Nonymous, received a letter from a prison one day and found out that someone sure thought they were having a relationship with her and she hadn't a clue. Tune in for the rest!
Check out my article on delusionships here:
https://medium.com/@theintimacyally/7-facts-about-delusionships-c7709845126b
As always my lovelies, should you need me, I am but...2023-11-211h 03Story Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 13-Dr. David Ley, PhD Interview on Women and Porn ConsumptionY'all, fan girl moment! Dr. David Ley, PhD, a personal hero of mine who ran some of my favorite discussions in my Sexual Health Alliance trainings and conferences is my guest today to discuss women and porn consumption amongst other topics we hit on along the way.
He is the author of Insatiable Wives: Women Who Stray and the Men Who Love Them Back, Ethical Porn for Dicks (now one of my FAVORITE books!), andThe Myth of Sex Addiction.
He also is one of the expert sex therapists who...2023-11-131h 03Story Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 12-Romantic Relationships Don't Cure Loneliness or DepressionIt may seem like a no-brainer, but legit, how many of us venture onto the online dating sites in the hopes of finding that "fix" or "cure" for lonliness? Here's the skinny my lovelies, this is NOT the way. I am here to tell you my tale of finding love online and then experiencing an incredibly heavy grief cycle and also to share some insight from professionals I admire on this very subject. I read an excerpt from Kira Asatryan's book, Stop Being Lonely: Three Simple Steps to Developing Close Friendships & Deep Relationships to get this discussion flowing and...2023-11-0645 minStory Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 11-Soft Cocks, Coercion, Cuddling, Surrogate Partnering and more with Michelle Renee!My guest today is Michelle Renee, the Human Connection Coach. She has created #softcockweek! She is surrogate partner, professional cuddlist, relationship guide, the curriculum coordinator for Cuddlist.com, a woman who rebirthed herself unlearning trauma and coercion and continues to push the envelope exploring how we relate to each other from the platonic to erotic. She has been interviewed by many media outlets and you can learn more about working with her directly or learning from her at https://humanconnectioncoach.com/
She can be found on socials @meetmichellerenee
2023-10-301h 19Story Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 10-Women Don't Watch Porn, Right?So, I daresay, more of us are watching than we're admitting, but according to research at least a third of the porn consumed in the US is being watched by WOMEN! Let's kick this socially constructed, misogynistic pile of poo to the curb. Not only are women watching porn, they are liking it and having better sex because they watch it!
Join me on a trip into the whys and whatfors of women watching porn!
Get your FREE Self-Love Guide by subscribing at www.theintimacyally.com or feel free...2023-10-2337 minStory Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 9-Narcissism and Domestic Violence Myths with Guest Stephany AnnHello my lovelies! Today, I am joined by someone I am so proud to have met. Stephany Ann is a domestic violence activist and survivor. She is also a mom, lawyer, and EFT practitioner. In this episode, we take a deep dive into the narcissim that haunted her marriages, domestic violence myths, and how she started her journey to understanding and healing with EFT.
If you would like more information on EFT or hiring Stephany Ann as a speaker, please email her at stephanyannspeaks@gmail.com
Looking to learn...2023-10-161h 05Story Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 8-Rape in Relationship Myths with Lyndsey Murray, CSTLyndsey Murray, Certified Sex Therapist, and I take a deep dive into the myths surrounding rape in relationships. Lyndsey is not only an LPC and AASECT certified sex therapist with a thriving practic in TX, she is also the co-host of one of my new favorite podcasts, Sex Positivity Unfiltered. We share our personal stories about rape, talk about where the breakdown in sex education needs fixin, and the patriarchal societal grooming that feeds these myths needs a kick to the crotch.
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https...2023-10-091h 09Story Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 7-Fanatic Religion Myths with Ellen LineIn the wake of the Danny Masterson sentencing, we are taking a deep dive into the psychology of fanatic religious groups. Our guest, Ellen Line, of Roar Wellness is a LCSW-C therapist practicing in Maryland who specializes in relational trauma. She gives insight into how Group Think in fanatic church settings, persecution complexes, and blak and white thinking can contribute to silencing survivors of sexual violence in such settings. She also gives advice on how we can support survivors.
You can learn more about Ellen if you visit her website roarwellness.co. Sign up...2023-10-0234 minStory Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 6-Too Many Rape Myths***Rape/Sexual Violence Trigger Warning***
This is the first of a 4 part series on rape myths I have called the Sexual Violence Myth Collection in my notes. This first one delves into the Danny Masterson sentencing a bit before launching us into 10 common rape and sexual violence myths perpetuated by our society. The next 3 episodes I will have expert guests on to discuss different myths shared here in more depth and give some perspective from a mental health provider standpoint. In this episode, I do share about my personal history with rape and sexual violence.
2023-09-2534 minStory Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 5-The Myth-You Have to be Attractive to be LovedMore of us than we would like to admit have fallen for this one. We have gotten it into our heads that if we are not a 10 on the hotness scale, if we are not model-level attractive, then we should just take what we can get when it comes to relationships. In this episode, I expose that social norm as utter marlarkey!
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Subscribe at www.theintimacyally.com for your FREE Self-Love Guide. Email me at theintimacyally@gmail.com...2023-09-1822 minStory Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 4-The Myth-You're Supposed to Fake It...Right?Did you grow up thinking faking orgasms was the norm? Did you have to lie about enjoying sex and you believed that was socially acceptable? Congratulations, I think you're like 90% of women! What if we no longer accepted faking it as a prerequisite for being sexually active? What if instead, we decided that we are never going to close the pleasure gap if the person on the other side of our faked orgasm is acting on bad information? Think how many legit and glorious orgasms could happen if we challenged this thought pattern!
You’ve...2023-09-1129 minStory Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 3-The Myth: Pro-Cuddling is Code for Something Else-Interview with Jasmine SiemonWe are a touch-starved, touch-deprived, Puritanical society and we only make ourselves look foolish when we assume that someone trying to heal those broken bonds of safe and kind touch is automatically doing something erotic. Join me for my first interview episode with Jasmine Siemon, long time professional cuddler, and FORGIVE ME because my mic was not working, but Jasmine's was, so I'm super quiet, but guess what, she's the one I wanted you to hear anyway. She talks not only pro-cuddling, but gets real about what so many of us go through as women after divorce, her entrepreneurship...2023-09-0440 minStory Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 2- The Dating Lie: Don't Show Your True Self UpfrontToday, we're going to be talking about something that is near and dear to my heart because I am very annoyed with how much I hear about it and how it is still a thing. The story that we are going to shake down today is don't show your true self upfront. Now when I say that, what I'm talking about is the advice that many of you have gotten to hide your true selves when you are starting a new relationship.
Where does this lie come from and how can we combat it in this ever-growing...2023-08-2816 minStory Time with the Intimacy AllyEpisode 1-Break-ups are NOT a Sign of FailureHave you ever heard the story "Break-ups Are a Sign of Failure?" Well, we're gonna go over a ton of reasons why that just isn't show. Don't let society dictate to you that you need to stay in a bad or meaningless relationship just to prove that you powered through. You are just as valuable as a single person as one in a couple, throuple, or pod!
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