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Are We Okay? with licensed therapists, Maddy & Jenniferare we... signing off for the summer?Before the gals take a (small) hiatus for the summer - Jen and Maddy reflect on everything this past year has brought them—both on and off the mic. They get honest about what it's like to do a podcast with your best friend, share what they’ve learned (and what they haven’t), and set intentions for the summer ahead. See ya soon! HAGS 2025-05-2327 minAre We Okay? with licensed therapists, Maddy & Jenniferare we... friends forever?This week, Maddy and Jen dive into friendship breakups—what it means when a once-close bond starts to shift. They explore when to move on, when to reconnect, and how life changes like sobriety, divorce, or grief can shake up your inner circle.Key Takeaways:Friendships often fade more than they explode—and that’s normal.Life transitions (like moving, getting married, or getting sober) can shift who feels aligned.It’s okay to reach back out, even after time has passed.Not all relationships are meant to last forever—and that doesn’t make them fa...2025-05-1638 minAre We Okay? with licensed therapists, Maddy & Jenniferare we... answering your questions?This week, Maddy and Jen are going through their mail bag and answering your questions. From how to handle credit card debt in a new marriage, to whether your political differences can survive the honeymoon phase, to navigating a best friend’s move to the suburbs—we’re covering it all... so, hop on in and join us! Key Takeaways: Lead with how you feel in tough confrontational moments with loved ones. DON'T TAKE MEDICAL ADVICE FROM TIKTOK. Your values matter more than your politics. Friendship isn’t about convenience—it’s about effort.If it’s a real fea...2025-05-0928 minAre We Okay? with licensed therapists, Maddy & Jenniferare we... confusing chemistry for compatibility?Dating can feel like a full-time job—and when you finally meet someone who seems normal enough, it’s tempting to skip the slow burn and dive in headfirst. But before you have the “what are we?” conversation, Maddy and Jen want you to take a breath.This week, the gals are breaking down green flags, dealbreakers, and the questions you really need to ask before locking it down. Three questions to ask before defining the relationship:Is it chemistry or compatibility?Do we want the same things out of life—at least in th...2025-05-0230 minAre We Okay? with licensed therapists, Maddy & Jenniferare we... freaking out about fertility?This week Maddy and Jen are diving into a topic that hits hard no matter where you are in life: fertility. Whether you're partnered, single, child-free by choice, or deep into planning, Maddy and Jen unpack what it means to want (or not want) kids—while confronting timelines, social pressure, and the emotional rollercoaster of egg freezing and family planning.Key Takeaways: Fertility is a mind game as much as a medical one. Whether you're actively trying, freezing your eggs, or not sure what you want yet, the emotional toll of f...2025-04-2527 minAre We Okay? with licensed therapists, Maddy & Jenniferare we... catfishing our personalities?Ever caught yourself pretending to be a Deadhead just because he is? Guilty as charged. This week, Maddy and Jen unpack just how much we let other people’s opinions influence the way we show up—on Instagram, on first dates, and even in our own heads.Why do we shape-shift to please others? Who are we really trying to impress? And how do we know when we’ve crossed the line from harmless tweaking… to full-blown personality catfishing?Key takeaways:You don’t owe the world access to your inner world...2025-04-1830 minAre We Okay? with licensed therapists, Maddy & Jenniferare we... giving your dating profile a glow up?Meet your dating app fairy godmothers - Maddy & Jen. Whether you've been on the apps for 2 weeks or 2 years, the gals are giving your profile the glow-up it deserves. From curating the perfect photo lineup to finding the sweet spot between witty and sincere in your prompts, consider this your no-judgment dating app audit—with plenty of hot takes and a few LOLs along the way.Because let’s be real—the goal is to get you off the apps and onto your first date! What you’ll hear about:Why your f...2025-04-1126 minAre We Okay? with licensed therapists, Maddy & Jenniferare we... moving in?Whether it’s with a partner, a roommate, or back at your parents’ place (helloooo pandemic throwback), living with other people brings up a lot. From differing standards of cleanliness to unspoken resentment and the passive-aggressive dance we all pretend we’re not doing—this episode is for anyone navigating the emotional rollercoaster of cohabitation.Key Takeaways:Living together isn’t always romantic: Sometimes moving in is about rent, timing, or convenience—not a Nicholas Sparks moment. And that’s okay.Communication is everything: Avoiding small issues (like not replacing the toilet pap...2025-04-0432 minAre We Okay? with licensed therapists, Maddy & Jenniferare we... ready for the real world?As we go on, we remember… all the good times we had together... but seriously—what happens when the college chapter closes and real life starts to kick in? In this episode, Maddy and Jen reflect on that post-grad limbo where everything feels both exciting... but mostly terrifying. Key Takeaways: It's Okay to Not Know: Not knowing your next move isn’t a failure—it’s an opportunity for exploration. There's power in saying, “I’m figuring it out.”Financial Realities Are Real: Not everyone can afford to move to NYC with parental...2025-03-2831 minAre We Okay? with licensed therapists, Maddy & Jenniferare we... inspiring you?This week, Maddy and Jen share what inspired them to become therapists and reveal the not-so-glamorous side of a job that’s suddenly considered “cool." Whether you’re a budding therapist, currently in therapy, or just here to eavesdrop— join us! How to be a great (or choose a great) therapist ... according to Maddy & Jen: Connection is everything. A great therapist knows how to build trust. Know your ‘why’. If you're becoming a therapist to fix people—or yourself—it’s worth pausing. The best therapists are grounded in purpose, not ego.2025-03-2134 minAre We Okay? with licensed therapists, Maddy & Jenniferare we... finding our Spice Girls?Making friends as an adult can feel like mission impossible. Gone are the days of built-in social circles from school. So... how do you meet new friends?This week, Maddy and Jen dive into the art of making new friends, the importance of putting yourself out there, and why your ideal friendship circle should be less of a one-size-fits-all and more like the Spice Girls—a group of people with shared interests, but each bringing their own unique personality to the mix.Your DBT skill of the week is... GIVE Y...2025-03-1439 minAre We Okay? with licensed therapists, Maddy & Jenniferare we... addicted to our phones?Today Maddy and Jen talk about the relationship we have with our phones. Are we just using them, or are we addicted? From mindless scrolling to compulsive texting, Maddy and Jen explore the psychology behind our screen addiction and what it means for our mental health. Tips for setting healthier phone boundaries: Do Not Disturb is your BFF – Keep notifications off to avoid constant interruptions and decide when to engage.Mute Group Chats – If certain conversations are overwhelming, silence notifications to check them on your own time.Break Automatic Checki...2025-03-0736 minAre We Okay? with licensed therapists, Maddy & Jenniferare we... mismanaging our time?Today Maddy and Jen are diving into time management—why we struggle with it, and how we can reclaim control of our schedules (and more importantly - our lives). From learning to say no without guilt to navigating the pressures of always being “busy,” the gals explore the tricky, tricky balance between productivity and rest. Key Takeaways: Saying No is a Skill – It's okay to decline plans without over-explaining. A simple “I’m not available” is enough.Prioritize Quality Over Quantity – Rather than stretching yourself thin trying to see everyone, focus on intention...2025-02-2834 minAre We Okay? with licensed therapists, Maddy & Jenniferare we... catching up?This week Maddy and Jen take a break from deep dives and just… catch up. And the big news? Jen set Maddy up on a date! They break down how the setup happened and why good old-fashioned matchmaking might be the best way to meet someone these days. A note from Producer Hailey: Oops! If you noticed the first upload of this episode was a little too unfiltered, that's because the wrong version was uploaded—the uncut version. Sorry about that! Won’t happen again. But hey, a perfect moment to use one of our fave DB...2025-02-2141 minAre We Okay? with licensed therapists, Maddy & Jenniferare we... catching up?This week, Maddy and Jen take a break from deep dives and just… catch up. And the big news? Jen set Maddy up on a date! They break down how the setup happened and why good old-fashioned matchmaking might be the best way to meet someone these days.We want to hear from you! If you have any topics you want us to discuss or questions you want answered reach out to us at hello@areweokay.com. Connect with us: Follow Jennifer on Instagram: @manhattan.wellnessFollow Maddy on Instagram: @downtownbehavioralwellnessDown...2025-02-2151 minAre We Okay? with licensed therapists, Maddy & Jenniferare we... breaking up?It’s Valentine’s Day, and what better way to celebrate than with a breakup episode? Whether you're single, in a situationship, or plotting your great escape, Maddy and Jen have you covered. Breaking up is never easy, but doing it like an actual adult? That’s a whole other level. Your 5 Step Guide to Breaking Up Like an Adult... 1. Are you ready? Are you reacting to a temporary issue or is this a deeper issue? 2. Plan it out. When, where, and how matters. 3. As...2025-02-1425 minAre We Okay? with licensed therapists, Maddy & Jenniferare we... getting fired?Did ya miss us? We're back! This week, Maddy and Jen tackle the dreaded “F” word—fired—and break down everything you need to know if you find yourself in this situation. Whether you’ve been let go, fear losing your job, or just want to be prepared, this episode is your survival guide.5 Steps to Survive Getting Fired or Laid OffStep 1: Give yourself time to process. Getting fired or laid off can be shocking and emotional. Resist the urge to immediately problem-solve or react impulsively.Take a day to sit with...2025-02-0729 minAre We Okay? with licensed therapists, Maddy & Jenniferare we... expecting too much from our in-laws?Coming off the holidays, you might find yourself reflecting on those tricky in-law dynamics—whether it’s navigating family gatherings, balancing expectations, or handling unsolicited advice. In this episode, Maddy and Jen dive headfirst into the complexities of in-law relationships. Join us! Key Takeaways: Assume Good Intentions: During and after the holidays, it’s helpful to approach in-law relationships with the belief that everyone is doing their best. This shift in mindset can create space for understanding and reduce tension.Communicate Effectively: Venting about your in-laws to your partner can create u...2025-01-1033 minAre We Okay? with licensed therapists, Maddy & Jenniferare we... overthinking resolutions?Happy New Year! this week Maddy and Jen dive into the ever-elusive world of New Year’s resolutions. From societal pressures to personal accountability, they share practical insights and tangible tips on how to make meaningful changes that actually stick—without falling into guilt, shame, or perfectionism traps.Your roadmap to creating meaningful change in the new year: Ditch the "New Year, New Me" Mindset: Instead, focus on being the same you, but better. Small, consistent improvements trump grand overhauls every time.Focus on Gentle Measurements: Replace rigid "every day" goals...2025-01-0324 minAre We Okay? with licensed therapists, Maddy & Jenniferare we... one year older and one year wiser?BIRTHDAY TWINS Maddy and Jen take listeners through a candid review of their past year. With humor, vulnerability, and plenty of relatable insights, they share their personal highs and lows, their obsessions of the year, and their hopes for what’s to come... adios 2024. 💌 A Note to Our Are We Okay? Listeners 💌Thank you, thank you, thank you—for tuning in, for showing up, and for being part of the Are We Okay? community. Every download, every listen, and every moment you spend with us means the world. Whether you’re here...2024-12-2726 minAre We Okay? with licensed therapists, Maddy & Jenniferare we... getting you get a BF in one year or less?Today Maddy and Jennifer lay out the ultimate roadmap for finding a partner in one year or less. With a mix of LOLs and practical advise they break down everything you need to know to make it happen—without losing sight of who you are.The Roadmap: Define Your Needs: Create an exhaustive list of "non-negotiables" and "nice-to-haves" to clarify what you're looking for in a partner. Work on Yourself: Reflect on patterns from previous relationships, take responsibility for your role, and clean up your “side of the street.” Put Yours...2024-12-2029 minAre We Okay? with licensed therapists, Maddy & Jenniferare we... our mothers' daughters?Today Maddy and Jen dive into the complex and colorful world of mother-daughter relationships. From Jen’s close bond with her mom to Maddy’s reflections on her own, the duo explores how their relationships with their mothers shape what they’ll carry forward—or leave behind—as parents.Key Takeaways: Mother-daughter relationships are dynamic: They evolve over time, shaped by shared experiences, individuality, and values.Clear communication is essential: Whether it's setting boundaries or addressing concerns, open dialogue can help strengthen bonds.Empathy goes both ways: Recognizing that mother...2024-12-1333 minAre We Okay? with licensed therapists, Maddy & Jenniferare we... expecting too much?Welcome back! Today, Maddy and Jennifer tackle the tricky terrain of expectations versus reality. Have you ever caught yourself wondering if your friends hate you since you're always the first one to make plans? or wrestled with the string of high hopes meeting not-so-perfect outcomes? Maddy and Jennifer share their most relatable client stories and personal insights... Key Takeaways: Reframing Expectations: Learn to replace rigid expectations with flexible hopes that leave room for joy and growth, reducing the sting of unmet goals.Perfectionism Isn’t Perfect: Perfection doesn’t exist, but s...2024-12-0635 minAre We Okay? with licensed therapists, Maddy & Jenniferare we... manifesting or daydreaming?Today Maddy and Jen dive into the psychology of manifesting... What does it mean to manifest? Is it just another buzzword, or does it hold genuine psychological merit? From vision boards and intention setting to actionable goal-making, Maddy and Jen explores the balance between dreaming big and staying grounded. Key Takeaways:Defining Manifestation: It's about clarifying what you want and acting in alignment with those goals. Think of it as mental scrapbooking with a purpose!The Science Behind It: How behaviors and thoughts influence outcomes and the importance of radical acceptance when t...2024-11-2937 minAre We Okay? with licensed therapists, Maddy & Jenniferare we... surviving the holiday drama?It's tiiiiime! Maddy and Jennifer tackle the perennial holiday struggle: managing family dynamics, setting boundaries, and finding joy amidst the chaos of the holidays. Key Takeaways: The Power of Preparation: Reflect on past holiday challenges to prepare for what’s ahead.Set Boundaries Without Guilt: Use humor or redirection to pivot away from uncomfortable topics.Interpersonal Effectiveness: Plan for specific relational patterns, whether it's guilt, anxiety, or anger, and approach each with tailored strategies.Honor Personal Needs: Carve out space for yourself during extended family gatherings.Ref...2024-11-2227 minAre We Okay? with licensed therapists, Maddy & Jenniferare we... adding to cart to feel whole?Today Maddy and Jen dive deep into shopping addiction, exploring its roots, personal experiences, and helpful strategies for managing impulsive buying habits.Key Takeaways: The Psychology of Shopping: Shopping often provides a dopamine boost, especially online. It can serve as a quick fix during stressful times but may lead to overspending.Mindfulness Techniques: Using tools like DBT, Maddy explains how mindfulness and self-reflection can help manage impulse buying.Practical Strategies to Curb Spending: Make a “shop list” of essential items.Use the 24-hour rule: wait a day befor...2024-11-1538 minAre We Okay? with licensed therapists, Maddy & Jenniferare we... avoiding at all costs?Maddy and Jennifer dive into the topic of avoidance and how it shows up in everyday life. From dodging text messages and delaying difficult conversations to steering clear of responsibilities like paying bills, they explore why we all avoid certain things and what it says about us. The duo shares their own experiences while offering insights on how to manage avoidance without letting it control our lives.Key Takeaways:Avoidance Snowballs: Small acts of avoidance can quickly grow, making things harder to face later.Curiosity Beats Confrontation: Approach tough conversations...2024-11-0833 minAre We Okay? with licensed therapists, Maddy & Jenniferare we... still BFFs?Join Maddy and Jen as they dive deep into the evolving nature of friendships across different stages of life. From sharing nostalgic stories about childhood friendships to exploring the challenges of maintaining connections as adults, they get real about what it means to sustain meaningful relationships. They discuss the significance of "quality over quantity," the reality of outgrowing some friendships, and why showing vulnerability can be a game-changer. Maddy and Jen also answer listener questions on balancing friendships and romantic relationships, managing friend-related insecurities, and navigating life when friends grow in different directions.Key Takeaways:2024-11-0140 minAre We Okay? with licensed therapists, Maddy & Jenniferare we... diagnosing ourselves sick and losing ourselves in labels?Today Maddy and Jennifer dive into the evolving culture surrounding mental health, wellness, and the ways we talk about our struggles. Together, they examine how social media and influencer culture have fueled the trend of pathologizing everyday emotions and labeling discomfort as illness, often overshadowing the real challenges of mental health. From the rise of “trauma talk” to labeling normal feelings as conditions, Maddy and Jennifer question whether we're losing sight of resilience and self-compassion along the way.Key Takeaways:Mental Health Isn’t Always a Crisis: Not every uncomfortable emotion requires immedi...2024-10-2533 minAre We Okay? with licensed therapists, Maddy & Jenniferare we... totally misunderstanding men?In this episode, Maddy and Jennifer, two therapists and best friends, dive deep into the male psyche, exploring dating patterns and common misconceptions around relationships. They share insights from their own clinical experiences, reflecting on how men approach dating and relationships differently from women, while breaking down why communication gaps happen so frequently.They chat about everything from societal expectations on men to the pressure women feel to settle down, and even offer tips for avoiding common dating pitfalls. Along the way, they also tackle some listener questions, including how to rebuild confidence after a b...2024-10-1838 minAre We Okay? with licensed therapists, Maddy & Jenniferare we... sabotaging our relationships?In this episode of Are We Okay?, Jennifer and Maddy dive deep into the tricky topics of insecurity, jealousy, and doubt in relationships. Drawing from their personal experiences and extensive work with young professionals in their 20s and 30s, they break down how these emotions can quietly sabotage relationships if left unchecked.From discussing the unique struggles faced by men and women in therapy to how insecurities manifest differently across genders, Jennifer and Maddy explore the underlying fears that drive relationship insecurities. They highlight the importance of open communication, the dangers of making assumptions, and how jealousy...2024-10-1144 minAre We Okay? with licensed therapists, Maddy & Jenniferare we... enjoying the moment or just filming it?In this episode, Maddy and Jen dive deep into a concept they’ve coined as “Nostalgia for the Present.” Ever feel like you’re living in a moment so good, you’re already missing it? That’s exactly what they explore. From personal stories about big life changes—like Jen expecting her second child and Maddy navigating her relationship—to the challenges of staying present, this episode is packed with insights.They discuss how the fear of losing what we have can sometimes overshadow our ability to truly enjoy it. Whether it’s in relationships, parenting, or personal achieveme...2024-10-0434 minAre We Okay? with licensed therapists, Maddy & Jenniferare we... doing this right?Welcome to the first episode of Are We Okay? hosted by licensed clinicians (and besties), Maddy Ellberger and Jennifer Teplin. In their first ever episode, we get to know the duo behind the mic as they share personal stories, reflect on their journeys, and ask each other some deep, funny, and even embarrassing questions. With over a decade of friendship and years of clinical experience, Maddy and Jen bring real, unfiltered conversations to the table. Whether you're navigating the chaos of your 20s and 30s or just looking for a lighthearted chat between best friends, th...2024-09-2634 min