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The Art & Skill of Coaching7 Advanced Coaching Questions That Reveal Blind Spots and Break Dysfunctional PatternsDescription: If your clients keep hitting the same wall—emotionally, behaviorally, or relationally—it's not because they're broken. It's because the pattern is serving a function they don't yet see. In this episode, Jess DeMarchis, therapist turned life coach and founder of the Art & Skill of Coaching, shares seven advanced coaching questions that uncover hidden functions in dysfunction, bring awareness to emotional patterns, and help clients build self-trust and regulation. Learn more about The Art & Skill of Coaching certification: https://www.jessicademarchis.com/the-art-skill-of-coaching ASC Waitlist: https://purple...
2025-11-0414 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingHow to Structure a Coaching Session That Actually Creates Change | Coaching Skills for Better ResultsDescription: Most coaches start their sessions with no clear structure — and it shows. In this episode, Jess DeMarchis, therapist-turned-master coach and creator of The Art & Skill of Coaching, walks you through the 5-step session structure that makes coaching more effective, consistent, and transformational. You'll learn: How to start each session in leadership What to do (and not do) in the first 5 minutes How to bridge sessions for deeper client progress The simple question that keeps sessions focused How to end with clarity, direction, and accountability If...
2025-10-2812 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingMy TOP Lessons from 2023Description: 2023 was a tough year for me- full of loss and challenges (both personal and professional). I learned a lot and shared my top lessons from this year. ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2023-12-2614 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingThe Invisible Energetics of CoachingDescription: As the coach, your job is to pay attention to what is being said and not being said, what is being seen and felt, and what you can teach and allow. In today's episode I break down the invisible but tangible energetics of coaching and how they can take your coaching deeper with clients. ---------- Free Resources: A Shift in Being- The Art and Practices of Deep Transformational Coaching by Leon Vanderpol ---------- Stay Connected: Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2023-12-1911 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingToxic Positivity in the Coaching IndustryDescription: There is a difference between optimism that moves a client forward and positivity that shuts them down. In today's episode, I break down the difference, discuss the harms of toxic positivity, and teach you what to do/say instead on your coaching calls. ---------- Free Resources: Toxic Positivity: Why It's Harmful, What to Say Instead (verywellmind.com) ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2023-12-1207 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingThe Pros & Cons of Group CoachingDescription: Group coaching can be mutually beneficial for both the coach and the client AND has its own set of challenges. In today's episode I am going to go over all things group coaching including what it is, the pros and cons of it, the key ingredients to a great group, group stages, problematic members, and so much more. This is a must listen if you are in the coaching space! ---------- Free Resources: The Ultimate Group Life Coaching Blueprint: A Complete Guide to Creating a Group Life Coaching Business by Joeel A. Rive...
2023-12-0513 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingHow to Structure a Coaching SessionAdding structure to a coaching session can be an effective way to add to the success of a call. In today's episode, I share a simple format that is backed by science to create cohesiveness, focus and change for a client. ---------- Free Resources: Coaching Questions: A Coach's Guide to Powerful Asking Skills by Tony Stoltzfus ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2023-11-2809 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingGood vs. Great CoachingDescription: Good coaching focuses on actions. However, if you want the client's new results from changed behavior to stay and/or continue, great coaching incorporates working on the thought level too. Because you can't outwork a belief. Tune into today's episode to learn my table technique used to break down beliefs holding you back and build new ones that will move you forward. ---------- Free Resources: A Shift in Being by Leon Vaderpol Good Leaders Ask Great Questions by John C. Maxwell Start with Why by Sim...
2023-11-2110 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingWhat Coaching IS and IS NOTDescription: As a coach, you are not your client's friend. Coaching is more than being a supportive listener; it is a skilled professional trained to help a client create different results. Tune into today's episode to learn what coaching is and what it is not. ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2023-11-1411 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingQuestions to Get Clients UnstuckThere is a form of questioning that is subtle but powerful in helping clients build awareness, breakthrough, and create empowering beliefs that will set the foundation for their uplevel. The best part?! It is scientifically proven and easy. Tune into today's episode to learn about and how to use Socratic Questioning. ---------- Free Resources: Socratic Questioning in Psychology: Examples and Techniques (positivepsychology.com) ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2023-11-0712 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingWoo Woo in CoachingThere is a science to change and coaching, but there is also an art form and wisdom that takes it to the next level. In today's episode, I discuss what the energetics of coaching are, why it is important and share a few tips to take your coaching practice deeper for yourself and clients. ---------- Free Resources: A Shift in Being by Leon Vanderpol ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2023-10-3113 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingCoaching Clients Through Break UpsBreakups are hard- whether they are with family, friends or romantic partners. But there are tools that can help you navigate those difficult transitions and associate emotions that I share with you in today's episode. ---------- Free Resources: How Not to Die Alone by Logan Ury Soul Broken by Stephanie Sarazin The Mastery of Love by Miguel Ruiz Broken Open by Elizabeth Lesser ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2023-10-2418 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingDon't Get Stuck in the Small Details or Big PictureSometimes overwhelm by either the big picture or the small details can keep you stuck. Today, I am teaching a simple concept to help you move through thought barriers and into clarity. ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2023-10-1707 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingThe Hero's Journey in CoachingEveryone's growth journey is different, but most clients will work their way through six stages. Tune into today's episode to learn about a concept called the hero's journey and how it can help take your coaching to the next level. ---------- Free Resources: The Hero's Journey: Step-By-Step Guide with Examples (prowritingaid.com) hero's journey - Bing images The Hero's Journey according to Joseph Campbell - video by Matthew Winkler and Kirill Yeretsky - YouTube ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching ...
2023-10-1012 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingCoaches Can't DiagnosisThe coaching industry has been throwing around some clinical terms that are concerning: narcissistic, depressed, traumatized, etc. These labels can be stigmatizing and over/misused online. Coaches are not qualified to diagnose and need to be mindful of their language with clients to prevent operating outside of their scope. Tune into today's episode to hear why even as a licensed therapist, I proceed with caution around diagnosing a client. ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2023-10-0308 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingTOP 3 Thinking ErrorsMost humans engage in thought patterns that distort their reality and negatively impact their experience. And in today's episode, I am sharing three common thinking errors you and/or your coaching clients are likely to experience as well as how to disrupt them. ---------- Free Resources: Cognitive Distortions: 22 Examples & Worksheets (& PDF) (positivepsychology.com) ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2023-09-2610 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingThe Shadow Side of CaringToday, I talk about the most common mistake I see life coaches make… caring too much. Too much of anything can cause problems, and that is true with caring as well. When left unchecked, caring can result in trying to rush, fix, or lead a client through their growth versus guiding them through their work. Tune in to hear my three tips for managing the shadow side of caring as a coach. ---------- Free Resources: N/A ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jess...
2023-09-1907 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingBehind the Scenes of My BusinessYou all got to ask me anything about my business & I answered your questions in real time. Tune in to today's episode to hear about how I got started in the coaching industry, what type of coaching I personally invest in as well as some behind the scenes to my business. ---------- Free Resources: N/A ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2023-09-1218 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingGoal Setting with the SubconsciousThe subconscious speaks in pictures, sounds, and feelings not words. So, when goal setting neglects these specifics, we are only using 5% of our brain power to help us hit goals. Tune into today's episode to learn a NLP technique called outcome statements to integrate your subconscious into your change work for yourself and coaching clients. ---------- Free Resources: N/A ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2023-09-0507 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingCreating Joy vs. Chasing HappinessHappiness is a fleeting feeling. Identifying and living in alignment with your values can create meaning and joy right now. In today's episode, I share my favorite 5 techniques from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy that I use in coaching sessions to help clients reconnect with their values and feel better fast. ---------- Free Resources: The Happiness Trap: How to Stop Struggling and Start Living by Russ Harris ACT Therapy Techniques: 14+ Interventions for Your Sessions (positivepsychology.com) ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching
2023-08-2911 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingMy 10 Favorite Coaching QuestionsThe quality of your coaching is related to the quality of your questions. Tune into today's episode to hear 10 of my favorite questions to use in client sessions and in my own coaching to facilitate growth and change. ---------- Free Resources: Good Leaders Ask Great Questions by John C. Maxwell Coaching Questions- A Coach's Guide to Powerful Asking Skills by Tony Stoltzfus ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2023-08-2209 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingComfort Zone- Shrink or Grow It?Stress can be dysregulating, and most people respond to it in one of two ways. Both of which reactions can be prevented and negative consequences avoided by expanding your window of tolerance. Tune into today's episode to learn how to grow your comfort zone and capacity. ---------- Free Resources: https://www.mindmypeelings.com/blog/window-of-tolerance ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2023-08-1514 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingCreate ANY Emotion ANY TimeToday, I am teaching you one of my favorite NLP techniques called anchoring; which helps you create any emotion you want at any time by using some basic science. Tune in to learn the three easy steps to creating your very own anchor for any emotion you want to experience more often. ---------- Free Resources: NLP Techniques: Anchoring in 5 Simple Steps (inlpcenter.org) NLP Anchoring Techniques and Examples | Kinesthetic Anchoring (nlpessentialguide.com) ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: w...
2023-08-0808 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingA Thought Is Just a ThoughtWe have approximately 40,000 negative, repeat thoughts every single day. However, just because you have an uncomfortable thought does not mean you have to feel uncomfortable. Tune into today's episode to learn a simple two step technique you can bring into your coaching practice to help both you and your clients have a thought without embodying it. ---------- Free Resources: Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction - MBSR Guided Practices | Jefferson Health Mindfulness- A Practical Guide by Tessa Watt Wherever You Go There You ARe by John Kabat-Zinn ...
2023-08-0112 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingTapping to Feel Better FASTNegative emotions can come out of nowhere and disrupt not just how you feel in the moment but wreak havoc on the nervous system. Having a tool that can address and ideally soothe difficult emotions quickly can be really helpful, and today I am sharing a client favorite called tapping that can help clients feel better fast. ---------- Free Resources: What Is EFT Tapping? 5-Step Technique for Anxiety Relief (healthline.com) https://i.pinimg.com/originals/ec/1e/7e/ec1e7eaeebb660112d8241772ea9ad58.jpg ---------- Stay...
2023-07-2510 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingNeeds vs. ValuesPeople will violate their values and goals in order to get their needs met. And although personal growth is a basic human need, it often gets neglected in our stressful society with so many competing needs. Tune into today's episode to learn a simple intervention to support you and your clients in your coaching practice who are struggling to be consistent in their self development. ---------- Free Resources: Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs (simplypsychology.org) Core Values List: The Only 216 Values You'll Ever Need (scienceofpeople.com) 2016_Complete_Worksheets_for_Russ_Harri...
2023-07-1815 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingYou Don't Have to Follow the "Rules"Sometimes what contributes to feeling restricted, stuck, or unhappy are the self imposed barriers, unevaluated expectations, and outdated rules you blindly accept and allow to influence your mindset, feelings, and decisions. Tune into today's episode to learn 5 effective questions to help you break through these limitations quickly. ---------- Free Resources: N/A ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2023-07-1109 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingWhat is the Art & Skill of CoachingGreat coaching is both a skill set and an art form. It is a blend of education and experience- science and intuition. In today's episode, I share my vision for the coaching industry and how my signature coach training program teaches you HOW to become a GREAT coach. --------- Free Resources: ASC Application: www.chatwithjess.com ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2023-07-0413 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingWhat To Do When You are Fighting Against YourselfOur psyche is made up of different parts- each with it's own beliefs and behaviors… that sometimes get into conflict with one another. Learn how to use a NLP intervention that will create more wholeness and therefore internal peace for both you and your coaching clients. ---------- Free Resources: No Bad Parts- Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model by Richard Schwartz, PhD NLP parts integration | NLP Sure ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2023-06-2712 minThe Art & Skill of Coaching4 Questions To Get MotivatedMotivation is a feeling that you can create. Tune into today's episode where I share a series of questions that can make you feel more clear, confident, and committed towards your goals. ---------- Free Resources: 17 Motivational Interviewing Questions and Skills (positivepsychology.com) Motivational Interviewing- Helping People Change by William Miller and Stephen Rollnick ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2023-06-2009 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingThe Unspoken Ethics of Life CoachingThe coaching industry can be a bit of a Wild Wild West with the lack of regulation, but it is still important to have some ethics guiding your practice to protect both you the coach and your client. In today's episode, I share my top 5 guiding principles for my practice and business. ---------- Free Resources: The Importance Of Ethics In Coaching (coachingstudies.org) ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2023-06-1313 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingTrauma-Informed Coaching (Part 2) 7 out of every 10 adults have experienced a traumatic event, and whether you are aware of it or not, you are most likely interacting with trauma survivors both personally and professionally on a daily basis. Tune into today's episode to learn one of two tips that will help you be more informed, supportive and safe for those survivors in your life. ---------- Free Resources: · The Body Keeps the Score: Brian, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel Van Der Kolk, M.D. · No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma & Restoring Wholeness with The...
2023-06-0615 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingTrauma-Informed Coaching (Part 1)7 out of every 10 adults have experienced a traumatic event, and whether you are aware of it or not, you are most likely interacting with trauma survivors both personally and professionally on a daily basis. Tune into today's episode to learn one of two tips that will help you be more informed, supportive and safe for those survivors in your life. ---------- Free Resources: · The Body Keeps the Score: Brian, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel Van Der Kolk, M.D. · No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma & Restoring Wholeness with The...
2023-05-3017 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingThe Emotional LadderIt is hard to go from feeling bad to good quickly, but I have created a technique called the emotional ladder to help you do just that in a way that works. ---------- Free Resources: Feelings Wheel The Desire Map: A Guide to Creating Goals with Soul by Danielle Laporte ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2023-05-2312 minThe Art & Skill of Coaching3 Non-negotiables of Life (Everyone WILL Experience)Every person will experience uncertainty, hard times and hard work. It is not about changing these inevitable aspects of the human experience, but instead changing your relationship to them. Tune into today's episode for quick tips on how to cope with these difficult non-negotiables of life. ---------- Free Resources: "Stutz" Netflix Documentary ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2023-05-1606 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingWhy, What, How (And In That Order)You are probably pursuing goals backwards! Tune into today's episode to learn about what is needed BEFORE the strategy of how you are going to accomplish them. --------- Free Resources: TED Talk- Start with why -- how great leaders inspire action | Simon Sinek | TEDxPugetSound - YouTube ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2023-05-0908 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingGood vs. GREAT CoachingGreat coaching is a skill that can be learned. In today's episode, I share my top 3 tips to uplevel your coaching to get your clients deeper results. --------- Free Resources: A Shift in Being- The Art & Practices of Deep Transformational Coaching by Leon Vanderpol Good Leaders Ask Great Questions by John C. Maxwell Coaching Questions- A Coach's Guide to Powerful Asking Skills by Tony Stoltzfus ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2023-05-0213 minThe Art & Skill of Coaching4 Lessons From Dating in My 30'sDating has been one of the biggest elements of my personal growth over the last few years. Tune into today's episode to learn the 4 biggest lessons I have learned about myself and relationships from dating in my 30's. --------- Free Resources: 8 Rules of Love- How to Find it, Keep it, and Let it Go by Jay Shetty The Seven Principles of Making Marriage Work by John Gottman, PhD Breakup Bootcamp- The Science of Rewiring Your Heart by Amy Chan IG Accounts: @thematthewhussey & @gottmaninstitute ---------- St...
2023-04-2516 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingDitch the Hustle CultureWorking hard and long hours is not the only way to be successful (and it is not sustainable). Tune into today's episode to learn 5 tips to manage working in our hustle culture. --------- Free Resources: The 'Rise and Grind' of Hustle Culture | Psychology Today Why Are Young People Pretending to Love Work? - The New York Times (nytimes.com) The Truth About the Hustle Culture (taylors.edu.my) ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2023-04-1811 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingYou can be BIG just not too bigI have this fear that if I embrace my personal power and show up 100%, people will not like me and I will end up alone. This fear of rejection, abandonment and loneliness kept me playing small which actually made me feel more alone than ever. Tune into today's episode to learn how I worked through this fear. --------- Free Resources: The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are by Brene Brown The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women: Why Capable People Suff...
2023-04-1113 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingHow to Make Friends As An AdultMaking adults as an adult can be hard, but can also boost your self worth, add to your life expectancy, and support you in improving your lifestyle. Tune into today's episode to learn 10 ways to create and cultivate new friendships. --------- Free Resources: How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie Becoming a Person of Influence by John Maxwell Together by Vivek H. Murthy, MD Almost 30 Podcast The 15 Best Books About How Adults Can Make and Keep Friends - Dandelion Chandelier ...
2023-04-0418 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingYou Regress When You Are StressedWhen you are stressed, your brain's functioning will suffer & your decision making will defer to what is habitual vs. growth orientated; keeping you stuck. Tune in to today's episode to learn three simple ways you can manage your stress, regulate your nervous system, and train your brain to make great decisions. ---------- Free Resources: Book Your Consult Here: www.chatwithjess.com Book: Wherever You Go, There You Are by: John Kabat-Zinn 7 Stress-Relief Breathing Exercises for Calming Your Mind (positivepsychology.com) ---------- Stay Connected Instag...
2023-03-2815 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingThe Inside Scoop on The Art & Skill of Coaching from Recent GraduatesToday, I interviewed some recent graduates from The Art & Skill of Coaching training program. They openly shared about their experience in the program, what they learned, and how they felt about the investment. Get all your questions answered in this behind the scenes look at this training. --------- Free Resources: Book Your Consult Here: www.chatwithjess.com ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2023-03-2123 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingYour Future Starts NOWStop waiting for the perfect timing, the perfect circumstances, or the perfect option to start- the only right time is right now! Because what you want tomorrow or next year starts with what you decide today. Tune in today's episode to hear some stories of how what I've created in my life today started with thoughts I created in my mind years ago. ---------- Free Resources: ASC Consult: www.chatwithjess.com ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2023-03-1409 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingCoaching is a ScienceWanting to help people is not enough to make you a good coach. Coaching is both a skill set and an art form that is learned and based in science. In today's episode, I share my vision for the coaching industry and how my training helps coaches feel competent and confident in their practices. --------- Free Resources: ASC Consult: www.chatwithjess.com ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2023-03-0713 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingYou are Your BEST InvestmentThere is a difference between spending and investing money, and I believe investing time and finances into your brain and body is the best use of your resources because with health and a growth mindset- anything is possible. --------- Free Resources: Favorite Personal Growth Books of 2022 Favorite Books- 2022 List - Google Docs ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2023-02-2809 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingMy Mental Health JourneyI share my own personal journey with mental health- including trauma, depression and anxiety as well as how a blend of therapy and coaching has helped me not only cope but grow through it all. ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2023-02-2129 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingHow to Build Self-LoveSelf love is a practice that is developed as a result of building a healthy relationship with yourself. Tune into today's episode to learn the four steps needed before self-love can be cultivated as well as 8 ways you can show yourself love today. --------- Free Resources: 8 Rules of Love: How to Find it, Keep it, and Let it Go by Jay Shetty Self Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself by Kristin Neff, PhD The Mastery of Love by Miguel Ruiz ---------- Stay Connec...
2023-02-1423 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingClient Spotlight- Dating as a High AchieverIn today's episode, I interviewed a previous client who felt stuck in her love life. We dove into what she learned about herself and dating, how she broke through long standing relational patterns that were holding her back, and even discussed the trauma work we did around a previous long term relationship that remained very difficult for her to process years later. --------- Free Resources: Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find and Keep Love by Amir Levine The Seven Principles for Makin...
2023-02-0722 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingHealthy Striving vs. PerfectionismStriving for perfection versus excellence can make all the difference in hitting goals and how you feel about them. Tune into today's episode to learn 4 proven techniques to replace your perfectionism with healthy striving. --------- Free Resources: Book: The Gifts of Imperfection- Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are by Brene Brown, PhD ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2023-01-3106 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingQuiet the Internal CriticThat relentless negative self-talk is corrosive to both your mental and physical health. The constant judgment and criticism can be tamed, and in today's episode I share four scientific approaches to help you do just that. --------- Free Resources: TED Talk: Know Your Inner Saboteurs Know your inner saboteurs: Shirzad Chamine at TEDxStanford - YouTube Book: Self-Compassion The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself by Kristin Neff, PhD ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2023-01-2411 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingImplicit Bias in the Personal Growth IndustryThe personal growth industry is a new field that has been traditionally led by white men, which has influenced the underlying assumptions and beliefs about self development that are not the most reflective or inclusive of the current individual seeking support. In today's episode, I discuss a few frameworks that may help us as individuals and leaders to be more compassionate, inclusive, and understanding of what's to be considered when a person is trying to change their life. --------- Free Resources: Blindspot: Hidden Biases of Good People by Mahzarin R.R. Banaji and Anth...
2023-01-1715 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingAttachment vs. CommitmentIf you give up the second it doesn't feel good or work out according to plan, you'll never hit goals. The secret to remaining on track is being committed vs. attached to the how, and in today's episode I am sharing my top 5 tips that build healthy commitment. ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2023-01-1008 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingHOW to Change Your ThoughtsChange your thoughts, change your life… but how do I do that? Tune into today's episode to learn a simple and powerful technique called reframing that can help you identify and manage your thoughts to help you achieve your goals. --------- Free Resources: Cognitive Restructuring Techniques for Reframing Thoughts (positivepsychology.com) ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2023-01-0314 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingClient Spotlight- MarleneToday's episode features a previous coaching client who shared what she unlearned as a result of coaching and how doing less actually helped her achieve more and feel better. ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2022-12-2720 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingLess is MoreYou can do it all by yourself, but at what cost? And in today's episode, I am breaking down how doing less can help you accomplish more as well as teaching you how to decide what to delegate and when to ask for help. --------- Free Resources: Books- Essentialism- The Disciplined Pursuit of Less by George McKeown Deep Work by Cal Newport The Gap and the Gain by Dan Sullivan Episode 23: Just Say No https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/just-say-no/id1612960277?i=1000571203724 ...
2022-12-2010 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingTrain Your Brain with a Mindfulness PracticeMany individuals are operating on auto-pilot and chronically reacting to their unconscious thoughts. Mindfulness, the ability to be present on purpose, is a simple practice that not only helps you reduce feelings of stress, anxiety and doubt in the moment but also change the structure of the brain outside of the practice in powerful ways. Tune into today's episode to learn my favorite 5 ways to start being more mindful. --------- Free Resources: Book: Mindfulness- A Practical Guide by Tessa Watt Wherever You Go There You Are: Mindfulness Meditation in Everyday Life by Joh...
2022-12-1314 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingHow I Coach Myselfust because I am a coach and therapist does not make me immune to being human. I still have emotions, thoughts, blindspots and learning curves that I have to work through on a daily basis. And in today's episode, I share my daily self-coaching practice that has helped me not only maintain my progress but continue to experience breakthroughs that help me feel better, build my business, and improve my life. --------- Free Resources: Self-Coaching Prompts: What am I feeling? What thoughts are contributing to these emotions? Are these thoughts famil...
2022-12-0612 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingWhat NOT to do During a ConflictFights in a relationship are inevitable, and learning what to do and not do during these moments can make or break the relationship. Tune into today's episode to learn 4 things to stop doing during conflict and what to do instead to create healthy discussion. --------- Free Resources: IG: gottmaninstitute The 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman, PhD Episode 32: How to Have Difficult Conversations ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2022-11-2911 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingGROW Model: How to Make a Decision and Move Forward FastDo you want to have a simple and easy method that helps you make great decisions fast? If so, tune into today's episode to learn how to implement one of the most widely used coaching frameworks. --------- Free Resources: Self-coaching using the GROW Model | Worksheet (performanceconsultants.com) Journal Prompts: If time and money weren't an issue, what would I do? In a perfect world … Wouldn't it be cool if … What does my gut say? If I knew I couldn't fail, then I would try … If I got radical, what would I say/do? Who can...
2022-11-2210 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingClient Spotlight- Rebecca Breaking Through Her Self Imposed LimitationsIn today's episode, Rebecca shares how she built the clarity and confidence to pursue her goals as well as how she created her dream life in 1/10th of the time she initially anticipated as a result of our coaching! ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com Rebecca: @rebecca.cuje
2022-11-1530 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingBuilding Self-TrustAre you outsourcing your intuition, trust 'authority' more than yourself, or struggle believing you know what's best for you? If so, tune into today's episode where I'll share 7 methods you can start practicing immediately to build your self reliance and integrity. --------- Free Resources: 4 Steps to being more Decisive https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/4-steps-to-being-more-decisive/id1612960277?i=1000566350509 ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2022-11-0810 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingWhat's the Function in the Dysfunction?All of your behaviors were learned, and some of them were adaptive at a point in your life. But what happens when they no longer work and cause more harm than good? Tune into today's episode to learn how to identify those maladaptive behaviors and learn to manage them vs. them managing you. --------- Free Resources: Internal Family Systems Therapy: 8 Worksheets and Exercises (positivepsychology.com) No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model by Richard Schwartz, PhD Journal Prompts What do I do...
2022-11-0115 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingYou are doing it backwards (Be Do Have)Any uplevel needs to start from a shift in who you are being. From there, your actions will change and create the result you want- not the other way around. Tune into today's episode to learn the BE DO HAVE concept that is key to creating meaningful and lasting change. --------- Free Resources: Journal Prompts\What do you want to have/experience? What will you be doing when you have those things? Who will you be when you do those things? How can you become that version of yourself now? In what ways...
2022-10-2507 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingCodependencyStruggle with a distorted sense of responsibility for others' feelings? If so, you may be experiencing some codependent features. Tune in to today's episode to learn what this is, who it affects, and how to manage it to discontinue this unhealthy relationship dynamic. --------- Free Resources: Book: Codependent No More by Melody Beattie Support Groups: Al-Anon Family Groups Website: Codependency: What Are The Signs & How To Overcome It (positivepsychology.com) Co-Dependency | Mental Health America (mhanational.org) ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demar...
2022-10-1812 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingBuild Successful HabitsSuccess is not a one time transformation. It is sequential and a product of your daily habits. In today's episode, you will learn how to identify your habits, acknowledge which ones are effective vs. ineffective habits as well as how to create new ones that will get you closer to your goals. --------- Free Resources: Books: Atomic Habits by James Clear The ONE Thing by Gary Keller Habit Tracker: The Ultimate Habit Tracker Guide: Why and How to Track Your Habits - James Clear Habit Worksheet: Jess DeMa...
2022-10-1114 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingClient Spotlight- Cat the Corporate Dropoutn today's episode, Catherine shared her experience of living in a van after losing her corporate job and what made her hire me as a coach. She shared her experiences of working with me, her major breakthroughs with coaching, and the results she has created; including buying a tiny home and running her coaching business full time. ---------- Cat's Instagram: @cat_farrell_lifecoach ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2022-10-0436 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingHow to Have Difficult ConversationsCommunication is hard, and it only gets more difficult when emotions are present and the stakes are high. Tune into today's episode to learn the tools you need and to get access to a structure you can use for your next crucial conversation. --------- Free Resources: Books: Crucial Conversations- Tools for Talking When Stakes are High by Patterson, Granny, McMilllian, Switzler Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg Website: Your Complete Non-Violent Communication Guide (positivepsychology.com) IG account to follow: @gottmaninstitute ---------- Stay Connec...
2022-09-2716 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingCoping with Outgrowing People & PlacesAs you intentionally change your life, sometimes you will experience unexpected loss and grief before the result is reached & it can be scary and uncomfortable to let go of known people and places, even if they are no longer serving you. In today's episode, I discuss this phenomenon often experienced during personal growth, why it happens, and how to cope with it. ---------- Free Resources: 3C Consult: www.chatwithjess.com ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2022-09-2010 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingConfidence Mini-MasterclassConfidence is a feeling that you create- It is a state not a trait. And in today's episode, you will learn my top 10 tools to boost your confidence and improve your mindset. --------- Free Resources: Reverse Goal List: Unwavering Confidence - Google Docs 3C Consult: www.chatwithjess.com ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2022-09-1325 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingTherapy vs. CoachingThere are pros and cons to both therapy and coaching. And as a licensed therapist and certified life coach, I give a behind the scenes look into both industries so you can learn more about each modality, what to expect from each, and which one may be better for you. --------- Free Resources: Podcast Feature on The Successful Nurse Coach: The Successful Nurse Coach: 027: Therapy vs Coaching with Jessica DeMarchis on Apple Podcasts ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2022-09-0615 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingHow to Make Your Goals a RealityTune into today's episode to learn NLP techniques that use your entire brain when creating and pursuing goals to make dreams inevitable outcomes. --------- Free Resources NLP Outcome Statement: It is now (future date), and I am, I do, I have (desired result). I see, hear, and feel (be specific) & I have accomplished this because (list personal resources)." SMART Goals Diagram: SMART Goal - Definition, Guide, and Importance of Goal Setting (corporatefinanceinstitute.com) ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.je...
2022-08-3015 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingBalancing Your Masculine & Feminine EnergyTune into today's episode to hear me coach a high achieving woman through her maladaptive hyper-independence and balancing of her masculine and feminine energies. ---------- Free Resources Books: Running on Empty: Overcome your Childhood Emotional Neglect by Jonice Webb, PhD Women Who Run With the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype by Clarissa Pinkola Estes, PhD Rise Sister Rise by Rebecca Campbell ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2022-08-2334 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingHow to Overcome Imposter SyndromeIf you feel chronically inadequate, that your accomplishments were due to luck or that you might be discovered as a fraud, today's episode is for you. Tune in to learn what imposter syndrome is, how it presents and how to overcome it for good. ---------- Free Resources 5 Types of Imposter Syndrome and How to Stop Them | The Muse Book: The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women: Why Capable People Suffer From the Imposter Syndrome and How To Thrive in Spite of It by Dr. Valerie Young ...
2022-08-1614 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingAttachment vs. LoveThe relationship you form with your parents influences your adult partnerships, and it's important to know how you relate to others and if your behaviors are serving or hurting your connection. Tune into today's episode to learn about attachment theory and some tips to create healthier dynamics in your relationships. ---------- Free Resources Book- Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find and Keep Love by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller Why I Suck at Dating with Alice Guevarra: Attachment Theory with...
2022-08-0916 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingThe 3 Deadly P's: Permanence, Personalization & PervasivenessTaking it personal, overgeneralizing and thinking it will last forever- These 3 thought patterns are linked with depression and anxiety. Tune into today's episode to learn how to stop these cognitive distortions and decrease your emotional distress now. ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching
2022-08-0207 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingJust Say NoBeing able to say no and discern what/who gets access to your time, energy and resources is an important skill in our world where we are often overcommitted. Tune into today's episode to learn three nice ways to decline. ---------- Free Resources The Ultimate Guide to Saying No (Scripts Included!) (marieforleo.com) ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2022-07-2607 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingThe top 5 fake beliefsThese 5 fake beliefs you subconsciously carry around are holding you back from experiencing more choice, joy and success. Tune in to learn how to catch and reframe your thoughts to feel more empowered and healthier today. ---------- Free Resources CBT's Cognitive Restructuring (CR) For Tackling Cognitive Distortions (positivepsychology.com) ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2022-07-1912 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingAnxiety is your FriendAnxiety can be a useful emotion when harnessed and utilized for good. Tune in to today's episode to learn the difference between functional and dysfunctional anxiety & 3 proven ways to manage your worry. ---------- Free Resources Curious How to Use Anxiety to Your Advantage? | Psychology Today How to Stop Overthinking Guide 3 Proven ways to stop overthinking NOW (flodesk.com) ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2022-07-1209 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingLIVE coaching on starting a businessTune into today's episode to hear me coach a young woman through her confusion indecisiveness, and resistance around starting a business. ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2022-07-0524 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingWhat is 'real' successIt is time to redefine success as more than this external accomplishment of fame, wealth or respect. Tune into today's episode to learn an updated definition of success that results in feeling lasting contentment. ---------- Free Resources TED Talks: What is success? | TED Talks ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2022-06-2808 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingSustainable Self-CareSelf-care is more than a luxury, is not a selfish practice, and requires more than just physical attention. Tune in to learn more about this life and career sustaining practice & HOW to start yours today. ---------- Free Resources Self-Care Starter Kit℠ - University at Buffalo School of Social Work - University at Buffalo 50_ways_to_take_a_break.pdf (oregonstate.edu) Self-care wheel .pdf (ucla.edu) The A-to-Z Self-Care Handbook for Social Workers and Other Helping Professionals by Erlene Grise-Owens ...
2022-06-2113 minThe Art & Skill of Coaching4 Steps to being more DecisiveBeing decisive is the skill to make decisions quickly and efficiently. In today's episode, I share 4 tips you can start using immediately to help you become decisive. ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2022-06-1410 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingBoundaries Aren't BadBoundaries are a simple but hard skill to learn and implement. However, they can be health, career and life saving. In today's episode, tune in to learn about different forms of boundaries and how to start using them without feeling guilty. ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2022-06-0713 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingFail Hard, Fail OftenEveryone experiences failures, setbacks, challenges and barriers. Tune into today's episode to learn how to turn those moments into opportunities for growth and success. ---------- Free Resources Fail Forward by John Maxwell Fixed vs. Growth Mindset: Differences and Tips for Shifting Mindsets | Indeed.com ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2022-05-3112 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingBust Through Your Limiting BeliefsBeliefs filter, delete, distort and influence our thoughts, emotions, behaviors and therefore life. Tune into today's episode to learn how to identify your biggest limiting belief and how to bust through it for good. ---------- Free Resources The Secret- Netflix Heal- Netflix Books: Loving What Is by Byron Katie Awaken the Giant Within by Anthony Robbins Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself by Joe Dispenza Cognitive Distortions (CBT- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) 10 Cognitive Distortions Identified in CBT (verywellmind.com) 18 Schemas (Schema Therapy) 18 Schemas | Schema T...
2022-05-2415 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingLIVE Coaching On Self-Forgiveness & CompassionTune into today's episode to hear me coach a young woman through a traumatic event that has resulted in self guilt, shame and blame. ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2022-05-1740 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingWe All Experience Trauma7 out of 10 adults have experienced trauma, and the scope of how it manifests and impacts biology, relationships, health and psychology is vast. Tune into today's episode to learn more about trauma and evidenced based tools to begin your healing journey. Socratic Questions: What makes me think this thought is true? Is there any evidence this is not true? What's the effect of believing this thought? How else can I look at this situation? What would I tell someone I love experiencing this? What could happen if I changed my thinking? What is a more true or...
2022-05-1018 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingSelf-Kindness Makes you StrongerIn today's episode, you will learn HOW to be kind towards yourself and the three elements of self-compassion that will improve your resilience, self-worth and well-being. ---------- Free Resources The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook by Dr. Neff & Dr. Germer Self-Compassion ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2022-05-0314 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingPreparing vs. Changing your LifeThere are 6 stages to creating change. In this episode, I share which phrase most individuals get stuck in and how to break through it so you can create change that lasts. ---------- Free Resources Atomic Habits by James Clear Stages of change graphic: Stages_of_Change.jpg (1274×1755) (focusforwardcc.com) SOC: Stages of Change Model | School of Medicine (llu.edu) ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2022-04-2613 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingSmart People Make Dumb DecisionsIn this episode, you will understand the importance of both your rational and emotional mind as well as learn a model to help you integrate both parts of your brain for more balanced decision making. ---------- Free Resources Emotional Intelligence 2.0 by Travis Bradberry WISE Mind Diagram: What is a Wise Mind and How to Find Yours? | ThePleasantMind MBSR: MBSR Guided Practices - Jefferson University Hospitals ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2022-04-1912 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingMulti-taskers are IneffectiveIn today's episode, we update what it means to be productive and provide you tips on how to not just get more done but add more value. ---------- Free Resources Deep Work by Cal Newport The One Thing by Gary Keller Getting Things Done by David Allen ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2022-04-1211 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingKnowing your values makes you happierIn this episode, you'll learn the difference between unevaluated and authentic priorities as well as how to identify your core values and implement them in your decision making to move your life forward in a way that feels aligned. ---------- Free Resources VIA Character Assessment: VIA Character Strengths Survey & Character Reports | VIA Institute Core Value List: Core Values List: Over 50 Common Personal Values (jamesclear.com) ---------- Stay Connected Instagram: @jess_demarchis_coaching Website: www.jessicademarchis.com
2022-04-0509 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingLIVE Coaching Call- Stuck at my JobIn today's episode, you will hear a live coaching session where Jess helps a client go from feeling stuck in her job search to feeling clear, calm and excited about her options. IG jess_demarchis_coaching www.jessicademarchis.com
2022-03-2926 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingConfusion is a feeling not a circumstanceIn today's episode, you will learn how to work through confusion and break through the fear cycle to get unstuck fast. IG: jess_demarchis_coaching www.jessicademarchis.com
2022-03-2211 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingUpdate your mental appsIn this episode, you will learn the top 10 negative thought patterns the average person has and simple, effective tools to break through each of them. IG: jess_demarchis_coaching Top 10 Cognitive Distortions: Cognitive Distortions (therapistaid.com) 10 Cognitive Distortions Identified in CBT (verywellmind.com)
2022-03-1514 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingReverse Goal ListIn this episode, you will learn the power of celebration and how to correctly measure success. I will also walk you through a simple and effective method to instantly boost your confidence so you feel excited to go after big goals. IG: jess_demarchis_coaching Reverse Goal List: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1SC_MP_Pq5u0IKttMXs0Ycsnbvt6-JJNFOF33U3_zXLs/edit?usp=sharing
2022-03-0810 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingHow to Stop OverthinkingIn this episode, I break down what overthinking is, who it affects, and why it happens. Tune in to learn scientifically proven techniques you can start today to have more control over your thoughts. IG: jess_demarchis_coaching How to Stop Overthinking Guide: 3 Proven ways to stop overthinking NOW (flodesk.com)
2022-03-0813 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingBusy is BadIn this episode, you will learn the difference between coping and numbing. I will challenge what society has praised as good coping and share tips on how to actively deal with both the stress and stressors of your life. IG: jess_demarchis_ coaching
2022-03-0809 minThe Art & Skill of CoachingHow It All StartedIn this episode, you will learn a little about me and why I created this podcast. I will share the biggest barrier I've seen in peoples' healing and growth as well as the two steps to break through any blockage to change and uplevel your life for good. instagram: jess_demarchis_coaching 30 Days to go from Confused to Clear Journal: 30 DAY CONFUSED TO CLEAR JOURNAL (flodesk.com) 3 Proven Ways to Stop Overthinking NOW: 3 Proven ways to stop overthinking NOW (flodesk.com)
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