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Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideERP 456: How to Navigate Relationship - When a Partner Has Anxiety - An Interview with Jeanne RetiefHave you ever felt like the internal turmoil you're battling is invisible to the rest of the world? Like no one truly understands the gravity of what you're experiencing because you appear calm and composed on the outside? The struggle to manage anxiety while maintaining healthy relationships is a complex and often misunderstood journey. The challenge lies not only in dealing with the anxiety itself but also in finding ways to communicate your needs to those around you effectively. In this episode, we delve deep into the real-life experiences of someone who has navigated the tumultuous waters...
2024-12-2452 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideERP 437: How to Negotiate Opposing Perspectives in Relationship – An Interview with Jessica Myers-AdamsDo you find it difficult to negotiate differing perspectives without sacrificing your own identity or creating deeper rifts? How do we balance our own needs with those of our partner? How do we stay connected even when conflict arises? Relationships can be a delicate balancing act, where the yearning for closeness and the need for autonomy often collide, leaving couples in a state of disconnection and frustration. In this episode, we delve into this very dilemma, exploring the concept of becoming "relationship visionaries," emphasizing the importance of prioritizing the relationship's higher intention over individual desires. Through compelling...
2024-08-1349 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideERP 420: The Importance Of "Turning Towards" In Relationship — An Interview With Laura HeckLoneliness and disconnection in relationships can often stem from unmet needs for emotional connection. When one partner reaches out for support, validation, or understanding, and their bids go unnoticed or ignored, it can lead to feelings of isolation and alienation. This lack of responsiveness can create a sense of being unheard or unseen, deepening the emotional distance between partners. Over time, repeated instances of unmet bids can erode trust and intimacy, leaving individuals feeling unfulfilled and disconnected in their relationship. In this episode, Laura Heck and Dr. Jessica Higgins delve into the importance of turning towards your...
2024-04-1653 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideERP 411: What Are The Signs Of Emotional Immaturity In Relationship? Part TwoDo you often feel like you're bearing the emotional burden in your relationship while your partner struggles to express their feelings and handle difficult conversations? If these dynamics sound familiar, you may be navigating the complexities of emotional immaturity in your relationship. Welcome back to the Empowered Relationship Podcast, where we continue our exploration of emotional immaturity and its impact on relationships. If you missed part one of this multi-series, I highly recommend giving it a listen, where we explored five key characteristics of emotional immaturity. In this episode, we're diving deeper into this topic...
2024-02-1335 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideERP 410: What Are The Signs Of Emotional Immaturity In Relationship?In a previous episode, discussions surrounding emotional immaturity and its genderized portrayal sparked significant interest and feedback from listeners. Responding to this engagement, today's episode marks the beginning of a comprehensive multi-part series, committed to exploring emotional immaturity in depth. The series aims to shed light on this topic without resorting to labels or diagnoses, acknowledging emotional immaturity as a developmental facet existing on a continuum. This particular episode focuses on unraveling the concept of emotional immaturity, shedding light on its definition and key characteristics. Dr. Jessica Higgins underscores the significance of cultivating awareness as a tool...
2024-02-0634 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideERP 407: Things To Consider (Biologically) When Engaging In The HookUp Culture — An Interview With Dr. Joe MaloneThe hookup culture is a societal shift characterized by casual, short-term sexual engagements, highlighting a reluctance to commit to long-term relationships. This cultural phenomenon, especially prevalent among young adults and college students, poses challenges rooted in an insufficient understanding of the physiological and emotional aspects involved. The immediate pursuit of pleasure, combined with societal expectations, frequently results in miscommunication, unmet expectations, and emotional turmoil, reshaping the dynamics of modern relationships. In this episode, Dr. Joe Malone and Dr. Jessica Higgins share valuable insights and actionable steps to navigate this complex landscape, providing a nuanced perspective on fostering...
2024-01-1654 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideERP 405: How To Manage Relationships With In-Laws More Effectively - Part TwoIn the previous episode, we delved into the intricacies of navigating challenging relationships with in-laws, particularly amidst the holiday season. We discussed valuable insights on emotional regulation and proactive communication. Now, in part two, Dr. Jessica Higgins further explores the multifaceted nature of conflicts and disparities that can arise in these relationships. Drawing from client cases and personal anecdotes, she illuminates common challenges encountered. In this episode, Dr. Higgins focuses on three key areas related to privacy within the context of in-law relationships. The overarching theme is the crucial need for partners to align their...
2024-01-0244 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideERP 404: How to Manage Relationships with In-Laws More Effectively — Part OneNavigating relationships with in-laws is often a subtle journey filled with its unique set of challenges, and it's a topic that has generated numerous requests from our audience. As we find ourselves on the brink of the holiday season, these challenges may become more pronounced, making it an opportune time to address the intricacies of managing relationships with in-laws. In this episode, Dr. Jessica Higgins provides actionable insights and practical tips to empower listeners in navigating these relationships more effectively. Whether you're grappling with strained connections, seeking strategies for smoother communication, or simply aiming to enhance understanding...
2023-12-2644 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideERP 395: How To Navigate Relationship When One Partner Is Choosing Sobriety — An Interview With Celeste YvonneIn recent years, the rise of the celebrated "mommy wine" culture has given rise to a pressing issue that provides a deceptively innocent escape for mothers. Yet beneath the surface, many mothers find themselves entangled in a web of excessive alcohol consumption that negatively affects their lives and relationships. In this episode, Celeste Yvonne and Dr. Jessica Higgins delve into the challenging dynamics faced by couples when one partner decides to embrace sobriety while the other continues to drink. We explore the isolation and emotional strain often experienced by those navigating this complex terrain. The discussion offers...
2023-10-2451 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideERP 381: When Your Person Is Leaning Out & What You Can Do About It — Dr. Jessica Higgins Answers A Listener’s QuestionsIn this special episode, the Empowered Relationship Podcast deviates from its usual format of interviewing experts to provide dedicated attention to addressing a listener's thought-provoking questions. The question centers around a familiar dynamic often observed in relationships, where one partner finds themselves leaning away from the relationship while the other remains invested and leaning in. Listener’s Questions “How do you come to terms in a marriage of holding true to your commitment of loyalty for life, sticking through the "for worse", and being able to trust your judgment at the time you chose your spou...
2023-07-1849 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideERP 378: How To Cultivate Personal & Relational Well-Being — An Interview With Dr. Kalen HammannCultivating personal and relational well-being can be a challenging task, especially when faced with negative communication patterns and misunderstandings. However, it is essential for individuals to prioritize their innate mental health and create a bond of love and connection with their partners. In this episode, Dr. Kalen Hammann and Dr. Jessica Higgins delve into the intricate challenges that couples face while building and sustaining lasting intimacy. They provide valuable insights into transforming negative communication patterns into connected communication. They also shed light on the different phases of therapy, the significance of building positive energy, and the importance...
2023-06-2755 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideERP 375: How To Maintain A Sense Of Self Within An Intimate Relationship — An Interview With Amber PriceIntimacy in a relationship is a beautiful and fulfilling experience, but finding harmony between a deep connection and maintaining a sense of self is a delicate dance that many couples strive to master. It's a journey of self-discovery and growth that requires navigating the fine line between connection and autonomy. In this thought-provoking conversation, relationship experts Amber Price and Dr. Jessica Higgins, unravel the complexities of this subject, offering valuable insights and practical advice for individuals seeking to preserve their individuality while fostering a deep bond with their partner. The discussion delved into the concept...
2023-06-0649 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideERP 374: Maintaining A Healthy Relationship When The Demands & Stress Levels Are High… Like For Military Couples - An Interview With Bree CarrollMilitary couples face a unique set of challenges that can put their relationships to the test. From long deployments and frequent relocations to the emotional toll of separation and the weight of responsibility, they often find themselves in situations where maintaining connection and emotional well-being become paramount. But despite the extraordinary circumstances they face, military couples exemplify unwavering strength, commitment, and love. In this episode, Bree Carroll and Dr. Jessica Higgins explored how to maintain a healthy relationship amidst the demands and stress levels experienced by these couples, highlighting the remarkable resilience, intentional efforts, and unwavering commitment...
2023-05-3053 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideERP 373: How To Embrace Ambivalence When Making Big Relationship Decisions — An Interview With Rachel ZamoreRelationships often confront us with moments of uncertainty, where conflicting emotions and wavering decisions leave us feeling overwhelmed. But, what if we could view ambivalence as an opportunity for personal growth, self-discovery, and empowered decision-making? In this enlightening discussion with relationship expert Rachel Zamore and Dr. Jessica Higgins, we explored profound insights into navigating the intricate landscape of ambivalence in relationships. From recognizing the significance of self-care to cultivating compassion, this episode provides a roadmap for embracing ambivalence and making impactful relationship choices with clarity and confidence. If you currently stand at the crossroads of...
2023-05-2359 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideERP 370: Steps To Reduce Stagnation In Relationship — An Interview With Abi SinghAre you feeling like your relationship has hit a plateau? Perhaps you and your partner have been together for a while and things just don't seem to be moving forward. Don't worry, you're not alone. Maintaining a healthy and happy relationship can be a challenging task, even for the most committed couples. Over time, relationships can hit a stagnant point where both partners feel disconnected, bored, or unfulfilled. Fortunately, there are steps that can be taken to avoid that. In this episode, Abi Singh and Dr. Jessica Higgins shares valuable insights and tips on how t...
2023-05-0245 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideERP 367: Learning To Disarm Our Emotional Weapons — An Interview With Dr. Shawn HaywoodIs your relationship constantly fraught with emotional arguments? When things get tough, do you resort to emotional weapons like anger, blame, or shutting down? It's time to take a step back and examine the role these emotional weapons play in your relationship. In this episode, Dr. Shawn Haywood and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss the ways in which people use emotional weapons to protect themselves, the negative impacts of using these weapons, and how to identify and disarm them. Dr. Haywood shares valuable insights and practical tips for gaining awareness of our emotional weapons, asking for...
2023-04-1145 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideERP 342: How Love Transforms Our Nervous System — An Interview With Jessica BaumRelationships are the best mirror for our deepest fears and emotions. Although you may have been able to suppress these feelings as an adult, getting into a committed relationship can bring them to the surface. Can love transform our nervous system and mend these wounds? The short answer is yes. In this episode, Jessica Baum discusses core wounds and the emotional charge associated with that narrative. She also discusses co-regulation and interdependency and how they can be used to better understand your own and your partner's behavior. Jessica Baum, LMHC, is the founder...
2022-10-1851 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideERP 329: Specific Ways Of How To Deal With Criticism In RelationshipIf you've been listening to the Empowered Relationship Podcast, you've probably heard Dr. Jessica Higgins talk about criticism and how it affects relationships. The goal here is to collaborate with your partner to co-create a fulfilling and passionate relationship. However, leading with criticism can make you or your partner feel defensive or attacked, diverting the entire communication to this criticism defensive loop. In this episode, Dr. Higgins answers some listener and reader questions about criticism, along with some illustrations to help explain it further. As with many of these podcasts, these are not comprehensive responses, but they...
2022-07-1944 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideERP 309: How Your Communication Style Reveals Opportunities For Growth — An Interview With Linda BonnarWe are all shaped and informed by our childhood experiences, and these experiences undoubtedly influence how we show up in our relationships. And, while our childhood is a part of who we are, it does not bind us to these limiting beliefs and relational models. In this episode, we discuss how we can manage our thoughts and change the stories that we tell ourselves. We'll look at Neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) and how it can help you communicate more effectively and ultimately help us create newfound habits. Passionate about empowering others to succeed, as a Breakthrough...
2022-03-0152 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideERP 308: How To Decode Expectations For Your Highest Good — An Interview with Christal AllenDo you have to keep reminding your partner to take out the trash or put away the laundry? Well, you are not alone and it can be frustrating when you expect them to do something but they don’t. As a result, you'd react negatively, and they'd respond negatively, resulting in a downward spiral that leads to a power struggle. In this episode, Christal Allen brings to light how decoding expectations can empower you in creating ease and fulfillment in your relationship by changing how you show up in the relationship rather than waiting for the other pe...
2022-02-2253 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideERP 305: The Surprising & Powerful Benefits Of Learning To Tolerate Discomfort — An Interview With Dr. Anna LembkeOur brains are hardwired to seek pleasure and avoid pain and that’s what’s been keeping us alive. However, that's a problem in this day and age where we have an overabundance of highly potent and reinforcing drugs at the tip of a finger. As a result, there’s been a significant increase in the percentage of anxiety, depression, and other psychiatric problems as we are constantly seeking pleasure. In this episode, we’ll learn what’s happening in our neurobiology as we seek comfort in a dopamine-rewarding behavior as well as what happens when we learn to t...
2022-02-0149 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideERP 302: How To Avoid Self-Sabotage In Relationship — An Interview With Roy BiancalanaJust like Roy, some people jump from one relationship to another because they believe that the right person is going to fix their relationship challenges. What they don’t realize is that they are just avoiding the pain. Eventually, they get hurt all over again and look for another relationship to fill the void. In this episode, Roy talks about self-sabotage in relationships, how that happens, and some tips to overcome them. Roy Biancalana is a certified relationship coach and a nationally recognized expert in the field of attraction and conscious relationships and is the ho...
2022-01-1149 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideERP 296: How to Cultivate More Relational Mindfulness — An Interview With Shari FoosIn the spur of the moment, a simple argument can go out of hand if we focus on proving that we are right rather than seeking to understand our partner's emotional needs. We basically just listen so we can rebut. Whilst it does seem to be clever, it is not the same as understanding. So, what can we do to change that? Shari Foos dives into what Relational Mindfulness is and how we can apply it to create meaningful connections in both romantic and non-romantic relationships. Shari Foos is a licensed marriage and family therapist a...
2021-11-3046 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideERP 269: How To Break Free From The Nice Guy Syndrome That Is Holding You Back - An Interview With Dr. Robert GloverThe Nice Guy Syndrome has become the norm for so many men. Dr. Robert Glover, author of the book "No More Mr. Nice Guy," comes on today's show to tell us how to unlearn this passive-aggressive persona, overcome sexual shame, and enjoy healthier relationships. Dr. Robert Glover shares his own history of living as a Nice Guy and the breaking points that told him enough is enough. He has spent over 30 years helping men and women get the love, sex, and life they want. His groundbreaking books, classes, podcasts, and seminars have helped form the foundation for...
2021-05-2556 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow To Access More Vulnerability & Curiosity During Difficult Conversations - An Interview With Shana JamesIn today's episode, Shana James and I talk about being more vulnerable and showing more transparency about our experience, intentions, and hopes and how this can help promote more intimacy in relationships. When relating to others, on one end of the spectrum we can be people-pleasing and shame collapsing. On the opposite side, we can be controlling and dominant. Neither option leads to a fulfilling relationship. Whereas in the middle, we have a sense of assertiveness, strength, and having an open heart with transparency and vulnerability. Having a healthy balance and a dynamic exchange between t...
2021-05-0443 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow to Break Through Relationship Fears with Your SO - an Interview with Georgia Morley and Silver StoricIn today's episode, Georgia, Silver, and I chat about how to take a different perspective with your partner, how to know each other more deeply and have the ability to cultivate intimacy in relationship. Prior to meeting, Georgia hadn’t thrived in relationships and Silver had essentially written them off completely. When Silver and Georgia entered into relationship, they decided to start to open up to each other as never before. They recorded every conversation and used their talking points to create their first book together. We often aren't taught intimacy in o...
2021-04-2746 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow To Increase Your Emotional Intelligence In Relationship - An Interview with Robin HillsIn today's episode, Robin Hills and I chat about emotional intelligence and how your EI can improve your relationship. Robin talks about his life-long journey in developing EI skills for himself and what emotional intelligence looks like in action. As emotional beings, we can't manage our "emotional platter" all the time. There are times when we aren't feeling well, and we won't be at our EI best. In addition, we can find times to give others space when they need an emotional break. Self-awareness plays a significant role in emotional intelligence. Those with high self-awareness...
2021-04-2049 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow To Develop 3 Key Qualities Of Positive Masculine Leadership - An Interview GS YoungbloodIn today's episode, I'm chatting with GS Youngblood, a coach focusing on masculine energy. The values of clarity and leadership are what he uses as a basis for his model on masculine leadership. We talk about the masculine energy in relationship to the feminine energy and how each energy holds its own space in each relationship. GS's practice focuses on what men can do to get over their "nice guy" energy in trying to appease everyone. His blueprints show men how to respond from their masculine core without feeling like they have to control everything around them.
2021-04-1348 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow Do I Know When My Relationship Has Reached An EndIn today's episode, I will offer some input on what you want to be considering if you are doubting or questioning your relationship. Evaluating the choice to stay or go will matter depending on your commitment level, if you are dating or if you are in a long-term committed relationship or marriage. Overall, it is tough to give a prescriptive answer that will fit everyone. Some standard deal-breakers make being in a relationship impossible or too harmful and painful such as abuse, addiction, or affairs. Other times, we may experience nuances that make it difficult t...
2021-04-0643 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow To Strengthen Your Relationship From A Polyvagal Perspective - An Interview with Dr. Stephen PorgesIn today’s episode, I’m joined by Stephen Porges, and we’ll be talking about how to create safety with reciprocal cues within a relationship from a polyvagal perspective. Polyvagal theory helps us understand how our nervous systems operate and how we can support our ability to be more present and open with another. Stephen encourages us to consider how we typically view various aspects of relationship: the ways we experience attraction and bonding and our sense of love and long-term relationship. Through these understandings, we can improve our relationship by developing more connection, security and safety...
2021-03-3053 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow To Break Free from Codependency in a Relationship - An Interview With Sherry GabaIn today’s episode, I’m joined by Sherry Gaba, who has a clinical background with addiction and codependency, and we discuss where people get stuck with codependency. We talk about how problematic codependency can be and the loss of self that accompanies an unequal relationship. She talks about codependency often involves an inability to control or abstain from compulsive behavior, why codependency affects females and males equally, and how the combination of narcissists and a codependent person can be particularly problematic. Listen in to learn how trauma plays a role in codependency, why the heal...
2021-03-2335 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow To Improve Problematic Relationship Dynamics When ADHD Symptoms Exist - An Interview with Melissa OrlovIn today’s episode, I’m joined by Melissa Orlov, one of the foremost authorities on how ADHD impacts adult relationships. She gives insight on what problematic dynamics to look for in your relationship when one partner is affected by ADHD, how ADHD affects household responsibilities and the relationship connection. She talks about why the non-ADHD partner takes on more responsibilities in a relationship, how the non-ADHD partner ends up assuming a parenting role in an adult relationship, and her structure for helping people manage their ADHD symptoms. Listen in to learn how to create a mor...
2021-03-1642 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow To Create Powerfully Positive Connections - An Interview with Dan SolinIn today’s episode, I’m joined by Dan Solin who helps us understand our conversations and interactions with others, as well as how to cultivate more happiness and positivity in our relationships. He talks about gaining awareness around what can get activated during a discussion or activity within a relationship, growing your capacity for love, happiness, and fulfillment, and how to encourage your partner to move towards you and to become responsive. Listen in to learn how to take advantage of shifting attack and criticism to more connections and why the more you empower the...
2021-03-0953 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideA New Paradigm For Understanding True Sexual Connection And Intimacy - An Interview With Diana Richardson In today’s episode, I’m joined by Diana Richardson, who talks about the practice of conscience lovemaking. She speaks from the perspective of a heterosexual connection and notes that couples of any gender orientation can adapt these same practices and principles in their love life. She talks about why you shouldn’t focus solely on the peak moments while lovemaking, the psychological and physical tension while having sex, and performance pressure. Rather, Diana explains the concept of feeling your body from the inside and connecting with your significant other with attention to the awareness of the subtle...
2021-03-0250 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideThe Mistakes People Make When Blending Families And What To Do Instead - An Interview With Tracy PoiznerIn today’s episode, I’m joined by Tracy Poizner, who talks about the different dynamics between a traditional family and a blended family. Many parents who are divorced and remarried have an expectation that the blended family will work seamlessly. She talks about the common difficulties that couples experience when blending families and becoming a stepparent. She mentioned that when the parent and stepparent have a new child that it can feel like a betrayal. Most times, kids don’t have enough security in their relationship with their stepparent that they are OK with a new child c...
2021-02-2350 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow To Deal With Problems Related To Social Media In Relationship - An Interview with Dr. Marisa T. CohenIn today’s episode, I’m joined by Dr. Marisa T. Cohen, relationship coach, and researcher. We talk about how the influence of social media on couples can be damaging to their relationship. Marisa points out how different aspects of using social media can make couples feel disengaged with each other. She talks about how social media usage can increase jealousy in relationships and how individuals turn toward social media to create fulfillment where they feel an emotional void. Marisa talks about the social comparisons that affect relationships and the “unreality” of social media feeds. Listen i...
2021-02-1650 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow to Deal with Primal Abandonment and Shame: An Interview with Susan AndersonIn today’s episode, I’m joined by Susan Anderson as we discuss primal abandonment and what brought Susan to this topic. Learn why abandonment is a cumulative wound that can be triggered well into adulthood. She talks about the process of shattering and why this is a primal fear that lurks in our minds, and why it’s normal to have abandonment fear from the time of birth. We start with this conditioning at birth with primal abandonment, the universal feeling of disconnect or not being worthy of connection. Susan talks about the different types...
2021-02-0254 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow to Deal with Sexual Performance Anxieties - an Interview with Dr. Ian KernerIn today’s episode, I’m joined by Ian Kerner. We discuss the effects of pornography on sexual health, why Ian became depressed about his personal sexuality, and how his sexual anxieties impacted his early relationships. He talks about his own battles with erectile unpredictability, how he grew up in a sex-invasive environment, and why he suffered from chronic early ejaculation as a young man. Ian talks about the importance of working with a sex therapist when a couple is challenged with sexual concerns. It can be extremely helpful in understanding sexual research and science to o...
2021-01-2643 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow to Deal with Love Addiction an interview with Helen Mia HarrisIn today’s episode, I’m joined by Helen Mia Harris, and we discuss the love addiction phenomenon. This complex and pervasive problem can lead to an overwhelming love withdrawal experience, lovesickness, depression, and anxiety. She talks about her experience with love addiction, why love addiction is based on personal trauma, and why she has dedicated her life to helping others who experience this phenomenon. Helen explains that the person who has the anxious attachment issue often has a propensity towards love addiction. She also talks about the difference between the need for love for a lo...
2021-01-1949 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow to Use the Blueprint of Pain for Healing and Growth with Lindsey EllisonIn today’s episode, I’m joined by Lindsey Ellison, and we discuss the ways we cope with trauma and pain. We all have pain points, and it is important to understand the origins of our pain points and why we are addicted to the pain itself. She talks about her personal battle with alcoholism, why she had a breakdown, and how she decided to take the next treatment step. Lindsey speaks about her journey with deep trauma work, her experience with relationship death, and how she previously diminished her pain. Trauma+fear+wounds=addiction is t...
2021-01-1253 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow to Develop Beyond Distorted and Collapsed Ways of Being in your Sexual Energy An Interview with Michael McPhersonIn today’s episode, I’m joined by Michael McPherson as we chat about how to develop sexual energy and sexual intimacy beyond the typical immature and limited notions we live within. Michael talked about how common it is for people to grow up in environments where sex and conversations about sex are taboo. He addressed how much shame people typically feel around sex and their sexual energy, as well as how misinformed people are based on the distorted images they get from various forms of media. Michael’s mission is to help people expand their u...
2021-01-051h 00
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow To Prevent A Break-up In Your Relationship - An Interview with Chris SeiterBio: Chris Seiter, the founder of Ex Boyfriend Recovery and Ex Girlfriend Recovery has been helping thousands of broken hearted individuals win their exes back for over a decade. Implementing the very creative "no contact rule," which shuts down communication between exes for a certain period of time such in order to create space for each partner allows for healing, self recovery, and an opportunity for both of you to potentially come back together as a couple, which Chris believes is the key to long lasting success. (Please listen to the podcast episode o...
2020-11-0347 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow To Break Out Of Sexual Routines And Ignite More Pleasure - An Interview With Sarrah RoseBio: Sarrah Rose is the founder of the tantric sex coaching platform Tantric Activation. She developed her coaching techniques by studying tantra, mixing in evolutionary biology, and adapting the method for practical use in the modern world. Sarrah was trained in the tantra method in India. She then earned her certification as a Sex, Love and Relationship Coach from the Tantra Institute of Integrated Sexuality. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories, and examples.) In this episode, Sarrah Rose and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss: ...
2020-10-2841 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow To Find Your Emotional BalanceOne of the most difficult tasks in relationships is to maintain our sense of self...to not loose our self in relationship. This can be even more challenging during times of conflict, stress and uncertainty. And especially true when our partner is pressuring us to be something different or when we fear their reaction and ultimately a loss of approval and love. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories, and examples.) In this episode, Dr. Jessica Higgins discusses: How important it is to work on bec...
2020-10-2038 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow To Develop A Gratitude Mindset In Relationship - An Interview With Karl StaibBio: Karl Staib is the author of Bring Gratitude and the Creator of the 30-Day Bring Gratitude Challenge. He has helped thousands of people train their brains. He developed the Dig to Fly method and SOAR technique to help his clients become more resilient and happier. He also created the Legendary Leader Method to help leaders build better relationships with their employees so they are happier and more productive. He has been featured by Forbes, NPR and Zen Habits and worked with Philips Global, Southwest Research Institute and Pioneer Nation. (Please listen to the podcast e...
2020-10-1344 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow To Deal With Uncertainty And Ambiguous Grief An interview With Dr. Michael McNultyBio: Mike McNulty, PhD is a psychotherapist specializing in couples therapy, and the founder of The Chicago Relationship Center, and practices in Evanston and Highland Park, IL. Dr. McNulty is a senior certified Gottman relationship therapist and master trainer for The Gottman Institute, who leads workshops for couples and professionals in the United States, Ireland, and Sri Lanka. He has traveled to Sri Lanka 22 times since the 2004 tsunami to provide training to paraprofessional counselors. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories, and examples.) I...
2020-10-0649 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow To Emerge From Quarantine With Your Finances In Tack - An Interview With Ericka YoungBio: Ericka Young founded Tailor-Made Budgets in 2005 after she and her husband Chris climbed out of nearly $100,000 in debt. She is a certified financial coach by Ramsey Solutions and combines her passion for helping people with creative debt reduction techniques so everyone can have a path to financial freedom. Ericka teaches her message of debt freedom through her e-newsletters, personal and group coaching, workshops, best-selling book and speaking engagements. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories, and examples.) In this episode, Ericka You...
2020-09-2939 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow To Deal With Fears Of Intimacy - Part OneWhile we want to experience love and intimacy, it can often bring fears to the surface. The fears often have ties to previous pain and are subconscious or unconscious until we enter into a love relationship. In the episode, I reference the book "The Highly Sensitive Person In Love," by Elaine Aron. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories, and examples.) In this episode, Dr. Jessica Higgins discusses: How fears of intimacy develop in one's life. Ways people distance themselves emotionally as a result of a f...
2020-09-1535 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow to deal with food & eating differences in relationship- An Interview with Melissa CostelloBio: Melissa Costello is a Transformational Eating Coach, Holistic Nutritionist, Speaker and Author. Her mission is to empower busy professionals to get off the yo-yo dieting rollercoaster and end emotional eating so they can lose the weight that is holding them back from living a life they truly love. Melissa’s in-depth training in Spiritual Psychology, Clinical Nutrition and holistic coaching along with her own personal struggles provides the foundation for her clients to experience powerful breakthroughs and sustainable, profound transformation. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear expl...
2020-09-0743 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow To Gain More Acceptance And Expression Sexually- An Interview with Stacie YsidroBio: Stacie Ysidro is the founder of Holistic Progressions and is acknowledged by the World Association of Sex Coaches. Starting her career with business and life coaching in 2009, Stacie combined sexology education, somatic coaching and spirituality to create a unique transformational experience for her clients. Over the 10+ years of service in her industry, Stacie has helped thousands of clients create a sexually satisfying life in recovery, overcome sexual guilt and shame, learn the language of arousal and pleasure, and reignite passion in their relationships. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the tr...
2020-09-0141 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow To Resolve Conflicts From Mental Blindspots - An Interview with Dr. Gleb TsipurskyBio: Dr. Gleb Tsipursky is an internationally-recognized thought leader known as the Disaster Avoidance Expert, who is on a mission to protect leaders from dangerous judgment errors known as cognitive biases, which devastate bottom lines and bring down high-flying careers. His expertise and passion is developing the most effective and profitable decision-making strategies to empower leaders to avoid business disasters, maximize their bottom lines, and help their careers flourish. His proprietary methodology combines his pragmatic business experience with cutting-edge behavioral economics and cognitive neuroscience research. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read th...
2020-08-2539 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideEight Dates to Support and Nurture Your Love & RelationshipRecently, I have been recommending the book "Eight Dates: Essential Conversations For A Lifetime Of Love" by John Gottman, Julie Schwartz Gottman, Doug Abrams and Rachel Carlton Abrams. Since the last two podcast episodes have been referring to the importance of connecting and dating in relationship, I thought it would be valuable to share this book with you. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories, and examples.) In this episode, Dr. Jessica Higgins discusses: How being curious and interested in and with your partner will sup...
2020-08-1938 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow To See Relationship As A Spiritual Teacher - An Interview with Allana PrattBio: Allana Pratt is an intimacy expert, relationship coach, author of 6 books, and the host of the edgy podcast “Intimate Conversations.” Allana offers private, group and online coaching programs for singles and couples to help her clients develop a healthy, intimate relationship with themselves first, which naturally attracts and enhances their ideal partnerships. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories, and examples.) In this episode, Allana Pratt and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss: How our partner will mirror our work. How to see...
2020-08-1143 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow To Date Your Significant Other An Interview With Dr. Bill HarleyWillard F. Harley, Jr., Ph.D. earned his Ph.D. degree in psychology from the University of California at Santa Barbara in 1967 and has been a Licensed Clinical Psychologist in Minnesota since 1975. Dr. Harley is best known as the author of the internationally best selling book, His Needs, Her Needs: Building An Affair-proof Marriage. Dr. Harley’s ground-breaking mental-health approach to marriage therapy has saved countless marriages over the decades, and continues to do so today. He has written 23 other books and continues to write, speak, and lead seminars throughout the US and Canada. ...
2020-08-0443 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow To Understand and Deal With A Narcissist - an interview with Wendy Behary.With 25 years of post-graduate training and advanced level certifications, Wendy Behary is the founder and director of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and The Schema Therapy Institutes of NJ-NYC and DC. She has been treating clients, training professionals, and supervising psychotherapists for more than 20 years. Wendy has a specialty in treating narcissists and the people who live with and deal with them. As an author and an expert on the subject of narcissism, she is a contributing chapter author of several chapters on Schema Therapy for narcissism. She lectures both nationally and internationally to professional...
2020-07-2851 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow To Deal With Betrayal In Relationship An Interview With Dr. Debi SilberDr. Debi Silber is the founder of the Post Betrayal Transformation Institute and is a holistic psychologist, health, mindset, and personal development expert, the author of The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind, and Life After a Life Crisis and the forthcoming book: Trust Again. Her recent Ph.D. study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that change how long it takes to heal. She’s an award-winning speaker, coach, and author dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, finances, relationships, confidence, and...
2020-07-2146 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow To Deal With Difficult Emotions - Part OneDealing with difficult emotions can feel uncertain, scary and extremely uncomfortable, especially when we have not had positive experiences with experiencing and expressing our emotion in the past. In this episode, Dr. Jessica Higgins discusses: The tendency to want to suppress, deny, avoid and reject our painful emotions. How avoiding painful and difficult emotions leads to more suffering and problems in the long-term. Learning to turn towards painful emotion can be terrifying, especially when we don't know how. The first two steps (out of five) in how to deal with difficult emotions. How feeling our emotion leads...
2020-07-0737 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow to Deal with Triggers in Relationship An Interview with Dr. David RichoDavid Richo Ph.D. is a Psychotherapist, Writer, and Workshop Leader. He teaches at a variety of places including Esalen and Spirit Rock Buddhist Center. He shares his time between Santa Barabara and San Francisco in California. Dave combines psychological and spiritual perspectives in his work. In this episode, David Richo and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss: The 3 common triggers: fear, anger, and sadness. The valuable lessons you can learn from your triggers. What happens when we live with triggers for a long period of time. Recognizing that you can be triggered by an environment, peopl...
2020-06-3038 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow To Recognize and Work with Self-Sabotage in Relationship An Interview with Brianna WiestBrianna Wiest has traveled internationally as a journalist, written for Fortune 500 companies, and has spoken in cities around the continental United States. She is the author of five books, her latest, The Mountain Is You: Transforming Self-Sabotage Into Self-Mastery is being published in 2020. Her dream is to use the power of words to help people awaken to their fullest potential, build emotional intelligence and fulfill their life purpose. In this episode, Brianna Wiest and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss: The difference between self-sabotage and victim mentality and how to recognize what you can and cannot control. Recognizing pat...
2020-06-2343 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow to Reconnect Emotionally with Your Significant OtherIn this episode, I am answering a listeners's question in how to reconnect emotionally with his wife. In this episode, Dr. Jessica Higgins discusses: The four stages of separation distress. The benefits and value of going slow to maintain emotional balance and regulation. How to reveal and soften to help create safety. The importance of being emotionally present and attuned to your significant other. Where men often get stuck in connecting emotionally, especially when there is conflict. Mentioned: Shifting Criticism into Connected Communication - Free Guide Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science o...
2020-06-1736 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideThe Human Need for BelongingToday, I am referencing Dr. Vivek Murthy's book, Together, to offer some added support for the larger conversation around institutional racism, oppression and social justice. In this episode, Dr. Jessica Higgins discusses: The right of human belonging and humanization. The role of disconnection, dehumanization, fear and distrust that plays into our experience. How do we build trust, repair and relationship together. "The challenge of the remainder of our century is how are we as a global family going to attend to the basic fundamentals of creating the right of belonging?" John Paul Lederach in "Together" by...
2020-06-1030 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideBlack Lives MatterToday, I am pausing from the regularly scheduled episodes to stand in solidarity for Black Out Tuesday and Black Lives Matter. On the Empowered Relationship podcast, we address principles that support healthy relationship. The importance of safety, respect and reverence for people expands beyond intimate connection. We are all a part of a human family. When harm, injury, abuse, injustice occurs, it affects us all whether we turn towards it or we turn away from it. As we talk about on this show, when someone is acting out of protest, there...
2020-06-0203 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow To Deal With Stonewalling In RelationshipToday, I am giving more attention and support to a listener's question, who writes "How do you deal with a partner who stonewalls?" In this episode, Dr. Jessica Higgins discusses: What stonewalling is and what it entails. Common dynamics and patterns that lead to one partner withdrawing or stonewalling. What is often underneath the stonewalling behavior and what it feels like on the receiving end. Research findings about the differences between men and women as it relates to stonewalling. Over time, the pain of stonewalling can be devastating to the emotional bond and relationship. Tips for how t...
2020-05-2735 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideWhat To Know About Loneliness And RelationshipIn last weeks episode, ERP 215, we discussed how connection to other people really begins with our connection to ourself. In this episode, Dr. Jessica Higgins discusses: What loneliness is and how we experience it. The 3 dimensions of loneliness, and how we need all three to thrive. How our expectations and cultural messages influence loneliness. The consequences and health risks of loneliness. "Medicine and technology may fail us at times, but human connection grounded in love and compassion always heals." by Dr. Vivek Murthy How shame and mental health issues interact with loneliness. How loneliness is ex...
2020-05-2034 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow to Deal with Being “Alone Together”When I saw the #alonetogether, I questioned "Is this really what we are all feeling? If anything, it seems like the majority of us are feeling "togetheralone." In this episode, Dr. Jessica Higgins discusses: With the division in perspectives and approaches right now, it can be hard to know how to move forward (with both supporting the economy and people's health and safety). The challenges of separation, distance, lack of connection and contact that people are experiencing right now. Ironically, how taking time to be still and centered supports our clarity, confidence, and connections. “Don’t confus...
2020-05-1338 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow Shame and Grandiosity Relate to Self-esteem: An Interview with Terry RealTerry Real is a nationally recognized family therapist and author. Particularly known for his groundbreaking work on men, his work on gender and couples. He published the national bestseller: I Don't Want To Talk About It, the first book written on the topic of male depression. He has been in private practice for thirty years and he is the Founder of The Relational Life Institute, where he teaches therapist trainings and workshops for couples In this episode, Terry Real and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss: . How men need to find the cour...
2020-04-2858 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow to Manage Political Differences in Relationship - an Interview with Craig and Debbie LambertThe Mindful Couple. Craig has over 30 years of experience dedicated to helping couples rekindle their love, deepen their intimacy and strengthen communication as a couples therapist, and Debbie is a relationship educator and coach. Through Lambert Couples Therapy, they have worked with thousands of couples, helping them understand the often unconscious underpinnings of relationship conflict. They are based in San Diego. In this episode, Craig, Debbie, and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss: How so much conflict comes from an inability or unwillingness to see beyond our own vantage point. The dangers of con...
2020-04-2151 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow To Get Rid of Shame to Increase Pleasure In The Bedroom - an Interview with Ian FergusonIan Ferguson is an intimacy coach and teacher of the Erotic Blueprint Breakthrough™ platform, designed to radically transform how we talk about and experience sex. Ian is an expert on clearing shame and ending struggles that keep people from experiencing a deep intimate connection and sexual satisfaction. Through the Erotic Blueprints, he and Jaiya Ma have provided a 'Rosetta Stone' for people to clearly articulate their desires and experience erotic fulfillment. In this episode, Ian Ferguson and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss: How social norms make it difficult to talk about sex in a healt...
2020-04-1451 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow Emotionally Intelligent Men are Key to a Lasting Relationship with Kyle BensonKyle Benson is an Intentional Intimate Relationship coach providing practical, research-based tools to build long-lasting relationships. Kyle is best known for his compassion and non-judgmental style and his capacity to see the root problem. In this episode, Kyle Benson and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss: The importance of tuning in to the information our bodies give us to improve our health and our lives. How men who are emotionally engaged generally have more stable relationships because they are more sensitive to what was going on in their partner’s world. How emotionally intelligent partne...
2020-04-0742 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow Unresolved Grief Affects You and Your Relationship - an Interview with Donna LancasterDonna is one of the Co-founders and facilitators of The Bridge Retreat and has been working with individuals, couples and groups for almost 30 years. Donna is passionate about the subject of grief and the grieving process which she believes offers the missing link for many in their search for wholeness. This interest stemmed from her own very personal experience of ‘depression’ which she suffered from for many years and now knows to have in fact been unprocessed grief. In this episode, Donna Lancaster and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss: Discomfort, anxiety, and depre...
2020-03-3144 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideERP 208: How To Find Balance And Direction No doubt, we are all feeling the stress of the COVID-19 crisis. I reach out to you today to be in community with you, as we are all being impacted. With the threats looming, it is easy to feel scared, uncertain, and a sense of loss. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.) In this episode, Dr. Jessica Higgins discusses: How the way with deal with a challenge can be more important than the challenge itself. How to find a balance between panicking in fear and igno...
2020-03-2538 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow To Get Out Of Financial Debt When Working Together As A Couple - An Interview With Ericka YoungEricka Young is a recognized expert in financial coaching and helps families significantly improve their finances and their future. As founder and president of Tailor-Made Budgets, she teaches debt freedom through her e-newsletters, personal coaching, group programs, and speaking engagements. In this episode, Ericka Young and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss: How most people see debt as “normal,” but it breeds shame and embarrassment. Once you reach your breaking point, getting out of debt requires diligence and persistence. Rather than being restrictive, a budget can be freeing and give you control of your finances...
2020-03-1738 minEmpowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideWhat Is The Relationship Between Porn And Lovemaking Typically, we don't think about porn being related to lovemaking. However, many people are experiencing relationship challenges related to the use of porn. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.) In this episode, Dr. Jessica Higgins discusses: How the use of porn has changed over time. Our paradigm about and consciousness around porn. What happens when we don't examine how and why we use porn. How porn supports one aspect of sexuality, which may be very limiting when it comes to interacting with an actual partner. ...
2020-03-1131 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideOvercoming Money Issues And Creating Abundance TogetherAbout Simone Milasas: Simone Milasas is a lady who knows how to be a woman, who sees the joy of possibility and future and knows that there is the prospect of possibility in every choice you choose. Simone is the author of Joy Of Business translated into 13 languages and best-selling book Getting Out Of Debt Joyfully translated into 5 languages. She is currently working on her 3rd book with Brendon Watt called; Relationship. Are you sure you want one? Simone currently travels the world facilitating seminars with Access Consciousness. She also has numerous online courses and is always...
2020-03-0345 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideLessons learned from Renew Breakup Bootcamp an interview with Amy ChanLearning more about your attachment and communication styles can give you and your partner the power to transform a challenging relationship. About Amy Chan: Amy Chan is the Founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp, a retreat that takes a scientific and spiritual approach to healing the heart. She is also the Editor-in-Chief of JustMyType.ca - an online magazine that focuses on the psychology behind love, lust and desire. Marie Claire calls her "A relationship expert whose work is like that of a scientific Carrie Bradshaw" and her company has been featured across national medi...
2020-02-2545 minEmpowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideDiscussing the film Ordinary Love with Lisa Barros D'Sa and Glenn LeyburnIn this episode, I talk with Lisa Barros D'Sa and Glenn Leyburn about the film Ordinary Love. Bleecker Street's ORDINARY LOVE, starring Academy Award® nominees Lesley Manville (“Phantom Thread”) and Liam Neeson (“Schlinder’s List”). Following its critically acclaimed debut at TIFF, ORDINARY LOVE hit theaters on Valentine's Day, February 14th, and follows the story of an everyday couple with a remarkable love. The film is directed by Irish filmmaking duo Lisa Barros D’Sa & Glenn Leyburn (“Good Vibrations,” “Cherrybomb”) with a screenplay from the award-winning playwright Owen McCafferty. (Please listen to the podcast episode or rea...
2020-02-1926 minEmpowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow To Nurture Your Sexual Intimacy And Connection In Relationship Sharing sexual intimacy and love making with your significant other can be such a profound and prominent way to express love and passion within your bond. And yet, there are so many things that make the process of coming together in an open, flexible, and engaged way challenging. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.) In this episode, Dr. Jessica Higgins discusses: How our expectations, assumptions and judgements influence our experience sexually. What differentiation has to do with sexual fire and passion. How couples get stuck in...
2020-02-1244 minEmpowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow To Handle Your Partner Going Against Your WishesIn this episode, I will be addressing a listener's question in a little more depth. If you do not resonate with the example shared, then please replace "tattoo" with something that your partner has done that is against your wishes. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.) In this episode, Dr. Jessica Higgins discusses: The benefits of working through the power struggle phase. Navigating the two main conflicting needs in relationship. Addressing differences in a safe, supportive and collaborative way. How to develop deeper leve...
2020-02-0439 minEmpowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow To Use Your Emotional Intelligence For Connection, Part TwoIn Part 2 of this series, Jessica dives deeper into the how-tos of building emotional connectivity with our partners in order to reaffirm trust and safety while negating criticism. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.) In this episode Dr. Jessica Higgins discusses: Healing the intimacy disconnect between unspoken fear and defensiveness. Why humans are designed to be in bonded relationships. Dr. Susan Johnson’s research on the psychological repercussions of emotional independence. Differences between men and women in emotional responses and suppression. How to learn the roa...
2020-01-2929 minEmpowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow to Use Your Emotional Intelligence for ConnectionAll too often we get stuck in disconnect patterns when painful emotions arise in relationship. Most of the time, we don't even know we are hurting because we are only aware of our reactions...anger, frustration, criticism etc. When we lead with our reactions, our partner doesn't see our pain, and does not know how to help. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.) In this episode, Dr. Jessica Higgins discusses: What would happen if we freeze framed the moment right before we react to our pa...
2020-01-2131 minEmpowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow To Apply Success Principles To Relationship an interview with Noah St JohnAbout Noah St John: Noah St. John, author of 15 books including the NEW book Power Habits®: The New Science for Making Success Automatic® Noah St. John is known as "The Power Habits® Mentor" and is famous for helping people get rid of their head trash and make more money. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.) In this episode, Noah St John and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss: How people end up starving themselves of success. Recognizing the learning process of being successful...
2020-01-1550 minEmpowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And Guide5 Essential Elements Of Love - Part TwoToday, we are continuing the conversation about how to cultivate a more loving presence through the Five A's offered by David Richo. The Five A's are Attention, Acceptance, Appreciation, Affection, and Allowing. If you missed episode ERP 195: 5 Essential Elements Of Love - Part- One, I encourage you to listen to it before listening to this episode, as it gives context for this conversation as well as discusses the first 2 A's. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.) In this episode, Dr. Jessica Higgi...
2019-12-3141 minEmpowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And Guide5 Essential Elements Of LoveIn the book, "How To Be An Adult In Relationships - Five Keys to Mindful Living," David Richo offers us 5 essential practices of love. David calls these practices the "Five A's," which are attention, acceptance, appreciation, affection, and allowing. "What we need for the building of a self is precisely what we need for happiness in our adult love relationships." by David Richo (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.) In this episode, Dr. Jessica Higgins discusses: Our human need for...
2019-12-2433 minEmpowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow to engage in more conscious communication with Robert MacNaughtonAbout Robert MacNaughton: Robert MacNaughton is an executive leadership coach and facilitator who teaches about how to skillfully reconcile seemingly contradictory world-views in relationships, organization, and culture. Robert is an authority in the fields of Integral business, behavioral development, and experiential education. Robert focuses on supporting leaders with execution strategies, designing work culture, and navigating interpersonal conflict both personally and professionally. Robert founded The Integral Center in Boulder, Colorado in association with renowned philosopher Ken Wilber. As its CEO, Robert managed five profit centers and supervised over 100 contractors, teachers, facilitators, and community leaders in over 25 cities globally
2019-12-2441 minEmpowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow to Alchemize your Triggers into Insight – an Interview with Tobin ZivonAbout Tobin Zivon: Tobin Zivon has been a love, intimacy and sacred sexuality coach for over two and a half decades. The author of The Art of Mindful Living, Tobin helps groups, couples and individuals blossom to their highest potential. His brilliance shines most brightly when working with men, women and couples in the realms of love, intimacy and sacred sexuality. Tobin has been lovingly nicknamed the “couples whisperer” and has worked with thousands of individuals and couples to break through to a new, more fulfilling and connected love life. (Please listen to the podc...
2019-12-1759 minEmpowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow to access “you” (your true essence) in relationship – an Interview with Amy E. SmithAbout Amy E. Smith: Amy E. Smith is a certified confidence coach, masterful speaker, and personal empowerment expert. Founder of TheJoyJunkie.com, Amy uses her roles as coach, writer, podcaster, and speaker to move individuals to a place of radical personal empowerment and self-love. With acute focus on helping people “find their voice”, she is highly sought after for her uncommon style of irreverence, wisdom, and humor. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.) In this episode, Amy E. Smith and Dr. Jessica Hig...
2019-12-1045 minEmpowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow To Resolve Financial Anxiety In Your Relationship – an interview with Lindsay Bryan-PodvinAbout Lindsay Bryan-Podvin: Lindsay is a financial therapist dedicated to bringing couples the knowledge they need about personal finances to deepen their relationships. I'm passionate about helping couples feel at peace with their money. It's my mission to open up a dialogue with my clients to talk about their money beyond the dollars and cents so they can feel darn good about how their money is working for them. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.) In this episode, Lindsay Bryan-Podvin and Dr. Jessica Hi...
2019-12-0347 minEmpowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow to Drastically Change your Experience in Relationship – an interview with Larry BilottaAbout Larry Bilotta: Married over 45 years in an age of divorce, Larry Bilotta is an authority on understanding people, marriage and relationships. Larry lived 27 years in a marriage made in Hell, but in the 28th year, fell in love…with his wife! As one of the few marriage experts who actually transformed his OWN marriage, today, Larry holds the key to bringing a marriage back from the brink of divorce - even AFTER the papers have been filed. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.)
2019-11-2649 minEmpowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow to shift out of chaos in relationship – An Interview with Dr. Laura LouisAbout Dr. Laura Louis: As a licensed psychologist, Dr. Laura Louis is a widely sought-after speaker specializing in helping couples press the reset button after infidelity. Her five-step training program, Marriage Matters, has helped couples reawaken their connection. Affectionately deemed the “Marriage Architect”, Dr. Louis gives couples the tools to build their marriages. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.) In this episode, Dr. Laura Louis and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss: Chaos takes us out of peace and into a place of conflict and s...
2019-11-1938 minEmpowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow being “selfish” may be the best thing you do for your relationship – an interview with Dr. Laura DabneyAbout Dr. Laura Dabney: Dr. Laura Dabney has been a psychiatrist in Virginia Beach, VA for almost twenty years and has treated patients in more than a dozen cities across Virginia. Her psychiatric expertise has been featured on radio, podcasts, websites and in print media. She received her MD from Eastern Virginia Medical School and has been Board Certified in Psychiatry. She has made a career of taking on psychiatry’s toughest challenges all while ensuring the absolute privacy of powerful, high-profile patients. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanatio...
2019-11-1245 minEmpowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideThe Benefits of Having a Tough Conversation – an interview with David WoodAbout David Wood: After life as a consulting actuary to Fortune 100 Companies, David built the one of the world's largest coaching businesses, becoming #1 on Google for “life coaching.” David Wood believes the tough conversations we avoid are our doorways to confidence, success, and even love – in both work and life. David coaches high performing entrepreneurs, executives and teams - even prison inmates - to amazing results AND connection. One conversation at a time. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.) In this episode, Davi...
2019-11-0535 minEmpowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideThe 4 Habits of Joy-Filled Marriages with Marcus Warner and Chris CourseyAbout Dr. Marcus Warner: A conference speaker and author who has spent over thirty years helping people and organizations navigate some of life's toughest challenges. As the president of Deeper Walk International he has helped develop dozens of resources that deal with recovery, leadership, and family life. About Chris M. Coursey: The president of THRIVEtoday, a non-profit focusing on training leaders and communities in the nineteen skills that make relationships work. Chris is an ordained minister, pastoral counselor, published author, curriculum designer and international speaker. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read th...
2019-10-2948 minEmpowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow to Prioritize the Most Important Element of Your Relationship – an Interview with Rabbi Manis FriedmanAbout Rabbi Manis Friedman: World-renowned author, counselor, lecturer and philosopher, Rabbi Manis Friedman uses ancient wisdom and modern wit as he captivates audiences around the country and the world. Rabbi Friedman started an organization called “It’s Good to Know” which reaches thousands of people every month through his online classes and events. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.) In this episode, Rabbi Manis Friedman and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss: Functional marriages versus intimate marriages. Love doesn’t bond you, it separates you, because love is a personal experie...
2019-10-2251 minEmpowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow To Live An "UnHidden" Life - An Interview With Robert Kandell About Robert Kandell: Robert Kandell is an interpersonal communication expert, speaker, podcaster and the author of the bestselling book, unHIDDEN: A Book for Men and Those Confused by Them. Since 2002, Robert’s mission has been to help people find themselves and use their internal power to live their best lives. He is the host of the podcast, Tuff Love, where he puts his compassionate, hard-hitting insight to work helping people move forward in their lives with clarity. In this episode, Robert Kandell and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss: The journey of becoming “unhidden” and living with more purpose an...
2019-10-1546 minEmpowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow to Deal with Sexual Incompatibilities an Interview with Dr. Lonnie BarbachAbout Dr. Lonnie Barbach: Dr. Lonnie Barbach, a clinical-social psychologist, was co-director of clinical training at UCSF medical centers sexuality program and is currently in private practice. She has received numerous awards for her work on sexuality and has written a dozen books on relationships, sexuality and menopause. Her best-known books include: For Yourself, The Erotic Edge, The Pause and Going the Distance, co-authored with her partner, David Geisinger, Ph.D. She is also cofounder of Happy Couple a relationship game app designed to enhance a couple’s communication and satisfaction. (Please listen to the podca...
2019-10-0150 minEmpowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideThe Return of the Gentleman with Dr. Dain HeerIn this episode, Dr. Dain Heer and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss: What a gentleman is and what it means to be a holistic you. Masculinity and how it appears in relationships. The masculine and feminine traits that we all possess and embracing them in our lives. How to look at the judgments, rules, and expectations we live by and work with them, so that you can connect with what is truly you. Getting present with the secrets within yourself – “today’s secret is tomorrow’s lie.” The five elements to intimacy. Living your life without judgment and with gratitude, honori...
2019-09-2058 minEmpowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideWhat If I Think My Partner Has A Personality Disorder? An Interview With Gabrielle UsatynskiGUEST GABRIELLE USATYNSKI: Gabrielle Usatynski, MA, is a Licensed Professional Counselor at Power Couples Counseling in Boulder, CO. She has been in private practice since 2008 and specializes in couples therapy. She is trained in PACT (a Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy). Gabrielle has been named 2018 and 2019 Best Marriage Counselor of Louisville by the Louisville Awards Program. She teaches a masterclass on personality disorders in couples therapy to other clinicians in the Boulder area. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.) I...
2019-08-1753 minEmpowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideGuest Bento Leal: 4 Keys to Effective CommunicationIn this episode, Bento Leal and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss: How Bento got involved in the field of relationship skills. Some of the biggest problems in interpersonal communication. The 4 Keys to Effective Communication. The number one skill for everyone. It’s not just about receiving information, it’s about getting where the other person is coming from, especially on an emotional topic. Listen all the way through, don’t get defense or take it as an attack to try and hurt you. There are listening rules and speaking rules, which all start with an undercurrent of respect. When kids can see th...
2019-08-0851 minEmpowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow to heal from an affair with Scott WoolleyIn this episode, Dr. Jessica Higgins and Dr. Scott Woolley discuss: Understanding the motivating factors of an affair and trusting it won’t happen again. The internal working models of attachment about who we are, who other people are, and how we relate to them. The destructive impacts of taking revenge, public shaming, and waiting to make significant decisions. Key Takeaways: The three motivating factors for affairs are a reaction to what’s going on or an attempt to change the relationship; protest or revenge; and relationship burnout. When talking to your partner about their pain and...
2019-06-2752 minEmpowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideHow to Transform Drama in Your Relationship with David EmeraldGuest David Emerald : David Emerald Womeldorff is the Creator-in-Chief of the 3 Vital Questions® leadership frameworks proven to powerfully boost teamwork and productivity. Thousands of people and organizations have achieved breakthroughs by applying his self-leadership techniques and attending his seminars worldwide. David and his wife and business partner Donna Zajonc (sajon) MCC have developed the frameworks that form the basis of the engaging workplace fable, 3 Vital Questions:Transforming Workplace Drama. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories and examples.) In this episode, Dr. Jes...
2019-06-1350 min