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Deployment PillarsThe Relationship Reset: Reconnection for National Guard Spouses with Jessie Ellertson Feeling disconnected during deployment? Join Jessie Ellertson, life coach and host of the Simply Resilient Podcast, for a session dedicated to reconnecting and thriving as a National Guard spouse. Jessie specializes in helping military spouses enhance their deployment experience and strengthen their relationship with themselves. Discover practical tips for improving self-connection and building a more resilient relationship during deployment. Ready to reset and renew? This workshop will give you the tools to make every moment count!
2025-05-2911 min
THE CONFIDENT BODY PODCAST - Brain-based strategies and self-compassion practices to unlock your full potential12 Nuggets of Wisdom: Reflecting On A Year of Coaching with My Client Jessie EllertsonHave you ever wondered what it’s like to work with a coach for a year?
This episode is a little different. This is a replay of a conversation between my client Jessie Ellertson and me, where I was a guest on her podcast.
Jessie is a life coach herself and she’s been my client for about a year. In this episode we talk about the top 12 lessons learned she’s had as takeaways during our work together.
We talk about everything from how to view invisible progress to handling vacations and holidays...
2024-03-201h 19THE CONFIDENT BODY PODCAST - Brain-based strategies and self-compassion practices to unlock your full potential12 Nuggets of Wisdom: Reflecting On A Year of Coaching with My Client Jessie EllertsonHave you ever wondered what it’s like to work with a coach for a year?
This episode is a little different. This is a replay of a conversation between my client Jessie Ellertson and me, where I was a guest on her podcast.
Jessie is a life coach herself and she’s been my client for about a year. In this episode we talk about the top 12 lessons learned she’s had as takeaways during our work together.
We talk about everything from how to view invisible progress to handling vacations and holidays...
2024-03-201h 19
I'm No Therapist, But...EP 38-The Resilience of a Military Wife with Jessie EllertsonThe Resilience of a Military Wife As Memorial Day approaches, we are honored to share a true-life story of a military wife who chooses to use her experiences to benefit others. My guest is Jessie Ellertson, life coach and host of the podcast “Simply Resilient”, where she shares her life skills to thrive in difficult times.Find Jessie Ellertson at https://www.simplyresilient.net#imnotherapistbut #podcast #StephanieLGoodman🦋 #host #guest #millitary #milltarywives #lifecoach #simplyresilient #family #faith #trustinGod #ourstory #millitarylife #militaryservice #deployment #stayathomemoms #resilience #liveyourbestlife #JodyMooreCoaching #lifechanging #selflove #GodBlessAmerica #homeofthefreebecauseofthebrave
2022-05-261h 05
More Than a Milspouse | mindset, clarity, work-life balance, create a purpose-fueled life as a military spouse, Milspouse Mastermind27. A Deployment, a Podcast, and a Dinner Party: Uncovering Clues to a Life of Purpose Bigger & Better Than You Dreamed with National Guard Spouse & Mom of Six Jessie EllertsonHow could your life look different, even if none of your circumstances changed?
Today’s conversation is with Jessie Ellertson, a National Guard spouse, mom of six, and life coach for military wives. Jessie shares her story of how a deployment, a podcast, and a dinner party led her to pursuing her purpose and doing the thing that lights her up – helping military wives navigate seasons of separation from their spouse due to deployments or trainings.
She talks about the power of shifting your thinking and what is possible when you reframe your thoughts. She also...
2021-08-1645 min
Simply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesPep Talk Series: When The Deployment Curse Feels RealOne of the hardest parts about our husbands being away for military responsibilities is when things go wrong. Whether it's something breaking in the house, something breaking with the car, everyone getting sick, naughty pets, or naughty kids...it can often feel like things either go wrong right after he leaves or that they only go wrong when he's away and not when he's home. Military wives will commonly refer to this phenomenon as the deployment cures or Murphy's Law.
If you are wanting to get some relief from this story and find some new thoughts to think when you...
2021-02-1406 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesPep Talk Series: When You're Struggling To Take Care Of YourselfThis episode is for when you're in those low moments where you struggle to get out of bed, struggle to eat right, struggle to shower regularly, struggle to leave the house, struggle to find the desire to connect with others. Basically when you're struggling to do the things that you know would help you feel better and struggling to take care of yourself.
Listen in as I discuss when to get help, how to raise your baseline, why momentum is your friend, and why self care=self love. The most important point of this episode is being so kind to...
2021-02-1307 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesPep Talk Series: When Your In-Laws Are Driving You CrazyEven if you love your in-laws and have a great relationship with them, they can sometimes drive you crazy. I find this to be particularly true for my clients when they are in a deployment. During deployment you tend to need them more and interact with them more, you often have to make decisions with them, sometimes they struggle with opsec, sometimes they promise to help and then don't follow through.
Whatever the reason, drama with the in-laws can really add to the overall struggle of the deployment. So listen in to today's pep talk to find some new ways...
2021-02-1208 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesPep Talk Series: When You Need To CryThere are times when we really need to cry, but we are so resistant to letting the tears flow. There are lots of reasons why we resist crying...maybe you're not a crier, maybe you think crying is stupid or pointless, maybe you're worried if you start crying you'll never stop, maybe you think crying is weak and you don't want anyone to see you that way...whatever the reason, I want to offer you some new thoughts about crying that just might change your relationship with crying. I personally believe that crying is incredibly healthy and productive. Listen to...
2021-02-1107 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesPep Talk Series: When You're Feeling OverwhelmedYou're here because you frequently feel overwhelmed and today is one of those days. Everything feels like too much. It feels like you can't catch a break and you can't catch your breath. Things keep coming at you, one thing after another. You need a break!
The problem is, we often can't get a break from the demands and challenges of our lives. So I'm sharing some of my tips and tricks with you today to think of overwhelm in a new way and get some relief from it without changing anything that is happening in your life. Enjoy!
2021-02-1007 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesPep Talk Series: When You're Stressed About MoneyIt is so easy to be stressed about money. Whether we're stressed about spending too much, not saving enough, paying bills, not earning enough, or something else, for whatever reason stress is our go to emotion when we're having money problems. It's important to realize that stress is not at all conducive to problem solving. Feeling confident, capable, and abundant are all great ways to go into problem solving mode when it comes to money issues. Listen to this episode to learn a few new ways to think about money that will give you some relief from money stress.
2021-02-0907 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesPep Talk Series: When You're Feeling LonelyOne thing I have learned throughout military life and by going through deployments is there is a big difference between being alone and feeling lonely. I don't like feeling lonely, no one does. But I have learned how to enjoy being alone and enjoy my own company. I have learned why I feel lonely when my husband is deployed even when it actually feels like I'm never alone because I'm surrounded by kids. I have learned why sometimes I feel so connected to my husband even when he's across an ocean and sometimes it feels like are on two different...
2021-02-0806 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesPep Talk Series: When You Just Said The Big GoodbyeToday is the day you've been preparing for. The day you've been anticipating. The day you've been dreading. Today is the day you said the Big Goodbye to your husband and he left for his deployment. It doesn't matter how long he's going to be gone or where he's going or how many times you've done this, today is incredibly hard. Let it be hard. Reach out to the people around you who know what you're going through. You've got this!
2021-02-0707 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesPep Talk Series: When Your Kids Are StrugglingThere are so many reasons why kids struggle. As military wives dealing with our husbands being away for long periods of time for deployments and trainings we are worried about our kids struggling. We are watching for them to be negatively impacted by their dad's being away.
In this pep talk we talk about how important it is to remind yourself that it's ok with kids struggle. Not only will they struggle but they are supposed to and the struggle will turn them into incredible human beings. Kids are so completely resilient and they are ready for the struggle. So...
2021-02-0606 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesPep Talk Series: When He Hasn't Even Left Yet and It's Already HardIt is so frustrating when your husband is getting ready to leave for a deployment and you find yourself fighting more than usual and struggling to make the most of your final days and weeks together. Tune into this episode to learn more about why this happens and what you can do to help relieve this problem a bit,
2021-02-0506 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesPep Talk Series: When Life Feels UnfairIt can be so easy to get stuck during challening times in our lives thinking that our life is unfair. Thinking that we have it harder than other people. Thinking that other people have it so easy...they're so lucky. There are times in our lives where the challenges feel like they are coming one right after the other and we can't even get a breath.
In these moments there are a few things I want you to remember. First, remind yourself that fair doesn't mean same, it means different. Next remember that everything is 50/50. Lastly remember that our brains...
2021-02-0506 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesPep Talk Series: When You Are ExhaustedYou are tired. At times you even feel exhausted. You may be experiencing a lack of sleep because you are pregnant or have a baby up in the middle of the night, or you may need to get up early for work or school. Whatever the reason, let's see if we can get you some relief for your exhaustion.
In this episode, we talk about improving your attitude toward the amount of sleep you're getting, accepting reality, learning the difference between physical tiredness and emotional tiredness, cleaning up your thinking that is creating emotional fatigue, and getting better at being...
2021-02-0308 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesPep Talk Series: When Your Kids Are Driving You CrazyIt's 3 pm and your kids are driving you crazy. I'm talking bananas. Like every little thing they do is too much. You put on a show for them and go to your room for a 5 minute breather so that you can cool down and stop getting so frustrated and annoyed by their typical childish behavior.
It's so hard to get it under control and it feels like the only thing that will fix it is a new day (but it's not bed time yet) or your husband coming home from work and taking over (but that's not happening because he's...
2021-02-0205 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 76 - Self ConfidenceIn my Resiliency Training program in December I taught my clients about self confidence and I'm excited to share some of what I taught to them here with you.
Self confidence is feeling secure in yourself and your abilities. Listen to this episode to learn how self confidence is different than just regular confidence. I also teach you about the three main components of developing self confidence and how to practically apply these tips and teachings into your every day life. Enjoy!
2021-01-2830 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesBonus Episode - Blooper ReelToday we are celebrating you, my listeners, pushing play on these podcasts episodes 10,000 times!!
My gift to you to say thank you for listening, for sharing, and for coming back for more is a very silly blooper reel. When you listen to my podcast episodes you hear the final edited version that is mostly free of mistakes, ummms, false starts, mispronounced words, sneezing, sniffing, laughing, interruptions and more. In honor of keeping it real, which you know I love to do, here is a sampling of all of that nonsense. Enjoy!
2021-01-1911 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 75 - A Weight Loss Coaching CallJanuary is here and the holidays are all wrapped up, which usually means that a lot of us have started thinking about weight loss. I decided to share with you a coaching call that I did last year with a client who wanted to talk about weight loss. This will show you what it is like to do an introductory weight loss call with a life coach.
As military wives we often have weight loss goals that are motivated by knowing our husband will be home from their deployment soon, or that a promotion ceremony or military ball is coming...
2021-01-1144 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 74 - Victims and VillainsOne way I define victim mentality is when we believe that our circumstances aren't neutral. When we believe that our circumstances are the reason we feel the way we do and that things in the world are out to get us, then we are in victimhood. When there's a victim, then there's a villain.
In this episode, we take a look at what it means to indulge in victimhood. Sometimes we dip our toe into it, sometimes we visit and stay awhile, sometimes we get stuck there and don't know how to get out. Whatever the case may be, when...
2021-01-0242 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 73 - A Christmas EpisodeListen to this fun, festive episode to hear me read four of my favorite children's Christmas books. I read I Believe In Santa Clause, Why Christmas Trees Aren't Perfect, Christmas Oranges, and A Christmas Dress for Ellen. At the end of the episode I also share a bunch of fun/random/unique/interesting facts about me that I thought you would enjoy learning. Merry Christmas to all and to all a good night!
2020-12-2452 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 72 - Focusing on Problems vs Focusing on Solutions with Kate EllertsonMy daughter Kate joins me on the podcast in this episode to discuss why our brain is so good at seeing problems and focusing on them. This is just the way the normal human brain is designed to work, but the problem is whatever we focus on gets bigger and this can make it seem like there are only problems and no solutions when we're in the midst of challenging circumstances or if we're trying to accomplish a big scary goal. Fortunately, all it takes is a little bit of awareness and mind management to overcome this issue.
In this...
2020-12-2141 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 71 - Happy MediumDo you find yourself wanting to do all the things then get overwhelmed and end up doing nothing? Do you crash and burn on eating plans and exercise plans because you've missed days so now it's ruined?
Have you ever noticed that your brain tends to favor thinking that things in the world are either just one way or the other? Do you often feel like the way you think about things is right and the way other people are thinking is wrong? Is it hard for you to understand why other people are doing what they are doing when...
2020-12-1848 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 70 - The Gift of ForgivenessDo you have someone in your life who you wish you could forgive, but it just doesn't seem possible? Or maybe it seems possible and you've tried, but you've been unsuccessful so far and you're just not sure how to do it. Is there someone you were sure you had forgiven, but then when you saw them again all the same feelings of hurt and anger came right back to the surface almost as if it just happened? Do you have someone who has hurt you so deeply you never want to forgive them?
It can be so discouraging to...
2020-12-1151 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 69 - An Interview with Ashley WeinertLast week I had such a fun opportunity of interviewing Ashley Weinert from Counting Our Heroes Home. She runs an amazing deployment countdown subscription box business that focuses on the family on the home front.
One thing I love about her subscription is it’s not just for the military spouse at home (although those types of boxes are awesome too), but it’s a box created with our military kids in mind as well. Ashley has 5 kids and has experienced deployments as well and knows the struggles that the family at home goes through while their loved one is away...
2020-11-3043 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 68 - If Your Brain Was a GardenI'm a huge fan of gardening and love being outside and working in the dirt. I do my best thinking when I'm doing activities like gardening. This analogy for brain being like a garden has formed over the years and the final piece of the puzzle fell into place earlier this year when I realized what the weeds in the garden represented and why they are able to grow so easily when we don't want them there.
Tune in to hear my thoughts on this new way to think about our level of care for our brain and what each...
2020-11-2431 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 67 - Having Courage vs Having No FearFear is a big part of this human life, and often even more so for us military wives.
I have found that in my life fear has been a big part of some of the greatest things I've done and for that reason I decided that I wanted to be better at feeling it because I like the experiences that come along with it.
Another reason I want to be an expert at feeling fear is that living with a small amount of fear (and sometimes a big amount of fear) for long periods of time comes with the territory...
2020-11-1722 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 66 - Toddlers and TeenagersIn this episode we talk about why it can be so challenging to parent toddlers and teenagers. Understanding everyone involved in this equation helps us have more love and show up as the parent we want to be. Understanding how toddlers and teenagers work, also helps us better understand how our lower brain works and can improve our self coaching experience.
We also get into what our lower brain's definition of the word fair is and what our higher brain's definition of the word fair is. Understanding with both parts of our brain that fair doesn't mean that things should...
2020-11-0743 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 65 - The Shame Blame TrapIn this episode we talk about what shame is versus what guilt is. How easy it can be to get caught in the shame blame trap and what we can do to get out of it. Finding fault versus taking responsibility. I share some applicable examples and give you tons of solutions to help you become experts on processing shame. You won't want to miss this episode. Enjoy!
2020-11-0140 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 64 - Impulse Control and Allowing Urges with Bruce EllertsonMy son Bruce joins me in this episode to talk about impulse control and allowing urges. Listen in to learn what impulses and urges are, why it's so normal that we have them, and what we can do with them. Bruce and I talk about becoming best friends with our brains as we learn to be the master of our impulses and urges. What might surprise you is that we don't become the master of our urges by getting better at fighting against them, we become the master by being comfortable with feeling impulses and urges without answering them/satisfying...
2020-10-2339 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 63 - When You're Feeling Burned OutHave you ever had a lot on your plate and started feeling burned out? Have you ever been crushing it at a goal then you mysteriously lost momentum? Have you ever felt like you are using will power to stick with a plan or to get a lot done, but it feels like it won't last? I think we all feel these ways sometimes.
In this episode I dig into what is happening in our brain when we're feeling like this, when we're experience burn out. Now that I understand what creates burn out, I know that I can allow...
2020-10-0624 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 62 - Understanding Our RolesI was recently asked to share a message with a group of young women at a summer day camp about the importance of our roles and understanding what makes us feel fulfilled in our roles. I asked these young girls what roles they currently had or would have in the future that were important to them and they listed so many good ones: friend, sister, daughter, student, employee, babysitter, mother, wife, neighbor, pet owner, and more.
In this episode I share with you the message that I shared with these sweet girls. I told them my story of breaking my...
2020-10-0322 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 61 - 10 Ways Mental Health is Like Dental HealthI have had adult braces for the last 2 years and 3 months. In honor of getting my braces off this week, I'm doing a fun episode on the similarities between mental health and dental health. Enjoy!
2020-09-2627 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 60 - An Interview with a ClientIn this episode you get to hear from one of my long term clients that I've been working with for over a year. She is so awesome to share some of her thoughts and experiences as she has navigated a deployment and military life in general. She shares what it was like before she knew how to manage her mind and what it's like now that she has so many tools and skills to help her take control of her life and create exactly what she wants to. Enjoy!
2020-09-1826 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 59 - The 3 Stages of AwarenessIn this episode I discuss the 3 stages of awareness we experience when it comes to understanding how our brain works in models and then taking that understanding and applying it into our lives. I believe that awareness creates authority and having more authority over our brains and our lives is such a valuable thing.
2020-09-0923 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 58 - Understanding Results and Values with Jane EllertsonIn today's episode, my daughter Jane joins me on the podcast to talk about this important topic of understanding the difference between results and values, particularly in how it pertains to parenting. We discuss grades, modesty, boys, hygiene, and more. You won't want to miss this episode!
Basically results are what we are trying to create and values are the reason why. If we get too focused on results (which is easy to do because results are important and they are more easily measured and observed than values), then we are sending the wrong message to our kids. This is...
2020-09-0325 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 57 - Equal Air TimeIn this episode I talk about a simple and powerful tool that I learned from Brooke Castillo that helps you balance the heavy of the worst case scenario with the hopefulness and possibility of the best case scenario.
It's important to understand that our brains have a negative bias, which means we easily notice and focus on things that we believe went poorly (past), are going poorly (present), or we're worried will go poorly (future)without tasking our brain to do so. It does not take intentional effort to focus on these things and that's ok. However, if you are...
2020-08-2718 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesBonus Episode - Resiliency TrainingIn this episode I talk all about my coaching program, Resiliency Training. Tune in to hear my top 5 reasons why Resiliency Training is like going on a cruise. I also give the details about the monthly theme schedule and answer quite a few FAQ's. Enjoy!
2020-08-1922 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 56 - The Husband EpisodeIn this episode we talk all thing husbands and I teach you my favorite tool that I use to help me adore my husband, which is called Brainstorming Love. I share two examples of what brainstorming love looks like, one from 2002 Jessie and one from 2020 Jessie.
When he's away and I'm missing him, this tool helps me lean in to that experience instead of resisting it. When he's home and sometimes driving me crazy, this helps me remember all of the things that are so amazing about my guy. Adoring him is so much more fun that being annoyed by...
2020-08-1738 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 55 - Clean Pain and Dirty PainWhen we go through experiences and circumstances in our lives that cause us pain, it can be very helpful to understand which types of thoughts bring us clean pain (which serves us and helps us process the pain and accept the reality of our experience) and which types of thoughts bring us dirty pain (which usually means we're torturing ourselves on a loop, making the circumstances mean something has gone wrong, and often leads to us ignoring reality or fighting against it).
Listen in to learn more about this and start to gain awareness in your own thoughts so that...
2020-08-1027 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 54 - Teaching Kids How to Work with Maren EllertsonBrad and I have a goal to raise our amazing little human beings that we have been entrusted with into incredible adults. Another way I like to think about it is that we want to teach our kids the tools and skills they need to be excellent future roommates. Knowing how to work hard is a crucial component of that goal.
Join me on the podcast today to hear about how we are teaching our kids how to work and how to work hard (while having completely realistic expectations). I have a special guest on the podcast today, my daughter...
2020-08-0336 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 53 - Your Relationship with Yourself and Your LifeWhen we talk about relationships we usually think about our relationships with other people. Did you know that you have a relationship with everything in your life? Including yourself and all of the elements of your life?
From previous episodes about relationships we have learned that a relationship with someone is made up of the thoughts we think about that person. Because of this we know that relationships exist in our minds. This is such good news because that means that our half of our relationship with another person is completely in our control. It also means that we can...
2020-07-2338 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 52 - An Interview with Karyn HalversonMeet Karyn. She is an incredible military wife (her husband recently retired after a 30 year career). She has newly become a military mom (her youngest daughter recently joined the military). She is an educator/librarian who recently completed her Masters degree. She is a mother of three adult children (she recently lost her oldest daughter). She is fellow mind manager and lover of thought work (she is a member of Jody Moore's Be Bold program). She is a loving, independent, and faithful woman who loves God. Join us as Karyn shares with us experiences and lessons learned from all of...
2020-07-1758 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 51 - Staying Motivated WebinarHave you ever wondered why sometimes you feel so motivated and sometimes it's hard to find an ounce of inspiration when it comes to things you are trying to accomplish? Do you get discouraged when even though you are very smart and know exactly what needs to be done you sometimes just can't quite do it? Does it sometimes feel like the military is in charge of your life and and you don't have much control when it comes to options and decisions? Join me and an awesome group of military spouses who are currently stationed with their soldiers at...
2020-07-1253 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 50 - Thriving During DeploymentIn this episode I review my 10 tips to thriving during deployment. A free printable version of these tips can be downloaded from my website (www.SimplyResilient.net). I will be going into each of these tips this week in depth on Facebook live as part of my PODCAST PARTY! Make sure to check it out and enter for a chance to win one of five $100 Amazon gift cards.
2020-06-2908 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 49 - 15 Things I Want To Remember About Being a Young Mom When I'm a GrandmaI can't wait to be a grandma! I feel like it is the ultimate reward for the work I do as a mother. I know being a mom is 50/50 and being a grandma is 50/50, but secretly I kind of think being a grandma will be more like 80/20 LOL
In this episode, I compiled a list of things that have been incredibly helpful and things that aren't for mothers of young kids from my experiences and others. I know when I'm no longer in this phase that it will be hard to remember these things and I want to be the...
2020-06-2734 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 48 - An Interview With Kristin LindellMeet Kristin. She is an incredible military wife, step mom of 4, and a life coach. Kristin specializes in working with women who want to improve their relationships with their step children. She helps these incredible women like herself see how what feels mostly out of their control is actually almost completely in their control. She is working to create a positive, uplifting, empowering resource for women in a market where much of what is available can feel disempowering and at times discouraging. I loved getting to know Kristin, hearing her story, and finding out more about what she is doing...
2020-06-1732 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 47 - The Benefit of the DoubtWhenever there is any uncertainty when it comes to our interactions with others, whether it be in their actions or in their words, our brain tends to default to assuming (aka guessing) that they have bad intentions toward us. Learning how to intentionally apply the benefit of the doubt in our lives is beneficial for all involved, but mostly for us. I have also found that as I have learned to wear my Benefit of the Doubt Glasses I have seriously decreased the drama in my life. "I am on a quest to reduce drama in m life, and it's...
2020-06-1333 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesBonus Episode - The Pizza PrincipleSeveral years ago my dad wrote an e-book called The Pizza Principle: Unconventional Financial Wisdom for Unconventional Times. In this episode I share 10 tips from his book to give you a little preview. I recorded the audio of his book as a Christmas present for him last year. The audio version of The Pizza Principle is now available on most major podcast platforms. Go check it out! All of the links are in my show notes, including a link to his eBook. Today is his birthday and he is 70 years old. Happy Birthday Daddy!
2020-06-0607 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 46 - Why Is It So Hard To Ask For Help?Have you ever wondered why it can often be so difficult to ask for help? Did you know that you have a relationship with asking for help? Your current thoughts that are making it hard to ask for help are your relationship. Are you like so many of us and jump at the chance to help others, but can't stand to ask for help yourself? If you have a hard time accepting offers of help or asking for help when it's needed and would like to know why and how you might improve your relationship when it comes to this...
2020-06-0435 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 45 - The Balanced Life MythHave you ever been at your wits end with your kids no matter how hard you search for more patience? Then an opportunity for a little getaway comes up and you snatch it up in hopes that if you can get a small break from them that you will find that patient mama that you know is in there. Only to be super discouraged when not long after you return from your getaway and you're reunited with your amazing kids whom you love dearly, your impatience starts to creep right back in. This is an example from my life of...
2020-05-2929 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 44 - Adventures in Flight SchoolBrad is back in this episode as a cohost to help me share some fun experiences from our time at Fort Rucker Alabama in 2011 and 2012. He just returned from Fort Rucker after completing "flight school part 2" and now is trained to fly Apache helicopters. When we went as a family to "flight school part 1" for a year and a half, he learned how to fly Blackhawk helicopters. Having him there these last four months and now home again has made us nostalgic about that very important time in our family's life. Join us to hear some fun stories of what...
2020-05-2140 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 43 - An Interview with Michele DemetriouMeet Michele. She is an amazing military mom who supported her son through his military career. She is now a mindset coach who works with professional athletes helping them live their lives more intentionally and decide who they want to be in the world beyond their identity as an athlete. She has found a lot of similarities in the mental lives and mental struggles of athletes and soldiers. Listen in to hear her fascinating insights and lessons learned. Enjoy!
2020-05-1236 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 42 - The Cupcake ConceptHave you ever fallen into the trap of being able to believe you are a good mom if your kids get could grades? The problem with that plan is then if your kids don't get good grades (which is completely possible and mostly out of your control) then you no longer have permission from yourself to believe you're a good mom... In today's episode I explain my cupcake analogy in detail with tons of examples to help you understand the power of taking care of our own needs and remembering that everything else (aka your wants) is frosting. In case...
2020-05-0731 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 41 - Growing Through ChallengesLife is a classroom, not a test. We are put on this earth to have the opportunity to grow through challenges. The sooner we open up to this part of life, the sooner we improve our overall experience with the hard times and gain so much more in the process.
2020-04-3036 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 40 - Baby Keith's Birth StoryToday we celebrate our son Keith and his special place in our family. Five years ago today we had a stillborn baby. I was almost 6 months pregnant with a healthy baby boy when there was a cord accident and he passed away inside of me. I am a sharer, I believe in sharing, and today I'm honored to share with you some of my personal accounts from those days leading up to his delivery and the days that followed. These are sacred and tender experiences for me and my family and they bring up so much pain and love, heartbreak...
2020-04-2131 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 39 - An Interview with Stephanie AllenMeet my new friend Stephanie Allen. I had the privilege of interviewing her a couple of months ago and I'm so happy to finally be sharing with you her insights. She is a seasoned military spouse with her husband being in the military for 28 years. Together they have done 11 moves and 6 deployments. Stephanie is also a life coach and works with military spouses who want to create home businesses that can thrive even with the unique demands of active duty military life. She helps military spouses get off the career treadmill of having to start over each time they move...
2020-04-1639 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 38 - Therapy vs CoachingAre you curious about the similarities and differences between life coaching and therapy? Tune in to hear my take on it along with some other great references on this topic. Also, enjoy an interview that I did with my big brother Ben who has had a lot of experiences getting help in his life from both kinds of mental health professionals.
2020-04-0957 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesBonus Episode - A Coaching Call About the CoronavirusEnjoy this Bonus Episode where I coach one of my clients about the affects of the Coronavirus in her personal and professional life. Fair warning: the audio of the recording of our session is pretty terrible. This episode is definitely worth listening to, but the audio makes it a B-, and I'm ok with that :)
2020-04-0353 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 37 -Living With UncertaintyListen in to learn why we are perfectly prepared and ready for the Coronavirus. It feels that our uncertainty in life has increased in the last few weeks, but in reality our life is always 50/50: 50% certain 50% uncertain. Also, the way to feel more certain is to create that feeling with your thoughts. We mistakenly think that the way we feel certain and prepared is to take tons of action, but if we clean up our thinking first then our actions will be more productive, authentic, and sustainable. Learn in this episode why this level of daily stress is actually in...
2020-03-2750 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 36 - An Interview With Wendi WrayIn this episode you will get to know my new friend Wendi Wray who is an amazing woman. She is a veteran, a military spouse, a mom, and a life coach. I really enjoyed this opportunity to get to know her and more about her experiences as she navigated life in a dual-mil marriage and about what she's up to these days. She is no longer in the military and she has a life coaching practice focused on serving veterans who want to lose weight for good by changing their lifestyle for good and improving the relationship they have with...
2020-03-1836 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 35 - Buffering with Zach SpaffordOn the podcast today I share an episode that I did with life coach Zach Spafford from The Self Mastery Podcast about buffering. We talk about what buffering is, why our lower brain offers it to us as a solution to resolve discomfort, what we can do instead and how, and how all of this relates to military life particularly when it comes to the challenges, loneliness, and discomfort of deployments. Enjoy!
2020-03-1140 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 34 - The Story of Squeaky Shoes For Tiny TotsIn this episode I tell you the story of the last 9 years rocking my side gig of selling toddler squeaky shoes. This business is my baby and I have enjoyed the ups and downs of growing it from nothing into what it is today.
2020-03-0635 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 33 - Requests and BoundariesDo you find yourself struggling with making healthy requests and setting healthy boundaries in your relationships? Listen to this episode to learn more about what it means to make requests of people around you from a place of wanting it without needing it to be happy (the frosting on the cupcake). Also, find out what it takes to set boundaries that aren't exhausting, overwhelming, and unsuccessful. "If you continue to do _____________ (and you probably will and that's ok), then I will do _____________ to take care of myself."
2020-03-0123 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 32 - An Interview With Jenni GainesMeet Jenni Gaines, fellow military wife and also a life coach. She specializes in working with families dealing with teenage anorexia. I thoroughly enjoyed getting to know Jenni, hearing her insights and takeaways from her time as a military spouse, and learning more about her niche and all the ways she is helping people through this incredible challenge. Enjoy!
2020-02-2045 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 31 - What Do You Do With An Idea?This episode is part 3 of a 3 part episode series where I read to you the children's book What Do You Do With an Idea? from the What You Do Matters Series written by Kobi Yamada and illustrated by Mae Besom. These books have such beautifully simple and powerful concepts in them and in this episode I talk about what it means to have a relationship with your ideas and dreams.
2020-02-1125 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 30 - What Do You Do With a Chance?This episode is part 2 of a 3 part episode series where I read to you the children's book What Do You Do With a Chance? from the What You Do Matters Series written by Kobi Yamada and illustrated by Mae Besom. These books have such beautifully simple and powerful concepts in them. In this episode I discuss what it means to take a chance from a position of being willing to fail at that chance. The reason we let chances pass us by in this life is mostly because we think we are "afraid of failure." What I have found to b...
2020-02-0531 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 29 - What Do You Do With a Problem?This episode is part 1 of a 3 part episode series where I read to you the children's book What Do You Do With a Problem from the What You Do Matters Series written by Kobi Yamada and illustrated by Mae Besom. These books have such beautiful concepts in them and in this episode I elaborate on how to use the model to solve any problem and what it looks like to attempt to solve problems with the "solutions" that our lower brain offers us.
2020-01-2930 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesBonus Episode - What Is A Mini Session?At the end of each of my episodes I invite you to book a free mini session with me to see if working with me would be a great fit for you. Last week I realized I have never explained to you what a mini-session is and it's time to fix that!
Who here likes Costco samples? A mini-session is a lot like samples at Costco because Costco wants you to be able to try the food before you buy so that there is no risk for you. Then they hope you love it and want to buy the full...
2020-01-2413 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 28 - How To Feel Crazy Connected to Your Husband Even When He's DeployedToday's podcast comes from a webinar that I recently created as an assignment for Life Coach School. I did a podcast episode on a similar topic last year, but this episode is a different take on it because the point of a webinar is to reach and teach an audience who hasn't heard of me or my podcast or the model or probably even life coaching. So it was a fun new challenge to teach it in a way that could be understood by all and not rely on the terms that I now use so regularly in my teaching...
2020-01-2252 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 27 - An Interview with Nicole TerweyI feel so lucky to have an amazing former military spouse and member of the military, who is also a life coach, on my podcast today. Listen in to hear about Nicole Terwey's experiences during her time in the Navy and being dual military since her husband was also in the Navy. We also discuss her life coaching specialty which is undoing urges for permanent weight loss.
2020-01-1643 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 26 - ProtocolsHaving a protocol simply means deciding ahead of time how we want to show up in the world in any given category of our lives. We can have protocols for each aspect of our life such as: food, parenting, marriage, business, time, etc.
2020-01-0830 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 25 - Our Love StoryMy husband, Brad Ellertson, guest co-hosts this episode with me as we share highlights from our 21 years together.
2019-12-3131 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 24 - What to Do When Your Loved Ones are Driving You Crazy!Are you spending a lot of time with family right now around the holidays? Do you have people staying with you from out of town who you love, but they're driving you crazy? Are you frustrated by the fact that you miss your loved ones when you're not with them, but then when you are together some of their behavior makes you want to run away? Listen to this episode to gain some awareness around why this occurs and to get some simple solutions to help out with this very simple problem. If you're ready to decrease the drama that...
2019-12-2726 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 23 - I'll Be Home For ChristmasThe reality of military life is that we have to spend some really important days apart. One of those may be Christmas for you. In this episode I take a look at the "solutions" that your lower brain offers you to deal with these difficult times and the result that comes with that. This episode will help you gain some awareness around all of this and get a good look at the results you will get from using your higher brain to work through being apart from your husband at Christmas time. Your mission for the week is to create...
2019-12-2420 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 22 - 7 Tips to Enhance Your Weight Loss Experience During DeploymentI recently made a very fun video for an assignment for Life Coach School and I wanted to share the audio of this video here with you. Enjoy these 7 easy and doable tips that you can start applying today to the weight loss journey that you are already on that will help you think about weight loss in a way that you never have before and enhance your over all experience by taking it to the next level.
2019-12-1926 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 21 - How Can I Keep From Singing?In this episode I share some of the experiences that I've had in my life with the power of music and song. I also discuss how you would use the model to improve your physical performance in any area (sports, singing, acting, etc.). I have a special treat for you on this episode. At the end of the episode I include the recording of a solo that I performed in high school "How Can I Keep From Singing?"
2019-12-1730 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 20 - The ManualDid you know that if we're not careful we tend to create user manuals for how we believe the people in our lives should behave? The problem with this is the people around us don't know what's in our manual or necessarily want to behave how we've decided they should behave. If you have a husband manual, it may say "good husbands don't leave their clothes on the floor." But guess what? Sometimes husbands put their clothes away and sometimes they don't. What if that didn't make them a good or bad husband? What if you get to feel exactly...
2019-12-1430 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 19 - Breaking My Leg During a DeploymentThis weekend marked the six year anniversary since breaking my leg two weeks into my husbands first year long deployment. In this episode I share my story with you in great detail of what that experience was like for me and what I learned. This experience is a big part of who I am today.
2019-12-1031 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 18 - Enjoying Results Ahead of TimeDid you know that just like we can enjoy the anticipation of Christmas day all season long, we can enjoy anticipating the results of a goal today that haven't even happened yet? It comes from knowing for sure that they will happen and because of that knowledge having the confidence to enjoy those results today as you work toward them, which in turn increases the likelihood of you achieving them. I love applying this concept in so many areas of my life and I know you will too.
2019-12-0627 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 17 - The Nanny EpisodeMany people ask me about my experience having a nanny. So here is my story about deciding to get a nanny, what it took to find her, and what it was like having her live in our house with our family for a year while my husband was deployed. Spoiler alert: it was fantastic, she was amazing, and it was a complete game changer!
2019-12-0431 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 16 - Everything is 50/50I have decided to believe that every circumstance in life is 50/50 by design. 50% good 50% bad, 50% positive 50% negative, 50% hard 50% easy, 50% fun 50% hard work. Believing this and applying it in my life has helped me love exactly where I am in life and not indulge in thoughts like "once I ________ then my life will be so much better." It's 50/50 here and it's 50/50 there, just a different 50/50. It will be fun to go for that thing or achieve that goal, but we can make our life exactly what we want it to be in any circumstance. The grass isn't greener on the other side...
2019-11-2835 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 15 - Self Coaching 101What does a self coaching session look like? Listen in to hear my tips for coaching yourself effectively and more on what it looks like for me.
2019-11-2618 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 14 - How to Feel Connected to Your Husband While He's AwayRelationships are simply our thoughts about another person and relationships exist in our minds. The reason this is such good news is that when our husband is away and the usual ways that we believe are what make it easy to create connection (like going on dates, flirting, enjoying shared interests) are not available, we can feel very disconnected. Listen to this episode to see what you can do to create crazy amounts of connection and love in your marriage even in the most challenging circumstances.
2019-11-2120 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 13 - My Interview with the Rising Phoenix PodcastA few months ago I had the amazing opportunity to be interviewed by the Rising Phoenix Podcast. This is a powerful podcast about maternal mental health and Postpartum depression and I was able to share with them my story about losing my baby Keith when I was 5 months pregnant with him. Being able to share about life after having a still born baby and dealing with Postpartum Depression is a healing experience. They have a mission to help end the stigma against talking about these things and getting help when needed. What we really need when we're having these types...
2019-11-1834 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 12 - Deciding What to BelieveDo you know what makes something a belief? When you decide to continue thinking something, that's it. When you know this you can more intentionally decide what you want to believe and what you don't want to believe by taking a look at what you're spending time thinking about and guiding your thoughts to create who you are and what you believe on purpose.
2019-11-1515 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 11 - My Weight Loss JourneyDid you know that the number on the scale is completely neutral? It's just information, it's just a number, it's just math, and it means nothing about you. In this episode I share they way I tell my story about my relationship with my health, my body, and my weight throughout my life so far. I also share where I am currently in my journey and how those goals are going so far. My husband asked me, "Don't you want to wait until you've reached your goal to do this episode?" and I responded with, "No way! I'm a work...
2019-11-1436 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 10 - Emotional AdulthoodSimply stated, emotional adulthood is when we take responsibility for how we feel. Learn about the opposite of emotional adulthood, which is emotional childhood, to get a better understanding of what it looks like to operate from emotional adulthood. When we learn how to be responsible for our own happiness and unhappiness (it turns out we're the best ones), we are empowered to be the person that we want to be in the world.
2019-11-1420 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 9 - Worry vs FearHave you ever wondered what the difference between fear and worry is? For me, the difference is that worry pretends to be necessary but makes us miserable, while fear is a useful emotion that we can get good at feeling and taking action anyway. Make sure to listen to this episode to learn all about this topic and listen to a coaching session where I'm the client and I'm being coached by Natalie Clay about my struggle with worrying about my husband while he was deployed in Iraq.
2019-11-1337 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 8 - Negative EmotionsWhile we may logically understand that negative emotions are a necessary part of life, we tend to respond to them in ways that do not serve us such as resisting, reacting, or avoiding. Learn more about that and about what it means to allow negative emotions and the impact that can have on your life. Also, listen in to learn about the difference between indulgent emotions that keep us stuck and productive negative emotions that are heathy and helpful to allow and process. Allowing these negative emotions actually move us forward on our journey to become the version of ourselves...
2019-11-1131 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 7 - A Letter to a Friend About Joining the MilitaryLess than a year after we joined the military, a friend reached out to me because she and her husband were considering joining the military. She wanted to know what I thought and this is the letter that I wrote to her:
2019-11-1009 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 6 - Making Decisions Like a BossDo you have trouble making decisions in a timely manner and with confidence? In this episode we talk about how making decisions can be challenging even in normal life, but even more so when you're husband is away. Listen to find out more about why we get hung up on making decisions and lots of tools to help you make decisions like a boss!
2019-11-0736 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 5 - A Coaching Call With a Military WifeWondering what it would be like to be coached? Listen in on this coaching call with a military wife as we talk about an experience that she and her husband had when he came home during his deployment for 24 hours. We talk about holding the space, setting boundaries, making our cupcakes whole, thanking ourselves, making requests from a place of wanting without needing to be happy, and so much more.
2019-11-0555 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 4 - 16 Reasons Why Deployments are Like PregnanciesI have found that people who are not in the military struggle to connect and relate with you when you are experiencing a deployment. They have desire to and it would benefit you as well if they could understand better, but what we go through is a pretty foreign concept to many people. I have found that explaining concepts of the deployment and drawing on similarities that people experience during pregnancies really helps them understand. It also helps me accept the hard parts of the deployment as normal and right on track just like I do in a pregnancy. Enjoy:
2019-10-3116 minSimply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 3 - B Minus Work vs PerfectionismLearn to be happy with moving forward in your life with results that are anywhere from B minus and up, instead of being held back by "if I can't do it perfectly I won't do it at all" or taking a very long time to get everything you do to the A plus level because it's the only way your happy about your work. Practicing this in my life has served me so well!
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Simply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 2 - The Primitive BrainHave you ever wondered why you are stressed or worried about something that you logically understand is not that big of a deal? Do you have things in your life that you totally know what you could and should be doing better, but you just can't seem to do it. In this episode, learn about the amazing way that your primitive brain works and how some of it is incredibly helpful and how lots of it is more like the way a toddler throws a tantrum. The key to understanding all of this is that having that awareness creates authority.
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Simply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 1 - The ModelWant to learn about the model that I use in all of my coaching? My teacher Brooke Castillo developed a self coaching model that is at the foundation of all that I do as a life coach and I teach you in this episode how it works and how you can use it to solve any problem in your life.
C-Circumstances
T-Thoughts
F-Feelings
A-Actions
R-Results
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Simply Resilient - A Podcast For Military WivesEpisode 000 - IntroductionHello everyone! Welcome to the Simply Resilient Podcast. My name is Jessie Ellertson and this is life coaching from a military mama who is in the trenches of life with all of you. This is a podcast for military wives who know how to handle the challenges of frequent deployments and trainings, but want to stop feeling mentally miserable in the process. You know what to do and you’re doing it, all while holding down the fort at home, but you are weary from living in survival mode and battling with your brain. You are ready to thrive and yo...
2019-10-1912 min