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Faith InfluencerS.2 Ep.14: Blended Families...What Are You Really Fighting About?The argument starts with a child’s disrespect. But before long, you’re saying, “You never support me,” or “Why are you making me choose?”
In today’s episode, I’m talking about what’s underneath the recurring arguments in blended families: the need to feel supported, the instinct to protect your child, and expectations you may never have discussed.
Drawing from 17 years in my own blended family, I share why words like “your kid” matter, how biological parents and stepparents can understand their roles, and why you need a plan before emotions take over.
We’ll finish with one practical challenge to h...
2026-10-1523 min
Faith InfluencerS.2 Ep.13: Your Spouse or Your Child? Stop Choosing SidesYour spouse or your child? If you’re a biological parent in a blended family, you may have felt forced to choose. Defend your child, and your spouse feels unsupported. Back your spouse, and your child feels pushed aside.
In today’s podcast, we’re talking about how to stop choosing sides—and start protecting the family you’re building together.
Having been through divorce and spent the past 17 years in my own blended family, I know how personal these disagreements can become. An argument about chores or curfew can quickly turn into something much deeper.
I’m sharing a few practica...
2026-09-3025 min
Faith InfluencerS.2 Ep.12: Should Your Stepchildren Call You Mom or Dad?Should your stepchildren call you Mom or Dad?
It sounds like a simple question, but in a blended family, those two words can carry a lot of emotion. Stepparents may feel that they have earned the title, biological parents may feel threatened by it, and children can become caught between two households and the people they love.
In this episode, I’m sharing my honest perspective as a stepfather—including what my own stepchildren call me and why it has never defined our relationship. We’ll talk about allowing these relationships to develop naturally, keeping children out of adult insecurities, and re...
2026-09-1619 min
Faith InfluencerS.2 Ep.11: Five Things Your Wife Wishes You KnewAfter our last episode about what husbands wish their wives understood, I promised we’d turn the tables. But instead of sitting down and guessing what women want their husbands to know, I went straight to the source.
I asked women one question: What do you wish your husband understood about you?
Some of the answers I expected. Others surprised me. And one response came up overwhelmingly more than anything else.
In this episode, we’re talking about communication, connection, marriage, the things wives carry that husbands may never see, and what women are really looking for in the men they...
2026-08-1933 min
Faith InfluencerS.2 Ep.10: Five Things Your Husband Wishes You Knew (But May Never Tell You)Over the years, through counseling couples, talking with men, and my own experience in marriage, I’ve heard a lot of the same things come up.
So for this episode, I also asked men directly: What do you wish your wife understood about you?
Their answers had a lot in common.
We talk about why your husband really can’t read your mind (even when you think he should know), why respect means more to him than you may realize, and why he doesn’t just want to know that you love him—he wants to know that you still want him...
2026-08-1026 min
Faith InfluencerS.2 Ep.9: Why Your Marriage Must Come Before Your ChildrenWhy Your Marriage Must Come Before Your Children may sound harsh at first—but it's one of the most loving decisions you can make for your family. I've learned through my own blended family journey that many parents don't intentionally put their spouse second. More often, it's guilt after divorce, the desire to protect our children, or simply not realizing the small decisions we're making every day.
In this episode, I share why choosing your marriage doesn't mean loving your children less. We talk about the subtle ways we undermine our spouse without meaning to, why children actually feel more se...
2026-07-2319 min
Savvy Estate PlanningEstate Planning for a $50 Million EstateAt this level, estate planning is no longer just about avoiding probate. It becomes a sophisticated balance of tax planning, asset protection, business succession, and preserving wealth across generations. 👉 Book a Call at https://www.cunninghamlegal.com/book-your-appointment/ for estate planning, tax planning, and family wealth planning. When your estate reaches $50 million, the stakes rise quickly and even small mistakes can cost your family millions. In this advanced webinar, leading attorney and CEO, Jim Cunningham, shares practical strategies used by high net worth families to protect substantial estates in today's changing legal and tax environment. Attendees gain ins...
2026-07-071h 22
Faith InfluencerS.2 Ep.9: Why Does My Stepchild Reject Me?Have you ever felt like your stepchild is pushing you away?
It's one of the most common questions I hear from stepparents, and I know how painful it can be. But what if it isn't rejection at all?
In this episode, I share one of the biggest lessons I've learned after 17 years in a blended family. We'll talk about loyalty conflicts, why children often struggle to connect with a stepparent, and how understanding what's really happening beneath the surface can completely change the way you respond.
If you've ever wondered why your stepchild seems distant, or you've questioned whether you're...
2026-07-0118 min
Faith InfluencerS.2 Ep.8: The 3 Most Dangerous People to Talk to When Your Marriage Is StrugglingWhen marriage gets difficult, most people don't make their biggest mistakes during the argument—they make them in the conversations that happen afterward.
In this episode, I talk about something I've seen over and over again through years of working with couples and blended families: when you're hurting, lonely, frustrated, or feeling disconnected from your spouse, who you turn to matters more than you think.
Pain has a way of making us look for comfort before wisdom. We naturally want someone who will listen, validate our feelings, and tell us we're right. But not every listening ear is helping you mo...
2026-06-1724 min
Savvy Estate PlanningBefore Selling or Merging a Law Practice in California... Watch THIS!Thinking about selling your estate planning practice or merging with another firm? In this webinar, Jim Cunningham explains what CunninghamLegal looks for when acquiring or merging with a California estate planning firm. 👉 Book a Call at https://www.cunninghamlegal.com/book-your-appointment/ for help selling your practice, to merge a law practice, or for advice on the law firm sale process.Drawing from nearly 30 successful mergers, Jim walks through key elements of a sale, including valuation basics, client transition planning, ethical duties, revenue sharing, and phased retirement options. Selling your practice is about more than price. It is abo...
2026-06-021h 34
Savvy Estate PlanningAsset Protection and the Corporate VeilUnlock the secrets of asset protection & avoid lifting the corporate veil in our must-see webinar led by attorney Jim Cunningham. 👉 Book a Call at https://www.cunninghamlegal.com/book-your-appointment/ for attorneys well-versed in corporate veil company law, to learn more about the corporate veil, and general estate planning for your business.Join seasoned attorney Jim Cunningham in this enlightening webinar to explore the complexities of how LLCs, Partnerships, and Corporations can be used to protect assets. Learn about the "corporate veil" and its crucial role in liability protection. Who is protected by the corporate veil? Understand the con...
2026-05-2652 min
Faith InfluencerS.2 Ep.7: How to Choose the Right Spouse After DivorceHow do you really know if someone is the right person to marry—especially when blending families?
In this episode, I’m tackling a question I hear often: How to Choose the Right Spouse After Divorce.
Too many people make life-changing decisions based on chemistry, attraction, emotional connection, or pressure—but those things alone aren’t enough to build a healthy marriage, especially in a blended family.
I walk through five important markers to help you discern whether someone is truly ready for marriage: character, consistency, ownership of past mistakes, alignment in faith and values, parenting, boundaries, and whether the relation...
2026-05-2022 min
The UnScripted MindTrauma Doesn't Damage People. Here's What Actually Does.Most people have heard of EMDR. Very few actually understand what it does — or why it works when years of talk therapy haven't moved the needle.In this episode, Jim Cunningham, LPC breaks it down in plain language: what trauma actually is (it's not what most people think), why you can't always see your own patterns from inside them, and what EMDR does to a traumatic memory that insight alone cannot do.You'll come away understanding why the past lives in the present — and what it actually takes to change that.Topics covered:...
2026-05-1221 min
Faith InfluencerS.2 Ep.6: How to Rebuild Trust After Divorce (Without Ruining Your New Marriage)“You’re asking someone who didn’t hurt you to pay for pain they didn’t cause.”
If that hits a little close to home, you’re not alone.
In this episode, we’re talking about how to rebuild trust after divorce—and why it’s so difficult, especially in a blended family or second marriage. You can be with a good person, in a healthy relationship, and still struggle with trust… not because of what they’ve done, but because of what someone else did to you before.
That’s where a lot of people get stuck.
So we walk through what’s real...
2026-04-2922 min
Savvy Estate PlanningBuilding a Sellable Law Firm!Building a successful law firm is one thing. Building a sellable law firm is something entirely different. 👉 Book a Call at https://www.cunninghamlegal.com/book-your-appointment/ for help with selling a law firm, buying a law firm, or for general advice.In this video, attorney Jim Cunningham breaks down what truly separates a practice or company from one that buyers actually want. We’ll explore succession planning, branding, and the habits that attract serious offers. If you’re thinking about a future exit or simply want a stronger, more resilient enterprise, this guide shows you how to create...
2026-04-141h 26
Savvy Estate PlanningSelling or Merging a Law Practice in CaliforniaThinking about selling your estate planning practice or merging with another firm? In this webinar, Jim Cunningham explains what CunninghamLegal looks for when acquiring or merging with a California estate planning firm. 👉 Book a Call at https://www.cunninghamlegal.com/book-your-appointment/ for help selling your practice, to merge a law practice, or for advice on the law firm sale process.Drawing from nearly 30 successful mergers, Jim walks through key elements of a sale, including valuation basics, client transition planning, ethical duties, revenue sharing, and phased retirement options. Selling your practice is about more than price. It is abo...
2026-04-141h 34The UnScripted MindWhen Avoidance Becomes Your Identity: Victim Mindset, the Fear Ladder, and How to Finally Break the PatternThere's a version of avoidance so sophisticated that the people living inside it never see it for what it is — because it doesn't feel like avoidance. It feels like the truth.In Part 2 of this series, Jim unpacks the Tendency for Interpersonal Victimhood (TIV) — a 2020 personality construct from Tel Aviv University that explains why some people organize their entire identity around being wronged, and why that makes accountability feel impossible. He also delivers the full clinical picture of the Fear Ladder, including the two things most people miss when they try to use it on their own: safe...
2026-04-1425 min
Faith InfluencerS.2 Ep.5: Blended Family Boundaries | Why Your Yes & No Matter More Than You ThinkOne of the fastest ways to create chaos in your home is this…not knowing when to say yes and when to say no.
I see it all the time — especially in blended families.
Some parents say yes just to keep the peace…others say no to everything trying to keep control…and both end up creating problems they didn’t intend.
So let me ask you this:
What are you reserving your yes for?
And what are you protecting with your no?
Because every time you say yes, you’re endorsing something.
And every time you say no, you’re protecting...
2026-04-0822 minThe UnScripted MindAvoidance Makes It Worse (And How To Stop It)You know the conversation you've been putting off for three weeks. You've rehearsed it. You've run it in your head. And then you just don't do it. That's not weakness. That's avoidance — and it's costing you more than you realize. In this episode, I break down the psychology behind why we avoid the things that matter most, what it's actually doing to your brain and your life, and four research-backed tools to start breaking the pattern.━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━IN THIS EPISODE: → Why 1 in 3 people meet the clinical threshold for avoidance-driven anxiety → The Little Albert experiment — how fear is learned (and spreads)→ Seligman's learned helplessness resear...
2026-04-0218 min
Faith InfluencerS.2 Ep.4: Blended Family Struggles - Feeling Like a Guest in Your Own HomeFeeling like a guest in your own home in a blended family?
You’re not the only one — and you’re not doing anything wrong.
In this episode, we talk about why that feeling is actually normal… and what to do about it.
We’ll walk through:
- Why belonging can’t be forced
- How connection comes before influence
- The power of small, everyday moments
- And why you need to stop measuring the relationship too early
If you’ve ever felt like you don’t fully belong… this is for you.
You’re not rejected — you’re just unplaced.
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2026-03-1917 min
Faith InfluencerS.2 Ep.3: The Pressure That Breaks Blended FamiliesThe Pressure That Breaks Blended Families is often the pressure no one prepares you for.
In this episode, we’ll talk about the emotional weight that comes with being part of a blended family—especially as a stepparent. The guilt, the frustration, the unspoken thoughts, and the feeling of walking on eggshells in your own home.
We’ll talk about why many of these emotions feel wrong, even though they’re actually normal. From unrealistic expectations to the pressure to keep everyone happy, this conversation names what so many blended families experience but rarely say out loud.
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2026-02-2722 min
Faith InfluencerS.2 Ep.2: Blended Family Problems No One Prepared You ForBlended family problems no one prepared you for—they’re real, messy, and nothing like what you imagined.
In this episode, I break down the struggles that often go unspoken: why trust takes time, why step-parent authority works differently, how loyalty to a biological parent affects kids, and why rules without relationships backfire.
This is for anyone who’s been surprised by how hard blended family life can be—and wants to do it differently.
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2026-01-2918 min
Savvy Estate PlanningHow to set up a charitable trust!Thinking about charitable trusts? What about the differences between a Charitable Remainder Trust, Charitable Lead Trust, and Charitable Annuity Trust? 👉 Book a Call at https://www.cunninghamlegal.com/book-your-appointment/ for estate planning, tax planning, and advice on setting up a charitable trust.Join leading attorney and author Jim Cunningham as he unravels these complex instruments. Understand the unique benefits of setting up a charitable trust and sometimes misunderstood consequences of each type of charitable trust, and how they can best be used for philanthropic goals, tax savings, and even tax-advantaged income! With Jim's expertise, you can learn abo...
2026-01-2718 min
Faith InfluencerS2.Ep.1: Being the Father Figure God Called You to BeHave you ever wondered where you really fit as a stepdad — and how to be the father figure God called you to be?
I’ve been a stepdad for 16 years, and I know how confusing and heavy this role can feel. The tension, the guarded hearts, the moments when you’re not sure if you’re helping or making things worse.
In this episode, I share what I’ve learned — not from theory, but from living it. We talk about why stepkids often push back, why trying to compete only creates distance, and why what they need most isn’t perfection or...
2026-01-0723 min
Savvy Estate PlanningHow to Set Up a Charitable Trust!Thinking about charitable trusts? What about the differences between a Charitable Remainder Trust, Charitable Lead Trust, and Charitable Annuity Trust? 👉 Book a Call at https://www.cunninghamlegal.com/book-your-appointment/ for estate planning, tax planning, and advice on setting up a charitable trust. Join leading attorney and author Jim Cunningham as he unravels these complex instruments. Understand the unique benefits of setting up a charitable trust and sometimes misunderstood consequences of each type of charitable trust, and how they can best be used for philanthropic goals, tax savings, and even tax-advantaged income! With Jim's expertise, you can learn about charitable tru...
2025-12-2218 min
Faith InfluencerEp.77: Blended Family Boundaries - Why Love Isn’t EnoughThis week on the Faith Influencer Podcast, I’m sharing what may be some of the most important truth you’ll ever hear about blended families—and specifically about Blended Family Boundaries. If you’ve ever thought, “We love each other—so why is this still so hard?” this episode is for you. I break down a hard but freeing reality: love doesn’t blend a family—boundaries do. We’ll talk about why a strong marriage alone isn’t enough, where most blended families get stuck, and the blended family boundaries that bring peace, security, and growth to your home. If your family f...
2025-12-1720 minThe UnScripted MindWhy Kids Don't Listen Anymore: 7 Ways Parenting & Authority Have ChangedMost parents aren't imagining it — something has genuinely shifted. Authority used to be automatic. Today it has to be earned every single day, and the culture around you isn't helping.In this episode, Jim Cunningham LPC breaks down seven ways parenting and authority have changed in just one generation — and what calm, confident leadership actually looks like now.You'll hear about:- Why "because I said so" no longer lands the way it used to- How screens and dopamine are rewiring your child's brain against you- T...
2025-12-0316 min
Faith InfluencerEp.76: Blended for 16 Years (What Really Keeps a Second Marriage Strong)In this episode of the Faith Influencer Podcast, I finally sit down with my wife, Deana, to talk honestly about what really keeps a second marriage strong and what 16 years in a blended family has actually looked like for us.
We open up about how our totally different faith backgrounds shaped the early tension in our marriage, what counseling forced us to confront, and the messy, real moments of figuring out how to love each other’s kids while still dealing with insecurities from past relationships.
Deana shares about her “mama bear” instincts, we talk about what healthy co-parenting with exes a...
2025-11-2657 min
Savvy Estate PlanningHiring Caregivers for Parents in CA: BEWARE Liability, RiskIn-home caregiver jobs in CA are employees: Estate Planning Attorney Jim Cunningham + Nicole Kamm of Fisher Phillips 👉 Book a Call at https://cunninghamlegal.com/book-your-appointment/ for California Living Trusts and Estate Planning. A MUST SEE webinar for anyone even thinking about hiring an in-home caregiver for a loved one in the state of California. Did you know you can be personally liable for a variety of violations of the Golden State’s heavily employee-friendly laws? That includes minimum wage, mandatory breaks, as well as over time--you really need to understand how to avoid mistakes and manage your liability! Our guest...
2025-11-201h 00
Savvy Estate PlanningWill My Spouse and Kids Inherit Everything?Without a living trust or a will, your assets are subject to Probate! What is Probate, and how much does probate cost? 👉 Book a call at https://www.cunninghamlegal.com/book-your-appointment/ to understand the consequences of not having an estate plan, learn about probate costs, and discover the benefits of living trusts. In this essential video, expert attorney Jim Cunningham tackles the critical questions surrounding estate planning. What happens if you pass away without an estate plan? Does your spouse automatically inherit everything, or are your children also entitled to a portion of your assets? Jim also provides a com...
2025-11-1328 min
Faith InfluencerEp.75: Divorce, Healing, and Finding Yourself Again - Life After DivorceIIn this episode, we’re talking about divorce, healing, and finding yourself again. I’m opening up about one of the biggest surprises I faced after my divorce — realizing I was carrying an invisible backpack full of emotions I didn’t even know were there. Grief, shame, guilt, loneliness… all those things we try to push down and move past.
But healing starts with honesty. You can’t move forward if you don’t unpack what’s weighing you down — one thing at a time. My hope is that this conversation helps you start that process. Because your story isn’t over, and God isn’...
2025-11-1125 min
Faith InfluencerEp.74: Worst Mistakes We Make (and How to Stop Them)We all make mistakes… but some can change the entire course of our families and relationships. In this episode, I get real about three of the most common traps we fall into: expecting our spouse to magically change after “I do,” trying to be our kids’ best friend instead of their parent, and believing we can navigate life’s storms alone.
Growth requires intention — and God never designed us to carry everything by ourselves. Whether you’re in a blended family or simply trying to break unhealthy cycles, this conversation will challenge, encourage, and help you aim your home toward purpose instea...
2025-10-2919 min
Faith InfluencerEp.73: How to Stop Comparing and Start Loving the Family You HaveHave you ever caught yourself comparing your marriage or family to someone else’s? It’s easy to do—but in a blended family, comparison and withholding can quietly damage connection and joy.
In this episode, I will share how to stop comparing and start loving the family you have. I will talk about what it means to let go of past expectations, open your heart fully, and build unity right where you are—because that’s where real love and strength begin.
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2025-10-1518 min
Savvy Estate PlanningCA PROP 19 LEGAL STRATEGIES: Preserve CA Prop 13 Estate Planning ANALYSIS: CA Prop 13 caps gone Feb 16, 2021, Prop 19 alters property law in California, Prop 58 interaction, living trust 👉 Book a Call at https://cunninghamlegal.com/book-your-appointment/ a must-watch for anyone dealing w/Property Tax in California! URGENT PROP 19 UPDATE: The deadline of February 15, 2021 has now passed. But CunninghamLegal has A NEW PROP 19 STRATEGY to retain Prop 13 caps for your children. Read https://www.cunninghamlegal.com/prop19plan and see the webinar at https://www.cunninghamlegal.com/legal_webinars/what-can-i-do-if-i-missed-the-prop-19-deadline/ for more details! ----------------------------------------- CunninghamLegal Attorney Jim Cunningham breaks down the IMPORTANT differences and changes in law for California Proposition 19, Proposition 58, and...
2025-10-021h 05
Faith InfluencerEp.72: Why Strong Families Need Strong MenWhat happens to a family when the man steps back instead of stepping up? In this episode, I dig into God’s design for men to be the strong man of the house—the one who protects, leads, and loves his family with the heart of Christ. When men refuse their role, the enemy fills the gap. But when a man embraces his calling, his leadership can transform not only his family, but generations to come. It’s time for us as men to stop standing in the background and start leading with strength and love.
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2025-09-3020 min
Savvy Estate PlanningSavvy Estate Planning: Avoid the Top 10 MISTAKESCalifornia Estate Planning Attorney reviews Top 10 Estate Planning Mistakes - consider this Estate Planning for Dummies. 👉Book a Call at https://cunninghamlegal.com/book-your... to make sure you’re not making these top Estate Planning mistakes. The first edition of Jim Cunningham’s book, “Savvy Estate Planning: What You Need to Know Before You Talk to the Right Lawyer.” was a bestseller on Amazon, and the Second Edition has just arrived—savvier than ever! It’s organized around the 10 most common mistakes people make when planning their estates, and it’s packed with frank talk and eye-opening advice. In this webinar, Jim...
2025-09-231h 06
Savvy Estate PlanningSavvy Estate Planning: Avoid the Top 10 MISTAKESCalifornia Estate Planning Attorney reviews Top 10 Estate Planning Mistakes - consider this Estate Planning for Dummies. 👉Book a Call at https://cunninghamlegal.com/book-your... to make sure you’re not making these top Estate Planning mistakes.The first edition of Jim Cunningham’s book, “Savvy Estate Planning: What You Need to Know Before You Talk to the Right Lawyer.” was a bestseller on Amazon, and the Second Edition has just arrived—savvier than ever! It’s organized around the 10 most common mistakes people make when planning their estates, and it’s packed with frank talk and eye-opening a...
2025-09-231h 06
Savvy Estate PlanningMulti-Generational Estate Planning: LONG-TERM TIPSLiving trust attorney Jim Cunningham gives tips on Estate Planning with a long-term view, especially California Estate Planning👉 Book a Call at https://www.cunninghamlegal.com/book-your-appointment/ to learn about living trust cost, California estate tax, and meet with an expert Estate Planning Attorney to secure your family's financial health for generations! No matter what the size of your estate, thinking in multi-generational terms can provide a tremendous benefit to the people you love. It’s not just about avoiding probate or minimizing taxes when you die. It’s also about creating a legacy that will last for generations. Buy the...
2025-09-1659 min
Savvy Estate PlanningSpecial Needs Trusts: A Lifeline for Your Loved One's FutureSpecial needs trusts can be a critical financial tool can be a lifeline, securing the future of individuals with special needs. We will help you understand how to establish and maintain a Special Needs Trust, while protecting your loved one's eligibility for government benefits. 👉 Book a Call at https://www.cunninghamlegal.com/book-your-appointment/ for estate planning, special needs trusts, and benefits planning. In an ever-changing legal landscape, are you aware of the new rules for Special Needs Trusts? If not, you likely need a savvy attorney who knows about special needs planning. Navigate this complex terrain with the guidance of...
2025-09-1642 min
Faith InfluencerEp.71: How to Deal With a Narcissistic Spouse | Signs & Biblical Advice for MarriageHow to Deal With a Narcissistic Spouse—this is a question I get asked more than you’d think. In this episode, I talk about what narcissism really is, how to recognize the traits, and what it’s like to actually live with a true narcissist. I’ll share why constantly being “nice” or giving endless validation only feeds the problem, and why what your marriage really needs is kindness with boundaries. And maybe—just maybe—the narcissist isn’t only in your marriage, but it might be you.
Whether you’re in a blended family or not, this episode will help you better...
2025-09-1620 min
Faith InfluencerEp.70: The #1 Habit That Pushes Husbands Away“The #1 Habit That Pushes Husbands Away”—nagging. In today’s episode, I dig into why nagging shows up in marriage, how it chips away at respect and intimacy, and why the more a wife nags, the less her husband responds. We’ll look at covert nagging (“we” really meaning “you”), passive-aggressive tactics like puffing or rattling dishes, and even what Proverbs says about a contentious wife.
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2025-08-2621 min
Faith InfluencerEp.69: The #1 Mistake That Could Blow Up Your Blended FamilyI’ve stepped on more than a few landmines in my blended family—and I’ve watched others lose their marriages because of them. In The #1 Mistake That Could Blow Up Your Blended Family, I’m pulling back the curtain on the hidden explosives that can tear a family apart. I’m talking about the big ones—walking into marriage without preparing, ignoring those red flags you swore you’d never overlook, building invisible walls to protect “your territory,” letting your kids (or in-laws) stir up division, and projecting your ex’s faults onto your new spouse.
Blended families have landmines everywhere...
2025-08-1223 min
Faith InfluencerEp.68: How to Handle Step-Sibling Conflict with WisdomHow do you handle step-sibling conflict with wisdom?
That’s the question a listener asked me, and it’s one so many blended families wrestle with. In this episode, we dig into the real reasons behind the tension—jealousy, competition for your attention, loyalty to a biological parent, and the emotional detachment kids often feel when their place in the family shifts. This isn’t about quick fixes—it’s about raising godly kids, teaching them how to navigate real-life conflict, and building a home rooted in grace and intentional love.
Let’s talk about it. Drop your thoughts in the comments—d...
2025-07-2925 min
Faith InfluencerEp.67: What I’ve Learned in My Second MarriageUsually, we talk about how hard second marriages can be (and they are!), but today I’m taking a different approach. I want to show you why I believe they can actually be happier than the first. I’ll talk through lessons I’ve learned, things I’ve messed up, and what’s made my own second marriage so much stronger. I’ll even dive into a few things that might ruffle some feathers—but stick with me. If you’ve ever wondered whether a second chance at love can really work, this one’s for you.
Let’s talk about it. Drop your...
2025-07-2221 min
Savvy Estate PlanningTrust Administration Attorney: What is it and Do You REALLY Need an Expert?Discover Trust Administration Attorney roles! Learn Trustee duties, trust administration attorney duties, & find expert trust administration help in California. 👉 Book a Call at https://www.cunninghamlegal.com/book-your-appointment/ for estate planning, trust administration, and trust administration lawyers. Confused about what exactly a trust administration attorney does? Join us for an enlightening webinar with Attorney Jim Cunningham. He'll break down the responsibilities that Trustees owe people who inherit (the Beneficiaries) and why it’s a good idea to consider hiring a savvy, expert lawyer when administering a trust. Jim will guide you on how to answer the question: how do I go...
2025-07-1555 min
Faith InfluencerEp.66: Should Christians Sign a Prenup?In today’s episode, we’re talking about a hot topic: Should Christians sign a prenuptial agreement? I’ve got strong thoughts on this, and I’ll share how my wife and I handled it when we got remarried—both of us bringing kids and past pain into something we wanted to be whole. I believe marriage is a covenant, not a contract. But I’ll also give you one clear exception—where a prenup might make sense.
Let’s talk about it. Drop your thoughts in the comments—do you agree, disagree, or see it differently?
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2025-07-1417 min
Faith InfluencerEp.65: The Mental Load and the Marriage Meltdown | “Why I Considered Divorcing My Husband”Today’s episode takes a different turn. I’m reacting to a viral video titled “Why I Considered Divorcing My Husband.” This woman’s story has racked up millions of views and comments. On paper, she had a great husband, but she was still burned out, frustrated, and ready to walk away.
She talks about the “mental load,” parenting, and how she felt unseen in her marriage. Some of it? I get. But some of it had me raising my eyebrows—and I’m not sure everyone is hearing what she thinks she’s saying.
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2025-06-1616 min
Savvy Estate PlanningDying WITHOUT a Will: Intestate Succession CaliforniaHave you wondered, do I need a will or a trust? If you only have a Will, you're going to Probate! We're going to cover dying intestate! 👉 Book a Call at https://www.cunninghamlegal.com/book-your-appointment/ for estate planning, trust administration, or help with Probate. There's no sugar-coating it: dying without a will, also known as “dying intestate,” can create a world of uncertainty for your loved ones. In this webinar, Attorney and author Jim Cunningham dives into the intestacy laws of California, the default rules that apply when a person dies without a will. Jim will explain how your as...
2025-06-1048 min
Faith InfluencerEp. 64: Why Your Kids Don’t Like Your Spouse | Kids vs. SpouseWhy Your Kids Don’t Like Your Spouse—let’s be real: your kids might not be fans of your new husband or wife, and it’s not just “a phase.” In this episode, we get into the tough stuff: why it happens, what might really be going on beneath the surface, and how to respond without losing your mind (or your family).
It’s not about blaming—it’s about understanding what your kids aren’t saying out loud.
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2025-06-0926 min
Faith InfluencerEp.63: Communication Issues – This Is How Marriages Fall Apart | Red Flags That Lead to DivorceWhat’s the one red flag that can quietly wreck a marriage before anyone says the word “divorce”?
In Communication Issues – This Is How Marriages Fall Apart, I’m getting real about something I missed in my first marriage—and something I see all the time in blended families.
When communication breaks down, sarcasm replaces honesty, and we stop truly connecting, the damage adds up fast.
This isn’t about shame—it’s about awareness. It’s about hope.
Because while divorce court might be the path some are on, it doesn’t have to be your destination.
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2025-06-0227 min
Faith InfluencerEp.62: Co-Parenting with a Cruel Ex | How to Stay in the Fight When She’s Playing DirtySometimes your ex turns cruel — not just difficult, but cruel.
She twists the truth, weaponizes the kids, and makes co-parenting a battlefield.
Whether you blew it or not, no man deserves to be alienated from his kids.
This one’s for the dads in the fire — the ones fighting for their place while being dragged through the mud.
Straight talk on what to do, how to hold your ground, and how to lead with strength even when it’s unfair.
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2025-05-2722 min
Savvy Estate PlanningTrust Administration Checklist CALIFORNIAAre you feeling overwhelmed by the complexities of trust administration in California? You're not alone. 👉 Book a Call at https://www.cunninghamlegal.com/book-your-appointment/ for trust administration, living trusts, and estate planning. Join us for an essential webinar with Attorney Jim Cunningham to untangle the intricacies of a trust administration checklist, one designed precisely for California law—and given the myriad of legal requirements in California, believe us, a comprehensive checklist is critical! Don't risk making costly errors. Let Jim's expert guidance give you confidence and valuable insights to illuminate your path through what can be a daunting process. If yo...
2025-05-2055 min
Faith InfluencerEp.61: Are You Done? A Question Every Marriage Faces | Podcast On Blended FamiliesThis week, I share a question I overheard that stopped me in my tracks:
“Are you done?”
It was asked in a raw, real moment between two women—one heartbroken, the other full of wisdom.
It made me think of so many of you walking through the messiness of marriage, especially in blended families.
So, I’m bringing that question to you: Are you done?
I won’t answer it for you, but I’ll walk with you through it.
Let’s talk about when there’s still hope, what to do when only one of you wants to keep going, and how G...
2025-05-1918 min
Faith InfluencerEp.60: Divorce Ended My Ministry. Or So I Thought.What do you do when the dream dies? When the marriage ends, the ministry fades, and everything you built falls apart? In this episode, I share the story of losing it all—and how God met me in the rubble. If you’ve ever felt like your life no longer fits the plan you had, I hope my story reminds you that God’s not done with you yet.
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2025-05-1222 min
Savvy Estate PlanningThe True Cost of RETIRING in California: What You Need To KnowIs it really possible to retire in California? 👉 Book a Call at https://www.cunninghamlegal.com/book-your-appointment/ for retirement advice, more information on how to retire in California, and all your estate planning needs. Attorney Jim Cunningham of CunninghamLegal and Alissa Kroeger of Ascent Wealth Management address the benefits of retiring in California, along with the drawbacks—offering comprehensive insights to make the best decisions for your retirement. Get a balanced view of the cost of living, tax implications, and the amenities this state has to offer. Learn the true implications of retiring in California, and find out whether the b...
2025-05-051h 10
Faith InfluencerEp. 59: What Leads To Divorce? Why Divorce Happens - Even in the ChurchDid you know second and third marriages fail even more often than first ones—and churchgoers aren’t exempt? In this 59th episode, we’re diving into the top reasons marriages fall apart: immaturity, sexual disconnection, outside interference, and clashing values. It’s not always easy to hear—but if we want stronger marriages and blended families, we’ve got to get honest.
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2025-05-0529 min
Savvy Estate PlanningCalifornia Probate: Costs, Navigation, and Probate AlternativesWhy is probate bad in California? And why is California probate so expensive? Navigating the California probate process can be dauntingly complex and more than costly. 👉 Book a Call at https://www.cunninghamlegal.com/book-your-appointment/ for help with probate, trust administration, and for expert attorney advice. This video by expert Estate Planning Attorney Jim Cunningham, breaks down the probate process and issues for you! Learn how to minimize costs, avoid common mistakes, and understand related tax issues—including the nuances of probate for real estate. Are there alternatives to probate in California? Don’t miss this comprehensive webinar, designed to equi...
2025-05-0247 min
Savvy Estate PlanningSettling a Trust After Death: Dissolving a Trust!Are you wondering how to dissolve a trust after death? Explore the complexities of trust termination and the steps of a trust administration. 👉 Book a Call at https://www.cunninghamlegal.com/book-your-appointment/ for estate planning, trust administration, or with help settling a trust. Gain insights into how to terminate a trust, including the distribution of assets and managing tax implications. Attorney Jim Cunningham will guide you through the nuances of how to dissolve a trust so you can understand this intricate process. Don't miss this opportunity to enhance your estate planning expertise. 👉 Book a Call at https://www.cunninghamlegal.com/bo...
2025-05-0259 min
Savvy Estate PlanningHow Much Does a Living Trust Cost in 2025?What does a Living trust cost? How much will a Living Trust cost in 2025? Jim Cunningham explains living trusts, including how much a living trust costs and their role in comprehensive estate planning. 👉 Book a Call at https://www.cunninghamlegal.com/book-your-appointment/ for estate planning, living trusts, and living trust cost. Discover the importance of creating a will, establishing a living trust, designating beneficiaries, and setting up powers of attorney. We simplify complex legal concepts into accessible insights, empowering you to make informed decisions. Learn strategies to protect your legacy, minimize taxes, avoid probate, and ens...
2025-05-0245 min
Faith InfluencerEp.58: How to Set Boundaries With Your Ex (How Close is Too Close?)Have you ever wondered — how close is too close when it comes to your ex? In this episode, we're tackling one of the biggest sources of turmoil in blended families: the ongoing role of an ex in your life, not just in your children's lives. This is a tough conversation because it forces you to be brutally honest with yourself. We’re talking about checking your real intentions, spotting manipulation, setting boundaries, and what happens if you don’t. It’s time to protect your new life and stop letting your ex write chapters that should’ve ended.
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2025-04-2820 min
Faith InfluencerEp.57: What Kids Need Most After Divorce (Parenting Tips)Today’s episode is a tough one—it’s personal. I’m opening up about the guilt I carried as a divorced parent and how it shaped the way I showed up for my kids. From the overwhelming guilt of disrupting their lives, to the trap of overcompensating, to the regret of not talking openly enough with them—I’m sharing it all. If you’ve been through divorce and wrestled with guilt while trying to raise strong, secure kids, this one’s for you.
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2025-04-2123 min
Faith InfluencerEp.56: Unequally Yoked Marriage - Did I Marry the Wrong Person?Unequally Yoked Marriage: Did I Marry the Wrong Person?
It’s a question more people wrestle with than you might think—especially when you love Jesus, but your spouse doesn’t share that same love or faith. In this episode, I open up about the weight of being in an unequally yoked marriage and the journey of trying to lead a home spiritually when you're doing it alone. It can be exhausting, confusing, and lonely. But there’s hope. You are not alone in this. God sees your heart, your prayers, and your efforts. My prayer is that this episode encourag...
2025-04-1420 minThe UnScripted MindWhy People Snap: The Psychology of Rage and ProtestWhy do some movements change the world while others disappear without a trace? What drives someone to stand in the rain holding a sign instead of staying home?In this episode, we break down the real psychology behind protest — what actually turns frustration into action, why anger alone isn't enough, and what separates movements that win from ones that just make noise.We cover the role of hope versus fear, how emotional contagion pulls individuals into something larger than themselves, and why learned helplessness keeps millions silent despite their deepest convictions. From the laser-focused strategy of...
2025-04-1417 min
Faith InfluencerEp.55: Building a Marriage Without the In-Law Drama | Leave, Cleave, and Cut the CordIn this episode, we’re talking about something that messes with way too many marriages: when your mama (or daddy… or in-laws) has way too much say in your home. Let’s be real — some of y’all never left your parents emotionally, and now your marriage has a third wheel. Whether it’s a mama’s boy who still brings his laundry over, or a wife whose mom calls every day with “advice,” it’s time to draw the line. Let's find out what it really means to leave and cleave, how to set boundaries without being disrespectful, and how to tell if your...
2025-04-0724 min
Faith InfluencerEp.54: Supporting Your Spouse As a Stepparent - The Key to a Strong MarriageNavigating the role of a stepparent isn’t easy, but supporting your spouse as a stepparent is the key to a strong marriage. It comes with second-guessing, tricky dynamics, and the constant question of where you fit in. Today, we’re diving into the unspoken challenges of stepparenting, from understanding your role in discipline (hint: it’s not your job) to recognizing the games kids play to divide parents. Most importantly, we’ll talk about why staying united as a couple is the foundation of a healthy, faith-filled home. Whether you’re a stepparent or married to one, I pray this episo...
2025-03-3117 min
Faith InfluencerEp.53: Parenting with Purpose - Balancing Grace And Discipline As a ParentParenting with Purpose: Balancing grace and discipline as a parent isn’t easy, but are we raising our kids for their own good or just making life easier for ourselves? If we truly love them, we’ll do the hard work—setting boundaries, enforcing consequences, and teaching responsibility, even when it’s uncomfortable.
Today, we’re diving into what the Bible says about raising kids, lessons I’ve learned as a dad, and the unique challenges of blended families. Let’s get into it—if this hits home, it’s probably for you.
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2025-03-2420 minThe UnScripted MindIs your easy life making you miserable?In this episode of The Unscripted Mind, licensed professional counselor Jim Cunningham explores the impact of modern comforts on our well-being. With references to studies and literary works, Jim delves into how our pursuit of convenience and ease may be leading to increased anxiety, depression, and a lack of gratitude. He offers five actionable challenges to help viewers re-introduce a bit of discomfort into their lives, thereby rediscovering appreciation and the feeling of being truly alive. Tune in for practical insights and fun suggestions to shake up your routine and boost your mental health.The Unscripted Mind — re...
2025-03-2212 min
Faith InfluencerEp.52: The Truth About Moving in Before Marriage - What Does God Say?Many couples see living together before marriage as a smart way to test compatibility—but does it actually lead to a stronger relationship? In this episode, we dive into the truth about moving in before marriage and what God says about it. From the emotional and spiritual impact to what research reveals about long-term commitment, we’re breaking down whether cohabitation sets you up for success or heartache. Is it just a harmless step toward marriage, or does it come with hidden costs? Let’s dig into the facts and explore God’s design for lasting love.
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2025-03-1719 min
Faith InfluencerEp.51: Weak Men, Simping, & the Rise of Female ControlWhat happens when men stop leading and women take on a role they were never meant to have? In this episode, we’re diving into a topic that’s bound to stir some thoughts—weak men, bossy women, and the rise of simping. Simping isn’t just about being nice; it’s when men overcompensate for a woman’s attention, lose their confidence, and ultimately become dominated in their relationships. But here’s the thing—this isn’t just about weak men. Ladies, the temptation to take charge when a man won’t step up is real, but is it what God intended? W...
2025-03-1019 min
Faith InfluencerEp.50: Understanding Why He Doesn’t Want to Have Sex | Husband's Sex DriveHave you ever wondered, Why doesn’t my husband want to have sex? In this episode of Faith Influencer, I dive deep into this challenging yet essential topic. We will discuss the emotional disconnects, stressors, and even boredom that might be impacting intimacy in your marriage. I’ll also explore the role of communication, the importance of making time for physical connection, and how to break through barriers like pornography and physical health issues. This conversation goes beyond just sex—it's about reconnecting emotionally and finding deeper intimacy in your relationship.
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2025-03-0318 min
Faith InfluencerEp.49: Blending Finances Without Breaking Your Marriage - Tips for Merging Money and Strengthening BondsToo many blended families keep finances separate, but why? In this episode, I break down my Paychecks & Play Checks method—helping you gain financial control without a rigid budget. We’ll talk about why couples separate finances, how blending money can strengthen your marriage, how to build a shared vision, and a simple vision board exercise to transform how you handle money together.
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2025-02-2421 minThe UnScripted MindSix ways to make therapy work for youMost people start therapy hoping for a quick fix. They leave disappointed — not because therapy doesn't work, but because nobody told them how it actually works.In this episode, licensed professional counselor Jim Cunningham cuts through the noise and tells you exactly what it takes to make therapy work — the honest version, not the brochure version.If you've ever felt stuck in therapy, wondered why change feels so slow, or struggled to find the right therapist, this episode is for you.No fluff. No false promises. Just straight talk from a working therapist who...
2025-02-2014 min
Faith InfluencerEp.48: Trust Issues in Marriage - Breaking Free from the PastWhat would you do if you found a tracker under your car—planted by the person you're about to marry? It sounds like something out of a movie, but it happens more often than you’d think.
In this episode, I’m getting real about trust in blended families—how it breaks, how it affects everything, and most importantly, how to rebuild it. If you’ve ever caught yourself side-eyeing your spouse’s phone, or if you’re tired of feeling like trust is a ticking time bomb in your relationship, this episode is for you.
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2025-02-1017 min
Faith InfluencerEp. 47: Yelling in a Relationship - Is It a Red Flag or Normal ConflictIs yelling ever okay in a relationship or is it a Red Flag? 🤔 In this episode, we dive into a topic that’s been coming up a lot lately—communication through raised voices. Some say it’s just how they express themselves, while others see it as a red flag.
What do YOU think? Drop your thoughts in the comments! Is yelling ever acceptable, or is it always a sign of deeper issues? Let’s have a real conversation.
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2025-02-0317 min
Faith InfluencerEp. 46: How To Build Sexual Intimacy With Your Spouse or Sex Begins in the KitchenNavigating sexual intimacy with your spouse in a blended family can be challenging. Between step-parenting responsibilities, blending family dynamics, and balancing personal needs with family obligations, intimacy often takes a backseat. In this episode, we explore the differences between men and women when it comes to sexual intimacy and what works best for your spouse. We dive into how men often need visual stimuli, while women require an emotional connection to feel in the mood—hence, 'it starts in the kitchen.' Learn how to meet each other’s needs, even during challenging times.
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2025-01-2719 min
Faith InfluencerEp.45: A Christian Perspective on Sex in Marriage | Exploring IntimacyThe truth about sex in marriage—God’s design, debunking myths, and the power of open communication. I’ll share how intimacy can deepen your spiritual connection. Whether you're married or single, let’s break the stigma and embrace the beauty of God's gift.
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2025-01-2019 min
Faith InfluencerEp. 44: Breaking Free from Old Routines in 20252025 can be a game-changer for your family. We’ll explore the power of exposure—how the right people and experiences can help you break out of old routines. I’ll share how a single conversation changed my approach to parenting in a blended family. Plus, we’ll talk about how choosing one simple word can set the tone for your year. Let’s get real about building a life full of purpose and growth!
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2025-01-1318 min
Faith InfluencerEp.43: Transform Your Blended Family in 2025 | Communication & ConnectionConnecting with your blended family can take time, but it's worth the effort. In this episode, we dive into the importance of noticing the little things, communicating effectively, and truly understanding what your loved ones hear when you speak. Join us as we explore ways to strengthen your blended family dynamics and make this new year your best yet.
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2025-01-0617 min
Faith InfluencerEp.42: 3 Challenges Every Man Must Overcome - Connection, Confidence, ConsistencyIn this episode, I’m speaking directly to men about three things we must fight for: staying connected, overcoming insecurity, and being consistent. Men, it’s easy to isolate when things get tough, but we need other men in our lives to hold us accountable and encourage us. This message is a challenge and an encouragement, so if you’re a wife or a loved one listening, you might want to get the men in your life to tune in!
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2024-12-3013 min
Faith InfluencerEp.41: Stress-Free Christmas for Blended Families: Practical AdviceIn this episode, we’re tackling the real-life challenges of Christmas in a blended family—like how to juggle multiple family traditions, split holiday time without causing tension, and create new traditions everyone can enjoy. I’ll share a story about a holiday meltdown that turned into a bonding moment and practical tips for managing tricky dynamics with exes, in-laws, and step-siblings. If you’ve ever wondered how to keep the holidays joyful and meaningful in the midst of all the chaos, this episode is for you. Don’t miss it!
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2024-12-2321 min
Faith InfluencerEp.40: Raising Children in Blended Families - Building Love, Trust, and StabilityRaising kids is no small task, especially in a blended family. In this episode, I dive into what it means to parent with love, consistency, and grace, without provoking anger in your children—just like Paul teaches in Ephesians 6:4. Whether you’re in a blended family or not, these principles can transform the way you lead and love your kids. Let’s talk about raising disciples, building strong family foundations, and avoiding common parenting pitfalls like favoritism and overprotective.
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2024-12-1619 minThe UnScripted MindWork-life balance is a lie! What actually works.Is the quest for work-life balance leading you astray? Join licensed professional counselor Jim Cunningham as he challenges the conventional wisdom that balance is the ultimate goal. Discover why the pursuit of perfect equilibrium may be setting you up for stress and disappointment. Instead, explore the power of intentional living and how setting clear daily priorities can transform your life. By focusing on boundaries rather than balance, we discuss ways to prevent chaos and preserve your well-being and relationships. Jim also shares insights into genuine self-care, emphasizing activities that truly rejuvenate rather than distract.Celebrate the unpredictable...
2024-10-2409 minThe UnScripted MindYou're not Crazy! Why Toxic People Are So Hard to LeaveYou're not crazy — but someone in your life might be making you feel that way.In this episode, licensed professional counselor Jim Cunningham breaks down what's really happening inside toxic relationships — the personality patterns that drive them, why they're so hard to escape, and what you can actually do about it.If you've ever felt confused, drained, or like you're losing your mind in a relationship, this one is for you.New episodes regularly — subscribe so you never miss one.Topics covered: toxic relationships | narcissistic personality | drama triangle | victim rescuer persecutor roles...
2024-10-0326 minThe UnScripted MindIs This Relationship Killing You?Could your closest relationships be secretly undermining your well-being? Uncover the subtle signs of toxic relationships and learn how to protect yourself emotionally and mentally in our latest episode of The Unscripted Mind. We take a deep dive into the perplexing world of toxic relationships, providing you with the tools to identify destructive behaviors whether they come from romantic partners, family members, coworkers, or friends. Understand why empathetic individuals often struggle to see toxic behavior for what it is and discover the red flags that reveal a relationship might be harming you, from constant anxiety to feeling consistently inadequate.
2024-09-1619 minThe UnScripted MindWhy Gifted People Feel So AloneEver wondered what it really means to be labeled as gifted? On this episode of "The Unscripted Mind," we guarantee you'll gain a deeper understanding of the myths and realities behind giftedness. From exceptional talents in areas like art and mathematics to the struggles of sensory overload and perfectionism, we dissect the complexities and unique challenges gifted individuals face. Traditional educational settings often fall short, leaving these brilliant minds grappling with intense curiosity, overthinking, and sleepless nights. We'll highlight how boredom and isolation can worsen these issues and stress the necessity of tailored support.But there's more...
2024-08-2624 minThe UnScripted MindWhat Your Kids Learn From Your Weaknesses (Not your lectures)What shapes our children more—our strengths or our weaknesses? Join us on Unscripted Mind as we unravel the complex interplay between parenting and personal growth. Hosted by Jim Cunningham, a seasoned licensed professional counselor, this episode promises to redefine how you view your role as a parent. We confront the humbling reality that our children often inherit more from our vulnerabilities than our virtues and offer practical tips to intentionally connect with your kids to foster love, resilience, and understanding. In a world fraught with the challenges of time scarcity and technology, discover the critical balance between screen ti...
2024-08-1226 minThe UnScripted MindDoes Hypnotherapy Actually Work? with Hypnotherapist Phyllis McComb, LPCWhat if you could reprogram your subconscious to alleviate anxiety and achieve your personal goals? Join us on "The Unscripted Mind" as Phyllis McComb, a licensed professional counselor and certified trauma-informed care practitioner, shares her transformative journey into hypnotherapy. Initially seeking relief from pandemic-induced anxiety, Phyllis's profound experience with hypnotherapy led her to become certified and integrate it into her practice alongside EMDR and talk therapy, proving its efficacy as a relaxing and powerful tool for mental health.We'll debunk common misconceptions about hypnotherapy, explaining how it differs from stage hypnosis and highlighting its therapeutic benefits. By...
2024-07-291h 01The UnScripted MindYou're chasing the wrong thing: What success actually looks likeEver felt like you're running on a hamster wheel, chasing success but never quite catching it? On this episode of the Unscripted Mind, we uncover a transformative approach to success that defies society's traditional benchmarks. Jim Cunningham, a seasoned professional counselor, shares an enlightening story about a man pushing an immovable rock—a metaphor for how the journey itself can be the real triumph, even if the outcome isn't what we expect. This episode challenges the typical focus on material achievements and external validation, offering instead a more fulfilling path to growth and self-improvement.Tune in as we...
2024-07-1513 minThe UnScripted MindHow To Actually Grieve: What Nobody Tells You About Loss with Monica Meade, LPCHow do you rebuild your life after an unimaginable loss? Join us for a deeply moving episode of the Unscripted Mind Podcast, where we sit down with Monica Mead, a licensed professional counselor whose journey into grief counseling was tragically inspired by the loss of her daughter in 2013. Monica challenges conventional grief models, offering profound insights into the complex and varied forms of grief that can stem from losing a loved one, a job, a pet, or even physical abilities. Through her story, Monica provides a raw and powerful narrative that will resonate with anyone who has faced loss.
2024-07-0139 minThe UnScripted MindWant to Stay Miserable? Proven strategies to destroy your mental heathJoin me for a satirical yet impactful exploration of methods guaranteed to maximize your misery. From skipping exercise and endlessly scrolling through social media to the pitfall of comparing yourself to others, we cover all the surefire ways to sink your mental well-being. By tuning in, you’ll laugh through the dark humor and perhaps recognize some habits that could be steering you towards a path of stress and anxiety.But we don't leave you hanging in the depths of despair! After painting a grim picture, we shift to a brighter narrative, focusing on overcoming these mental he...
2024-06-2425 minThe UnScripted MindWhy Are You So Angry? A Therapist ExplainsEver wondered why anger seems to be skyrocketing in today’s world? On this episode of the Unscripted Mind, host Jim Cunningham, a licensed professional counselor, promises to unravel the intricate web of triggers that fuel our modern-day rage. From political polarization and economic disparity to job stress and financial anxieties, we break down the factors contributing to this emotional surge. But it doesn't stop there—discover the deeper layers behind anger, often rooted in underlying emotions like anxiety and frustration. Recognize anger as more than just an outburst, but a defensive mechanism with profound physiological and cognitive consequences....
2024-06-1721 minThe UnScripted MindThe Words You Use Are Changing the People Around YouYour words have more power than you think — and most people are using them wrong.In this episode, licensed professional counselor Jim Cunningham breaks down the psychology of everyday language and how the words you choose are quietly shaping the people around you — your kids, your partner, your coworkers — whether you intend it or not.Drawing on the research of Carol Dweck and John Gottman, we cover why calling a child "smart" can actually backfire, how the ratio of positive to negative interactions determines whether a relationship survives, and why the words you use about yourse...
2024-06-1015 minThe UnScripted MindAre You an Empath — or Just Emotionally Exhausted?Do you feel everything — other people's stress, their sadness, their anxiety — as if it were your own? You might be an empath. And while that sensitivity can be a genuine gift, it can also quietly destroy your mental health if you don't know how to manage it.In this episode, licensed professional counselor Jim Cunningham breaks down what it actually means to be an empath — the emotional overload, the compulsion to fix everyone around you, the dangerous pull toward toxic personalities, and why setting boundaries feels almost impossible when you feel everything so deeply.You'll learn...
2024-06-0313 minThe UnScripted MindYour Phone Is Rewiring Your Brain — Here's the ProofYour phone is rewiring your brain — and most people have no idea it's happening.In this episode, licensed professional counselor Jim Cunningham breaks down what constant digital stimulation is actually doing to your mental health — the research on deteriorating attention spans, the toll on adolescent mental health, the relationships quietly eroding in the background of every screen-filled evening.But this isn't just a warning. It's a practical reset.Jim explores the one cost-free remedy hiding in plain sight — the kind of stillness Blaise Pascal wrote about in 1654 that's more relevant now than ever. You'll...
2024-05-2712 minThe UnScripted MindWhat If You Just Stopped Caring What People Think?What would your life look like if you stopped needing everyone's approval?Most of us are quietly exhausted by it — the constant monitoring of what people think, the anxiety that spikes when someone seems disappointed, the decisions we make based on other people's opinions instead of our own. It's one of the most common patterns licensed professional counselor Jim Cunningham sees in his clinical practice, and it has a real cost.In this episode Jim breaks down why external validation is so psychologically addictive, what it's actually doing to your mental health, and the practical st...
2024-05-2113 min
The UnScripted MindWhy Nobody Really Listens AnymoreNobody really listens anymore — and it's quietly destroying your relationships.In this episode, licensed professional counselor Jim Cunningham unpacks why genuine listening has become rare, what gets in the way, and what it actually costs you when connection breaks down.You'll walk away with a clear three-part framework for listening with real empathy, plus five practical steps to transform your conversations — at home, at work, and everywhere in between.If you've ever felt unheard, or realized you might not be as present as you think, this one's for you.The Unscripted Mind...
2024-05-1615 min
The UnScripted MindWhy Your Brain Won't Stop Worrying — 6 Ways to Fix ItAnxiety loves uncertainty. The "what ifs," the sleepless nights, the mental loops that won't quit — most of it isn't about what's actually happening. It's about what might happen. And your brain treats the possibility of a threat the same way it treats a real one.In this episode, licensed professional counselor Jim Cunningham breaks down why uncertainty triggers anxiety the way it does — and walks through six practical strategies to interrupt the cycle, reality-test your fears, and start building a higher tolerance for not knowing.No guarantees. No quick fixes. Just honest tools that actually work...
2024-05-0314 min
Faith InfluencerEp.1: Meet "Faith Influencer" - The Pilot EpisodeWelcome to the pilot episode of the Faith Influencer podcast! Join us as we meet our host, Jim Cunningham, and explore why he's passionate about addressing the topic of 'Blended Families.' Discover Jim's personal journey and how faith plays a pivotal role in navigating the complexities of blended family dynamics. Tune in for insightful discussions as we embark on this transformative journey together!
2024-03-1112 min
The Kingstonian PodcastJim Reid - Making Difficult Times EasierSend us Fan MailPodcasts featuring local history have been very popular with listeners. Bill Stevenson was my guest for a show focused on the Facebook Page he set up – “Vintage Kingston”. Chris West shared plans for the revitalization of the Marine Museum of the Great Lakes. Brian Johnson told us stories of his 30+ years as captain of the Wolfe Island Ferry – stories about the Island and the waters between it and the City of Kingston. This is another in the series but a little unique. Jim Reid is the fourth generation to own and operate James...
2022-06-2132 min
The Kingstonian PodcastJim Gilchrist - The Radio Play-by-Play ManSend us Fan MailJim Gilchrist, the ‘Dean’ of O.H.L. radio broadcasters, join us for a conversation looking back on his 40+ years and over 2,700 games, covering the Kingston Frontenacs. Our theme music is “Stasis Oasis”, by Tim AylesworthFollow us on Facebook, Linkedin, Instagram, & Threads Send comments & suggestions to thekingstonianpodcast@gmail.com Episodes also air weekly on CJAI at 101.3fm (Tue. at 4pm)
2018-12-0820 min