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Real Men HugEp. 26 || Final Episode: Farewell from Jim & BenIn this bittersweet finale of Real Men Hug, Jim and Ben reflect on the transformative journey of their podcasting adventure. Over the past year, they’ve shared laughs, deep dives into mental health, stories of personal growth, and vulnerable moments of connection—all while modeling authentic friendship and challenging societal norms around masculinity.This episode is packed with heartfelt reflections and hilarious behind-the-scenes anecdotes, from Ben’s ADHD-fueled doorbell chaos to Jim’s lessons in climbing out of the metaphorical well. They reminisce about highlights like hosting inspiring guests (shoutout to Dr. Matt Zakreski and Jamie and Mahlon f...
2024-12-2645 minReal Men HugEp. 25 || Cornerstone Concerns: Navigating Christian Nationalism, Inclusivity, and Faith in PoliticsIn this episode of Real Men Hug, Ben and Jim discuss the controversies surrounding their alma mater, Cornerstone University in Grand Rapids, Michigan. Under the leadership of President Gerson Moreno-Riaño, the university has faced significant challenges, including a faculty vote of no confidence on October 21, 2021, just before his inauguration.* Allegations of resistance to diversity, equity, and inclusion efforts have caused widespread unrest among alumni and students, sparking protests and online calls for reform.** The decision to cut entire departments, like the humanities, and enact mass layoffs has further raised questions about the institution’s direction and commitment to pro...
2024-12-0543 minReal Men HugEp. 24 || The Gift of Choice: Crafting Your Own Holiday RhythmThis week, Ben and Jim dive into the nuances of holiday traditions, exploring how we can reclaim joy and reduce stress by celebrating on our own terms. Whether it’s debating the supremacy of cheesy potatoes over green bean casserole or reflecting on the idea of “picking a different day” to celebrate, they bring both humor and heart to the conversation.Through personal stories and heartfelt reflections, they discuss the tension of navigating family dynamics while staying true to what matters most. Holidays can feel like a time where the expectations never let you down, but Ben and Ji...
2024-11-2131 minReal Men HugEp. 23 || Who Do You Think You Are?: When Self-Perception and Reality CollideIn today’s episode, Ben and Jim dive into the topic of self-perception and how it can sometimes stray far from reality. Whether it’s the inner critic that says we’re not enough or that old friend called self-doubt, they unpack how self-perception can skew our understanding of who we truly are.Topics covered:Ben and Jim’s College Days: Reflecting on perceptions of confidence and the hidden inner doubts.Family and Self-Worth: Jim opens up about the struggle of feeling like he’s not “providing enough” and how that a...
2024-10-3123 minReal Men HugEp. 22 || Balancing Pills, People, and Purpose: Walking the Path to Better Health TogetherIn this episode, Ben and Jim explore the balance between medication, meaningful connections, and long-term health. They discuss how pills can be a temporary bridge toward healthier habits but shouldn’t replace physical activity and relationships. Ben shares personal stories about his own weight loss journey, the mental and physical connection, and the power of forgiveness in healing. Whether you’re starting your journey or seeking sustainability, this episode reminds us that we’re all walking the path to better health together. Takeaways:Medication can be part of the process, but it’s important to includ...
2024-10-1722 minReal Men HugEp. 21 || The Weight of Empathy: Caring Without Losing YourselfIn this episode of Real Men Hug, hosts Jim and Ben take a deep dive into the concept of empathy, highlighting the crucial difference between empathy and sympathy. While sympathy involves feeling for someone, empathy goes a step further by sharing and bearing the weight of someone else’s burdens. Through personal stories, such as Ben's journey with health struggles, they explore how empathy can take an emotional toll, especially when it comes to balancing caring for others with caring for oneself.The discussion touches on both the challenges of empathizing with people in pain and the su...
2024-09-0536 minReal Men HugEp. 20 || The Gratitude Effect: Balancing Privilege and PerspectiveIn this 20th episode of Real Men Hug, Ben and Jim explore the multifaceted nature of gratitude. Ben shares his unique perspective from a life spent rubbing elbows with both CEOs and the homeless, offering deep reflections on how gratitude manifests across different walks of life.The episode dives into the challenges of maintaining gratitude amidst privilege and adversity, with Ben providing thoughtful insights on how to find balance in a world often defined by extremes. Jim brings his own experiences to the table, discussing how a simple Jenga block exercise helped him and his wife rediscover...
2024-08-2241 minReal Men HugEp. 19 || Moving from What If to What Is: Thriving with ADHD and Other Forms of Neurodiversity (w/ Dr. Matthew Zakreski)Moving from What If to What Is: Thriving with ADHD and Other Forms of Neurodiversity (w/ Dr. Matthew Zakreski)Ben and Jim enjoy a fascinating conversation with the insightful Dr. Matthew Zakreski. Listen in as they delve into the complexities of neurodiversity, focusing on ADHD, academic giftedness, and other neurodivergent conditions. They explore how these differences can shape experiences and offer a unique perspective on thriving in a world that often misunderstands them.Dr. Matt shares his personal origin story, revealing that he was diagnosed as gifted in second grade and later discovered...
2024-08-0856 minReal Men HugEp. 18 || Reaching Out: Building Support Systems to Overcome LonelinessIn this episode, Ben and Jim delve into the complexities of loneliness, exploring how self-doubt can deepen feelings of isolation. They discuss the concept of emotional permanence and its relation to ADHD, sharing personal stories and insights on coping strategies. The hosts tackle the impact of self-criticism, offering practical advice on choosing connection over isolation through self-acceptance. Ben and Jim emphasize the importance of building support systems, proactive outreach, and the value of friends who understand and support you. They differentiate between intentional seclusion for self-care and reactive loneliness, providing insights on finding balance. The episode also discusses h...
2024-07-2548 minReal Men HugEp. 17 || The Social Media Maze: Parenting, Politics, and the Pursuit of PositivityIn this episode of Real Men Hug, Ben and Jim explore the complex world of social media and its impact on parenting, politics, and mental health. Ben and Jim reflect on how social media has become a double-edged sword, bringing both connectivity and complications. Ben shares a personal story about the regret of allowing his son access to Snapchat, highlighting the platform's potential to expose young users to harmful content, leading to a broader discussion on the influence of platforms like TikTok on their kids and themselves.Parenting today is vastly different due to social m...
2024-07-1140 minReal Men HugEp. 16 || 40 and Fabulous...ly Falling Apart In this episode of Real Men Hug, Ben and Jim tackle the rollercoaster ride of gracefully aging—or at least trying to. They candidly share their recent experiences, from Ben's frightening heart scare that landed him in the hospital with AFib to the excitement and stress of buying and moving into a new home. The hosts delve into the emotional and physical challenges of turning 40, discussing the importance of intentional self-care and the surprising impact of stress on their health. Amidst the chaos, they find moments of joy, such as hammock chats with a daughter and the simple pleasure of a h...
2024-06-2737 minReal Men HugEp. 15 || Smiles and Sorrows: The Duality of Dad LifeIn this special Father's Day episode of "Real Men Hug," hosts Ben and Jim dive into the complexities and joys of fatherhood with a mix of humor and heartfelt conversations. They kick off with light-hearted banter about dad jokes and pool mishaps, setting a fun tone for the episode.The conversation transitions into a deeper discussion about the most meaningful Father's Day gifts they've received, highlighting the importance of thoughtful gestures from their children. Ben shares a touching story about a gift from his daughter that symbolized their bond and journey together, while Jim reminisces about a...
2024-06-1651 minReal Men HugEp. 14 || Forgiveness: For Your Peace, Not Their PardonIn this episode of Real Men Hug, hosts Jim and Ben navigate their personal journeys through challenging life events, reflecting on the role of forgiveness in healing and moving forward. They share updates on their family lives and dive deep into their experiences with betrayal and abuse. Ben shares a poignant story about working for an organization that functioned like a cult, detailing the emotional toll it took and how he found freedom through forgiveness. Jim revisits the frustration he had with a former employer's laziness in repairing his home. Together, they pause and reflect on the themes of...
2024-05-3056 minReal Men HugEp. 13 || Crafting Connections: A Blueprint for Lasting Friendships in AdulthoodIn a world where adult friendships often take a backseat, hosts Ben and Jim embark on a journey through the complexities of maintaining meaningful connections amidst the chaos of various life stages, including raising young children. Drawing from their own experiences and heartfelt insights, they navigate the highs and lows of friendship with candor, humor, and understanding.From sharing laughter over shared hobbies to weathering the storms of life together, Ben and Jim explore the essence of true friendship. But it's not just about companionship; it's about intentional efforts and mutual support. Tune in as they unravel...
2024-05-1640 minReal Men HugEp. 12 || (pt. 2) Deconstructing Gender Norms: Real Talk with Jamie and Mahlon from Roundtable MindsetIn this episode of Real Men Hug, hosts Jim and Ben sit down with Jamie and Mahlon from Roundtable Mindset to explore the impact of societal gender norms on various aspects of life. Together, they delve into the significance of mutual respect, open dialogue, and personal growth beyond traditional expectations.Throughout the conversation, Jamie and Mahlon emphasize the importance of challenging outdated practices and fostering inclusivity in understanding gender roles. They share insights on how breaking free from stereotypes can lead to more fulfilling relationships, both personally and professionally.As hosts, Jim and Ben echo...
2024-05-0245 minReal Men HugEp. 11 || Deconstructing Gender Norms: Real Talk with Jamie and Mahlon from Roundtable Mindset (Part 1)Dive into a riveting collaborative dialogue between Real Men Hug and Roundtable Mindset as they bravely confront the age-old assumptions and societal norms that shape our perceptions of gender roles. In this illuminating episode, listeners are invited to challenge the rigid confines of traditional masculinity and femininity, as the hosts fearlessly explore the intricacies of roles within marriages and families.Through candid anecdotes and introspective musings, the hosts peel back the layers of stereotypes, revealing the often-overlooked nuances of daily life. From the simple act of pumping gas on a blustery winter day to the complex dynamics...
2024-04-2553 minReal Men HugEp. 10 || Real Men, Real Marriage: Conversations on Love, Loss, and Learning Together"Mawage. Mawage is what brings us together today." The iconic words of The Impressive Clergyman from The Princess Bride perfectly set the stage for today's episode!Join hosts Ben and Jim as they open up about the highs and lows of marriage. They candidly share experiences from their own individual marriages with humor, honesty, and empathy.From everyday triumphs to unexpected hurdles, Ben and Jim dive deep into the complexities of married life.But it's not just about weathering storms; it's also about nurturing ourselves. Tune in as they discuss the importance of...
2024-04-111h 16Real Men HugEp. 9 || Toxic Positivity: Good Intentions Gone BadIn this thought-provoking episode, hosts Ben and Jim delve into the complexities of toxic positivity, shedding light on its detrimental effects on emotional well-being. Through personal narratives and reflections, they navigate the societal pressures that often compel us to suppress our vulnerabilities under the guise of unwavering positivity.Exploring the societal pressures that dictate how men should express themselves emotionally, Ben and Jim debunk the myth that strength equates to stoicism. Through personal anecdotes and expert insights, they uncover the profound impact of toxic positivity on mental health and relationships.This episode serves...
2024-03-2852 minReal Men HugEp. 8 || From Yesterdog to the Grand River: Our Hometown of Grand Rapids, MIIn this episode of Real Men Hug, join Jim and Ben as they kick back and reminisce about their adventures of growing up around, and ultimately returning to, their hometown of Grand Rapids, Michigan. From chowing down on Yesterdog's mouthwatering (depending on who you ask...) delights to cruising along the serene White Pine Trail, they paint a vivid picture of the good times they've shared.Jim and Ben dive into what makes Grand Rapids special - the tight-knit community. They swap stories about bumping into old pals and the camaraderie that comes with it. Through laughter and b...
2024-03-1459 minReal Men HugEp. 7 || Failing Forward: When Bitterness Robs Your JoyDive into the deep end with us as Jim candidly unravels his career voyage, laying bare the trials he's faced. From career disappointments to grappling with depression and anxiety, he shares his journey with the honesty and candor that you find regularly on our podcast. Ben lends his insights and observations, having witnessed Jim's professional challenges. Together, they stress the vital role of community and seeking aid amidst adversity. Tune in for an authentic and relatable exchange.Send us fan mail!Support the show
2024-02-291h 12Real Men HugEp. 6 || Do You Even Nerd, Bro?: Gatekeeping and Geek CultureIn this episode of the Real Men Hug podcast, hosts Ben and Jim immerse themselves in the realm of nerdy hobbies, sharing how these pursuits have enriched their lives. They fondly recall their adventures, from Ben's geocaching exploits to Jim's spirited escapades at Renaissance fairs, where he often donned the guise of the legendary Dread Pirate Roberts. Alongside their nostalgic reminiscences, they discuss the enduring appeal of classic PC games like Duke Nukem and King's Quest, reflecting on the joy of immersing oneself in these timeless experiences.As they navigate the world of geekdom, Ben and Jim...
2024-02-1556 minReal Men HugEp. 5 || The Man in the Mirror: Ben's Pursuit of IdentityIn this episode, Jim and Ben focus on Ben's journey of identity transformation. They explore how personal experiences such as relational strain, vocational loss, and personal growth have shaped and reshaped who they are. The conversation delves into the influence of external voices on Ben's initial career choices and both of their ongoing pursuit of living authentic lives. This episode highlights how challenges, though difficult, often contribute to a deeper understanding of one's true self, transcending societal expectations. Brimming with genuine reflection and life-altering realizations, this episode ensures a transformative and thought-provoking listening experience with Ben's story s...
2024-02-0156 minReal Men HugEp. 4 || The Power of No: Setting Healthy BoundariesIn this episode of Real Men Hug, hosts Ben and Jim open up about the essentials of setting boundaries. They chat about why it's crucial for your emotions and personal growth, sharing stories about navigating pushback from loved ones and underscoring the importance of good communication.Tune in as Ben and Jim get real about those awkward moments when boundaries get crossed, emphasizing the need to stand your ground. Listen in and uncover the transformative power of no.Send us fan mail!Support the show
2024-01-1854 minReal Men HugEp. 1 || How Jim Walked with Ben from the Brink of Despair and Offered Hope at Just the Right TimeStuck between the pursuit of self-expression and the pressure of appearing 'strong', Ben's story strikes a chord with all those who've been through the ringer. An inspiring tale of resilience, this episode sheds light on the multiple triggers of suicidal thoughts and the pursuit of hope in the darkness. Ben's story takes us through a profound journey of self-discovery and acceptance of emotions, and his story also shows that with the right people, sharing emotions and feelings could be a life-saving intervention.Send us fan mail!Support the show
2024-01-0445 minReal Men HugEp. 2 || Embracing Vulnerability: Jim's Journey from Childhood Ridicule to Emotional FreedomIn this eye-opening episode of Real Men Hug, we dive into Jim's story. Born as the emotional one in a family of five siblings, he was always deemed 'abnormal.' Struggling with feeling emotions in a family that viewed such sensitivity as weakness shaped his childhood and his path. Years later, we witness Jim's transformation into a pillar of emotional strength; someone capable of consoling others. Hear about the internal conflicts he grappled with, his journey towards embracing his emotional side, and how it saved the life of co-host, Ben. It's a riveting exploration of breaking free from 'the...
2024-01-0458 minReal Men HugEp. 3 || Echoes of Childhood TraumaIn this touching episode, hosts Jim and Ben share poignant tales about Jim's wife and Ben's daughter, revealing how childhood trauma shaped their lives. Hear heartfelt stories that showcase resilience and the enduring impact of past experiences. Explore the healing power of acknowledgment, therapy, and community. Episode 3 is a heartfelt journey celebrating strength in overcoming life's adversities.Send us fan mail!Support the show
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Real Men HugReal Men Hug || TeaserGet ready for Real Men Hug, a groundbreaking podcast challenging the norms of masculinity and embracing vulnerability. Join Jim and Ben in this exclusive pre-release teaser where they provide a sneak peek into candid conversations about men's emotions, struggles, and the journey to redefine what it means to be a man in today's world. Listen in for a taste of the raw, unfiltered discussions coming your way on January 4th. Discover a safe space for men and their allies to explore authentic connections and break free from societal pressures. Subscribe now and be the first to...
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