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Parenting Through ChaosEp. 11 – Establishing House RulesIn previous episodes, we’ve shared how to set limits, how to identify which limits to set, and how to enforce limits. But something we've noticed is that as parents, we get tired very quickly if we're constantly repeating ourselves, or what kids would call nagging.
So in this episode we’re going to share a simple approach for getting more consistent behavior without feeling like we’re always having to nag.2023-08-0221 minParenting Through ChaosEp. 10 – Enforcing Consequences to Change BehaviorLearning to set limits in a way that your young child or adolescent will obey is typically what every parent, caregiver, or educator wants to learn. In this episode, we will be continuing our 3-part series on how to set limits so your child will listen (and you don’t lose your mind). We will briefly recap how to set a limit and what to do when your child chooses not to obey the limit.2023-05-2922 minParenting Through ChaosEp. 9 – Limit BasketsLearning to set limits so that your kids obey is the topic that every parent wants to learn more about. And fortunately, there’s an approach that therapists use when counseling children that works really well for parents. So we are doing a three-part series where we explain the strategies, the skills, and the words to help you set limits so that you can provide your children with structure, consistency, and the protection they need. In this episode, we’re going to discuss how you can become more firm on which limits you set, how to set them, and whic...2023-05-1518 minParenting Through ChaosEp. 8 – Setting Limits the ACT WayThis episode is the first of a three-part series where we will be discussing setting limits. The thing we love is that the way we set limits as therapists translates really nicely to the home. What you’re going to learn during these two episodes will help your child develop self-control AND reduce your stress as a parent or caretaker.2023-05-0326 minParenting Through ChaosEp. 7 – Empowering Your Child and Developing GritIn this episode you will learn 3 ways to empower your child's internal strength so they can begin to navigate the world around them feeling secure within themselves instead of having this need or desire to seek praise or validation from others just to feel good about themselves.
First – return responsibility so that your kids are doing the things that they can do.
Second – encourage the effort instead of praising your child.
Third – give your children choices.
Doing those three things will help your child develop grit as...2023-04-0828 minParenting Through ChaosEp. 6 – What to Say So Your Teen Opens UpConnecting with your teen can at times be challenging and maybe even a little intimidating. When you're not equipped with the skills, it can feel like no matter what you do, it’s wrong.
In this episode, we're going to share 3 simple ways to connect with your teen that will not only grant you access into their world but will help your teen feel seen and understood. 2023-03-2523 minParenting Through ChaosEp. 5 – Burnout and Personal BlowupsFind time during the small pockets of opportunity to breathe. We're going to share ways to find the moments you can care for yourself with very minimal change, and how to seize those moments on a day-to-day basis. 2023-03-0914 minParenting Through ChaosEp. 4 – Three Simple Ways to Decrease Chaotic Moments By Connecting Throughout the DayAn ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. Sometimes children act out because they don’t feel like they’re being seen or understood. And that’s a stressor for children. But when we take time during the day or evening to connect with them, they seem to act out less (or if they do have a difficult moment, it’s easier to bring them back down and help them become regulated). So if we can make these little deposits throughout the day, we can prevent many chaotic moments caused by feeling overlooked and ignored.
Also, in...2023-02-2520 minParenting Through ChaosEp. 3 – Responding vs. Reacting and Parenting StylesWhen things are going your way, it’s easy to be a great parent. It’s those moments when there’s a conflict that we really struggle to thoughtfully respond. In those stressful moments, we generally react. And we react in ways that we’re not always proud of. So in this episode, we’re going to talk about how our natural parenting styles affect how we react in those chaotic moments and what we can do to be more thoughtful in how we respond when things are feeling chaotic.2023-02-1519 minParenting Through ChaosEp. 2 – What's the Foundation for Parenting Through Chaos?Sometimes we hear of approaches to “fixing the kids” and the focus is often on addressing behavior by focusing on the behavior—things like rewards and punishments. And while you will find some similar things in how we approach chaotic moments, the approach we’re going to take on this podcast doesn’t just focus on changing your child's external behaviors alone. Our goal is to teach you skills that will change your child’s external behaviors from within.In this episode, we share the foundation principle for helping your child change their internal view of themselves and their world. We al...2023-02-0616 min
Parenting Through ChaosEp 1. – Meet Your Hosts!Parenting can sometimes feel chaotic. But if you learn how to navigate through the chaos, raising children can bring you a lot of joy. This podcast is dedicated to helping you develop the necessary skills to handle those difficult moments so that you can rediscover the joy in parenting. Your hosts are Joanna von Staden, LCMHCA, and Jonathan DeVore, LCMHCA.
Joanna and Jonathan are neighbors, they both have their own families, and they are both professional counselors in the greater Charlotte area in North Carolina. As counselors, they work with many families and often get asked a lot...2023-01-2809 min