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YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEd20 Years in a Neurodiverse Marriage | Part 2 with Laura SchreinerHow do you stay in a neurodiverse marriage for the long haul?
In Part 2 of this honest and hope-filled conversation, counselor Laura Schreiner returns to share what she and her autistic husband have learned in over 20 years together—especially after discovering neurodivergence mid-marriage. With warmth and wisdom, Laura and host Jodi Carlton explore what real growth looks like in neurodiverse marriages—from learning to set emotional boundaries to releasing the pressure to “fix” each other.
💬 You’ll hear Laura unpack:
Why setting boundaries with your kids is just as important as with your partner
H...2025-07-0936 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdNeurodiverse Marriage: How Counselor Laura Schreiner Navigates Her OwnCounselor Laura Schreiner opens up about her own 20-year neurodiverse marriage—sharing expert insights, hard truths, and what makes love last.
In this episode, neurodiverse relationship expert, Jodi Carlton, sits down with returning guest Laura Schreiner, a seasoned counselor who specializes in working with #neurodivergent adults and couples. Laura shares insights from her own 20-year #neurodiversemarriage, offering a rare and compassionate look at how communication struggles, #masking, #emotionalburnout, and unmet expectations play out in real life—and what it looks like when couples decide to stay in it and do the work.
💬 You’ll hear Laura brea...2025-06-2533 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdHow Autism Shaped A Bestselling Author’s Career & MarriageFrom masking to neurodiverse marriage, bestselling author J.D. Barker gets real about life as an autistic adult.
In this podcast episode, neurodiverse relationship coach Jodi Carlton talks with New York Times bestselling author JDBarker, who shares what was like for him to navigate life, love, and fatherhood - and autism. From high-stakes careers in finance and IT to ghostwriting blockbusters and becoming a full-time novelist, J.D. reflects on how autism has shaped his relationships, routines, and creative process.
He also gets candid about building a neurodiverse marriage with his neurotypical wife, parenting a...2025-06-1141 min
Filled to FlourishHealing Together: Trauma, Burn-out and Growth on Your Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi CarltonBONUS EPISODE! Luke and I had the privilege of chatting with Jodi Carlton on her podcast, "Your Neurodiverse Relationship".Jodi says: "Together, they open up about their own marriage, healing past trauma, working through attachment styles, and what it really takes to make a #neurodiverserelationship not only work—but thrive. They also share their professional insights into #neuroplasticity, rejection sensitivity dysphoria (RSD), attachment wounds, and how their personal growth journey empowered them to help other couples navigate similar challenges.✅ Navigating ADHD & demand avoidance✅ Anxious + avoidant attachment in marriage✅ Overfunctioning, burnout & masking✅ When to accept… and when to seek change2025-05-121h 10
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdNeurodiverse Marriage, Burnout & Healing with Lauren & Luke | ADHD, RSD & Attachment (Part 2)In this powerful Part 2 episode of Your Neurodiverse Relationship Podcast (Season 5), neurodiverse relationship expert Jodi Carlton continues her candid conversation with married couple Luke and Lauren Smallcomb.
Together, they open up about: - Navigating ADHD and demand avoidance in marriage - Overcoming anxious and avoidant attachment styles - What happens when one partner is an overfunctioner - Burnout, masking, and learning to communicate better - The difference between acceptance and accommodation - Red flags vs. recoverable challenges in neurodiverse relationships.
👉 Here's Part 1 in case you missed it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LVdE9-xbzKI
2025-04-3046 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdHealing Together: Trauma, Growth, and Neurodiversity with Lauren and Luke SmallcombIn this powerful episode of Your Neurodiverse Relationship Podcast Season 5, host Jodi Carlton sits down with trauma healing experts and married neurodiverse couple Luke and Lauren Smallcomb, who live in Thailand and run a worldwide trauma-healing practice called Flourish Therapy.
Together, they open up about their own marriage, healing past trauma, working through attachment styles, and what it really takes to make a neurodiverser elationship not only work—but thrive. They also share their professional insights into neuroplasticity, rejection sensitivity dysphoria (RSD), attachment wounds, and how their personal growth journey empowered them to help other couples navigate si...2025-04-1628 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdCan AI Save Neurodiverse Relationships? The NeuroTranslator ToolIn part two of this inspiring episode, we continue our conversation with Michael & Elise Daniel and special guest Mona Kay, host of the Neurodiverse Love Podcast 🎙️, about an incredible AI-powered tool transforming neurodiverse relationships: NeuroTranslator 🧠💬
Michael, the creator of the NeuroTranslator Tool (formerly The Autistic Translator), shares how he developed this tool to help neurodiverse couples bridge communication gaps. We dive deep into how the NeuroTranslator Tool can translate misunderstandings, reduce conflict, and foster empathy in relationships where one or both partners are #autistic, #ADHD, or #neurotypical—turning frustration into connection.
📌 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:2025-03-1943 min
Neuro FMNavigate Neurodiversity in Your Life & Relationships w/ Jodi CarltonIn this enlightening conversation, Jeremy Rochford sits down with neurodiversity expert Jodi Carlton to explore the complexities of navigating life and relationships through the lens of neurodivergence. Jodi breaks down the often-misunderstood dynamics between neurotypical and neurodivergent individuals, offering practical insights on communication, connection, and self-awareness. Whether it's understanding how the autistic brain processes emotions or bridging the gap in mixed-neurotype relationships, Jodi shares invaluable wisdom on fostering deeper connections while embracing neurological differences.Throughout the episode, Jeremy and Jodi discuss the importance of recognizing and respecting neurodivergent needs without forcing conformity. They tackle common challenges in personal...2025-03-0743 minFilled to Flourish23. Trauma vs Neurodivergence: Heal or Accommodate? with guest Jodi CarltonJoin us for the third and final episode in our series on neurodiversity! In this episode we interview Jodi Carlon, a Neurodiverse Relationship Expert. We had an amazing conversation, evidenced by the number of times Luke and I said “beautifully said” to Jodi!We cover:🌿how trauma affects the brain🌿the role of safety🌿fleshing out what accommodation really is🌿how to figure out healed and what needs to be accommodated🌿the nature of neurodivergent nervous system and it’s highly likelihood of becoming traumatized🌿expectations, needs vs preferences in relationships🌿how some difficult neurodivergent traits are m...2025-03-061h 17
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdCan Neurodiverse Relationships Work? Here's One Couple Who Figured Out HowSeason 5 - Episode 1, Part 1: In this exciting premiere episode (part 1 of 2), I’m joined by Michael and Elise Daniel, a neurodiverse couple who’ve faced significant challenges in their marriage due to miscommunication. Michael, a late-diagnosed autistic database analyst with a special interest in AI 🤖, shares how misunderstandings between him and Elise led to feelings of hurt for both partners. But rather than letting these challenges pull them apart, they used them as fuel to create a unique solution—a translator tool that transformed the way they communicate. 🛠️✨
I’m also joined by the incredible Mona Kay, host of the Neurod...2025-03-0528 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdWhy CoDependency Happens in Neurodiverse Relationships Pt 2This is Part 2 of my two-part series on #codependency in #neurodiverserelationships. In this video, I dive into why codependency tends to develop in these relationships and how you can start breaking the cycle.
If you haven't watched Part 1, where I discuss the 6 signs of codependency, be sure to check it out first: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BlcRXJG3Uck
💡 Topics Covered in This Video:
00:30 Executive dysfunction and imbalance in shared responsibilities
01:57 Hyperfocus on harmony and avoiding conflict
02:25 Childhood conditioning and the role of peacemaking behaviors
04...2025-02-2409 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEd6 Signs of Codependency in Neurodiverse Relationships Pt 1 of 2Codependency is a common yet often misunderstood pattern in neurodiverse relationships. In this video, Jodi Carlton, a neurodiverse relationship expert, explores six key signs of codependency in neurodiverse couples, how these dynamics develop, and why recognizing them is the first step toward building a healthier, more balanced relationship.
💡 Key Topics Covered:
01:30 Overcompensating for Executive Dysfunction
02:18 Emotional Over-Responsibility
02:55 Avoiding Personal Needs
03:36 Caretaking Instead of Partnership
04:00 The Cycle of Resentment and Guilt
04:54 Overexplaining in Relationships
06:40 Check Out Part 2: Why Codependency Happens in Neurodiverse Relationships
h...2025-02-1707 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdNavigating Valentine’s Day in a Neurodiverse Relationship – Expectations & Communication TipsValentine’s Day can bring excitement, pressure, or even confusion—especially in a neurodiverse relationship!
Whether you’re neurotypical, autistic, or have ADHD, understanding and communicating expectations for this day can make all the difference.
In this episode, I’ll walk you through:
✅ How neurodivergent and neurotypical partners may approach Valentine’s Day differently
✅ Common misunderstandings and emotional triggers
✅ Practical strategies for clear, pressure-free communication
✅ How to create a celebration (or skip it!) in a way that works for both of you
🔔 Don’t forget to subscribe fo...2025-02-1035 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdNeurodiversity-Friendly New Year’s Resolutions: Start 2025 with Success!Are you tired of traditional New Year’s resolutions that feel overwhelming or unrealistic? In this video, I’ll guide you through creating neurodiversity-friendly resolutions tailored to your unique strengths, challenges, and goals. Whether you’re neurodivergent yourself or supporting someone who is, these strategies will help you design resolutions that are achievable, empowering, and sustainable.
We’ll cover:
✔️ Breaking big goals into manageable steps
✔️ Using visual aids and reminders to stay on track
✔️ Prioritizing self-compassion over perfection
✔️ Embracing your strengths and working with your brain, not against it 💬 What are your goals for 202...2025-01-0518 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdTackling the Holidays - with Ashley and RandallThe holidays can be challenging, especially in neurodiverse relationships. ☃️🎄🎅 In this sneak peek from my upcoming podcast season, Your Neurodiverse Relationship, I sit down with Ashley and Randall, a #neurodiversecouple, to talk about how they navigate #holidaystress
✨ From managing routines and avoiding surprises to creating backup plans and recovery days, Ashley and Randall share life-changing tips that have transformed their holidays and strengthened their relationship. Whether it’s using a code word like “mistletoe” to signal overwhelm or planning ahead for the unexpected, their insights are sure to inspire you.
🌟 Key Takeaways:
0:00 – Introduction: Sneak Peek of Podcast S...2024-12-0408 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdCan Autistic Individuals Have Cassandra Syndrome?Neurodiverse relationship expert Jodi Carlton discusses how #CassandraSyndrome affects autistic partners in #neurodiverserelationships. She emphasizes the importance of understanding both neurotypical and autistic experiences, highlighting that trauma can impact either partner. Learn about the double empathy problem, emotional isolation, and how these challenges can shape relationships.
00:00 Introduction: Cassandra Syndrome in Neurodiverse Relationships 01:03 Purpose of the Channel: Uniting, Not Dividing
02:28 Overview of Cassandra Syndrome
04:24 Addressing First Comment - "I'm a late diagnosed autistic woman married to a non-autistic man..."
04:44 Affirming the Autistic Experience of Trauma
05:36 Not All Partners (ND or NT) Experience T...2024-10-2211 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdAutism & Dating: 6 Signs It's Time to End a Dating RelationshipIn this solo podcast episode, #JodiCarlton delves into the intricacies of dating for both #autistic individuals and #neurotypicals dating someone on the spectrum. Drawing from my experiences with long-term couples, she emphasizes the importance of recognizing red flags early on in relationships. Key topics include the dangers of not being your authentic self, patterns of harmful behavior, boundary issues, and intimacy misalignments. She also addresses the concept of capacity and developmental stunting in autistic partners and how these can manifest in relationships.
Additionally, she explores common justifications for staying in unhealthy relationships and the critical mistake of...2024-10-0328 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdCassandra Syndrome: Signs, Symptoms, and Strategies for Neurotypical Partners#CassandraSyndrome is not an official diagnosis but is a descriptive term that refers to emotional pain and isolation experienced by a partner in an autistic-neurotypical relationship when their concerns, wishes, and experiences are overlooked or dismissed. Whether you're seeking clarity or looking for ways to strengthen your #neurodiverse relationship, this video provides valuable insights and support.
Check out our recent blog: https://jodicarlton.com/understanding-cassandra-syndrome-neurotypical-autistic-relationships/
00:00 Introduction to Cassandra Syndrome
00:08 Understanding Cassandra Syndrome
00:37 Neurodivergent Relationships and Brain Differences
03:03 Communication Challenges in Neurodiverse Relationships
03:57 The Impact of Miscommunication
04:20 Cassandra Syndrome...2024-09-2621 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdCan Neurodiverse Relationships Work?Join Jodi Carlton, a #neurodiverse relationship expert, as she delves into the complexities of relationships where one or both partners experience life differently due to neurodiversity. Discover whether these relationships can work, the importance of understanding neurodiversity, and the key characteristics that help #neurodiverserelationships thrive.
Jodi shares insights on common misunderstandings and the crucial role of communication, offering guidance for couples to navigate their unique dynamics.
00:00 Introduction to Neurodiverse Relationships
01:12 Understanding Neurodiversity in Relationships
01:37 Common Challenges in Neurodiverse Relationships
02:05 Examples of Misunderstandings
03:29 Can Neurodiverse Relationships Work?
04:36 Seeking Professional Help
Check out our recent blog on this to...2024-09-1105 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdThe Key Differences Between Autistic Burnout and ADHDBurnout is a common challenge faced by many, but it can manifest differently depending on whether you're living with #ADHD or #autism. In this video, we dive deep into the key differences between #autisticburnout and #ADHDburnout, exploring how they affect individuals, what recovery looks like, and the unique symptoms of each. Whether you're seeking to understand your own experiences or support a loved one, this video provides valuable insights to help you navigate these distinct forms of burnout 🧠❤️
00:00 Burnout Can Look Different Depending on Whether You're ADHD or Autistic
00:23 Overview of What is Burnout
00:3...2024-08-2904 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdHow Do I Know if My Spouse is Struggling from Executive FunctioningJodi Carlton discusses #executivefunctioning disorder, its impact on relationships, and how to recognize signs of #executivedysfunction in a partner. While not an official clinical diagnosis, executive dysfunction can cause a variety of challenges 😰
Jodi offers advice on paying attention to reactions, understanding the role of neurotransmitters like dopamine, and investigating underlying reasons behind behaviors. Practical relationship insights include managing expectations, recognizing emotional dysregulation, and addressing memory and organizational issues 🧠 The focus is on promoting understanding and finding coping strategies to improve relationships.
00:00 Introduction to Executive Functioning Disorder
00:31 Identifying Executive Dysfunction in Your...2024-08-2111 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdWhy Socializing is Important for Neurodivergent PartnersIn this bonus episode, Jodi Carlton explains how social connections can improve mental health, reduce stress, and offer different perspectives that benefit both partners in a relationship.
00:00 Introduction to Neurodiverse Relationships
00:0 The Importance of Social Life for Neurodivergent Individuals
00:29 Benefits of Social Connections
02:54 Practical Tips for Neurotypical Partners
03:31 Balancing Time Together and Apart
04:22 Respecting Boundaries and Open Communication
05:38 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
For more resources like articles, podcasts, and online courses, visit me at https://jodicarlton.com
Don’t forget to li...2024-08-0706 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdNeurodivergence & Executive Functioning Challenges in Household ManagementExecutive dysfunction creates many challenges in household management for neurodiverse couples. In this bonus episode, neurodiverse relationship expert, Jodi Carlton, provides some useful tips and strategies that she uses in her own neurodivergent household.
To learn more about executive functioning in neurodiverse relationships, check out our latest blogs:
https://jodicarlton.com/how-types-of-executive-functioning-impact-neurodiverse-relationships/
https://jodicarlton.com/executive-functioning-in-neurodiverse-relationships/
For more resources like articles, podcasts, and online courses, visit me at https://jodicarlton.com Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity!
👩💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned...2024-07-2904 min
Neurodiverse Love with Mona KayCrack the Communication Code: The World's First Relationship Rescue Method Specifically Designed for Mixed Neurotype Couples-Jodi CarltonTo learn more about the Neurodivere Love Conversation Cards and Workbook, the Neurodiverse Love Conference videos and the other resources available for individuals or couples in mixed neurotype relationships, check out Neurodiverse Love.
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Discover the 4 stage communication method that provides neurodiverse couples with the insights and tools to bridge the communication gap that exists in mixed neurotype relationships. This solution-focused method provides what traditional therapies have never done. Designed specifically to help partners understand the root causes of their misunderstanding and confusion, this method provides implementable tools for clarification of meaning and for updating relationship narratives while att...2024-07-2341 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdHow Does ADHD & Executive Functioning Impact PartnersLet's understand the 8 types of #executivefunctioning in #neurodiverse relationships. Jodi Carlton, a neurodiverse relationship expert, explains what executive functioning is and how it impacts #neurodiversecouples when one or both partners experience executive function challenges 🧠👫👬👭
0:00 What is Executive Functioning?
01:11 1. Planning and Organizing
03:30 2. Time Management
07:32 3. Working Memory
12:44 4. Self-Monitoring
16:28 5. Emotional Regulation
19:40 6. Cognitive Flexibility
24:41 7. Task Initiation
26:55 8. Inhibition Control (Impulsivity)
30:58 Dealing with Executive Dysfunction
To learn more about executive functioning in neurodiverse relationships, check out our latest blogs:
https://jodicarlton.com/how-type...2024-07-2333 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdMy Autistic Partner is Not SupportiveIn this bonus episode, Jodi Carlton, an expert in neurodiverse relationships, discusses a personal story shared by a listener about weight loss surgery and the emotional impact of her husband's comments. Jodi provides insight into the literal thinking often found in neurodiverse relationships and emphasizes the importance of self-confidence and not placing the responsibility of our insecurities on others.
00:00 Welcome to Neurodiversity Nuggets with Jodi Carlton
00:39 Q & A: Neurodiverse Relationships
01:17 Understanding and Managing Insecurities in Relationships
02:16 The Importance of Self-Confidence and Ownership in Personal Security
03:43 Embracing Individual Responsibility for...2024-07-1004 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdHow Do I Tell My Wife She’s Autistic?Are you asking yourself, "How do I tell my wife she's autistic?" People regularly book consultation with me asking this question - I get it in the comments too.
In this bonus clip, share what I tell my clients.
Neurodiversity in relationships can be confusing, and if you think your wife or your partner is autistic (some still use the term Aspergers), then you need an informed strategy for how to bring this up to her!
00:00 In troduction to Neurodiverse Relationship Advice
00:04 Suspecting Autism in a Partner
00:51 Why Directly Suggesting Autism C...2024-06-2605 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdThis Relationship Trait Leads to DivorceDoes your marriage have the common traits of couples that end up in divorce?
In this bonus clip, Jodi Carlton, neurodiverse relationship expert, emphasizes how an antagonistic dynamic within a relationship, where one partner must win and the other lose, is a red flag. She stresses the importance of addressing underlying issues and misunderstandings, particularly in autism spectrum relationships. Jodi also discusses the problem of trying to control your partner or the relationship.
00:00 A Harsh Reality
00:21 Understanding Antagonism in Relationships
01:03 The Cycle of Conflict and Control
01:58 Navigating A...2024-06-1202 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdMasking Isn’t Just an "Autistic" ThingEveryone, whether neurodiverse or neurotypical, uses some form of masking or filter as a part of their social interactions. In this bonus episode, Jodi Carlton shares a personal story about her autistic daughter's masking strategy, called 'inside face and outside face', which her daughter uses to manage her social interactions.
00:00 Introduction to Masking in Neurodiverse Relationships
00:45 Understanding Masking: A Personal Story
02:30 Masking as a Filter: A Deeper Dive
03:48 Masking in Different Contexts: Professional vs Personal
04:37 Unmasking at Home: The Safe Zone
08:15 The Impact of Masking on Relationships2024-05-2911 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdSex and Intimacy in Autism RelationshipsIn this episode from her YouTube channel, Jodi Carlton addresses common challenges that both partners in neurodiverse relationships often face.
00:00 Introduction to Intimacy Conversations
00:34 Understanding Personal Perspectives on Sexuality
01:33 Cultural and Social Influences on Sexuality
02:29 Challenges of Modern Sexuality and Media Influence
04:02 Navigating Expectations and Roles in Intimacy
06:07 The Importance of Communication and Understanding in Relationships
09:34 Addressing Personal Trauma and Misunderstandings
11:24 Taking Responsibility and Making Positive Changes
12:44 Clarifying Definitions and Expectations in Sexual Relationships
13:45 Conclusion: Hope for I...2024-05-1614 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdMy Autistic Partner Changes But It Doesn’t LastThis bonus clip highlights a personal story of someone struggling in their relationship with a boyfriend who has Asperger's. Despite receiving counseling, the relationship faces recurring issues such as explosive behavior and silent treatments from the autistic partner.
00:00 Introduction: Meet Jodi Carlton, Neuro Diverse Relationship Expert
00:08 A Viewer's Struggle: Reconnecting with an Asperger's Ex-Partner
00:31 The Cycle of Hope and Disappointment
01:09 Understanding Codependency in Relationships
02:15 The Challenge of Change and Communication
03:33 Educational Advice: Learning About Autism and Improving Communication
04:19 The Importance of Self-Reflection in Neurodiverse Relationships2024-05-0105 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEd#5: Now What? Deciding on a Path Forward in Your Neurodiverse RelationshipThis is the final episode in a five-part series, Navigating Neurodiverse Relationships, where my co-host, Mona Kay, talks with me about steps for addressing relationship challenges to find a path forward. We share personal stories and insights into the challenges we faced in our own marriages.
In this episode, we specifically discuss how inappropriate hope is such a common problem for partners and couples, and how other obstacles like low self-worth and chasing dead-ends lead to increasing distress and antagonism in neurodiverse relationships.
The final step navigating your neurodiverse relationship involves evaluating all of your ch...2024-04-1728 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEd#4: Exploring Unique Solutions for Unique RelationshipsIn this episode of a 5-part series, Jodi Carlton and her co-host, Mona Kay from the Neurodiverse Love Podcast, delve into the personal experiences and critical insights into Navigating Neurodiverse Relationships. They provide a retrospective look at their marriages, both of which ended after two decades, and clarify that their mission is not to advocate for divorce but to assist individuals in understanding their relationships and exploring options for moving forward. This episode covers various unconventional solutions they considered in their attempts to save their marriages. The episode underscores the importance of identifying and evaluating options within neurodiverse relationships...2024-04-1046 min
The Modern Day RomanticNeurodiverse Relationships with Jodi CarltonIn this episode I interview Jodi Carlton, a neurodiverse relationship expert. We discuss several topics related to neurodiverse couples and relationships, including common communication breakdowns, patterns of codependency, and ways to work towards mutual understanding and respect in neurodiverse marriages. Jodi has over 20 years of experience in helping people with ADHD, autism, anxiety, depression, bi-polar disorder, trauma, abuse, and codependency. Jodi also hosts a podcast called Your Neurodiverse Relationship Podcast. Be sure to give this episode a listen, and let us know what you think by leaving a comment!https://jodicarlton.com/...2024-04-041h 00
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEd#3: Don't Be The Titanic - Relationship Challenges Are Like IcebergsRelationship challenges are like icebergs; what you see on the surface is just a fraction of what lies beneath. If you don’t look underneath the surface to uncover all of what is contributing to the problems, your chances aren’t good for navigating your way to a fulfilling relationship.
In this episode of “Navigating Your Neurodiverse Relationship,” Mona and I share our own mistakes that ultimately contributed to sinking our relationship.
Our goal is to help you figure out the root issues that are well beneath the surface of your problems as a couple. Otherwis...2024-04-031h 06
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEd#2: Getting Out of Enemy Mode In Your Neurodiverse Relationship.Mona and I delve into the necessity of 'stopping the bleed' when your relationship is stuck and has become hopeless. We address the most damaging issues in relationships by sharing our own personal stories and insights from being in neurodiverse marriages for over two decades. Mona and I discuss the importance of recognizing and stopping toxic cycles, the benefits of both individual and couple's therapy, and the transformative impact of setting boundaries on personal health and relationship dynamics.
Featuring co-host Mona Kay from the Neurodiverse Love Podcast, this is Episode 2 (Season 4) of the YOUR Neurodiverse Re...2024-03-2749 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEd#1: ”When You Stop Recognizing Yourself, There’s Something Very Wrong”In this 5-episode podcast series, I (Jodi Carlton, a neurodiverse relationship expert), and Mona Kay of the Neurodiverse Love Podcast, share very personal experiences from our own marriages to neurodiverse partners. We share a five-step approach for assessing relationship challenges and navigating a path forward. The podcast covers toxic dynamics, the importance of understanding neurodiversity in relationships, and offers support and strategies for communication, connection, and making difficult relationship choices. By sharing our journeys and insights, Mona and I aim to help you feel seen, understood, and less alone in your own neurodiverse relationships, but also to give you...2024-03-2055 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdSeason 4 is Coming! 5 Steps for Navigating YOUR Neurodiverse RelationshipIn season four of 'YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship' podcast, Jodi Carlton teams up with Mona Kay from the “Neurodiverse Love” podcast to dive deep into personal experiences and professional insights on managing neurodiverse relationships. They discuss five key steps for assessing relationship challenges, whether it involves working together with a partner for a better connection or realizing it's time to part ways. With over two decades of experience in neurodiverse marriages, they share their own stories of navigating love, making tough decisions, and finding strategies that might be non-traditional but effective. This season aims to make listeners feel seen, understood, and...2024-03-1801 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEd”We’re all a little narcissistic.” Debunking This MythIn this episode, Jodi Carlton, a neurodiversity expert and relationship coach who also specializes in personality disorders, addresses a dangerous myth that everyone has narcissistic traits. She emphasizes the distinction between common human behaviors and the destructive characteristics of narcissistic personality disorder.
Jodi highlights specific traits exclusive to narcissism, such as enjoying others' pain for personal gain and manipulating others by playing the victim. Her message clarifies how this myth minimizes the impact on individuals who are abused by narcissists, and aims to educate listeners on the true nature of narcissistic behavior versus normal human flaws and...2024-03-1302 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdAutistic Narcissists Are Dangerous!In this bonus episode, neurodiversity expert and relationship coach Jodi Carlton explains the differences between autism and narcissistic personality disorder. She emphasizes that while both conditions can exist in the same individual, they are fundamentally unrelated, with autism being neurodevelopmental and genetic, and narcissism being potentially linked to genetics and social learning.
Jodi dispels dangerous myths suggesting that narcissistic traits are universal, pointing out the unique and harmful characteristics of narcissistic personality disorder that differentiate it from common human behaviors. She highlights the risks posed by individuals who exhibit both autism and extreme narcissism, including their potentially...2024-03-0603 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdWhy does an autistic partner lie?Neurodiverse relationship expert Jodi Carlton discusses the issue of lying within autism relationships in this bonus episode.
00:00 Neurodiverse Relationships and Lying
00:50 Understanding White Lies in Relationships
01:32 When Couples Have a Parental-Child Dynamic
01:46 An Example of Lying to Avoid Conflict
02:17 Differentiating Between Types of Lies
02:46 Recognizing and Addressing Lying in Relationships
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👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma cer...2024-02-2803 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdI’m autistic. Why do I zone out when people are talking?In this bonus episode, Neurodiverse Relationship expert, Jodi Carlton, shares explains why autistic individuals struggle to stay focused in a conversation and shares some strategies for both partners to help with this challenge.
👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis.
MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experien...2024-02-2303 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdAutism Relationship Tool - Images Versus WordsNeurodiverse Relationship expert, Jodi Carlton, shares a tip about improving communication with your autistic partner in this bonus episode.
👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis.
MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and...2024-02-1900 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdHow to Have a Safe Disagreement in Your Neurodiverse RelationshipIn this bonus episode, neurodiverse relationship expert, Jodi Carlton, shares advice on handling emotional responses in neurodiverse relationships. Jodi emphasizes the importance of acknowledging the validity of emotions from both partners, and discusses the problems that arise when fight or flight responses overwhelm the conversation and issues are not resolved.
00:00 A YouTube Comment
00:52 Validity of Emotions in Relationships
01:12 The Problem of Unresolved Conflict
02:23 The Importance of Safe Conversations
03:20 The Solution: How To Handle Emotional Triggers
👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #n...2024-02-1406 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdBoundaries and Dealbreakers in Neurodiverse RelationshipsIn the bonus episode, neurodiverse relationship expert, Jodi Carlton, explores the crucial aspects of setting boundaries and recognizing deal-breakers in neurodiverse relationships.
00:00 Introduction
00:17 Understanding Boundaries in Relationships
01:12 The Difference Between Boundaries and Control
01:46 Setting Boundaries in Response to Negative Behavior
02:00 Teaching Boundaries to Children
02:46 Challenges of Setting Boundaries with Smart Kids
03:06 Conclusion: Modeling Boundary Setting
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YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdAutism in Gay Men - Response to a YouTube QuestionNeurodiverse relationship expert responds to a question about autism in gay men in this bonus episode.
She emphasizes that regardless of whether someone is gay, heterosexual, or identifies with any other sexual orientation, their autistic traits remain the same. Autism is a part of who they are, and it doesn't change based on their sexual orientation.
For more resources like articles, podcasts, and online courses, visit me at https://jodicarlton.com
Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity!
👩💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professiona...2024-01-2401 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEd”It was the closest to hell I’ve ever been.”In this bonus episode, #neurodiverserelationship expert Jodi Carlton discusses a YouTube viewer's comment that details severe abuse in a past relationship with an 'undiagnosed autistic man'. Jodi empathizes with the viewer but stresses the importance of distinguishing between autism and narcissistic, abusive behavior. She explains that individuals with autism are not inherently abusive, whereas those with a #personalitydisorder can be. Jodi points out that the difficulty of autistic individuals to recognize their partners’ distress does not make them abusive although it can have a similar devastating impact on partners. She also highlights the importance of listening to gut instincts ab...2023-12-2006 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdWhen Intimacy Used to Be GreatBONUS Episode: Neurodiversity Nugget
What happens in some relationships is in the beginning, there was this chemistry, there was this connection, and it was great. There is often a lot happening there physically.
Some of that greatness, though, was your own perception of greatness that was influenced by what you hoped for and wanted. When you are looking for confirmation that the relationship is good, you are more likely to perceive it as a good experience.
You may actually miss how your partner is perceiving it, and have totally different memories and narratives ab...2023-12-0601 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEd”How do we handle social outings with friends?”This clip is from a Q & A where a neurotypical partner asked how to handle social outings with friends when you each have different preferences about socializing. I share a tip for how to manage this so both of you are satisfied.
👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton and I'm a leading world expert on adult autistic relationship dynamics and interpersonal communication. My life experiences with my own autistic family and friends have been my personal training ground and my goal is to help you finally make sense of the confusion and pain.
🎙 My educational podcast and Y...2023-11-2201 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdQ & A ”How are autistic women different from men?”Men and women often have very different #neurodivergent traits and the criteria for #autism was originally developed based on men. In this video, I discuss some of the unique differences in men and women.
#autism #neurodivergent #autisticwomen #autisticmen #neurodiverserelationships
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👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton and I'm a leading world expert on adult autistic relationship dynamics and interpersonal communication. My life experiences with my own autistic family and friends have been my personal training ground and my goal is to help you finally make sense of the confusion and pain.
🎙 My educational podcast and YouTube...2023-11-0805 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEd5 Signs Your Partner May Be AutisticIn this video, originally recorded for an audience of women in relationships with #autistic men on the spectrum, I discuss SOME of the main characteristics of being in a #NeurodiverseRelationship. Women on the spectrum may also have some of these characteristics, but this video is specifically for neurotypical partners in relationships with men.
Take my autism assessment at jodicarlton.com
#autismsigns #neurodivergent #signsofautism #asd #autismtest #jodicarlton #aspergers #aspergersinmen
2023-10-2509 minNeurodiverse Love with Mona KayCo-Dependency, Breaking Points, Contempt, and Discernment- Jodi CarltonBeginning on 11/1/23, Mona Kay and Jodi Carlton will be co-facilitating a new support group for individuals of ALL neurotypes. The group will meet on Zoom the first Wednesday of each month from 6:30-8PM EST and the cost is ONLY $25. Click here to register.
If you find yourself confused about making decisions because you don't know if you'll ever get your needs met in your current relationship.
If you and your partner are moving in different directions because you don't understand each other's perspectives.
If you are wondering what destination you will get to in your relationship, if...2023-10-171h 18
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEd3 Tips to Avoid Being Blindsided In A RelationshipGetting blindsided in any kind of relationship is horrible, whether it's a dating relationship, well into a marriage, a friendship, or A working relationship. It never feels good to feel blindsided.
In actuality, we oftentimes get in our own way in being able to see who people really are.
Sometimes it's hard to know how to make decisions about the people we meet - friendships, dating relationships - and we don't know how to keep ourselves safe. We don't know how to identify a healthy relationship.
I'm Jodi Carlton, and I'm an adult neur...2023-10-1110 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdThe Parent-Child DynamicWhen neurodiverse partners have different thresholds for household tasks and even relationship involvement, it is common for a "parent-child" dynamic to emerge. One partner takes on an authoritative role that issues directives, and the other becomes more child-like waiting on tasks to be assigned (and sometimes resisting to follow through).
This type of dynamic does NOT work in any relationship. In this BONUS clip, I discuss why, and how to address it in your relationship.
For more comprehensive guidance with your relationship difficulties, access my communication course: Crack The Communication Code at JodiCarlton.com2023-09-2804 min
Extraordinary Jews The Untold Story of the Frum Neurodiverse PopulationEpisode 14: Extraordinary Jews downloads an episode from my Get It Done! podcast. Guest is Jodi Carlton, MEd Topic: Communication and RelationshipsI cohost a second podcast for the population at large. The podcast is called Get It Done! For the Neurodivergent Individual. It's a teaching podcast, where my cohost Julie Doar-Sinkfielf of My Life Tutors and our guests teach lessons to help the Neurodivergent Individual learn to be the best version of themselves.
This podcast in a podcast is fascinating as our guest Jodi Carlton, MEd speaks about cracking the communication code, the world's first model for neurodiverse couples. We hope you enjoy it.
Jodi can be reached at gethelp@jodicarlton.com She...2023-09-1938 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEd”We both thought we were going to die.”A #traumatic accident turned this #neurodiverse relationship completely around. Tune in to this final episode of Season 3 to hear how Kristen's marriage has changed thanks to hard work and a complete mindset shift.
#autistic #neurodivergent #trauma #therapy #jodicarlton #podcast
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship Podcast; Season 3 - Episode 13
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👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resoluti...2023-08-3059 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdToxicity in Neurodiverse Relationships (Pt 2)Being in #toxicrelationship that never improve is like making a lifelong commitment to #dysfunction. In a #neurodiverserelationship, each partner can be a #toxicpartner.
In part 2 of this episode of "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, Barbara Grant a neurodiverse relationship coach talks with me about the pitfalls that block success for couples. Today is part two of my discussion with Barbara Grant, who is also a #neurodiversity coach and a relationship therapist. If you missed part one, be sure and go back and listen to it. Our conversation has been really great from the perspective of therapists who also...2023-08-1634 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdToxicity in Neurodiverse Relationships - Part 1In this episode of the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, my guest, Barbara Grant, and I discuss insights about #counseling and #therapy for that will benefit both therapists and couples.
Part 2 of this podcast episodes airs on Wed, Aug 16, 2023.
Season 3, Episode 11 airs Wed, Aug 2nd here on YouTube and on your favorite podcast platform! https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR
Barbara Grant is a Certified Autism Specialist, ADHD and Neurodiverse Couples Coach, finishing her Masters in MFT (Marriage and Family Therapy.) She has been a therapeutic and spiritual coach since 2005, working...2023-08-0226 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdBeing Neurodivergent in a Faith-Based CommunityMelissa, #ADHD wife to an #autistic husband gets raw and vulnerable about her faith and how her traditional Christian background has affected them as adults and in their own relationship. Season 3, Episode 10: "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship Podcast" #neurodivergent #christianfaith #faith #religious #jodicarlton #aspie #aspergers
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Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis.
MY PERSONAL...2023-07-1918 min
The Virtual CouchAutism or Narcissism? Unpacking Neurodivergent Relationships with Jodi Carlton, MEdIn today's episode, we dive deep into the complexities of neurodiversity and narcissism in relationships. Our guest, Jodi Carlton, brings a wealth of expertise, drawing from over two decades of experience as a therapist, educator, and coach, with a special focus on neurodiversity. She has an intimate understanding of neurodivergent individuals. She has worked extensively with individuals and couples across 13 countries, dealing with a spectrum of conditions, including depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, and brain injury.
In this conversation, Jodi offers her invaluable insights into the often misunderstood correlations and distinctions between autism and narcissism. She shares her...2023-07-0852 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdNeurodivergent Family: Mom, Father, and Daughter#ADHD wife and mom to a #neurodivergent husband and daughter, Melissa shares how she struggled for years with considering leaving her marriage. After becoming educated about neurodiversity, and developing tools and skills for #communication, she realized that it's worth it to stay. She shared with me her #relationshipproblems, but also the joys and wonderful moments, as well as her personal growth that has resulted in happiness and freedom! Watch the full episode on YouTube (@jodicarlton) or listen on your favorite podcast platform.
#neurodiverserelationship #communicationskills #therapist #autismdiagnosis #adhdmom #autismfamily #jodicarlton
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YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdNeurodivergence Pain and Suffering#Neurodivergent wife and coach, Christie Ellis shared with me her own journey through tremendous pain and suffering and how her life has been enriched because of her experiences. Christie has incredible insights about how emotions inform us, and how #neurodiverserelationship partners can improve #communication and connection.
This is episode 8, part 2 of my chat with Christie, on Season 3 of the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship."
Watch all episodes at: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR
#neurodiverserelationship #suicidalthought #autismsigns #autisticwoman #adhd #neurodiversewoman #communicationskills #relationshipproblems #jodicarlton
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YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdNeurodivergence and Trauma: The Chicken or the Egg?My guest today is Christie Ellis. Christie is neurodivergent herself. She's a wife, a friend, and a daughter and she's killing it in the business sector. She's created five businesses, including Phoenix Story Coaching, where she provides science-grounded coaching for individuals and businesses. She figures out repetitive thought and behavior patterns that aren't working for people and works with her clients to build new patterns and achieve goals. Christie is certified in positive psychology, behavior change, mindfulness-based stress reduction, and coaching.
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👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton and I'm a leading world expert on adult autistic relationship dynamics a...2023-06-0730 min
Waking Up to NarcissismAutism or Narcissism? Unpacking Neurodivergent Relationships with Jodi Carlton, MEdIn today's episode, we dive deep into the complexities of neurodiversity and narcissism in relationships. Our guest, Jodi Carlton, brings a wealth of expertise, drawing from over two decades of experience as a therapist, educator, and coach, with a special focus on neurodiversity. She has an intimate understanding of neurodivergent individuals. She has worked extensively with individuals and couples across 13 countries, dealing with a spectrum of conditions, including depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, and brain injury.In this conversation, Jodi offers her invaluable insights into the often misunderstood correlations and distinctions between autism and narcissism...2023-06-0552 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdA Therapist Discovers Neurodivergence In Her MarriageThis week's episode's guest is Laura Schreiner. Laura has a Master of Science degree in Clinical Psychology, is a Nationally Certified Licensed Professional Counselor, and holds certification in Neurodiverse Couples Therapy with the Asperger/Autism Network (AANE).
Laura shares with me about her journey as a neurotypical wife, and the discovery of neurodivergence in her marriage. Visit her online at: www.laurasnc.com
If you're really enjoying this podcast, please don't forget to leave us a review because it really matters in how these podcast platforms deliver podcasts to people like you.
Be sure to subscribe if you...2023-05-2444 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdADHD Women: Dating and RelationshipsThis week's episode is part two of my conversation with Gwen Janssen. So if you missed part one, go back and listen to the last episode that was aired two weeks ago. Gwen and I had so much to talk about it was too much to put into one episode. Today, she really gets personal about her own relationships and how being neurodiverse has affected her relationships in dating, but also family relationships and friendships.
Also, if you're really enjoying this podcast, please don't forget to leave us a review because it really matters in how these podcast platforms deliver pod...2023-05-1018 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdNeurodivergent Women: Strengths and ChallengesMy guest today is Gwen Janssen. She's a nurse and an adjunct professor, and a long time leader with over 16 years in healthcare. Gwen was diagnosed with ADHD in her early thirties. She has two master's degrees and a doctorate in progress.
Leadership is her passion. She founded the END Institute, Excellence In Neurodiversity after her diagnosis as a way to help educate and advocate for other neurodiverse professionals and leaders.
Gwen focuses heavily on creating spaces for psychological safety and development based on the unique strengths and support needs of the neurodiverse community. She's also the author of "ADHD, Ho...2023-04-2634 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdBONUS: ”Pick Your Price” Event!Did you know that April is autism awareness month? So in honor of all of you that are listeners here, I'm hosting my first ever "Pick Your Price" event. If you've been listening to this podcast or watching my videos for any time at all, you've heard me talk about the communication program that I developed for my own neurodiverse relationships. It's been life-altering for so many people, and I really want to make it available to you even if money is kind of tight. It's called " Crack the Communication Code."
This program is normally $175, but I'm...2023-04-1300 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdAutistic Couples Need the Right "Software"My guest in episode 3 today is David Glick, a neurodivergent therapist, and coach who has decades of experience working with autistic individuals, couples, and families. David is a highly respected professional here in the Atlanta area where I am based, and I am thrilled that he is moving into the coaching space where people worldwide can access his help.
You can reach out to David and Triad Psych at https://triadpsych.org/.
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👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton and I'm a leading world expert on adult autistic relationship dynamics and communication. My life experiences with my own autistic family a...2023-04-1239 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdAutistic Communication StrategiesMy special guest today is Dr. Kerry Magro. Kerry is an award-winning autistic professional speaker and a bestselling author. 📍
He was recently an autism consultant to the HBO series, "Mrs. Fletcher" which aired in the fall of 2019, and a consultant to the latest season of Netflix's, Emmy award-winning series, "Love On the Spectrum."
Kerry has spoken at over 1200 events, including two Ted talks and a "Talks at Google" presentation. In addition, Kerry is CEO and president of KFM Making a Difference, a nonprofit organization that hosts inclusion events and has provided a hundred scholarships for students with autism for college since 20...2023-03-2932 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdAutistic MaskingLet's talk about masking!
Episode #1 of Season 3 features Wendy, a neurodivergent wife to a neurodivergent husband, and mom to neurodivergent kiddos. She is a moderator in my Mixed Neurotype Facebook Group (search Jodi Carlton on Facebook) and follower of the podcast.
Wendy asked me to have a conversation with her about masking, which is a topic that comes up frequently in conversations about neurodiversity. Wendy shares her own personal experiences and insights about masking, and the strategies she uses in social interactions. Wendy has lived most of her adult life without knowing about her neurodiversity.
Watch the full episode on You...2023-03-1522 minYOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdBONUS: Holiday Stressbuster Toolkit for Mixed Neurotype CouplesHoliday Stressbuster Toolkit for Mixed Neurotype Couples: jodicarlton.com/holidays
Holiday gatherings and traditions can create some of the most memorable moments for couples to cherish for a lifetime, but this time of year can also be full of anxiety and stress, especially for mixed neurotype couples.
If you feel stressed just reading this list, then I have something for you!
Changes in Work and Kid Routines
Social Gatherings
Family Gatherings
Work Gatherings
Travel
Gift Expectations
Blended Families
Sounds, Smells, Foods, Crowds
With the right tools and preparation, you can enjoy the festivities while keeping your relationship and sanity intact.
In th...2022-11-0102 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdNeurodivergent Lying: Avoidant or Toxic?BONUS podcast: Let's talk about lying. There are a lot of reasons why everybody lies. Neurodivergent partners have specific reasons why they lie, and sometimes it's different from the reasons why neurotypical partners lie.
It's important to look for toxic types of lies that are strategic and intended to harm or that inflate one's ego at the expense of others. These are different from the avoidant types of lies that range from "little white lies" to fear and avoidance of consequences or a partner's response or reaction.
If there is a lot of lying in your relationship and you need so...2022-10-1810 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdSpiritual Abuse in Neurodiverse RelationshipsWhen a person's faith and spiritual values are used to coerce, convince, or control and manipulate, devastating harm is done. Weaponized faith is all too common, and I see the trauma it causes in so many of the men and women who contact me for help. "Scripts" about the roles of men and women, and husbands and wives, are often conveyed by well-meaning religious leaders, but then, in the neurodivergent community, applied rigidly in a relationship. Both partners often participate in reinforcing a coercive and controlling dynamic that utilizes shame, guilt, and obligation to get one or both partner's...2022-09-1327 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdNeurodiversity Challenges in Christian MarriagesI am frequently asked the question "How do I stay committed to my Christian values of being compassionate and selfless without losing myself and my identity - especially when my autistic partner doesn't believe my needs are valid?"
I recently had a Q & A with Dan and Stephanie Holmes where we talk about this and so much more. Dan and Stephanie founded the International Association of NeuroDiverse Christian Marriages, LLC to bring hope, help, and possible healing to NeuroDiverse Christian Marriages. Their ministry also includes educating and equipping helping professionals, clinicians, and ministers with effective coaching and...2022-08-3038 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdToxicity Was My Own Dealbreaker - Not NeurodiversityS2E9 In today's episode, part two with my best friend, Kathy, we have a really important conversation about toxic traits and how that's a very different thing from neurodiversity. Kathy and I both have experienced toxic personalities in our marriages and our relationships.
This the last episode of my summer series on communication and of sharing my personal neurodiverse relationships with you. If you missed any of the previous episodes, go back and through Season 2 and meet my autistic daughter, Abby, and her brother, Aidan, as well as my mother. I'm so glad they all agreed to b...2022-08-0222 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdHow To Thrive in Neurodiverse FriendshipsI am really, really excited today to have my best friend Kathy, on the show. She is the last of the mini series this summer on communication and of me sharing my neurodiverse family and friends with you.
This two-part episode is one of my favorite yet because Kathy and I talk about so much! There's so much packed into these two episodes. Kathy and I talk about our own friendship, which is a neurodiverse relationship. We talk about her family of very different neurodiverse personalities...and as best friends do she even calls me out on somet...2022-07-2632 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdAwkward Moments in Neurodiverse RelationshipsIn last week's show, during my chat with my mother, I mentioned how those of us who are neurotypical and neurodiverse speak different languages. We have many different kinds of language...emotion, logic, social, relationship, love...and we all speak them in different kinds of ways, and with different levels of fluency.
I also told you in the last show that my next guest is my best friend Kathy, who has her own neurodiverse family and who has her own neurodiverse traits, herself. In that chat she and I talk about our own friendship and how we've de...2022-07-1917 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdMy Autistic Mother Was "Weird"In part two of my conversation with my mom. We talk about how we discovered neurodiversity in my own family. It's a narrative that is so similar to many of yours.
Neurodiverse relationships are not just about domestic partnerships...the person that you married or that you're dating...it spills over into the whole family. It's part of the entire life experience that you're having with so many people.
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👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton and I'm a leading world expert on adult autistic relationship dynamics and communication. My life experiences with my own autistic family and friends h...2022-07-1221 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdMy Autistic Granddaughter Didn't SmileAs we continue our summer series on communication, I took a moment to talk with my mom, Jean, about this neurodiverse family of ours. Her perspective and her observations about discovering autism in our family is going to be so relatable to so many of you. As a retired teacher (and she was held in high regard in our community), she thinks back to students she had who she now realizes were neurodiverse - and how she didn't understand their needs or how to communicate with them.
Next week, in part 2, we talk more about our own fami...2022-07-0533 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdCommunication is the Bridge that Connects UsCommunication is the bridge that connects us and this week we continue my summer communication series. Today in part two of my conversation with two of the very most important people in my life, my daughter, Abby, who is autistic, and my son, Aidan, who is neurotypical, we talk about what it's been like for them as siblings in a neurodiverse relationship, but also with me as their neurotypical mom navigating parenting in a neurodiverse family. I invite you to hear what they have to say, because I think you're going to really relate to so much of it!2022-06-2824 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdMeet My Own Neurodiverse FamilyToday I invite you to meet MY neurodiverse family. We have relationships with many different people in our lives...our partners, our friends, our siblings, our co-workers. Today a colleague asked me how many people I estimate are around us every day who are neurodiverse. I told her that number is high! Today...I'd like you to meet two of my own favorite people.
BE A GUEST ON THE SHOW: SpectrumRelationships.com/podcast
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👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton and I'm a leading world expert on adult autistic relationship dynamics and communication. My life experiences w...2022-06-2125 minYOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEd”This was our game changer.”In episode 2 of Jodi's summer communication series, she shares more of her interview with Michele, who emphasizes specific strategies from Jodi's "Crack the Communication Code" program that have been a game changer in her marriage to Dave.
Michele talks about a sexual intimacy series which can be found in Jodi's private member library at:
www.spectrumrelationships.com/spectrum-straight-talk-library
In introductory video for this sexuality series can be found on Jodi's YouTube channel at:
https://youtu.be/gc88vT3IhJ4
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Jodi Carlton is a leading world expert on adult autism relationships and communication. Her private coaching, and ground-breaking "Crack the COMMUNICATION Code...2022-06-1432 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEd”My husband calls you the ’Aspie Whisperer’”In the Season 2 Premiere of YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship, Jodi kicks off a summer series about communication in neurodiverse relationships. This season she brings to you guest interviews as well as the tips and strategies she teaches that are working for couples around the world to bridge the gap between conflict and connection.
You don't want to miss this summer series!
BE A GUEST ON THE SHOW: SpectrumRelationships.com/podcast
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Jodi Carlton is a leading world expert on adult autism relationships and communication. Her private coaching, and ground-breaking "Crack the COMMUNICATION Code" p...2022-06-0724 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdAutistic Executive Dysfunction: "I Have This Memory Vacuum."In this episode (Part 2) of a chat with a neurodiverse couple, Jodi gives concrete strategies for eliminating conversations that get stuck in a cycle of painful triggers and avoidant retreats that never reach resolution.
If you missed Part 1 (Ep. 12 "I Call It His Murderous Face") listen here.
BE A GUEST ON THE SHOW: SpectrumRelationships.com/podcast
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Jodi Carlton is a leading world expert on adult autism relationships and communication. Her private coaching, and ground-breaking "Crack the COMMUNICATION Code" program, is helping partners and couples avoid relationship failure and finally understand one an...2022-05-2425 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdThe Autistic "Murderous Face"In this episode, a couple married 30 years in an arranged marriage, shares how the discovery of neurodiversity was a wake-up call and also a life-saver for their relationship. Both of them openly talk with me about their own self-discoveries and what they are doing to help repair old wounds, but also improve current and future interactions.
BE A GUEST ON THE SHOW: SpectrumRelationships.com/podcast
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Jodi Carlton is a leading world expert on adult autism relationships and communication. Her private coaching, and ground-breaking "Crack the COMMUNICATION Code" program, is helping partners and couples a...2022-05-1725 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdLying & Miscommunication in Autistic RelationshipsIn Part 2 of my talk with Bo, who identifies as an "Aspie," or as having Asperger's, we chat about how words and expressions can mean really different things, especially in neurodiverse relationships. Bo also shares with me how social interactions have often created confusion for him and the people in his life because of the different understandings and expectations in social exchanges.
If you missed Part 1, "Childhood Memories Make Sense Now," be sure to tune in to hear Bo discuss his memories from childhood and how he now recognizes the many sensory challenges he experienced as a chi...2022-05-1031 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdLate Autism DiagnosisEp. 10 - Bo B. (Neurodiverse) (Pt. 1) Childhood Memories Make Sense Now; Sensory Aversion in Relationships
Ep. 10 In this episode, Jodi talks to Bo, a neurodiverse man, who recounts his experience as a neurodiverse child in school and being distracted by pretty much everything. Jodi and Bo talk about how food preferences, and how sensory aversions can sometimes feel like a deal breaker in relationships.
Bo also shares how different communication styles have created challenges for him in relationships- for example, he notes struggling to understand hints or implied meaning
BE A GUEST ON THE SHOW: Sp...2022-05-0336 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdHow To Know If Someone With Autism Loves YouEp. 9 - How To Know If Someone With Autism Loves You
"How do I know if my autistic partner (child, sibling, friend) loves me?" This is a question that I am asked constantly. In my most popular video, to date, I share some tips for how to recognize that a neurodivergent individual is expressing love. The way love is communicated between neurotypical and neurodivergent individuals is truly not always similar - we "speak love" in vastly different ways.
These communication and perception differences often result in tremendous confusion and hurt. In this updated/edited version, of my original video, you s...2022-04-2610 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdThis Neurodiverse Couple Saved Their MarriageEp. 8 Matt & Jen (Pt 2) ”I don’t remember our last argument…”
In Part 1 (Ep 5) of Jodi's talk with Matt and Jen, this couple shared how they struggled to understand each other, and how miscommunication & misunderstanding led to confusion, heartbreak, and talk of divorce. Here in Part 2, they talk about the insights they gained, and the communication tools and skills they use from their private intensive coaching with Jodi that have completely changed their lives. Jen (non-autistic) says "You know, what's funny? I don't remember our last argument." Matt and Jen's story is an example of the real transformation that is possible...2022-04-1931 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdSocial Skills for Neurodiverse CouplesEp. 7: Rob, 51, autistic -”I would go to meetups where I knew no one & I would be social with people I never met before - that’s like the Super Bowl of social practice”
In today's episode Rob shares with Jodi how his ex-wife's family didn't like him and he didn't understand why until two of his son's were diagnosed as autistic. He shares his perspective on smiling and learning to use tone of voice as well as his personal strategies for being intentional with practicing social skills, all of which has resulted in new friendships.
In this episode, Jodi mentions...2022-04-1228 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdTherapy Harms Neurodiverse CouplesEp. 6 Current Therapy Models Harm Neurodiverse Relationships (Pt. 2)
In this episode, part 2 of Jodi's chat with Mona and Manecia, all three professionals share how counseling made things worse in their own neurodiverse relationships, and how new models that are specific to neurodiverse couples are critical.
Listen to part 1 in Episode 3, "Jodi Gets Personal With Two Other Professionals About Their Own Relationships."
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Jodi Carlton is a leading world expert on adult autism relationships and communication. Her private coaching, and ground-breaking "Crack the COMMUNICATION Code" program, is helping partners and couples avoid relationship failu...2022-04-0529 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdHow To Avoid DivorceEp. 5 Matt and Jen (Pt 1), a Neurodiverse Couple: From Contemplating Divorce to Thriving
On today's episode, Jodi talks with Matt and Jen, a neurodiverse couple who were contemplating divorce when Jen first found Jodi's coaching program and reached out for help. They share how they discovered Matt is autistic, and the challenges they each experienced in their relationship, but also how the new framework and new skills have totally changed their lives and their marriage.
Part 1 of 2 (Part 2 will broadcast on April 12th, 2022)
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YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdSensory Overload and Partner RejectionEp. 4 Clara (Pt 2) Sensory Overwhelm & How It Results in Others Feeling Rejected
Episode 4: In this episode Jodi talks with returning autistic guest Clara about sensory processing dysfunction. Clara, a music teacher, and performer, compares how the brain receives sound to a music mixing board that raises and lowers volume. Jodi and Clara also chat about how neurotypical partners often misinterpret autistic sensory overwhelm as rejection.
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Jodi Carlton is a leading world expert on adult autism relationships and communication. Her private coaching, and ground-breaking "Crack the COMMUNICATION Code"...2022-03-2229 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdProfessionals In Neurodiverse RelationshipsEp. 3 Jodi, Mona, and Manecia, two neurodiversity professionals get personal about their own relationships. (Pt 1)
In this episode, Jodi talks with Mona and Manecia, hosts of the Neurodiverse Love podcast. All three are professionals committed to helping neurodiverse couples navigate relationships, but who have also been in (or are currently in) their own autism relationships. Listen in as they share their own very personal experiences.
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Jodi Carlton is a leading world expert on adult autism relationships and communication. Her private coaching, and groun...2022-03-1532 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdPainful Misunderstandings & ConfusionEp. 2 - A wife from the U.K. talks about painful misunderstandings and confusion & learning to bridge the communication gap.
On today's episode, Jodi discusses the question of how long it usually takes for partners and couples to suspect that one of them is autistic. She shares about her own experience in her marriage.
Jodi's guest today is an ADHD wife with and mother from the U.K. who's husband and daughter are autistic. She talks with Jodi about painful misunderstandings that have created years of confusion and a widening gap between herself and her husband - bo...2022-03-0829 min
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEdA Life-Altering Communication StrategyEp. 1 Clara (Pt 1) , an Autistic Partner, Shares a Life-Altering Communication Strategy
On today's episode, Jodi Carlton chats with Clara, who discovered she is autistic in her 30's. Clara shares valuable insight from her neurodiverse perspective, and also how she is using a specific new strategy for bridging communication with her neurotypical partner and other important people in her life.
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Jodi Carlton is a leading world expert on adult autism relationships and communication. Her private coaching, and ground-breaking "Crack the COMMUNICATION Code" program, is helping p...2022-02-2835 min
Neurodiverse Love with Mona KayJodi Carlton-Helping to "Crack the Communication Code" as a Neurodiverse Couples CoachJodi Carlton, M.Ed. is an internationally recognized autism relationship and neurodiversity expert and coach. During this episode she shared her own lived experience and how she is helping neurodiverse couples around the world find better ways to understand each others strengths and differences. She shares how important it is to value and respect each other's perspective and has created the "Crack the Communication Code" course to help neurodiverse couples work through the communication challenges that may keep recurring. You may also want to check out her website to link to the free resource to get your Neurodiversity/Autism Sco...2022-01-221h 06
NeuroDiverse Christian CouplesJodi Carlton Part 2 Addressing Some Nuances in Faith-Based CouplesStephanie and Dan interview ND Couples' Coach, Jodi Carlton. Part 2 of a 2 part series looks at the differences and cross-over features of AS and NPD. This can be very controversial, but it is important for clinicians and pastors, and spouses to know the differences between NeuroDiversity and Personality Disorders, such as Narcissism. It is possible, but rare, for there to be both. Jodi has a course on her site about this topic. We will also discuss some issues faith-based couples may have when submission/headship is taken or taught too legalistically with black and white thinkers....2021-10-2541 min
NeuroDiverse Christian CouplesJodi Carlton on the Differences Between AS and NPDStephanie and Dan interview ND Couples' Coach, Jodi Carlton. Part 1 of a 2 part series looks at the differences and cross-over features of AS and NPD. This can be very controversial, but it is important for clinicians and pastors, and spouses to know the differences between NeuroDiversity and Personality Disorders, such as Narcissism.About Jodi Carlton:I was licensed as a professional counselor for 20+ years before I transitioned to full-time coaching. In addition to my expertise in autism/Aspergers, I am trauma-informed and certified in Accelerated Resolution Therapy as well as hypnosis. I also have extensive experience with...2021-10-1130 min