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Your ListenerIs "tough love" compassionate?I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — I appreciate it! Donate at the following link:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSI've often discussed the complexities of telling people what they need to hear. Is it equally as effective in every form, and in every situation?Prefer to listen elsewhere? Find my podcast on your favourite platform here: https://linktr.ee/your.li...2025-07-2713 min
Your ListenerIs being a "kid at heart" ideal for role models?I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — I appreciate it! Donate at the following link:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSWe often hear that being a "kid at heart" is necessary when working with children. But as I explain here, there is a better alternative.Prefer to listen elsewhere? Find my podcast on your favourite platform here: https://linktr.ee/your.li...2025-07-2005 min
Your ListenerThe true secret to motivationI provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — I appreciate it! Donate at the following link:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSYou read the title; are you curious yet?Prefer to listen elsewhere? Find my podcast on your favourite platform here: https://linktr.ee/your.listener.coaching--------------------------------Contact me to discuss ho...2025-07-1303 min
Your ListenerCan we "measure" psychology?I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — I appreciate it! Donate at the following link:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSIs it actually possible for us to measure phenomena such as intelligence and thoughts? I explain the complexities here.Prefer to listen elsewhere? Find my podcast on your favourite platform here: https://linktr.ee/your.listener.coaching...2025-07-0611 min
Your ListenerWe should examine a person's entire context before judging themI provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — I appreciate it! Donate at the following link:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSIt's easy for us to assume that one opinion that a person espouses is sufficient for us to base judgement of their entire set of qualities. But as I explain here, it's not always that simple.Prefer to listen elsewhere? Find my...2025-06-2906 min
Your ListenerThe virtue of independence not often discussedI provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — I appreciate it! Donate at the following link:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSSurely everyone wants to be independent, right? Well, we could be pursuing that more effectively, as I discuss here.Prefer to listen elsewhere? Find my podcast on your favourite platform here: https://linktr.ee/your.listener.coaching...2025-06-2215 min
Your ListenerAm I wrong?I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — I appreciate it! Donate at the following link:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSWhat's one of the most difficult and most important questions that we can ask ourselves?Prefer to listen elsewhere? Find my podcast on your favourite platform here: https://linktr.ee/your.listener.coaching--------------------------------2025-06-1507 min
Your ListenerIs force in communication ever acceptable?I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — I appreciate it! Donate at the following link:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSAs a counsellor, I would always advise people to de-escalate conflicts. But what are the nuances to the matter of whether to be peaceful in communication or to use intellectual force?Prefer to listen elsewhere? Find my podcast on your favourite pl...2025-06-0814 min
Your ListenerIntuition vs. empirical evidence — is it real if we can't observe it?I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — I appreciate it! Donate at the following link:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSShould you always trust your intuition, or be a rigid proponent of rigid scientific evidence? In reality, life is more complicated than choosing between one or the other.Prefer to listen elsewhere? Find my podcast on your favourite platform here: https://li...2025-06-0116 min
Your ListenerConspiracy theories and trusting science — are we too judgemental?I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — I appreciate it! Donate at the following link:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSIt's easy for us to laugh at someone who believes that everything we believe to be true in life is a massive lie designed to fool the human race — but we may not be as informed as we think.Prefer to list...2025-05-2516 min
Your ListenerWhy the drug-free life is bestI provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — I appreciate it! Donate at the following link:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSIt's not news to you that drugs are bad, so why am I preaching it? As I often suggest: if one can no longer be bothered to debate their evaluations, do they still believe in them?Find Paris Le Maistre here: ht...2025-05-1814 min
Your ListenerYour children's academic success, or your success?I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — I appreciate it! Donate at the following link:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSAny good parent wants what's best for their child, but what's best can sometimes be ambiguous. In a world that values success in the form of status, it's easy to assume that high marks at school will set your child on a pursuit of great meaning, ha...2025-05-1120 min
Your ListenerParents, take responsibility! Your children's emotions matterI provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — I appreciate it! Donate at the following link:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSThere are plenty of good parents in the world. But given the importance of children, we must draw attention to harmful parenting practices. We often speak of tending to children's emotions; here, I explain why this is important and how easy it may be to inadvertently ha...2025-05-0432 min
Your ListenerHenry Kaiser and the importance of being yourselfThe irony with society's problem with people who are different is that uniqueness if often what facilitates progress. Here, I discuss Henry Kaiser, an American musician with an incredible philosophy and much to teach us about creativity, and also address those who think that uniqueness is bad — and the effect that attitude may have on our world.Henry Kaiser's interview discussing his childhood: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-kJus_qf2PkWritten interview with Henry Kaiser: https://gtroblq.blogspot.com/2010/10/interview-with-henry-kaiser.htmlEclectic El...2025-04-2717 min
Your ListenerDo we actually need rules?I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — I appreciate it! Donate at the following link:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSRules are just a part of life, right? Well, almost. Here, I discuss the nuances.Prefer to listen elsewhere? Find my podcast on your favourite platform here: https://linktr.ee/your.listener.coaching--------------------------------2025-04-2020 min
Your ListenerArtificial intelligence: Removing humanity from humanity?I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — I appreciate it! Donate at the following link:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSTechnology such as artificial intelligence certainly has the potential to improve aspects of our lives, but there are times at which the "imperfections" of being human are actually better.Prefer to listen elsewhere? Find my podcast on your favourite platform here: ht...2025-04-1319 min
Your Listener"Influencers" and "customer service stars": Have we really invented new ideas?I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — I appreciate it! Donate at the following link:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSPerhaps I'm too irritable, but I tire of society trying to fool its members in to believing that they've invented some profound new ideas by giving familiar ones ridiculous names and unnecessarily complicated definitions. Here, I debunk the mind control tactics.Pr...2025-04-0620 min
Your ListenerThe desperately-needed conversation about parenting with Ebony UamakiIn this episode, I had the pleasure of collaborating with Ebony Uamaki. Ebony is a proud mother, intuitive reader, model, coach, speaker, and disability advocate. Ebony is also blind, and it's a testament to her resilience and wisdom that she has overcome the challenges and stigma associated with disability and stands as an inspiration to all.Raising children will always be perhaps the world's most important job, and it brings joy in to the lives of many. But it also brings with it great responsibilities, including self-regulation, discipline, patience, sacrifice, and empathy. While we...2025-03-311h 42
Eb n Flow PodcastThe desperately-needed conversation about parenting ft John CuturiloIn this episode, I had the pleasure of speaking with John Cuturilo from the Your Listener Podcast about parenting. Raising children will always be perhaps the world's most important job, and it brings joy in to the lives of many. But it also brings with it great responsibilities, including self-regulation, discipline, patience, sacrifice, and empathy. While we may consider becoming a parent to be a natural progression for adults, too many ignore or are unaware of how easy it is to influence their children in undesirable ways that could have consequences for the rest of their adult lives. John...2025-03-311h 44
Your ListenerSome thoughts on ethical business activityI provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — I appreciate it! Donate at the following link:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSI'm adamant that enterprise has great potential to be of benefit to society, but all parties involved need to act in good faith and with consideration for each other. Here, I share some thoughts on this.Prefer to listen elsewhere? Find my...2025-03-2219 minEb n Flow PodcastEbony and John Cuturilo, special episode on Guide Dogs AustraliaWelcome to this special collaborative episode of the Eb n Flow and Your Listener podcast, made especially for the third edition of Podcasthon in 2025. On today’s episode I am joined by John Cuturilo, owner of Your Listener Counselling and host of the Your Listener podcast, in Melbourne Australia. Podcasthon is a global not-for-profit event in which more than a thousand podcast hosts across the world will host an episode dedicated to a charity of their choice, to raise awareness. John and I have the great pleasure of dedicating this episode to Guide Dogs Australia, a charity who, in co...2025-03-1739 min
Your ListenerPodcasthon 2025: Honouring Guide Dogs Australia with Ebony UamakiWelcome to this special collaborative episode of the Your Listener and Eb n Flow podcasts, made especially for the third edition of Podcasthon in 2025. I'm John Cuturilo; I own Your Listener Counselling and host the Your Listener podcast, in Melbourne, Australia. My co-host is Ebony Uamaki; Ebony is a mother, intuitive reader, model, coach, speaker, disability advocate, and host of the Eb n Flow podcast, in Brisbane, Australia.Podcasthon is a global not-for-profit event in which more than a thousand podcast hosts across the world will host an episode dedicated to a charity of...2025-03-1737 min
Your ListenerUnique housekeeping philosophies for a simpler lifeI provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — I appreciate it! Donate at the following link:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSHousekeeping isn't the most exciting topic for most and we often don't give it much thought, but we definitely notice when it's neglected. In reality, anything we do in life can be done with aforethought and conscientiousness, and housekeeping is no different. Here, I share my ph...2025-03-0816 min
Your ListenerAre quality mental health and disability services really accessible?I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — I appreciate it! Donate at the following link:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSWith the proliferation of progressive slogans in favour of vulnerable groups, we like to think that the days of neglecting and abusing mentally ill and disabled individuals are well behind us. While we've improved significantly in our handling of these issues, there is a real concern th...2025-03-0117 min
Your ListenerWhat is the "inner child"?I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — I appreciate it! Donate at the following link:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSDo you actually have an "inner child", or is it just one of those pop psychology tropes? In this episode, I explain the true meaning and utility of this idea.Prefer to listen elsewhere? Find my podcast on your favourite platform he...2025-02-2318 min
Your ListenerWhat do you truly deserve? With Amey Greenaway.In this episode, I had the pleasure of collaborating with Amey Greenaway, host of the podcast Your Honest Ally. Amey discusses life and personal wellbeing to fulfil her calling of helping people to be their best selves. Here, we discuss the concept of what it means to be deserving. We explore how encouraging people to perceive themselves as worthy is an antidote to suppressed self-esteem, and the boundary at which deserving ends and self-entitlement begins. Find Amey's work at the following links:Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cxJI5DvMX5yixZo2Eoaz6?si=pQLxOlLZQjiDHgtpsur86...2025-02-1759 min
Your ListenerThe "good old days" and "times are better" fallaciesI provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — I appreciate it! Donate at the following link:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSIsn't it curious that times were always better in the past, or are better in the present, regardless of the date on which we make the claim? Here's a gentle reminder to be aware of your biases.Prefer to listen elsewhere? Fi...2025-02-0814 min
Your ListenerThe basic principles of respectful disagreementI provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — I appreciate it! Donate at the following link:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSDisagreements are a part of life; do you know how to address them respectfully? I explain how here.Prefer to listen elsewhere? Find my podcast on your favourite platform here: https://linktr.ee/your.listener.coaching...2025-02-0115 min
Your ListenerA reflection on a local community conferenceI provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — I appreciate it! Donate at the following link:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSI was honoured to recently partake in a conference of local community members to contribute ideas on how we could make our environment a better home for all. Here I provide my reflections on the psychology of the group dynamics.Prefer to...2025-01-2504 min
Your ListenerExtreme beliefs: valid grievances under layers of cognitive distortionI provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — I appreciate it! Donate at the following link:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSBelieve it or not, you have much more in common with people with vastly different opinions of the world than you have in contrast. People with extremist or distorted beliefs often start with reasonable needs, just as you may have. Here, I explain how a person ca...2025-01-1822 min
Your ListenerAm I harming you, or are you infringing my rights?I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — I appreciate it! Donate at the following link:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSWhy do people struggle with the concept of letting others act as they wish as long as they aren't causing harm? Here's a brief philosophical experiment on this topic.Prefer to listen elsewhere? Find my podcast on your favourite platform here: ht...2025-01-1111 min
Your Listener"What's in a name?" The real consequences of defining wordsI provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — I appreciate it! Donate at the following link:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSDoes it really matter what words mean? Whether you know it or not, whether you like it or not, much of your thinking is dictated by the meanings of words which we accept. In this episode, I explain the real consequences of defining words and why it...2025-01-0411 min
Your ListenerIs the economy or your spending the problem?I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — I appreciate it! Donate at the following link:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSWe undoubtedly live in troubled economic times, and people are still suffering despite their best efforts to survive financially. But the economy's problems don't mean we can't take responsibility for our spending, which unfortunately I've found is a problem for many. Here, I discuss how we ca...2024-12-2816 min
Your ListenerPrinciples of data backup and archiving which nobody knows...I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — I appreciate it! Donate at the following link:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSIn this episode, I change themes and discuss a topic which affects most of us: digital data. The fact is that most people I've met don't have a sound plan for backup of their data, which seems to be because these principles aren't taught. Here, I di...2024-12-2113 min
Sh*ts F*ckedInnovative Approaches in Psychotherapy with John CuturiloThis week on Sh*ts F*cked, we’re joined by John Cuturilo, an empathetic Aussie life coach, therapist and host of the podcast Your Listener, with a knack for connecting with people on a real, human level. With a Bachelor of Psychological Sciences and years of experience in mental health support, John has made it his mission to help people navigate life’s challenges and find their independence.
John takes us through his journey into psychotherapy and what motivated him to combine traditional therapeutic approaches with life coaching. His practice blends evidence-based methods with a personalised, down-to-earth approach, ditc...2024-12-1755 min
Your ListenerTherapy is a myth, or myths about therapy?I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — I appreciate it! Donate at the following link:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSAny endeavour in life can be done well or not so well, and being a counsellor is no exception. Here, I discuss some of the fallacies both from inside and outside of the helping professions which need to be corrected.Prefer to...2024-12-1421 min
Your ListenerWhy does everyone hate corporations?I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — I appreciate it! Donate at the following link:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSWhat is it about large organisations that has us in constant agitation? While I'm very much in favour of enterprise, we need to think carefully about business practices.Prefer to listen elsewhere? Find my podcast on your favourite platform here: https://li...2024-12-0708 min
Your ListenerCollectivism, individualism, or both?I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — I appreciate it! Donate at the following link:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSIn this episode, I explain what collectivist and individualist cultures are, and how describing a society may not be so simple as referring to one or the other.Prefer to listen elsewhere? Find my podcast on your favourite platform here: https://li...2024-11-3008 min
Your ListenerIs money really the desire at the root of evil?I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — I appreciate it! Donate at the following link:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSWhen faced with a choice, would a greedy person always choose money? Not necessarily.Prefer to listen elsewhere? Find my podcast on your favourite platform here: https://linktr.ee/your.listener.coaching--------------------------------...2024-11-2306 min
Your ListenerThe definitive lesson in politicsI provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — I appreciate it! Donate at the following link:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSWe all seem to freely make fun of politics, without knowing exactly how much we allow ourselves to be affected by it. In this episode, I provide some truths about politics that just don't seem to be spoken, but which we all need to hear....2024-11-1627 min
Your ListenerYour Listener Counselling, and the conversation on life coaching we need to haveI provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — I appreciate it! Donate at the following link:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSWas I ever a life coach? Most likely not! I was always a counsellor. So what's with the terminology? In this episode, I reveal some developments at Your Listener and discuss in depth some ethical concerns about the life coaching industry that desperately need discussing...2024-11-1033 min
Your ListenerIs advice always helpful?I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — it means the world to me! Donate at the following link:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSPeople sometimes consider it irrational that others simply want to be heard when they're in distress rather than receive advice on a simple solution. Here, I explain why you should reconsider that position.Prefer to listen elsewhere? Find my...2024-11-0207 min
Your Listener"It's not a real mental illness?"I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — it means the world to me! Donate at the following link:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSPrefer to listen elsewhere? Find my podcast on your favourite platform here: https://linktr.ee/your.listener.coachingDo you think that depression and anxiety aren't real mental illnesses, but just normal human experiences? Here I dispel the my...2024-10-2618 min
Your ListenerWhy don't I like to "own things"?I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — it means the world to me! Donate at the following link:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSPrefer to listen elsewhere? Find my podcast on your favourite platform here: https://linktr.ee/your.listener.coachingIs it unusual not to desire to own many tangibles or "things"? I give my thoughts here....2024-10-2002 min
Your ListenerWhy don't I smile much?I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — it means the world to me! Donate at the following link:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSPrefer to listen elsewhere? Find my podcast on your favourite platform here: https://linktr.ee/your.listener.coachingA smiling person is always listening to you more effectively and has your best interests in mind, right? Well, not ex...2024-10-1305 min
Your ListenerSome business tips for helping professionalsI provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — it means the world to me! Donate at the following link:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSPrefer to listen elsewhere? Find my podcast on your favourite platform here: https://linktr.ee/your.listener.coachingBusiness practice may not be the most exciting topic for us helping professionals, but it's essential for every business owner. He...2024-10-0614 min
Your ListenerPersonal responsibility in mental illness management with Paris Le MaistreIn this episode, I had the pleasure of speaking with Paris Le Maistre. Paris has an incredible story to tell: overcoming the adversity of trauma, mental illness, and drug addiction, she now operates Sh*ts F*cked, an entire project involving her podcast featuring authentic discussions on addiction and mental health, and an evolving community of people with lived and professional experience making an impact in the field of recovery. Paris' goal is to spread awareness of the broad range of mental health and addiction services available, as well as to advocate for a more holistic treatment paradigm. Here...2024-09-2946 min
Your ListenerSpirituality versus science: Are we so different? With Ebony Uamaki.Are spiritualists just hallucinating? Is living your life by science too rigid? And what exactly is manifesting, and does it have a place in scientific psychology?In this episode, I had the pleasure of collaborating with Ebony Uamaki. Ebony is a proud mother, intuitive reader, model, coach, speaker, and disability advocate. Ebony is also blind, and it's a testament to her resilience and wisdom that she has overcome the challenges and stigma associated with disability and stands as an inspiration to all.Ebony and I travel out of our...2024-09-241h 01Eb n Flow PodcastSpirituality versus science: Are we so different? With John CuturiloAre spiritualists just hallucinating? Is living your life by science too rigid? And what exactly is manifesting, and does it have a place in scientific psychology?In this episode, I had the pleasure of collaborating with Life Coach, John Cuturilo. John and I travel out of our comfort zones in to daring intellectual territory. Society is becoming increasingly polarised and the slightest difference between people is treated as cause for major conflict. With Intuitive Reading being considered a spiritual practice by many, and John’s practice being based in Western science, our respective philosophies of...2024-09-241h 03
Your ListenerIntellectual honesty with Evan ShapiroIn this episode, I collaborate with Evan Shapiro. Evan is an author, digital content creator, media enthusiast, and accidental Buddhist. On Evan's podcast, No Expert But..., he gives short philosophical commentaries on a range of important topics — it's a format so accessible that it may just convert you to philosophical thinking! Evan also co-hosts the radio program Celluloid Dreams on 2SER (107.3) and discusses film culture.Here, we discuss the idea of intellectual honesty and how it's possible make perfectly valid arguments for entirely the wrong reasons.Learn about Evan's wo...2024-09-1557 min
No Expert ButIntellectual HonestyThis episode is a collaboration between the Your Listener and No Expert But podcasts. We discuss intellectual honesty and making arguments with sincere intentions and touch on many ideas and concepts that are related. This conversation is not advisory and if you have any concerns about aspects of your life please seek the help of a professional. Our aim is to explore ideas with an open and non-judgmental approach. We hope you enjoy listening and find ideas that stimulate your conversations and interactions.
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Your ListenerCan we choose to stop being obnoxious on the Internet already?I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — it means the world to me! Donate at the following link:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSIt's obvious, but it bears repeating: being needlessly negative on the Internet is pathetic. Here's my reality-check.Note: no part of this content should be accepted as giving advice of any kind. For advice, please seek professional guidance.2024-09-0804 min
Your ListenerMental illness – you're using the wrong words!I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — it means the world to me! Donate at the following link:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSPeople so often misuse certain mental illness-related words. Here, I explain the true meanings.ReferencesBaby, D. P. (2023). "How Sociopaths and Psychopaths Are Different". In WebMD. https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/psychopath-sociopath-differences...2024-09-0109 min
Your Listener"John, you ask so many questions!"I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — it means the world to me! Donate at the following link:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSLearn more about the excellent work that Coequal does and hear the riveting stories here:https://www.coequal.com.au/People have suggested that I ask a lot of questions, and there's a le...2024-08-2506 min
Your ListenerModern therapy blunders with Simon RinneIn this episode, I had the pleasure of collaborating with Simon Rinne of Mindful Men. Simon is a registered social worker in Queensland, Australia (and his practice is expanding), who is changing the paradigm of psychotherapy. Simon has lived experience of mental illness and uses this to inform his approach. Instead of forcing his clients to work within the confines of a traditional therapy setting and methodologies, he allows the freedom to choose where and how to conduct appointments. As a result, he brings the humanity in to what was traditionally a rather cold and detached phenomenon. He listens...2024-08-1847 min
Your ListenerUsing humour to discuss mental health with Going LocoIn this episode, I welcome guests Georgia Poletti Moulds and Amanda Robinson, hosts of the Going Loco podcast. Georgia and Amanda draw from their personal experiences to discuss mental health in a light-hearted, accessible manner. We discuss the origins of their podcast and the power of humour in discussing such a serious topic. Learn more about Going Loco here:https://www.goinglocopodcast.com/Note: no part of this content should be accepted as giving advice of any kind. For advice, please seek professional guidance.2024-08-1124 min
Your ListenerMaking choices in the dangerous game of life with Prue SulicichIn this episode, I collaborate with Prue Sulicich. Prue is the life coach of Head Coach, a life coaching service helping women to develop their confidence, achieve their goals, and take control of their lives. She also hosts the More Life, Less Drama podcast, on which she discusses personal development. We discuss the importance of existential theory in life, the dangers of idealism, and why there's no escaping personal responsibility and risk in life.Learn more about Prue's work at the following links:https://www.head-coach.com.au/2024-08-0246 min
More Life, Less DramaEpisode 65- The Dangers of Idealism with John CuturiloWelcome to this collaboration with John Cuturilo.
John Cuturilo is the life coach of Your Listener, and host of the podcast of the same name. As a coach, he combines evidence-based strategies with a wealth of personal and professional experience, to comprehensively help people to learn about their minds and make the changes they desire in life. In doing so, he works to combine the best aspects of traditional therapy and contemporary helping professions, while addressing the limitations of both. On his program, he discusses social science and critical thinking.
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Your ListenerCritically analysing racism theories with Richa JoshiIn this episode, I had the pleasure of collaborating with Richa Joshi. Richa owns Dual Nation in Western Australia and provides apparel that shows our pride in our respective heritages as well as our Australian culture. In this same domain, Richa is a life coach specialising in helping ethnically diverse women, and the host of the Same Same But Different podcast, on which she discusses the ideas of race, culture, and ultimately that although we are diverse, we are all human. We discuss the strengths and caveats in applying sociological theories of racism and other forms of oppression, and...2024-07-2856 min
Your ListenerLife values: just how different are men and women? With Mitch LoweIn this episode, I collaborate with Mitch Lowe of Unbreakable Man. Mitch is a coach whose programs and events train men to care for and enhance their physical and mental wellbeing so that they can take control of their lives and develop strength, resilience, confidence, responsibility, and leadership qualities. Mitch also discusses these topics of men's wellbeing on the Unbreakable Man podcast. We discuss how men and women may be both similar and different in terms of the factors that constitute a constructive life and how these factors may develop. Learn more about Mitch's work at the following links:2024-07-2457 min
Your ListenerSelection bias: is the world your enemy, or are you seeking trouble?I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — it means the world to me! Donate at the following link:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSWe often watch the news and, based on just one report of an event or action instigated by a group we we detest, exclaim: "see? This is what this group wants for society! We are being oppressed!" Today, I discuss why you may be...2024-07-2107 min
Your ListenerHow do you talk to people with different beliefs? With Damien StewartIn this episode, I had the great pleasure of speaking with Damien Stewart, the psychologist of Room23 Psychology in Queensland, Australia. We reflect on an article he wrote about conversing with a client who believed in conspiracy theories, and discuss how to best converse with someone when their beliefs radically differ from yours. Find Damien's website and the article below:http://www.room23.com.au/https://psychology.org.au/for-members/publications/inpsych/2023/spring-2023/working-with-the-conspiracy-theory-clientNote: no part of this content should be accepted as...2024-07-1436 min
Your ListenerMental illness, lived experience, and "perfect" therapists: in conversation with Mark BrosnanThank you dearly to Mark Brosnan for a fantastic discussion. Mark is a true warrior in the mental health domain. As well as previously having dedicated almost two decades of his life to caring for the mentally ill, he has been a broadcaster, author, and public speaker, now hosting the Mark Mi Words podcast (formerly Shattered The Podcast). His work sets a standard in honesty and humility in retelling the stories of his own challenges to bring awareness of mental health to the public, and he has had the honour of interviewing countless figures. Given these accolades, I am...2024-07-0942 min
Mark MI wordsMental illness, lived experience and ‘perfect’ therapists | Mark MI WordsJohn Cuturilo is Your Listener, located in Australia. John is an empathic and approachable life coach who helps people to overcome challenges, make changes in their lives, learn about how their minds work, and ultimately become more independent problem-solvers.
John also brings his lived experience into his work which enhances his empathy and understanding of those seeking help.
Check him out at the links below...
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Your ListenerThere's no proxy for competenceI provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — it means the world to me! Donate at the following link:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSWe never seem to notice the mental shortcuts we take in judging if someone is competent.Note: no part of this content should be accepted as giving advice of any kind. For advice, please seek professional guidance.2024-06-3007 min
Your ListenerThe cognitively impaired aren't "behaving badly"I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — it means the world to me! Donate at the following link:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSIndividuals with severe cognitive impairments (such as intellectual disabilities) may display distressing behaviours such as "meltdowns". In this episode, I debunk the misconception that such people are "behaving badly".Note: no part of this content should be accepted as...2024-06-2309 min
Your ListenerFacets of feelings with photographer Jasmine BibbyIn this episode, I had the pleasure of discussing the importance and caveats of emotions with Jasmine Bibby. Jasmine is a professional photographer in Victoria who crafts magnificent boudoir, family, portrait, and wedding imagery — with expansions pending! I came to know Jasmine's work when we studied together some time ago, and she has a natural talent for making you feel at ease in front of the camera and crafting images that empower you. Visit her website for more information:https://www.vividstudios.com.au/Note: no part of this co...2024-06-1650 min
Your ListenerIs academia too verbose?I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — it means the world to me! Donate at the following link:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSAs people largely involved in the creation and communication of important knowledge, should academics be communicating more simply?Note: no part of this content should be accepted as giving advice of any kind. For advice, please seek professional gu...2024-06-0909 min
Your ListenerSome finer points of communicationI provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — it means the world to me! Donate at the following link:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSThere are plenty of materials available about effective communication, but some techniques seem rarely discussed — so in this episode, I explain their importance.Note: no part of this content should be accepted as giving advice of any kind. For...2024-06-0214 min
Your ListenerCognitive-behavioural therapy: a brief critical analysisI provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — it means the world to me! Donate at the following link:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSCognitive-behavioural therapy is a popular psychotherapeutic framework for a variety of reasons, and its implications are broad. But as with any theory, we must continually scrutinise and refine it.Note: no part of this content should be accepted as...2024-05-2607 min
Your ListenerThe problem with theoretical frameworksI provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — it means the world to me! Donate at the following link:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSTheoretical frameworks are essential to how we live life — including in the helping professions. But to use them effectively, we need to be aware of the caveats.Note: no part of this content should be accepted as giving advi...2024-05-1912 min
Your ListenerMy podcast is not life coachingI provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — it means the world to me! Donate at the following link:https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSAre my podcasts just condensed life-coaching services? Certainly not; let me explain why.Note: no part of this content should be accepted as giving advice of any kind. For advice, please seek professional guidance.2024-05-1305 min
Your ListenerWhen we resent the world...I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — it means the world to me! Donate at the link shown below.https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSFeeling resentment at the world and blaming society for problems has considerable caveats. In this episode, I discuss the mechanics of how we externalise responsibility.Note: no part of this content should be accepted as giving advice of...2024-05-0519 min
Your ListenerGender fluidity and dysphoria: let's forget the politicsIn this episode, I had the great privilege to discuss the critical subjects related to gender (including dysphoria, fluidity, mental health, and the health industry) with Ari Kulikov, an astute critical thinker with a wealth of personal experience. With the proliferation of so much rhetoric regarding these topics (which is particularly concerning, given that they relate to people's welfare), this objective discussion was refreshing.Thank you to Ari for your time; everyone could learn something from this discussion.I highly recommend you visit Ari's media pages and enjoy her...2024-04-281h 29
Your ListenerReality isn't subjectiveI provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — it means the world to me! Donate at the link shown below.https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSLet's straighten the facts about the truth — it's not the same as an opinion.Note: no part of this content should be accepted as giving advice of any kind. For advice, please seek professional guidance.2024-04-2215 min
Your ListenerWe need to talk about work culture...I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — it means the world to me! Donate at the link shown below.https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSThe notion of "hard work" has some fallacies associated with it, but we still need to take our attitude toward work seriously. I discuss some concerns in this episode.My video on the slippery slope: https://youtu.be...2024-04-1517 min
Your ListenerFree speech: let's forget the politicsI provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — it means the world to me! Donate at the link shown below.https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSThere's no doubt that free speech is controversial — so as I always maintain, we need to discuss it, with reference to the psychology rather than politics.My video on the slippery slope: https://youtu.be/fqajHsxmHdQ2024-04-0713 min
Your ListenerThe real power of words: will a bird make you racist?I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — it means the world to me! Donate at the link shown below.https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSWhy do people say "words have power"? And can hearing the name of a bird make you racist? Regardless, the level of analysis we do on these issues isn't nearly what it should be. I'll try to change that in this episode....2024-03-3121 min
Your ListenerGhosting: there's not much to itI provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — it means the world to me! Donate at the link shown below.https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSI have to be blunt about ghosting — here's a brief public service announcement.Note: no part of this content should be accepted as giving advice of any kind. For advice, please seek professional guidance.2024-03-2103 min
Your ListenerThe debating lesson everyone needs!I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — it means the world to me! Donate at the link shown below.https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSWhat we often call “debates” aren’t real debates – here’s why!Note: no part of this content should be accepted as giving advice of any kind. For advice, please seek professional guidance.2024-03-1319 min
Your ListenerThe “you don’t have experience” retortI provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — it means the world to me! Donate at the link shown below.https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSIn debates, people often attempt to discredit arguments by claiming that the person making them has no experience. In this episode, I discuss the error in this.Note: no part of this content should be accepted as gi...2024-03-0603 min
Your ListenerWhy isn’t therapy working for me?I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — it means the world to me! Donate at the link shown below.https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSHave you begun undertaking counselling expecting the results to simply happen, only to find you’re not making the progress you wanted? In this episode, I discuss a possible explanation of why this might happen.ReferencesBe...2024-02-2807 min
Your ListenerThe “slippery slope” isn’t a fallacyI provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — it means the world to me! Donate at the link shown below.https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSIn this episode, I explain the psychology of the “slippery slope” and how it is a real phenomenon that could affect us more closely than we realise.Note: no part of this content should be accepted as giving...2024-02-2010 min
Your ListenerThe challenge of saying what they need to hearI provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — it means the world to me! Donate at the link shown below.https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSIt’s not easy to tell someone what they need to hear when we know it’ll upset them, even if we know it’s in their best interests. In this episode, I’ll discuss one of the reasons that speaking difficult truths can...2024-02-1407 min
Your ListenerMental illness: the real phenomenologyI provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — it means the world to me! Donate at the link shown below.https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSMental illness and health are now discussed and publicised more than ever, but there’s still an aspect of the experience and function that psychology seems to neglect. Here, I provide the crucial insight that should never be excluded from the discussion.2024-02-0710 min
Your ListenerDebunking "positive self-talk"I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — it means the world to me! Donate at the link shown below.https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMS“Positive self‑talk” is an idea that has gained great traction in popular culture and media, including in the life coaching domain, but what’s the flaw? In this episode, I propose an alternative.Note: no part of this co...2024-01-3111 min
Your ListenerWhat if all opinions are mistakes (and what can we do about it)?I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — it means the world to me! Donate at the link shown below.https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSWhat if having any opinion risks us making common but significant mistakes, and what if to believe is not to know? Here, I discuss the lesser-known psychology of beliefs, and the mindset that could have negated serious problems in history.2024-01-2924 minYour ListenerReification, mental illness, and the N.D.I.S.: what do the roles mean?I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — it means the world to me! Donate at the link shown below.https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSIs the way that psychology conceptualises mental health always accurate? Could the way we reify be limiting our understanding? In this episode, I continue the discussion from the last episode, but this time exploring whether different mental health roles really do (or sh...2024-01-2918 minYour ListenerReification: what psychology may miss about mental illness and healthI provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — it means the world to me! Donate at the link shown below.https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSIs the way that psychology conceptualises some mental illnesses and mental health always accurate? Could the way we reify be limiting our understanding? In this episode, I define reification, explain its importance in science, and discuss alternative perspectives on mental illness....2024-01-2932 min
Your ListenerLife coaching: what is it actually doing (and can it be different)?I provide my content free of charge. If you enjoy it and want to show your appreciation, please consider making a small donation — it means the world to me! Donate at the link shown below.https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=3LY8DB82U3EMSConsidering a life coach in Australia but wondering what it is that we actually do for your mindset and lifestyle? Here I give a simple explanation of why coaching is sometimes necessary to make changes, and reveal what makes my approach unique....2024-01-2913 min