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growNman168 Choose Your Circle, Shape Your LifeWhat if the quality of your life could change just by choosing who and what you allow into your space? We dive into how to attract the energy you deserve by getting intentional about partners, habits, and daily effort. From the myths of “having fun” to the reality of consequences, we lay out a practical path that helps men step into accountability, protect their peace, and build relationships that actually grow.We unpack how upbringing shapes our language and choices, why the first 25 years are training more than mastery, and how fear used wisely keeps you alive and...
2026-02-1025 mingrowNman163 Why Relationships Fail And How To Fix ThemIf love keeps feeling harder than it should, the fix might not be a new partner or a perfect script—it might be maturity you can train. John pulls back the curtain on the habits that rescued his marriage and reshaped his life: clear communication, daily movement, disciplined diet, and practiced emotional intelligence. This is a straight, practical playbook for anyone ready to stop reacting and start building a relationship that can handle real life.We walk through why clarity beats clever comebacks, how journaling turns noise into insight, and why eight to ten thousand steps can sa...
2026-01-0627 mingrowNmanI am growNman 137 Growth Beyond the Hamster WheelAre you caught in life's hamster wheel? Running endlessly but never truly progressing? In this raw and revealing conversation, I explore what keeps men trapped in cycles of mediocrity and how intentional growth can break these patterns for good.Drawing inspiration from David Banner's perspective about not doing business with unfaithful men, I dive into what true faithfulness actually requires. It's not just about physical loyalty—it's about actively improving your relationship, taking responsibility, and constantly checking if you could be doing more. Most men struggle with faithfulness not because they're inherently untrustworthy, but because they never le...
2025-07-1523 min
Remember to Live with Corean CantyRebuilding a Life: John David Lewis on Fatherhood, Purpose & GrowthWhen John David Lewis found himself alone in Abu Dhabi after his family returned to the US during COVID, everything changed. What seemed like the perfect life abroad became the wake-up call he didn't know he needed.In this deeply personal conversation, I reconnect with my college friend, educator, father, husband, and podcaster, who transformed his separation into the catalyst for intentional living. This is a raw exploration of breaking generational patterns, rebuilding relationships, and discovering that the journey of becoming better never ends.This conversation is for you if you:Feel like you're...
2025-06-111h 02growNmanI am growNman 113Imagine transforming your life not just with grand gestures but through the small, consistent choices you make every day. I, John D, share my personal quest to become a more effective communicator, a dedicated father, and a loving husband. This podcast episode is a heartfelt exploration of my personal growth and the unexpected joys that come with it. Having once been passionate about sports, I now channel that dedication into self-mastery, and I've discovered a profound happiness in learning to appreciate life's moments. Join me as I share my top tips for success, beginning with the foundation of a...
2025-01-2813 mingrowNmanI am growNman 107Ever wondered how your family background shapes your relationships? Join me, John D, as we unpack the intricacies of building strong partnerships, especially for those of us who grew up without solid role models. We'll explore the importance of understanding your partner's upbringing and how it influences their behavior and expectations. By focusing on open communication and setting realistic expectations, we tackle the work it takes to maintain a fulfilling relationship, even when the journey seems challenging. Listen in as I share personal reflections and experiences, emphasizing that the rewards of investing in your relationships can be profoundly rewarding.
2024-12-1714 mingrowNmanI am growNman 106 Embracing Fatherhood: Balancing Discipline, Emotional Well-Being, and Personal GrowthCan a father break free from inherited parenting patterns to foster a nurturing and understanding environment for his children? In this heartfelt episode, I, John B, explore the delicate balance of discipline and emotional well-being in my journey as a father. As a math teacher, I draw from my personal experiences to emphasize the importance of instilling perseverance and a strong work ethic in children. I share candid reflections on the pressures unintentionally placed on my wife when seeking her advice and the challenges of communicating lessons without causing emotional hurt. This episode serves as a raw and honest...
2024-12-1012 mingrowNmanI am growNman 105Embark on a journey with me, John D, as I share an unexpected path to becoming a master communicator by embracing silence. Ever wondered how much you could learn by simply not speaking? Join me as I recount my personal commitment to a week-long vow of silence, a transformative exercise in honing my ability to truly listen. Discover how this experience reshaped my interactions, allowing me to better grasp the nuances of body language, facial expressions, and the rich tapestry of perspectives that we all bring to the table. This episode promises insights into avoiding the pitfalls of unsolicited advice...
2024-12-0313 mingrowNmanI am growNman 105 Embracing Transformative Listening: Cultivating Connection and Personal Growth through Intentional Practice and EmpathyWhat if the secret to better communication lay not in what we say, but in how we listen? Join me, John D, as I embark on an enlightening journey to explore the transformative power of listening, and discover how a "fast from talking" can become a catalyst for deep and meaningful connections. By sharing my personal commitment to paying closer attention to body language, facial expressions, and the art of asking thoughtful questions, I aim to not only reduce unnecessary conflicts but also bring more empathy and understanding into my interactions. Uncover the pitfalls of unsolicited advice and learn...
2024-11-0513 mingrowNmanI am growNman 101: Embracing Authentic Connection: Transforming Relationships Through Intentional Communication and VulnerabilityWhat if mastering communication could transform your relationships and elevate them to new heights? Join me, John D., as I unravel my personal journey of growth and connection, sharing the lessons learned from my time in Abu Dhabi and the disciplined routines of professional athletes. Explore how these experiences, coupled with a period of financial turmoil, led to a profound transformation in my relationship with my wife. By embracing intentional communication and vulnerability, we overcame challenges, learning to protect and understand each other in a deeply authentic way. Discover the concept of becoming a "colorless husband" and how it...
2024-11-0523 mingrowNmanI am growNman 100 Balancing Parent-Teacher Roles: Unlocking Potential Through Communication and Personal GrowthWhat if the key to unlocking your fullest potential as a parent and educator lies in the power of effective communication? Join me, John D, as I navigate the intricate dance between nurturing young minds and personal growth. This episode is a heartfelt exploration of balancing the roles of a parent and teacher, as I share the gratifying—and sometimes challenging—journey of providing opportunities for my children and students without falling into the trap of overprotection. Together, we reflect on the importance of effort and perseverance in reaching one’s goals, highlighting how these values are vital in foster...
2024-10-2910 mingrowNmanI am growNman 99Ever wondered how a simple shift in mindset could transform your life? Join me, John D, as I share how embracing a growth mindset has not only enhanced my personal journey but also deepened my relationships. By breaking my day into segments dedicated to rest, work, and personal development, I've discovered ways to become a better father, husband, and communicator. You'll hear how exchanging bad habits for constructive ones and being receptive to feedback from my wife have played a pivotal role in strengthening our bond and lightening her load. This episode underscores the idea that focusing on self-improvement can...
2024-10-2212 mingrowNmanI am growNman 97Have you ever looked back at your younger years and cringed at the choices you made? That was me, John D, reminiscing about my wild college days in the 90s and the careless path I was on. This episode is a heartfelt reflection on those turbulent times and the wisdom I've gained. From chasing short-lived thrills to realizing the profound importance of meaningful relationships, I share how these experiences have shaped the person and teacher I am today. My wife played a pivotal role in this transformation, showing me what true love looks like and pushing me toward constant self-development...
2024-10-1009 mingrowNmanI am growNman 95Ever wondered how basketball can teach us life lessons beyond the court? Join me, John D, as I unravel the critical role of respect and communication in bridging generational gaps, both in sports and everyday life. This episode takes you through a reflective journey, shedding light on how younger players often overlook the unique challenges faced by their predecessors, who balanced part-time jobs and family responsibilities while aiming for NBA success. Through personal anecdotes and heartfelt examples, I emphasize the importance of using respectful language and open-minded communication to honor the contributions of past athletes, fostering a more harmonious environment.
2024-09-2411 mingrowNmanI am growNman 93Can a classroom truly become a place where students are excited to learn every day? Join me, John D., as I share my thrilling first week as a math teacher at a new school and my mission to build a culture of excellence that captivates my students. You'll learn about my strategies for creating an engaging and supportive learning environment, from addressing bad habits with compassion to encouraging open communication. I'll reveal how I'm working to become my students' favorite teacher by December, not through traditional discipline, but by fostering a sense of understanding and respect.Discover the...
2024-09-1010 mingrowNmanI am growNman 92 Embracing the Rewards of Marriage: Navigating Cultural Complexities and Building Lasting Bonds Through Intentional Growth and CommitmentWhat happens when you grow up in a mixed cultural household and navigate through a series of complicated relationships? Join me, John D, as I recount my personal journey from a tumultuous childhood to finding the profound benefits of marriage. Drawing from my Korean and Black heritage, I reflect on how societal messages and my father’s advice shaped my early views on relationships. You'll hear about the dangerous games I played with women during my college years and the conscious decision I made to marry someone I loved—not because I was initially "in love" with her, but beca...
2024-09-0325 mingrowNmanI am growNman 90How do trust, vulnerability, and effective communication lay the groundwork for thriving relationships? Join me, John D, on "I'm Growing Man" as I unpack these critical aspects, sharing my own life experiences and insights. We'll explore how setting boundaries and preventing misunderstandings can pave the way for mutual growth and genuine connection. Highlighting the dynamics between men and women, we'll delve into the importance of balancing power and building wealth together, all while emphasizing open dialogue and self-awareness as key components for a lasting partnership.From a man's perspective, maturity and consideration can be the game-changers in relationships...
2024-08-2015 mingrowNmanI am growNman 84 Embracing the Essence of Effective Parenting: Crafting Thriving Environments Through Respectful Communication and Responsible DisciplineWhat if you could transform your parenting approach and create a thriving environment for your children? This episode of "I'm Growing Man" with Shemaine and John D is your guide to mastering the essentials of effective parenting. We promise you'll gain invaluable insights into developing a strong relationship with your co-parent, grounded in mutual respect and open communication. Discover how dedicating time to self-improvement in communication skills and understanding your children's perspectives can lead to a more meaningful and engaging relationship with your kids. We'll also highlight the pitfalls of overcompensating with material possessions and how to foster a...
2024-07-0913 mingrowNmanI am growNman 81 Embracing the Art of Open-Minded Communication: Transforming Barriers into Bridges for Personal and Collective GrowthWhat if the key to humanity's progress lies in mastering the art of communication? Join me, John D., as I reflect on nearly five decades of life, dissecting the barriers that hinder our understanding and empathy. We've all grown up in diverse environments that shape our perspectives, but without effective communication, these differences can become walls rather than bridges. In this episode, I share my journey and insights on how listening and allowing others to express themselves can lead to stronger relationships and innovative solutions to our collective problems. I also highlight the importance of being intentional about personal...
2024-06-1817 mingrowNmanI am growNman 78 Embracing the Blueprint of Achievement: Forge Your Path to Purpose with Intention and ActionUnlock the secrets to a life brimming with purpose and satisfaction as I, John D, take you on a journey through the core principles that have shaped my existence. Are you ready to redefine your potential and push the boundaries of what's possible? Our beliefs are the architects of our destiny—explore with me how inherited notions can be transcended by the pursuit of knowledge, setting us on the path to achievements beyond our wildest dreams. Witness the profound influence of health on our drive and capabilities, and discover how the minutiae of daily efforts forge the grand tapestry of...
2024-05-2809 mingrowNmanI am growNman 75Is it possible to respect the Second Amendment while ensuring the safety of our communities? Join me, John D, as we navigate the intricate landscape of gun control, striking a delicate balance between constitutional freedoms and the urgent need to safeguard lives. Together, we dissect the complexities of responsible gun ownership, considering the role of mental health in access to firearms, and the stark realities of self-defense in an age where guns are ever-present. We don't just stop at the problems, though; this episode is a call to action, urging collaboration and conversation to pave a middle path where rights...
2024-05-0714 mingrowNmanI am growNman 70: Embracing the Symphony of Growth: Nurturing the Next Generation and the Intertwined Paths of Communication and Self-ImprovementAs dawn breaks on a tranquil Saturday morning, I, John D, invite you to join me for an introspective odyssey into the essence of personal growth and the art of communication. Today's discourse begins as I share lessons from guiding youngsters through the labyrinth of adolescence, revealing the profound impact adults have on shaping their future. We traverse the significance of fostering a growth-oriented mindset and the art of listening—a skill paramount for creating genuine connections. This episode is a heartfelt narrative about the importance of being a sanctuary for the next generation, the intricate dance of parental in...
2024-04-0217 mingrowNmanI am growNman 64, Reflecting on the Transformative Odyssey of Fatherhood: From Self-Confrontation to Nurturing BondsWhen my voice boomed a little too loudly during a family game night, it wasn't the clatter of the dice that brought the room to silence, but the echo of my past—a reflection of the father I once feared becoming. Join me, John D, as I unfold the layers of my parenting journey, a path lined with trials, transformations, and invaluable lessons learned beside my son on the archery range. Fatherhood is an expedition that has reshaped my very being, from recognizing the sting of jealousy over my wife's natural rapport with our son to the hard-won understanding th...
2024-02-2019 mingrowNmanI am growNman 59: Embracing the Journey of Self-Improvement: Reflections on Personal Responsibility, Parental Influence, and Transforming EducationAs I sat down to record this episode, I couldn't help but be transported back to a time when personal growth was just a fanciful concept, not the core of my being. Join me, John D, as I share the poignant revelations and experiences that have shaped my journey toward daily self-improvement. We traverse the landscape of self-responsibility and the tempting traps of ease and shortcuts, while also unraveling the significant influence of a well-managed diet on both our mental and physical states. But it doesn't end at self-care—this conversation extends into the profound realm of parenthood, where be...
2024-01-1620 mingrowNmanI am growNman 57: Dancing Through Life's Roles: An Intimate Look at Family, Friendships, and the Quest for Self-ImprovementStepping into the roles life assigns us isn't always a graceful dance. Today, I, John D, pull back the curtain on the soul-searching pas de deux between fulfilling familial expectations and nurturing personal ambitions. With raw honesty, I recount the trials of being a son, brother, and father, while teasing apart the complex threads that stitch our family bonds together. But it's not just bloodlines that define our kin; I explore the friendships that become our chosen families and how they shift and grow as we do. It's a journey through the challenges of maintaining these connections, all while...
2024-01-0217 mingrowNmanI am growNman 55: Navigating the Labyrinth of Relationships: A Deep Dive into Personal Growth, the Power of Supportive Partners, and Creating a Fulfilling Relationship Future We journey through the contours of past relationships, unearthing the societal influences that shaped our actions, and the transformative lessons we learned along the way. Ever pondered over 'the one that got away'? John D spins a riveting tale of this elusive character, who turned out to be his current partner – a testament to perspective and transformation.Navigate the labyrinth of relationships as we shift the spotlight onto my marriage. Witness the power of a supportive partner and how she's been the catalyst in my evolution. But, maintaining this healthy bond takes more than a few 'I lov...
2023-12-1924 min