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Create The Love Podcast#005: Why We Run From Love—and How to Stop with John Kim and Vanessa BennettIn this solo episode, I sit down with real-life couple and therapists Jon Kim and Vanessa Bennett to unpack the messy, beautiful reality of modern relationships. From rocky beginnings and one-foot-out-the-door moments to learning how to see beauty in our differences, we explore what it takes to truly do life with someone—not at or around them. We talk about avoidant tendencies, attachment triggers, and how old wounds show up in conflict, all while keeping it raw, real, and deeply human. Whether you’re single, dating, or deep in partnership, this episode will have you reflecting hard and laughing a li...2025-04-2908 min
Sex With EmilyHow to Be a Better Partner w/ John Kim & Vanessa BennettDating as an adult is exhausting. While experience comes with age, actually applying that experience is easier said than done…even for professionals. With me today are two therapy professionals who also happen to be partners: John Kim and Vanessa Bennett. Their book “It’s Not Me, It’s You” offers an anecdotal road map of how to “relationship better,” from overcoming commitment issues, to fanning the sex flames, to breaking the blame cycle. John and Vanessa expertly dissect their own relationship to inspire us to create healthy bonds with the people we love. Listen to learn why “the one” i...2025-03-1155 min
The Authentic Creative: expanding our capacity to feel goodGetting Real with Yourself with Vanessa BennettAfter years climbing the corporate ladder in New York City, Vanessa Bennett realized something was missing. Driven by a desire for deeper fulfillment, she began a journey of self-discovery through psychotherapy, yoga, and meditation—ultimately uncovering her passion for helping others thrive. Today, Vanessa is a holistic psychotherapist, author, and co-host of the Cheaper Than Therapy podcast, blending her expertise in Depth Psychology with a relatable, down-to-earth approach to personal growth and authentic connection.In this episode, Vanessa shares her powerful story of transformation—leaving the corporate grind to pursue a purpose-driven life—and the lessons she’s learne...2024-11-251h 09
Tune In: Bond to Bloom#109 - 3 Tips For Great Communication!Discover how to improve your communication and build stronger connections with expert tips from therapists John Kim and Vanessa Bennett. This episode explores breaking free from miscommunication and truly understanding your partner. Learn simple, practical techniques to help you stay calm during challenging conversations, actively listen, and make sure your partner feels seen and heard. With real-life stories and helpful advice, this episode will help you communicate better, reduce conflict, and create deeper, more meaningful relationships. Tune in and transform how you connect with the people who matter most.I trust you found this episode enlightening and...2024-10-1418 min
The Angry Therapist PodcastCodependency Series: Intro to Codepenecy & Self QuizIn the first episode of The Codependency Series, Vanessa Bennett discusses the concept of codependency and explains that codependency is not limited to romantic relationships but extends to all types of relationships. She explores the connection between codependency and attachment, provides a quiz to help participants assess their own codependent tendencies, and more.Follow Vanessa on Instagram HEREFind out more about Vanessa HEREFollow John on Instagram HEREFind out more about John HERE Learn more about your ad choices...2024-09-2018 minThe Angry Therapist PodcastHow To Create Inner Sanctuary with Vanessa Bennett and Taune LyonsToday, John, Vanessa, and Taune explore the idea of sourcing safety within ourselves and how it affects our relationships and overall well-being.They also emphasize how building a sanctuary within is a lifelong journey that requires compassion, curiosity, and a willingness to explore our experiences, and much more. Use the discount code SANCTUARY to get $200 off of Vanessa and Tune's upcoming retreat "Finding Sanctuary Within: Embodied Awareness Retreat" September 27th-29th HEREFollow John on Instagram HEREFind out more about John HERE Learn...2024-08-2332 min
The Louise Fitzgerald PodcastImprove your relationships by understanding yourself betterIn this week's episode I talk about your relationship to others.Romantic, friendships, families and even with your boss...Understanding yourself better improves your relationships.When you're more self-aware you will be more empathetic, and shifting your own energy has a positive flow on effect.Communication is the key skill we need for all relationships, and being able to articulate who we are, what we need, and the interplay we're having with another person will only improve it.I also touch on attachment styles. I recommend two books:2024-08-1911 min
Our DiagnonsenseJohn Kim and Vanessa BennettIn this insightful episode of the OurDiagnonsense podcast, we welcome special guests John Kim and Vanessa Bennett. John and Vanessa, both renowned relationship therapists and authors, join us to delve into the intricacies of their own relationship and share valuable advice on how to cultivate healthier, more fulfilling relationships.2024-07-3128 minOur DiagnonsenseJohn Kim and Vanessa BennettIn this insightful episode of the OurDiagnonsense podcast, we welcome special guests John Kim and Vanessa Bennett. John and Vanessa, both renowned relationship therapists and authors, join us to delve into the intricacies of their own relationship and share valuable advice on how to cultivate healthier, more fulfilling relationships.2024-07-3128 min
Passion Struck with John R. MilesMonica Berg on How to Learn From Mistakes and Move Forward EP 473In this episode of Passion Struck, host John R. Miles interviews Monica Berg, a renowned spiritual thought leader and relationship expert. Monica emphasizes challenging perceptions and illusions in relationships and personal growth. She discusses the power of empathy and small acts of kindness, the importance of addressing relationship red flags, and the dangers of a consumer mentality in modern relationships. Monica underscores self-awareness and self-improvement as keys to healthy relationships. Her insights focus on overcoming personal limitations, rethinking perceptions, and building lasting connections through empathy and self-reflection.Order a copy of my book, "Passion Struck: Twelve Powerful...2024-06-2753 min
Let's Talk Love | A Real Love Ready PodcastA Sneak Peek into In Bloom 2024Join us for a special episode of Let’s Talk Love, as host John Kim moderates a panel discussion featuring six speakers from the upcoming In Bloom Summit, alongside Real Love Ready founder, Robin Ducharme.Discover the perspectives of John Kim, Vanessa Bennett, Todd Baratz, Shaun Galanos, Dr. Jody Carrington, and Dené Logan as they offer diverse viewpoints on love and relationships. Together, they tackle questions submitted by listeners, exploring topics such as effectively communicating needs to avoidant partners and distinguishing between peace and boredom in relationships.This episode offers a sneak peek into the tho...2024-04-0840 minThe Angry Therapist PodcastIn Bloom Panel: Answering Your Love & Relationship QuestionsIn this exciting episode, John hosts a panel with the speakers for the upcoming In Bloom: A Love and Relationships Summit. They talk about everything love and relationships including artificial intimacy, sex as a cultural and relational issue, emotional availability, and the practice of interdependence. The conversation also touches on communication in relationships, the challenges of navigating different attachment styles, the importance of understanding and empathy in relationships, rather than labeling and blaming, and much more.In Bloom: A Love and Relationships SummitApril 12-14, 2024Fairmont Waterfront Hotel, Vancouver BC...2024-04-0841 min
The Angry Therapist PodcastHow To Relationship Better with Vanessa Bennett
In this episode, John and Vanessa discuss various aspects of relationships and provide insights and strategies for building healthier connections. They draw from their personal experiences as licensed marriage and family therapists and individuals who have been in multiple relationships. They also cover topics such as codependency, loving without past baggage, attachment styles and love languages, fighting without fighting, and creating new experiences in relationships. Want to dive more into these topics as a couple? John and Vanessa are hosting an in person couples retreat in Idyllwild, CA April 19-21st! You can find more information...2024-02-2623 min
The Angry Therapist PodcastHow Do I Know When I Should Trust and When I Shouldn't?
In this episode, John Kim and Vanessa Bennett discuss the topic of trust and self-worth in relationships. They explore the connection between insecurity and trust issues, emphasizing the importance of developing a strong relationship with oneself. They also discuss the role of external validation and the process of building self-worth through personal experiences and setting boundaries. Roughly ten minutes of self help in a shot glass. If you're looking for a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place. Marriage family therapist and best-selling author, John Kim, shares his life and love revelations as well as i...2023-12-2226 min
The Angry Therapist PodcastRedefining Love & Relationships with Vanessa Bennett
In this episode, John talks with his partner, Vanessa Bennett, about their relationship and recent engagement. They both do a deep dive on relationship stereotypes, and how they both have redefined what love and relationships mean to them. They also talk about their past struggles, fears, feelings of doubts, and how they pushed through the breakers and stayed together when things felt tough. Roughly ten minutes of self help in a shot glass. If you're looking for a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place. Marriage family therapist and best-selling author, John Kim, shares his l...2023-11-2451 min
The Next Big Idea Daily"It's Not Me, It's You: Break the Blame Cycle. Relationship Better" by John Kim & Vanessa BennettJohn Kim and Vanessa Bennett are marriage therapists. They are also partners. Today, they tell us how analyzing their own relationship helped them untangle the common barriers many individuals face on the road to a happy, loving, rewarding partnership.• Subscribe to our newsletter• Download our app• Join our club (code DAILY gets you 10% off)2023-11-0311 min
LIVE BOLDLY with SaraTransparent talk with Partners The Angry Therapist, John Kim and therapist Vanessa BennettJohn Kim, The Angry Therapist and his partner, Vanessa Bennett talk with Sara about relationships, the book they wrote together, sex, and life. John, LMFT, is a published writer, speaker, host of his popular podcast, The Angry Therapist Podcast, and co-founder of Lumia–Life Coach Training and Community.Vanessa Bennett, LMFT is an author, holistic psychotherapist, and codependency expert. Her therapeutic approach integrates years of study and practice in Depth, Buddhist, and Yoga Psychology. She co-hosts the Cheaper Than Therapy Podcast, leads soul-based retreats and workshops, and creates and facilitates curriculum for non-profit and corpo...2023-09-1352 min
The Human Upgrade: Biohacking for Longevity & PerformanceHow to Drop Happily Ever After and Do Relationships Better! – John Kim, LMFTIN THIS EPISODE OF THE HUMAN UPGRADE you’ll learn how to recognize your own sh*t and be a better partner in relationships. Want a sustainable partnership? Communicate and apologize; fight without fighting; identify codependent behavior (your own); and manage jealousy (also your own). This conversation gets into how you can let go of unrealistic ideals of how you think love and relationships should be and live fully in the present. You’ll also get tips on how to be emotionally responsible to people you love every day.Guest John Kim, a licens...2023-08-0844 min
Live Through Love with Ruben RojasIs the World of Therapy Broken? And the Journey of Both Liking and Loving Yourself with John Kim and Vanessa BennettThis episode is brought to you by Caldera Lab. Save 20% with code RUBEN on your new favorite skincare line with a 60-day guarantee. Licensed Therapists Vanessa Bennett and John Kim (aka the Angry Therapist) are changing the narratives around therapy, self-love, personal responsibility, and relationships. The pair speaks candidly about the tumultuous journey of liking and loving yourself, as well as how expensive and broken the therapy system is, yet how vital it is to our collective wellness. They also uncover the root of cancel culture, how opinions are being weaponized, and what you should...2023-06-281h 09
With WhitTimmy & I Talk Fighting, Confrontation, & Accountability with Couples TherapistsI'm back with part 2 of our conversation with therapists and couple Vanessa Bennett and John Kim. In this episode, we continue with their thoughts on taking breaks from fights and confronting your partner about annoyances. Additionally, we discussed codependency, abandonment issues, personal accountability, and more! John is a licensed therapist and author whose journey started with divorce and healing from a broken heart. Through helping others, he found his voice and fell in love with talking about love. Vanessa is also a licensed therapist and author. Her goal is to make therapists feel accessible. To show that they are not...2023-05-0237 min
Incessantly SeekingEP 35: STANDARDS or DEAL BREAKERS with Therapist and Author Vanessa BennettIn this epsiode therapist and author Vanessa Bennett and I discuss what standards are, red flags and how we show people how we want to be loved by how we love ourselves. Vanessa Bennet is the author of IT'S NOT ME IT'S YOU which she narrates the audio version with her life partner and co-author John Kim also known as the angry therapist on instagram. Whatever version of the book you choose please make sure to do the exercises at the end of each chapter because they will create shifts and help you get insight on your inne...2023-04-2538 minIncessantly SeekingEP 35: STANDARDS or DEAL BREAKERS with Therapist and Author Vanessa BennettIn this epsiode therapist and author Vanessa Bennett and I discuss what standards are, red flags and how we show people how we want to be loved by how we love ourselves. Vanessa Bennet is the author of IT'S NOT ME IT'S YOU which she narrates the audio version with her life partner and co-author John Kim also known as the angry therapist on instagram. Whatever version of the book you choose please make sure to do the exercises at the end of each chapter because they will create shifts and help you get insight on your inne...2023-04-2538 minWith WhitTimmy & I Talk to Couple’s Therapists Vanessa Bennett & John KimMy husband, Timmy, and I talked to therapists and couple Vanessa Bennett and John Kim. We learned so much about attachment styles, love languages, the fantasy of finding the one, fighting productively, codependency, personal accountability, and so so much more. This is going to be one part of two! John is a licensed therapist and author whose journey started with divorce and healing from a broken heart. Through helping others, he found his voice and fell in love with talking about love. Vanessa is also a licensed therapist and author. Her goal is to make therapists feel accessible. To...2023-04-2534 minIncessantly SeekingEP 31: We are ALL Codependent - With Therapist and Author Vanessa BennettIn this episode is a juicy one! We discuss codependency while traveling through ADDICTION, RESENTMENT, BOUNDARIES and whether we should block someone. Vanessa Bennet is the author of IT'S NOT ME IT'S YOU which she narrates the audio version with her life partner and co-author John Kim also known as the angry therapist on instagram. Whatever version of the book you choose please make sure to do the exercises at the end of each chapter because they will create shifts and help you get insight on your inner life. This book did that for me so I hi...2023-03-2144 minIncessantly SeekingEP 31: We are ALL Codependent - With Therapist and Author Vanessa BennettIn this episode is a juicy one! We discuss codependency while traveling through ADDICTION, RESENTMENT, BOUNDARIES and whether we should block someone. Vanessa Bennet is the author of IT'S NOT ME IT'S YOU which she narrates the audio version with her life partner and co-author John Kim also known as the angry therapist on instagram. Whatever version of the book you choose please make sure to do the exercises at the end of each chapter because they will create shifts and help you get insight on your inner life. This book did that for me so I hi...2023-03-2144 min
PAC Talk with Pieter VoddenAuthor and Therapist Vanessa Bennett on Fitness, Therapy, and Introspection.This week I sit down with therapist, author, mother and entrepreneur Vanessa Bennett. We talk about her road to therapy, finding meaning, the relationship between fitness and mental health, the importance of being physical with your partner, juggling parenthood and business, her book “It’s Not You, It’s Me” (co written with John Kim) and her retreat work. You can find Vanessa on Instagram @vanessabennett and her book is available at all good book places. She puts out a lot of great content! Enjoy. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.2023-03-1358 min
Let's Talk Love | A Real Love Ready PodcastJohn Kim & Vanessa Bennett - Real Skills for Better RelationshipsWelcome to a very special episode of Let's Talk Love! In this episode, Robin is in conversation with two relationship experts, John Kim and Vanessa Bennett. John and Vanessa are not only therapists but also partners and co-authors of a fantastic book titled, It's Not Me, It's You: Break The Blame Cycle. Relationship Better. John and Vanessa generously share their personal stories, experiences working with clients, and practical skills to help you navigate your own relationships in a healthier and more fulfilling way. We highly recommend reading their book and tuning in to this podcast to gain valuable tools...2023-03-0246 min
The Puck: Venture Capital and BeyondEpisode 55: Vanessa Bennett - Host of Cheaper Than Therapy & It's Not Me, It's YouOn this week’s episode, Jim sits down with Vanessa Bennett – author, holistic psychotherapist, facilitator, and podcast host – as the two discuss mental health in the digital age. Bennett and her partner John Kim recently published the book It’s Not Me, It’s You, about breaking the blame cycle and strengthening relationships, and have also released an accompanying podcast series.
Vanessa and Jim then talk about how Vanessa built her business from the ground up, the positive sides of media, spirituality, and where she thinks the puck is going.2023-01-1754 min
The Man Enough PodcastBuild Stronger Relationships with John Kim & Vanessa BennettJohn Kim (aka "The Angry Therapist") and Vanessa Bennet are world-class relationship therapists, podcast hosts, bestselling authors AND life partners. The couple joins Jamey, Liz and guest host Andy Grammer for a vulnerable and eye-opening conversation about the messy work of relationships. John and Vanessa break down red flags in dating, therapy for men, how to set healthy boundaries for yourself and others, tapping into masculine & feminine energy, and how to navigate mismatched desires within couples.Plus, don't miss a sneak peek of an unreleased song from Andy at the end. New episodes ev...2023-01-091h 21
Sex With EmilyThe Hottest Episodes of 2022As the year comes to an end, what are the biggest revelations you’ve had when it comes to pleasure? What is something new you’ve learned that has redefined your sex life - now and in the new year? To answer this, I turned to you - the Sex With Emily community - for a roundup of the best of the best. From oral secrets to solo sex, your sex language and your sex fantasies, these are some of my favorite moments from the episodes you listened to the most this year. Consider this your end of year send o...2022-12-3045 min
Passion Struck with John R. MilesJohn Kim and Vanessa Bennett on How to Find Love That Lasts EP 230Today on Passion Struck, I interview family therapists John Kim and Vanessa Bennett, who reveal the honest truth about why it's so hard to find love and the keys to creating a lasting relationship. We discuss their new book: It's Not Me, It's You: Break the Blame Cycle. Relationship Better.
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What I Discuss with John Kim and Vanessa Bennett About Finding Love That Lasts.
After years of failed relationships, John and Vanessa have learned some hard lessons about love. In this candid interview...2022-12-2053 minPAC Talk with Pieter VoddenJohn Kim - The Complex Definitions of Modern Masculinity - Episode 88This week I sit down with John Kim /Aka The Angry Therapist. We talk about his new book “It’s Not Me It’s You” which is his 5th published work, co-written with his partner Vanessa Bennett. We consider our journeys, our similarities, and differences, juggling family and entrepreneurship as well as the complex definitions of modern masculinity and our roles as fathers. John is an old friend so this was fun, after an hour we had only touched the surface so more to come soon! Enjoy Connect with John, Piet, and PharosJohn's Ins...2022-12-111h 08The Angry Therapist PodcastWhat is Self Abandonment?
In this episode, John is joined by Vanessa Bennett and Dene Logan to talk about self abandonment: what is it and what it looks like in your relationships.Roughly ten minutes of self help in a shot glass. If you're looking for a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place. Marriage family therapist and best selling author, John Kim, shares his life and love revelations as well as insights from his sessions. He pulls the curtain back and documents his journey as a therapist but more importantly, as a human being. 2022-12-0533 min
Directionally ChallengedRelationship Status: It’s Not Me, It's You w/ John Kim and Vanessa BennettKayla is joined by relationship therapists and real-life couple, John Kim (LMFT), and Vanessa Bennett (LMFT), to discuss their book, “It's Not Me, It's You,” where they analyze their own relationship as a way to offer advice and guidance to others’ relationships. And yes, fighting is normal! Follow John & VanessaJohn’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theangrytherapistVanessa’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vanessasbennettCheck out their book: https://www.amazon.com/Its-Not-Me-You-Relationship-ebook/dp/B09N8NYMB1Follow Us:Instagram: www.instagram.com/candicekayla/ Twitter: www.twitter.com/CandiceKayla Website: www.candicekay...2022-10-3147 min