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John Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastQuiet The Sentry WithinEver feel your heart race over a vague email, a late text, or a headline that won’t let go? We explore how to calm that inner sentry—the amygdala—so it protects rather than panics, blending practical neuroscience with rooted Christian faith to build everyday resilience. John opens with a vivid Fort Bragg night watch story to illustrate why your brain is wired for alarms and how negativity bias makes bad news sticky while letting good moments slide away.From there, we unpack why uncertainty fuels worst-case thinking and how modern doomscrolling keeps the alarm blaring. Then w...
2026-02-0813 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastQuiet The Sentry WithinEver feel your heart race over a vague email, a late text, or a headline that won’t let go? We explore how to calm that inner sentry—the amygdala—so it protects rather than panics, blending practical neuroscience with rooted Christian faith to build everyday resilience. John opens with a vivid Fort Bragg night watch story to illustrate why your brain is wired for alarms and how negativity bias makes bad news sticky while letting good moments slide away.From there, we unpack why uncertainty fuels worst-case thinking and how modern doomscrolling keeps the alarm blaring. Then w...
2026-02-0813 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastFour Practical Ways To Protect Your Marriage During The HolidaysHoliday plans look perfect on paper—until the calendar crowds out connection. We unpack a simple, human blueprint for navigating December without sacrificing your marriage: turn toward each other in small, daily ways, share the load with clarity, offer real encouragement, and build margin so you can breathe. Along the way, John shares a lighthearted story about Christmas lights, unspoken expectations, and how a quick conversation can shift the mood of the whole house.We start with the power of tiny rituals: five minutes on the couch, a quiet morning coffee, a short prayer or devotional that re...
2025-12-1508 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastFour Practical Ways To Protect Your Marriage During The HolidaysHoliday plans look perfect on paper—until the calendar crowds out connection. We unpack a simple, human blueprint for navigating December without sacrificing your marriage: turn toward each other in small, daily ways, share the load with clarity, offer real encouragement, and build margin so you can breathe. Along the way, John shares a lighthearted story about Christmas lights, unspoken expectations, and how a quick conversation can shift the mood of the whole house.We start with the power of tiny rituals: five minutes on the couch, a quiet morning coffee, a short prayer or devotional that re...
2025-12-1508 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastErica Kirk’s Grace: Resilience After TragedyWhat does real forgiveness look like when the wound is still fresh? We open with the powerful moment at Charlie Kirk’s memorial and the courageous grace Erica Kirk offered to the person responsible for his death. Her choice isn’t framed as perfection or passivity—it’s a living example of how faith, scripture, and daily practice can turn a crushing burden into resilient strength. That moment becomes our springboard to examine how bitterness settles in, why it steals peace, and how a clear path forward can loosen its grip one honest decision at a time.We explo...
2025-10-0310 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastErica Kirk’s Grace: Resilience After TragedyWhat does real forgiveness look like when the wound is still fresh? We open with the powerful moment at Charlie Kirk’s memorial and the courageous grace Erica Kirk offered to the person responsible for his death. Her choice isn’t framed as perfection or passivity—it’s a living example of how faith, scripture, and daily practice can turn a crushing burden into resilient strength. That moment becomes our springboard to examine how bitterness settles in, why it steals peace, and how a clear path forward can loosen its grip one honest decision at a time.We explo...
2025-10-0310 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastEmbracing the Messy Reality: 7 Ways to Enjoy Summer Break Without Going CrazyAh, summer break—that magical time when parental fantasies of peaceful days collide with the chaotic reality of kids declaring "I'm bored" every fifteen minutes. If you're already feeling the summer strain, this episode delivers the perfect blend of practical wisdom and reassuring humor to help you navigate these sun-soaked months without losing your sanity.We dive into seven refreshingly honest strategies that transform summer parenting from overwhelming to enjoyable. First, we explore why abandoning those picture-perfect expectations might be your most liberating summer decision. Your backyard sprinkler may not be a resort water feature, but it ca...
2025-06-2510 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastEmbracing the Messy Reality: 7 Ways to Enjoy Summer Break Without Going CrazyAh, summer break—that magical time when parental fantasies of peaceful days collide with the chaotic reality of kids declaring "I'm bored" every fifteen minutes. If you're already feeling the summer strain, this episode delivers the perfect blend of practical wisdom and reassuring humor to help you navigate these sun-soaked months without losing your sanity.We dive into seven refreshingly honest strategies that transform summer parenting from overwhelming to enjoyable. First, we explore why abandoning those picture-perfect expectations might be your most liberating summer decision. Your backyard sprinkler may not be a resort water feature, but it ca...
2025-06-2510 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastBattling the Shadows: Christians and Depression Pt # 1Depression doesn't discriminate—even among the faithful. Exploring the often-taboo intersection of Christianity and depression, this episode tackles the persistent question many believers struggle with: Can a Christian experience depression?The answer is a resounding yes. Drawing from scripture, professional experience, and personal struggle, I unpack how approximately 7.6 million Christians in America silently battle depression while facing the added burden of stigma within their faith communities. This stigma creates a painful paradox where those who most need support feel unable to seek it without judgment or shame.Depression manifests across multiple dimensions of human experience. Co...
2025-04-2612 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastBattling the Shadows: Christians and Depression Pt # 1Depression doesn't discriminate—even among the faithful. Exploring the often-taboo intersection of Christianity and depression, this episode tackles the persistent question many believers struggle with: Can a Christian experience depression?The answer is a resounding yes. Drawing from scripture, professional experience, and personal struggle, I unpack how approximately 7.6 million Christians in America silently battle depression while facing the added burden of stigma within their faith communities. This stigma creates a painful paradox where those who most need support feel unable to seek it without judgment or shame.Depression manifests across multiple dimensions of human experience. Co...
2025-04-2612 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastThe Christian's Guide to Developing a Growth Mindset: 10 Practical Steps to Transform Your LifeWhat colors paint your mental landscape? Are they vibrant and life-giving, or dull and limiting? In this thought-provoking exploration of mindset, John Thurman weaves ancient wisdom and modern psychological research to offer a uniquely Christian perspective on personal growth and transformation.Drawing from the profound words of Marcus Aurelius that "your soul takes on the color of your thoughts," alongside biblical warnings against double-mindedness, Thurman creates a compelling case for developing what psychologist Dr. Carol Dweck calls a "growth mindset." He contrasts the limitations of a fixed mindset—believing talents and abilities are static—with the liberating pers...
2025-03-3014 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastThe Christian's Guide to Developing a Growth Mindset: 10 Practical Steps to Transform Your LifeWhat colors paint your mental landscape? Are they vibrant and life-giving, or dull and limiting? In this thought-provoking exploration of mindset, John Thurman weaves ancient wisdom and modern psychological research to offer a uniquely Christian perspective on personal growth and transformation.Drawing from the profound words of Marcus Aurelius that "your soul takes on the color of your thoughts," alongside biblical warnings against double-mindedness, Thurman creates a compelling case for developing what psychologist Dr. Carol Dweck calls a "growth mindset." He contrasts the limitations of a fixed mindset—believing talents and abilities are static—with the liberating pers...
2025-03-3014 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastRewiring Your Brain for Growth Pt # 1We explore how understanding brain function can unlock a growth mindset and enhance spiritual resilience, beginning with five brain basics that affect our thinking patterns.• Our brains are naturally negative with a "negativity bias" that makes us Velcro for bad experiences and Teflon for good ones• The brain constantly scans for danger, which helps survival but can create unnecessary anxiety• Worry becomes habitual when we allow our brains to amplify stress and focus on what could go wrong• Our minds dislike uncertainty and fill in knowledge gaps with assumptions based on past experiences• We crave p...
2025-03-0711 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastRewiring Your Brain for Growth Pt # 1We explore how understanding brain function can unlock a growth mindset and enhance spiritual resilience, beginning with five brain basics that affect our thinking patterns.• Our brains are naturally negative with a "negativity bias" that makes us Velcro for bad experiences and Teflon for good ones• The brain constantly scans for danger, which helps survival but can create unnecessary anxiety• Worry becomes habitual when we allow our brains to amplify stress and focus on what could go wrong• Our minds dislike uncertainty and fill in knowledge gaps with assumptions based on past experiences• We crave p...
2025-03-0711 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastDebunking Marriage Myths for a Stronger Relationship, Part # 2 2025 UpdateDiscover how debunking common myths can breathe new life into your marriage. Join me, John Thurman, as we tackle the widespread misconception that thriving relationships hinge on shared interests. It's not about forcing hobbies but about meaningful engagement with your partner. We also shed light on the idea that a peaceful relationship is inherently superior, revealing how well-managed arguments can actually foster growth and communication. Lastly, find out why venting every emotion unchecked might not be as healthy as it seems; instead, learn ways to express feelings constructively.This episode promises a fresh perspective on building resilient...
2025-01-2410 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastDebunking Marriage Myths for a Stronger Relationship, Part # 2 2025 UpdateDiscover how debunking common myths can breathe new life into your marriage. Join me, John Thurman, as we tackle the widespread misconception that thriving relationships hinge on shared interests. It's not about forcing hobbies but about meaningful engagement with your partner. We also shed light on the idea that a peaceful relationship is inherently superior, revealing how well-managed arguments can actually foster growth and communication. Lastly, find out why venting every emotion unchecked might not be as healthy as it seems; instead, learn ways to express feelings constructively.This episode promises a fresh perspective on building resilient...
2025-01-2410 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastHow to Fight with Your Spouse: 10 Proven Tips for Fighting Fair - 2025 UpdateUnlock the secrets to fighting fairly in your marriage and learn how to communicate effectively with your partner. Join me, John Thurman, as I share ten proven tips to help you and your spouse handle conflicts constructively. Drawing from over five decades of marriage and insights from Dr. John Gottman's research, we tackle the common pitfalls in relationships where conflicts are recurrent and often unsolvable. Learn how to keep disputes private, prioritize solvable issues, and protect your children from emotional harm while building a more resilient and loving partnership. Ever wonder why specific phrases can escalate an...
2025-01-2315 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastHow to Fight with Your Spouse: 10 Proven Tips for Fighting Fair - 2025 UpdateUnlock the secrets to fighting fairly in your marriage and learn how to communicate effectively with your partner. Join me, John Thurman, as I share ten proven tips to help you and your spouse handle conflicts constructively. Drawing from over five decades of marriage and insights from Dr. John Gottman's research, we tackle the common pitfalls in relationships where conflicts are recurrent and often unsolvable. Learn how to keep disputes private, prioritize solvable issues, and protect your children from emotional harm while building a more resilient and loving partnership. Ever wonder why specific phrases can escalate an...
2025-01-2315 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastRevitalizing Intimacy: Unlocking the 10 Secrets to a Thriving MarriageWe explore practical strategies to enhance intimacy in marriage, discussing the importance of trust, communication, and connection. Couples can reignite their passion and strengthen their bond with ten actionable tips. • Understanding the reality of no-sex marriages • The essential role of communication in intimacy • Importance of giving full attention • Acknowledging and encouraging positive attributes • Being assertive without being critical • Avoiding the critique trap in conversations • Listening to understand rather than judge • Practicing active listening techniques • Skipping the blame game and taking mutual responsibility • Managing conflict effectively • Seeking help when needed and knowin...
2025-01-2014 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastDebunking Marriage Myths: Building Resilient and Enduring Love Pt 1Can you imagine what your marriage would look like if you stopped believing in relationship myths that only hold you back? Join me, John Thurman, as we unravel some of the most pervasive misconceptions that could be affecting your relationship dynamics. In this episode, I debunk three common myths about marriage, including the idea that genuinely understanding your spouse is a one-time achievement and that perfect romance is a constant in significant relationships. We'll explore how cultural narratives, generational influences, and social media shape these myths while sharing how embracing differences can fortify your partnership. You'll gain practical insights...
2025-01-1915 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastDebunking Marriage Myths: Building Resilient and Enduring Love Pt 1Can you imagine what your marriage would look like if you stopped believing in relationship myths that only hold you back? Join me, John Thurman, as we unravel some of the most pervasive misconceptions that could be affecting your relationship dynamics. In this episode, I debunk three common myths about marriage, including the idea that genuinely understanding your spouse is a one-time achievement and that perfect romance is a constant in significant relationships. We'll explore how cultural narratives, generational influences, and social media shape these myths while sharing how embracing differences can fortify your partnership. You'll gain practical insights...
2025-01-1915 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastA New Year, a Stronger Faith: Resolutions with PurposestopWhat Makes Resolutions Work?Have you ever noticed how easy it is to make resolutions but how tough it can be to keep them? According to one survey, 23% of people will quit their resolution by the end of the first week, and 43% will quit by the end of January. Why does this happen? One reason is that people fail to connect their goals to a more profound sense of purpose. By linking your resolutions to our faith, we are more likely to make them happen. When you and I view our resolutions through the lens of faith, we...
2024-12-3014 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastHow to Forge a More Resilient FaithDo you ever struggle with your faith? I have, and after you read How to Forge a Resilient Faith, you will have additional tools in your faith toolbox.Here are the Six Principles of a Resilient Faith:The First Principle of How to Forge a Resilient Faith is to Demonstrate Active Optimism or a Vibrant Faith.The Second Principle of How to Forge a Resilient Faith is Taking Decisive ActionThe Third Principle of How to Forge a Resilient Faith is to be Guided by God’s WordThe Fourth Principle of How to Forge a Resilient Faith is...
2024-10-2412 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastUnderstanding the Power of Focus in Your LifeOne of the questions I ask many clients is, “What is your purpose or mission in life?”The inquiry usually leads to a pause, and they often say, “I’ve never been asked that question before.” If they have a church background, they say something like, “To love and serve God” or “To get married and raise a family.” But for the most part, they lack a personal mission statement or a clearly defined purpose. They usually need more focus, and a specific point to aim for.Focus is essential to living an intentional life because it allows...
2023-05-1110 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastUnderstanding the Power of Focus in Your LifeOne of the questions I ask many clients is, “What is your purpose or mission in life?”The inquiry usually leads to a pause, and they often say, “I’ve never been asked that question before.” If they have a church background, they say something like, “To love and serve God” or “To get married and raise a family.” But for the most part, they lack a personal mission statement or a clearly defined purpose. They usually need more focus, and a specific point to aim for.Focus is essential to living an intentional life because it allows...
2023-05-1110 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastFive Ways to Improve Your Relationship Watch out for anger.Get closer to your partner. Be creative in finding ways to support your partner and grow your relationship.Integrate fun, special days into your routine.For Guys only - get off the couch and engage with your wife.By the way, be sure to download my 21 Ways to Improve Your Marriage ebook.Here is a link to the entire article.Let John know what you think!Be sure to check out my website Facebook Link Tactical Prayer Guide Link!
2023-05-0809 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith Shortcast4 Proven Tips to Develop Strong Kids and TeensHere are the 4 Tips - Be sure to check out the entire article to learn the right way to encourage your kids.Tip# 1 - Model ResilienceTip# 2 - Raise a Problem SolverTip# 4 - Praise Your Child Purposefully and IntentionallyTip# 4- Set the Pace, be the Example because these life skills are more caught than taught.Let John know what you think!Be sure to check out my website Facebook Link Tactical Prayer Guide Link!
2023-04-2013 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastSeven Ways to Help Your Kids be Strong and Resilient Part 2In the last episode, I discussed 4 points:1. We need to help our children become treasure hunters and not trash collectors.2. We want to teach and model optimism to our kids, and show them how being made in God's image can make a positive difference in the world.3. You and I want to encourage our kids to do their best and to achieve what they can while helping others.4. We want to remind them that failure is not final, only an opportunity to learn and do better.In part two, of this episode...
2023-04-0813 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastSeven Ways to Help Your Child be Strong and Resilient Pt 1Point # 1There are two basic types of people in the world—those who edify and build up and those who detract and tear down. Choose to be the former. One of our goals as caring adults is to teach our kids that the best way to develop a happy, intentional, successful life is through their achievements and contributions toward the betterment of others. Point # 2We have to teach our kids to be optimists and believe that as individuals created in the image of God, they have the creative power to make a difference in this wor...
2023-03-2410 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastIs it Teen Moodiness or DepressionA recent Pew Research study has shown that 76% of parents are concerned about their children’s mental health, particularly depression, and anxiety. This is a worrying figure, as it indicates that many parents are unaware of the signs and symptoms of depression in their children. Parents need to understand how to recognize if their child is depressed or suicidal so that they can get the help they need.In mid-February, numerous news outlets reported an alarming number of teens are feeling depressed and suicidal, and teen girls are at the highest riskAccording to a...
2023-02-2311 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastHow to Overcome Old Wounds with ResilienceResistanceResistance is essentially stress inoculation. It refers to the ability of an individual, group, organization, or even an entire population to resist manifestations of clinical distress, impairment, or dysfunction associated with critical incidents, terrorism, and even mass disasters. Resistance is a form of psychological/behavioral immunity to distress and dysfunction.ResilienceThe second is resilience. According to Dr. George Bonanno, resilience is a naturally-occurring tool most people have always had in their psychological lockers, which is enhanced or weakened by experience and circumstances. In a nutshell, resilience is the power to overcome adversity...
2023-02-1314 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastHow to Overcome Old Wounds with ResilienceResistanceResistance is essentially stress inoculation. It refers to the ability of an individual, group, organization, or even an entire population to resist manifestations of clinical distress, impairment, or dysfunction associated with critical incidents, terrorism, and even mass disasters. Resistance is a form of psychological/behavioral immunity to distress and dysfunction.ResilienceThe second is resilience. According to Dr. George Bonanno, resilience is a naturally-occurring tool most people have always had in their psychological lockers, which is enhanced or weakened by experience and circumstances. In a nutshell, resilience is the power to overcome adversity...
2023-02-1314 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastHow to Deal with Old Wounds: A Biblical Perspective Pt 1Every one of us has been injured by life. How to Deal with Old Wounds: A Biblical Perspective is the first of a three-part series to give you some tools to help you become more resilient as you work through life’s challenges with the Lord’s help.Four Reasons Men Don’t Deal with WoundsThere are several reasons but in this article, I will focus on four common reasons that men struggle with their wounds.First, culture has trained us to believe that real men don’t cry....
2023-01-2515 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastHow to Grow as a Man of Faith Pt #2There are three final stages in How to Grow as a Man of Faith Pt 2: the Lover Stage, the King Stage, and the Sage Stage.The Lover StageThe lover needs the warrior to act decisively and restrain his passions.The lover stage (the 20s to 30s) is the awakening of the heart. This could manifest as a love of poetry, nature, music…and eventually romance.This is the stage in which men learn how to love themselves by loving others. It can also deepen your awareness of how you are cr...
2023-01-1713 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastHow to Grow as a Man of Faith Pt # 1How to Grow as a Man of Faith Pt # 1: The first three stages.When I was a child, I spoke and thought and reasoned as a child. But when I grew up, I put away childish things. 1 Corinthians 13:11 NLTTo grow as a man of faith, you must understand the stages of masculine development. This is the first part of a series that will show you a map as you continue your journey.A man of faith is someone with a sense of purpose. He knows he has a life mission and understands what i...
2023-01-0616 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastHow to Grow as a Man of Faith Pt # 1How to Grow as a Man of Faith Pt # 1: The first three stages.When I was a child, I spoke and thought and reasoned as a child. But when I grew up, I put away childish things. 1 Corinthians 13:11 NLTTo grow as a man of faith, you must understand the stages of masculine development. This is the first part of a series that will show you a map as you continue your journey.A man of faith is someone with a sense of purpose. He knows he has a life mission and understands what i...
2023-01-0616 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastFour Ways You Can Keep Your New Year's ResolutionsHere are the Four Ways:1. What are the results you are seeking?2. What measurable actions are you going to take?3. What is Your timeline?4. What is your motivation for doing this?Here is a link to the entire article.Let John know what you think!Be sure to check out my website Facebook Link Tactical Prayer Guide Link!
2022-12-2710 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastHow to Demonstrate Gratitude as a Man this ThanksgivingHere is a link to the blog;Happy Thanksgiving!Let John know what you think!Be sure to check out my website Facebook Link Tactical Prayer Guide Link!
2022-11-2305 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastHow to be a Faith-Filled Man in Today's World Pt 2This is the second in the How to be a Man of Faith in Today’s World series, where we will examine the second half of Dr. Jordan Peterson’s 12 Rules of Life as well as some important scriptural concepts to remember as you and I seek to be the men God has called us to be.Summary:7. Pursue what is meaningful (not what is expedient).8. Tell the truth. Or at least don’t lie. 9. Assume the person you are listening to knows something you don’t. 10. ...
2022-11-1612 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastHow to Be A Man of Faith in 2022 Pt 1There was a time in recent history when masculinity came with a clear purpose of being a provider-protector (e.g., warrior, contributor, sole breadwinner). Many of us grew up imprinted that men are designed to serve. We are to serve our family, church, the Lord, community, and nation. We were raised with a sense of mission and a sense of purpose. Today, according to Warren Farrell (The Boy Crisis 2018), “Many men are experiencing a purpose void.” Young and old alike seem to be wandering through life without a sense of mission. Due to multiple factors that, for the s...
2022-11-1013 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastHow to Be A Man of Faith in 2022 Pt 1There was a time in recent history when masculinity came with a clear purpose of being a provider-protector (e.g., warrior, contributor, sole breadwinner). Many of us grew up imprinted that men are designed to serve. We are to serve our family, church, the Lord, community, and nation. We were raised with a sense of mission and a sense of purpose. Today, according to Warren Farrell (The Boy Crisis 2018), “Many men are experiencing a purpose void.” Young and old alike seem to be wandering through life without a sense of mission. Due to multiple factors that, for the s...
2022-11-1013 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastLaughter-A Better Way to Respond in These Negative Times.Laughter is a powerful tool that can have long-term positive effects on your health. It can improve your mood, relieve pain and infuse you with hope. Laughter has the power to enhance your autoimmune system and decrease the risk of heart disease. It can also reduce stress and anxiety, help with depression, lower blood pressure, and increase the production of endorphins which make you happy.Benefits of Laughter:It connects you with othersIt can smooth out differencesIt strengthens and promotes resilienceIt increases energy and helps your body relaxI can refresh your perspectiveIt increases productivityHere...
2022-10-2611 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastLaughter-A Better Way to Respond in These Negative Times.Laughter is a powerful tool that can have long-term positive effects on your health. It can improve your mood, relieve pain and infuse you with hope. Laughter has the power to enhance your autoimmune system and decrease the risk of heart disease. It can also reduce stress and anxiety, help with depression, lower blood pressure, and increase the production of endorphins which make you happy.Benefits of Laughter:It connects you with othersIt can smooth out differencesIt strengthens and promotes resilienceIt increases energy and helps your body relaxI can refresh your perspectiveIt increases productivityHere...
2022-10-2611 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastHow to be a Better Dad Using Faith-Friendly ToolsIn this episode, you will be able to identify your "Dad style" and learn how to be a better dad using Faith-Friendly Tools.Dad TypesThe Distant or Passive DadThe Angry, Abusive DadThe Inconsistent DadThe Dependent DadThe Overindulging DadThe Balanced and Engaged DadThe Eight Traits of a Growing Christian DadThey are learning how to love their wife and kidsThey are learning to lead their familiesThey are working on being better communicatorsThey provide for their familiesThey actively pursue wisdom and insight on becoming a better man and family leader. They provide age-appropriate correction a...
2022-10-0416 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastThe Importance of Having a Man in the HouseWhy Dads Are Important1. School Achievement. Grades are better when dd is around.2. The 3 Rs. The more involved his dad is, the more significant the boy's increase in verbal intelligence and the better both boys' and girls' math and quantitative abilities are.3. School Dropout Rates. The more years children spend with no or minimal father involvement, the fewer years of school they complete.4. Employment. While boys from two-parent homes are two times more likely to be employed as young adults.5. Suicide. Living in a home with...
2022-09-0708 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastHow to Overcome Anxiety Before It Overtakes YouAccording to the March 1-3, Harris Poll, the annual “Stress in America” survey found that more American adults rated inflation and the Russia-Ukraine situation as major stressors than any other issue in the poll’s entire 15-year history.American adults reported feeling emotionally overwhelmed and fatigued, with 87% agreeing it “feels like there has been a constant stream of crises without a break for the past two years.”What is the Antidote?Gratitude is the thankful appreciation of things received, whether tangible or intangible. It helps you and me connect with something outside ourselves...
2022-07-1411 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith Shortcast9 Great Ways to Enhance Your Listening SkillsHere are four critical justifications for listening to your wife’s input to accept her influence.1. Her insights will most likely give you increased clarity. Women generally are more mindful of details, intuitive concerning the feelings of others, and may be in tune with certain unique aspects of a given situation. Her particular views might add a refreshing richness and depth to your perspective.2. Accepting her influence will enhance your wisdom. I honestly wished I’d caught on to this early in our marriage. The Old Testament book of Proverbs is fill...
2022-06-3010 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith Shortcast9 Great Ways to Enhance Your Listening SkillsHere are four critical justifications for listening to your wife’s input to accept her influence.1. Her insights will most likely give you increased clarity. Women generally are more mindful of details, intuitive concerning the feelings of others, and may be in tune with certain unique aspects of a given situation. Her particular views might add a refreshing richness and depth to your perspective.2. Accepting her influence will enhance your wisdom. I honestly wished I’d caught on to this early in our marriage. The Old Testament book of Proverbs is fill...
2022-06-3010 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith Shortcast5 Ways to Enrich Your Communication with Your WifeThe ability to accept your spouse’s influence means that you welcome and respect your spouse’s thoughts, ideas, impressions, insights, and feelings. Doing this allows them to help you make decisions that impact you, your family, and your relationship.When you accept their influence, you acknowledge that your spouse has a valid point of view and that you value it. It demonstrates that you are open-minded and welcome the valuable insight they bring to the marriage. Accepting their advice and influence demonstrates that they are essential, and their input is important, even when we disagree....
2022-06-2312 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith Shortcast5 Ways to Enrich Your Communication with Your WifeThe ability to accept your spouse’s influence means that you welcome and respect your spouse’s thoughts, ideas, impressions, insights, and feelings. Doing this allows them to help you make decisions that impact you, your family, and your relationship.When you accept their influence, you acknowledge that your spouse has a valid point of view and that you value it. It demonstrates that you are open-minded and welcome the valuable insight they bring to the marriage. Accepting their advice and influence demonstrates that they are essential, and their input is important, even when we disagree....
2022-06-2312 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith Shortcast5 Ways to Enrich Your Communication with Your Wife or GirlfriendThe ability to accept your spouse’s influence means that you welcome and respect your spouse’s thoughts, ideas, impressions, insights, and feelings. Doing this allows them to help you make decisions that impact you, your family, and your relationship.When you accept their influence, you acknowledge that your spouse has a valid point of view and that you value it. It demonstrates that you are open-minded and welcome the valuable insight they bring to the marriage. Accepting their advice and influence demonstrates that they are essential, and their input is important, even when we disagree.Befo...
2022-06-2312 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith Shortcast4 Easy Ways to Show Respect for Your Husband Respect His judgmentShow Respect for His AbilitiesBe Respectful in CommunicationDemonstrate Respect in PublicHere is the link to the entire article.To receive Dr. John Gottman's free resource: How to Build Fondness and Admiration in YOur Relationship just text the word ADMIRE to 33777. Give us your email and we will send you this relationship enriching pdf.Let John know what you think!Be sure to check out my website Facebook Link Tactical Prayer Guide Link!
2022-06-0910 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith Shortcast4 Easy Ways to Show Respect for Your Husband Respect His judgmentShow Respect for His AbilitiesBe Respectful in CommunicationDemonstrate Respect in PublicHere is the link to the entire article.To receive Dr. John Gottman's free resource: How to Build Fondness and Admiration in YOur Relationship just text the word ADMIRE to 33777. Give us your email and we will send you this relationship enriching pdf.Let John know what you think!Be sure to check out my website Facebook Link Tactical Prayer Guide Link!
2022-06-0910 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith Shortcast12 Simple Ways to Encourage Your Wife (or girlfriend)First, love her, honor her, and respect her. The vows used for centuries have stood the test of time because they are correct.Second, be sexually and emotionally faithful to her.Third, listen to her without being judgmental.Fourth, be as attentive, fun-loving, and adoring as you were during courtship or close to It.Fifth, be more affectionate.Sixth, support and nurture her ambitions in and outside the home.Seventh, try to understand...
2022-06-0214 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith Shortcast12 Simple Ways to Encourage Your Wife (or girlfriend)First, love her, honor her, and respect her. The vows used for centuries have stood the test of time because they are correct.Second, be sexually and emotionally faithful to her.Third, listen to her without being judgmental.Fourth, be as attentive, fun-loving, and adoring as you were during courtship or close to It.Fifth, be more affectionate.Sixth, support and nurture her ambitions in and outside the home.Seventh, try to understand...
2022-06-0214 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastDo You Know the 6 Needs of a Happy Wife?One of the keys to having a resilient, long-lasting marriage is to do what you can to make sure your wife feels good about your relationship.Do you know the 6 needs of a happy wife?1. Women need love.2. Women are emotional.3. Women want security.4. She doesn’t want you to fix it; she just wants you to listen.5. “She doesn’t want much sex” does not mean “She must not want me.”6. She wants to look attractive.Click here for the entire article
2022-04-1210 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastDo You Know the 6 Needs of a Happy Wife?One of the keys to having a resilient, long-lasting marriage is to do what you can to make sure your wife feels good about your relationship.Do you know the 6 needs of a happy wife?1. Women need love.2. Women are emotional.3. Women want security.4. She doesn’t want you to fix it; she just wants you to listen.5. “She doesn’t want much sex” does not mean “She must not want me.”6. She wants to look attractive.Click here for the entire article
2022-04-1210 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastSolving the Mystery of MarriageMarriage is many things, but it is not a Hallmark movie. Whatever romantic notions we might have, real-life always involves more than an hour and a half of easily-resolved conflicts amid harvest festivals or Christmas baking contests. Marriage is both glorious and challenging. A marriage can be a place of burning passion, extreme joy, and strength, and it can also be blood, sweat, and tears. There are seasons of humbling defeats and exhilarating victories. I should know—my wife and I cross the 50th Anniversary mark this August!Let’s face it, very few movies or tele...
2022-04-0411 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastSimple Tools You Can Use to Lower Stress and AnxietyAmericans are facing epic shifts in inflation and an unprecedented rise in gas prices!Researchers with the American Psychological Association report an 80% increase in stress and anxiety due to the current worldwide crisis with the Russian unfounded invasion of Ukraine.The Scriptures teach us to "cast all of our fear and anxiety on the Lord." 1 Peter 5:7In today's show, I reveal how to reframe FEAR and Anxiety by using a proven method that comes from my Cognitive Behavior Therapy training and finding ways to blend biblical principles with modern psychology. So much of our a...
2022-03-1412 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith Shortcast3 Ways to Overcome the Dragons of Fear and Anxiety3 Ways to Overcome the Dragons of Fear and AnxietyChange Your Perspective On Fear Fear is only harmful if you think it is. Fear is a natural process that, if left unchecked, will cause us to live timid, restricted lives. Truthfully, in life, there is zero growth without risk. So instead of pushing back fear as an all-consuming, nerve-racking experience, see it as an adventure, a journey that will take you out of your comfort zone and into a whole new life, bringing a sense of joy and adventure. If you have ever c...
2022-03-0815 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith Shortcast3 Ways to Overcome the Dragons of Fear and Anxiety3 Ways to Overcome the Dragons of Fear and AnxietyChange Your Perspective On Fear Fear is only harmful if you think it is. Fear is a natural process that, if left unchecked, will cause us to live timid, restricted lives. Truthfully, in life, there is zero growth without risk. So instead of pushing back fear as an all-consuming, nerve-racking experience, see it as an adventure, a journey that will take you out of your comfort zone and into a whole new life, bringing a sense of joy and adventure. If you have ever c...
2022-03-0815 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastEnrich Your Life with Self-CareThe Rise of Anxiety and Depression in AdultsThe rates of depression and anxiety among U.S. adults skyrocketed alarmingly to about four times higher between April 2020 and August 2021 from 2019.Anxiety: 7.4-8.6%, January-December 2019 28.2-37.2%, April 2020-August 2021[i]Depression: 5.9-7.5%, January-December 2019 20.2-31.1%, April 2020-August 2022[ii]While this article is primarily concerned with adults, there are some sobering statistics about young people as well. Take a minute to read these articles about how you can help kids: Talking to Kids About the Coronavirus published by Focus on the Family.Young People Hit Hardest By Loneli...
2022-02-2814 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastHow to Enhance Your Relationship this Valentines DayWith Valentine’s just around the corner I wanted to talk about one of the most important aspects of a relationship and that is that real lovers appreciate the differences between themselves and their partners. Dr. John Gottman’s research shows that the way to have a resilient relationship is to turn towards each other.Differences are part of what initially draws us to our partners. Have you ever noticed how a talkative, engaging extrovert could be attracted to a quiet, reflective introvert? How about someone cautious being drawn to someone filled with confidence?While this is t...
2022-02-0710 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastHow to Enhance Your Relationship this Valentines DayWith Valentine’s just around the corner I wanted to talk about one of the most important aspects of a relationship and that is that real lovers appreciate the differences between themselves and their partners. Dr. John Gottman’s research shows that the way to have a resilient relationship is to turn towards each other.Differences are part of what initially draws us to our partners. Have you ever noticed how a talkative, engaging extrovert could be attracted to a quiet, reflective introvert? How about someone cautious being drawn to someone filled with confidence?While this is t...
2022-02-0710 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastHow to Use the Goldilocks Method to Stay Motivated.Does the name Steve Martin ring a bell? Performer, comedian, movie star, Saturday Night Live Alum, respected banjo player, father, husband, and author of autobiography Born Standing Up. (By the way, if you are looking for a great read, I highly recommend it.) Read the ArticleHere is a general idea of where the magic is.If a person believes there is a reasonable chance of making their dream happen and they have a sincere desire to make it happen, three things occur:1. Their focus becomes very narrow.2. Distractions begin to fade as...
2022-01-2110 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastHow to Use the Goldilocks Method to Stay Motivated.Does the name Steve Martin ring a bell? Performer, comedian, movie star, Saturday Night Live Alum, respected banjo player, father, husband, and author of autobiography Born Standing Up. (By the way, if you are looking for a great read, I highly recommend it.) Read the ArticleHere is a general idea of where the magic is.If a person believes there is a reasonable chance of making their dream happen and they have a sincere desire to make it happen, three things occur:1. Their focus becomes very narrow.2. Distractions begin to fade as...
2022-01-2110 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastHow to Make Your Thinking Work For You in 2022Sobering Facts About ThoughtsHere are some fascinating statistics from a study done in 2020.According to this insightful study, humans average around 6,200 thoughts a day, and they tend to be on the negative side for most of us. No wonder you and I seem to be in a constant state of dealing with damaging “thought worms!”I love the way Tommy Newberry puts it in his book, The 4:8 Principle.“The secret conversations you hold in the privacy of your own mind are shaping your destiny, little by lit...
2022-01-1609 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastWhy New Year’s Resolutions Fail: How to Succeed with YoursWhy do New Year’s Resolutions fail? Mainly, because they are only a statement, or what we wish for in the coming year. There are usually no action plans, no deadlines, no backup plans. Sometimes they are unrealistic resolutions, with no other thought or plans besides the statement.3 Reasons they fail:First, we need to get our thinking right before we can experience enduring change.Second, we fail to have a structure—a pathway with some built-in accountability—to keep us focused and intentional.Third, we are...
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John Thurman's Resilient Faith Shortcast3 Free Gifts to Give to Your SpouseLet John know what you think!Be sure to check out my website Facebook Link Tactical Prayer Guide Link!
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John Thurman's Resilient Faith Shortcast10 Tips For Dealing with Grief and Loss During the Holidays10 Ways to Cope with Holiday Grief*Note: Because grief is intensely personal and unique, you may or may not experience any of these. If you feel that your grief is manifesting in a different way or that you need to talk to someone, then don’t delay.1. Be prepared for some sad moments or memories. You don’t need to be looking for them, but when and if they show up, give them the time you need to process them.2. If you are worried about having too much time...
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John Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastHow to Avoid the 4 Joy Stealers of the HolidaysArtwork by Holly Warren Muthard Joy Stealing Trap #1 - BitternessJoy Stealing Trap #4 - PerfectionismJoy Stealing Trap #4 - ShameJoy Stealing Trap #4 - AnxietyHere is a link to the article: How to Avoid the 4 Joy Stealers of the Holidays Let John know what you think!Be sure to check out my website Facebook Link Tactical Prayer Guide Link!
2021-12-0711 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith Shortcast5 Proven Ways to Boost Your Gratitude this ThanksgivingHere are the 5 ways: Jot down your joysCount blessing instead of sheepStop and SavorSmileGiveHere is a link to the articlejohn@johnthurman.info505-343-2011Let John know what you think!Be sure to check out my website Facebook Link Tactical Prayer Guide Link!
2021-11-2310 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith Shortcast5 Proven Ways to Boost Your Gratitude this ThanksgivingHere are the 5 ways: Jot down your joysCount blessing instead of sheepStop and SavorSmileGiveHere is a link to the articlejohn@johnthurman.info505-343-2011Let John know what you think!Be sure to check out my website Facebook Link Tactical Prayer Guide Link!
2021-11-2310 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastThanksgiving 2021: A Time for Genuine Gratitude Part 1Here are nine benefits of actively expressing gratitude.Thankfulness will boost your immune system helping your body fight off infection.Gratitude significantly lowers your risk of causing or amplifying mental health issues.A thankful attitude strengthens you when you are under stress.A grateful heart develops your personal resilience and helps you flourish when others fail.Gratefulness strengthens social bonds.Extending grace to others makes you more likable.Living a life of gratitude helps you sleep better.Having an attitude of gratitude amplifies positive self-esteem.Gratitude elevates your spiritual insights.Next week, the week of Thanksgiving I...
2021-11-1609 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith Shortcast25 Practical Ways to Lower Your Stress Today!While we cannot make all anxiety and stress go away, we can do some practical things to Reduce Stress, Resist anxiety, and Build Resilience.With that in mind, here are 25 Practical Ways to Lower Your Stress Today!Here is a link to the article.Let John know what you think!Be sure to check out my website Facebook Link Tactical Prayer Guide Link!
2021-11-1013 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastHow to Lower Covid Stress Using Ancient PracticesA more recent survey by the U.S. Census Bureau, taken from May 26 through June 7, 2021, revealed that nearly three out of ten adults in the U.S. (28.8%) reported anxiety or depressive disorder symptoms in the past seven days. However, the percentage is almost 60% for those with a disability.The survey shows that 20.6% of U.S. adults took prescription medication for mental health, and 9.5% received counseling or therapy in the last four weeks.But there is hope. Later in this piece, I will give you some tools to lower the toxic impact of the accumulated stress...
2021-11-0213 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastHow to Lower Covid Stress Using Ancient PracticesA more recent survey by the U.S. Census Bureau, taken from May 26 through June 7, 2021, revealed that nearly three out of ten adults in the U.S. (28.8%) reported anxiety or depressive disorder symptoms in the past seven days. However, the percentage is almost 60% for those with a disability.The survey shows that 20.6% of U.S. adults took prescription medication for mental health, and 9.5% received counseling or therapy in the last four weeks.But there is hope. Later in this piece, I will give you some tools to lower the toxic impact of the accumulated stress...
2021-11-0213 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastLighten Up! 6 Benefits of Humor in Your Marriage with HumorHumor and lightheartedness can dramatically improve both your mental and physical health, but did you know it can significantly enhance your marriage.Here are six things that humor can do for your relationship.1. Links you to others. 2. Helps smooth over differences.3. Develops resilience.4. Increases energy and relaxes at the same time.5. Renews perspective. 6. Increases creativity. Here is the link to Lighten Up! 6 Benefits of Humor in Your MarriageFo...
2021-10-1912 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith ShortcastLighten Up! 6 Benefits of Humor in Your Marriage with HumorHumor and lightheartedness can dramatically improve both your mental and physical health, but did you know it can significantly enhance your marriage.Here are six things that humor can do for your relationship.1. Links you to others. 2. Helps smooth over differences.3. Develops resilience.4. Increases energy and relaxes at the same time.5. Renews perspective. 6. Increases creativity. Here is the link to Lighten Up! 6 Benefits of Humor in Your MarriageFo...
2021-10-1912 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith Shortcast10 Quick, Proven Ways to Reduce Marital Stress and ConflictMarital Conflict is Inevitable. But Marital Combat is Optional.The key to any fight is to maintain control. No, not of the other person. Control of yourself. You do not have the right to be immature, childish, or abusive. On the other hand, if you have legitimate feelings and issues, you are absolutely entitled to give a reasonable voice to those feelings in a constructive way. (That includes not being self-righteous or taking yourself too seriously.)Here are 10 things you can do to Reduce Stress and Conflict in Your Marriage.1. Make it...
2021-10-1210 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith Shortcast10 Quick, Proven Ways to Reduce Marital Stress and ConflictMarital Conflict is Inevitable. But Marital Combat is Optional.The key to any fight is to maintain control. No, not of the other person. Control of yourself. You do not have the right to be immature, childish, or abusive. On the other hand, if you have legitimate feelings and issues, you are absolutely entitled to give a reasonable voice to those feelings in a constructive way. (That includes not being self-righteous or taking yourself too seriously.)Here are 10 things you can do to Reduce Stress and Conflict in Your Marriage.1. Make it...
2021-10-1210 minJohn Thurman's Resilient Faith Shortcast9 Ways to Solve Relationship ProblemsDid you know that 69% of your problems as a couple are unsolvable!Here are the 3 types of problems couples face:1. Solvable ones2. Perpetual, unsolvable ones3, Corrosive, gridlocked onesHere are 9 Ways to Solve Relationship Problems1. Awareness — work on conversations about your solvable, unsolvable, and possible gridlock problems.2. Keep an open mind as the two of you look consider the types of problems couples face.3. Please DO NOT try to change the other...
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