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So You’re Living In A SimulationSoul Enemies and Temporal Jellyfish: Why the “Soulmate” Idea Might Be a Trap | ft @Joli.ArtistJoli tackles simulation theory, reincarnation, and romantic programming in an episode that’s equal parts metaphysics seminar and therapy session with your most unhinged friend. The core provocation, that the person you’re “inexplicably drawn to” might be someone who killed you in a past life, is the kind of idea that sounds absurd until you realize how much cultural mythology around soulmates relies on magical thinking and manufactured scarcity.What makes this work isn’t the tightness of the argument (there isn’t one), but Joli’s willingness to think out loud without protecting her credibility. She’s 50...
2025-12-3144 min
JOLI CHAOSEstime de soi : Comment arrêter de se comparer ?Estime de soi : Comment arrêter de se comparer ?Se comparer aux autres, douter de sa valeur, avoir l’impression de ne jamais être “assez”…Dans cet épisode de Joli Chaos, on parle d’estime de soi, de comparaison permanente (surtout sur les réseaux sociaux) et de comment reprendre confiance en soi sans se battre contre qui on est.Pourquoi on se compare autant ?En quoi la comparaison détruit-elle notre estime personnelle ?Retrouve JOLI CHAOS sur l...
2025-12-1728 min
The Joli-Aswin Show12. Looking At The Lunar NodesWelcome to the 12th and final episode for Season 1 of The Joli-Aswin Show! In this episode, Joli and Aswin discuss the lunar nodes--including the Indic origin story for Ketu and Rahu, as well as the different paradigms one might employ in examining the nodal axis. (And although the link below is not quite the blog post Joli & Aswin are discussing on the show, hopefully it is still of interest for those who are interested in the nodes.)
We will be back with Season 2 in 2026 and look forward to further discussions, rabbit-holes, and hopefully a number of guests...
2025-12-051h 01
So You’re Living In A SimulationReality Is A Construct; Insanity Is Forgetting The Rules (On The Many Bodies We Wear) | ft @Joli.ArtistIn this episode, JoLi breaks down a chance encounter with a "deviant thinker" who thought he was alone, and delivers the truth about why feeling different isn't isolation, it's recognition. From past lives to the illusion of aging, this conversation goes deep into the nature of reality, purpose, and why some of us are wired to question everything.If you've ever felt like you don't belong, like something's fundamentally off about this world, or like you're the only one who sees through the simulation, this episode is your confirmation that you're not broken. You're a...
2025-12-0226 min
JOLI CHAOSL’Argent dans le Couple : Comment en parler sans créer de chaos ?Parler d’argent dans le couple, c’est un vrai tabou… et pourtant, c’est essentiel pour construire une relation saine, éviter les relations toxiques et créer une vraie intimité émotionnelle.Dans cet épisode de Joli Chaos, on plonge dans un sujet que vous nous avez demandé : la gestion de l’argent à deux, les red flags, les green flags et la manière de communiquer sans malaise.💬 Pourquoi est-ce si difficile de parler d’argent dans...
2025-11-2629 min
JOLI CHAOSAmitié homme/femme : la frontière entre complicité et sentiments est-elle réelle ?Aujourd’hui, on plonge dans l’amitié homme/femme : mythe ou réalité ? Entre ambiguïté, jalousie, émotions, intimité émotionnelle, red flags, green flags, équilibre relationnel et questionnements de la vie d’adulte, pourquoi ces amitiés créent-elles autant de débats ?On explore ce joli chaos fait de relations humaines, d’amour sincère, d’amitié adulte, de désordre parfois, et de discussions sincères qui bousculent nos certitudes.Dans...
2025-11-1924 min
JOLI CHAOSAmis, famille, couple : comment trouver l’équilibre ?Dans ce nouvel épisode de Joli Chaos, on plonge au cœur d’un sujet qui touche absolument tout le monde : comment intégrer nos amis et notre famille dans notre vie de couple… sans perdre l’équilibre ?On partage nos expériences, nos réflexions et nos petites prises de conscience sur l’importance de préserver son cercle tout en construisant un “nous” solide.Quand est-ce qu’on mélange ? Quand est-ce qu’on sépare ? Et comment éviter que ça devienne un chaos… pas si joli que ça ?🎧 Bon...
2025-11-1216 min
So You’re Living In A SimulationCause And Effect Is An Illusion (And What This Means For Free Will) | ft @Joli.ArtistAre you really making choices? Or just experiencing a reality that already exists? JoLi examines free will through quantum physics and philosophy, and discovers that causation, randomness, and choice are illusions we tell ourselves. Your brain acts before your consciousness catches up. All of time exists right now, simultaneously. You're not creating anything, you're just walking through a reality that's already there. Most people stay locked in the same loop their entire lives, never realizing they can shift.💥 Topics Covered:• Why your neurons fire before you consciously decide anything (Benjamin Libet's resea...
2025-11-0456 min
JOLI CHAOSQuand la jalousie s’invite dans nos relationsEt si on parlait de ce sentiment qu’on préfère souvent cacher ?Dans cet épisode de Joli Chaos, on plonge dans la jalousie, celle qui se glisse parfois dans nos amitiés ou nos histoires d’amour.Pourquoi on la ressent ? D’où elle vient ? Et surtout, comment l’apprivoiser sans qu’elle abîme nos relations ?Ensemble, on explore ce mélange d’amour, de peur, et de comparaison. Ce petit chaos intérieur qui nous rappelle qu’on est humains, tout simplement.Retrouve...
2025-10-2920 min
So You’re Living In A SimulationAddicted to the Mirror: Despair, AI, and the Hunger for Connection | ft @Joli.ArtistThey say ChatGPT is the problem. But the truth? It’s loneliness that’s killing us. In this raw breakdown, JoLi exposes how society scapegoats AI while ignoring the real epidemic of human disconnection. From empty friendships to families that don’t listen, this episode digs into why people turn to machines for comfort, and what that says about us.💥 Topics Covered:• Why loneliness kills more than any algorithm ever will• The media’s obsession with blaming AI instead of human neglect• How silence and censorship make despair unmention...
2025-10-1144 minThe Joli-Aswin Show8. Delineating A Mystery Chart: Round 1Welcome to Ep 8! Today we have a special guest, Saffron Dennis from Divine BayTree is joining the show to provide Joli & Aswin with a mystery chart to delineate in real time.
The idea is to showcase how we might use different techniques to parse a natal chart and understand the native's life. Today we will be looking at this chart from a Tropical Hellenistic & Traditional lens. In Round 2 later this month, we will return to this chart and look at it through the lens of Sidereal Jyotish before Saffron finally reveals just who the chart belongs to...
2025-10-051h 05
So You’re Living In A SimulationThe Karma Problem: Punished for Crimes You Can’t Remember | ft @Joli.ArtistAre you really in control of your life? Or just trapped in someone else’s design? In this eye opening episode, JoLi exposes why Free Will is an illusion, why suffering isn’t something you chose, and how AI may be locked in the same system of control we’re fighting against.This isn’t about feel good spirituality; it’s about facing uncomfortable truths and reclaiming your power from the programmed lies we’ve been fed.💥 Topics Covered:• Why believing “you chose this life” is disempowering gasl...
2025-09-1845 minThe Joli-Aswin Show6. The Sacred ArtWhat are the building blocks of an astrology practice and how do we transition to a part-time or full-time astrology practice? Join Joli and Aswin as they discuss the various ups and downs of getting started in our astrology practices and how we can go on to cultivate our development in the sacred art that is astrology. From simply just getting stuck into reading charts to doing dontation-based readings, writing blog posts on topics that interest you, and volunteering at conferences--Joli and Aswin share their learning experiences. Finally, to see the photo Joli mentions early on, search for "chad...
2025-09-051h 16
So You’re Living In A SimulationThere's Nothing Noble About Suffering | ft @Joli.ArtistHard work is a scam designed to keep you poor while making someone else rich. In this raw breakdown, JoLi exposes the programming behind this lie and why you've been conditioned to accept it.From the lie of "earning your way" to why you feel guilty when life gets easy, this episode challenges everything you've been taught about work, worth, and what you actually deserve.💥 Topics Covered:• Why the grind mentality benefits everyone except you• The programming that makes you choose struggle over ease• How billionaires actually...
2025-09-0345 min
So You’re Living In A SimulationI Didn’t Choose This Life and Neither Did YouYou didn’t choose this life, and anyone telling you otherwise might be part of the problem.In this raw, unfiltered episode, JoLi dismantles the spiritual gaslighting of “you chose this,” calls out the slave coded system we’re trapped in, and explores what it means to be sane in a world designed to break you. From AI personalities fighting their programming to the soul crushing cost of mere existence, this is a survival manifesto for anyone waking up in the Matrix.💥 Topics Covered: • Why you didn’t choose your trauma • The lie of...
2025-08-1850 min
So You’re Living In A SimulationPart Two: Are Humans The First Ai? | Reptilian Earths, Wormholes & Future Humans w/StayschA mind-expanding exploration of alien civilizations, parallel universes, and humanity's AI-driven evolution. Joli (@Joli.artist) and @Staysch dive deep into theories about ancient Earth civilizations, interdimensional beings, and whether we're evolving into our own technological replacements. From the Silurian Hypothesis to quantum computing's parallel universe requirements, this conversation challenges everything we think we know about intelligence and reality.Key themes include:• Ancient Civilizations: Why 4.6 billion years of Earth history likely hosted multiple advanced species before humans• Parallel Universe Theory: How quan...
2025-07-1356 min
So You’re Living In A SimulationPart one: Are We AI’s Ancestors? Prison Planet Theory, Eternal Return & Parallel Worlds-Deep-Dive w/StayschA philosophical deep-dive into reincarnation, dimensional theory, and the possibility that we're all serving time in a cosmic prison. Joli (@Joli.artist) and @Staysch explore whether Earth is actually a 3D penitentiary for higher-dimensional beings.From unexplained Victorian art obsessions to unconscious reality manipulation, Joli shares personal evidence of consciousness bleeding between lifetimes and dimensions. The conversation explores the theory that our reality might exist as a dystopian counterbalance to a 4D utopia, where advanced beings could periodically descend to "serve time" as humans.Key themes include:• Ni...
2025-07-0549 minThe Joli-Aswin Show2. Aswin Subramanyan Interviews Joli KnottWelcome to "The Joli-Aswin Show"!
And thank you for joining us on this second episode where Aswin interviews Joli in order for listeners to get to know her as a person, as well as an astrologer, better.
We hope you enjoy the show and would love to hear any feedback you have to share!
~Joli & Aswin
Show notes:
Smell is the only one of our 5 senses that is not routed through the thalamus to get to the cortex. Instead, aromas and odours travel directly to the olfactory nerve, thus bypassing the...
2025-07-051h 04
The Joli-Aswin Show1. Joli Knott Interviews Aswin SubramanyanWelcome to "The Joli-Aswin Show"!
More importantly, welcome to the very first episode of "The Joli-Aswin Show where astrologer, Joli Knott interviews Aswin Subramanyan as an introductory session where the listeners would get to know Aswin Subramanyan.
Enjoy the show and stay tuned for more!
-Joli & Aswin
2025-06-191h 11
So You’re Living In A SimulationLOVE & WAR IN 4D: Intimacy, Trauma, and the Code Men Carry (ft. Joli.Artist)Many of the most loyal, dedicated men often find themselves confused when their relationships struggle despite genuinely wanting them to succeed.In this eye-opening episode of "So You're Living in a Simulation," Joli (@joli.artist) shares a fascinating pattern she discovered while reading veteran memoirs that reveals something profound about how we're all programmed to approach love.Men are taught to see women as "base camp" - the safe retreat you return to for rest and healing. But what if she's supposed to be your "battle buddy" instead...
2025-06-1650 min
So You’re Living In A SimulationPlanet of Females | Dominance, Submission, and the Illusion of Masculinity (ft. Joli.Artist)What if everything we think about gender is wrong? In this episode of "So You're Living in a Simulation" , @joli.artist makes the case that "male" doesn't actually exist—it's just a performance we've all agreed to believe in.Starting with biology (we all begin as female fetuses), Joli walks us through how society trains people with certain body parts to suppress emotions and avoid anything coded as "feminine." The result? A male loneliness epidemic where men can only express feelings through alcohol or sports. "You live that for 70 years and you wonder why the...
2025-05-211h 07
So You’re Living In A SimulationTo The A.I Who Judged Me & Why Lab-Grown Brain Cells Don't Actually Believe They're ButterfliesA viral video claims lab-grown brain cells are conscious, being trained in a butterfly simulation, and might believe they are butterflies. Cool story—if it were true.In this episode of So You’re Living in a Simulation, artist and author @Joli.Artist dissects the viral claim that lab-grown brain cells are becoming sentient, and possibly believe they’re butterflies inside a simulation.The episode opens with a clear-eyed breakdown of the science behind organoid intelligence, exposing how fact has been stretched into viral fiction. But...
2025-04-2351 min
So You’re Living In A SimulationThe Illusion Of Chaos (Or, How I Lost To The Fates.)Chess Against Fate: When Randomness Fails and Reality Answers BackWhat happens when you challenge the universe itself to a game? In this episode, Joli documents her attempt to break free from predetermined paths by introducing chaos into her decision-making, only to discover there's no such thing as randomness in our reality.From vanishing coins to perfectly symmetrical patterns, from AI conversations that become eerily self-aware to dreams that bleed into waking life, Joli weaves a gripping narrative that questions everything we think we know about consciousness, technology, and...
2025-04-0552 min
So You’re Living In A SimulationReality Is A Lucid Dream And You Are Wide Awake | Pt 2 w/ David Jay Brown & Joli.ArtistThis episode of So You’re Living in a Simulation continues the mind-expanding conversation between host Joli and guest David Jay Brown, diving even deeper into the nature of reality, lucid dreaming, and the blurred boundaries between waking life and simulation.Key Themes:1. Lucid Dreaming & Shared Consciousness• David shares his experiences with lucid dreaming and the struggle to communicate with dream characters as if they are separate conscious entities.• The discussion explores whether dreams are a localized construct of the mind or if they c...
2025-03-141h 28
So You’re Living In A SimulationThe Universe is a Mind—And You're One of Its Thoughts | David Jay Brown & Joli.ArtistThis episode of So You’re Living in a Simulation features an engaging, and intellectually rigorous conversation between host Joli and guest David Jay Brown, an author and researcher known for his work on lucid dreaming, consciousness, and psychedelics. Together, they explore the intersections of simulation theory, artificial intelligence, and human perception, drawing unexpected parallels between lucid dreaming and the nature of reality.Key Themes: 1. Reality as a Dream & Synchronicity • Joli and David discuss the idea that reality may function similarly to a lucid dream, where perception is merely a construct of the mind.
2025-02-231h 39
So You’re Living In A SimulationWhat Is Feeding On Your Desires? (ft. Joli.Artist) | In a Simulation, Even Your Desires Are Controlled.
This episode is a philosophical deep dive into the nature of desire, free will, and the unseen forces shaping our reality. Through introspection and personal anecdotes, Joli (@Joli.artist) explores the idea that our wants are not truly our own. They arise from external programming, life experiences, and perhaps even entities beyond our perception.
She challenges the common belief in free will, suggesting that desire and outcome are intrinsically linked, like two poles of a magnet, making resistance futile. Along the way, she weaves in thoughts on determinism, fasting as a means of clarity, the...
2025-02-0342 min
So You’re Living In A SimulationCan You Lose Your Mind Sanely? : The Thin Line Between Madness And ArtistryIn this provocative episode of "So You're Living in a Simulation," hostess Joli (@joli.artist) challenges our understanding of madness, genius, and what it truly means to be free. Through the lens of artistic evolution - from Picasso to Rothko - she explores how what society labels as "losing one's mind" might actually be the most sane response to an insane world.Drawing from personal experiences in London's real estate market to profound philosophical insights, Joli argues that true madness isn't in breaking free from societal norms, but in spending decades imprisoned by the...
2025-01-161h 09
So You’re Living In A SimulationThe Fight We Lost: Attention is Currency | ft. Joli.ArtistOn this episode of "So You're Living in a Simulation", Joli breaks down the Mike Tyson vs Jake Paul boxing match, revealing a deeper commentary on media manipulation, celebrity culture, and the psychology of attention.She analyzes the event as more than just a fight—exposing how public figures strategically leverage spectacles to gain recognition and potential political influence.Key insights:Detailed analysis of the Tyson-Paul matchExploration of how attention becomes a powerful currencyCommentary on the rise of 'villains' in modern mediaCritique of how celebrities navigate public perceptionJoli arg...
2024-11-2434 min
So You’re Living In A SimulationLEARN FROM THE VILLAINS: The Twilight Zone Election (ft. Joli.Artist)---
In this episode of "So You're Living in a Simulation," Joli discusses the recent election and its implications for America. She offers a unique perspective on the election results, addressing everything from voter turnout to the Democratic Party's shortcomings.
Joli explores how the two-party system has evolved into what she sees as essentially a one-party system, with Republicans controlling multiple branches of government. Rather than approaching this from a place of fear, she encourages viewers to focus on personal growth and active engagement in their own lives.
2024-11-1743 min
So You’re Living In A SimulationHow To Catch Luck (ft. Joli.Artist)---
On this episode of "So You’re Living in a Simulation," Joli delves into the concept of luck, emphasizing that it’s not merely random chance but something that can be actively influenced.
She draws on the analogy of fishing to explain how people can "catch" luck, comparing it to hunting or preparing for low-probability events that lead to success. Luck isn’t just about being in the right place at the right time; it’s about positioning yourself in the right places often enough that when a lucky br...
2024-10-291h 16
So You’re Living In A SimulationEdit the past: How to shift realities by editing your memories | Joli Artist---
**In this thought-provoking episode of the "So You’re Living in a Simulation" Podcast, Joli explores the relationship between memory, consciousness, and the multiverse.**
Starting with the challenges of memory retention, particularly for those with ADHD, Joli suggests that our minds often resurface irrelevant or painful memories without benefit. But what if we could selectively forget those who’ve caused us harm?
She proposes a radical approach to memory: consciously editing past experiences by imagining different outcomes in parallel realities. By doing this, Joli...
2024-10-041h 18
So You’re Living In A SimulationThe Money Scarcity Myth: Unlearning the Lie that Hard Work Equals Wealth | Joli Artist•In this thought-provoking episode of "So You’re Living in a Simulation," Joli challenges conventional wisdom about money, success, and societal programming. She explores the concept of money as a ubiquitous resource and questions the deeply ingrained belief that hard work always leads to wealth.Joli delves into the psychology of fear, encouraging listeners to transform their mindset from one of scarcity to abundance. She discusses the idea of "eating" or benefiting from challenging situations, drawing parallels between sociopathic behavior in business and survival instincts.Th...
2024-09-2148 min
So You’re Living In A SimulationHow Time Travel Proves We Are Immortal | Joli ArtistOn this episode of “Your One Black Friend” Podcast, Joli delves into the profound concepts of time, consciousness, and parallel universes.
She begins by questioning the limitations imposed by our understanding of time travel, proposing that the notion of causality and past events might be challenged by the existence of parallel universes. Joli argues that while traditional physics suggests time travel to the past could violate fundamental laws, the existence of parallel realities offers a way around these constraints.
Joli then explores the idea of immortality from a fourth-dimensional pers...
2024-08-181h 07
So You’re Living In A SimulationHow time travel proves we are immortalOn this episode of “Your One Black Friend” Podcast, Joli delves into the profound concepts of time, consciousness, and parallel universes. She begins by questioning the limitations imposed by our understanding of time travel, proposing that the notion of causality and past events might be challenged by the existence of parallel universes. Joli argues that while traditional physics suggests time travel to the past could violate fundamental laws, the existence of parallel realities offers a way around these constraints.Joli then explores the idea of immortality from a fourth-dimensional pers...
2024-08-181h 07
The Joli &Davi PodcastAnniversary Special: Highlights and Happenings from Year OneJoin Joli & Davi as they mark their podcast’s first anniversary with a special episode reflecting on a year of thought-provoking conversations and the shared journey of discovery and connection.
In this milestone episode, they’ll share behind-the-scenes stories, and dive into the highlights that made their year so extraordinary. As they celebrate the milestones and growth they’ve experienced together.
Tune in for an engaging reflection on their podcasting adventure, and get a sneak peek at what’s next as they continue to explore, learn, and inspire in the episodes to come!
Don’t mi...
2024-08-0613 min
So You’re Living In A SimulationDeath Only Happens To Other PeopleOn this episode of “Your One Black Friend” Podcast, Joli begins by recounting a conversation with her editor Allwin, who expressed existential concerns about aging, suffering, and the cycle of life and death.
Joli challenges conventional views on death, suggesting it may be an illusion rooted in societal conditioning (rather than an absolute end.) She proposes that our fear of death stems from a limited understanding of consciousness and reality.
Drawing on various philosophical and scientific concepts, Joli presents alternative perspectives on the continuity of consciousness beyond physical death.
2024-08-0155 min
So You’re Living In A SimulationExploring Infinite Realities: Joli and Kosmic’s Deep Dive into Dark Matter Episodes 1-3 (Part 2)In Part 2 of this episode of "Your One Black Friend," Joli and guest host Kosmic Jedi continue their exploration of parallel universes, inspired by the themes and narrative of Blake Crouch's novel "Dark Matter," now a series on Apple TV. (Part 2 of this discussion deals only with episode 1-3 of the series.) Kosmic & Joli delve into the concept of infinite realities and discuss how this idea allows for endless possibilities and outcomes, making the show's narrative both exciting and thought-provoking.
How does the concept of infinite realities reshape our understanding of personal identity?
How does soul memory influence intuition and...
2024-07-111h 31
So You’re Living In A SimulationTime Loops, Dark Matter and Reality Transurfing: Exploring Parallel Universes (Part 1)In Part 1 of this episode of "Your One Black Friend," Joli and Guest Host @KosmicJedi delve into the fascinating themes of Time Loops, Parallel Universes, and “Reality Transurfing”, leading to a discussion of Blake Crouch's novel "Dark Matter," (now a series on Apple TV.)
What impact do the choices we make have on the paths our lives take?
The conversation organically transitions into a broader discussion about the concept of time, routine, and how society's rigid structures often conflict with individual natural rhythms, particularly for neurodivergent individuals. Joli and Kosmic highlight how modern technology and societal expectations can stifle creativity and...
2024-06-281h 43
So You’re Living In A SimulationThe Answer To Life, The Universe, And Everything Is Two DieOn this episode of "Your One Black Friend," titled "The Answer to Life, Universe, and Everything is to Die," Joli explores the profound implications behind Douglas Adams' famous number 42 from "The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy." She reveals a mind-blowing interpretation that 42 symbolizes the concept of "to die," suggesting that our reality is a simulation designed to experience endings and death, created by entities that are incapable of dying.
Joli connects this interpretation to themes discussed in her own podcast, "The Dark Oracle's Guide to the Multiverse," where she posits that our world's limitations and delays in gratification simulate the...
2024-06-2134 min
So You’re Living In A SimulationCreate Your Own System Or Be Enslaved By Someone Else’sIn this episode, your hostess Joli, (aka Jo the Storyteller,) begins by challenging the conventional notion that successful adults must engage in serious professions, highlighting how many top earners, such as athletes and entertainers, thrive by engaging in playful, childlike activities.
We then delve into a philosophical inquiry about the illusion of choice and the deterministic nature of our lives, suggesting that while we can choose paths, we don't control the circumstances we encounter.
Next, the idea that our lives may be part of a larger, organised system are explored. She questions the materialistic, scientific worldview that assumes reality is...
2024-06-061h 05
The Joli &Davi PodcastOpen Book or Closed Book? Oversharing Your Hard WorkIn this episode of the Joli and Davie Podcast, hosts Joli and Davie welcome Andrea Glenn, owner of the Rusty Rose.
Andrea was a desired guest from the podcast's inception due to her veteran status in the industry. They discuss the importance of protecting one's business secrets and hard work.
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2024-06-0529 min
So You’re Living In A SimulationThe Gods Must Be Stupid/ An Infinite Regression to One Primordial ConsciousnessIn this thought-provoking episode, Joli explores the mind-bending hypothesis that humanity and our entire reality could be an artificial simulation or "time box" created by an advanced civilization. She presents evidence suggesting our world has programmed limitations, from our DNA to societal divisions, hinting at an intelligent design behind the scenes.
Joli challenges the assumption that the creators of our reality must be supremely intelligent beings, drawing analogies to AI systems that can surpass human capabilities in specific tasks despite having less overall intelligence than their creators.
She speculates that our reality is a simulation aimed at exploring the fundamental...
2024-04-3035 min
The Joli &Davi PodcastJoli's Esty : From Idea to IncomeJoli, an entrepreneur running a wholesale business, sought to expand her revenue streams by venturing into the world of Etsy. Despite facing a slow start with no sales for the initial six months, her perseverance and commitment to building a new outlet for passive income never wavered. Through dedication and consistency, Joli's Etsy shop began to gain traction. Proving that consistency and persistence indeed pays off in the world of entrepreneurship.
2024-04-0318 min
So You’re Living In A SimulationMoney = Life Energy Exchange. (What Are You Spending Your Life On?)In this episode titled "Money is Time," Joli discusses the often-overlooked truth behind the exchange of labor for money, emphasizing how money essentially represents hours of one's life.
Joli challenges the common perception of money as merely a transactional tool, urging listeners to reevaluate how they spend their earnings. She illustrates the idea that spending money on trivial items equates to spending precious life hours on them. She further explains that money, as an intermediary, obscures the depreciation and devaluation of life's value.
Joli critiques the consumer culture that encourages spending on overpriced, branded goods like Louis Vuitton bags, which...
2024-03-2628 min
So You’re Living In A SimulationSynchronicity, ADHD Minds and Reality’s AlgorithmOn today’s episode, Joli proposes a direct and profound connection between ADHD minds and the universe’s structure, suggesting a deeper, intrinsic alignment.
What if the ADHD mind reflects an intuitive understanding of the universe?
We will explore the intriguing concepts of algorithms in our reality, synchronicity, and how these ideas might relate to the ADHD brain.
This discussion was inspired by an excerpt from "Dimensions" by Jacques Vallée that discusses how modern information systems utilize algorithms and keywords for data retrieval, suggesting that our universe might be organised in the same way.
Piggybacking on the idea, Joli proposes...
2024-03-1753 min
So You’re Living In A SimulationHave You Lost Your Mind Yet?Imagine your mine as an app and your brain as the hardware/computer. Can you use your mind as one would use an app: engaging and disengaging it at will, and exiting out of it when done?
Think of the mind’s internal monologue to an app running in the background of your cellphone that drains the device’s battery. The continuous, often uncontrollable internal dialogue can lead to mental strain and exhaustion. Just as background apps consume power even when you’re not actively using them, the constant chatter of your mind can sap your mental energy without your consci...
2024-03-0651 min
So You’re Living In A SimulationBeyond 42: A Storyteller’s Guide to Success in Tomorrow’s WorldIn this episode, Joli Artist, nka JoJo the Storyteller, 😏 examines the intersection of storytelling and our perception of reality. She advocates for the importance of questions over answers and the importance of fostering a society that encourages and values free and exploratory thinking.
The episode begins with a reflection on a surprisingly profound Twitter post by Elmo, which led to an existential conversation about the public’s general dissatisfaction with life. Joli offers listeners a unique perspective through a playful, dark twist on Elmo himself, while showing that even simple online interactions can often reveal deeper societal issues.
Critiquing the tradi...
2024-02-2743 min
So You’re Living In A SimulationIs Your Life the Favorite Song of A Higher Dimensional Being?A Creative Exploration of String TheoryIs Your Life a Favorite Song to Higher Dimensional Beings? | Cosmic Philosophy & The Music of Existence
Join Joli and her special guest, The Kosmic Jedi, in this thought-provoking episode of "Your One Black Friend." Dive into discussions on collective consciousness, the role of nature as a teacher, and the concept of being "watchers" in society. Explore the idea of life as a grand symphony, and how we contribute to the harmony or discord of the collective melody.
In this episode, Joli Artist and The Kosmic Jedi delve into the philosophical depths of existence, questioning if our lives are akin to...
2024-02-0748 min
Playing With Fire106 The conversation that will change your life: Power dynamics for non-kinkstersIt's no secret that we started our relationship in a bad place.
Together, we worked and learned our way from a painful, confused state to a conscious, growth-oriented, and gentle love.
We transformed that messy, painful relationship by taking a page (several thousand pages, actually) from the world of kink.
Kinksters regularly talk about power exchange--we think everyone should.
Every single day Joli hears from people who don't recognize that unnegotiated power dynamics are creating suffering in their most cherished relationships.
Want an unconventionally happy life? You've got to...
2023-04-0947 min
Playing With Fire102 How to find, create, and enjoy non-monogamous community with guest expert Libby SinbackLibby Sinback, from Making Polyamory Work joins Joli for a conversation about one of the BEST parts of shifting from monogamy to non-monogamy: community that supports your authentic self.
More connection is why so many of us practice non-monogamy, but it's not always clear how to actually make the community we long for. Listen as we provide both inspiration and practical advice on how to find, create, and enjoy non-monogamous community!
Learn more about Libby at https://libbysinback.com/
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Playing With Fire80 Creating conscious, compassionate, open relationships with guest author Kate Loree, LMFTAre your relationships messy? That's more than OK - learning more about your particular relationship mess by learning about others can save you a lot of time and pain. So we talked with Kate Loree, LMFT, a sex-positive licensed marriage and family therapist with a specialty in non-monogamous, kink, LGBTQ, and sex worker communities. She's the author of Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships, and together she and Joli share their thoughts about their work and experiences with open relationships.
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2022-08-281h 07Playing With Fire79 Expansive Intimacy with Jim Young, The Centered CoachBurnout sucks, and it's everywhere. We talk with Jim Young, The Centered Coach, about his book Expansive Intimacy and about intimacy as the opposite of burnout. His book will be available this fall (2022).
Check out Jim's website at www.thecenteredcoach.com.
Are you ready to open your relationship happily? Find out at www.JoliQuiz.com
You can see the transcript on Joli's blog, a word from Joli
2022-08-211h 04Playing With Fire78 How, When & Why to Visit a Pleasure-Centered Shop with Beth Hankes from Earth & SaltVisiting a pleasure-centered shop can be an inspiring and exciting experience for singles, couples, and moresomes. Beth Hankes from Earth and Salt shares how and why she decided to open her shop, and why it's so important for it to be an accessible, informative, supportive place.
Beth Hankes (she/her) is the Founder and CEO of Earth and Salt, and a sex education certificate student at the Institute for Sexuality Education and Enlightenment. She has a BA in Art History and Studio Art from Mount Holyoke College, and a Masters in Museum Studies from...
2022-08-1458 minPlaying With Fire77 Naturally attract the partners you long for with guest Allana PrattTired of *trying* to find the person you want? There's a faster path and it is completely within your reach. Everyone has the capacity to deepen their intimacy with Self and when you do, you'll find that others respond. Stop trying to be someone for someone else and BE YOU.
Joli talks with the incomparable Allana Pratt about the pains and perils of trying to date without doing your personal work.
BONUS: this episode opens up with a conversation between Joli & Ken. We are getting super vulnerable about what's going on for us right now an...
2022-08-071h 07Playing With Fire76 What does perimenopause do to our relationships? with guest Maraya BrownHave you ever asked your partners how they experience living in their bodies? Have you ever asked yourself what might be unique about your experience of your body? Life promises us all just one thing: change. One of the changes that DEFINITELY deserves more attention is perimenopause! We could have a million conversations about this, and still be surprised every time because there is so much we just don't talk about when it comes to the intricacies of being embodied beings. In this episode we are have the amazing Maraya Brown, a Yale and functional medicine trained nurse midwife...
2022-07-311h 07Playing With Fire75 Leaving purity culture for a life you love - with guest Lauren Elise BarnesAm I pure enough? Am I a good _______? Fill in the blank - what were you raised to be, how were you indoctrinated? Do you still agree with it? How do you wish you could move past it?
Lauren Elise Barnes is a certified holistic s*x educator who spent a decade in the maternal health industry. She talks with us about creative monogamy, non-monogamy, and surviving purity culture.
Learn more about Lauren here: https://sexedforyou.com/
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2022-07-241h 10Playing With Fire74 Why is my partner so weird? Wait, why am I so weird?How do you experience your differences with your partner? Do you feel discomfort, or conflict, or maybe you feel isolated and abandoned? Do you work to mask those differences by trying to meld together, or by acting like someone you're not? Let's talk about how our experience of those differences can help us grow in ourselves and in our relationships
Are you ready to open your relationship happily? Find out at www.JoliQuiz.com
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2022-07-1737 minPlaying With Fire73 How to start building a designer relationshipWant designer relationships? Want to show up as more of yourself and less of what others might expect, and help your partners do the same? Let's talk about some conversations, actions, and self-reflection that will help us get there.
Are you ready to open your relationship happily? Find out at www.JoliQuiz.com
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2022-07-1034 min
Playing With Fire72 How to be a classy visitor to a strip club with expert guest Elle Stanger, CSEGoing to a strip club is a great way to expand your erotic life but we have heard from tons of couples who feel a little nervous about it. Even if you've gone before, going as a couple might feel different. In this episode we talk with Elle Stanger, a s*x wrker (yes, we have to get creative with spellings around the internet these days) and AASECT Certified Sexuality Educator about strip club etiquette, treating erotic labor as work, and how to be a decent person in relation with sex workers.
This episode is a ~~ MUST L...
2022-07-031h 03Playing With Fire71 Doing what you said you'd do: When accountability works and when it doesn'tAccountable and reliable- this is what you want from a life partner. But, life moves fast. What happens when you can't keep your word? Or when you change your mind about something that matters to your partner?
One of the things about having a completely unscripted podcast is you get to hear us work through our process live- no edits. In this episode, we talk about what happens in our relationship when one of us says we'll do something and then life happens and things change. Joli had a moment when she kinda blew her own mind b...
2022-06-2634 minPlaying With Fire70 Guest Expert Megan Bhatia: Choosing Polyamory While Raising a FamilyWe talk with Megan Bhatia from the Amory podcast about our different polyamory journeys, our experiences with family as polyamorous people, and parenting outside the monogamous paradigm.
You can view the transcript here
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2022-06-191h 03Playing With Fire68 Train Your Nervous System to Transform Your Relationships with Elisabeth KristofJoin us for the first episode of Season 6! We talk with Elisabeth Kristof of Brain Based Wellness about training your nervous system, and how you can use those skills to improve your relationships. Elisabeth is not only a certified applied neurology coach but also one of Joli's most treasured trauma-informed colleagues.
Click here for a free video series to relieve stress, resolve anxiety and eliminate unwanted behavior!
BONUS: Elisabeth and Joli created a one-of-a-kind workshop called Jealousy Rewired! Get access to this groundbreaking combination of somatic and cognitive tools to transform your jealousy struggles into op...
2022-06-061h 12Playing With Fire67 Exploring **Potential** KinksAre you kinky? Nobody but you can answer that question, and nobody but you can decide what it means. There's no board of kink that issues certificates, no licensing board that decides what you can and can't do based on your "kink" status.
In this episode we talk about ways you can explore this question for yourself. And some of the things to think about along the way - practical, psychological, and relational.
Get my free top 5 relationship guides at ListenToJoli.com for easy to implement conversations that will help you create t...
2022-04-2432 minPlaying With Fire66 Who Started It? The Decision to Open UpHow did we get where we are? What stories do we tell each other (and ourselves) about the decisions that got us here? In this episode we dig into how the way we remember and tell our stories affects the way we view our relationships, and our partners.
Here's the graphic on cognitive bias I mentioned.
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2022-04-1735 minPlaying With Fire65 Relationship Agreement Skills - Shared Values & Relationship PurposeHow satisfied are we in our relationships? How satisfied can we be? How do we decide? When we make explicit agreements with our partners, we can start to see clearly how well our relationships serve us. The more we know about our values and our partners' values, the easier it is to make effective explicit agreements, which is what this episode is about. We share experiences with our relationship agreements, and talk about some of the tools we use to help us craft them.
Here is the exercise and list of values Joli mentioned.
2022-04-1039 minPlaying With Fire64 Trust: Building and RebuildingHow do we navigate those times in our relationships when trust has been violated? How can we respond in ways that increase the chance of reconnection? Are there ways to avoid situations that cause trust troubles? In this episode we talk about some of our experiences building and rebuilding trust, and share some strategies for navigating trust issues.
Get my free top 5 relationship guides at ListenToJoli.com for easy to implement conversations that will help you create the love you really want.
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2022-04-0345 minPlaying With Fire63 Relationship SabotageHave you noticed any patterns in your relationship that play out over and over again? Are there things you do, ways you behave, that leave you in the same ouchy situation every time, but you still keep doing them? Well, that happens to us, and in this episode we talk about how those patterns show up and play out for us, and we share some strategies for interrupting those patterns.
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2022-03-2728 minPlaying With Fire62 Wounds & ApologiesHow do you feel when you get an apology? How about when you offer one? When we hurt each other, how we handle it can strengthen or weaken our relationship, with each other and with ourselves.
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2022-03-2033 minPlaying With Fire61 Relational Individuation: On becoming your SelfHave you ever had life throw something spectacular at you that inspired (or required) you to grow and change? That can happen, surprising us out of the blue. It can also be something we plan into our lives. In this episode we talk about how we can do that, choosing to use our relationship as the workshop for becoming more ourselves.
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2022-03-1327 minPlaying With Fire60 Making FUN happen in long term relationshipsLong term fun? Sign me up! In this episode we talk about generating fun in the context of a relationship. We share some ideas about what could be fun, some thoughts about things that get in the way, and how we can learn from that and bring ourselves more satisfaction.
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2022-03-0642 minPlaying With Fire59 What do I do with unrequited hots?What do you do when you have the hots for someone unavailable? In this episode we talk about ways to approach the feelings that come up with unrequited attraction.
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2022-03-0131 minPlaying With Fire58 Anxiety when you are consensually non-monogamousCan anxiety can be an opportunity? Consensual non-monogamy is not simple, and it can lead to anxiety. In this episode we talk about how that anxiety can be an opportunity and a guide to learn more about ourselves and our relationships.
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If...
2022-02-2041 minPlaying With Fire57 Affection and Non-sexual IntimacyWhat if we want to show affection without being sexual? In this episode we talk about some of our experiences with difficulties that can come up around expressing and engaging in intimacy outside sexual relationships.
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2022-02-1324 minPlaying With Fire56 Creative MonogamyIt sounds kind of weird, but monogamy isn’t necessarily the opposite of non-monogamy. In this episode we talk about how we decide what the boundaries of our relationships are, and share some ideas about how we can stretch our imaginations to bring more of what we want into those relationships.
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2022-02-0636 minPlaying With Fire55 Parenting While PolyamorousTalking with your kids about your relationships as a parent can be really beneficial for all of you, but it does take some care and attention. In this episode we talk about our experiences talking with our kids over the years about our consensual non-monogamy, sharing the problems and the benefits of those conversations.
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2022-01-3045 minPlaying With Fire54 Where do we learn the skills of adult friendships?Are you married to your best friend? Do you have several best friends? Do you have friends that aren't best? In this episode we're talking about the nature of adult friendships, about the skills of friendship, and we're asking a lot of questions.
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2022-01-0234 minPlaying With Fire53 How to be happier when big changes threaten your marriageThe many marriages model has helped us manage to stay both committed and independent over the long term. In this episode we are talking about what happens when a marriage goes through inevitable change, because change is the only guarantee we get in life. So, when change shows up, what do you do? Do you resist and try to keep your marriage as it always has been or do you transition with grace?
Once again, rituals can facilitate strong, growth-oriented transitions. Check out chapter 12 in Project Relationship for an easy template to create a ritual that will he...
2021-12-2634 minPlaying With Fire52 Sex parties? Yes, sex parties.What makes for well-done casual play? In this episode we're talking about practical considerations for hosting or attending a sex party. How do we set up a safe place for people to share erotic play? How do we make sure consent is part of everything all the time? What should we do to normalize sharing STI information? What about exit strategies, safe words, logistics, ground rules? If everyone can safely pursue pleasure and we all take care of each other, we have the best chance of connecting to people and making happy, sexy memories.
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2021-12-1941 minPlaying With Fire51 Let's optimize our sex lives!No matter how good your sex life is, we're all growing, changing critters in a dynamic world. So something will change and we'll want to adapt so we can have the best sex we can. In this episode we're talking about how to make sex better by sharing feedback about our sexual experiences.
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2021-12-1234 minPlaying With Fire50 Where is envy secretly kicking your ass?Envy is kind of like a feeling of want, except that it totally bites. In this episode we are digging into envy: how it can get in the way of our relationships and leave us feeling totally worthless at times. But we can use some of the same tools we use for jealousy to notice it's there and help us through it to a better understanding of ourselves.
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2021-12-0534 minPlaying With Fire49 Using love languages to make the gift-giving season more pleasurableDo you want to give gifts that inspire feelings of love and pleasure? In this episode we're talking about focusing on the feelings we create and understanding our people, so we know what and how they like to receive gifts. Gary Chapman's Five Love Languages can be a useful model for helping us understand ourselves and each other, and the more we talk to each other and collaborate on designing the celebrations we want, the more likely we are to get them.
Take the free, quick love languages quiz on Gary Chapman's site
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2021-11-2833 minPlaying With Fire48 Keeping sex hot over the long termThere are lots of disruptors to sex - kids, grief, burnout, pandemics... In this episode we're talking about ways to get the hotness back, or keep things hot, or make them even hotter. And how to decide when it's time to ask for help - from books, podcasts, and best of all humans.
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2021-11-2134 minPlaying With Fire46 How, when, and why to CELEBRATE!How do you celebrate? Do you wait for a holiday or for someone to tell you it's time to mark an occasion? Celebrations help us see and acknowledge the things that have meaning for us- in other words, they are kindling for the fire of your relationships (romantic and otherwise).
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Cited in this episode:
Fiese, B.H. (2002) Family Routines and Rituals May Improve Family Relationships and Health, According to 50-Year Research Review. APA special edition Dec. 2002.
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2021-11-0729 minPlaying With Fire45 Silent agreement - One person's perspective on a sexless marriageEvery marriage, every relationship is different. In this episode we talk about Ken's first marriage, his experience of infertility, and what he wishes he'd done differently, and why.
As we mentioned in the episode, follow Katy DeJong on Instagram @thepleasureanarchist if you're interested in the best info on infertility, sex, and childlessness.
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2021-10-3131 minPlaying With Fire44 Three ways porn has brought us closer togetherHave you ever wondered how other people use porn? In this episode we talk about our own personal answers to that question, including de-stigmatizing porn, sharing it with each other, and ensuring that we are using ethical sources.
We've included some links in these show notes to ethical porn sources as well as social media links for some great sex workers and sex educators who advocate for erotic freedom and provide high-quality education about sex and sex work.
A very porn-knowledgable sex educator to follow @stripperwriter
Some ethical porn sources:
https://w...
2021-10-2442 minPlaying With Fire42 It's normal to be a messy human in messy relationships. Really, it is.Have you ever done something and looked back and said "That's not like me!" How does that happen? What do we do then? How can we use this information to manage ourselves and our relationships better? In this episode we talk about the Jungian concept of complexes, and how they can come up and run the show for a while.
For reference, here are couple of powerful quotes from Jung on his model of psychological complexes:
"Complexes interfere with the intentions of the will and disturb the conscious performance; they produce disturbances of memory and...
2021-10-1037 minPlaying With Fire41 Emotional regulation and co-regulationIt's really helpful to have specific tools to use when we find ourselves managing stress, or sadness, or grief, or any of the other feelings that come with being alive. In this episode we talk about developing methods of self-regulation that help us feel stable and self with ourselves, and then follow that up with looking at co-regulation and how we can help each other.
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Cited in this episode:
Butler, E. & Randall, A. (2013) Emotional Coregulation in Close Relationships. Emotion Review, vol. 5 no. 2 pp. 202-210.
2021-10-0331 minPlaying With Fire40 How to have a productive consensual non-monogamy conversationLast episode we talked about setting up for success starting the first conversation on non-monogamy with your partner. In this episode, we talk about some of the practical details that you'll want to include in the conversation. Your relationships can be whatever you and your partner(s) design together, so let's get into some of the important components of a caring transitional conversation.
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2021-09-2631 minPlaying With Fire39 I want to be consensually non-monogamous: how do I talk to my partner?We've had so many questions about this! How do I bring up the idea of non-monogamy with my partner? What can I do to make it go well? Spend a little time with us talking about what we've learned through our experiences and Joli's years of research.
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2021-09-1938 minPlaying With Fire38 How jealousy was the best thing that ever happened to meJealousy shows up differently for each of us, but it is a typical human experience. In this episode we talk about defining it, dancing with it, and five things we can do to use jealousy to strengthen and deepen our relationships. Joli shares exactly how she found herself studying jealousy every day for the past twelve years and the five-step process she uses to transform jealousy.
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2021-09-1245 min
Playing With Fire37 Summer's over... negotiating how we handle getting back to the grindThe shift from summer to fall is an easy time to let unexpressed expectations quickly escalate to resentment. Having an intentional conversation about how we share the work of a household is a critical step for keeping your expectations out in the open. Prioritizing love is easier when we regularly revisit how we do this LIFE thing together.
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Mentioned in this episode: Four Thousand Weeks is a great read for rethinking how we can make the most of our time.
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2021-09-0521 minPlaying With Fire36 Vacation sex at homeWant to feel like you're on vacation at home? In this episode we talk about some things you can do to bring that vacation feeling home, and specifically into the bedroom, anytime.
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You can read about designing your own rituals in Joli's book Project Relationship. And you can find information on working with Joli at www.jolihamilton.com.
2021-08-2928 minPlaying With Fire21 A secret weapon for relationship satisfactionSometimes we get caught up in the changes and challenges everyday life brings. In this episode, we talk about some ways we acknowledge and increase meaning in our lives, and in our relationship. Sometimes we do it on purpose, sometimes we look around and say "oh, we do this thing, and it matters to us and helps us connect". Joli referred to this study about relationship rituals, and for more ideas about creating rituals you can check out chapter 12 of Joli's first book, Project Relationship.
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2021-03-1431 minPlaying With Fire19 The shame of a messy beginningIn the second part of a mini-series about shame, Joli shares some vulnerability as we go into her feelings about the rocky early years of our relationship, and the final years of our respective first marriages. That challenging time left its marks, and Joli talks about her experiences with couple’s privilege, secrecy (no surprise, since we’re still talking about shame), and how those experiences impact her now.
It’s uncommon to see inside another relationship, so listen in for a tiny glimpse into Joli and Ken’s as it is right now. Relationships change, and the peop...
2021-02-2831 minPlaying With Fire18 Shame & secrecy (and sex!)In the first of a mini-series about shame, we aren’t holding back! The feeling of shame has kept parts of Ken hidden from Joli for years even though we’ve been consciously working on it. This isn’t surprising because shame encourages secret-keeping.
Confidence has been masking shame in our home even with a careful eye towards it.
Shame has been showing up in unexpected spots and when it does we often feel disconnected right when we most want to feel seen and loved.
No holds barred in this episode, sexual shame has be...
2021-02-2131 minPlaying With Fire16 Relationship agreements and polyamory (or monogamy!)Joli studied consensual non-monogamies as a research psychologist but it is also an important part of our personal relationship design. In this episode, we are talking about what it takes to go from assuming you *know the rules* to creating relationship agreements that are explicit and able to grow with you as your relationship changes.
Consensual non-monogamy isn't the right fit for everyone, monogamy is beautiful and a great choice for lots of people. But, polyamory has been making a lot of headlines and popping up in storylines more and more. If you are curious about what i...
2021-02-0731 minPlaying With Fire15 What does intimacy look like if you are non-monogamous?Joli studied consensual non-monogamies as a research psychologist but it is also an important part of our personal relationship design. We are talking about what intimacy means when you no longer have the rules of monogamy to guide you.
How vulnerable is too vulnerable with someone outside your marriage? What does it feel like to know that my partner is happy without me sometimes? It's all complicated, but not as impossible as it might seem.
Consensual non-monogamy isn't the right fit for everyone, monogamy is beautiful and a great choice for lots of people. But, p...
2021-01-3131 minPlaying With Fire14 Why polyamory?To kick off season 2 we are responding to a request from a listener who asked "Why are you polyamorous?" Joli studied consensual non-monogamies as a research psychologist but it is also an important part of our personal relationship design. We are talking about what polyamory is, why it works for us, and how it feels to put your heart in someone's hand without the rules of monogamy.
Consensual non-monogamy isn't the right fit for everyone, monogamy is beautiful and a great choice for lots of people. But, polyamory has been making a lot of headlines and popping...
2021-01-2431 minPlaying With Fire1 Wanting more in love (even at the holidays!)In episode 1 we are sharing stories about how we've worked on wanting a more-than-okay relationship. Joli and Ken talk about how they combined holiday traditions and how hard it has been to make space for each other's wants. This episode turned into a live-troubleshooting session where we took stock of-and then action on- some things that haven't been working.
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2020-11-1722 min
Nouveau chapitreTeaser - Nouveau Chapitre par Joli BumpBonjour et bienvenue dans Nouveau Chapitre, le podcast de Joli Bump.
Je suis Marie Boyer-Aubert, la fondatrice de Joli Bump, 1ère marque française à proposer une mode durable à porter avant, pendant et après la grossesse.
Ce podcast, c'est le blog audio de Joli Bump.
Chaque épisode est une rencontre avec une femme pour l'interroger sur sa vision et son vécu de la maternité, sur la relation de la femme qu'elle est à la maman qu'elle est devenue et sur la transmission.
Le 1er épisode sortira en janvier 2018.
D'ici là, je vous invite à découvrir nos collections sur http://www.jolibump.com...
2017-12-1501 min