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PairadocsFour Horsemen of the Marriage Apocalypse: In LawsWell, this week the guys wrap up their discussion of the Four Horsemen of the Marriage Apocalypse with the dreaded In Laws! How should couples manage this minefield of family tension? And not only are the guys ending this series this week, sadly, Josh and Jimmy are ending their run as the Pairadocs. This will be the boys last show. Sad, but exciting. Listen in and find out why. BTW, all of you guys are the best! We love you. ----- ----- Dr. Jimmy Mye...2020-12-2828 min
PairadocsThe PushWe’ve all seen them, haven’t we? Those parents who care WAY too much about how their child is doing in sports. They take out a second mortgage and blow through their family’s savings just to keep their kid on select/travel teams. They yell at the refs, the coach, and their kid. You would think their entire self-worth hinged on whether their child plays well and wins the game…hmmm. I wonder… Listen in this week as Josh and Jimmy get the signal, step up to the plate, and discuss The Push. Parents and sports. Play ball!! ...2020-11-1622 min
PairadocsOutsourcing Your Child’s Spiritual DevelopmentEver feel like a spiritual taxi driver? Is your goal as a parent to make sure your child is at every church event? Do you get nervous when asked to spiritual lead / guide your child? When your child has a spiritual question, is this intimidating? This week Jimmy and Josh discuss your one job as a parent, spiritually leading your child. ----- Harelips the Governor Pagan Christianity by Barna Other than praying over dinner or before bed, is God present in y...2020-11-0221 min
PairadocsRaising Humble KidsAs the late great country music artist, Mac Davis, once sang, “Oh, Lord, it’s hard to be humble!” And in our current culture and the competitive, “me-obsessed” environment that our kids are growing up in, these words have never been more spot on. Join the fellas this week, as they kick around the topic of raising humble kids. ----- We live in a culture that is for the glorification of self. Our culture and a lot of our homes struggle to produce humble kids. “If you have to toot your own horn, your horn ain’t...2020-10-2621 min
PairadocsProtect Young MindsMany of you have read her books to your kids and found them to be an invaluable resource during this unprecedented electronically connected time. And if you haven’t read these books to your kids, after listening to this show, you definitely will. This week Jimmy and Josh sit down with Kristen Jenson, from Protect Young Minds, about her best-selling books, Good Pictures Bad Pictures and her newest, Good Pictures Bad Pictures Jr.When should we talk to our children about pornography? To quote Kristen, “As soon as they have internet access.” Think about that... ----- http...2020-10-1926 min
PairadocsPutting a Lid on Parental AngerI know you’ve never said this before, but I’m sure you’ve known someone who has exclaimed, “That kid makes me so mad!!” Anger is an emotion that all parents have experienced, yet parental anger that is expressed in the wrong way can be the most destructive emotional element in any home. Ouch. This week, the guys chat about putting a lid on parental anger. ----- Series 33 – Lifeway Problem with parental anger: Things that we say and do that we regret are mostly done in anger Parental anger is the most destructive...2020-10-0522 min
PairadocsIntimacy: What Is It & Why Is It Important What do apparently all of us want, but seemingly not many of us actually have? You may answer, million dollars! And you would be right!!...However, I was being less crass and materialistic and was referencing the often sought-after quality known as Intimacy.We want it in our friendships, our marriages, our families, and our walk with God, but for something that seems to be so crucial, most of us don’t even know what Intimacyactually is, and why, in reality, it is extraordinarily important. Check out the boys this week as they take an intimate look at Intimacy. -----Intimacy: Wh...2020-09-2826 min
PairadocsConfirmation Bias OMG! This pandemic has done more than just socially segregated us. It has psychologically, emotionally, relationally, and intellectually segregated us. Many of us are trapped in echo chambers that only reinforce what we believe about politics, race, COVID, and a host of other societal issues. Confirmation bias is when we only hear what we want to hear, or expect to hear, without any inclination to consider another point of view. This is toxic for an individual, a couple, or a family. This week the boys discuss a topic that has certainly been around for a while, but has exploded during...2020-09-1421 min
PairadocsUndeserved PraiseIs unconditionally loving your child and unconditionally praising your child the same thing? Maybe not. In fact, numerous studies indicate that lavishing praise on a child with little or no merit, actually can have a negative impact on the child’s emotional development. But then again, no praise could indicate emotion emotional neglect. What’s a parent to do?! It’s like we’re danged if we do, or danged if we don’t. Listen in this week as Josh and Jimmy delve into the sticky, and somewhat controversial, topic of undeserved praise. ----- If this is you...2020-09-0721 min
PairadocsWelcome to Christian Parenting Podcast NetworkPairadocs podcast has joined the Christian Parenting Podcast Network! If this is your first episode, here are a few episodes to get you started: https://pairadocspodcast.libsyn.com/bob-goff https://pairadocspodcast.libsyn.com/empathy https://pairadocspodcast.libsyn.com/pornography Follow Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook. Follow Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook. Follow Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook. How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast2020-08-3105 min
PairadocsHow Honest Is Too HonestSince we’re all doing school from home now, please answer the following questions: Honey, do these new pants make my butt look big? No, I left your gift at the office. Do you really think I’d forget our anniversary? Mommy, are some of the kids on my team better than me? Daddy, I’m so sad that Fluffy died. Is he in heaven with Jesus? Hey, Babe, I can’t see the back of my head. Am I balding at all? So how did yo...2020-07-2928 min
PairadocsIf You Loved MeWe’ve all done it. Looked at how our spouse is behaving and wondered, “Wow, if he really loved me, he wouldn’t be doing that.” Some of us have felt that so strongly that we actually say those word to our spouse. Making their momentary behavior a referendum on “if” they love us or not. Full disclosure, I have done this myself. Just the other night I told my wife, Beth, “If you really loved me, you wouldn’t make me watch the Downtown Abby movie a second time.” Wow, that felt good. Freedom comes through honesty and confession. Listen in th...2020-07-2019 min
PairadocsApologizingI’m so sorry its taken so long to get this episode out, BUT there were many reasons why it couldn’t get done sooner…Listen, I said I was sorry. What do you want from me? You feel hurt that we have kept this life-changing podcast from you for this long? Well, I’m sorry you feel that way. To hurt you was not our intent, so really, you have to own your own feelings. Am I right? Ok, fine, drop it. This week the boys discuss how to make a real apology. ----- Ap...2020-07-0619 min
PairadocsWhat if They Don't LaunchHere’s a parent’s worst nightmare. You look upstairs one day and your 27 year old son is still living in the same bedroom in your house that he occupied since the 8th grade! Somewhere along the line, this young man…failed to launch. Listen in this week as the guys discuss this growing phenomenon. ----- Helicopter parenting - hovering over your child to rescue whenever bad happens Lawnmower parenting - clearing the path for your child so that nothing bad happens to them Helicopter and lawnmower...2020-05-2021 min
PairadocsBoundariesThe boys follow up with their co dependency talk from last week by discussing boundaries today. What are boundaries? How do you institute them? Won't that make matters worse? Listen in. ----- Boundariless families are dysfunctional. These families are tired. Lack of boundaries finds its way into most, if not all, relational problems we have. We mistakenly believe that if we set a boundary, it is unloving. 10 Laws of Boundaries 1. Law of sowing and reaping - needs to be co...2020-05-1524 min
PairadocsCo-DependencyWhat is co-dependency? We’ve all heard about, accused others of being it, but what exactly is it? I mean, we should depend on each other…right? “Lean on me, when you’re not strong…” Hello?! But what is it, really? Listen in this week as the guys unpack the sometimes misunderstood topic of co-dependency, and see if you can recognize your relationship…uh, I mean recognized a “friend’s” relationship. ----- Enchiladas Y Mas Closed Co dependency = when one person needs another person, and the other person needs to be needed....2020-05-0528 min
PairadocsAccepting Spouse's FlawsIn our society today, we love us some tolerance! Vive la Difference! I always like to say, except when those differences we’re “Viveing” are behaviors in our spouse that are driving us up the wall during this sheltering in place experience. How can we “let go and let God” sooth our relational differences while we’re all boarded up inside our houses 24/7? Listen in this week as the guys discuss how to accept our spouse’s faults…That’s right. I said it, FAULTS! They’re not differences, they are flaws in their character that if they loved me, they would change...2020-04-1321 min
PairadocsWhen Storms StrikeWhat happens when things don't go as expected? When God doesn't make sense? When our worst fears are realized? What then? How do we respond? What's more, how do we lead our family/kids during such a time? Listen in this week as the guys discuss how to handle the storm when it hits. ----- As parents, we set the emotional tone within the home. When something bad happens, it's not simply about you, surviving. But as a parent, it is about modeling to our children how to ha...2020-04-0623 min
PairadocsCOVID CoupleI know we discussed last week some ideas on how to cope with the entire family being at home due to the COVID, but what about working with, playing with, eating every meal with, parenting with, sitting and relaxing with, and every other activity you can think of with your spouse…every day, all day, with no breaks. Sounds fantastic right?! Or does it sound like you might need a case of Xanax airlifted to your location. So, what are some practical ideas for how to cope with sharing your every waking moment with your spouse without running screaming from y...2020-04-0214 min
PairadocsCOVID-19Okay, the COVID…how do we NOT talk about this? We’re all now working from home, schooling from home, going to church from home, and oh yea, performing all other human activity during every waking moment…from home. So how do we make it through? Other than monitoring Twitter all day? Listen in this week, as the guys discuss ways to cope with the COVID confinement. I mean, what else ya got to do? ----- 5 Things Your Family Can Do During COVID 1. Turn off the news 2020-03-2316 min
PairadocsOppressive ChristianitySo, you're talking with a friend about something other than the COVID, and your Christian faith comes up. The friend mentions that they have a huge problem with all of the evil that has been done in the name of God throughout history, and that most Christians today seem to be homophobes, xenophobes, transphobes, and, well, you get the picture. How do we respond? How do we teach our kids to respond? The boys are back this week to offer some very kind, sympathetic, non-abrasive, nor phobic-in-any-way, suggestions. ----- Oppressive Christianity years ag...2020-03-2317 min
PairadocsFamily RitualsYou know what really sticks with you…other than a foot fungus? When it comes to our families, the answer is rituals or traditions. Things that are said and done consistently, frequently, that span over a long duration. Going to church and small group a couple of times a month is good, but there’s a reason that only 32% of kids raised in evangelical homes stay believers as adults. This week the guys kick around the issue of family rituals, the glue that can help hold faiths and families together. ----- Neuroplast...2020-03-1118 min
PairadocsOn Death and DyingIt’s been said that there are only two things that are a certainty in this life: Death and Taxes…well, and you could also add the Dallas Cowboys losing in the first round of the playoffs. But your family is going face the death of a grandparent, family member, or friend at some point. That IS a certainty. So, how do we guide our families through this very sad, scary, and confusing life experience? Listen in this week. This discussion is to die for…sorry. ----- Give yourself grace! Don't judge yoursel...2020-03-0618 min
PairadocsWisdom for Mid LifeIt is easy to freak your freak in mid life. This moment, that you've been looking forward to your whole life. You have the spouse. The kids. The job. The house. But it can still feel empty. But what if this is as good as it gets? What do you do then? Listen in as the boys discuss. ----- Wisdom is having the right perspective. It is fighting the feeling of being trapped! There is purpose in mid life W...2020-02-2421 min
PairadocsLove Anyway Like a foot fungus you just can’t seem to get rid of…the boys are back with all new episodes for the new year! And they kick it off with this little gem. Question: Would you love a spouse that was gentle, loving, kind, generous, engaged, compassionate, and absolutely couldn’t keep their hands off you? WELL WHO WOULDN’T!!! Anybody would love a spouse like that. The trick is to be able to love a spouse that isn’t like that. As believers, we’re not called to love our spouse “because”, but to love them “anyway.” ----- ...2020-01-2719 min
PairadocsEmpathyWhat if there was one thing that would make most, if not all, family conflicts lessen, of not end. What would pay for get ahold of the “magic bullet” of relational harmony? Well get out your credit cards my friends, because this week, the guys discuss the all-important issue of empathy. This one little touchy-feely word can go a long way toward reducing marital, occupational, and parental conflict. How do I know? Because I can feel your pain… ----- Brene Brown on Empathy Empathy drives connection, sympathy drives disconne...2019-09-0524 min
PairadocsTalking Tragedy with KidsThe tragedy of a mass shooting. It’s all over the news. Everybody is talking about it, political blame is flying back and forth, and there sits our kids. Scared, confused, and in some cases, completely ignorant of the events swirling around them. So how do we best discuss unimaginable evil with our kids and keep their innocents intact? Not sure that's possible, but listen in as Jimmy and Josh tackle talking tragedy with our children. ----- Luby's Shooting in Killeen The Case for Faith by Lee Strobel...2019-08-2818 min
PairadocsDrowning in PoliticsIf you are as sick of politics as I am, raise your hand, right there where you are…yes, God bless you…yes, I see that hand. Are there any others? With the current political climate and ever-present social media bombarding our every waking moment, we can’t get away from politics, even if we wanted to. Every song, TV show, movie, sporting event, etc. has comments, demonstrations, or snide political comments. IT JUST NEVER ENDS!! Join the fellas this week, as they examine, how we as believers, couples, and parents can navigate the political ocean that we’re all seemingly...2019-08-2124 min
PairadocsSelf ImageWhen you look in the mirror, what do you see? What does your child see? How does our body image impact the way we perceive ourselves and how we perceive others perceive us…I may have used the word, “perceive” one too many times? Our self-image has an enormous influence on the quality of our lives and the lives of our children, yet how we determine that self-image can make us fickle at best and be damaging at it’s worst. Join the guys this week as they look at how we view our physical selves, where it comes from, and ho...2019-08-0922 min
PairadocsIsolationYou’ve heart it said that it is not good for man to be alone. Well, this week, the guys explore exactly why that is. This is not about being single, or the benefits of “alone time.” It’s about the pervasive, negative impact of toxic isolation in both individuals, couples, and families. So, in keeping with the theme, listen to this episode in a large group of your closest friends! ----- "pathology, sin, addiction breeds in isolation" "The fruit of the spirit will never breed in isolation" Iso...2019-07-3120 min
PairadocsMovies for Parenting DaughtersThis week the guys talk through essential movies to watch with your daughters. Whether you're a dad or mom, watch these movies with your girls. Through these movies you can help them learn healthy feminine traits. ----- History Lovers Club on Twitter Top 10 Movies for Girls: 1. Parent Trap 2. Mean Girls 3. Princess Diaries 4. Freaky Friday 5. Moana 6. Brave 7. Wizard of Oz 8. Frozen 9. A League of Their Own 10. Soul Surfer ...2019-07-2420 min
PairadocsPorn: What Do We Do?After three episodes dealing with the devastating impact of pornography on a person’s life. The boys thought that a wrap up session was in order. What are some practical step to elevate this problem? Listen in and find out… ----- www.brainheartworld.org Part 1 - how porn impacts our brain Part 2 - how porn impacts our relationships Part 3 - how porn impacts the world You have to get real with someone besides the men in your life. Pornography is infidelity. Any...2019-07-1527 min
PairadocsPorn: The WorldA lot of great things come in threes. The number of outs in an inning or baseball, how many branches of government the USA has, not to mention the number of personalities that make up the holy Trinity. But don’t forget to add to that list the number of episodes in the current Pairadocs series on the adverse effects that pornography has on the mind, relationships…and this week the world. Please view the third video in the series found at www.mindheartworld.org and join in the discussion of the gruesome impact that porn has on society via sex...2019-07-0922 min
PairadocsPorn: The HeartThis week the guys are halfway through their three-part series on one of our favorite topics…pornography. Hopefully, by now you’ve all gone to www.mindheartworld.org and watched the first two episodes of this groundbreaking documentary about the colossally negative impact that porn has on all that view it. This week, we will thoroughly examine part two; how viewing pornography all but prevents a person from establishing or maintaining close personal relationships. One may say, “So what?! So, I’m watching some pornography. What harm can there be?” If you are married, in a long-term relationship, or ever hope to be…...2019-07-0321 min
PairadocsPorn: The BrainWelcome to a new three-part series of Pairadocs. We don’t do this very often, but in leu of the most recent research establishing the fact that over 8 in 10 of young men between the ages of 20 and 29 are viewing hardcore pornography weekly…I did say, weekly! We felt compelled to address this issue once again. We need you to go to www.brainheartworld.org. This is an amazing three-part video series produced by an amazing organization called Fight The New Drug. Follow them on every platform that you have available to you. We want you to log in; view the videos...2019-06-2422 min
PairadocsAbortionSo, what’s more fun than talking about a VERY heart wrenching topic in a way that will alienate half the listening audience? It’s a sad subject and is even sadder that the subject has to be talked about. Take a listen this week as Jimmy and Josh honestly discuss the tragic topic of abortion. ----- Roe v Wade 1 Timothy 3 Luke 6:32 ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjo...2019-06-0325 min
PairadocsMovies for Parenting SonsThis week the guys talk through essential movies to watch with your sons. Whether you're a dad or mom, watch these movies with your sons. Through these movies you can help them learn healthy masculine traits. ----- Grumpy Cat Questions to ask while watching films: What qualities were depicted in this film that teach us what kind of man God wants us to be? How can we, like Christ, stand up against insurmountable odds? Why do some men choose to die...2019-05-2820 min
PairadocsThe Pairadocs OpenThis week the guys participate in their own golf tournament, benefiting themselves. No surprise, no one else showed up. But Jimmy and Josh had a blast playing and having a conversation about their lives as father and son. You won't want to miss. ----- ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast How d...2019-05-2031 min
PairadocsFreeze and FleeI remember once watching John Wayne in an old movie (As every red-blooded American male should do, at least once a month) as he was waiting on top of the wall at the cavalry outpost for an attack from the marauding Indians. He said to a much less experienced soldier, “It’s quiet…too quiet.” In other words, when it gets too quiet, it’s all about the hit the proverbial fan! Freeze and Flee, the last of Sue Johnson’s Demon Dialogues, has to do when couples reach the point of giving up. When it gets quiet…too quiet. If you fin...2019-05-1421 min
PairadocsParental QuestionsTune in this week and Jimmy and Josh answer parent questions they received at a recent speaking engagement. The boys bat around several topics you’re sure to enjoy. ----- The Highwaymen Lorena What is the best way to approach the topic of sex with your teenager? Early and often, don't wait until they are teenagers. This is a lifelong conversation Raising an Original by Julie Lyles Carr Preparing for Adolescence by James Dobson 2019-05-0621 min
PairadocsProtest PolkaWould you like to dance? Well, if you’re a good Baptist (and Josh most certainly is not!), the answer would an unequivocal “no.” And that would be the correct answer for all of us when it comes to the Protest Polka. This deadly relationship dance is one of the main indicators of marriages that don’t make it past the 5-year mark. Listen in as the guys, two step their way through this issue and tango their way to a solution…ok, I’m completely done with dancing puns. ----- My Redeemer Lives b...2019-04-2923 min
PairadocsSelf_Esteem_&_Your_ChildSelf-esteem. What is it? How do we acquire it? And how do we build it within our child? Is self-esteem even important? Tune in this week as the guys talk all things self-esteem and your child. ----- Little Shop of Horrors A Few Good Men How we build self-esteem in our children: - We can't just tell them how good and special they are all the time - Make sure we allow for failure - They need to be tol...2019-04-2222 min
PairadocsPlank and SpecSo, a Sequoia Redwood and a nanoparticle of dust walk into a bar… What do they have in common? It’s no joke, it’s your marriage, of course! The Bible is stuffed full of powerful and famous verses that relate to our marriage relationships. And this week, the guys dig into Matthew 7:3-5, one of the least known and most powerful of those snippets from God’ Word concerning marital bliss. Just to give you a heads up. Jesus doesn’t call folks hypocrites very often… ----- Anthony Hopkins in Silence of the Lambs - "You do...2019-04-1520 min
PairadocsGood Enough ParentingAre you sick and tired of all the books, speakers, and podcasts (present company excluded) telling you how to parent? This week, the guys kick off 2019, we our new goal…how to be a “good enough” parent. It’s not that hard, and it’s the fastest way to remove the guilt that you’re feeling for how much your kids will have to pay in counseling later in life! ----- Sam Ehlinger Wild At Heart by John Eldredge Texas WINS the NIT! Spoi...2019-04-0818 min
PairadocsProtection vs Preparation So how should we parent? Should we parent based on trying to protect our kids? Or should we try to prepare them? Or both? Listen in as the guys discuss. ----- Howard Payne New Braunfels Fearless Parenting Homeschooling vs Public School Focus on the Family: Preparing vs Protection Age of Opportunity ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers2019-01-2919 min
PairadocsToxic MasculinityDoes the term Toxic Masculinity ring a bell? It’s become the new “woke” issue in psychological circles. But the Pairadocs are here to tell you that the term is in fact, poppy cock! Poppy cock I say! Listen in as the guys debunk the latest in political psycho-babble. Not only is masculinity not toxic, it is essential to our families and our society. ----- Cowboys Outcome American Psychological Association Guidelines for Psychological Practice with Men and Boys Affirm your son's masculinity early on Prepar...2019-01-1518 min
PairadocsThe SchmidgallsMany of you have read and loved the run-away best seller, Circle Maker by Mark Batterson, well join the guys, this week, as they visit with Joel and Nina Schmidgall who co-authored the new book, Praying Circles Around Your Marriage. Have you ever wanted to pray more affectively for your marriage? Joel and Nina will provide you with several amazing, yet practical, steps to actually bring that about. Links to information discussed in the show: National Community Church Mark Batterson's The Circle Maker The Sc...2019-01-1524 min
PairadocsWhen God Doesn't Make SenseSo what do we do with the pain and suffering that we experience in life? Especially, when it happens to good people, that trying hard to life their lives according to the Word of God? We want life, and what happens to us in life to make sense, right? But what do we tell ourselves and our children when it doesn’t? When life isn’t fair. When God doesn’t make sense? Listen in, this might be just for you… ----- When God Doesn't Make Sense by James Dobson Pain i...2019-01-0720 min
PairadocsJeff HuxfordThis week, the guys sit down for a lively discussion with Jeff Huxford. He had a great career as a physician, a great family, what could possibly go wrong? How about a car accident that caused a traumatic brain injury? His life, their life, changed in that instant. You’ll love his story told in his new book, Finding Normal: An Uninvited Change; An Unexpected Outcome. Links to information discussed in the show: Jeff's First Book: Finding Normal ---- Website: www.jeffhuxford.com Facebook: ...2019-01-0723 min
PairadocsMindful LivingWhen we say “mindfulness” many of you, especially guys, tend to nod off. Mindfulness, you assume, is about meditation, yoga, and saying, “Namaste” while struggling to get off the floor. But that is NOT what we mean by being mindful. We mean, living your life intentionally, and with purpose. If you want a better marriage, a better family, a better walk with God, then you have to make a choice to make that happen. Listen in as the boys do their best impersonation of personal fitness trainers, by instructing you on how you can be your best you!! Come on!! And two a...2019-01-0217 min
PairadocsBrent CroweThe guys sit down with Brent Crowe this week. He speaks about his new book Moments 'til Midnight. Links to information discussed in the show: Student Leadership University Brent's Latest Book: Moments 'Til Midnight ---- Website: www.momentstilmidnight.com Facebook: @brent.crowe.9 Instagram: @brentacrowe Twitter: @brentacrowe ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and ...2019-01-0219 min
PairadocsChoosing Marital BattlesWe talk all the time about how we need to choose which battles are worth having with our kids, but the same is true in our marriages. There’s a difference between an irritant and a “deal breaker.” So where is that line drawn? How do we know when to let an issue go with our spouse? Better yet, CAN we let an issue go? Listen in as the guys get out their sidewalk chalk and show us where to draw healthy conflict boundaries. ----- Steve Martin John Gottman Research 2018-12-2518 min
PairadocsRussell MooreThis week, Josh has a visit with Dr. Russell Moore. Dr. Moore is President of the Ethics and Religious Liberty Commission of the Southern Baptist Convention…in other words, he’s a big wig…no, actually, he’s a huge wig! In fact, if you add an “h” to wig, as in whig, he’s the biggest Whig since Daniel Webster…just a tip o’ the hat to history buffs. Josh talks with Dr. Moore about his brand-new book, The Storm-Tossed Family: How the Cross Reshapes the Home. Links to information discussed in the show: Ethics an...2018-12-2524 min
PairadocsYou're Not Who I MarriedIt sounds crazy, but it is one of the most normal thoughts one can have in marriage, "Who is this person I married?" Sometimes our spouse seems completely different than the person we married years ago. What do we do? Is this an excuse to just give up? Is change that bad? It it inevitable? Listen in as the guys discuss what to do when our spouse changes. Spoiler alter - ALL SPOUSES CHANGE! :) Links to information discussed in the show: Baby It's Cold Outside Controversy Jeff Huxford ...2018-12-1815 min
PairadocsDan ThomasThis week the boys visit with Dan Thomas. Dan is the Director of Timberline Lodge in Winter Park, CO, which is part of a larger ministry called Torchbearers International. These ministries focus on discipling young adults and impacting the next generation. Dan and the boys discuss infusing Christ into your kids and the impact that has on them when they leave our homes. Links to information discussed in the show: Timberline Lodge Torchbearer's International Timberline Blog "Too often we're professing Christians but practicing atheis...2018-12-1823 min
PairadocsViva La DifferenceSpiritually and theoretically, we would all say that we want our lives, our marriages, and our children to be different from “the world.” Yet, if one takes, even a casual glance, its easy to see that we are not very different at all. In fact, we seem to be working overtime, LITERALLY, to make sure that we’re not different from our lost culture in the slightest way…except for maybe where we go on Sunday mornings…occasionally. Listen in as the guys discuss how we can learn to Viva La Difference!! Links to information discussed in th...2018-12-1118 min
PairadocsHayley MorganYour going to love the interview this week, as the guys visit with Hayley Morgan. Hayley is a writer, speaker, a social entrepreneur, owner of the online boutique, Nellie Taft, and in all her free time, authored the new book, Preach to Yourself: When Your Inner Critic Comes Calling, Talk Back with Truth. If I was Hayley’s inner critic, I’d be saying, “For the love! Stop doing so many things! You’re wearing me out!” Links to information discussed in the show: Nellie Taft Some of Hayley's Books:2018-12-1125 min
PairadocsLBGTQ CultureHow can we teach our child to tell the truth, when culture is screaming at us every day that objective truth doesn’t exist? There is no greater example of this than the politically generated Transgender insanity that is currently sweeping the nation. How do you respond when your 5-year-old kindergartener is being taught, in their school, that not all boys are really boys and not all girls are really girls? They are being force fed the insidious doctrine that objective reality isn’t real after all. God has called you to parent in unprecedented times. Listen in. ...2018-12-0323 min
PairadocsEllie HolcombThis week, Josh, has a great conversation with Ellie Holcomb. You know her as a singer/songwriter out of Nashville, Tennessee. But today, the conversation is all about her very first book, Who Sang the First Song? And no, you cannot simply google the answer, you must read this amazing debut children’s book from an amazing young artist. Links to information discussed in the show: Ellie's music Ellie's Latest Book: Who Sang the First Song? ---- Website: www.ellieholco...2018-12-0322 min
PairadocsGluttonyThe week after Thanksgiving is the perfect time to discuss gluttony don’t you think? The week after Black Friday is even a better time to talk about another type of gluttony. Spending too much on things that we hope will make us happy. Research and Scripture are in lockstep agreement, money and the things that you can buy with it , do not, I repeat, do not bring us any more joy, contentment, or happiness. Yet, we keep spending that it will. Why is that? Links to information discussed in the show: This is Us2018-11-2616 min
PairadocsBryan LorittsThis week the guys sit down with Bryan Loritts about the new book that he co-authored with John Ortberg, Insider Outsider: My Journey as a Stranger in White Evangelicalism and My Hope for Us All. Can anything lessen the polarization of today’s culture? Is there any hope for racial reconciliation? Listen in and learn the answers to these and many more questions from one of the Pairadocs most amazing guests! Links to information discussed in the show: Abundant Life Christian Fellowship Outreach Magazine Bryan's Latest Book...2018-11-2623 min
PairadocsUpdate NewsFor all the news that’s fit to cast on a pod! This week Jimmy and Josh look at the latest news and journal articles that will catch you up on the latest in arena of marriage and parenting. Don’t be the last on your block to be IN THE KNOW!! Don’t be ignorant! Don’t be a know-nothing, out-of-touch, brain dead, nincompoop! Listen in!! Links to information discussed in the show: Holland Man Identifies as 20 Years Younger Half of Teens are Sleep Deprived Negative Impact of To...2018-11-2117 min
PairadocsCase KeenumThis week Jimmy sits down with an ol' buddy of this Case Keenum. Yes, THAT Case Keenum, The starting quarterback of the Denver Broncos. Well, it not really like Jimmy KNOWS him personally, but they did grow up in west Texas near Abilene, They both played Texas high school football, and Jimmy won honorable all district linebacker, and Case took the Minnesota Vikings to the NFC Championship game... They discuss their mutual athletic prowess and Case’s new book, Playing for More: Trust Beyond What You Can See. Links to information discussed in the show...2018-11-2116 min
PairadocsTeen DatingI know it’s hard to believe, but one day, in the very near future, your child is going to leave to go on a date. Yep, that was a rush of adrenaline that you just felt. It’s a shock, but true. This week, the guys discuss the ins and outs of dating. All your questions will be answered, who, what, where, when, and sometimes Y and W. It’s never too early to prepare for that day when your little girl walks out of your house alone with a testosterone enflamed young man. Links to info...2018-11-1221 min
PairadocsBrett KunkleThis week the docs sit down with Brett Kunkle to discuss his new book, A Practical Guide to Culture: Helping the Next Generation Navigate Today’s World. If you’re worried about this culture’s impact on your child as they head off to school every day, this discussion is for you. Your kids can be prepared to take on all this secular society has to throw at them, and Brett’s books show you how you can be the instrument in God’s hand’s to bring that about. Links to information discussed in the show: 2018-11-1225 min
PairadocsAmerica's Second Civil WarIs the current, toxic political environment making you anxious? Scared? Angry? A recent radio show asked if it was possible that we are heading for another great American Civil War. And they were serious! If this political vitriol and violence is perplexing you and your family, tune in this week as the guys discuss how your family can survive these political times of turmoil. ----- Links to information discussed in the show: Kavanaugh Hearings ----- Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @do...2018-11-0621 min
PairadocsSandi PattyOk, ok, ok. We know this is a big week. You can't lead a season with just anyone, that is why we are dropping our interview with none other than Sandy Patty this week. Say what? Yes, we said it - Sandi Patty! Listen in as Jimmy and Josh discuss Sandi's latest book. Links to information discussed in the show: I've Got Confidence (Sound of Music) Was it a Morning Like This? MUST LISTEN Sandi's latest book: The Voice ---- Website: www.san...2018-11-0623 min
PairadocsRodney BullardThis week Josh and Jimmy sit down with Rodney Bullard who is the Vice President of Community Affairs with Chick-fil-A, Executive Director of the Chick-fil-A Foundation, and author of the new book, Heroes Wanted. You are going to love Rodney, an amazing man, with an amazing story, who will share the secret of those amazing waffle fries!! Links to information discussed in the show: chickfila.com #heroismondisplay ----- Website: www.heroeswantedbook.com Facebook: @authorrodneybullard Twitter: @rodney_bullard I...2018-10-2923 min
PairadocsFour HorsemenTune in as the guys kick around Gottman’s Four Horsemen of the Marriage Apocalypse. Watch Josh treat Jimmy with Contempt, Criticism, Stonewalling, and Defensiveness! Links to information discussed in the show: Pairadocs on YouTube! John Gottman The Four Horsemen: Criticism - Complain about a person's behavior while attacking the person Contempt - Overall vindictive and hateful attitude toward the person Defensiveness - Self protection through righteous indignation or playing the victim Stonewalling - Stop fighting and not seeki...2018-10-2920 min
PairadocsRisenmotherhoodThis week the guys talk to the gals behind the podcast Risen Motherhood. If you’re a parent, especially a mom, their story is going to move and motivate you. Links to information discussed in the show: Risen Motherhood Risen Motherhood Equipping Loving the Difficult Mom Website: www.risenmotherhood.com Facebook: @risenmotherhood Twitter: @risenmotherhood Instagram: @risenmotherhood Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjosh...2018-10-2226 min
PairadocsContentment In the Family Part 2This week, the boys wrap up their discussion on Contentment…I know this sounds boring, but this lies at the very heart of so many problems that beset our families today. Listen in. Links to information discussed in the show: "Contentment is not a behavioral issue, it is a spiritual and emotional issue." Allen Iverson - Georgetown University Gottman's Perpetual Marital Problems Acceptance is the answer to all my problems - AA Big Book p. 417 "The answer for unresolved issues - conten...2018-10-2221 min
PairadocsMelanie ShankleWhile Josh is absent…something to do with a new baby that just arrived or some other lame excuse…Jimmy is speaking with Melanie Shankle, New York Times Bestselling author of The Church of Small Things. She is hilarious and you're going to love her interview! Links to information discussed in the show: Aggie Football Pioneer Woman Big Boo Podcast Sophie Hudson (Boo Mama) Book by Melanie: Nobody's Cuter Than You The Antelope in the Living Room Chu...2018-10-1521 min
PairadocsContentment Part 1We are so passionate about our nation’s, church’s, and family’s lack of contentment, that we filled two shows. This week is part one. We were going to leave it just one show, but then there was all this other info that we felt had to be added. I mean we couldn’t just leave it like that unfinished, could we? It had to be better, in fact this show on contentment could never be good enough, right? We have to keep working to get it just right. I’m not sure we can get it done in just two shows...2018-10-1519 min
PairadocsIf You're Not First, You're LastBoth of these guys are married. Both love their wives. But this week, they kick around the difficult issue of, not just loving their wives, but making sure their wives feel as though they are their number one priority. Everybody knows we should make our spouses number one, but it’s easier said than done. It looks good on paper, but as my old football coach used to say, “We don’t play on paper!” Links to information discussed in the show: Talladega Nights #1 Wife Mug AL Franken sexual...2018-10-0818 min
PairadocsBob GoffYou know him, you love him. He's every Christian's lovable grandpa... Bob Goff. And Guess what? He found time in the midst of loving the entire world to write another book. Listen in as Josh sits down with Bob to discuss Everybody Always. Links to information discussed in the show: Bob's Latest Book: Everybody Always Also: Love Does ---- Website: www.bobgoff.com Facebook: @bobgoffis Instagram: @bobgoff Twitter: @bobgoff ----- ...2018-10-0823 min
PairadocsMarital Myths Week TwoThis week Josh and Jimmy plow into their second week of exposing Marital Myths. This week they confront Myth #3, Common Interests Keep Us Together and Myth #4, Never Go to Bed Angry. Dumber words have never been spoken…other than, “Love is never having to say you’re sorry.” Now, THAT was really dumb, but these two are really dumb as well. ----- Links to information discussed in the show: Marriage Myth #3: Common Interests Keep Us Together You grow and change, so grow and change together Commitment should be what keeps you together Interest in our spouse, not in our s...2018-10-0113 min
PairadocsAnnie DownsThe docs are so excited to sit down this week with none other than Annie Downs. Annie is host of the very popular That Sound Fun Podcast, and author of the new book, Remember God. You know her, you love her, and your going to love her even more after hearing her what she has to say about this book that she never wanted to write. ----- Links to information discussed in the show: That Sounds Fun Podcast When God Doesn't Make Sense By James Dobson Annie's latest book: Remember God Other books by Annie ---- Website...2018-10-0120 min
PairadocsMarriage Myths First Week For the past few weeks the boys have discussed several parenting myths, now it's time to take a swing at the spouses. This is the first installment of marriage myths. Listen in as Jimmy and Josh dispel the myths that happy couples don't argue and marital sex is boring sex. Links to information discussed in the show: Marriage Myth #1: Happy Couples Don't Argue Happy couples... argue within limits and just about the issue at hand. can agree to disagree solve problems pursue mutual understanding and mutual empathy Marriage Myth #2 Monogamous Marital Sex is Boring Sex Happiest, most satisfied sexual relationships are...2018-09-2618 min
PairadocsShannan MartinThe guys are excited to sit down, for the second time, with Shannan Martin about her new book, Ministry of Ordinary Places: Waking Up to God’s Goodness Around You. They discuss how God doesn’t call us to necessarily do great things in exotic places, but to do ordinary things in ordinary places to fulfill His Kingdom here on earth. You’re going to love her…again! Links to information discussed in the show: Shannan's latest book: Ministry of Ordinary Places: Waking Up to God's Goodness Around You ---- Website: www.shannanmartinwrites.com Twitter: @ShannanWrites Facebook: @shannanmartinwrites Instagram: @s...2018-09-2623 min
PairadocsParenting Myths Second EpisodeThis week Jimmy and Josh discuss two more parenting myths that so many of us fall victim to. Myth #3- We as parents must treat all our children exactly the same. And Myth #4- If you become angry in front of your kids, you’re a bad parent. Listen in as the guys de-bunk the bunk! 2018-09-1720 min
PairadocsVan MoodyThis week we are breathing rarefied air as we are welcoming back one of just two guests that have appeared twice on Pairadocs podcast. While Jimmy is out healing hearts and generally making the world a better place, Josh sits down, once again, with Van Moody about his latest book, Desired by God: Discover a Strong, Soul-Satisfying Relationship with God by Understanding Who His Is and How Much He Loves You2018-09-1724 min
PairadocsDavid VanderpoolToday, Jimmy and Josh talk to the real deal. If you ever wanted to mold your Christian faith after a modern-day disciple of Jesus, Dr. David Vanderpool would be THE MAN. A successful surgeon in Dallas, Texas, left his practice and moved his family to Haiti, to change lives for the Kingdom, one broken dream at a time. 2018-09-0325 min
PairadocsPairadocs Podcast Update NewsThis week, Jimmy and Josh discuss some of the latest parenting and family news articles found floating through the interwebs. Join them and get caught up on all the pertinent information you need to know to be a fully informed and engaged parent. 2018-08-0719 min
PairadocsThe Privilege ProblemListen in as Jimmy and Josh discuss Dr. Madeline Levine’s new book, The Price of Privilege: How Parental Pressure and Material Advantage are Creating a Generation of Disconnected and Unhappy Kids. You would think that it would be great for a kid to grow up in a home where all his needs are met, parents are focused and involved, and he’s provided with the best educational experience out there…but apparently, you’d be wrong. We’re learning that the more a child is given in life, the more toxic that life can become.2018-07-3022 min
PairadocsRelax! You’re not going to screw up your kids!If Josh and Jimmy could share one thing with struggling anxious parents it would be, “Relax! You’re not going to screw up your kids!” You know why grandparents make such great parents now? They tend not to sweat the small stuff, and a lifetime of parenting has taught them that most things are small stuff. If you love your kids and try to be the best parent you can be…take a deep breath and chill. They’re going to be okay. This whole parenting thing may kill you, but your kids are going to be okay.2018-07-2517 min
PairadocsJohnny BakerThis week, Josh sits down with Johnny Baker who is the Celebrate Recovery pastor at Saddleback church in California (where CR got started BTW) and national director of Celebrate Recovery about his brand-new book, The Road to Freedom. So if you struggle with any type of hurt, hang-up, or habit…this interview is for you. 2018-07-2529 min
PairadocsRigorous HonestyThis week Jimmy and Josh discuss their road to success, including how they recently were awarded the Nobel Peace Prize…oh, okay. So that’s actually not what they are discussing. Instead, they will probe the topic of Rigorous Honesty within the family. They will unpack this issue and emphasize just how important honesty is in all our relationships. BUT, when it comes to honesty, is it possible to have too much of a good thing? Listen in to find out.2018-07-1620 min
PairadocsChristian SexismThis week Jimmy and Josh piggy back off of their discussion with Sam Ponder about the sexism that she experienced while being a lone female in an industry that is all but exclusively male. That got the guys thinking about sexism within the Christian community. Is it real, or are some people simply making much ado about nothing? Has the traditional protestant doctrine of women can’t be pastors and wives are to submit to their husbands opened the door to sexual discrimination that many of us don’t even notice? Listen in! If you’re a guy or you’re a ga...2018-07-0923 min
PairadocsParental AngerThe Pairadocs sit down and discuss parental anger today. Let’s face it, kids are little idiots. They do and say the stupidest things – God love them. It is easy to be frustrated when trying to do life with them, but parental anger is one of the most harmful things we can do and show our children. In this episode Jimmy and Josh share ways you can keep calm when parenting your kids. 2018-06-2527 min
PairadocsGary ThomasThe guys interview Gary Thomas today on the show. Gary is a pastor, author, speaker and he has a passion for his Savior and assisting struggling marriages. Jimmy and Josh discuss his latest book, Cherish.2018-06-2523 min
PairadocsEmotional ControlJimmy and Josh discuss not letting emotions control your marital relationship. When it comes to marriage there is a lot of attention paid to the fact that emotions should be given and received. We should have more, not less, emotions, correct? It depends. The guys talk about the dangers of having too many emotions in marriage.2018-06-1123 min
PairadocsInlawsJimmy and Josh discuss inlaws on today’s show. Our families of origin can often times have too much control over our marriage, family and children. Listen in as the Pairadocs share insight dealing with inlaws that become outlaws.2018-05-2820 min
PairadocsBilly Lee Myers, Jr.This week the boys sit down with…one of the boys. Not only is Billy Lee Myers Jr. Jimmy’s older brother and audio, technical, and overall production director of Pairadocs, he was once the acclaimed audio supervisor for the world renown TV music show, Austin City Limits for over 20 years, until…he broke his neck. That injury sidelined him from the music industry job that he loved but opened doors and opportunities that he couldn’t have imagined. Billy is now a well-respected psychotherapist in Austin and sits down on the other side of the mic this time to discuss...2018-05-2124 min
PairadocsBrian DembowczykThis week Josh sits down with Brian Dembowczyk. No, he’s not from Canada, in fact, he can’t even skate! Brian is the managing editor of The Gospel Project, which is a Bible study resource that is used by over one million people each week. They discuss Brian’s latest book, Cornerstones. If you want your child engaged and connected to Scripture like never before, this interview is a must listen. 2018-05-0721 min
PairadocsGinger HubbardThis week while Josh is off galivanting. Jimmy sits down with award winning author Ginger Hubbard to discuss her new book, I Can’t Believe You Just Said That! Biblical Wisdom for Taming Your Child’s Tongue. If scolding, punishing, or yelling are ineffective ways of handling our kid’s wayward speech. What is a solid biblical approach? Listen in and you’ll find out! 2018-04-3021 min
PairadocsBob GoffYou know him, you love him. He's every Christian's lovable grandpa... Bob Goff. And guess what? He found time in the midst of loving the entire world to write another book. Listen in as Josh sits down with Bob to discuss Everybody Always. 2018-04-2323 min
PairadocsShameShame is this insidious, silent killer that destroys relationships, families, and lives. Many of us grew up with shame as our constant companion, and without even thinking, we allow it to impact our marriages and we pass that shame on to our kids. Yet, shame leads to isolation and that breads sin, addition, and other lethal pathologies. Listen this week and Josh and Jimmy show us how to embrace Guilt and reject Shame.2018-04-1618 min
PairadocsTommy GreenListen this week as Jimmy and Josh let down their hair, make their way to the mosh pit, and have an in depth conversation with Tommy Green, the lead singer of the Christian hardcore band, Sleeping Giant. This guy is intriguing, original, passionate, and an amazing believer. See what you can learn from a guy with more tattoos than…well, certainly more than Josh. Way more than Josh.2018-03-1925 min
PairadocsJimmy MyersJosh sits down with Jimmy to discuss Fearless Parenting that drops in July. They discuss how parents should move away from fear-based parenting and move toward preparation-based parenting.2017-05-2927 min
PairadocsTransgenderismFor their first content show Dr. Jimmy Myers and Dr. Josh Myers discuss transgenderism. Transgender issues have been in the news a lot lately. The Pairadocs talk through a Christian's response to this difficult topic.2016-07-1832 min