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How to Write Better5 Ways A.I. Is Making Your Writing Worse (and 5 Ways It's Making Your Writing Better)New York Times–bestselling author Joshua Fields Millburn discusses how to use the pros and cons of using A.I. in your writing. Download our free ebook, 15 WAYS TO WRITE BETTER: https://howtowritebetter.org. Follow How to Write Better: https://instagram.com/howtowritebetter https://www.tiktok.com/@towritebetter https://facebook.com/towritebetter https://x.com/towritebetter
2025-07-3007 min
The MinimalistsNonsenseThe Minimalists speak with Kapil Gupta about letting go of nonsense, the many ways humans waste their lives, what happens when you minimize ambition, and more. Discussed in this episode: What does it mean to "overcome the world"? (3:27) Why does Dr. Gupta have a disdain for smartphones? (9:42) Why is "getting something to be happy" an empty act? (16:13) What does a wasted life look like? (22:28) Why has Joshua abandoned most of his ambitions? (38:41) Listen to the full Maximal episode on Patreon: patreon.com/theminimalists ...
2025-07-0754 minThe MinimalistsThe SacrificesThe Minimalists talk about the right amount of deprivation, sacrificing for others, obsession with books, education that aligns with minimalist principles, and more. Discussed in this episode: How much should I deprive myself for the sake of loving others? (2:05) When does it make sense to stop sacrificing for another person? (16:38) Right Here, Right Now: Peek inside Joshua's minimalist home. (35:38) Listener tip: Coming to terms with body-image insecurities that you can't control. (42:26) Listen to the full Maximal episode on Patreon: patreon.com/theminimalists Detailed show notes...
2025-06-3047 minThe MinimalistsHalf-Dirty ClothesThe Minimalists talk about what to do with half-dirty clothes, setting minimalist boundaries, breaking difficult news to your mom, the role our outfits play in our identities, getting an education outside the school system, letting go of regret, and more! Discussed in this episode: What would a minimalist do with clothes that have been worn but aren't ready to to be washed? (2:05) What do you do with your half-dirty clothes? (16:24) Right Here, Right Now: Joshua's birthday request. (30:38) Listener tip: Spice up the Seasonality Rule by minimizing out-of-season clothing. (32:54)
2025-06-0939 minHow to Write BetterWhy Most Blogs FailNew York Times–bestselling author Joshua Fields Millburn discusses the three reasons most blogs fail. Download our free ebook, HOW TO START A BLOG: https://minimalists.com/blog Be On the Mountain: https://theminimalists.com/be Follow How to Write Better: https://instagram.com/howtowritebetter https://www.tiktok.com/@towritebetter https://facebook.com/towritebetter https://twitter.com/towritebetter
2023-12-2004 minHow to Write BetterHow to Start a Blog for FreeNew York Times–bestselling author Joshua Fields Millburn discusses the most popular blogging topics and how to start a blog with no money. Download our free ebook, HOW TO START A BLOG: https://minimalists.com/blog Follow How to Write Better: https://instagram.com/howtowritebetter https://www.tiktok.com/@towritebetter https://facebook.com/towritebetter https://twitter.com/towritebetter
2023-12-1302 minHow to Write BetterWhat Makes a Blog Successful?New York Times–bestselling author Joshua Fields Millburn talks about how he measures success as a blogger. Download our free ebook, HOW TO START A BLOG: https://minimalists.com/blog Follow How to Write Better: https://instagram.com/howtowritebetter https://www.tiktok.com/@towritebetter https://facebook.com/towritebetter https://twitter.com/towritebetter
2023-12-0602 minHow to Write BetterHow to Write a Compelling BlogNew York Times–bestselling author Joshua Fields Millburn shares three tips for making your blog posts more compelling. Download our free ebook, HOW TO START A BLOG: https://minimalists.com/blog Follow How to Write Better: https://instagram.com/howtowritebetter https://www.tiktok.com/@towritebetter https://facebook.com/towritebetter https://twitter.com/towritebetter
2023-11-2902 minHow to Write BetterWhat Should I Blog About?New York Times–bestselling author Joshua Fields Millburn asks six questions to help you figure out what to blog about. Download our free ebook, HOW TO START A BLOG: https://minimalists.com/blog Follow How to Write Better: https://instagram.com/howtowritebetter https://www.tiktok.com/@towritebetter https://facebook.com/towritebetter https://twitter.com/towritebetter
2023-11-2303 minHow to Write BetterAre Blogs Still Relevant?New York Times–bestselling author Joshua Fields Millburn answers five more questions about blogging. Download our free ebook, HOW TO START A BLOG: https://minimalists.com/blog Follow How to Write Better: https://instagram.com/howtowritebetter https://www.tiktok.com/@towritebetter https://facebook.com/towritebetter https://twitter.com/towritebetter
2023-11-1504 minHow to Write BetterHow Do I Become a Blogger?New York Times–bestselling author Joshua Fields Millburn talks about why blogs are more relevant than ever. Download our free ebook, HOW TO START A BLOG: https://minimalists.com/blog Follow How to Write Better: https://instagram.com/howtowritebetter https://www.tiktok.com/@towritebetter https://facebook.com/towritebetter https://twitter.com/towritebetter
2023-11-0803 minHow to Write BetterWhich Blogging Platform Should I Use?New York Times–bestselling author Joshua Fields Millburn shares 5 reasons he uses WordPress instead of Squarespace to host his blog. Download our free ebook, HOW TO START A BLOG: https://minimalists.com/blog Follow How to Write Better: https://instagram.com/howtowritebetter https://www.tiktok.com/@towritebetter https://facebook.com/towritebetter https://twitter.com/towritebetter
2023-10-2506 minHow to Write BetterWhat Do Bloggers Actually Do?New York Times–bestselling author Joshua Fields Millburn answers four questions about being a professional blogger. Download our free ebook, HOW TO START A BLOG: https://minimalists.com/blog Follow How to Write Better: https://instagram.com/howtowritebetter https://www.tiktok.com/@towritebetter https://facebook.com/towritebetter https://twitter.com/towritebetter
2023-10-1804 minHow to Write BetterHow to Make Money BloggingNew York Times–bestselling author Joshua Fields Millburn talks about five ways The Minimalists make money from blogging. Download our free ebook, HOW TO START A BLOG: https://minimalists.com/blog Follow How to Write Better: https://instagram.com/howtowritebetter https://www.tiktok.com/@towritebetter https://facebook.com/towritebetter https://twitter.com/towritebetter
2023-10-1106 min
How to LoveThe End of the RoadIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss the end of the road for How to Love. Listen to the rest of episode 60 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2023-07-1314 minHow to Write BetterHow to Research for Your WritingNew York Times–bestselling author Joshua Fields Millburn talks about avoiding the distractions of the Internet while writing. Download our free ebook, 15 WAYS TO WRITE BETTER: https://howtowritebetter.org. Follow How to Write Better: https://instagram.com/howtowritebetter https://www.tiktok.com/@towritebetter https://facebook.com/towritebetter https://twitter.com/towritebetter
2023-07-0503 minHow to Write BetterHow to Learn GrammarNew York Times–bestselling author Joshua Fields Millburn talks about his favorite grammar book. Download our free ebook, 15 WAYS TO WRITE BETTER: https://howtowritebetter.org. Grammatically Correct: https://amzn.to/3JvNIMx Follow How to Write Better: https://instagram.com/howtowritebetter https://www.tiktok.com/@towritebetter https://facebook.com/towritebetter https://twitter.com/towritebetter
2023-06-2803 minHow to Write BetterTrigger WarningsNew York Times–bestselling author Joshua Fields Millburn talks about whether you should include trigger warnings in your writing. Download our free ebook, 15 WAYS TO WRITE BETTER: https://howtowritebetter.org. Follow How to Write Better: https://instagram.com/howtowritebetter https://www.tiktok.com/@towritebetter https://facebook.com/towritebetter https://twitter.com/towritebetter
2023-06-2103 minHow to Write BetterHow to Make Your Writing InterestingNew York Times–bestselling author Joshua Fields Millburn talks about writing versus editing. Download our free ebook, 15 WAYS TO WRITE BETTER: https://howtowritebetter.org. Follow How to Write Better: https://instagram.com/howtowritebetter https://www.tiktok.com/@towritebetter https://facebook.com/towritebetter https://twitter.com/towritebetter
2023-06-1403 minHow to LoveSticking Around Is the Same Thing as Being StuckIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss breakups, incompatable beliefs, being stuck in a relationship, and seeing abundance during difficult times. Listen to the rest of episode 59 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2023-06-1319 minHow to Write BetterHow to Face the Blank Page when WritingNew York Times–bestselling author Joshua Fields Millburn talks about overcoming the fear of the blank page. Download our free ebook, 15 WAYS TO WRITE BETTER: https://howtowritebetter.org. Send your writing questions to questions@howtowritebetter.org. Follow How to Write Better: https://instagram.com/howtowritebetter https://www.tiktok.com/@towritebetter https://facebook.com/towritebetter https://twitter.com/towritebetter
2023-06-0703 minHow to Write BetterHow to Improve Your Sentences when WritingNew York Times–bestselling author Joshua Fields Millburn talks about improving your sentences by knowing when to show and when to tell. Download our free ebook, 15 WAYS TO WRITE BETTER: https://howtowritebetter.org. Send your writing questions to questions@howtowritebetter.org. Follow How to Write Better: https://instagram.com/howtowritebetter https://www.tiktok.com/@towritebetter https://facebook.com/towritebetter https://twitter.com/towritebetter
2023-05-3105 minHow to Write BetterBe Self-Absorbed to Improve Your WritingNew York Times–bestselling author Joshua Fields Millburn talks about why being self-absorbed is a good thing for a writer. Download our free ebook, 15 WAYS TO WRITE BETTER: https://howtowritebetter.org. Send your writing questions to questions@howtowritebetter.org. Follow How to Write Better: https://instagram.com/howtowritebetter https://www.tiktok.com/@towritebetter https://facebook.com/towritebetter https://twitter.com/towritebetter
2023-05-2403 minHow to LoveDoing the DishesIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss sharing spaces and chores when partners have dramatically different preferences. Listen to the rest of episode 58 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2023-05-2309 minHow to Write BetterEliminate These Rules from Your Writing RoutineNew York Times–bestselling author Joshua Fields Millburn talks about avoiding procrastination and completionism in your writing routine. Download our free ebook, 15 WAYS TO WRITE BETTER: https://howtowritebetter.org. Follow How to Write Better: https://instagram.com/howtowritebetter https://www.tiktok.com/@towritebetter https://facebook.com/towritebetter https://twitter.com/towritebetter
2023-05-1805 minHow to Write BetterHow to Find Topics to Write AboutNew York Times–bestselling author Joshua Fields Millburn shares several ways to find writing topics. Download our free ebook, 15 WAYS TO WRITE BETTER: https://howtowritebetter.org. Follow How to Write Better: https://instagram.com/howtowritebetter https://www.tiktok.com/@towritebetter https://facebook.com/towritebetter https://twitter.com/towritebetter
2023-05-1004 minHow to LoveHow to Maintain a FriendshipIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss navigating friendships through different seasons of life. Listen to the rest of episode 57 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2023-05-0313 minHow to LoveLouis CK Saved ComedyIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss Louis CK's most recent comedy special and why freedom is the key to comedic, creative, and life brilliance. Listen to the rest of episode 56 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2023-04-1910 minHow to LoveKicking Him OutIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss the need for alone time in a relationship. Listen to the rest of episode 55 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2023-04-0408 minHow to LoveA Toxic Love SongIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss the most toxic love song they've ever heard. Listen to the rest of episode 54 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2023-03-1708 minHow to LoveRelationship FOMOIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua talk about the fear of missing out on a relationship dispite being happy on your own. Listen to the rest of episode 53 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2023-03-0909 minHow to LoveSexual KinksIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua talk about the best ways to discuss sexual kinks with a new partner. Listen to the rest of episode 52 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2023-02-1707 minHow to Write BetterWhat the Heck Is a Preposition?New York Times–bestselling author Joshua Fields Millburn discusses how to use the 49 most common prepositions. Download our free ebook, 15 WAYS TO WRITE BETTER: https://howtowritebetter.org. The Only Grammar Book You'll Ever Need: https://amzn.to/3ZtrNfi Follow How to Write Better: https://instagram.com/howtowritebetter https://www.tiktok.com/@towritebetter https://facebook.com/towritebetter https://twitter.com/towritebetter
2023-02-1504 minHow to Write BetterImprove Your Verbs to Improve Your WritingNew York Times–bestselling author Joshua Fields Millburn discusses the differences among action verbs, being verbs, transitive verbs, intransitive, linking verbs, irregular verbs, and helping verbs in this How to Write Better lesson. Download our free ebook, 15 WAYS TO WRITE BETTER: https://howtowritebetter.org. The Only Grammar Book You'll Ever Need: https://amzn.to/3ZtrNfi Follow How to Write Better: https://instagram.com/howtowritebetter https://www.tiktok.com/@towritebetter https://facebook.com/towritebetter https://twitter.com/towritebetter
2023-02-0807 minHow to LoveWhat We Fall in When We Fall in LoveIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss the misconceptions of falling in love by contrasting The 1975's hit song "I'm in Love With You" with an Dr. Christopher Ryan's essay "What We Fall in When We Fall in Love." Listen to the rest of episode 51 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2023-02-0107 minHow to Write BetterUnderstanding AdjectivesNew York Times–bestselling author Joshua Fields Millburn talks about how to identify adjectives in this How to Write Better lesson. Download our free ebook, 15 WAYS TO WRITE BETTER: https://howtowritebetter.org The Only Grammar Book You'll Ever Need: https://amzn.to/3ZtrNfi Follow How to Write Better: https://instagram.com/howtowritebetter https://www.tiktok.com/@towritebetter https://facebook.com/towritebetter https://twitter.com/towritebetter
2023-02-0104 minHow to Write BetterPronouns Are ConfusingNew York Times–bestselling author Joshua Fields Millburn talks about the seven types of pronouns in this How to Write Better lesson. Download our free ebook, 15 WAYS TO WRITE BETTER: https://howtowritebetter.org The Only Grammar Book You'll Ever Need: https://amzn.to/3ZtrNfi Follow How to Write Better: https://instagram.com/howtowritebetter https://www.tiktok.com/@towritebetter https://facebook.com/towritebetter https://twitter.com/towritebetter
2023-01-2506 minHow to Write BetterThe Only Grammar Book You'll Ever NeedNew York Times–bestselling author Joshua Fields Millburn talks about the many different kinds of nouns. Download our free ebook, 15 WAYS TO WRITE BETTER: https://howtowritebetter.org The Only Grammar Book You'll Ever Need: https://amzn.to/3ZtrNfi Follow How to Write Better: https://instagram.com/howtowritebetter https://www.tiktok.com/@towritebetter https://facebook.com/towritebetter https://twitter.com/towritebetter
2023-01-1805 minHow to LoveNew Romantic RelationshipsIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss the ill-conceived ideas that people have about new relationships and why those ideas block love. Listen to the rest of episode 50 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2023-01-1506 minHow to LovePower DynamicsIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss relationship power dynamics, the difference between power and coercion, and the desire to relinquish power. Listen to the rest of episode 49 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2023-01-0214 minHow to LoveWiggly ResolutionsIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua take a walk through nature to discuss Joshua's recent resolution to be more wiggly without renouncing his rigidity. Listen to the rest of episode 48 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2022-12-1508 minHow to LoveNew Relationship PrivilageIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss an absurd self-help comment from TikTok, the difference between commitment and devotion, the privilege of spending time apart, and more. Listen to the rest of episode 47 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2022-12-0206 minHow to Write BetterJargon Makes Your Writing Feel InauthenticNew York Times–bestselling author Joshua Fields Millburn talks about why jargon makes writing sound inauthentic. Download our free ebook, 15 WAYS TO WRITE BETTER: https://howtowritebetter.org
2022-11-3004 minHow to Write BetterWord-Swapping Hurts WritingNew York Times–bestselling author Joshua Fields Millburn talks about common word-swapping mistakes writers make. Download our free ebook, 15 WAYS TO WRITE BETTER: https://howtowritebetter.org
2022-11-2304 minHow to Write BetterDon't Utilize Puff WordsNew York Times–bestselling author Joshua Fields Millburn talks about avoiding "strings of puffery" in your writing. Download our free ebook, 15 WAYS TO WRITE BETTER: https://howtowritebetter.org
2022-11-1603 minHow to LoveMonogamishIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss the boundaries of their "monogamish" relationship, the primacy of honesty, why the obligation can kill chemisty, balancing novelty with security, and the openhearted negotiation of interests without giving ultimatums. Listen to the rest of episode 46 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2022-11-1507 minHow to Write BetterYour writing is not very unique.New York Times–bestselling author Joshua Fields Millburn talks about noncomparable adjectives and why your writing is not "very unique." Download our free ebook, 15 WAYS TO WRITE BETTER: https://howtowritebetter.org
2022-11-0904 minHow to LoveScrolling Is the New SmokingIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss how glowing screens interrupt real-life connections, the staggering statistics regarding texting during sex, and the tech hygiene they personally use to keep phones from interrupting their relationships. Listen to the rest of episode 45 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2022-11-0107 minHow to Write BetterReviewing My Own Bad WritingNew York Times–bestselling author Joshua Fields Millburn reviews some of his own bad writing. Download our free ebook, 15 WAYS TO WRITE BETTER: https://howtowritebetter.org
2022-10-2607 minHow to Write BetterSuffering Through Mike Majlak's BookNew York Times–bestselling author Joshua Fields Millburn reviews the bad writing in Mike Majlak's book. Download our free ebook, 15 WAYS TO WRITE BETTER: https://howtowritebetter.org
2022-10-1905 minHow to LoveMaking Time for DesireIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss shifting perspectives of time, being present within any given experience, sharing flow-state experiences with your partner, and continuing to see each other over the years. Listen to the rest of episode 44 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2022-10-1507 minHow to Write BetterMost Poetry Is UglyNew York Times–bestselling author Joshua Fields Millburn teaches us about good and bad poetry. Download our free ebook, 15 WAYS TO WRITE BETTER: https://howtowritebetter.org
2022-10-1204 minHow to Write Better"Chick Lit" Isn't That Bad!New York Times–bestselling author Joshua Fields Millburn contrasts two examples of so-called chick lit. Download our free ebook, 15 WAYS TO WRITE BETTER: https://howtowritebetter.org
2022-10-0504 minHow to Write BetterThe Da Vinci Code Is Worse than You Remember!New York Times–bestselling author Joshua Fields Millburn discusses the good and bad writing in Dan Brown's blockbuster novel "The Da Vinci Code." Download our free ebook, 15 WAYS TO WRITE BETTER: https://howtowritebetter.org
2022-10-0506 minHow to Write BetterJodi Picoult's Hilarious ClichéNew York Times–bestselling author Joshua Fields Millburn talks about the bad writing in Jodi Picoult's most famous novel. Download our free ebook, 15 WAYS TO WRITE BETTER: https://howtowritebetter.org
2022-10-0505 minHow to Write BetterJohn Grisham Struggles to Write About ThisNew York Times–bestselling author Joshua Fields Millburn talks about the bad writing in John Grisham's new novel. Download our free ebook, 15 WAYS TO WRITE BETTER: https://howtowritebetter.org
2022-10-0505 minHow to Write BetterAmy Schumer's Memoir Is So Bad!New York Times–bestselling author Joshua Fields Millburn talks about why Amy Schumer's memoir is poorly written. Download our free ebook, 15 WAYS TO WRITE BETTER: https://howtowritebetter.org
2022-10-0504 minHow to LoveRelationship FastingIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss the concept of relationship fasting, when distance between partners can be nourishing, why relational feasting eliminates desire, and how embracing distance allows each partner to evolve. Listen to the rest of episode 43 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2022-10-0108 minHow to LoveThe Best Sex Advice EverIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss having sex with a germaphobe, unreasonable sex requirements, and establishing boundaries that encourage sexual spontaneity. Plus Bex shares a sex PSA from her college boyfriend's father. Listen to the rest of episode 42 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2022-09-1508 minHow to LoveMost Emergencies Aren'tIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua talk about living without mobile phones, the folly of relying on significant others during an emergency, and learning to be unavailable for periods of time. Listen to the rest of episode 41 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2022-09-0104 minHow to LoveTinder Profile of the MonthIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua stumble upon a hilarious dating profile. They discuss why it's important to present a truthful but light-hearted version of ourselves when dating new people. Listen to the rest of episode 40 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2022-08-1505 minHow to LoveHow to Be IntimateIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua talk about maintaining intimacy while dealing with a chronic illness, broadening the definition of sex, and the protective barriers that block intimacy. Listen to the rest of episode 39 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2022-08-0109 minHow to LoveNipple Piercings and Nude BeachesIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss Bex's nipple piercings, whether she'd get them again, and their recent experience at a nude beach. Listen to the rest of episode 38 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2022-07-1506 minHow to LoveLearning to Love AgainIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss the song "Learning to Love Again" and why it unexpectedly made Bex cry during their recording session. Then they share how they both have learned to love again throughout their relationship. Listen to the rest of episode 37 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2022-07-0107 minHow to LoveAlone SpaceIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss why they won't be living under the same roof full-time despite recently purchasing a home together, why they both cherish their alone time, and how they anticipate navigating their introverted needs with their daughter being in California during the school year. Listen to the rest of episode 36 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2022-06-1514 minHow to LoveFear as a MotivatorIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss moving from fear to love; they also discuss why acceptance, control, and safety are the primary aspects of a fear-based mindset. Listen to the rest of episode 35 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2022-06-0110 minHow to LoveRelationship GluttonyIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss the bliss and budens of "new relationship energy," why lust disapates during periods of prolonged presence, and several ways to cultivate independence. Listen to the rest of episode 34 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2022-05-1508 minHow to LoveRelationship FoodIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss the simple foods they eat most frequently, how humans have made eating unnecessarily complex, midset shifts to avoid boredom even when on a highly restrictive diet, seeking deep nourishment, and JFM's framework of "will I be glad I ate this tomorrow?" Listen to the rest of episode 33 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2022-05-0110 minHow to LoveCorrosive RelationshipsIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss ending a relationship mindfully, the downside of compassion in a divorce, graduating from past relationships, and the inevitability of conflict in corrosive relationships, and they introduce the concept of "emotional bricks." Listen to the rest of episode 32 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2022-04-1518 minHow to LoveMissmatched Sex DrivesIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss missmatched libidos, being flexible when it comes to meeting each other's sexual needs, and how health dramatically affects sex drive and overall vitality. Listen to the rest of episode 31 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2022-04-0114 minHow to LoveDifficult PeopleIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss why they prefer to spend very little time with other people, how they prioritize showing up for others as "the best version of themselves," the best time to discuss expectations, and when to distance yourself from someone; plus Bex talks about being a "hot house plant." Listen to the rest of episode 30 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2022-03-1523 minHow to LoveTime ApartIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss keeping their connection alive after seven years, being comfortable with your partner, and actively working to avoid complacency so that you don't take your partner for granted. Listen to the rest of episode 29 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2022-03-0209 minHow to LoveSex DistanceIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss embracing physical distance to increase attraction, how close proximity decreases physical interest, why redefining sex can drive sexual tension, and their willingness to renegotiate norms and routines around sex. Listen to the rest of episode 28 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2022-02-1508 minHow to LoveBook RecommendationsIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss their reading preferences, Joshua's love of fiction, their favorite authors, and they share a few book, essay, and memoir recommendations. Listen to the rest of episode 27 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2022-02-0216 minHow to LoveFoot FetishIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss the fulfillment of fantasies; the conflation of "love," "like," and "lust"; and loving someone even if they can't fulfill your personal fantasy. Listen to the rest of episode 26 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2022-01-1806 minHow to LoveFake ParentsIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss "only-child criticism," why needing validation and acceptance is a prison, what "real" parenting is, letting go of the impulse to have a mom-tribe, and being disinterested in commiserating. Listen to the rest of episode 25 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2022-01-0108 minHow to LoveMarital FelatioIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss finding enjoyment during sex even when you're stuck in your head; the empowering and disempowering stories we tell ourselves about sex, self-esteem, and relationships; and exploring non-traditional solutions to sexual incompatibility. Listen to the rest of episode 24 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2021-12-1614 minHow to LoveSuperficial LoveIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss why it's perfectly fine to be superficial, why superficiality isn't wrong or bad, and why a superficial person doesn't necessarily lack of depth. Listen to the rest of episode 23 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2021-12-0120 minHow to LoveReprogramming the ProgrammingIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss the role of self-love in intimacy, finding perfection, noticing how we've been programmed to be dissatisfied with ourselves, and more. Listen to the rest of episode 22 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2021-11-1607 minHow to LoveEnduring PassionIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss what passion is; the enormous differences between commitment, obligation, and devotion; and how our tolerance of suffering may change. Listen to the rest of episode 21 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2021-11-0110 minHow to LoveBalancing Time TogetherIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss spending time together versus time alone, the fallacy of "the one," allowing our partner's autonomy, working through insecurity, and defining expectations. Listen to the rest of episode 20 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2021-10-1910 minHow to LoveThe Misery of DependenceIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss untangling feelings, freedom, and love. Listen to the rest of episode 19 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2021-10-0211 minHow to LoveReunion SexIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss sexual awkwardness, the desire for novelty, the effects of monogamy on testosterone levels, and why reunion sex is often the best. Listen to the rest of episode 19 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2021-09-1504 minHow to LoveNot in the MoodIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua talk about viewing sex as a way to bring pleasure to your partner even when you don't desire it yourself, removing expectations and entitlement around sex, approaching sex with a playful attitude, and options for when you and your partner have fundamentally different sexual needs. Listen to the rest of episode 17 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2021-09-0107 minHow to LoveEnding the RelationshipIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua talk about mediocre relationships, Bex's personality, what people want in a relationship, and why it's important to understand what you're willing to tolerate. Listen to the rest of episode 16 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2021-08-1521 minHow to LoveIs Not Wanting Kids Selfish?In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua talk about parental selfishness, the idea of "your body, your choice," the real price of having kids, and how an evolution of beliefs can lead to incompatibility in a relationship. Listen to the rest of episode 15 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2021-08-0120 minHow to LoveIn-Laws Are OffendedIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua talk about how being a new parent inevitably changes other relationships, why expectations are tied to being offended, having too much of a good thing, asking for space, and approaching difficult conversations with an open heart. Listen to the rest of episode 14 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2021-07-1519 minHow to LoveHell Yea or NoIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss the Myer's Briggs personality assessment and its limitations, introversion and extroversion in relationships, future-focused people, present-focused people, parental compersion, and being "deep happy" instead of "shallow happy." Listen to the rest of episode 13 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2021-07-0140 minHow to LoveThe Problem With IntellectIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss decision making between logical and intuitive people, whether persuasion is coercion with a nicer name, being respectful, the wisdom of intuition, and the limitations of intellectual understanding. Listen to the rest of episode 12 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2021-06-1605 minHow to LoveWhat Love Isn'tIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss being in love, being loving, seeing things as they are instead of how we wish they were, how chemistry can get muddled by hormonal birth control, and how love is never defective, controlling, or conditional. Listen to the rest of episode 11 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2021-06-0211 minHow to LoveLetting Go of Negative RelationshipsIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss past and present relationships, seeing each other afresh, the dangers of living in the past, the difference between attention and awareness, how they appreciate challenging seasons, and more. Listen to the rest of episode 10 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2021-05-1615 minHow to LoveRaising Intuitive EatersIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss what intuitive eating means, the importance of high-nutrient density foods, avoiding processed foods, non-coercive behaviors around eating, and more. Listen to the rest of episode 9 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2021-05-0210 minHow to LoveLust Isn't LoveIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss sex with other people, relationship structure, how a narrow definition of monogamy leads to constriction, being tripped up by expectations, and more. Listen to the rest of episode 8 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2021-04-1610 minHow to LoveParenting Lessons from ChildhoodIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss their very different childhoods, how people moralize their experiences, the foundational importance of love throughout life, and more. Listen to the rest of episode 7 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2021-04-1207 minHow to LoveWisdom from AssholeryIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss Bex's birthday month, their reactions to assholery, having tough conversations, and more. Listen to the rest of episode 6 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2021-04-1217 minHow to LoveRelationship HappinessIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss uncovering happiness instead of seeking it, the necessity of solitude, the importance of intelligence, and more. Listen to the rest of episode 5 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2021-04-1209 minHow to LoveSexy TimeIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss various aspects of sex, Josh's dream involving pornstar Lisa Ann, sex toys, and more. Listen to the rest of episode 4 at patreon.com/howtolove
2021-04-0917 minHow to LoveWeekend at Bernie's RelationshipsIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss divorce, recognizing the endpoint of a relationship, cheating, recreational argument, and more. Listen to the rest of episode 3 at patreon.com/howtolove
2021-04-0923 minHow to LoveChasing IdealIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss Thanksgiving, toxic relationships, creating misery by searching for things to do, and more. Listen to the rest of episode 2 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2021-04-0918 minHow to LoveHow We MetIn this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss how they met, how Josh went to a party to get to know Bex better, the details of their first date, and more. Listen to the rest of episode 1 at patreon.com/howtolove.
2021-03-2416 min